1
00:00:00,840 --> 00:00:03,080
Speaker 1: Hold on tight, we gotta you here. It is the

2
00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:10,680
Speaker 1: Strawberry subject, why did he leave? Hello, Steve, Shirley, Tommy

3
00:00:10,720 --> 00:00:13,120
Speaker 1: and Crow. Good morning. I'm a thirty two year old

4
00:00:13,200 --> 00:00:16,520
Speaker 1: female who married at the age of nineteen. My husband

5
00:00:16,640 --> 00:00:20,720
Speaker 1: was twenty two. We've been married for at least thirteen years. Anyway,

6
00:00:20,920 --> 00:00:24,080
Speaker 1: we've been separated for six months. We have two children.

7
00:00:24,360 --> 00:00:27,200
Speaker 1: My husband is divorcing me, but I don't know why.

8
00:00:27,600 --> 00:00:30,640
Speaker 1: I'm a hard working teacher and he's a security guard,

9
00:00:30,880 --> 00:00:33,920
Speaker 1: but I don't care. We have two sons in private school.

10
00:00:34,200 --> 00:00:37,120
Speaker 1: I am currently working on my master's degree. The real

11
00:00:37,200 --> 00:00:40,320
Speaker 1: problem is I feel used. On occasion when I convince

12
00:00:40,440 --> 00:00:43,600
Speaker 1: him to have sex with me. After sex, I feel

13
00:00:43,680 --> 00:00:46,360
Speaker 1: cheap because I know he doesn't love me anymore. I

14
00:00:46,400 --> 00:00:49,720
Speaker 1: can just tell. He just says repeatedly that he does

15
00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:52,880
Speaker 1: not love me anymore. We get along, we don't argue,

16
00:00:53,080 --> 00:00:55,840
Speaker 1: but we are not together. What did I do wrong?

17
00:00:56,280 --> 00:00:59,520
Speaker 1: Why did he leave? Steve? Help have a good day

18
00:00:59,640 --> 00:01:04,440
Speaker 1: since clearly, Mr Troy, While dear Mr Troit, you know

19
00:01:04,600 --> 00:01:07,080
Speaker 1: I'm sorry you have to go through this. Um. The

20
00:01:07,160 --> 00:01:09,279
Speaker 1: one clue in your letter as to why your husband

21
00:01:09,319 --> 00:01:11,360
Speaker 1: is divorcing you could be that you say, he's a

22
00:01:11,400 --> 00:01:14,240
Speaker 1: security guard and you don't care, meaning you love him

23
00:01:14,280 --> 00:01:17,160
Speaker 1: no matter what. But he could be feeling insecure because

24
00:01:17,160 --> 00:01:19,959
Speaker 1: you're more accomplished and more educated than he is. You're

25
00:01:19,959 --> 00:01:23,200
Speaker 1: working to better yourself and the kids. They're in private school,

26
00:01:23,280 --> 00:01:27,280
Speaker 1: you're working on your masters. Uh. The other thing is, um,

27
00:01:27,319 --> 00:01:29,680
Speaker 1: you know you having to convince him to have sex

28
00:01:29,720 --> 00:01:33,679
Speaker 1: with you. I really had to say this, but it

29
00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:36,440
Speaker 1: does sound like he's moved on, that he's not into

30
00:01:36,520 --> 00:01:40,720
Speaker 1: you anymore. Um. We've all heard of cases where people

31
00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:42,679
Speaker 1: just wake up one day and decide they don't want

32
00:01:42,680 --> 00:01:44,880
Speaker 1: to be married anymore, that they've fallen out of love,

33
00:01:45,080 --> 00:01:49,040
Speaker 1: which is what your husband has said to you. That's unfortunate. Again,

34
00:01:49,360 --> 00:01:52,320
Speaker 1: I'm really sorry about that for you, but it does happen.

35
00:01:52,600 --> 00:01:55,560
Speaker 1: You guys did get married pretty early. You know, maybe

36
00:01:55,560 --> 00:01:59,040
Speaker 1: he's just had it. Who knows. Um, A lot has

37
00:01:59,080 --> 00:02:01,919
Speaker 1: been left out of a letter. But at the very least,

38
00:02:02,000 --> 00:02:04,680
Speaker 1: after thirteen years of marriage, you are oh some sort

39
00:02:04,720 --> 00:02:07,720
Speaker 1: of explanation. I mean, maybe he thinks that's good enough

40
00:02:07,760 --> 00:02:11,040
Speaker 1: that he doesn't love you anymore. But um, you know

41
00:02:11,240 --> 00:02:13,760
Speaker 1: the bottom line is you need to know something, even

42
00:02:13,880 --> 00:02:16,280
Speaker 1: if it's an answer you don't want to hear like

43
00:02:16,400 --> 00:02:18,840
Speaker 1: there's someone else. He's moved on with someone else. And

44
00:02:18,880 --> 00:02:21,760
Speaker 1: I gotta tell you that even if that is the case,

45
00:02:22,480 --> 00:02:24,680
Speaker 1: you can move on. You can have a better life.

