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Speaker 2: Some people say, I'm just kind of live and breathe

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Speaker 2: inherent a wholeness. They just have an inherent a whole

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Speaker 1: Some people are born different, They're born with the gift

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Speaker 1: of a wholeness. It's a certain special set of skills

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Speaker 1: to be a reddit a hole.

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Speaker 2: Some people have DNA, other people have DNA.

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Speaker 1: Whole, Ah that they do. Okay, let's jump into it.

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Speaker 1: I thirties female, have been married to Bouford forties male

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Speaker 1: for about a year, not feeling the name, but okay,

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Speaker 1: buffer before I brought Jay eight male and Juniper five

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Speaker 1: female from a past marriage. And until very recently, we

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Speaker 1: thought Boufford had no children. Not Boofrid Booford, the childless

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Speaker 1: man with a name like that. I'm not going to

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Speaker 1: kick the Boofford, but anyone has his name Bofford, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: We'll keep it clean for you, guys. We had no

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Speaker 1: intentions of having more kids. As it happens, though, as

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Speaker 1: Marquita fifteen female. Oh, her mom did not tell Boufford

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Speaker 1: about her pregnancy and ultimately moves states. So he had

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Speaker 1: no idea until she reached out to him on Facebook. Wow. Okay,

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Speaker 1: we were a little boobious, but she turned out to

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Speaker 1: be right. Wow. Marquita and Mom moved back to our

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Speaker 1: state in the meantime and live about forty minutes from us.

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Speaker 1: She wants visitation with Boufford, which he has agreed to do.

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Speaker 1: There's no formal custody arrangement between Boufford and Mom, so

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Speaker 1: it's basically just sporadic weekends and school holidays. Usually this

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Speaker 1: will come to the house and has even slept over

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Speaker 1: a few times. Get a little saucy. Here's my dilema.

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Speaker 1: Marquita is hearing impaired. I'm not entirely sure what degree,

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Speaker 1: but I do know she almost exclusively uses ASL. Should

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Speaker 1: imagine that it's probably a harsh degree.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I'm guessing the family also doesn't know asl.

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Speaker 1: No one in our family knows asl ah, but Boufford

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Speaker 1: has been trying to learn from her. Last time Marquita

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Speaker 1: Why not? The truth is, I really don't know if

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Speaker 1: it's worth the effort. Markita is present at our house

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Speaker 1: maybe once a month. I would consider it if she

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Speaker 1: were going to be over more often, but I work

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Speaker 1: forty eight hours a week and I s'll have time

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Speaker 1: for something like this. I also know three different languages,

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Speaker 1: fit something like that into my life. But I told

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Speaker 1: Bouford that Jay and Judiper can still learn if they're interested.

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Speaker 1: The kids don't want to since I'm not, And now

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Speaker 1: learned some basic signs, but between work and kids, even

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Speaker 1: for not wanting to learn sign language? For Boufford's random.

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Speaker 2: Kid bro shout out to Buford, Buford, it was so

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Speaker 2: hard for me to not just like laugh every time

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Speaker 2: I held it in for you guys. Okay, interesting, I

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Speaker 1: You know, I think so too. I think so too.

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Speaker 1: You all will obviously decide, well, maybe let's take sign

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Speaker 1: language out of it for a second. Let me let

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Speaker 1: me pitch you this. I want to know what everyone

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Speaker 1: else thinks. Would they learn sign language? Would they not?

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Speaker 1: But let's say you're married, yep, you know, your wife

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Speaker 1: think once a month, once a month, one weekend a month.

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Speaker 1: Maybe it was twice a month. Sporadic weekends and holidays.

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Speaker 1: So sporadic weekends and holidays. Are you obligated to learn Spanish?

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Speaker 1: Here's what I'm want to say.

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Speaker 2: No, not obligated to learn the language for me, I

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Speaker 1: That's what I would do.

