Speaker 1: The Nicky Glizer Podcastser here's Nikki. Hello here, I am
Speaker 1: welcome to the show. It's Nicky Glazer Podcast. I'm here
Speaker 1: in Saint Louis in studio with Ma Mama.
Speaker 2: Hi, Hi, my god, thanks for having me back.
Speaker 1: I love having you on. Like it's fun to hang.
Speaker 1: Podcasts are hangs, you know, it's really fun. Yeah, it's good.
Speaker 1: You're good at it. You're chill, well, not trying anymore.
Speaker 2: I'm not trying because you get what you get.
Speaker 1: You get what you get. I just don't know what
Speaker 1: that's about brushing to people when you don't you don't
Speaker 1: put on any kind of artifice.
Speaker 2: I don't even know how to do that anymore.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I've seen you put it on. You can put
Speaker 1: it on.
Speaker 2: No, I really don't know. I don't get nervous anymore.
Speaker 1: It's like, it's so great. It's really I've knocked it
Speaker 1: out of you. Thank you, because you used to get
Speaker 1: nervous and go, I'm what am I going to say?
Speaker 1: You stop the self doubt thing of like no one
Speaker 1: wants to hear me well, and I always just say, well,
Speaker 1: do you just trust me that I'm not doing this
Speaker 1: out of charity?
Speaker 2: No, you've said that, and I'm so grateful because you're like,
Speaker 2: I do not question if I didn't think you were
Speaker 2: any good.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I want to make things that are listenable. And yeah,
Speaker 1: and if you held me back in any way and
Speaker 1: made me talk differently, I wouldn't like it for my listeners. Well,
Speaker 1: thanks for it, but I feel more free. This is great,
Speaker 1: This is just great. Okay, So moms here, things are
Speaker 1: going great over here. Brian Frandie's here, Noah's here. What's up, guys?
Speaker 3: How are you Podcasts supporting comedians' mental health since twenty sixteen?
Speaker 3: Without podcasts, there are so many comedian friends who would
Speaker 3: not know anything about each other or hang out.
Speaker 4: Ever.
Speaker 1: What the comedians do before podcasts?
Speaker 3: They got drunk at the bar after shows. But other
Speaker 3: than that, there were no hangs.
Speaker 2: Yeah, there were hangs.
Speaker 1: Well, I've talked to actually some conduring the day there
Speaker 1: were hangs after shows. Comedians don't hang out anymore. I
Speaker 1: guess in New York they're still doing it. But in
Speaker 1: LA there's not really that many hangs happening. And if
Speaker 1: there are, they only talk. We don't talk about jokes,
Speaker 1: which I've never liked really talking about jokes. Ever since
Speaker 1: I was like five years into comedy, I've just been like, stop.
Speaker 2: Waiting and you give them away, right, No, no, no.
Speaker 1: That's not No one's stealing jokes. That's not a thing
Speaker 1: you worry about that kind of stuff.
Speaker 2: I kind of do.
Speaker 1: Yeah, my mom hides jewelry because and forgets where she
Speaker 1: even hides it. She's like a little squirrel. Do you
Speaker 1: know that squirrels like half the nuts they hide, they
Speaker 1: don't remember.
Speaker 2: Where they Yeah, I have found them in my garage.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's when you're looking for your jewels in the
Speaker 1: garage hard. Yeah. But now that Yeah, they're not talking
Speaker 1: about jokes anymore. They're not talking about you know, they're
Speaker 1: just talking about algorithms, and I just I just can't
Speaker 1: take an or views or this guy's getting this. I
Speaker 1: mean we've always been complaining about who's getting what and
Speaker 1: why are hurt? But yes, the views and.
Speaker 3: The algas social it's just a curse, curs a thing.
Speaker 1: I heard that on TikTok because I was talking to
Speaker 1: someone who knows their way around this stuff. If you
Speaker 1: have like a video that you've clipped that you've made
Speaker 1: for TikTok, right, and you're like I'm gonna put this
Speaker 1: on TikTok. It's behooves you and the algorithm to then
Speaker 1: use the TikTok editing software within it, like make your
Speaker 1: clip a little bit longer. So if you because TikTok
Speaker 1: will know if you used its software to edit, and
Speaker 1: it likes videos that you are using the app to
Speaker 1: edit as opposed to using something else to edit. So
Speaker 1: put on a little extra time when you're editing the
Speaker 1: clip outside of TikTok, take it off within the TikTok app,
Speaker 1: so that TikTok thinks, oh, they made this in here,
Speaker 1: and then they'll give it more views. And companies do
Speaker 1: this thing where everyone within a social media company that
Speaker 1: works for one you know, will when they post for
Speaker 1: a client, they'll tell all of their employees, hey, comment
Speaker 1: on this post because if it gets lots of if
Speaker 1: it gets lots of comments in the first twenty minutes,
Speaker 1: it will double the amount of views it gets.
Speaker 3: Fuck TikTok. I can't wait. I hope it gets banned.
Speaker 1: Isn't it getting banned? I disagree with anything about the band.
Speaker 1: I don't even know how to.
Speaker 3: Congress past to ban TikTok, to pass the bill to
Speaker 3: ban TikTok because of Chinese.
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly, they're stealing your information because.
Speaker 1: That it's melting people's brains and making young girls kill themselves.
Speaker 4: No, it's it's that too. It's because they trace all
Speaker 4: of the steps that you take on your phone and
Speaker 4: they start studying people and then it influences thestagram.
Speaker 3: Is it?
Speaker 1: Are they not stealing data?
Speaker 3: We can all trust? He's fine, he's an American, a
Speaker 3: colt America is a white blooded American male.
Speaker 1: And thought they were banning TikTok because it's about the naive.
Speaker 1: I thought it was because they are concerned about people's
Speaker 1: mental health.
Speaker 2: No, they're not Chinese.
Speaker 1: That's what I believe that Ikea was cutting their costs
Speaker 1: because they cared about the consumer.
Speaker 3: Congress was upset that Matt Raife blew up so much,
Speaker 3: and so they said, we have to do something about this.
Speaker 1: It's why is this an issue now? Like, wasn't this
Speaker 1: the big issue when it first came out? Everyone was like,
Speaker 1: the it's fine, we don't care, it's too entertaining.
Speaker 3: Well, it's legally perilous to say that a company must divest,
Speaker 3: like the government forcing a company divest, But The argument
Speaker 3: is that the Byte Dance, which owns TikTok, is going
Speaker 3: to sell all of or give all of Americans data
Speaker 3: to the Chinese government upon request because they can't say
Speaker 3: no because they're a Chinese company under the brutal Chinese regime,
Speaker 3: and they're going to use that information to spread propaganda.
Speaker 3: And don't they.
Speaker 1: Already have all the data they've gotten so far, Like
Speaker 1: even if we banned it right now, it just means
Speaker 1: not more data. It doesn't mean they have to give
Speaker 1: back the data they've already collected. Right enough, they'd be like, yeah,
Speaker 1: we're good, we're so far.
Speaker 3: They said that they're not giving up any data to
Speaker 3: the government. But you know, I mean, like if you.
Speaker 1: Banned it right now and then the Chinese there's still people,
Speaker 1: they would still have it.
Speaker 4: Like I don't have TikTok, so like they would still
Speaker 4: want my information, I.
Speaker 1: Know, but they're not going to You're not going on
Speaker 1: anytime soon. Like I feel like everyone who's on TikTok
Speaker 1: is on it except young kids. Will keep I'm not
Speaker 1: on it, Yeah, I'm not on it right the young kids.
Speaker 1: That's what it is.
Speaker 4: New new customers.
Speaker 1: You know, the world is ending in like twenty years anyway,
Speaker 1: who cares how it all goes down? That would you
Speaker 1: not quit saying it? Because I'm not gonna quit. I
Speaker 1: just think it's so insane that anyone thinks things are
Speaker 1: gonna be okay.
Speaker 2: There's hope where you just have to have that hope.
Speaker 2: It's like faith, you just have to have.
Speaker 1: It so blind blind help with no science behind it,
Speaker 1: except all the science is really just thought that though,
Speaker 1: like for so happens, but I go, someone's got to
Speaker 1: be right at some point, and also you know, like
Speaker 1: someone will be right. We're not gonna be around forever.
Speaker 1: But things are seemed really I mean, I haven't been
Speaker 1: around when people said it before, but it doesn't seem well,
Speaker 1: we don't have winters anymore. Everyone.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but that's fine. It's incredibly narcissistic to think that
Speaker 3: where the ones that are going to experience the apocalypse,
Speaker 3: you know, gonna be right. It's probably not gonna be Yes,
Speaker 3: it probably gonna be a few generations from now. I
Speaker 3: mean we're not we might have like, oh no it's
Speaker 3: a little hot in New York in October.
Speaker 1: They're already there.
Speaker 3: Yeah it is, we're gonna have that we're gonna be uncomfortable,
Speaker 3: but that's not the apocalypse, all right, all right.
