WEBVTT - BONUS: Non-negotiables & Deal Breakers 0:00:05.880 --> 0:00:08.720 Hello, my loves, Welcome back to the bonus episodes of 0:00:08.760 --> 0:00:11.639 the Give Them La La Podcast. I'm so excited for 0:00:11.760 --> 0:00:16.560 today because we're talking about non negotiables. Jessica sent in, like, 0:00:17.800 --> 0:00:21.400 because my brain is so fried. Jessica's continued being the 0:00:21.440 --> 0:00:23.120 brain and then some and she was like, what about 0:00:23.200 --> 0:00:25.520 non negotiables for the bonus episode? 0:00:25.840 --> 0:00:27.920 Non negotiables and deal breakers. 0:00:27.520 --> 0:00:29.880 And deal breakers, and I was like, oh my gosh, 0:00:29.960 --> 0:00:32.320 I have a plethora of all of those, which is 0:00:32.320 --> 0:00:35.480 why I have not many friends and don't have a boyfriend. 0:00:37.479 --> 0:00:41.680 Because it's very it's not picky. It's called non negotiables, 0:00:42.520 --> 0:00:45.080 I mean, and deal breakers and no. 0:00:45.200 --> 0:00:47.720 Negotiables are like because I've had to think about this, 0:00:47.920 --> 0:00:51.840 those are like hard stop, like oh, you can meet 0:00:51.920 --> 0:00:54.840 the perfect person and if they are stuck in this 0:00:54.920 --> 0:01:00.680 certain way, Nope, no done moving on or friend And 0:01:00.760 --> 0:01:03.760 if they're like whatever, sorry, I can't be your friend. 0:01:04.440 --> 0:01:06.279 So I'm dying to hear your guys. 0:01:06.280 --> 0:01:06.920 And then I have a. 0:01:06.920 --> 0:01:08.440 Few do you have yours in mind? 0:01:08.440 --> 0:01:09.280 Easton me? 0:01:10.000 --> 0:01:12.440 But are you? Are you? 0:01:12.840 --> 0:01:15.280 I'm teeing them up in my head because I'm thinking about. 0:01:15.040 --> 0:01:18.120 It, and when I'm not, when I'm not on the mic, 0:01:18.200 --> 0:01:19.360 I can grab them. 0:01:19.520 --> 0:01:23.720 Yeah, now you're feeling well, let's start with our friends, 0:01:23.840 --> 0:01:26.479 our friends who wrote in, or just can start us off. 0:01:26.520 --> 0:01:27.720 Well, I was going to say, we could start. 0:01:27.760 --> 0:01:30.160 Do you want to start with us because you guys 0:01:30.200 --> 0:01:35.680 first us so non negotiables for and this is right 0:01:35.720 --> 0:01:39.880 now for friends and for partners. 0:01:40.520 --> 0:01:43.600 My top is rude. And I know this is cliche. 0:01:43.640 --> 0:01:48.160 I'm gonna say it anyway. Rude to waiters, rude to. 0:01:49.640 --> 0:01:53.400 Housekeepers, rude to any sort of staff that they could 0:01:53.520 --> 0:01:56.440 possibly feel is which is not This is inta accurate, 0:01:56.480 --> 0:01:58.040 but I'm going to say it. Would they act like 0:01:58.080 --> 0:02:01.240 are beneath them, Rude to Nanny's, rude to this, rude 0:02:01.280 --> 0:02:03.080 to that. I have gone on a date with a 0:02:03.120 --> 0:02:07.160 guy who I thought back in Nashville was so fine, 0:02:07.600 --> 0:02:09.760 and I was like, oh my, he was a musician. 0:02:09.880 --> 0:02:12.920 I was like, he's so hot, he's successful. This is 0:02:12.960 --> 0:02:16.399 gonna be great. We go out, we go to a concert, 0:02:17.240 --> 0:02:19.440 and this was like ten minutes into our date. He's great, 0:02:19.440 --> 0:02:22.520 We're getting along and the waiter comes over and he's 0:02:23.000 --> 0:02:25.800 such a dick to the waiter, like, you know, just 0:02:25.840 --> 0:02:28.480 like not looking them in the eye, being an asshole, 0:02:28.960 --> 0:02:31.040 and in my mind, I'm like, Okay, maybe he's in 0:02:31.080 --> 0:02:34.080 a bad mood. Throughout the night, every time he were great, 0:02:34.280 --> 0:02:37.520 every time