WEBVTT - 6 Ways Successful People Spend Their Time Instead of Wasting It 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:02.520 When you remember that everyone you follow on social media 0:00:02.600 --> 0:00:06.160 started with one follower. It's crazy to believe, but even 0:00:06.240 --> 0:00:09.479 some of the biggest, most followed YouTubers and social media 0:00:09.520 --> 0:00:12.639 accounts in the world started with one follower. And so 0:00:12.800 --> 0:00:15.880 you want to study that journey, not envy that journey. 0:00:16.000 --> 0:00:19.680 Envying that journey creates more negativity in your life. It 0:00:19.680 --> 0:00:22.400 creates more trauma in your life, it creates more baggage, 0:00:22.400 --> 0:00:26.400 it creates more feelings of pain and stress and pressure. 0:00:26.400 --> 0:00:37.640 But study it's endless joy. Hey everyone, welcome back to 0:00:37.840 --> 0:00:41.160 On Purpose, the number one health podcast in the world. 0:00:41.240 --> 0:00:43.360 Thanks to each and every single one of you that 0:00:43.440 --> 0:00:47.760 come back every week to listen, learn, and grow. Now, 0:00:48.040 --> 0:00:51.880 I just want to say that whenever I bump into 0:00:52.040 --> 0:00:54.280 any of you on the street, if you see me, 0:00:54.400 --> 0:00:56.400 please come and say hello. I just bumped in to 0:00:56.560 --> 0:00:58.960 a group of on Purpose listeners the other night. It 0:00:59.040 --> 0:01:03.880 was after a Halloween party. 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I'm sending you a lot of 0:02:20.919 --> 0:02:27.320 prayers and positive energy. This one is from Dan, who says, Wow, Jay, 0:02:27.440 --> 0:02:30.880 each episode hits in a different way, but always exactly 0:02:30.880 --> 0:02:33.280 what I need. You're an absolute genius. I'm not, but 0:02:33.360 --> 0:02:36.079 thank you. I can't express enough how grateful I am 0:02:36.120 --> 0:02:39.320 for you serving your community with on purpose. You've opened 0:02:39.320 --> 0:02:42.080 my eyes to many new concepts and reminded me of 0:02:42.120 --> 0:02:45.600 things I already knew the forgot along the way. This 0:02:45.680 --> 0:02:49.120 podcast is an essential part of my growth journey and 0:02:49.160 --> 0:02:52.040 has become a habit to listen to weekly. I usually 0:02:52.080 --> 0:02:54.359 go back and listen a second time to some episodes 0:02:54.400 --> 0:02:57.120 to take notes. I've been on my personal growth journey 0:02:57.200 --> 0:02:59.519 for a few years now, and you have no idea 0:02:59.600 --> 0:03:03.120 how much you're opening my mind with these episodes. I 0:03:03.160 --> 0:03:06.040 truly feel like you're speaking directly to me at times. 0:03:06.520 --> 0:03:08.600 I have a goal of starting my own podcast in 0:03:08.639 --> 0:03:11.399 the near future and am inspired by you every time 0:03:11.440 --> 0:03:15.720 I listen. My favorite episodes are usually the Relationship Aren'ted ones, 0:03:16.000 --> 0:03:18.880 as I'm trying to be an exceptional partner and lead 0:03:18.880 --> 0:03:22.360 an exceptional relationship. Thank you so much, Jay for showing 0:03:22.400 --> 0:03:24.280 up for us in a way no one has before 0:03:24.400 --> 0:03:27.760 with this podcast. Dan, thank you so much. For that beautiful, 0:03:27.760 --> 0:03:31.120 beautiful message, and I love your intention of wanting to 0:03:31.120 --> 0:03:33.400 be a good partner. We need more good partners in 0:03:33.440 --> 0:03:35.400 the world, don't we. And now I'm going to read 0:03:35.400 --> 0:03:38.720 out one more. There are so many beautiful reviews here. 0:03:38.840 --> 0:03:42.600 I'm genuinely browsing throughism doing this. This is from Sasha 0:03:42.640 --> 0:03:46.160 in Nebraska, US say, I can't get enough of your podcast, Jay. 0:03:46.240 --> 0:03:48.680 I'm also currently reading Think like a Monk, and between 0:03:48.680 --> 0:03:51.040 the two, I'm getting more insight into who I am 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:53.720 and the world around me. I even got my mother 0:03:53.760 --> 0:03:56.200 to download your book on audible and she used the 0:03:56.200 --> 0:03:59.200 words life changing to describe it. You're helping me more 0:03:59.200 --> 0:04:01.600 than you know. Thank you well, Sasha. Thank you so 0:04:01.960 --> 0:04:05.119 keep those reviews coming. I'm so grateful. I love reading them. 0:04:05.160 --> 0:04:08.160 They're a way of us staying connected and staying together. 