WEBVTT - Episode 339: Ight, So Boom...(Feat. Joey Bada$$) 0:00:02.240 --> 0:00:05.760 What's the lift service? And Angela yee, I'm Stephanie Fatiago, 0:00:06.000 --> 0:00:10.080 I'm Laura Mourra, I don't call me white girl. And 0:00:10.200 --> 0:00:13.760 Joey Badass is here for the first time. I was surprised. 0:00:13.960 --> 0:00:15.880 I was like, cause I don't be seeing Joey Badass 0:00:15.960 --> 0:00:18.239 do like a lift service. And I've been asking you 0:00:18.280 --> 0:00:21.200 for a long Time's true, that's true. I'm glad we 0:00:21.239 --> 0:00:24.759 finally made that happen. Yes, and it's your birthday when 0:00:24.760 --> 0:00:27.360 we actually are feeling this, And so we were talking 0:00:27.360 --> 0:00:30.760 about you being an Aquarius. Huh, that's true. I'm actually 0:00:30.760 --> 0:00:32.960 like a cousin baby like we were saying. You know, 0:00:33.000 --> 0:00:37.040 I'm on one twenty, which is like kind of and 0:00:37.200 --> 0:00:40.479 the Capricorn the beginning of Aquarius. So I got like 0:00:40.600 --> 0:00:44.960 both properties or whatever, but I designate identified more with 0:00:45.000 --> 0:00:48.279 Aquarious for sure, so different. I don't know. I just 0:00:48.320 --> 0:00:50.920 always felt more like an Aquarious than a Capricorn, you 0:00:51.000 --> 0:00:53.199 know what I'm saying, Like when I read like horoscopes 0:00:53.320 --> 0:00:57.040 or characteristics, I've always resonated more with the Aquarius side. 0:00:57.560 --> 0:01:00.600 But it's funny. I got mad Capricorn homie, both men 0:01:00.640 --> 0:01:03.520 and women, and I got mad aquarious homies both men 0:01:03.560 --> 0:01:06.240 and women. Like January is actually an overwhelming month for 0:01:06.280 --> 0:01:11.000 me because it's like white after Christmas and then it's 0:01:11.000 --> 0:01:13.399 like fifteen birthdays and people that I know, like people 0:01:13.400 --> 0:01:16.840 who are really rock with too, So just like damn, yeah, 0:01:16.920 --> 0:01:20.000 my dad's birthday is January second, mine is January three, 0:01:20.560 --> 0:01:24.120 So that's always a weird time. You were right. I 0:01:24.120 --> 0:01:26.360 got a homegirl January two, got a homegirl in a 0:01:26.440 --> 0:01:29.160 home in January three, got homeboy January five, got homie 0:01:29.400 --> 0:01:34.200 January seven, got a homie, uh January nine, January fifteen, 0:01:34.280 --> 0:01:42.680 January fourteen, January everybody together every birthday. But what is 0:01:42.720 --> 0:01:46.000 even more funny is like every year a different person 0:01:46.040 --> 0:01:49.000 from my January trial gets a gift. Okay, Ye're not 0:01:49.040 --> 0:01:53.240 going to do like one of moments now you were 0:01:53.280 --> 0:01:56.600 talking about Aquarius is and saying that Aquarius and men 0:01:57.440 --> 0:02:00.920 can't be monogamous or no. Aquarius is in general. To me, 0:02:01.560 --> 0:02:04.400 we're not meant for like one person or one thing 0:02:04.520 --> 0:02:06.680 or one we got to move around. Aquarius is a 0:02:06.800 --> 0:02:09.639 real like were like an entity, you know what I mean, 0:02:09.760 --> 0:02:12.360 Like we come in, boom, we're here, right, So he 0:02:12.440 --> 0:02:14.800 knows he's a quaries over gapric Onnes were so different. 0:02:15.440 --> 0:02:19.920 Y'all focused on money, very driven. We focused on life. 0:02:20.040 --> 0:02:21.800 We like in your heads, you know, like we'd be 0:02:21.880 --> 0:02:25.760 flowing with the wind. And you feel like aquarious can't 0:02:25.760 --> 0:02:28.320 be monogamous. Well, I can't speak for all the quariers, 0:02:28.360 --> 0:02:31.120 but you know I do resonate with that personally. You know, 0:02:31.200 --> 0:02:35.839 I'm not sure for monogamous relationship is necessarily for me, 0:02:36.000 --> 0:02:38.400 you know what I'm saying. I loved your tweet. Let's 0:02:38.400 --> 0:02:41.160 talk about it, all right, here's the tweets. Let me 0:02:41.160 --> 0:02:50.880 see that all right. Time to gotta stop being a 0:02:51.200 --> 0:02:55.160 sorry ass. And we'd tell Clo, you're fucking yiais and 0:02:55.200 --> 0:02:56.880 you need more than one woman? Straight up? What's so 0:02:56.919 --> 0:02:59.600 hard about being honest with our women? Fellas fun this 0:02:59.680 --> 0:03:03.440 west and bullshit? Relationships should be expansive and beneficial for all. 0:03:03.480 --> 0:03:06.239 Most of us have been in polyamorous relationships our whole lives. 