the waiter comes over, dick rude. And then 0:02:37.600 --> 0:02:39.120 I was like, finally, at the end of the night, 0:02:39.160 --> 0:02:41.560 I'm like, well, I'm never gonna, you know, date this 0:02:41.560 --> 0:02:44.440 guy again. And I was very upfront. I said, oh, 0:02:44.520 --> 0:02:45.800 because then he went to tip. 0:02:46.320 --> 0:02:48.360 Oh. Then he went to tip and it was like 0:02:49.160 --> 0:02:52.160 ten percent, and I was like, through with him. 0:02:52.480 --> 0:02:56.440 We should never goes, don't don't. 0:02:55.320 --> 0:02:58.000 Go, and he's cheap, and I think God had cash 0:02:58.000 --> 0:03:01.240 on me. I think I took out like sixty percent tip. 0:03:01.280 --> 0:03:03.160 I put it on the table. I said, I'm going 0:03:03.200 --> 0:03:05.960 to get an uber home. You're a dick, I was. 0:03:06.160 --> 0:03:08.040 I was so fed up and disgusted. 0:03:08.240 --> 0:03:11.520 I don't think people realize how forward you are. I know, 0:03:11.840 --> 0:03:15.239 because you're so sweet. I know, but you I think 0:03:15.240 --> 0:03:16.560 you're more forward than I am. 0:03:17.000 --> 0:03:20.040 Thank you sometimes when, especially when I'm fed up. You've 0:03:20.040 --> 0:03:20.560 heard me when. 0:03:20.480 --> 0:03:23.000 I'm fed up, not with you, but with other people, 0:03:23.000 --> 0:03:23.680 and I'm just like. 0:03:24.440 --> 0:03:27.079 No, but you've been fed up on my behalf before. Yeah, 0:03:27.160 --> 0:03:29.680 I send you in. I'm like you, I need you to. 0:03:29.720 --> 0:03:31.560 Be like, you're really good at it too, like the 0:03:31.600 --> 0:03:33.960 way you can approach it, and then the way that 0:03:34.040 --> 0:03:37.720 it's you sweet talk it and then dismiss yourself. You're like, oh, okay, 0:03:37.880 --> 0:03:41.120 well thank you as a sweet fuck you, but thank you. 0:03:41.160 --> 0:03:41.760 So it's that. 0:03:41.880 --> 0:03:44.240 And then lastly, I mean, I have a bunch. But 0:03:44.320 --> 0:03:47.360 like true non negotiables hates pets. If you're like, if 0:03:47.400 --> 0:03:48.720 you hate dogs. 0:03:48.800 --> 0:03:53.080 Oh you have that too, all right, you hate piggy 0:03:53.080 --> 0:03:55.520 back off of her the conversation. 0:03:55.720 --> 0:03:57.640 Yeah, I don't like people who don't like animals or 0:03:57.720 --> 0:04:00.600 like when they don't sit down in a house. 0:04:00.680 --> 0:04:04.960 That like, okay, but hold on what kind of animals though, 0:04:05.280 --> 0:04:07.400 because if I'm with some if I'm with a dude 0:04:07.400 --> 0:04:09.680 and he's like, I'm just not a cat person, no 0:04:09.760 --> 0:04:12.160 big deal, I can't say that I really am. Either. 0:04:12.240 --> 0:04:15.000 I liked my cat, but like I can't say that 0:04:15.080 --> 0:04:17.119 I like would want to go out and get a cat. 0:04:17.839 --> 0:04:18.240 That's good. 0:04:18.279 --> 0:04:21.160 If people have cats, great, Like I'm not afraid of them, 0:04:21.200 --> 0:04:24.120 but it's not a deal breaker. It's when you tell 0:04:24.120 --> 0:04:27.200 me you don't like dogs that I'm like, you're a 0:04:27.240 --> 0:04:27.760 piece of shit. 0:04:29.440 --> 0:04:31.320 That's true, because what if they had a rat, like 0:04:31.400 --> 0:04:33.880 I would not be okay with like a rat, a 0:04:33.920 --> 0:04:34.800 pet rat. 0:04:34.720 --> 0:04:35.760 Like a free rom rat. 0:04:35.880 --> 0:04:39.240 No, Like people have pet rats that are like white and. 0:04:40.800 --> 0:04:41.240 Red eye. 0:04:41.320 --> 0:04:44.440 Honestly not negotiable for me. I think is pet rats 0:04:44.480 --> 0:04:46.560 and snakes for women and birds? 