WEBVTT - Episode 428: Gigi's Story (Feat. DJ Whutever) 0:00:02.200 --> 0:00:02.640 What's up. 0:00:02.640 --> 0:00:05.320 It's lip Service. This is a very very special one. 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:08.800 I'm in my day wen Gg maguire. Hey, it's been 0:00:08.920 --> 0:00:11.120 nine years at lip Service and we are in Vegas 0:00:11.200 --> 0:00:13.119 at the iHeartRadio Music Festival. 0:00:13.880 --> 0:00:17.040 Is this your first time here I Heart? Yes? Okay, yes, 0:00:17.200 --> 0:00:19.240 and my first time at iHeart Music Festival. 0:00:20.000 --> 0:00:22.439 You know, I love me some Vegas, so I'm here 0:00:22.440 --> 0:00:24.920 for Vegas, but I'm excited to be here. 0:00:25.040 --> 0:00:27.280 I'm very grateful for the opportunity. You know. 0:00:27.360 --> 0:00:30.040 What I want to ask you, being that you always 0:00:30.040 --> 0:00:32.559 are running around and going to different events and things. 0:00:33.040 --> 0:00:36.159 Do you prefer to travel and do stuff like this 0:00:36.320 --> 0:00:37.879 with your bay or do you prefer to. 0:00:37.800 --> 0:00:41.120 Do this with your girls? Kyk scenario? 0:00:41.280 --> 0:00:43.519 Okay, so let's say iHeart Festival because you're out here 0:00:43.520 --> 0:00:47.080 with your homegirl, with Banna and so. But you've been 0:00:47.120 --> 0:00:49.320 here before with like your ex, not to this, but 0:00:49.440 --> 0:00:53.959 like to concerts and so what's the difference? And for 0:00:54.200 --> 0:00:57.240 women and for men, should you be concerned if your 0:00:57.320 --> 0:01:00.520 significant other takes like a boys or girls trip to festival? 0:01:01.160 --> 0:01:06.880 So specifically, with myself, this is work, so I'm definitely 0:01:06.959 --> 0:01:09.200 here with my girl. 0:01:09.400 --> 0:01:10.119 I don't think that. 0:01:10.120 --> 0:01:14.200 This is a like quick baky situation because I have 0:01:14.280 --> 0:01:19.320 obligations that I'm being helped to personally, and my homegirls like, 0:01:19.560 --> 0:01:21.119 you know, we can kick it in between and once 0:01:21.160 --> 0:01:24.240 I'm done, and I could possibly do the same thing 0:01:24.240 --> 0:01:25.760 with Bay, but I feel like I need to be 0:01:25.800 --> 0:01:26.960 more focusing on point. 0:01:27.080 --> 0:01:29.560 And I'm such like a oh gosh, soccer. 0:01:30.280 --> 0:01:32.800 I'm so attached to my guy that I feel like 0:01:32.800 --> 0:01:34.840 I would want to give him my attention and I 0:01:34.880 --> 0:01:36.360 would feel bad that I have to leave him to 0:01:36.400 --> 0:01:38.959 work because but you know, where I find that the 0:01:38.959 --> 0:01:41.840 most ideal relationships are when you are with somebody and 0:01:41.920 --> 0:01:44.520 they like support that They're like, com at you, what 0:01:44.560 --> 0:01:44.959 do you need? 0:01:45.120 --> 0:01:47.000 Let me run downstairs, you want me to get this. 0:01:47.120 --> 0:01:47.600 I love that. 0:01:47.800 --> 0:01:51.360 But I don't think that the current situation that I 0:01:51.440 --> 0:01:56.640 might have been in, well, I don't think the current 0:01:56.640 --> 0:02:00.480 situation I might have been in for sixty days would 0:02:00.640 --> 0:02:03.280 would have been that. And in the past, I've been 0:02:03.360 --> 0:02:05.800 with my ex who is in this industry, and I 0:02:05.920 --> 0:02:08.760 was always by his side doing work things and whatnot. 0:02:08.880 --> 0:02:10.680 We're gonna talk about this in a second, but. 0:02:10.639 --> 0:02:12.720 I was always just like kind of in the back pocket, 0:02:13.000 --> 0:02:14.880 so to say, because I'm so glad. 0:02:14.960 --> 0:02:18.600 DJ whatever just walked in whatever. 