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Speaker 1: Coming up. Keep it positive, sweetie.

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Speaker 2: As women, we're often told, you know, get your career,

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Speaker 2: this stuff, And especially in the black comauit, I didn't

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Speaker 1: Hello, yeah, wrap the thing up.

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Speaker 2: And you were always like okay, yeah, you know you didn't.

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Speaker 2: You didn't hear about like yeah, until you don't need

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you're born with a certain number of eggs and

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Speaker 4: Welcome to another episode of the Keep It Positive Sweeties Show,

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Speaker 1: I'm your host, CHRISTOPHINEE.

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Speaker 4: Hazlet, and in this episode, we sit down with the

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Speaker 4: dynamic Shemiah Mordon, renowned for her multi faceted career and entertainment.

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Speaker 4: This is an inspiring conversation that offers a deeper look

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Speaker 1: Before we get.

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Speaker 4: Into the episode, let's take a look into Crystal's closet.

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Speaker 4: All right, guys, let's get into today's look. I'm wearing

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Speaker 4: three's morning show, and the high energy she brings to

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Speaker 4: hosting the Atlanta Hawks games and any red carpet. I'm

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Speaker 4: super excited to dive into her journey from leading her

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Speaker 4: church choir at the tender age of four to becoming

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Speaker 4: the most exciting multi hyphenet talents while balancing motherhood, marriage,

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Speaker 4: and career. Ladies and gentlemen. Shemiah Morton mulwange.

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Speaker 1: Hey, I'm excited to have you.

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Speaker 4: I just first of all, I just love you. Your

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Speaker 4: energy is always electric you are from the day I

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Speaker 4: met You've been so sweet and kind and you always invite.

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Speaker 1: Me and include me and stuff.

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Speaker 4: You never forget about me, even though I'm like extremely busy.

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Speaker 1: You know how you like invite.

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Speaker 4: People places and then they they're never available, Like why

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna invite me anymore?

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Speaker 1: That is not smir You always keep me in mind.

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Speaker 2: Because I always want your bright light around me. Oh Like,

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Speaker 2: you have such a magnetic positive energy which is why

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Speaker 2: you're the name of this show is so perfect. When

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Speaker 2: I first heard about Kids, I was like, oh my goodness.

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Speaker 3: What a great name.

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Speaker 1: Thank you just exude.

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Speaker 2: This joy and this this god in you, and it's

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Speaker 3: So thank you for never forgetting about me.

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Speaker 1: No, of course.

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Speaker 2: You know sometimes when people blow up and they do

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Speaker 1: It's like, oh right, oh yeah, no, we're not doing that.

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Speaker 3: You never give that energy.

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Speaker 2: No, at a vacuum, at a grocery story, Like, right,

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Speaker 1: I told y'all, I know, Chris, right, I love that.

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Speaker 4: No, I appreciate you so much and I'm extremely proud

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Speaker 1: For the Hawks. Yes, you're a cheerleader. Was it Falcons?

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Speaker 4: Yes, incredible. And then to see you now like the

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, you're a host, you're an actor, you are a mother,

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Speaker 2: Listen, I'm just trying to be like you best friend.

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Speaker 2: I love the fact that you know, we are women

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Speaker 2: it's crazy because like how all of this stuff came about.

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Speaker 2: Also, my parents put me in ballet jazz, and then

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Speaker 2: Let me get into some acting classes, signed up for

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Speaker 4: Do you did you ever feel like, with all the

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Speaker 2: I felt like, I mean, the industry kind of burnt

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Speaker 2: So I started doing the things that people did appreciate

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Speaker 2: I was dancing at a Hawks game and I was like,

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Speaker 3: We're in game hosting.

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Speaker 1: And who did you tell this to?

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Speaker 3: My cheer coach?

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Speaker 2: She was like, just studying, you know, be ready when

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Speaker 2: And I was always always had an extra change of

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Speaker 3: I was like, and they did, and I mean I

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Speaker 3: Called back again. And then I became her back up.

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Speaker 2: And then it was like, you know, she moved to

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Speaker 3: Wow. From there, I was like, okay, now it's.

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Speaker 1: Zeros completely, Yes, it is yours and you own it.

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Speaker 2: So I was like, you know, at any time one

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Speaker 3: I was sad, and then the NBA called me and

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Speaker 2: So you know when I lost my job at being

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Speaker 2: The sixty seventh Annual Grammys. It's the biggest night in

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Speaker 2: So it could happen. I'm just like, you're all at home.

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Speaker 4: There's this new show and BT called Pound for Pound.

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Speaker 1: To balance it all.

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Speaker 3: And that's kind of how I was raised. Like if

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Speaker 2: that if you just stay faithful. Yes, I mean, I

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Speaker 2: And so like I always tell people like no matter

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Speaker 3: And that's what I'm doing. I'm waiting. I might be blessed,

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Speaker 4: Yes, imagine imagine both of us from where we when

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, even with housewives, like people were like, oh, you know,

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Speaker 3: Want to showcase your whole life.

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Speaker 2: You want to show people that there's more to you

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Speaker 3: Can't because you're not full time. You're just a friend

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Speaker 2: So it would be situations like someone would say something.

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Speaker 3: Watch the show, then it's not how you feel. And

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Speaker 1: It's a high car.

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Speaker 2: I am the girl, I'm dumb, but it's like the

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Speaker 3: But the reward is gonna be so great, absolutely for sure.

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Speaker 2: And that's what I think people see this season, like

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Speaker 3: And they get to see the not so good moments.

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Speaker 1: I'm excited for that challenge.

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Speaker 4: Do you have you felt a sense of pressure now

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Speaker 4: that you're not You're like you got your peach now.

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Speaker 1: So this is a different level for you on the show.

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Speaker 4: Have you felt any pressure or any the tendencies of

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Speaker 2: So the only time I get nervous and like anxious

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Speaker 2: we're not. I'm just being honest, Like when I go home,

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Speaker 1: Going home too.

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Speaker 2: Yes, So oftentimes I'm treated like the cheerleader.

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Speaker 1: That makes this amount and that's they don't know and.

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Speaker 2: They don't know, and I just don't want that relationship

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Speaker 2: I know you don't eat Christmas Cree donuts, but I'm like, absolutely,

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Speaker 3: We got cath the D's for dinner list.

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Speaker 2: But people automatically box you in this oh wow.

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Speaker 4: And it's like that's not even me, Like it's not

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Speaker 3: I just the Clason glamb.

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Speaker 1: Not now, I'm serious, it has not changed.

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Speaker 3: And I don't want the people around me to.

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Speaker 2: I always felt like. Sometimes people say, you know, when

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Speaker 3: But sometimes people just don't see it for you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, sometimes people you know, and I'm not talking about

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Speaker 2: You're like, I'm still here, I still want to go

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Speaker 2: kick it with you.

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Speaker 3: I'm issue.

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Speaker 1: I love you.

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Speaker 3: Friends.

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Speaker 2: I couldn't kick it with you today because I had

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Speaker 2: That's what's hurtful, you know, just just that part of it,

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Speaker 3: Some friends are season all though.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean to be there. Yeah, No, that's true,

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Speaker 2: It's hard because you know, we I think we're loyal

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Speaker 3: We met in college. I'm not in college for a

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Speaker 2: And and she just would say weird stuff all the time.

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Speaker 2: I can't you know, And then it was like, you

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Speaker 1: You don't have time. You don't have time, but I don't.

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Speaker 2: I don't have time, but I'm gonna make time for you.

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Speaker 2: And then when I would try to make time for her,

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Speaker 1: No, yeah, yeah, it's me.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like and I want to do better girl, because

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Speaker 2: if I win, you win.

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Speaker 4: I spoke about this a few times, openly about my

443
00:20:16,920 --> 00:20:19,600
Speaker 4: I really just working those years I should've been harvesting

444
00:20:19,600 --> 00:20:22,320
Speaker 4: my eggs and feel like I waited too long, and

445
00:20:22,320 --> 00:20:24,920
Speaker 4: then my doctor's just telling me recently that you should

446
00:20:24,960 --> 00:20:27,439
Speaker 4: just try to have it naturally, because if you do

447
00:20:27,520 --> 00:20:29,080
Speaker 4: freeze your eggs, who's to say they're all.

448
00:20:29,080 --> 00:20:30,880
Speaker 1: Gonna s stay alive and be viable.

449
00:20:31,480 --> 00:20:34,440
Speaker 4: So I've I'm in that stage where I'm going through

450
00:20:34,440 --> 00:20:36,680
Speaker 4: the day I wish I had of but you've been

451
00:20:36,680 --> 00:20:39,240
Speaker 4: through it all, and I want you to share some

452
00:20:39,280 --> 00:20:42,120
Speaker 4: of your journey, and then I wanna know how Shy.

453
00:20:42,040 --> 00:20:43,560
Speaker 1: Is doing aw S.

454
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Speaker 2: So I'm so happy that that we're having this conversation

455
00:20:47,359 --> 00:20:50,240
Speaker 2: because I do feel like, not just in our community,

456
00:20:50,280 --> 00:20:53,520
Speaker 2: but as women, we're often told, you know, get your career,

457
00:20:53,760 --> 00:20:56,560
Speaker 2: you a husband, here are the steps to doing all

458
00:20:56,560 --> 00:20:58,480
Speaker 2: this stuff, And especially in the black community, I.

459
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Speaker 3: Didn't know anything about freezing eggs and IVF. It was

460
00:21:01,400 --> 00:21:02,879
Speaker 3: just like, don't get break, don't let that buck get

461
00:21:02,920 --> 00:21:03,200
Speaker 3: your break.

462
00:21:03,240 --> 00:21:05,479
Speaker 1: Hello, yeah, wrap the thing up.

463
00:21:05,480 --> 00:21:07,199
Speaker 2: And you were always like okay, yeah, you know you

464
00:21:07,200 --> 00:21:09,800
Speaker 2: didn't you didn't hear about like yeah, until you don't

465
00:21:09,800 --> 00:21:10,400
Speaker 2: need to wrap.

466
00:21:10,200 --> 00:21:11,520
Speaker 3: It up because your eggs are gonna dry.

467
00:21:11,520 --> 00:21:13,680
Speaker 2: You know, you're born with a certain number of eggs

468
00:21:13,720 --> 00:21:15,960
Speaker 2: and you have those eggs and that's all you're gonna get.

469
00:21:16,280 --> 00:21:17,640
Speaker 3: We don't talk about that kind of.

470
00:21:17,560 --> 00:21:20,879
Speaker 1: Stuff, don't ye talk about people are.

