Speaker 1: Welcome to the Women While and Out Podcast. You guys,
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Speaker 1: It's your girl be someone. I'm here with my beautiful
Speaker 1: co host Pretty TV and the beautiful While and Out
Speaker 1: got us Chrystal Angelique here, Pretty Tasy and we got
Speaker 1: the Boss on the show today. He didn't want episode
Speaker 1: with us. He's like, please come back. I don't think
Speaker 1: he's gonna grow up. But you know he's busy. He
Speaker 1: just had some babies and he got to be with
Speaker 1: the skids. He's spen the time back and forth between
Speaker 1: we and Ontario and are you that's where we're going?
Speaker 1: I'm about to go. They had a muddle about to
Speaker 1: go back to the city. What's in Atlanta? Smoke kids,
Speaker 1: It's hilarious true. Um yeah, So we had the Boss
Speaker 1: back on the show. Nick Cannon. We were talking about
Speaker 1: um black Yeah, I mean that's what we're actually talking about. Cleansing,
Speaker 1: and you're doing a great job. You got core feel
Speaker 1: over the corn feel is good. Yeah, it's good for you.
Speaker 1: I was on it today. Yeah, finish its fruits and roots,
Speaker 1: super healthy goddess. Yeah, I gotta be. I try to be.
Speaker 1: It's just so up and now I love it. It's
Speaker 1: the consistency. There's a lifestyle. Yeah, a lot of people
Speaker 1: ain't built for it. It's good to posts on Instagram
Speaker 1: and look like you're doing, but like to actually live it. We'
Speaker 1: you've been doing something for twenty nine years. In thirty years,
Speaker 1: it's very difficult to change that. But yeah, I'm not
Speaker 1: a vegan. I'm not classify myself. I say, to define
Speaker 1: me is to confine me. So I'd rather be able
Speaker 1: to just say I try to eat healthy and try
Speaker 1: to eat clean. What can we do that? As the toast?
Speaker 1: Can you say that quote again? We usually start off
Speaker 1: with the toast and we're gonna give each episode, so
Speaker 1: we're gonna let you say that again, so the people
Speaker 1: in the bat can hear it. To define me is
Speaker 1: to confine me. To me is to disable me. Come on,
Speaker 1: so they're free what does it? What does it confine me?
Speaker 1: Is to come fine? Me better? So from the jar?
Speaker 1: So is that how we just jumped right into it?
Speaker 1: Just pulled from the jar? Okay, you guys, you about
Speaker 1: to get into the juice jar, the wilding out juice jar.
Speaker 1: What's in the juice? How you got a fresh, new,
Speaker 1: full set of nails and we're supposed to be quarantine. Yeah,
Speaker 1: Now I don't know how two weeks old? Yeah, her
Speaker 1: three weeks old looked like she got hers done today?
Speaker 1: Did they get it comported? Talking to me, Ray, I
Speaker 1: ain't got none. So you're talking to me you okay?
Speaker 1: Questions I didn't get my toes? Then you did from
Speaker 1: the show? Okay. Another says that shall not what I
Speaker 1: have ever been involved in a situation ship staying with
Speaker 1: someone because they have money? Absolutely, you was the one
Speaker 1: being stayed with the sta. I mean, I'm pretty sure
Speaker 1: most of my relationships, you know, have been because of
Speaker 1: my financial Yeah. Women exactly, the women first of all,
Speaker 1: And we're gonna jump right in. Let's jump right into women.
Speaker 1: Most of the women, most of the women that I've
Speaker 1: dealt with, like comfort. So if finance comes with comfort,
Speaker 1: all of that comes together the lifestyle, the freedom of
Speaker 1: having money I can orchest straight. So it's at the
Speaker 1: root of it. It's still my finance because I can
Speaker 1: make your lifestyle comfortable. I can, I can whatever you need,
Speaker 1: I can help provide, and that all goes back to finances. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I never staid with a guy for money, but I
Speaker 1: stay one for other things because a lot of the
Speaker 1: things I have no money. But that's what I'm saying. Like,
Speaker 1: and within comfort, that safety a man who can protect you. Man.
Speaker 1: The comfort also comes with spiritual and mental comfort. So
Speaker 1: if he's like, oh he makes he makes me feel sex,
Speaker 1: that's what it mostly is because got the best day
Speaker 1: because charging it up, he don't give you his best
Speaker 1: kicked out. So obviously, you know, the majority of my
Speaker 1: life I've probably been, you know, at the top of
Speaker 1: the totem pole when it comes to being able to provid.
Speaker 1: But you felt like you were being used for finances.
Speaker 1: Oh wait, I'm gonna say most of every most of you,
Speaker 1: you're okay with that, just because I feel like I
Speaker 1: was put on this planet to be a provider, Like
Speaker 1: I'm not. I don't I don't mind being a generation
Speaker 1: between a provider and somebody who's being used for their finances,
Speaker 1: because it's called utilitarian love. There's several different certain types
Speaker 1: of love. You know, there's there's a god a love,
Speaker 1: which is godly love. That's all. That's how we're supposed
Speaker 1: to all love each other, like you've heard me the
Speaker 1: spill before. Then there's philo love that's the Greek love
Speaker 1: that's that's philosophy, the love of knowledge. That's where the
Speaker 1: word family comes from Philadelphia, the city of brotherly love.
