Speaker 1: Hello, my loves, Welcome back to the bonus episodes of
Speaker 1: the Give Them La La Podcast. I'm so excited for
Speaker 1: today because we're talking about non negotiables. Jessica sent in, like,
Speaker 1: because my brain is so fried. Jessica's continued being the
Speaker 1: brain and then some and she was like, what about
Speaker 1: non negotiables for the bonus episode?
Speaker 2: Non negotiables and deal breakers.
Speaker 1: And deal breakers, and I was like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: I have a plethora of all of those, which is
Speaker 1: why I have not many friends and don't have a boyfriend.
Speaker 1: Because it's very it's not picky. It's called non negotiables,
Speaker 1: I mean, and deal breakers and no.
Speaker 3: Negotiables are like because I've had to think about this,
Speaker 3: those are like hard stop, like oh, you can meet
Speaker 3: the perfect person and if they are stuck in this
Speaker 3: certain way, Nope, no done moving on or friend And
Speaker 3: if they're like whatever, sorry, I can't be your friend.
Speaker 3: So I'm dying to hear your guys.
Speaker 2: And then I have a.
Speaker 1: Few do you have yours in mind?
Speaker 4: Easton me?
Speaker 1: But are you? Are you?
Speaker 4: I'm teeing them up in my head because I'm thinking about.
Speaker 5: It, and when I'm not, when I'm not on the mic,
Speaker 5: I can grab them.
Speaker 1: Yeah, now you're feeling well, let's start with our friends,
Speaker 1: our friends who wrote in, or just can start us off.
Speaker 2: Well, I was going to say, we could start.
Speaker 3: Do you want to start with us because you guys
Speaker 3: first us so non negotiables for and this is right
Speaker 3: now for friends and for partners.
Speaker 2: My top is rude. And I know this is cliche.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna say it anyway. Rude to waiters, rude to.
Speaker 3: Housekeepers, rude to any sort of staff that they could
Speaker 3: possibly feel is which is not This is inta accurate,
Speaker 3: but I'm going to say it. Would they act like
Speaker 3: are beneath them, Rude to Nanny's, rude to this, rude
Speaker 3: to that. I have gone on a date with a
Speaker 3: guy who I thought back in Nashville was so fine,
Speaker 3: and I was like, oh my, he was a musician.
Speaker 3: I was like, he's so hot, he's successful. This is
Speaker 3: gonna be great. We go out, we go to a concert,
Speaker 3: and this was like ten minutes into our date. He's great,
Speaker 3: We're getting along and the waiter comes over and he's
Speaker 3: such a dick to the waiter, like, you know, just
Speaker 3: like not looking them in the eye, being an asshole,
Speaker 3: and in my mind, I'm like, Okay, maybe he's in
Speaker 3: a bad mood. Throughout the night, every time he were great,
Speaker 3: every time the waiter comes over, dick rude. And then
Speaker 3: I was like, finally, at the end of the night,
Speaker 3: I'm like, well, I'm never gonna, you know, date this
Speaker 3: guy again. And I was very upfront. I said, oh,
Speaker 3: because then he went to tip.
Speaker 2: Oh. Then he went to tip and it was like
Speaker 2: ten percent, and I was like, through with him.
Speaker 4: We should never goes, don't don't.
Speaker 3: Go, and he's cheap, and I think God had cash
Speaker 3: on me. I think I took out like sixty percent tip.
Speaker 3: I put it on the table. I said, I'm going
Speaker 3: to get an uber home. You're a dick, I was.
Speaker 3: I was so fed up and disgusted.
Speaker 1: I don't think people realize how forward you are. I know,
Speaker 1: because you're so sweet. I know, but you I think
Speaker 1: you're more forward than I am.
Speaker 2: Thank you sometimes when, especially when I'm fed up. You've
Speaker 2: heard me when.
Speaker 3: I'm fed up, not with you, but with other people,
Speaker 3: and I'm just like.
Speaker 1: No, but you've been fed up on my behalf before. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I send you in. I'm like you, I need you to.
Speaker 5: Be like, you're really good at it too, like the
Speaker 5: way you can approach it, and then the way that
Speaker 5: it's you sweet talk it and then dismiss yourself. You're like, oh, okay,
Speaker 5: well thank you as a sweet fuck you, but thank you.
Speaker 2: So it's that.
Speaker 3: And then lastly, I mean, I have a bunch. But
Speaker 3: like true non negotiables hates pets. If you're like, if
Speaker 3: you hate dogs.
Speaker 1: Oh you have that too, all right, you hate piggy
Speaker 1: back off of her the conversation.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't like people who don't like animals or
Speaker 5: like when they don't sit down in a house.
Speaker 1: That like, okay, but hold on what kind of animals though,
Speaker 1: because if I'm with some if I'm with a dude
Speaker 1: and he's like, I'm just not a cat person, no
Speaker 1: big deal, I can't say that I really am. Either.
Speaker 1: I liked my cat, but like I can't say that
Speaker 1: I like would want to go out and get a cat.
Speaker 4: That's good.