Speaker 1: I just know my building did not have hot water
Speaker 1: last week and I got a little taste of what's.
Speaker 2: The whole building?
Speaker 1: Yeah, for a couple of days, and I was just like,
Speaker 1: what would this be like?
Speaker 2: They you mean everyone would have their own water heater
Speaker 2: in this building?
Speaker 1: Are you being facetious?
Speaker 2: No, I'm being serious. I guess sounds crazy that one
Speaker 2: big tank is taking I guess.
Speaker 1: So something was going on with it. So we didn't
Speaker 1: have hot water, which I did not care about. I
Speaker 1: was very understanding about things happened, deal with it.
Speaker 3: I just didn't take a shower, no shower.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I didn't do sink sink shower. I did
Speaker 1: a little of that, but I think it didn't boil
Speaker 1: one day because it was Yeah, I just didn't care.
Speaker 1: I was just gonna be sinky for one day. And
Speaker 1: I've discovered this new deodorant that makes you truly odorless, odorless.
Speaker 1: It's natural. It's called Purely Great. Chris discovered it wore
Speaker 1: a little jar your on Amazon. Purely Great. It's charcoal
Speaker 1: and you have to it has comes with a ladle
Speaker 1: and you have to put the ladle in and you
Speaker 1: stir it and then you put it on your armpit
Speaker 1: and then you have to rub it in with your fingers.
Speaker 1: But I'm not joking. You odorless, Yeah, you don't stink
Speaker 1: for like two days.
Speaker 3: I don't trust that. Wow, I don't trust the charcoal trend.
Speaker 3: I don't get you try to ban it. I would
Speaker 3: think that that Biden should ban charcoal. There's like charcoal soap.
Speaker 3: Now there's charcoal toothpaste. Why all of a sudden, are
Speaker 3: we like, oh, charcoal is safe for you? It's black.
Speaker 4: Isn't a real charcoal like from the grill?
Speaker 1: Or is it something else? Well? Is better than an
Speaker 1: aluminum which has been proven to cause cancer in your armpits?
Speaker 3: Like it's yes, Well, we just haven't done the studies.
Speaker 3: We haven't done this. A little bit of natural it's
Speaker 3: it's a periodic element.
Speaker 1: Well, I was talking to someone this weekend about smoking
Speaker 1: weed and how we used to just smoke it out
Speaker 1: of pens and oh god, pipes, sugar free, sugar free
Speaker 1: red bull cans, and you would just light aluminum on
Speaker 1: fire and then breathing, or a big pen, just light
Speaker 1: it on fire and then breathing. Im, no, but there's plastic.
Speaker 1: Do you think anyone should burn plastic? And then inhale
Speaker 1: it no deeply, like no, it's it's just so insane.
Speaker 1: She says no, and then I mean no o COVID.
Speaker 1: I was smoking out of this like rubber pipe that
Speaker 1: I got from Amazon, because.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I remember this the one.
Speaker 1: Yeah, don't use that if you ever find it in
Speaker 1: your house, okay, because I left it there, but it
Speaker 1: is I don't know that's rubber. You're burning plastic, yeah,
Speaker 1: and you're breathing. But I got it because I was like,
Speaker 1: I'm just tired of breaking things. Oh and I just
Speaker 1: you could it could tip over, and I'm just a
Speaker 1: clumsy person, so things are always shattering. But yeah, I
Speaker 1: just got like, but I've told the story before, but
Speaker 1: I smoked weed with someone out of a surfree red
Speaker 1: bullcan on the road. Okay, and I eight years later,
Speaker 1: this person is a comedian that I ran. I ran
Speaker 1: into later and I was like, oh my god, remember
Speaker 1: when we smoked weed out of a red bull can.
Speaker 1: You showed me that trick. I was like, that is
Speaker 1: so crazy. We did that. We were inhaling aluminum and
Speaker 1: he goes I still do I have one with me tonight,
Speaker 1: he goes, and I go, oh. He goes, Actually, I
Speaker 1: can't not smoke weed with without a red BULLCN. It's
Speaker 1: like it's the only way. And I go, well, you're
Speaker 1: addicted to aluminum. Now, yeah, He's like, I get headaches
Speaker 1: if I don't smoke it out of You didn't say that,
Speaker 1: But I'm like the fact that he's eight years later
Speaker 1: an adult man.
Speaker 2: I thought you were going to say he came down
Speaker 2: with something very serious. I mean he probably will eventually.
Speaker 2: You can't be smoking. You can't be lighting aluminum on
Speaker 2: fire and breathing in. I didn't even know about that,
Speaker 2: to be honest, what.
Speaker 1: Do you mean. It's not that you didn't know, you know,
Speaker 1: you just didn't think. No, I don't know about aluminum.
Speaker 1: You would think that lighting aluminum on fire and breathing
Speaker 1: in that would be good.
Speaker 2: He just never thought about it, to be honest.
Speaker 1: But that's what I'm saying. You you know that breathing.
Speaker 1: You would say, do you have kids go hang out
Speaker 1: by an aluminum burning No, I would from that that
Speaker 1: would be toxic.
Speaker 2: Thought about the aluminum part of the whole.
Speaker 3: Thing, Julie would be great in a deposition. She is
Speaker 3: taking these questions. I don't know anything about that.
Speaker 2: Well, I I really know.
Speaker 1: I don't think I knew it, but I thought it.
Speaker 2: I never even thought.
Speaker 1: Well, that's the fun, that's what I'm well, that's why
Speaker 1: it's humorous that we were doing this without thinking at all. Still,
Speaker 1: and if you give, if you think about it even
Speaker 1: a little bit, it's horrifying, even lighting glass on fire,
Speaker 1: her glass.
Speaker 2: Pipes already aluminum in my mouth just thinking about it.
Speaker 1: You're well, you're a one. Remember, I'm just saying that
Speaker 1: you're a one that does nothing to do with anything.
Speaker 2: Oh, that's right, she comes.
Speaker 1: No, I was a three, I am a three. You're
Speaker 1: a one. I'm a one.
Speaker 2: I thought I was a three. I was looking at
Speaker 2: the results. I'm going, this is I told you, this
Speaker 2: isn't me.
Speaker 1: Right, one, you're a one. I thought I was a three.
Speaker 3: Yeah, going around acting like a three.
Speaker 2: I've been acting like a three.
Speaker 1: Well I've been mad. I'm like, that's not me, just
Speaker 1: like a one. Because you ones want things to be
Speaker 1: right and correct. It's this and it's this. It's black
Speaker 1: and white. This is wrong and this is right, and
Speaker 1: I and another thing about ones. What you don't get
Speaker 1: mad because you can't even though I know one's gone
Speaker 1: does you can't. You can't admit you're wrong. It's really
Speaker 1: impossible for you to admit that you have made an
Speaker 1: error at some point. And when you do, when you
Speaker 1: are faced with it where it's like very obvious, where
Speaker 1: you're in a car accident and like let's say you
Speaker 1: were texting, so it's like obvious to you that you
Speaker 1: did something wrong, you can't fucking handle it. You go
Speaker 1: into a depression. So if you've in your life, whenever
Speaker 1: you've been really sad, it's and this is me talking.
Speaker 1: I've read like one one infographic about you, So this
Speaker 1: is me Just I don't know what I'm talking about really,
Speaker 1: but I think that ones, when they are faced with
Speaker 1: actually having done something wrong and there's proof behind it
Speaker 1: and they can't deny it and they can't you know,
Speaker 1: avoid it, they really suffer because to them, they want
Speaker 1: to be perfect it For me, what's important? For threes, I.
Speaker 2: Feel like that's not me either.
Speaker 1: Well, see this is this is you being one that's
Speaker 1: not me. That can't be true. But I'm I'm never wrong. Wait,
Speaker 1: when was the less time you were wrong. I've been
Speaker 1: wrong a lot.
Speaker 2: Okay, let's name one. I might have done something. Even today,
Speaker 2: I was saying, talking to your dad. We were taking
Speaker 2: a walk and he's like said something, and I was like,
Speaker 2: because usually we argue the whole way, our neighbors must
Speaker 2: think we.
Speaker 1: Are falling apart. Falling apart.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because we're kind of arguing every step of the
Speaker 2: way about what, just about everything. He's just says something
Speaker 2: and it's fucking me.
Speaker 1: And then I poor dad, We just like to go
Speaker 1: in the small.
Speaker 2: I said, he better not listen because he's gonna get hurt.
Speaker 3: No.
Speaker 1: The other day and Dad like could not find his
Speaker 1: dish on the menu this restaurant. They changed restaurants, like
Speaker 1: they changed locations. They got a new menu. And my
Speaker 1: dad's like, you guys get new menus. And the guy's like, ye, yes,
Speaker 1: there's a redesign of the menu, but it's all the
Speaker 1: same stuff. It's what the man said, but it was
Speaker 1: in Maybe No, I think it was true. He just
Speaker 1: didn't really.
Speaker 2: Speak and they raise their trust.
