Speaker 1: When you remember that everyone you follow on social media
Speaker 1: started with one follower. It's crazy to believe, but even
Speaker 1: some of the biggest, most followed YouTubers and social media
Speaker 1: accounts in the world started with one follower. And so
Speaker 1: you want to study that journey, not envy that journey.
Speaker 1: Envying that journey creates more negativity in your life. It
Speaker 1: creates more trauma in your life, it creates more baggage,
Speaker 1: it creates more feelings of pain and stress and pressure.
Speaker 1: But study it's endless joy. Hey everyone, welcome back to
Speaker 1: On Purpose, the number one health podcast in the world.
Speaker 1: Thanks to each and every single one of you that
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Speaker 1: But for me, I just felt so much gratitude and
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Speaker 1: thank you. I can't express enough how grateful I am
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Speaker 1: than you know. Thank you well, Sasha. Thank you so
Speaker 1: keep those reviews coming. I'm so grateful. I love reading them.
Speaker 1: They're a way of us staying connected and staying together.
Speaker 1: And today's episode is going to be a special one
Speaker 1: because it's something that I really deeply believe in and
Speaker 1: it's something that's quite underestimated. So today's episode is all
Speaker 1: about the six ways successful people spend their time instead
Speaker 1: of wasting it. We have three choices with our time
Speaker 1: to invest, to spend, or to waste, just like with
Speaker 1: our money. We've all heard the phrase time is money
Speaker 1: and money is time. And the truth is the reason
Speaker 1: is because with money you can either invest it, spend it,
Speaker 1: or waste it, and that is exactly the same with time.
Speaker 1: Let me ask you a question. How many of you
Speaker 1: feel right now that you waste more time than you like?
Speaker 1: How many of you feel you're genuinely trying to spend
Speaker 1: your time more wisely, and how many of you feel
Speaker 1: that you're truly rising towards investing your time now? If
Speaker 1: you're someone that wastes your time, I don't want you
Speaker 1: to judge yourself. Judging yourself is going to create more guilt.
Speaker 1: And what guilt does is that it acts as a
Speaker 1: block towards your growth. Let me repeat that, and I
Speaker 1: want you to write this down. This is such a
Speaker 1: huge point for each and every one of us. Guilt
Speaker 1: blocks growth. When we experience guilt and we judge ourselves
Speaker 1: and that experience escalates, we then start creating blocks for
Speaker 1: our growth. Because when we feel guilty, we feel tired,
Speaker 1: we feel exhausted, we feel lethargic, we feel lazy, we
Speaker 1: feel bad about ourselves. And what that does it strips
Speaker 1: us of our energy and it overwhelms us instead of
Speaker 1: empowering us. If you're climbing up a twenty thousand foot
Speaker 1: mountain and you're at five thousand feet and you think
Speaker 1: to yourself, oh, gosh, i have fifteen thousand feet left
Speaker 1: to go. I'm going so slow. Do you think you're
Speaker 1: going to get up faster or slower? Do you think
Speaker 1: you're going to be happier or less happy in the
Speaker 1: process in the journey? Now, what have you said to yourself? Wow,
Speaker 1: I've climbed five thousand feet, and now I've learned skills
Speaker 1: to make sure that the next five thousand feet are
Speaker 1: quicker and easier and safer. And I've learned lessons along
Speaker 1: the way of knowing when to take a break and
Speaker 1: went to work harder. Okay, let's go for the next
Speaker 1: fifteen thousand Which mindset do you think is going to
Speaker 1: set you up for success? The first habit and the
Speaker 1: first mindset is usefulness. Are you able to see everything
Speaker 1: that happens in your life as useful, of use and usable?
Speaker 1: So often in our life today we think of things
Speaker 1: as useless. Right when our phone gets old and the
Speaker 1: new iPhone thirteen Max Pro whatever it's called, releases I
Speaker 1: already have it. I'm guilty of this if it's already
Speaker 1: out and you say, okay, well let me get that
Speaker 1: and let me get rid of my old phone. It's useless.
