1 00:00:07,000 --> 00:00:07,760 Speaker 1: We're back. 2 00:00:08,039 --> 00:00:11,520 Speaker 2: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour with Kathy 3 00:00:11,560 --> 00:00:11,840 Speaker 2: and I. 4 00:00:12,039 --> 00:00:13,239 Speaker 1: Thanks for joining us. 5 00:00:13,680 --> 00:00:18,160 Speaker 3: Okay, Susan, I gotta say, if people have not listened 6 00:00:18,160 --> 00:00:22,119 Speaker 3: to our episode from Wednesday yet, they really need to 7 00:00:22,200 --> 00:00:25,119 Speaker 3: check it out. I mean, we had Blake Moins on 8 00:00:25,200 --> 00:00:28,600 Speaker 3: the podcast, and I don't know, I'm thinking about really 9 00:00:28,640 --> 00:00:30,640 Speaker 3: going a whole lot younger. What about you? 10 00:00:30,760 --> 00:00:34,360 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, he was so cute. He was so cute. 11 00:00:34,479 --> 00:00:35,400 Speaker 1: What a great guy. 12 00:00:35,920 --> 00:00:39,519 Speaker 3: I mean, what he's doing to save the planet and 13 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:45,599 Speaker 3: his conservation efforts with endangered species is amazing. Guys, if 14 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:48,839 Speaker 3: you have not listened to this podcast, you really need to. 15 00:00:48,960 --> 00:00:50,960 Speaker 3: He will really give you hope for the future. 16 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:53,959 Speaker 1: And we were seriously flirting with this poor kid. 17 00:00:56,000 --> 00:00:57,920 Speaker 3: I don't know about you, but I was kind of 18 00:00:58,000 --> 00:01:02,240 Speaker 3: seriously hoping he was interested in older women a lot. 19 00:01:03,640 --> 00:01:05,400 Speaker 2: And you know what I liked about him, Kathy, He 20 00:01:06,040 --> 00:01:09,720 Speaker 2: he was true to his word and even when looking 21 00:01:09,800 --> 00:01:12,920 Speaker 2: for a relationship, he tells them exactly what he's doing. 22 00:01:13,000 --> 00:01:15,840 Speaker 2: He does want a family and children. At first, I 23 00:01:15,920 --> 00:01:17,800 Speaker 2: was like, how are you going to get a relationship 24 00:01:17,880 --> 00:01:20,320 Speaker 2: flying off the Africa to play with the animals or 25 00:01:20,360 --> 00:01:23,120 Speaker 2: save the planet or the animals. But he said he 26 00:01:23,160 --> 00:01:24,760 Speaker 2: was only gone for a few weeks at a time, 27 00:01:24,800 --> 00:01:28,120 Speaker 2: so there is a chance, and hopefully he'll find somebody 28 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:30,959 Speaker 2: that's just as enthusiastic about. 29 00:01:30,640 --> 00:01:33,360 Speaker 3: What he is. You know what I liked about him 30 00:01:33,800 --> 00:01:37,319 Speaker 3: all of that, not to mention his fabulous good looks, 31 00:01:37,319 --> 00:01:39,240 Speaker 3: but you know what I really liked about him, his 32 00:01:39,520 --> 00:01:46,000 Speaker 3: honesty and his patience. He's patiently waiting doing him. He's 33 00:01:46,040 --> 00:01:50,520 Speaker 3: doing his life. He's living his best life right now, 34 00:01:50,640 --> 00:01:54,440 Speaker 3: and he's not anxious or worried about finding this person. 35 00:01:54,840 --> 00:01:58,520 Speaker 3: I really felt like he thinks, you know, she'll come 36 00:01:58,520 --> 00:01:59,559 Speaker 3: when the time is right. 37 00:01:59,480 --> 00:02:00,960 Speaker 1: And I love back together. 38 00:02:01,880 --> 00:02:04,240 Speaker 3: You know what, it's good to have your shit together 39 00:02:04,280 --> 00:02:05,040 Speaker 3: at any age. 40 00:02:05,680 --> 00:02:07,840 Speaker 2: So how about when I talked about going to Europe 41 00:02:07,960 --> 00:02:09,840 Speaker 2: or Italy or you know, all the things that I do, 42 00:02:09,919 --> 00:02:13,520 Speaker 2: and he what about what he said, I'm saving that 43 00:02:14,120 --> 00:02:18,160 Speaker 2: because I'm sure my partner, my person is going to 44 00:02:18,240 --> 00:02:20,919 Speaker 2: want to do those things. So he's doing what his 45 00:02:21,040 --> 00:02:24,959 Speaker 2: love is and he's saving that to go experience these 46 00:02:25,000 --> 00:02:26,560 Speaker 2: places with his partner. 47 00:02:26,960 --> 00:02:28,760 Speaker 3: So you know what, you know what I thought when 48 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:32,400 Speaker 3: I met him, I'm holding on to you can do 49 00:02:32,440 --> 00:02:37,720 Speaker 3: whatever you want I'm going on a conservation mission with him. 50 00:02:38,720 --> 00:02:42,239 Speaker 3: We're going. We're going. Seriously, folks, if you did not 51 00:02:42,360 --> 00:02:45,440 Speaker 3: listen to this podcast, you need to because he is 52 00:02:45,480 --> 00:02:48,680 Speaker 3: an amazing young man and he is doing things to 53 00:02:48,880 --> 00:02:52,440 Speaker 3: save our planet, and our planet in case you haven't notice, 54 00:02:52,840 --> 00:02:54,359 Speaker 3: needs a lot of saving right now. 55 00:02:54,760 --> 00:02:57,840 Speaker 1: And the animals he's like loving, like what he does. 56 00:02:58,120 --> 00:02:59,840 Speaker 3: He told me I couldn't patter giraffe. 57 00:03:00,200 --> 00:03:02,160 Speaker 1: Well that's okay, my bucket or something. 58 00:03:02,200 --> 00:03:02,720 Speaker 3: I don't know. 59 00:03:03,560 --> 00:03:06,600 Speaker 2: But we do have some great fan questions today, and 60 00:03:06,639 --> 00:03:08,520 Speaker 2: I can't wait to get into these. 61 00:03:08,840 --> 00:03:10,600 Speaker 1: I mean, they get us sometimes. 62 00:03:10,200 --> 00:03:10,520 Speaker 3: Don't they. 63 00:03:10,600 --> 00:03:14,040 Speaker 2: Kathy, and don't forget. If you do have a question 64 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:17,400 Speaker 2: for Kathy and Me, send them in. Go to bachelornation 65 00:03:17,520 --> 00:03:19,160 Speaker 2: dot com slash Golden Hour. 66 00:03:19,919 --> 00:03:23,600 Speaker 3: Please do that. But first, okay, Susan, we got to 67 00:03:23,639 --> 00:03:25,679 Speaker 3: do it. We're going to start with our question of 68 00:03:25,720 --> 00:03:28,000 Speaker 3: the day. Are you ready, boy? Yeah? All right, here 69 00:03:28,040 --> 00:03:33,480 Speaker 3: we go. When you're in your golden years, whenever you 70 00:03:33,520 --> 00:03:37,200 Speaker 3: get there, Susan, and you find someone you want to 71 00:03:37,240 --> 00:03:40,040 Speaker 3: spend the rest of your life with, do you feel 72 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:42,400 Speaker 3: it's necessary to get married? Oh? 73 00:03:42,520 --> 00:03:43,400 Speaker 1: God, who cares? 