0:04:46.640 --> 0:04:48.560 Oh so you're going opposite. This is like if they 0:04:48.640 --> 0:04:50.280 have pet rat, you can't. 0:04:50.360 --> 0:04:52.320 That's non negotiable for me. 0:04:52.560 --> 0:04:53.240 You're out of there. 0:04:53.320 --> 0:04:57.760 I'm out birds, snakes, spiders, rats, spiders, spiders. 0:04:57.760 --> 0:04:58.080 I love. 0:04:58.279 --> 0:05:02.880 There was a guy who was really, really fucking hot built. 0:05:03.200 --> 0:05:05.599 I would have climbed this like a treat, all right. 0:05:05.640 --> 0:05:07.320 And I was ready to go to his house and 0:05:07.360 --> 0:05:08.560 he's like, I can't wait for you to come over, 0:05:08.600 --> 0:05:11.039 and he sends me a picture of his triantola, and 0:05:11.080 --> 0:05:15.159 I was like, this is where I say, nice, I'm 0:05:15.160 --> 0:05:17.320 not coming over there. It was like he like put 0:05:17.320 --> 0:05:19.599 it on his chest, which his chest was looking nice 0:05:19.600 --> 0:05:20.000 and mine. 0:05:20.040 --> 0:05:25.320 But I'm like, ew, really, tarantula, you I love tarantula's. 0:05:24.720 --> 0:05:32.359 How do you say it? Tarantula or triantula or a tarantula. 0:05:32.440 --> 0:05:36.719 It's tarantula, not triant What did I say at the beginning? 0:05:37.880 --> 0:05:38.400 I don't know. 0:05:38.720 --> 0:05:41.839 All I know is they're ginormous and Harry and right. 0:05:41.839 --> 0:05:45.440 There, Yeah, can you tell some of your non negotiables 0:05:45.480 --> 0:05:47.719 because I feel like it's not just hates dogs. 0:05:47.839 --> 0:05:52.599 Can I sing something to you? Because I said, it's 0:05:52.640 --> 0:05:55.600 Harry and scary and it just tapped me into this 0:05:55.720 --> 0:05:58.479 song that I used to sing as a little kid 0:05:58.960 --> 0:06:01.679 to like my friend's older brothers and they would laugh 0:06:01.760 --> 0:06:03.520 so hard and I felt so cool, and I had 0:06:03.560 --> 0:06:06.240 learned it from like another friend's older brother. But it's 0:06:06.279 --> 0:06:10.239 like I saw your mom. She opened up her legs 0:06:10.279 --> 0:06:13.800 and said, come on. It was it was so scary, 0:06:14.360 --> 0:06:22.240 big black and Harry. 0:06:19.240 --> 0:06:22.000 Remind me of the Translas, like, oh, your mom own 0:06:22.120 --> 0:06:30.960 the Transla Tarantula triangula a triangula tri angela I've ever 0:06:31.440 --> 0:06:32.560 hurt in my life. 0:06:33.160 --> 0:06:36.960 I don't know how to say it. It's really hard. 0:06:37.600 --> 0:06:41.039 My non negotiables is a hairy triangula for me? 0:06:41.640 --> 0:06:47.400 Tri no no, no no. Honestly, I think it would 0:06:47.440 --> 0:06:51.600 be going and supporting animals in captivity. I would say 0:06:51.600 --> 0:06:56.000 if you think that, like, and I'm always down to 0:06:56.200 --> 0:06:58.400 educate you, all right, like I get the whole like, 0:06:58.520 --> 0:07:00.719 oh my gosh, what's going on vacation and like we 0:07:00.760 --> 0:07:04.040 could swim with dolphins and then I go skirt. Let 0:07:04.080 --> 0:07:05.960 me tell you about swimming with dolphins. First of all, 0:07:05.960 --> 0:07:09.640 we shouldn't be staying at any hotel where there's dolphins 0:07:09.880 --> 0:07:11.960 on the property for you to swim with. I will 0:07:11.960 --> 0:07:15.520 not be supporting that. And if they still don't care, 0:07:16.280 --> 0:07:18.560 like if they look at me like I'm so cute, 0:07:19.440 --> 0:07:25.680 like we're good here, Like if you don't care about zoos, 0:07:26.440 --> 0:07:28.440 We're going to Sea World and you think it's all 0:07:28.600 --> 0:07:30.120 fun and entertaining, and. 0:07:30.080 --> 0:07:30.800 Where else am I? 0:07:30.840 --> 0:07:35.360 Goodness, say an Arca, We're done here, disgusting. We don't 0:07:35.400 --> 0:07:37.560 need to we don't need to continue this conversation. 