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Speaker 1: All right, time now for today's Strawberry Letter and listen.

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Speaker 1: If you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,

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Speaker 1: gonna read this one right here, right now, and you

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Speaker 1: never know. It could be yours could be. Buckle up

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Speaker 1: and hold on tight. We got it for you here

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Speaker 1: it ease The Strawberry Letter subject right situation with the

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Speaker 1: wrong Man. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a twenty nine year

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Speaker 1: old woman and I've been dating the greatest man on

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Speaker 1: earth for about four months. I wanted to do things

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Speaker 1: right this time because I could see myself marrying this man.

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Speaker 1: He said he knew I was going to be his

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Speaker 1: wife the moment he laid eyes on me. It was

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Speaker 1: his idea to wait to have sex, and it was

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Speaker 1: him that spoiled me with gifts, moonlit walks, and home

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Speaker 1: cooked meals. He said he wanted me to fall in

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Speaker 1: love with his personality and enjoy spending time with him

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Speaker 1: before we even got into having sex. Everything was going

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Speaker 1: so fast, and I wanted to be with him all

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Speaker 1: the time, so as soon as he asked me to

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Speaker 1: move in, I made plans to make it happen. Then

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Speaker 1: one day my intuition kicked in and I hit the

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Speaker 1: pause button. I decided I needed to have sex, see

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Speaker 1: him naked, or at least rub up on him before

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Speaker 1: I went any further with him. I was in the

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Speaker 1: habit of sleeping with the guy soon after I met him,

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Speaker 1: so this was odd for me, but I was trying

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Speaker 1: to do things differently this time. I at least needed

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Speaker 1: to see it. When I started grabbing forward playfully, he

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Speaker 1: would pull away and tell me to take it easy.

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Speaker 1: He always slept on his stomach, so I couldn't touch it.

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Speaker 1: One Saturday morning, I decided to get a bobby pin

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Speaker 1: and unlock the bathroom door while he was in the

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Speaker 1: shower and pretend to be a sexy, naked burglar. Planned

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Speaker 1: to seduce him, and it worked well almost He was

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Speaker 1: shocked and he was amused. I was not. I jumped

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Speaker 1: in the shower and got the worst possible outcome. This

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Speaker 1: man falls short, very short of what I was expecting.

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Speaker 1: It was quite an ordeal in that shower, and nothing

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Speaker 1: about it was good. Now I'm planning to move in

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Speaker 1: with a man that doesn't measure up down there? Would

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Speaker 1: I be silly to leave him over this? Well? I mean,

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Speaker 1: you know what, can we say you have a problem

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Speaker 1: because this is not what you want and we can't

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Speaker 1: fix this for you. Only you can fix this, And

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Speaker 1: of course that depends on how important all of this

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Speaker 1: is to you and what you want. It should be important, though,

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Speaker 1: because sex is vital and relationships and in marriage, and

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Speaker 1: you guys are planning to marry one day. But again,

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Speaker 1: what do you want? Do you want a great man

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Speaker 1: in every aspect except in the bedroom, or a man

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Speaker 1: who knows how to make you his sex slave but

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Speaker 1: treat you like crap everywhere else? Those are your kind

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Speaker 1: of your choices. Does size matter or does character matter?

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Speaker 1: Will you eventually cheat on him? You know you you

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Speaker 1: know what you can and what you cannot live with.

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Speaker 1: So if you don't think you're in this for the

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Speaker 1: long haul, which includes living together and eventually marriage and

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Speaker 1: of course sex with this man who you say falls short,

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Speaker 1: it's better to end it now than to ignore the

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Speaker 1: problem and move in with him. I think it's selfish

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Speaker 1: if you don't let him know how you really feel.

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Speaker 1: He's probably thinking he's got it going on because no

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Speaker 1: one cares enough to tell him he's bad and bad.

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Speaker 1: I do understand, and it's much easier to walk away.

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Speaker 1: But if he's a good person, tell him and teach

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Speaker 1: him how to love you. Of course, you know you

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Speaker 1: can't do anything about the size, Steve to what you

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Speaker 1: just say it teach him how to love you, Mark,

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Speaker 1: question is teach him with what. We're in a painting class,

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Speaker 1: and it ain't got nothing but to have on the brush.

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Speaker 1: We don't have to handle. We just got brush ham

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Speaker 1: we need to handle if we're gonna take the art class.

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Speaker 1: Surely I listen to your answer, and I can't dispute

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Speaker 1: anything you said, sweetheart, because you tried to help a

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Speaker 1: person I know going into this letter I can't help her.

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you right off, I know nothing about this.

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Speaker 1: As a matter of fact, I've had a direct opposite

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Speaker 1: problem mind tie damn life. So I ain't sorry, Uncle

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Speaker 1: Steve can't help you, but let me try. Well, I

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Speaker 1: don't know if I'm gonna help you. I'm just gonna

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Speaker 1: point out a couple of things. Been dating the great

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Speaker 1: guy four months? You want to do things right way,

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Speaker 1: so you could see yourself. Man, this man he told you, dude,

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Speaker 1: he's gonna be your wife. You was gonna be his

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Speaker 1: wife at the moment he saw you. It was his

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Speaker 1: idea to wait to have sex. And it was him

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Speaker 1: that spailed me with gilts because he knows what the

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Speaker 1: problem is and he trying to get out in front

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Speaker 1: of it. Let me spail you with gifts. Don't worry

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Speaker 1: about that sex thing. I want to marry you. I'm

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Speaker 1: spailing you with gifts. We're going on moon. It walks. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: we even home cook. You ain't got to cook a

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Speaker 1: damn thing. I am your everything because in a minute,

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Speaker 1: I ain't gonna be a damn thing. One more time,

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Speaker 1: one more time more. I am going to be your everything. Alright,

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Speaker 1: I ain't gonna be a damn thing. He knows it's coming.

