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Speaker 1: Oh you, I.

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Speaker 2: Expose my sister in law's fake allergies.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm allergic to yo bs.

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Speaker 2: Parents gave up wanting responsibilities for Thanksgiving meal about five

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Speaker 2: years ago. My house is big enough to host and

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Speaker 2: I enjoy cookings. Over the past three years, the duties

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Speaker 3: I'm Sophia, I'm Dakota, I'm Riley, and we're here to

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Speaker 3: give good advice.

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Speaker 2: Goofy. But we don't have all the answers. We only

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Speaker 2: know what we do, So let us know what you

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Speaker 2: would do in the comments. Ohp sets. I make the turkey,

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Speaker 2: the stuffing, mashed potatoes, and gravy and rolls. Others bring

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Speaker 2: sides and things like chips and drinks. This year, my

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Speaker 2: brother and his wife came in to town early and

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Speaker 2: stayed over Thanksgiving mid morning, my sister in law wanders

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Speaker 2: into the kitchen while I'm making stuffing. She sees my

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Speaker 2: pile of bread crumbs, celery onion sausage in a bowl

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Speaker 2: and me sawt hag mushrooms. She says, what are those for?

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Speaker 2: I told her they were for the stuffing. She put

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Speaker 2: her hands on her hips and said, freaking out, you

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Speaker 2: can't put mushrooms in the stuffing. I'm allergic. I was stupefied.

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Speaker 2: I said when did this happen? And she just looked

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Speaker 2: when did you discover you're allergic to mushrooms? She scoffed

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Speaker 2: and said, I've always been allergic.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that is true.

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Speaker 2: That's the thing that she's always been allergic.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, people are allergic to mushrooms. Yeah, of course,

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Speaker 1: but she's just allergic to things she doesn't like.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I think she just doesn't like mushrooms.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: And in that case, there's this like fun hack that

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Speaker 2: you can do where you don't eat the stuffing.

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Speaker 1: That's no, that's not drama. That's not very dramatic, right,

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Speaker 1: that's not drama.

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Speaker 3: Stuff and gets put into the turkey, and then it

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Speaker 3: kind of'll infect everything with mushrooms in your.

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Speaker 1: Stuffing in the turkey, that's why they call it stuffing.

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Speaker 2: I've never put stuff you know that makes sense where

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Speaker 2: it comes from, that does make sense. I've never done them. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I mean, I don't eat the turkey, but even when

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Speaker 3: I'm also being a little facetious because just because there's

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Speaker 3: mushrooms in the stuffing doesn't mean the turkey's gonna taste

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Speaker 3: like mushrooms.

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Speaker 1: But I don't know.

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Speaker 3: This sounds like a thing where if she would have

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Speaker 3: just been nice about it, everything would be fine.

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Speaker 2: She could have been like, hey, could you make a

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Speaker 2: little push that doesn't have mushrooms in your mind?

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Speaker 2: When I make my stuffing, I like things to be

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Speaker 2: interesting because you weren't allergic last year, and you weren't

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Speaker 2: allergic the year before. She asked what I meant, and

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Speaker 2: I told her I'd been making stuffing like this every year.

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Speaker 3: I just love the question of like, what do you

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Speaker 3: mean when she's like, I mean, you're not allergic to

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Speaker 1: You don't.

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Speaker 2: Maybe she just thinks she doesn't like mushrooms. She got

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Speaker 2: pissed and went to my brother to tell him, and

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Speaker 3: If you kick a big rock and you're like, ow,

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Speaker 2: It's the fall fox fault.

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Speaker 1: So the way physics works is you have masks and

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Speaker 2: That's really how it works. And the rock in this

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Speaker 2: scenario is how stupid your fister in law is.

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Speaker 1: She doesn't understand physics. The rock is her being mean.

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Speaker 1: If she would have.

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Speaker 3: Just been like, yeah, oh, I don't really like mushrooms

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Speaker 2: I remember when I was a child, I had a friend.

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Speaker 1: Good job, I'm so proud you had a friend as

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Speaker 2: I kept I kept that streak going every year. But

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Speaker 2: when I was five years old, I had I had

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Speaker 2: a friend who was very picky, like she only ate

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Speaker 2: chicken nuggets and fries, like like very very picky. And

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Speaker 2: then and playing pasta and my mom pasta, Yeah, like

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Speaker 2: pasta with butter. Yeah, like that's it.

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Speaker 2: And my mom obviously would not tolerate like super picky

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Speaker 2: you know everything. And I remember she made fish for

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Speaker 2: dinner one night and my friend at like, you know,

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Speaker 2: five years old, She's like, what is this And my

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Speaker 2: and my friend was like, I take it all back,

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Speaker 2: which is so silly because that's what this adult woman

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Speaker 2: I maintain I didn't make her feel anything. Am I

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Speaker 2: you have any comments of your own?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you didn't make her feel anything.

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Speaker 3: She felt dumb because she said some stuff that turns

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Speaker 1: As being dumb.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and that's even dumb, like just I don't even

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Speaker 3: I don't know a whole litany of words. If she

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Speaker 1: Not your fault.

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Speaker 2: Those are consequences. Dry novel two five two three says

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Speaker 2: it's completely possible the stuffing gave her the craps or

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Speaker 2: the cramps, and she just thought it was from the

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Speaker 2: amount of food. Not all allergic reactions are anna fleaxus shock,

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Speaker 2: Shut up.

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Speaker 1: That wasn't even what happened. Get out of here.

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Speaker 2: That wasn't even what happened. That's her, that's just her.

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Speaker 2: Was She's like, well, actually you didn't consider Opie says

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Speaker 2: she's never given any indication the food gave her anything

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Speaker 2: but pleasure, no cramps or illnesses. Ready to drink and

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Speaker 2: party the past two years at a friend's game party

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Speaker 2: Thanksgiving night. To another commentary, no reactions that I can tell.

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Speaker 2: She has for the past few years gone to game

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Speaker 2: night Thanksgiving night and she feels well enough to drink

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Speaker 2: my brother under the table. No reaction the next day either,

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Speaker 2: just more stuffing and gravy leftovers. Va Vesta says, not

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Speaker 3: Well again, she doesn't. She does not have one.

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Speaker 2: That's what that person is saying. The commentary is saying, like,

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Speaker 2: if she had allergies, she should have mentioned it.

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Speaker 3: Well, yeah, she doesn't.

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Speaker 2: She doesn't have the allergies, and she didn't mention anything.

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Speaker 3: Either, Like what it's like, it's like a power play. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: she's trying to power play. Like no, actually, no, that's

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Speaker 2: I don't even like mushrooms that much, But if they're

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Speaker 2: to tell someone to keep about like, I'm just gonna

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Speaker 2: eat it and deal with it. However, I caution against

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Speaker 2: dismissing her allergy as fake without more info. Commenter, you

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Speaker 3: The story, I dismiss it as fake. I know her

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Speaker 2: Yeah, food allergies don't always come with immediate reactions. Okay,

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Speaker 2: this commentary is silly.

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Speaker 1: Oh.

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Speaker 2: He says, we've got a kid in the family with

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Speaker 2: multiple allergies to various nuts. She knows this and that

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Speaker 2: we are careful about it. I feel like if she

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Speaker 2: never claimed any reaction to the stuffing, no mention of

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Speaker 2: it by my brother, no warning about the presumably years

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Speaker 2: read the story.

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Speaker 1: That's the thing is.

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Speaker 3: It's she was like, I've always been allergic to mushrooms.

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Speaker 3: It's like, why are you lying to me?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you're you're weird.

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Speaker 2: And there was a bunch of comments in there saying like, oh,

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Speaker 2: well she could have developed allergies. It's like, no, shut up, no,

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Speaker 2: she said, I've always had these allergies, so she's clearly lying.

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Speaker 2: Opie says, yeah, it's why I asked her about when

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Speaker 2: it happened. I have a friend who is allergic to shellfish,

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Speaker 2: went from being able to eat shrimp to full blown

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Speaker 2: throat closing symptoms within about six months. Riley to the opposite, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I did, he's not allergic to shrimp.

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Speaker 3: Guys slowly dosed himself with shrimp.

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Speaker 1: Yep. I had two and a half rolls of sushi

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Speaker 1: that shrimp in him last week. I'm good.

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Speaker 2: Maybe all this time, you always thought, oh, I can

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Speaker 2: only have a hundred shrimp in my life and then

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Speaker 2: I just pass away. But really, you have one hundred

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Speaker 2: shrimp until you can.

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Speaker 3: Just eat I was wrong, Yeah, until your.

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Speaker 2: Life begins anew OPI ads. I have never tried to trigger.

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Speaker 2: The recipe is my grandmother's. We have been eating it forever.

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Speaker 2: The only thing I do differently is make the vegetables

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Speaker 2: in it fairly uniform. My sister in law has eaten

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Speaker 2: it since they were engaged. Pretty sure my brother knows

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Speaker 2: Slash knew what was in it. Summit Junkie says, not

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Speaker 2: the ale. She could just not eat the stuffing. And

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Speaker 2: if she really believe she has an allergy, you ate

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Speaker 2: this last year and the year before, did you have

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Speaker 2: an adverse reaction? Is important medical information, so you were

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Speaker 2: right to tell her. If what she does with that

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Speaker 2: information is feel stupid and throw fits, that's on her.

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Speaker 2: Opie says. She doesn't just eat the stuffing. Traditionally, she

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Speaker 1: There is one thing we have not considered.

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Speaker 3: What maybe her allergy is only active when she knows

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Speaker 3: Like fu guy, probably like fung jobia, funjobia, jobia, fu

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Speaker 3: When I was a child. I did that once again

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Speaker 1: Cheese on purpose? What only well, yeah, there's molden cheese.

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Speaker 3: No, I never had a bag, never had moldy shredded

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Speaker 3: I just don't think I eat shreaded cheese like that. Okay, well,

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Speaker 3: And then when I fell like thirty feet this year,

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Speaker 1: I convinced myself, what's the fear of bugs?

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Speaker 3: It's not even that. I'm not even it's the noise.

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Speaker 2: That's not what I asked. What's the fear of bugs?

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Speaker 3: Part to be Yeah, I'm from bogobia.

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Speaker 1: I'm Bugobian. There's a little bit left. I'm but jorg It.

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Speaker 2: Oh but Jorpin apparently. And I'm still trying to wrap

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Speaker 1: Shut up.

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Speaker 2: This person's copying on She is a phobia of mushrooms.

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Speaker 2: I literally said that. Maybe that's not the right word.

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Speaker 2: But after watching a TikTok video about some edible mushrooms

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Speaker 2: she believes she can be infected by no. No, she's

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Speaker 3: What's horrifying is that is if global temperatures continue to rise,

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Speaker 1: Fungu I could take over the world.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well, they could develop a mutation that allows them

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Speaker 2: We already have zombie fun guys not hot.

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Speaker 3: We're too hot exact inside for the mushrooms to work.

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Speaker 2: But if they adapt to rising temperatures, they can. That's

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Speaker 3: I don't like, Oh God, how did we get here?

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Speaker 1: It's so funny.

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Speaker 2: A second, Opie's sister in law is just that scientist.

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Speaker 2: In the beginning of the Last of Us, no no

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Speaker 1: The Last of This woman is a freaking idiot. I

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Speaker 2: I'm calling every element of this story before it happens.

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Speaker 1: I'm mad now.

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Speaker 3: I'm mad at this person for thinking The Last of

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Speaker 2: Which he explained is fiction created from a video game,

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Speaker 2: That's true. Would she be a felon for I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Something really stupid, probably burnt.

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Speaker 2: Down a mushroom farm. I feel like we have bigger

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Speaker 3: She saw she saw clips people talk about the Last

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Speaker 2: Coming for us. The fungal apocalypse, the fung the fung apocalypse.

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Speaker 1: Fung fung.

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Speaker 3: The lips is the fungus apocalypse, and fung ist funguslis

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Speaker 3: it's after the there's a fungois. Yeah, it's you know what,

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Speaker 3: and that probably won't happen in our life, and like,

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Speaker 3: we'll probably figured it out.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, a I'll probably solve it, you know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, do something maybe the Maybe we'll live forever because

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Speaker 3: Guy low key though. They are the ones that rule

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Speaker 3: they'll be here long. When the Sun swallows the Earth,

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Speaker 3: it will be it's a fungus that will be the

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they're like, we got this. Guy's take a step back.

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Speaker 2: We'll handle it.

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Speaker 1: We've adapted to heat.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Have you seen the tiktoks where like the guys

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Speaker 1: No, I have I don't know what I'm talking about.

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Speaker 3: My silium Yeah, grows out into the atmosphere, creates a

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Speaker 3: We're already talking about the Sun expanding and swallowing the planet.

