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Speaker 1: It's raining, and the whole everything is sliding down the hill.

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Speaker 1: I love the fucking rain, and I know it's not safe. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but I fucking love when it rains. It's I love

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Speaker 1: it too, But like this fourth week, I was like,

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Speaker 1: I'm not, but I understand it's not good for Californians

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Speaker 1: So I obviously don't love the rain. And if I

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Speaker 1: but I just enjoy the sound of the pitter patter

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Speaker 1: you know. Anyway, Hi, what's happening. What's new? Well, we

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Speaker 1: got to see all of the gals from ma Yorka

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Speaker 1: that we went to. God I couldn't go when was it?

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Speaker 1: I love dressing up like a little Barbie do you

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Speaker 1: and that red dresses everything. Yeah, it was actually hot pink.

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Speaker 1: It was like the color of your of your hair amazing,

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Speaker 1: my you know, Christmas. But you know, I just understood

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Speaker 1: that I'm I'm going to have to not and we

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Speaker 1: have to say yes to work when I yea, when

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Speaker 1: I have a snow way, I have to learn how

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Speaker 1: you back right, Yeah, I'm going back pretty. I'm actually

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Speaker 1: marrying my makeup artist from New York Mia. I'm marrying

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Speaker 1: her tomorrow to someone else, so to her fiance, and

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Speaker 1: I'm not sure how that happened exactly, but she told

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Speaker 1: have you been listening to anything I've ever said? Why

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Speaker 1: would you think that I marry a lot of people?

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Speaker 1: You know? I can kind of see it as an

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Speaker 1: extension of like you get a lot of gay couples

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Speaker 1: I'm a shaman. I'm a guy inecologist. I'm a shaman.

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Speaker 1: gospel basically all the time, right, yes, so many gospels. So, Chelsea,

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Speaker 1: we recorded this episode with our very fantastic guest a

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Speaker 1: Out with You More um, And she put herself on

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Speaker 1: what's so funny. The first time I met Alexandra, I

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Speaker 1: she's like, do you even know who I am? I'm like, well,

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Speaker 1: my urine. I wouldn't judge you, but like behind your back,

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Speaker 1: made it clear that when it's us, he's safe and

425
00:20:14,800 --> 00:20:17,280
Speaker 1: in a safe space, but he seems young to be

426
00:20:17,320 --> 00:20:19,879
Speaker 1: facing this type of issue, right, I can't help but

427
00:20:19,960 --> 00:20:22,280
Speaker 1: overthink it. He smokes a ship ton of weed on

428
00:20:22,280 --> 00:20:25,080
Speaker 1: a daily basis, so maybe that's a contributor. But this

429
00:20:25,280 --> 00:20:28,240
Speaker 1: entire situation makes me feel unattractive, even though all my

430
00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:31,600
Speaker 1: friends tell me it's not my fault. Kindly, Bella, would

431
00:20:31,640 --> 00:20:33,280
Speaker 1: you like to take this from the time take this

432
00:20:33,520 --> 00:20:35,840
Speaker 1: number one? You're eighteen years old and all I heard

433
00:20:35,960 --> 00:20:38,879
Speaker 1: was you feel unattractive and this guy is calling you

434
00:20:38,920 --> 00:20:41,480
Speaker 1: his mom. Get the funk out. I don't I feel

435
00:20:41,480 --> 00:20:42,959
Speaker 1: like when you're at that point in your life, if

436
00:20:42,960 --> 00:20:46,440
Speaker 1: there's any doubt in your mind that something's off, leave,

437
00:20:46,560 --> 00:20:49,679
Speaker 1: You're too young, You've too much to do, you have

438
00:20:49,680 --> 00:20:53,119
Speaker 1: so many opportunities. It's so fucking weird. He's calling you

439
00:20:53,160 --> 00:20:55,800
Speaker 1: his mom. Sorry to anyone that refers to their partner

440
00:20:55,800 --> 00:20:58,520
Speaker 1: as their mother, he either wants to funck his mom.

441
00:20:58,640 --> 00:21:00,359
Speaker 1: There's something weird that went not like. I don't know.

442
00:21:00,480 --> 00:21:02,720
Speaker 1: I just don't think that's for you to uncover. I

443
00:21:02,720 --> 00:21:04,960
Speaker 1: think it's time for you to pack your stuff, find

444
00:21:04,960 --> 00:21:07,960
Speaker 1: someone that makes you feel attractive, and don't be called

445
00:21:08,119 --> 00:21:10,680
Speaker 1: someone's mom when you're trying to suck them. And unfortunately

446
00:21:10,760 --> 00:21:12,600
Speaker 1: you can't even suck him because he can't get hard.

447
00:21:12,760 --> 00:21:14,320
Speaker 1: We don't even need to judge him on that. But

448
00:21:14,359 --> 00:21:15,920
Speaker 1: you want to have some good sex in college, Like,

449
00:21:16,000 --> 00:21:17,919
Speaker 1: let's find someone that can suck and doesn't refer to

450
00:21:17,920 --> 00:21:19,920
Speaker 1: you as mommy. Yeah, there's plenty of guys who can

451
00:21:19,960 --> 00:21:21,920
Speaker 1: fuck that won't get it up, that won't call you mom,

452
00:21:22,200 --> 00:21:25,359
Speaker 1: you know. I mean, first of all, Bella, get out

453
00:21:25,400 --> 00:21:27,640
Speaker 1: of there. This is a waste of your time. This

454
00:21:27,720 --> 00:21:31,239
Speaker 1: is your prime, prime learning to have sex time in

455
00:21:31,280 --> 00:21:33,840
Speaker 1: your life. This is where you lay the foundation of

456
00:21:33,880 --> 00:21:36,320
Speaker 1: what you like, what you don't like. And you don't

457
00:21:36,359 --> 00:21:38,720
Speaker 1: like this. He's not getting it up. Calling you mom

458
00:21:38,800 --> 00:21:43,280
Speaker 1: is fucking weird. And you just exactly what you said.

459
00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:47,240
Speaker 1: You just said that you don't feel attractive. That's it,

460
00:21:47,520 --> 00:21:51,520
Speaker 1: You're done, goodbye. Find somebody who makes you feel hot, yes,

461
00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:54,639
Speaker 1: and and that can fuck you. I remember being a

462
00:21:54,720 --> 00:21:57,159
Speaker 1: kid and like once a year I would accidentally call

463
00:21:57,160 --> 00:22:00,800
Speaker 1: a teacher mom. That ended in sixth grade. He shouldn't

464
00:22:00,800 --> 00:22:02,760
Speaker 1: be eighteen and still called. But a teacher is different

465
00:22:02,760 --> 00:22:05,879
Speaker 1: because they're an authoritative figure. They're they're helping you learn,

466
00:22:06,080 --> 00:22:09,920
Speaker 1: they're giving you an education. Although teachers, whatever the point

467
00:22:10,000 --> 00:22:12,439
Speaker 1: is is your teacher is not sucking you, hopefully, And

468
00:22:12,520 --> 00:22:16,000
Speaker 1: I do feel as though there's nothing beneficial in this relationship.

469
00:22:16,040 --> 00:22:19,320
Speaker 1: You're not getting fucked and you're his mommy. You're not

470
00:22:19,359 --> 00:22:21,320
Speaker 1: a mom yet, you know what I mean? Those days

471
00:22:21,359 --> 00:22:23,560
Speaker 1: may come at one point, like leave them for later

472
00:22:23,600 --> 00:22:26,439
Speaker 1: on and for your children. Yeah yeah, And it's not

473
00:22:26,480 --> 00:22:29,320
Speaker 1: your job to fix him, no, no, no, no, learn yeah,

474
00:22:29,640 --> 00:22:31,440
Speaker 1: nip that in the bud, because listen, if you don't

475
00:22:31,520 --> 00:22:33,800
Speaker 1: learn this lesson now. Unfortunately, you'll have to learn it

476
00:22:33,960 --> 00:22:36,600
Speaker 1: over and over again, so let this be the first

477
00:22:36,600 --> 00:22:40,359
Speaker 1: and the last time. Yes. Well, our next question comes

478
00:22:40,400 --> 00:22:42,760
Speaker 1: from Rochelle, who is maybe one of the most angelic

479
00:22:42,840 --> 00:22:45,399
Speaker 1: sweet people I've ever talked to. She's twenty two and

480
00:22:45,440 --> 00:22:48,879
Speaker 1: she has kind of the opposite question. Dear Chelsea, I

481
00:22:48,880 --> 00:22:51,480
Speaker 1: hope all is well. I'm here reaching out for advice

482
00:22:51,560 --> 00:22:54,240
Speaker 1: on my boyfriend and I was sex life, My boyfriend

483
00:22:54,320 --> 00:22:58,120
Speaker 1: and my sex life. My boyfriend and my sex life. Yes,

484
00:22:58,680 --> 00:23:01,199
Speaker 1: we're both twenty two years old and have been together

485
00:23:01,240 --> 00:23:03,879
Speaker 1: for four years now. Last year we lived together in

486
00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:06,680
Speaker 1: Philly for over a year. It was amazing. We both

487
00:23:06,720 --> 00:23:08,800
Speaker 1: moved back home to our parents so we could save

488
00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:11,639
Speaker 1: some money, and eventually moved to a better location. We

489
00:23:11,680 --> 00:23:14,840
Speaker 1: live a couple hours apart. Our dilemma has been how

490
00:23:14,880 --> 00:23:17,280
Speaker 1: horny he often gets, and then many times a day

491
00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:20,359
Speaker 1: he attempts to initiate sex. Yes, I'm aware this is

492
00:23:20,359 --> 00:23:23,120
Speaker 1: not the worst problem to have. I've enjoyed our time