471
00:21:20,800 --> 00:21:23,600
Speaker 2: Talk are they're freezing their kids' eggs out of high school?

472
00:21:23,640 --> 00:21:24,280
Speaker 1: Isn't that crazy?

473
00:21:24,280 --> 00:21:26,600
Speaker 2: You know, like they want to make sure they were

474
00:21:26,640 --> 00:21:28,360
Speaker 2: able to procreate, and we are, we aren't, so we're

475
00:21:28,400 --> 00:21:30,639
Speaker 2: just told don't do that, don't get yourself knocked up,

476
00:21:30,640 --> 00:21:33,800
Speaker 2: don't be barefoot and pregnant all stuff. And then now

477
00:21:33,880 --> 00:21:36,160
Speaker 2: that you have, and it's so crazy because the more

478
00:21:36,320 --> 00:21:38,960
Speaker 2: I talk about it, the more I found out about

479
00:21:39,040 --> 00:21:41,639
Speaker 2: so many of my friends and just family that have

480
00:21:41,720 --> 00:21:45,680
Speaker 2: had trouble with infertility. Yes, And I'm like, let's all

481
00:21:45,760 --> 00:21:47,520
Speaker 2: talk about it that we can help each other.

482
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Speaker 3: I did seven rounds of IVF seven.

483
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Speaker 1: Okay, what is that like?

484
00:21:51,560 --> 00:21:54,439
Speaker 4: Because I when I was told you I should do it,

485
00:21:54,480 --> 00:21:56,399
Speaker 4: I feel like it was too late. But then also

486
00:21:56,640 --> 00:21:58,760
Speaker 4: people kept saying, well, I mean, how's that gonna work

487
00:21:58,760 --> 00:22:00,280
Speaker 4: with your career when you're gonna have time, as you know,

488
00:22:00,320 --> 00:22:02,200
Speaker 4: it's going to take you down and it's not your

489
00:22:02,600 --> 00:22:04,160
Speaker 4: gain weight and it's not good.

490
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Speaker 1: And I'm like, well, when would I have time to

491
00:22:06,320 --> 00:22:06,560
Speaker 1: do it?

492
00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:08,680
Speaker 2: Let me tell you figure it out because even when

493
00:22:08,680 --> 00:22:10,200
Speaker 2: I was busy and I was an if I would

494
00:22:10,240 --> 00:22:10,880
Speaker 2: just give myself a.

495
00:22:10,800 --> 00:22:13,600
Speaker 3: Shot in the car, you'll just figure it out, you know.

496
00:22:13,720 --> 00:22:17,080
Speaker 2: And it takes what a day to you know, do

497
00:22:17,119 --> 00:22:19,800
Speaker 2: the egg retrieval and then another day to recover.

498
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Speaker 3: Possibly you'll make it happen. You'll figure it out. Don't

499
00:22:23,359 --> 00:22:27,200
Speaker 3: forgrast me. Just to it, you know. But it's never

500
00:22:27,240 --> 00:22:30,359
Speaker 3: too late, like I mean, if it's gonna happen for

501
00:22:30,440 --> 00:22:32,440
Speaker 3: you at the right time, at the right time.

502
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Speaker 2: And the bain comments that I've gotten, you know, because

503
00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:38,399
Speaker 2: I did do surrogacy with Shilo, it was, oh, you know,

504
00:22:38,520 --> 00:22:39,919
Speaker 2: you just don't want to mess up your body.

505
00:22:40,000 --> 00:22:41,880
Speaker 3: You should have had a baby naturally, she wouldn't been sick.

506
00:22:42,480 --> 00:22:45,320
Speaker 2: It's some ugly stuff out there. However, I never stopped

507
00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:49,480
Speaker 2: trying to get pregnant. I had failed transfer out the

508
00:22:49,480 --> 00:22:50,520
Speaker 2: failed transfer.

509
00:22:50,200 --> 00:22:52,560
Speaker 1: And then what's a failed transfer, So when.

510
00:22:52,359 --> 00:22:55,359
Speaker 2: They transferred the embryo into you, you wait if you

511
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Speaker 2: get a positive pregnant test.

512
00:22:56,520 --> 00:22:58,040
Speaker 3: Pregnancy test didn't happen.

513
00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:01,120
Speaker 2: And then a year ago January, I had an ectopic

514
00:23:01,200 --> 00:23:04,120
Speaker 2: pregnancy and it almost died my left I was pregnant

515
00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:05,719
Speaker 2: at my left fillopian tube russher.

516
00:23:06,119 --> 00:23:07,240
Speaker 3: Yes, I was bleeding out.

517
00:23:07,160 --> 00:23:10,560
Speaker 2: Internally and oh yeah, that's a whole other thinging and

518
00:23:11,200 --> 00:23:13,560
Speaker 2: you don't really even know about. And I went to

519
00:23:13,760 --> 00:23:17,000
Speaker 2: one hospital and they were just like get in line,

520
00:23:17,080 --> 00:23:19,639
Speaker 2: like we have other people ahead of you, and and

521
00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:20,680
Speaker 2: I was just like, I feel.

522
00:23:20,520 --> 00:23:21,800
Speaker 3: Like I'm dying. And I called my mom.

523
00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:22,480
Speaker 1: I was crying.

524
00:23:22,480 --> 00:23:24,960
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm vombiting in the in the emergency

525
00:23:25,040 --> 00:23:29,040
Speaker 2: room and no one's helping. And then my mom came

526
00:23:29,280 --> 00:23:32,800
Speaker 2: and took me from that hospital to another hospital where

527
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Speaker 2: I was born.

528
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Speaker 3: Actually Emery Crawford Long.

529
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Speaker 2: They rushed me right back, even though my vitals were

530
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Speaker 2: good because like at the hospital, I wasn't running a fever,

531
00:23:42,680 --> 00:23:46,040
Speaker 2: my blood pressure wasn't. Hospital like, you're fine, took me

532
00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:49,399
Speaker 2: back the other hospital. They did blood work on me

533
00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:52,080
Speaker 2: and they went did a little more in depth and

534
00:23:52,119 --> 00:23:54,080
Speaker 2: they were like, yeah, no, it was not right. And

535
00:23:54,119 --> 00:23:55,920
Speaker 2: then they did an ultrasound on me and they saw

536
00:23:56,280 --> 00:23:59,240
Speaker 2: the they were like, were rushing you into surgery. And

537
00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:00,879
Speaker 2: when they told me from search, let me go to

538
00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:01,520
Speaker 2: the bathroom first.

539
00:24:01,520 --> 00:24:04,080
Speaker 3: I went to the bathroom and blood just starting. Oh

540
00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:05,800
Speaker 3: my goodness. Not to be graphic, but yeah, it was

541
00:24:05,840 --> 00:24:08,480
Speaker 3: just I mean it was nothing, but god, yeah, they

542
00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:09,240
Speaker 3: saved my life.

543
00:24:09,320 --> 00:24:12,520
Speaker 2: Yes, which is whild you know, just the spoiler alert.

544
00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:15,600
Speaker 2: You know you'll see the cuts on me even on

545
00:24:15,640 --> 00:24:16,359
Speaker 2: the show. You know.

546
00:24:16,720 --> 00:24:19,520
Speaker 3: Just that was a real thing. Yeah, but let me

547
00:24:19,560 --> 00:24:21,359
Speaker 3: tell you it gave me. It was a high and

548
00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:21,879
Speaker 3: low for that.

549
00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:25,440
Speaker 2: I can still get pregnant, you know, because I did

550
00:24:25,480 --> 00:24:27,920
Speaker 2: get pregnant. Yeah, I still have eggs, you know, because

551
00:24:27,920 --> 00:24:29,720
Speaker 2: at the stage you started thinking can I get Pregdan,

552
00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:31,040
Speaker 2: do I still have eggs? You know?

553
00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:33,399
Speaker 3: And then but the other side was now only have

554
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Speaker 3: one fanto. You know.

555
00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:39,639
Speaker 2: I would tell anybody like, do your research, you know,

556
00:24:39,680 --> 00:24:41,440
Speaker 2: do your homework. Go make sure that it's a really

557
00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:47,200
Speaker 2: great fertility clinic that you're going to look at their

558
00:24:48,119 --> 00:24:50,520
Speaker 2: percentages of pregnancies.

559
00:24:50,760 --> 00:24:53,000
Speaker 3: Uh. And then this not make a make.

560
00:24:52,880 --> 00:24:57,439
Speaker 2: A a conscious effort to just be be very detailed.

561
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Speaker 3: In your place.

562
00:24:58,440 --> 00:25:02,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, we were fortunate enough to get Shiloh through shit.

563
00:25:02,400 --> 00:25:03,640
Speaker 3: Uh my surrogate named Shadina.

564
00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:05,840
Speaker 4: Now how did you find us here? Cause that's another

565
00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:07,480
Speaker 4: thing like when you think about like who would you.

566
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Speaker 2: I was always like, let me let me when sh

567
00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:15,920
Speaker 2: When I met Shadina, I met her through Candy okay,

568
00:25:16,160 --> 00:25:20,200
Speaker 2: and Candy used Shadina for her daughter Blaze mm. And

569
00:25:20,800 --> 00:25:23,439
Speaker 2: during that process I was there to witness her do

570
00:25:23,520 --> 00:25:26,280
Speaker 2: the injectas and I didn't even know that I needed a.

571
00:25:26,280 --> 00:25:27,359
Speaker 3: Surrogate or anything.

572
00:25:27,440 --> 00:25:29,399
Speaker 2: I I was just like, I'll get pregnant, yeah one

573
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Speaker 2: day and then it was like cause I had Shaya

574
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Speaker 2: the natural way.

575
00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:33,360
Speaker 1: Yeah.

576
00:25:33,400 --> 00:25:36,200
Speaker 2: So I was like, oh, yeah, you know, we'll get pregnant.

577
00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:36,919
Speaker 2: It'll be easy.

578
00:25:37,000 --> 00:25:39,520
Speaker 3: Then it wasn't. It was like build fail at the field.

579
00:25:39,800 --> 00:25:42,600
Speaker 3: So my doctor was like, it's unexplained, Like I don't

580
00:25:42,640 --> 00:25:46,440
Speaker 3: even know why. Just go and talk to a fertility claning.

581
00:25:46,640 --> 00:25:48,760
Speaker 2: And so that's how we came about Shadein. I was like, hey,

582
00:25:49,080 --> 00:25:50,200
Speaker 2: she has a agency.

583
00:25:50,359 --> 00:25:50,679
Speaker 1: Okay.

584
00:25:50,720 --> 00:25:52,480
Speaker 2: So I was like, well you was just carry baby.