0:03:06.520 --> 0:03:09.760 The only differences we weren't honest about it. So that 0:03:09.800 --> 0:03:15.679 deserves like, we know how you feel first of all, 0:03:16.600 --> 0:03:18.400 just as a man to come out and say, because 0:03:18.400 --> 0:03:20.400 that's not the broad thing to do. You're supposed to 0:03:20.400 --> 0:03:23.160 be like, yeah, you know that's real ship, Like, that's 0:03:23.200 --> 0:03:25.720 corny to play with somebody like that in the public 0:03:26.040 --> 0:03:28.840 publicly embarrassed them over and over and over, you know 0:03:28.840 --> 0:03:31.160 what I mean. I think it should be another mean, 0:03:31.480 --> 0:03:33.840 you know, like I mean that other men respect to 0:03:33.880 --> 0:03:36.160 say that's corny. Some people say he lies to you 0:03:36.200 --> 0:03:40.200 because he loves you. It's real, girl, all right. So 0:03:40.240 --> 0:03:43.120 I feel like people lie in general because they're trying 0:03:43.160 --> 0:03:46.680 to preserve a reality for themselves. Like I'm a lied 0:03:46.760 --> 0:03:50.360 to you because this reality that we've built together is 0:03:50.400 --> 0:03:54.200 the one that's convenient for me, or for you or 0:03:54.240 --> 0:03:56.760 for us easier. But I feel like when you're ready 0:03:56.800 --> 0:03:59.880 to be real, or when you're ready to experience with 0:04:00.040 --> 0:04:03.120 true love is unconditional love is just like nothing that 0:04:03.160 --> 0:04:04.960 I could say to you is gonna break this bond. 0:04:05.360 --> 0:04:07.000 So it's like if I got to tell you, like, yo, 0:04:07.320 --> 0:04:10.560 I love you, but I have another love, it's somebody 0:04:10.560 --> 0:04:12.880 else that I love and if that's gonna break us up, 0:04:13.160 --> 0:04:17.040 And I feel like we ain't meant to love more 0:04:17.080 --> 0:04:20.760 than one person. Absolutely. I mean, don't you love your 0:04:20.760 --> 0:04:24.320 mother and your kids and your pops and your cousins, 0:04:24.360 --> 0:04:26.160 And you know you could you could definitely love more 0:04:26.200 --> 0:04:29.200 than okay, but I'm talking about like in love. Yeah, 0:04:29.360 --> 0:04:36.920 like in love, what is that people do different things 0:04:37.040 --> 0:04:41.000 for you? So being in love is you can't like 0:04:41.240 --> 0:04:43.960 see yourself with no one else in certain that you 0:04:43.960 --> 0:04:46.240 can't have different conversations with other people that you can 0:04:46.240 --> 0:04:48.039 have with that person. You don't open up to other 0:04:48.040 --> 0:04:50.400 people like you open up. You don't feel it's comfortable 0:04:50.560 --> 0:04:53.799 because I can trust people hearing exactly. I just feel 0:04:53.839 --> 0:04:59.159 like love is more of a butterflies than it is. 0:04:59.279 --> 0:05:02.160 Like love is not a now you know what I'm saying, 0:05:02.160 --> 0:05:05.200 It's a verb. Love is it love does Like when 0:05:05.200 --> 0:05:07.280 you say you love somebody, what are you willing to 0:05:07.320 --> 0:05:12.080 do for them to show that you love them? Sacrifice? Okay, 0:05:13.480 --> 0:05:17.359 other relationships, but you know my sacrifice to look different 0:05:17.360 --> 0:05:19.720 than your sacrifice, so the other way around. So you're 0:05:19.760 --> 0:05:23.000 okay with Okay, I love you, but I love other women, 0:05:23.040 --> 0:05:24.479 And you're okay with being with a woman who's like, 0:05:24.520 --> 0:05:26.479 I love you, but I love other men. Right, I 0:05:26.520 --> 0:05:29.960 mean any woman that I've ever been with has pretty 