74 00:03:43,440 --> 00:03:46,000 Speaker 2: As long as I find them? That marriage is a 75 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:50,040 Speaker 2: piece of paper. I think I don't know. At my age, 76 00:03:50,080 --> 00:03:52,840 Speaker 2: I don't think that's as important. I mean, I would 77 00:03:52,880 --> 00:03:55,680 Speaker 2: like to have the ring to say that I am taken, 78 00:03:56,200 --> 00:03:59,920 Speaker 2: you know, But no, I don't think it's all that mess. 79 00:04:00,120 --> 00:04:02,400 Speaker 3: Sorry, Susan. Do you know how do you know how 80 00:04:02,440 --> 00:04:04,320 Speaker 3: you always tell me that I'm long winded and I 81 00:04:04,480 --> 00:04:08,680 Speaker 3: don't answer questions shortly. In short? Do I feel it's 82 00:04:08,720 --> 00:04:09,600 Speaker 3: necessary to get married? 83 00:04:10,720 --> 00:04:13,800 Speaker 1: No, okay, I don't. 84 00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:18,160 Speaker 2: I mean, that's the fastest she's ever I repeat, the 85 00:04:18,279 --> 00:04:20,120 Speaker 2: fastest she's ever. 86 00:04:22,080 --> 00:04:26,479 Speaker 3: But seriously, I mean, we've raised our kids, we've we've 87 00:04:26,520 --> 00:04:30,160 Speaker 3: bought our homes, we've had our careers. I want you 88 00:04:30,200 --> 00:04:33,080 Speaker 3: and I both want not the same guy, but we 89 00:04:33,240 --> 00:04:36,240 Speaker 3: both want to find it. Well, yeah, either do. I don't. 90 00:04:36,279 --> 00:04:39,000 Speaker 1: I don't buy that, my house, my food. 91 00:04:39,040 --> 00:04:41,960 Speaker 3: But if I find a man, you're taking your dollies 92 00:04:41,960 --> 00:04:45,000 Speaker 3: and going home, I promise you. I'm just saying it's 93 00:04:45,160 --> 00:04:48,440 Speaker 3: it's not necessary to get married, you know, just find 94 00:04:48,480 --> 00:04:52,320 Speaker 3: the guy that makes you happy and and and live 95 00:04:52,360 --> 00:04:53,280 Speaker 3: your life right. 96 00:04:53,400 --> 00:04:56,640 Speaker 2: Also, Kathy, at this age, there's prenups you have to do, 97 00:04:56,880 --> 00:05:00,080 Speaker 2: and for tax purposes it might be better. 98 00:04:59,880 --> 00:05:03,440 Speaker 3: But hey, can I just say the wait, can I 99 00:05:03,560 --> 00:05:06,359 Speaker 3: let's be honest here for a second. This is a 100 00:05:06,440 --> 00:05:10,760 Speaker 3: question that you know people have asked me. Let's be honest, folks. 101 00:05:11,560 --> 00:05:17,040 Speaker 3: You know, whatever money I have when I go honestly 102 00:05:17,040 --> 00:05:19,640 Speaker 3: and being serious now, I want that money to go 103 00:05:19,680 --> 00:05:21,440 Speaker 3: to my children. What about you? 104 00:05:21,839 --> 00:05:25,120 Speaker 2: Absolutely? And I'm sure he feels the same way, you know. 105 00:05:25,760 --> 00:05:27,080 Speaker 2: I mean, that's just a no brainer. 106 00:05:27,279 --> 00:05:29,839 Speaker 1: I mean, I talk Kathy. 107 00:05:29,880 --> 00:05:31,920 Speaker 2: There are women out there that want to be taken 108 00:05:32,000 --> 00:05:35,600 Speaker 2: care of and don't have a ness stagger or they 109 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:39,279 Speaker 2: want a man to I'm. 110 00:05:39,080 --> 00:05:41,760 Speaker 3: Not a millionaire. I'm not saying that now that you. 111 00:05:41,680 --> 00:05:46,159 Speaker 2: Can survive on your own, darling, Well only if you 112 00:05:46,200 --> 00:05:50,800 Speaker 2: do my hair a lot, speaking of her hair grows 113 00:05:50,839 --> 00:05:52,800 Speaker 2: like a week. Can I just can I just say 114 00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:54,560 Speaker 2: we need to make a hair appointment here. I'll be 115 00:05:54,560 --> 00:05:59,080 Speaker 2: flying to Philly soon. All right, we can say, all right, 116 00:05:59,160 --> 00:06:02,560 Speaker 2: let's go the answer again. No, you don't have to 117 00:06:02,560 --> 00:06:07,960 Speaker 2: get married. Okay, So this is from listener question number one. 118 00:06:08,400 --> 00:06:13,600 Speaker 2: High ladies, this is Dan from Napperville. 119 00:06:13,720 --> 00:06:17,840 Speaker 3: Naperville. I'm not sure Illinois. My wife Jessica and I 120 00:06:18,360 --> 00:06:22,960 Speaker 3: are big fans of yours Golden Bachelor and Bachelor Nation. 121 00:06:23,760 --> 00:06:26,840 Speaker 3: Just a fun question for you both. Do you have 122 00:06:26,920 --> 00:06:31,240 Speaker 3: a celebrity crush? I know yours is Susan, maybe an 123 00:06:31,320 --> 00:06:34,440 Speaker 3: actor or musician or someone you wish you could go 124 00:06:34,520 --> 00:06:38,760 Speaker 3: out with. Also a dream destination you've never been to 125 00:06:39,240 --> 00:06:42,840 Speaker 3: that you wish you could travel to, sending love and 126 00:06:43,040 --> 00:06:46,960 Speaker 3: hoping you stay happy and healthy, take care. Isn't that sweet? 127 00:06:47,000 --> 00:06:48,320 Speaker 1: He's so sweet? 128 00:06:49,120 --> 00:06:51,960 Speaker 3: Okay, Susan? Can I guess who are celebrity crushes? Oh? 129 00:06:52,040 --> 00:06:54,760 Speaker 3: Go right ahead, Bradley Cooper. 130 00:06:54,680 --> 00:06:57,159 Speaker 2: Only because I met him this weekend and he reached 131 00:06:57,200 --> 00:07:01,360 Speaker 2: out and said, I'm your biggest fan police. 132 00:07:01,480 --> 00:07:03,599 Speaker 1: He is so dreamy. How about those eyes? 133 00:07:03,880 --> 00:07:05,480 Speaker 3: I don't know. I want to I want to get 134 00:07:05,480 --> 00:07:08,600 Speaker 3: in the shallows with him. I want to start. I'm 135 00:07:08,640 --> 00:07:12,720 Speaker 3: singing move Over, Lady Gaga. I always wanted when they 136 00:07:12,760 --> 00:07:15,000 Speaker 3: did that song together. That's all I wish for is 137 00:07:15,080 --> 00:07:18,840 Speaker 3: them as a couple. Oh my god, seriously, but no, 138 00:07:19,160 --> 00:07:19,480 Speaker 3: he gave. 139 00:07:19,600 --> 00:07:21,559 Speaker 2: He comes up to me and he was making cheese 140 00:07:21,560 --> 00:07:24,320 Speaker 2: steaks in the truck and the food. 141 00:07:24,080 --> 00:07:25,800 Speaker 3: Trinak Philly cheese steaks. 142 00:07:26,200 --> 00:07:28,560 Speaker 2: Yes, And I was in Las Vegas and he comes 143 00:07:28,640 --> 00:07:30,040 Speaker 2: up and he goes to get being a. 144 00:07:30,080 --> 00:07:32,520 Speaker 3: Hug and he goes, Oh you look beautiful. I'm all greasy. 145 00:07:32,560 --> 00:07:34,200 Speaker 1: I said, bring it in, you can hug me. 146 00:07:34,280 --> 00:07:37,000 Speaker 3: I don't care. Of course you did. It was probably Cooper. 147 00:07:37,880 --> 00:07:40,119 Speaker 3: I don't you know what I don't. I don't really 148 00:07:40,200 --> 00:07:42,480 Speaker 3: have a celebrity crush. 149 00:07:42,520 --> 00:07:43,640 Speaker 1: I like a lot of them. 150 00:07:43,800 --> 00:07:46,920 Speaker 3: I mean, you're gonna this okay, Ba's oor Nation. I'm 151 00:07:47,040 --> 00:07:49,840 Speaker 3: aging myself here when I was younger. Do you want 152 00:07:50,040 --> 00:07:52,760 Speaker 3: You're not even going to believe who my celebrity crush was? 153 00:07:53,080 --> 00:07:54,440 Speaker 1: Ready, Brad Pitt. 154 00:07:55,480 --> 00:08:01,000 Speaker 3: I just said, I'm old Alan Alda. Do you even 155 00:08:01,000 --> 00:08:06,800 Speaker 3: know who that is? Seriously? From mash Oh my gosh, 156 00:08:07,040 --> 00:08:10,320 Speaker 3: I love it. I could see that. Oh I loved him. 157 00:08:10,720 --> 00:08:11,160 Speaker 3: I don't know. 158 00:08:11,280 --> 00:08:13,720 Speaker 1: I mean my memory is not that good. I can 159 00:08:13,760 --> 00:08:15,760 Speaker 1: tell you a hundred people watch. 