WEBVTT - Deleted Scenes (Season 2) 0:00:04.080 --> 0:00:06.960 To celebrate the end of season two. Of many Questions, 0:00:07.120 --> 0:00:10.200 I'm thrilled to share a few more answers from our 0:00:10.240 --> 0:00:12.160 guests that you didn't get to hear over the course 0:00:12.200 --> 0:00:14.920 of the year. As I'm sure you know, we ask 0:00:15.000 --> 0:00:18.080 each guest the same seven questions every interview, but we 0:00:18.160 --> 0:00:21.560 don't always get to share every answer. But that's why 0:00:21.560 --> 0:00:23.959 I love having one last chance every season to share 0:00:23.960 --> 0:00:26.000 a few of the conversations with our guests that you 0:00:26.040 --> 0:00:29.960 haven't heard. So to close out this season, here's a 0:00:29.960 --> 0:00:32.760 few of my favorite answers from guests this year that 0:00:32.880 --> 0:00:37.280 weren't in the original episodes. Are deleted scenes from season two. 0:00:37.920 --> 0:00:40.040 And don't worry, well, we might be tying a bow 0:00:40.120 --> 0:00:43.320 on this season. Many Questions will be back soon with 0:00:43.479 --> 0:00:48.200 brand new, fantastic inspired and interesting guests, but for now, 0:00:48.680 --> 0:00:53.120 let's get into season two's deleted scenes. Here is pull 0:00:53.159 --> 0:01:02.160 at surprise winning author Anthony Dorr Tony What would be 0:01:02.160 --> 0:01:06.039 your last meal? Mine would be crisps? Whatever? Really? Would 0:01:06.080 --> 0:01:08.680 you really know? It would be? Would I would have them? 0:01:08.720 --> 0:01:10.520 They would be there along with everything else that I 0:01:10.560 --> 0:01:14.040 was going to eat. I love them? But but what 0:01:14.040 --> 0:01:18.600 would your last meal be? Um? It's gonna be predictable 0:01:18.680 --> 0:01:21.360 the American. But I think I would do a hamburger. 0:01:21.360 --> 0:01:23.520 I'm trying not to eat beef very much, but I 0:01:23.520 --> 0:01:25.240 think if it's my last one, I'm going to go 0:01:25.360 --> 0:01:28.800 for it. I think you're fine, uh, and then with 0:01:28.880 --> 0:01:33.080 like pickles, catchup mustard, the whole thing. Then French fries 0:01:33.280 --> 0:01:38.480 with salt, really like salt. And then I would have 0:01:38.640 --> 0:01:42.120 vanilla ice cream with M and M's on it. Now 0:01:42.280 --> 0:01:44.399 is this something that you would eat when you were 0:01:44.560 --> 0:01:47.119 a child or is it something that you're just imagining? 0:01:47.160 --> 0:01:54.360 What the distillation of deliciousness is here? Like doctor Driver 0:01:54.560 --> 0:01:59.200 the therapist in that one. Yeah, totally, I might be connected. 0:01:59.240 --> 0:02:01.720 And it's like a try eildhood meal, isn't it? But 0:02:01.800 --> 0:02:05.280 there's something about Yeah, maybe it's a mouthful of nostalgia 0:02:05.360 --> 0:02:09.280 and comfort because apparently I'm dying right after this. That 0:02:09.400 --> 0:02:11.600 was well, I mean, I I know it would suck, 0:02:11.720 --> 0:02:13.720 it would It's so funny. It's kind of like. But 0:02:13.800 --> 0:02:17.640 I also maybe in my version, like your last meal, 0:02:17.840 --> 0:02:19.800 I someways think about all the other reasons, Like it 0:02:19.840 --> 0:02:23.000 could be that you are like the last person on Earth, 0:02:23.600 --> 0:02:26.760 or it could be in like the metaverse in some 0:02:26.960 --> 0:02:30.800 virtual place one can go and experience like that feeling 0:02:30.800 --> 0:02:34.079 of what your last meal is without you actually dying. 