Speaker 1: Oh that broke. Oh let's throw it away. It's useless. Right.
Speaker 1: So many things we disregard and discard as useless when
Speaker 1: the truth is that everything can still be useful, everything
Speaker 1: can still truly be usable. And the reason why this
Speaker 1: is such a powerful way of living and the way
Speaker 1: successful people spend their time is they ask themselves, is
Speaker 1: this useful? Is what I'm doing with my time? Useful? Now?
Speaker 1: Useful could be anything. It could be sleeping, it could
Speaker 1: be taking a nap, It could be taking a break,
Speaker 1: it could be getting a massage, it could be doing
Speaker 1: something self care. But they look at usefulness as opposed
Speaker 1: to uselessness. Some people say, oh, I'm useless if I
Speaker 1: take a break right now. But is it useful? Is
Speaker 1: it useful to your greater goal? Is it useful to
Speaker 1: where you want to be? Is it useful to what
Speaker 1: you want to achieve and what you want to do?
Speaker 1: Start creating a usefulness mindset. Usefulness means you find the
Speaker 1: use in anything and everything and often, even if you're
Speaker 1: doing something that you feel is a waste of time,
Speaker 1: if you can find a way to make it feel useful,
Speaker 1: it will change your life. Some of you may be thinking, oh, well,
Speaker 1: you know, whenever my friends invite me out, I don't
Speaker 1: want to go, but I go anyway. But it's a
Speaker 1: waste of time, and now I feel guilty, and now
Speaker 1: I'm beating myself up when I get home and I'm thinking, oh, gosh,
Speaker 1: I wasted so much time. How many of you get
Speaker 1: into that habit where you're actually judging yourself for how
Speaker 1: you spend your time. So you think it's useless because
Speaker 1: it's not what you want to be doing or what
Speaker 1: you think you should be doing. But what if you
Speaker 1: were able to learn even from that. What if you
Speaker 1: were more of a better listener around your friends and
Speaker 1: they shared something important. What if you use that as
Speaker 1: a way of understanding human behavior and decision making. What
Speaker 1: if you took a question and used it as research.
Speaker 1: I often when I'm speaking to people, that's when my
Speaker 1: best content ideas come to me. That's when my best
Speaker 1: inspirational ideas come to me. I'll give you an example.
Speaker 1: I got a message from someone that I share some
Speaker 1: mutual friends with and she said she wanted to connect,
Speaker 1: and we had a zoom call. And we're in the
Speaker 1: same industry, same business space. So I always allow some
Speaker 1: randomness and some openness because I find it to be useful.
Speaker 1: So people would say, well, if that's got nothing to
Speaker 1: do my goal, if that call has nothing to do do
Speaker 1: with my goal, then what's the point of me doing it? Well,
Speaker 1: I find randomness useful, so I make space for randomness.
Speaker 1: So I jump on this call. I have no agenda.
Speaker 1: I don't want anything from it. I have nothing to win,
Speaker 1: nothing to achieve, nothing to close. There's no direct benefit
Speaker 1: from this phone call. And I'm getting to know this individual.
Speaker 1: And then she starts telling me her story. And she
Speaker 1: tells me her story about how she started doing something
Speaker 1: at twelve years old, and at sixteen she was consulting
Speaker 1: in that industry, and then at twenty five she's built
Speaker 1: her own company. And now I'm telling you that story
Speaker 1: because I was inspired by her journey, and I love
Speaker 1: that because it was useful. It was useful because I
Speaker 1: got inspired by it. I get to share that inspiration
Speaker 1: with you, and it becomes something that feels like a
Speaker 1: good use of my time when a few years ago
Speaker 1: I would have thought, well, that's a waste of my
Speaker 1: time because it doesn't have anything to do with my goal.
Speaker 1: So one of the ways one of my mentors trained
Speaker 1: me was to become more open, random and supportive. Thomas Powell,
Speaker 1: my mentor in London, started working with about eight years ago.
