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Speaker 1: Hi, miss up. What's up? Okay, this is reasonably shay dude.

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Speaker 1: I am Jaseelle Bryant. What's up?

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Speaker 2: What's up? I am Robin Dixon. Thank you so much

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Speaker 2: for joining us for our third episode.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I think we must be doing something right, Robin,

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Speaker 1: it's getting scary. We are.

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Speaker 2: And guess what what? We pressed record? Yes, and we

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Speaker 2: are recording. Yes, everything that we're saying. So last episode. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: we talked for like over ten minutes.

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Speaker 1: And Robin because it's her job to press record. Okay, fine,

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Speaker 1: it might be mine. Who knows if that didn't press it.

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Speaker 2: This is a collaborative effort. Okay, all right, all right.

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Speaker 2: It takes two Green Eye bandits to press record, all.

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Speaker 1: Right now, yes it does. But guess what, we will

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Speaker 1: never make that wrong a mistake again?

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Speaker 2: Oh no, because I was ready to quit, like I

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Speaker 2: was like, okay, my our podcast days are over.

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Speaker 1: Oh gosh. All right, so we have a wonderful like

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Speaker 1: we have a like explosive kind of episode tonight.

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Speaker 2: Yes, this is a fun topic. I think I know

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Speaker 2: you and I have a lot of input on it.

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Speaker 2: I know our listeners are going to be right there

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Speaker 2: with us. Yes, Yes, agreeing, having you know, same shared experiences,

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Speaker 2: all that good stuff.

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Speaker 1: Yes, And the topic tonight is or I don't know

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Speaker 1: if it's tonight, but the topic for this episode is, hey, girlfriend,

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Speaker 1: we're talking all things girlfriend. We're talking do we like them?

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Speaker 1: Do we hate them? Do we need new friends? We're

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Speaker 1: getting into it, we get into the girlfriend scenario.

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Speaker 2: Yes, because you know what, it's so weird, like it

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Speaker 2: doesn't matter how old we are.

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Speaker 1: Yes, it's still like.

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Speaker 2: Navigating the friendship world. It's still kind of awkward, you know.

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Speaker 2: You find out that, like, Okay, it doesn't matter how

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Speaker 2: old we are, people still have issues saying we still

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Speaker 2: need to be sensitive towards them.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, yes, But before we get into the episode,

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Speaker 1: of course, we have our reasonably shady moment of the week.

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Speaker 2: So I'm gonna go first, okay, And since the topic

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Speaker 2: is about girlfriends, yes, friends, this is going to be

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Speaker 2: centered around that. So so my reasonably shady moment goes

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Speaker 2: to myself, of course, and it's because I actually picked

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Speaker 2: up the phone, okay and called two of my friends,

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Speaker 2: you know, like nowadays, like you know, we just text,

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Speaker 2: you know, you might say, you know, hey, g are

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Speaker 2: you look cute on Instagram or something, but like you

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Speaker 2: to your friends these days, or certain ones or certain

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Speaker 2: friends with that talk all the time, like you and I,

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Speaker 2: yeah we talk all the time, right right, So this

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Speaker 2: is where the shady part comes in now.

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Speaker 1: Because I was confused. You just pick up the phone

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Speaker 1: call on your girlfriends. When is the shake coming in?

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Speaker 2: The shady part is it was like thirty seconds into

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Speaker 2: I don't.

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Speaker 1: Call because they was talking about nothing.

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Speaker 2: They was just a whining and a complaining, and it's like,

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Speaker 2: why I don't pick the phone up instantly. So you know, okay,

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Speaker 2: along those same lines, So you have some friends when

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Speaker 2: let's talk about this man, bad bad man. I'm off.

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Speaker 2: Then there's other friends that call and you're like, lord,

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Speaker 2: what does she want? I'm gonna god, I don't got time.

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Speaker 2: I can't do it right now. I'm cooking dinner. She's

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Speaker 2: just like, why.

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Speaker 1: So did you lie to her and make it an

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Speaker 2: No? And see that And this is the reasonable part.

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Speaker 2: I am a good friend, and I know sometimes my

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Speaker 1: Well Shady Gazelle would have been like, girl, oh my god,

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Speaker 2: It was actually when we went to the music video

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Speaker 2: that was a good hour and a half. Wow, yeah, okay, yeah, yeah, all.

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Speaker 1: Right, So my reasonably shady. Moment of the week is okay.

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Speaker 1: So I am a huge proponent of getting rid of

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Speaker 1: this thing called COVID. So I got myself a little

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Speaker 1: appointment and I got my first shot. My back scene

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Speaker 1: Giselle was flat on her back, Okay, I was. I

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Speaker 2: Of course? I am right that.

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Speaker 1: Do I think everybody should be vaccinated? Yes, I do.

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Speaker 1: But I just want to say the world is shady

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Speaker 2: I mean I heard some people say they have side effects.

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Speaker 2: You hear it all, Oh it's not that bad, Oh

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Speaker 1: Yes, well for me, it was bad, and I just

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Speaker 1: Now I did, after I got to shot, go out

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Speaker 1: don't need to talk about that anyway. Let's move into

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Speaker 2: Is that in the rule?

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Speaker 1: talk about our girlfriends. Hey girlfriend girl, how you doing? Okay? So,

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Speaker 1: first and foremost, at this point in time in our lives,

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Speaker 2: No new friends? How's it going? No new friends? No

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Speaker 1: I can't remember how it goes either rhyb and sing

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Speaker 1: the wrong song right now? Okay? So I do appreciate,

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Speaker 1: for instance, you and I, Robin we met later in life.

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Speaker 1: We did, and if I had the thought in my

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Speaker 2: So true.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So I don't want to block myself from new

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Speaker 1: never want to do that. However, these women out here

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Speaker 2: I think the older we get, the more you know,

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Speaker 2: but like I'm making friends with like the sports moms

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Speaker 2: it's something it's like, it's funny because you're like, Okay,

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Speaker 2: but because you're around them all the time, you're communicating

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Speaker 1: People, and that was episode one. If y'all miss that

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Speaker 1: Robin drinks with these women that she meets and they're

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Speaker 1: They have no idea what's happening. Okay, So another question

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Speaker 1: is when you meet these new people, do you google them?