0:02:35.680 --> 0:02:37.080 And then I think, but what would happen if you 0:02:37.080 --> 0:02:39.200 actually got trapped in the metaverse and then it really 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:41.200 was your last meal? And then I go mad And 0:02:41.200 --> 0:02:43.280 then at four o'clock in the morning and I don't 0:02:43.280 --> 0:02:45.560 know what to do. I would like to say I 0:02:45.600 --> 0:02:47.600 could appreciate each of meal I'm going to eat as 0:02:47.639 --> 0:02:49.520 if it were my last meal. But usually I'm like 0:02:49.639 --> 0:02:52.480 reading something and I don't taste it at all. I'm 0:02:52.560 --> 0:02:56.000 jamming a whole doughnut right into my mouth and looking 0:02:56.040 --> 0:02:57.720 at my email, and I realized I eat the whole 0:02:57.720 --> 0:03:00.720 doughnut and didn't pay attention. So I'm trying to be 0:03:00.760 --> 0:03:03.520 more present with the eating thing as because that's what 0:03:03.600 --> 0:03:07.280 your exercise really is about, is defamiliarized this stuff we're 0:03:07.280 --> 0:03:10.079 putting in our mouths and taste it because it's incredible, 0:03:10.120 --> 0:03:12.960 Like we have access to so many spices that humans 0:03:12.960 --> 0:03:17.120 throughout history didn't have. I can go buy avocados in 0:03:17.240 --> 0:03:21.720 January and boise Idaho's incredible, So why if I could 0:03:21.720 --> 0:03:24.800 just appreciate those things a little more and of a 0:03:24.840 --> 0:03:27.480 bowl of vanilla ice cream and where it's ninety four 0:03:27.520 --> 0:03:30.799 degrees outside, that's a terrible That's like an Aztec king 0:03:30.840 --> 0:03:40.640 would sacrifice like forty people just to get Yeah. Oh, 0:03:40.680 --> 0:03:43.440 I like that. I wish that that was a tribe 0:03:43.480 --> 0:03:48.800 that we would find who had deified frozen dairy. I 0:03:50.920 --> 0:03:55.080 would totally join that. I would join that collection of people. 0:04:01.480 --> 0:04:05.920 Here is television host Katie Nolan. What quality do you 0:04:06.000 --> 0:04:11.280 like least about yourself? How much time you got? Honestly, though, 0:04:11.320 --> 0:04:14.120 I have spent the last whatever time two and a 0:04:14.160 --> 0:04:17.000 half years whatever, we will all call the pandemic when 0:04:17.080 --> 0:04:18.960 we look back at this part of our life. I'm 0:04:18.960 --> 0:04:23.279 working on forgiveness of self, very self critical, and I 0:04:23.320 --> 0:04:25.600 know that's probably a common trait among people, so I'm 0:04:25.640 --> 0:04:27.799 not saying it makes me special, but it is something 0:04:27.839 --> 0:04:30.839 that I am trying to work on. Forgive myself for 0:04:30.880 --> 0:04:33.599 my shortcomings or understand them better so that I can 0:04:33.640 --> 0:04:36.200 engineer my life around them. But the one that will 0:04:36.240 --> 0:04:40.400 always haunt me is time management. I hate my lack 0:04:40.440 --> 0:04:43.919 of an ability to manage time. I get very caught 0:04:44.000 --> 0:04:46.919 up in my brain and I'm very curious, so I 0:04:47.040 --> 0:04:49.480 follow a lot of paths like I could spend an 0:04:49.480 --> 0:04:52.760 hour and a half reading about drama between two people 0:04:52.800 --> 0:04:55.600 I've never met and don't know and I've never heard of. 0:04:55.720 --> 0:04:59.280 Until I see a headline of this drama that sounds interesting. 0:04:59.440 --> 0:05:01.599 I can read it and learn everything about it for 0:05:01.640 --> 0:05:04.279 an hour and a half, but then I just lose 0:05:04.360 --> 0:05:09.200 track of everything else. Scheduling things makes me so anxious. 0:05:09.720 --> 0:05:11.400 I was ten minutes late for this a thing that 0:05:11.520 --> 0:05:13.840 was very important to me, and I'm in my pajamas. 0:05:13.920 --> 0:05:15.880 But the most generous reading I've had of that is 0:05:15.920 --> 0:05:18.120 my good friend Mina Kimes, who also works in sports 0:05:18.120 --> 0:05:21.000 TV and is brilliant and is our future and our queen. 0:05:21.279 --> 0:05:23.000 She compared me to Andy Reid, and I know that 0:05:23.080 --> 0:05:24.719 might not land, but I can explain it. He's a 0:05:24.720 --> 0:05:28.640 football coach who is very creative in his play calling, 0:05:28.720 --> 0:05:31.640 but sometimes he gets so distracted by how creative he 0:05:31.680 --> 0:05:33.760 wants to be that he doesn't realize that the game 0:05:33.800 --> 0:05:35.960 is about to end, and so he runs on the 0:05:36.000 --> 0:05:38.040 time to do the thing he wanted to do because 0:05:38.040 --> 0:05:39.920 he was showing off all the things he knows how 0:05:39.920 --> 0:05:41.880 to do. It was part of the thing that's helped 0:05:41.920 --> 0:05:45.800 me see the good intentions of my weaknesses. And try 0:05:45.880 --> 0:05:49.040 to do my best at them where I can, and 0:05:49.080 --> 0:05:52.239 then be prepared to apologize for them or warn people 0:05:52.279 --> 0:05:55.760 of them ahead of time, because nothing's worse than disappointing people. 