0:04:08.840 --> 0:04:11.680 And today's episode is going to be a special one 0:04:11.720 --> 0:04:16.039 because it's something that I really deeply believe in and 0:04:16.120 --> 0:04:19.760 it's something that's quite underestimated. So today's episode is all 0:04:19.760 --> 0:04:24.240 about the six ways successful people spend their time instead 0:04:24.279 --> 0:04:27.279 of wasting it. We have three choices with our time 0:04:27.800 --> 0:04:33.480 to invest, to spend, or to waste, just like with 0:04:33.520 --> 0:04:37.400 our money. We've all heard the phrase time is money 0:04:37.800 --> 0:04:41.840 and money is time. And the truth is the reason 0:04:42.080 --> 0:04:45.840 is because with money you can either invest it, spend it, 0:04:46.320 --> 0:04:50.240 or waste it, and that is exactly the same with time. 0:04:51.000 --> 0:04:52.880 Let me ask you a question. How many of you 0:04:53.000 --> 0:04:57.320 feel right now that you waste more time than you like? 0:04:58.279 --> 0:05:02.880 How many of you feel you're genuinely trying to spend 0:05:02.960 --> 0:05:06.920 your time more wisely, and how many of you feel 0:05:07.360 --> 0:05:12.880 that you're truly rising towards investing your time now? If 0:05:12.920 --> 0:05:15.719 you're someone that wastes your time, I don't want you 0:05:15.720 --> 0:05:19.360 to judge yourself. Judging yourself is going to create more guilt. 0:05:19.400 --> 0:05:22.160 And what guilt does is that it acts as a 0:05:22.240 --> 0:05:26.360 block towards your growth. Let me repeat that, and I 0:05:26.360 --> 0:05:28.200 want you to write this down. This is such a 0:05:28.279 --> 0:05:31.719 huge point for each and every one of us. Guilt 0:05:32.600 --> 0:05:37.840 blocks growth. When we experience guilt and we judge ourselves 0:05:37.960 --> 0:05:42.839 and that experience escalates, we then start creating blocks for 0:05:42.920 --> 0:05:45.560 our growth. Because when we feel guilty, we feel tired, 0:05:45.839 --> 0:05:49.120 we feel exhausted, we feel lethargic, we feel lazy, we 0:05:49.200 --> 0:05:52.640 feel bad about ourselves. And what that does it strips 0:05:52.720 --> 0:05:56.719 us of our energy and it overwhelms us instead of 0:05:56.760 --> 0:06:00.679 empowering us. If you're climbing up a twenty thousand foot 0:06:00.800 --> 0:06:05.320 mountain and you're at five thousand feet and you think 0:06:05.320 --> 0:06:09.560 to yourself, oh, gosh, i have fifteen thousand feet left 0:06:09.600 --> 0:06:12.880 to go. I'm going so slow. Do you think you're 0:06:12.880 --> 0:06:15.840 going to get up faster or slower? Do you think 0:06:15.880 --> 0:06:19.000 you're going to be happier or less happy in the 0:06:19.080 --> 0:06:23.440 process in the journey? Now, what have you said to yourself? Wow, 0:06:23.520 --> 0:06:27.400 I've climbed five thousand feet, and now I've learned skills 0:06:27.440 --> 0:06:30.359 to make sure that the next five thousand feet are 0:06:30.440 --> 0:06:33.960 quicker and easier and safer. And I've learned lessons along 0:06:33.960 --> 0:06:35.800 the way of knowing when to take a break and 0:06:35.839 --> 0:06:39.000 went to work harder. Okay, let's go for the next 0:06:39.000 --> 0:06:42.280 fifteen thousand Which mindset do you think is going to 0:06:42.360 --> 0:06:47.480 set you up for success? The first habit and the 0:06:47.520 --> 0:06:54.800 first mindset is usefulness. Are you able to see everything 0:06:54.839 --> 0:07:00.800 that happens in your life as useful, of use and usable? 