Speaker 1: Me, Oh well we did. No one was questioning that.
Speaker 1: Whenever we go to dinner, I'm just like Mom, she goes, well,
Speaker 1: this seventy ninety nine. For that, I go, I'm buying.
Speaker 1: Don't look at the prices, it doesn't matter, get what
Speaker 1: you want, don't but you can't help yourself. I can't
Speaker 1: help myself. I got all the prices. But Dad was like,
Speaker 1: couldn't find his dish on the menu. And the waiter
Speaker 1: came over and we had already been looking for fifteen minutes.
Speaker 1: Dad can't even be involved in conversation because he is
Speaker 1: so desperately trying to find this thing. He's like, I
Speaker 1: know it had snap peas, and I go, let's try
Speaker 1: to like, say what you remember did it have rice
Speaker 1: on the side or was the were there noodles in it?
Speaker 1: Because that's like, that's an easy way to distinguish where
Speaker 1: on the menu it would be. And he's like, uh,
Speaker 1: it was rice on the side. So then we go
Speaker 1: to that section. I'm like, pretty much, Dad, you can
Speaker 1: make anything you want here. Just say the vegetables you want,
Speaker 1: say the meat you want, say the kind of song,
Speaker 1: and boom, you got it. But he was very angry
Speaker 1: that he couldn't find it. And then the waiter came
Speaker 1: over after fifteen minutes of him already looking and not
Speaker 1: finding it, and I'm just like, we gotta go. So
Speaker 1: I ordered, you ordered, and then it gets to Dad
Speaker 1: and Dad's like, well, I'm looking for this thing. And
Speaker 1: then we go, well, you're just gonna have to come
Speaker 1: up with something else, and Dad goes, hold on, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna find it. Keeps looking for it, and I was
Speaker 1: just like, we gotta go.
Speaker 2: Dad, what number is he? We gotta give him the test?
Speaker 1: Oh well, I sent you the test the other night
Speaker 1: because I wanted you to do it.
Speaker 2: He haven't gotten to it.
Speaker 1: It's okay. You guys are so busy fighting throughout the neighborhood.
Speaker 1: All right, we'll be back with more show after this
Speaker 1: and we're back. I what was I gonna say? Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: so what are you arguing about throughout the neighborhood? And
Speaker 1: just I mean anything.
Speaker 2: I just don't want to hear anything negative about this
Speaker 2: guy's lawn with his sprays, for sure.
Speaker 3: Oh.
Speaker 1: Dad is an environmentalist. Yeah, he's very conscious of Like
Speaker 1: this guy's just leaving his car running. Oh god, that's
Speaker 1: for you. Ever leave your car running and you're just
Speaker 1: sitting in your car and it's running. I just want
Speaker 1: you to know that somewhere my dad has a pain
Speaker 1: in his neck because you're doing that.
Speaker 2: He like can sense it's very He's gonna he's gonna
Speaker 2: say something to me, for sure, and he might give
Speaker 2: a little grimace to the person in the car.
Speaker 1: He'll say something.
Speaker 3: Pro leave the car running. Most dads are like, you
Speaker 3: gotta warm it up. You can't just let you can't.
Speaker 2: Start it, boy, No, try to warm that car up
Speaker 2: before you get in.
Speaker 1: No, that is just burning fossil fuels. And and as
Speaker 1: a kid, one of my earliest memories is dad saying,
Speaker 1: if you leave a lamp on, just picture a smokestack
Speaker 1: pouring pollution into the air because you left that lamp on.
Speaker 1: Otherwise there would be no smoke coming out of that
Speaker 1: smoke sacke because you were too lazy to go over
Speaker 1: and switch off that thing. A bird is now gonna
Speaker 1: fly through the smoke and start coughing and crying and die.
Speaker 1: You say that part, But that's like my yeah, and
Speaker 1: that's my fault.
Speaker 2: But that's this is our neighborhood walk because everyone in
Speaker 2: our neighborhood lives in a McMansion but us, because they're
Speaker 2: all knocked down houses, but ours didn't get knocked down,
Speaker 2: and they all have perfect lawns. I mean because they have,
Speaker 2: they get spray on them.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and Dad can't handle Oh he's he went run
Speaker 1: off to the streams.
Speaker 2: Well he did go. He ordered flyers to go on
Speaker 2: the doors. What ordered flyers to go on everybody's door? So,
Speaker 2: I mean, wait, wait, he's gonna go fly or those
Speaker 2: neighborhood he was gonna do that. They're still sitting in.
Speaker 1: His drawer, doesn't The thing is he doesn't understand that. That
Speaker 1: just makes people want, Oh.
Speaker 2: My god, Mary, we would be lambastard in the neighbor.
Speaker 1: What about the sign Dad wants to get h Can
Speaker 1: we talk, Brian. I don't think you can handle this. Noah,
Speaker 1: I know, I know you can't. I don't think anyone can.
Speaker 1: I can't handle this. And I am quite a little
Speaker 1: like I want to stir shit up passive aggressively. I
Speaker 1: love a passive aggressive I'm calling you out bumper sticker
Speaker 1: that like lights people up when they know they're being
Speaker 1: called out, but that you're not exactly saying it to them.
Speaker 1: I'm a little passive aggressive bitch. But Dad wants to.
Speaker 3: Put a sign that says happy Saint Patrick's Day.
Speaker 1: I want you to guess what my dad wants to
Speaker 1: put up a sign about. And we're not going to
Speaker 1: get political beyond this, but just you know where my
Speaker 1: dad stands politically. From this conversation, what do you think
Speaker 1: my dad wants to put on a sign? What is
Speaker 1: the most uh inflammatory thing you could possibly write on
Speaker 1: a sign? And let me just say that in my neighborhood,
Speaker 1: there was a house of Trump voters that put up
Speaker 1: in you know, four.
Speaker 2: Years ago, banner across a huge.
Speaker 1: Banner that said what did it say? It's no more bullshit?
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, oh yeah that was So.
Speaker 1: The neighborhood is okay with profanity on signs and like
Speaker 1: and uncomfortable words on signs. So what do you think
Speaker 1: my dad wants to get if it said Trump is blank,
Speaker 1: a blank blank? What would what do you think my
Speaker 1: dad wants to put up a sign in this front
Speaker 1: yard that says Trump is a.
Speaker 3: Blank raging homosexual. Well you got the right word, right, right,
Speaker 3: raging lunatic.
Speaker 1: Rapist is a rapist? He wants to have that or
Speaker 1: a front yard and want the house to get burned down.
Speaker 1: Do you guys want to be a teardown? No, because
Speaker 1: you'll be like I know. I'm like, you cannot do that.
Speaker 1: You it's it's it's so said, it's in the area.
Speaker 3: He took that sign and put it on other people's lawns.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean the flyers are. It's not going to
Speaker 1: prove they would know who we put that. It's just
Speaker 1: I really like it when Dad told me that he
Speaker 1: wanted to do that. He's not going to, but it
Speaker 1: made me feel like Dad takes after me a little bit.
Speaker 1: Like Dad's learned would.
Speaker 2: Say go ahead, he'd be oh, thank god, he would
Speaker 2: order it. He's anti Trump, right, he's I'm not letting
Speaker 2: him celebrating this.
Speaker 1: He wants people to.
Speaker 2: Want everyone you can do what you want.
Speaker 1: So that's I couldn't even I asked for Dad's Trump
Speaker 1: thought of the Day, like I used to a couple
Speaker 1: of weeks ago, and he had. He told me that,
Speaker 1: and I couldn't post it on my stories because I
Speaker 1: was like, I don't want to get you will be
Speaker 1: flagged for something. This is this is too scary to me.
Speaker 1: But Dad's insane.
Speaker 2: We're doing it and we can't do it.
Speaker 1: No, you're not going to. You absolutely cannot do that.
Speaker 1: I care for my home, I care for your safety.
Speaker 1: I care for those jewels that are hidden that you'll
Speaker 1: never find even after down.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I might find him.
Speaker 1: So I the best thing happened to me this morning ever,
Speaker 1: and I think everyone can agree that this is the
Speaker 1: greatest when this happens. So, yes, I I'm trying out
Speaker 1: new like workouts around my area because now I'm fit
Speaker 1: and I feel like I can finally like enter into
Speaker 1: places where there's classes because now I can like not
Speaker 1: be the worst one in there. So so I sign
Speaker 1: up for this place near me. I'm not going to
Speaker 1: say the name of it. I probably will at some point,
Speaker 1: but I was going. I signed up for an eight
Speaker 1: am class, which who you? Who made that?
Speaker 2: Girl? I'll say, get up and go.
Speaker 1: And there's something in me that when I make a
Speaker 1: plan to go to my workout class later in the week,
Speaker 1: it's I'm like, it's because it's most likely i'll go.
Speaker 1: There's an eighty percent chance i'll go, So it means
Speaker 1: I've done it. There's like an achievement in setting setting
Speaker 1: the calendar to do it. Okay, So I did that.