Speaker 1: Now he's a dear friend, and he told me to
Speaker 1: be up and random and supportive, or RS as he
Speaker 1: called it. And he was saying that as you become
Speaker 1: more successful, as you build more, you'll become more closed,
Speaker 1: selective and controlling. And that closed, selective and controlling you
Speaker 1: think it's making you better, but actually it's making you
Speaker 1: worse because you're now losing the ability to make something
Speaker 1: useful and learn from it. So that's the first habit
Speaker 1: that I want to talk to you about. The second
Speaker 1: habit successful people do to spend their time is that
Speaker 1: they study versus envy. Think about that. When you look
Speaker 1: at people in your industry, or people that you wish
Speaker 1: you alike, or people that you want to follow in
Speaker 1: their footsteps, how many of us waste energy on jealousy
Speaker 1: and envy. When you see that someone just sold their
Speaker 1: business for a billion dollars. Do you feel jealousy and
Speaker 1: envy when you see that someone just sold their podcast
Speaker 1: for one hundred million dollars? Do you feel jealousy and envy?
Speaker 1: Or maybe you feel a sense of like, I wish
Speaker 1: that was me, I deserve that. Or how many of
Speaker 1: you when you see that someone's video just got a
Speaker 1: million muse or their subscribe account just went to a
Speaker 1: million subscribers, how many of you look at that with envy, jealousy, comparison,
Speaker 1: self judgment, self worth issues instead of jealousy, instead of envy.
Speaker 1: The solutionist study, when I see people achieving incredible things
Speaker 1: that I value, that inspire me, that motivate me, I
Speaker 1: choose to study, study their lives, study their journey, study
Speaker 1: their first video, study their first start. Because the problem
Speaker 1: is we're looking at people at the stage they're at
Speaker 1: right now. We're not looking at the phase they started in.
Speaker 1: When you see those pictures of Ed Sheeran when he
Speaker 1: was just busting on the side of a street who's
Speaker 1: a street performer, it makes you realize that that stays,
Speaker 1: that he feels, that audience that he feels today. It
Speaker 1: wasn't what he always had. It reminds you of where
Speaker 1: he started and where you may need to start. When
Speaker 1: you remember that everyone you follow on social media started
Speaker 1: with one follower. It's crazy to believe, but even some
Speaker 1: of the biggest, most followed YouTubers and social media accounts
Speaker 1: in the world started with one follower. Everyone started at one.
Speaker 1: Actually everyone started at zero. And so you want to
Speaker 1: study that journey, not envy that journey. Envying that journey
Speaker 1: creates more negativity in your life. It creates more trauma
Speaker 1: in your life, it creates more baggage, it creates more
Speaker 1: feelings of pain and stress and pressure. But study it's
Speaker 1: endless joy because the more you deeply study someone's journey,
Speaker 1: the more you deeply understand the process and the systems
Speaker 1: and the steps someone took to get to where they are,
Speaker 1: you feel a sense of empowerment. Instead of feeling overwhelmed
Speaker 1: that you're not there, you feel power to know you
Speaker 1: can get there in your own way. I spent my
Speaker 1: teens not knowing that I was doing this, But I
Speaker 1: remember reading Martin Luther King's biography. I remember reading the
Speaker 1: biography of Malcolm X, I remember reading the biography of
Speaker 1: David Beckham of Joined the Rock, Johnson. These books transformed
Speaker 1: my life because they helped me study greatness. They helped
Speaker 1: me study the lives of people who found purpose, lost it, failed,
Speaker 1: and found it again. Please take time when you look
Speaker 1: at someone's feed and you feel envy. Study. Scroll all
Speaker 1: the way back down to their first ever post. Scroll
Speaker 1: all the way back to a Google set to figure
Speaker 1: out where they started, what they did, what they studied
Speaker 1: at school, how they pivoted they shifted. Go listen to
Speaker 1: a podcast on their journey. I mean, that's why we
Speaker 1: have on purpose, because you get to hear about the
Speaker 1: journey that no one else sees. You get to hear
Speaker 1: about the parts of people that no one knows. Choose
Speaker 1: to study people's lives, not envy. Please, and if you
Speaker 1: make this slight switch in your mind, I promise you
Speaker 1: you're going to save yourself a lot of headaches as well.
