Speaker 1: Second dat dating. Here's a good theoretical question for the
Speaker 1: gen zer in the room, alexis, if you're casually dating
Speaker 1: a guy, how many other girls is he allowed to
Speaker 1: have in the rotation? And like three? None? But I
Speaker 1: have unlimited, So this is casual dating. Yes, I know
Speaker 1: she said none and she has unlimited. Yeah, okay, so
Speaker 1: I was expecting somewhere in the triple digits. But this
Speaker 1: is good because I'm asking because I understand dating now
Speaker 1: is a little bit different, and one of our listeners
Speaker 1: is in a unique situation she wants our help with today.
Speaker 1: Her name's Beth, So Beth, welcome to the show. Hey, guys,
Speaker 1: thank you. Are you juggling ape dudes right now? Is
Speaker 1: that what's going on? I'm not juggling. I just have
Speaker 1: one dude i'm talking to. Okay, Okay, okay. Does this
Speaker 1: dude have a name? Yes, it's Scott. Okay. So it's
Speaker 1: kind of a little bit of a different scenario. I'm
Speaker 1: not sure if it's kind of qualifies as a second date,
Speaker 1: but I'm just hoping you guys can still help me out. Okay,
Speaker 1: we'll tell us what's going on. Yeah, so technically, you know,
Speaker 1: we've been out three times. The first time hang up
Speaker 1: looks like why aren't you married? Right? Okay? Three three
Speaker 1: casual dates. Yeah, so you know we've hung out. Um,
Speaker 1: I don't know if the first one counts. Honestly, the
Speaker 1: first one, we'd be hooked up. Okay, he hung out
Speaker 1: twice since then, but we've been really kind of hitting
Speaker 1: it off. I really enjoyed talking to him and kind
Speaker 1: of casually hang it out. But so the last few
Speaker 1: dates that we were on, it seems like you've been preoccupied. Um,
Speaker 1: not like while you're on the date, he's not really midge. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: you're realized he's a guy, right, Yeah, but it's like
Speaker 1: he's on his phone all the time. That's the worst. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Like the second I walk away to go to the bathroom,
Speaker 1: like I can see, he like picks up his phone,
Speaker 1: and then I come back and I casually like mentioned it,
Speaker 1: it's okay, everything good at work. You know, you just
Speaker 1: seem like you're on your phone a lot and he's
Speaker 1: just like, oh no, you know, he's quick to kind
Speaker 1: of shut it down and just misses it and says
Speaker 1: he's just like checking sports and you have a quick
Speaker 1: question when he puts his phone down. Does he put
Speaker 1: it face up or does he put it face down?
Speaker 1: Because if someone's hiding something and nearly put a face down, yeah,
Speaker 1: looks phone right now? Yeah, times because they don't want
Speaker 1: you to see other dudes or were girls texting them
Speaker 1: and pop up and then you can look over and see, Beth,
Speaker 1: what do you have an answer? For the most part,
Speaker 1: it's down. So I haven't really been able to see
Speaker 1: except for one time though. He was over at my
Speaker 1: place for dinner and I was coming coming back from
Speaker 1: around the kitchen. You're sitting on the couch and I
Speaker 1: kind of took a peek over his shoulder and I
Speaker 1: just saw like a few letters I couldn't tell, like
Speaker 1: who the name exactly was, was like p E or
Speaker 1: PA I don't know, you know, and I don't It's
Speaker 1: cool if he wants to do that. I just want
Speaker 1: him to be honest with me because for me, I
Speaker 1: don't know, call me like old fashioned, but I just
Speaker 1: want to make sure that if he's seeing someone that
Speaker 1: I would want to know about it. So wait, when
Speaker 1: you saw his message over his shoulder, was it a
Speaker 1: I mean PA or PA PE doesn't mean that he's
Speaker 1: dating anybody. It could be. I mean, is that all
Speaker 1: you saw? You didn't see anything else? Yeah? Yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean I just saw, like I tried to see the name,
Speaker 1: and it was just those two letters that I kind
Speaker 1: of glimpse because he quickly kind of just put his
Speaker 1: phone away. So I mean, it just even if it
Speaker 1: was a guy's name, or if it was a dude
Speaker 1: that he's texting, like, why be kind of shady about
Speaker 1: it and quickly put your phone away. I don't know.