0:02:18.720 --> 0:02:22.760 We got a distraction from the team D whatever. Now 0:02:22.840 --> 0:02:24.840 let me just say I know DJ whatever for a 0:02:24.960 --> 0:02:25.680 long time. 0:02:25.880 --> 0:02:30.760 I don't know DJ whatever. Nice to meet you. Dimples. 0:02:31.200 --> 0:02:33.480 I love the dimples. Yeah put them boats have phones 0:02:33.480 --> 0:02:36.600 on so you can hear what's up. He's working by 0:02:36.639 --> 0:02:39.880 the way. Yeah, you away from some just abilities real. 0:02:40.040 --> 0:02:41.400 UT's go put on a quick mix. 0:02:41.840 --> 0:02:42.840 With us just for a few minutes. 0:02:42.880 --> 0:02:44.880 We were just talking about when you do stuff like this, 0:02:44.880 --> 0:02:47.520 this is work, right, but do you think that it's 0:02:47.600 --> 0:02:50.760 cool to bring like your significant other to say, a 0:02:50.840 --> 0:02:53.360 festival where you're working and you know you're gonna be busy. 0:02:53.440 --> 0:02:54.520 But then it's it's you know. 0:02:54.680 --> 0:02:56.680 It depends on what kind of significant other you have. 0:02:57.680 --> 0:03:00.000 You know what I mean, I haven't had the significan 0:03:00.120 --> 0:03:03.280 and others I feel like are equipped for it. 0:03:03.400 --> 0:03:05.520 You know what kind of equipped do you need to be? 0:03:05.720 --> 0:03:08.000 Well, you got to let me do my thing, you 0:03:08.080 --> 0:03:10.360 know what I'm saying. You can't be you know, you 0:03:10.400 --> 0:03:14.200 need attention. And then if females come over and you know, 0:03:14.320 --> 0:03:17.000 say what's up, like, oh, don't hug her like na 0:03:17.320 --> 0:03:18.040 like I'm at work. 0:03:18.240 --> 0:03:19.400 Have you had that happen to. 0:03:20.560 --> 0:03:22.919 Oh that's justsful, Yeah, because it is hard because people 0:03:22.919 --> 0:03:25.320 who aren't in this business they don't understand. Yeah, they 0:03:25.320 --> 0:03:28.280 don't understand it. And then to be honest, when you 0:03:28.280 --> 0:03:30.160 go to stuff that this, people be a little toe up. 0:03:30.680 --> 0:03:33.400 Yeah, and sometimes we'll actually be a little touchy. 0:03:33.040 --> 0:03:36.440 And you're like, oh, I promise it's nothing. 0:03:36.480 --> 0:03:38.480 They never have acted like this exactly. 0:03:38.520 --> 0:03:39.880 So it all depends, you know what I mean. It 0:03:39.920 --> 0:03:42.040 depends if you got the significant other that's gonna let 0:03:42.080 --> 0:03:44.800 you rock. She can be able to chill, mingle, do 0:03:44.880 --> 0:03:46.400 her own thing and know that you're working. 0:03:46.720 --> 0:03:48.880 That's cool, right, and also be able to come to 0:03:49.000 --> 0:03:51.480 like dinners with the executives because you need to bring 0:03:51.520 --> 0:03:54.040 somebody if you need to know that, like, okay, you 0:03:54.040 --> 0:03:55.920 could come here be able to. I don't have the 0:03:55.920 --> 0:03:58.400 babysity too, because that's another concern. You know, when somebody 0:03:59.320 --> 0:04:00.000 or talk too much. 0:04:00.080 --> 0:04:02.280 Yeah, you want them to be a good representative. I've 0:04:02.280 --> 0:04:04.920 had that issue too in the past. You know, you 0:04:04.960 --> 0:04:06.400 bring one to an event. 0:04:06.120 --> 0:04:07.880 And it's like make you look bad and like you 0:04:08.000 --> 0:04:11.120 just left me by myself exactly. Now. 0:04:11.400 --> 0:04:13.200 I want to get to this because right before you 0:04:13.200 --> 0:04:13.600 walked in. Here. 0:04:13.680 --> 0:04:15.600 Gigi was talking about a situation that she may have 0:04:15.680 --> 0:04:18.520 been in, so she was engaged. 