0:05:56.040 --> 0:05:58.479 There are all things less than disappointing people. Yes, probably 0:05:58.560 --> 0:06:01.680 killing people. I think maybe after you've disappointed them, well, 0:06:01.680 --> 0:06:04.800 then you have to They can't continue to live disappointed 0:06:04.839 --> 0:06:07.240 in me. I must rid the earth of their existence. 0:06:07.839 --> 0:06:10.560 I say this a lot, and it's a soccer term, 0:06:10.600 --> 0:06:14.480 which is, even if it's going really badly, you have 0:06:14.600 --> 0:06:16.920 to play to the last whistle. You have to play 0:06:17.000 --> 0:06:20.159 with everything. Don't say, well, your creative play for the 0:06:20.240 --> 0:06:24.520 last fourteen seconds of a game. But I'm a procrastinator. 0:06:24.760 --> 0:06:27.400 That's what I do because if I as soon as 0:06:27.440 --> 0:06:30.039 I write it, or film it or put it on paper, 0:06:30.080 --> 0:06:32.359 whatever it is I'm making, then it's going to be done. 0:06:32.560 --> 0:06:34.000 And I don't want it to be done. I like 0:06:34.160 --> 0:06:37.039 living in the part where you're figuring it out until 0:06:37.080 --> 0:06:40.240 it's perfect. I don't want to do it. What about 0:06:40.279 --> 0:06:43.120 the idea that like it is never going to be perfect? 0:06:43.279 --> 0:06:45.760 And now what about letting go of this constraint you've 0:06:45.800 --> 0:06:48.320 put on it and just be in the process, which 0:06:48.400 --> 0:06:52.320 you clearly love because God knows you create. Everything is 0:06:52.360 --> 0:06:56.040 self generated that you do, Everything is about you creating 0:06:56.040 --> 0:06:59.880 this content and offering that up. And people clearly obsessively 0:07:00.080 --> 0:07:02.760 love what you do. Even the people that don't get it, 0:07:03.800 --> 0:07:07.520 they love what you do. That's like that. I think 0:07:07.520 --> 0:07:09.800 that might be one of the nicest things anyone said 0:07:09.840 --> 0:07:12.080 to me. I hope that you will be nicer to 0:07:12.120 --> 0:07:15.240 yourself because you're great. You're great. No, not really, I 0:07:15.280 --> 0:07:22.760 have my own ship to work on. This is writer, 0:07:22.960 --> 0:07:29.600 filmmaker and podcast host Sam Fragoso. Okay, what I really 0:07:29.600 --> 0:07:31.560 want to hear this now because I think you might 0:07:31.600 --> 0:07:35.120 know things that I don't. What question do you most 0:07:35.200 --> 0:07:38.840 want answered? My question? And it's something I've thought a 0:07:38.880 --> 0:07:41.560 lot about this year in the pandemic. Why do we 0:07:41.720 --> 0:07:46.760 often wait for conditions to get so bad before we 0:07:46.840 --> 0:07:50.720 make change? And that's true of love, it's true of 0:07:51.040 --> 0:07:56.000 this looming ongoing environmental crisis, it's true of racial justice, 0:07:56.000 --> 0:07:59.760 it's true across the board. Why do we have to 0:07:59.760 --> 0:08:03.560 weigh eight for the conditions to be so untenable before 0:08:03.560 --> 0:08:05.800 we try to make them tenable again? And it's something 0:08:05.880 --> 0:08:09.400 that really bothers me. You know, last year We did 0:08:09.440 --> 0:08:12.480 a podcast with friend labor Witz, and back in the 0:08:12.600 --> 0:08:15.200 late nineties, we were talking about this piece she wrote, 0:08:15.360 --> 0:08:17.640 which was with Vanity Fair was like Nas told too, 0:08:17.800 --> 0:08:19.840 I think it's called on race is what it's called. 