493
00:23:23,160 --> 00:23:26,320
Speaker 1: apart because of this. I want so badly to live

494
00:23:26,359 --> 00:23:28,680
Speaker 1: with him, but the thought of once again being asked

495
00:23:28,760 --> 00:23:32,280
Speaker 1: for sex every day infuriates me. It makes me feel

496
00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:34,240
Speaker 1: like I'm just a bunch of holes. I thought a

497
00:23:34,359 --> 00:23:36,720
Speaker 1: sex drive would lower after some time, but it's been

498
00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:40,320
Speaker 1: four years. We're planning our life together, and sometimes all

499
00:23:40,359 --> 00:23:43,200
Speaker 1: I can dream about is the happiness I'll feel when

500
00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:46,040
Speaker 1: we get old and he gets e ed. We spoke

501
00:23:46,080 --> 00:23:48,000
Speaker 1: to a therapist about this a couple of months ago,

502
00:23:48,119 --> 00:23:51,760
Speaker 1: and she mentioned giving me space to initiate it myself. However,

503
00:23:51,800 --> 00:23:53,840
Speaker 1: I've found that my sex drive seems to be much

504
00:23:53,880 --> 00:23:56,280
Speaker 1: lower and he does not have the patience to wait

505
00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:59,000
Speaker 1: for me to initiate. This makes me feel like a

506
00:23:59,000 --> 00:24:01,239
Speaker 1: shitty girlfriend for an not wanting sex as much as

507
00:24:01,280 --> 00:24:03,320
Speaker 1: he does, but I also feel like I'm dealing with

508
00:24:03,359 --> 00:24:06,200
Speaker 1: a desperate sixteen year old. This is our biggest issue

509
00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:09,439
Speaker 1: in our relationship. We've communicated so much and tried so

510
00:24:09,440 --> 00:24:12,119
Speaker 1: many different things. It's the only thing that makes me

511
00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:14,320
Speaker 1: wonder if we should actually be together and pursue a

512
00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:17,080
Speaker 1: life with one another, if we got married someday. Isn't

513
00:24:17,080 --> 00:24:19,359
Speaker 1: this something that could kill a marriage? Thank you for

514
00:24:19,400 --> 00:24:22,200
Speaker 1: reading Rochelle. Okay, first of all, can he go funck Bella?

515
00:24:22,440 --> 00:24:25,800
Speaker 1: Because Bella needs to get fucked and this guy's got

516
00:24:25,840 --> 00:24:28,760
Speaker 1: extra juice going right, right for Bella. We had a

517
00:24:28,800 --> 00:24:32,679
Speaker 1: previous caller before you and her boyfriend can't get it

518
00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:34,719
Speaker 1: up and calls her mom. So maybe we could just

519
00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:37,560
Speaker 1: do a swap. I think I could solve the problem.

520
00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:40,200
Speaker 1: Is this the person who was just asking a question.

521
00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:50,600
Speaker 1: I've never been on this show, Ladies, It's a pleasure

522
00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:55,840
Speaker 1: to meet you. I'm so sorry for your predicament. Thank you.

523
00:24:56,280 --> 00:24:58,560
Speaker 1: Do you want some advice? Yeah? Should I go first

524
00:24:58,840 --> 00:25:01,320
Speaker 1: for it? Okay? So I think this is the classic,

525
00:25:01,359 --> 00:25:03,280
Speaker 1: which I think is like, this will make you feel better.

526
00:25:03,960 --> 00:25:06,480
Speaker 1: No one has the same sex drive in a relationship,

527
00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:08,880
Speaker 1: and this is like a very common issue where two

528
00:25:08,920 --> 00:25:11,040
Speaker 1: people are on a different page with their sex life.

529
00:25:11,200 --> 00:25:14,879
Speaker 1: The issue is the person that wants sex more is

530
00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:17,000
Speaker 1: made to feel like the needy one is made to

531
00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:18,840
Speaker 1: feel like I want you all the time and feels

532
00:25:18,840 --> 00:25:21,119
Speaker 1: rejected because the person that doesn't have as high as

533
00:25:21,160 --> 00:25:24,360
Speaker 1: a sex drive is rejecting them. You, however, are like,

534
00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:26,960
Speaker 1: my vagina is going to fall off if we have

535
00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:30,199
Speaker 1: sex one more goddamn time. Please go jack off in

536
00:25:30,240 --> 00:25:32,800
Speaker 1: the bathroom. So I think it all comes down, in

537
00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:35,879
Speaker 1: my opinion, to communication. I don't feel like you should

538
00:25:35,920 --> 00:25:38,639
Speaker 1: be having sex in moments that you're not turned on

539
00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:40,560
Speaker 1: and you're not in the mood and you're just doing

540
00:25:40,600 --> 00:25:43,679
Speaker 1: it to appease him. But I also understand on his

541
00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:46,240
Speaker 1: his point of view is like, I'm attracted to my partner,

542
00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:48,560
Speaker 1: I want to have sex with my girlfriend, so I

543
00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:52,480
Speaker 1: would actually set a time. It's not after sex, it's

544
00:25:52,480 --> 00:25:54,760
Speaker 1: not before sex. It's at dinner, it's at breakfast, it's

545
00:25:54,760 --> 00:25:57,360
Speaker 1: at lunch, and you actually have a sit down conversation

546
00:25:57,440 --> 00:25:59,240
Speaker 1: and you start with a compliment of how much you

547
00:25:59,320 --> 00:26:02,359
Speaker 1: appreciate the relationship you have and all the things you

548
00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:05,080
Speaker 1: love about it. But then with regard to your sex life,

549
00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:07,520
Speaker 1: you come from the point of view of saying, hey,

550
00:26:07,760 --> 00:26:11,479
Speaker 1: I'm really struggling because when we have sex, I love it.

551
00:26:11,560 --> 00:26:13,840
Speaker 1: I'm having great sex with you, like there is no

552
00:26:14,000 --> 00:26:18,320
Speaker 1: denying the dick game is great. But I think that

553
00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:22,199
Speaker 1: for me, there's just certain things where I'm maybe not

554
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:24,439
Speaker 1: in the mood and you are, and I want to

555
00:26:24,480 --> 00:26:27,000
Speaker 1: just find a happy medium so that you feel satisfied

556
00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:29,439
Speaker 1: and I feel satisfied because it's not fair to you.

557
00:26:29,520 --> 00:26:31,840
Speaker 1: And if your partner is like I can't do that,

558
00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:35,399
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, then maybe this is someone that has a

559
00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:38,520
Speaker 1: lack of respect in a greater aspect that's outside of

560
00:26:38,560 --> 00:26:40,800
Speaker 1: the bedroom. That's a problem. If you're telling your partner

561
00:26:40,800 --> 00:26:43,080
Speaker 1: that you're not enjoying something and they want to continue

562
00:26:43,119 --> 00:26:46,600
Speaker 1: to do it, that's selfish. So hopefully your partners like, okay, babe,

563
00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:49,080
Speaker 1: how can we work on this? And it's almost like

564
00:26:49,119 --> 00:26:51,720
Speaker 1: you start like a regiment of every time that we

565
00:26:51,760 --> 00:26:54,000
Speaker 1: want to have sex. I get to initiate once a week,

566
00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:55,800
Speaker 1: and you get to initiate once a week, and like,

567
00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:58,520
Speaker 1: let's start with that and then go from there. But

568
00:26:58,560 --> 00:27:00,840
Speaker 1: I think it's actually like building in which sounds kind

569
00:27:00,840 --> 00:27:04,280
Speaker 1: of corny, but almost a communication that allows you to

570
00:27:04,400 --> 00:27:07,240
Speaker 1: tell him how you're feeling and then tell him you

571
00:27:07,280 --> 00:27:10,359
Speaker 1: don't get the opportunity to initiate because he's always fucking

572
00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:14,200
Speaker 1: a horny little dog. So on weekends, we're not having

573
00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:17,200
Speaker 1: sex unless I initiate it. And then hopefully you get

574
00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:19,240
Speaker 1: in the mood and you're like, wait what, So it's

575
00:27:19,280 --> 00:27:21,120
Speaker 1: like you can pick two days a week we're gonna

576
00:27:21,119 --> 00:27:22,720
Speaker 1: have sex during the week, but on the weekend it's

577
00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:24,920
Speaker 1: my time, or like come up with a rhythm. I

578
00:27:25,080 --> 00:27:27,920
Speaker 1: don't know's I like that idea because I understand. I

579
00:27:27,960 --> 00:27:30,360
Speaker 1: can totally relate to being felt like you're being attacked

580
00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:33,119
Speaker 1: all the time sexually, when a guy's on you and

581
00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:34,840
Speaker 1: they want to have sex all the time, and you're like,

582
00:27:35,040 --> 00:27:37,639
Speaker 1: give me some space to come to you. If I

583
00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:41,040
Speaker 1: could hit on you and initiate that would be sexier

584
00:27:41,119 --> 00:27:43,280
Speaker 1: for me. Then constantly feel like if I take my

585
00:27:43,280 --> 00:27:45,440
Speaker 1: shirt off in front of you, I'm gonna get pummeled.

586
00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:48,440
Speaker 1: I understand where you're coming from. I also think Alex's

587
00:27:48,560 --> 00:27:51,600
Speaker 1: advice is good and you should start with that, But

588
00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:54,440
Speaker 1: I think it is a big issue if you don't

589
00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:57,399
Speaker 1: resolve it now, because you do not want to just

590
00:27:57,440 --> 00:28:01,280
Speaker 1: be spending your life avoiding your partner and avoiding sex.