585
00:25:52,480 --> 00:25:54,879
Speaker 2: We're comfortable with you. You're in the circle already.

586
00:25:54,560 --> 00:25:56,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, just cause she was like what So she did

587
00:25:57,119 --> 00:25:57,400
Speaker 1: and she.

588
00:25:57,359 --> 00:26:01,240
Speaker 2: Got diagnosed with breast cancer unfortunately, and she was at

589
00:26:01,640 --> 00:26:03,879
Speaker 2: thirty two weeks when she got DIA and it was

590
00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:05,000
Speaker 2: an aggressive.

591
00:26:04,600 --> 00:26:06,320
Speaker 1: Form a lot.

592
00:26:06,600 --> 00:26:08,159
Speaker 3: Oh my goodness. When I tell you, I'm always like

593
00:26:08,240 --> 00:26:08,480
Speaker 3: is this.

594
00:26:08,520 --> 00:26:09,959
Speaker 1: Like a movie?

595
00:26:10,480 --> 00:26:13,160
Speaker 2: I'm like, is this really happening? It was a breast

596
00:26:13,160 --> 00:26:16,280
Speaker 2: cancer since it was aggressive.

597
00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:18,000
Speaker 3: They were like, we can't. We gotta like, we gotta

598
00:26:18,000 --> 00:26:18,199
Speaker 3: go in.

599
00:26:18,720 --> 00:26:22,800
Speaker 2: Yeah. I think Charlie came five weeks earlier, and she

600
00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:24,120
Speaker 2: came one Valentine's Day.

601
00:26:24,480 --> 00:26:25,680
Speaker 3: It's like, she's my love baby.

602
00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:26,440
Speaker 1: Yeah.

603
00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:27,840
Speaker 2: And what was crazy is I was supposed to be

604
00:26:27,840 --> 00:26:29,560
Speaker 2: at All Stars because All starts always that week. It

605
00:26:29,640 --> 00:26:32,800
Speaker 2: was in Utah that year, and I was like, well,

606
00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:34,920
Speaker 2: I'm gonna have to like, I gotta figure this out.

607
00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:38,399
Speaker 2: She came, she was crying, we were all rejoicing, and

608
00:26:38,440 --> 00:26:42,680
Speaker 2: then she stopped crying and started turning blue. Yes, And

609
00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:44,400
Speaker 2: I was like, oh my goodness, and they brushed her

610
00:26:44,720 --> 00:26:48,359
Speaker 2: to the ICU. Next time I saw my baby, she

611
00:26:48,440 --> 00:26:51,400
Speaker 2: had been intubated and was on a breathing machine.

612
00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:53,440
Speaker 3: Yeah. I was like, oh my goodness.

613
00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:56,919
Speaker 2: Then it's so crazy how like social media helps you.

614
00:26:58,240 --> 00:27:02,800
Speaker 2: There is power in that because she was there right

615
00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:08,159
Speaker 2: out a week on the ventilator and they were like,

616
00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:11,840
Speaker 2: she needs a surgery her she had both nasal passages

617
00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:14,639
Speaker 2: blocked with boning and tissue and they could only do

618
00:27:14,720 --> 00:27:18,480
Speaker 2: the surgery at Children's health Care of Atlanta.

619
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Speaker 3: Children Have Carolinta didn't have any beds.

620
00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:21,760
Speaker 1: Oh my goodness.

621
00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:24,560
Speaker 2: Said, you would think we were in the United States of America,

622
00:27:24,640 --> 00:27:25,719
Speaker 2: Like is that?

623
00:27:25,800 --> 00:27:27,920
Speaker 1: How is that even? Lets you know how many kids

624
00:27:28,080 --> 00:27:28,640
Speaker 1: are there?

625
00:27:28,680 --> 00:27:31,280
Speaker 2: You go and the hospital that they just built was

626
00:27:31,359 --> 00:27:33,920
Speaker 2: so needed, but this was twenty twenty three.

627
00:27:33,960 --> 00:27:35,600
Speaker 3: The hospital just opened in twenty twenty four.

628
00:27:36,119 --> 00:27:37,919
Speaker 2: We didn't have that yet, and so they were they

629
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:39,120
Speaker 2: had a bed shortage.

630
00:27:39,160 --> 00:27:41,320
Speaker 3: So I went on Instagram and that's kind.

631
00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:43,760
Speaker 2: Of how I started telling my story, not for pity,

632
00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:46,960
Speaker 2: you know, for people, I just I just needed help.

633
00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:48,919
Speaker 2: I didn't know how to help my child, and I

634
00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:52,960
Speaker 2: knew that if I waited then her lungs would suffer.

635
00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:55,560
Speaker 2: And I was just like, I don't know what to do. Yeah,

636
00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:58,520
Speaker 2: and I just said, tell your story. So I went

637
00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:00,280
Speaker 2: live and I started telling the story and I was like,

638
00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:01,600
Speaker 2: I don't know how to get her bed. I don't

639
00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:03,439
Speaker 2: know what to do, but I do know that I

640
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:08,959
Speaker 2: need my baby. And it's so funny because the lady

641
00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:11,000
Speaker 2: that was working for the Falcons when I was sharing

642
00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:13,040
Speaker 2: for the Falcons, she had a set of twins and

643
00:28:13,080 --> 00:28:15,280
Speaker 2: she knew one of the head doctors in the nick

644
00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:17,400
Speaker 2: you at Northside.

645
00:28:17,680 --> 00:28:19,200
Speaker 1: She reached out to come on.

646
00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:23,560
Speaker 2: Now reached out to her. They reached out to Scottish

647
00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:25,640
Speaker 2: Rite not to hand me a bed.

648
00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:26,680
Speaker 3: The next day.

649
00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:32,240
Speaker 2: Wow, they transported me over with my child and gave

650
00:28:32,320 --> 00:28:34,200
Speaker 2: us the best care ever.

651
00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:39,040
Speaker 3: Doctor Paula Harmon did the surgery, and like then we

652
00:28:39,080 --> 00:28:41,080
Speaker 3: found out other things about Shiloh from head to toe.

653
00:28:41,080 --> 00:28:42,760
Speaker 2: When I tell you this girl came with all the

654
00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:45,640
Speaker 2: bells and the whistles, she.

655
00:28:45,760 --> 00:28:48,960
Speaker 3: Had cranio cinestosis and that.

656
00:28:49,120 --> 00:28:51,320
Speaker 2: And I'm only sharing all this because there was no

657
00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:54,600
Speaker 2: information about all this. Yes, I and I went on

658
00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:57,120
Speaker 2: to the hashtag. You know, you'd be like hashtag feed

659
00:28:57,160 --> 00:29:01,680
Speaker 2: in braids. That's how I was hashtag craniocentystosis. What is

660
00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:03,640
Speaker 2: that looking at all these pictures.

661
00:29:03,080 --> 00:29:05,840
Speaker 3: Just like Google. Yah, all the scary stuff comes up.

662
00:29:05,920 --> 00:29:06,480
Speaker 1: Absolutely.

663
00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:09,360
Speaker 2: So that's when your skull is fused together, cause most

664
00:29:09,360 --> 00:29:11,720
Speaker 2: babies are born with the soft spot. Non Shiloh, her

665
00:29:11,720 --> 00:29:14,080
Speaker 2: school was already fused together. So she would eventually have

666
00:29:14,120 --> 00:29:16,920
Speaker 2: to have that procedure at six months of age to

667
00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:18,400
Speaker 2: open her skull up so that she can have.

668
00:29:18,360 --> 00:29:19,160
Speaker 3: Normal brain growth.

669
00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:22,280
Speaker 2: Yes, but the first thing was keeping her alive by

670
00:29:22,320 --> 00:29:25,080
Speaker 2: opening up her nasal passes. Yes, So they opened it

671
00:29:25,160 --> 00:29:29,520
Speaker 2: up and that was called a craniocinestosis and I'm sorry.

672
00:29:29,560 --> 00:29:33,080
Speaker 2: It was co coinal atresia and coinal sinosis of the nose.

673
00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:34,960
Speaker 2: That's when you have tissue and boning blocking both the

674
00:29:35,040 --> 00:29:40,040
Speaker 2: nasal bastards. This was craniociniosis. Okay, So they opened up

675
00:29:40,200 --> 00:29:43,520
Speaker 2: her nose and just like scar tissues, it wants the

676
00:29:43,720 --> 00:29:44,680
Speaker 2: farm and and heal.

677
00:29:44,880 --> 00:29:46,360
Speaker 1: Yes, it closed right back up.

678
00:29:46,400 --> 00:29:47,880
Speaker 3: Oh my God, to keep going back.

679
00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:50,040
Speaker 2: It was like every four weeks she was going back

680
00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:52,880
Speaker 2: to the r or another surgery. My girl has had

681
00:29:53,480 --> 00:30:00,560
Speaker 2: fourteen surgeries and she's yes, and she is still such

682
00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:02,880
Speaker 2: a happy, such great energy.

683
00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:04,520
Speaker 3: I mean when I tell you, like we do a

684
00:30:04,560 --> 00:30:05,680
Speaker 3: family photo shoot.

685
00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:09,920
Speaker 2: And she's like, like a star yes, and you know.

686
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:11,560
Speaker 2: And so that's why I say, like, God just has

687
00:30:11,560 --> 00:30:14,760
Speaker 2: a way, like from head to toe that this heart murmur,

688
00:30:15,240 --> 00:30:18,920
Speaker 2: a fluid build up in her kidney, the tendons and

689
00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:21,760
Speaker 2: both middle fingers were tight, she had club feet, she

690
00:30:21,880 --> 00:30:24,479
Speaker 2: had all the all the things, and I was just

691
00:30:24,520 --> 00:30:25,880
Speaker 2: like and it was like I just had to deal

692
00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:27,040
Speaker 2: with it one thing at a time.

693
00:30:27,160 --> 00:30:29,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, It's almost like when you make it to do list.

694
00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:31,200
Speaker 1: I had to, like so I didn't want to be

695
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:32,600
Speaker 1: you know.

696
00:30:32,920 --> 00:30:36,960
Speaker 2: And sometimes I would just need to just remove myself

697
00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:40,600
Speaker 2: from it for even an hour or two, because any

698
00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:43,200
Speaker 2: nicky moms y'all know, like when you're by your bedside

699
00:30:43,200 --> 00:30:46,080
Speaker 2: by your child, it just it can drain you. And

700
00:30:46,120 --> 00:30:47,920
Speaker 2: when you don't have energy, your child didn't have energy.