0:07:37.880 --> 0:07:38.040 Now. 0:07:38.080 --> 0:07:39.600 There are a lot of people who are still like 0:07:40.360 --> 0:07:43.080 very ignorant to it. And if they're willing to open 0:07:43.120 --> 0:07:45.480 their mind just to tad and listen to what I'm saying, 0:07:46.280 --> 0:07:48.720 which there have been dudes where I'm like, hey, I 0:07:48.720 --> 0:07:50.720 would love if you would watch Blackfish with me, and 0:07:50.760 --> 0:07:52.920 the dudes who are like really down to watch it 0:07:52.960 --> 0:07:55.440 and do watch it with me and then change their mind, 0:07:55.440 --> 0:07:57.520 I'm like, Okay, you're a keeper. Maybe not for me, 0:07:57.640 --> 0:07:58.600 but like for someone. 0:07:58.320 --> 0:08:01.800 Else, really maybe not for you. Because they change their. 0:08:01.720 --> 0:08:03.240 Mind, they aren't here are they. 0:08:03.200 --> 0:08:09.760 Oh, something else, something else may have ached me out, 0:08:10.320 --> 0:08:12.360 but I'm like, Okay, I feel like you've got a 0:08:12.400 --> 0:08:14.120 good heart, Like you can watch something and. 0:08:14.080 --> 0:08:15.280 Go, wow, this is wrong. 0:08:15.800 --> 0:08:16.720 You're open minded. 0:08:17.000 --> 0:08:18.880 Yeah, I would say that's the biggest deal breaker. 0:08:20.000 --> 0:08:22.320 Open minded is also top for me. That's not a 0:08:22.360 --> 0:08:25.000 not that's a non negotiable. Just because you brought up 0:08:25.400 --> 0:08:27.240 you have to be open minded. You can't be like 0:08:27.640 --> 0:08:31.960 I honestly don't even care. I'll say this politically whise, 0:08:32.000 --> 0:08:34.120 I kind of care a little, but like, I don't 0:08:34.160 --> 0:08:38.160 need someone to take my political stance one hundred percent, 0:08:38.400 --> 0:08:41.080 but I need you to be open minded. Same with religion. 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:44.840 I don't need someone who believes in my higher power, 0:08:45.120 --> 0:08:46.680 but I would like you to have an open mind 0:08:46.679 --> 0:08:48.760 with you. They can see why you believe, yes, or 0:08:48.800 --> 0:08:51.240 at least take you know, they can take a stance 0:08:51.280 --> 0:08:52.559 in great But also don't. 0:08:52.360 --> 0:08:55.280 Be like that's stupid or that's it's like, have an 0:08:55.280 --> 0:08:56.560 open mind. Hear me out. 0:08:56.880 --> 0:08:59.480 And I feel like with Blackfish, you said, yes, some 0:08:59.520 --> 0:09:02.240 people are uneducated, but if they can have an open 0:09:02.240 --> 0:09:03.680 mind and be like, I mean, I don't see what 0:09:03.720 --> 0:09:06.320 the problem is, but sure, let me watch something. Then 0:09:06.400 --> 0:09:08.000 they most likely will change their views. 0:09:08.040 --> 0:09:10.640 You know, that's interesting that you brought up like politically 0:09:10.800 --> 0:09:17.040 and like spiritually or religiously. I think I think I 0:09:17.080 --> 0:09:21.720 would have to be pretty in alignment politically spiritually. Those 0:09:21.760 --> 0:09:24.880 are like, those are my core beliefs, and if we're 0:09:24.880 --> 0:09:26.960 not on the same page, there will be a day 0:09:27.280 --> 0:09:30.719 where something could happen in this world that's gonna tear 0:09:30.760 --> 0:09:33.920 us apart. I think a good point. We've got to 0:09:33.920 --> 0:09:35.079 be pretty on the same page. 0:09:35.120 --> 0:09:37.040 A lot of people wrote in with that, By the way, 0:09:37.080 --> 0:09:39.800 a lot of people said, like, if