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Speaker 1: It is strawberry letter, subject, I don't want to share

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Speaker 1: my cookie. Dear Stephen Shirley. I have been married to

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Speaker 1: my wife for fifteen years and we have two beautiful kids.

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Speaker 1: We grew up in the church and we have stained

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Speaker 1: or drink alcohol, and we are active in our church.

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Speaker 1: But lately, my wife is showing me a side of

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Speaker 1: her that I've never seen. She's revealing who she really is,

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Speaker 1: and I'm starting to wonder who I'm married. She had

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Speaker 1: a health scare recently, and she said it really shook

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Speaker 1: to live the rest of her life. She told me

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Speaker 1: that she would like for us to have a more

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Speaker 1: open relationship. She wants to remain married, but she wants

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Speaker 1: the freedom to engage in sex with others if she

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Speaker 1: wants to. She thinks that monogamy. Monogamy is unnatural and

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Speaker 1: it keeps people from exploring and being who they truly are.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what has gotten into her. Yes, I

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Speaker 1: could admit at the thought of this excites me a

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Speaker 1: little bit, but I never would think about asking my

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Speaker 1: relationships are being discussed more than ever before, but I'm

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Speaker 1: not with that. I cannot imagine sharing this woman with

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Speaker 1: another man or woman. I do want her to be

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Speaker 1: happy so we can keep our family together. What if

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Speaker 1: I tell my wife no and she ends up having

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Speaker 1: What do I do? Please? Help? Oh? I mean, I

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Speaker 1: know that there are many couples in open relationships these days,

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Speaker 1: but this right here is a mess. I mean, I

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Speaker 1: just think it's nothing like marrying a representative and not

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Speaker 1: the real person. And you would think that after fifteen years,

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Speaker 1: We're talking fifteen years, you would literally know your wife

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Speaker 1: inside and out. But you know, you didn't say what

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Speaker 1: kind of health scare she had. I'm going to assume

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Speaker 1: it was life threatening since she is a completely different

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Speaker 1: person now who feels, you know, she's missing out on

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Speaker 1: something and she wants to try an open relationship. Now.

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Speaker 1: I just think your response, though, is right on point,

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Speaker 1: because you know you just don't just I don't know

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Speaker 1: any man. I'll put it like that, who would put

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Speaker 1: with allowing his wife to have sex with other people,

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Speaker 1: men or women. I just don't know that even though,

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Speaker 1: like you said, you thought about it. I mean a

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Speaker 1: lot of people probably thought about it. Everybody fantasizes. She

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Speaker 1: says she wants to remain married, though, but be free

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Speaker 1: to sleep around. Why stay married if that's what you

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Speaker 1: want to do. If you want to be free, be

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Speaker 1: free all the way. And yes, I do think that

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Speaker 1: she would have an affair if you said no, because

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Speaker 1: it's on her mind and she's talking to you about it.

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Speaker 1: She seems too unapologetic about doing things, you know, unremorseful. Steve, Well,

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Speaker 1: when we come back, we'll get into it. Okay, My

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Speaker 1: aunts are gonna be different, all right, Okay, I can

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Speaker 1: promise you all right, why was y'all? I'll come back

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Speaker 1: for this, yeah, Stevens. Steven's here, Um and Carlin, don't

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Speaker 1: stop me. What about what I'm think to do? Not

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Speaker 1: to do something crazy? I think I think us. You

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Speaker 1: don't tell us why he was late. That's nothing to

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Speaker 1: do with the letter, h subject, I don't want to

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Speaker 1: share my cookie. We're gonna have Part two of Steve's responds,

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Speaker 1: and part one because he didn't even say anything. Later

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Speaker 1: been married for fifteen years. He grew up in the

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Speaker 1: Now they married your wife. You don't really know who

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Speaker 1: your wife is. You know, you've been married for fifteen years.

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Speaker 1: She's showing your side. You never saw um. She had

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Speaker 1: wanted to have more of an open relationship. You know,

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Speaker 1: wants to freedom to engage in sex with others, others

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Speaker 1: key word that's more than one man. She just wants

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Speaker 1: It really is a cookie to her, according to I

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Speaker 1: don't want to share my cookie. It's actually a pack

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Speaker 1: of oreoles. Because she want to go with others. She

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Speaker 1: She wants to do it with other men. Want to

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Speaker 1: she just to pick the oreole cookie, you eat this role,

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Speaker 1: you can have a role just ten. You just get ten.

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Speaker 1: And so I can admit that when she said that,

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Speaker 1: And open marriages are being discussed more than ever before.

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Speaker 1: I ain't with it, though. I cannot imagine sharing this

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Speaker 1: we can keep our family together. So what if I

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Speaker 1: I need some help with this with Steve. What do

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Speaker 1: I do? Well, let's go on back to this letter.