591
00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:04,320
Speaker 1: I mean, like a sex therapist, someone you couldn't sit

592
00:28:04,359 --> 00:28:07,479
Speaker 1: down with and actually have an honest, open conversation so

593
00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:10,080
Speaker 1: that this is a more even playing field because you're

594
00:28:10,119 --> 00:28:12,119
Speaker 1: just going to play the avoidance game. You're gonna try

595
00:28:12,160 --> 00:28:14,639
Speaker 1: and be asleep before he gets in the room. You're

596
00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:19,639
Speaker 1: gonna do all of thee And I agree with you, Chelsea,

597
00:28:19,680 --> 00:28:21,320
Speaker 1: because I feel like what happens is you're going to

598
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:25,480
Speaker 1: start to resent him for something that could actually be managed,

599
00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:27,359
Speaker 1: and so I think What it really comes down to

600
00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:29,879
Speaker 1: is you need to figure out how many times a

601
00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:32,000
Speaker 1: week would you want to have sex, and then you

602
00:28:32,040 --> 00:28:34,360
Speaker 1: need to go from there. Of like, if you number one,

603
00:28:34,440 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 1: are enjoying your sex life, that's great. Also you don't

604
00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:38,520
Speaker 1: have to tell us, But like, if you're not, that's

605
00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:41,080
Speaker 1: also another whole thing. When you're having sex, if he's

606
00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:44,280
Speaker 1: actually pleasuring you, Also, how is the sex Like is

607
00:28:44,280 --> 00:28:46,760
Speaker 1: he doing any for play? Are you having an orgasm

608
00:28:46,800 --> 00:28:49,160
Speaker 1: when you're actually having sex? Like is it just about

609
00:28:49,240 --> 00:28:51,520
Speaker 1: him going to poundtown and then like splooging in four

610
00:28:51,520 --> 00:28:53,880
Speaker 1: seconds and you're like, well that wasn't fun. Like I

611
00:28:53,920 --> 00:28:56,520
Speaker 1: think you need to look inward and figure out what

612
00:28:56,600 --> 00:28:59,560
Speaker 1: ways are you being pleasured in the actual moment, And

613
00:28:59,600 --> 00:29:02,640
Speaker 1: also is it at all exciting? Is it, like now

614
00:29:02,760 --> 00:29:04,680
Speaker 1: just a chore. If it's just a chore, I agree,

615
00:29:04,720 --> 00:29:06,320
Speaker 1: you got you gotta switch it up, and you have

616
00:29:06,360 --> 00:29:09,040
Speaker 1: to talk to him about it, honestly, tell him to masturbate,

617
00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:13,920
Speaker 1: Like jack Off, we've been there. His quote now is

618
00:29:13,960 --> 00:29:16,040
Speaker 1: like is this for a two or for one? There

619
00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:17,680
Speaker 1: was a period when I was like, hey, if you

620
00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:20,320
Speaker 1: feel that you need to and I clearly am doing

621
00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:24,000
Speaker 1: my own thing. Just go and he'll be like, is

622
00:29:24,000 --> 00:29:25,720
Speaker 1: this for tour? For one? And I actually thought that

623
00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:29,080
Speaker 1: was sweet, and sometimes I'd say for two. Yes, definitely

624
00:29:29,160 --> 00:29:31,240
Speaker 1: have tried that for sure and it kind of worked

625
00:29:31,280 --> 00:29:34,080
Speaker 1: for a while. Okay, and do you enjoy the sex

626
00:29:34,120 --> 00:29:36,800
Speaker 1: when you have it? Yes? But that's I think that's

627
00:29:36,840 --> 00:29:40,480
Speaker 1: actually what led to him maybe taking different approaches in

628
00:29:40,480 --> 00:29:43,400
Speaker 1: the same evening, let's say, because he knows that it's

629
00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:46,760
Speaker 1: always the best time, and I, you know, afterwards, you're

630
00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:49,520
Speaker 1: so google Gaga and I have been in the spot

631
00:29:49,520 --> 00:29:51,959
Speaker 1: where I almost felt bad, like why didn't I want

632
00:29:52,000 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 1: to do this? When I end up enjoying it so much?

633
00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:59,000
Speaker 1: But it's because prior I don't really feel that I

634
00:29:59,040 --> 00:30:02,560
Speaker 1: need it, you know. Afterwards, I'm like, why wouldn't you?

635
00:30:02,560 --> 00:30:04,440
Speaker 1: You're in love with this man. It's the best time.

636
00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:07,600
Speaker 1: He knows what you like. I'm kind of fighting myself here,

637
00:30:07,640 --> 00:30:11,400
Speaker 1: and then he's like trying all these different ways. I

638
00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:14,160
Speaker 1: don't know. I think that when you're talking about this,

639
00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:17,440
Speaker 1: it makes me think that you have to hold strong

640
00:30:17,520 --> 00:30:20,160
Speaker 1: for yourself in moments. Of course, maybe you're going to

641
00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:22,040
Speaker 1: enjoy it in the moment, but it started out with

642
00:30:22,280 --> 00:30:23,640
Speaker 1: you were not in the mood you did not want

643
00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:25,880
Speaker 1: to have sex, and so I think that what you

644
00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:27,880
Speaker 1: can do, even though it may be very un sexy,

645
00:30:27,960 --> 00:30:29,800
Speaker 1: like if it's a Monday, you had a hard day

646
00:30:29,800 --> 00:30:33,200
Speaker 1: of work, whatever reason it is, you should literally say, babe,

647
00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:35,560
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be honest, not in the mood today, not

648
00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:38,480
Speaker 1: in the mood. And so when he tries to pressure

649
00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:40,560
Speaker 1: you and be like come on, like whatever, just be like, hey,

650
00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:43,080
Speaker 1: not today, maybe tomorrow. So it's almost like say no

651
00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:45,360
Speaker 1: and then whether you have to literally remove yourself and

652
00:30:45,360 --> 00:30:47,200
Speaker 1: move to the other side of the couch or the bed.

653
00:30:47,520 --> 00:30:50,000
Speaker 1: But I think it's it's starting with yourself and creating

654
00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:53,040
Speaker 1: boundaries for yourself that will allow you then to feel

655
00:30:53,040 --> 00:30:55,600
Speaker 1: better about your decision when you actually do have sex,

656
00:30:55,800 --> 00:30:58,520
Speaker 1: because it was on your turf. Right now, it's all

657
00:30:58,600 --> 00:31:00,240
Speaker 1: on his time and he's just kind of put wishing

658
00:31:00,280 --> 00:31:02,640
Speaker 1: to see if you'll you'll be down. And I think

659
00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:05,080
Speaker 1: if you start saying absolutely not like not in the mood,

660
00:31:05,200 --> 00:31:07,480
Speaker 1: love you, nothing wrong with you, just not in the mood,

661
00:31:07,520 --> 00:31:10,280
Speaker 1: not tonight, maybe tomorrow, I think it will allow you

662
00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:12,760
Speaker 1: to feel better that you actually stopped it instead of

663
00:31:12,760 --> 00:31:15,880
Speaker 1: it being like this wishwashy in between, like maybe it'll

664
00:31:15,880 --> 00:31:18,520
Speaker 1: happen tonight if I like get her in the mood enough,

665
00:31:18,720 --> 00:31:21,640
Speaker 1: like just create a hard line, yeah, and explain it

666
00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:23,640
Speaker 1: to him in terms that he can understand that it's

667
00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:25,440
Speaker 1: not so much fun to be chased all the time.

668
00:31:25,520 --> 00:31:28,760
Speaker 1: You sometimes want to be the initiator, and he's gonna

669
00:31:28,760 --> 00:31:31,280
Speaker 1: respect that, and he's gonna like that. I mean, how

670
00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:33,360
Speaker 1: sexy is it if he gives you enough space that

671
00:31:33,440 --> 00:31:36,360
Speaker 1: you are the one initiating, going and sitting on his

672
00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:38,640
Speaker 1: lap at night and being like all over him, like

673
00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:41,560
Speaker 1: let's go. He's gonna love that. What if you literally

674
00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:45,520
Speaker 1: do this? What if you say, whoever initiated last, can't

675
00:31:45,520 --> 00:31:49,280
Speaker 1: initiate next? I love that? You know what I did

676
00:31:49,400 --> 00:31:52,040
Speaker 1: last weekend? I told him. I was like, hey, can

677
00:31:52,120 --> 00:31:55,160
Speaker 1: you when I'm going to initiate, can you just tell

678
00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:57,560
Speaker 1: me like, hey, baby, not right now? Can you give

679
00:31:57,560 --> 00:31:59,480
Speaker 1: me a couple of minutes? Like I wanted to feel

680
00:31:59,480 --> 00:32:01,960
Speaker 1: like just because I initiated, he didn't bounce, And when

681
00:32:02,000 --> 00:32:04,640
Speaker 1: I tell you that got made hot and bothered. He

682
00:32:04,760 --> 00:32:09,520
Speaker 1: was like, can you wait a moment? Okay? So I

683
00:32:09,520 --> 00:32:12,520
Speaker 1: think that's it. It's you literally almost implemented games. So

684
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:16,920
Speaker 1: it's like sorry, hot and I'm sorry. I'm getting she

685
00:32:16,960 --> 00:32:19,920
Speaker 1: haskey came in here today with monkey pox. I not

686
00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:22,600
Speaker 1: do that, and she has no respect for you. I

687
00:32:22,640 --> 00:32:24,320
Speaker 1: think this is it. I think this is it. You

688
00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:26,760
Speaker 1: like the game, you want the chase, you want to

689
00:32:26,760 --> 00:32:29,160
Speaker 1: feel like you sometimes can be in control. I think

690
00:32:29,200 --> 00:32:31,320
Speaker 1: that's the end of it, is that you have an

691
00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:35,480
Speaker 1: initiating game. Whoever initiated last now can initiate. I'm up.