Speaker 1: Have you tried to tell him that you like want
Speaker 1: to be exclusive with him? Not quite. I didn't quite
Speaker 1: say it like that, but I kind of just asked, like, hey,
Speaker 1: we've seen anyone else? Because I'm not that's the problem,
Speaker 1: I know, but that's it implied, like if you get
Speaker 1: a text message like that, you obviously know that someone
Speaker 1: wants to only date you. Well, no, Brooke knows the
Speaker 1: problem is that you don't ask. You tell a guy
Speaker 1: we are rules, you will Guys follow direction better than anything. No,
Speaker 1: how did he respond to that? He said no, but
Speaker 1: I don't feeling that it could be something else. Maybe
Speaker 1: I don't know that. Yeah, I have five girls, So
Speaker 1: that makes it worse because if he would have just
Speaker 1: responded like, hey, I'm not ready for that step. That's
Speaker 1: all he had to say. If he said no and
Speaker 1: he's seen other women, that means he's lying at this point. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he's claiming that he's not seeing anybody else, but Beth,
Speaker 1: you're getting the feeling that maybe he is. And I
Speaker 1: know normally we call people in second dates and ask
Speaker 1: them why aren't you reaching out to them? Yeah? What
Speaker 1: are we going to ask him? Like? Why are you?
Speaker 1: Why are you? Yeah, this is gonna be why are
Speaker 1: reaching out to so many people? Is that what we're
Speaker 1: going to ask? Okay, this mister could have sold me
Speaker 1: with that for sure. Beth, what do you want? What
Speaker 1: are you asking from us? I'm just looking the CP
Speaker 1: guys can help and there's anything you can do to
Speaker 1: get some answers. I don't want to be dating this guy, like,
Speaker 1: you know, a month from now and turned out that
Speaker 1: he's seeing a bunch of others girls to start seeing
Speaker 1: anybody named Scott right now. I don't think that's my
Speaker 1: roster of this one. Yeah, And I feel like we
Speaker 1: can't just ask him directly because if he's already told
Speaker 1: you know, Beth, and he's probably not just going to
Speaker 1: come clean to a bunch of radio people like, oh yeah, sure,
Speaker 1: I'm seeing a bunch of But I actually might have
Speaker 1: an idea though, Okay, but I need to ask you, Beth,
Speaker 1: would you be okay with us kind of tricking him
Speaker 1: a little bit to get the real answer out of him.
Speaker 1: There goes bro code, Well, I'm done with listener code. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think that would help, Like, how would we do that?
Speaker 1: I don't understand. We're going to great tend to be
Speaker 1: his date. I have an idea. We have to play
Speaker 1: a song first, because we're running out of time. I'm
Speaker 1: going to meet with producer Boyd and we'll discuss it
Speaker 1: and we'll see if this can work. Hopefully prove Brooke wrong.
Speaker 1: I understand. Here's an interesting situation that we're in. We
Speaker 1: have a woman named Beth on the phone who's been
Speaker 1: on two to three dates with this guy named Scott.
Speaker 1: She wants them to give this relationship a try without
Speaker 1: them seeing anybody else. Yeah. When she's even asked him
Speaker 1: are you seeing anyone? And he told her no, But
Speaker 1: he's been kind of hiding the phone from her. She
Speaker 1: said in her email that he sometimes seems a little
Speaker 1: bit checked out when they're on the dates together a
Speaker 1: little bit distracted and his energy is just like he's
Speaker 1: losing interest. You know, you can you can tell when
Speaker 1: that vibe starts to go down. You normally know you
Speaker 1: want to date someone when the vibe keeps going up. Yeah,
Speaker 1: better and better and better, senses something might be off.
Speaker 1: So she wants us to try and investigate to see
Speaker 1: for sure if Scott is seeing another person and not
Speaker 1: telling her. So I had an idea on how we
Speaker 1: could do this before the break, and I went and
Speaker 1: I talked to producer Boyd about it, and he laughed
Speaker 1: hysterically in my face and setting up. We're not doing that.
Speaker 1: When our producer laughs, it's at you. Yeah. So who
Speaker 1: happened to be walking by at that exact moment, Jose, Yeah,
Speaker 1: And he actually came up with a much better idea.
Speaker 1: Just guys know, I'm like a myth. When I hear laughter,
Speaker 1: I just appear. He said, why don't you, guys offer
Speaker 1: something to the guy on the phone and then ask
Speaker 1: him who he'd like to get it to share it
Speaker 1: with you. Why don't you just give him an open
Speaker 1: gift card and see if he chooses. Yeah, yeah, that works.
Speaker 1: I think it works better for you, because it'd be
Speaker 1: even more awkward if a radio station was calling him
Speaker 1: after three dates to be like, why aren't you probably run?