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Speaker 2: So that way, for the big things, I could communicate

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Speaker 2: That is good because then you could do something there

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Speaker 1: I think when you're like five minutes a day on

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Speaker 1: as like a brain training exercise. She's not necessarily obligated

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like this is an excuse for heat for her

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Speaker 1: Is it is a jarring situation to be a part of.

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Speaker 1: My God, awther woman is in your house from this

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Speaker 2: That is that to me is like my job was

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Speaker 2: On the line. I would do bear, you know, a

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Speaker 2: little a little bit. But tell us, what do you

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Speaker 1: See you next time.

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Speaker 2: She said, I deserve my divorce because I'm infertile, so

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Speaker 2: I drained her college fund.

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Speaker 2: There's a lot going on in this story, Sam, But

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Speaker 2: actually a great segue. I had a lot going on

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Speaker 1: You know, you know, I heard a little little tidbit

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Speaker 2: Yes, very close the Billboard Awards, Like right, yeah, a

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Speaker 1: Is that the B rated cousin bill It's definitely.

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Speaker 2: I mean, Billboards doing their thing, but it's definitely not

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Speaker 1: Well, now that you're a B list celebrity through o

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Speaker 2: But yeah, I literally like woke up at six am

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Speaker 2: into a Chainsmoker's concert by ban dating a VIP wristband.

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Speaker 1: Which is like, that's some like diver ship right there.

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Speaker 2: It was we It turns out you can like get

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Speaker 1: That is fun and true, they get baby, I did

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Speaker 1: no gambling, but so and then just except gambling with

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Speaker 2: I wanted to go to the Billboard Music Awards. That's

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Speaker 2: my friend was was on the crew. Oh, he's like

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Speaker 1: A free room. That is nice, cool the hookup.

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Speaker 2: There's no guarantee though, Like I literally drove out at

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Speaker 1: Bad ass though, Like I don't know what's gonna happen. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I was thinking about sneaking that. I was telling Sam.

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Speaker 2: I was thinking about sneaking him, and I was like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: But I did get a free ticket.

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Speaker 2: It's basically like a seat filler, Like we need meat

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Speaker 2: of those meat bags, dude, I was me bagging it up.

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Speaker 2: I I sat next to around French Montana pusha tea.

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Speaker 2: I saw Diddy a bunch. He was going back and forth.

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Speaker 1: It was like there you talk to anyone. I didn't

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Speaker 2: Basically, like they were very like they kept you in line.

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Speaker 1: You need like a literal literal like like a chauffeur

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Speaker 1: escort called when is it a chauffeur? When you know,

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Speaker 2: An USh chaperone, chaperon, chaperon there, chaffaron saw a chaperone.

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Speaker 1: just like there a strike up some small talk. It's

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Speaker 1: like yo, dude, you just went to the bathroom. I'm

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Speaker 1: a fat pit. Yeah you pissed. I pissed her. Maybe

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Speaker 1: that's how your your lifelong friendship with tied dollar signs

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Speaker 1: started mutual connection over the bathroom? Yeah, yeah, you know,

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Speaker 1: everyone poops. I think that's all you need. Everyone poops.

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Speaker 1: We're so we're so in this together as humans, truly,

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Speaker 1: like it is the greatest form of connection.

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Speaker 1: We we share more than we realize. And at the

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Speaker 1: very least we share poop exactly.

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Speaker 2: And speaking of things going down the toilet, I think

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Speaker 2: someone someone in the story's life might be going down

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Speaker 2: the flusher we're about to see.

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Speaker 1: That's yeah, all right.

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Speaker 2: So I thirty five male, have two sisters that I'm

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Speaker 2: because this is crazy right as stories, ladies and gentlemen.

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Speaker 1: Oh rough, Oh bro, I feel so bad for this guy.

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Speaker 1: Like everyone's talking shit. You hear that shit? You know

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Speaker 2: Maybe we should create our like, uh like reverse hearing aids,

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Speaker 1: But like some of you said, this is my family,

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Speaker 1: Damn Yeah, feel bad. Yeah sorry yo, Just like make

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Speaker 2: Yeah, keep keep, keep your keep your boys protected, Keep

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