160 00:08:15,920 --> 00:08:19,320 Speaker 3: I mean, listen, I would go. It's not to me. 161 00:08:19,440 --> 00:08:22,000 Speaker 3: It's not the celebrity. I mean if he's cool guy, 162 00:08:22,000 --> 00:08:24,080 Speaker 3: he's a cool guy, whether it's a celebrity or not. 163 00:08:24,360 --> 00:08:26,720 Speaker 3: And a dream destination, Yeah, where would that be? 164 00:08:26,920 --> 00:08:27,120 Speaker 1: Huh? 165 00:08:28,520 --> 00:08:34,120 Speaker 3: Are you serious? Anywhere where there's a beach or mountains. 166 00:08:34,840 --> 00:08:37,760 Speaker 3: Don't care what about you? But I want to go 167 00:08:37,840 --> 00:08:39,959 Speaker 3: to New Zealand. I want to go to Australia and 168 00:08:40,000 --> 00:08:41,439 Speaker 3: New Zealand. That's where I want to go. 169 00:08:41,720 --> 00:08:45,840 Speaker 2: I'd love to see Australia, but that flight just that's 170 00:08:45,840 --> 00:08:48,280 Speaker 2: a long That's why there's so many places in the 171 00:08:48,320 --> 00:08:50,720 Speaker 2: world that I'd like to see. I have a bucket 172 00:08:50,760 --> 00:08:53,760 Speaker 2: list that I've done a lot of checks, and I 173 00:08:53,840 --> 00:08:58,080 Speaker 2: have seen some most magnificent places. There's still a part 174 00:08:58,080 --> 00:09:00,280 Speaker 2: of Italy even though I've been five times. I haven't 175 00:09:00,280 --> 00:09:03,640 Speaker 2: gone to Sicilies yet yet. Lake Como, way up north. 176 00:09:04,120 --> 00:09:05,640 Speaker 2: I'd like to see the Do. 177 00:09:05,640 --> 00:09:06,840 Speaker 3: You want me to send you a postcard? 178 00:09:06,880 --> 00:09:10,080 Speaker 2: Want to go to Italy, the southern end of Spain 179 00:09:10,320 --> 00:09:11,920 Speaker 2: and hop over to Portugal? 180 00:09:12,080 --> 00:09:14,079 Speaker 1: Like, yeah, there's a lot of places. 181 00:09:14,480 --> 00:09:18,200 Speaker 3: I mean I would. Honestly, this sounds like a Hallmark 182 00:09:18,240 --> 00:09:21,320 Speaker 3: card again. But if I'm with the person I love 183 00:09:21,679 --> 00:09:25,160 Speaker 3: will care about I don't care if it's you know, 184 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:30,040 Speaker 3: at Central Park in New York or or Greece, I 185 00:09:30,080 --> 00:09:41,199 Speaker 3: don't care. I just want to be with them. 186 00:09:41,480 --> 00:09:43,680 Speaker 1: Don't laugh at this, and Kathy, I think you already 187 00:09:43,679 --> 00:09:48,000 Speaker 1: know this. I have never been to Niagara Falls. Right here, 188 00:09:48,520 --> 00:09:50,120 Speaker 1: I low a few hours away. 189 00:09:50,520 --> 00:09:52,840 Speaker 2: I need to go to Niagara Falls, and I'd love 190 00:09:52,880 --> 00:09:55,400 Speaker 2: to do it with a man because I think it's romantic. 191 00:09:55,480 --> 00:09:56,400 Speaker 1: But Kathy, you'll do. 192 00:09:58,679 --> 00:10:00,760 Speaker 3: Well. Susan, I've got a break the news to you. 193 00:10:01,440 --> 00:10:05,439 Speaker 3: I have been to Niagara Falls, and remember from Canadian inside, 194 00:10:05,720 --> 00:10:09,079 Speaker 3: I've been to the Horseshoe Falls, which is the Canadian side, 195 00:10:09,480 --> 00:10:12,320 Speaker 3: and I'm gonna Americans do not lash out at me. 196 00:10:12,720 --> 00:10:19,440 Speaker 3: The Horseshoe Canadian Falls are more beautiful than the American 197 00:10:19,440 --> 00:10:21,320 Speaker 3: side Niagara Falls. But can I tell you what the 198 00:10:21,320 --> 00:10:24,680 Speaker 3: most beautiful waterfalls are in the world? Isn't they call it? 199 00:10:24,720 --> 00:10:26,720 Speaker 3: I don't know, the seventh eighth Wonder of the world. 200 00:10:26,760 --> 00:10:32,040 Speaker 3: Who knows e Wassu Falls. It's yeah, I knew you're 201 00:10:32,040 --> 00:10:36,720 Speaker 3: gonnask me. It's at the confluence of Brazil, and I don't. 202 00:10:36,559 --> 00:10:40,240 Speaker 2: Know I would have to go to Brazil when my 203 00:10:40,280 --> 00:10:41,520 Speaker 2: butt was really firm. 204 00:10:42,200 --> 00:10:44,160 Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, no, we didn't go to the beach 205 00:10:45,080 --> 00:10:47,320 Speaker 3: was Look it up. I can't spell it. Look up 206 00:10:47,679 --> 00:10:52,920 Speaker 3: Wassu Falls. It is absolutely the most spectacular destination I've 207 00:10:53,080 --> 00:10:53,800 Speaker 3: ever been to. 208 00:10:54,280 --> 00:10:56,880 Speaker 1: And going and it makes Niagara Falls. 209 00:10:57,000 --> 00:10:59,480 Speaker 3: Wait, can I just say it makes Niagara Falls look 210 00:10:59,559 --> 00:11:01,760 Speaker 3: like a clean hoes And I'm not kidding? 211 00:11:01,800 --> 00:11:05,880 Speaker 2: What about like the miracles the nature like falls that 212 00:11:06,240 --> 00:11:08,280 Speaker 2: just come out of nowhere and they're not a huge 213 00:11:08,320 --> 00:11:11,880 Speaker 2: attraction and named, and you know, the Hawaii had some. 214 00:11:11,920 --> 00:11:13,200 Speaker 3: That I got to see. 215 00:11:13,240 --> 00:11:18,440 Speaker 2: And I see pictures on the internet and like, wow. 216 00:11:17,480 --> 00:11:19,400 Speaker 3: Don't you want to share it with someone? 217 00:11:19,559 --> 00:11:22,960 Speaker 1: Yes? I do, Pokay, who wants to go with me? 218 00:11:23,080 --> 00:11:25,719 Speaker 3: I don't get in line? The line forms behind me. 219 00:11:26,160 --> 00:11:28,400 Speaker 3: I'm serious, Like that is what you and I keep 220 00:11:28,440 --> 00:11:31,360 Speaker 3: talking about all these when people ask us where would 221 00:11:31,360 --> 00:11:33,480 Speaker 3: you like to travel? What do you want to see? 222 00:11:33,800 --> 00:11:36,400 Speaker 3: You and I could write list after list of what 223 00:11:36,440 --> 00:11:38,280 Speaker 3: we'd like to see, but it's just not the same 224 00:11:38,280 --> 00:11:39,760 Speaker 3: of you don't have someone. 225 00:11:39,600 --> 00:11:42,960 Speaker 2: Special, you know? And Dan, thank you? And Dan, I 226 00:11:43,040 --> 00:11:47,719 Speaker 2: want to know what your dream destination was. Your celebrity 227 00:11:48,559 --> 00:11:51,360 Speaker 2: is that you'd like to go on a date with. Okay, no, no, no, 228 00:11:51,240 --> 00:11:54,400 Speaker 2: no no, wait, he's married to Jessica. He doesn't want 229 00:11:54,400 --> 00:11:56,480 Speaker 2: to go on a date with anyone. Okay, he's married 230 00:11:56,480 --> 00:11:59,280 Speaker 2: to Jessica. He has a fantasy. I'm sure you know whatever. 