0:04:18.560 --> 0:04:21.520 I was just engaged for sixty days or so, just 0:04:21.520 --> 0:04:22.120 say sixty day. 0:04:22.320 --> 0:04:26.120 I went to look at the Yeah, okay, the. 0:04:26.120 --> 0:04:28.240 Ring never happened, but it was a there was a 0:04:28.320 --> 0:04:31.520 real proposal. There's a tattoo involved, and there was thirty 0:04:31.600 --> 0:04:32.480 days sixty day. 0:04:32.760 --> 0:04:34.520 Now, I don't know what negative. 0:04:34.480 --> 0:04:36.200 I don't know what's say congratulations for. 0:04:37.720 --> 0:04:42.400 It was an experience. My life has never been traditional. 0:04:42.560 --> 0:04:44.800 I wasn't even born into this world in the traditional way. 0:04:44.960 --> 0:04:49.960 So I embraced my uniqueness and I am the type 0:04:49.960 --> 0:04:50.520 of person. 0:04:50.279 --> 0:04:52.200 Who I live for today. I seize the moment. 0:04:52.440 --> 0:04:55.040 You know, tomorrow was in promise, and I've been showed 0:04:55.040 --> 0:04:58.800 that in multiple ways, and I just really just live 0:04:58.839 --> 0:05:00.920 a life of freedom and just do what I feel 0:05:00.920 --> 0:05:01.599 that it's right for me. 0:05:01.640 --> 0:05:03.560 So I'm how fast you got engaged? Three days? 0:05:03.720 --> 0:05:05.239 Oh whatever? 0:05:05.680 --> 0:05:07.520 He said? I had never felt like that. I can't 0:05:07.520 --> 0:05:09.240 even bring someone. So I'm gonna tell you, and you're 0:05:09.279 --> 0:05:09.840 gonna be friends. 0:05:09.880 --> 0:05:10.159 I called. 0:05:11.200 --> 0:05:13.719 I called his bluff. I want you, I want you 0:05:13.760 --> 0:05:15.200 to be my woman. I want to marry y'all want 0:05:15.200 --> 0:05:17.560 to beat you my life. Okay, let's do it. Let's 0:05:17.720 --> 0:05:17.960 right now. 0:05:18.000 --> 0:05:20.599 I want it. I would have done it. Did you 0:05:20.640 --> 0:05:22.720 want it? I didn't say what you want? Worked for it? 0:05:22.760 --> 0:05:23.479 Did you like it? 0:05:23.760 --> 0:05:24.880 I love him still? 0:05:26.120 --> 0:05:29.000 I did fall in love. It was love at first night. 0:05:29.400 --> 0:05:30.120 Re engaged? 0:05:31.360 --> 0:05:34.360 No, I wasn't getting what I needed, so I broke 0:05:34.360 --> 0:05:34.720 it off. 0:05:34.839 --> 0:05:36.880 Now, so okay, I'm going to ask you this. Have 0:05:36.920 --> 0:05:38.960 you ever gotten a woman tattooed on you? You have tattoos? 0:05:39.120 --> 0:05:39.480 No? 0:05:39.640 --> 0:05:44.680 Okay, but if you got engaged, maybe I got his 0:05:44.760 --> 0:05:45.479 name tattooed. 0:05:45.680 --> 0:05:48.200 Yeah. Oh but I got my name. 0:05:48.440 --> 0:05:50.240 I got my I got my I got my. 0:05:50.200 --> 0:05:53.760 Potential, I got my potential future name. Okay, tattooed, I 0:05:53.760 --> 0:05:57.039 got missus his name, A. 0:05:57.040 --> 0:06:00.280 Big tattoo little it's comforable, Okay, everything you know I was. 0:06:01.160 --> 0:06:03.880 Everything's removable. Have you ever composed to anybody? People think 0:06:03.880 --> 0:06:06.640 tattoos are permanent, They're really not lads to remove. 0:06:06.640 --> 0:06:09.359 While you can get a cover, you know, can you 0:06:09.400 --> 0:06:10.440 can cut your skin off? 0:06:10.880 --> 0:06:11.520 No? You can't. 0:06:11.800 --> 0:06:14.320 But when I got the tattooed, the response from not 0:06:14.400 --> 0:06:15.160 just my friends. 