Speaker 1: Focus on the relationships at work as much as the work.
Speaker 1: One of the reasons why work is stressful is because
Speaker 1: we don't trust people and they don't trust us. It's
Speaker 1: stressful because we haven't built community. It's harder because we
Speaker 1: don't have relationships and people don't want to help and
Speaker 1: support us. And so don't be negligent or neglectful of
Speaker 1: people at work because you think, hey, it pays the bills,
Speaker 1: I took care of it. I'm out, because that actually
Speaker 1: makes it harder. Hey, everyone, welcome back to On Purpose,
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Speaker 1: Today's episode is all about your well being and the workplace.
Speaker 1: So I know we usually start January with some goals,
Speaker 1: with some intentions, maybe with some journaling and habit, and
Speaker 1: usually by this time we're starting to realize how difficult
Speaker 1: it is, and often our work can be a great
Speaker 1: source of stress, pain, and even burnout. And I really
Speaker 1: want to today look at this relationship between work and
Speaker 1: well being. Studies show that fifty seven percent of people
Speaker 1: who are burnt out report being less productive in the
Speaker 1: last twelve months. Forty seven percent of people who are
Speaker 1: burnt out report producing lower quality work, and none of
Speaker 1: that feels good, right, none of that feels good. We
Speaker 1: don't enjoy being burnt out. We don't enjoy being exhausted.
Speaker 1: This is important to look at because there's a year
Speaker 1: by year increase in how many of us feel burnt out.
Speaker 1: In twenty twenty it was about twenty nine point six percent,
Speaker 1: and in twenty twenty one it was about thirty four
Speaker 1: point seven percent, and we know that number is rising
Speaker 1: year on year. So, if you're experiencing burnout, if you're
Speaker 1: experiencing stress from work, whether you work at a company
Speaker 1: or for yourself or kind of in between, or maybe
Speaker 1: you've started a side hustle, if you experience any stress,
Speaker 1: any pain, any pressure, this episode is for you. I
Speaker 1: want you to send this to that friend that you've
Speaker 1: been talking about burnout to all week. I know that
Speaker 1: these are conversations that you're having, and I hope that
Speaker 1: my conversations with you on the podcast help you navigate these.
Speaker 1: Some of the insights that I'm going to give today
Speaker 1: are truly game changes, like they're really going to flip
Speaker 1: the switch for you. And so I want you to
Speaker 1: listen all the way through to the end. So let's
Speaker 1: dive straight. In workplace stress is estimated to be the
Speaker 1: fifth biggest cause of death in the United States. Around
Speaker 1: forty percent of workers identify their jobs as very or
Speaker 1: extremely stressful, and a troubling quarter of Americans identify their
Speaker 1: jobs as the number one source of stress in their lives. Now,
Speaker 1: the truth is, we're spending eight, ten, maybe even twelve
Speaker 1: hours at work, and so for it to be a
Speaker 1: cause of stress in our lives or a source of
Speaker 1: stress in our lives is highly difficult and uncomfortable because
Speaker 1: we've got to go there for that long. We're spending
Speaker 1: more than half of our waking hours in the workplace.
Speaker 1: So I want to address work life balance in a
Speaker 1: new interesting way today. And often we think of it
Speaker 1: as work causes me stress, my home life has to
Speaker 1: be easier. But then we come home and we've realized
Speaker 1: there's stress at home. Maybe we're arguing with our partner,
Speaker 1: maybe we're irritable, the dishes are not cleaned, maybe there's
Speaker 1: stuff breaking down. Maybe there's so many other health challenges
Speaker 1: that are coming about. So what ends up happening is
Speaker 1: that we have stress at work and stress at home
Speaker 1: and neither tend to slow down or become easier. The
Speaker 1: first thing I want to raise with you is that
Speaker 1: work becomes harder and more stressful when we're not growing
Speaker 1: or learning at work or about work. So what's really
Speaker 1: interesting is that there's this idea called eudemonic happiness. And
Speaker 1: the word eudemonic comes from the word udemonia in Greek,
Speaker 1: which means good spirit and commonly translated as happiness. It's
Speaker 1: a beautiful word. I really love how poeticut is as well.
