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Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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Speaker 1: Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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Speaker 1: Today's tip is to be a person who does fun stuff.

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Speaker 1: This tip is inspired by one of the participants in

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Speaker 1: my Tranquility by Tuesday project, who helped me test out

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Speaker 1: the nine time rules that I'll be sharing in my

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Speaker 1: forthcoming book of the same name. One of the rules

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Speaker 1: is to have one big adventure and one little adventure

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Speaker 1: each week. A big adventure might be something like dinner

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Speaker 1: and a play with your partner, or a hike with

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Speaker 1: your kids, something that takes a few hours and feel

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Speaker 1: special and different. A little adventure might be a lunch

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Speaker 1: hour trip to an art gallery or participating in a

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Speaker 1: webinar on cooking. I'm talking just an hour or so

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Speaker 1: doing something a little out of the ordinary besides work, caregiving,

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Speaker 1: or life maintenance. After following the rule to have one

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Speaker 1: big adventure and one little adventure each week, the Tranquility

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Speaker 1: by Tuesday participant who inspired this episode commented that one

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Speaker 1: of the biggest changes was in her picture of her

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Speaker 1: own life. She now felt like the kind of person

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Speaker 1: who did fun stuff. I love that by claiming that

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Speaker 1: identity for herself. She no doubt became more confident that

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Speaker 1: she could make time for fun even with all her

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Speaker 1: other commitments. Because she was the kind of person who

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Speaker 1: did fun stuff. She started looking for fun stuff. She

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Speaker 1: seized on fun stuff that came into her life. I'd

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Speaker 1: say that in general, more fun stuff is better than

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Speaker 1: less fun stuff. So let's all aspire to be people

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Speaker 1: who do fun stuff. When we use the language of

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Speaker 1: identity to remind ourselves who we are, that is, people

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Speaker 1: who do fun stuff, then the behavior we want, more

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Speaker 1: of having fun we'll follow. Because we are the kind

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Speaker 1: of people who do fun stuff, we're more likely to

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Speaker 1: say yes to the fun opportunities that come along, perhaps

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Speaker 1: the last minute invitation to join a friend at a

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Speaker 1: week night pro basketball game, or pulling off the Inner

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Speaker 1: State to follow a sign for a roadside attraction. You

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Speaker 1: spot a bubble wand at the dollar store and buy it.

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Speaker 1: You blow bubbles in the parking lot because that feels

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Speaker 1: like something that someone who has fun would do, and

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Speaker 1: you are the kind of person who does fun stuff.

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Speaker 1: People who do fun stuff are also more likely to

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Speaker 1: seek out fun and build in time for it. When

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Speaker 1: you are a person who does fun stuff. You will

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Speaker 1: expect fun every weekend, and you will be sure to

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Speaker 1: make it happen. You will seek out experiences that are

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Speaker 1: fun or special or unusual. Instead of letting your weekends

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Speaker 1: be consumed by errands and laundry, You'll find room for

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Speaker 1: fun stuff during the week. Two. You'll be open to

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Speaker 1: quick adventures on your lunch break. You'll look for ways

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Speaker 1: to do something on weeknights other than wash dishes, and

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Speaker 1: make sure your kids practice their instruments. After all, that's

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Speaker 1: what people who do fun stuff do. So try telling yourself,

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Speaker 1: I'm the kind of person who does fun stuff. See

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Speaker 1: what happens. Let this statement of identity shape how you

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Speaker 1: respond to invitations and opportunities and how you plan your time.

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Speaker 1: Enjoy having a little more fun in your life and

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Speaker 1: thinking of yourself as someone who is definitely not a drudge.

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Speaker 1: In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and

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Speaker 1: here's to making the most of our tat Hey, everybody,

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