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Speaker 4: It is time for the Strawberry Letter with my good friend,
Speaker 4: Shirley Strawberry.
Speaker 1: Thank you my good friend junior. Subject why is he
Speaker 1: blaming it on me? Dear Stephen, Shirley, I'm thirty seven
Speaker 1: and my husband is thirty eight. He's not a muscular man,
Speaker 1: but back in the day he used to fight everyone
Speaker 1: in school and he eventually got expelled from school for fighting.
Speaker 1: He and I started dating ten years after we graduated.
Speaker 1: I got pregnant, so we got married. While I was pregnant,
Speaker 1: he assaulted a guy that gave me a compliment and
Speaker 1: he ended up spending almost three years in jail because
Speaker 1: he was already on probation. While he was gone, I
Speaker 1: had the baby and I started dating that man that
Speaker 1: he beat up for complimenting me. I got pregnant by
Speaker 1: that man and had a son, and while my husband
Speaker 1: was still in All while my husband was still in jail.
Speaker 1: When he got out of jail, I did not ever
Speaker 1: tell him about the rendezvous with the other man and
Speaker 1: my son that the other man is raising. My husband's
Speaker 1: attitude was a lot better and we barely argued. Our
Speaker 1: marriage was great until two months ago when my husband
Speaker 1: ran into my other child's father and my son was
Speaker 1: with him. My son is my twin and everyone can
Speaker 1: see it, but no one has ever mentioned it. It
Speaker 1: was a rumor around town, but I guess everyone was
Speaker 1: too scared of my husband to mention it to him.
Speaker 1: My husband came home and asked me about the boy,
Speaker 1: so I admitted everything to him.
Speaker 2: He was unusually calm, and he left the house.
Speaker 1: I called to see where he went, and he said
Speaker 1: he was outside of the man's house. I got scared,
Speaker 1: so I so I dialed nine one one and rushed
Speaker 1: to the man's house. My husband wasn't there. I went
Speaker 1: home and he was back sitting in the driveway crying.
Speaker 1: He said he didn't want to go back to jail,
Speaker 1: so it was best to leave me alone. Then he
Speaker 1: filed for divorce and moved out. He said, I'm the
Speaker 1: reason our marriage ended. He was in jail, So what
Speaker 1: did he expect me to do? Why is he blaming
Speaker 1: it on me? You know, I get your husband was
Speaker 1: in jail and life goes on for you. I get that,
Speaker 1: But did you have to get with the man your
Speaker 1: husband beat up and went to jail four and did
Speaker 1: you have to have his baby too? I'm just not
Speaker 1: understanding why you went back to that particular guy.
Speaker 2: Did you have did you leave something.
Speaker 1: Out of this letter? Do you guys have history? Because
Speaker 1: you just casually say some guy gave you a compliment
Speaker 1: and your husband beat him up and went to jail
Speaker 1: because he was already on probation. Then, to make matters worse,
Speaker 1: you never even told your husband about the baby you
Speaker 1: had with the guy.
Speaker 2: The father may be.
Speaker 1: Raising the child, but don't you ever see your son.
Speaker 2: Doesn't he spend time with you ever? I mean, you're
Speaker 2: his mom.
Speaker 1: How did you think your husband wouldn't find out that
Speaker 1: you had another baby while he was locked up?
Speaker 2: I mean, thank god he didn't get.
Speaker 1: Violent with your baby daddy again for fear of going
Speaker 1: back to jail.
Speaker 2: Why is your husband blaming you.
Speaker 1: You ask because you should have told him what was
Speaker 1: up and not let him find out this way. You
Speaker 1: knew he was going to get out of jail someday.
Speaker 1: I mean, how did you think you could keep a
Speaker 1: whole baby from him?
Speaker 2: I don't get it.
Speaker 1: You said your husband has changed for the better, but
Speaker 1: obviously you haven't, and that's why he's divorcing you and
Speaker 1: saying it's all your fault.
Speaker 4: Steve, this letter amazes me because the writer of the letter,
Speaker 4: who is this woman? She don't see nothing she did
Speaker 4: in this whole letter. She And the question is why
Speaker 4: is he blaming it on me? Did you read what
Speaker 4: you typed? Why is he let's keep that theme running?