Speaker 1: I woke up at seven eight breakfast really bleary eyed.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't even have time to get coffee.
Speaker 1: By the time I was ready to go, I was like,
Speaker 1: I'm just going down. I went down. It's within walking
Speaker 1: of my building. So I walk in at seven point
Speaker 1: fifty nine boom, ready to go. I'm new it's my
Speaker 1: first time here. And she was like, oh, then you
Speaker 1: got an email telling you you need to come like
Speaker 1: twenty minutes early to learn the equipment. And I go,
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. I do know that I need to
Speaker 1: do that. Why didn't I think of that. I'm so sorry?
Speaker 1: And I go and she goes, oh, well maybe we can.
Speaker 1: I go, you should, I should probably come back another time, right,
Speaker 1: and she was like yeah, And so I didn't have
Speaker 1: to work out because even though I.
Speaker 4: Would have, and you showed up, so it's not like
Speaker 4: you maybe go in for you and then you didn't.
Speaker 4: You were a no show.
Speaker 1: Yes, and so she and she was really kind and
Speaker 1: was like, and I won't charge you for this one
Speaker 1: because I bought three sessions for fifty bucks that I
Speaker 1: have to do within two weeks period. Good deal.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you bet you are.
Speaker 1: But she she said, well, we won't take that class
Speaker 1: off her. She was like, you're you're good. We'll throw
Speaker 1: it back on and I was like, that is so nice.
Speaker 1: So I triumphantly didn't have to go to a class
Speaker 1: that I thought I would have to go to. But
Speaker 1: what is it. It's like pilates but like hard. Oh
Speaker 1: it's a class where it's like it's it's a well,
Speaker 1: let me tell you. I went to another class last
Speaker 1: night because I am experimenting. I went to my first
Speaker 1: Orange Theory. Oh yeah, Brian, have you been.
Speaker 3: No, never to Orange Theory?
Speaker 1: But uh, do you know about it?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Isn't the theory that he's a rapist?
Speaker 2: You're that's his Yeah, that's his theory.
Speaker 1: I did not know much about this class. I walk
Speaker 1: by it all the time because there's one near my apartment,
Speaker 1: and I see people coming in and out and looking
Speaker 1: really triumphant and like there's like a camaraderie I sense
Speaker 1: going on in there. So I, you know, I just
Speaker 1: was like, I signed up for it, and I went
Speaker 1: last night, and I got there early enough to like
Speaker 1: learn the basics. They were so nice. They so what
Speaker 1: you do is you put an armband on and it
Speaker 1: does your heart rate, and then throughout the class you're
Speaker 1: on a screen with a bunch of other people and
Speaker 1: their heart rates are up and their calories and their
Speaker 1: levels of energy percentage of energy. That is, so you're
Speaker 1: trying to get in this zone, the orange zone, which
Speaker 1: is why it's orange theory. And now there's also a
Speaker 1: red zone, and so you always want to be you
Speaker 1: don't want to be in the red The red zone
Speaker 1: is when you're no, you want to be in it
Speaker 1: a little bit, but then you want to go back
Speaker 1: to to the orange.
Speaker 3: It's too much exertion. Red zone.
Speaker 1: No red zone is good. It's like when you're doing sprints,
Speaker 1: but you shouldn't stay there. And where you're gonna burn
Speaker 1: fat based on their theory is like in the orange
Speaker 1: zone where you've recover. You're recovering out of the red zone,
Speaker 1: but you're not totally like just limp, you know, like
Speaker 1: you're still giving effort. We all know this, like interval
Speaker 1: training and stuff. So maybe we don't all know this,
Speaker 1: but sure three out of four of us know this.
Speaker 1: So I but it was it's so fucking confusing Orange theory.
Speaker 1: I went there in time, but it was just there.
Speaker 1: There's too much going on. But I will say that
Speaker 1: if you are someone who is looking for community, is
Speaker 1: looking for friends, is looking to have enthusiasm in their
Speaker 1: life and goal setting and mild competitiveness with like a
Speaker 1: flirty theater camp vibe. Orange theory is for you if
Speaker 1: you went to theater camp and you don't do theater anymore,
Speaker 1: but you miss that dorky camaraderie that you got from
Speaker 1: doing theater. I'm it is so which I loved. I
Speaker 1: loved that part of their I was a dork, Like
Speaker 1: I'm a dork now. Being a swifty is kind of
Speaker 1: being a dork, like just being obsessed with something and
Speaker 1: like having the secret language like you're a dork and
Speaker 1: I mean that lovingly.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 1: But Orange theory.
Speaker 4: Is for people's trying to lot of that out, like
Speaker 4: in a lot of group workout or like some kind
Speaker 4: of like gym stuff. I know what happens in jiu jitsu,
Speaker 4: and I feel like it probably happens in CrossFit a lot.
Speaker 1: Yes, it felt like CrossFit to me. I don't know
Speaker 1: anything about CrossFit, but it felt like that's the closest
Speaker 1: I felt to it of this like group of people
Speaker 1: who all kind of knew each other. There was like
Speaker 1: a challenge yesterday to do the mile run who could
Speaker 1: do it the fastest, and everyone was supportive, but like
Speaker 1: there was a kind of a competition going on between
Speaker 1: two guys that I could see that I thought thought
Speaker 1: was very interesting. And then but there was a lot
Speaker 1: of like go go go and support and like if
Speaker 1: I was someone who lacked friends and felt like that
Speaker 1: I spent too much time alone and I didn't have
Speaker 1: a community, I would have won one hundred percent be
Speaker 1: so into orange theory.
Speaker 2: Wait, man, are you on a treadmill trying to.
Speaker 1: So it's treadmill, it's floor weights, and it's rowing machine.
Speaker 1: So you just jump from one to the other and
Speaker 1: they kind of instruct you as you go what to
Speaker 1: do and you run around. My problem is I sorry,
Speaker 1: I have been training with Pilates, with an instructor who
Speaker 1: are like some of the best instructors in the world.
Speaker 1: They've trained all over the world to come back to
Speaker 1: Saint Louis to open the premiere Pilates gym, and it
Speaker 1: is and I forget the name of it. Now, why
Speaker 1: do I always forget what It's called? Ploate's Lab. Sorry,
Speaker 1: I know they're listening. Pilate's Lab is they don't give
Speaker 1: me a discount. This is not a paid advertisement, but
Speaker 1: Plotti's Lab is like there they do classical plates, so
Speaker 1: it is like the way Joseph Pilates designed it. And
Speaker 1: my body is being studied constantly. If I'm doing a
Speaker 1: rep of anything, it's like, okay, well you need to
Speaker 1: suck in your aps. Now you your big toe, put
Speaker 1: your big toe down, Like, can you imagine a workout
Speaker 1: where people are assessing your pinky toe is not in
Speaker 1: the place that should be when you're doing an arm workout.
Speaker 1: This is the level of precision and detail that I'm
Speaker 1: learning and ploties. So I go over to Orange Theory
Speaker 1: and they're like, now, do a plank push up. But
Speaker 1: then you know, just you know, you do a plank
Speaker 1: on one of like the on the ground, and then
Speaker 1: you take a weight and you do like this while
Speaker 1: you're in the plank and my lips are flying everywhere
Speaker 1: and my shoulders popping out of the socket. I have
Speaker 1: horrible form. My butt's right up in the air. I'm piking.
Speaker 1: There's no there's no plank and no one's no one's
Speaker 1: gonna say you're just on your own. It's better than
Speaker 1: nothing like there's it's certainly better to have bad form
Speaker 1: and to do the exercise then to do nothing, but
Speaker 1: I cannot be held accountable to have good form. And
Speaker 1: that is why I'm sending my mom to personal training
Speaker 1: three times a week. I just got her, my dad
Speaker 1: and her a gym membership yesterday for a year.
Speaker 2: Happy birthday, Thank you Nick and personal trainers.
Speaker 1: And I'm kidding. I'm a person train her three times
Speaker 1: a week because I want her to get an elderly woman.
Speaker 1: You need to have muscle or you're gonna die. Bones
Speaker 1: are deteriorating. Yes, yeah, so you need muscle. So my
Speaker 1: mom's gonna go to a trainer. And she keeps saying can't.
Speaker 1: I just go a couple of times and they teach
Speaker 1: me the ropes and I go no, because you won't.
Speaker 1: You won't stick to it.
Speaker 2: You're formally will though. I don't want you wasted, but
Speaker 2: you'll stick.
Speaker 1: You'll do the exercise, but your form will be bad
Speaker 1: unless you have someone watching you. Ow.
Speaker 2: I do need to know how to do this.
Speaker 1: Brian, Do you agree? Like? How do you you work
Speaker 1: out on your own? And I know that most people
Speaker 1: can't afford what I'm talking about, and I'm so grateful
Speaker 1: that I'm able to have someone moderating the bonny every
Speaker 1: second but what do you have trouble keeping good form
Speaker 1: when you're doing your stuff? How do you stay up
Speaker 1: with it?