Speaker 1: If people have cats, great, Like I'm not afraid of them,
Speaker 1: but it's not a deal breaker. It's when you tell
Speaker 1: me you don't like dogs that I'm like, you're a
Speaker 1: piece of shit.
Speaker 3: That's true, because what if they had a rat, like
Speaker 3: I would not be okay with like a rat, a
Speaker 3: pet rat.
Speaker 4: Like a free rom rat.
Speaker 2: No, Like people have pet rats that are like white and.
Speaker 1: Red eye.
Speaker 5: Honestly not negotiable for me. I think is pet rats
Speaker 5: and snakes for women and birds?
Speaker 2: Oh so you're going opposite. This is like if they
Speaker 2: have pet rat, you can't.
Speaker 4: That's non negotiable for me.
Speaker 1: You're out of there.
Speaker 5: I'm out birds, snakes, spiders, rats, spiders, spiders.
Speaker 2: I love.
Speaker 1: There was a guy who was really, really fucking hot built.
Speaker 1: I would have climbed this like a treat, all right.
Speaker 1: And I was ready to go to his house and
Speaker 1: he's like, I can't wait for you to come over,
Speaker 1: and he sends me a picture of his triantola, and
Speaker 1: I was like, this is where I say, nice, I'm
Speaker 1: not coming over there. It was like he like put
Speaker 1: it on his chest, which his chest was looking nice
Speaker 1: and mine.
Speaker 3: But I'm like, ew, really, tarantula, you I love tarantula's.
Speaker 1: How do you say it? Tarantula or triantula or a tarantula.
Speaker 1: It's tarantula, not triant What did I say at the beginning?
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 1: All I know is they're ginormous and Harry and right.
Speaker 3: There, Yeah, can you tell some of your non negotiables
Speaker 3: because I feel like it's not just hates dogs.
Speaker 1: Can I sing something to you? Because I said, it's
Speaker 1: Harry and scary and it just tapped me into this
Speaker 1: song that I used to sing as a little kid
Speaker 1: to like my friend's older brothers and they would laugh
Speaker 1: so hard and I felt so cool, and I had
Speaker 1: learned it from like another friend's older brother. But it's
Speaker 1: like I saw your mom. She opened up her legs
Speaker 1: and said, come on. It was it was so scary,
Speaker 1: big black and Harry.
Speaker 6: Remind me of the Translas, like, oh, your mom own
Speaker 6: the Transla Tarantula triangula a triangula tri angela I've ever
Speaker 6: hurt in my life.
Speaker 1: I don't know how to say it. It's really hard.
Speaker 5: My non negotiables is a hairy triangula for me?
Speaker 1: Tri no no, no no. Honestly, I think it would
Speaker 1: be going and supporting animals in captivity. I would say
Speaker 1: if you think that, like, and I'm always down to
Speaker 1: educate you, all right, like I get the whole like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, what's going on vacation and like we
Speaker 1: could swim with dolphins and then I go skirt. Let
Speaker 1: me tell you about swimming with dolphins. First of all,
Speaker 1: we shouldn't be staying at any hotel where there's dolphins
Speaker 1: on the property for you to swim with. I will
Speaker 1: not be supporting that. And if they still don't care,
Speaker 1: like if they look at me like I'm so cute,
Speaker 1: like we're good here, Like if you don't care about zoos,
Speaker 1: We're going to Sea World and you think it's all
Speaker 1: fun and entertaining, and.
Speaker 2: Where else am I?
Speaker 1: Goodness, say an Arca, We're done here, disgusting. We don't
Speaker 1: need to we don't need to continue this conversation.
Speaker 4: Now.
Speaker 1: There are a lot of people who are still like
Speaker 1: very ignorant to it. And if they're willing to open
Speaker 1: their mind just to tad and listen to what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: which there have been dudes where I'm like, hey, I
Speaker 1: would love if you would watch Blackfish with me, and
Speaker 1: the dudes who are like really down to watch it
Speaker 1: and do watch it with me and then change their mind,
Speaker 1: I'm like, Okay, you're a keeper. Maybe not for me,
Speaker 1: but like for someone.
Speaker 2: Else, really maybe not for you. Because they change their.
Speaker 1: Mind, they aren't here are they.
Speaker 7: Oh, something else, something else may have ached me out,
Speaker 7: but I'm like, Okay, I feel like you've got a
Speaker 7: good heart, Like you can watch something and.
Speaker 1: Go, wow, this is wrong.
Speaker 4: You're open minded.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I would say that's the biggest deal breaker.
Speaker 3: Open minded is also top for me. That's not a
Speaker 3: not that's a non negotiable. Just because you brought up
Speaker 3: you have to be open minded. You can't be like
Speaker 3: I honestly don't even care. I'll say this politically whise,
Speaker 3: I kind of care a little, but like, I don't
Speaker 3: need someone to take my political stance one hundred percent,
Speaker 3: but I need you to be open minded. Same with religion.
Speaker 3: I don't need someone who believes in my higher power,
Speaker 3: but I would like you to have an open mind
Speaker 3: with you. They can see why you believe, yes, or
Speaker 3: at least take you know, they can take a stance
Speaker 3: in great But also don't.