Speaker 1: And then there's a ross that's the that's erotic, that's
Speaker 1: the temporary, that's the chemical of love. And then there's
Speaker 1: utilitarian love. That's usually the love that most of us
Speaker 1: can measure because I, oh, someone did something for me,
Speaker 1: therefore they love me. Or I need yeah, exactly, that's
Speaker 1: the love language. So if I need something from you
Speaker 1: and you give it to me, then oh, man, that
Speaker 1: showed love. And that's that's even from a child. That's
Speaker 1: what we You know, when I need food and you
Speaker 1: give it to me, Oh, that's the person. So it
Speaker 1: doesn't have to always be financial thought, but it's more
Speaker 1: it's rooted in finances. That's why I always say women
Speaker 1: don't care about looks or anything, because it's like men
Speaker 1: are more superficial on that because we were like, oh
Speaker 1: I see something pretty shiny. I wanted women feeling. You
Speaker 1: made me feel comfortable, you made me feel safe, so
Speaker 1: I like so that's so that's where I'm comfortable with
Speaker 1: being like, yo, I'm you use me in that sense
Speaker 1: of utilitarian love. I'm the provider, I'm the generator there.
Speaker 1: What do you use them? That's a good question. I
Speaker 1: mean I usually I ask women from the gate like
Speaker 1: other than your vagina, Like, let's take your vagina off
Speaker 1: the table, what do you bring into this? And we
Speaker 1: talked about that and I got I probably presented a
Speaker 1: little softer than they would but like, but that the course,
Speaker 1: the same thing is like, especially from a man who
Speaker 1: is a provider who can different things, But do you
Speaker 1: require women around you to offer more because some men
Speaker 1: don't care like you just pretty you just cool. Well,
Speaker 1: that's what that's what you're there for. If that, if
Speaker 1: all you provided your vagina, then that's how we that's
Speaker 1: our exchange got you and then that's the interaction. And
Speaker 1: I'll see you. When I see you, I how at
Speaker 1: you in and you're probably getting what you want from me.
Speaker 1: As well. Wow much. But that's the thing. I've never
Speaker 1: the maximum paid for sex. I don't even It's not
Speaker 1: like here's a couple of hundred thousand on the dress. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but it's just like if there's a you know, if
Speaker 1: there's a need or something like that. And even because
Speaker 1: I would, that's why I say take I like taking
Speaker 1: sex off the time, and then say what are we without?
Speaker 1: What are we doing with your Yeah? And then that
Speaker 1: can really define it because like if my friend needed
Speaker 1: ten thousand dollars, I'm gonna make sure my friend got
Speaker 1: ten thousands. Right, So I need to be your friends.
Speaker 1: You know. We talked to the boss. We heard some
Speaker 1: good stuff. I help some people learned. But we'll be
Speaker 1: right back after this break because already, how are you
Speaker 1: guys looking back to the women? While on our podcast
Speaker 1: we just had a break and we're back with Nick Cannon,
Speaker 1: he was talking about reptilian love, ut utility, utility, utilitarian.
Speaker 1: When I have a bill, you pay the utility even exchange,
Speaker 1: so you know all those definitions. I don't know, I
Speaker 1: got to learn more about that. I'm just I'm over
Speaker 1: in the I think, yeah, that's the one we all got, Okay,
Speaker 1: what's the other one. There's a there's FeelA that's family
Speaker 1: like love, that's how you love your family. There's a
Speaker 1: ross that's the attraction, that's the chemical. They call it
Speaker 1: temporary love. And then but that's them when we feel that.
Speaker 1: I saw our instant attraction drawn to that. So was
Speaker 1: a little bit of all of its. Martin Luther King
Speaker 1: said it best. It's like when you have every type
Speaker 1: of love, that's the one love you so because you
Speaker 1: need all of those things. That's where I actually first
Speaker 1: heard it from because when he was like breaking it
Speaker 1: down and one of his signens, I was like, I
Speaker 1: need to understand. Are you smarter than a rapper? I'm like,
Speaker 1: how does he know this ship? But I'm like they
Speaker 1: give him the answers. Not some of them, though, I'd
Speaker 1: be like looking dumb, like I'm not good at math. Sure, OK.
Speaker 1: And I took away too, and I added to a
Speaker 1: man I've always been especially to like I'm a musician,
Speaker 1: so like all of that's math, but the part for
Speaker 1: something about adding together, Yeah, it's so difficult for you
Speaker 1: crazy fourth grade with I suck it man, But everything
Speaker 1: else I guess because I never really had to use
Speaker 1: math everything else. So actually, I want to talk about
Speaker 1: this real quick. I posted you on on my page.
Speaker 1: Somebody else told me about blog. You know, Okay, I'll
Speaker 1: let you explain it because I got the answer why
Speaker 1: it was hating on you because I felt like they
Speaker 1: posted yea, not even that I'm talking about just what
Speaker 1: just happened. I felt like it was out of context
Speaker 1: because they didn't know. They don't know our relationship. So
Speaker 1: god you, I think people, but I think people realize
Speaker 1: that we ever post something on social media that I
Speaker 1: thought we played all day on bad whatever. But the
Speaker 1: shave one posted because I posted, look at this man.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm cord Nick and the flags Nick. No,
Speaker 1: we got the cameras out. It ain't like I'm sneaking them.