701
00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:49,760
Speaker 2: I needed her to have to live, yes, you know,

702
00:30:49,840 --> 00:30:50,720
Speaker 2: and a desire and a.

703
00:30:50,680 --> 00:30:51,640
Speaker 1: Good energy around her.

704
00:30:51,800 --> 00:30:56,560
Speaker 2: So oftentimes I would leave and go to the Hawks game.

705
00:30:56,680 --> 00:30:58,840
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, I feel like you bet. I was like,

706
00:30:58,840 --> 00:30:59,600
Speaker 1: why are you about the game?

707
00:30:59,640 --> 00:31:02,040
Speaker 2: And I'm like I need this, Yeah, And I would

708
00:31:02,040 --> 00:31:03,360
Speaker 2: go right back because.

709
00:31:03,120 --> 00:31:04,240
Speaker 3: You can't sleep in the nikki.

710
00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:10,520
Speaker 2: They won't let you dozing off there, Like.

711
00:31:08,880 --> 00:31:11,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, you got out of the ICU.

712
00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:13,240
Speaker 2: That I could even spend the night at the hospital,

713
00:31:14,280 --> 00:31:16,280
Speaker 2: that's a whole thing that you don't even know about.

714
00:31:16,800 --> 00:31:20,480
Speaker 2: So Shiloh was such a journey, Oh my goodness, I

715
00:31:20,480 --> 00:31:23,240
Speaker 2: didn't even if if I would to look back, I'll

716
00:31:23,280 --> 00:31:24,560
Speaker 2: be like, how did I even make it through?

717
00:31:25,120 --> 00:31:26,720
Speaker 3: You know? Even now, like how am.

718
00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:30,640
Speaker 2: I still making it through? Because every day it's like

719
00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:33,520
Speaker 2: a turn. It's we turned the corner. But she's still

720
00:31:33,520 --> 00:31:35,600
Speaker 2: here with us, and we're celebrating her second birthday in

721
00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:35,960
Speaker 2: a week.

722
00:31:36,600 --> 00:31:38,360
Speaker 1: Look at God, that is beautiful.

723
00:31:38,800 --> 00:31:41,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's driving, she's taking steps now.

724
00:31:44,800 --> 00:31:45,040
Speaker 1: Yeah.

725
00:31:45,280 --> 00:31:48,560
Speaker 2: So I always ask myself, like, you know, before I

726
00:31:48,600 --> 00:31:50,720
Speaker 2: would be like why me, like why, like why this happened?

727
00:31:50,760 --> 00:31:53,160
Speaker 2: Because with IVF, they give you the option to test

728
00:31:53,200 --> 00:31:53,760
Speaker 2: your embryo.

729
00:31:54,280 --> 00:31:56,200
Speaker 3: We did. We did not spare any expense.

730
00:31:56,240 --> 00:31:58,400
Speaker 2: It was like, of course, we want, absolutely want to know,

731
00:31:58,440 --> 00:32:02,480
Speaker 2: we want to have a healthy baby. But they said

732
00:32:02,520 --> 00:32:05,160
Speaker 2: it could have been a mutation that developed. You know,

733
00:32:05,680 --> 00:32:08,280
Speaker 2: when they checked everything was there, you know, there were

734
00:32:08,320 --> 00:32:13,160
Speaker 2: no chromosomal abnormalities. Genetic screenings were fine, but they said

735
00:32:13,200 --> 00:32:15,640
Speaker 2: it was a duplication and a depletion.

736
00:32:15,400 --> 00:32:17,760
Speaker 3: And chromosome number seven.

737
00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:19,040
Speaker 1: I was like, what is that?

738
00:32:20,440 --> 00:32:23,560
Speaker 2: And we did the homework of the research and they

739
00:32:23,560 --> 00:32:25,240
Speaker 2: were like, there's only four other cases of this.

740
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 1: What Yes, and miracle.

741
00:32:28,920 --> 00:32:31,800
Speaker 2: When you look at it, it's like when they're looking

742
00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:33,400
Speaker 2: at their like are all the books on the shelf?

743
00:32:33,400 --> 00:32:35,280
Speaker 3: Okay? Are all the pages in the book? Yes?

744
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:39,440
Speaker 2: So all those boxes were checked. But with her disorder

745
00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:42,080
Speaker 2: or her genetic disability. When you open that book up,

746
00:32:42,520 --> 00:32:48,080
Speaker 2: that one page has the words written backwards, so once

747
00:32:48,120 --> 00:32:51,360
Speaker 2: you decode it, you'll understand it. But like for her,

748
00:32:51,600 --> 00:32:53,120
Speaker 2: She's gonna meet all her moulestones.

749
00:32:53,440 --> 00:32:54,440
Speaker 3: It'll just be delayed.

750
00:32:54,600 --> 00:32:54,800
Speaker 2: Yeah.

751
00:32:55,800 --> 00:32:57,840
Speaker 3: So I'm like, well, you know, delay is not a dinner.

752
00:32:57,680 --> 00:32:58,080
Speaker 1: It is not.

753
00:32:58,880 --> 00:33:00,840
Speaker 3: And yes, she's doing really well.

754
00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:02,000
Speaker 1: That's good. That's amazing.

755
00:33:02,040 --> 00:33:04,560
Speaker 4: Now, big sister Shia, because you have had to spend

756
00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:07,160
Speaker 4: a lot of time with Shiloh, how has she been

757
00:33:07,200 --> 00:33:08,000
Speaker 4: handling everything?

758
00:33:08,040 --> 00:33:09,080
Speaker 3: That was very hard?

759
00:33:09,720 --> 00:33:14,040
Speaker 2: And even now thinking about it, like because she doesn't understand, Yeah,

760
00:33:14,760 --> 00:33:15,400
Speaker 2: how does she know?

761
00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:16,560
Speaker 3: She just turned six?

762
00:33:17,520 --> 00:33:21,120
Speaker 2: Okay, So she would like get jealous, like you're always

763
00:33:21,360 --> 00:33:24,680
Speaker 2: with Shiloh. And then other times she would come and

764
00:33:24,720 --> 00:33:26,520
Speaker 2: you know, like a taller she would come and say,

765
00:33:26,920 --> 00:33:29,360
Speaker 2: I wanna get a new baby. I wanna get one

766
00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:33,520
Speaker 2: that doesn't have all those cords and you know, and yeah,

767
00:33:33,520 --> 00:33:36,160
Speaker 2: it was heartbreak up because it was like I understand, yeah,

768
00:33:36,560 --> 00:33:36,840
Speaker 2: you know.

769
00:33:37,560 --> 00:33:41,920
Speaker 5: Mm, it's okay, it's okay, And you don't wanna tell

770
00:33:41,960 --> 00:34:00,600
Speaker 5: your child, Yeah it's okay.

771
00:33:53,120 --> 00:33:54,720
Speaker 1: Cause you are fit saing, you know.

772
00:33:56,720 --> 00:33:57,960
Speaker 3: And it was a lot on my family.

773
00:33:58,320 --> 00:34:00,600
Speaker 2: You know, now we are divide, how I was my

774
00:34:00,720 --> 00:34:03,840
Speaker 2: husband's with Shia with Shiloh, and then we would swap

775
00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:06,120
Speaker 2: and then you know, she was like when are you

776
00:34:06,120 --> 00:34:10,279
Speaker 2: gonna come home, and and like why can't I play

777
00:34:10,320 --> 00:34:11,120
Speaker 2: with Shiloh like this?

778
00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:13,319
Speaker 3: Why can't she? When is she gonna call? And is

779
00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:15,000
Speaker 3: she gonna and these are.

780
00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:19,880
Speaker 4: All very normal questions, you know, four year old and

781
00:34:20,239 --> 00:34:22,319
Speaker 4: at the time they were allowing kids under the age

782
00:34:22,320 --> 00:34:24,240
Speaker 4: of four in the hospital.

783
00:34:24,360 --> 00:34:26,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, so she could even so she couldn't

784
00:34:26,160 --> 00:34:28,400
Speaker 2: even come and see and we would have to send pictures,

785
00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:32,240
Speaker 2: we have to FaceTime. So it definitely made our family stronger.

786
00:34:33,080 --> 00:34:35,080
Speaker 2: And I do thank God that I had a very

787
00:34:35,120 --> 00:34:36,000
Speaker 2: strong support.

788
00:34:36,160 --> 00:34:39,160
Speaker 3: That's the thing. You really do know who you're You're

789
00:34:39,360 --> 00:34:40,959
Speaker 3: a lot of people that reached out to me weren't

790
00:34:40,960 --> 00:34:42,200
Speaker 3: even like my closest friends.

791
00:34:42,200 --> 00:34:45,600
Speaker 2: It was strangers like I'm praying for you and reading

792
00:34:45,640 --> 00:34:49,960
Speaker 2: those Commentsney you had warriors, and I.

793
00:34:49,960 --> 00:34:53,319
Speaker 3: Was like, wow, this is just it just felt so good.

794
00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:54,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I just felt the love.

795
00:34:55,600 --> 00:34:57,640
Speaker 3: And I don't even know, even to this day, I'm like,

796
00:34:57,719 --> 00:34:58,560
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna thank all.

797
00:34:58,480 --> 00:35:00,680
Speaker 1: Those people, yeah, because it's just such.

798
00:35:01,760 --> 00:35:03,640
Speaker 3: It really helped me through a lot of stuff.

799
00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:07,920
Speaker 1: It's okay, you're so.

800
00:35:09,600 --> 00:35:13,920
Speaker 4: Strong, Shamia, and the way you carry it with such grace,

801
00:35:14,440 --> 00:35:19,080
Speaker 4: like I would see you document and show everybody what

802
00:35:19,120 --> 00:35:21,680
Speaker 4: you were going through. And I I'm looking like I

803
00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:24,720
Speaker 4: D I don't know how she's holding together, still showing

804
00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:27,080
Speaker 4: up with a smile on your face, you know, And

805
00:35:27,600 --> 00:35:28,799
Speaker 4: I just I commend you for that.

806
00:35:29,640 --> 00:35:31,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, and that's the thing, and like you know,

807
00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:35,000
Speaker 2: it's crazy, cause like when you think about it, you're

808
00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:38,200
Speaker 2: like sometimes if you just fake laugh and you fake pretend,

809
00:35:38,239 --> 00:35:41,680
Speaker 2: and eventually it'll take on its own thing, and yeah.

810
00:35:41,239 --> 00:35:44,520
Speaker 3: You'll feel happy, you'll feel great. And that's what I

811
00:35:44,520 --> 00:35:46,040
Speaker 3: I would have to do, Like I would.