Speaker 3: Well, I just want to say, if wasting money is
Speaker 3: the concern, then think about all the money that'll be
Speaker 3: wasted when you need to get one of those chairs
Speaker 3: installed on your staircase that automatically goes up right, or
Speaker 3: bring the groceries.
Speaker 2: In toilet next to my bed.
Speaker 3: Yeah, totally be a decade of save money if you
Speaker 3: just work out.
Speaker 2: I do know that Nikki.
Speaker 1: I always say to her, she goes, it's too much money,
Speaker 1: and I go, I would pay. I would give up
Speaker 1: ninety percent of my income if it meant you were
Speaker 1: going to live ten more years? Is that I will
Speaker 1: saying high? But who wouldn't do that for their mom
Speaker 1: to keep their mom around? If they like their mom?
Speaker 2: I will if you're.
Speaker 1: Good on the podcast, that means the hell. But I
Speaker 1: want to know that.
Speaker 3: So this is clo It's not even and I would
Speaker 3: definitely doubt. I would definitely give up five hundred dollars
Speaker 3: to keep my mom alive for tens No, I mean
Speaker 3: like I.
Speaker 1: Would if I could more and survive comfortably, I would
Speaker 1: give up all my money to save my parents to
Speaker 1: have my parents around ten more years, and that is
Speaker 1: what having them do do strength exercises will do. Well.
Speaker 2: I'm really excited. I need some upper body strength for sure,
Speaker 2: I'm really.
Speaker 1: But this doesn't mean you should be lifting anything. I
Speaker 1: don't want you to get I still want you to
Speaker 1: hire people to lift things for you. That's another thing
Speaker 1: I need to do.
Speaker 2: But move you know.
Speaker 1: I need to get you a gift certificate to Craigslist
Speaker 1: to just come over and pick up things for you.
Speaker 2: I could save you a bunch of money, Nikki.
Speaker 1: I can do it. I'm not paying that guy fifty
Speaker 1: bucks to come over here and hang this. I can
Speaker 1: do this. Brian, how do you keep form on when
Speaker 1: you do your Tom Brady workouts?
Speaker 3: Well, I worked at a gym when I was in
Speaker 3: high school, and I went to see personal trainers sometimes,
Speaker 3: so I feel like I can't. Obviously it's not like pilates,
Speaker 3: but I feel like I'm pretty good at looking in
Speaker 3: the mirror and assessing my own form as I go.
Speaker 3: You probably are, yeah, but it's obviously it's not perfect.
Speaker 3: And even if you know what your correct form is,
Speaker 3: it doesn't necessarily mean you're doing it right. Well, I followly.
Speaker 1: Now Instagram's serving up all of these reels of girls
Speaker 1: with amazing asses teaching me how to do the Russian
Speaker 1: squat or whatever it is to get the best butt. Okay,
Speaker 1: because there's like so many different muscles in your butt,
Speaker 1: and to get the ones that lift your butt, you
Speaker 1: have to do these really weird exercises where you put
Speaker 1: one foot up and then you I don't even understand it,
Speaker 1: but they all criticize each other about like the form
Speaker 1: and the form I and they go, look at this form,
Speaker 1: this is not right. Now this is the right form,
Speaker 1: and you could get involved with I could never tell
Speaker 1: the difference between these two things, kidding, And it's so
Speaker 1: especially intuitive.
Speaker 3: The other people who don't even agree on what the
Speaker 3: right form is. Yeah a lot.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's girls everywhere, and I think the right form
Speaker 1: is filling out a form at a med spot where
Speaker 1: you get things injected and ass to make yourself out
Speaker 1: or sucked out of your stomach and then put in
Speaker 1: your butt. Not everyone's doing it, but like I, I
Speaker 1: just it just would never occur to me that some
Speaker 1: of the stuff just you just have to tense your
Speaker 1: whole body all the time. I my God, I've talked
Speaker 1: about it enough. I'm just and I have Yeah, but
Speaker 1: it's my life right now.
Speaker 2: I'm so excited about going today.
Speaker 1: Yeah. But if you if you want community, join Orange Theory. Okay,
Speaker 1: I did run a seven thirty nine mile, which I
Speaker 1: was really proud of it. Forever.
Speaker 3: It's not bad?
Speaker 1: Was that more than everyone said? No, there was a
Speaker 1: guy that ran like a six twenty something seven seven
Speaker 1: thirty nine, whoa yeah, And there was oh shout out
Speaker 1: to the girl who's an instructor there that was like
Speaker 1: helping me throughout the whole class and telling me what
Speaker 1: to do because I could not understand what the next
Speaker 1: step was. And then I started going rogue and doing
Speaker 1: my own thing. So they wanted me to go back
Speaker 1: to the rower, but I was like, the rower doesn't
Speaker 1: make sense to me. I have bad form, I know
Speaker 1: I do. I'm never gonna get this, so I'm just
Speaker 1: gonna stay on the treadmill and do my own thing.
Speaker 1: And then at the end, we were all stretching and
Speaker 1: I just didn't feel like being on the ground. It
Speaker 1: just looked felt dirty to me. So I just left early,
Speaker 1: and they did say we're gonna all get a picture afterwards,
Speaker 1: and so I ducked out of that picture they wanted.
Speaker 1: There was a part of me that did want to
Speaker 1: be in the picture. Oh yeah, I mean, wait, good
Speaker 1: is that picture? But it's no good? But it's what
Speaker 1: it does is it makes people feel like they're a
Speaker 1: part of something. We just all accomplished this thing. Like
Speaker 1: when you go into the class, you high five the
Speaker 1: guy on the way. Do they do it every class?
Speaker 1: I don't know. It was a special day. They were like,
Speaker 1: you came on a special day. No no, no, no, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: okay they did it. I saw them take a picture
Speaker 1: of the class before mine. Oh okay, No, it wasn't that. Okay.
Speaker 4: It's like a sticker that you get at the end.
Speaker 1: Yeah, an achievement sticker, little star. It does feel good
Speaker 1: when you look up and you see all your stats.
Speaker 1: But I gotta say I kind of know what calories
Speaker 1: are and like how you burn them and how much
Speaker 1: you're burning and right, how much have their numbers are
Speaker 1: a little wonky. It's like a skinny mirror.
Speaker 2: Are they on the low end or no?
Speaker 1: They're trying to make you feel like you did you
Speaker 1: burned twelve hundred calories.
Speaker 3: But taking our class.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I saw a couple of people in the class
Speaker 1: before me burn like eight hundred calories and I go, no,
Speaker 1: they there's were they here for three hours?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Non stop? Like I just I call BS on that,
Speaker 1: but I do. It's still a good workout. It was fun.
Speaker 1: Will I be back? No, because I don't.
Speaker 2: I wondered if you'd go there because it's so well.
Speaker 1: I just I don't. I think I'll be back because
Speaker 1: I just felt too sloppy in my in my own
Speaker 1: workout I did, I felt like I'm gonna get injured.
Speaker 1: But I think it would be good for someone, It
Speaker 1: would be good for I just know too much now,
Speaker 1: And that's no disrespect to anyone who's gone. I think
Speaker 1: it actually is a really fun thing to do.
Speaker 3: Just a little too lase fair for me.
Speaker 1: It is because I just can't be trusted. I have
Speaker 1: bad posture, I've got really flexible joints. Things are just
Speaker 1: willy nilly. I've got no ass, and if you try
Speaker 1: to make me work my ass, every other muscle in
Speaker 1: my body will start working before that ass. Wow, Like
Speaker 1: it's I don't even know what my ass muscle feels like,
Speaker 1: Like I don't even know how to clench it a squat.
Speaker 1: You can't feel your but I feel I feel like
Speaker 1: the sides of my butt, but that inner up the
Speaker 1: up the rear but part like now I can feel
Speaker 1: it because I've done plates. Yeah, but before I had
Speaker 1: no fucking clue. And yeah, it's just like I'm I'm
Speaker 1: not really in touch with my feelings in my body.
Speaker 1: Like that's why I was going to this somatic therapist
Speaker 1: lady for a while to be like, how does that
Speaker 1: feel in your body? And I'd go, I don't know
Speaker 1: what people feel things in their body when they're angry. Where, yeah,
Speaker 1: where do you What do you feel when you're like
Speaker 1: feeling angry? Do you feel it? Oh? You? Noah's pointing
Speaker 1: to her solar plexus.
Speaker 2: That's where I feel mine too.
Speaker 1: And then I get a rush in my face? Are
Speaker 1: you a rush in your face? And my like so
Speaker 1: when you get.
Speaker 2: Angry, I think that's where it all goes right in here,
Speaker 2: it heats something.
Speaker 4: It's like a heater furnace, Bryan.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and also my head a little bit like I'll
Speaker 3: I'll get a little uh like foggy in the head
Speaker 3: and I'll get in the chest tightness and yeah, blood
Speaker 3: pressure is going up. That's what that means.