692
00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:44,600
Speaker 1: I love it. You're gonna be great. Yeah, this is good.

693
00:32:44,680 --> 00:32:47,040
Speaker 1: This is good. One thing that I'll say as well,

694
00:32:47,120 --> 00:32:50,080
Speaker 1: like looking farther down the road, because you know, you've

695
00:32:50,080 --> 00:32:51,840
Speaker 1: been with this guy for four years, you love him,

696
00:32:51,840 --> 00:32:54,880
Speaker 1: you're looking for a future with him. I don't think

697
00:32:54,920 --> 00:32:56,960
Speaker 1: it's something that will destroy your marriage if you guys

698
00:32:57,000 --> 00:32:59,680
Speaker 1: get married one day. I've been in a long marriage.

699
00:33:00,120 --> 00:33:03,800
Speaker 1: We have had fluctuating like who wants it more? When

700
00:33:04,480 --> 00:33:06,040
Speaker 1: I used to be the one who wanted it way

701
00:33:06,080 --> 00:33:08,120
Speaker 1: more than he did, and I would get super hurt

702
00:33:08,120 --> 00:33:10,240
Speaker 1: when he didn't want it when I wanted it. So like,

703
00:33:10,320 --> 00:33:12,880
Speaker 1: I get that perspective as well. But you know, and

704
00:33:12,880 --> 00:33:15,320
Speaker 1: it's like you're always being chased down. I will say,

705
00:33:15,560 --> 00:33:17,960
Speaker 1: as you get closer to your thirties and he does

706
00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:20,760
Speaker 1: as well. You may find that, like his levels come

707
00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:23,320
Speaker 1: down a little bit and yours go up, and you

708
00:33:23,360 --> 00:33:25,960
Speaker 1: meet kind of in the middle because you know, there's

709
00:33:26,320 --> 00:33:29,440
Speaker 1: great to look forward to. Yeah, I know, you guys,

710
00:33:29,440 --> 00:33:31,120
Speaker 1: just yeah, you gave me something to look forward to.

711
00:33:31,240 --> 00:33:33,680
Speaker 1: And I know he even just the idea that that

712
00:33:33,720 --> 00:33:36,040
Speaker 1: could be to be a potential. He will love that

713
00:33:36,920 --> 00:33:41,480
Speaker 1: and give me time. Don't worry. Yeah, your thirties will

714
00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:47,040
Speaker 1: be great for sex. I promise that's awesome. Thank you,

715
00:33:47,320 --> 00:33:48,920
Speaker 1: Oh my god, thank you so much. I can't wait

716
00:33:48,960 --> 00:33:51,680
Speaker 1: to talk to him about this. To you, you're so cute.

717
00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:55,640
Speaker 1: I love it. Bye bye, bye bye. She's the cutest

718
00:33:55,640 --> 00:33:57,520
Speaker 1: person who ever laid your eyes on. Yeah, that was

719
00:33:57,560 --> 00:34:05,520
Speaker 1: really good advice. Yeah, that's up our fay to go well.

720
00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:11,560
Speaker 1: Our next colar is Sandra Sandra. Sandra Sandy usually very private,

721
00:34:11,640 --> 00:34:14,719
Speaker 1: so you guys, let's keep this one under wraps. She says.

722
00:34:14,719 --> 00:34:17,080
Speaker 1: Dear Chelsea, I'm a thirty year old female and I've

723
00:34:17,120 --> 00:34:19,440
Speaker 1: been dating my forty five year old boyfriend for almost

724
00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:22,440
Speaker 1: a year. I recently found out that he has visited

725
00:34:22,600 --> 00:34:25,759
Speaker 1: escorts in the not so distant past. I found this

726
00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:28,160
Speaker 1: out because I looked at his text messages. I know

727
00:34:28,320 --> 00:34:30,480
Speaker 1: this isn't a good habit, and I'm likely just looking

728
00:34:30,520 --> 00:34:32,920
Speaker 1: for ways to feel betrayed. But I'm working on this

729
00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:35,720
Speaker 1: with my therapist. I've looked once before and was honest

730
00:34:35,719 --> 00:34:38,200
Speaker 1: with him about it, and it definitely affected our trust

731
00:34:38,239 --> 00:34:41,279
Speaker 1: with each other. Our trust has since recovered, I guess,

732
00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:44,280
Speaker 1: until I chose to look again this time. I found

733
00:34:44,280 --> 00:34:47,000
Speaker 1: text messages of him making appointments to hire an escort,

734
00:34:47,280 --> 00:34:49,640
Speaker 1: and I should mention this is before they were together.

735
00:34:50,040 --> 00:34:52,920
Speaker 1: He was also specifically asking for certain women, so I

736
00:34:52,960 --> 00:34:55,239
Speaker 1: think that it was not a one time thing. The

737
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:58,160
Speaker 1: most recent text was seven months before we started dating.

738
00:34:58,440 --> 00:35:01,640
Speaker 1: A little context, he's divorced man who was married for

739
00:35:01,680 --> 00:35:04,200
Speaker 1: thirteen years and says that they would go years at

740
00:35:04,200 --> 00:35:06,319
Speaker 1: a time without having sex and this was a big

741
00:35:06,360 --> 00:35:09,080
Speaker 1: factor in their separation. He also disclosed to me in

742
00:35:09,120 --> 00:35:11,600
Speaker 1: the first month we were dating that he had cheated

743
00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:13,680
Speaker 1: on his ex wife with a stripper while he was

744
00:35:13,760 --> 00:35:16,239
Speaker 1: really drunk. He said he told his ex wife right

745
00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:19,040
Speaker 1: away and felt horrible and thought I should know upfront.

746
00:35:19,640 --> 00:35:21,799
Speaker 1: He has now been divorced for three years, but when

747
00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:24,000
Speaker 1: he hired these most recent escorts. He was in and

748
00:35:24,040 --> 00:35:27,160
Speaker 1: out of casual and more serious relationships, so I don't

749
00:35:27,200 --> 00:35:29,120
Speaker 1: think it was out of a lack of intimacy like

750
00:35:29,239 --> 00:35:32,080
Speaker 1: he'd previously felt in his marriage. He's also sober now,

751
00:35:32,160 --> 00:35:35,320
Speaker 1: so he can't blame being a drunk either. Our relationship

752
00:35:35,360 --> 00:35:38,439
Speaker 1: has honestly been great so far. Any hard conversation we've

753
00:35:38,440 --> 00:35:40,640
Speaker 1: had has made us stronger, and he's been a loving

754
00:35:40,640 --> 00:35:43,400
Speaker 1: and supportive partner. Now I don't know what I should

755
00:35:43,400 --> 00:35:45,600
Speaker 1: do with this information, or even how to feel about it.

756
00:35:45,800 --> 00:35:48,320
Speaker 1: I worried that there are some fucked up power dynamics

757
00:35:48,360 --> 00:35:50,640
Speaker 1: involved in why he chose to sleep with those escorts,

758
00:35:50,880 --> 00:35:53,280
Speaker 1: but I also recognized it was in his past before

759
00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:55,640
Speaker 1: me and I found out this information by looking through

760
00:35:55,680 --> 00:35:59,839
Speaker 1: his things. Update from Sandra her boyfriend is soon going

761
00:35:59,880 --> 00:36:03,200
Speaker 1: to be visiting Thailand, so there's some time sensitivity here.

762
00:36:03,560 --> 00:36:08,879
Speaker 1: Hi Sandra, Hey, Hi guys. How are you Hi? Good? Good?

763
00:36:08,920 --> 00:36:12,359
Speaker 1: How are you doing? This is a deep one I

764
00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:14,960
Speaker 1: think reading that, I I feel a couple of things.

765
00:36:15,000 --> 00:36:19,200
Speaker 1: I think number one, you can find some solace in

766
00:36:19,200 --> 00:36:23,680
Speaker 1: the fact that everything you found predated your relationship. I

767
00:36:23,760 --> 00:36:27,600
Speaker 1: actually appreciated that you also noted that he had told

768
00:36:27,640 --> 00:36:31,120
Speaker 1: his ex wife immediately after something had happened. So it

769
00:36:31,320 --> 00:36:34,080
Speaker 1: feels like the first step is that he is has

770
00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:37,160
Speaker 1: no issue being very open and honest in communication, even

771
00:36:37,200 --> 00:36:39,560
Speaker 1: if it means he sucked up. So we're we're already

772
00:36:39,560 --> 00:36:42,560
Speaker 1: operating on a good playing field. Because when you have

773
00:36:42,600 --> 00:36:45,120
Speaker 1: a compulsive liar or someone that's going to constantly be

774
00:36:45,200 --> 00:36:48,720
Speaker 1: hiding things, that's where it gets really tricky. The issue

775
00:36:48,840 --> 00:36:50,720
Speaker 1: is is if he was doing this in his past,

776
00:36:50,760 --> 00:36:52,680
Speaker 1: there's no saying that he wasn't going to be doing

777
00:36:52,719 --> 00:36:56,000
Speaker 1: it now in your relationship. And the issue again is

778
00:36:56,000 --> 00:36:59,240
Speaker 1: that you found this by snooping, and so you can't

779
00:36:59,239 --> 00:37:02,799
Speaker 1: be like, hey, like I found this, I'm wondering if

780
00:37:02,800 --> 00:37:04,640
Speaker 1: you're doing it to me, because then he can be like,

781
00:37:05,080 --> 00:37:07,800
Speaker 1: you invaded my privacy and I have never done that

782
00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:09,719
Speaker 1: with you because we're in a committed relationship. So I

783
00:37:09,960 --> 00:37:12,120
Speaker 1: see why you're kind of in a pickle. I think