0:06:14.960 --> 0:06:17.440 But the public. But they were so outraged that you 0:06:17.480 --> 0:06:20.400 got this man tattooed on you like I have so many. 0:06:20.520 --> 0:06:22.760 I'm tatted from head to toel like literally, so it's 0:06:22.880 --> 0:06:26.719 like all of my tattoos have significant meanings and there 0:06:26.800 --> 0:06:30.880 I have I have like secret tattoos with guys who 0:06:30.880 --> 0:06:33.200 they know it's for them, but the world doesn't know. 0:06:33.640 --> 0:06:35.120 Something else, you know, I have. 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:37.440 Some I have subliminal tattoos where the guy knows that 0:06:37.480 --> 0:06:38.960 I got this for you, even though it's not your name. 0:06:39.320 --> 0:06:42.960 So it was like one tattoo too. Tattoos, schmoo, smooth, 0:06:43.000 --> 0:06:43.600 Let's move on now. 0:06:43.680 --> 0:06:45.360 Let me ask you this, when things don't work out, 0:06:45.400 --> 0:06:47.159 do you think about all the people that were like 0:06:47.320 --> 0:06:49.159 I told you, I knew it wasn't gonna work. 0:06:49.320 --> 0:06:50.440 Because that's always. 0:06:50.160 --> 0:06:52.720 The thing too, honestly, Like, yeah, I've had that thought 0:06:52.760 --> 0:06:54.400 of everybody that was like, bit you crazy. 0:06:55.120 --> 0:06:56.920 I know I'm crazy, y'all not telling me nothing. I 0:06:56.920 --> 0:06:57.280 don't know. 0:06:57.320 --> 0:06:59.359 Again, I am not a traditional person and I do 0:06:59.480 --> 0:07:01.479 not live my life for what people think of me. 0:07:01.600 --> 0:07:02.880 I lived my life for the experience. 0:07:02.960 --> 0:07:04.799 Life is an experience, you know yourself. 0:07:05.040 --> 0:07:06.840 Have you ever been had an experience where you were 0:07:06.920 --> 0:07:09.320 dating somebody and people around you didn't like them and 0:07:09.360 --> 0:07:10.400 they were like, don't do it. 0:07:10.880 --> 0:07:14.400 Yeah, when I was way younger, I did. Why didn't 0:07:14.400 --> 0:07:19.040 they like her attitude? They could tell that she was yeah, 0:07:19.040 --> 0:07:21.080 that she wasn't for me, that she was the jealous type, 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:23.520 that she wasn't gonna really help push me to where 0:07:23.560 --> 0:07:24.160 I needed to be. 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:24.920 You know. 0:07:25.040 --> 0:07:27.760 So sometimes that makes you stay longer because you want 0:07:27.760 --> 0:07:28.520 to prove everybody. 0:07:28.520 --> 0:07:30.680 And that happened to me when I was That was 0:07:30.720 --> 0:07:33.880 my thought in that situation when I felt like I 0:07:33.880 --> 0:07:35.800 had to go harder to make it happen, to make 0:07:35.800 --> 0:07:37.840 it work because there were so many daughters like, yeah, okay, 0:07:37.840 --> 0:07:39.880 I'm ana prove you're wrong. And I held up my 0:07:39.960 --> 0:07:42.000 end of the war. Again, I called his bluff and 0:07:42.040 --> 0:07:43.600 I did what I needed to do to make it work. 0:07:43.600 --> 0:07:45.880 But unfortunately I wasn't getting what I needed. So I 0:07:45.920 --> 0:07:47.360 am removing myself from the situation. 0:07:47.520 --> 0:07:49.560 And that's why it was next, because that's what made 0:07:49.600 --> 0:07:51.880 me realize that you cannot judge your friends and their 0:07:51.920 --> 0:07:55.080 situations because the more you try to tell somebody you're 0:07:55.080 --> 0:07:58.000 doing this is wrong, this is messed up, whatever, the 0:07:58.000 --> 0:07:59.520 more that they're going to try to prove you wrong. 