Speaker 1: Dude. I am like this girl Heidi Pleab, who I've
Speaker 1: been following on YouTube, who I talked about last week.
Speaker 1: I'm not joking you. I'm you if you're interested in
Speaker 1: self help and getting better and fixing the things about
Speaker 1: you that are like undercurrents are kind of fucking up
Speaker 1: your life in pattern ways. She is unlocking some shit.
Speaker 1: Last night I listened to this talk get this. So
Speaker 1: when you so, okay, do you subscribe to No? No,
Speaker 1: that's off. I mean you probably don't have YouTube premium,
Speaker 1: so you're gonna watch some ads.
Speaker 3: But that's fine.
Speaker 1: I have you. There's ads for you, right yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: so it's free, but you just gotta watch it.
Speaker 2: Got okay.
Speaker 1: So there's this thing called limerence. Do you guys know
Speaker 1: what limerence is.
Speaker 3: I've heard that word. I don't remember what it means.
Speaker 1: Its catchy little lowing my mind, a limerick. I thought it.
Speaker 1: Sorry to let you finish your joke. Limerence is when
Speaker 1: it's an obsessive it's usually romantic, a romantic feeling, but
Speaker 1: it doesn't have to be. And it's when you have
Speaker 1: like an obsessive desire to win over or like you're
Speaker 1: in love. It feels like being in love. It feels
Speaker 1: like the beginning of a relationship, like think Pete Davidson,
Speaker 1: Ariana Grande, like all obsessed with each other, all over
Speaker 1: each other, sustainable obsession phase. Yeah, but a lot of
Speaker 1: times people have it when the other person doesn't reciprocate.
Speaker 1: So it's like before before you eat, like you might
Speaker 1: have a crush on someone. It feels like a crush.
Speaker 1: But the difference between a crush and Limerens from what
Speaker 1: she says, is the obsessiveness. So if you're someone like me,
Speaker 1: who if you have a crush on someone, you like
Speaker 1: to like close your eyes and think about what it
Speaker 1: would be like to be with them, and like you
Speaker 1: like let your mind if you are stuck in fantasy
Speaker 1: about anyone, either romantically or like how a job is
Speaker 1: gonna go or how, oh my god, I'm getting to
Speaker 1: see my parents this weekend, how our weekend is gonna go,
Speaker 1: and it never ends up matching what you imagine it
Speaker 1: to be, and you kind of get high on this
Speaker 1: kind of supply of fantasizing if you relate to this,
Speaker 1: which I so relate to this so much. One of
Speaker 1: My favorite things is when I would used to have
Speaker 1: a crush when I was single, and I would see
Speaker 1: the potential and I would just go on a plane.
Speaker 1: My favorite thing would be being on a plane listening
Speaker 1: to music that made me think about the crush, and
Speaker 1: then thinking about things that were gonna happen in our.
Speaker 4: Already married like and just just because you had a
Speaker 4: good interaction.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like not yes and married but not. I wouldn't
Speaker 1: even go that far. I would go to like when
Speaker 1: he finally decides to show up at my door, and
Speaker 1: then what that looks like, and then we go to
Speaker 1: dinner after that, and then after that we go and
Speaker 1: we watch a movie like and just thinking of the
Speaker 1: warmth that I would feel inside that this person is
Speaker 1: so perfect for me and we're getting along in all
Speaker 1: these ways that I've never even gotten along with someone before,
Speaker 1: and it never ever matches up because there's no one
Speaker 1: like that out there. Well, what it does is it
Speaker 1: which I did not know. I always just thought it's fantasy. Like,
Speaker 1: I know it's fantasy. I know that I'm exaggerating this
Speaker 1: person's personality to be perfect. But what it does is
Speaker 1: it makes it so you can never really have a
Speaker 1: good relationship with that person, because when you are with them,
Speaker 1: you will always be disappointed. You were always waiting for
Speaker 1: this other person to show up. You cannot be present
Speaker 1: with them because you're actually you end up. She even
Speaker 1: talks about in a relationship she was in, she had
Speaker 1: so much limerence for this person. She had fantasized about
Speaker 1: what they would be like. When she would be around him,
Speaker 1: she would be so disappointed that she would like, couldn't
Speaker 1: wait till it was over and she could go back
Speaker 1: to her fantasy of him. So she couldn't even enjoy
Speaker 1: being with him because she was like enjoying the fantasy
Speaker 1: part of it more, but she needed to keep seeing
Speaker 1: him in order to keep the fantasy going. So we
Speaker 1: do this a lot, not even just in like romantic relationships.
Speaker 1: We even do it with what you're supposed to do.
Speaker 1: So you don't have limerens, which is just you know,
Speaker 1: you tell me a lie about yourself. Yeah, you don't
Speaker 1: want limerens because it sets you up for failure. It
Speaker 1: makes it so you don't actually ever hear that person.
Speaker 1: And really love is understanding and understanding is love. So
Speaker 1: if you don't ever put yourself in a position to
Speaker 1: understand someone else's point of view, or you don't try to,
Speaker 1: like just accept them for who they are, and you're
Speaker 1: always envisioning this version of them in your head that
Speaker 1: is so perfect. You are going to fail them. They
Speaker 1: will not feel seen, they will withdraw, and they will
Speaker 1: not be attracted to you, and you won't get what
Speaker 1: you want because you are people have done it to you.
Speaker 1: Probably I was thinking, oh my god, people have done
Speaker 1: this to me before, where I get to know a
Speaker 1: guy who I can tell has had a lot of
Speaker 1: fantasies about me in his head, and then I feel like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I can't live up to this. I
Speaker 1: start to feel that way. Then I get insecure, but
Speaker 1: then I always walk away from it, being like, man,
Speaker 1: they just want it. They they I couldn't. I'm not
Speaker 1: as good as they. I'm not good enough. I'm not
Speaker 1: good enough for that because they seem to think I'm
Speaker 1: something else. And then so you're doing that to people
Speaker 1: if you ever fantasize. So I've had to stop these
Speaker 1: little little trips I take in my head almost on
Speaker 1: a dime, and not even romantically. I mean, like I've
Speaker 1: been doing some visualization about this big thing I have
Speaker 1: coming up where I'm like, I imagine myself fucking killing
Speaker 1: and just and and that's different because I think, because
Speaker 1: I struggle with, Okay, what's manifestation and then what's fantasy?
Speaker 1: Why are those different? Because manifesting is like living as
Speaker 1: if it already happened, and it's I think the difference
Speaker 1: is that manifestation feels awkward and fantasy feels real good.
Speaker 1: So for me to fantasize about me killing it at
Speaker 1: this thing feels really awkward to me. But I'm doing
Speaker 1: it because I know if it's hard to do, it's
Speaker 1: probably good. If it feels easy and soothing and you
Speaker 1: get a dopamine hit and you feel the direct relaxation
Speaker 1: down your spine, it's probably not good. Wow. And So
Speaker 1: the thing that she talked about that I couldn't that
Speaker 1: blew my mind was that if stop think, stop presenting
Speaker 1: to people, so to not to not set up people
Speaker 1: to disappoint you and to feel disappointing because of what
Speaker 1: you expect from them. Never never tell them thank you
Speaker 1: for something they didn't do. Only speak from a place
Speaker 1: of what you can judge. So, Mom, if I came
Speaker 1: to you and I was crying about something going on
Speaker 1: my life and you sat and listened. I can't say
Speaker 1: I should not say to you, thank you so much
Speaker 1: for being there for me and really understanding what I'm
Speaker 1: going through. That is me a that I do that
Speaker 1: you understood it. All I can thank you for is
Speaker 1: thank you for coming over to my apartment and looking
Speaker 1: at me when I talked and listening though, But I
Speaker 1: don't even know if you were listening unless I have
Speaker 1: actual evidence that you listened. Gotcha, You can't because that
Speaker 1: is setting me up to assume something about you and
Speaker 1: live in this limerence of like my mom and I
Speaker 1: had this like I can say it felt really good
Speaker 1: that you were here and that I perceived you as
Speaker 1: listening to me, because that's my truth. It's like you
Speaker 1: could only talk from a place of what you experience.
Speaker 1: But that blew my mind that you can't just like
Speaker 1: tell people like, thank you so much for for thank
Speaker 1: you so much for being such a good friend. They
Speaker 1: might not be such a good friend. They might just
Speaker 1: feel obligated to do that because you moved them into
Speaker 1: their house last week, so they're just fulfilling an obligation.
Speaker 1: They might not just be doing this out of being
Speaker 1: a good friend. You have to let them say so
Speaker 1: you can't. This will help your life to address the
Speaker 1: world as you observe it and not as or as
Speaker 1: you are experiencing it in facts that someone in the
Speaker 1: court of law would be like, Okay, yes, all we
Speaker 1: have proof of is that Julie came over and looked
Speaker 1: at her and appeared to be listening, right, But she
Speaker 1: just sat there and looked at her and said, uh
Speaker 1: huh wow after everything, But it doesn't we don't know.