Speaker 1: The more you study, remove envy, replace it with study.
Speaker 1: The third habit that I wanted to talk to you
Speaker 1: about today is education versus entertainment. And here are a
Speaker 1: few incredible stats that I thought would really really help you.
Speaker 1: So this is using data that I found on Aprium
Speaker 1: Advisor's website, and it said that eighty eight percent of
Speaker 1: wealthy people read thirty minutes or more every day, and
Speaker 1: I've found that sometimes, you know, reading for thirty minutes
Speaker 1: a day may sound hard, but I promise you that
Speaker 1: limiting your social media time itself can change that. Sixty
Speaker 1: three percent of wealthy people listen to audiobooks instead of
Speaker 1: music in the car. Notice how it's all about replacement
Speaker 1: and substituting, it's not about eliminated. Only eleven percent of
Speaker 1: wealthy people read purely for entertainment purposes, and only one
Speaker 1: in fifty of those struggling financially engage in learning every day.
Speaker 1: Now I know where you're thinking, you go, Well, of course,
Speaker 1: the wealthy, successful people are learning because they have time.
Speaker 1: The truth is that they didn't have time before either,
Speaker 1: and they don't have time now. But they've always made
Speaker 1: time for learning. Why Because those new ideas, those new thoughts,
Speaker 1: and you're doing that right now. I just want you
Speaker 1: to know you, by being here every week, listening to
Speaker 1: on purpose, are building this habit. You're actually doing it
Speaker 1: even if you don't know. And I want to give
Speaker 1: you a moment to pat yourself on the back to
Speaker 1: honor that. Now, listen to this Sixty six percent of
Speaker 1: wealthy people watch less than an hour of entertainment based TV.
Speaker 1: This is a big one. Sixty three percent of wealthy
Speaker 1: people spend less than an hour a day using the
Speaker 1: Internet for entertainment. I highly recommend that you switch on
Speaker 1: a parameters and boundaries on social media onto a phone.
Speaker 1: I also recommend that if you're not using social media
Speaker 1: as a creator or a consumer of positive information, unfollowed,
Speaker 1: block move on. Seventy seven percent of those struggling financially
Speaker 1: spend more than an hour on both of these things daily.
Speaker 1: Not for growth, not for education, but for entertainment. So
Speaker 1: I wanted to share those habits with you, not to
Speaker 1: scare you or alarm you, but so that you start
Speaker 1: recognizing where you can improve. And in the beginning, it
Speaker 1: takes what's known as purification. So when you're forcing yourself
Speaker 1: based on will power, that gets tiring. Purification is actually
Speaker 1: the changing of your taste. I'll give an example when
Speaker 1: I married Rade and rather wanted me to reduce my
Speaker 1: sugar intake, and she was showing me all these studies
Speaker 1: where sugar is linked to cancer, sugar is related to
Speaker 1: gut issues, Sugar is related to a lot of our
Speaker 1: health issues. And I started to become more conscious through
Speaker 1: her research and reading, and I started to realize that
Speaker 1: I needed a substitute, and I substituted it for monk fruit.
Speaker 1: I substituted it for dates and dried fruits that were
Speaker 1: more natural sugars. She didn't want me to have refined sugars. Now,
Speaker 1: in the beginning, when I made that switch, I didn't
Speaker 1: like the taste. I missed the taste of real chocolate.