Speaker 1: And I posted it on my page just still on
Speaker 1: my page. Um. But the statement was that he got
Speaker 1: all these things. Look, he got all these damn baby
Speaker 1: mamas and girls still want to phone. It's crazy to me,
Speaker 1: you know whatever, But what was you gonna say? How
Speaker 1: do you think they took it out? And I mean,
Speaker 1: because that's always the topic of conversation for right now
Speaker 1: with with me, and it's just like I'm welcome to
Speaker 1: the conversation because obviously no one actually knows the personal
Speaker 1: scenarios and what they are. But I'm open for the
Speaker 1: surface level conversation about whether it's like I just lived
Speaker 1: my life in such an open way, in a freeway
Speaker 1: that I don't really hide anything, so I feel like
Speaker 1: I don't lie to the people I deal with. So
Speaker 1: I feel like that is such bizarre behavior to society
Speaker 1: because we were in a society that's built on lies
Speaker 1: and putting something forward to what we want to be
Speaker 1: the truth. Like I I fall on my sword all
Speaker 1: the time, Like I know I'm scarred, don't know I'm damaged.
Speaker 1: I know I'm working on myself, and I know I
Speaker 1: don't do things in an orthodox way, so I'll just
Speaker 1: I mean, it is what it is. I just don't
Speaker 1: I do some fun sometimes, but I'm trying. It comes
Speaker 1: from a place where like I'm trying to be as
Speaker 1: pure as possible. But if I felt like if I
Speaker 1: feel like I have such trust issues that if I
Speaker 1: can and you did a lot, I wouldn't be able
Speaker 1: to have any real relationships, I'm like, lookum, this is
Speaker 1: what it is. I don't believe in monogamy. I've tried
Speaker 1: it several times. Now, do you not believe in it
Speaker 1: because you you have trust issues you and you were hurt,
Speaker 1: or do you not believe in it just because you
Speaker 1: truly don't believe in it, or you don't believe in
Speaker 1: it because I've tried and failed at it so many times.
Speaker 1: I don't think I'm scared. I've definitely been hurt by
Speaker 1: it um and that probably help design my philosophy in it.
Speaker 1: But once I took the time to actually go study
Speaker 1: it and see where it came from. Like to me,
Speaker 1: it's a European concept of you know, kind of categorizing,
Speaker 1: categorizing property when you think about I mean, and I
Speaker 1: don't want to get too because this is the type
Speaker 1: of ship that give me in trouble. But it's just
Speaker 1: like when you go from the origins of tribalism and
Speaker 1: where we come from, those ideas of like your wealth
Speaker 1: is your tribe, growing your family and all of that stuff,
Speaker 1: and then then then when they got to a space
Speaker 1: of like, yo, we have to control this process and
Speaker 1: we have to make sure that this family belongs to
Speaker 1: this family, and this man's wife is an exchange for
Speaker 1: this property, and what marriage was all designed for and
Speaker 1: stuff like it gets a little creepy. So I'm like, look,
Speaker 1: I actually believe the woman is so powerful that she
Speaker 1: should not have to answer to any man or be
Speaker 1: any man's property or soul individus. She can do what
Speaker 1: she want to do. I could do what I want
Speaker 1: to do. And if together we match and we meet
Speaker 1: each other at you know, some king queen's stuff, that's
Speaker 1: how we rock. Yea. So my thing is so how
Speaker 1: can me and you? And I think that's what people,
Speaker 1: because I'll give people always get confused, like one thing
Speaker 1: I see, like, people like all of these women, how
Speaker 1: does he like? I was like, look, you're stuck in
Speaker 1: that mentality of thinking that I have these women operating
Speaker 1: in the way that they operate anyone that I deal with,
Speaker 1: I give them the autonomy to say, yo, you can
Speaker 1: have whoever you want to be, what you could do,
Speaker 1: whatever you want to do. I don't hold you, I
Speaker 1: don't want, I don't want. I can't be responsible for
Speaker 1: your happiness. Your happiness comes from them. And then too,
Speaker 1: I don't want to be I have some so much
Speaker 1: reverence and respect for you that I know I can't
Speaker 1: be the man that you deserve so at least let's
Speaker 1: figure out what it is that you really want from me.
Speaker 1: And I mean, I've had so many amazing women in
Speaker 1: my life that they'd be like, yeah, no, I want
Speaker 1: the white picket, fince, I want the husband, I want
Speaker 1: the ring, And I'm like, damn, I can't. I wish
Speaker 1: I could be that for you, but I know I
Speaker 1: would fail at that every time, and I would just
Speaker 1: be lying to myself to say it's gonna just be me.
Speaker 1: And and I feel like it sucks because a lot
Speaker 1: of people measure that based off of love, like, oh,
Speaker 1: you don't love me unless you know how to live
Speaker 1: this way. It's like the reason why they call it,
Speaker 1: you know, monogamy, because it's money. That's just one way.
Speaker 1: I feel like life gives us so many different ways
Speaker 1: to operate. We've just because of society and group think,
Speaker 1: we say this is the way we have to be.
Speaker 1: And if you don't live the way that I think
Speaker 1: you should live, then you're wrong. See I just talk
Speaker 1: to my relationship coach by s Body, and she had
Speaker 1: my mind straight. And now Nick comes in and I'm
Speaker 1: now looking for a girlfriend, so looking for I just
Speaker 1: I'm keeping now in this case, like, oh yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean I did. I try to check him every day.
Speaker 1: You know, your ego his ego. So this is the thing.
