1 00:00:04,200 --> 00:00:17,000 Speaker 1: This is Open Mind. Welcome to a brand new week. 2 00:00:17,480 --> 00:00:24,079 Speaker 1: Here is your mantra, I Embrace growth and change. I'm 3 00:00:24,079 --> 00:00:26,360 Speaker 1: your host, Jema Stagg, and I'm here to guide you 4 00:00:26,400 --> 00:00:30,000 Speaker 1: towards a more centered and fulfilling life. Each week, I'll 5 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:33,320 Speaker 1: share personal stories and insights that are focused on a 6 00:00:33,360 --> 00:00:38,000 Speaker 1: specific mantra, plus journal prompts and a weekly challenge for 7 00:00:38,080 --> 00:00:40,920 Speaker 1: all of us to help put it into action. Think 8 00:00:40,920 --> 00:00:44,040 Speaker 1: of martra as your mental reset button, a way to 9 00:00:44,080 --> 00:00:48,440 Speaker 1: stay centered as you juggle work, school, family, and whatever 10 00:00:48,479 --> 00:00:52,120 Speaker 1: else life throws at you. Each mantra is a simple, 11 00:00:52,440 --> 00:00:56,200 Speaker 1: powerful phrase you can repeat to focus your thoughts and 12 00:00:56,320 --> 00:00:58,760 Speaker 1: bring a bit of calm into your day. It's a 13 00:00:58,800 --> 00:01:03,040 Speaker 1: small tool with a big impact, clearing your mind, lifting 14 00:01:03,040 --> 00:01:06,119 Speaker 1: your mood, and rooting you in the present. If you've 15 00:01:06,160 --> 00:01:09,319 Speaker 1: listened to my other show, The Psychology of Your Twenties, 16 00:01:09,720 --> 00:01:12,200 Speaker 1: you'll know that I'm all about those little nuggets of 17 00:01:12,280 --> 00:01:16,200 Speaker 1: insight that make a big impact. So, whether you're looking 18 00:01:16,240 --> 00:01:19,680 Speaker 1: for some extra inspiration or you're trying to ground yourself 19 00:01:19,720 --> 00:01:23,160 Speaker 1: amidst the chaos, you have come to the right place 20 00:01:23,720 --> 00:01:26,640 Speaker 1: at Open Mind. We value your support. Share your thoughts 21 00:01:26,640 --> 00:01:29,880 Speaker 1: on social media and remember to rate, review, and follow 22 00:01:29,920 --> 00:01:34,280 Speaker 1: mantra to help others discover the show. For more exclusive content, 23 00:01:34,560 --> 00:01:39,160 Speaker 1: monthly bonus episodes, early access, and at free listening, join 24 00:01:39,240 --> 00:01:42,840 Speaker 1: our open Mind plus community on Apple Podcasts. This week, 25 00:01:42,920 --> 00:01:44,600 Speaker 1: I'll catch you up on what's been going on in 26 00:01:44,640 --> 00:01:47,560 Speaker 1: my life, and then we'll dive into today's mantra. I 27 00:01:47,680 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 1: embrace growth and change. Whether you're facing a big shift 28 00:01:51,800 --> 00:01:53,880 Speaker 1: or you're just looking to level up your day to day, 29 00:01:54,360 --> 00:01:58,720 Speaker 1: this mantra is all about helping you grow. Stick around, 30 00:01:58,800 --> 00:02:11,840 Speaker 1: and we'll be right back after this short pause. Welcome back. 31 00:02:12,120 --> 00:02:14,440 Speaker 1: We're going to get into this week's mantra in just 32 00:02:14,480 --> 00:02:17,600 Speaker 1: a minute, but before we do, I want to fill 33 00:02:17,639 --> 00:02:19,720 Speaker 1: you in on what's been going on with me lately 34 00:02:20,200 --> 00:02:23,680 Speaker 1: and how this mantra has been showing up in my life. 35 00:02:23,960 --> 00:02:28,880 Speaker 1: I have been contemplating some pretty major live shifts as 36 00:02:28,880 --> 00:02:32,240 Speaker 1: of late, the kind that I think really makes you 37 00:02:32,480 --> 00:02:37,160 Speaker 1: pause and wonder what's next and not necessarily know what 38 00:02:37,240 --> 00:02:40,360 Speaker 1: the right answer is. The biggest question on my mind 39 00:02:40,600 --> 00:02:43,600 Speaker 1: is whether it's time to pack up and move, maybe 40 00:02:43,760 --> 00:02:45,800 Speaker 1: not just to a new city, but possibly a whole 41 00:02:45,840 --> 00:02:49,680 Speaker 1: new country. I feel like we all reach a point 42 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:54,880 Speaker 1: like this acrossroads where we feel comfortable, settled, even with 43 00:02:54,960 --> 00:02:58,200 Speaker 1: where we are, We're very keen to put down roots. 