Speaker 4: Why is he blaming it on me? I'm thirty seven.
Speaker 4: My husband is thirty eight. He's not a muscular man,
Speaker 4: but back in the day, he used to fight everybody
Speaker 4: in school. Eventually got expelled for fighting. He and I
Speaker 4: started dating ten years after we graduated. I got pregnant
Speaker 4: and we got married.
Speaker 3: Listen to me. We got pregnant and we got married.
Speaker 4: While I was pregnant, he assaulted a guy that gave
Speaker 4: me a compliment that and he ended up spending almost
Speaker 4: three years in jail because he was already on probation.
Speaker 4: All right, now, these are the facts. All these are facts.
Speaker 4: They're married, they got a child, he got a temper,
Speaker 4: he fight all the time. Guy complimented you while you
Speaker 4: was pregnant. He assaulted the guy and went to jail
Speaker 4: for almost three years because he was on probation. After this,
Speaker 4: this is where the letter takes a turn to where
Speaker 4: we just don't know why she stopped understanding while he
Speaker 4: was gone. I had the baby and I started dating
Speaker 4: that man that he beat up for complimenting you. What
Speaker 4: compliment did he give you.
Speaker 3: That made you go?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 4: Soon as he go to jail, I got to see
Speaker 4: what he was talking about. Now, I had the baby
Speaker 4: and I started dating that man that he beat up
Speaker 4: for compliment me. Then listen to this, yaw, I got
Speaker 4: pregnant by that man and had a son, all while
Speaker 4: my husband us in jail. Subject of the letter. Why
Speaker 4: is he blaming it on me? The last line in
Speaker 4: the letter is he said, I'm the reason our marriage ended.
Speaker 4: He was in jail, So what did he expect me
Speaker 4: to do? Why is he blaming it on me? Because
Speaker 4: while he was in jail serving time you got with
Speaker 4: the guy that complimented you. You had a son by
Speaker 4: this man all while he was in jail.
Speaker 3: You don't see that.
Speaker 2: Hang on, Steve, hang on, ain't nobody clear?
Speaker 1: We'll have part two of your response coming up in
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Speaker 1: he blaming it on me?
Speaker 2: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening
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Speaker 1: come on, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject
Speaker 1: is why is he blaming it on me?
Speaker 3: This is a.
Speaker 4: Letter that's written by a delusional woman who does not
Speaker 4: want to take responsibility for her actions. The name of
Speaker 4: the letters, why is he blaming on me? Well, let's go,
Speaker 4: let's keep that theme in his letter. You thirty seven,
Speaker 4: your husband thirty eight. Y'all knew each other in high school.
Speaker 4: He's not a muscular guy, but he's fight all the time.
Speaker 4: He has a tempered problem. Ten years after y'all graduate,
Speaker 4: y'all get together, y'all get married. You get pregnant, so
Speaker 4: y'all get married. While you was pregnant, he assaulted a
Speaker 4: guy that complimented you while you was in full pregnancy,
Speaker 4: and he went to jail for almost three years because
Speaker 4: he was on probation. Now, just these are the only
Speaker 4: facts in the letter. After this, the letter just takes
Speaker 4: a noseedie. Now, while he was gone, I had the baby.
Speaker 4: They baby, and then she started dating the man that
Speaker 4: he beat up for complimenting you.
Speaker 3: I got pregnant by that man that had a son.
Speaker 4: You had a busy three years a girl because you
Speaker 4: just got the baby, got pregnant, had another one. I
Speaker 4: got pregnant by that man and had a son, all
Speaker 4: while my husband was in jail. The name of this
Speaker 4: letter is, why is he blaming on me? You don't
Speaker 4: see none of that. You don't see what happened while
Speaker 4: he was in jail. When he got out of jail,
Speaker 4: I did not ever tell him about the rendezvous with
Speaker 4: the other man and my son that the other man
Speaker 4: is raising. Surely made the best point. You don't see
Speaker 4: your son, you don't visit your son. You're just letting
Speaker 4: him raise him. What's happening here. My husband's attitude was
Speaker 4: a lot better, and we barely argue.
Speaker 3: Is that what jail do? A lot of time? Jail
Speaker 3: worked for some people, some people that don't.