812
00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:47,480
Speaker 2: Have to like turn get in my car and just

813
00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:49,799
Speaker 2: turn on my gospel music, just cry it out and

814
00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:51,160
Speaker 2: it just bounce back, figure it out.

815
00:35:51,239 --> 00:35:51,680
Speaker 1: Yeah.

816
00:35:51,760 --> 00:35:55,279
Speaker 3: But like just I think when you're in it, you

817
00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:56,360
Speaker 3: don't even y.

818
00:35:56,440 --> 00:35:58,600
Speaker 2: You don't have time to even read, You don't have

819
00:35:58,640 --> 00:36:01,600
Speaker 2: time to Yeah, you just go.

820
00:36:00,920 --> 00:36:04,000
Speaker 1: Go, go go, right, Yeah, And I.

821
00:36:03,960 --> 00:36:06,399
Speaker 2: Mean, I mean, I'm happy to be in a better

822
00:36:06,440 --> 00:36:08,360
Speaker 2: space now and she's a lot healthier.

823
00:36:08,719 --> 00:36:11,920
Speaker 3: Yeah. But yeah, like it's it's just been a journey.

824
00:36:12,520 --> 00:36:14,560
Speaker 2: And that's why now I don't even question people. When

825
00:36:14,600 --> 00:36:16,399
Speaker 2: I before I would be like, what do you want

826
00:36:16,440 --> 00:36:17,280
Speaker 2: a boy or girl?

827
00:36:17,600 --> 00:36:19,759
Speaker 3: And it would be like a healthy baby and i'd

828
00:36:19,760 --> 00:36:21,279
Speaker 3: be like, all.

829
00:36:21,239 --> 00:36:27,440
Speaker 2: Right, okay, now I'm like, yeah, health because it was

830
00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:28,600
Speaker 2: so easy, you.

831
00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:33,680
Speaker 1: Know, yeah, yeah, maybe it's gonna get me in the end.

832
00:36:34,719 --> 00:36:38,560
Speaker 3: It'll be easy tear me up later.

833
00:36:40,480 --> 00:36:40,840
Speaker 1: Really not.

834
00:36:41,520 --> 00:36:46,400
Speaker 4: But on a lighter note, you know, no, it's beautiful,

835
00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:48,359
Speaker 4: and I wanted you to tell your story because it's

836
00:36:48,400 --> 00:36:50,279
Speaker 4: so many women that are going through the same things

837
00:36:50,280 --> 00:36:52,799
Speaker 4: that don't have the outlet that we have, and they

838
00:36:52,840 --> 00:36:55,200
Speaker 4: see you and they just think, oh my god, she's

839
00:36:55,239 --> 00:36:58,240
Speaker 4: got this amazing, glamorous life and doing all the things,

840
00:36:58,280 --> 00:37:00,880
Speaker 4: but not realizing what your really going through this.

841
00:37:01,160 --> 00:37:03,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's why I mean, I appreciate you allowing

842
00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:07,359
Speaker 2: me to share on your platform because everything isn't great.

843
00:37:07,360 --> 00:37:08,719
Speaker 2: And that's what I was saying, like even on the

844
00:37:09,080 --> 00:37:11,640
Speaker 2: show this season, I want people to see.

845
00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:14,080
Speaker 3: Real life stuff. You can have all the money in

846
00:37:14,120 --> 00:37:16,320
Speaker 3: the world, but life can happen.

847
00:37:16,120 --> 00:37:18,640
Speaker 1: To you, yes, and you're.

848
00:37:18,440 --> 00:37:19,600
Speaker 3: Forced to just figure it out.

849
00:37:19,680 --> 00:37:20,400
Speaker 1: We're not exempt.

850
00:37:20,600 --> 00:37:23,640
Speaker 4: People think that, like we're example from sickness, from depression,

851
00:37:24,239 --> 00:37:26,120
Speaker 4: from everything. Just because you have money, that does not

852
00:37:26,239 --> 00:37:27,839
Speaker 4: change it, absolutely.

853
00:37:27,360 --> 00:37:31,239
Speaker 2: Not, absolutely so to me, that's what's important, like just

854
00:37:31,239 --> 00:37:33,920
Speaker 2: sharing your story and hoping that I can change lives

855
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:36,920
Speaker 2: in the process of it, because I was confused, you know,

856
00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:39,360
Speaker 2: not knowing, you know, the moms out there that have

857
00:37:39,480 --> 00:37:42,120
Speaker 2: children with special needs, not knowing what that future is

858
00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:43,600
Speaker 2: going to be, Like, that's a scary thing.

859
00:37:43,719 --> 00:37:45,200
Speaker 3: Yes, and I understand that.

860
00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:47,719
Speaker 2: Like I was on radio where people would call in

861
00:37:47,800 --> 00:37:51,400
Speaker 2: for big tears, big blessing and would be like, I've

862
00:37:51,400 --> 00:37:53,640
Speaker 2: been out of work for this amount of time. My

863
00:37:53,719 --> 00:37:56,880
Speaker 2: daughter is autistic or you know, has autism or it's

864
00:37:56,920 --> 00:37:59,080
Speaker 2: on spectrum, and I would be like, well, you know,

865
00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:00,880
Speaker 2: maybe they can just go here. And I would just

866
00:38:00,920 --> 00:38:05,440
Speaker 2: be like, yeah, somewhat judgmental, like why wouldn't they just

867
00:38:05,480 --> 00:38:08,200
Speaker 2: do this? Or maybe we can help them, but can't

868
00:38:08,239 --> 00:38:10,120
Speaker 2: they just go Yeah? And it's like now that I'm

869
00:38:10,160 --> 00:38:11,080
Speaker 2: in it, oh my goodness.

870
00:38:11,160 --> 00:38:13,839
Speaker 3: The business, the fields, like it is a.

871
00:38:13,800 --> 00:38:16,000
Speaker 1: Lot, and the patients it takes with the child, the.

872
00:38:16,080 --> 00:38:20,200
Speaker 2: Patience, like outside of the specialists that she has to

873
00:38:20,200 --> 00:38:22,279
Speaker 2: have each of these things, yes, she has to have

874
00:38:22,320 --> 00:38:28,120
Speaker 2: physical therapy, OT speech. Those are all additional doctors and

875
00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:31,239
Speaker 2: nurses that have to come either come into your home

876
00:38:31,440 --> 00:38:33,200
Speaker 2: if you're if you have the means to do that,

877
00:38:33,320 --> 00:38:36,359
Speaker 2: and take them to those appointments and imagine don't have it. Yeah,

878
00:38:36,400 --> 00:38:38,560
Speaker 2: in the beginning, I was going to three doctor's visits

879
00:38:38,640 --> 00:38:43,480
Speaker 2: sometimes a day. Yeah, so like I can't imagine the

880
00:38:43,520 --> 00:38:45,440
Speaker 2: people that don't have the means to do that, right,

881
00:38:45,600 --> 00:38:48,000
Speaker 2: Like my heart goes out to them, and that's that's

882
00:38:48,040 --> 00:38:49,319
Speaker 2: that's my focus, just.

883
00:38:49,239 --> 00:38:49,839
Speaker 3: Trying to help.

884
00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:52,120
Speaker 1: I love that. I love you're doing an amazing job.

885
00:38:53,040 --> 00:38:54,239
Speaker 1: I remember. I guess it was.

886
00:38:54,200 --> 00:38:58,080
Speaker 4: Probably like two thousand and fifteen, sixteen seventeen.

887
00:38:58,120 --> 00:39:00,000
Speaker 1: Is we're both single? Because what'd you get married?

888
00:39:00,440 --> 00:39:01,920
Speaker 3: Yes? I got married in seventeen.

889
00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:04,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, so around that time we were saying.

890
00:39:04,400 --> 00:39:11,279
Speaker 2: Trying to figure out, but you.

891
00:39:11,400 --> 00:39:16,080
Speaker 4: Figured it out, you married, And I want my question

892
00:39:16,239 --> 00:39:19,520
Speaker 4: is how did you integrate into the Kenyan culture because

893
00:39:19,760 --> 00:39:23,080
Speaker 4: I know, like being American from this area, like that

894
00:39:23,239 --> 00:39:24,359
Speaker 4: was a big thing.

895
00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:26,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, what was that like back then?

896
00:39:26,239 --> 00:39:29,040
Speaker 3: You know, it wasn't that cool to be with in Africa.

897
00:39:29,080 --> 00:39:29,600
Speaker 1: No, it wasn't.

898
00:39:29,640 --> 00:39:31,719
Speaker 2: It was almost like Yo used to had a little

899
00:39:31,800 --> 00:39:35,680
Speaker 2: nasty memes on social media. It's like the African starter kid.

900
00:39:38,239 --> 00:39:40,040
Speaker 3: Oh me. I was like, oh my gosh, this is

901
00:39:40,080 --> 00:39:42,680
Speaker 3: so mean. And so then when I met mine, my

902
00:39:42,800 --> 00:39:43,680
Speaker 3: Kenyan man, it.

903
00:39:43,680 --> 00:39:45,760
Speaker 2: Was like, oh girl, you need to get him tested

904
00:39:46,480 --> 00:39:47,839
Speaker 2: he don't give you age.

905
00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:50,680
Speaker 1: And I was like, what person he did with everybody.

906
00:39:50,840 --> 00:39:54,480
Speaker 3: Friend during that time? Because she was like spreading this

907
00:39:54,600 --> 00:39:55,759
Speaker 3: rumor that my husband all.

908
00:39:55,760 --> 00:40:00,760
Speaker 2: These wives kids, and I mean it was nasty words.

909
00:40:00,880 --> 00:40:04,080
Speaker 2: I was like, girl, I just couldn't even believe it.

910
00:40:04,360 --> 00:40:06,720
Speaker 2: So I had to date him through all that stuff,

911
00:40:07,200 --> 00:40:08,920
Speaker 2: not even to me.

912
00:40:09,040 --> 00:40:11,480
Speaker 3: Weed even got into the cultural differences.

913
00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:13,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, I want to get into that too, but like

914
00:40:13,560 --> 00:40:16,640
Speaker 2: that was it wasn't cute back then. Now it's like

915
00:40:16,719 --> 00:40:20,680
Speaker 2: glamorizes like, oh yeah, get introduce me to one of

916
00:40:20,680 --> 00:40:25,560
Speaker 2: his African friends. Now it's like it was like mm hmm, girls,

917
00:40:25,600 --> 00:40:28,080
Speaker 2: she probably wanted his five wives. Wow.

918
00:40:28,320 --> 00:40:29,960
Speaker 3: Not no, I mean it's just ignorance.