0:05:30.040 --> 0:05:33.680 much loved another man before at the time. You know what, 0:05:33.680 --> 0:05:37.200 if she was honest and alright, so boom, this is 0:05:37.200 --> 0:05:41.599 my whole thing boom. Alright, So you got polyamory, which 0:05:41.720 --> 0:05:45.479 is we're both aware that you know, we have a 0:05:45.560 --> 0:05:48.000 thing with each other. We love each other, we have 0:05:48.080 --> 0:05:50.000 a lot of love bond with each other, but you know, 0:05:50.000 --> 0:05:52.839 we're messing with other people. It's not committed you know 0:05:52.839 --> 0:05:55.720 what I'm saying. Thing, you got, you know, polygamous situations, 0:05:55.760 --> 0:05:58.320 which is more of a committed thing. It's like, all right, 0:05:58.839 --> 0:06:02.560 if a man has two women, right, he's committed to 0:06:02.600 --> 0:06:05.520 those two women. He can't mess with no other women 0:06:05.600 --> 0:06:07.600 outside of those two women, you know what I'm saying, Like, 0:06:07.680 --> 0:06:10.520 that's that's the agreement. It all depends on what the 0:06:10.520 --> 0:06:13.039 agreement is with whatever partner. You know what I'm saying, 0:06:13.120 --> 0:06:16.520 you have And everybody is different. Like I think this 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:21.080 world today, this generation is a lack of understanding with dynamics, 0:06:21.600 --> 0:06:25.000 relationship dynamics, Like people are not really diving deep to 0:06:25.080 --> 0:06:28.279 what their partner wants. It's more about what they want 0:06:28.279 --> 0:06:30.320 and they're like, you know, they even go deeper. This 0:06:30.440 --> 0:06:34.160 society that how it raised us is like the woman's 0:06:34.200 --> 0:06:37.280 happiness is at the expense of a man. So a 0:06:37.320 --> 0:06:40.200 lot of the times, you know, women lack the understanding 0:06:40.240 --> 0:06:45.320 of what their man wants, But what about the expense 0:06:45.400 --> 0:06:54.880 of the women? I feel we make more. It depends 0:06:54.880 --> 0:06:57.000 on who the man is. You know what I'm saying. 0:06:57.760 --> 0:06:59.960 It depends on who the man is. Like you know, 0:07:00.200 --> 0:07:03.000 I agree. I I feel like like when you said 0:07:03.040 --> 0:07:06.120 your definition of love, it sounds good, you know, like 0:07:06.160 --> 0:07:09.520 that that is one. I feel like everybody has their 0:07:09.560 --> 0:07:13.240 own definition of what love is. And you know, when 0:07:13.280 --> 0:07:15.480 I'm in love with somebody, I feel like I sacrifice 0:07:15.520 --> 0:07:20.400 a lot. Like I sacrificed my my mental stability. Okay, 0:07:20.400 --> 0:07:34.880 you shouldn't have to do that. And like I mean, 0:07:35.160 --> 0:07:36.880 you know, I've been with a man I know who 0:07:37.320 --> 0:07:40.080 who I love so much, and I know he loves 0:07:40.080 --> 0:07:43.880 me back, but he just his lifestyle and his career. 0:07:44.360 --> 0:07:46.960 It just brings a lot of women to his feet. 0:07:47.040 --> 0:07:49.680 And I will never be okay with a man being 0:07:49.720 --> 0:07:53.480 with me and being with other women openly. I just don't. 0:07:54.000 --> 0:07:57.120 Even though, like I've been saying this, I've I've thought 0:07:57.120 --> 0:08:02.760 about the whole Polly and polygamy thing in recent weeks. 0:08:02.800 --> 0:08:04.960 I thought about it because I feel like I made 0:08:05.320 --> 0:08:08.480 me allowing my man to be with another woman who 0:08:08.520 --> 0:08:11.080 I am also close to might be the only way. 0:08:11.440 --> 0:08:14.520 That's if it's the only way, because I do not. 0:08:15.200 --> 0:08:17.640 It's just something I'm thinking about. Couldn't you be with 0:08:17.680 --> 0:08:20.400 the man who has Yeah, let's get back to that, 0:08:20.560 --> 0:08:24.520 you know, but saying with saying that, I'm not dumb. 0:08:25.040 --> 0:08:29.000 You know, I know what's going on, So I know 0:08:29.040 --> 0:08:30.960 what's going on in the back of my mind. But 0:08:31.000 --> 