Speaker 4: But most people I know that have been to jail,
Speaker 4: in prison, it worked rehabilitated. Now, is it a good
Speaker 4: system in prison? Absolutely not. Is it fair and absolutely not.
Speaker 4: It's an over abuse, yes it is. But some guys
Speaker 4: get out and sweat it. Ain't never going back. Now,
Speaker 4: you've got a high retention high.
Speaker 2: I don't know what.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that word right there, they got that high. People
Speaker 4: go back. Yeah, they gonna do that recidivisible. I call
Speaker 4: it revisitism, and they come back. So uh. Our marriage
Speaker 4: was great until two months ago when my husband ran
Speaker 4: into the other.
Speaker 3: Child's father and son was with him.
Speaker 4: My son is my twin and everybody can see it,
Speaker 4: but no one has ever mentioned it. It was a
Speaker 4: roomor around town, but I guess everybody was too scared
Speaker 4: of my husband to mention it to him.
Speaker 3: Yeah, he just got out of jail.
Speaker 4: Fuck whipping somebody there made the people you want to
Speaker 4: try to see if the rehab has kicked in. My
Speaker 4: husband came home and asked me about the boy. Who's
Speaker 4: this little boy? He got he looked just like you,
Speaker 4: So I admitted everything to him. He was unusually calm,
Speaker 4: and he left the house. I called to see where
Speaker 4: he went. He said he was outside the man's house.
Speaker 4: Now he's sitting out there he thinking about it. I
Speaker 4: got scared. I down nine one one and rushed to
Speaker 4: the man's house. My husband wasn't there. I went home
Speaker 4: and he was sitting in the driveway crying. He said
Speaker 4: he ain't want to go back to jail, so it
Speaker 4: was best to leave me alone. So then your husband
Speaker 4: filed for divorce, moved out, and he said, you're the
Speaker 4: reason our marriage ended. He was in jail. What did
Speaker 4: you expect me to do? Why is he blaming it
Speaker 4: on me? This woman is so delusional.
Speaker 3: You are the reason that the marriage ended.
Speaker 4: He was in jail. But what did he expect you
Speaker 4: to do? Let me tell you what he didn't expect.
Speaker 4: He didn't expect you to start dating the man that
Speaker 4: he beat up. He didn't expect you to start dating him.
Speaker 4: He didn't expect you to get pregnant by the man
Speaker 4: that he beat up. He didn't expect you to have
Speaker 4: a baby by the man he beat up. He didn't
Speaker 4: expect to run up into the man outside after he
Speaker 4: had been home for two months. And then the boy
Speaker 4: looked just like you, So he come on and ask
Speaker 4: you about it. You at me to everything. Now all
Speaker 4: of a sudden, why is he blaming it on me?
Speaker 4: Did you know what you admitted to? Were you in
Speaker 4: the presence of your brain when you told him your
Speaker 4: baby while you was away for three years? We knew
Speaker 4: it was three years. But what you want me to do?
Speaker 4: I can't wait no three years and don't get no action.
Speaker 4: I got to get touched up. Can't sit up in
Speaker 4: here and wait no three years on you and without
Speaker 4: getting touched up. Then it got crazy one night and
Speaker 4: we ain't had nothing on and then I'm pregnant. You
Speaker 4: know how much I love kids. You're gonna sit up
Speaker 4: and ask me how this mond fault? I love kids,
Speaker 4: so I went on to had this other baby, but
Speaker 4: I gave him to the daddy because I knew you
Speaker 4: was coming home. Why you run up into him somewhere?
Speaker 4: Where was you at? Were you run it all up
Speaker 4: into people?
Speaker 1: But Steve, huh, why this guy though?
Speaker 2: The guy that got in the reason because.
Speaker 4: Of the compliment he gave Hawa she was pregnant. I
Speaker 4: don't know what he's saying.
Speaker 2: Yeah, what could he have said?
Speaker 1: Girl?
Speaker 3: Girl? Girl? What's under all left stomach?
Speaker 2: Huh?
Speaker 3: I don't know what you could say to a pregnant
Speaker 3: woman to turn him off? Girl, girl, girl? What is
Speaker 3: under all that stomach?
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