231 00:12:00,280 --> 00:12:04,199 Speaker 2: Our next question is from Karen, Hi, Kathy, and Susan. 232 00:12:04,440 --> 00:12:07,880 Speaker 2: I am almost sixty seven. Oh, she's my age and 233 00:12:08,000 --> 00:12:10,680 Speaker 2: my boyfriend is the same age. I was married for 234 00:12:10,760 --> 00:12:14,640 Speaker 2: thirty four years and have been divorced for twelve. I 235 00:12:14,679 --> 00:12:17,800 Speaker 2: had a terrible divorce, but now I feel like I've 236 00:12:17,880 --> 00:12:20,520 Speaker 2: found the guy I could spend the rest of my 237 00:12:20,600 --> 00:12:24,080 Speaker 2: life with. There's hope, Kathy. We've been together for three 238 00:12:24,160 --> 00:12:26,800 Speaker 2: years and see each other three nights a week. 239 00:12:27,360 --> 00:12:30,080 Speaker 1: We have a bless together. But being a. 240 00:12:30,000 --> 00:12:34,480 Speaker 2: Girl who loved the partnership and teamwork of a marriage, 241 00:12:34,679 --> 00:12:38,679 Speaker 2: I want more. My boyfriend told me he will never 242 00:12:39,080 --> 00:12:40,080 Speaker 2: marry again. 243 00:12:40,640 --> 00:12:45,400 Speaker 3: Oh boy, keep going? Do I just accept? And as 244 00:12:45,440 --> 00:12:49,560 Speaker 3: you say, enjoy this chapter. I feel like the day 245 00:12:49,600 --> 00:12:52,960 Speaker 3: will that this will come to a head. I love 246 00:12:53,000 --> 00:12:56,520 Speaker 3: him and I know he loves me. PS love you too. 247 00:12:56,720 --> 00:12:58,920 Speaker 3: Oh go Susan back, Oh we love it. 248 00:12:58,920 --> 00:12:59,760 Speaker 1: Okayack okay. 249 00:13:00,120 --> 00:13:03,880 Speaker 2: So, like we said on our last podcast, I believe 250 00:13:03,880 --> 00:13:06,440 Speaker 2: it was, you don't have to be married. 251 00:13:06,760 --> 00:13:08,280 Speaker 1: We're sixty seven. 252 00:13:08,880 --> 00:13:12,959 Speaker 2: You're not going and raising kids again or having children 253 00:13:13,000 --> 00:13:19,320 Speaker 2: for that matter. So if he's committed to you, why 254 00:13:20,320 --> 00:13:20,960 Speaker 2: why worry? 255 00:13:21,559 --> 00:13:24,000 Speaker 3: I mean, I'm going to say something that's not that popular. 256 00:13:24,360 --> 00:13:26,760 Speaker 3: And you and I've talked about this, Susan. I will 257 00:13:26,840 --> 00:13:32,840 Speaker 3: never ever say never. But yeah, I think I just did. 258 00:13:33,280 --> 00:13:35,839 Speaker 3: You never know. But here's the thing. To you and 259 00:13:35,920 --> 00:13:39,360 Speaker 3: I've talked about this. It's ideal. I have my home, 260 00:13:39,679 --> 00:13:43,040 Speaker 3: the guy has his home. We spend three days at 261 00:13:43,080 --> 00:13:45,760 Speaker 3: his house, maybe a couple of days at my house, 262 00:13:45,800 --> 00:13:47,400 Speaker 3: and then we both go back to our own homes. 263 00:13:47,440 --> 00:13:50,440 Speaker 3: What's wrong with that? It's really finding the love that 264 00:13:50,520 --> 00:13:50,960 Speaker 3: you want. 265 00:13:51,400 --> 00:13:55,960 Speaker 2: You definitely accept this chapter and enjoy the ride. 266 00:13:56,280 --> 00:13:58,560 Speaker 3: You know, do you know what's the most important thing? 267 00:13:58,800 --> 00:14:02,040 Speaker 3: She said? I love him and I know he loves me. 268 00:14:02,280 --> 00:14:04,760 Speaker 3: Wouldn't you look to hear those words? Wouldn't you look at. 269 00:14:04,800 --> 00:14:06,839 Speaker 1: Those Stop borring trouble. 270 00:14:06,640 --> 00:14:10,000 Speaker 3: Yes, to be down. Yeah, stop worrying about the marriage. 271 00:14:10,040 --> 00:14:11,800 Speaker 3: And you know, is he going to buy me a 272 00:14:11,880 --> 00:14:14,120 Speaker 3: ring in a house? If you love each other. 273 00:14:13,960 --> 00:14:16,800 Speaker 1: And you're having a good No, I misswearing. 274 00:14:16,320 --> 00:14:18,800 Speaker 3: The ring, but okay, I'll buy you once you can 275 00:14:18,840 --> 00:14:21,400 Speaker 3: fake it. Go go buy one lot of a Crackerjack box. 276 00:14:21,400 --> 00:14:25,040 Speaker 3: Are you serious? I'm just saying, enjoy what you guys 277 00:14:25,160 --> 00:14:29,280 Speaker 3: have together. There are so many people who never find 278 00:14:29,560 --> 00:14:30,200 Speaker 3: their person. 279 00:14:30,760 --> 00:14:33,640 Speaker 2: And also, we're not God. We can't predict the future. 280 00:14:33,720 --> 00:14:36,000 Speaker 2: We don't know what's going to happen. So enjoy each 281 00:14:36,080 --> 00:14:38,840 Speaker 2: minute right now while it's perfect. That's right, But thank 282 00:14:38,880 --> 00:14:42,720 Speaker 2: you for writing in Yeah, Okay, this is listener question 283 00:14:42,800 --> 00:14:46,040 Speaker 2: number three. Chloe sent us this. I have a one 284 00:14:46,080 --> 00:14:48,880 Speaker 2: and a half year old son. He's my first child, 285 00:14:49,240 --> 00:14:52,720 Speaker 2: so I still consider myself a new mother. Obviously, I 286 00:14:52,760 --> 00:14:56,160 Speaker 2: love my son, but I struggle to find my identity 287 00:14:56,280 --> 00:14:57,360 Speaker 2: now that I'm a mother. 288 00:14:57,800 --> 00:15:01,200 Speaker 3: To start, I don't feel like a mom. My mom 289 00:15:01,600 --> 00:15:05,040 Speaker 3: is a mom, not me. I also find that once 290 00:15:05,040 --> 00:15:08,600 Speaker 3: you're a mom, society looks at you differently. For example, 291 00:15:08,840 --> 00:15:11,840 Speaker 3: when my husband goes out with our son, people always 292 00:15:11,880 --> 00:15:14,400 Speaker 3: approach him and tell him how cute our son is, 293 00:15:14,800 --> 00:15:17,560 Speaker 3: how awesome it is that he is out with our son, etc. 294 00:15:18,400 --> 00:15:21,000 Speaker 3: Whereas when I go out with our son, I feel 295 00:15:21,000 --> 00:15:24,200 Speaker 3: invisible in a way I've never felt before. It's like 296 00:15:24,280 --> 00:15:29,239 Speaker 3: my husband's social value has increased while mine has decreased dramatically. 297 00:15:29,680 --> 00:15:32,680 Speaker 3: I am a criminal defense attorney, and I have lots 298 00:15:32,720 --> 00:15:34,800 Speaker 3: of things I want to do in my career that 299 00:15:34,880 --> 00:15:37,560 Speaker 3: have now become harder to do as I don't have 300 00:15:37,680 --> 00:15:41,320 Speaker 3: the time I used to have to pursue my intellectual goals. 