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Speaker 2: Well, it depends, Okay, I feel like when you meet

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Speaker 2: where they live. Then yeah, I'm googling you, yes, right,

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Speaker 2: and I'm googling your house address.

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay, okay, I'm not going that far. But I

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Speaker 1: kind of feel like if you're in my personal space

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Speaker 1: what's gonna happen. The cops might come. I don't know

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Speaker 1: if you if you're a drug dealer girlfriend, if you

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Speaker 2: But that's not going to be on Google. Oh, it's

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Speaker 1: About it would be on Google because this has happened.

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Speaker 1: I had a friend and she had a case pending.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, and so that's a case.

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Speaker 2: Serch.

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Speaker 1: Oh well, I didn't it just ship. It just came

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Speaker 1: It was in the Washington Post. Okay, so it just

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Speaker 1: came up when I googled her and so so. Then

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Speaker 1: I knew. Okay, if I go out with her and

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Speaker 1: just have some drinks, there's a potential that somebody might

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Speaker 1: come that night lock her up.

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Speaker 2: True, But are you going to be doing illegal activity

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Speaker 1: No, I'm not doing any illegal activity. But I just

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Speaker 1: I like that.

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Speaker 1: That's that's coming up. I love that, okay, because I

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Speaker 1: But you know what I do?

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Speaker 2: Right, So so then that's a surface friend. Okay, yes, right, yes,

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Speaker 1: So and there's a friend that we both know and

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Speaker 1: Like when she was drinking. Oh, she was the life

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Speaker 2: I know. But then you have to worry about people

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Speaker 1: But see, that's not this is this is girlfriends. I'm

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Speaker 2: Yes, you do. Friend. Yeah, she's a surface friend.

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Speaker 1: Okay that whoever that is in your life, she's not

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Speaker 1: Right right now, do you feel like girlfriends tell you

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Speaker 1: to try to sleep with the dude I'm right now.

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00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:25,679
Speaker 1: Especially if she said her boyfriend was married, I'm always

437
00:20:25,680 --> 00:20:30,840
Speaker 1: feeling like you might try to sleep with I'm not married.

438
00:20:30,840 --> 00:20:33,359
Speaker 1: But you just you have no roles, you have no boundaries.

439
00:20:33,760 --> 00:20:34,680
Speaker 1: I need rolls.

440
00:20:35,040 --> 00:20:38,159
Speaker 2: Well, okay, So the question is, so you meet a

441
00:20:38,200 --> 00:20:42,080
Speaker 2: new friend, do you ask them what their home meter is?

442
00:20:42,280 --> 00:20:43,479
Speaker 1: No, you just listen.

443
00:20:43,480 --> 00:20:46,040
Speaker 2: When do you Okay, you just listen to the things

444
00:20:46,040 --> 00:20:50,080
Speaker 2: she starts proping questions, you ask yes.

445
00:20:50,200 --> 00:20:54,280
Speaker 1: You know, hey girl, you know you married? No? Who

446
00:20:54,280 --> 00:20:55,879
Speaker 1: you saying? Oh, I'm saying so and so.

447
00:20:56,200 --> 00:20:58,600
Speaker 2: But then this is another question that goes along with that. So,

448
00:20:58,640 --> 00:21:01,080
Speaker 2: if you are in a relationship, or if you're married

449
00:21:01,160 --> 00:21:04,080
Speaker 2: or in a relationship, do you even want to invite

450
00:21:04,200 --> 00:21:08,399
Speaker 2: new friends around that are single you know? Or do

451
00:21:08,480 --> 00:21:11,359
Speaker 2: you want most of your new friends to be in

452
00:21:11,440 --> 00:21:12,280
Speaker 2: a relationship?

453
00:21:12,800 --> 00:21:19,439
Speaker 1: Hmmm, you know the plot thick. I think I think

454
00:21:20,000 --> 00:21:23,840
Speaker 1: that yes, if I was married, I would want my

455
00:21:24,000 --> 00:21:26,879
Speaker 1: new girlfriends to also be married or in a like

456
00:21:26,920 --> 00:21:32,119
Speaker 1: significant relationship. I don't want no straggly single girls just around.

457
00:21:31,800 --> 00:21:33,920
Speaker 2: Right, because then that doesn't even work. So it's like, oh,

458
00:21:34,600 --> 00:21:36,960
Speaker 2: all right, honey, you're talking to your man. All right, honey,

459
00:21:36,960 --> 00:21:40,840
Speaker 2: I'm about to go out with Tracy. Who's Tracy? Oh?

460
00:21:41,400 --> 00:21:43,680
Speaker 1: Tracy, Tracy is my family? Can I play the part

461
00:21:43,680 --> 00:21:44,000
Speaker 1: of one?

462
00:21:44,080 --> 00:21:44,280
Speaker 2: Yeah?

463
00:21:44,320 --> 00:21:48,280
Speaker 1: Who's Tracy? I ain't never heard nobody named Tracy.

464
00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:51,240
Speaker 2: Well, I just met Tracy. We were at the mall

465
00:21:51,320 --> 00:21:53,679
Speaker 2: and I bumped into her and we were shopping, and like,

466
00:21:53,760 --> 00:21:56,120
Speaker 2: she just wants to hang out and where y'all going.

467
00:21:56,600 --> 00:22:00,760
Speaker 2: We're just gonna get some drinks. Mmm, what time you

468
00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:03,400
Speaker 2: coming back? I mean, I don't know. We'll be out

469
00:22:03,400 --> 00:22:04,560
Speaker 2: like a couple of hours.

470
00:22:04,600 --> 00:22:05,919
Speaker 1: Maybe it's Tracy.

471
00:22:05,960 --> 00:22:09,800
Speaker 2: Well, so she married, what's up with I don't think so?

472
00:22:10,160 --> 00:22:13,439
Speaker 1: Yeah. No, Now Wine is not gonna say no, but

473
00:22:13,520 --> 00:22:15,000
Speaker 1: he is going to be He's going.

474
00:22:14,960 --> 00:22:16,920
Speaker 2: To ask fifty questions and call me fifty times.