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Speaker 2: So I got sage time. Let's let's get Ice age

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Speaker 2: six out here, Ice age six, Sid the sloth and

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Ray Ramono, Ray Ramanath, Ray Ramona, Ray ram Mammoth.

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Speaker 2: Rayver mammoth who plays Sid. But we've got another story

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Speaker 2: coming up, so we're gonna get into that.

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Speaker 1: I refused to have my husband's family stay with us

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Speaker 1: for the holidays.

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Speaker 2: Stay somewhere else.

443
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Speaker 1: We have a.

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Speaker 3: One bedroom apartment with a seven month old. That's the

445
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Speaker 3: whole story.

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Speaker 1: Well, stay somewhere.

447
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Speaker 2: Else, Yes, stay somewhere else.

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Speaker 3: Space is already so limited. My husband's sister and her

449
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Speaker 3: family are flying across the country to spend Christmas with

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Speaker 3: us for eleven days. They insisted they stay with us

451
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Speaker 3: instead of getting a hotel.

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Speaker 2: And that's when you say, I'm so sorry, you can't.

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Speaker 1: Where are you gonna stay?

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Speaker 2: You paid for a flight, you can pay for a hotel.

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Speaker 1: Is that three my husband's sister and her family.

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Speaker 2: Her family sounds like multiple could be four people. I

457
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Speaker 2: would say, hey, we literally you will be on the floor,

458
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Speaker 2: You're going in the kitchen, you'll be in the bathtub.

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Speaker 1: We don't have room, gon't be on the roof. And

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Speaker 1: that's how Jesus was born.

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Speaker 2: Yep, they just didn't have room. They just put me

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Speaker 2: in the stable.

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Speaker 3: Of course, my husband agrees to this without talking to me.

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Speaker 2: Dude, if if your husband did this, I'd be like, mmmmm,

465
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Speaker 2: you're out, You're you're I'm leaving, I'm going to you're

466
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Speaker 2: paying for a hotel for me and the baby.

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Speaker 1: Husband more like husband, Yeah, it has been you're all

468
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Speaker 1: you're all sleeping in the living husband, all of you

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Speaker 1: are sleeping in the I changed to has been has been? Been?

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Speaker 1: Like I just I just you.

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Speaker 2: Said husb Ben and then I said.

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Speaker 1: Just like the funny guy in school. Okay, that just

473
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Speaker 1: says it. Louder I said it differently, we said different things.

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Speaker 1: I would throw this guy into that, into this son

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Speaker 1: into the sun. By the way, this.

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Speaker 3: Comes from user Chico Revelli, and if you want to

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Speaker 3: submit your own stories, go to the r slash Okay

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Speaker 3: story Tom suburt It.

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Speaker 1: I'm Dakota, I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, and we are.

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Speaker 3: Here to give good advice gooflee because we don't have

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Speaker 3: all the freaking answers, which is a bunch of goofballs.

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Speaker 1: Let us know what you would do though. In the comments,

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Speaker 1: op says.

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Speaker 3: When he does ask me about it, I explain how

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Speaker 3: it's going to be crowded.

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Speaker 1: The noise has to be kept to a minimum because

487
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Speaker 1: of the baby. My son already.

488
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Speaker 3: Has trouble sleeping, so who knows how it'll be by

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Speaker 3: next month. Husband is working some days while they're here,

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Speaker 3: so he insists they use my car to go and

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Speaker 3: do stuff while I'm home with the kid. The problem

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Speaker 3: I have the most is when I speak up, he

493
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Speaker 3: immediately says I'm against his family, even though he's always

494
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Speaker 3: talking crap against mine. My family hasn't been over to

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Speaker 3: see my son yet because they know it's going to

496
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Speaker 3: take hotel and car rental fees. They don't insist on

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Speaker 3: uprooting my entire routine for eleven days. My mom can

498
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Speaker 3: get me discounts because she works at a hotel, but

499
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Speaker 3: that's still not good enough for them.

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Speaker 1: I think it's just rude.

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Speaker 3: To insist on sleeping on an air mattress that will

502
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Speaker 3: take up half of our living room. My son will

503
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Speaker 3: not have a safe place to play. I'll have to

504
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Speaker 3: lock myself away to pump every three to four hours.

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Speaker 3: Our routines will be shattered. I have a feeling their

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Speaker 3: kid will be loud and wake the baby. Husband said,

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Speaker 3: don't get mad if sister's kid breaks things.

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Speaker 1: He's five, I'm going to be mad. Yeah, yeah, I'm

509
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Speaker 1: gonna be.

510
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Speaker 3: Mad if your sister's kid is breaking all our stuff.

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Speaker 2: Would don't be mad if he shatters all of your

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Speaker 2: pictures and gnaws on all of your couches, like it,

513
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Speaker 2: can't be mad.

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Speaker 3: Are we just gonna give the kid carte blanche? Yeah,

515
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Speaker 3: to destroy stuff? No, the kid needs to be reprimanded.

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Speaker 2: Like a guy goes into a bank, He's like, hey,

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Speaker 2: don't be mad if later I come back and I

518
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Speaker 2: rob you, guys.

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Speaker 1: Don't I'm mad. You know my five year old's gonna

520
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Speaker 1: come in here and rob the bank.

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Speaker 2: You gotta rob you guys. Don't be mad.

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Speaker 3: He's five, he's five, all right, Just give him twenty dollars.

523
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Speaker 1: Just give twenty.

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Speaker 3: I am made to feel like the A hole because

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Speaker 3: I have an opinion. The more I think about it,

526
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Speaker 3: the angrier I get. Am I the A hole? And

527
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Speaker 3: am I the A hole? Has no consensus? But there

528
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Speaker 3: are some comments here. I would say not the A hole,

529
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Speaker 3: because like this at least has to be a discussion. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: you go to host family in a one bedroom apartment'd

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Speaker 3: be different if it was a house and you had

532
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Speaker 3: a guest room and everything.

533
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Speaker 2: One bed your apartment. And also you have a seven

534
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Speaker 2: month old, So not only are you dealing with trying

535
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Speaker 2: to host a bunch of people in a tiny place.

536
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Speaker 1: But also you have to take care of a baby.

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Speaker 2: Get take care of baby.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they're just gonna take your car, Yeah, for eleven days? No,

539
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Speaker 3: what are they gonna if they can't afford the hotel?

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Speaker 3: What happens if they get an accident in your car?

541
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Speaker 3: Are they gonna pay that? Guess who's responsible for that.

542
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Speaker 3: Guess who's held on the hook for anything that happens.

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Speaker 1: To your car. That's you. Yep. Oh.

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Speaker 3: Comment to number one says you should be rethinking this marriage.

545
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Speaker 3: He's got zero consideration for you. Comment or two says, exactly,

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Speaker 3: he's showing all the classic signs of being in abuse

547
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Speaker 3: her isolating her, He bad mouths her family and probably

548
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Speaker 3: wouldn't even let them into the home. He cuts her

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Speaker 3: out of the decision making inviting his family to stay

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Speaker 3: with them for eleven days during Christmas, and makes everything

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Speaker 3: her fault when she objects and uses logic, she is

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Speaker 3: difficult and she hates his family. He makes her question

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Speaker 3: her own logic insanity, hence her post here. Comment three says,

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Speaker 3: want to bet he's around his thirties at least, and

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Speaker 3: she is early twenties.

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Speaker 1: Op. He says, oof, try forty and mid thirties. Oh hoof?

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Okay, sure, okay? I did mean okay?

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Speaker 1: Is op from an Indian culture? OPI says Nope, nope,

559
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Speaker 1: like Indiana, like Larry Bird.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly, you shoot threes in blue jeans. Comment four says,

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Speaker 3: not the a hole, good grief. I'd be leaving to

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Speaker 3: visit my own family with the baby for eleven days.

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Speaker 3: He can dealt with his sister, honestly.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe that's the solution. You go, okay, Well, if

565
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Speaker 2: they're coming here, we're going.

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Speaker 1: I mean, like, what the heck? Man, what the heck

567
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Speaker 1: is this guy doing? Comment five eleven days?

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Speaker 3: No two days tops for someone to sleep on an

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Speaker 3: air mattress in your living room. This isn't about being

570
00:26:04,960 --> 00:26:07,680
Speaker 3: against his family. It isn't a family matter at all.

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Speaker 3: You simply cannot host in your home for eleven days

572
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Speaker 3: in a one bedroom apartment, especially for three additional people.

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Speaker 3: I would offer the car, but say that they can

574
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Speaker 3: use it on specific days, not during the entire time.

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Speaker 3: Or his sister can take your husband to work and

576
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Speaker 3: use his car while he is at work. Who's buying

577
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Speaker 3: all the food and will be cooking the meals? Com

578
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Speaker 3: Under six says you should be rethinking this marriage. He's

579
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Speaker 3: got zero consideration for you. And there is a one

580
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Speaker 3: month update.

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Speaker 2: Oh boy, I need to hear what happened.

582
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Speaker 1: I think she reconsidered this marriage, really.

583
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Speaker 2: Because I don't know all that stuff about what he

584
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Speaker 2: was saying about her family not.

585
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Speaker 1: Looking too good. Yeah, there really are.

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Speaker 3: I can't imagine not discussing with my wife just had

587
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Speaker 3: a kid seven months ago, that my family's going to

588
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Speaker 3: be in the living room for almost two weeks.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. It's like, oh, I've already said they're coming to

590
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Speaker 2: stay for eleven days, maybe a night. Maybe Oh I

591
00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 2: already discussed they're coming to stay for a day. Yeah,

592
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Speaker 2: maybe that's different.

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Speaker 3: Good compromise would be like maybe you stay at our

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Speaker 3: place for three days. Yeah, and then you can pay

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Speaker 3: less for the hotel or some you know whatever.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Figure it out, literally, figure it out.

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Speaker 3: Update Where to even begin unwrapping this nasty little business.

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Speaker 3: I had brought up the issue with his family staying

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Speaker 3: a couple times after my first post. I had to

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Speaker 3: google how to talk to a narcissist. Before the approach,

601
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Speaker 3: I said how it would affect the baby and I

602
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Speaker 3: and how it would affect his family with me having

603
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Speaker 3: to get up in the middle of the night, and

604
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Speaker 3: how my son needs space for his playpen. The baby

605
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Speaker 3: proofing a one bedroom has proven more difficult than I thought.

606
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:52,359
Speaker 3: He seemed understanding, however, wasn't budging on, wanting them to say,

607
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Speaker 3: I just got the old will keep analyzing it.

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Speaker 1: No, there was nothing left to analyze.

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Speaker 2: My freaking like numbers for like your taxes. We're not

610
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Speaker 2: analyzing anything.

611
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Speaker 3: You're just knocking the can down the road.

612
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Speaker 2: She's not.

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00:28:08,560 --> 00:28:11,919
Speaker 3: Since I can cancel my hotel reservations a day before checking,

614
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Speaker 3: I went ahead and booked ten nights just to lock

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Speaker 3: in cheap rates.

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Speaker 2: Nice.

617
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Speaker 3: I felt more secure having a backup in case crap

618
00:28:20,280 --> 00:28:23,080
Speaker 3: hit the fan at my house on our way to Thanksgiving.

619
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Speaker 3: My son keeps getting blasted by sunlight while driving.

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Speaker 1: What I would just imagine he's.

621
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Speaker 3: Like just the he's like sleeping, and then it's just

622
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Speaker 3: and then the flash bang noise.

623
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Speaker 1: Just is the ring.

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Speaker 3: Nope, he continues, I have tried the usual sunshades on

625
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Speaker 3: the windows. A few days ago, I got these curtains

626
00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:51,200
Speaker 3: for the side windows. They hang on with magnets, so

627
00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:53,120
Speaker 3: I grabbed them from my car and hung them in

628
00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:55,520
Speaker 3: my husband's cars. He was the one driving us three

629
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Speaker 3: hours away to his family gathering. He kept saying the

630
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Speaker 3: blinds were blocking his blind spots, so I tied them

631
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Speaker 3: open so he could see, but my son could also

632
00:29:04,000 --> 00:29:06,960
Speaker 3: keep some shade. After it was still a problem. My

633
00:29:07,120 --> 00:29:09,120
Speaker 3: husband asked for them to be removed and proceeded to

634
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Speaker 3: tell me how I need to ask him before I

635
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Speaker 3: just go and do stuff.