784
00:37:12,160 --> 00:37:14,240
Speaker 1: what it comes down to is if you can't trust

785
00:37:14,320 --> 00:37:17,239
Speaker 1: your partner, you have a huge issue. And I don't

786
00:37:17,320 --> 00:37:19,879
Speaker 1: know if I would personally be in a relationship where

787
00:37:19,880 --> 00:37:23,279
Speaker 1: I constantly was wondering and stressing out. I've been in

788
00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:26,279
Speaker 1: those relationships, so I think that if I were you,

789
00:37:26,680 --> 00:37:28,439
Speaker 1: I would nip it in the butt so that you're

790
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:30,520
Speaker 1: not wasting time and you may have to throw yourself

791
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:32,400
Speaker 1: under the bus a little bit. Because wait, let me

792
00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:34,799
Speaker 1: actually ask you. How did you know he told his

793
00:37:34,840 --> 00:37:38,600
Speaker 1: ex wife He told me perfect, Yeah, first month that

794
00:37:38,640 --> 00:37:43,280
Speaker 1: we were dating, he immediately told me that information without

795
00:37:43,280 --> 00:37:46,880
Speaker 1: me having to ask. Perfect I did actually, because I

796
00:37:46,880 --> 00:37:50,320
Speaker 1: had said in my letter that I have trouble keeping

797
00:37:50,320 --> 00:37:53,440
Speaker 1: anything inside. I'm very easy to read. He would know

798
00:37:53,560 --> 00:37:56,799
Speaker 1: something was wrong. I told him two days ago that

799
00:37:56,840 --> 00:37:59,440
Speaker 1: I looked through his stuff because he's he's currently in

800
00:37:59,480 --> 00:38:03,560
Speaker 1: Thailand right now. And what did he say? He basically said,

801
00:38:03,920 --> 00:38:07,440
Speaker 1: I didn't really ask all the questions that I feel

802
00:38:07,440 --> 00:38:09,920
Speaker 1: like maybe I wanted to, because I wasn't really sure

803
00:38:10,440 --> 00:38:12,960
Speaker 1: even what my questions were because I don't know how

804
00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:15,880
Speaker 1: I'm feeling about it. But he just said, yes, he

805
00:38:15,960 --> 00:38:19,920
Speaker 1: had done that in the past before me, and he

806
00:38:20,040 --> 00:38:23,160
Speaker 1: just wishes that I hadn't looked through his stuff and

807
00:38:23,360 --> 00:38:27,480
Speaker 1: that he hopes that it doesn't change my perception of him.

808
00:38:27,520 --> 00:38:30,479
Speaker 1: But I didn't ask too much more. He didn't give

809
00:38:30,520 --> 00:38:34,000
Speaker 1: any opinions or feelings or have you done this in

810
00:38:34,080 --> 00:38:40,879
Speaker 1: previous relationships look through your partner's phone. Not no, not really.

811
00:38:40,880 --> 00:38:44,480
Speaker 1: I mean I guess I had before in my last

812
00:38:44,520 --> 00:38:47,480
Speaker 1: serious relationship, and that's where I think a lot of

813
00:38:47,480 --> 00:38:51,759
Speaker 1: these trust issues came from to these struggles with drug addictions.

814
00:38:51,800 --> 00:38:54,080
Speaker 1: So there was also a lot of that too, where

815
00:38:54,120 --> 00:38:56,400
Speaker 1: I was trying to see, like is he lying to

816
00:38:56,440 --> 00:38:59,799
Speaker 1: me about currently using too? So it was its whole

817
00:38:59,800 --> 00:39:03,160
Speaker 1: other or like monster in itself. Yeah, but our biggest

818
00:39:03,160 --> 00:39:06,560
Speaker 1: mistakes are bringing our old relationships into our new relationships

819
00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:08,920
Speaker 1: because there's always going to be somebody that did something

820
00:39:09,040 --> 00:39:12,399
Speaker 1: disrespectful or they lied, or they cheated or whatever they did.

821
00:39:12,640 --> 00:39:15,480
Speaker 1: But it is your job, as part of your evolutionary

822
00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:18,560
Speaker 1: growth into becoming more of the person that you're meant

823
00:39:18,640 --> 00:39:22,160
Speaker 1: to become, is to stop those patterns. You looking through

824
00:39:22,200 --> 00:39:25,480
Speaker 1: his phone has garnered you no knowledge at all because

825
00:39:25,520 --> 00:39:28,200
Speaker 1: he volunteered some of this information to you. The fact

826
00:39:28,280 --> 00:39:30,600
Speaker 1: that he went and got escorts, who gives a ship.

827
00:39:31,080 --> 00:39:33,120
Speaker 1: That's he's a single guy, He's allowed to do whatever

828
00:39:33,120 --> 00:39:35,640
Speaker 1: the funk he wants. Those are sex workers that you know.

829
00:39:35,680 --> 00:39:38,680
Speaker 1: It's that doesn't have any impact on your relationship. I

830
00:39:38,719 --> 00:39:42,240
Speaker 1: would really beseech you to not look through your partner's

831
00:39:42,280 --> 00:39:45,440
Speaker 1: phone unless you have a real fucking reason. It is

832
00:39:45,480 --> 00:39:49,080
Speaker 1: a very toxic thing to do, and it will completely

833
00:39:49,600 --> 00:39:52,279
Speaker 1: disassemble a relationship when you do that, because you're going

834
00:39:52,320 --> 00:39:55,280
Speaker 1: to find something to bring up. You're going to find something,

835
00:39:55,480 --> 00:39:58,160
Speaker 1: and without that trust, it's almost like you have no

836
00:39:58,239 --> 00:40:00,640
Speaker 1: foundation when you pick up someone else's phone to look

837
00:40:00,640 --> 00:40:04,200
Speaker 1: through their stuff, you know, without a real reason, without

838
00:40:04,239 --> 00:40:07,240
Speaker 1: something really concrete to go Wait a second, something fishy

839
00:40:07,360 --> 00:40:09,800
Speaker 1: is happening here. You know, it's none of your business

840
00:40:09,880 --> 00:40:12,520
Speaker 1: what's in his phone. It's not And in order to

841
00:40:12,560 --> 00:40:15,160
Speaker 1: have a real, loving relationship, there has to be respect

842
00:40:15,480 --> 00:40:19,440
Speaker 1: and trust, and you have to stop doing that. I agree,

843
00:40:19,560 --> 00:40:22,280
Speaker 1: and I think, listen, you can't go back. So let's

844
00:40:22,320 --> 00:40:25,319
Speaker 1: just stay. You went went through his phone, and I

845
00:40:25,320 --> 00:40:28,239
Speaker 1: think clearly whether it was from your past relationship, that's

846
00:40:28,239 --> 00:40:30,560
Speaker 1: why you did it, because you've trust issues, or you

847
00:40:30,680 --> 00:40:33,759
Speaker 1: also had a weird feeling about your partner. Now number one,

848
00:40:33,760 --> 00:40:36,000
Speaker 1: that's an indicator you're not in a healthy relationship if

849
00:40:36,000 --> 00:40:38,160
Speaker 1: you don't trust your partner. But let's say, now, okay,

850
00:40:38,200 --> 00:40:40,160
Speaker 1: you look through the phone, you brought it up to him.

851
00:40:40,200 --> 00:40:42,839
Speaker 1: My advice would be that you have a follow up

852
00:40:42,880 --> 00:40:45,799
Speaker 1: phone call like FaceTime him and be like, Hey, I've

853
00:40:45,800 --> 00:40:48,960
Speaker 1: been thinking and I want to first apologize because I

854
00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:52,200
Speaker 1: feel really shitty that I went through your phone, and

855
00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:54,839
Speaker 1: I will admit part of that is on me and

856
00:40:54,920 --> 00:40:57,600
Speaker 1: my baggage and my trust issues of I I did

857
00:40:57,600 --> 00:40:59,759
Speaker 1: that in a past relationship and I found ship that

858
00:40:59,800 --> 00:41:01,719
Speaker 1: I didn't want to see, and so it almost like

859
00:41:02,000 --> 00:41:04,239
Speaker 1: reinforced that I should look through because I'm going to

860
00:41:04,320 --> 00:41:06,440
Speaker 1: find the hurt and I'm gonna find out the truth

861
00:41:06,480 --> 00:41:08,759
Speaker 1: that you're lying to me. What I want to say

862
00:41:08,840 --> 00:41:11,160
Speaker 1: is this, I want this relationship to work, and I

863
00:41:11,200 --> 00:41:13,160
Speaker 1: want to better myself, and I want to be honest

864
00:41:13,200 --> 00:41:17,240
Speaker 1: with you. I promise to never look through your stuff again.

865
00:41:17,680 --> 00:41:20,080
Speaker 1: I think all I can ask though from you, because

866
00:41:20,120 --> 00:41:22,359
Speaker 1: it did make me a little insecure to see what

867
00:41:22,440 --> 00:41:24,560
Speaker 1: you've may be done in the past, that if you're

868
00:41:24,560 --> 00:41:28,680
Speaker 1: having any type of feelings or desires or your feel

869
00:41:28,719 --> 00:41:32,439
Speaker 1: like anything, just talk to me, because I would rather

870
00:41:32,560 --> 00:41:36,040
Speaker 1: you be honest with me than me regret now trusting

871
00:41:36,080 --> 00:41:37,600
Speaker 1: you and telling you I'm not going to ever look

872
00:41:37,600 --> 00:41:39,600
Speaker 1: through your stuff again and then you go and cheat.