0:07:01.600 --> 0:07:04.440 So often in our life today we think of things 0:07:04.480 --> 0:07:07.680 as useless. Right when our phone gets old and the 0:07:07.720 --> 0:07:11.880 new iPhone thirteen Max Pro whatever it's called, releases I 0:07:11.920 --> 0:07:15.200 already have it. I'm guilty of this if it's already 0:07:15.200 --> 0:07:17.280 out and you say, okay, well let me get that 0:07:17.400 --> 0:07:19.280 and let me get rid of my old phone. It's useless. 0:07:20.080 --> 0:07:24.080 Oh that broke. Oh let's throw it away. It's useless. Right. 0:07:24.160 --> 0:07:29.440 So many things we disregard and discard as useless when 0:07:29.480 --> 0:07:34.440 the truth is that everything can still be useful, everything 0:07:34.480 --> 0:07:39.200 can still truly be usable. And the reason why this 0:07:39.240 --> 0:07:43.240 is such a powerful way of living and the way 0:07:43.280 --> 0:07:47.240 successful people spend their time is they ask themselves, is 0:07:47.360 --> 0:07:52.840 this useful? Is what I'm doing with my time? Useful? Now? 0:07:53.000 --> 0:07:57.040 Useful could be anything. It could be sleeping, it could 0:07:57.040 --> 0:08:00.120 be taking a nap, It could be taking a break, 0:08:00.600 --> 0:08:03.280 it could be getting a massage, it could be doing 0:08:03.360 --> 0:08:07.680 something self care. But they look at usefulness as opposed 0:08:07.680 --> 0:08:10.760 to uselessness. Some people say, oh, I'm useless if I 0:08:10.800 --> 0:08:13.640 take a break right now. But is it useful? Is 0:08:13.640 --> 0:08:16.640 it useful to your greater goal? Is it useful to 0:08:16.720 --> 0:08:19.120 where you want to be? Is it useful to what 0:08:19.240 --> 0:08:21.080 you want to achieve and what you want to do? 0:08:21.880 --> 0:08:26.880 Start creating a usefulness mindset. Usefulness means you find the 0:08:27.080 --> 0:08:30.560 use in anything and everything and often, even if you're 0:08:30.560 --> 0:08:33.480 doing something that you feel is a waste of time, 0:08:34.320 --> 0:08:36.920 if you can find a way to make it feel useful, 0:08:37.360 --> 0:08:40.600 it will change your life. Some of you may be thinking, oh, well, 0:08:40.640 --> 0:08:42.520 you know, whenever my friends invite me out, I don't 0:08:42.520 --> 0:08:44.000 want to go, but I go anyway. But it's a 0:08:44.040 --> 0:08:45.960 waste of time, and now I feel guilty, and now 0:08:46.000 --> 0:08:49.760 I'm beating myself up when I get home and I'm thinking, oh, gosh, 0:08:49.760 --> 0:08:51.480 I wasted so much time. How many of you get 0:08:51.520 --> 0:08:55.000 into that habit where you're actually judging yourself for how 0:08:55.040 --> 0:08:58.960 you spend your time. So you think it's useless because 0:08:59.000 --> 0:09:00.720 it's not what you want to be doing or what 0:09:00.800 --> 0:09:03.280 you think you should be doing. But what if you 0:09:03.320 --> 0:09:05.280 were able to learn even from that. What if you 0:09:05.320 --> 0:09:08.440 were more of a better listener around your friends and 0:09:08.480 --> 0:09:10.880 they shared something important. What if you use that as 0:09:10.880 --> 0:09:14.360 a way of understanding human behavior and decision making. What 0:09:14.440 --> 0:09:16.920 if you took a question and used it as research. 0:09:18.040 --> 0:09:21.440 I often when I'm speaking to people, that's when my 0:09:21.480 --> 0:09:24.439 best content ideas come to me. That's when my best 0:09:24.720 --> 0:09:27.000 inspirational ideas come to me. I'll give you an example. 