0:08:20.280 --> 0:08:24.560 And she makes all these great with a lovely, smart, 0:08:24.640 --> 0:08:27.600 thoughtful points, as she often does about race, and she said, 0:08:27.800 --> 0:08:31.000 I didn't know about any of this within people of color, 0:08:31.080 --> 0:08:33.679 within the black community until I had a friend that 0:08:34.160 --> 0:08:37.000 got pulled over while he had a Mercedes, and I thought, 0:08:37.200 --> 0:08:41.080 that's interesting. But why do you have to know someone? 0:08:41.559 --> 0:08:44.680 Why do we have to wait to know someone? Why 0:08:44.720 --> 0:08:49.120 can't we actually just believe people's testimony? And this constant 0:08:49.160 --> 0:08:52.120 thing this past year in the pandemic, whether it's around 0:08:52.800 --> 0:08:56.840 mask mandates or police brutality, why do we have to 0:08:56.880 --> 0:09:00.520 wait to have a secondhand account? But what do we need? 0:09:00.720 --> 0:09:04.400 It's a really really good question. Why do we have 0:09:04.480 --> 0:09:06.480 to wait for things to get so bad before we 0:09:07.200 --> 0:09:11.600 address them? And also we don't seem to address them definitively. 0:09:12.080 --> 0:09:15.120 It's like we all know that there is a climate 0:09:15.360 --> 0:09:19.120 emergency and people are still just talking about it. I 0:09:19.160 --> 0:09:23.200 wonder what that is? What is that human thing? The 0:09:23.280 --> 0:09:27.840 easy answer is that it's laziness or slothfulness, as fran 0:09:27.920 --> 0:09:31.040 would say. It also could just be life is really 0:09:31.120 --> 0:09:34.920 hard already, we're already trying to just make it through 0:09:34.960 --> 0:09:37.520 the day. When it comes to these big issues that 0:09:37.559 --> 0:09:39.960 feel larger than life, although they're very much of life, 0:09:40.120 --> 0:09:42.000 we let them go. We're trying to get on because, 0:09:42.480 --> 0:09:45.360 as you said, this is all over in an instant. 0:09:45.840 --> 0:09:48.640 She said, I know about people's experiences because I have 0:09:48.920 --> 0:09:52.000 friends that look like that person, and I think that 0:09:52.040 --> 0:09:55.040 applies to empathy in general. It's like COVID. It's like, yeah, 0:09:55.080 --> 0:09:58.960 well I care about COVID because my friend died and 0:09:59.000 --> 0:10:01.680 I had some people who mind. But why would we 0:10:01.720 --> 0:10:05.320 have to wait for that? It's mystifying. I honestly think 0:10:05.320 --> 0:10:07.880 that we look at a lot. We look at a 0:10:07.880 --> 0:10:12.200 lot myopically and also to keep the gigantic nature of 0:10:12.760 --> 0:10:15.360 stuff that's happening in the world at bay, and that 0:10:15.559 --> 0:10:19.520 it's only when that bubble is penetrated by something personal 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:23.559 happening perhaps and it should or shouldn't. That's how it is, 0:10:24.120 --> 0:10:26.520 maybe you're saying. When it comes to like change and 0:10:26.720 --> 0:10:30.160 education in this country, there's been a long conversation about 0:10:30.280 --> 0:10:33.959 giving kids free college or reducing tuition and all these things, 0:10:34.559 --> 0:10:38.360 and the situation is dire. We know it's dire. There's 0:10:38.480 --> 0:10:40.760 people not qualified for the jobs. There's not enough jobs 0:10:40.760 --> 0:10:43.440 to even be qualified for. Schools are more expensive than 0:10:43.440 --> 0:10:45.640 every we know. We all know this. And my dad, 0:10:45.679 --> 0:10:47.880 who's a teacher, mind you, I sometimes said, and we 0:10:47.880 --> 0:10:50.880 should really think about changing the system. We should think 0:10:50.880 --> 0:10:54.760 about having these free colleges. In his first response as 0:10:54.760 --> 0:10:58.480 a teacher as a Mexican, Yeah, but I had to 0:10:58.520 --> 0:11:00.640 pay for school. I had to pay for them. So 0:11:00.880 --> 0:11:02.760 it's like eye for an eye. It's like we're always 0:11:03.200 --> 0:11:06.520 paying off the debt. There's like this ongoing ledger that 0:11:06.559 --> 0:11:08.920 we need to toss out to say we're here now, 0:11:09.320 --> 