873
00:41:39,680 --> 00:41:41,960
Speaker 1: So I think if we can just have an open communication,

874
00:41:42,000 --> 00:41:44,200
Speaker 1: but I'll be honest, it made me insecure and I

875
00:41:44,239 --> 00:41:46,360
Speaker 1: want to own it because I hate how I'm feeling

876
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:48,200
Speaker 1: right now, and I just want to tell you that

877
00:41:48,360 --> 00:41:51,480
Speaker 1: I think he'll really respect that you're owning your ship.

878
00:41:51,920 --> 00:41:54,239
Speaker 1: But you're also asking, like, hey, meet me a little

879
00:41:54,239 --> 00:41:57,000
Speaker 1: bit in the middle, because I've got some trust issues

880
00:41:57,080 --> 00:41:59,279
Speaker 1: and I want this to work, but I also don't

881
00:41:59,320 --> 00:42:01,440
Speaker 1: want to feel out like I'm going to get sucked

882
00:42:01,480 --> 00:42:05,279
Speaker 1: over for trusting you. And hopefully, if it's a good relationship,

883
00:42:05,520 --> 00:42:08,520
Speaker 1: he'll reassure you and be like, I haven't done this

884
00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:10,960
Speaker 1: because I'm in love with you, and I don't need

885
00:42:11,000 --> 00:42:14,000
Speaker 1: an escort right now because I'm with you, And so

886
00:42:14,040 --> 00:42:16,080
Speaker 1: I think hopefully you'll get the answer you want. But

887
00:42:16,160 --> 00:42:18,520
Speaker 1: I will say if he doesn't give you a reassuring

888
00:42:18,520 --> 00:42:21,600
Speaker 1: answer and he's like, yeah, sure, I get like, then

889
00:42:21,640 --> 00:42:23,400
Speaker 1: you also have to look internally of what do you

890
00:42:23,440 --> 00:42:25,759
Speaker 1: need in a relationship to feel fulfilled and maybe he

891
00:42:25,880 --> 00:42:29,440
Speaker 1: doesn't have the same type of attachment styles, etcetera to

892
00:42:29,520 --> 00:42:32,239
Speaker 1: make you feel secure in a relationship. Yeah, and this

893
00:42:32,280 --> 00:42:34,560
Speaker 1: guy went out of his way, you know, a month

894
00:42:34,640 --> 00:42:36,719
Speaker 1: in when you guys are just getting to know each

895
00:42:36,719 --> 00:42:38,759
Speaker 1: other to like spill all his ship to you, Like

896
00:42:39,000 --> 00:42:41,480
Speaker 1: he was super upfront with that stuff, So like this

897
00:42:41,520 --> 00:42:43,040
Speaker 1: isn't even the guy. I think you need to be

898
00:42:43,040 --> 00:42:45,560
Speaker 1: looking at his phone right like he's he's giving it

899
00:42:45,600 --> 00:42:48,880
Speaker 1: all to you already. Something that might help shift your

900
00:42:48,880 --> 00:42:51,520
Speaker 1: perspective a little bit on just like maybe feeling kind

901
00:42:51,520 --> 00:42:54,400
Speaker 1: of weird about like his hired sex workers. Private Parts

902
00:42:54,480 --> 00:42:57,239
Speaker 1: Unknown as a podcast and they did an episode. It's

903
00:42:57,280 --> 00:42:59,960
Speaker 1: two women who host it, and they did an EPI

904
00:43:00,000 --> 00:43:01,960
Speaker 1: said where they were out of the country somewhere where

905
00:43:01,960 --> 00:43:06,160
Speaker 1: it's legal, and they visited messours who did happy endings.

906
00:43:06,480 --> 00:43:09,200
Speaker 1: They both got happy endings. They have gotten approval from

907
00:43:09,239 --> 00:43:12,759
Speaker 1: their partners to do this, and it really shifted my

908
00:43:12,800 --> 00:43:15,640
Speaker 1: perspective on like what that experience is really like. But

909
00:43:15,760 --> 00:43:17,840
Speaker 1: it might be worth a lesson just to help you

910
00:43:17,880 --> 00:43:21,719
Speaker 1: serve some clarity. Yeah, good advice. Yeah yeah yeah, because

911
00:43:21,719 --> 00:43:25,319
Speaker 1: that's definitely I'm happy with the direction that the call went.

912
00:43:25,480 --> 00:43:29,160
Speaker 1: That it's keeping myself in check and and looking like

913
00:43:29,320 --> 00:43:32,479
Speaker 1: inward at at the mistakes I've made in this. But

914
00:43:32,600 --> 00:43:35,960
Speaker 1: that's definitely also one of the reasons I had written

915
00:43:35,960 --> 00:43:38,279
Speaker 1: into it is just like my general feelings and like

916
00:43:38,400 --> 00:43:41,640
Speaker 1: confusion over how I'm feeling, and I've definitely been trying

917
00:43:41,640 --> 00:43:45,040
Speaker 1: to do more research into it and ask people who

918
00:43:45,040 --> 00:43:48,799
Speaker 1: have maybe experienced this before and how they chose to

919
00:43:48,840 --> 00:43:51,000
Speaker 1: see it. I think, listen, I think it really does

920
00:43:51,080 --> 00:43:53,919
Speaker 1: come down to insecurity, and I I can relate. It's

921
00:43:53,960 --> 00:43:56,520
Speaker 1: almost the same as when you see the current boyfriend

922
00:43:56,560 --> 00:43:59,319
Speaker 1: you have or your partner whoever you see their X

923
00:43:59,360 --> 00:44:02,080
Speaker 1: and you're like pairing yourself and you're stressing out and

924
00:44:02,120 --> 00:44:03,799
Speaker 1: oh my god, am I not enough? And am I

925
00:44:03,840 --> 00:44:06,359
Speaker 1: as good in the bedroom? All that stuff. You have

926
00:44:06,480 --> 00:44:09,200
Speaker 1: to find a lot of this could be fixed by

927
00:44:09,239 --> 00:44:11,759
Speaker 1: you actually focusing on yourself and taking the focus off

928
00:44:11,760 --> 00:44:15,000
Speaker 1: of him, work on yourself. Are you insecure about yourself?

929
00:44:15,200 --> 00:44:17,799
Speaker 1: What do you think is triggering you so much about this?

930
00:44:18,080 --> 00:44:20,960
Speaker 1: And that actually should give you some power back of like,

931
00:44:21,320 --> 00:44:24,320
Speaker 1: if you feel good, if you are reading the signs correctly,

932
00:44:24,360 --> 00:44:26,600
Speaker 1: if you are not being shady, if you're being honest

933
00:44:26,640 --> 00:44:29,240
Speaker 1: in this relationship and you feel like it's being given

934
00:44:29,280 --> 00:44:31,560
Speaker 1: back to you, that's all you have to worry about.

935
00:44:31,640 --> 00:44:33,640
Speaker 1: And then your own baggage you should deal with on

936
00:44:33,680 --> 00:44:37,880
Speaker 1: the side and not let it affect your new relationship. Yeah, totally,

937
00:44:38,080 --> 00:44:43,479
Speaker 1: thank you, but no more looking through his phone. No, no, no, no,

938
00:44:43,880 --> 00:44:47,560
Speaker 1: it's a bad habit. I need to stop. Yeah, I'll

939
00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:50,359
Speaker 1: call him probably, And also I'm going to Thailand with

940
00:44:50,440 --> 00:44:56,120
Speaker 1: him in a week. I'm hoping. Yeah, some good conversations there. Yeah,

941
00:44:56,239 --> 00:44:58,360
Speaker 1: good conversations give him the benefit of the doubt. And

942
00:44:58,400 --> 00:45:00,719
Speaker 1: also when you operate out of like a higher level

943
00:45:01,239 --> 00:45:04,600
Speaker 1: of existence by not reducing yourself to going through his phone,

944
00:45:04,800 --> 00:45:07,000
Speaker 1: you're going to get a different energetic reaction from him

945
00:45:07,040 --> 00:45:12,800
Speaker 1: as well. It's not hot when somebody's paranoid, that's not sexy. Yeah,

946
00:45:13,160 --> 00:45:15,200
Speaker 1: you got a good dude, So let us know how

947
00:45:15,200 --> 00:45:17,640
Speaker 1: it goes. And if you have a deeper conversation with him,

948
00:45:17,680 --> 00:45:19,680
Speaker 1: and maybe this can lead to and maybe you can

949
00:45:19,760 --> 00:45:25,520
Speaker 1: enjoy your own escort. And I know, honestly, I started

950
00:45:25,560 --> 00:45:28,840
Speaker 1: like looking at I just wanted to look up profiles online.

951
00:45:29,239 --> 00:45:32,200
Speaker 1: Keep an open mind. Maybe you guys can thrickle up. Yeah,

952
00:45:32,480 --> 00:45:35,200
Speaker 1: like who's doing this and who are these people available?

953
00:45:35,400 --> 00:45:40,919
Speaker 1: The world is your oyster? All right? Thanks Sandra guy,

954
00:45:41,320 --> 00:45:45,600
Speaker 1: Bye bye bye. She's gonna enjoy her happy ending massage

955
00:45:45,640 --> 00:45:48,279
Speaker 1: in Thailand. I might just go to Thailand for that

956
00:45:48,400 --> 00:45:50,759
Speaker 1: massage because I wouldn't mind. I mean, I was had

957
00:45:50,760 --> 00:45:53,600
Speaker 1: a friend who told us some MASSU said Bicara went

958
00:45:53,719 --> 00:45:56,520
Speaker 1: down on her and I was like what, I'm like,

959
00:45:56,680 --> 00:45:59,560
Speaker 1: that happens to women, and she's like yeah, yeah. All

960
00:45:59,560 --> 00:46:01,759
Speaker 1: of a sudden was just like fiddling with me. And

961
00:46:01,840 --> 00:46:03,560
Speaker 1: then he asked if it was okay for him to

962
00:46:03,640 --> 00:46:06,799
Speaker 1: go down on me, and I was like, I want

963
00:46:06,840 --> 00:46:09,640
Speaker 1: that mosture. I'm open to any sort of that kind

964
00:46:09,680 --> 00:46:12,080
Speaker 1: of action during a massage, like if you want to

965
00:46:12,120 --> 00:46:14,400
Speaker 1: go down, I mean, I have no fucking problem with that.