0:08:00.040 --> 0:08:01.800 I think about when when I was young. I diated 0:08:01.800 --> 0:08:04.440 this guy. My parents hated him. They were definitely right, 0:08:04.960 --> 0:08:07.760 but I kept trying to prove in the moment that 0:08:07.960 --> 0:08:08.600 I can make. 0:08:08.480 --> 0:08:10.760 Your work, even though it was like a terrible I 0:08:10.880 --> 0:08:13.559 like moved out of the house, wow and everything because 0:08:13.600 --> 0:08:15.720 they hated him, didn't want me to be with him. 0:08:15.720 --> 0:08:17.440 But I was like, I have to make this work 0:08:17.520 --> 0:08:20.800 because my parents cannot be right. And sometimes people staying 0:08:20.920 --> 0:08:23.640 things because they're like and then you feel defensive of 0:08:23.680 --> 0:08:26.440 the person. You know, you're like trying to defend them 0:08:26.480 --> 0:08:28.880 to everything. Oh, you don't really know what he's been through, 0:08:29.960 --> 0:08:31.360 because everybody that I've been through. 0:08:31.280 --> 0:08:33.960 Something I've been I've been there. I know exactly what 0:08:33.960 --> 0:08:36.360 you're talking about, and then I can relate. 0:08:37.320 --> 0:08:39.800 We all do that, but sometimes it's like that for 0:08:39.920 --> 0:08:42.040 everybody thinks you got to do what's best for you. 0:08:42.160 --> 0:08:44.640 So for you Gg, I know, like because when we 0:08:44.720 --> 0:08:47.400 talked about it on lip service and people were shocked 0:08:47.840 --> 0:08:50.640 that you got engaged so quickly, and people were like, 0:08:50.679 --> 0:08:53.640 he's loved bombing you, which I had never heard that expression. 0:08:54.040 --> 0:08:54.439 Have you heard that? 0:08:55.040 --> 0:08:57.600 They said that he was love bombing, that he was poor, 0:08:57.720 --> 0:08:59.880 he was giving too much love. It immediately at once, 0:09:00.280 --> 0:09:02.679 Like we started with the exchange of I love you 0:09:03.000 --> 0:09:05.600 first night, first date, we committed to each other in 0:09:05.600 --> 0:09:07.199 a relationship, first date, and by the end of the 0:09:07.320 --> 0:09:08.800 night it was I love you, I love you. 0:09:09.080 --> 0:09:12.520 I'm so confused by this, like like, we'll have to 0:09:12.559 --> 0:09:13.199 talk further. 0:09:15.520 --> 0:09:18.840 Yeah, I'm an open book every age. But you like that, 0:09:19.280 --> 0:09:21.600 like for you or whatever? Would you like us? Have 0:09:21.720 --> 0:09:25.200 you ever felt that way really quickly, like first date, 0:09:25.600 --> 0:09:30.560 first interaction, I love her, like in your head now 0:09:30.640 --> 0:09:31.400 they're growing. 0:09:31.960 --> 0:09:35.480 Yeah, maybe that's what I was gonna say. I don't 0:09:35.520 --> 0:09:37.520 I can't even get there, if you know what I'm saying. 0:09:37.600 --> 0:09:41.200 We haven't had those encounters yet. Well, he knew that's 0:09:41.200 --> 0:09:41.720 gonna help me. 0:09:41.800 --> 0:09:43.559 At least what he said. He said, God told him. 0:09:44.760 --> 0:09:48.200 God told him. He said, he said, God sent him 0:09:48.200 --> 0:09:51.280 to me. I was a woman that he prayed for. 0:09:51.720 --> 0:09:53.560 Okay, So you but you've been in love? 0:09:53.800 --> 0:09:57.480 Yes, okay, And so how long do you think, on 0:09:57.520 --> 0:09:59.400 the average would you say it takes to really fall 0:09:59.440 --> 0:10:00.959 in love, because that's a other thing. People were saying, 0:10:01.080 --> 0:10:03.599 there's no way you could possibly be in love, And 0:10:03.640 --> 0:10:06.600 we had to remember. Christie Couperry came on and he 0:10:06.760 --> 0:10:09.160 was like, listen, take your time, Yeah, ticket time. 0:10:09.640 --> 0:10:11.600 So nobody believes in love it first sight. It wasn't 0:10:11.640 --> 0:10:12.800 love it first sight for me. It was love it 0:10:12.840 --> 0:10:14.880 first night. But nobody believe. 