Speaker 2: Be like that's stupid or that's it's like, have an
Speaker 2: open mind. Hear me out.
Speaker 3: And I feel like with Blackfish, you said, yes, some
Speaker 3: people are uneducated, but if they can have an open
Speaker 3: mind and be like, I mean, I don't see what
Speaker 3: the problem is, but sure, let me watch something. Then
Speaker 3: they most likely will change their views.
Speaker 1: You know, that's interesting that you brought up like politically
Speaker 1: and like spiritually or religiously. I think I think I
Speaker 1: would have to be pretty in alignment politically spiritually. Those
Speaker 1: are like, those are my core beliefs, and if we're
Speaker 1: not on the same page, there will be a day
Speaker 1: where something could happen in this world that's gonna tear
Speaker 1: us apart. I think a good point. We've got to
Speaker 1: be pretty on the same page.
Speaker 3: A lot of people wrote in with that, By the way,
Speaker 3: a lot of people said, like, if you believe certain
Speaker 3: and I'm not talking morals. A lot of people wrote
Speaker 3: in said, if you're a certain political party, that's a
Speaker 3: non negotiable for me. I am a certain political party
Speaker 3: in my family. A lot of my extended family is not.
Speaker 1: I think it's changed though once we got little trumpy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know now it's like variant. And I think if
Speaker 1: someone were to come up to me and you know,
Speaker 1: say that they're I just feel like those are core beliefs.
Speaker 2: No, they one hundred percent.
Speaker 1: Those are like the things where I look at the
Speaker 1: world and go, this is what I want the world
Speaker 1: to be like. And if you if you see the
Speaker 1: world differently than I do. How are we supposed to
Speaker 1: like be together and raise children together?
Speaker 2: That's very, very interesting.
Speaker 3: I love this because, for instance, Kyle and I are
Speaker 3: higher power and spiritually very different.
Speaker 2: Pages.
Speaker 1: Well, you're a Catholic, right, No, I was raised I'm not.
Speaker 3: But what I believe in higher power is way more
Speaker 3: open now, And I just personally don't think God. I
Speaker 3: think everyone's God is the same and God is just
Speaker 3: a name to put to this.
Speaker 2: Higher power.
Speaker 3: He still and he wouldn't mind me saying this, but
Speaker 3: he still questions if there's anything at all.
Speaker 2: So it's like, you know.
Speaker 3: We're very I couldn't live my life like that. I'm like,
Speaker 3: I would break down. How do you get through every
Speaker 3: day without like referring to a higher power every few hours?
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, God, please help me, you know what
Speaker 2: I'm say or just like.
Speaker 1: Have you talked about that when you do have kids?
Speaker 1: Like what to say?
Speaker 3: He is down for As of now, we're constantly if
Speaker 3: this was like two years ago, even completely different plays,
Speaker 3: So we're always changing our opinions and growing. I'm sure
Speaker 3: by the time we have a kid that it all
Speaker 3: have changed. But as of now, he goes. I love
Speaker 3: the core principles that religion teaches as far as being kind,
Speaker 3: being this and that, and he goes. So I'm not
Speaker 3: against having some sort of structure. That being said, I
Speaker 3: don't agree with a lot of churches, and.
Speaker 1: That's organized religion religion, and I feel the exact same way. Yes,
Speaker 1: I don't want someone telling me how to live my life.
Speaker 1: Here's a book, read this, and if you do exactly
Speaker 1: what it says, you're going.
Speaker 2: To go to heaven. And if you don't, you're gonna
Speaker 2: go to hell.
Speaker 1: Right like, fuck off. Yes, I'm just gonna go out
Speaker 1: be a good person. Know that, Like my higher power
Speaker 1: has got me, and you know we're good here.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Maybe he's more spiritual. He doesn't like organized religion, Yeah.
Speaker 3: No, And I think he's exploring that right now. And
Speaker 3: I'm definitely exploring that right now. Spirituality and religion is
Speaker 3: something that I have, Like every month, I have different
Speaker 3: views and experiences. So I'm just open to sort of
Speaker 3: that changing and growing.
Speaker 2: But for both of us, you know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's so crazy when you think about going
Speaker 1: out and like meeting people, whether it's friends or like
Speaker 1: your life partner, how much you really have to do
Speaker 1: take into consideration when it's like is this gonna be
Speaker 1: a productive friendship or like a productive marriage where it's
Speaker 1: gonna last a long time, like all of the things
Speaker 1: that you don't really think about. You just think like, oh,
Speaker 1: we're gonna fall in love and like we're gonna have babies. No,
Speaker 1: it's like much more complex than that. Yeah, Like you
Speaker 1: have to have the really tough conversations before you can
Speaker 1: jump into like signing a contract, and like, here we are,
Speaker 1: we're together forever, and the second we decide not to be,
Speaker 1: we're gonna have to kind of go through hell to
Speaker 1: like not be around each other.