Speaker 1: But the idea of eudemonic happiness is that we derive
Speaker 1: happiness from optimal functioning and reaching our potential. These can
Speaker 1: be really great sources of happiness. It's almost like the
Speaker 1: joy that you feel or the fulfillment that you feel
Speaker 1: when you finish something, when you get over the finish line,
Speaker 1: when you complete something. And we've forgotten that, we've forgotten that.
Speaker 1: We are trying to think of work as something like
Speaker 1: I need to get it done, need to get it
Speaker 1: out of the way, over avoiding work because there's a
Speaker 1: new challenge, there's a new stress. But actually so much
Speaker 1: of our well being comes from accomplishing things at work,
Speaker 1: feeling validated at work, feeling heard at work, feeling like
Speaker 1: we have an impact at work. These are all important
Speaker 1: parts of our well being, and I think today one
Speaker 1: of the biggest reasons we're disengaged from work is we
Speaker 1: see work as a source of stress and we hope
Speaker 1: that home life is better. But stress will not disappear
Speaker 1: by trying to run away from work or trying to
Speaker 1: shut it off. It actually comes from connecting meaningfully at work.
Speaker 1: So the goal is, how can we look at the
Speaker 1: work you've got going on right now and ask yourself,
Speaker 1: not how do I just deal with the stress, but
Speaker 1: what skills don't I have that would make work easier.
Speaker 1: I really really learned this the hard way. I realized that,
Speaker 1: you know, I've never built big teams. I've worked with
Speaker 1: small teams. But as my company continues to grow, whether
Speaker 1: it's the podcast, whether it's my wife and I his
Speaker 1: tea company Joyo, whether it's writing more books that I
Speaker 1: really want to do, whether it's our genius community and
Speaker 1: our certification school, we have so many things going on,
Speaker 1: and I realized that one of my biggest weaknesses that
Speaker 1: was causing stress. See, your strengths don't cause stress, your
Speaker 1: weaknesses cause stress. One of my weaknesses was I didn't
Speaker 1: know how to build teams. I didn't how to lead teams.
Speaker 1: And you can't just assume that because you have some
Speaker 1: ideas and insights and you're focused on something that you
Speaker 1: just know how to do everything. And so I found
Speaker 1: that the last two years I invested heavily in having
Speaker 1: a leadership coach, in reading leadership books, in sitting with
Speaker 1: really successful leaders and interviewing them and asking them questions.
Speaker 1: What that did is it made my weakness as strength. Now,
Speaker 1: so much of my stress is decreased because I built
Speaker 1: a skill. Remember this, Skills decrease stress. Weaknesses increase stress. Right,
Speaker 1: skills decrease stress. When you're skilled, your stress gets lowered
Speaker 1: because you know you can handle it right. You believe
Speaker 1: you can handle it. You trust that you can handle
Speaker 1: and navigate whatever's being thrown at you. And so you
Speaker 1: demonic happiness is something that I really want you to
Speaker 1: think about. It's that are you realizing your potential at work?
Speaker 1: Are you creating a growth plan at work? Have you
Speaker 1: identified the added skills that you need to develop and
Speaker 1: learn that are going to make you feel more fulfilled
Speaker 1: at work? For example, let's say you struggle with giving
Speaker 1: a presentation and you're always scared about that. Naturally, you're
Speaker 1: going to become more shy at work, You're going to
Speaker 1: become more closed off. But now, guess what, You're going
Speaker 1: to start to notice that other people are giving preferential
Speaker 1: treatment because they do like presentations. You're starting to feel
Speaker 1: like you're falling behind all of a sudden. Work is
Speaker 1: a source of stress. Or you're someone who's looking at
Speaker 1: work and just thinking, wow, like too much is demanded
Speaker 1: of me, too much is expected of me. But if
Speaker 1: you just look at that for a second and think, well,
Speaker 1: wait a minute, maybe there's a skill that if I learned,
Speaker 1: like timeboxing, like a specific time management tool, or maybe
Speaker 1: there's a particular software that's going to make me more
Speaker 1: effective and more productive at work, and in turn, that
Speaker 1: productivity and effectiveness is going to lead to satisfaction and fulfillment.
Speaker 1: So don't underestimate how much work, just as it's a
Speaker 1: cause of stress, can actually be a source of strength
Speaker 1: and fulfillment because you feel validated in your efforts and
Speaker 1: what you achieve. The idea of achievement and accomplishment is
Speaker 1: not about the ego of getting there or showing off.
