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Speaker 1: Do you think is revenue? But it's actually people in leadership,

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Speaker 1: What do you need to learn? What do you need

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Speaker 1: the right direction? What are the pivots in the strategy

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Speaker 1: wasting it is that they understand the value of both

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Speaker 1: therapy and coaching in their life. We're living in a

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Speaker 1: I think therapy is such an incredible practice, such a

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Speaker 1: Whether you're a beginner, whether you're a leader, whether you're

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Speaker 1: have trauma we need to unpack. And I share a

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Speaker 1: helps people make sense of their past, and coaching helps

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Speaker 1: incredible combination. So while most of us are talking to

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Speaker 1: these areas can make a huge difference in our life,

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Speaker 1: and I've found that everyone at all stages of their

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Speaker 1: So I hope that today's session has helped you in

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Speaker 1: understanding where some of your time is leaking, and that's

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Speaker 1: really what's happening with most of us. It's not that

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Speaker 1: It's that time leaks away and we can't control time.

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Speaker 1: Trying to control time is a battle that we're always

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Speaker 1: I'm not doing the right things. That guilt will actually

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Speaker 1: And this is why in the Vedic tradition and in

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Speaker 1: It's just a monkey. It's fine, it's gonna be funny,

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Speaker 1: it's gonna be silly. It's gonna trade a credit card

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening to today's episode of

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Speaker 1: On Purpose. I am so excited and so grateful for

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Speaker 1: this to be out in the world. I hope you

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Speaker 1: tag me and share your best insights when I see

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Speaker 1: you post. I'm always looking through them so you might

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Speaker 1: see you on my feed. I'll see you next time.

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Speaker 1: Thanks everyon