Speaker 1: So you just you have to live in this world
Speaker 1: where you're kind of telling yourself the truth all the
Speaker 1: time about things. What do you think? Uh, I think
Speaker 1: that it sounds like, uh impossible. Yeah, it sounds really different.
Speaker 1: That's what she says. It literally is impossible to do. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because we are projecting our experience onto other things constantly
Speaker 1: and we don't even know it.
Speaker 2: We just wanted to be lovely and we wanted to
Speaker 2: be like, are that she's she is a good friend?
Speaker 1: Yes, we just assume it. But what you're doing is
Speaker 1: you're saying that she's a good friend, and then if
Speaker 1: she's not, if that's not her experience, but she feels
Speaker 1: like we don't know now I'm how many times have
Speaker 1: you been told Julie you're such a good friend? And
Speaker 1: you think I don't even like this woman? Course that well,
Speaker 1: you might like her more if she said thank you
Speaker 1: for showing up, Julie and didn't say thank you for
Speaker 1: being a good friend. Can do you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: thanks for showing up, Thanks, thanks for showing up today,
Speaker 1: thanks for helping me move this stove, as opposed to
Speaker 1: thanks for being such a good more for loving me
Speaker 1: so much, and you go, I don't love you at all,
Speaker 1: bitch like that drives you away from her, As opposed to,
Speaker 1: you might become closer to someone who just is calling
Speaker 1: out the things as they are and as you experience
Speaker 1: them too, just saying facts. I liked it. It was
Speaker 1: radical interesting. Yeah, Heidi pleab. If you want to check
Speaker 1: out what I'm talking about and actually hear a smart
Speaker 1: person discuss it, it's her video on liber limerens l
Speaker 1: I M E R E n CE. She's brilliant. I'm
Speaker 1: obsessed with this. Wow, We'll be back. So we are
Speaker 1: back on tour, Brian and I this weekend coming up Gary,
Speaker 1: Indiana Friday.
Speaker 3: Finally, Yes, Indiana. In a long time. But this is
Speaker 3: technically not really even Indiana. Gary is basically Chicago, Chicago,
Speaker 3: y yo, it is.
Speaker 1: That's where Michael Jackson's from.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, go go see his boyhood home you too, Yeah,
Speaker 2: where so many great things happen. A lot of things
Speaker 2: good happened there. Sure we know better.
Speaker 1: Just the word boyhood and Michael Jackson don't really go
Speaker 1: well together. But yeah, poor kid, Yeah, poor kid, poor thing,
Speaker 1: what he went through. Aren't you going to Cincinnati? Yes,
Speaker 1: Sintannie on Saturday, and then my mom and dad will
Speaker 1: also be there. So if you want to see Jules.
Speaker 2: And Eves.
Speaker 1: Snattie at the hard Rock Live. So we've got Gary,
Speaker 1: Indiana Friday night, Sary Indiana. You know there's a song
Speaker 1: about India, now I do. It's from Uh, don't tell
Speaker 1: me what I know?
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 1: You don't that. How do you plead?
Speaker 3: Do you?
Speaker 1: No? Cincinnati is gonna be great. Yeah, it's gonna be
Speaker 1: so fun. And I love staying at these hard rock
Speaker 1: casinos really, yeah, because like it's the everything's hard rock,
Speaker 1: everything's like themed. You were there at one, yeah? Was
Speaker 1: that the one?
Speaker 2: We got it a lobster dinner.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you were getting lobster, surf and turf baby, which
Speaker 1: you can't do anymore.
Speaker 2: I can't do that any Mom's a Basketarian.
Speaker 1: Oh I guess you could still get the lobster. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I had lobsters the other night. Oh, good for it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm not Did you get was that on sale at aldi?
Speaker 2: That was at Aldie. I was the frozen Hole lobster
Speaker 2: for ten ninety nine.
Speaker 3: I was at the hard Rock in Florida this weekend.
Speaker 3: Really yeah. I went to the casino and I got
Speaker 3: policed at the blackjack table. I am not happy about
Speaker 3: hard rock.
Speaker 1: Brian. What are we doing with the gambling? Where are
Speaker 1: we at? Because you know, between you and me and
Speaker 1: everyone listening you, you were doubting if you should be
Speaker 1: doing this anymore.
Speaker 3: No, it's bad for my health. And I do sometimes
Speaker 3: have limerens with gambling where I place a bet and
Speaker 3: then I and then I just feel like I already
Speaker 3: won the bet. Yeah, I already have the two hundred dollars,
Speaker 3: So let me make more bets based on the fact
Speaker 3: that I already won this bet that I placed. And
Speaker 3: isn't it funnished yet? Yeah? Exactly. Sometimes that happens.
Speaker 2: I'm going to scar.
Speaker 3: It works, but no, Blackjack is a is a loser's game.
Speaker 3: You're gonna you gotta. The goal in blackjack is to
Speaker 3: just try to lose as slowly as possible. Yeah, the
Speaker 3: goal is like, Okay, I sat here for two hours
Speaker 3: and lost all my money instead of losing all my
Speaker 3: money in ten minutes. And that's nice, But for your health, no,
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm today I'm getting I have an
Speaker 3: enlarged dioritic root, which is like a heart condition I
Speaker 3: was born with. And I feel like today I'm getting
Speaker 3: my heart scanned. I get my heart scanned every year
Speaker 3: to see if my root has grown. And I'm worried
Speaker 3: because all the gambling, it makes your blood pressure go up,
Speaker 3: It puts you in this stress level, makes your heart
Speaker 3: rate go up, and I've been gambling so much lately
Speaker 3: that I'm a little worried that about my latest scan.
Speaker 2: Vibe.
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, God's that's what you were saying that you
Speaker 1: were like, I have a heart condition. I don't think
Speaker 1: four hours of being tense about this basketball.
Speaker 3: Game because I thought there was no downside to gambling
Speaker 3: on sports because I always win. But there is a downside,
Speaker 3: and it's just not financial It takes away health, your time,
Speaker 3: your health, your your mental state. It takes away all
Speaker 3: those things. So every time I said there's no downside
Speaker 3: to gambling, even though I was being facetious and you know,
Speaker 3: flip about it, I did believe it. And now I
Speaker 3: realize I've changed my mind. There is a downside to gambling.
Speaker 3: It could kill you, ruin your life and your relationships,
Speaker 3: and waste all your time.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's why, final thought. That's why when you check
Speaker 1: into it like a hard rock hotel.
Speaker 2: Why don't they give you a free gambling money. That's
Speaker 2: something they should think.
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, that's a dumb question, but I
Speaker 1: guess that's me putting too much on my feet. Actually,
Speaker 1: do give away money if you belong to these clubs. Yes,
Speaker 1: well that's Spade's joke about like he goes to It's
Speaker 1: my favorite joke. By the way, Spade and I are
Speaker 1: going to be in Vegas at the Venetian in May
Speaker 1: and then also another date throughout the year. But you
Speaker 1: should come out and see that show for sure. But
Speaker 1: he has this great joke about about his buddy's Like, man,
Speaker 1: I go to Vegas all the time. I'm a big roller.
Speaker 1: You know, they fly me out comped and he goes, oh, really,
Speaker 1: that's seventy five dollars Southwest flight and they go, yeah,
Speaker 1: you gotta roll with me. I'm a big roller. Then
Speaker 1: ground transportation too, in from the hotel. Oh that four
Speaker 1: minute car ride and it keeps like poking holes. I'm like,
Speaker 1: the casinos know what they're doing. They're not just giving there,
Speaker 1: never giveaway that money. Yeah, but yeah, it's it's it's
Speaker 1: a problem. It's so funny that there are signs of like,
Speaker 1: do you have a problem gambling all over all asinos.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's.
Speaker 1: Sporting on cigarettes.
Speaker 3: It's almost the way to get You'd be like, well,
Speaker 3: if they're putting out all the warnings and I don't
Speaker 3: buy that means I don't probably have it. They probably
Speaker 3: would know if I had a problem and someone would
Speaker 3: stop me. That's not me. Yeah, the signs just make
Speaker 3: you feel like you don't have a problem.
Speaker 1: Okay, maybe, but like it's just such a they're really
Speaker 1: worried about you. Yeah, they really want you to get
Speaker 1: help if you have a problem. Those signs in the
Speaker 1: cause it's just so stupid that we I think insurance
Speaker 1: they probably absolutely.
Speaker 3: The sign should just say like, are you a loser?
Speaker 3: Are you? Are you a loser? You know? Or you're
Speaker 3: like it's a bully in middle school, Like a bully
Speaker 3: in middle school, and like you're walking around like no
Speaker 3: one who actually has a gambling problem is going to
Speaker 3: be like, oh eight, that sign asked me if I
Speaker 3: had a gambling problem, and I do. No one's going
Speaker 3: to admit that. They're going to feel like it's an
Speaker 3: attack on there. It's like it's like asking an older man,
Speaker 3: you know, if they need a call and or something.