Speaker 1: But I saw in your email to us you told
Speaker 1: us that one of your dates was at a restaurant
Speaker 1: and he left a complaint that night because they screwed
Speaker 1: up the bill. Yeah yeah, okay, so sure you want
Speaker 1: to date this guy already? So if I if I
Speaker 1: call from that restaurant and I offer him a free
Speaker 1: meal as an apology for the bill mix up. Oh
Speaker 1: now I get it. I see. Okay, so we should
Speaker 1: probably be quiet. Yeah, yeah, we'll do that safe. So Beth,
Speaker 1: tell me the name of the restaurant. Yeah, we went
Speaker 1: to bar and grill. Okay, do a day. It was
Speaker 1: a nighttime, no, no, no of the reservation like a
Speaker 1: weekday night. Yeah, it was last Thursday, okay, Thursday. His
Speaker 1: name is Scott. Yeah. Um, if for some reason he
Speaker 1: does me that he'd like to take me out, can
Speaker 1: we just hang up because it's embarrassing. Oh, I'd prefer
Speaker 1: you wouldn't, so that we could finish the time that
Speaker 1: we have to fill here as the restaurant we three
Speaker 1: way called your friend, don't do that. But I'm gonna
Speaker 1: call Scott right now and we'll see what he has
Speaker 1: to say. All right, okay, all right, here we go. Hello. Hi,
Speaker 1: I'm the manager from Bar and Grill. We had this
Speaker 1: number on reservation from a few nights ago for a
Speaker 1: Scott party of two. This is him. Hi, Scott. I'm
Speaker 1: calling you today because our hostess came to me recently
Speaker 1: and said that there was an issue that you had
Speaker 1: the night of your dinner, and I just wanted to
Speaker 1: call and make sure that everything's okay. Uh yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean it is now. It was like it was a
Speaker 1: real pain then, and I like I was on a day,
Speaker 1: so it was like even a kind of worse. But
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I am so sorry. We feel horrible
Speaker 1: that that happened, and we would like to have you
Speaker 1: back again, not just on a normal night. I know
Speaker 1: we're normally booked out for months here, but Valentine's Day
Speaker 1: is coming up and we just had a table cancel.
Speaker 1: We would love to offer that opening up to you.
Speaker 1: Oh man, Yeah, that would be that would be solid.
Speaker 1: I haven't made plans yet for a bolotized wonderful well,
Speaker 1: we'll even do a complimentary bottle of champagne. We can
Speaker 1: put a nice note on the table for you and
Speaker 1: your date that night. Just I hope that we can
Speaker 1: put this all the rest. I mean, just so we're clear, Like,
Speaker 1: I don't owe you anything for this, No, absolutely not.
Speaker 1: We'll do this one hundred percent on the house. It'll
Speaker 1: be free of charge. Well I mean at that rate, yeah,
Speaker 1: like offs for jammin. Okay, excellent. So M just in
Speaker 1: order to lock in that reservation, we need your name
Speaker 1: and the guest name that you'll have that evening. All right, Well,
Speaker 1: my name's Scott. Okay, Scott, and can I get your
Speaker 1: date's name? Please? Well? Do I need to put that
Speaker 1: down now? It would just help us to lock in
Speaker 1: the reservation. We want to have the note ready for
Speaker 1: you with both of your names on it, just so
Speaker 1: that we could apologize and make good with everything. Oh,
Speaker 1: I mean okay, Um, I guess put down Penny Penny.
Speaker 1: Sorry did you say Beth? I said Penny Penny? Oh
Speaker 1: I got confused. No, Beth is the one that's on
Speaker 1: the phone listening right now to this conversation. Um, hey, Scott,
Speaker 1: it's that Um. Why why would you lie when I
Speaker 1: asked you if you were seeing anybody, like I told
Speaker 1: you I wasn't seeing anybody. What's the house going on?
Speaker 1: It's a setup, Scott. Yeah that Beth. Beth called our
Speaker 1: show because she was worried that while you two have
Speaker 1: been seeing each other, you may have been also seeing
Speaker 1: somebody else on the side, possibly this Penny person, which
Speaker 1: would have been cool if you didn't tell her. You
Speaker 1: told her that you weren't seeing anyone else. Why do
Speaker 1: you lie to who's Penny? Penny's my sister. Oh that
Speaker 1: is from another part of the country. You guys, get off.
Speaker 1: I'm like blowing up people's spots, Like, what the hell
Speaker 1: is this? Oh? Man, come on, we hooked up once,
Speaker 1: we went on two days, and you're having people call
Speaker 1: me to try to find out if there's a reason
Speaker 1: you're singal. I mean so okay, I mean you weren't
Speaker 1: so shady on your phone all the time. I just
Speaker 1: wanted to know, like the truth. I mean, it's one
Speaker 1: really your sister. No, no, I mean, Scott, here's the thing.