Speaker 1: And again I know I have my ego is fed
Speaker 1: probably in a different way than most men. So I
Speaker 1: could probably be a little bit more vulnerable than others
Speaker 1: because I can go do something. I can go do
Speaker 1: a movie where I'm casting over in the movie, or
Speaker 1: I could do something where so my ego gets fed
Speaker 1: through my entertainment and my art. So then I don't
Speaker 1: need my ego to get fed. And I mean, let's
Speaker 1: keep it a stack. I've kind of been living this
Speaker 1: lifestyle for so long. If I if I wanted to
Speaker 1: be ego ego, like, part of my ego fucked up
Speaker 1: my marriage, part of my ego fucked up a lot
Speaker 1: of my relationships because I was like, oh, I'm the
Speaker 1: man on this and this, and I learned, I mean,
Speaker 1: one of my my pastors of me like, if you
Speaker 1: want your relationship to work, you gotta kill the ego.
Speaker 1: And when you can remove the ego from the relationship,
Speaker 1: and like God work your flesh, your flesh will never
Speaker 1: be able to lead. So but when you know that,
Speaker 1: I know there's time for my ego. I know, like
Speaker 1: a lot of times doing wilding out, that's my ego,
Speaker 1: Like when the camera comes and like, look at that's
Speaker 1: all of us. Look how heightened we get to be
Speaker 1: with our egos when we're making jokes or like it's
Speaker 1: literally a whole game called nick Cannon is so fly,
Speaker 1: Like that's all ego, you know, I mean, but it's
Speaker 1: so much ego that I could turn it on my
Speaker 1: head and be the butt of the joke because I'm
Speaker 1: so in tuned with with who I am. I'm comfortable
Speaker 1: with all of the jokes because my ego has reached
Speaker 1: the heights that I could talk that talk with anybody.
Speaker 1: I can talk money talk, I can talk girls, I
Speaker 1: could talk at all. But I've gotten to a place
Speaker 1: now where I so want to provide for others that
Speaker 1: I don't. I rarely get caught up an ego nowadays,
Speaker 1: Like even when I see it, I check it instantly,
Speaker 1: like that's part of your purpose. Now now that I
Speaker 1: know a little bit more about what my purpose is,
Speaker 1: and that's where I like, the chatter and the low
Speaker 1: frequency doesn't matter to me anymore. I used to be
Speaker 1: so concerned about what people were saying on Twitter and
Speaker 1: on Facebook today until I've had the bird's eye view
Speaker 1: of like what are they gonna say when I'm gone?
Speaker 1: And that's a different conversations and like fuck you today,
Speaker 1: and I've seen it happen. I've seen people trash d
Speaker 1: m X every single day as soon as he's doing here.
Speaker 1: He's the greatest. I see people trash, tupot call them
Speaker 1: all type of things. But he's there, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. It's like, so I'm like, I'm planning for that.
Speaker 1: You say what you want to say, Well, I'm here.
Speaker 1: I'm planning because I had my legacy, um flowers. I
Speaker 1: think your flowers are definitely old. While you're here, Nick,
Speaker 1: I think you know you're you're you. I recognize you.
Speaker 1: Your work doesn't gonna notice over here. And I think
Speaker 1: all over the world, what do you feel like you
Speaker 1: get your flowers from? I'll tell people like this, I
Speaker 1: don't want no flowers. I want if you've got flowers,
Speaker 1: planning them, because that's really what and that's what I see.
Speaker 1: And y'all seeing all y'all here like instead of just
Speaker 1: saying because especially I don't even y'all saw me, yes,
Speaker 1: like I'm awkward when people tell me thank you, and
Speaker 1: because I'm awkward in those moments because I don't feel
Speaker 1: like I deserve it. You know, the prey should be
Speaker 1: to the most high ends of the almighty, so like
Speaker 1: I'm just a vessel, so like I don't feel like
Speaker 1: I deserve that. So I get really awkward. Come on,
Speaker 1: let's just go like but has used in ways utilitarian,
Speaker 1: but in that sense, I really feel like when I
Speaker 1: see you guys, like it's just the platform keep going
Speaker 1: doing you because that, at the end of the day
Speaker 1: makes me feel like, oh, they appreciated what we did.
Speaker 1: They appreciate it. Open those doors and they weren't talking.