475
00:22:16,960 --> 00:22:19,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's going. Okay, Just for those of y'all don't

476
00:22:19,800 --> 00:22:25,080
Speaker 1: know why Dixon Wine calls Robin a thousand times a day. Okay,

477
00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:27,840
Speaker 1: Like we've been sitting here doing this podcast. Now we're

478
00:22:27,880 --> 00:22:30,240
Speaker 1: we're on minute twenty two. He's called four times. No, yeah, okay,

479
00:22:30,240 --> 00:22:34,720
Speaker 1: she's okay, I'm lying, But Win calls Robin. Now if

480
00:22:34,760 --> 00:22:37,040
Speaker 1: one thanks, Robin is out doing something she ain't supposed

481
00:22:37,040 --> 00:22:40,800
Speaker 1: to be doing. That puts some calls or repeat. Okay,

482
00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:43,199
Speaker 1: Wan Dixon is going. And Wan is the type of

483
00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:44,840
Speaker 1: guy that, do you think something on the side of

484
00:22:44,840 --> 00:22:45,879
Speaker 1: the road, and no he doesn't.

485
00:22:45,880 --> 00:22:46,200
Speaker 2: Okay.

486
00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:48,479
Speaker 1: Why is the type of guy that if you don't answer,

487
00:22:49,040 --> 00:22:52,200
Speaker 1: he keeps calling back and keeps calling back until you

488
00:22:52,280 --> 00:22:55,600
Speaker 1: ain't gonna call my friend? Yes, yes, and then he

489
00:22:55,640 --> 00:22:58,240
Speaker 1: will call anybody that she said she was with. Okay,

490
00:22:58,280 --> 00:23:01,480
Speaker 1: that's just Win. That's the nature of the relationship. No judgment.

491
00:23:01,560 --> 00:23:03,080
Speaker 1: It's crazy, but no judgment.

492
00:23:03,160 --> 00:23:07,399
Speaker 2: Okay, he's just worried. Okay, thanks. The man at the

493
00:23:07,440 --> 00:23:10,680
Speaker 2: gas station kidnapped me. Okay.

494
00:23:10,720 --> 00:23:14,640
Speaker 1: But I totally agree. I feel like girlfriends that are

495
00:23:14,720 --> 00:23:17,520
Speaker 1: not that don't have the same demographic that you are

496
00:23:17,560 --> 00:23:20,959
Speaker 1: living should not come into your circle. I mean, I

497
00:23:21,040 --> 00:23:24,760
Speaker 1: just think that that's you're you're setting yourself up for problems, right.

498
00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:27,800
Speaker 2: I agree, unless you have like mutual friends that can

499
00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:30,119
Speaker 2: vouch for that person. You know, I just feel like,

500
00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:35,119
Speaker 2: not a random that is totally living the single whole life.

501
00:23:35,560 --> 00:23:38,000
Speaker 1: No, that's not going to work, Like no at all, No,

502
00:23:38,040 --> 00:23:41,480
Speaker 1: not at all, and and it so so we're saying

503
00:23:41,520 --> 00:23:45,000
Speaker 1: all this to say, it becomes very difficult for you

504
00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:47,399
Speaker 1: to really a trust people that are going to be

505
00:23:47,440 --> 00:23:51,159
Speaker 1: in your circle. I don't think that, you know, I

506
00:23:51,200 --> 00:23:54,600
Speaker 1: get real nervous about what people. You know, if I

507
00:23:54,640 --> 00:23:56,720
Speaker 1: have a conversation with somebody, like how they take that

508
00:23:56,760 --> 00:24:00,480
Speaker 1: conversation later, like how that you know, I mean, like

509
00:24:01,359 --> 00:24:03,880
Speaker 1: mm hmmm, I think it's a great conversation, but they

510
00:24:03,920 --> 00:24:06,399
Speaker 1: walk away and they're like, Justelle's an asshole, And I'm like,

511
00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:08,680
Speaker 1: but I thought it was good. I thought we had

512
00:24:08,760 --> 00:24:12,359
Speaker 1: jokes and everything. So, you know, I always get feel

513
00:24:12,359 --> 00:24:16,399
Speaker 1: weird about it sometimes. But the reality of it is

514
00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:18,480
Speaker 1: you have to really have your spidy senses up with

515
00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:21,920
Speaker 1: all people, not just girlfriends, but like all people, because

516
00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:24,480
Speaker 1: people are crazy outide in these streets.

517
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:28,439
Speaker 2: I'm trying to remember the last time I met a

518
00:24:28,480 --> 00:24:32,320
Speaker 2: new friend, not like outside of the show. Yes, not

519
00:24:32,320 --> 00:24:37,359
Speaker 2: because of the show that I connected with and like

520
00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:44,359
Speaker 2: really developed a friendship with Hm. You know what I

521
00:24:44,400 --> 00:24:51,359
Speaker 2: would say like Vicky Vicky Irvin, who is I met

522
00:24:51,440 --> 00:24:56,439
Speaker 2: her on a business matter, yes, and that kind of

523
00:24:57,119 --> 00:24:58,480
Speaker 2: you know, created a friendship.

524
00:24:58,640 --> 00:25:03,160
Speaker 1: Yes. And Vicky Irvin, you did your lipstick with correct.

525
00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:05,360
Speaker 2: Right, right, So we had so I did a lipstick

526
00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:10,480
Speaker 2: lip gloss collaboration with her. So she's an entrepreneur. My

527
00:25:10,600 --> 00:25:13,480
Speaker 2: real estate mentor introduced me to her because he thought

528
00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:16,320
Speaker 2: that she could be helpful to me because he knew

529
00:25:16,359 --> 00:25:19,919
Speaker 2: that I was just you know, getting into the entrepreneurial space. Yes,

530
00:25:20,119 --> 00:25:23,440
Speaker 2: and so so that friendship developed, but it was it

531
00:25:23,520 --> 00:25:27,200
Speaker 2: started more. It's I feel like nowadays at our age,

532
00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:29,160
Speaker 2: when we meet people it's because of a purpose.