Speaker 1: It's biological right. The chemicals released during achievement and fulfillment.
Speaker 1: Completion of a task help us feel happier. And this
Speaker 1: second point reaffirms the first. People who feel they have
Speaker 1: a good work life balance work twenty one percent harder
Speaker 1: than those who don't. And that's mind blowing, right. You
Speaker 1: think that if you had a work life balance, then
Speaker 1: that means everything's equal. Actually, those who feel like they
Speaker 1: have a healthy balance, they actually work harder. They apply
Speaker 1: themselves more because studies show that we can handle more
Speaker 1: stress when it feels meaningful, when it feels productive, when
Speaker 1: it feels like we're achieving something, we can push ourselves.
Speaker 1: So I want to ask you what's a goal. The
Speaker 1: first question was what's a skill that you need to learn?
Speaker 1: The second is what's a challenge you're going to set yourself.
Speaker 1: What's a goal at work that you want to reach.
Speaker 1: What's a goal at work that's important to you. What's
Speaker 1: something about work that's meaningful to you to get behind.
Speaker 1: I think often we look at our work as our tasks,
Speaker 1: and if we only look at it as tasks, we
Speaker 1: limit it to that very small step rather than looking
Speaker 1: at the bigger picture of how our work impacts our
Speaker 1: lives and other people's lives. If we're going to be
Speaker 1: there for that long, let's make it fulfilling and meaningful.
Speaker 1: Let's not succumb to the feeling that for ten hours
Speaker 1: a day, I have to be miserable, stressed and want
Speaker 1: to get out of there, because that mindset sets us
Speaker 1: up for more pain in stress. Now, one of the
Speaker 1: words that became very popular during the pandemic and post
Speaker 1: pandemic for workplace was flexibility, and fifty nine percent of
Speaker 1: people in a study reported that flexibility is more important
Speaker 1: to them than salary or other benefits, and seventy seven
Speaker 1: percent said they would prefer to work for a company
Speaker 1: that gives them the flexibility to work from anywhere rather
Speaker 1: than fancy corporate headquarters. But here's the thing. Often we
Speaker 1: use words, and those words don't really communicate what we're
Speaker 1: truly looking for. And they found this through further studies
Speaker 1: where sixty one percent of employees reported that they would
Speaker 1: prefer if management allowed team members to come into the
Speaker 1: office when they need to and work from home when
Speaker 1: they need to. And so they've realized that it's not
Speaker 1: just flexibility. The real word is autonomy. And so I
Speaker 1: want you to think about these two words. Flexibility means, yeah,
Speaker 1: sometimes we can work from home, and sometimes we can
Speaker 1: work from the office or a coffee shop or whatever
Speaker 1: it may be. Autonomy is I want to make that
Speaker 1: choice right, I want to make that choice. I want
Speaker 1: to be involved in that choice now. I think that
Speaker 1: a healthy workplace has a balance of both of these.
Speaker 1: I think there's flexibility, but there's also some autonomy, and
Speaker 1: you'll find people that are trusted more senior in organizations
Speaker 1: as they grow. All people who are very productive and
Speaker 1: effective receive more autonomy. Maybe this is a really healthy
Speaker 1: conversation to have with your boss, To have with your
Speaker 1: manager and say, hey, I'm really looking for a sense
Speaker 1: of knowing where I can be most productive and effective,
Speaker 1: and why don't we trial it for a month. I
Speaker 1: think this month trial idea is really important because you're
Speaker 1: not saying, Okay, well this is how I want to
Speaker 1: work from now, and you're saying, well, let me prove it.
Speaker 1: Let me show that I am more productive and effective
Speaker 1: from these places I think I am. I think often
Speaker 1: employers get scared that when people ask for flexibility and autonomy,
Speaker 1: it means that they're going to work less hard. And
Speaker 1: there's truth and reality in that. But if you're someone
Speaker 1: who's highly self aware, and you can say, oh no, well, actually,
Speaker 1: I know that when I want to be creative, I'm
Speaker 1: more creative in a coffee shop. I know that when
Speaker 1: I'm trying to be effective with the teams, I want
Speaker 1: to be in person. I don't want to be on zoom.