0:09:27.679 --> 0:09:30.520 I got a message from someone that I share some 0:09:30.600 --> 0:09:33.959 mutual friends with and she said she wanted to connect, 0:09:34.120 --> 0:09:36.640 and we had a zoom call. And we're in the 0:09:36.640 --> 0:09:39.640 same industry, same business space. So I always allow some 0:09:39.800 --> 0:09:43.600 randomness and some openness because I find it to be useful. 0:09:43.960 --> 0:09:46.160 So people would say, well, if that's got nothing to 0:09:46.200 --> 0:09:48.079 do my goal, if that call has nothing to do do 0:09:48.240 --> 0:09:52.080 with my goal, then what's the point of me doing it? Well, 0:09:52.080 --> 0:09:56.120 I find randomness useful, so I make space for randomness. 0:09:56.120 --> 0:09:58.280 So I jump on this call. I have no agenda. 0:09:58.440 --> 0:10:01.240 I don't want anything from it. I have nothing to win, 0:10:01.720 --> 0:10:06.040 nothing to achieve, nothing to close. There's no direct benefit 0:10:06.080 --> 0:10:09.160 from this phone call. And I'm getting to know this individual. 0:10:09.240 --> 0:10:11.760 And then she starts telling me her story. And she 0:10:11.800 --> 0:10:14.800 tells me her story about how she started doing something 0:10:14.840 --> 0:10:17.839 at twelve years old, and at sixteen she was consulting 0:10:17.840 --> 0:10:20.360 in that industry, and then at twenty five she's built 0:10:20.360 --> 0:10:23.559 her own company. And now I'm telling you that story 0:10:23.600 --> 0:10:27.240 because I was inspired by her journey, and I love 0:10:27.360 --> 0:10:31.560 that because it was useful. It was useful because I 0:10:31.600 --> 0:10:34.040 got inspired by it. I get to share that inspiration 0:10:34.080 --> 0:10:38.320 with you, and it becomes something that feels like a 0:10:38.440 --> 0:10:40.960 good use of my time when a few years ago 0:10:41.000 --> 0:10:42.440 I would have thought, well, that's a waste of my 0:10:42.480 --> 0:10:45.080 time because it doesn't have anything to do with my goal. 0:10:45.840 --> 0:10:49.000 So one of the ways one of my mentors trained 0:10:49.000 --> 0:10:53.920 me was to become more open, random and supportive. Thomas Powell, 0:10:53.960 --> 0:10:56.800 my mentor in London, started working with about eight years ago. 0:10:56.840 --> 0:10:59.600 Now he's a dear friend, and he told me to 0:10:59.600 --> 0:11:02.320 be up and random and supportive, or RS as he 0:11:02.400 --> 0:11:04.400 called it. And he was saying that as you become 0:11:04.440 --> 0:11:07.360 more successful, as you build more, you'll become more closed, 0:11:07.559 --> 0:11:12.280 selective and controlling. And that closed, selective and controlling you 0:11:12.360 --> 0:11:15.120 think it's making you better, but actually it's making you 0:11:15.200 --> 0:11:19.600 worse because you're now losing the ability to make something 0:11:19.720 --> 0:11:22.840 useful and learn from it. So that's the first habit 0:11:22.920 --> 0:11:25.319 that I want to talk to you about. The second 0:11:25.360 --> 0:11:29.080 habit successful people do to spend their time is that 0:11:29.120 --> 0:11:35.160 they study versus envy. Think about that. When you look 0:11:35.200 --> 0:11:39.200 at people in your industry, or people that you wish 0:11:39.280 --> 0:11:41.640 you alike, or people that you want to follow in 0:11:41.679 --> 0:11:47.079 their footsteps, how many of us waste energy on jealousy 0:11:47.160 --> 0:11:51.040 and envy. When you see that someone just sold their 0:11:51.080 --> 0:11:55.200 business for a billion dollars. Do you feel jealousy and 0:11:55.559 --> 0:11:59.040 envy when you see that someone just sold their podcast 0:11:59.040 --> 0:12:02.319 for one hundred million dollars? Do you feel jealousy and envy? 0:12:03.200 --> 0:12:05.000 Or maybe you feel a sense of like, I wish 0:12:05.040 --> 0:12:08.120 that was me, I deserve that. Or how many of 0:12:08.160 --> 0:12:11.840 you when you see that someone's video just got a 0:12:11.880 --> 0:12:14.200 million muse or their subscribe account just went to a 0:12:14.280 --> 0:12:19.400 million subscribers, how many of you look at that with envy, jealousy, comparison, 0:12:19.920 --> 0:12:26.320 self judgment, self worth issues instead of jealousy, instead of envy. 0:12:27.200 --> 0:12:32.120 The solutionist study, when I see people achieving incredible things 0:12:32.160 --> 0:12:36.800 that I value, that inspire me, that motivate me, I 0:12:37.040 --> 0:12:41.480 choose to study, study their lives, study their journey, study 0:12:41.520 --> 0:12:46.120 their first video, study their first start. Because the problem 0:12:46.200 --> 0:12:48.520 is we're looking at people at the stage they're at 0:12:48.559 --> 0:12:52.000 right now. We're not looking at the phase they started in. 0:12:52.200 --> 0:12:54.240 When you see those pictures of Ed Sheeran when he 0:12:54.280 --> 0:12:56.640 was just busting on the side of a street who's 0:12:56.640 --> 0:13:00.199 a street performer, it makes you realize that that stays, 0:13:00.240 --> 0:13:02.800 that he feels, that audience that he feels today. It 0:13:02.880 --> 0:13:05.680 wasn't what he always had. It reminds you of where 0:13:05.720 --> 0:13:09.000 he started and where you may need to start. When 0:13:09.000 --> 0:13:11.720 you remember that everyone you follow on social media started 0:13:11.720 --> 0:13:15.000 with one follower. It's crazy to believe, but even some 0:13:15.080 --> 0:13:18.559 of the biggest, most followed YouTubers and social media accounts 0:13:18.559 --> 0:13:22.760 in the world started with one follower. Everyone started at one. 0:13:23.000 --> 0:13:26.760 Actually everyone started at zero. And so you want to 0:13:26.880 --> 0:13:30.439 study that journey, not envy that journey. Envying that journey 0:13:30.720 --> 0:13:34.280 creates more negativity in your life. It creates more trauma 0:13:34.320 --> 0:13:36.680 in your life, it creates more baggage, it creates more 0:13:37.200 --> 0:13:41.760 feelings of pain and stress and pressure. But study it's 0:13:42.120 --> 0:13:46.720 endless joy because the more you deeply study someone's journey, 0:13:46.720 --> 0:13:51.040 the more you deeply understand the process and the systems 0:13:51.080 --> 0:13:53.440 and the steps someone took to get to where they are, 0:13:54.160 --> 0:13:58.680 you feel a sense of empowerment. Instead of feeling overwhelmed 0:13:58.679 --> 0:14:00.840 that you're not there, you feel power to know you 0:14:00.840 --> 0:14:04.800 can get there in your own way. I spent my 0:14:04.880 --> 0:14:07.480 teens not knowing that I was doing this, But I 0:14:07.520 --> 0:14:11.760 remember reading Martin Luther King's biography. I remember reading the 0:14:11.760 --> 0:14:14.400 biography of Malcolm X, I remember reading the biography of 0:14:14.480 --> 0:14:18.720 David Beckham of Joined the Rock, Johnson. These books transformed 0:14:18.840 --> 0:14:25.640 my life because they helped me study greatness. They helped 0:14:25.640 --> 0:14:30.120 me study the lives of people who found purpose, lost it, failed, 0:14:30.120 --> 0:14:34.000 and found it again. Please take time when you look 0:14:34.040 --> 0:14:39.480 at someone's feed and you feel envy. Study. Scroll all 0:14:39.520 --> 0:14:42.960 the way back down to their first ever post. Scroll 0:14:43.000 --> 0:14:44.800 all the way back to a Google set to figure 0:14:44.800 --> 0:14:46.960 out where they started, what they did, what they studied 0:14:46.960 --> 0:14:49.680 at school, how they pivoted they shifted. Go listen to 0:14:49.720 --> 0:14:51.440 a podcast on their journey. I mean, that's why we 0:14:51.560 --> 0:14:54.400 have on purpose, because you get to hear about the 0:14:54.480 --> 0:14:57.320 journey that no one else sees. You get to hear 0:14:57.360 --> 0:15:00.680 about the parts of people that no one knows. Choose 0:15:00.720 --> 0:15:03.520 to study people's lives, not envy. Please, and if you 0:15:03.640 --> 0:15:06.280 make this slight switch in your mind, I promise you 0:15:06.280 --> 0:15:09.080 you're going to save yourself a lot of headaches as well. 0:15:09.280 --> 0:15:14.520 The more you study, remove envy, replace it with study. 