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00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:17,520
Speaker 2: Oh really, Oh really, all we're supposed to be asking

637
00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:20,240
Speaker 2: before we go and do stuff. That's funny because I

638
00:29:20,280 --> 00:29:23,280
Speaker 2: remember when you went and did stuff like, I don't know,

639
00:29:23,360 --> 00:29:25,640
Speaker 2: invite your family to stay for eleven days, and we

640
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Speaker 2: didn't talk to your partner about that. Is it just

641
00:29:28,840 --> 00:29:30,120
Speaker 2: kind of a one way street.

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00:29:30,560 --> 00:29:34,160
Speaker 1: I think that's that's done. Yeah, I'm frustrated.

643
00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:37,320
Speaker 2: We need to go to like big old therapy. Yeah,

644
00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:40,000
Speaker 2: time it's together to two avenues.

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00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:45,200
Speaker 3: Do you either go get a couple counseling immediately, or

646
00:29:45,240 --> 00:29:49,480
Speaker 3: it's just I'm leaving because you do you treat me

647
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Speaker 3: like a dog.

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00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:54,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, at the very least, I'm staying in a hotel.

649
00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:56,239
Speaker 1: Hey, y'all, it's John og Host here. We're gonna get

650
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Speaker 1: back to the story. So but here's a quick three

651
00:29:57,520 --> 00:29:59,120
Speaker 1: minute break from ask for more sponsors.

652
00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:02,920
Speaker 3: So oh, he says, that's when I lost my crap.

653
00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:05,960
Speaker 3: I brought up the visit and how he never discussed

654
00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:08,200
Speaker 3: it with me prior to telling his sister they could stay.

655
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Speaker 3: Of course, this causes him to blow up, saying he

656
00:30:11,080 --> 00:30:14,320
Speaker 3: doesn't need my permission as it is his house, which

657
00:30:14,440 --> 00:30:14,920
Speaker 3: is not a house.

658
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Speaker 2: It's an apartment apartment. It's one bedroom apartment.

659
00:30:17,800 --> 00:30:20,160
Speaker 3: So it's okay, and it's not yours. I'm sure you

660
00:30:20,200 --> 00:30:23,440
Speaker 3: rent it from the company that owns it. Over and over,

661
00:30:23,840 --> 00:30:26,880
Speaker 3: I'm told to shut the f up and man up.

662
00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:29,760
Speaker 1: If this was your family, blah blah blah.

663
00:30:29,880 --> 00:30:33,040
Speaker 3: I don't want to be with a b bee wife.

664
00:30:33,440 --> 00:30:36,720
Speaker 2: Oh well, don't you worry, because you're not gonna be

665
00:30:36,760 --> 00:30:37,840
Speaker 2: by the end of the story.

666
00:30:38,160 --> 00:30:40,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're gonna lose that wife and your son.

667
00:30:41,040 --> 00:30:43,640
Speaker 3: Now, the plot, the plot, it needs to thicken down

668
00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:47,360
Speaker 3: now you need to. It's time to start his scheming. Yeah, planning, yeah,

669
00:30:47,960 --> 00:30:51,120
Speaker 3: planning your yeah, bro.

670
00:30:51,480 --> 00:30:54,040
Speaker 1: My grandma choose to be a magistrate. She was telling

671
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:58,040
Speaker 1: me some like juicy stuff that was happening over the years,

672
00:30:58,120 --> 00:31:01,160
Speaker 1: and she said, she said that this one girl one

673
00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:04,400
Speaker 1: night just went to her ex husbands and both of them.

674
00:31:04,520 --> 00:31:07,280
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I just went right back to sleep. Wait.

675
00:31:07,320 --> 00:31:09,960
Speaker 1: I bet she slept. I bet she slept like a rock.

676
00:31:10,240 --> 00:31:13,480
Speaker 1: She had two ex husbands. That's crazy. That's I don't

677
00:31:13,520 --> 00:31:15,480
Speaker 1: know Tayler'sville, North Carolina around.

678
00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:17,800
Speaker 3: I'm not advocating that. I'm just saying I bet she

679
00:31:17,880 --> 00:31:21,680
Speaker 3: did sleep like a rock. Anyway, I remain calm and

680
00:31:21,760 --> 00:31:25,160
Speaker 3: reiterate that it's my home too, and it's about respect

681
00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:26,800
Speaker 3: that he talks to me first.

682
00:31:26,920 --> 00:31:28,120
Speaker 1: It's not about control.

683
00:31:28,360 --> 00:31:31,560
Speaker 3: It's about respect, respect for my son and our routines,

684
00:31:31,640 --> 00:31:34,160
Speaker 3: comfort and safety. He then goes on to say how

685
00:31:34,200 --> 00:31:36,920
Speaker 3: I don't respect him, and I just turned this around

686
00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:40,920
Speaker 3: and made it about me. Hollidays are classically stressful. Look

687
00:31:40,920 --> 00:31:44,160
Speaker 3: at Home Alone where they have that huge house and

688
00:31:44,200 --> 00:31:44,960
Speaker 3: it's chaos.

689
00:31:45,160 --> 00:31:48,560
Speaker 1: You mean the Tarking movie. Look at Home Alone.

690
00:31:48,720 --> 00:31:52,560
Speaker 2: They have a huge house, it's pretty chaotic. So even

691
00:31:52,600 --> 00:31:55,160
Speaker 2: though we have a tiny apartment, even if we had

692
00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:57,360
Speaker 2: a big house, it'd be it would be a mess.

693
00:31:58,440 --> 00:32:00,840
Speaker 1: That's crazy. This is like my mom said something like that,

694
00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:03,920
Speaker 1: or no, it's back home. But it was about when

695
00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:05,680
Speaker 1: we went to Columbia. She was like, well, I've just

696
00:32:05,720 --> 00:32:08,440
Speaker 1: seen those movies about how intense it is over there.

697
00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:12,000
Speaker 1: I'm like, you're talking about like Cicario, Like let's talk

698
00:32:12,040 --> 00:32:12,880
Speaker 1: about Narcos.

699
00:32:13,360 --> 00:32:16,200
Speaker 3: Like yeah, Also, that was like forty years ago.

700
00:32:16,640 --> 00:32:19,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, we went to Columbia and it didn't even have

701
00:32:19,240 --> 00:32:20,640
Speaker 2: the filter on it or anything.

702
00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:23,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, there was no this guy was gonna see the

703
00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:24,480
Speaker 3: Narco's music.

704
00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:27,680
Speaker 1: I couldn't even find any of that good candy. Yeah either.

705
00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:31,720
Speaker 1: It was hard. Oh crazy, How movies are not real?

706
00:32:32,000 --> 00:32:36,160
Speaker 3: Ope continues, Okay, buddy, but this is in a movie.

707
00:32:36,240 --> 00:32:38,520
Speaker 3: It's real life. If we had a guest room, I

708
00:32:38,520 --> 00:32:41,120
Speaker 3: would still be annoyed, but I would be more comfortable

709
00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:43,920
Speaker 3: manning up and letting them stay, as they wouldn't obscure

710
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:47,720
Speaker 3: my routines. So I ruined Thanksgiving. Husband stayed at work

711
00:32:47,800 --> 00:32:50,000
Speaker 3: until he had to come home just to sleep, didn't

712
00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:51,960
Speaker 3: see his son for almost three days. I had to

713
00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:54,480
Speaker 3: text him first, come and have an adult conversation with me.

714
00:32:54,560 --> 00:32:57,080
Speaker 3: You haven't seen your son in three days, to which.

715
00:32:56,920 --> 00:32:58,320
Speaker 1: I get, but I'm working.

716
00:32:58,760 --> 00:33:01,960
Speaker 3: Me me, me, me, Yeah, no, doy I met after

717
00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:04,600
Speaker 3: work and no one wants me around anyway.

718
00:33:04,720 --> 00:33:06,520
Speaker 1: I'm only good for food and money. Dude.

719
00:33:06,520 --> 00:33:11,240
Speaker 3: This guy sucks, honestly drafting nightmare.

720
00:33:10,480 --> 00:33:12,080
Speaker 1: Drafting the divorce papers.

721
00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:13,600
Speaker 2: Ye right now, yep.

722
00:33:13,920 --> 00:33:17,200
Speaker 3: I did not respond to this good lord. Needless to say,

723
00:33:17,280 --> 00:33:19,480
Speaker 3: he came home and spent time with his son. We

724
00:33:19,600 --> 00:33:23,400
Speaker 3: had an adult conversation. His family staying is not changing,

725
00:33:23,600 --> 00:33:25,479
Speaker 3: he said. He already told them yes and doesn't want

726
00:33:25,520 --> 00:33:27,560
Speaker 3: to now tell them to get a hotel. A hotel

727
00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:30,840
Speaker 3: was way too expensive. Even at this discount you're talking about,

728
00:33:30,920 --> 00:33:33,160
Speaker 3: it's not gonna be fifty dollars a night.

729
00:33:33,400 --> 00:33:35,120
Speaker 1: Well, fun fact, it actually was.

730
00:33:35,520 --> 00:33:38,480
Speaker 3: I booked ten nights for five hundred and eighteen bucks total.

731
00:33:40,080 --> 00:33:43,719
Speaker 1: Yeah. I told him this, and he just rolls his eyes.

732
00:33:44,200 --> 00:33:46,680
Speaker 3: His sister had texted me personally and asked if they

733
00:33:46,680 --> 00:33:48,960
Speaker 3: could use my car to do one thing when my

734
00:33:49,120 --> 00:33:51,360
Speaker 3: husband is working. She said they would rent a car

735
00:33:51,440 --> 00:33:53,840
Speaker 3: if not. Just the fact that she asked with respect

736
00:33:53,960 --> 00:33:56,280
Speaker 3: made me say yes to using it. We agreed that

737
00:33:56,360 --> 00:33:58,320
Speaker 3: if I needed it, they would bring it back my

738
00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:01,880
Speaker 3: son and I will be okay. My thoughts continue, my routines,

739
00:34:02,040 --> 00:34:04,360
Speaker 3: do what I need to do. If they can't handle it,

740
00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:06,560
Speaker 3: they're free to get a hotel. I will not uproot

741
00:34:06,600 --> 00:34:09,160
Speaker 3: my life for eleven days. It's not about me. It's

742
00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:09,919
Speaker 3: about my son.

743
00:34:10,080 --> 00:34:12,759
Speaker 1: He will be taking care of regardless of guests that

744
00:34:13,440 --> 00:34:13,799
Speaker 1: this is.

745
00:34:14,360 --> 00:34:17,000
Speaker 2: This is a divorce worthy thing. And it doesn't feel like,

746
00:34:17,080 --> 00:34:19,920
Speaker 2: ohp he is necessarily on that train yet, but I

747
00:34:19,960 --> 00:34:20,880
Speaker 2: hope you get on.

748
00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:24,440
Speaker 3: Soon cuz hotels are fifty bucks a night. It's going

749
00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:27,439
Speaker 3: to get worse. This is going worse, get worse. Fact

750
00:34:27,440 --> 00:34:28,680
Speaker 3: if nothing is done.

751
00:34:29,040 --> 00:34:32,160
Speaker 2: No, the fact that he called you a bee and

752
00:34:32,160 --> 00:34:34,759
Speaker 2: and said, oh, you need to tell me things, but

753
00:34:34,920 --> 00:34:37,799
Speaker 2: I don't need to tell you. Yeah, it's there's a

754
00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:41,200
Speaker 2: lot of double standards. There's a lot of disrespect going on.

755
00:34:41,520 --> 00:34:44,640
Speaker 2: He went three days without seeing your son, so he

756
00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:47,640
Speaker 2: clearly doesn't really care that much about his son.

757
00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:51,560
Speaker 3: He's just throwing like a yeah, he's throwing a tantrum

758
00:34:51,640 --> 00:34:53,520
Speaker 3: to just get what he wants and be like no,

759
00:34:53,560 --> 00:34:55,239
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, I'll go back to.

760
00:34:55,239 --> 00:34:59,279
Speaker 1: You with like you know, my head down home.

761
00:34:59,280 --> 00:35:04,000
Speaker 3: I'm sorry because you're being emotionally abusive and it's not

762
00:35:04,040 --> 00:35:05,160
Speaker 3: gonna get any better.

763
00:35:05,320 --> 00:35:07,880
Speaker 2: No, And it's also pretty clear that his family would

764
00:35:07,880 --> 00:35:09,560
Speaker 2: be willing to get a hotel.

765
00:35:09,840 --> 00:35:12,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, if they're willing to rent a car, then I

766
00:35:12,400 --> 00:35:16,520
Speaker 3: would will probably be exist more than getting a hotel

767
00:35:16,800 --> 00:35:19,160
Speaker 3: in a lot of cases. Yeah, and this guy doesn't

768
00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:21,240
Speaker 3: sound like he's gonna be open to therapy.

769
00:35:21,840 --> 00:35:22,640
Speaker 1: You kidding me?