Speaker 1: And then I know there's days when I'm stressed out
Speaker 1: about my kids and I need to be around them
Speaker 1: and I'd rather work from home. Right, That's a really
Speaker 1: healthy way to look at it. Stop trying to make
Speaker 1: these blankets statements where you're like, I just want to
Speaker 1: work from home. I just want to work from the office.
Speaker 1: So I want to work from wherever. It's healthy when
Speaker 1: you think, wait, what's going to make me better at
Speaker 1: work and what's going to make me better at home?
Speaker 1: And so I think what we're really looking for is
Speaker 1: autonomy even more than flexibility. Autonomy is the idea that
Speaker 1: we have choice in how we spend our time. Flexibility
Speaker 1: is knowing that there is a bit of both. And
Speaker 1: so I would highly recommend that you have and openly
Speaker 1: communicate that. But if you are going to communicate that
Speaker 1: with someone, explain where you're going to spend what time.
Speaker 1: A lot of people will be like, yeah, I want
Speaker 1: to choose where I work from, but it's coming from
Speaker 1: a place of left the g and trying to do
Speaker 1: the least as opposed to do more and give more back.
Speaker 1: Now I want to share with you point number four
Speaker 1: is this story that has always stayed with me. It's
Speaker 1: a story that's been told for many, many years. I
Speaker 1: think I've read about it first in The Seven Habits
Speaker 1: of Highly Effective People, which is one of my favorite books.
Speaker 1: And in this book, there's a story of a person
Speaker 1: who takes a job as a woodcutter, and he gets employed,
Speaker 1: and he starts to cut. The person who employs him
Speaker 1: sets him on his way, trains him how to use
Speaker 1: the saw, and he goes out and the first day
Speaker 1: he cuts twenty trees and he thinks, oh, this is amazing.
Speaker 1: This is great. Now. The next couple of days he
Speaker 1: hits the same but a few days later he only
Speaker 1: came back with fifteen trees, and he worked the same hours.
Speaker 1: He put in the same effort. A few days later,
Speaker 1: he only cut ten trees, worked the same hours, put
Speaker 1: in the same effort. A few days later he only
Speaker 1: cut five trees. Worked the same hours, put in the
Speaker 1: same effort, even a little few more hours, even a
Speaker 1: bit more effort, but his effectiveness and impact was going down.
Speaker 1: It was really interesting. The person that hired him said
Speaker 1: to him, you know what's happening. What's up? Like, what's
Speaker 1: going on? He went from twenty to five and the
Speaker 1: woodcutter said, I have no idea what's going on? And
Speaker 1: this is the sign of good leadership and management. The
Speaker 1: leader of the company, the manager, said, you know what
Speaker 1: it is. It's that you never sharpened your saw. You're
Speaker 1: cutting with the blunt saw. On day one, I gave
Speaker 1: you a sharp saw so you could cut trees with
Speaker 1: that energy and strength. But every day, as you cut
Speaker 1: more trees, the blade became more blunt, and the more
Speaker 1: blunt it became, the less impactful it was. So remember
Speaker 1: to sharpen the sore. So I ask you all, what
Speaker 1: are you doing to sharpen your sword. This is why
Speaker 1: we do need a break for those of us that
Speaker 1: are on the other end of the spectrum where we
Speaker 1: work too hard. We may love what we work, we
Speaker 1: take on all the stress for work. That's not healthy either,
Speaker 1: because now our creativity plummets. Now our productivity plummets. Right,
Speaker 1: it's both extremes. If we're just being lazy and lethargic,
Speaker 1: we don't achieve anything, so we miss out on the
Speaker 1: happiness of accomplishment. And if we're being overproductive and over efficient,
Speaker 1: we lose creativity, We lose that spark, we lose that
Speaker 1: intensity and buzz. And so I want to encourage you
Speaker 1: to take time out, to take that break and to
Speaker 1: do things that are refreshing. Things that are refreshing include
Speaker 1: going to sleep early. Things that are refreshing include spending
Speaker 1: time with good friends and having deep, vulnerable, open, funny,
Speaker 1: hilarious conversations. Things that are good for you in that
Speaker 1: scenario include having sensory deprivation. I really believe one of
Speaker 1: the things that I like to do here is something
Speaker 1: called a sensory deprivation tank, which is basically like this
Speaker 1: capsule which you sit inside. You're floating in water which
Speaker 1: has magnesium in it, and it's really therapeutic, really relaxing.