Speaker 1: Because there's nothing more frustrating than someone who's who has
Speaker 1: the ability to put different people in position. I put
Speaker 1: so many people with so much talent position they just
Speaker 1: don't do nothing and like time effort and money spent,
Speaker 1: like man, and I wish this person understood the opportunity
Speaker 1: that they had. We definitely appreciate just want to put
Speaker 1: that out there. Yeah, And that's where that's where I
Speaker 1: was like, Okay, they get it. They And that's so
Speaker 1: I always say, Yo, take the flowers you want to
Speaker 1: give me and plan them. So the next people can
Speaker 1: beautiful continue so we can do this harvest beautiful more
Speaker 1: about to tear, don't. I'm just amazed because the thing
Speaker 1: about it is like, of course we've watched him from
Speaker 1: ye high. I don't even know what we was watching,
Speaker 1: but we was watching this on every movie, every show,
Speaker 1: and just to have him as a you know, as
Speaker 1: our boss, as someone that looks you know, to us,
Speaker 1: for the jokes, that looks you know, us, for the
Speaker 1: laughter he has. I mean, like we said plenty of
Speaker 1: times we should have won, plenty of times we should
Speaker 1: have did this. But call this man crying, you know, literally,
Speaker 1: you call him crying. I've been I tell him thank
Speaker 1: you through a d M a chance I get just
Speaker 1: just thank you, checking in on you. Because we know
Speaker 1: how the mind plays, we know how the enemy comes
Speaker 1: to attack, and we some as we know that we're
Speaker 1: so like on a little shell and in our bubble,
Speaker 1: like we know that you could you could get awkward
Speaker 1: when the when you telling when people someone telling you
Speaker 1: thank you so much, and they could be like, why
Speaker 1: are you thinking me? Like I'm here to just do
Speaker 1: this without you know, but you just deserves all the
Speaker 1: love and everything you appreciate it, and you know what,
Speaker 1: it's probably another reason why it's awkward for me because
Speaker 1: I have such tunnel vision and I feel like, yeah,
Speaker 1: like I don't really sell Like it's almost like I
Speaker 1: don't celebrate holidays. I don't like to me, I'm so
Speaker 1: grateful for life and feel like every day I wake up,
Speaker 1: it's like, all right, this is a blessing. It's another
Speaker 1: way to try to figure it out, to keep going
Speaker 1: that if I sit back and think about it, I
Speaker 1: feel like the devil catching up with me. That to comfortable,
Speaker 1: and I've seen it happen to so many other people.
Speaker 1: They start believing the height, they start really thinking like, oh,
Speaker 1: they're the ship. Oh I think I can chill out?
Speaker 1: Are you talking about Ago? Used like I'm just even
Speaker 1: with this new season. I mean, it was so much
Speaker 1: going into like even one't even wanting to be here,
Speaker 1: so that a little bit it was. I mean, obviously
Speaker 1: we all know know what happened, and I feel like
Speaker 1: a lot of it came the surface to where it's
Speaker 1: like why am I doing this? You know what? I mean?
Speaker 1: There was and just to not even get too much
Speaker 1: into the business, but I have I've owned wilding out
Speaker 1: for the majority of the time that has been on air.
Speaker 1: And then we did some business deals and you know,
Speaker 1: me and viacom locked in made some really smart decisions. Uh.
Speaker 1: And then when that came up, people that I thought
Speaker 1: were my team, my squad, even people literally sitting next
Speaker 1: to me, started changing, started acting different. I'm like, started
Speaker 1: second guessing my motives and who I was. And I'm like, character, Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're really talking about my character here. Well we're gonna
Speaker 1: talk about character. Let's open all the books up and
Speaker 1: talk about character. But and even like not that's true,
Speaker 1: but not like pointing fingers, but it kind of opened
Speaker 1: my eyes. Always I said, this was a kaleidoscope of
Speaker 1: character revelation for me. And when you think about class
Speaker 1: a whole bunch of different colors, you see people's true colors.
Speaker 1: And um, I think I always quote one Luther King,
Speaker 1: but he always said, like you could tell the true
Speaker 1: character of a man not in times of comfort, but
Speaker 1: during the times of contractions. And that's when you see
Speaker 1: who's really rocking with you. When you see I mean
Speaker 1: you you dealt with it too. You see where people
Speaker 1: still feel like they think they could tell you. Are
Speaker 1: you wrong? You just need it. You are you need it.
Speaker 1: But I'm like, yo, hold lo, and and why do
Speaker 1: you believe I'm wrong? But why do you? And and
Speaker 1: people that you feel like you You know, I've been
Speaker 1: at Viacom since I was a teenager, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. And I found that's a long time. But
Speaker 1: I found myself having conversations like, man, I never thought
Speaker 1: I would have this conversation with this person. I never
Speaker 1: thought so through that when whatever reconciliation came around, I
Speaker 1: was ready to walk away. I was like, no, that
Speaker 1: season is closed. I'm done. I have so many more
Speaker 1: amazing things. And then I started having conversations. I'm like, man,
Speaker 1: this is we built something here. It was a family,
Speaker 1: it was a legacy that was important not just on
Speaker 1: a business aspect, but to the culture. And that's when
Speaker 1: I was like, all right, well, if we're gonna do it,
Speaker 1: we gotta do it the right way. We gotta do
Speaker 1: it on on our terms. We have to do it
Speaker 1: to where we could do stuff like this, where others
Speaker 1: can eat, we can plant multiple seeds. Because I don't
Speaker 1: want people again, I'm not here for a while, and
Speaker 1: out from my ego, I didn't even create I created
Speaker 1: it for others, my friends, and so like it was
Speaker 1: never about the bad. There wasn't amount of money they
Speaker 1: can give me or however those closed door conversations happened.
Speaker 1: I let everybody know it's saying about money, like I've
Speaker 1: walked away from n I walked away from I walked
Speaker 1: away from money so many times. And that's just because
Speaker 1: I know who I am, and I stand firm and
Speaker 1: who I am. So that's currency is energy, and I
Speaker 1: know I got everything is just everything happens for a reason,
Speaker 1: and I think it put us in a better place.
Speaker 1: So if I was that, you know, I even said
Speaker 1: that to a lot of these conversations. I started off,
Speaker 1: if this can bring people closer together and bring more understanding,
Speaker 1: I'll be that sacrifice, like and we made, we made
Speaker 1: some great sacrifice. We all had to sit on the
Speaker 1: bench for a whole year to get to a space
Speaker 1: where it's like, all right, now, let's get it, let's
Speaker 1: get it right and do it bigger and better than ever.