44 00:02:58,200 --> 00:03:02,040 Speaker 1: But there's this pull towards something that's bigger, something more exciting, 45 00:03:02,240 --> 00:03:04,639 Speaker 1: and yes, as well as something that might feel kind 46 00:03:04,639 --> 00:03:09,480 Speaker 1: of scary for me that Paul has been Europe. I 47 00:03:09,520 --> 00:03:13,080 Speaker 1: know it might sound a little bit strange. Australia is beautiful. 48 00:03:13,160 --> 00:03:15,640 Speaker 1: It's the lucky country. I love it here. It's so 49 00:03:15,760 --> 00:03:19,200 Speaker 1: serene and calm, but sometimes it feels like there's not 50 00:03:19,320 --> 00:03:23,600 Speaker 1: enough happening. And as I continue to grow as a person, 51 00:03:24,080 --> 00:03:26,959 Speaker 1: I'm feeling ready for a big change, ready to meet 52 00:03:27,000 --> 00:03:30,520 Speaker 1: new people, ready to dive into new cultures, maybe like 53 00:03:30,639 --> 00:03:35,800 Speaker 1: experience life from a fresh perspective. It's that classic push 54 00:03:35,960 --> 00:03:40,360 Speaker 1: and Paul. Part of me is rooted here, and another 55 00:03:40,400 --> 00:03:45,120 Speaker 1: part feels drawn to something that might challenge me in 56 00:03:45,200 --> 00:03:49,760 Speaker 1: ways that my life currently doesn't. I can feel myself 57 00:03:49,800 --> 00:03:53,040 Speaker 1: moving towards a new life chapter and my old life 58 00:03:53,560 --> 00:03:56,880 Speaker 1: isn't feeling as fulfilling as it once did, but I'm 59 00:03:56,960 --> 00:03:59,520 Speaker 1: kind of stuck in this waiting room. I'll talk about 60 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:01,880 Speaker 1: this a little bit more later on in this episode, 61 00:04:01,920 --> 00:04:04,120 Speaker 1: and I'm definitely going to keep you up to date 62 00:04:04,160 --> 00:04:06,960 Speaker 1: on how these feelings progress in the coming months. But 63 00:04:07,000 --> 00:04:09,120 Speaker 1: I wanted to give you a little insight as to 64 00:04:09,160 --> 00:04:12,200 Speaker 1: why I chose this martra today. So look, this week's 65 00:04:12,200 --> 00:04:15,280 Speaker 1: guiding phrase is definitely not for the feint of heart. 66 00:04:15,720 --> 00:04:19,320 Speaker 1: Anyone who has ever encountered change, even the smallest kind, 67 00:04:19,960 --> 00:04:24,200 Speaker 1: knows that often everything in us cries out for things 68 00:04:24,240 --> 00:04:28,200 Speaker 1: to stay the same. It is a very human instinct 69 00:04:28,520 --> 00:04:31,440 Speaker 1: to be safe in what is comfortable, But this mantra 70 00:04:31,800 --> 00:04:35,560 Speaker 1: forces us to confront a truth that our lives are 71 00:04:35,600 --> 00:04:38,720 Speaker 1: always evolving, whether we're ready for them to do so 72 00:04:39,040 --> 00:04:44,040 Speaker 1: or not. Growth doesn't feel as intimidating as change in 73 00:04:44,080 --> 00:04:48,960 Speaker 1: my mind. We're constantly moving through new experiences, some good, 74 00:04:49,200 --> 00:04:53,520 Speaker 1: some bad, others just neutral, but each one helps shape 75 00:04:53,520 --> 00:04:58,279 Speaker 1: who we are and who we're becoming. That is growth. Change, 76 00:04:58,480 --> 00:05:02,120 Speaker 1: on the other hand, feel more unsettling in comparison to 77 00:05:02,160 --> 00:05:07,279 Speaker 1: growth because it doesn't carry the same component of positive 78 00:05:07,440 --> 00:05:12,440 Speaker 1: natural progress that we usually associate with growth periods, especially 79 00:05:12,480 --> 00:05:15,839 Speaker 1: in our twenties and our thirties, the idea of change 80 00:05:15,880 --> 00:05:18,960 Speaker 1: can be really overwhelming because we've spent so much time 81 00:05:19,520 --> 00:05:23,080 Speaker 1: trying to get things to a stable point. But here's 82 00:05:23,120 --> 00:05:27,040 Speaker 1: the thing growth and change. They aren't just inevitable, they're 83 00:05:27,040 --> 00:05:32,600 Speaker 1: also essential. They're often what pushes us towards becoming our bestselves. 