0:08:33.320 I just I'm not okay with him telling me that 0:08:33.600 --> 0:08:37.440 I'm never gonna be okay. I'm on the road, so 0:08:37.760 --> 0:08:40.960 I got this prostitute sucking my deck, I'm never gonna 0:08:40.960 --> 0:08:43.200 be okay with. By the way, I don't think that's okay. 0:08:43.280 --> 0:08:46.800 You know what, rather a situation where it's like I 0:08:46.880 --> 0:08:50.080 have another woman because I don't want to prostitute sucking 0:08:50.080 --> 0:08:51.920 my dead I don't want to mess with holes. I 0:08:51.960 --> 0:08:53.520 don't want to mess with nobody who I ain't got 0:08:53.559 --> 0:08:57.040 a real love, buyd genuine connection with. But also, let's 0:08:57.080 --> 0:09:00.360 get down to the roote of the problem. Why why 0:09:00.360 --> 0:09:04.559 would you rather to being dark about a prostitute? Second, 0:09:04.840 --> 0:09:08.120 women have like a real other love. My love language 0:09:08.280 --> 0:09:12.200 is um, you know, um, affirmations of love, you know, 0:09:12.600 --> 0:09:17.320 terms of ex So it's like it's hard for me. 0:09:17.440 --> 0:09:21.160 How could a man be be telling me. How can 0:09:21.160 --> 0:09:23.360 a man tell me I love you but I want 0:09:23.360 --> 0:09:26.000 to be with another woman. That's like crushing my whole heart. 0:09:27.320 --> 0:09:33.560 I want to know. Nah, I wanted. I wanted to 0:09:33.600 --> 0:09:35.760 add to what you said earlier. And I think the 0:09:35.840 --> 0:09:39.040 other big part is when you said society. Women get 0:09:39.040 --> 0:09:41.080 caught up on what people think a lot. So I 0:09:41.080 --> 0:09:43.240 feel like, when you're in a relationship with me, right, 0:09:43.559 --> 0:09:46.360 he's giving you everything you need, you feel fulfilled. Right 0:09:46.600 --> 0:09:49.000 with your sisters, say, with the people that following on 0:09:49.000 --> 0:09:51.240 social media, say, with the church, say or whatever say. 0:09:51.480 --> 0:09:54.480 A lot of that impacts how you react or you respond. 0:09:54.840 --> 0:09:56.560 So when he said the thing about society, it's a 0:09:56.559 --> 0:09:58.719 lot of pressure on women that, oh he bet not 0:09:58.840 --> 0:10:00.959 have another bit, you know what I mean? Versus if 0:10:01.000 --> 0:10:02.959 you're comfortable. People ask me for advice all the time, 0:10:03.000 --> 0:10:05.320 and I tell them, like, if you know that he 0:10:05.440 --> 0:10:07.199 dates other women or he deals with other women in 0:10:07.280 --> 0:10:09.920 whatever way, and you're really truly happy home, I'm not 0:10:09.960 --> 0:10:11.960 talking about being suspicious and look at the phones and 0:10:12.000 --> 0:10:14.400 you can't sleep in your mental stability. I'm talking about 0:10:14.400 --> 0:10:17.400 this nigger keep you happy? That's any fun? Other women, 0:10:17.720 --> 0:10:20.120 why do you care like why why does it bother 0:10:20.120 --> 0:10:21.920 you if you're happy in the home, And because the 0:10:21.960 --> 0:10:25.680 truth is, men come like him straightforward. Most bitches can't 0:10:25.679 --> 0:10:30.480 take it, even though you'll be honest most but then 0:10:30.520 --> 0:10:35.120 there's just something like women is more okay with Like, 0:10:35.200 --> 0:10:37.520 all right, I funk with Joey, Like I know he 0:10:37.600 --> 0:10:40.880 gets bitches and ship like that, but she gonna I'm 0:10:40.880 --> 0:10:43.160 gonna make him commit to me, even though I know 0:10:43.200 --> 0:10:45.120 he can go on tour and he might do what 0:10:45.200 --> 0:10:46.559 you do as long as I don't know about It's 0:10:46.600 --> 0:10:51.480 like I just think that that's exactly that's just because 0:10:52.120 --> 0:10:54.040 he is Joey. I can't come back home and like 0:10:54.040 --> 0:10:55.959 I don't feel like I could be really with you. 0:10:56.920 --> 0:10:59.240 I'm keeping you. I just I'm keeping you and this 0:10:59.320 --> 0:11:03.120 false for you can be real without being you know, 0:11:03.480 --> 0:11:09.360 so you know you don't want to honest man, So 0:11:09.440 --> 0:11:11.520 you don't want to honest man, You don't want to 0:11:11.679 --> 0:11:14.800 say I don't I feel like like you said, if 0:11:14.840 --> 0:11:17.320 a man is making you happy in all kinds of ways, 0:11:17.320 --> 0:11:19.760 but he's sleeping with other women, you're not making me happy. 