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Speaker 1: He said he wanted you to fall in love with

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Speaker 1: his personality. What man says that, m I want you

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Speaker 1: to start it and fall in love with my personality.

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Speaker 1: I ain never said that, said no one ever. I've

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Speaker 1: been fun in my whole life. You don't like my

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Speaker 1: my personality going in marriage dry as well? Will we

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Speaker 1: come back? No? The truth comes out all right. Part

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Speaker 1: two of Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes

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Speaker 1: have to be our subject right situation, wrong man. Will

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Speaker 1: get back into it right after this. You're listening to

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Speaker 1: show all right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: The subject right situation, wrong man. Lady been dating the

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Speaker 1: greatest man on earth for about four months. I wanted

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Speaker 1: to do things right this time because you can see

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Speaker 1: yourself marrying this man. As a matter of fact, when

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Speaker 1: he saw you, he said he knew he wanted you

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Speaker 1: to be his wife the moment he laid eyes on you.

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Speaker 1: And it was his idea, now listen to this now,

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Speaker 1: to wait to have sex. And it was him that

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Speaker 1: spaed me with Gilts. The reason being this because he

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Speaker 1: was willing to give you everything because in a minute

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Speaker 1: he wasn't gonna be a damned day. We're going to

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Speaker 1: share everything for not a damn right all we on

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Speaker 1: moonlit walks, this boy cooking food at the house. He

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Speaker 1: had probably went to chef school. He didn't had to

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Speaker 1: her up and develop all kinds of skill. Said he

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Speaker 1: wanted you to fall in love with his personality and

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Speaker 1: enjoy spending time with him before y'all got into having sex.

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Speaker 1: Why because that ain't gonna be a damned so fall

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Speaker 1: in love with my wonderful personality. He mean, lit walks,

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Speaker 1: all this cooking, smawling you with gives diamonds. Everything was

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Speaker 1: going fast. I wanted to be with him all the time.

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Speaker 1: So then when he asked you to move in with him,

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Speaker 1: you made plans to make it happen in one day.

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Speaker 1: This thing that all women have that they oftentimes ignore,

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Speaker 1: this thing called intuition, kicked in and I hit the pause.

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Speaker 1: But I decided I needed to have sex, see him

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Speaker 1: went in it further slipping away from me Jody on earthquakes,

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Speaker 1: I gae hilarious, really, So I decided I needed to

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Speaker 1: have sex, see him naked, or at least rub up

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Speaker 1: on him before I went any further. Because see, I

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Speaker 1: was in the having a sleeping with a guy soon

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Speaker 1: after I met him. So this was hard for me.

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Speaker 1: You know, I usually had my old you know, blankish

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Speaker 1: tendencies was out, but I decided not to have my

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Speaker 1: blankish tendencies out. You know, I at least needed to

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Speaker 1: see it. I started grabbing forward playfully. He would pull

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Speaker 1: away and tell me to take it easy, because you

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Speaker 1: don't realize you grabbing for nothing. You don't know that

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Speaker 1: you damn they're gonna have to tell a fabric off

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Speaker 1: my plans to discover anything. I ain't got nothing for

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Speaker 1: you right now. Even when it gets ready, it ain't

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Speaker 1: gonna look ready. It simply means the word a ten

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Speaker 1: hut simply means huh, yeah, that's your man. Got biggest

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Speaker 1: small got a problem. I'm just telling you what I

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Speaker 1: biggest small got a problem. See. He big with gifts, personality, cooking,

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Speaker 1: moon lid walks bigger, but he's small down then he

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Speaker 1: would always sleep on his stomach, so I couldn't touch it.

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Speaker 1: I can't sleep on my stomach. That's one of the

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Speaker 1: reasons I can't sleep on my stall. You throw my

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Speaker 1: back out every chance you did. You bring that up.

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Speaker 1: It'll be like sleeping on a little hill. Okay, No,

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Speaker 1: I'm not not yet. So he was in the shower.

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Speaker 1: be a sex at burglar. I was gonna seduce him,

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Speaker 1: and it worked well almost he was shocked in the muse.

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Speaker 1: I was not I jumped in the show and got

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Speaker 1: the worst possible outcome. This man falls short, very short

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Speaker 1: of what I was expected. It was quite an ordeal

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Speaker 1: in that shower, and nothing a body was good. Now

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Speaker 1: I'm planning to move in with a man that don't

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Speaker 1: measure up down? Now? Would I be silly to leave

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Speaker 1: him over this? Well? Shirley said, you got to measure

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Speaker 1: all the stuff that he has and when he don't

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Speaker 1: have it. I've never heard these things right here. I'm

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Speaker 1: used to hearing stuff like wait, way, way, okay. These

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Speaker 1: are things I've heard enough already. I've heard stuff like Lord,

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Speaker 1: I've heard stuff like you costa Scott stop. I've heard

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Speaker 1: how much more have you? Now? How much more I've heard?

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Speaker 1: I can't take all this. This letter is not about you.

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Speaker 1: I've heard give me, give me, give me a minute,

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Speaker 1: give me a minute. Wait. You must prefer things over thing.

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Speaker 1: That's what we're dealing with. To heal things over thing,

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Speaker 1: or you can get things and nothing. All right. You

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Speaker 1: got to make a decision things over things, the thing

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Speaker 1: over things. It's her decision, that's for sure. Thank you. Steve.

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