770
00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:26,680
Speaker 2: You just told you to man up, not really therapy speak.

771
00:35:26,920 --> 00:35:29,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, this guy, this guy. We're done with this guy.

772
00:35:30,080 --> 00:35:32,800
Speaker 3: Well, we have a little bit more story. My question

773
00:35:33,000 --> 00:35:34,840
Speaker 3: is should I keep the hotel?

774
00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:38,560
Speaker 1: You should go send your stay there as well.

775
00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:41,720
Speaker 2: Genuinely, you should go stay in the hotel.

776
00:35:41,960 --> 00:35:43,560
Speaker 3: I want to have it in case my son and

777
00:35:43,600 --> 00:35:45,880
Speaker 3: I have to sleep there. If people keep waking my

778
00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:48,359
Speaker 3: son up, I'm gonna have a huge problem, especially if

779
00:35:48,360 --> 00:35:50,520
Speaker 3: we're trapped. But I also don't want to waste the

780
00:35:50,560 --> 00:35:53,680
Speaker 3: money and never use it. I can't decide for everyone

781
00:35:53,800 --> 00:35:56,560
Speaker 3: saying I should get a divorce over this, that's valid.

782
00:35:56,760 --> 00:35:58,880
Speaker 3: I want to give him one more chance to start

783
00:35:58,920 --> 00:36:01,960
Speaker 3: discussing with me. If you can't respect that, then yeah,

784
00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:05,400
Speaker 3: it's done. I'm tired of him stepping outside and having

785
00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:07,120
Speaker 3: these conversations without my input.

786
00:36:07,280 --> 00:36:10,400
Speaker 1: Wish me luck. And there are some comments here I

787
00:36:10,480 --> 00:36:12,719
Speaker 1: understand want to give them a more chance. You guys

788
00:36:12,760 --> 00:36:13,960
Speaker 1: have a kid. I agree.

789
00:36:14,040 --> 00:36:16,399
Speaker 2: I think that's valid, But it also seems like she's

790
00:36:16,440 --> 00:36:18,920
Speaker 2: on the Yeah, divorces on the table now.

791
00:36:19,080 --> 00:36:19,400
Speaker 1: Yeah. Know.

792
00:36:19,480 --> 00:36:21,319
Speaker 3: If I would be like, we need to go to

793
00:36:21,400 --> 00:36:24,799
Speaker 3: a counselor to figure out a path forward here because

794
00:36:24,800 --> 00:36:27,360
Speaker 3: it's not working, yep. And if he is resistant to

795
00:36:27,360 --> 00:36:30,200
Speaker 3: that at all, then it's like, Okay, then we will

796
00:36:30,239 --> 00:36:30,600
Speaker 3: work out.

797
00:36:30,640 --> 00:36:32,760
Speaker 1: Custody will work out whatever I'm leaving.

798
00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:35,520
Speaker 3: Comment one, A big part of the problem is that

799
00:36:35,560 --> 00:36:37,640
Speaker 3: you are married to a twelve year old in an

800
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:40,799
Speaker 3: adult's body. His lack of respect for you and the

801
00:36:40,800 --> 00:36:44,200
Speaker 3: well being of his child, combined with his temper tantrums

802
00:36:44,200 --> 00:36:45,200
Speaker 3: are unbelievable.

803
00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:47,040
Speaker 1: You need to stand up to him or this will

804
00:36:47,040 --> 00:36:49,480
Speaker 1: be your life for the duration of your marriage.

805
00:36:49,600 --> 00:36:51,520
Speaker 3: When his family sets up camp in your living room,

806
00:36:51,560 --> 00:36:53,319
Speaker 3: tell them you're going to make it easier on them

807
00:36:53,360 --> 00:36:55,839
Speaker 3: by going to a hotel and just visiting with them

808
00:36:55,880 --> 00:36:56,439
Speaker 3: during the day.

809
00:36:56,680 --> 00:36:59,400
Speaker 1: Let your husband handle the troops.

810
00:37:00,080 --> 00:37:08,000
Speaker 3: Holiday BiVO wac okay, first BiVO whac in a story. Really, first,

811
00:37:08,000 --> 00:37:10,440
Speaker 3: there's never been a mention of bivouac in any of

812
00:37:10,480 --> 00:37:11,080
Speaker 3: these stories.

813
00:37:11,160 --> 00:37:11,960
Speaker 1: I'm assuming it.

814
00:37:11,960 --> 00:37:13,760
Speaker 2: Means something like blue.

815
00:37:14,080 --> 00:37:17,440
Speaker 3: No, BiVO whaq is uh is a is like a

816
00:37:17,480 --> 00:37:20,440
Speaker 3: climbing thing. Actually, a BiVO waq is something that you make.

817
00:37:20,520 --> 00:37:25,000
Speaker 3: It's like a basically like a camber a tent that.

818
00:37:24,920 --> 00:37:27,479
Speaker 1: You're wrop up on the mountain. Oh my gosh, you're right. Yeah,

819
00:37:28,080 --> 00:37:30,879
Speaker 1: never a BiVO whac. I just searched the database. That's

820
00:37:30,920 --> 00:37:31,520
Speaker 1: the only word.

821
00:37:31,600 --> 00:37:34,840
Speaker 3: It's the only BiVO wac in Okay, storytime history.

822
00:37:35,000 --> 00:37:35,600
Speaker 1: But what is it?

823
00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:37,520
Speaker 2: What's the like? What's the It's like.

824
00:37:37,480 --> 00:37:41,439
Speaker 3: When you BiVO wacks like a shelter that you make,

825
00:37:41,640 --> 00:37:44,799
Speaker 3: like on a cliff. I don't know if you need

826
00:37:44,840 --> 00:37:48,480
Speaker 3: to be on a cliff. It's a climbing thing. It's yeah,

827
00:37:48,560 --> 00:37:51,600
Speaker 3: it's like a outdoor survivalist thing. You're gonna be No, no, no, no,

828
00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:52,520
Speaker 3: don't look, don't look.

829
00:37:52,520 --> 00:37:52,840
Speaker 1: I got it.

830
00:37:52,880 --> 00:37:55,120
Speaker 3: I got it. Oh you're pulling up a bivouac. So

831
00:37:55,120 --> 00:37:57,279
Speaker 3: if you look at me, look at me, okay.

832
00:37:57,080 --> 00:37:58,840
Speaker 1: Pull up the biv I can't see it.

833
00:38:01,320 --> 00:38:03,799
Speaker 2: It's it's a small on our end. Because yes, it's

834
00:38:03,880 --> 00:38:07,160
Speaker 2: the I can't it's up on the uh, the whole,

835
00:38:09,440 --> 00:38:10,839
Speaker 2: this whole. Yeah, we've been watching you.

836
00:38:14,080 --> 00:38:16,320
Speaker 1: I did not think it is wrong to be honest.

837
00:38:16,600 --> 00:38:21,040
Speaker 3: Yeah can Wow, that's fun.

838
00:38:21,200 --> 00:38:24,640
Speaker 2: Vivy dang nice.

839
00:38:25,160 --> 00:38:27,440
Speaker 3: Wow, that might be the Yeah. I don't even know

840
00:38:27,520 --> 00:38:29,560
Speaker 3: if it would be the first time I've.

841
00:38:29,400 --> 00:38:30,920
Speaker 1: Ever read the word biva.

842
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:31,759
Speaker 2: I never heard that.

843
00:38:31,840 --> 00:38:32,839
Speaker 1: Actually, no, that's not true.

844
00:38:33,080 --> 00:38:34,920
Speaker 2: I'm very impressed that you knew how to pronounce it.

845
00:38:35,080 --> 00:38:36,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, I knew what it was. I just kind of

846
00:38:37,239 --> 00:38:38,359
Speaker 1: just pulled that knowledge out.

847
00:38:38,640 --> 00:38:43,200
Speaker 3: You know, I play Jeopardy, dude, honestly livestream of me,

848
00:38:43,239 --> 00:38:45,040
Speaker 3: and you're going head to head on Jeopardy just like

849
00:38:45,080 --> 00:38:46,320
Speaker 3: a Ken Jennings episode.

850
00:38:46,480 --> 00:38:48,640
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Oh my god.

851
00:38:48,680 --> 00:38:51,080
Speaker 2: It would be well, you know what we should do.

852
00:38:51,360 --> 00:38:53,680
Speaker 2: We should go with your girlfriend to Jeopardy.

853
00:38:54,000 --> 00:38:56,120
Speaker 1: We'd kill like a taping of it.

854
00:38:56,600 --> 00:39:01,560
Speaker 2: No to like play Jeopardy, Uh, I guess like a

855
00:39:01,719 --> 00:39:02,560
Speaker 2: trivia gag.

856
00:39:02,640 --> 00:39:02,799
Speaker 1: Yeah.

857
00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:08,000
Speaker 3: I was about to say, like the actually, we.

858
00:39:07,920 --> 00:39:13,200
Speaker 2: Should go to head on Jeffardy together.

859
00:39:13,480 --> 00:39:16,120
Speaker 1: Yeah. R I p R the ghost so toasty?

860
00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:16,960
Speaker 2: You look how toasty?

861
00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:19,719
Speaker 3: Alex Trebek bought a mountain and gave it to the

862
00:39:19,760 --> 00:39:20,640
Speaker 3: city and then he.

863
00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:21,239
Speaker 1: Got a key.

864
00:39:21,480 --> 00:39:24,280
Speaker 2: It's like, this is my mountain, but it's yours.

865
00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:26,440
Speaker 3: It was it was his mountain. It's he bought a

866
00:39:26,480 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 3: mountains from from like the from the government. You can't

867
00:39:32,160 --> 00:39:34,719
Speaker 3: buy from the government. Yeah, no, you can. You gotta

868
00:39:34,760 --> 00:39:37,560
Speaker 3: you gotta talk to the b LM, the bureau, the

869
00:39:37,560 --> 00:39:38,840
Speaker 3: Bureau of Land Management.

870
00:39:38,880 --> 00:39:40,680
Speaker 2: I'm sorry. He went to the city. He said, I

871
00:39:40,719 --> 00:39:43,160
Speaker 2: want to buy this mountain and then he said, hey, this.

872
00:39:43,200 --> 00:39:45,560
Speaker 3: Is yours, though is mine, but you know, I think

873
00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:46,239
Speaker 3: he gave it away.

874
00:39:46,239 --> 00:39:48,799
Speaker 1: It's like it's like it's like a park or something. Yes,

875
00:39:48,840 --> 00:39:51,279
Speaker 1: you can legally buy a mountain from the government. Yeah.

876
00:39:51,719 --> 00:39:54,800
Speaker 2: Nice. I like that, making it like a national park.

877
00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:57,520
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's national, well, a state park,

878
00:39:57,960 --> 00:39:59,240
Speaker 1: a park something.

879
00:39:59,600 --> 00:40:01,120
Speaker 2: It's then I like that.

880
00:40:01,200 --> 00:40:02,400
Speaker 1: You can't a homestead anymore.

881
00:40:02,400 --> 00:40:04,640
Speaker 2: By the way, there goes my summer plans.

882
00:40:05,120 --> 00:40:08,080
Speaker 3: Hey, why would they do that. Well, you can't do

883
00:40:08,120 --> 00:40:10,080
Speaker 3: it on federal lands, but you can do it. You

884
00:40:10,080 --> 00:40:12,040
Speaker 3: can do it in places that make it almost impossible,

885
00:40:12,120 --> 00:40:15,920
Speaker 3: which they do on purpose Antarctica. Yeah, we'll not even

886
00:40:15,960 --> 00:40:18,120
Speaker 3: get on the desert anyway.

887
00:40:18,200 --> 00:40:20,840
Speaker 2: That is a desert, but snow.

888
00:40:21,120 --> 00:40:24,720
Speaker 3: That actually that is the world's largest desert is Antarctica.

889
00:40:25,320 --> 00:40:26,040
Speaker 1: I thought it was.

890
00:40:27,600 --> 00:40:32,719
Speaker 3: Yay anyway, OPI replies, funny you say he acts like

891
00:40:32,719 --> 00:40:35,120
Speaker 3: a twelve year old because he had the audacity to

892
00:40:35,160 --> 00:40:37,680
Speaker 3: call me an emo twelve year old when he was

893
00:40:37,719 --> 00:40:40,360
Speaker 3: the one who stayed away from his son for three

894
00:40:40,760 --> 00:40:42,040
Speaker 3: days pouting.

895
00:40:42,120 --> 00:40:44,480
Speaker 1: Oh boy, yeah, commenter two.