Speaker 1: The goal of it is to be completely reducing stimulation
Speaker 1: and sensory overload. Now you can do that yourself. It
Speaker 1: may be at bath, it may be sitting in a
Speaker 1: quiet room in your home, it's just allowing your senses
Speaker 1: to not constantly be triggered by adverts, by messages, notifications. Right,
Speaker 1: if you're feeling that overwhelm, it's coming because we're not
Speaker 1: having this sensory deprivation. When I go to India, I
Speaker 1: always take people to Rishikas, which is at the foothills
Speaker 1: of the Himalayas, and we often go to meditate in
Speaker 1: the caves there. And the reason why, I mean, it
Speaker 1: sounds cool, right, but the caves are really powerful because
Speaker 1: it's sensory deprivation. When you walk into a cave and
Speaker 1: you just walk in maybe even ten twenty thirty meters deep,
Speaker 1: you can't see anything, right, it's dark, it's still, it's silent.
Speaker 1: Our senses need that more than ever today because from
Speaker 1: the moment you wake up to the moment you go
Speaker 1: to bed, you're being bombarded with news, noise, notifications, and negativity.
Speaker 1: So we need time in our day, even if you
Speaker 1: don't meditate or you don't know how to spend time
Speaker 1: where your senses are not constantly being triggered and demanded. Okay,
Speaker 1: point number five is the great outdoors. We've heard this
Speaker 1: time and time again that it's important to spend time outdoors,
Speaker 1: especially in green spaces, and a RESET study found that
Speaker 1: people who take short breaks in nature improve their performance
Speaker 1: by twenty percent compared with those who went on a
Speaker 1: walk in a busy urban area. Now, I know that's
Speaker 1: tough in certain cities, but even if you can get
Speaker 1: to a small park or a larger park if possible,
Speaker 1: or a hike or whatever, surrounds yourself with trees and nature.
Speaker 1: And the reason for this links to the last point
Speaker 1: I was making as well, is that natural environments actually
Speaker 1: replenish your brain, whereas urban ones require your brain to
Speaker 1: stay alert, which drains your mental resources. If you think
Speaker 1: about that for a second. Right, when you're walking down
Speaker 1: a road, you have to think about traffic, you're looking
Speaker 1: at the stores, someone may say something weird or look
Speaker 1: at you different. Right, you've got all these alerts, whereas
Speaker 1: when you're in nature. I went from my morning hike,
Speaker 1: I may say good morning to a few people on
Speaker 1: the way that I bump into, but beyond that I
Speaker 1: can just absorb the green in nature. So what I
Speaker 1: recommend you do is every hour five minutes, three things. Walk, water, window,
Speaker 1: get up and walk, even if it's indoors, If you
Speaker 1: can get outdoors, do it. Walk to a window if
Speaker 1: you can't get outdoors, and look out as far as possible,
Speaker 1: as far into the distance till your eyes can hopefully
Speaker 1: spot some green And if they can't spot some greens,
Speaker 1: just look into the sky. And the third is water
Speaker 1: to hydrate. If you can do that five minutes on
Speaker 1: every hour, I promise you the rest of those fifty
Speaker 1: five minutes will be a lot easier. And it's even
Speaker 1: more important because, according to the ergonomics team at Cornell University,
Speaker 1: sitting for longer than twenty minutes has negative effects on
Speaker 1: your body, including back and neck problems, which we all
Speaker 1: know about, right We've all experienced this, And research shows
Speaker 1: that stand up desks can boost productivity and cognitive function,
Speaker 1: and standing up helps you burn calories, it helps you
Speaker 1: stretch out, increases blood flow, and engages your core, your glutes,
Speaker 1: and your leg muscles so you're fully present and even
Speaker 1: do hit a little bit of a workout. And so
Speaker 1: the idea of twenty minutes, and it's not natural, right, Like,
Speaker 1: even while I'm recording this podcast, I'm sitting for most
Speaker 1: of it. And so even if every hour you can
Speaker 1: get up for five minutes and stretch, as I said,
Speaker 1: walk water window, and remember that it starts breaking up
Speaker 1: these patterns and breaking up these bad habits that we've
Speaker 1: developed and that just become a part of our everyday life.