84 00:05:33,279 --> 00:05:35,440 Speaker 1: They move us closer to the lives that we are 85 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:38,920 Speaker 1: meant to live, that we deserve to live. At its core, 86 00:05:39,400 --> 00:05:43,839 Speaker 1: this phrase encourages us to go with life's flow, to 87 00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:49,400 Speaker 1: choose to lean into change rather than resisting it, knowing 88 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:54,200 Speaker 1: that something ultimately quite positive, if not just different, can 89 00:05:54,240 --> 00:06:00,320 Speaker 1: come from that experience. Embracing growth also means stepping beyond 90 00:06:00,760 --> 00:06:05,080 Speaker 1: the comfort zone, trying new things and learning along the way. 91 00:06:06,000 --> 00:06:10,480 Speaker 1: There is nothing more human in my mind than making mistakes, 92 00:06:11,240 --> 00:06:14,240 Speaker 1: especially when those mistakes expand our understanding of who we are. 93 00:06:14,839 --> 00:06:17,800 Speaker 1: This phrase is really here to remind us that uncomfortable 94 00:06:17,880 --> 00:06:24,480 Speaker 1: moments aren't obstacles. They're opportunities. And that's the key word here, opportunities. 95 00:06:25,200 --> 00:06:27,240 Speaker 1: In my experience and from what I'm seeing right now, 96 00:06:27,240 --> 00:06:30,919 Speaker 1: it honestly feels like everything around us is really evolving 97 00:06:30,960 --> 00:06:34,800 Speaker 1: at lightning speed. Every day we are presented with new trends, 98 00:06:35,000 --> 00:06:39,640 Speaker 1: new ideas, new technologies. There's always some new big idea 99 00:06:39,760 --> 00:06:42,600 Speaker 1: to wrap our minds around, and it can present as 100 00:06:42,640 --> 00:06:47,760 Speaker 1: something that's going to challenge us that constant evolution is 101 00:06:47,839 --> 00:06:51,839 Speaker 1: going to perhaps make our lives feel unstable. An example 102 00:06:51,880 --> 00:06:53,560 Speaker 1: of this that I was thinking about the other day 103 00:06:53,800 --> 00:06:58,680 Speaker 1: was the invention and spread of AI technology and how 104 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:02,240 Speaker 1: many of us feel uncomfortable with it. There's fear of 105 00:07:02,279 --> 00:07:04,640 Speaker 1: what that's going to do to our jobs, our way 106 00:07:04,680 --> 00:07:08,240 Speaker 1: of interacting with one another, and our way of interacting 107 00:07:08,640 --> 00:07:12,240 Speaker 1: with the world. That is an example of change that 108 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:17,480 Speaker 1: feels rapidly quite uncomfortable, and it's definitely a big picture example. 109 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:19,840 Speaker 1: But when you think about it on a more micro 110 00:07:20,120 --> 00:07:23,320 Speaker 1: scale in terms of your own life, something may be 111 00:07:23,560 --> 00:07:28,240 Speaker 1: changing in your family, with your relationships, in your career, 112 00:07:28,320 --> 00:07:31,960 Speaker 1: even your living situation. Maybe whether it's a breakup or 113 00:07:32,040 --> 00:07:35,200 Speaker 1: you're moving in with someone, there's a new friendship or 114 00:07:35,200 --> 00:07:40,600 Speaker 1: a broken one. Life keeps presenting opportunities to grow that 115 00:07:40,640 --> 00:07:43,920 Speaker 1: are hidden in these moments, even when they are challenging. 116 00:07:44,240 --> 00:07:46,040 Speaker 1: I guess what I'm trying to say is that embracing 117 00:07:46,200 --> 00:07:49,320 Speaker 1: growth and change is key. We need to stay flexible 118 00:07:49,640 --> 00:07:52,760 Speaker 1: and resilient. And my favorite word here is resilience, because 119 00:07:52,760 --> 00:07:55,040 Speaker 1: when we are resilient, we understand that no matter what 120 00:07:55,120 --> 00:07:58,080 Speaker 1: is coming into our life that feels unexpected. We can 121 00:07:58,160 --> 00:08:00,520 Speaker 1: kind of see it in two ways. We can see 122 00:08:00,560 --> 00:08:03,480 Speaker 1: it as something that is going to threaten us all 123 00:08:03,520 --> 00:08:07,400 Speaker 1: we can see it as an opportunity instead of holding 124 00:08:07,440 --> 00:08:11,640 Speaker 1: on to what is familiar just because it feels safe. 125 00:08:12,200 --> 00:08:16,119 Speaker 1: I think about this especially in terms of relationships. Maybe 126 00:08:16,120 --> 00:08:18,920 Speaker 1: it's with an ax, a friend, a