Speaker 1: Why didn't you just tell her when she asked if
Speaker 1: you were seeing other people that you weren't ready to
Speaker 1: be exclusive in your relationship. That's all you had to say. Man,
Speaker 1: you didn't have to say no and why? But well,
Speaker 1: I mean at the time, I wasn't seeing anybody else
Speaker 1: like oh in that actual minute. Yeah, like he wasn't
Speaker 1: in his That's great, are you naturally? Why would you
Speaker 1: have other people like? For real? Well, obviously you couldn't
Speaker 1: be honest on your own. So I mean it's it's
Speaker 1: it's cool, like I'm just I'm glad I got the
Speaker 1: answer I needed just say, and this is still bad,
Speaker 1: but it's not like he's cheating, he's just lying. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that makes Scott, how would you? How were you going
Speaker 1: to explain to Beth that you already had play once
Speaker 1: on Valentine's Day? I was like, you plan on explaining anything?
Speaker 1: I don't have to answer your questions. I mean, you
Speaker 1: guys set me up to look like on the radio.
Speaker 1: I mean, what the hell to think? You made yourself
Speaker 1: look that way a little bit, Scott, but right now
Speaker 1: said yeah, would you that would be a lovely date?
Speaker 1: Would you like me to change the name on the reservation? Look,
Speaker 1: first of all, you need to go yourself. Valentine's Day
Speaker 1: is coming up. And second of all, we were only
Speaker 1: two and a half dates. I'm not cheating on anybody.
Speaker 1: We didn't say you didn't say that. I mean, I
Speaker 1: just think Beth. I mean, Beth, how are you feeling
Speaker 1: like you're probably kind of upset because you lied to Beth? Yeah, honestly,
Speaker 1: like it's not about the fact that you were cheating
Speaker 1: on me or not, like it's it's the fact that
Speaker 1: I asked you, I texted you and like, hey, you're
Speaker 1: seeing you are blah blah. I've heard the like four
Speaker 1: times from you and enjoy three other idiots account I
Speaker 1: tell one lie. Now you make me look like a jerk.
Speaker 1: We were like serious, I would have answered truthfully, but
Speaker 1: that's not where he was playing a prank on that.
Speaker 1: When you're serious, that you're truthful, it's before that, it's
Speaker 1: just anything. You guys are a bunch of morons. I'm
Speaker 1: done talking to you. And why don't you enjoy your
Speaker 1: single life on Valentine's Day because I know you'll be
Speaker 1: by yourself. Oh wow, it's better than waiting at home. Well,
Speaker 1: you're on a date with Penny. Okay, it looks like
Speaker 1: it looks like Scott hung up that the first red
Speaker 1: flag should have been the plaint at the restaurant. Plain
Speaker 1: you need to change it. You don't put in a
Speaker 1: formal complaint like that's late. Yeah, I don't even look
Speaker 1: at the I'm rich. Yeah, I had to smash plates
Speaker 1: until they change my or I don't know. I don't
Speaker 1: do it the formal way. And that's why you're going
Speaker 1: to be single. Also on Valentine'stack, I'm issuing a formal
Speaker 1: complaint right now, Station Broke and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 1: You know, a relationship is like a flower you got,
Speaker 1: you gotta love it. You have to send that flower
Speaker 1: some nude picks to let it know that you're interested.
Speaker 1: How does that have to do that? Just did no flower?
Speaker 1: I'm getting there, okay. And you know, you know the
Speaker 1: buds before they open up and become beautiful pedals. That
Speaker 1: was a bud ready to bloom. And then we ripped
Speaker 1: the flower out of the ground and stomped on it before.
Speaker 1: He wasn't dud. He was lying, he was sucky. I
Speaker 1: didn't like that guy. He was complaining about the restaurant.
Speaker 1: There's nothing he's not complaining about the restaurant. It's about
Speaker 1: a discrepancy in the bed. Do it on a d Yes,
Speaker 1: thank you, I thank you and then all I want
Speaker 1: to know is if the other girl, Penny heard that,
Speaker 1: because my guess is she doesn't know about bed. Jeff
Speaker 1: what kind of flower you talking about? I'm just saying
Speaker 1: I knew I should feel good about that, but I
Speaker 1: don't really feel that good. I don't know. I mean,
Speaker 1: she saw the red flags, she knew she shouldn't have
Speaker 1: kept dating him. She did see, but she also seemed
Speaker 1: really sad to find out that he was a cheater.
Speaker 1: So that kind of makes me feel sad that I
Speaker 1: made one of our listeners sad, remember not cheater liar,
Speaker 1: right exactly. And I don't want to open this up
Speaker 1: to the textboard at seven eighty five two, Like, I
Speaker 1: don't want us to continue tricking and deceiving people unless
Speaker 1: our listeners want us to do. Okay, well, we'll see
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