you believe certain 0:09:40.320 --> 0:09:43.200 and I'm not talking morals. A lot of people wrote 0:09:43.200 --> 0:09:45.440 in said, if you're a certain political party, that's a 0:09:45.480 --> 0:09:49.240 non negotiable for me. I am a certain political party 0:09:49.280 --> 0:09:52.280 in my family. A lot of my extended family is not. 0:09:52.800 --> 0:09:56.719 I think it's changed though once we got little trumpy. Yeah, 0:09:56.720 --> 0:10:00.720 you know now it's like variant. And I think if 0:10:00.760 --> 0:10:03.000 someone were to come up to me and you know, 0:10:03.160 --> 0:10:06.040 say that they're I just feel like those are core beliefs. 0:10:06.040 --> 0:10:07.400 No, they one hundred percent. 0:10:07.600 --> 0:10:10.320 Those are like the things where I look at the 0:10:10.360 --> 0:10:13.120 world and go, this is what I want the world 0:10:13.160 --> 0:10:15.480 to be like. And if you if you see the 0:10:15.520 --> 0:10:18.960 world differently than I do. How are we supposed to 0:10:19.080 --> 0:10:22.200 like be together and raise children together? 0:10:22.920 --> 0:10:25.240 That's very, very interesting. 0:10:25.280 --> 0:10:27.480 I love this because, for instance, Kyle and I are 0:10:27.559 --> 0:10:29.880 higher power and spiritually very different. 0:10:29.880 --> 0:10:30.280 Pages. 0:10:30.760 --> 0:10:34.320 Well, you're a Catholic, right, No, I was raised I'm not. 0:10:34.600 --> 0:10:37.080 But what I believe in higher power is way more 0:10:37.120 --> 0:10:41.000 open now, And I just personally don't think God. I 0:10:41.000 --> 0:10:44.120 think everyone's God is the same and God is just 0:10:44.160 --> 0:10:45.520 a name to put to this. 0:10:46.920 --> 0:10:47.600 Higher power. 0:10:48.360 --> 0:10:50.920 He still and he wouldn't mind me saying this, but 0:10:50.960 --> 0:10:52.760 he still questions if there's anything at all. 0:10:52.960 --> 0:10:53.800 So it's like, you know. 0:10:53.800 --> 0:10:57.200 We're very I couldn't live my life like that. I'm like, 0:10:57.600 --> 0:10:59.400 I would break down. How do you get through every 0:10:59.480 --> 0:11:04.160 day without like referring to a higher power every few hours? 0:11:04.200 --> 0:11:05.920 I'm like, oh, God, please help me, you know what 0:11:06.000 --> 0:11:06.880 I'm say or just like. 0:11:06.880 --> 0:11:08.840 Have you talked about that when you do have kids? 0:11:08.880 --> 0:11:11.040 Like what to say? 0:11:11.600 --> 0:11:14.559 He is down for As of now, we're constantly if 0:11:14.559 --> 0:11:17.320 this was like two years ago, even completely different plays, 0:11:17.440 --> 0:11:19.880 So we're always changing our opinions and growing. I'm sure 0:11:19.920 --> 0:11:21.480 by the time we have a kid that it all 0:11:21.480 --> 0:11:24.120 have changed. But as of now, he goes. I love 0:11:24.760 --> 0:11:28.920 the core principles that religion teaches as far as being kind, 0:11:29.440 --> 0:11:31.360 being this and that, and he goes. So I'm not 0:11:31.520 --> 0:11:34.480 against having some sort of structure. That being said, I 0:11:34.520 --> 0:11:37.320 don't agree with a lot of churches, and. 0:11:37.520 --> 0:11:41.320 That's organized religion religion, and I feel the exact same way. Yes, 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:44.760 I don't want someone telling me how to live my life. 0:11:44.840 --> 0:11:47.080 Here's a book, read this, and if you do exactly 0:11:47.160 --> 0:11:48.400 what it says, you're going. 