Speaker 3: And that's a great point. And this is where I'm
Speaker 3: also going. This is a privileged view. But my viewpoint
Speaker 3: is like when I met Kyle and he was like, oh,
Speaker 3: there's nothing after you die. You just die and you
Speaker 3: go into the ground. In my mind, I go, wow,
Speaker 3: that's very different view. But like if I'm not meant
Speaker 3: to be with him, then that'll like I'm obviously meant
Speaker 3: to be with him, and his viewpoint has changed. I've
Speaker 3: heard a lot of stories about people who believe in God,
Speaker 3: they marry an atheist, they're great. They just have different
Speaker 3: views and spirituality. The atheist gets in a car accident,
Speaker 3: has a near death experience, views are changed in a second,
Speaker 3: So it's just itchy about They're like.
Speaker 1: I'm not laughing about the near death experience. I'm just like,
Speaker 1: things change like that, your viewpoints, and you know what,
Speaker 1: we all reserve the right to evolve, change our minds,
Speaker 1: take on new beliefs, And I think it's beautiful when
Speaker 1: someone can feel a certain way and then have something happen.
Speaker 1: He goes right back to you've got an open mind,
Speaker 1: and you're someone who's a good human being because you're
Speaker 1: going to be able to be placed in different situations
Speaker 1: and get along with people and learn from them. You're
Speaker 1: not going to be a dick because it's your way
Speaker 1: or the highway. I don't dig people like that. I
Speaker 1: don't either, Yeah, And I'm not saying that my non
Speaker 1: negotiables like me saying, how am I supposed to raise
Speaker 1: a family with you if we don't believe in the
Speaker 1: same thing. That may not be the case there. I
Speaker 1: know many people where the mom is Jewish and the
Speaker 1: dad is Christian and they have a beautiful life together
Speaker 1: and they raise their children and there's not a care
Speaker 1: in the world. Well, there's a lot of cares in
Speaker 1: the world, but you know they like deal, right, Yes,
Speaker 1: So I'm not saying my negotiable art should be everybody's yes, no.
Speaker 2: But that it's great points and they share. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of times I say shit
Speaker 1: and you're like, well, me and Kyle met two months
Speaker 1: after he broke up. Well, me and Kyle don't believe it.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, you and Kyle are different.
Speaker 3: I like bringing it up though, like you make great points,
Speaker 3: and in my mind, I go, yeah, that's so true.
Speaker 2: I agree, and I go, wait a second, me and
Speaker 2: Kyle don't do that.
Speaker 1: And then you and Kyle changed my mind because you
Speaker 1: have a very effortless It seems very effortless and easy
Speaker 1: and it just works. Yeah, it seems very fun. When
Speaker 1: I watch your Instagram stories, which I haven't watched them
Speaker 1: in a few months, or because.
Speaker 2: You've been off, I G.
Speaker 1: I've been off.
Speaker 4: I G.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I want to be there right now, the.
Speaker 4: One with you two. When he got that MGK guitarist, Oh.
Speaker 2: My god, I died two nights in a row.
Speaker 1: First night he's.
Speaker 2: Going off about Sidney Sweeney.
Speaker 3: He's like, look, you know, I said watches you know
Speaker 3: he sees Sidney Sweeney in some sort of film, and
Speaker 3: he's like, you know whatever, I'm.
Speaker 1: Night follow Jessica on Instagram? What is your Instagram name?
Speaker 2: Against j M Walter eight? But night too. I came
Speaker 2: back help. He goes, I'm going to an event today.
Speaker 2: I go, great, have funn He goes, it's a guitar event.
Speaker 2: I come home. On the calendar there's a hot, hot chick.
Speaker 3: A photo of this hot chick, fucking hot, blond and
Speaker 3: barely anything, standing with a guitar.
Speaker 2: And it says to Kyle.
Speaker 1: Love Sophie, I are so fair a heart.
Speaker 4: But you go, how does she know your name? And
Speaker 4: he goes, it was not my name tag.
Speaker 3: He goes, look, I was standing in line trying to
Speaker 3: meet someone else and we had to go through her.
Speaker 3: It was on my name tag. And he goes, I
Speaker 3: didn't seek her out. And then he's like, she maybe
Speaker 3: sees that.
Speaker 2: I like you.
Speaker 1: You dirty?
Speaker 4: He is a dirty dog.
Speaker 2: But I saw her, I'd probably wait in line for her.
Speaker 1: She was for sure fantasizing about yanking on his mini
Speaker 1: braid with a bi.
Speaker 4: Old strap on his padawan braid.
Speaker 3: Speaking of that, someone dogged me and these were about
Speaker 3: to get to it, but the non negotiable someone said,
Speaker 3: it's someone I know him.
Speaker 1: I love when they dog you. It's someone you know.
Speaker 2: It's someone he works at Action Park. His name's Teddy.
Speaker 2: But he said a padawan braid, and I was like,
Speaker 2: you're such a dick. Kyle's bread I like it. I
Speaker 2: do too.
Speaker 3: I think it's hot. But I think it's hot because
Speaker 3: so many people hate it. And that's why Kyle keeps.