919
00:40:30,160 --> 00:40:32,480
Speaker 4: Now, how did you like not let that get to you?

920
00:40:32,520 --> 00:40:36,799
Speaker 4: Because I know sometimes you're hearing people talk about you.

921
00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:38,880
Speaker 2: I had a good man. When I tell you that

922
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:43,040
Speaker 2: man like just you know, even wrapped me up. I

923
00:40:43,080 --> 00:40:45,480
Speaker 2: mean his person and just he was just so kind,

924
00:40:46,000 --> 00:40:47,360
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, say, get you somebody that

925
00:40:47,400 --> 00:40:49,960
Speaker 2: loved you more than you love them, Like just worship

926
00:40:49,960 --> 00:40:50,800
Speaker 2: your dirty drawns.

927
00:40:50,960 --> 00:40:51,680
Speaker 3: That's the real thing.

928
00:40:51,840 --> 00:40:53,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, And every time I would find a flaw in

929
00:40:53,960 --> 00:40:55,919
Speaker 2: a relationship and I would get ready to like I'm done,

930
00:40:55,920 --> 00:40:56,239
Speaker 2: I'm done.

931
00:40:56,280 --> 00:40:57,919
Speaker 3: I want He would be like, let me tell you something.

932
00:40:57,920 --> 00:40:58,799
Speaker 3: I will never leave you.

933
00:40:59,000 --> 00:40:59,440
Speaker 1: Wow.

934
00:41:00,360 --> 00:41:02,640
Speaker 3: Like one day I remember getting so pissy mad.

935
00:41:02,480 --> 00:41:05,360
Speaker 2: About my order being wrong at fil A, like come on,

936
00:41:06,160 --> 00:41:09,839
Speaker 2: not looking back make you feel stupid about being mad

937
00:41:09,920 --> 00:41:12,960
Speaker 2: at Braddy. It's like I was like I said extra pickles,

938
00:41:14,280 --> 00:41:17,960
Speaker 2: pepper jet and American, and he was like, I'm.

939
00:41:17,800 --> 00:41:20,160
Speaker 3: Sorry, oh, And I was.

940
00:41:20,120 --> 00:41:24,040
Speaker 2: Just like oh, I had to ask his attitude about

941
00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:24,359
Speaker 2: it first.

942
00:41:24,440 --> 00:41:26,560
Speaker 3: I was like, it's simple. I just asked for this,

943
00:41:27,000 --> 00:41:27,200
Speaker 3: you know.

944
00:41:27,239 --> 00:41:28,839
Speaker 4: And he was just like, do you feel like at

945
00:41:28,840 --> 00:41:30,520
Speaker 4: that moment you were looking for an out or you're

946
00:41:30,560 --> 00:41:31,040
Speaker 4: just like taking it?

947
00:41:31,160 --> 00:41:33,440
Speaker 1: Everything's I think because you know, I've.

948
00:41:33,320 --> 00:41:36,080
Speaker 2: Been single long then, he especially coming from a relationship

949
00:41:36,080 --> 00:41:36,760
Speaker 2: that was abusive.

950
00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:38,960
Speaker 3: I just had to let go of some of those

951
00:41:39,400 --> 00:41:40,640
Speaker 3: yeacause I was flawed.

952
00:41:40,719 --> 00:41:42,440
Speaker 2: I was also flawed, you know what I mean, Like

953
00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:47,920
Speaker 2: I wasn't perfect, and I think running is the easy way, absolutely,

954
00:41:48,120 --> 00:41:50,480
Speaker 2: and my parents have been married almost fifty years. And

955
00:41:50,520 --> 00:41:52,719
Speaker 2: I was just like, you know what, let me take

956
00:41:52,719 --> 00:41:55,080
Speaker 2: it back. Like this is a good man. He don't

957
00:41:55,120 --> 00:41:58,440
Speaker 2: beat me, eat on cheat, He like he's got fearing

958
00:41:58,680 --> 00:42:02,000
Speaker 2: he has come from a great family that's similar to mine.

959
00:42:02,560 --> 00:42:04,120
Speaker 3: You know, his family loves me.

960
00:42:04,239 --> 00:42:07,000
Speaker 2: They're very kind people. It ain't even the family that

961
00:42:07,000 --> 00:42:08,719
Speaker 2: I had to worry about. It was all the other

962
00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:11,359
Speaker 2: Kenyons that I would cook for my man and would

963
00:42:11,360 --> 00:42:12,799
Speaker 2: show what I cook. There would be like that meat,

964
00:42:12,840 --> 00:42:16,799
Speaker 2: I'm done, or that be like that ain't how Keenes eat.

965
00:42:17,280 --> 00:42:19,200
Speaker 3: I don't like that, but chicken kind of way.

966
00:42:19,200 --> 00:42:21,400
Speaker 2: And I'm just like, but he's like he would be

967
00:42:21,400 --> 00:42:22,600
Speaker 2: the one like, don't worry about that.

968
00:42:22,719 --> 00:42:27,120
Speaker 3: I love your chicken than this. Yeah. Then he took

969
00:42:27,200 --> 00:42:30,000
Speaker 3: me to Kenya. I was welcoming.

970
00:42:30,120 --> 00:42:33,240
Speaker 2: I mean they were at the airport with flowers and

971
00:42:33,480 --> 00:42:38,440
Speaker 2: banner and I was like, yeah, it was so amazing

972
00:42:38,680 --> 00:42:41,520
Speaker 2: and just to understand the culture more, you know, I

973
00:42:41,760 --> 00:42:42,480
Speaker 2: love people to know this.

974
00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:45,040
Speaker 3: I actually took Swahezi. I went back to Georgia.

975
00:42:44,680 --> 00:42:48,279
Speaker 1: State really took. You were invested.

976
00:42:47,920 --> 00:42:49,480
Speaker 3: Because what you're not gonna do is talk about me.

977
00:42:49,520 --> 00:42:50,479
Speaker 3: And I don't know what y'all saying.

978
00:42:55,400 --> 00:42:59,000
Speaker 2: Guess what they did, girl started speaking the tribal language.

979
00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:01,680
Speaker 1: He's like the class for this.

980
00:43:02,280 --> 00:43:03,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, they were like, yeah, we don't do Coq.

981
00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:07,399
Speaker 2: We don't know it, so yeah, So then I lost

982
00:43:07,440 --> 00:43:08,960
Speaker 2: so he because you know, you don't use it, you

983
00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:09,279
Speaker 2: lose it.

984
00:43:09,320 --> 00:43:11,200
Speaker 3: No one's speaking it around me. I was like done

985
00:43:11,200 --> 00:43:12,440
Speaker 3: with it, but but I was.

986
00:43:12,480 --> 00:43:14,520
Speaker 2: He was so impressed that I was so invested in

987
00:43:14,640 --> 00:43:16,400
Speaker 2: and I hate the class. They even were trying to

988
00:43:16,400 --> 00:43:21,120
Speaker 2: send me on a summer fully submersive program in Tanzania.

989
00:43:20,600 --> 00:43:24,160
Speaker 3: Or Tanzania and I was here for it. He was like, yeah, no,

990
00:43:24,239 --> 00:43:26,480
Speaker 3: and you're about to marry me, so to stay over here.

991
00:43:26,880 --> 00:43:31,399
Speaker 1: That's so. How long did y'all day before her? That's good,

992
00:43:31,440 --> 00:43:32,239
Speaker 1: that's yeah.

993
00:43:32,360 --> 00:43:33,560
Speaker 3: And let me tell you what I used to do

994
00:43:33,600 --> 00:43:34,600
Speaker 3: though in my twenties.

995
00:43:34,640 --> 00:43:38,080
Speaker 2: I would give people two and a half years, like,

996
00:43:38,200 --> 00:43:39,759
Speaker 2: if you ain't put a ring on it, I'm out here.

997
00:43:39,920 --> 00:43:43,280
Speaker 2: That's a real thing. And so when I met my husband,

998
00:43:43,560 --> 00:43:46,000
Speaker 2: first of all, I always talk about manifestation.

999
00:43:46,120 --> 00:43:49,360
Speaker 3: Yes, I changed my name and his phone to wifey.

1000
00:43:50,400 --> 00:43:54,120
Speaker 2: And then I would always play shirts, baby I've been

1001
00:43:54,560 --> 00:43:58,760
Speaker 2: can play Yeah, And then wallets matrimony.

1002
00:43:59,480 --> 00:43:59,800
Speaker 1: How's that?

1003
00:44:01,280 --> 00:44:04,520
Speaker 3: That's a question. That's the same thing. That's the same thing. Yeah,

1004
00:44:04,719 --> 00:44:07,239
Speaker 3: you got it. Yeah, I'm every time we get in

1005
00:44:07,239 --> 00:44:08,799
Speaker 3: the car, it would just be like it don't be like.

1006
00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:12,799
Speaker 3: He was even singing it don't belong to any one, but.

1007
00:44:14,560 --> 00:44:16,279
Speaker 1: Yes that.

1008
00:44:18,800 --> 00:44:22,880
Speaker 3: Baby husband all the time, the.

1009
00:44:23,040 --> 00:44:26,400
Speaker 2: Babe happy honor giving him that, and he did it

1010
00:44:26,440 --> 00:44:28,480
Speaker 2: and he knew in the back of his mind because

1011
00:44:28,480 --> 00:44:30,760
Speaker 2: I'd already let him know when we were dating two years.

1012
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:32,879
Speaker 2: He's like, so, what does it mean at two years?

1013
00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:34,680
Speaker 2: Are you just gonna come and break up with me?

1014
00:44:35,200 --> 00:44:37,080
Speaker 2: And I was like, no, but there'll be signs that

1015
00:44:37,160 --> 00:44:39,320
Speaker 2: I'm dating other people. I'm not gonna hide it.

1016
00:44:39,360 --> 00:44:42,240
Speaker 3: And he's just like, what, that's crazy.

1017
00:44:42,239 --> 00:44:44,320
Speaker 2: So if everything's great in our relationship for two years,

1018
00:44:44,440 --> 00:44:47,319
Speaker 2: if you're not engaging, we're not You're gonna just it's

1019
00:44:47,360 --> 00:44:51,560
Speaker 2: like you said, yes, yeah, that's a strong yes, yes,

1020
00:44:51,920 --> 00:44:54,919
Speaker 2: wow baby that that that two year mark started coming

1021
00:44:55,000 --> 00:44:58,520
Speaker 2: up and I was like, we went to you remember

1022
00:44:58,680 --> 00:45:00,759
Speaker 2: the guy that wrote the book min from Mars went

1023
00:45:00,880 --> 00:45:02,240
Speaker 2: from Ben's John Gray?