301 00:15:41,760 --> 00:15:44,840 Speaker 3: I also rarely have alone time, and I miss it 302 00:15:45,000 --> 00:15:48,280 Speaker 3: so much. What are your thoughts on this? Did you 303 00:15:48,320 --> 00:15:51,080 Speaker 3: struggle with any of this in your transition to motherhood, 304 00:15:51,600 --> 00:15:55,960 Speaker 3: advice on how to adjust and relish in my current 305 00:15:56,000 --> 00:15:58,840 Speaker 3: phase of life. Looking forward to hearing from you. 306 00:16:00,080 --> 00:16:03,600 Speaker 2: Oh boy, well, with that education, there obviously is a 307 00:16:03,720 --> 00:16:09,600 Speaker 2: nice salary. I'd have a nanny at least for part. 308 00:16:09,360 --> 00:16:09,880 Speaker 1: Of the time. 309 00:16:13,080 --> 00:16:16,280 Speaker 2: Everybody stops and says, what a beautiful child? Are you 310 00:16:16,400 --> 00:16:20,640 Speaker 2: missing something? I mean, I think it's more internally, it's 311 00:16:20,720 --> 00:16:21,440 Speaker 2: in her. 312 00:16:22,600 --> 00:16:27,000 Speaker 3: What do you think, well, I think, Chloe. First of all, 313 00:16:27,160 --> 00:16:31,200 Speaker 3: my hat is off to you. You a criminal defense 314 00:16:31,200 --> 00:16:34,560 Speaker 3: attorney is a tough profession, and you're a mom. And 315 00:16:34,640 --> 00:16:37,440 Speaker 3: I will tell you I really wanted to go to 316 00:16:37,520 --> 00:16:39,760 Speaker 3: law school, and I will tell you I made the 317 00:16:39,800 --> 00:16:43,440 Speaker 3: hard decision not to go to law school because I 318 00:16:43,440 --> 00:16:46,360 Speaker 3: didn't think I could give my all to raising a 319 00:16:46,360 --> 00:16:49,440 Speaker 3: family and being a lawyer, and so I made the 320 00:16:49,480 --> 00:16:51,440 Speaker 3: decision to stay at home with my family. So my 321 00:16:51,520 --> 00:16:53,920 Speaker 3: hat really is off to you that you're doing both. 322 00:16:54,360 --> 00:16:58,200 Speaker 3: Having said that, it bothers me that you feel invisible. 323 00:16:59,280 --> 00:17:02,920 Speaker 3: I think that being a parent is a really important role. 324 00:17:03,680 --> 00:17:07,440 Speaker 3: And I think, whether we like it or not, moms 325 00:17:07,680 --> 00:17:11,919 Speaker 3: always in our society are or not always, but usually 326 00:17:13,000 --> 00:17:15,720 Speaker 3: are the ones that you know, take take take it 327 00:17:15,760 --> 00:17:17,800 Speaker 3: for the team. You know, we're the ones that take 328 00:17:17,840 --> 00:17:20,720 Speaker 3: care of the sick kids and you're doing double duty. 329 00:17:21,000 --> 00:17:25,320 Speaker 3: You're a successful attorney, and I think really what you 330 00:17:25,440 --> 00:17:28,119 Speaker 3: have to do is accept that you're not going to 331 00:17:28,200 --> 00:17:31,600 Speaker 3: do either thing perfectly. You're not going to be the 332 00:17:31,640 --> 00:17:34,679 Speaker 3: best criminal defense attorney. You're not going to be the 333 00:17:34,720 --> 00:17:38,880 Speaker 3: best mom. And you know what, that's okay. That's okay, Chloe, 334 00:17:39,480 --> 00:17:43,440 Speaker 3: do the best you can with both. Your child will 335 00:17:43,560 --> 00:17:46,639 Speaker 3: value you. As as your son grows up, he's going 336 00:17:46,680 --> 00:17:50,600 Speaker 3: to say, Wow, my mom is someone to be respected 337 00:17:50,720 --> 00:17:53,919 Speaker 3: and what more could you want? What do you think, Susan? 338 00:17:54,160 --> 00:17:57,720 Speaker 2: That was well said Kathy Well said, I think she's 339 00:17:57,760 --> 00:18:00,800 Speaker 2: just got to adjust to. 340 00:17:59,840 --> 00:18:03,120 Speaker 1: Be a mom. I mean, we aren't the most important ones. 341 00:18:03,200 --> 00:18:05,880 Speaker 2: I remember feeling like that I didn't have enough time 342 00:18:05,920 --> 00:18:08,400 Speaker 2: to do myself. I barely got my shower, my hair 343 00:18:08,440 --> 00:18:10,640 Speaker 2: blown dry, had about makeup or. 344 00:18:10,560 --> 00:18:11,959 Speaker 1: Shopping or anything like that. 345 00:18:12,000 --> 00:18:17,040 Speaker 2: It was about my baby. But that was okay. Sometimes 346 00:18:17,440 --> 00:18:17,639 Speaker 2: you know. 347 00:18:17,960 --> 00:18:20,800 Speaker 3: Sometimes and I will tell you, I, you know, we 348 00:18:20,880 --> 00:18:25,720 Speaker 3: talk about regrets in life. I I would be lying. 349 00:18:25,960 --> 00:18:29,120 Speaker 3: I regret sometimes that I didn't go to law school. 350 00:18:29,240 --> 00:18:34,760 Speaker 3: I really wanted to be a family a family law attorney, 351 00:18:34,960 --> 00:18:37,679 Speaker 3: and I didn't do it, and sometimes I think, you know, Kathy, 352 00:18:37,720 --> 00:18:40,320 Speaker 3: you could have done it all. But I have three 353 00:18:40,359 --> 00:18:45,080 Speaker 3: great children, and guess what. Guess what, Chloe, I wasn't 354 00:18:45,080 --> 00:18:47,960 Speaker 3: a perfect parent, and that's what I chose to do 355 00:18:48,000 --> 00:18:50,679 Speaker 3: with my life. So again, my hat is off to you. 356 00:18:50,720 --> 00:18:53,399 Speaker 3: You're not going to do anything perfectly. You're doing the 357 00:18:53,400 --> 00:18:55,479 Speaker 3: best you can, and let's celebrate that. 358 00:18:55,920 --> 00:18:57,399 Speaker 1: Good for you, good day at a time. 359 00:18:57,640 --> 00:18:58,600 Speaker 3: Good for you, Chloe. 360 00:18:58,680 --> 00:19:02,840 Speaker 2: Yep, thank you for writing us. And we have question 361 00:19:02,920 --> 00:19:06,159 Speaker 2: number four, and this is from Jack from New York City, 362 00:19:06,840 --> 00:19:09,959 Speaker 2: and he says, Hi, Susan, and Kathy. I'm a twenty 363 00:19:09,960 --> 00:19:13,120 Speaker 2: eight year old gay man in New York City. I've 364 00:19:13,160 --> 00:19:16,639 Speaker 2: done a lot of grinder hookups and have dated a 365 00:19:16,680 --> 00:19:20,119 Speaker 2: few people, but nothing long term. I'm very focused on 366 00:19:20,160 --> 00:19:24,480 Speaker 2: my career and fitness, which does not leave much time 367 00:19:24,640 --> 00:19:28,920 Speaker 2: for relationships. Recently, I've been feeling very lonely, so I'm 368 00:19:28,960 --> 00:19:33,120 Speaker 2: thinking about dating again. However, I'm worried that guys will 369 00:19:33,160 --> 00:19:36,439 Speaker 2: think it's a red flag that I haven't been in 370 00:19:36,520 --> 00:19:40,720 Speaker 2: a long term relationship. Do you think it's a red flag? 371 00:19:40,880 --> 00:19:44,040 Speaker 2: If so, how do you suggest navigating this by the 372 00:19:44,040 --> 00:19:47,280 Speaker 2: way love watching you ladies on the show and been 373 00:19:47,359 --> 00:19:50,800 Speaker 2: so grateful for the energy that you bring on the podcast. 