Speaker 1: So since um, since the I definitely want to say
Speaker 1: something to you, but since you know, we we see
Speaker 1: the world opening back up. We got toys back outside
Speaker 1: all that, so Nick coming back, uh and again like
Speaker 1: with the thing of what I've been trying to do
Speaker 1: with what we saw this season, and even you know,
Speaker 1: I'm already planning for the next two seasons. It's that
Speaker 1: festival energy exactly. So we're gonna be are all of
Speaker 1: our tour dates we're doing now hopefully like before we
Speaker 1: would do arenas get like twenty people in there. Now
Speaker 1: we're trying to get like fifty sixty thousand take it around.
Speaker 1: When literally when I got the email Nick and I
Speaker 1: said to you, I said, this is real. It is real,
Speaker 1: you know, she said, Shine Queens, I thank you for that,
Speaker 1: because I was like, I said, rip, you got this
Speaker 1: one one. Come out there with Martin Lawrence and all
Speaker 1: that I was not inviting. We will get to the truth,
Speaker 1: mart I would say, Ross get invited. I wasn't whatever.
Speaker 1: Tell the people the truth. I'll tell you. You tell
Speaker 1: your girls the truth telling you not invited, And I
Speaker 1: am about to cry the way it got to me,
Speaker 1: it is like, Yo, she's on tour playing telephone town
Speaker 1: people involved. I was not on tour. You came up
Speaker 1: for the one show that you think that I was
Speaker 1: invited on one show. We want you for more so
Speaker 1: let's just right, don't you go when it might meet
Speaker 1: this If you don't see her now that means her people,
Speaker 1: So you tell me. But I do have a question, Um,
Speaker 1: this is the last question real quick, something serious. Why
Speaker 1: have I never been invited to be a while and
Speaker 1: out girl? Well now the goddess is just you know,
Speaker 1: they were excey'a can get an they're hilarious, like and
Speaker 1: I used Amber Diamond as an example, because there's there's
Speaker 1: I get those questions on both sides. I get a
Speaker 1: lot of the goddesses asking, you know, they want to
Speaker 1: be on the cash, and then I get a lot
Speaker 1: of like, y'all like just hilarious, brought that up to
Speaker 1: like I want to be up there, And it's like whatever, whatever,
Speaker 1: you whatever your ministries, go ahead and do you. But honestly, yeah,
Speaker 1: like those boots just episode. Yeah, I literally been. I
Speaker 1: just think about dancing all the time, like all that
Speaker 1: cute ship. Sometimes I'd be like no shapery, yeah, but
Speaker 1: that's I mean, it's I feel like there's everyone has
Speaker 1: a gift, everybody has an ability, you know. Sometimes that's
Speaker 1: why I want to show people that the wilding out
Speaker 1: Goddesses are more than just to faces. You know, Breth
Speaker 1: was owning some class for a million billions of dollars
Speaker 1: in that account. I love us every day, and just
Speaker 1: a lot of people know that not all the Wilding
Speaker 1: Out goddesses are your baby mama's. Let's get it out
Speaker 1: there now. You know it's funny too, and it's it's
Speaker 1: so interesting that for some reason that's always been the
Speaker 1: joke from like season one. But I've attempted, you know,
Speaker 1: most of the time, to to kind of keep it
Speaker 1: as professional as possible, just because, I mean, especially the
Speaker 1: climate that we live in now to where I want,
Speaker 1: I mean, I think just who I am. I'm not
Speaker 1: I don't chase women. Okay, so real quick, we only
Speaker 1: got a couple say, how would you talk to her?
Speaker 1: Like if I'm gonna are we coming back? Right? Because
Speaker 1: it more than answer that stay too, more than I'm
Speaker 1: gonna bailing out podcast is got nick. Let's come, let's
Speaker 1: go alright, guys, we are back with the women of
Speaker 1: Wilding Out Podcasts, and we are about to see Mr
Speaker 1: Cannon holler at I can't wait. So the question was,
Speaker 1: if we didn't know each other and we saw and
Speaker 1: her hair was done, you know. It's interesting because I'm
Speaker 1: not a person who chases women. I don't know how
Speaker 1: to holler women like I don't let your home, you know,
Speaker 1: I don't do that if you were really if I'm
Speaker 1: really interested in one, I feel like the nightclub is
Speaker 1: not the right environment, not see just like I'm playing
Speaker 1: my money and oft play Like I got that, I
Speaker 1: probably would be more likely to engage with someone in
Speaker 1: a church set. Okay, what about see if it was
Speaker 1: on the set of Wild Yeah, no, no, no no, like
Speaker 1: if you were a guest, because I've definitely done this,
Speaker 1: Like if somebody was a guest on the show, I
Speaker 1: get all. So first of all, I would make sure
Speaker 1: I knew. I would talk to your people and I
Speaker 1: was like, Yo, what are the things that she likes?