0:11:12.160 Like I'm sorry, my dad paid for it. But it 0:11:12.200 --> 0:11:13.880 doesn't mean kids, aren't you now? So I don't know, 0:11:13.920 --> 0:11:17.240 maybe that's part of it. I think that also works oversely, 0:11:17.320 --> 0:11:20.880 and that it wasn't me doing that oppressing. I didn't 0:11:20.880 --> 0:11:23.000 do all of that stuff. Why should I be responsible now? 0:11:23.440 --> 0:11:26.160 I think he just comes back to we are these 0:11:26.520 --> 0:11:31.120 individual entities, and maybe it is some deep reptilian brain 0:11:31.240 --> 0:11:33.600 recognition that we are here for such a short amount 0:11:33.600 --> 0:11:36.720 of time and that actually our lot is all we 0:11:36.760 --> 0:11:40.120 really have the capacity to care about, and maybe there 0:11:40.200 --> 0:11:43.800 is some deep programming of just taking care of yourself 0:11:44.160 --> 0:11:48.360 and maybe your children because there's the DNA of the progeny. 0:11:48.840 --> 0:11:51.400 I think it will. What it does is it takes 0:11:51.400 --> 0:11:55.640 something that's really meant to stop you getting eaten by 0:11:55.679 --> 0:11:58.680 a wild animal, and you start appying that to social 0:11:58.720 --> 0:12:02.040 constructs that we have created as opposed to going, okay, 0:12:02.080 --> 0:12:04.800 if we've created these social constructs, we need to develop 0:12:05.080 --> 0:12:07.920 our responses to them, but nobody wants to do that. 0:12:08.000 --> 0:12:09.520 They just want to make sure that they can take 0:12:09.520 --> 0:12:13.880 care of their own lot. It's alternately depressing and understandable 0:12:14.200 --> 0:12:18.280 because it's requiring us as humans to evolve to a 0:12:18.320 --> 0:12:21.520 place to meet what we've created. It's so existential because 0:12:21.520 --> 0:12:23.480 we've created all this stuff in the world, but it's 0:12:23.480 --> 0:12:26.280 like we haven't evolved enough to meet the ship that 0:12:26.320 --> 0:12:29.360 we've created with a response that is going to help 0:12:29.440 --> 0:12:33.400 it or change it, and so we just stick our 0:12:33.440 --> 0:12:36.400 heads back in the ground. There must be something hopeful. 0:12:36.600 --> 0:12:40.400 In the specific context of when I asked fran the question, 0:12:41.080 --> 0:12:44.880 I was she was sixty. It didn't even totally compute, 0:12:44.960 --> 0:12:47.760 and I bet if you explain the dynamic and situation 0:12:47.800 --> 0:12:50.400 to your son, who's much younger than I am. It 0:12:50.440 --> 0:12:52.760 would make complete sense to him, and it would make 0:12:52.800 --> 0:12:55.120 complete sense to my younger sister and my younger brother. 0:12:55.360 --> 0:12:58.240 So there is some hope in future generations that I 0:12:58.240 --> 0:13:00.800 think they're asking these questions. I think they feel it 0:13:00.800 --> 0:13:04.080 in their bones. I do. So that's the hopeful party, 0:13:04.400 --> 0:13:07.800 and then they'll have their own bunch of shipped to 0:13:07.840 --> 0:13:11.120 deal with. Like I think that's also part of our condition, 0:13:11.160 --> 0:13:13.920 that we continue to create stuff that we then have 0:13:14.000 --> 0:13:18.240 to solve. Maybe it doesn't get solved. That's part of 0:13:18.240 --> 0:13:22.360 the position. We might not survive our own slot. I 0:13:22.400 --> 0:13:24.680 thought I was a depressing one, you know what, But 0:13:24.800 --> 0:13:28.640 we're here in this present moment being happy. It's all true. 0:13:28.679 --> 0:13:30.800 I think there is You're absolutely right, there is hope. 0:13:30.840 --> 0:13:33.120 My son does not look at the world the way 0:13:33.120 --> 0:13:36.439 that I do at all. He will have beginner's eyes. 0:13:36.520 --> 0:13:39.080 With all the ship that we've created, it's really who 0:13:39.120 --> 0:13:42.280 is the janitorial generation? Who is really gonna have to 0:13:42.320 --> 0:13:44.280 clean up all this ship? I think it might be you. 0:13:44.559 --> 0:13:48.440 I think it might be your generation. Sorry, Sam, here's 