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Speaker 1: It is time to ask the clo All right, this

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Speaker 1: is from Cornelius in Little Rock. Cornelius said, I'm in

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Speaker 1: my late fifties and I'm single again after being in

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Speaker 1: a long term relationship. She kept nagging me to get married,

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Speaker 1: but she wasn't marriage material. She ended up cheating and

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Speaker 1: told me I wasted her time? How do I move

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Speaker 1: on and trust again?

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Speaker 2: Ain't don't you had to run?

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Speaker 3: You was in a long term relationship with a woman

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Speaker 3: that wanted to get married, that wasn't marriage material, but

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Speaker 3: you stayed in the long distance, long term relationship. Why

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Speaker 3: did you do it? Then she cheated on you and

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Speaker 3: said you wasted her time. Yeah, okay, you wasn't gonna

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Speaker 3: marry her, right, So how do you trust again?

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Speaker 2: Why don't you start listening to yourself sometime?

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Speaker 3: If you would a woman that ain't a marriage material

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Speaker 3: but you're in a long term relationship and you in

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Speaker 3: your fifties?

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Speaker 2: How stupid can you be? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he's almost.

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Speaker 3: And how can you trust again? What you trust her for?

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Speaker 3: She wasn't marriagement. I don't understand the problem you have. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: don't you see the blessing in getting out?

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Speaker 1: Now?

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Speaker 3: She said, you wasted her time. But dog, you wasn't

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Speaker 3: gonna marry the woman. No way, don't listen? Why why

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Speaker 3: why did you write us? How do I trust again?

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Speaker 3: Don't please? Like you cush?

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Speaker 2: Like you just cushed?

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Speaker 3: What do bruh? You know what we do to get

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Speaker 3: over you? We get another U just go ahead, but

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Speaker 3: don't call me with me like like like like I'm

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Speaker 3: most sympathize with you.

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Speaker 2: Okay, all right?

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Speaker 1: Moving on to Kalisha and Scranton. Kalisha writes, my coworkers

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Speaker 1: and I go to lunch as a group. My favorite

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Speaker 1: male coworker asked if we can meet and eat alone sometimes.

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Speaker 1: I like him as a friend, but I think he

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Speaker 1: likes me more. I don't think my husband would approve

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Speaker 1: of our lunch. How do I tell him?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 1: Nicely?

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Speaker 2: No, I'm married.

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Speaker 3: I can't go nowhere with you by myself. Yeah, well,

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Speaker 3: what is it nice about? He know you married and

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Speaker 3: he don't want to be your damn friend. I told

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Speaker 3: you all that, but.

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Speaker 2: I guess.

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Speaker 1: He is her favorite male coworker.

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Speaker 2: Now what that?

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Speaker 3: Well, okay, you his favorite female coworker, so that I.

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Speaker 2: Eventually all that friendship.

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Speaker 3: He's my favorite male I bet he is and you

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Speaker 3: his favorite female.

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Speaker 1: Can we eat alone sometimes with all all these.

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Speaker 2: People again, just me and you?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I tell him nicely that my husband won't approve. I

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Speaker 3: tell you right now, he ain't fitting approved and you

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Speaker 3: know that. But your favorite why.

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Speaker 1: Why is he her work husband? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Hell yeah, he work. He tried. He tried to be

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Speaker 2: your off work thing. That's all.

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Speaker 1: This is it?

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Speaker 2: You got another one? S yeah.

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Speaker 1: J Nashville says, my dad passed away four years ago

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Speaker 1: when I was a senior in high school. His best

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Speaker 1: friend stepped up and was there for me and my mom.

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Speaker 1: He's still there for my mom, and it's it's a

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Speaker 1: bit much to me. Why is he still whining and

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Speaker 1: dining my mother?

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Speaker 2: Man? Because he won't your mama?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he always wanted Yeah, your daddy, he was your

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Speaker 3: best friend.

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Speaker 2: That's what friends are.

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Speaker 1: Well, he stepped in and helped them get through a

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Speaker 1: very terrifory.