896
00:40:44,680 --> 00:40:46,880
Speaker 3: One thing I don't think I've read is that the

897
00:40:46,920 --> 00:40:49,319
Speaker 3: stress Op he is going through will or will go

898
00:40:49,440 --> 00:40:52,879
Speaker 3: through with this a whole husband and his family will

899
00:40:52,880 --> 00:40:55,000
Speaker 3: definitely affect her milk supply.

900
00:40:55,239 --> 00:40:58,920
Speaker 1: Which will in turn effect the baby. That's true. That's

901
00:40:58,960 --> 00:41:00,480
Speaker 1: a woman doctor. I agree.

902
00:41:00,840 --> 00:41:03,520
Speaker 3: Gotta think about gotta think about the milk. If Op

903
00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:07,480
Speaker 3: stays through the visit, absolutely let the baby cry and

904
00:41:07,520 --> 00:41:11,000
Speaker 3: disrupt everyone's sleep so they finally realize this isn't doable.

905
00:41:11,200 --> 00:41:11,960
Speaker 1: It's insane.

906
00:41:12,239 --> 00:41:14,239
Speaker 3: Does sister in law even realize Op lives in a

907
00:41:14,239 --> 00:41:17,399
Speaker 3: one bed, one bath apartment where three people already live.

908
00:41:17,600 --> 00:41:19,840
Speaker 3: Even if sister in law and husbands sleep on the

909
00:41:19,840 --> 00:41:21,799
Speaker 3: air mattress in the living room, where is their five

910
00:41:21,880 --> 00:41:23,840
Speaker 3: year old supposed to sleep looking around?

911
00:41:24,320 --> 00:41:25,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, you got tub for that?

912
00:41:26,160 --> 00:41:29,120
Speaker 2: In the tub. Have you ever slept in the tub

913
00:41:29,200 --> 00:41:29,680
Speaker 2: in the pit.

914
00:41:30,320 --> 00:41:32,799
Speaker 3: My brother has no, I've I've always been I think

915
00:41:33,440 --> 00:41:36,040
Speaker 3: too large for the tub, even as a child.

916
00:41:36,320 --> 00:41:39,040
Speaker 1: Oh, I mean, like I don't know the tub.

917
00:41:39,160 --> 00:41:42,600
Speaker 3: At one point when I was I'm just wondering exceptionally

918
00:41:42,640 --> 00:41:46,440
Speaker 3: broke splitting hotel costs with friends, I was I almost

919
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:47,960
Speaker 3: slept in the tub, but I was like this, the

920
00:41:48,000 --> 00:41:49,920
Speaker 3: floor is better than this, but the floor is so

921
00:41:50,040 --> 00:41:50,560
Speaker 3: much better than you.

922
00:41:50,920 --> 00:41:52,880
Speaker 2: Well, I just don't understand why people ever sleep in

923
00:41:52,920 --> 00:41:53,720
Speaker 2: the tub over.

924
00:41:53,560 --> 00:41:57,800
Speaker 1: The floor hurricane evacuations, if they're if they're real small,

925
00:41:58,040 --> 00:42:00,880
Speaker 1: maybe if they're like little one inch men a little

926
00:42:00,960 --> 00:42:02,320
Speaker 1: bit and just finished the story.

927
00:42:03,640 --> 00:42:06,920
Speaker 3: Op says, I've told my husband multiple times that stress

928
00:42:06,920 --> 00:42:10,320
Speaker 3: affects milk supply drops have happened to me multiple times.

929
00:42:10,600 --> 00:42:12,760
Speaker 3: Then he wonders why there's no milk in the fridge

930
00:42:13,080 --> 00:42:16,839
Speaker 3: I'm an exclusive pumper nice, and why his son has

931
00:42:16,880 --> 00:42:18,400
Speaker 3: to drink protein shakes.

932
00:42:18,800 --> 00:42:19,799
Speaker 1: He doesn't care, so.

933
00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:22,719
Speaker 2: He doesn't fully understand anything.

934
00:42:22,760 --> 00:42:26,080
Speaker 3: It seems, Yeah, I don't. I don't I want this

935
00:42:26,160 --> 00:42:26,839
Speaker 3: man in the pit.

936
00:42:27,200 --> 00:42:30,320
Speaker 2: I'd be really concerned that he's referring he's asking why

937
00:42:30,560 --> 00:42:33,200
Speaker 2: your son is drinking protein shakes. I'd i'd be very

938
00:42:33,239 --> 00:42:35,080
Speaker 2: concerned that he doesn't understand.

939
00:42:34,680 --> 00:42:42,440
Speaker 1: Because I'm trying to make my son so strong, and

940
00:42:42,520 --> 00:42:49,600
Speaker 1: he sounds like Arnold. He's like God, I am a

941
00:42:49,719 --> 00:42:50,399
Speaker 1: baby now.

942
00:42:52,239 --> 00:42:56,040
Speaker 3: Commenter three, don't prepare for gas, don't buy groceries, don't cook,

943
00:42:56,239 --> 00:42:58,080
Speaker 3: take your son and go stay at the hotel or

944
00:42:58,080 --> 00:43:01,279
Speaker 3: with friends or family. Let your husband his family without you.

945
00:43:01,719 --> 00:43:02,280
Speaker 1: I agree.

946
00:43:02,440 --> 00:43:04,720
Speaker 3: Coming forward says honey, you need to take the baby

947
00:43:04,719 --> 00:43:06,319
Speaker 3: in the car and go stay at the hotel for

948
00:43:06,360 --> 00:43:09,280
Speaker 3: the whole stay, let him host his family, and stay

949
00:43:09,280 --> 00:43:10,640
Speaker 3: well away from the chaos.

950
00:43:10,760 --> 00:43:13,279
Speaker 1: Don't be home. And that is the end of lamb

951
00:43:13,280 --> 00:43:13,759
Speaker 1: stall ring.

952
00:43:14,040 --> 00:43:14,600
Speaker 2: I agreed.

953
00:43:15,320 --> 00:43:18,200
Speaker 1: And here are the stats for human milk versus cow's milk.

954
00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:23,760
Speaker 1: The stat here's this stat line. Yep, so lactose humans

955
00:43:23,800 --> 00:43:28,319
Speaker 1: are winning protein. The cowwinds that we're about the same

956
00:43:28,440 --> 00:43:35,480
Speaker 1: calcium cow ironed human water by a gram human an

957
00:43:35,640 --> 00:43:39,680
Speaker 1: energy cell. The cow's got wait what jigglers six seven

958
00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:44,680
Speaker 1: sixty seven and humans have sixty five. So if you're contemplating, oh,

959
00:43:44,719 --> 00:43:47,000
Speaker 1: should I drink human milk, look at these stats first?

960
00:43:47,320 --> 00:43:49,400
Speaker 2: Well, presumably, I guess it just has all of the

961
00:43:49,760 --> 00:43:51,120
Speaker 2: proteins that we need.

962
00:43:51,280 --> 00:43:55,480
Speaker 1: This is mad max yea. Less cows are winning.

963
00:43:55,520 --> 00:43:56,680
Speaker 2: Cows are Wait, I'm confused.

964
00:43:56,680 --> 00:43:59,399
Speaker 1: Oh, I'll get I'll do goat next. I was looking

965
00:43:59,400 --> 00:44:00,880
Speaker 1: at how much what's that energy?

966
00:44:01,200 --> 00:44:04,520
Speaker 3: Give me the energy stat sixty seven for cow, sixty

967
00:44:04,520 --> 00:44:07,560
Speaker 3: five for human. Oh dude, gotta get you gotta get

968
00:44:07,680 --> 00:44:09,920
Speaker 3: those extra two blips of energy.

969
00:44:10,040 --> 00:44:12,839
Speaker 1: Yeah, everyone put what kind of milk you want to know,

970
00:44:13,040 --> 00:44:14,920
Speaker 1: and I'll make a chart. I'll make a chart and

971
00:44:14,960 --> 00:44:17,160
Speaker 1: I'll show everyone, like, what what milk's better.

972
00:44:18,480 --> 00:44:21,680
Speaker 3: He's just gonna pull up all the milks. I want

973
00:44:21,680 --> 00:44:26,600
Speaker 3: to see bison milk stats. Okay, bison milk.

974
00:44:26,719 --> 00:44:27,960
Speaker 1: Okay, we'll get that.

975
00:44:28,200 --> 00:44:33,240
Speaker 3: Fron bear milk, bear beer versus bison.

976
00:44:33,320 --> 00:44:34,279
Speaker 1: He let me put that down.

977
00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:37,560
Speaker 3: That would actually be a great who wins in the wild?

978
00:44:38,480 --> 00:44:43,120
Speaker 3: Brown bear versus bison? I would assume brown bear. But

979
00:44:43,160 --> 00:44:45,600
Speaker 3: if if they get like in a charge off, I

980
00:44:45,640 --> 00:44:47,680
Speaker 3: think the bison might one shot it.

981
00:44:47,760 --> 00:44:48,799
Speaker 1: I think the bison.

982
00:44:48,560 --> 00:44:50,759
Speaker 3: Might just run through it like a like a.

983
00:44:50,800 --> 00:44:54,160
Speaker 2: Train just goes. If it's a herd of bison.

984
00:44:54,120 --> 00:44:56,160
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, well herd of bison that's.

985
00:44:56,000 --> 00:44:59,480
Speaker 3: Of course, and usually traveling hurts. Imagine a herd of

986
00:44:59,520 --> 00:45:00,920
Speaker 3: bears terrifying?

987
00:45:01,400 --> 00:45:02,080
Speaker 1: Know what they call it?

988
00:45:02,560 --> 00:45:03,040
Speaker 2: A bird?

989
00:45:03,480 --> 00:45:08,160
Speaker 1: A bird all right. No, no, no, no, don't you rush.

990
00:45:08,520 --> 00:45:14,960
Speaker 1: We're doing milk, milk, milk. I need time. Don't rush me.

991
00:45:15,239 --> 00:45:17,120
Speaker 1: You rushed me a lot. You rush people.

992
00:45:18,160 --> 00:45:21,360
Speaker 2: You were ready. You said you rushed Dakota just to.

993
00:45:21,520 --> 00:45:25,320
Speaker 1: So you might as well be the band rush.

994
00:45:25,760 --> 00:45:28,240
Speaker 2: You literally said, Dakota, let's get into the next story.

995
00:45:28,320 --> 00:45:29,400
Speaker 2: So I thought we were ready.

996
00:45:29,480 --> 00:45:31,880
Speaker 1: No, he just to the drummer. Okay, we got bats

997
00:45:31,880 --> 00:45:34,000
Speaker 1: on the list. Okay, milk.

998
00:45:34,719 --> 00:45:37,040
Speaker 3: I feel like bat milk's got to be pretty nutritious.

999
00:45:37,440 --> 00:45:39,319
Speaker 1: Horse milk. It's like concentrated.

1000
00:45:39,680 --> 00:45:39,879
Speaker 2: Now.

1001
00:45:39,880 --> 00:45:42,160
Speaker 1: It doesn't even feel like you're getting the next tour

1002
00:45:42,440 --> 00:45:43,640
Speaker 1: I am. I am writing down.

1003
00:45:43,880 --> 00:45:45,920
Speaker 3: Next story is you want to come over here and

1004
00:45:45,960 --> 00:45:48,760
Speaker 3: do it? The next story is milk time.

1005
00:45:48,960 --> 00:45:52,120
Speaker 1: I'm just saying during this story, which I think might

1006
00:45:52,160 --> 00:45:53,920
Speaker 1: be rough, I'm gonna pause and be like, we're going

1007
00:45:54,000 --> 00:45:56,000
Speaker 1: to talk about the milk because we might need a

1008
00:45:56,040 --> 00:45:59,840
Speaker 1: break from how crazy it gets or pressingang.

1009
00:46:00,160 --> 00:46:03,080
Speaker 3: I just read in the top corner it says mother

1010
00:46:03,120 --> 00:46:03,439
Speaker 3: in law.

1011
00:46:03,480 --> 00:46:06,239
Speaker 1: But I read milk. Milk treats us like kids. The

1012
00:46:06,239 --> 00:46:07,920
Speaker 1: mine knows what it wants. All right, here we go.

1013
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:10,480
Speaker 1: I'm ready. Now, hey's John Ogi host. We're gonna get

1014
00:46:10,480 --> 00:46:12,080
Speaker 1: back to the stories, but a quick free minute break

1015
00:46:12,080 --> 00:46:13,200
Speaker 1: of ads from our sponsors.

1016
00:46:13,560 --> 00:46:16,680
Speaker 2: My mother in law treats us like we're still teenagers

1017
00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:17,920
Speaker 2: and it's exhausting.

1018
00:46:18,120 --> 00:46:19,640
Speaker 1: Oh mommy, on my room.