533
00:25:29,560 --> 00:25:32,359
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, it's got to be. You guys have to

534
00:25:32,359 --> 00:25:34,919
Speaker 1: be aligned in some kind of way, right. So so

535
00:25:34,960 --> 00:25:38,160
Speaker 1: if it's not business, it might be because, like you said,

536
00:25:38,200 --> 00:25:41,520
Speaker 1: my kids, because kids or your partners might know each

537
00:25:41,520 --> 00:25:45,440
Speaker 1: other and then you guys bond over that. Otherwise it

538
00:25:45,640 --> 00:25:47,640
Speaker 1: just like I'm not going and get my hair done

539
00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:50,440
Speaker 1: and I meet you at the salon and we become friends. Right,

540
00:25:50,480 --> 00:25:51,199
Speaker 1: That's not happening.

541
00:25:51,280 --> 00:25:53,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, no, definitely, And it's and it's like kind

542
00:25:53,800 --> 00:25:56,280
Speaker 2: of weird when people are like, oh, we should exchange numbers,

543
00:25:56,320 --> 00:25:59,480
Speaker 2: and You're like, no, we shouldn't. No, we should not,

544
00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:04,760
Speaker 2: because first of all, I'm already not the best friend

545
00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:07,000
Speaker 2: that I can be to the friends that I already have,

546
00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:11,760
Speaker 2: you know, because I'm just kidding.

547
00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:12,639
Speaker 1: Robin is great to me.

548
00:26:12,760 --> 00:26:15,760
Speaker 2: You probably these days get most of my friend time.

549
00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:16,560
Speaker 1: That is true.

550
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:19,400
Speaker 2: My other friends are probably hating on you.

551
00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:25,040
Speaker 1: I know. But actually that happened to me in the gym.

552
00:26:25,080 --> 00:26:29,040
Speaker 1: So a very nice lady girl she walked up to

553
00:26:29,080 --> 00:26:32,359
Speaker 1: me and she started asking me. She saw that my

554
00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:34,919
Speaker 1: house is being renovated, and she asked me about it,

555
00:26:34,960 --> 00:26:37,440
Speaker 1: and then she talked about the fact that she's got

556
00:26:37,800 --> 00:26:41,400
Speaker 1: she knows somebody who you know, has a renovation business

557
00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:43,359
Speaker 1: or something. And then she was like, oh, you're so

558
00:26:43,440 --> 00:26:46,480
Speaker 1: super cool. We should hang out. Let's exchange numbers. Yeah

559
00:26:46,480 --> 00:26:47,680
Speaker 1: that's no, I'm not that super good.

560
00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:48,560
Speaker 2: No, I'm not.

561
00:26:49,600 --> 00:26:52,480
Speaker 1: And I and she made me give her my number,

562
00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:54,640
Speaker 1: like it was kind of like her phone was out

563
00:26:54,680 --> 00:26:56,280
Speaker 1: and I had my phone in my hand and like

564
00:26:56,440 --> 00:26:59,720
Speaker 1: I didn't know what to do. I couldn't back away. Yeah,

565
00:26:59,880 --> 00:27:01,800
Speaker 1: I had to give her my number. And it was

566
00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:03,800
Speaker 1: just like so weird, And I thought to myself, Oh

567
00:27:03,840 --> 00:27:06,119
Speaker 1: my god, I hope she doesn't call me.

568
00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:07,679
Speaker 2: Did she know? Oh?

569
00:27:07,720 --> 00:27:09,080
Speaker 1: Okay, thank god?

570
00:27:09,440 --> 00:27:10,600
Speaker 2: Right's weird.

571
00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:13,720
Speaker 1: But but when things like that happen, it just makes

572
00:27:13,760 --> 00:27:16,160
Speaker 1: me feel like this is not authentic. Like I want

573
00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:19,800
Speaker 1: to meet girlfriends and it's an authentic relationship, you know,

574
00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:21,440
Speaker 1: it's a great feeling.

575
00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:25,840
Speaker 2: Right, It's not like pushed on you exactly. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

576
00:27:26,160 --> 00:27:29,800
Speaker 2: Digital interaction? What the hell is that? Social media?

577
00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:33,080
Speaker 1: Okay, so I'm supposed to meet people on social media? Okay,

578
00:27:33,080 --> 00:27:35,240
Speaker 1: for the record, let's just say, for the record, I

579
00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:36,960
Speaker 1: feel like I have enough girlfriends in my life.

580
00:27:37,000 --> 00:27:40,719
Speaker 2: Do you Oh I have tons? Yes, I have tons?

581
00:27:40,800 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 1: Yes, okay, but so are you asking if on social

582
00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:45,520
Speaker 1: media somebody reaches out?

583
00:27:45,920 --> 00:27:49,199
Speaker 2: So okay, So say, on social media you have like

584
00:27:50,000 --> 00:27:55,520
Speaker 2: acquaintances kind of and they're trying. It's like, does that

585
00:27:55,640 --> 00:28:00,199
Speaker 2: muddy your your interaction with them in real life? So

586
00:28:01,240 --> 00:28:07,560
Speaker 2: you have people who I think are more friendly on

587
00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:11,800
Speaker 2: social media than they are in real life, Like they

588
00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:16,439
Speaker 2: might see you come afar and like not speak, and

589
00:28:16,440 --> 00:28:17,800
Speaker 2: then on social media.

590
00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:19,800
Speaker 1: They're all like, hey, girl, how would you know?

591
00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:23,639
Speaker 2: You just know?

592
00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:24,239
Speaker 1: I don't know.

593
00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:28,200
Speaker 2: I feel like that's like people not being comfortable. Oh

594
00:28:28,240 --> 00:28:30,719
Speaker 2: you know, like you, like, okay, if you see someone

595
00:28:30,960 --> 00:28:33,920
Speaker 2: who's commenting on your social media, but when you see

596
00:28:33,960 --> 00:28:35,960
Speaker 2: them in real life, they're barely like coming up to

597
00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:36,720
Speaker 2: you and saying hi.

598
00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:40,120
Speaker 1: Oh okay, so they're social media friends, right, okay, right.

599
00:28:40,360 --> 00:28:43,120
Speaker 2: But then but they're like almost intimidated in real life

600
00:28:43,120 --> 00:28:43,720
Speaker 2: to come up to you.