Speaker 1: I missed the taste of When I say real sugar,
Speaker 1: what I'm really talking about is refined sugar. But it
Speaker 1: had become real sugar to me by that time. And
Speaker 1: the amazing thing is that as time has gone on,
Speaker 1: as I've stuck to that habit, my tastes have actually
Speaker 1: been purified where I actually preferred the taste of the
Speaker 1: monk fruit that I have. And I've tried this recently
Speaker 1: where I've tried to have chocolate again with refined sugar
Speaker 1: and it doesn't work for me. Now, your habit can
Speaker 1: swing either way. And another example of this again is
Speaker 1: the idea of anything I'm talking about right now, like
Speaker 1: watching TV, reading a book, in the beginning, it's going
Speaker 1: to be hard, but your taste buds will be purified.
Speaker 1: You seek what is known as the higher taste. So
Speaker 1: we're not trying to do this through willpower or force
Speaker 1: or pushing ourselves or stressing ourselves. We're doing it through
Speaker 1: building a healthy habit and watching our tastes naturally be purified.
Speaker 1: You will seek the higher taste the more you practice it,
Speaker 1: But if you're always engaged in the lower taste, it's
Speaker 1: very hard. So if you read a book one day
Speaker 1: a week and watch TV six days, you're not going
Speaker 1: to be purified. But if you start with one day
Speaker 1: and then you go to two, and then you go
Speaker 1: to three, and then you go to four, and then
Speaker 1: you go to five, that's how you do it. Because
Speaker 1: that one day where you break the pattern and you
Speaker 1: read a book instead of watching that TV show, you go, oh,
Speaker 1: that was a great day. I learned a lot. Then
Speaker 1: what you need to do is journal about it. So
Speaker 1: every time you have a breakthrough in your mindset, journal
Speaker 1: about it right down, how positive it was. This is
Speaker 1: what I learned from reading the book. This is how
Speaker 1: I felt. This is how many conversations I used it in.
Speaker 1: This is how many times I told that story, This
Speaker 1: is what I learned from that podcast. The more you
Speaker 1: share on Instagram, the more you share it with others,
Speaker 1: you are reminding yourself to do that habit again and again.
Speaker 1: Now this habit, the fourth one, is often underrated, and
Speaker 1: it's intelligence versus emotions. Now, this research from the same
Speaker 1: article said ninety four percent of wealthy people filter their emotions,
Speaker 1: seventy nine percent of those struggling do not filter their emotions.
Speaker 1: What does it mean to filter your emotions? So an
Speaker 1: emotional response is a signal. It's almost like receiving an email.
Speaker 1: So your emotions are like email. You receive an email
Speaker 1: that says I don't like this, I don't like what
Speaker 1: that person said, I don't like what that person's doing,
Speaker 1: I don't like what that person did, and then all
Speaker 1: of a sudden, your emotions are not being filtered. So
Speaker 1: when I think about filters, I look at like gates
Speaker 1: that people has to walk through. If you've ever been
Speaker 1: to a home that has high security, you have to
Speaker 1: walk through multiple gates. So if the first gate that
Speaker 1: you get buzzed in through, then you meet someone who's
Speaker 1: gonna check whether you're are allowed to get in. Maybe
Speaker 1: they're gonna check your idea. Maybe they're gonna check your name,
Speaker 1: they're gonna make a phone call. Then you get to
Speaker 1: the final gate. So the first filter with your emotions
Speaker 1: is this true? Is the feeling I'm having true? And
Speaker 1: often you'll find it won't be true. It's what you've heard,
Speaker 1: it's what someone assumed, and so I'll say, Okay, it's
Speaker 1: not true. So let me ask for the real information.
Speaker 1: The second gate that you want people to walk through,
Speaker 1: or you want your emotion to be filtered through, is
Speaker 1: this useful? Is this information useful? Is this making me
Speaker 1: a better person? Is this getting me closer to my goal?
Speaker 1: Chances are it isn't. Chances are it's actually doing the opposite.