46
00:02:24,880 --> 00:02:26,720
Speaker 1: You know, if he leaves you, it'll be all right.

47
00:02:26,760 --> 00:02:28,720
Speaker 1: It's gonna be rough, but you can get through it.

48
00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:30,799
Speaker 1: You know you can get through it. There's somebody else

49
00:02:30,840 --> 00:02:33,839
Speaker 1: out there for you. Steve. Yeah, I ain't gotta wait

50
00:02:33,880 --> 00:02:35,280
Speaker 1: on this from right here, and we ain't got to

51
00:02:35,320 --> 00:02:38,640
Speaker 1: read this letter no more. Um. The deally is y'all

52
00:02:38,680 --> 00:02:43,200
Speaker 1: got married at a young age, and now he ain't

53
00:02:43,240 --> 00:02:46,240
Speaker 1: the same person he used to be no more. He's

54
00:02:46,280 --> 00:02:49,720
Speaker 1: grown into somebody else, and you've grown into somebody else.

55
00:02:49,919 --> 00:02:52,800
Speaker 1: And the two people that you become are no longer

56
00:02:52,960 --> 00:02:56,560
Speaker 1: the people that need to be together. It happens. It

57
00:02:56,639 --> 00:02:59,280
Speaker 1: happens if you don't get married that you know, Sometimes

58
00:02:59,280 --> 00:03:01,680
Speaker 1: two people start are changing, and the people that you

59
00:03:01,840 --> 00:03:04,840
Speaker 1: change into ain't cool with each other no more. That

60
00:03:05,000 --> 00:03:08,040
Speaker 1: seems to be basically what has happened right here. I

61
00:03:08,040 --> 00:03:10,280
Speaker 1: don't care how many years you've been married, you've been

62
00:03:10,320 --> 00:03:13,560
Speaker 1: separated for six months, you've got two kids, your husband

63
00:03:13,639 --> 00:03:16,120
Speaker 1: is divorcing you, but you don't know why. Well, yeah,

64
00:03:16,160 --> 00:03:20,120
Speaker 1: you do, because it's in the letter right here. The

65
00:03:20,200 --> 00:03:23,840
Speaker 1: real problem is I feel used on occasion when I

66
00:03:23,919 --> 00:03:29,200
Speaker 1: convince him to have sex with me. I cannot remember

67
00:03:29,280 --> 00:03:34,920
Speaker 1: the last time I've had to be convinced. I've been

68
00:03:35,360 --> 00:03:39,760
Speaker 1: a few times, held back and cut back on it,

69
00:03:40,800 --> 00:03:45,680
Speaker 1: but I do not recall the last time I had

70
00:03:45,720 --> 00:03:50,800
Speaker 1: to be convinced. When you have to convince a man

71
00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:55,880
Speaker 1: to be physical with you, that man right there is

72
00:03:55,920 --> 00:04:00,560
Speaker 1: getting his physical somewhere else. Come on, come on, that's

73
00:04:00,640 --> 00:04:04,320
Speaker 1: just the way we are. Letting me say that to

74
00:04:04,480 --> 00:04:07,600
Speaker 1: you and leave you in the break with that one.

75
00:04:09,240 --> 00:04:11,560
Speaker 1: Then I'll come back and tell you the rest of it.

76
00:04:12,120 --> 00:04:15,680
Speaker 1: But on that note, that's gonna take some soaking. As

77
00:04:15,800 --> 00:04:20,960
Speaker 1: Boomerang say, it's called marinading, but Boomerang calls it's soaking,

78
00:04:21,800 --> 00:04:24,080
Speaker 1: So we don't let you soak in this one, and

79
00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:26,320
Speaker 1: then I'll come back with the rest of it. All right, Steve,

80
00:04:26,400 --> 00:04:28,839
Speaker 1: come on, let's get to part two of your response

81
00:04:28,880 --> 00:04:32,000
Speaker 1: to today's Strawberry Letter. I'm a thirty two year old

82
00:04:32,040 --> 00:04:34,320
Speaker 1: female who married at the age of nineteen. My husband

83
00:04:34,360 --> 00:04:37,479
Speaker 1: was twenty two. We've been married on my thirteen years. Anyway,

84
00:04:37,640 --> 00:04:39,960
Speaker 1: We've been separated for six months. We have two children.