Speaker 1: I think that's why it's hot, Kyle, the fact if
Speaker 1: everyone loved it, it would be gone.
Speaker 2: It would be gone, exactly.
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, what are other people's non negotiables?
Speaker 2: This is a big one. Smoking. A lot of them.
Speaker 3: Say, like smoking cigarette, smoking weed is great cigarette smoking,
Speaker 3: So smoking.
Speaker 1: SIGs non negotiable. You're a sick smoker, can I tell you?
Speaker 1: And I feel really, really badly.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: I went to Ariana's show. The line was way too
Speaker 1: long to go to the bathroom, so I went across
Speaker 1: the street. I come back in it's intermission and people
Speaker 1: wanted photos and I go to lean In and it's
Speaker 1: where everyone's smoking and I felt like a dick, but
Speaker 1: I was like you, I can't do the cigarette smoke
Speaker 1: you guys, I'm sorry, I gotta go. I am not
Speaker 1: taking any pictures with anyone who has a lit cigarette.
Speaker 1: Yeah there's something different, Like I was a vapor.
Speaker 2: Yeah that's the vapor.
Speaker 5: From a guy's standpoint, i'd rather see a girl have
Speaker 5: a vape and just a big old stick in her hand.
Speaker 1: Well, let me tell you something with this with the cigarettes,
Speaker 1: the cigarettes are not only hurting you, but they're hurting
Speaker 1: me as well.
Speaker 2: The vape.
Speaker 1: Go puff your vape. That's why I didn't feel bad
Speaker 1: about it. I was like, I'm only hurting me. I'm
Speaker 1: not hurt you know, I'm choosing to hurt like you can. Well,
Speaker 1: I hope.
Speaker 4: I do love a good drag from a cigarette.
Speaker 6: Here, you're so disgustingly putting non negotiable for you.
Speaker 2: Or it's not if a girl smokes, I can't have.
Speaker 5: A girl like a constant smoker. But if we're like
Speaker 5: out at a bar and like I don't drink, so.
Speaker 4: It's like I got on that.
Speaker 1: It stays this sense.
Speaker 5: Not if I just take like two puffs on the
Speaker 5: girl two puffs.
Speaker 4: No, I mean, I'm just not looking for a smoker.
Speaker 5: But if she takes a draggert who at a bar
Speaker 5: once a month, I don't care.
Speaker 1: Okay, let's take a step you're talking about smokers.
Speaker 2: Let's take a step above that.
Speaker 3: Do you think it's a little hot if you see
Speaker 3: this hot girl and then you she doesn't smoke in
Speaker 3: a month and you see.
Speaker 2: At her bar and she takes a little drag off
Speaker 2: a sag or is.
Speaker 1: That too much?
Speaker 4: Now? Hot?
Speaker 1: Hot, very hot, very changing your No, are we talking
Speaker 1: about somebody sitting there being like I'm just gonna have
Speaker 1: or are we talking about someone who's got Marlborough reds
Speaker 1: in their purse at all times?
Speaker 4: I can't do a package.
Speaker 1: You're not gonna sit there and have my guy with
Speaker 1: SIGs in his pocket being like smoke break. It's like, no,
Speaker 1: we're not.
Speaker 2: We're good here.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm down with I'm down with being against the SIGs.
Speaker 3: I couldn't And it makes your teeth yellow, makes your
Speaker 3: car smell, your hair smell.
Speaker 1: I hope we don't offend smokers.
Speaker 2: Smokers. We love you, but.
Speaker 1: We're judging you.
Speaker 3: Okay, But if it's little'll take a drag from you, Yes,
Speaker 3: once in a while at the bar, and it'll be
Speaker 3: hot that I find me.
Speaker 2: I'm bringing this up. This is a great one because
Speaker 2: you've said this to me before.
Speaker 1: All Right, what is it.
Speaker 3: I can't have a partner who this is from a woman,
Speaker 3: It doesn't matter. I can't have a partner who isn't
Speaker 3: motivated or driven towards something.
Speaker 2: It can be anything. What do you feel about that?
Speaker 1: Yes, they have to be driven by something. I don't
Speaker 1: care what it is. But you have to have motivation,
Speaker 1: like I need you to get up and care, but
Speaker 1: also like I'm gonna need the motivation to like bring
Speaker 1: home a paycheck, Like I can't have you out like
Speaker 1: hobbying your ass off. Okay, go earn some money. You're
Speaker 1: an adult. We have bills to pay. Like, I will
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Speaker 1: he would, TALK i was, Like, wow he's so, smart
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Speaker 1: Smart you're really fucking. Stupid you say, out you put
Speaker 1: a lot of words and things thoughts together to where
Speaker 1: you just lose. People and they may think you're smart
Speaker 1: because they can't keep. Up, yeah but it's really because
Speaker 1: you don't make sense right, Right like once you started
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Speaker 1: Okay the landlord ain't rolling up To wilbur saying runt
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Speaker 1: like pushing forty And i'm looking, around going what AM i?
Speaker 1: Doing And i'm digmatized again what?