former colleague, someone 127 00:08:18,920 --> 00:08:22,240 Speaker 1: that you're just not as close to anymore, who maybe 128 00:08:22,600 --> 00:08:25,400 Speaker 1: doesn't make you feel great about yourself. You can hold 129 00:08:25,440 --> 00:08:28,760 Speaker 1: on to that good but not great relationship because it's 130 00:08:28,760 --> 00:08:31,400 Speaker 1: always been convenient, because it's been something that you've known 131 00:08:31,800 --> 00:08:34,040 Speaker 1: for a really long time, and because your brain has 132 00:08:34,080 --> 00:08:38,200 Speaker 1: made you feel safe and secure and comfortable in that 133 00:08:38,280 --> 00:08:43,040 Speaker 1: emotional environment. But you could also move beyond that relationship. 134 00:08:43,360 --> 00:08:46,680 Speaker 1: You could realize that you deserve great and that there 135 00:08:46,760 --> 00:08:50,480 Speaker 1: is going to be some pain, some temporary discomfort. But 136 00:08:50,600 --> 00:08:54,160 Speaker 1: these new experiences and the opportunities that you get from 137 00:08:54,200 --> 00:08:58,760 Speaker 1: making space for someone new is worth so much more. 138 00:08:59,120 --> 00:09:01,440 Speaker 1: And I think this my set, changes the way that 139 00:09:01,440 --> 00:09:05,840 Speaker 1: we deal with life. Being able to pivot, be resilient, 140 00:09:06,200 --> 00:09:10,080 Speaker 1: be flexible when things shift. It doesn't just make you 141 00:09:10,120 --> 00:09:15,880 Speaker 1: stronger mentally, emotionally, socially, it also makes you happier as well. 142 00:09:16,600 --> 00:09:19,320 Speaker 1: So let's talk about what all this means for us, 143 00:09:19,800 --> 00:09:24,600 Speaker 1: and let's start with the emotional discomfort of change. One 144 00:09:24,720 --> 00:09:29,080 Speaker 1: way that we can really adopt this mantra is by 145 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:35,199 Speaker 1: thinking about our best, most ideal self, the person we 146 00:09:35,240 --> 00:09:37,840 Speaker 1: want to be in the long term, someone who perhaps 147 00:09:37,920 --> 00:09:41,240 Speaker 1: has their dream life, has moved to a place of abundance, 148 00:09:41,320 --> 00:09:45,840 Speaker 1: who is more authentic, who is more confident. Really imagine 149 00:09:45,880 --> 00:09:49,280 Speaker 1: that person for a moment. Imagine that person that you're 150 00:09:49,320 --> 00:09:53,880 Speaker 1: going to be in five years, in ten years. What 151 00:09:53,960 --> 00:09:56,920 Speaker 1: are they doing, What does their day look like, what 152 00:09:57,000 --> 00:10:00,319 Speaker 1: are they wearing? What are the obstacles that they now 153 00:10:00,360 --> 00:10:04,719 Speaker 1: facing that they can handle even better because of what 154 00:10:04,720 --> 00:10:08,320 Speaker 1: you're going through now. Is that person going to be 155 00:10:08,400 --> 00:10:13,520 Speaker 1: realized without change? Probably not. Is that person going to 156 00:10:14,120 --> 00:10:18,360 Speaker 1: come into existence without growth, No, definitely not, because if 157 00:10:18,360 --> 00:10:21,480 Speaker 1: that person was already to exist, you wouldn't be thinking 158 00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:24,240 Speaker 1: about these things because it would already be in place. 159 00:10:24,559 --> 00:10:28,439 Speaker 1: When adopting this week's marchra, I embrace growth and change. 160 00:10:28,880 --> 00:10:31,640 Speaker 1: I want you to really think about how it's going 161 00:10:31,720 --> 00:10:35,200 Speaker 1: to take you from where you are now into your 162 00:10:35,280 --> 00:10:39,400 Speaker 1: future self. Just remember this, This is all about seeing 163 00:10:39,679 --> 00:10:43,040 Speaker 1: change for what it is. It is not an enemy. 164 00:10:43,640 --> 00:10:47,040 Speaker 1: It is actually something that helps us become the best 165 00:10:47,120 --> 00:10:51,960 Speaker 1: version of ourselves. Coming up, let's get personal. I'm going 166 00:10:52,000 --> 00:10:55,640 Speaker 1: to get real about how this marchra plays out in 167 00:10:55,720 --> 00:10:59,680 Speaker 1: my life, the ups, the downs, how I've navigated through it. 168 00:11:00,080 --> 00:11:01,960 Speaker 1: Stay tuned after this brief pause.