0:11:48.400 --> 0:11:50.320 To go to heaven. And if you don't, you're gonna 0:11:50.320 --> 0:11:50.640 go to hell. 0:11:50.840 --> 0:11:53.079 Right like, fuck off. Yes, I'm just gonna go out 0:11:53.160 --> 0:11:56.280 be a good person. Know that, Like my higher power 0:11:56.320 --> 0:11:59.000 has got me, and you know we're good here. 0:11:59.400 --> 0:12:00.280 Yeah. Yeah. 0:12:00.320 --> 0:12:03.960 Maybe he's more spiritual. He doesn't like organized religion, Yeah. 0:12:03.840 --> 0:12:06.000 No, And I think he's exploring that right now. And 0:12:06.120 --> 0:12:09.440 I'm definitely exploring that right now. Spirituality and religion is 0:12:09.440 --> 0:12:12.640 something that I have, Like every month, I have different 0:12:12.720 --> 0:12:15.320 views and experiences. So I'm just open to sort of 0:12:15.920 --> 0:12:17.280 that changing and growing. 0:12:17.360 --> 0:12:18.719 But for both of us, you know. 0:12:18.960 --> 0:12:22.240 Yeah, yeah, it's so crazy when you think about going 0:12:22.240 --> 0:12:25.480 out and like meeting people, whether it's friends or like 0:12:25.640 --> 0:12:28.880 your life partner, how much you really have to do 0:12:29.000 --> 0:12:33.079 take into consideration when it's like is this gonna be 0:12:33.120 --> 0:12:36.760 a productive friendship or like a productive marriage where it's 0:12:36.800 --> 0:12:39.400 gonna last a long time, like all of the things 0:12:39.440 --> 0:12:41.920 that you don't really think about. You just think like, oh, 0:12:41.960 --> 0:12:45.079 we're gonna fall in love and like we're gonna have babies. No, 0:12:45.200 --> 0:12:48.480 it's like much more complex than that. Yeah, Like you 0:12:48.640 --> 0:12:52.880 have to have the really tough conversations before you can 0:12:52.960 --> 0:12:56.040 jump into like signing a contract, and like, here we are, 0:12:56.240 --> 0:12:58.840 we're together forever, and the second we decide not to be, 0:12:58.920 --> 0:13:00.480 we're gonna have to kind of go through hell to 0:13:00.559 --> 0:13:01.840 like not be around each other. 0:13:02.640 --> 0:13:04.679 And that's a great point. And this is where I'm 0:13:04.720 --> 0:13:07.960 also going. This is a privileged view. But my viewpoint 0:13:08.040 --> 0:13:10.280 is like when I met Kyle and he was like, oh, 0:13:10.280 --> 0:13:12.600 there's nothing after you die. You just die and you 0:13:12.640 --> 0:13:15.040 go into the ground. In my mind, I go, wow, 0:13:15.080 --> 0:13:18.480 that's very different view. But like if I'm not meant 0:13:18.480 --> 0:13:21.280 to be with him, then that'll like I'm obviously meant 0:13:21.280 --> 0:13:23.600 to be with him, and his viewpoint has changed. I've 0:13:23.600 --> 0:13:26.280 heard a lot of stories about people who believe in God, 0:13:26.320 --> 0:13:29.439 they marry an atheist, they're great. They just have different 0:13:29.480 --> 0:13:32.280 views and spirituality. The atheist gets in a car accident, 0:13:32.320 --> 0:13:34.880 has a near death experience, views are changed in a second, 0:13:35.120 --> 0:13:37.400 So it's just itchy about They're like. 0:13:44.000 --> 0:13:46.440 I'm not laughing about the near death experience. I'm just like, 0:13:46.640 --> 0:13:49.480 things change like that, your viewpoints, and you know what, 0:13:50.120 --> 0:13:53.400 we all reserve the right to evolve, change our minds, 0:13:53.480 --> 0:13:55.959 take on new beliefs, And I think it's beautiful when 0:13:55.960 --> 0:13:58.920 someone can feel a certain way and then have something happen. 