Speaker 3: Happenedetized and he called himself a minimalist And you're, like you're.
Speaker 1: Just he's the one that triggered me being Like i'm
Speaker 1: doing this TikTok About. Uh he's, LIKE i don't have
Speaker 1: A tv BECAUSE i just don't WATCH. Tv, no you.
Speaker 1: BROKE i don't have a car BECAUSE i just like
Speaker 1: don't feel like you need a. Car we live IN.
Speaker 2: La you need.
Speaker 4: One it's Not New.
Speaker 1: York you broke at give them lalla, TikTok and you
Speaker 1: guys shot out twinkle. Toes he was a. Snack he was.
Speaker 1: Fine he was fine as it.
Speaker 2: Gets not worth it, though not worth.
Speaker 1: IT i don't want to.
Speaker 4: Scrub he was the greatest.
Speaker 1: Thing, well you're the only one ever to say, that
Speaker 1: because Whill.
Speaker 5: Josh, yeah he also. Agreed he was, like he can't think,
Speaker 5: that but all, yeah not you knock that Off.
Speaker 2: Easton does this apply to?
Speaker 3: You i'm always interested if this applies from men to.
Speaker 3: Women obviously not every, case but for, you do you
Speaker 3: want a woman that's driven or say you met someone
Speaker 3: she's LIKE i really don't want to work.
Speaker 2: That because there's a lot of people out, there those
Speaker 2: like a stay at home. Mom, YEAH i stay at home.
Speaker 2: MOM i want to be a.
Speaker 3: WIFE i want to have dinner, ready more. Traditional what
Speaker 3: are your thoughts on?
Speaker 4: THAT i, MEAN i think that comes in.
Speaker 5: WAVES i would like somebody to be driven in doing
Speaker 5: something and if you, know going to, work getting a,
Speaker 5: paycheck and or even just for, me it's just more
Speaker 5: of a HOBBY i don't.
Speaker 1: Need but what's a hobby being a, Parent, well.
Speaker 5: No like them going out and just doing something that they. Love, okay,
Speaker 5: yeah you find with dad and just doing something that you,
Speaker 5: love and then you, know if kids, come then you
Speaker 5: can do this stay at home. MOM i like a
Speaker 5: driven woman to get up and go and do whatever
Speaker 5: she loves to. Do BUT i don't. NEED i don't
Speaker 5: care if she's like bringing home a. Paycheck do you
Speaker 5: get What i'm.
Speaker 2: SAYING i get what you're. Saying my thought, was is that?
Speaker 4: Weird, no not.
Speaker 2: At, all because Again i'm a straight.
Speaker 3: Female BUT i would to me IF i met a
Speaker 3: man who was, Like i'm very passionate about being a
Speaker 3: stay at home. DAD i don't want to necessarily, work
Speaker 3: BUT i just like cleaning the, house getting dinner, ready
Speaker 3: raising the. Children to, me that's your, passion and that's, like, fuck, yeah.
Speaker 5: Bro i'm not trying to take care of them and
Speaker 5: tell mery and that obviously.
Speaker 1: Yeah totally works for some.
Speaker 4: People.
Speaker 1: Yeah for, ME i feel Like i'm such an alpha
Speaker 1: in my day to day that when it comes to
Speaker 1: me finding a, PARTNER i want to be able to turn,
Speaker 1: Soft Like i'm sick of being a fighter at all
Speaker 1: times and bossing, up like When i'm with MY i
Speaker 1: want to feel feminine and me and, LADYLIKE i need
Speaker 1: you to like kind of take on a role Where
Speaker 1: i'm feeling. Feminine that's so where THAT i feel.
Speaker 3: Feminine, yeah that's so important to know a lot of
Speaker 3: women who are bosses in their career are like the,
Speaker 3: opposite like in the, bedroom the opposite in their. Relationship it's, like, no, no,
Speaker 3: NO i want you to be traditionally, masculine me to
Speaker 3: be traditionally feminine.
Speaker 1: There, yeah, Yeah i'm not looking for anyone to take
Speaker 1: care of. ME i can take care of, myself BUT
Speaker 1: i need you to like still take on the manly
Speaker 1: role for WHEN i come home THAT i can just
Speaker 1: be put a little apron, on put my ass, out
Speaker 1: push my tits, up and bend over Like, Okay i'm
Speaker 1: not cooking you, anything but we'll pretend Because i've also
Speaker 1: been bringing home bacon all, day, bitch that's my.
Speaker 2: Cooking yes, exactly, okay.
Speaker 4: But hold on.
Speaker 5: Here, yeah that's see how that's funny from a woman's
Speaker 5: standpoint and then a man's cause you're saying you're going
Speaker 5: out making the.
Speaker 1: Bacon i'm saying for me personally.
Speaker 5: As a, MAN i, know but as a, man If
Speaker 5: i'm going out And i'm hitting it hard And i'm
Speaker 5: making the bacon And i'm coming, HOME i kind of
Speaker 5: want love as, well AND i don't want to put
Speaker 5: on the hard hat to get.