1024
00:45:02,520 --> 00:45:06,839
Speaker 3: Yes, so he this is my husband's haven't John Gray? Guy?

1025
00:45:07,000 --> 00:45:09,320
Speaker 3: Like he read all the love books all the on dating?

1026
00:45:09,480 --> 00:45:11,000
Speaker 3: And I went to his.

1027
00:45:11,880 --> 00:45:14,880
Speaker 2: We went to his love ranch in San Francisco and

1028
00:45:14,920 --> 00:45:15,359
Speaker 2: we did a.

1029
00:45:15,280 --> 00:45:17,359
Speaker 3: Couple's retreat, the only black couple. I was like, what

1030
00:45:17,440 --> 00:45:18,080
Speaker 3: is about to happen?

1031
00:45:18,440 --> 00:45:21,880
Speaker 2: Get out, but we did. We did the retreat and

1032
00:45:21,920 --> 00:45:24,600
Speaker 2: it was amazing. It was so good, like it was

1033
00:45:24,600 --> 00:45:27,080
Speaker 2: a couple's canceling. And at the end of that because

1034
00:45:27,120 --> 00:45:29,160
Speaker 2: when we got home that two years was gonna be done.

1035
00:45:29,239 --> 00:45:31,440
Speaker 1: Oh wow, what you're gonna do?

1036
00:45:32,120 --> 00:45:34,839
Speaker 2: And so we were in San Francisco at the end

1037
00:45:34,840 --> 00:45:35,400
Speaker 2: of the retreat.

1038
00:45:36,000 --> 00:45:36,800
Speaker 1: That's perfect.

1039
00:45:38,960 --> 00:45:39,719
Speaker 3: I was looking at the ring.

1040
00:45:39,760 --> 00:45:43,279
Speaker 2: I was like, yes, I know, this is a test

1041
00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:45,600
Speaker 2: from God. I would still say, yeah it was.

1042
00:45:45,640 --> 00:45:46,759
Speaker 1: It was said it was not.

1043
00:45:48,719 --> 00:45:49,399
Speaker 3: Off the old block.

1044
00:45:49,680 --> 00:45:52,040
Speaker 1: You said, was like, don't even know.

1045
00:45:52,320 --> 00:45:54,600
Speaker 2: It was one of the ones in your in this

1046
00:45:54,640 --> 00:46:00,719
Speaker 2: way you are everything I love. And I said to

1047
00:46:00,800 --> 00:46:07,280
Speaker 2: that amend.

1048
00:46:05,880 --> 00:46:06,640
Speaker 3: It was.

1049
00:46:06,440 --> 00:46:08,319
Speaker 4: It was he was testing to see what she was

1050
00:46:08,360 --> 00:46:11,719
Speaker 4: really about, right, And I'm like what He was like, Yeah,

1051
00:46:11,760 --> 00:46:13,360
Speaker 4: I'm gonna take you to New York Dimin District.

1052
00:46:13,360 --> 00:46:18,279
Speaker 3: You could just figure out what you want. Okay, we

1053
00:46:18,360 --> 00:46:19,440
Speaker 3: go tomorrow.

1054
00:46:20,920 --> 00:46:21,359
Speaker 1: From home.

1055
00:46:21,400 --> 00:46:22,920
Speaker 3: I was like, I refuse to tell my family that

1056
00:46:22,960 --> 00:46:23,600
Speaker 3: I'm engaged.

1057
00:46:23,640 --> 00:46:25,719
Speaker 1: And it was like, let's go.

1058
00:46:25,800 --> 00:46:26,200
Speaker 3: Let's just go.

1059
00:46:26,400 --> 00:46:27,600
Speaker 1: Oh that's so sweet.

1060
00:46:28,000 --> 00:46:28,200
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1061
00:46:28,640 --> 00:46:30,600
Speaker 1: Is that the ring that you end up getting? That

1062
00:46:30,640 --> 00:46:32,080
Speaker 1: thing is beautiful.

1063
00:46:32,160 --> 00:46:34,640
Speaker 3: I got this band at three years Wow.

1064
00:46:36,440 --> 00:46:37,400
Speaker 1: Yeah he did that.

1065
00:46:38,360 --> 00:46:41,480
Speaker 4: Yes, and I actually do like the idea not to

1066
00:46:41,520 --> 00:46:43,839
Speaker 4: tell me to do this, but that he did, like

1067
00:46:44,280 --> 00:46:46,719
Speaker 4: just to make sure that you were like, yeah, we

1068
00:46:46,719 --> 00:46:47,600
Speaker 4: didn't got the right one.

1069
00:46:48,360 --> 00:46:50,520
Speaker 3: I didn't even know he was banking like that. We

1070
00:46:50,520 --> 00:46:52,520
Speaker 3: were really frugaling and you know.

1071
00:46:52,680 --> 00:46:56,560
Speaker 1: Oh so you didn't even know about how he know.

1072
00:46:56,800 --> 00:46:58,840
Speaker 3: I was like, he got no money, you know, not

1073
00:46:58,880 --> 00:46:59,920
Speaker 3: for real, you know.

1074
00:47:00,520 --> 00:47:03,839
Speaker 2: And then then I then I kept living with him

1075
00:47:03,880 --> 00:47:05,640
Speaker 2: and kept loving on him, and then it got better

1076
00:47:05,640 --> 00:47:15,240
Speaker 2: and better, and I was like, yeah.

1077
00:47:10,880 --> 00:47:14,440
Speaker 1: I love you so mate, you are so.

1078
00:47:17,080 --> 00:47:18,200
Speaker 3: So yeah, I'm not going anywhere.

1079
00:47:18,320 --> 00:47:18,880
Speaker 1: I love that.

1080
00:47:18,960 --> 00:47:22,000
Speaker 2: But that means he was doing the right things to

1081
00:47:22,120 --> 00:47:24,880
Speaker 2: really get like he made like listen, we lived in

1082
00:47:24,960 --> 00:47:29,080
Speaker 2: his bachelor pad for Shia was what.

1083
00:47:31,080 --> 00:47:33,640
Speaker 3: To Sha was like four years old, right before Shiloh came.

1084
00:47:33,680 --> 00:47:36,200
Speaker 1: Oh wow, yeah, we didn't move.

1085
00:47:36,239 --> 00:47:37,680
Speaker 3: Til like three years.

1086
00:47:37,719 --> 00:47:39,840
Speaker 2: We stayed there for like four years ago, Like we

1087
00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:41,160
Speaker 2: didn't move to three years ago. So I had to

1088
00:47:41,160 --> 00:47:45,560
Speaker 2: be very patience, patience baby, And I was like all right, now,

1089
00:47:46,600 --> 00:47:49,839
Speaker 2: cause you know, we're in Atlanta and people you don't

1090
00:47:49,840 --> 00:47:51,040
Speaker 2: walk up to you and be like, oh, yeah, I've

1091
00:47:51,040 --> 00:47:51,239
Speaker 2: been to.

1092
00:47:51,239 --> 00:47:52,200
Speaker 3: Your husband's house before.

1093
00:47:52,600 --> 00:47:55,560
Speaker 2: Oh, because he even have these parties and I'd be like, oh,

1094
00:47:55,640 --> 00:47:58,920
Speaker 2: I have okay, So I'd be like, he ain't been

1095
00:47:58,960 --> 00:47:59,399
Speaker 2: here lately.

1096
00:48:00,400 --> 00:48:01,920
Speaker 3: Then I would be like okay. And so then I

1097
00:48:01,920 --> 00:48:03,040
Speaker 3: was like, yeah, I'm I'm tired of that.

1098
00:48:03,120 --> 00:48:04,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not a good feeling.

1099
00:48:04,239 --> 00:48:05,800
Speaker 3: And they stept out of y'all gonna see what you

1100
00:48:05,800 --> 00:48:09,839
Speaker 3: stepped out and got me this season up the Rouse.

1101
00:48:10,680 --> 00:48:15,040
Speaker 1: Make sure you tune in March. I love that. I

1102
00:48:15,080 --> 00:48:15,400
Speaker 1: love that.

1103
00:48:15,520 --> 00:48:17,120
Speaker 3: So you did it. I was like, I'm so happy

1104
00:48:17,120 --> 00:48:17,799
Speaker 3: I was space ship.

1105
00:48:17,960 --> 00:48:20,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I mean, and that's that's the main thing.

1106
00:48:20,640 --> 00:48:24,680
Speaker 4: I think in this society, we have gotten so blinded

1107
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Speaker 4: by what can you do for me? And I need

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Speaker 4: this to miss that we miss the things that if

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Speaker 4: that all goes away, we miss what's truly important.

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Speaker 3: What's truly important.

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Speaker 2: Cause let me tell you, I've been in places and

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Speaker 2: and and positions in my life.

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Speaker 3: To where it's all gone away.

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Speaker 2: Like even as a child, my parents had it all

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Speaker 2: and then they lost it all.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and then they got it all again. So I've

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Speaker 3: lived on every you know, I've seen it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like some of our wealthiest people lose it all, yes,

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Speaker 2: and get it all again. So what are you gonna

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Speaker 2: do when you lose it all right? That man, I

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Speaker 2: live underneath the rock.

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Speaker 1: With h See that's what she wanted. That's real love.

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Speaker 3: I love it as long as I have a warming blanket.

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Speaker 4: Yes, you are so silly. What has been your greatest

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Speaker 4: gift that you have gotten from the king culture and

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Speaker 4: your biggest adjustment that you've had to make?

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Speaker 3: You know, I feel that it's been family.

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Speaker 2: And I never thought that I could feel more family

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Speaker 2: oriented than what I came from, because, like I said,

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Speaker 2: my parents have been married almost fifty years.

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Speaker 3: I have two older sisters. We're very close knit family.

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Speaker 3: But when I went to Kenya, it's not.

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Speaker 2: Even about what you're wearing, how much you've got like Christmas,

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Speaker 2: they're not giving each other gifts. They're giving each other love,

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Speaker 2: like the company, the conversation, the companionship.

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Speaker 3: They're singing, they're dancing, you know.

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00:49:42,800 --> 00:49:46,759
Speaker 2: Singing by the fire like it's just it's I don't

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00:49:46,800 --> 00:49:48,839
Speaker 2: even think about like, I'm like, okay, let me take

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Speaker 2: the week off. You know, I'm just all of the things,

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00:49:52,320 --> 00:49:55,000
Speaker 2: all of the worldly things, and you're just there, present

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Speaker 2: in the moment, just loving on.