0:10:15.320 --> 0:10:18.040 I believe. I just I haven't had that experience, but 0:10:18.080 --> 0:10:18.839 I believe in it. Though. 0:10:18.920 --> 0:10:22.080 What about like we have these shows ninety Dance and 0:10:22.160 --> 0:10:25.400 Married at First Sight, and you know, we have arranged marriages. 0:10:25.440 --> 0:10:28.560 There are very a lot of cultures who have arranged 0:10:28.559 --> 0:10:30.360 marriages and that's been a thing for centuries, and it 0:10:30.360 --> 0:10:31.000 continues on. 0:10:31.000 --> 0:10:33.320 And that works out, and it works out sometimes times 0:10:33.320 --> 0:10:33.720 that don't. 0:10:34.120 --> 0:10:37.360 So I just feel like tomorrow is in promised, you know, 0:10:37.720 --> 0:10:39.319 Harpi diam lived for the moment. 0:10:39.440 --> 0:10:42.640 But I also feel like we're not really expensive and 0:10:42.760 --> 0:10:44.720 very drawn out. 0:10:44.920 --> 0:10:47.520 Well, I was in it for the long haul. My 0:10:47.600 --> 0:10:51.840 heart was he says that my heart was there the 0:10:51.920 --> 0:10:52.760 day that he proposed. 0:10:52.800 --> 0:10:54.520 If he would have said let's go fly to Vegas 0:10:54.600 --> 0:10:56.319 right now and get married, I would have. If he 0:10:56.360 --> 0:10:59.120 would have said let's go to four live in Georgia. Yeah, 0:10:59.120 --> 0:11:01.840 I'm glad, but we live in court And County, Georgia. 0:11:01.840 --> 0:11:03.320 And if he would have said let's go to the 0:11:03.320 --> 0:11:05.080 Fort County courthouse right now, get married. 0:11:05.080 --> 0:11:09.360 Are you know what, Giji, what did you learn from this? Nothing? No, 0:11:09.400 --> 0:11:16.240 I'm playing. That's what I learned. I learned that. Stop playing. 0:11:17.000 --> 0:11:17.760 That's what you learned. 0:11:17.920 --> 0:11:20.160 I need to stop playing. Oh okay, I need to 0:11:20.160 --> 0:11:22.880 stop calling people's bluss when they say things because I 0:11:22.920 --> 0:11:25.200 like the challenge people. So don't come to me telling 0:11:25.200 --> 0:11:26.560 me you want to be with me for the rest 0:11:26.600 --> 0:11:27.719 of my life. Okay, let's do it now. 0:11:28.080 --> 0:11:30.240 I like it though you had the experience. Yeah, I'm 0:11:30.240 --> 0:11:33.160 saying that's what life. 0:11:32.040 --> 0:11:35.320 Is about, the experiences and the lessons that you learned 0:11:35.320 --> 0:11:37.040 from them and the things that you take moving forward 0:11:37.120 --> 0:11:39.120 in life. Because guess what, it's always another day, tomorrow, 0:11:39.160 --> 0:11:39.640 what's next. 0:11:39.640 --> 0:11:42.520 We're always talking about what is wife material? Whatever? What 0:11:42.520 --> 0:11:44.200 would you say, is wife material for you? 0:11:45.520 --> 0:11:46.240 Respectful? 0:11:47.480 --> 0:11:50.720 You know, able to be able to have fun with me? 0:11:51.640 --> 0:11:55.880 You know, great personality. Those are some of the top 0:11:55.920 --> 0:11:57.960 things for me. Of course, beautiful. I have to be 0:11:57.960 --> 0:11:59.120 attracted to her, and. 0:11:59.080 --> 0:12:01.240 Everybody's attatched to I was so okay, this is one 0:12:01.240 --> 0:12:02.600 thing about him too. Here we go. 0:12:02.720 --> 0:12:07.520 He's so fine, so good, and his dig is so big, 0:12:07.640 --> 0:12:09.319 and the sex was so good and. 0:12:10.760 --> 0:12:12.040 So there was a lot of lust involved. 