374 00:19:51,320 --> 00:19:56,159 Speaker 2: Well thanks Jack, Jack, you're twenty eight. It's okay that 375 00:19:56,200 --> 00:20:00,199 Speaker 2: you haven't had twenty serious relationships. You're supposed to be 376 00:20:00,280 --> 00:20:04,080 Speaker 2: young and free and concentrate on yourself, because if you 377 00:20:04,119 --> 00:20:07,600 Speaker 2: don't know who you are and comfortable with who you are, 378 00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:10,720 Speaker 2: then how could you share in a relationship. I think, 379 00:20:10,880 --> 00:20:14,520 Speaker 2: just get out there and start, and you're not going 380 00:20:14,600 --> 00:20:16,080 Speaker 2: to have one until you meet. 381 00:20:15,880 --> 00:20:17,359 Speaker 1: The right person to have one with. 382 00:20:17,640 --> 00:20:20,639 Speaker 3: Right. Yeah, I agree with all that says An. You know, 383 00:20:20,680 --> 00:20:23,560 Speaker 3: I have a gay son, and I don't really pretend 384 00:20:23,600 --> 00:20:27,440 Speaker 3: to understand the gay dating scene. I do think it's 385 00:20:27,560 --> 00:20:33,000 Speaker 3: different than a heterosexual dating scene. Having said that, I 386 00:20:33,119 --> 00:20:37,160 Speaker 3: don't think that just because you've had hookups on Grinder 387 00:20:37,240 --> 00:20:39,680 Speaker 3: and have focused on your career in fitness, I don't 388 00:20:39,680 --> 00:20:42,920 Speaker 3: think that's a bad thing. I think, yay, you, you've 389 00:20:42,960 --> 00:20:46,600 Speaker 3: been doing you. You've been focusing on what's important to 390 00:20:46,600 --> 00:20:49,440 Speaker 3: you in the moment, and your career and fitness are 391 00:20:49,560 --> 00:20:53,760 Speaker 3: two really important aspects or should be of anyone's life. 392 00:20:54,040 --> 00:20:57,359 Speaker 3: So I think that it's not a red flag unless 393 00:20:57,400 --> 00:20:58,720 Speaker 3: you make it a red flag. 394 00:20:58,840 --> 00:21:01,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, exact if you're thinking it. 395 00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:04,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, if you meet people and talk about what you've 396 00:21:04,359 --> 00:21:07,000 Speaker 3: been doing with your life and your career, and you're 397 00:21:07,040 --> 00:21:09,920 Speaker 3: excited about who you are and what you've been doing 398 00:21:09,960 --> 00:21:11,840 Speaker 3: with your life, I think people are going to find 399 00:21:11,840 --> 00:21:14,560 Speaker 3: that exciting and want to get to know you. So 400 00:21:14,840 --> 00:21:18,480 Speaker 3: I would say, Jack, get out there, meet people and 401 00:21:18,840 --> 00:21:21,479 Speaker 3: start enjoying your life and see if your relationships out 402 00:21:21,520 --> 00:21:21,840 Speaker 3: there for. 403 00:21:21,840 --> 00:21:24,359 Speaker 2: You and for all you know, there's other twenty eight 404 00:21:24,480 --> 00:21:27,760 Speaker 2: year olds that also have not been in a serious relationship. 405 00:21:27,840 --> 00:21:30,400 Speaker 1: So take it easy on yourself. Yeah, and just go be. 406 00:21:30,440 --> 00:21:32,760 Speaker 3: You and and I'm with you. Tons of luck and 407 00:21:32,800 --> 00:21:35,520 Speaker 3: I'm so glad you're enjoying the podcast. I hope you 408 00:21:35,600 --> 00:21:40,520 Speaker 3: continue to follow us because we love getting these questions 409 00:21:40,760 --> 00:21:41,160 Speaker 3: we do. 410 00:21:41,560 --> 00:21:44,360 Speaker 2: And if anybody out there does have a question for us, 411 00:21:44,400 --> 00:21:47,320 Speaker 2: we want to hear it. Just go to Bachelornation dot 412 00:21:47,359 --> 00:21:51,160 Speaker 2: com slash Golden Hour and you may even be featured 413 00:21:51,280 --> 00:21:58,920 Speaker 2: on the podcast. 414 00:22:01,920 --> 00:22:05,320 Speaker 3: You know what, We have time for one more question, Susan, Okay, 415 00:22:05,400 --> 00:22:11,600 Speaker 3: let's do it. I am currently in a long distance relationship. 416 00:22:12,000 --> 00:22:15,879 Speaker 3: This comes from Shelley in Tulsa, Oklahoma. She's in a 417 00:22:15,920 --> 00:22:19,920 Speaker 3: long distance relationship, and they've been together for almost a year. 418 00:22:20,480 --> 00:22:25,080 Speaker 3: We met our freshman year of college and started dating immediately. 419 00:22:25,600 --> 00:22:28,959 Speaker 3: In January, we found out he would have to do 420 00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:32,720 Speaker 3: this semester from home for family reasons. It's been three 421 00:22:32,800 --> 00:22:36,760 Speaker 3: months and I'm starting to get really anxious. He's been 422 00:22:36,840 --> 00:22:41,280 Speaker 3: answering my text less and less. Before he would respond 423 00:22:41,320 --> 00:22:44,560 Speaker 3: pretty quickly, Now it takes hours to get a reply. 424 00:22:45,080 --> 00:22:48,760 Speaker 3: We still FaceTime pretty often, and I don't think anything 425 00:22:48,800 --> 00:22:51,679 Speaker 3: has changed as far as what made him go home. 426 00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:55,000 Speaker 3: So I'm not sure what's really been going on. I'm 427 00:22:55,040 --> 00:22:59,320 Speaker 3: worried he's distancing himself. Should I ask him if everything 428 00:22:59,400 --> 00:23:03,000 Speaker 3: is okay? He's pretty good at giving me reassurance. But 429 00:23:03,119 --> 00:23:06,000 Speaker 3: I just could not sleep last night, and I hate 430 00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:10,000 Speaker 3: this feeling. It's my first long distance relationship and I'm 431 00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:13,880 Speaker 3: not sure i'll get to see him until fall. WHOA, 432 00:23:14,800 --> 00:23:16,200 Speaker 3: I don't know what to say? What do you think? 433 00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:16,879 Speaker 3: I want to tell you? 434 00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:17,560 Speaker 1: What I think? 435 00:23:17,880 --> 00:23:18,639 Speaker 3: What are you thinking? 436 00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:24,160 Speaker 1: Surprise guess who's here? Why just show up? 437 00:23:26,359 --> 00:23:26,560 Speaker 3: Yeah? 438 00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:31,040 Speaker 1: I'm not liking it. Really, Yeah, i'd surprise him. 439 00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:35,520 Speaker 3: You know they've been doing long Here's the thing. They've 440 00:23:35,560 --> 00:23:39,639 Speaker 3: been together for almost a year. I think what the 441 00:23:39,760 --> 00:23:43,160 Speaker 3: problem is. He's now moved home, he says. She says, 442 00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:47,320 Speaker 3: he's moved home for family reasons. So, and it's only 443 00:23:47,400 --> 00:23:51,840 Speaker 3: been three months. I'm thinking that he got a taste 444 00:23:52,400 --> 00:23:56,320 Speaker 3: of what an in person relationship was like. Now he 445 00:23:56,359 --> 00:23:59,000 Speaker 3: doesn't want to go back to long distance. So I'm 446 00:23:59,040 --> 00:24:04,000 Speaker 3: thinking he's thinking, maybe I'll find somebody closer to home. 447 00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:06,359 Speaker 3: Maybe he's realizing he's not going to be able to 448 00:24:06,359 --> 00:24:08,600 Speaker 3: go back to school or whatever it is, and he's. 449 00:24:08,480 --> 00:24:10,280 Speaker 1: Thinking, what are the family issues? 