966
00:46:14,719 --> 00:46:20,960
Speaker 1: F y I for all the messiuses that are out here. Well,

967
00:46:21,000 --> 00:46:24,440
Speaker 1: our last question comes from a She says, Dear Chelsea,

968
00:46:25,040 --> 00:46:27,040
Speaker 1: I need your help finding the right way to exit

969
00:46:27,120 --> 00:46:29,960
Speaker 1: a group chat. This chat consists of nine of my

970
00:46:30,080 --> 00:46:32,719
Speaker 1: college friends were now in our mid thirties. The chat

971
00:46:32,800 --> 00:46:34,719
Speaker 1: started a few years ago and used to be fun,

972
00:46:34,880 --> 00:46:37,560
Speaker 1: but has devolved into mostly a few people going back

973
00:46:37,600 --> 00:46:40,800
Speaker 1: and forth about their own personal circumstances. What one husband

974
00:46:40,840 --> 00:46:43,560
Speaker 1: did that's annoying, what one person's kid made at camp,

975
00:46:43,719 --> 00:46:46,759
Speaker 1: or what kind of cosmetics someone tried out. There's never

976
00:46:46,840 --> 00:46:50,200
Speaker 1: anything substantial or frankly interesting. I should add that I

977
00:46:50,239 --> 00:46:52,360
Speaker 1: don't think I've been personally addressed in the chat for

978
00:46:52,440 --> 00:46:54,879
Speaker 1: at least a year. Most of the banter that takes

979
00:46:54,920 --> 00:46:56,600
Speaker 1: place will happen in the middle of the work day,

980
00:46:56,680 --> 00:46:59,520
Speaker 1: and I work full time, so the messages are very disruptive.

981
00:47:00,000 --> 00:47:01,839
Speaker 1: I muted it a long time ago, but of course

982
00:47:01,880 --> 00:47:04,040
Speaker 1: when I opened my messages and say there's eighty nine

983
00:47:04,120 --> 00:47:06,840
Speaker 1: on red texts, I either feel guilty or mean by

984
00:47:06,920 --> 00:47:09,520
Speaker 1: clicking open and just clear the inbox, or I end

985
00:47:09,600 --> 00:47:12,040
Speaker 1: up reading the messages out of guilt and regret doing

986
00:47:12,160 --> 00:47:14,560
Speaker 1: so once I've wasted my time and brain space to

987
00:47:14,640 --> 00:47:17,560
Speaker 1: do so. I'm currently only close with one girl in

988
00:47:17,640 --> 00:47:19,920
Speaker 1: the chat. By the way, she hates it too. I

989
00:47:20,040 --> 00:47:21,839
Speaker 1: really want to leave the chat. No one will miss

990
00:47:21,960 --> 00:47:24,200
Speaker 1: my presence because I barely reply as it is, But

991
00:47:24,320 --> 00:47:26,479
Speaker 1: I know that by leaving it comes off as rude

992
00:47:26,560 --> 00:47:29,480
Speaker 1: and mean. How do I do this? I don't dislike anyone,

993
00:47:29,600 --> 00:47:33,000
Speaker 1: and I don't want to offend anyone. Thanks A Oh,

994
00:47:34,200 --> 00:47:35,680
Speaker 1: I don't know. I would say, I was going to

995
00:47:35,760 --> 00:47:38,000
Speaker 1: say mute them, but then you have still have it

996
00:47:38,080 --> 00:47:41,640
Speaker 1: in your in box. I think when you have something

997
00:47:41,800 --> 00:47:44,279
Speaker 1: that's annoying you in your life, and the fact that

998
00:47:44,320 --> 00:47:47,080
Speaker 1: you said no one's going to miss you leave that ship,

999
00:47:47,520 --> 00:47:49,480
Speaker 1: and the fact that you also had the one person

1000
00:47:49,560 --> 00:47:51,800
Speaker 1: that you care about also hates it. The two of

1001
00:47:51,880 --> 00:47:55,040
Speaker 1: you leave together, be like five, six, seven eight, pressed

1002
00:47:55,080 --> 00:47:57,040
Speaker 1: the button and get the funk out of there. I

1003
00:47:57,160 --> 00:47:59,200
Speaker 1: just feel like when you get to a certain point

1004
00:47:59,239 --> 00:48:01,080
Speaker 1: in your life, esp actually, if you're not in college

1005
00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:03,360
Speaker 1: and you're surrounded by like groups of people that you

1006
00:48:03,440 --> 00:48:05,840
Speaker 1: have to see every day, who if something is not

1007
00:48:06,120 --> 00:48:08,440
Speaker 1: making you happy and it's annoying you and it actually

1008
00:48:08,480 --> 00:48:10,840
Speaker 1: makes you feel worse about yourself, goodbye. Yeah, And you

1009
00:48:10,920 --> 00:48:13,080
Speaker 1: can also just preface it if you really want to

1010
00:48:13,120 --> 00:48:15,279
Speaker 1: like feel good about it, being like, hey, guys, I'm sorry,

1011
00:48:15,280 --> 00:48:17,440
Speaker 1: I'm going to exit this chat now. I have so

1012
00:48:17,640 --> 00:48:19,839
Speaker 1: much work to do during the day. It's become kind

1013
00:48:19,880 --> 00:48:22,600
Speaker 1: of a distraction. Just make up some bullshit. If you

1014
00:48:22,640 --> 00:48:24,360
Speaker 1: don't want to, just say so and so, you know,

1015
00:48:24,360 --> 00:48:26,719
Speaker 1: because it comes up so and so exited the group.

1016
00:48:27,160 --> 00:48:30,360
Speaker 1: From my personal experience, I've exited so many groups and

1017
00:48:30,560 --> 00:48:34,200
Speaker 1: just said I'm leaving now goodbye without any explanation, and

1018
00:48:34,280 --> 00:48:35,960
Speaker 1: I have to tell you it is and own us

1019
00:48:36,000 --> 00:48:37,560
Speaker 1: off your back. I don't want to deal with all

1020
00:48:37,600 --> 00:48:40,480
Speaker 1: that ship. So I mean, you're you should just get

1021
00:48:40,520 --> 00:48:41,919
Speaker 1: out of it. And if you want to do it nicely,

1022
00:48:42,000 --> 00:48:43,600
Speaker 1: do it nicely. And if you want to just leave it,

1023
00:48:43,680 --> 00:48:46,560
Speaker 1: leave it. Who cares. It's not a huge life decision,

1024
00:48:46,840 --> 00:48:49,000
Speaker 1: just you know, make your life a little bit more simpler.

1025
00:48:49,200 --> 00:48:53,120
Speaker 1: I also think that if you're feeling this way, a

1026
00:48:53,239 --> 00:48:55,239
Speaker 1: lot of people in that group chat are feeling this way.

1027
00:48:55,400 --> 00:48:58,399
Speaker 1: The fact that it's been lingering for years and people

1028
00:48:58,440 --> 00:49:01,680
Speaker 1: are like, it's like dusty comments of like hey, guys,

1029
00:49:01,880 --> 00:49:04,040
Speaker 1: like got back from walking the kid and like me

1030
00:49:04,120 --> 00:49:06,120
Speaker 1: and my husband haven't had sex in three months, like

1031
00:49:06,200 --> 00:49:08,279
Speaker 1: any like get the funk out of here. Just I

1032
00:49:08,400 --> 00:49:09,920
Speaker 1: think you should leave or I agree, just like leave

1033
00:49:09,920 --> 00:49:12,120
Speaker 1: a little note like super busy, wish you all the best,

1034
00:49:12,200 --> 00:49:17,120
Speaker 1: like love you, guys. This line is for work. Calls

1035
00:49:17,200 --> 00:49:19,560
Speaker 1: love you by pizza, and then your other friend can

1036
00:49:19,680 --> 00:49:21,400
Speaker 1: leave and the other six girls who are not the

1037
00:49:21,480 --> 00:49:24,880
Speaker 1: three girls who keep totally totally well, there you go.

1038
00:49:25,080 --> 00:49:28,160
Speaker 1: A it is Alexandra. You're not your full name. It

1039
00:49:28,320 --> 00:49:30,239
Speaker 1: is Alexander. Would be so funny if it wasn't, and

1040
00:49:30,280 --> 00:49:32,600
Speaker 1: I just kept calling you know it is Okay, We're

1041
00:49:32,600 --> 00:49:34,200
Speaker 1: gonna take a quick break and we'll be right back

1042
00:49:38,280 --> 00:49:41,279
Speaker 1: and we're back. All right, Well we're here to wrap up.

1043
00:49:41,320 --> 00:49:44,719
Speaker 1: But Alex, do you have any advice you'd like from Chelsea? Oh,

1044
00:49:44,880 --> 00:49:48,040
Speaker 1: my gosh, I actually think we can expand a little

1045
00:49:48,080 --> 00:49:50,520
Speaker 1: bit on I know you started Chelsea Lately and it

1046
00:49:50,640 --> 00:49:54,400
Speaker 1: was gossip and celebrities and obviously comedy, and then as

1047
00:49:54,480 --> 00:49:58,960
Speaker 1: your career progressed, you started getting vocal about things that

1048
00:49:59,200 --> 00:50:01,400
Speaker 1: mattered and that you can aired about. And I can

1049
00:50:01,480 --> 00:50:03,680
Speaker 1: assume that there were some people probably that were like,

1050
00:50:03,800 --> 00:50:05,480
Speaker 1: stay in your lane, bitch, just make us laugh and

1051
00:50:05,520 --> 00:50:08,880
Speaker 1: shut the funk up. I love say that's so casually.