0:11:19.840 --> 0:11:25.280 If no matter what you do, you're not making me happy, 0:11:25.360 --> 0:11:31.680 You're making me sad. All right, but let me stop 0:11:31.679 --> 0:11:34.040 you right there though. How many times have you dealt 0:11:34.040 --> 0:11:36.520 with a man who you wasn't in an exclusive relationship 0:11:36.600 --> 0:11:38.840 with and you're telling all your home girls like, yo, 0:11:39.000 --> 0:11:41.480 I think he'd the one boom boom, but you're not committed, 0:11:41.559 --> 0:11:43.720 so you know what that means. He got other bitches, 0:11:44.320 --> 0:11:49.360 but he's satisfying your knees though for now. But if 0:11:49.360 --> 0:11:52.200 I'm looking to get married or be with somebody in 0:11:52.200 --> 0:11:55.680 a minute, I'm an monogamous type of person, Like I 0:11:55.720 --> 0:11:58.640 don't want to have be with somebody that's with other people. 0:11:58.679 --> 0:12:00.679 But that's just me. I don't think gets wrong. If 0:12:00.720 --> 0:12:02.640 other people need to do that, you could do what 0:12:02.679 --> 0:12:04.600 you want to do. But I know that that's how 0:12:04.640 --> 0:12:06.640 I feel because I also know that I need somebody 0:12:06.679 --> 0:12:10.240 that's like making me a priority over anybody else. So 0:12:10.400 --> 0:12:12.640 I know there's somebody else in the picture that you 0:12:12.720 --> 0:12:15.360 might have to compromise the situation with me because they 0:12:15.400 --> 0:12:18.719 need something, and it might that's gonna upset me. But 0:12:18.760 --> 0:12:23.960 that's the understanding. Say send that expectation from the beginning, 0:12:24.000 --> 0:12:25.959 like I'd rather than men be open like where I'm 0:12:25.960 --> 0:12:27.719 at now. Before I used to think like that, like no, 0:12:27.760 --> 0:12:29.200 I don't want women, but now where I'm at in 0:12:29.200 --> 0:12:30.760 my life, I'm just like, you know what, if you're 0:12:30.800 --> 0:12:33.840 open and honest from the beginning, you're giving me a choice, 0:12:34.720 --> 0:12:42.840 But can you expectations getting the way of breaking my heart? 0:12:43.040 --> 0:12:45.640 Like what the ship you do work out out with? God? 0:12:46.040 --> 0:12:52.400 Don't let me find out because likening, I'm gonna not 0:12:52.520 --> 0:12:55.840 feel like I shouldn't do anything else either, right, Like, 0:12:55.880 --> 0:12:58.320 if you're like I'm detting other women, I'm gonna be like, Okay, 0:12:58.320 --> 0:13:00.800 we're in an open relationships. What kind of men are 0:13:00.800 --> 0:13:09.559 your dating? Though? Bro? What you mean? He said, broke 0:13:10.880 --> 0:13:13.199 a lot of guys lately, Like like, I think I'm 0:13:13.200 --> 0:13:15.760 meeting guys and it's like that they're open with me 0:13:15.800 --> 0:13:17.880 from the beginning. So I'm like, okay, well, now this 0:13:18.000 --> 0:13:20.240 is different. I respect that you're giving me a choice. 0:13:20.240 --> 0:13:22.480 As long as you're giving me the choice to either, 0:13:22.720 --> 0:13:25.280 you know, go through it or not, then I'm okay 0:13:25.280 --> 0:13:27.040 with it. But I'm gonna let you know these are 0:13:27.080 --> 0:13:30.280 my expectations as long as that's not compromising my happiness 0:13:30.480 --> 0:13:33.040 where I'm at, and you making sure that you could 0:13:33.040 --> 0:13:35.480 play that field. Never had no right I dated a 0:13:35.520 --> 0:13:38.640 guy recently and I'm like, yo, let's let's not lock in. 0:13:38.720 --> 0:13:40.959 Let's just enjoy each other. Let's make financial goals. We 0:13:41.000 --> 0:13:42.480 don't have to go together. You do you do me? 0:13:42.760 --> 0:13:44.880 He was