0:15:15.680 --> 0:15:17.640 The third habit that I wanted to talk to you 0:15:17.640 --> 0:15:22.560 about today is education versus entertainment. And here are a 0:15:22.560 --> 0:15:26.400 few incredible stats that I thought would really really help you. 0:15:27.200 --> 0:15:31.160 So this is using data that I found on Aprium 0:15:31.200 --> 0:15:34.840 Advisor's website, and it said that eighty eight percent of 0:15:34.840 --> 0:15:40.200 wealthy people read thirty minutes or more every day, and 0:15:40.320 --> 0:15:44.040 I've found that sometimes, you know, reading for thirty minutes 0:15:44.080 --> 0:15:47.040 a day may sound hard, but I promise you that 0:15:47.120 --> 0:15:51.720 limiting your social media time itself can change that. Sixty 0:15:51.760 --> 0:15:54.560 three percent of wealthy people listen to audiobooks instead of 0:15:54.640 --> 0:15:57.040 music in the car. Notice how it's all about replacement 0:15:57.400 --> 0:16:02.160 and substituting, it's not about eliminated. Only eleven percent of 0:16:02.160 --> 0:16:06.560 wealthy people read purely for entertainment purposes, and only one 0:16:06.600 --> 0:16:10.680 in fifty of those struggling financially engage in learning every day. 0:16:11.080 --> 0:16:13.000 Now I know where you're thinking, you go, Well, of course, 0:16:13.040 --> 0:16:16.240 the wealthy, successful people are learning because they have time. 0:16:16.760 --> 0:16:19.480 The truth is that they didn't have time before either, 0:16:20.000 --> 0:16:22.240 and they don't have time now. But they've always made 0:16:22.240 --> 0:16:25.080 time for learning. Why Because those new ideas, those new thoughts, 0:16:25.080 --> 0:16:27.000 and you're doing that right now. I just want you 0:16:27.040 --> 0:16:30.120 to know you, by being here every week, listening to 0:16:30.160 --> 0:16:33.600 on purpose, are building this habit. You're actually doing it 0:16:33.640 --> 0:16:35.160 even if you don't know. And I want to give 0:16:35.200 --> 0:16:36.880 you a moment to pat yourself on the back to 0:16:36.960 --> 0:16:40.040 honor that. Now, listen to this Sixty six percent of 0:16:40.040 --> 0:16:44.680 wealthy people watch less than an hour of entertainment based TV. 0:16:45.680 --> 0:16:49.640 This is a big one. Sixty three percent of wealthy 0:16:49.680 --> 0:16:52.320 people spend less than an hour a day using the 0:16:52.360 --> 0:16:56.560 Internet for entertainment. I highly recommend that you switch on 0:16:56.720 --> 0:17:00.480 a parameters and boundaries on social media onto a phone. 0:17:00.800 --> 0:17:03.320 I also recommend that if you're not using social media 0:17:03.320 --> 0:17:07.439 as a creator or a consumer of positive information, unfollowed, 0:17:07.640 --> 0:17:11.919 block move on. Seventy seven percent of those struggling financially 0:17:12.040 --> 0:17:14.679 spend more than an hour on both of these things daily. 0:17:15.160 --> 0:17:20.320 Not for growth, not for education, but for entertainment. So 0:17:20.640 --> 0:17:23.040 I wanted to share those habits with you, not to 0:17:23.160 --> 0:17:25.520 scare you or alarm you, but so that you start 0:17:25.600 --> 0:17:30.120 recognizing where you can improve. And in the beginning, it 0:17:30.160 --> 0:17:35.280 takes what's known as purification. So when you're forcing yourself 0:17:35.320 --> 0:17:40.439 based on will power, that gets tiring. Purification is actually 0:17:40.520 --> 0:17:44.400 the changing of your taste. I'll give an example when 0:17:44.440 --> 0:17:48.439 I married Rade and rather wanted me to reduce my 0:17:48.480 --> 0:17:51.520 sugar intake, and she was showing me all these studies 0:17:51.520 --> 0:17:54.000 where sugar is linked to cancer, sugar is related to 0:17:54.080 --> 0:17:56.239 gut issues, Sugar is related to a lot of our 0:17:56.280 --> 0:17:58.800 health issues. And I started to become more conscious through 0:17:58.800 --> 0:18:02.240 her research and reading, and I started to realize that 0:18:02.280 --> 0:18:05.240 I needed a substitute, and I substituted it for monk fruit. 