450 00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:12,159 Speaker 3: Well, does it matter if he's not going to be 451 00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:14,400 Speaker 3: able to go back to school, does it matter? That's 452 00:24:14,400 --> 00:24:17,199 Speaker 3: what I'm thinking. He's starting to think, you know, I 453 00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:19,840 Speaker 3: can't go back to school. I can't. I don't want 454 00:24:19,840 --> 00:24:23,919 Speaker 3: to continue a long distance relationship. It's I hate to 455 00:24:23,960 --> 00:24:25,520 Speaker 3: say that, Shelley, I'm worried. 456 00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:27,040 Speaker 1: I'm worried too. 457 00:24:27,359 --> 00:24:30,400 Speaker 2: I realize and once again communicate. But if he's not 458 00:24:30,520 --> 00:24:35,920 Speaker 2: going to give you any I mean communication and tell 459 00:24:36,000 --> 00:24:37,480 Speaker 2: the truth and show up. 460 00:24:38,200 --> 00:24:40,320 Speaker 3: Well, I mean, she said she's afraid she's not going 461 00:24:40,359 --> 00:24:42,680 Speaker 3: to get to see him until fall. We're just coming 462 00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:46,280 Speaker 3: into summer here, so that you know what at that age, 463 00:24:46,560 --> 00:24:48,840 Speaker 3: at our age, what's three or four months? You know, 464 00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:51,520 Speaker 3: it's like three or four pounds. Who cares? But but 465 00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:55,639 Speaker 3: at her age, that's a long time, right, So Shelley, 466 00:24:55,800 --> 00:24:58,760 Speaker 3: I'm thinking you need to, you know what, face the 467 00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:02,480 Speaker 3: music and talk to him. Susan's right, communicate with him, 468 00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:05,719 Speaker 3: tell them what you're thinking. And I unfortunately think you 469 00:25:05,800 --> 00:25:09,640 Speaker 3: might have be prepared that it might be time to 470 00:25:09,680 --> 00:25:10,640 Speaker 3: move along. 471 00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:12,119 Speaker 1: And slowing down. There's a reason. 472 00:25:12,720 --> 00:25:15,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, and some men will be honest and talk about 473 00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:18,480 Speaker 2: it and it might hurt, but better to know now, 474 00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:22,000 Speaker 2: and other men you might just have to figure it 475 00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:24,920 Speaker 2: out or you you might get tired of. 476 00:25:24,880 --> 00:25:28,320 Speaker 1: It and you and you know, it's hard to say, 477 00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:29,240 Speaker 1: because it is hard. 478 00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:32,560 Speaker 3: We've lived so long, but it's you know, we can 479 00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:35,760 Speaker 3: sit here and say, Shelly, you're going to meet someone else, 480 00:25:35,840 --> 00:25:39,440 Speaker 3: But heartbreak, especially if this is her first serious relationship, 481 00:25:39,920 --> 00:25:41,320 Speaker 3: heartbreak is really hard. 482 00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:42,840 Speaker 1: Feel bad. That kind of bummed me out. 483 00:25:42,880 --> 00:25:44,800 Speaker 3: I'm sorry, I know. Do we have to end on that? 484 00:25:45,960 --> 00:25:48,640 Speaker 1: I mean, I wait, no, wait, we're going to play 485 00:25:48,680 --> 00:25:49,399 Speaker 1: another round. 486 00:25:49,760 --> 00:25:52,960 Speaker 3: Okay, would you rather today? 487 00:25:53,359 --> 00:25:55,720 Speaker 2: Okay, They're going to read them and then we'll both 488 00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:57,600 Speaker 2: pick which one we'd rather. 489 00:25:57,680 --> 00:25:59,240 Speaker 3: You got it? Got it? 490 00:25:59,600 --> 00:26:02,440 Speaker 2: Would you rather have a five minute conversation with your 491 00:26:02,480 --> 00:26:05,359 Speaker 2: past self or your future self? 492 00:26:06,119 --> 00:26:07,000 Speaker 3: Are you going to guess? What? 493 00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:10,200 Speaker 2: Do you think I'd say my future self? 494 00:26:10,320 --> 00:26:13,400 Speaker 3: Right? You think I'd rather talk to my futureself? 495 00:26:13,400 --> 00:26:15,840 Speaker 2: Oh? Am, I supposed to guess what you're doing. I'm 496 00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:17,000 Speaker 2: just saying what I would do. 497 00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:21,240 Speaker 3: You'd rather talk to your future self? You know what? Honestly, 498 00:26:21,560 --> 00:26:24,840 Speaker 3: I would rather talk with my past self. And what 499 00:26:24,880 --> 00:26:29,120 Speaker 3: I would tell myself is, Kathy, You're okay. Be who 500 00:26:29,160 --> 00:26:32,919 Speaker 3: you are. You're going to be fine, build your confidence, 501 00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:35,760 Speaker 3: go for your dreams. Not everything's going to work out 502 00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:41,119 Speaker 3: for you, but just be you and live your life. 503 00:26:41,320 --> 00:26:42,879 Speaker 3: You'd rather be future. 504 00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:46,320 Speaker 2: My future self is like, you've made it this far, sweetheart, 505 00:26:46,600 --> 00:26:47,639 Speaker 2: just keep on going. 506 00:26:48,359 --> 00:26:50,840 Speaker 3: But you know what those are both good thoughts like this, 507 00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:54,399 Speaker 3: all right? Would you rather? I know the answer to 508 00:26:54,440 --> 00:26:57,240 Speaker 3: this one? Would you rather be a member of the 509 00:26:57,320 --> 00:27:02,200 Speaker 3: Kardashian family or the Obama family? Duh, no brainer? 510 00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:04,560 Speaker 1: Hey, Chris, I'm coming over. 511 00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:10,600 Speaker 3: I mean since I mean, I'm Caitlin and you're Chris, 512 00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:13,320 Speaker 3: so you know what the Kardashian I don't know. I 513 00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:17,600 Speaker 3: could go either way. The Kardashians are Hollywood and the 514 00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:21,119 Speaker 3: Obama family have been, you know, community activists. I don't know. 515 00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:22,200 Speaker 3: I could go either direction. 516 00:27:22,720 --> 00:27:23,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, okay. 517 00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:28,360 Speaker 2: Would you rather eat cold pizza or hot cereal for breakfast? 