Speaker 1: And so we can even find that balance in our
Speaker 1: work day. Now, one of the things that a lot
Speaker 1: of us are experiencing is brain fog, and I hope
Speaker 1: this one really resonates with a lot of you. I
Speaker 1: think for a lot of us, one of the biggest
Speaker 1: reasons why we feel stressed from our tasks and work
Speaker 1: is that work is plastered everywhere. Maybe you have posted
Speaker 1: everywhere where, maybe you have notes everywhere, maybe you have
Speaker 1: you know, just multiple documents open, multiple tabs open. And
Speaker 1: what we realize is that the brain is just not
Speaker 1: good at dealing with a lot of things. Right, when
Speaker 1: you're experiencing, even if you're not feeling stressed, you can
Speaker 1: deal with up to seven things only, and when you
Speaker 1: are stressed, you can only deal with three things. Right.
Speaker 1: Our ability to deal with more stressful things diminishes by
Speaker 1: more than half. And so if you've got stuff everywhere
Speaker 1: and it's not organized, it starts to create a lot
Speaker 1: of untidiness externally and internally. Now, most successful people and
Speaker 1: productive people don't even use to do lists. They have
Speaker 1: scheduled tasks. So one of the things that I use
Speaker 1: is time boxing, where all the tasks are already in
Speaker 1: my calendar, and so I can just open up my
Speaker 1: calendar every day and look at what I have to
Speaker 1: do next. I don't have to think about what I
Speaker 1: have to do next. I don't have to plan for
Speaker 1: how long it will take. So switch away from to
Speaker 1: do lists and switch towards time boxing, right to do
Speaker 1: list or a thing of the past, because the problem
Speaker 1: is you make it to do list, then you're trying
Speaker 1: to decide, well, which one do I do next? You
Speaker 1: wasted time. Then you think, well, how long is that
Speaker 1: going to take? I don't know. You wasted time. Even
Speaker 1: if you ticked off everything off your to do list,
Speaker 1: there's always more to do and it feels overwhelming. And
Speaker 1: if you don't tick off things off your to do
Speaker 1: list because you didn't give yourself a certain amount of time,
Speaker 1: sometimes tasks that shouldn't take that long get extended for
Speaker 1: such a long period of time. And so I really
Speaker 1: want you to consider the practice of time boxing. I'll
Speaker 1: do a whole session on it as well, hopefully sooner.
Speaker 1: But time boxing is basically the idea that every Sunday
Speaker 1: you sit down and you look at what you have
Speaker 1: to achieve the week ahead, and you actually put it
Speaker 1: in the calendar and give it a set amount of time.
Speaker 1: So you have only two hours to record a podcast
Speaker 1: in script here, you have only one hour to have
Speaker 1: a meeting, or thirty minutes to have this meeting. You
Speaker 1: don't just move with oh yeah, I'll go for lunch
Speaker 1: and maybe it'll be four hours, maybe it won't, maybe
Speaker 1: I'll get this done, because then you lose that feeling
Speaker 1: of fulfillment and accomplishment. I want to share with you
Speaker 1: one last thing on today's episode, and I hope this
Speaker 1: really hits you, and I hope it really helps you
Speaker 1: focus on the relationships at work as much as the work.
Speaker 1: One of the reasons why work is stressful is because
Speaker 1: we don't trust people and they don't trust us. It's
Speaker 1: stressful because we haven't built community. It's harder because we
Speaker 1: don't have relationships and people don't want to help and
Speaker 1: support us. And so don't be negligent or neglectful of
Speaker 1: people at work because you think, hey, it pays the bills.
Speaker 1: I took care of it. I'm out because that actually
Speaker 1: makes it harder. So I hope today has given you
Speaker 1: a different view. I didn't want to just give you
Speaker 1: a bunch of wellbeing tips, which you already know. I
Speaker 1: know you practice those, but I actually wanted to change
Speaker 1: your relationship with work. And I promise you if you
Speaker 1: took notes today, share them on Instagram, pass this along
Speaker 1: to our friend, discuss how you can do this with
Speaker 1: each other, and I'll see you on another episode of
Speaker 1: On Purpose. Thank you so much. I hope that you
Speaker 1: go and grab my new book, Eight Rules of Love
Speaker 1: at eight Rules of Love dot com, and come and
Speaker 1: see me on tour at Jshy tour dot com. I'm
Speaker 1: bringing love to a city near you. I cannot wait.
Speaker 1: Thank you.