Speaker 1: Home and so you want to turn into a little bit, fine,
Speaker 1: great go.
Speaker 4: Do.
Speaker 1: That that's gonna make you feel nice and sensitive and
Speaker 1: take care of. You god fucking.
Speaker 4: Pussy, NO i.
Speaker 5: Don't agree on that, sometimes see that right.
Speaker 4: There but see, now you see it, Right i'm talking
Speaker 4: about for.
Speaker 1: Me i'm telling you, That I'm i'm telling you that
Speaker 1: for my, Man i'll put on an, apron bend over
Speaker 1: and fuck. Him, okay why are you gonna put on the?
Speaker 1: Apron and do you want to friend and mean to
Speaker 1: bend him?
Speaker 2: Over what the?
Speaker 1: Fuck everyone's lost their goddamn.
Speaker 4: Mind the, rain.
Speaker 1: The rain is makingst.
Speaker 5: And this is coming from sometimes men need to come
Speaker 5: home and fucking feel like they're appreciated through Their i'm,
Speaker 5: Saying i'm you're. Saying you're saying you want him to come.
Speaker 5: Home you want to take your hard hat off of
Speaker 5: making the. Bacon that's what you, Did that's what we.
Speaker 5: Said you want to come home are you talking.
Speaker 1: ABOUT i have to write this down the Clip. Easton
Speaker 1: i'm saying that WHEN i come, HOME i want you
Speaker 1: to treat me like a. Housewife, OKAY i need you
Speaker 1: to be Very i'm not looking for you to take
Speaker 1: care of. Me take care of. Yourself, okay take care of.
Speaker 1: Yourself i'm gonna go out And i'm gonna work. HARD
Speaker 1: i have very masculine energy in my day. Today so
Speaker 1: WHEN i find my, PARTNER i want to come home
Speaker 1: AND i want him to treat me Like i'm a
Speaker 1: like submissive house, yes, yes, okay treat me like a
Speaker 1: little delicate. Bird, Okay, hi, honey how are. You did
Speaker 1: you have a good. Day i'm sick of being. Alpha,
Speaker 1: yes every aspect of my. Life i'm not, saying go
Speaker 1: find you a bitch who like hold your ball, back baby.
Speaker 1: BIRDS i.
Speaker 4: Would like.
Speaker 3: That so if you like, that see that's an East
Speaker 3: if you want to be treated like, that you Know
Speaker 3: i'm not saying every day.
Speaker 1: And by What i'm, Saying i'm not offended by what you're.
Speaker 1: Saying IT'S.
Speaker 4: I don't want to, no, no, no no.
Speaker 5: No this is from a man's, standpoint BECAUSE i do
Speaker 5: some DAYS i do want.
Speaker 4: To go home and get. Coddled AND i feel like
Speaker 4: a lot of men want. That AM i saying every?
Speaker 1: Night i'm gonna want To but we're saying the same.
Speaker 1: Thing have you want to cater to? You By Beyonce
Speaker 1: it or By Destiny's? Child i'm talking about that that
Speaker 1: song Or dance For you By. Beyonce those songs encompass
Speaker 1: WHAT i. Want you go out and be a boss.
Speaker 1: Motherfucker i'm gonna go out and be a boss, motherfucker
Speaker 1: and then WHEN i come, HOME i want to feel
Speaker 1: like a woman AND i want to please my man
Speaker 1: who was just working real, hard AND i want to
Speaker 1: feel LIKE i wasn't busting my ass all day being
Speaker 1: a boss.
Speaker 5: Bitch, yeah you guys are saying because exactly what you're
Speaker 5: saying is you're gonna.
Speaker 4: Come.
Speaker 1: NO i.
Speaker 3: Agree i've never left that heart on this.
Speaker 4: Podcast it's so.
Speaker 2: Funny it's YOU i have and me to fucket with that.
Speaker 2: Visual oh my.
Speaker 1: God, okay this ONE i need a.
Speaker 2: Nap this one.
Speaker 5: Is i'm so hotide and Now i'm hot.
Speaker 1: Inside it's because you thought about yourselfing bent over in
Speaker 1: an Apron.
Speaker 4: No, no that's the paddle one braid, NO i.
Speaker 2: CAN'T i.
Speaker 3: Can't, okay, Okay, no this is a lighter one to end,
Speaker 3: on but a good.
Speaker 2: One.
Speaker 3: No in quotes being friends with your ex like the
Speaker 3: fuck absolutely, not but thank. You so this girl is saying,
Speaker 3: LIKE i will be friends with my. Ex what are
Speaker 3: you talking? About what do you guys think? About, wait
Speaker 3: she will, be she will. Be she's, LIKE i will
Speaker 3: not be TOLD i cannot be friends with an. EX
Speaker 3: i will be friends with AN x one hundred. Percent
Speaker 3: what do you guys feel that?
Speaker 1: WAY i think if there's that WHAT i would have
Speaker 1: to feel a Vibe if you're friends with your ex
Speaker 1: AND i get no pit in my, stomach that's all. Key.