Speaker 1: What you know you did that to my manager? And
Speaker 1: when you would go when you would go into your
Speaker 1: dressing room, it would be a custom basket with your
Speaker 1: favorite perfume, a scarf from your favorite designer. And then
Speaker 1: like if a handwritten note like yo, I heard you
Speaker 1: like this, I just want to make sure you're comfortable
Speaker 1: got your first night that I would just try to
Speaker 1: pay attention to those. And then because I feel like
Speaker 1: I would be comfortable because I'm in my home second,
Speaker 1: so I will make and then I would go Yeah,
Speaker 1: I would go above and beyond whatever p A was
Speaker 1: in charge of taking care of you getting you from
Speaker 1: the car, I would be like, yo, hit me when
Speaker 1: she pull up. That's all you have insight that she
Speaker 1: did all day. He ain't gotta work. He already know
Speaker 1: what am I at a concer and you're just like
Speaker 1: all the friends, all the girls come like, not at that,
Speaker 1: but at a concert. Take yourself out of just wilding,
Speaker 1: not on set somewhere else but your confort You gotta
Speaker 1: do it on your own. I'm gonna keep it say
Speaker 1: it's been a long time since I've had to do.
Speaker 1: Because also I'm very patient. So if if somebody that
Speaker 1: I do like, I like her, I'm not in a rush.
Speaker 1: H she gonna come to my house eventually, Yes, like
Speaker 1: the other one next week, I would really try to
Speaker 1: genuinely get to know that person. And for me, and
Speaker 1: maybe I'm wrong, lady, I feel like you guys have
Speaker 1: dudes constantly at you all the time. If I can
Speaker 1: authentically show interest without trying to holler at you, I
Speaker 1: feel like I probably have a better chance than a dude,
Speaker 1: Like when can we hang out with women that are
Speaker 1: just cute? Or do you do with women that you
Speaker 1: only like as people? I'm gonna be like, do you
Speaker 1: have one as a trophy? You got the other one
Speaker 1: that's like girl, your conversation, but your head is horrible
Speaker 1: like that pussy good, but be quiet. Never met I never.
Speaker 1: I haven't met a person that you don't like. Don't
Speaker 1: say that. Let me go back and met a beautiful god.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to keep it a stack. Um, I don't.
Speaker 1: I haven't had any new friends in years, friends, you know,
Speaker 1: And That's what I'm saying, like not even on something
Speaker 1: just like homies, like I don't want. I so understood
Speaker 1: when Drake said no new friends, and I'm like, I
Speaker 1: get that because I'm still building and dealing with the
Speaker 1: relationships I had trying to convince this one I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be I'm gonna after being married. And that's the other
Speaker 1: reason why, you know, monogamy is such an interesting concept
Speaker 1: for me because I feel like I did it at
Speaker 1: the highest level and then it's like what else do
Speaker 1: you do after that? It's like from that point I
Speaker 1: became a different person after my divorce them like, okay,
Speaker 1: let's not make it about me and fulfilling what I
Speaker 1: want in my desires. How can I help others? There
Speaker 1: has to be I got everything I ever. I have
Speaker 1: my dream girl dream. We got married and had a
Speaker 1: wedding every year for damn here seven years, and it
Speaker 1: was always fun. It was like it was never a
Speaker 1: dull moment. So I'm like, all right, now that I've
Speaker 1: had every fantasy and dream that I could have, how
Speaker 1: can I help others in that space? And that's really
Speaker 1: where so I have Yeah, so like I don't even know.
Speaker 1: I don't holler at people. I don't I don't desire,
Speaker 1: but who I want to meet such and such as,
Speaker 1: like if the universe brings it across, like let me
Speaker 1: figure out what this is supposed to be. But my
Speaker 1: own personal desires I'm kind of over there. And that
Speaker 1: probably is one of the reasons why there's several baby
Speaker 1: mamas and all that stuff, because it's never like I'm
Speaker 1: not going into it looking like what I want them, Like, oh,
Speaker 1: this person is looking for this, all right, Maybe I'm
Speaker 1: the vessel for this person's life for that moment, so beautiful,
Speaker 1: But thank you for me in the vessel of my life.
Speaker 1: But that I mean, I don't know if that answered
Speaker 1: the question, but I'm trying to bullshit my way around it.
Speaker 1: But that literally is where I am in my life.
Speaker 1: It's like I don't have any structure in that sense
Speaker 1: of like what I want because I don't really I
Speaker 1: try again, we all got egos. I try not to
Speaker 1: make it about me. Are you religious or spiritual? Like
Speaker 1: I used to be religious. I'm a p K. So
Speaker 1: I was crazy my dad, and I mean, you know
Speaker 1: I was. I was hit in the church. That was
Speaker 1: the annoying, rambunctious little kid that he can nobody tell
Speaker 1: him what to do because that's past. Yeah, all of that,
Speaker 1: like you know, moving around, but also at the highest
Speaker 1: level then you know my dad when he was just
Speaker 1: struggling and having you know, the public access television show
Speaker 1: with no members and all of that type of stuff.
Speaker 1: So I saw every aspect of that. And because of that,
Speaker 1: I have a disdain for religion. I don't like it.
Speaker 1: I don't trust it. Um as as much as I
Speaker 1: love spirituality. UM Monotheism is anything with the word mono
Speaker 1: in it. I don't like all that because when it's
Speaker 1: just like We're not uh a monolithic people, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, We're not. Everybody can't be one thing,
Speaker 1: everybody can't desire the same, everybody takes a different course.