601
00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:45,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's that's weird. So it's kind of like you're

602
00:28:46,000 --> 00:28:49,520
Speaker 1: hiding behind your social media handle exactly. Yeah, that's I

603
00:28:49,560 --> 00:28:52,000
Speaker 1: find that to be a stalker exactly. Okay, Yeah, I.

604
00:28:51,960 --> 00:28:54,440
Speaker 2: Mean it's I just think it's more of like maybe

605
00:28:54,440 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 2: they are socially awkward or maybe they're intimidated. But I

606
00:28:57,040 --> 00:29:00,640
Speaker 2: have experienced that where people will interact with me more

607
00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:04,680
Speaker 2: on social media than if they were actually face to face.

608
00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:08,760
Speaker 1: Right, okay, Okay, So I do have some girlfriends and

609
00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:13,240
Speaker 1: unfortunately they're like sorority sisters, right.

610
00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:16,160
Speaker 2: And unfortunately they're sororities.

611
00:29:16,240 --> 00:29:18,080
Speaker 1: Well there was a reason. I mean, I love the

612
00:29:18,080 --> 00:29:20,960
Speaker 1: fact that they're my sorority sisters, but like that's the

613
00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:23,000
Speaker 1: reason why they've been in my life forever.

614
00:29:23,320 --> 00:29:23,440
Speaker 2: Right.

615
00:29:24,160 --> 00:29:26,680
Speaker 1: But then as time goes by, you know, as you

616
00:29:26,680 --> 00:29:30,360
Speaker 1: get older, you change, you grow, and you see people

617
00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:33,760
Speaker 1: who don't change and grow and then you realize they're losers,

618
00:29:33,880 --> 00:29:36,479
Speaker 1: right is that terrible to say? Like they're kind of

619
00:29:36,520 --> 00:29:38,840
Speaker 1: like they're stuck. They're stuck.

620
00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:41,080
Speaker 2: They're stuck. They haven't grown.

621
00:29:40,880 --> 00:29:44,280
Speaker 1: They haven't evolved, and you're at a totally different place.

622
00:29:44,400 --> 00:29:46,719
Speaker 1: So how do you deal with do you do you

623
00:29:46,760 --> 00:29:48,640
Speaker 1: cut those people out of your life? Don't listen to

624
00:29:48,680 --> 00:29:52,400
Speaker 1: me because I cut people like I got a machete

625
00:29:52,440 --> 00:29:53,760
Speaker 1: out here and I just be cut.

626
00:29:53,920 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 2: No, you know why you don't cut them out?

627
00:29:55,760 --> 00:29:55,920
Speaker 1: Why?

628
00:29:55,920 --> 00:29:58,400
Speaker 2: I guess guess what one day you might be in

629
00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:01,320
Speaker 2: a totally different place, be a loser and you yes,

630
00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:06,280
Speaker 2: and you might need your friends to love you unconditionally. Right,

631
00:30:06,760 --> 00:30:11,280
Speaker 2: So I have you know, my sorrowers that I love

632
00:30:11,320 --> 00:30:15,160
Speaker 2: dearly that I probably would never have even have even

633
00:30:15,280 --> 00:30:18,040
Speaker 2: met if I weren't in the sorority, you know, So

634
00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:20,520
Speaker 2: I wouldn't would have never like really been friends with them,

635
00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:24,160
Speaker 2: and we are totally different people. I mean, the sorority

636
00:30:24,200 --> 00:30:26,280
Speaker 2: is a good thing because it kind of forces you

637
00:30:26,400 --> 00:30:30,160
Speaker 2: to receive people where they are, to love them regardless,

638
00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:32,720
Speaker 2: and to kind of be their friend regardless, like whether

639
00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:34,600
Speaker 2: or not you would be their friend or not. True

640
00:30:34,720 --> 00:30:39,160
Speaker 2: outside of the sorority, and so I think, okay, it's

641
00:30:39,240 --> 00:30:42,160
Speaker 2: you know, you can't be like you didn't level up yet, girl,

642
00:30:42,720 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 2: So I'm not gonna be your friend.

643
00:30:44,680 --> 00:30:46,800
Speaker 1: No, not you didn't level up. But it's kind of

644
00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:51,480
Speaker 1: like the the we're in a different space mentally, right. Okay,

645
00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:53,000
Speaker 1: So I'm just gonna say it to the people. If

646
00:30:53,040 --> 00:30:54,960
Speaker 1: you want to cut people out your life because God

647
00:30:55,000 --> 00:30:56,920
Speaker 1: brings people in your life or a reason in the season,

648
00:30:57,320 --> 00:30:59,200
Speaker 1: then go ahead on and do it. I'm not mad

649
00:30:59,240 --> 00:31:02,760
Speaker 1: at you, but reasonable Robin will not.

650
00:31:03,080 --> 00:31:05,120
Speaker 2: Just don't be mad when other people cut you out

651
00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:06,200
Speaker 2: of their life.

652
00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:10,000
Speaker 1: Okay, listen, I'm bem begging people to cut me out

653
00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:12,600
Speaker 1: they life. I'm like, please, can I have it in writing?

654
00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:14,040
Speaker 1: Cut me out right?

655
00:31:14,040 --> 00:31:15,160
Speaker 2: Are you sure? Yes?

656
00:31:15,800 --> 00:31:19,720
Speaker 1: Oh my God, leave me alone. But I do feel like,

657
00:31:20,600 --> 00:31:23,200
Speaker 1: you know, there comes a time and place where you

658
00:31:23,240 --> 00:31:28,080
Speaker 1: want people that can add value, right, and you want

659
00:31:27,800 --> 00:31:31,240
Speaker 1: you want to surround yourself with people that are constantly

660
00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:34,480
Speaker 1: allowing you to be your greater self. Right, And sometimes

661
00:31:34,480 --> 00:31:36,520
Speaker 1: the girlfriends can't come on that journey.

662
00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:41,720
Speaker 2: But but why is it just because so you're saying, mentally,

663
00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:45,560
Speaker 2: they're like they're negative or they are because just because

664
00:31:45,560 --> 00:31:48,400
Speaker 2: they might not be on your level, they might still

665
00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:50,800
Speaker 2: be able to provide some sort of support to you

666
00:31:50,960 --> 00:31:55,400
Speaker 2: or some sort of you know, encouragement or you know friendship.