Speaker 1: Key if you tell me you're friends with your ex
Speaker 1: and my gut starts speaking to, me something is. Off,
Speaker 1: okay so mine's mine's gonna that's not a non. Negotiable
Speaker 1: but the FEELING i get is gonna tell me. Everything
Speaker 1: that's a great.
Speaker 2: POINT i THINK i agree one hundred. Percent, Yeah like if.
Speaker 3: If Because i've BEEN i don't Have i'm not friends
Speaker 3: with any, exes BUT i would be so open to
Speaker 3: it if we still, vibed if it like ended on
Speaker 3: good terms and we're just, like, oh you, Know i've
Speaker 3: seen them With kyle out and. About i've Seen KYLE'S
Speaker 3: x out and About, sweetest the one he was with
Speaker 3: for four. Years, sweetest she's a boss. Bitch Like i'm,
Speaker 3: LIKE i could see myself being friends with. Her kyle
Speaker 3: was friends with someone like, Her i'd be, Like, oh
Speaker 3: that makes, sense but he just.
Speaker 2: Isn't we just.
Speaker 3: Aren't BUT i would be open to it IF i
Speaker 3: don't get a Pit how do you FEEL i.
Speaker 4: Can be friends with them but they can't.
Speaker 1: Be oh, Right, HEY i love the. Honesty, OKAY i.
Speaker 4: Can talk to.
Speaker 2: Mine do you trust yourself being friends with your?
Speaker 4: Ex that's WHY i. Think that's WHY i think.
Speaker 2: That so then why would you?
Speaker 1: Not she seems a really good dude because most people
Speaker 1: are like, me ands to okay or you like EVERYTHING i?
Speaker 4: SAID i pretty much stand most most people.
Speaker 1: Suck, yeah and he AND i don't, drink, Right so
Speaker 1: there's no gonna there's not ever gonna be like the
Speaker 1: comfortability whit mixed with like alcohol because things. Happen question
Speaker 1: is we're not your combination.
Speaker 4: Significant other and they can drink?
Speaker 1: Right oh, yeah, right you've said. That, NO i don't
Speaker 1: want to be with. This SO i don't want to be,
Speaker 1: Now i'm not looking for an alcoholic, right but, LIKE
Speaker 1: i want to be with enormy BECAUSE i am. Strong
Speaker 1: we've talked about. This i'm very strong in my. SOBRIETY
Speaker 1: i don't want to have to worry about. YOURS i
Speaker 1: don't want to have to worry that when you go
Speaker 1: out with your friends that you could have a. RELAPSE
Speaker 1: i want to worry about me and me only Because
Speaker 1: i'm a tough broad and you, KNOW i don't mind
Speaker 1: if you come home, drunk but if you're coming home
Speaker 1: drunk a, lot we're done here Because i'm also not
Speaker 1: going to try to get you sober for.
Speaker 4: Dinner that's my favorite. THING i just had homies over the.
Speaker 5: Weekend they came into town and they came over and
Speaker 5: they had a bottle AND i was, like open that
Speaker 5: on pouring them a.
Speaker 2: Bottle of what wine or?
Speaker 4: Vodka? Oh, okay so, yeah it was just the one
Speaker 4: pouring them.
Speaker 1: Up oh it's like a CAN i say this just so?
Speaker 2: People?
Speaker 1: OH i love when people. THERE i JUST i know
Speaker 1: when people who are, normal who are like celebrating a birthday,
Speaker 1: party AND i watch my homies who work their asses,
Speaker 1: off and they're, like it's my birthday and they want
Speaker 1: to get. LIT i love being a part of that
Speaker 1: type of. Celebration, yeah my, homies so it was like.
Speaker 4: Party, yeah, well let's get you.
Speaker 1: Drunk WHEN i SAY i don't want to help someone get,
Speaker 1: sober WHAT i mean, is let's say THAT i was
Speaker 1: with someone who was struggling with addiction and we shared
Speaker 1: a child. Together that is a completely different. THING i
Speaker 1: feel like at this point in my, life WHERE i
Speaker 1: have my family AND i have, OCEAN i cannot allow
Speaker 1: someone to come in and have me baby. THEM i
Speaker 1: would absolutely sit there and, say here is the big,
Speaker 1: book this is WHAT i recommend you go and. Do
Speaker 1: BUT i can't take them on BECAUSE i have to
Speaker 1: protect my family. Unit SO i don't want it to
Speaker 1: seem Like i'm cold when it comes to people who
Speaker 1: are struggling with. Addiction IT'S i can't be with someone
Speaker 1: intimately who's who's gonna maybe be struggling BECAUSE i have
Speaker 1: to protect my family.
Speaker 3: Unit that's so important for, You that's WHAT i. Mean
Speaker 3: and such a good. Boundary, yeah that makes one hundred percent.
Speaker 2: SENSE whoa what an? Episode oh? Damn that?
Speaker 5: Fine lauren and her apron and a six man and
Speaker 5: then in and then.
Speaker 1: How would that work?
Speaker 2: Out she'll stand on a chair or Something.
Speaker 1: EASTON i never want to visualize this, ever it's so,
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