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Speaker 1: I'm Laurie Gottlieb. I'm the author of Maybe You Should

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Speaker 1: Talk to Someone, and I write the Dear Therapist advice

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Speaker 1: column for the Atlantic. And I'm Guy Wench. I'm the

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Speaker 1: author of Emotional First Aid, and I write the Dear

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Speaker 1: Guy advice column for Ted. And this is Dear Therapists.

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Speaker 1: This week, we're going to check in on a guest

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Speaker 1: from season two to hear how they're doing a year later. First,

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Speaker 1: a quick note, Dear Therapists is for informational purposes only,

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Speaker 1: does not constitute medical or psychological advice, and is not

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Speaker 1: a substitute for professional health care advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

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Speaker 1: Always seek the advice of your physician, mental health professional,

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Speaker 1: or other qualified health provider with any questions you may

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Speaker 1: have regarding a medical or psychological condition. By submitting a letter,

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Speaker 1: for length and clarity. In the sessions you'll hear, all

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Speaker 1: names have been changed for the privacy of our guests. Today,

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Speaker 1: we're going to check in with Paul. Paul's episode was

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Speaker 1: called Paul's Inappropriate Boss, and the story was that Paul

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Speaker 1: worked in the library with Sharon, his boss, and she

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Speaker 1: would text him after work hours, all kinds of late

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Speaker 1: hours of the night, even though Paul asked her not

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Speaker 1: to do it and to respect his private time. She

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Speaker 1: would also delegate her own responsibilities to him but not

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Speaker 1: credit him for handling them, and she would violate his

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Speaker 1: boundaries in other ways. Now, Paul tried setting limits with Sharon,

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Speaker 1: but he felt she wasn't respecting those limits, and since

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Speaker 1: what else he could do as a subordinate without risking

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Speaker 1: his job or opportunities for advancement. Sharon Aciety enjoyed being

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Speaker 1: a librarian. He just wasn't sure what path to take

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Speaker 1: given his current situation. So let's get a reminder from

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Speaker 1: that session. Sharon, for example, I kind of went back

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Speaker 1: into that situation where you know, just by her walking in,

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Speaker 1: She would kind of contact me outside of work to

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Speaker 1: keep that conversation going. I would just see my phone

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Speaker 1: if this is work related and I'm not at work,

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Speaker 1: I really would like if you could just email me instead.

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Speaker 1: She didn't really do that. So I think generally it's

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Speaker 1: just this predisposition to being so into and in tune

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Speaker 1: that I'm not making them angry and anything. That also

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Speaker 1: goes along with why I have so much difficulty with

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Speaker 1: like the second guessing kind of thing, where if I

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Speaker 1: being mean? Is this you know? Am I presenting it

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Speaker 1: in the wrong way? Is it reasonable? Yeah? Exactly. You're

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Speaker 1: listening to Dear Therapists from my Heart Radio. We'll be

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Speaker 1: back after a short break, so let's see how Paul

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Speaker 1: is doing a year later. Hey Laurie, Hey guy, it's Paul,

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Speaker 1: and I'm calling to update you about how things have

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Speaker 1: been since I was on the show. So since being on,

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Speaker 1: I'd say that my level of stress and anxiety around

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Speaker 1: the point of being non existent. Of course, there's periods

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Speaker 1: to make my day a little bit easier. I've continued

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Speaker 1: to read a lot about boundaries and mental health and

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Speaker 1: health community on Instagram, including the content from you, Laurie

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Speaker 1: and Guy. And I've really enjoyed how many of my

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Speaker 1: friends have been sharing the same content and initiating conversations

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Speaker 1: I adjust my mindset expectations accordingly. Of course, it's still

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Speaker 1: there's some progress that's made, but a year later you

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Speaker 1: can really see how the session has impacted their life

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Speaker 1: Paul said about how when he started setting boundaries at work,

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Speaker 1: And I think you see with Paul, he was afraid,

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Speaker 1: Paul said, when I re listened to the episode, I

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Speaker 1: learned something new. Each time there's a new layer that

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Speaker 1: he discovers, and I think our listeners will have the

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Speaker 1: same experience. But Laurie, I want to tell you something.

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Speaker 1: I listened to one of our episodes a few days

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Speaker 1: some of the things that you were saying. In other words,

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