Speaker 1: So when I explained spirituality, when I experience relationships with
Speaker 1: the most high, I kind of put it in the
Speaker 1: same sense of like cell phone carriers, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. You can have Verizon, you can have Sprint,
Speaker 1: but as as long as you're connect, long as you connected,
Speaker 1: for am I to say that your service ain't working
Speaker 1: for you. So I feel like if you're truly in tuning,
Speaker 1: in touch with God, and there's a lot of I
Speaker 1: would say there's a lot of almost like there's there's
Speaker 1: some philosophies within Sikhism and as well as a uh
Speaker 1: Buddhist understandings to where it's difficult to put a curriculum
Speaker 1: on how you deal with God, especially if it comes
Speaker 1: from within. So I'd rather step back and say, whatever
Speaker 1: is working for you, do you But I'm seeking understanding
Speaker 1: in peace. So I know every Yeah, I know every
Speaker 1: book of the Bible and beside all the verses, but
Speaker 1: I also know where that stuff comes from. And I've
Speaker 1: also you know, having a degree in in divinity you
Speaker 1: when you go that deep, you're like, oh, that's where
Speaker 1: that came from. Oh, that's why we believe that. And
Speaker 1: then when you break it down, it's just a lot
Speaker 1: of ritualism, traditions. There's some things in the Bible that
Speaker 1: I was and like, I love it, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, because I was raised in I believe there's
Speaker 1: some truth in it. But then when you get to
Speaker 1: that space when you say where all religion comes from,
Speaker 1: and it starts and the stars, and it starts from
Speaker 1: the ideas, and you know, where's the concept of christ
Speaker 1: consciousness actually begin, and you kind of break that stuff down,
Speaker 1: it's like, ultimately you can get to the space where
Speaker 1: everybody's right or everybody's wrong. So and it's like it's like, really,
Speaker 1: what's working for you? So that's why I like religion
Speaker 1: because especially and you know, like there's twenty six thousand
Speaker 1: different sects of Christianity, and it's like, how can you
Speaker 1: have twenty six thousand? Uh? But but again, if we're
Speaker 1: all saying the same thing when you when you hear
Speaker 1: about you know, whether it's Krishna or whether it's you know, uh,
Speaker 1: can isis and all of those things and like when
Speaker 1: Lucifer being Jupiter, Saturn being Satan, all of these types
Speaker 1: of things that kind of all point to the same origin,
Speaker 1: Abrahamic faiths, and all of that stuff comes from it
Speaker 1: comes from the same nucleus. So I never understood why
Speaker 1: people couldn't focus on our similarities instead of focusing on
Speaker 1: our differences. And y'all hear how these words as managed
Speaker 1: us it. He don't know two plus two a nuclear
Speaker 1: You asked him two plus T minus too. I don't
Speaker 1: know what it is. I can't repeat that. I said
Speaker 1: two plus plas something happens in my mind with man.
Speaker 1: That's why the car never been my friend. I think
Speaker 1: it's definitely cognitive dissonance though, So, like you know, from
Speaker 1: the foundation, you learn certain things and then you're at
Speaker 1: a certain place in your life and you're like, I
Speaker 1: learned this, but you're conflicting me with this information. I'm
Speaker 1: going to trust what I learned from people. Times, you
Speaker 1: gotta trust what you feel, whether this that whatever you're feeling,
Speaker 1: Like you say that internal pieces all that matters. When
Speaker 1: you have internal peace, you can live your life. And
Speaker 1: I used to That's my problem and even probably one
Speaker 1: of the reasons why I got in trouble. And you know,
Speaker 1: even my Cannons class Um podcast, I used to want
Speaker 1: to show people I was smart, show people I got
Speaker 1: a degree, I'm educated, and that ship got me in trouble,
Speaker 1: even in my interview style because I would be like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm sitting down with Dr Carr, I'm sitting down with
Speaker 1: Dr Umar and I'm like, yeah, I know just as
Speaker 1: much as you know. I know that, And then I'm like,
Speaker 1: but why am I regurgitating like y'all could learn some
Speaker 1: more about just listening and I'm talking so over That's
Speaker 1: probably where That's how I evolved over the last year
Speaker 1: or two. It was like, sometimes need to just let
Speaker 1: the ego go, sit back and listen, and I don't
Speaker 1: have to prove how smart I am. I don't have
Speaker 1: to prove how many books I read. I'm just going
Speaker 1: to continue learning, you know, And we're gonna love on
Speaker 1: you because at the end of the day, you are
Speaker 1: you are because you are investal and to let God
Speaker 1: continue to use you in all the ways possible. But
Speaker 1: thank you Nick so much for sliding and you know,
Speaker 1: giving us some knowledge and we love you so much.
Speaker 1: You know, um, you deserve someone I love on you.
Speaker 1: I don't care if you like five or ten of
Speaker 1: the same people. Don't you know, we're gonna love on
Speaker 1: you regardless. So thank you Nick. Again. We're about to
Speaker 1: get into this quote, y'all, this this racialive, whatever you feel,
Speaker 1: that's because I don't know. As much as I talked
Speaker 1: to say I have a disdain for religion. I always
Speaker 1: go back to that powerful book that just allows us
Speaker 1: to operate because we all can find synergy and it's
Speaker 1: wisdom in it. So in Romans, it says, and if
Speaker 1: God before us can be against us, And when you
Speaker 1: operate with the God within you and know that God
Speaker 1: is within you, that there's no obstacle that you can't overcome.
Speaker 1: In y'all people right now to keep shining so much,
Speaker 1: bring you can't. Nobody stopped the Goddess already. And no,
Speaker 1: we love you so much. This is the Woman of
Speaker 1: Wilding Up Podcast. See you next time. We love you. Bye,