0:13:48.440 --> 0:13:50.959 a broom and a dust bat and brush. I am 0:13:51.000 --> 0:13:55.440 a fossil, like I'm going to hand that on hand 0:13:55.440 --> 0:14:08.280 that up. Next up is comedian, actress and co writer 0:14:08.400 --> 0:14:13.240 of the TV series Starstruck Rose Matter Fair. Okay, so 0:14:13.600 --> 0:14:18.680 what person, plays or experience so far has most altered 0:14:18.720 --> 0:14:23.640 your life? Oh, this is a it's very hard. I 0:14:23.680 --> 0:14:27.480 feel like I haven't lived lived answers to the question, 0:14:27.640 --> 0:14:30.480 I think experience in place I think would be would 0:14:30.480 --> 0:14:31.960 be a big one for me. And that is I 0:14:31.960 --> 0:14:35.400 think just being from New Zealand, living in New Zealand, 0:14:35.440 --> 0:14:37.520 growing up in a place like New Zealand, it has 0:14:37.560 --> 0:14:41.240 an immense effect I think on anyone who went through that. 0:14:41.520 --> 0:14:43.800 I live in London now, but I think, yeah, I 0:14:43.880 --> 0:14:45.840 just wouldn't have been the person I am and do 0:14:45.960 --> 0:14:47.960 the things I do, and particularly I think, you know, 0:14:48.200 --> 0:14:50.400 I started in comedy, like, I don't think I would 0:14:50.400 --> 0:14:53.400 have had the attitude towards making things and making comedy 0:14:53.400 --> 0:14:56.560 and writing and just creativity in general if I hadn't 0:14:56.600 --> 0:14:59.640 come from a country where it was like, I don't 0:14:59.640 --> 0:15:01.720 know something specific about news that you know a lot 0:15:01.760 --> 0:15:04.840 of New Zealanders, you know who like we're an l 0:15:04.920 --> 0:15:07.120 a at the same time as you install all those 0:15:07.200 --> 0:15:09.960 kind of you know, people who have moved abroad, and 0:15:10.160 --> 0:15:12.560 there is just this weird quality when you come from 0:15:12.560 --> 0:15:16.320 a country in the bottom of the world and you're 0:15:16.400 --> 0:15:18.880 allowed to like have this sort of sandpit of just 0:15:19.400 --> 0:15:21.560 doing whatever you want without I think a lot of 0:15:21.560 --> 0:15:24.840 the pressures, particularly and like you know, being a performer 0:15:24.920 --> 0:15:26.920 in like cities like London or like you know, in 0:15:26.960 --> 0:15:28.840 the States and stuff, and know, you can be weird. 0:15:29.360 --> 0:15:33.280 But New Zealand seems to be this really extraordinary incubator 0:15:33.680 --> 0:15:38.120 for creativity. Like that's what I've noticed with the actors, writers, directors, 0:15:38.240 --> 0:15:41.600 musicians that I know New Zealand. It's like this brilliant 0:15:41.640 --> 0:15:47.160 creative science island where you're all you're all grown and 0:15:47.200 --> 0:15:50.680 then you go off out into the world and everybody 0:15:50.680 --> 0:15:53.400 because there is something recognizable there. For me, there is 0:15:53.440 --> 0:15:57.440 something recognizably Keywi. There is a way of seeing the 0:15:57.480 --> 0:16:01.040 world that is brilliant and clever and also doesn't really 0:16:01.040 --> 0:16:04.880 give a fuck, but it's curious and fascinated and not 0:16:05.240 --> 0:16:10.000 or at least not publicly judgmental, yes, but rather rather 0:16:10.040 --> 0:16:13.480 sort of let me have all this input. Maybe again 0:16:13.520 --> 0:16:17.560 from being from little lovely Islands at the you know, 0:16:17.640 --> 0:16:20.520 in the southern hemisphere. There's a lot of this pressure. 0:16:20.560 --> 0:16:23.280 I think, I think the output of of lots of 0:16:23.280 --> 0:16:25.800 things like music and film that comes out of New Zealand. 0:16:25.800 --> 0:16:27.720 I mean there's always like it's always the funny thing. 