0:13:59.000 --> 0:14:01.360 He goes right back to you've got an open mind, 0:14:01.679 --> 0:14:04.719 and you're someone who's a good human being because you're 0:14:04.760 --> 0:14:07.160 going to be able to be placed in different situations 0:14:07.160 --> 0:14:09.679 and get along with people and learn from them. You're 0:14:09.679 --> 0:14:12.080 not going to be a dick because it's your way 0:14:12.120 --> 0:14:14.680 or the highway. I don't dig people like that. I 0:14:14.720 --> 0:14:17.640 don't either, Yeah, And I'm not saying that my non 0:14:17.679 --> 0:14:20.360 negotiables like me saying, how am I supposed to raise 0:14:20.360 --> 0:14:21.720 a family with you if we don't believe in the 0:14:21.760 --> 0:14:24.200 same thing. That may not be the case there. I 0:14:24.800 --> 0:14:28.920 know many people where the mom is Jewish and the 0:14:29.160 --> 0:14:32.200 dad is Christian and they have a beautiful life together 0:14:32.400 --> 0:14:35.160 and they raise their children and there's not a care 0:14:35.160 --> 0:14:37.360 in the world. Well, there's a lot of cares in 0:14:37.400 --> 0:14:39.720 the world, but you know they like deal, right, Yes, 0:14:40.040 --> 0:14:45.080 So I'm not saying my negotiable art should be everybody's yes, no. 0:14:45.000 --> 0:14:47.600 But that it's great points and they share. I don't know. 0:14:47.800 --> 0:14:49.280 I feel like a lot of times I say shit 0:14:49.360 --> 0:14:51.320 and you're like, well, me and Kyle met two months 0:14:51.360 --> 0:14:53.920 after he broke up. Well, me and Kyle don't believe it. 0:14:54.000 --> 0:14:56.400 And I'm like, you and Kyle are different. 0:14:58.280 --> 0:15:01.280 I like bringing it up though, like you make great points, 0:15:01.360 --> 0:15:03.320 and in my mind, I go, yeah, that's so true. 0:15:03.360 --> 0:15:05.000 I agree, and I go, wait a second, me and 0:15:05.080 --> 0:15:05.880 Kyle don't do that. 0:15:06.320 --> 0:15:08.960 And then you and Kyle changed my mind because you 0:15:09.000 --> 0:15:11.960 have a very effortless It seems very effortless and easy 0:15:11.960 --> 0:15:15.080 and it just works. Yeah, it seems very fun. When 0:15:15.080 --> 0:15:17.280 I watch your Instagram stories, which I haven't watched them 0:15:17.320 --> 0:15:18.760 in a few months, or because. 0:15:18.520 --> 0:15:19.160 You've been off, I G. 0:15:19.280 --> 0:15:19.720 I've been off. 0:15:19.720 --> 0:15:19.920 I G. 0:15:20.800 --> 0:15:23.440 I'm like, I want to be there right now, the. 0:15:23.320 --> 0:15:27.240 One with you two. When he got that MGK guitarist, Oh. 0:15:27.080 --> 0:15:29.800 My god, I died two nights in a row. 0:15:30.000 --> 0:15:30.880 First night he's. 0:15:30.760 --> 0:15:32.080 Going off about Sidney Sweeney. 0:15:32.120 --> 0:15:34.680 He's like, look, you know, I said watches you know 0:15:35.480 --> 0:15:37.600 he sees Sidney Sweeney in some sort of film, and 0:15:37.640 --> 0:15:40.480 he's like, you know whatever, I'm. 0:15:42.120 --> 0:15:46.160 Night follow Jessica on Instagram? What is your Instagram name? 0:15:46.200 --> 0:15:49.400 Against j M Walter eight? But night too. I came 0:15:49.480 --> 0:15:51.160 back help. He goes, I'm going to an event today. 0:15:51.160 --> 0:15:53.320 I go, great, have funn He goes, it's a guitar event. 0:15:53.600 --> 0:15:58.880 I come home. On the calendar there's a hot, hot chick. 0:15:58.920 --> 0:16:02.800 A photo of this hot chick, fucking hot, blond and 0:16:02.960 --> 0:16:04.680 barely anything, standing with a guitar. 0:16:04.840 --> 0:16:08.280 And it says to Kyle. 0:16:10.360 --> 0:16:15.840 Love Sophie, I are so fair a heart. 