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Speaker 1: Let's first start with this damn health scale, because see

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Speaker 1: this way at all turn that she told you that

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Speaker 1: my wife's showing you aside that you ain't never seen.

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Speaker 1: You're starting to wonder who you're married too. She had

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Speaker 1: a health scare recently, and she said it really shook

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Speaker 1: her up and it made her reflect on how she

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Speaker 1: wanted to live the rest of her life. I'm going

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Speaker 1: to us soon that this health scale was some form

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Speaker 1: of ved what That's what I'm going with. You didn't

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Speaker 1: gave your latter response just to one I'm going with.

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Speaker 1: Come on, I could be just as right as you.

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Speaker 1: What health scale she didn't had? That that made her

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Speaker 1: her life, and the rest of her life she wants

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Speaker 1: to live is in an open marriage to have sex

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Speaker 1: with others? She didn't went somewhere. Now, let me explain

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Speaker 1: something to you. If y'all don't think that's true, just

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Speaker 1: stay with me. I'm offering as a solution to the

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Speaker 1: healthcare my analytical abilities. The cold cracker himself has come

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Speaker 1: up with the term venereal disease. Okay, okay, okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm going with that. Shelly, you didn't gave your Christian answer.

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Speaker 1: I'm a Christian too, but I'm more of an honest

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Speaker 1: right by the dotor Yeah, I'm a dupe Christian the volderline. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: she told me she would like for us having and

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Speaker 1: freedom to engage in sex with others if she wanted to. Now,

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Speaker 1: ain't nobody bought this to her man not having already

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Speaker 1: done it. What she didn't just thought it's best to

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Speaker 1: break She's done this before. Shit, she's already done it.

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Speaker 1: Thus the health scale. And then she thinks that monogamy

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Speaker 1: fifteen years of marriage, monogamy is unnatural. Yeah, y'all the

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Speaker 1: woman being in the church didn't have no sex for

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Speaker 1: you got married. That ain't natural. It's right, but it

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Speaker 1: ain't the natural order of things. And y'all all know that.

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Speaker 1: So you take that deep breath out so that seeing it,

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Speaker 1: I had to urge. Yeah, hell, I wanted my car

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Speaker 1: class teacher. Yo, what my card class teach? They're what

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Speaker 1: if you're every message every week was on a card. Yeah. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: So now I don't know what's gotten into her. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I can admit that the thought excites me a little

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Speaker 1: bit because he he won't to go too, but now

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Speaker 1: he could never think about asking his wife for this

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Speaker 1: type of arrangement. But she had thought to ask it

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Speaker 1: of him. She hadn't done this before. She just trying

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Speaker 1: to clear her conscious. This is how we're gonna roll

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Speaker 1: from now. Because monogamy is unnatural. Seems that open relationships

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Speaker 1: being discussed more I'm not with that, you mab you

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Speaker 1: won't fit to get with it. I cannot imagine sharing

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Speaker 1: this woman with another man or woman. Okay, cool, you

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Speaker 1: can't imagine it, but guess who can? Who bought this

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Speaker 1: up to you? I'm getting so this ain't This ain't

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Speaker 1: about what you can imagine. She didn't imagine it and

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Speaker 1: then thought it out so much she then bought it

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Speaker 1: to you with terms next issue. That's what's something wrong

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Speaker 1: with this, dude. I do want her to be happy, though,

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Speaker 1: I do want her to be happy so we can

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Speaker 1: keep our family together. Boy, what did you just say?

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Speaker 1: So now the band is already in. I do want

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Speaker 1: her to be happy though, so we can keep our

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Speaker 1: excitement that he felt for this open marriage and match

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Speaker 1: and work it out in his mind where she can

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Speaker 1: they down there fronting at the church like it's all good.

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Speaker 1: What you're gonna find out though, Boy, y'all gonna wind

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Speaker 1: up with somebody else down at the church. You're still

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Speaker 1: hot time, I'm definitely, I'm definitely hot. You're gonna end

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Speaker 1: up with sister Pattison. What norm No, I need some

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Speaker 1: help with distan Steve. What do I do? Please help?

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Speaker 1: First of all, man, I'm not my wife isn't sleeping nobody.

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Speaker 1: And when you're coming there with that foolishness, we bought

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Speaker 1: over the end. Yeah, yeah, we bought over the end

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Speaker 1: because if you're having them thoughts, I can tell you

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Speaker 1: right now because you're not coming in here sleeping in

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Speaker 1: this house I'm paying for man. Y'all at that pass

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Speaker 1: All right, Listen, we gotta get out of here. Steve,

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