Speaker 1: And third, is this emotion actionable? What is the action
Speaker 1: based on this emotion? Let me turn this what is
Speaker 1: the action that solves this emotion? When you start asking
Speaker 1: yourself those three filters or three gates, you're going to
Speaker 1: see remarkable things happen in your life. Successful people only
Speaker 1: work based on the truth and the fact, because the
Speaker 1: truth and the fact is worth acting upon. Anything that's
Speaker 1: false news is it worth acting upon? No. It's like
Speaker 1: someone calling you up and saying, oh, your tie is punctured,
Speaker 1: and you get all emotional, you get confused, you start
Speaker 1: making phone calls, and then you realize they weren't telling
Speaker 1: the truth. Has that helped? Has it helped having that
Speaker 1: emotional trauma? And now you're saying, well, Jay, what if
Speaker 1: it is real? Well it has the emotional trauma been useful? No?
Speaker 1: The emotional part is not useful. The truth is useful.
Speaker 1: Is it useful based on how it's making you behave?
Speaker 1: And then is it actionable? The action is the most
Speaker 1: important part. So successful people try and filter their emotions
Speaker 1: into actions that can change their emotions. Right, actions that
Speaker 1: change your emotions are what should follow an emotional response
Speaker 1: that you're not appreciating or isn't working for you at
Speaker 1: this stage. The fifth habit is growth over goals. Seventy
Speaker 1: percent of wealthy people constantly pursue at least one major goal.
Speaker 1: Only three percent of people who are struggling financially do this.
Speaker 1: This is from the same article at a Priam Advisors,
Speaker 1: And what I loved about this and the more research
Speaker 1: I've done, is that smart people set goals. Successful people
Speaker 1: set growth towards their goals. So let's say you have
Speaker 1: a goal that you want your business to have a
Speaker 1: certain amount of revenue. You say, we want to make
Speaker 1: five million, ten million, fifty million. Sure, that's a great goal.
Speaker 1: It's good to have a goal. You need to have
Speaker 1: a goal to know where you're going. We may say, oh,
Speaker 1: one of our goals is to win a Webby like
Speaker 1: we did last year, thanks to all of you. To
Speaker 1: win a Streamy like we did last year, thanks to
Speaker 1: all of you. But setting a goal is good because
Speaker 1: you know what your target is. You know what direction
Speaker 1: you're going in. It's like saying, yeah, I want to
Speaker 1: drive from La to Arizona. That's a goal. But the
Speaker 1: more important part is the growth. What vehicle are we taking?
Speaker 1: Is it fueled up or have we ard it? If
Speaker 1: it's an electric car, what route are we taking? What
Speaker 1: are the pits, stops or the milestones along the way
Speaker 1: to know we're going in the right direction. Is there
Speaker 1: somewhere where we need to take a break halfway to
Speaker 1: re energize? Which part do you think is more important?
Speaker 1: Successful people don't just point to the map. They come
Speaker 1: up with the journey to follow on the map. I
Speaker 1: want you to set a goal, and then I want
Speaker 1: you to set the growth plan. The growth plan includes
Speaker 1: everything from what skills do you need to develop? What
Speaker 1: coaching do you need to get, What do you need
Speaker 1: to learn? What do you need to build in order
Speaker 1: to get there? I could say I want to build
Speaker 1: one of the biggest companies in the world. The biggest
Speaker 1: gap between building one of the biggest companies in the world.
Speaker 1: Do you think is revenue? But it's actually people in leadership,
Speaker 1: it's management, it's understanding people's emotions, it's consumer behavior. The
Speaker 1: goal is financial, but the growth is emotional. The growth
Speaker 1: is meant. Notice the difference there. So ask yourself, with
Speaker 1: the goals that you're setting for the end of the
Speaker 1: year and the goals you're setting for twenty twenty two,
Speaker 1: have you focused on the growth plan? You may have
Speaker 1: a goal plan, but do you have a growth plan?