like, no, let's get married, just for me 0:13:44.920 --> 0:13:47.199 to find out he got some I never feel a 0:13:47.320 --> 0:13:49.679 man that was like open and honest with me. I'm 0:13:49.720 --> 0:13:51.800 such aggressive, like a big personality. Think it's like the 0:13:51.840 --> 0:13:53.720 lock me now. So the first thing is like, you 0:13:53.760 --> 0:13:56.560 don't take nobody whatever. I think I'm cool with the 0:13:56.600 --> 0:13:59.560 polygamy thing too, because I'm Muslim my faith and Muslims 0:13:59.559 --> 0:14:01.240 can have I'm a Slamica and more than one wife. 0:14:01.480 --> 0:14:04.480 And that's like how you said, it's almost contractual. So 0:14:04.520 --> 0:14:07.240 if we're both had the same husband, we both have 0:14:07.320 --> 0:14:09.320 to live the same. You can't have a rental property 0:14:09.320 --> 0:14:11.760 and I have owned home. I can't mean the projects 0:14:11.760 --> 0:14:13.520 and you in the mansion. It has to be fair 0:14:13.559 --> 0:14:15.800 to days with unfair. So I mean for me to 0:14:15.800 --> 0:14:19.400 say I'm not with Pami is against my religions because 0:14:19.440 --> 0:14:21.880 everybody got to have the same. Depends on the level 0:14:21.920 --> 0:14:27.040 of that. Let's get to you said something about priority, right. 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:31.360 I think that's a very important word because who is 0:14:31.400 --> 0:14:34.800 really priority. Right, if you're dealing with a man who's purposeful, 0:14:35.080 --> 0:14:38.320 you could never be his priority. You know why, because 0:14:38.360 --> 0:14:41.960 his purpose to himself to what he gotta do, it's 0:14:42.040 --> 0:14:44.680 always gonna be first. He's always going to choose the 0:14:44.760 --> 0:14:48.720 opportunity that's going to advance his career, which trickles down 0:14:48.760 --> 0:14:51.600 and benefits you. If he's a woman over you, well, 0:14:51.640 --> 0:14:53.480 I don't mean that I have to be a priority 0:14:53.560 --> 0:14:56.760 over every aspect because my my career is a priority too, 0:14:56.880 --> 0:14:59.560 and I think at times people know that. But I 0:14:59.640 --> 0:15:03.360 also don't want to know when it comes to another woman. Yeah, 0:15:03.400 --> 0:15:08.280 like if it's a holiday, a man with purpose, I 0:15:08.280 --> 0:15:12.160 think children are children are different, you know, And truthfully, 0:15:12.160 --> 0:15:14.640 i'd rather date somebody that doesn't, you know, have a 0:15:14.760 --> 0:15:17.360 kid that if I had a choice, if we're talking 0:15:17.400 --> 0:15:20.560 about choices, i'd rather not. Yeah, if I can do that, 0:15:20.600 --> 0:15:23.680 I would rather not have to. But I love kids 0:15:23.800 --> 0:15:26.960 and so no, but I love kids. But I'm okay 0:15:27.000 --> 0:15:30.040 with that. But when it comes to somebody that you're treating, 0:15:30.120 --> 0:15:32.400 like in a relationship, I don't want to feel like 0:15:32.400 --> 0:15:35.160 in your relationship there's somebody that's you know, you might 0:15:35.160 --> 0:15:37.280 have to be like yo, Angela. It's her birthday, so 0:15:37.400 --> 0:15:41.640 me and her gonna go on this tree to know 0:15:41.680 --> 0:15:43.280 how to deal like he has to know how to 0:15:43.280 --> 0:15:45.520 play that, like play that like I mean, I've never 0:15:45.560 --> 0:15:47.400 been in that situation, so I don't know, like he 0:15:47.440 --> 0:15:50.200 shouldn't have you. I feel like it's nice in a 0:15:50.280 --> 0:15:53.080 perfect world, a man will give you the choice. But listen, 0:15:53.120 --> 0:15:54.960 if you're giving me the choice, I'm gonna choose to 0:15:55.040 --> 0:16:02.560 not with my heart breast, but that situation. My heartbreak 0:16:02.640 --> 0:16:06.680 has come from men lying to me a picture that 0:16:06.840 --> 0:16:11.840 is not for having multiple lives aside of me. I'm 0:16:11.880 --> 0:16:14.520 thinking I'm the only one. Note give me a choice, 0:16:14.560 --> 0:16:16.360 don't waste my time. Feel