1019
00:46:20,040 --> 00:46:23,160
Speaker 2: And this comes directly from the r slash Okay Storytime

1020
00:46:23,200 --> 00:46:26,200
Speaker 2: Supparate It. I thirty one female, and my husband, thirty

1021
00:46:26,239 --> 00:46:28,640
Speaker 2: six male, have been together for more than a decade

1022
00:46:28,760 --> 00:46:31,680
Speaker 2: and married for five years. We got married during the VID,

1023
00:46:31,800 --> 00:46:34,360
Speaker 2: so it was just a ceremony with a judge over Skype.

1024
00:46:34,480 --> 00:46:37,279
Speaker 2: My in laws refused to wear masks because they did

1025
00:46:37,280 --> 00:46:39,960
Speaker 2: not believe the VID was as serious as it was.

1026
00:46:40,440 --> 00:46:42,799
Speaker 2: Because of that, my mother and brother decided not to

1027
00:46:42,840 --> 00:46:45,840
Speaker 2: attend and instead watched via Skype. By the way, this

1028
00:46:45,920 --> 00:46:47,759
Speaker 2: comes from Walk in the Park ninety four And if

1029
00:46:47,760 --> 00:46:49,120
Speaker 2: you want to submit your own stories, go to the

1030
00:46:49,239 --> 00:46:51,120
Speaker 2: r slash Okay Storytime supparate it.

1031
00:46:51,200 --> 00:46:53,680
Speaker 1: I'm Sophia, I'm Dakota, I'm Riley, and.

1032
00:46:53,640 --> 00:46:55,600
Speaker 2: We're here to give good advice. Goofly, but we don't

1033
00:46:55,640 --> 00:46:57,640
Speaker 2: have all the answers. We only know what we do,

1034
00:46:57,920 --> 00:46:59,440
Speaker 2: so let us know what you would do in the comments.

1035
00:46:59,640 --> 00:47:02,600
Speaker 2: And he says, we did not want a cake since

1036
00:47:02,640 --> 00:47:05,080
Speaker 2: my family was not present. But of course my mother

1037
00:47:05,120 --> 00:47:07,880
Speaker 2: in law got a cake because she wanted to celebrate

1038
00:47:07,920 --> 00:47:10,880
Speaker 2: the occasion. She even asked about cutting it while my

1039
00:47:10,960 --> 00:47:13,720
Speaker 2: mother and brother were still on Skype, knowing they would

1040
00:47:13,719 --> 00:47:16,640
Speaker 2: not be there to celebrate with me. Wait, hold on,

1041
00:47:16,840 --> 00:47:19,840
Speaker 2: I just have to Okay, So, so your in laws

1042
00:47:19,880 --> 00:47:23,160
Speaker 2: refuse to wear masks, which is why your mother and

1043
00:47:23,200 --> 00:47:26,919
Speaker 2: brother didn't come. Honestly, if the rule, if you were

1044
00:47:26,960 --> 00:47:28,760
Speaker 2: like the rule is that you got to wear a mask,

1045
00:47:28,920 --> 00:47:31,000
Speaker 2: I'm telling the in laws they can't come. I wouldn't

1046
00:47:31,000 --> 00:47:34,160
Speaker 2: want my mother and brother, who are following the rules

1047
00:47:34,200 --> 00:47:35,799
Speaker 2: to be able to come and not the people who

1048
00:47:35,800 --> 00:47:37,520
Speaker 2: are blatantly like disobeying.

1049
00:47:37,719 --> 00:47:39,880
Speaker 1: I thought I thought it was all over skype.

1050
00:47:39,920 --> 00:47:42,560
Speaker 2: Maybe no, no, no, So mother and brother are on Skype

1051
00:47:42,640 --> 00:47:45,280
Speaker 2: because they did not come because in laws aren't wearing

1052
00:47:45,320 --> 00:47:47,040
Speaker 2: masks or refuse to wear masks.

1053
00:47:47,400 --> 00:47:48,320
Speaker 1: Oh okay.

1054
00:47:48,520 --> 00:47:50,440
Speaker 2: Yeah. And so if you had a rule where you're like, hey,

1055
00:47:50,440 --> 00:47:52,560
Speaker 2: we're all gonna wear masks to our wedding during the

1056
00:47:52,600 --> 00:47:55,200
Speaker 2: VID and they think, no, we don't want to make masks,

1057
00:47:55,400 --> 00:47:57,279
Speaker 2: you just say okay, sorry, you can't come.

1058
00:47:57,480 --> 00:48:00,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's probably that's probably the best move.

1059
00:48:01,160 --> 00:48:03,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, we did not want a cake since my family

1060
00:48:03,480 --> 00:48:05,480
Speaker 2: was not present, but of course my mother in law

1061
00:48:05,560 --> 00:48:08,600
Speaker 2: got a cake because she wanted to celebrate the occasion.

1062
00:48:08,800 --> 00:48:11,400
Speaker 2: She even asked about cutting it while my mother and

1063
00:48:11,440 --> 00:48:14,200
Speaker 2: brother were still on Skype, knowing they would not be

1064
00:48:14,320 --> 00:48:15,600
Speaker 2: there to celebrate with me.

1065
00:48:15,800 --> 00:48:18,200
Speaker 3: Why would the mother in law cut the cake? Isn't

1066
00:48:18,200 --> 00:48:21,240
Speaker 3: that the the d and groom are supposed to do that, right.

1067
00:48:21,360 --> 00:48:21,799
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1068
00:48:21,840 --> 00:48:24,160
Speaker 2: Maybe it just meant I don't know. Maybe it's that

1069
00:48:24,280 --> 00:48:26,600
Speaker 2: she even asked about cutting it, so maybe maybe she

1070
00:48:26,680 --> 00:48:29,279
Speaker 2: was saying, okay, it feels like a simple thing, but

1071
00:48:29,320 --> 00:48:31,960
Speaker 2: it still hurt that my wishes were disregarded. We were

1072
00:48:31,960 --> 00:48:34,360
Speaker 2: living with my in laws before and a little after

1073
00:48:34,480 --> 00:48:37,200
Speaker 2: we got married to save money. I would notice things

1074
00:48:37,440 --> 00:48:40,720
Speaker 2: moved or missing, and she would snoop under the guise

1075
00:48:40,760 --> 00:48:43,719
Speaker 2: of cleaning. It did not stop when we moved out.

1076
00:48:43,920 --> 00:48:45,799
Speaker 2: When we got our own apartment, she would come over

1077
00:48:45,840 --> 00:48:47,640
Speaker 2: to clean. At the time, I did not know if

1078
00:48:47,640 --> 00:48:49,600
Speaker 2: she was coming over when we were not there, but

1079
00:48:49,719 --> 00:48:52,560
Speaker 2: it is possible keep that in mind for later. I

1080
00:48:52,640 --> 00:48:54,479
Speaker 2: went on a trip with my mother and we each

1081
00:48:54,560 --> 00:48:57,759
Speaker 2: got a fancy bottle of booze as a souvenir We

1082
00:48:57,840 --> 00:49:00,600
Speaker 2: planned to keep the bottles after drinking the content, as

1083
00:49:00,640 --> 00:49:03,759
Speaker 2: many people do. My mother still has her bottle, but

1084
00:49:03,840 --> 00:49:06,680
Speaker 2: my mother in law threw mine away, saying I thought

1085
00:49:06,719 --> 00:49:08,600
Speaker 2: it would be nice and clean up the place the

1086
00:49:08,640 --> 00:49:11,560
Speaker 2: bottle was empty. She knew it was the bottle from

1087
00:49:11,600 --> 00:49:13,880
Speaker 2: the trip, and it felt like she was trying to

1088
00:49:14,000 --> 00:49:17,080
Speaker 2: erase my mother. Normally i'd be like that, you know,

1089
00:49:17,160 --> 00:49:20,359
Speaker 2: it could have been an honest mistake, but I don't

1090
00:49:20,360 --> 00:49:20,920
Speaker 2: trust the mother.

1091
00:49:21,120 --> 00:49:23,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, she sounds weird. She sounds like she

1092
00:49:23,880 --> 00:49:25,920
Speaker 3: sounds like she's like it, doing exactly what you said

1093
00:49:25,960 --> 00:49:26,720
Speaker 3: where it's like she's.

1094
00:49:26,600 --> 00:49:29,600
Speaker 1: Trying to be the only mom in the picture.

1095
00:49:29,880 --> 00:49:34,000
Speaker 2: Yeah. After a while, my family became scared of giving

1096
00:49:34,040 --> 00:49:36,399
Speaker 2: me things because they were worried she would throw them

1097
00:49:36,400 --> 00:49:39,680
Speaker 2: out since they came from my family. This also happened

1098
00:49:39,680 --> 00:49:43,320
Speaker 2: with my husband's belongings. Gifts and souvenirs from my trips

1099
00:49:43,360 --> 00:49:45,560
Speaker 2: were thrown away by her as well. We took a

1100
00:49:45,600 --> 00:49:47,600
Speaker 2: trip to see my brother, who at the time lived

1101
00:49:47,600 --> 00:49:50,279
Speaker 2: across the country, and we got souvenirs. We did not

1102
00:49:50,280 --> 00:49:52,560
Speaker 2: put them away or hang them up right away and

1103
00:49:52,640 --> 00:49:54,480
Speaker 2: left them in the bag for a while. When we

1104
00:49:54,520 --> 00:49:56,880
Speaker 2: couldn't find them. We confronted her and she said she

1105
00:49:56,960 --> 00:49:58,719
Speaker 2: thought it was garbage because it was still.

1106
00:49:58,480 --> 00:49:59,319
Speaker 1: In the paper bag.

1107
00:49:59,640 --> 00:50:03,040
Speaker 2: We moved moved three hours away, thank goodness, because of

1108
00:50:03,080 --> 00:50:06,279
Speaker 2: our jobs, and it was peaceful. Unfortunately, the next year

1109
00:50:06,280 --> 00:50:09,120
Speaker 2: of the company we both worked for closed that area,

1110
00:50:09,400 --> 00:50:12,640
Speaker 2: so we had to move back. The snooping started again.

1111
00:50:13,080 --> 00:50:16,600
Speaker 2: The thing is, I'm wondering if you were able to

1112
00:50:16,719 --> 00:50:20,239
Speaker 2: move out, if you could afford that. I genuinely think

1113
00:50:20,320 --> 00:50:23,960
Speaker 2: maybe getting a small place, anything that's not living with

1114
00:50:24,080 --> 00:50:28,520
Speaker 2: this woman who's actively throwing out your stuff would be better.

1115
00:50:28,960 --> 00:50:32,000
Speaker 3: I think it's time to home alone. Yeah you served

1116
00:50:32,320 --> 00:50:37,200
Speaker 3: or Matilda, Matilda you know nare in the shampoo? Oh yeah, yeah, no,

1117
00:50:37,239 --> 00:50:39,680
Speaker 3: it's yeah, start pulling pranks on them. Well I was

1118
00:50:40,000 --> 00:50:42,960
Speaker 3: I was thinking more of like just for security of

1119
00:50:43,000 --> 00:50:45,960
Speaker 3: your space. Yeah you know, Oh you start creating some

1120
00:50:46,040 --> 00:50:48,360
Speaker 3: home alone style. Yeah, you know, goofs.

1121
00:50:48,600 --> 00:50:51,880
Speaker 1: Yeah. And also fun fact, you can buy a house

1122
00:50:51,960 --> 00:50:55,239
Speaker 1: like this, Oh for guess how long? Guess for how much?

1123
00:50:55,640 --> 00:50:57,719
Speaker 1: Wait a big going down? How much?

1124
00:50:57,760 --> 00:51:01,360
Speaker 2: For over a day? For forever forever?

1125
00:51:01,680 --> 00:51:04,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, like you buy eighty thousand k.

1126
00:51:04,400 --> 00:51:06,360
Speaker 2: I'm gonna say sixty thousand.

1127
00:51:06,880 --> 00:51:11,720
Speaker 1: Oh my god thirty No, yeah, where is it in Europe?

1128
00:51:11,840 --> 00:51:14,920
Speaker 1: And I would thought you're in Europe. I was thinking

1129
00:51:14,960 --> 00:51:17,080
Speaker 1: you could buy a few units of these and then

1130
00:51:17,080 --> 00:51:20,920
Speaker 1: put airbnbs on land, but where I don't know. They

1131
00:51:20,960 --> 00:51:23,680
Speaker 1: ship it to you. But there are prices around you, Yeah,

1132
00:51:23,680 --> 00:51:26,080
Speaker 1: there's prices around like twenty six twenty eight k. But

1133
00:51:26,120 --> 00:51:26,839
Speaker 1: you'd have to pay more.