Speaker 3: It's like, well, I don't need a colonoscopy, if that
Speaker 3: makes sense.
Speaker 1: I don't know if that tracks for me, but I'm
Speaker 1: glad it did for you.
Speaker 4: Let's just confuse Nikki in this segment.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're lucky you don't even care about gambling.
Speaker 1: I'm lucky. I don't. Yeah, I mean I just feel
Speaker 1: so bad to lose. Yeah, it's like a hangover. Like
Speaker 1: I quit drinking, not because the drinking part, but because
Speaker 1: of the hangover. Gotcha, I quit. I was recalling the
Speaker 1: other day to my friend about because she like loves
Speaker 1: candy and has a problem sometimes with eating too much
Speaker 1: of it, and she was going buck wild after Valentine's
Speaker 1: Day because she bought a bunch of candy hearts and
Speaker 1: that the marked ones. Yeah, you know it, the ones
Speaker 1: I say, I live. Yeah, so it smeared. Yeah, she
Speaker 1: went buck wild on some and I was like, girl,
Speaker 1: I've been there, Like I know, candy hearts are a
Speaker 1: thing that some people don't really go hard on, but man,
Speaker 1: they are my fit, that schalkiness. When they're a little
Speaker 1: stale too. I like them, I love them and so
Speaker 1: but I don't do them anymore because I went so
Speaker 1: hard one year. I got a whole bag, like you know,
Speaker 1: like a big bag that you would like a bulk bag,
Speaker 1: and I ate them all and I got a hangover
Speaker 1: from them. And I hadn't drank for years and years,
Speaker 1: so it was the first time I had felt that,
Speaker 1: like a searing headache. The next day sick but like
Speaker 1: couldn't look up straight because my head hurts so much,
Speaker 1: and it was from all the sugar. And I really
Speaker 1: can't even touch them anymore because it's just I'm so
Speaker 1: scared of that feeling. So for me, if my body
Speaker 1: gives me a searing headache as a result of something,
Speaker 1: I will quit it on the spot. Wow And I
Speaker 1: wish that it'll be easy. I would love if it
Speaker 1: gave me more headaches for things, yeah, because I would
Speaker 1: quit things. But when it's until it gets to that point,
Speaker 1: me keep going. But yeah, like I uh that I've
Speaker 1: overdone it on those.
Speaker 3: And sometimes psychosomatic reactions benefit you, Like I I have
Speaker 3: a action to high frupittose corn syrup that I know
Speaker 3: is psychosomatic. It gives me brain fog whenever I have
Speaker 3: and even if I don't know that it has it
Speaker 3: in there, if I.
Speaker 1: Just eat it can't psychosomitic.
Speaker 3: It is my body, I guess just knows. I don't
Speaker 3: know how, but.
Speaker 1: Because that's a't psychosmatic when you Oh.
Speaker 3: No, I don't even know how my body does it,
Speaker 3: but my I get brain fog whenever I eat high
Speaker 3: fructose corn syrup and anything. Even if it's like I
Speaker 3: find out after I ate it that i'd had it, I'm.
Speaker 1: Like, oh yeah, that's like you're just like you look
Speaker 1: at the label, you remember what you're talking about, Like
Speaker 1: you seem like a stoner, Like what's brain fog?
Speaker 3: Brain fog? Yeah, it's like, yeah, you just feel out
Speaker 3: of it. It's like being when you get like.
Speaker 1: Four hours in your brain.
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly, you can't do wordle.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 1: Oh that's good. That's a good indication.
Speaker 3: Yeah, when you can't do the wordle, no, you know
Speaker 3: how you like you have four hours of sleep and
Speaker 3: then you're just sluggish and slow and you can't think
Speaker 3: and nothing's coming to you.
Speaker 1: Yes, because that sugar brain fog is okay.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but because of that, I have not eaten anything
Speaker 3: with high fryptose corn syrup in like ten twenty years.
Speaker 1: Wow, it's in everything.
Speaker 3: It's it's amazing. Yeah, I'm not a purpose on purpose.
Speaker 3: Sometimes it happens by accident.
Speaker 2: I want that.
Speaker 3: I want to do that. I could do all the
Speaker 3: work that it takes to like train on high fructose
Speaker 3: corn syrup and do exposure therapy and get it back
Speaker 3: so I don't have a reaction to it. But what's
Speaker 3: the point.
Speaker 1: What's the point?
Speaker 3: Just utilize exactly.
Speaker 1: It's it's like, okay, yeah, that's really good. I can't
Speaker 1: fall asleep without a sleep mask on my brain to
Speaker 1: do that. But now because I like it, Because when
Speaker 1: I do have a sleep mask on, my body knows
Speaker 1: it's time to go to sleep, and you can if
Speaker 1: I don't have one, I have to wrap a towel
Speaker 1: around my head or something and I have to like
Speaker 1: make shift one and that's not great. So I always
Speaker 1: carry like five on me at a time, just in
Speaker 1: case I lose them. But they are so Yeah, there's
Speaker 1: certain things that my body is like learn it's time.
Speaker 3: You're like baby sleep habits, Oh baby, yeah.
Speaker 1: Although I've been waking up a lot recently and just
Speaker 1: like with anxiety in the middle of the night. Oh,
Speaker 1: a lot on your plate. I do have a lot
Speaker 1: on my plot. But I've been like kind of loving
Speaker 1: my life recently. I go on the road on the weekends.
Speaker 1: I work hard. I play I don't even play hard.
Speaker 1: I just work hard doing the shows and then we
Speaker 1: get to hang out with friends and then we drive
Speaker 1: to the next venue and you travel all day and
Speaker 1: then you get I get one day off a week,
Speaker 1: which is perfect, and that day I am flying. And
Speaker 1: so some people would go, Nikki, that's not a day off.
Speaker 1: You need to be a static, But to me, flying
Speaker 1: is a day off because no one can get you.
Speaker 1: And on your day off, you have to go to
Speaker 1: the grocery store and you have to meal plan and
Speaker 1: you've got to go to home goods and pick up
Speaker 1: you know, stuff for your pots on your front porch.
Speaker 1: I don't got to do shit because I'm flying southwest
Speaker 1: through three different cities and so there's nothing I can do.
Speaker 1: You're the only one that feels that's my favorite day off. No,
Speaker 1: because in our house, day off equals gotta go hiking. Oh,
Speaker 1: that's true. You gotta go see bald eagles out in
Speaker 1: southern Illinois.
Speaker 3: That's true.
Speaker 1: I don't want to go do that shit. That's what
Speaker 1: days off mean to people. And I want to be
Speaker 1: in the air. Yes, you're controlled by the airplane. By yeah,
Speaker 1: and then all week I'm just doing voice lesson podcasts, pilates,
Speaker 1: orange theory, here and there, and by here and there,
Speaker 1: I mean one time, never going back, getting coffee, writing
Speaker 1: music box boats. Hey, don't call me out. I am
Speaker 1: all stuck up. Today I got botox. I was gonna
Speaker 1: get filler. I opted out. Ladies, if you need someone
Speaker 1: to encourage you not to get filler, I was about
Speaker 1: to get it today in my lips. And then I
Speaker 1: texted Anya and I go, did you get filler last
Speaker 1: time you went? And she was like, no, I haven't
Speaker 1: gotten filler for years, and I was like, and then
Speaker 1: I my niped lips are numb right because they put
Speaker 1: the numbing cream on because they're gonna poke you in
Speaker 1: the face with it. And I went out to the
Speaker 1: lobby and I go, I don't want to get filler anymore. Okay,
Speaker 1: let's wipe it off. And I felt so bad. They
Speaker 1: were so nice about it. Shout out to Jenet front Neck.
Speaker 1: So I just got a bunch of botox, not even
Speaker 1: a bunch, just a little bit. Ye.
Speaker 2: And I only know because I picked you up there.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And Anya said, I think you're just going through
Speaker 1: something emotionally, because I was like, she was like, why
Speaker 1: do you need it? And I was like, I just
Speaker 1: want something different on my face, Like I just want
Speaker 1: to look at something different. I'm tired of seeing pictures
Speaker 1: of me. I want to look something. And she was like,
Speaker 1: I think you maybe just need to like calm down.
Speaker 2: Maybe you just need to go there and then say
Speaker 2: hi and walk out and feel like I've been there.
Speaker 1: I did get a facial tune. It was amazing. Oh
Speaker 1: a hydro facial It looks good. It was so good.
Speaker 1: I'm very happy. But yeah, if you want to go
Speaker 1: on the YouTube right now, and see me be stung up.
Speaker 1: I got botox, but it will not show up for
Speaker 1: eleven to fourteen days, so see the results in two weeks.
Speaker 1: I'll see there on YouTube. Thank you for listening to
Speaker 1: the show today. We'll be back tomorrow. We're going to
Speaker 1: be in Gary, Nian and Cincinnati, Ohio this weekend Friday
Speaker 1: and Saturday with Brian Frangie and Anya Marina. Get tickets
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