like I mean, and I 0:16:16.360 --> 0:16:19.960 would say I'm not. I'm more than enough woman man 0:16:20.040 --> 0:16:23.440 to just want to be with me. I'm down, I'll 0:16:23.480 --> 0:16:28.280 do whatever, I make my own money. I'm independent, I'm intelligent, 0:16:28.480 --> 0:16:32.280 I'm beautiful, I'm sexy, and I'm shy. I feel like 0:16:32.280 --> 0:16:35.000 I'm just just because you're all those things that that 0:16:35.040 --> 0:16:40.120 doesn't take away a man wanting alright, so boom, I 0:16:40.200 --> 0:16:49.920 just can't like if a man is telling me straight up, 0:16:50.000 --> 0:16:52.360 like listen, you want of mine, You're part of my realm. 0:16:52.680 --> 0:16:54.480 You're you're one of the girls that I'm working with 0:16:54.640 --> 0:16:57.200 right now, I'm okay, fine, you're not one of the 0:16:57.240 --> 0:16:59.360 guys that I'm working with. I just want a guy 0:16:59.400 --> 0:17:01.160 who's at lea is gonna give me the respect to 0:17:01.200 --> 0:17:03.440 give me time and the beginning to just be with 0:17:03.560 --> 0:17:06.680 me at first, at least give me a try. Do 0:17:07.000 --> 0:17:12.600 you know what I'm saying, Because then you're accepting and 0:17:12.640 --> 0:17:15.240 you're just accepting that right from the beginning. But if 0:17:15.240 --> 0:17:17.040 that's the guy for you, and that's the guy that's 0:17:17.080 --> 0:17:22.359 meant for you, he's going to be all I was saying. 0:17:22.440 --> 0:17:24.600 All I've you know, wanted to say is you know 0:17:24.920 --> 0:17:27.520 everything that you just said about yourself. You're being beautiful 0:17:27.560 --> 0:17:29.680 and you're being with You're being small, you being in 0:17:29.720 --> 0:17:33.960 the tracking like you're being kind so nice. Yeah, like 0:17:34.000 --> 0:17:37.280 you know, you're being one of these A man, Okay, 0:17:37.280 --> 0:17:41.000 So first, it takes a certain type of man to 0:17:41.200 --> 0:17:44.200 either to even be able to handle a situation with 0:17:44.800 --> 0:17:48.600 he's managing two or more relationships, you know what I'm saying. 0:17:48.640 --> 0:17:50.760 Like me, personally, I feel like I can only do two. 0:17:50.840 --> 0:17:52.919 I can't do more than two, you know what I mean? 0:17:53.160 --> 0:17:56.480 I can only do too or whatever? Right, what's the 0:17:56.560 --> 0:18:00.280 highest duty of a man? The highest duty of a man? Yeah, 0:18:00.480 --> 0:18:05.080 exec protection, like just making me feel like I'm okay, 0:18:05.119 --> 0:18:07.280 like I'm good with you. So I feelt protecting it 0:18:07.320 --> 0:18:16.560 more than one way, so safely together, Okay, providing supportive 0:18:16.720 --> 0:18:21.800 mentally physics, But what would try the only duty? But 0:18:21.840 --> 0:18:28.760 what's the highest student? So when it comes to when 0:18:28.800 --> 0:18:34.000 it comes to providing financially, it's probably the biggest aspect 0:18:34.000 --> 0:18:37.000 of that. In capitalist America and the society that we 0:18:37.080 --> 0:18:39.560 live in, a man has to be able to provide 0:18:40.040 --> 0:18:45.280 for his family, right, that's pretty much every most women's 0:18:45.320 --> 0:18:50.160 expectation of a man, and that's most men's expectation of themselves. However, 0:18:50.800 --> 0:18:53.280 that's not the only way a man is supposed to provide. 0:18:53.400 --> 0:18:58.320 A man needs to be able to provide guidance and leadership. 