667
00:31:55,800 --> 00:31:57,920
Speaker 1: Right, Yes, yes, it's true, and.

668
00:31:57,920 --> 00:32:00,440
Speaker 2: Sometimes you want to keep that friend who was there

669
00:32:00,800 --> 00:32:04,320
Speaker 2: with you before you are you were the person you

670
00:32:04,360 --> 00:32:04,800
Speaker 2: are today.

671
00:32:04,840 --> 00:32:07,080
Speaker 1: Okay, But if we've known each other for like twenty

672
00:32:07,080 --> 00:32:09,040
Speaker 1: five years and you're still talking about the same shit

673
00:32:09,080 --> 00:32:11,080
Speaker 1: that you were talking about when I met you twenty

674
00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:12,760
Speaker 1: five years ago, then there's a problem.

675
00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:14,000
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, well that's a big problem.

676
00:32:14,080 --> 00:32:16,440
Speaker 1: Right, Like if I feel like and it's not that

677
00:32:16,560 --> 00:32:19,160
Speaker 1: I've leveled up and you stayed the same, it's like,

678
00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:21,040
Speaker 1: mentally we're just not there.

679
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:23,720
Speaker 2: Right, So have you said that to them? No?

680
00:32:23,920 --> 00:32:25,520
Speaker 1: I thought all that. I think that's rude if I

681
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:28,920
Speaker 1: tell people you are a loser.

682
00:32:29,120 --> 00:32:31,320
Speaker 2: Well, see, that's a conversation like what is okay to

683
00:32:31,360 --> 00:32:33,760
Speaker 2: say to your friends and what's not okay to say

684
00:32:33,760 --> 00:32:36,320
Speaker 2: to your friends, because sometimes your friends need to hear

685
00:32:36,360 --> 00:32:39,400
Speaker 2: the hard truth and okay, if they don't receive it

686
00:32:40,280 --> 00:32:43,000
Speaker 2: the way you intended, then that's on them.

687
00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:44,800
Speaker 1: That is very true. And to be honest with you,

688
00:32:44,840 --> 00:32:46,240
Speaker 1: I am very honest with my friends.

689
00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:49,960
Speaker 2: Really, okay, I think, And do they appreciate your honesty? Hell?

690
00:32:50,040 --> 00:32:55,160
Speaker 1: No, hate me, No, I'm kidding. I think they do.

691
00:32:55,200 --> 00:32:57,040
Speaker 1: And you want to know why, because I have so

692
00:32:57,160 --> 00:33:00,800
Speaker 1: many friends that I've had forever, and they tell me

693
00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:04,480
Speaker 1: things that I've said to them ten fifteen years later

694
00:33:04,840 --> 00:33:07,720
Speaker 1: that helped them in that moment that I didn't know

695
00:33:07,800 --> 00:33:10,000
Speaker 1: help them. But they tell me, hey, Giselle, I remember

696
00:33:10,120 --> 00:33:12,040
Speaker 1: you said this to me a long time ago, and

697
00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:14,479
Speaker 1: then I broke up with that loser dude and I

698
00:33:14,480 --> 00:33:17,160
Speaker 1: found this other guy or whatever, whatever the scenario is.

699
00:33:17,760 --> 00:33:20,640
Speaker 1: They repeat to me verbat in what I said to them,

700
00:33:21,240 --> 00:33:24,040
Speaker 1: and so, oh, I tell you.

701
00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:24,800
Speaker 2: I was an oracle.

702
00:33:25,360 --> 00:33:28,640
Speaker 1: This is what I know. I'm going off the deep end. Okay, fine,

703
00:33:28,760 --> 00:33:31,360
Speaker 1: but I do. I'm getting deep in y'all know I

704
00:33:31,360 --> 00:33:34,840
Speaker 1: don't get deep but I need to get back to that.

705
00:33:34,880 --> 00:33:36,840
Speaker 1: I need to get back to just like being brutally

706
00:33:36,880 --> 00:33:40,080
Speaker 1: honest with people when I know you can do better

707
00:33:40,080 --> 00:33:41,080
Speaker 1: and be a better person.

708
00:33:41,360 --> 00:33:44,800
Speaker 2: Right. Oh, for sure, I think, especially as you get older,

709
00:33:46,680 --> 00:33:48,520
Speaker 2: you're not helping your friend at off. You can't be

710
00:33:48,560 --> 00:33:52,200
Speaker 2: honest with your friend, Yes, if you can't encourage them to,

711
00:33:52,600 --> 00:33:56,080
Speaker 2: you drop the negativity the toxicity and to do better. Yes,

712
00:33:56,160 --> 00:33:59,520
Speaker 2: and if your friend does not want to receive those messages,

713
00:34:00,120 --> 00:34:02,560
Speaker 2: then yeah, maybe it's time to drop them as a

714
00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:06,040
Speaker 2: friend because you can't. You don't know how to be

715
00:34:06,080 --> 00:34:08,640
Speaker 2: a good friend to someone that doesn't want to receive

716
00:34:08,680 --> 00:34:10,560
Speaker 2: your friendship, right right, you know?

717
00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:12,040
Speaker 1: And I think this is good.

718
00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:14,400
Speaker 2: And friendship is not always about being a yes person.

719
00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:17,600
Speaker 2: It's not about always agreeing with your friend liking what

720
00:34:17,640 --> 00:34:20,360
Speaker 2: they do. You know. Of course we want to celebrate

721
00:34:20,360 --> 00:34:22,600
Speaker 2: our friends and support our friends. But if there's something

722
00:34:22,640 --> 00:34:26,160
Speaker 2: that we can you know, what is it constructive criticism? Yes,

723
00:34:26,280 --> 00:34:29,920
Speaker 2: if we can constructively criticize our friends. I know I

724
00:34:29,960 --> 00:34:34,160
Speaker 2: want to be constructively criticized. You know, I don't. I

725
00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:36,640
Speaker 2: don't receive it very often because I am quite perfect.