518 00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:29,879 Speaker 3: What do you think I would rather. 519 00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:32,520 Speaker 1: Eat you hot cereal? 520 00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:38,520 Speaker 3: Absolutely? You old pizza? Yeah all right? Would Oh this 521 00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:41,600 Speaker 3: was a no brainer too. Would you wait? I'm just 522 00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:43,760 Speaker 3: gonna say. I'm going to answer this for both of us. 523 00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:47,600 Speaker 3: Would you rather be too hot or too cold? There 524 00:27:47,720 --> 00:27:50,240 Speaker 3: is no such thing as too cold for Susan. The 525 00:27:50,280 --> 00:27:54,600 Speaker 3: girl could live in neither. Let me just tell you, guys, 526 00:27:54,680 --> 00:27:58,760 Speaker 3: when it's seventy five and sunny and it's beautiful breeze, 527 00:27:59,040 --> 00:28:01,080 Speaker 3: Susan is hiding out in her freezer. 528 00:28:01,359 --> 00:28:04,600 Speaker 1: I mean last seventy five, ninety five? Yeah, all right. 529 00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:09,160 Speaker 2: Would you rather always be too early or always be late? 530 00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:10,879 Speaker 3: What do you think I'm gonna. 531 00:28:10,600 --> 00:28:12,040 Speaker 1: Say early both of us? 532 00:28:12,320 --> 00:28:15,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly. It's rude. It is rude to be late. 533 00:28:15,840 --> 00:28:17,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, but it happens sometimes. 534 00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:20,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, shit happens. Would you rather have your heart broken 535 00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:25,480 Speaker 3: or break someone else's heart? You're gonna when my heart's broken. 536 00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:26,960 Speaker 1: His heart's really really bad. 537 00:28:27,640 --> 00:28:27,879 Speaker 3: You know how. 538 00:28:28,119 --> 00:28:30,280 Speaker 1: I don't like breaking heart either. I told you before 539 00:28:30,280 --> 00:28:32,520 Speaker 1: it takes me a year to end the relationship. 540 00:28:32,920 --> 00:28:34,680 Speaker 3: You know how you always say both, and I say 541 00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:38,480 Speaker 3: you can't choose both? Okay, Kathy, there it is no 542 00:28:38,680 --> 00:28:40,200 Speaker 3: I'm saying both. You know why? 543 00:28:40,600 --> 00:28:40,680 Speaker 1: What? 544 00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:45,280 Speaker 3: You learn important lessons from both? You learn important lessons 545 00:28:45,280 --> 00:28:47,720 Speaker 3: from having your heart broken, and you learn important lessons 546 00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:49,120 Speaker 3: from breaking someone else's heart. 547 00:28:49,680 --> 00:28:50,320 Speaker 1: All right, Kathy? 548 00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:54,640 Speaker 2: Would you rather have marry the person of your dreams 549 00:28:54,800 --> 00:28:57,720 Speaker 2: or the career of your dreams? 550 00:28:58,240 --> 00:28:58,440 Speaker 1: Well? 551 00:28:58,440 --> 00:29:00,000 Speaker 3: I think for what do you think I'm gonna answer? 552 00:29:00,080 --> 00:29:03,160 Speaker 3: Or you know the answer to that? I just told 553 00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:04,240 Speaker 3: we already talked about. 554 00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:06,640 Speaker 1: This podcast again. Both. I want both. 555 00:29:06,640 --> 00:29:08,720 Speaker 3: I want it all, but I had to choose, and 556 00:29:08,800 --> 00:29:11,000 Speaker 3: I chose the man of my dreams. I chose the 557 00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:11,800 Speaker 3: man of my dreams. 558 00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:14,080 Speaker 2: Would you rather live in a big city or a 559 00:29:14,120 --> 00:29:17,880 Speaker 2: small town? What do you think I'd rather live in 560 00:29:18,520 --> 00:29:19,160 Speaker 2: small town? 561 00:29:20,320 --> 00:29:23,280 Speaker 3: You're absolutely right? In my younger days, big city now 562 00:29:23,400 --> 00:29:24,600 Speaker 3: small town? What about you? 563 00:29:24,840 --> 00:29:28,360 Speaker 1: It would depend on where? I don't know. 564 00:29:28,440 --> 00:29:29,040 Speaker 3: How about city? 565 00:29:29,280 --> 00:29:30,080 Speaker 1: How about Hudson? 566 00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:33,320 Speaker 3: How about Hudson, Indiana? 567 00:29:33,600 --> 00:29:34,600 Speaker 1: Okay? Next question? 568 00:29:35,000 --> 00:29:38,840 Speaker 2: Would you rather vacation at the same beautiful place every 569 00:29:38,960 --> 00:29:42,480 Speaker 2: year or a new, unknown place every year? 570 00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:45,960 Speaker 3: I think you would rather go to an unknown place 571 00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:46,480 Speaker 3: every year. 572 00:29:46,760 --> 00:29:48,040 Speaker 1: I'd like to try new things. 573 00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:51,720 Speaker 3: Yeap, I'm the same. Yeah, all right. Would you rather 574 00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:56,000 Speaker 3: be with someone who hates your favorite food or hates 575 00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:57,440 Speaker 3: your pet? 576 00:29:57,840 --> 00:30:00,280 Speaker 1: Eh? I think he likes what I'm eat. 577 00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:03,240 Speaker 3: I was gonna say, wait, so you would rather be 578 00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:05,680 Speaker 3: with someone who hates your pet? No? 579 00:30:05,920 --> 00:30:08,880 Speaker 1: Hate's my favorite food. I'm still going to get it regardless. 580 00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:12,560 Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, me too. I don't want anyone. I've dated 581 00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:14,720 Speaker 3: a guy who hated my two cats. You know where 582 00:30:14,760 --> 00:30:17,560 Speaker 3: he is. He's not with you, He's in my rear 583 00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:23,680 Speaker 3: view mirror, cho Bella. Okay, Well that does it for 584 00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:26,760 Speaker 3: this episode. Thank you so much for joining us today. 585 00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:29,840 Speaker 3: I'm Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. 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