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Speaker 3: Each other and just enjoying it. Yeah, and the food

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Speaker 3: is amazing.

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Speaker 2: So like, just if there's anything I can take away

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Speaker 2: from that, I want my kids to just.

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00:50:05,200 --> 00:50:07,960
Speaker 3: Go live in that during the summer months.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I want to just keep them humble, keep

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Speaker 2: the ground and know that there's so much more to

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Speaker 2: light than just the things in their hair, all the

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Speaker 2: things you know, you like, all the things.

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Speaker 3: That's great, But then what else? What's at your core?

1152
00:50:22,440 --> 00:50:23,200
Speaker 3: What's in your.

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00:50:23,080 --> 00:50:29,000
Speaker 2: Heart that's blood? What are you gonna leave behind shoes?

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Speaker 2: I mean, hey, they gonna tear up, like from what's

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Speaker 2: at the center.

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Speaker 3: Yes, what's in here?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? I love that.

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Speaker 4: What has been your biggest adjustment when you when it

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Speaker 4: comes to integrating the.

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Speaker 2: Two because sometimes, okay, sometimes we're at family events and stuff,

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Speaker 2: they're all talking across.

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Speaker 3: The table and they're you know, and kill you and

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Speaker 3: I'm like, you know what, uh.

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Speaker 2: And my husband would be like, oh guys, she med

1165
00:50:51,200 --> 00:50:52,359
Speaker 2: it doesn't understand what you're saying.

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00:50:52,440 --> 00:50:54,160
Speaker 3: He'll straight up said, I don't even have to see it.

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00:50:54,520 --> 00:50:55,399
Speaker 3: And that's a good thing.

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00:50:55,480 --> 00:50:58,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, that he has your bag, yes, because because once

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Speaker 2: he sees me.

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Speaker 1: Lean back and grab like this checked out.

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00:51:03,719 --> 00:51:06,440
Speaker 2: Because if y'all not gonna include me I'm not gonna

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00:51:06,480 --> 00:51:10,560
Speaker 2: keep begging and looking like what what does that mean?

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Speaker 3: What did you what did you say?

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Speaker 2: You're not I'm not gonna purpose though, No, But I

1175
00:51:17,120 --> 00:51:20,959
Speaker 2: have had like a few of his messy friends come

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00:51:21,000 --> 00:51:23,520
Speaker 2: and say something slick and and.

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00:51:23,440 --> 00:51:26,160
Speaker 3: He turn around, he be like, oh are you saying?

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00:51:27,200 --> 00:51:30,719
Speaker 2: And yeah, you better call it like don't leave my

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00:51:30,760 --> 00:51:33,960
Speaker 2: wife out. And that's I think what made it easy

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00:51:34,080 --> 00:51:36,760
Speaker 2: for us, Because if you don't have somebody like calling

1181
00:51:36,800 --> 00:51:40,560
Speaker 2: it out for you, it can get frustrated. So yeah,

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00:51:40,640 --> 00:51:43,000
Speaker 2: and then now I'm mad that he's not teaching our daughters.

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00:51:43,040 --> 00:51:44,239
Speaker 3: I'm like, no, wait a minute.

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00:51:44,680 --> 00:51:48,520
Speaker 2: Like I need you to speak to this when they

1185
00:51:48,560 --> 00:51:50,640
Speaker 2: go home to when they go to summer.

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00:51:51,680 --> 00:51:53,239
Speaker 3: I'm like speaking to them.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely, I love that made it easier.

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Speaker 4: What is next for you? We want to know what's

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00:52:00,960 --> 00:52:03,239
Speaker 4: on the horizon for Smia. How can we support you

1190
00:52:03,560 --> 00:52:04,480
Speaker 4: all the good things?

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Speaker 3: So I'm releasing a single soon, yes.

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00:52:07,760 --> 00:52:09,160
Speaker 1: Oh yes, Shemia sing soon.

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00:52:09,440 --> 00:52:13,719
Speaker 3: Yes. I did some music with RL that I'm really

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00:52:13,760 --> 00:52:14,600
Speaker 3: excited about and.

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00:52:16,080 --> 00:52:17,960
Speaker 2: Because I'd been away from music for so long and

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00:52:18,000 --> 00:52:19,279
Speaker 2: that was like my first love.

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00:52:19,400 --> 00:52:24,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm back in it, so please please once we

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Speaker 3: release it, download.

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Speaker 1: It, and then I have.

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00:52:29,280 --> 00:52:33,200
Speaker 2: My YouTube channel. Please get that, you know, go ahead

1201
00:52:33,200 --> 00:52:38,560
Speaker 2: and subscribe. It's you know, Shemiah Morton mlwoge. But if

1202
00:52:38,600 --> 00:52:40,440
Speaker 2: you just type in SMI Morton, it'll it'll come up.

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00:52:40,600 --> 00:52:42,600
Speaker 2: Or just go to my page and click on the link,

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Speaker 2: you know.

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Speaker 3: I I don't know.

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00:52:46,000 --> 00:52:49,040
Speaker 2: I think at this point, I'm just gonna do all

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Speaker 2: the things and then just let whatever happens.

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Speaker 1: Happened there you go. That's what is about doing all

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Speaker 1: the things.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna do all the things, singing, dancing, acting, hosting, yeah,

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Speaker 2: you know.

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Speaker 3: Keeping it positives with my girl like I'm doing all that.

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Speaker 3: I'm here for all that, and I just I want

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Speaker 3: to continue to do.

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Speaker 2: Things that make me happy, that feed my soul, that inspire.

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00:53:12,480 --> 00:53:15,520
Speaker 3: Me, motivating me, you know, and and and just give

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00:53:15,560 --> 00:53:16,760
Speaker 3: me good, good pieces.

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Speaker 1: That's what I'm about right now.

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00:53:19,239 --> 00:53:22,120
Speaker 2: So you have my music, my you know, The Housewives

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Speaker 2: March ninth, go ahead watch it, and then of course

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Speaker 2: my YouTube.

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Speaker 1: Channel and then where can we follow you?

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00:53:29,120 --> 00:53:33,600
Speaker 2: So please tell me at Shamiah Morton on Instagram and

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00:53:33,640 --> 00:53:36,520
Speaker 2: all really all social media platforms at Shami Morrison. I

1225
00:53:36,560 --> 00:53:40,239
Speaker 2: have a nonprofit called Shamia Shares where we empire our

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00:53:40,280 --> 00:53:42,839
Speaker 2: young girls. I do a cheering dance camp every year

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00:53:43,440 --> 00:53:46,360
Speaker 2: in the summer. It's free camp. So go to my

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00:53:46,480 --> 00:53:49,000
Speaker 2: website or even my Instagram if you follow me. I'll

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00:53:49,040 --> 00:53:51,120
Speaker 2: keep your breasts on all that stuff. I do a

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00:53:51,120 --> 00:53:53,279
Speaker 2: breast cancer event every year as well. I have a

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Speaker 2: lot of a nonprofit just free events that I like

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Speaker 2: to do around a community. So just check in with me,

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00:53:58,560 --> 00:54:02,000
Speaker 2: and I'll check in with you. Keep loving on me, y'all.

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Speaker 2: I appreciate all that.

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Speaker 3: Love, but it does, you know, help me out and

1236
00:54:05,880 --> 00:54:06,799
Speaker 3: in more ways than you know.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, No, we got you and can't wait to support

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00:54:09,680 --> 00:54:10,600
Speaker 4: your future endeavors.

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00:54:10,640 --> 00:54:12,560
Speaker 1: I'm always cheering for you, and I got you.

1240
00:54:12,640 --> 00:54:14,359
Speaker 3: I appreciate you, and you have to have me back.

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00:54:14,440 --> 00:54:17,799
Speaker 2: I will this was amazing. Yes, they will, l They

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00:54:17,800 --> 00:54:21,560
Speaker 2: will say it too. I appreciate you absolutely, and I

1243
00:54:21,600 --> 00:54:23,760
Speaker 2: appreciate you just continuing to be I know it sounds

1244
00:54:23,760 --> 00:54:24,560
Speaker 2: so weird to tell people.

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00:54:24,560 --> 00:54:26,480
Speaker 3: You say people like continue.

1246
00:54:26,080 --> 00:54:29,920
Speaker 2: To be themselves, but I just meet so many stars

1247
00:54:29,960 --> 00:54:33,080
Speaker 2: that aren't themselves, and that's not the same person I

1248
00:54:33,200 --> 00:54:36,360
Speaker 2: met and I and we all grow. Yeah, but I

1249
00:54:36,400 --> 00:54:38,799
Speaker 2: appreciate the growth that you have and your growth is

1250
00:54:38,920 --> 00:54:40,439
Speaker 2: like a beacon of light.

1251
00:54:40,560 --> 00:54:44,200
Speaker 3: It's a breath of fresh air. We all want to

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00:54:47,000 --> 00:54:48,080
Speaker 3: that good old crystal air.

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Speaker 4: Of course, no, thank you, oh.

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Speaker 1: Guys, I am so full.

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Speaker 4: After talking to Shamiyah, we laughed, cried. It was a beautiful,

1256
00:55:06,640 --> 00:55:09,720
Speaker 4: beautiful episode in conversation. But what I took away most

1257
00:55:09,760 --> 00:55:11,840
Speaker 4: was that you never know what people are going through.

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00:55:12,360 --> 00:55:15,799
Speaker 4: A smile and community can go a long way. I

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Speaker 4: hope to see her moral on the couch. We had

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Speaker 4: such a good time, and I'm sure you guys do

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Speaker 4: as well. But remember we're all going through something. It

1262
00:55:21,920 --> 00:55:24,759
Speaker 4: doesn't matter how good it looks on the outside. Just

1263
00:55:24,800 --> 00:55:27,040
Speaker 4: remember that we're human and we're all going through something.

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Speaker 4: Thank you all so much for spending time with me today.

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Speaker 4: I hope today's conversation reminds us all that we should

1266
00:55:37,800 --> 00:55:41,080
Speaker 4: dream big and we can absolutely have it all. You

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00:55:41,120 --> 00:55:43,920
Speaker 4: can follow me on all social media platforms at Love Christina,

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00:55:44,360 --> 00:55:46,440
Speaker 4: and you can also follow our show at keep It

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Speaker 4: Positive Sweety. If you wanna write into our positive Outcomes

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Speaker 4: listener letter, you can send us an email at keep

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Speaker 4: it Positive Sweetie at gmail dot com.

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Speaker 1: And the meantime in between time, you guys know what

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Speaker 1: to do keep it positive sweeties. I'll see you next time.

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Speaker 4: Garca Music gar