726
00:34:37,800 --> 00:34:43,200
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, So and this is this is actually for

727
00:34:43,360 --> 00:34:47,239
Speaker 1: me and you because you know, we've been friends, and

728
00:34:47,280 --> 00:34:51,520
Speaker 1: we we have we're in this group, this circle. You know,

729
00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:54,080
Speaker 1: we'll just refer to the show and a lot of

730
00:34:54,120 --> 00:34:59,479
Speaker 1: times they think that we know things about each other

731
00:35:00,400 --> 00:35:04,600
Speaker 1: that therefore that the world doesn't know. Therefore, that's why

732
00:35:04,600 --> 00:35:06,839
Speaker 1: we're friends, because we got dirt on each other, right,

733
00:35:07,480 --> 00:35:12,680
Speaker 1: which is true. But that's not why we're friends. Meaning

734
00:35:12,800 --> 00:35:15,319
Speaker 1: I know stuff about Robin that I'll never say, and

735
00:35:15,400 --> 00:35:19,400
Speaker 1: vice versa. But that's what friendship is. But the question

736
00:35:19,600 --> 00:35:22,120
Speaker 1: is when you meet somebody new, like how quickly do

737
00:35:22,239 --> 00:35:26,640
Speaker 1: you tell them like your business, your bi business, your

738
00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:30,359
Speaker 1: personal biousness, because that's a trust thing, right You got

739
00:35:30,360 --> 00:35:32,560
Speaker 1: to trust that person because you got to know you're

740
00:35:32,560 --> 00:35:35,040
Speaker 1: telling them and they might tell one other person, but

741
00:35:35,080 --> 00:35:36,640
Speaker 1: they can't tell the world.

742
00:35:36,600 --> 00:35:39,520
Speaker 2: Right, I don't. That is so hard because I feel like,

743
00:35:39,600 --> 00:35:43,080
Speaker 2: for me, I'm not going to tell you anything until

744
00:35:43,080 --> 00:35:47,719
Speaker 2: you tell me something, and so then it becomes like

745
00:35:47,800 --> 00:35:49,040
Speaker 2: what comes first.

746
00:35:48,760 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 1: The chicken or the egg?

747
00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:51,520
Speaker 2: Yes, and I know you ain't telling me that, Like

748
00:35:51,560 --> 00:35:54,239
Speaker 2: I don't even know how, Like I think it takes

749
00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:57,200
Speaker 2: a minute, but like a very long time for people

750
00:35:57,239 --> 00:36:01,000
Speaker 2: to really start sharing unless you're a really open person

751
00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:01,880
Speaker 2: and you don't care.

752
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:06,440
Speaker 1: Right, But I don't know. I mean, I'm not. I

753
00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:09,880
Speaker 1: I always find that people spill their guts to me.

754
00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:13,640
Speaker 1: I do not know why, but they do.

755
00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:15,120
Speaker 2: And then she tells me everyone.

756
00:36:15,280 --> 00:36:17,080
Speaker 1: And I did tell Robin. But I mean, they spill

757
00:36:17,120 --> 00:36:19,719
Speaker 1: their guts and I think maybe they feel like that

758
00:36:19,840 --> 00:36:23,279
Speaker 1: is their way to build a trust and then maybe

759
00:36:23,320 --> 00:36:25,120
Speaker 1: they're thinking, I'm gonna spell my guts, but I'm done

760
00:36:25,160 --> 00:36:26,600
Speaker 1: you right now. I don't care when I meet you,

761
00:36:26,760 --> 00:36:30,480
Speaker 1: how I meet you. I'm never spelling my guts. But

762
00:36:30,560 --> 00:36:36,960
Speaker 1: I feel like it's it's very difficult for women to

763
00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:39,160
Speaker 1: feel a sense of comfort, so because you do want

764
00:36:39,160 --> 00:36:41,040
Speaker 1: to have somebody that you can share a bunch of

765
00:36:41,080 --> 00:36:43,759
Speaker 1: stuff with and that is going to support you and

766
00:36:43,840 --> 00:36:46,439
Speaker 1: not judge you, and that's in your corner. So it's

767
00:36:46,480 --> 00:36:49,400
Speaker 1: just a it's just a very fine line, and I

768
00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:52,040
Speaker 1: have I haven't been able to balance it or figure

769
00:36:52,080 --> 00:36:52,799
Speaker 1: it out right.

770
00:36:52,880 --> 00:36:56,160
Speaker 2: I don't think there's a real right time. You know,

771
00:36:56,200 --> 00:36:59,399
Speaker 2: it's not like, oh well exactly on the twenty eighth

772
00:36:59,560 --> 00:37:03,160
Speaker 2: day after meeting the friend. No, it's okay to share,

773
00:37:03,400 --> 00:37:05,279
Speaker 2: you know. I think it's more of an intuition thing.

774
00:37:05,480 --> 00:37:08,600
Speaker 2: I think it's more of just, you know, the vibe

775
00:37:08,600 --> 00:37:13,560
Speaker 2: between the two people where you feel, okay, this person

776
00:37:15,160 --> 00:37:18,560
Speaker 2: knows me or cares about me differently or more than

777
00:37:18,960 --> 00:37:21,560
Speaker 2: someone else. Like it's so weird, like you can't really

778
00:37:21,600 --> 00:37:25,880
Speaker 2: explain why certain people are closer friends than others. You know,

779
00:37:26,200 --> 00:37:29,640
Speaker 2: you can have a friend circle of eight or ten

780
00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:32,320
Speaker 2: people and there might be that one or two people

781
00:37:32,360 --> 00:37:34,480
Speaker 2: that you just vibe better with.

782
00:37:34,440 --> 00:37:38,040
Speaker 1: Yes, for whatever reason, for whatever reason, maybe it's it's

783
00:37:38,080 --> 00:37:42,200
Speaker 1: it's pheromones, it's just you know, chemistry, it's whatever. But

784
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:43,160
Speaker 1: like what it is?

785
00:37:43,280 --> 00:37:45,400
Speaker 2: We write what is it? What is it?

786
00:37:45,600 --> 00:37:48,560
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know, but I just want

787
00:37:48,600 --> 00:37:50,040
Speaker 1: to put out there because you know, I'm thinking about

788
00:37:50,080 --> 00:37:53,640
Speaker 1: my girlfriends and just relationships. And I'm the girl that

789
00:37:53,719 --> 00:37:57,120
Speaker 1: if I see a man cheating, I'm gonna tell you okay, okay,

790
00:37:57,360 --> 00:37:59,600
Speaker 1: and I'm going to get my phone and take a

791
00:37:59,640 --> 00:38:00,919
Speaker 1: picture video.