0:18:56.520 --> 0:19:00.639 That I need from a man. I need him to 0:19:00.880 --> 0:19:04.080 provide me with inspiration. That's all I need. Okay, So look, 0:19:04.119 --> 0:19:05.560 this is this is the point that I'm getting to. 0:19:05.800 --> 0:19:08.000 This is the point that I'm getting to. You See, 0:19:08.200 --> 0:19:11.200 most women haven't come across a man who is able 0:19:11.240 --> 0:19:17.600 to provide financially and intellectually, spiritually, emotionally, but I'm physically 0:19:18.320 --> 0:19:20.160 all of that ship, you know what I'm saying. So 0:19:20.600 --> 0:19:22.520 of course, at the first glance, it would be like, 0:19:22.760 --> 0:19:25.480 oh yeah, I could never do that because most women 0:19:25.560 --> 0:19:28.399 have not been introduced to that type of man. And 0:19:28.840 --> 0:19:31.320 you know, to be real, not a lot of these 0:19:31.359 --> 0:19:35.399 men exist because the way society has groomed us all, 0:19:35.920 --> 0:19:38.600 it's corrupted, you know what I'm saying, It's corrupted, like 0:19:38.680 --> 0:19:42.639 society's groom mental life. Society has been a woman to 0:19:43.280 --> 0:19:46.760 you know, almost take on this masculine role of today. 0:19:47.000 --> 0:19:50.640 It's like, let's be real as a woman, all y'all. 0:19:50.720 --> 0:19:55.080 Don't don't you want your men to dominate you? Yeah, 0:19:55.359 --> 0:20:04.080 that's all I want. Yes, I mean didn't know I'm 0:20:04.119 --> 0:20:07.480 a very dominated Like I mean no, no, no, what 0:20:07.520 --> 0:20:11.919 I'm saying like, don't when you say dominate, I mean, 0:20:13.560 --> 0:20:17.399 don't y'all want your men to lead y'all for sure? 0:20:17.520 --> 0:20:19.440 Don't you don't y'all want to be with a man 0:20:19.680 --> 0:20:21.800 who y'all know, y'all can close your eyes fall back 0:20:21.840 --> 0:20:23.960 this nigga, right, But I want to be that for 0:20:24.040 --> 0:20:28.520 him too, Okay. But the thing is, the way natural 0:20:28.760 --> 0:20:32.680 order works, a real man is not necessarily going to 0:20:32.800 --> 0:20:35.480 allow a woman to be that for him, because that 0:20:35.560 --> 0:20:39.320 kind of takes away his power. However, all men need 0:20:40.240 --> 0:20:42.600 a woman to remind them of who they are, to 0:20:42.680 --> 0:20:44.600 remind them of their party, because at times we do 0:20:44.680 --> 0:20:47.119 get lost, we do get misguided, and we lean on 0:20:47.160 --> 0:20:50.960 our women A lot of the times with men, women 0:20:51.080 --> 0:20:54.159 is our inspiration. You see, men turn their whole lives around. 0:20:54.160 --> 0:20:57.680 Why tract the woman into their lives? You know what 0:20:57.720 --> 0:21:00.119 I'm saying. So, what I'm basically trying to get to 0:21:00.320 --> 0:21:03.119 is if a man is living in his highest duty, 0:21:03.320 --> 0:21:08.800 he's checking every box off for you. For that type 0:21:08.800 --> 0:21:14.200 of man, some woman might not be enough to fulfill him, 0:21:14.200 --> 0:21:16.920 and that's why he may need another option. It doesn't 0:21:17.000 --> 0:21:19.479 take a watch, it doesn't take away. I mean, you're 0:21:19.560 --> 0:21:22.399 in a situation where he's not a complete man a 0:21:22.440 --> 0:21:28.080 woman could be because I feel like, um, like you said, guys, 0:21:28.240 --> 0:21:31.880 men natural natural form there. They want to be the strength, 0:21:31.920 --> 0:21:34.719 They want to be the provider, right when a lot 0:21:34.760 --> 0:21:36.399 of times a man will look at me and be like, 0:21:36.400 --> 0:21:38.960 what could I give her? She already has everything. She 0:21:39.600 --> 0:21:42.520 takes care of everything herself, you know, So that kind 0:21:42.520 --> 0:21:45.479 of kicks in on a man's ego. You know what 0:21:45.520 --> 0:21:53.960 it does aute financially right, that's just one man was 0:21:54.119 --> 0:21:57.160 super rich and my money looks super small to him. 0:21:57.240 --> 0:22:01.400 You know my money. Look, he can't teach you exactly, 0:22:01.560 --> 0:22:04.159 I can't. I can't teach the conversation with this. He 0:22:04.240 --> 0:22:07.320 can't guide you. You rather have a conversation with something 0:22:07.359 --> 0:22:09.520 from the project, because you know he in the books. 0:22:09.880 --> 0:22:12.160 He went to jail. He like, you know what I'm saying, 0:22:12.160 --> 0:22:14.840 he got a real man. How much a man would 0:22:14.840 --> 0:22:18.560 look beyond my my career path and you know the 0:22:18.600 --> 0:22:20.600 type of friends that I have and the type of 0:22:20.880 --> 0:22:23.480