Speaker 1: What do you need to learn? What do you need
Speaker 1: to develop? How are you going to know you're in
Speaker 1: the right direction? What are the pivots in the strategy
Speaker 1: you're going to make? What are the shifts? And the
Speaker 1: sixth waste successful we will spend their time instead of
Speaker 1: wasting it is that they understand the value of both
Speaker 1: therapy and coaching in their life. We're living in a
Speaker 1: world where therapy is booming, and I love to see it.
Speaker 1: I think therapy is such an incredible practice, such a
Speaker 1: need in today's society and in today's world and forever.
Speaker 1: Whether you're a beginner, whether you're a leader, whether you're
Speaker 1: a artist or musician, whatever it may be, we all
Speaker 1: have trauma we need to unpack. And I share a
Speaker 1: lot of clients with therapists because I find that therapy
Speaker 1: helps people make sense of their past, and coaching helps
Speaker 1: people work towards their future, and together this is an
Speaker 1: incredible combination. So while most of us are talking to
Speaker 1: our friends and family and hopefully finding moments of vulnerability,
Speaker 1: finding moments of connection and depth there when we're ready,
Speaker 1: it's amazing to take it to the next level of
Speaker 1: therapy and coaching. Working with a professional in each of
Speaker 1: these areas can make a huge difference in our life,
Speaker 1: and I've found that everyone at all stages of their
Speaker 1: life needs a coach to help plan and get curious
Speaker 1: about the next five to ten years of their life.
Speaker 1: So I hope that today's session has helped you in
Speaker 1: understanding where some of your time is leaking, and that's
Speaker 1: really what's happening with most of us. It's not that
Speaker 1: we're wasting time. It's not that you're sitting there doing nothing.
Speaker 1: It's that time leaks away and we can't control time.
Speaker 1: Trying to control time is a battle that we're always
Speaker 1: going to lose. There's never going to feel like there's
Speaker 1: enough time. We're always going to want more time, So
Speaker 1: we can't get more time. We can't control time. What
Speaker 1: we can do is make sure that we're investing and
Speaker 1: spending it wisely. So stop putting pressure on yourself saying
Speaker 1: I keep wasting time, I keep doing the wrong things.
Speaker 1: I'm not doing the right things. That guilt will actually
Speaker 1: block your growth. I was speaking to a friend about
Speaker 1: this the other day, and we were talking about how
Speaker 1: beating yourself up doesn't make you work harder, right, critiquing
Speaker 1: yourself doesn't actually push you with joy. So when my
Speaker 1: ego says arrogant things, or when the voice in my
Speaker 1: head says negative things, what do I do? I laugh
Speaker 1: at them both. I choose to laugh over critique. When
Speaker 1: I hear my ego say things that makes me feel
Speaker 1: despicable or wrong, or just sometimes it can say ridiculous things,
Speaker 1: I just laugh at it. I think Wow, the ego
Speaker 1: is so funny that it can come up with these things.
Speaker 1: And when I'm critiquing myself, I laugh at the critiquing
Speaker 1: voice too, because I think, Wow, it's hilarious that I'm
Speaker 1: able to talk to myself like this when I wouldn't
Speaker 1: talk to anyone else like this. So being able to laugh.
Speaker 1: And this is why in the Vedic tradition and in
Speaker 1: the Monk tradition, the mind is compared to a monkey,
Speaker 1: because when monkeys do something you just laugh. They are
Speaker 1: being funny, they're being silly, they are just You don't
Speaker 1: want the monkey to be anything else you're able to appreciate.
Speaker 1: It's just a monkey. It's fine, it's gonna be funny,
Speaker 1: it's gonna be silly. It's gonna trade a credit card
Speaker 1: for a banana and then want it back. It's gonna
Speaker 1: go and run around. And so when we see the
Speaker 1: mind and the ego behave like a monkey, just laugh.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening to today's episode of
Speaker 1: On Purpose. I am so excited and so grateful for
Speaker 1: this to be out in the world. I hope you
Speaker 1: tag me and share your best insights when I see
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