0:16:16.080 --> 0:16:18.840 But you go, how does she know your name? And 0:16:18.880 --> 0:16:20.760 he goes, it was not my name tag. 0:16:22.720 --> 0:16:24.560 He goes, look, I was standing in line trying to 0:16:24.600 --> 0:16:26.320 meet someone else and we had to go through her. 0:16:26.440 --> 0:16:28.200 It was on my name tag. And he goes, I 0:16:28.240 --> 0:16:31.000 didn't seek her out. And then he's like, she maybe 0:16:31.040 --> 0:16:31.400 sees that. 0:16:32.240 --> 0:16:34.400 I like you. 0:16:34.360 --> 0:16:36.080 You dirty? 0:16:36.600 --> 0:16:37.600 He is a dirty dog. 0:16:37.720 --> 0:16:39.720 But I saw her, I'd probably wait in line for her. 0:16:39.720 --> 0:16:42.840 She was for sure fantasizing about yanking on his mini 0:16:42.880 --> 0:16:44.440 braid with a bi. 0:16:44.360 --> 0:16:47.320 Old strap on his padawan braid. 0:16:47.560 --> 0:16:50.520 Speaking of that, someone dogged me and these were about 0:16:50.560 --> 0:16:52.640 to get to it, but the non negotiable someone said, 0:16:52.680 --> 0:16:53.640 it's someone I know him. 0:16:53.640 --> 0:16:55.600 I love when they dog you. It's someone you know. 0:16:55.640 --> 0:16:57.800 It's someone he works at Action Park. His name's Teddy. 0:16:57.840 --> 0:17:00.360 But he said a padawan braid, and I was like, 0:17:00.400 --> 0:17:05.760 you're such a dick. Kyle's bread I like it. I 0:17:05.880 --> 0:17:06.200 do too. 0:17:06.240 --> 0:17:08.120 I think it's hot. But I think it's hot because 0:17:08.160 --> 0:17:10.080 so many people hate it. And that's why Kyle keeps. 0:17:10.160 --> 0:17:12.639 I think that's why it's hot, Kyle, the fact if 0:17:12.640 --> 0:17:13.960 everyone loved it, it would be gone. 0:17:13.960 --> 0:17:15.200 It would be gone, exactly. 0:17:15.560 --> 0:17:18.000 Okay, all right, what are other people's non negotiables? 0:17:18.119 --> 0:17:22.000 This is a big one. Smoking. A lot of them. 0:17:21.960 --> 0:17:26.919 Say, like smoking cigarette, smoking weed is great cigarette smoking, 0:17:26.960 --> 0:17:27.919 So smoking. 0:17:27.600 --> 0:17:32.119 SIGs non negotiable. You're a sick smoker, can I tell you? 0:17:32.160 --> 0:17:33.679 And I feel really, really badly. 0:17:33.960 --> 0:17:34.320 Okay. 0:17:35.080 --> 0:17:38.359 I went to Ariana's show. The line was way too 0:17:38.359 --> 0:17:39.840 long to go to the bathroom, so I went across 0:17:39.880 --> 0:17:43.159 the street. I come back in it's intermission and people 0:17:43.200 --> 0:17:45.640 wanted photos and I go to lean In and it's 0:17:45.640 --> 0:17:48.919 where everyone's smoking and I felt like a dick, but 0:17:49.000 --> 0:17:50.840 I was like you, I can't do the cigarette smoke 0:17:50.880 --> 0:17:52.919 you guys, I'm sorry, I gotta go. I am not 0:17:52.960 --> 0:17:55.399 taking any pictures with anyone who has a lit cigarette. 0:17:55.480 --> 0:17:58.800 Yeah there's something different, Like I was a vapor. 0:17:59.040 --> 0:18:00.320 Yeah that's the vapor. 0:18:00.480 --> 0:18:02.960 From a guy's standpoint, i'd rather see a girl have 0:18:03.000 --> 0:18:05.960 a vape and just a big old stick in her hand. 0:18:06.000 --> 0:18:08.600 Well, let me tell you something with this with the cigarettes, 0:18:09.040 --> 0:18:11.320 the cigarettes are not only hurting you, but they're hurting 0:18:11.320 --> 0:18:11.880 me as well. 0:18:12.480 --> 0:18:13.160 The vape. 0:18:13.640 --> 0:18:15.479 Go puff your vape. That's why I didn't feel bad 0:18:15.480 --> 0:18:17.679 about it. I was like, I'm only hurting me. I'm 0:18:17.720 --> 0:18:20.640 not hurt you know, I'm choosing to hurt like you can. Well, 0:18:20.760 --> 0:18:21.240 I hope. 0:18:21.359 --> 0:18:23.720 I do love a good drag from a cigarette. 0:18:23.720 --> 0:18:27.760 Here, you're so disgustingly putting non negotiable for you. 0:18:27.840 --> 0:18:30.360 Or it's not if a girl smokes, I can't have. 0:18:30.320 --> 0:18:33.280