0:12:12.320 --> 0:12:14.760 However, you know, I'm not used to that, Like, no shade, 0:12:14.880 --> 0:12:16.840 but I have not been in a relationship with a 0:12:16.880 --> 0:12:18.720 man that I felt like I wanted to swoon over 0:12:18.880 --> 0:12:21.000 like I was. I've never been in a relationship with 0:12:21.040 --> 0:12:22.600 a man that I just wanted to stare at all 0:12:22.640 --> 0:12:26.480 the time. You know, I'm more for personality and I'm 0:12:26.480 --> 0:12:28.400 more for like, you know, integrity, and. 0:12:28.280 --> 0:12:30.280 So does that mean moving forward? Now you need somebody 0:12:30.360 --> 0:12:33.280 you're physically I think so. I think he started something 0:12:33.280 --> 0:12:35.760 with that. I think that I feel like, okay, maybe 0:12:35.760 --> 0:12:37.480 I need to go more for the physical and less 0:12:37.480 --> 0:12:37.959 for the mental. 0:12:38.000 --> 0:12:40.520 But I mean, it's all balance, its balance. 0:12:40.640 --> 0:12:41.880 How long is that going to last? No? 0:12:41.760 --> 0:12:43.480 No, no, I'm saying it's all about balance. I feel 0:12:43.520 --> 0:12:46.240 like I need a balance more exactly. I feel like 0:12:46.280 --> 0:12:48.480 I need to balance it more. But I like the 0:12:48.520 --> 0:12:49.480 feeling of looking. 0:12:49.240 --> 0:12:51.719 At my man being like, damn you so fine? Well 0:12:51.800 --> 0:12:53.960 yeah whatever, I've never had that. Have you ever been 0:12:53.960 --> 0:12:54.240 with a. 0:12:54.200 --> 0:12:57.440 Woman that you weren't physically attracted to but you loved 0:12:57.440 --> 0:12:58.360 everything else about her? 0:12:59.240 --> 0:13:00.360 No, that's like a episode. 0:13:00.480 --> 0:13:03.240 No, no, no, you know what, you know what I'm 0:13:03.240 --> 0:13:05.920 bugging early on I did early on, like early in 0:13:05.920 --> 0:13:07.800 my twenties, I was I was tripping, I was doing 0:13:07.840 --> 0:13:09.280 a bunch of stuff earlier. 0:13:09.320 --> 0:13:11.839 They were like, yeah, yeah, So so you know what I. 0:13:11.800 --> 0:13:13.400 Did keep her a secret. 0:13:13.679 --> 0:13:16.560 No people know about her, but I knew internally I 0:13:16.679 --> 0:13:19.440 wasn't as attracted to her as I needed to be. 0:13:19.600 --> 0:13:21.719 Okay, So I was still. 0:13:21.640 --> 0:13:23.400 Yeah, I was still outside, you know what I mean, 0:13:23.559 --> 0:13:26.320 just because I felt like I wasn't getting that that 0:13:26.400 --> 0:13:27.199 I needed. 0:13:27.000 --> 0:13:27.920 From you know what I mean. 0:13:28.120 --> 0:13:29.760 Have you ever been with somebody that at first you 0:13:29.760 --> 0:13:31.480 were attacted and then there looks changed? 0:13:32.920 --> 0:13:33.760 Yeah? 0:13:33.840 --> 0:13:36.280 Yeah, yeah, like one that you know. When I got 0:13:36.320 --> 0:13:38.000 one of them, she was in shape, and then in 0:13:38.040 --> 0:13:39.120 the course of it, she just. 0:13:39.240 --> 0:13:40.360 Didy blew up. 0:13:40.640 --> 0:13:43.000 No, no, no, she just I didn't know what happened. 0:13:43.480 --> 0:13:44.640 So I had to keep it moving. 0:13:45.160 --> 0:13:49.560 As we get older, you know, did you tell her? 0:13:50.880 --> 0:13:54.080 No, No, I tell you. Taking me back to my 0:13:54.160 --> 0:13:56.160 early twenties, I was, I was dying. 