85
00:04:39,960 --> 00:04:41,920
Speaker 1: My husband and divorcing me, but I don't know why.

86
00:04:43,000 --> 00:04:45,200
Speaker 1: I'm a hard working teacher. He's a security guard, but

87
00:04:45,240 --> 00:04:48,320
Speaker 1: I don't care. We have two sons in private school.

88
00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:50,960
Speaker 1: I am currently working on my master's degree. The real

89
00:04:51,040 --> 00:04:53,880
Speaker 1: problem is I feel used on occasion when I convince

90
00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:57,080
Speaker 1: him to have sex with me, and after sex, I

91
00:04:57,120 --> 00:04:59,920
Speaker 1: feel cheap because I know he doesn't love me anymore.

92
00:05:00,640 --> 00:05:03,919
Speaker 1: I can just tell. He just says repeatedly that he

93
00:05:03,960 --> 00:05:07,400
Speaker 1: does not love me anymore. We get along, we don't argue,

94
00:05:07,520 --> 00:05:10,400
Speaker 1: but we're not together. What did I do wrong? Why

95
00:05:10,440 --> 00:05:13,000
Speaker 1: did he leave? Steve? Help have a good day, Sincerely,

96
00:05:13,080 --> 00:05:16,080
Speaker 1: Mr Truck, Mr Troy, Come on, baby, come on, walk

97
00:05:16,160 --> 00:05:20,600
Speaker 1: back towards the light. Because you are ignoring the obvious.

98
00:05:21,279 --> 00:05:24,760
Speaker 1: I can't remember the last time I've had to be

99
00:05:24,839 --> 00:05:31,440
Speaker 1: convinced to have sex. I cannot even tell you how

100
00:05:31,480 --> 00:05:35,359
Speaker 1: we are built as creatures that when you got to

101
00:05:35,360 --> 00:05:42,880
Speaker 1: convince him, we either sick, I mean, and I've often

102
00:05:42,920 --> 00:05:47,159
Speaker 1: found that right after that I feel better. Right, that's

103
00:05:47,240 --> 00:05:50,279
Speaker 1: pretty much to cure all for everything coming in hell?

104
00:05:50,360 --> 00:05:53,960
Speaker 1: If I got a too fake, if it's just give

105
00:05:54,120 --> 00:05:57,680
Speaker 1: me a shot. I'll be fine. I swear to you.

106
00:05:57,760 --> 00:06:00,360
Speaker 1: I'll be fine when I go to Dennis for real carnal.

107
00:06:03,040 --> 00:06:08,680
Speaker 1: Hold up, Hold up, Listen to me. I needed time

108
00:06:08,720 --> 00:06:11,080
Speaker 1: to light this. But I'll tell you what though. If

109
00:06:11,120 --> 00:06:14,159
Speaker 1: you hook me up right quick, I swear to God

110
00:06:14,240 --> 00:06:19,239
Speaker 1: the next swallow of great. If you hook me up

111
00:06:19,440 --> 00:06:22,080
Speaker 1: give me a shot, I swear to you the next

112
00:06:22,120 --> 00:06:27,720
Speaker 1: swallow I take it. I'll listen to me. I just

113
00:06:27,839 --> 00:06:32,560
Speaker 1: came from the doctor and he told me my third

114
00:06:32,920 --> 00:06:37,120
Speaker 1: disc has slipped. I'll tell you what though, if you

115
00:06:37,240 --> 00:06:40,479
Speaker 1: give me a shot, I bet I ain't even got

116
00:06:40,480 --> 00:06:42,400
Speaker 1: to go back down and talk this man here no more.

117
00:06:43,839 --> 00:06:47,880
Speaker 1: Listen to me. I was at work today and the

118
00:06:48,080 --> 00:06:51,320
Speaker 1: crane let a palette down on my left arm and

119
00:06:51,440 --> 00:06:55,479
Speaker 1: has smashed it. But I'll tell you what, if you

120
00:06:55,560 --> 00:06:57,800
Speaker 1: hooked me up right now, I probably won't even need

121
00:06:57,800 --> 00:07:03,280
Speaker 1: that cast. It is the cure all for most men.

122
00:07:03,600 --> 00:07:05,960
Speaker 1: You don't have to convince us to have it. We

123
00:07:06,120 --> 00:07:10,280
Speaker 1: already won't it. We even wanted from people we don't

124
00:07:10,280 --> 00:07:14,120
Speaker 1: even know. I'm going blind in my left high I

125
00:07:14,160 --> 00:07:17,240
Speaker 1: can't see a damn thing. If I just get a

126
00:07:17,320 --> 00:07:25,640
Speaker 1: shot and a little vizine, I'll be fine. The letter

127
00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:31,440
Speaker 1: becomes even moteling after sex. I feel cheap because listen

128
00:07:31,480 --> 00:07:34,200
Speaker 1: to this line and listen to the one right after that.