1052
00:50:08,880 --> 00:50:11,000
Speaker 1: I like, that's the exact quotes that I've been getting lately.

1053
00:50:11,400 --> 00:50:14,400
Speaker 1: How did you handle that? And like did it? Did it?

1054
00:50:14,480 --> 00:50:17,319
Speaker 1: Do you think it affected your career in any way? Well,

1055
00:50:17,400 --> 00:50:19,640
Speaker 1: when I got really political, yeah, I'm sure it had

1056
00:50:19,640 --> 00:50:21,680
Speaker 1: a negative impact on my career because people I was

1057
00:50:21,760 --> 00:50:23,960
Speaker 1: when when Trump got elected, I just could not I

1058
00:50:24,120 --> 00:50:27,239
Speaker 1: was just at my I just lost it, Like I mean,

1059
00:50:27,440 --> 00:50:29,680
Speaker 1: I was so angry that this country could elect such

1060
00:50:29,680 --> 00:50:31,960
Speaker 1: a buffoon that I couldn't deal with it. And I'm

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Speaker 1: sure that it did have a negative impact on my

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00:50:34,200 --> 00:50:37,600
Speaker 1: career because my manager told me, you're ruining your career,

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Speaker 1: but I didn't care because you know, I I believe

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00:50:41,840 --> 00:50:44,360
Speaker 1: in myself and I knew that this was more important

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00:50:44,360 --> 00:50:47,040
Speaker 1: to me. That was the most paramount thing. People still

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00:50:47,120 --> 00:50:49,320
Speaker 1: say that to me today, People still say, oh, you

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00:50:49,480 --> 00:50:51,960
Speaker 1: used to be funny before you got into politics. It's like, bitch,

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00:50:51,960 --> 00:50:54,800
Speaker 1: I have a special coming out in December. It's fucking

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00:50:54,920 --> 00:50:56,759
Speaker 1: and I just got nominated for a Grammy for my

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00:50:56,840 --> 00:50:59,160
Speaker 1: last special, So I'm still fucking funny. How So, I

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00:50:59,239 --> 00:51:02,160
Speaker 1: actually am multidimensional and I can care about a million

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00:51:02,200 --> 00:51:04,400
Speaker 1: different things at the same time, and I would challenge

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00:51:04,440 --> 00:51:06,759
Speaker 1: you to do the fucking same thing. Instead of thinking

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00:51:06,840 --> 00:51:09,319
Speaker 1: that people are here for one purpose and one purpose only,

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00:51:09,719 --> 00:51:13,720
Speaker 1: we have a multitude of things to offer, and everybody's multidimensional.

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Speaker 1: And whenever I see comments like that now, it just

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00:51:16,760 --> 00:51:20,560
Speaker 1: makes me want to be louder about the things. Negative

1078
00:51:20,880 --> 00:51:24,520
Speaker 1: comments about me are irrelevant. They're just irrelevant. I've spent

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00:51:24,640 --> 00:51:26,840
Speaker 1: too much time in the public eye to let that

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00:51:27,000 --> 00:51:29,399
Speaker 1: affect me. I'm not here for the people that don't

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00:51:29,440 --> 00:51:31,600
Speaker 1: like me. I'm here for the people that do. I

1082
00:51:31,800 --> 00:51:34,520
Speaker 1: love that because I obviously look up to you so much,

1083
00:51:34,600 --> 00:51:38,680
Speaker 1: and I have been obviously lightly stepping into just talking

1084
00:51:38,719 --> 00:51:41,839
Speaker 1: about things that matter. My first thing was literally human rights,

1085
00:51:41,880 --> 00:51:44,560
Speaker 1: and everyone's like, what the fucky little slut you're getting political?

1086
00:51:44,800 --> 00:51:46,320
Speaker 1: Tell us how to funk a dick, and I'm like,

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00:51:46,560 --> 00:51:50,560
Speaker 1: oh my god, like relax. It's so frustrating to see

1088
00:51:50,600 --> 00:51:53,520
Speaker 1: how angry people get when you step out of your lane.

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00:51:53,840 --> 00:51:56,239
Speaker 1: And it doesn't fully bother me, but it's more just

1090
00:51:56,560 --> 00:51:59,680
Speaker 1: frustrating to see how closed minded people are and how

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00:52:00,040 --> 00:52:02,359
Speaker 1: unable they are to listen to something that actually will

1092
00:52:02,360 --> 00:52:04,880
Speaker 1: fucking affect them. Like the amount of women that were like,

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00:52:05,719 --> 00:52:07,640
Speaker 1: why are you getting political? I'm like, do you not

1094
00:52:07,800 --> 00:52:10,439
Speaker 1: want to have an abortion? If you get I don't

1095
00:52:10,480 --> 00:52:12,160
Speaker 1: want the baby? Like, like, what are we up to

1096
00:52:12,360 --> 00:52:14,759
Speaker 1: over here, ladies. It's also such bullshit to be like

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00:52:15,000 --> 00:52:17,160
Speaker 1: that's your lane. Your lane is you only get to

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00:52:17,200 --> 00:52:19,680
Speaker 1: talk about sex stuff. I don't like that when your

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00:52:19,800 --> 00:52:23,120
Speaker 1: lane no one has one lane. That's so limiting. We're

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00:52:23,160 --> 00:52:26,960
Speaker 1: not here for one lane. We're swerving. Yeah, yeah, we're swerving.

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00:52:27,160 --> 00:52:29,239
Speaker 1: Some of us are on the shoulder, some of us

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00:52:29,239 --> 00:52:31,520
Speaker 1: are getting pulled over. You know. We have ton of tones,

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00:52:31,560 --> 00:52:34,799
Speaker 1: so many lanes, and that I feel like it's limiting too.

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00:52:34,840 --> 00:52:37,080
Speaker 1: I remember Dax and Christen. We were talking about that

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00:52:37,160 --> 00:52:39,279
Speaker 1: because Dax is like, just stay in your lane, and

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00:52:39,960 --> 00:52:42,840
Speaker 1: I could understand the validity of that because she was

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00:52:42,880 --> 00:52:46,560
Speaker 1: comparing herself to other actresses writing different opportunities. But at

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00:52:46,560 --> 00:52:49,080
Speaker 1: the same time, I'm like, well, no, that's limiting. None

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00:52:49,120 --> 00:52:51,320
Speaker 1: of us have one lane. We all have things to

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00:52:51,440 --> 00:52:55,200
Speaker 1: offer and let people. It's important to care about other

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00:52:55,520 --> 00:52:58,479
Speaker 1: people than yourself, and I think when you're outspoken about

1112
00:52:58,480 --> 00:53:02,319
Speaker 1: anything political or anything that's happening in society, you are.

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00:53:02,760 --> 00:53:06,520
Speaker 1: I feel very responsible and like it's mandatory. I feel

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00:53:06,600 --> 00:53:10,480
Speaker 1: that way. So yeah, I just don't Yeah, well, father Cooper,

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Speaker 1: you did a great job today and you're a real

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00:53:13,920 --> 00:53:19,040
Speaker 1: solid addition to this PODT Yeah guys, yeah, back. I mean, yeah,

1117
00:53:19,239 --> 00:53:21,480
Speaker 1: we're gonna call you when we have a cancelation and

1118
00:53:21,560 --> 00:53:23,800
Speaker 1: we're just gonna come over to your house. Are you

1119
00:53:23,840 --> 00:53:25,719
Speaker 1: still living in that house that I came to you?

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00:53:25,840 --> 00:53:28,120
Speaker 1: I'm not good I'm doing. You came when I hadn't

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00:53:28,239 --> 00:53:29,680
Speaker 1: have a pocket spot. I was like, do you have

1122
00:53:29,719 --> 00:53:33,720
Speaker 1: a driveway? She's like not really, Like what I had nothing?

1123
00:53:33,800 --> 00:53:35,640
Speaker 1: I was mortified. And you would sit on the couch

1124
00:53:35,640 --> 00:53:37,000
Speaker 1: and you couldn't get comfortable and you were in your

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00:53:37,080 --> 00:53:40,080
Speaker 1: dress the whole thing. No, I'm I have a different place.

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00:53:40,120 --> 00:53:41,360
Speaker 1: Now you should come over, you should come on, call

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00:53:41,360 --> 00:53:43,919
Speaker 1: her daddy. Let's do it. Let's do it. Be so fun.

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Speaker 1: Everyone loves you. When you came on, it was, it

1129
00:53:46,120 --> 00:53:48,040
Speaker 1: was amazing. Well, this will be an even better interview

1130
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Speaker 1: now that I know who you are. You will high

1131
00:53:50,960 --> 00:53:58,840
Speaker 1: or you will together. Yeah, let's do it it Okay,

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Speaker 1: thank you Alex Cooper. We love you. Thank you guys,

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Speaker 1: Thanks Catherine. Thanks, don't forget to watch my special on Netflix.

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Speaker 1: You guys revolution. It's a revolution. So if you'd like

1135
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Speaker 1: advice from Chelsea, just send us an email at Dear

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Speaker 1: Chelsea podcast at gmail dot com. Dear Chelsea is a

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Speaker 1: production of I Heart Radio. Executive produced by Nick Stuff,

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Speaker 1: produced by Catherine Law, and edited and engineered by Brad Dickert.