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Speaker 3: I was there for when he was here. I'm here

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Speaker 3: for you where he's gone. Now, you might be a

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Speaker 3: little comfortable with this right here. I mean, look, if

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Speaker 3: it's his best for you and he gone, but he

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Speaker 3: gone though.

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Speaker 2: Now look.

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Speaker 3: I'm just telling you right now, I don't think you

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Speaker 3: won't do it because that can happen.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and it looks like it is happening. Yes, it's

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Speaker 1: been four years.

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Speaker 2: It's been four years winding and dying. He's still there. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it's leaning, you know, if you lean long enough.

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Speaker 3: Well, little girl, you was in high school, you're a

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Speaker 3: college student. Is your mama? Does your mama not want

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Speaker 3: him around anymore? That's the only question you need to know. Well,

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Speaker 3: or is him being around starting to develop into something else?

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Speaker 2: He could have easily developed feelings for your mama.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, after it's life, so she should what the daughter, Jessica.

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Speaker 2: What it ain't your business? Okay, it's really said.

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Speaker 1: It's a bit too much for her.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, you know, quit looking.

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Speaker 1: All right, less one, Steve. We're moving on to Wanda

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Speaker 1: in Huntsville. Wanda says, I'm on my second marriage and

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Speaker 1: my husband is on his third. Our pastor suggested we

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Speaker 1: do some work on ourselves before we got married. And

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Speaker 1: now I see what he was talking about. How do

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Speaker 1: I get this black man back into counseling with the pastor? Interesting,

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Speaker 1: she's on her second he's on.

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Speaker 2: His beside black man? Why was that?

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Speaker 1: Well, because you know, Traditionally, black men don't like to

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Speaker 1: go to counseling.

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Speaker 3: That's why she said that, Well, you know, white men

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Speaker 3: need counseling more than we do for divorce because they

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Speaker 3: don't really even do divorce.

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Speaker 2: That's who used to be in counselor. This white man,

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Speaker 2: this moment, all this going down here, buying all this

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Speaker 2: duck taping him.

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Speaker 1: Twist man, that was not all white men.

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Speaker 3: I'm just sing to check your assurance policies.

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Speaker 2: Why are you so crazy?

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Speaker 3: How do you get this black man back in there?

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Speaker 3: Be telling me it's a musk that if y'all want

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Speaker 3: to move forward, you're going to have to take this marriatter.

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Speaker 1: Counselor, because there are five marriages between the two of them,

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Speaker 1: and and so that's I guess that's why the pastor

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Speaker 1: suggested that.

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Speaker 2: They Why would she write me? What's what does she

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Speaker 2: think I know about this? Personally, I'd have been the

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Speaker 2: counseling and everything still got the damn to go.

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Speaker 1: Well, she just the pastor just suggested that they do

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Speaker 1: some work on themselves, because I they.

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Speaker 3: To be right, there's some things they need to talk through.

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Speaker 3: Some obviously somebody not doing something right.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, she sees it, but she's trying to convince

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Speaker 3: Now, Yeah, I didn't need counsel because I knew what

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Speaker 3: I did wrong. I knew exactly what I did because

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Speaker 3: I'm real honest with myself.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I know when it's my fault.

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Speaker 1: What did you do? What you brought it up? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Well I got the first time I got married too early.

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Speaker 3: I was too young to be Oh, okay, I didn't

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Speaker 3: have the coping skills.

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Speaker 1: Okay, that happened.

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Speaker 2: In laws and all that. I didn't know what that happens. Okay, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: so I knew that.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so you didn't. You're saying you didn't need counseling.

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Speaker 1: You did it yourself.

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Speaker 2: No, No, I knew exactly what I did. Yeah you Christy?

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Speaker 1: Did your ex agree with you?

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Speaker 3: It's not about I didn't care what she thought. I

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Speaker 3: got to see right there. This ain't about what you did.

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Speaker 3: It's about dude, you got to do it for.

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Speaker 1: Me, all right? Thank you, Celo. You're listening to the

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Speaker 1: Stave Harvey Morning Show.