129
00:07:34,640 --> 00:07:39,680
Speaker 1: I feel cheap because I know he doesn't love me anymore.

130
00:07:41,480 --> 00:07:45,840
Speaker 1: Next line, I can just tell you know how she

131
00:07:45,880 --> 00:07:48,520
Speaker 1: could tell, because of the very next line. He just

132
00:07:48,720 --> 00:07:55,960
Speaker 1: repeatedly says that he does not love me anymore. Lady, lady, lady, lady,

133
00:07:56,480 --> 00:08:00,680
Speaker 1: my foot then fell off. If you just give me

134
00:08:00,720 --> 00:08:04,679
Speaker 1: a shot, I'll be fine. My nose is no longer

135
00:08:04,720 --> 00:08:08,400
Speaker 1: on my faces in my pocket, I really came. But

136
00:08:08,520 --> 00:08:13,400
Speaker 1: if we could just get in bed right a baby,

137
00:08:13,640 --> 00:08:17,120
Speaker 1: my neck is broke. I can't hold my head up. Baby.

138
00:08:17,240 --> 00:08:20,120
Speaker 1: But if you climb on top of me for the gurney,

139
00:08:20,160 --> 00:08:23,200
Speaker 1: for they strapped me on this gurney, we could save

140
00:08:23,280 --> 00:08:27,600
Speaker 1: a lot of money. See that's that's that's it now, lady,

141
00:08:27,880 --> 00:08:32,720
Speaker 1: you your answers are all in the letter. Now here's

142
00:08:32,880 --> 00:08:37,040
Speaker 1: the other part, that we get along. We don't argue. Well,

143
00:08:37,160 --> 00:08:40,480
Speaker 1: y'all been separated six months, ain't you hard? And somebody

144
00:08:40,480 --> 00:08:43,360
Speaker 1: ain't here hard to not get along with a person

145
00:08:43,400 --> 00:08:46,439
Speaker 1: you ain't got to see and be with. So ma'am,

146
00:08:46,960 --> 00:08:50,040
Speaker 1: but we are not together. What did I do wrong?

147
00:08:50,360 --> 00:08:52,520
Speaker 1: Why did he leave? Steve? Help? Okay, let me help

148
00:08:52,559 --> 00:08:55,760
Speaker 1: your sister. First of all, you don't have to have

149
00:08:55,880 --> 00:09:01,280
Speaker 1: done anything wrong, and probably you have done a single

150
00:09:01,400 --> 00:09:04,160
Speaker 1: thing wrong. And this is where women can really give

151
00:09:04,200 --> 00:09:09,960
Speaker 1: yourself a break. Sometimes you just got the wrong dude.

152
00:09:10,080 --> 00:09:13,360
Speaker 1: What even starts out as the right man can turn

153
00:09:13,440 --> 00:09:17,880
Speaker 1: into the wrong man. You just got the wrong dude.

154
00:09:18,600 --> 00:09:22,360
Speaker 1: Who who he grew into is not a family man anymore.

155
00:09:22,720 --> 00:09:25,160
Speaker 1: It's not a committed man anymore. It is not a

156
00:09:25,240 --> 00:09:28,280
Speaker 1: man that's in love with you anyway. That's what he's

157
00:09:28,280 --> 00:09:33,160
Speaker 1: grown into. Sometimes men don't need a calls. We just ignorant,

158
00:09:33,200 --> 00:09:36,080
Speaker 1: we dumb, and we do it now. I can almost

159
00:09:36,120 --> 00:09:39,440
Speaker 1: assure you that he will come running back at one point.

160
00:09:39,800 --> 00:09:41,880
Speaker 1: But don't you sit over there and wait on it though,

161
00:09:42,280 --> 00:09:47,600
Speaker 1: Go on with your life. Let's all right, Steve. You

162
00:09:47,600 --> 00:09:49,319
Speaker 1: know we gotta get out of here. You can email

163
00:09:49,400 --> 00:09:51,880
Speaker 1: us or instagram 's your thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter

164
00:09:52,040 --> 00:09:55,080
Speaker 1: at my Girls Shureley and please please join me this

165
00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:57,960
Speaker 1: third day at one pm Eastern Time for the Strawberry

166
00:09:58,080 --> 00:10:02,000
Speaker 1: Letter Live after show on Facebook at one thirty pm Eastern.

167
00:10:02,320 --> 00:10:05,040
Speaker 1: You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.