0:16:27.720 --> 0:16:30.480 I think there's very I think Ireland and New Zealand 0:16:30.480 --> 0:16:33.600 have very similar like a lot of my Irish friends, 0:16:33.760 --> 0:16:37.080 it's bizarrely like it's kind of similar traits. But I 0:16:37.080 --> 0:16:40.040 think it's you know, farming and men with depression. That's 0:16:40.520 --> 0:16:47.120 heavy drinking, heavy drinking, sheep farming, member depression, similar population size. Yes, 0:16:47.240 --> 0:16:50.480 that's the vibe. I think geography really obviously has an 0:16:50.480 --> 0:16:53.640 effect on a sort of national attitude and and and 0:16:53.840 --> 0:16:56.200 sort of you know, even personality traits. But I think 0:16:56.240 --> 0:16:58.160 I think, you know, New Zealand is a place where 0:16:58.160 --> 0:17:01.000 there is like an earnest as well sometimes in like 0:17:01.040 --> 0:17:04.159 a connection to the land that you're from, and you know, 0:17:04.200 --> 0:17:08.359 a sensitivity. I think that maybe you know, the other 0:17:08.720 --> 0:17:13.000 places have less or I don't know. I think it's 0:17:13.040 --> 0:17:15.480 just a great place for you to be a weird 0:17:15.720 --> 0:17:19.000 artie freak and like you know, learn to do something 0:17:19.080 --> 0:17:21.040 without pressure and you know you look at like you 0:17:21.080 --> 0:17:22.879 know tycho or like you know a fly to the 0:17:22.880 --> 0:17:25.600 concord or you know, act your main all that's amazing 0:17:26.280 --> 0:17:29.600 all given the opportunity to just sunk around for many 0:17:29.680 --> 0:17:32.119 years doing comedy and the same with you know, filmmakers 0:17:32.119 --> 0:17:34.320 from New Zealand. I think it's like the work is 0:17:34.400 --> 0:17:38.040 the focus sometimes rather than like the industry, because it's like, no, 0:17:38.200 --> 0:17:41.400 there's not really an industry you know down there as 0:17:41.440 --> 0:17:44.720 such like as much as you know here or in America, 0:17:44.840 --> 0:17:48.399 and just you know, a healthy attitude towards um life. 0:17:48.440 --> 0:17:51.800 It's certainly working in comedy and television and stuff. I 0:17:51.840 --> 0:17:53.760 think there's always part when you when you've got another 0:17:53.800 --> 0:17:56.480 New Zealander, like I've got Alice Neddon, who I write 0:17:56.600 --> 0:17:59.760 you sound struck with, and it's like inception. You know, 0:17:59.800 --> 0:18:03.480 we're each other's token, just grounding each other and going, remember, 0:18:03.640 --> 0:18:08.639 none of this matters. It's fine. You are such a stupid, 0:18:08.680 --> 0:18:12.280 silly person from we grew up streets away from each other. 0:18:12.480 --> 0:18:15.960 This is all ridiculous and very funny, and it's so 0:18:16.320 --> 0:18:19.320 great and healthy to have that. I think it's so 0:18:19.480 --> 0:18:21.600 nice to have a mate doing all of this with 0:18:21.840 --> 0:18:25.960 it means my imagine I'm very jealous of that. It's lovely. 0:18:29.480 --> 0:18:35.680 Next up is actress and model Brookshields. What relationship, real 0:18:35.880 --> 0:18:40.400 or fictionalized, defines love for you? You know, it's interesting 0:18:40.480 --> 0:18:45.240 because love in my personal life had always seemed conditional. 0:18:45.920 --> 0:18:50.359 Then I became a mother and all of it flipped 0:18:50.400 --> 0:18:54.800 on its head. It was no longer selfish to me. 0:18:55.480 --> 0:19:01.320 That first feeling of unselfish love was it was something 0:19:01.320 --> 0:19:03.280 I don't think. I thought I would love my baby 0:19:03.280 --> 0:19:05.240 and I whatever, and I had a hard time with 0:19:05.320 --> 0:19:09.960 my first one postpartum wise, but beyond that, I've never 0:19:10.080 --> 0:19:14.480 known that kind of selfless love where I really it 0:19:14.600 --> 0:19:19.239 was just purely about this this other creature that I 0:19:19.280 --> 0:19:23.359 was both responsible for and the desire to be the 0:19:23.400 --> 0:19:28.000 best part of myself or version of myself instead of 0:19:28.040 --> 0:19:32.119 just fit into somebody else's idea of of what that 0:19:32.200 --> 0:19:34.600 love should look like. You know, Yeah, there was nothing 0:19:34.680 --> 0:19:37.239 you had to do to experience that love. It was 0:19:37.920 --> 0:19:41.280 in and all of itself. Like that. I I get that. 0:19:41.359 --> 