1134
00:51:26,760 --> 00:51:28,000
Speaker 2: For chipping and all that stuff, and also you have

1135
00:51:28,000 --> 00:51:28,680
Speaker 2: to pay for land.

1136
00:51:28,880 --> 00:51:30,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, well I already got.

1137
00:51:29,960 --> 00:51:31,480
Speaker 2: That, so oh well then you're good.

1138
00:51:31,719 --> 00:51:34,560
Speaker 1: Yep. But yeah, I just think about a couple of those. Hey,

1139
00:51:34,920 --> 00:51:38,320
Speaker 1: pretty nice inside too, It's like a little yurt. Yeah. Yeah.

1140
00:51:38,520 --> 00:51:41,600
Speaker 3: The ladder though, get your stuff in the ladder is

1141
00:51:41,600 --> 00:51:42,800
Speaker 3: like the ladder getting.

1142
00:51:42,600 --> 00:51:44,319
Speaker 1: Your stuff up through the ladder? How are you gonna

1143
00:51:44,360 --> 00:51:47,279
Speaker 1: do that? Very carefully? You can?

1144
00:51:47,520 --> 00:51:48,839
Speaker 2: You just have to kind of Yeah.

1145
00:51:48,880 --> 00:51:50,359
Speaker 3: Is there like a wnch on the top you can

1146
00:51:50,440 --> 00:51:51,560
Speaker 3: drop stuff down into.

1147
00:51:52,120 --> 00:51:54,600
Speaker 2: Unfortunately, in the next year, the company we both worked

1148
00:51:54,600 --> 00:51:56,680
Speaker 2: for close that area, so we had to move back.

1149
00:51:56,800 --> 00:51:59,520
Speaker 2: We would go over to his mother's house almost every

1150
00:51:59,560 --> 00:52:02,480
Speaker 2: weekend and she would be over at our place a lot. Okay,

1151
00:52:02,520 --> 00:52:05,560
Speaker 2: so they have a separate place, so you're no longer

1152
00:52:05,719 --> 00:52:08,439
Speaker 2: actually living with your mother in law, and yet she's

1153
00:52:08,480 --> 00:52:10,520
Speaker 2: still over when you know all this stuff about her,

1154
00:52:10,640 --> 00:52:13,160
Speaker 2: or maybe you're just not sure. Yes, this is when

1155
00:52:13,280 --> 00:52:14,200
Speaker 2: we start cutting off.

1156
00:52:14,280 --> 00:52:16,400
Speaker 3: I think it's time to start, like, you know, putting

1157
00:52:16,440 --> 00:52:19,480
Speaker 3: tape over the doorways at like head level, the clear

1158
00:52:19,640 --> 00:52:22,920
Speaker 3: packing tape. Yeah, as she walks into it, you go, oh,

1159
00:52:22,920 --> 00:52:23,560
Speaker 3: that's crazy.

1160
00:52:23,760 --> 00:52:24,920
Speaker 1: You shouldn't have walked in there.

1161
00:52:24,960 --> 00:52:27,239
Speaker 2: I guess I think that you start putting locks on

1162
00:52:27,280 --> 00:52:27,920
Speaker 2: your door.

1163
00:52:28,840 --> 00:52:30,960
Speaker 1: You guys, it sounds like you guys are putting trapped

1164
00:52:31,200 --> 00:52:32,440
Speaker 1: Yes for Myson stuff.

1165
00:52:32,640 --> 00:52:35,640
Speaker 2: Yes, I have a little mouse trap just for mother.

1166
00:52:35,800 --> 00:52:37,080
Speaker 2: But it's mother in law size.

1167
00:52:37,239 --> 00:52:37,960
Speaker 1: Yes, it's not.

1168
00:52:38,040 --> 00:52:39,759
Speaker 2: It's a humane mouse trap, don't It's in.

1169
00:52:39,719 --> 00:52:40,680
Speaker 1: The shape of that house.

1170
00:52:42,760 --> 00:52:45,160
Speaker 3: When she wanders in there, you get a helicopter to

1171
00:52:45,160 --> 00:52:47,520
Speaker 3: the like a clip onto it and just carry it away.

1172
00:52:47,600 --> 00:52:50,280
Speaker 2: There's a big box that just says so many years

1173
00:52:50,320 --> 00:52:51,200
Speaker 2: from my family.

1174
00:52:51,640 --> 00:52:53,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, but it's a trap.

1175
00:52:53,160 --> 00:52:55,719
Speaker 2: We had a Halloween party and she basically ran it

1176
00:52:55,800 --> 00:52:59,120
Speaker 2: instead of relaxing like a guest. She barely acknowledged my

1177
00:52:59,200 --> 00:53:02,000
Speaker 2: mother because she was so busy running around doing things.

1178
00:53:02,200 --> 00:53:05,360
Speaker 2: It felt like she needed to control everything. This is

1179
00:53:05,400 --> 00:53:07,120
Speaker 2: the part of the story we're looking back on the

1180
00:53:07,160 --> 00:53:10,319
Speaker 2: apartment situation, I believe she was going over when we

1181
00:53:10,320 --> 00:53:12,719
Speaker 2: were not home and we just did not realize it.

1182
00:53:12,800 --> 00:53:14,320
Speaker 1: Why how you have keys?

1183
00:53:14,600 --> 00:53:17,120
Speaker 2: Why did she have a key? How was she coming over?

1184
00:53:17,560 --> 00:53:19,680
Speaker 1: Did you give her a key? Gave her a key?

1185
00:53:20,160 --> 00:53:21,760
Speaker 1: Ule she's breaking into your house?

1186
00:53:21,800 --> 00:53:24,799
Speaker 3: It makes I mean, if we just think in a vacuum, right,

1187
00:53:24,840 --> 00:53:27,440
Speaker 3: they've lived together for a long time, maybe there is

1188
00:53:27,480 --> 00:53:28,680
Speaker 3: like I'm sure that it's not.

1189
00:53:28,640 --> 00:53:30,560
Speaker 1: All just like this weirdo behavior.

1190
00:53:30,960 --> 00:53:32,759
Speaker 3: So it's maybe she's good most of the time and

1191
00:53:32,800 --> 00:53:34,799
Speaker 3: then she just does this insanity.

1192
00:53:35,080 --> 00:53:38,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe the decision was made that we would all

1193
00:53:38,040 --> 00:53:40,600
Speaker 2: be on NAV three sixties so we could keep track

1194
00:53:40,640 --> 00:53:44,040
Speaker 2: of where everyone was. Who made that decision? I'm a

1195
00:53:44,160 --> 00:53:47,320
Speaker 2: huge I don't know. Personally, I love sharing my location

1196
00:53:47,400 --> 00:53:48,440
Speaker 2: with my friends and family.

1197
00:53:48,480 --> 00:53:50,040
Speaker 1: I was gonna say I love it.

1198
00:53:50,360 --> 00:53:53,399
Speaker 2: However, if I had a family member like this, why

1199
00:53:53,400 --> 00:53:56,320
Speaker 2: are we making that decision? My husband, me, my sister

1200
00:53:56,320 --> 00:53:58,359
Speaker 2: in law, her fiance, and my mother in law were

1201
00:53:58,400 --> 00:54:00,680
Speaker 2: all on it. My brother in law and his girlfriend

1202
00:54:00,719 --> 00:54:02,920
Speaker 2: were not smart move. I kind of felt like I

1203
00:54:02,920 --> 00:54:05,399
Speaker 2: should leave the app. My mother even said it felt

1204
00:54:05,440 --> 00:54:07,160
Speaker 2: like a way to keep an eye on me. While

1205
00:54:07,160 --> 00:54:10,120
Speaker 2: disguising it as the whole family joining. Also just kind

1206
00:54:10,120 --> 00:54:12,799
Speaker 2: of a weird thing for the whole family to agree upon.

1207
00:54:13,200 --> 00:54:16,600
Speaker 2: Like for me, it's just like whoever wants to do it,

1208
00:54:16,719 --> 00:54:19,439
Speaker 2: and I'll share it for you know, it just comes

1209
00:54:19,520 --> 00:54:22,880
Speaker 2: up like I need to share my location someone to continue.

1210
00:54:22,480 --> 00:54:26,239
Speaker 1: It if they're children, you know, but they're not. They're not.

1211
00:54:26,640 --> 00:54:28,640
Speaker 2: I kind of agree because my mother in law once

1212
00:54:28,680 --> 00:54:31,560
Speaker 2: called me asking where I was going. Another time she

1213
00:54:31,640 --> 00:54:35,080
Speaker 2: called my husband asking where I was going. Yeah, you're off.

1214
00:54:35,120 --> 00:54:37,960
Speaker 2: That app The tone she used creeped me out, but

1215
00:54:38,040 --> 00:54:40,279
Speaker 2: we laughed it off because she did not realize we

1216
00:54:40,280 --> 00:54:42,799
Speaker 2: were both going to her house. I do not think

1217
00:54:42,840 --> 00:54:44,759
Speaker 2: she expected me to be in the car with him.

1218
00:54:44,920 --> 00:54:47,600
Speaker 2: When we got our first home, she still came over

1219
00:54:47,680 --> 00:54:50,879
Speaker 2: to clean. Literally, just don't let her in. I freely

1220
00:54:50,920 --> 00:54:53,080
Speaker 2: admit I'm lazy and do not like cleaning, but I

1221
00:54:53,120 --> 00:54:55,880
Speaker 2: would eventually clean my own space because I'm an adult.

1222
00:54:56,160 --> 00:54:57,840
Speaker 2: We gave her a key in case she has to

1223
00:54:57,880 --> 00:54:59,719
Speaker 2: come over to get the dog while we were at work.

1224
00:54:59,760 --> 00:55:02,839
Speaker 2: See no no keys, it's someone else.

1225
00:55:03,000 --> 00:55:05,120
Speaker 1: Just get rid of the dog, get a cat.

1226
00:55:05,400 --> 00:55:08,439
Speaker 2: Or or we just get a different person to look

1227
00:55:08,480 --> 00:55:10,160
Speaker 2: after this dog. Anyone else.

1228
00:55:10,520 --> 00:55:12,560
Speaker 1: Then you're giving someone else a key, and we already

1229
00:55:12,560 --> 00:55:13,440
Speaker 1: know how that goes.

1230
00:55:13,760 --> 00:55:15,200
Speaker 2: Or you get like a little dog door if you

1231
00:55:15,200 --> 00:55:16,839
Speaker 2: have a backyard, I don't know. You can get one

1232
00:55:16,880 --> 00:55:19,400
Speaker 2: of those callers that only lets the dog inside.

1233
00:55:19,719 --> 00:55:22,000
Speaker 1: Train your dog to bite. But have you ever seen

1234
00:55:22,040 --> 00:55:25,680
Speaker 1: over the hedge? That does not work? What over the hedge? Yeah?

1235
00:55:25,719 --> 00:55:28,600
Speaker 1: What about it? Remember that skunk got in because one

1236
00:55:28,600 --> 00:55:30,360
Speaker 1: of the cats had that on their collar. Then you

1237
00:55:30,360 --> 00:55:32,239
Speaker 1: get a skunk in your house because you're skunk and

1238
00:55:32,280 --> 00:55:33,479
Speaker 1: the cat wants to make love.

1239
00:55:33,560 --> 00:55:35,600
Speaker 2: I'd rather have a skunk than this. Mom.

1240
00:55:36,120 --> 00:55:39,120
Speaker 1: Bruce Willis was a cool raccoon, a jay, But I

1241
00:55:39,160 --> 00:55:40,680
Speaker 1: don't know if you want that Sovia, have you ever

1242
00:55:40,680 --> 00:55:43,000
Speaker 1: smelled a skunk? Was the last time you smell one? Recently?

1243
00:55:43,239 --> 00:55:49,759
Speaker 2: I saw skunk? Actually me too home the first time ever. No, uh, sorry, no,

1244
00:55:49,880 --> 00:55:51,680
Speaker 2: but I did see one. It was just walking along

1245
00:55:51,719 --> 00:55:52,879
Speaker 2: the side of the road.

1246
00:55:53,200 --> 00:55:56,120
Speaker 1: Oh, yes, same man. Yeah in North Carolina. Yah, it's crazy.

1247
00:55:56,160 --> 00:55:57,000
Speaker 2: Oh no, this is here.

1248
00:55:57,360 --> 00:55:59,120
Speaker 1: Oh that's cool. I'm just glad we both saw a

1249
00:55:59,160 --> 00:55:59,959
Speaker 1: steeringicone break.