0:18:05.280 --> 0:18:09.480 I substituted it for dates and dried fruits that were 0:18:09.680 --> 0:18:13.560 more natural sugars. She didn't want me to have refined sugars. Now, 0:18:13.600 --> 0:18:16.879 in the beginning, when I made that switch, I didn't 0:18:16.920 --> 0:18:20.520 like the taste. I missed the taste of real chocolate. 0:18:20.520 --> 0:18:23.240 I missed the taste of When I say real sugar, 0:18:23.280 --> 0:18:25.480 what I'm really talking about is refined sugar. But it 0:18:25.600 --> 0:18:27.919 had become real sugar to me by that time. And 0:18:28.000 --> 0:18:30.479 the amazing thing is that as time has gone on, 0:18:30.560 --> 0:18:33.640 as I've stuck to that habit, my tastes have actually 0:18:33.640 --> 0:18:36.960 been purified where I actually preferred the taste of the 0:18:37.000 --> 0:18:38.920 monk fruit that I have. And I've tried this recently 0:18:38.920 --> 0:18:42.240 where I've tried to have chocolate again with refined sugar 0:18:42.320 --> 0:18:45.080 and it doesn't work for me. Now, your habit can 0:18:45.119 --> 0:18:49.959 swing either way. And another example of this again is 0:18:50.000 --> 0:18:53.720 the idea of anything I'm talking about right now, like 0:18:53.800 --> 0:18:55.679 watching TV, reading a book, in the beginning, it's going 0:18:55.720 --> 0:18:58.919 to be hard, but your taste buds will be purified. 0:19:00.040 --> 0:19:03.000 You seek what is known as the higher taste. So 0:19:03.080 --> 0:19:05.560 we're not trying to do this through willpower or force 0:19:05.760 --> 0:19:09.360 or pushing ourselves or stressing ourselves. We're doing it through 0:19:09.400 --> 0:19:13.879 building a healthy habit and watching our tastes naturally be purified. 0:19:14.680 --> 0:19:17.639 You will seek the higher taste the more you practice it, 0:19:17.680 --> 0:19:20.480 But if you're always engaged in the lower taste, it's 0:19:20.600 --> 0:19:23.080 very hard. So if you read a book one day 0:19:23.119 --> 0:19:25.199 a week and watch TV six days, you're not going 0:19:25.240 --> 0:19:27.439 to be purified. But if you start with one day 0:19:27.440 --> 0:19:28.720 and then you go to two, and then you go 0:19:28.760 --> 0:19:30.080 to three, and then you go to four, and then 0:19:30.119 --> 0:19:32.000 you go to five, that's how you do it. Because 0:19:32.200 --> 0:19:34.439 that one day where you break the pattern and you 0:19:34.480 --> 0:19:37.200 read a book instead of watching that TV show, you go, oh, 0:19:37.200 --> 0:19:39.720 that was a great day. I learned a lot. Then 0:19:39.760 --> 0:19:41.359 what you need to do is journal about it. So 0:19:41.400 --> 0:19:44.199 every time you have a breakthrough in your mindset, journal 0:19:44.200 --> 0:19:46.359 about it right down, how positive it was. This is 0:19:46.400 --> 0:19:48.159 what I learned from reading the book. This is how 0:19:48.240 --> 0:19:50.600 I felt. This is how many conversations I used it in. 0:19:50.680 --> 0:19:52.600 This is how many times I told that story, This 0:19:52.680 --> 0:19:54.760 is what I learned from that podcast. The more you 0:19:54.800 --> 0:19:56.679 share on Instagram, the more you share it with others, 0:19:56.920 --> 0:20:00.880 you are reminding yourself to do that habit again and again. 