0:19:46.280 It's it's a particularly I think you mentioned like the 0:19:46.280 --> 0:19:50.000 transactional nature of being an actor or trying to make 0:19:50.040 --> 0:19:52.639 a living doing it, and love is so wrapped up 0:19:52.640 --> 0:19:55.879 in that because love and approbation in terms of like 0:19:55.920 --> 0:19:58.520 an audience or people putting you in things. And then 0:19:58.520 --> 0:20:01.600 when you have a child, it's so beautiful, how it 0:20:01.720 --> 0:20:06.760 just it blows up that whole notion of you don't 0:20:06.800 --> 0:20:10.119 have to try to do anything. You have to feed 0:20:10.240 --> 0:20:12.640 that baby and stare at it and love it and 0:20:12.880 --> 0:20:16.159 play with it and be there's no, there's something you 0:20:16.160 --> 0:20:19.760 actually have to do, no, in order to engender that love. 0:20:20.240 --> 0:20:23.879 It's so pure. Yeah, And I think my my version 0:20:23.920 --> 0:20:28.040 of love for me, even all romantic love had a 0:20:29.160 --> 0:20:32.160 it like had a goal to it. You did this, this, 0:20:32.160 --> 0:20:34.919 this and this, and then that would happen or or something. 0:20:35.040 --> 0:20:38.680 Or I'd be like, look at me, walk a walk 0:20:38.680 --> 0:20:40.880 a walk, I like I would be doing a song 0:20:40.920 --> 0:20:43.720 and dance just to sort of get approval or I 0:20:43.760 --> 0:20:47.600 was never really first in it, and so it was 0:20:48.200 --> 0:20:50.439 it was very odd. But then to you have this 0:20:50.600 --> 0:20:55.640 primary thing kind of comes out of you and feeds 0:20:55.800 --> 0:21:02.840 on you, and it's the most parasitic, crazy relationship, right, 0:21:03.280 --> 0:21:07.840 And to just think, yeah, that's she doesn't even know 0:21:08.000 --> 0:21:14.119 me and she loves me. Oh my god, I must 0:21:14.119 --> 0:21:18.240 be all right, wait till you get to know me. 0:21:23.200 --> 0:21:29.120 Here is comedian and television host Graham Norton. Okay, So 0:21:29.480 --> 0:21:36.159 what would be your last meal? It would definitely involve potato. 0:21:37.440 --> 0:21:41.720 What because because you love potatoes. I don't mean this 0:21:41.880 --> 0:21:44.960 to be stereotypical about Irish people that because you ate 0:21:45.000 --> 0:21:47.520 a lot of potatoes growing up a lot of different ways. 0:21:47.800 --> 0:21:52.520 Have you always had an affinity for the tubers? I mean, 0:21:52.560 --> 0:21:55.840 I don't know it's certain whether it's you know, nature 0:21:55.840 --> 0:21:59.680 and nurture, I don't know, but a bowl of mash 0:21:59.760 --> 0:22:06.919 but aato is so delicious. Remember seeing him? What's that 0:22:07.040 --> 0:22:09.080 York film? There's a scene at the end where she's 0:22:09.119 --> 0:22:11.119 on death throw and she's getting her last meal. And 0:22:11.160 --> 0:22:12.800 I remember I was on a diet at the time. 0:22:12.840 --> 0:22:14.119 I was trying to dose weight. So I see some 0:22:14.240 --> 0:22:17.720 loots of fish and salad and things, and they gave 0:22:17.760 --> 0:22:20.439 her her last meal and it was like chop steak. 0:22:20.560 --> 0:22:23.560 It was a really big chop steak with potato and gravy, 0:22:23.640 --> 0:22:27.760 and and she pushed it away. And that was when 0:22:27.760 --> 0:22:31.479 I lost all sympathy for that character, because I eat it, 0:22:32.119 --> 0:22:37.960 you more on eat it looks delicious, get it down here. 0:22:38.359 --> 0:22:41.120 So I do like the concept of last meal because 0:22:41.280 --> 0:22:42.800 all of us are going to have a last meal, 0:22:43.080 --> 0:22:46.679 but our last meal will probably be toast. If you 0:22:46.720 --> 0:22:49.840 die of all day, you ends up with toast, which, 0:22:49.920 --> 0:22:52.000 by the way, that wouldn't be a bad thing for me. 0:22:52.240 --> 0:22:56.399 I love toast, do you, Yeah, really do if it 0:22:56.600 --> 0:22:58.840 if it ended up being my last meal, I'd be 0:22:58.920 --> 0:23:02.800 really piste off. It were the crisps that I didn't want, 0:23:02.920 --> 0:23:05.119