1250
00:56:00,800 --> 00:56:03,560
Speaker 2: I'm glad too early. Usually we drop him off, but

1251
00:56:03,600 --> 00:56:05,879
Speaker 2: occasionally she would not be home and would pick him

1252
00:56:05,920 --> 00:56:08,560
Speaker 2: up while she was already out running errands. However, I

1253
00:56:08,560 --> 00:56:11,399
Speaker 2: would sometimes see on NAV three sixty that she would

1254
00:56:11,440 --> 00:56:13,680
Speaker 2: be at her house for forty five minutes to two

1255
00:56:13,840 --> 00:56:17,200
Speaker 2: hours will neither of us were home, That is not

1256
00:56:17,400 --> 00:56:20,040
Speaker 2: just passing by. I would get the notification showing she

1257
00:56:20,160 --> 00:56:23,120
Speaker 2: stayed for a long period of time. It really creeped

1258
00:56:23,160 --> 00:56:25,759
Speaker 2: me out. Eventually, my husband told her she could not

1259
00:56:25,880 --> 00:56:28,239
Speaker 2: come over unless we asked her to, and that's when

1260
00:56:28,239 --> 00:56:30,680
Speaker 2: you take her key. She agreed, but it did not

1261
00:56:30,840 --> 00:56:33,600
Speaker 2: last very long. It is partially our fault for not

1262
00:56:33,840 --> 00:56:36,960
Speaker 2: enforcing boundaries, but we thought she could control herself and

1263
00:56:37,000 --> 00:56:39,799
Speaker 2: recognize that we were adults with her own lives. She

1264
00:56:40,280 --> 00:56:43,600
Speaker 2: did not do this with my husband's younger siblings. Within

1265
00:56:43,640 --> 00:56:45,840
Speaker 2: a year of owning the home, we lost her job

1266
00:56:46,000 --> 00:56:48,600
Speaker 2: and had to take jobs with a significant pay cut.

1267
00:56:48,719 --> 00:56:50,880
Speaker 2: My husband wanted to sell the house and move back

1268
00:56:50,920 --> 00:56:54,080
Speaker 2: in with his mother to save money. No, I literally

1269
00:56:54,120 --> 00:56:56,800
Speaker 2: would be looking at my husband and saying, if you

1270
00:56:56,920 --> 00:56:58,879
Speaker 2: do that, I won't be moving with you. I will

1271
00:56:58,920 --> 00:56:59,960
Speaker 2: not move back in with your mother.

1272
00:57:00,320 --> 00:57:03,319
Speaker 3: I think we need to have some parameters set, like

1273
00:57:03,600 --> 00:57:06,920
Speaker 3: locks on our doors that only we have keys for.

1274
00:57:07,200 --> 00:57:09,640
Speaker 2: Or just don't give take that key back, take that

1275
00:57:09,719 --> 00:57:12,760
Speaker 2: key back, new law, because maybe she'd printed out copies.

1276
00:57:12,800 --> 00:57:13,160
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1277
00:57:13,360 --> 00:57:15,359
Speaker 2: We discussed it and I thought it was just talk,

1278
00:57:15,480 --> 00:57:18,160
Speaker 2: but his mother started coming over and boxing things up

1279
00:57:18,320 --> 00:57:20,760
Speaker 2: little by little. I finally put my foot down and

1280
00:57:20,800 --> 00:57:23,160
Speaker 2: said I did not want to move. She brought some

1281
00:57:23,280 --> 00:57:26,000
Speaker 2: things back, but I don't think she brought everything back.

1282
00:57:26,200 --> 00:57:28,160
Speaker 2: A few years later, it started to feel like the

1283
00:57:28,200 --> 00:57:30,920
Speaker 2: house was her second home. It did not feel like

1284
00:57:31,040 --> 00:57:34,200
Speaker 2: our space anymore. My husband brought up selling again and

1285
00:57:34,280 --> 00:57:37,240
Speaker 2: moving in with her. I suggested couples counseling because I

1286
00:57:37,280 --> 00:57:39,920
Speaker 2: felt like we were not in a relationship. I agree,

1287
00:57:40,040 --> 00:57:42,480
Speaker 2: this is Yeah, now we've reached the root of the issue,

1288
00:57:42,520 --> 00:57:44,560
Speaker 2: which is that you don't have a mother in law issue.

1289
00:57:44,600 --> 00:57:47,200
Speaker 2: You have a husband problem.

1290
00:57:47,360 --> 00:57:47,520
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1291
00:57:47,520 --> 00:57:50,400
Speaker 1: If husband's cool with this, you got a husband problem.

1292
00:57:50,680 --> 00:57:52,560
Speaker 2: It felt like he was in a relationship with his

1293
00:57:52,640 --> 00:57:54,880
Speaker 2: mom and I was just expected to go along with

1294
00:57:54,960 --> 00:57:57,320
Speaker 2: the ride. He wanted to live with her and kept

1295
00:57:57,360 --> 00:58:00,880
Speaker 2: pestering me until we sold the house. Then I agreed

1296
00:58:00,960 --> 00:58:03,400
Speaker 2: to selling. I said I wanted couples counseling and that

1297
00:58:03,520 --> 00:58:06,040
Speaker 2: I would live with my mom while he lived with

1298
00:58:06,160 --> 00:58:09,120
Speaker 2: his mom perfect. I did not see it as separation,

1299
00:58:09,400 --> 00:58:12,000
Speaker 2: but he did. He started crying and said he did

1300
00:58:12,040 --> 00:58:15,080
Speaker 2: not want to separate. He said couples counseling would not work.

1301
00:58:15,160 --> 00:58:17,920
Speaker 2: If we were living separately. It tends to work better.

1302
00:58:18,280 --> 00:58:21,800
Speaker 3: That's such a weird thing to say with no real basis.

1303
00:58:22,160 --> 00:58:24,800
Speaker 2: Men said he did not need counseling at all. He

1304
00:58:24,880 --> 00:58:27,560
Speaker 2: told me I should get counseling and go on depression

1305
00:58:27,600 --> 00:58:29,720
Speaker 2: medication because this was all coming out of the blue

1306
00:58:29,800 --> 00:58:30,560
Speaker 2: and was really my.

1307
00:58:30,560 --> 00:58:31,600
Speaker 1: Mother talking, not me.

1308
00:58:32,160 --> 00:58:36,560
Speaker 3: Ruh, bro, And that's your mom talking and not yous through.

1309
00:58:36,440 --> 00:58:38,480
Speaker 1: You like your mom's inside of you.

1310
00:58:38,840 --> 00:58:42,560
Speaker 2: There is a little bit left to this story, but uh, yeah,

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Speaker 2: this is. I think it's done because he wants he

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Speaker 2: wants to marry his mom.

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Speaker 1: Your husband's still attached to the teet. I don't everythink

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Speaker 1: it's done.

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Speaker 2: I think it's done.

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Speaker 3: I think it's just like there's gotta be unless he's

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Speaker 3: really willing to be more elements of mother in law

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Speaker 3: that aren't in this story, that have allowed them to

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00:59:03,520 --> 00:59:06,360
Speaker 3: be in contact for so long, because if it was

1320
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Speaker 3: just this and more of this, it'd be like, okay,

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Speaker 3: well this is but the course bates hotel types stuf.

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Speaker 2: But the element is that the husband wants to have

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00:59:14,760 --> 00:59:17,000
Speaker 2: a relationship with his mom. Well, yeah, that's the element.

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Speaker 2: He's always been the driving factor. That's what it feels like.

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Speaker 1: I just think we need separation from our mothers.

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Speaker 2: I did not tell him that my mother advised couples

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00:59:26,960 --> 00:59:30,360
Speaker 2: counseling because I wanted a divorce. She actually steered me

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00:59:30,400 --> 00:59:33,520
Speaker 2: away from divorce. I gave in and agreed to a

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Speaker 2: year of living with his mother. No, as long as

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00:59:36,560 --> 00:59:39,440
Speaker 2: we went to couples counseling, which we still have not done.

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00:59:39,520 --> 00:59:42,120
Speaker 2: You need to leave. She comes into our spaces often,

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Speaker 2: and I have even thought about putting up a hidden camera,

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00:59:44,760 --> 00:59:46,400
Speaker 2: but I do not know where I could put one

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Speaker 2: that she would not find.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I don't know if you want that. Actually, just

1336
00:59:50,760 --> 00:59:53,000
Speaker 1: just just got to leave with a lock for your door,

1337
00:59:53,200 --> 00:59:53,640
Speaker 1: or leave.

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Speaker 2: There are many other instances than what I have mentioned,

1339
00:59:56,840 --> 00:59:59,400
Speaker 2: comments and behaviors that made it feel like we both

1340
00:59:59,480 --> 01:00:02,200
Speaker 2: needed to be under her control. I do not know

1341
01:00:02,320 --> 01:00:04,640
Speaker 2: if I'm overreacting or if she truly does not see

1342
01:00:04,720 --> 01:00:07,200
Speaker 2: us as adults. Oh, Pee, you are an adult. You

1343
01:00:07,200 --> 01:00:09,960
Speaker 2: are allowed to make your own decisions, and you need

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01:00:10,000 --> 01:00:12,360
Speaker 2: to hold fast and say I am not living with

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01:00:12,440 --> 01:00:15,400
Speaker 2: your mother anymore. She does not respect my boundaries. You

1346
01:00:15,480 --> 01:00:18,760
Speaker 2: do not respect my boundaries, and therefore this relationship doesn't work.

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01:00:18,880 --> 01:00:22,040
Speaker 1: Boom do it? And so feel will answer that for you.

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01:00:22,080 --> 01:00:24,080
Speaker 3: I feel like this is everyone's fault, just for not

1349
01:00:24,120 --> 01:00:25,280
Speaker 3: getting new locks.

1350
01:00:25,680 --> 01:00:27,520
Speaker 1: Like even if you go live with mother in law and.

1351
01:00:27,520 --> 01:00:29,920
Speaker 3: Your issue is that it's like she invades your space

1352
01:00:30,000 --> 01:00:32,960
Speaker 3: and she doesn't treat you like adults. Well, she's not

1353
01:00:33,000 --> 01:00:34,880
Speaker 3: your mother in law. Now, she's your landlord, and you

1354
01:00:34,880 --> 01:00:37,400
Speaker 3: can go missus landlord. I don't want you. You need

1355
01:00:37,440 --> 01:00:39,760
Speaker 3: to give me two days notice before you enter my

1356
01:00:39,920 --> 01:00:43,320
Speaker 3: space and I'm getting locks on my door. Honestly, that

1357
01:00:43,360 --> 01:00:45,200
Speaker 3: needs to be the conversation before you move in. And

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01:00:45,200 --> 01:00:47,360
Speaker 3: then if the answer to that is no, we can't,

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01:00:47,520 --> 01:00:51,640
Speaker 3: then it's like all right, goodbye, yeah Tata, see you later.

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01:00:51,840 --> 01:00:54,880
Speaker 1: Nah or hear me out. Mother in law, what do

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01:00:54,880 --> 01:00:57,200
Speaker 1: you want? Okay? You want more time with the baby

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01:00:57,240 --> 01:00:59,760
Speaker 1: and your son and don't mind me around. Okay, good?

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01:00:59,760 --> 01:01:02,600
Speaker 1: Since living together, let's make this a three income house,

1364
01:01:02,960 --> 01:01:06,640
Speaker 1: set up a schedule, let's make that happen. But Thursday Friday,

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01:01:06,840 --> 01:01:09,240
Speaker 1: I'm with my family. You're not here.

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01:01:09,800 --> 01:01:12,800
Speaker 2: I just think that your relationship will continue to spiral

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01:01:12,920 --> 01:01:15,320
Speaker 2: downwards until you're no longer living with your mother in.

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01:01:15,360 --> 01:01:20,600
Speaker 1: Law, or you just compromise a divorce. No, yeah, compromise.

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01:01:21,040 --> 01:01:22,840
Speaker 2: What's the compromise, though, the compromise is.

1370
01:01:22,760 --> 01:01:24,760
Speaker 1: Not four o one K. You get her four one K.

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01:01:25,040 --> 01:01:27,400
Speaker 1: You can do this, you get you get fancy with it.

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01:01:27,360 --> 01:01:29,400
Speaker 3: You get you get you get crazy with you get

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01:01:29,400 --> 01:01:30,600
Speaker 3: her four oh one K.

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01:01:30,760 --> 01:01:33,040
Speaker 1: You can do that. Yeah, you just like seep in

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01:01:33,200 --> 01:01:35,080
Speaker 1: and some of it, most of this is illegal, but

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01:01:35,080 --> 01:01:36,720
Speaker 1: you seep in and you get all their stuff and

1377
01:01:36,720 --> 01:01:39,760
Speaker 1: their information, and you can make that happen. Do some seepage.

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01:01:42,600 --> 01:01:44,000
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