0:20:01.920 --> 0:20:05.639 Now this habit, the fourth one, is often underrated, and 0:20:05.880 --> 0:20:12.560 it's intelligence versus emotions. Now, this research from the same 0:20:12.760 --> 0:20:17.840 article said ninety four percent of wealthy people filter their emotions, 0:20:18.480 --> 0:20:23.440 seventy nine percent of those struggling do not filter their emotions. 0:20:23.520 --> 0:20:26.080 What does it mean to filter your emotions? So an 0:20:26.080 --> 0:20:30.679 emotional response is a signal. It's almost like receiving an email. 0:20:31.440 --> 0:20:34.520 So your emotions are like email. You receive an email 0:20:34.560 --> 0:20:36.800 that says I don't like this, I don't like what 0:20:36.880 --> 0:20:39.360 that person said, I don't like what that person's doing, 0:20:39.400 --> 0:20:42.320 I don't like what that person did, and then all 0:20:42.320 --> 0:20:47.080 of a sudden, your emotions are not being filtered. So 0:20:47.160 --> 0:20:49.240 when I think about filters, I look at like gates 0:20:49.280 --> 0:20:50.960 that people has to walk through. If you've ever been 0:20:50.960 --> 0:20:53.520 to a home that has high security, you have to 0:20:53.520 --> 0:20:55.879 walk through multiple gates. So if the first gate that 0:20:55.960 --> 0:20:58.879 you get buzzed in through, then you meet someone who's 0:20:58.920 --> 0:21:00.960 gonna check whether you're are allowed to get in. Maybe 0:21:00.960 --> 0:21:02.919 they're gonna check your idea. Maybe they're gonna check your name, 0:21:02.920 --> 0:21:04.639 they're gonna make a phone call. Then you get to 0:21:04.680 --> 0:21:09.200 the final gate. So the first filter with your emotions 0:21:10.040 --> 0:21:15.919 is this true? Is the feeling I'm having true? And 0:21:15.960 --> 0:21:18.160 often you'll find it won't be true. It's what you've heard, 0:21:18.600 --> 0:21:21.440 it's what someone assumed, and so I'll say, Okay, it's 0:21:21.480 --> 0:21:23.840 not true. So let me ask for the real information. 0:21:24.640 --> 0:21:27.600 The second gate that you want people to walk through, 0:21:28.359 --> 0:21:31.720 or you want your emotion to be filtered through, is 0:21:33.080 --> 0:21:37.040 this useful? Is this information useful? Is this making me 0:21:37.080 --> 0:21:39.240 a better person? Is this getting me closer to my goal? 0:21:39.359 --> 0:21:42.480 Chances are it isn't. Chances are it's actually doing the opposite. 0:21:43.320 --> 0:21:47.119 And third, is this emotion actionable? What is the action 0:21:47.200 --> 0:21:49.840 based on this emotion? Let me turn this what is 0:21:49.880 --> 0:21:53.800 the action that solves this emotion? When you start asking 0:21:53.800 --> 0:21:56.960 yourself those three filters or three gates, you're going to 0:21:56.960 --> 0:22:00.960 see remarkable things happen in your life. Successful people only 0:22:01.000 --> 0:22:04.000 work based on the truth and the fact, because the 0:22:04.040 --> 0:22:09.200 truth and the fact is worth acting upon. Anything that's 0:22:09.240 --> 0:22:12.879 false news is it worth acting upon? No. It's like 0:22:12.920 --> 0:22:16.440 someone calling you up and saying, oh, your tie is punctured, 0:22:16.680 --> 0:22:19.160 and you get all emotional, you get confused, you start 0:22:19.160 --> 0:22:21.200 making phone calls, and then you realize they weren't telling 0:22:21.240 --> 0:22:24.439 the truth. Has that helped? Has it helped having that 0:22:24.520 --> 0:22:26.840 emotional trauma? And now you're saying, well, Jay, what if 0:22:26.840 --> 0:22:30.040 it is real? Well it has the emotional trauma been useful? No? 0:22:30.600 --> 0:22:33.080 The emotional part is not useful. The truth is useful. 0:22:33.960 --> 0:22:35.880 Is it useful based on how it's making you behave? 0:22:35.960 --> 0:22:38.400 And then is it actionable? The action is the most 0:22:38.440 --> 0:22:42.800 important part. So successful people try and filter their emotions 0:22:42.800 --> 0:22:48.520 into actions that can change their emotions. Right, actions that 0:22:48.640 --> 0:22:52.720