0:13:56.720 --> 0:13:59.080 But a lot of what we did back then kind 0:13:59.080 --> 0:14:00.760 of shapes who we are in the decisions that we 0:14:00.800 --> 0:14:04.040 make today. No, you're right, you know, and so in retrospect, 0:14:04.080 --> 0:14:06.560 maybe that is people say it's cruel to have that 0:14:06.600 --> 0:14:11.520 conversation like okay, but I think some people can't hear 0:14:11.559 --> 0:14:14.640 that from their significant other, like take that type of criticism, 0:14:14.960 --> 0:14:18.000 Like for you, whatever, what would you say in a relationship? 0:14:18.000 --> 0:14:19.160 Are some of your flaws? 0:14:20.920 --> 0:14:21.880 Maybe communication? 0:14:22.640 --> 0:14:23.440 I need you to say that. 0:14:23.640 --> 0:14:26.440 Maybe maybe, yeah, maybe maybe communication. I think I can 0:14:26.480 --> 0:14:28.239 be better with communication. 0:14:29.360 --> 0:14:29.680 I might. 0:14:29.880 --> 0:14:32.560 I probably could be better with attentsiveness too, because you 0:14:32.640 --> 0:14:35.640 know the life we live. I'm so I'm so focused 0:14:35.640 --> 0:14:38.320 on the on the money, on continuing to grow and 0:14:38.520 --> 0:14:41.280 small thing. Yeah, so you know, sometimes you could feel 0:14:41.560 --> 0:14:44.080 left out or like I'm not you know, I'm in 0:14:44.200 --> 0:14:46.400 i might be in Vegas and I'm not calling you, 0:14:46.520 --> 0:14:49.640 I'm not texting you exactly. 0:14:50.640 --> 0:14:52.640 But we all know that it's somebody mad is because 0:14:52.640 --> 0:14:54.600 when you in their stays where you trying to holler, 0:14:55.000 --> 0:14:56.360 you'll be over there texting. 0:14:56.720 --> 0:14:58.720 And this was the problem and. 0:14:58.640 --> 0:15:01.320 Then they get you and then Yeah, the problem with 0:15:01.320 --> 0:15:04.120 six today fiance was we spent thirty days together and 0:15:04.120 --> 0:15:05.760 I made time for him to get to know him. 0:15:05.800 --> 0:15:08.040 We did like a crash course on each other. And 0:15:08.080 --> 0:15:09.440 then I had to work. I had a hustle. I 0:15:09.480 --> 0:15:10.720 got a grind. I gotta get to the coin. 0:15:10.840 --> 0:15:12.880 I gotta work, I got family, I got a kid, 0:15:12.880 --> 0:15:14.920 I got dogs. 0:15:15.240 --> 0:15:17.120 It's so important to have somebody to understand you. 0:15:17.880 --> 0:15:20.080 It was like once I wasn't up under him all 0:15:20.120 --> 0:15:22.360 the time. Then things started to shift and it was 0:15:22.360 --> 0:15:23.720 like out of sight, out of mind, and I just 0:15:23.720 --> 0:15:26.960 felt like it was more of me putting forth the 0:15:27.080 --> 0:15:29.479 effort to make it work, and I wasn't getting that reciprocated. 0:15:29.600 --> 0:15:31.480 And I voiced it to him a few times. And 0:15:31.880 --> 0:15:33.880 right now that he was trying, is he trying harder? 0:15:33.920 --> 0:15:36.160 Now? I spoke to him, what's today? Today? 0:15:36.760 --> 0:15:39.680 Saturday? So I ended things on Tuesday. I spoke to 0:15:39.760 --> 0:15:43.120 him today for the first time. Wow, So I don't know. 0:15:43.840 --> 0:15:46.520 That's not good. He waited all those days. So when 0:15:46.520 --> 0:15:48.760 he spoke to you, was it I'm trying to get 0:15:48.920 --> 0:15:50.800 this back, or it. 0:15:50.880 --> 0:15:55.000 Was just checking on you? You know, it's like, hey, 0:15:55.040 --> 0:15:57.360 how you going to checking? Throwing it out there to scene, 0:15:57.600 --> 0:16:00.080 I guess and whatever? Have you ever STI in the black. 0:15:59.840 --> 0:16:03.400 And I'm working? Yeah, I definitely, yeah, I'm working. 0:16:03.560 --> 0:16:05.040 I've definitely spun the block before. 0:16:05.520 --> 0:16:08.360