792
00:38:00,880 --> 00:38:03,719
Speaker 2: But see and pictures. I feel like you have to

793
00:38:03,920 --> 00:38:05,799
Speaker 2: if you're going to tell her, you got to have

794
00:38:05,840 --> 00:38:06,880
Speaker 2: the pictures in the video.

795
00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:08,840
Speaker 1: Yes, And I'm going to like let you know, and

796
00:38:09,120 --> 00:38:10,040
Speaker 1: I don't want to discuss it.

797
00:38:10,120 --> 00:38:13,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yes, because there's there. There have been many, many,

798
00:38:13,560 --> 00:38:17,560
Speaker 2: many situations where a girlfriend sees something or hears something

799
00:38:17,640 --> 00:38:21,360
Speaker 2: and then she tells the friend and the man lies

800
00:38:21,440 --> 00:38:25,319
Speaker 2: and oh no, that didn't happen, she lies, ring you

801
00:38:25,320 --> 00:38:27,400
Speaker 2: don't need to be friends with her anymore, and then

802
00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:30,839
Speaker 2: you're the one that's true, the messenger, the one that's

803
00:38:30,880 --> 00:38:31,359
Speaker 2: on the out.

804
00:38:31,680 --> 00:38:31,960
Speaker 1: Okay.

805
00:38:32,040 --> 00:38:35,600
Speaker 2: Yes, So I feel like it's hard. I think it's

806
00:38:35,680 --> 00:38:36,960
Speaker 2: strict on the relationship.

807
00:38:36,960 --> 00:38:39,840
Speaker 1: It depends on the relationship. But if that's your good girlfriend,

808
00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:42,279
Speaker 1: I think it's your right to let her know what's

809
00:38:42,280 --> 00:38:42,600
Speaker 1: going on.

810
00:38:42,640 --> 00:38:46,879
Speaker 2: So then do you think friends should when they kind

811
00:38:46,920 --> 00:38:48,960
Speaker 2: of start their friendship or at some point in the

812
00:38:49,000 --> 00:38:52,000
Speaker 2: friendship say look, girl, I'm just telling you, if you

813
00:38:52,080 --> 00:38:54,600
Speaker 2: hear something or see something about my man, then tell me, like,

814
00:38:54,640 --> 00:38:57,040
Speaker 2: do you think that should be a spoken Should that

815
00:38:57,120 --> 00:39:00,239
Speaker 2: be spoken? Do you think it should be? Like, all right,

816
00:39:00,320 --> 00:39:03,920
Speaker 2: let's everybody sit down in circle and okay, Robin, do

817
00:39:03,960 --> 00:39:06,680
Speaker 2: you want to know? Okay, Jeselle, do you want to know? Okay,

818
00:39:06,719 --> 00:39:07,799
Speaker 2: Susie do you want to know?

819
00:39:08,600 --> 00:39:10,600
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? And it's like some people

820
00:39:10,640 --> 00:39:11,239
Speaker 1: don't want to know.

821
00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:13,880
Speaker 2: Let's write it down. We're gonna take notes so that

822
00:39:13,960 --> 00:39:16,320
Speaker 2: we know. And so then when so when something happens,

823
00:39:16,600 --> 00:39:18,480
Speaker 2: all the you know, ten girls in the group and

824
00:39:18,480 --> 00:39:20,400
Speaker 2: the nine girls get on a conference call. All right, y'all.

825
00:39:20,760 --> 00:39:25,400
Speaker 2: So Stephanie says she wants to know, So who's going

826
00:39:25,480 --> 00:39:29,439
Speaker 2: to tell her? You know what I'm saying, like, yeah,

827
00:39:29,440 --> 00:39:33,840
Speaker 2: I was I'm almost considering like texting my girlfriends and saying, hey, guys,

828
00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:35,280
Speaker 2: we need to like sit down.

829
00:39:35,239 --> 00:39:36,960
Speaker 1: Because they're gonna be like, who you talking about my man?

830
00:39:37,040 --> 00:39:40,200
Speaker 1: You talking about my man? Ain't my man? They call

831
00:39:40,280 --> 00:39:43,080
Speaker 1: him home every night. I know he ain't doing it,

832
00:39:43,400 --> 00:39:44,960
Speaker 1: but I think that should be disclosed.

833
00:39:45,040 --> 00:39:47,759
Speaker 2: I actually think that should be like, okay, a girlfriend rule,

834
00:39:47,840 --> 00:39:50,600
Speaker 2: because I have had and I'll stay. Like in college,

835
00:39:52,120 --> 00:39:54,239
Speaker 2: Wan I was, I was pledging delt and I was

836
00:39:54,239 --> 00:39:58,600
Speaker 2: never around and Jan cheated on me, oh with a

837
00:39:58,640 --> 00:39:59,960
Speaker 2: girl at Maryland.

838
00:40:01,040 --> 00:40:04,000
Speaker 1: Right break, I can't.

839
00:40:03,520 --> 00:40:05,359
Speaker 2: Breaking news one chid. You don't mean when when we

840
00:40:05,360 --> 00:40:09,280
Speaker 2: were in college and one of so after I crossed,

841
00:40:09,680 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 2: one of my line sisters found out and it was

842
00:40:13,160 --> 00:40:16,960
Speaker 2: a whole like, you know, I didn't know that my

843
00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:20,600
Speaker 2: out of the ten of us, nine of my line

844
00:40:20,640 --> 00:40:23,000
Speaker 2: sisters are having these power owls about what do we do?

845
00:40:23,080 --> 00:40:25,880
Speaker 2: What do we say? You know what I mean? And

846
00:40:25,920 --> 00:40:28,960
Speaker 2: then it and it turned into a whole mess because

847
00:40:29,800 --> 00:40:32,000
Speaker 2: I just needed my one line sister to come to

848
00:40:32,040 --> 00:40:34,720
Speaker 2: me and tell me. But then it just turned into

849
00:40:35,280 --> 00:40:37,359
Speaker 2: it was a mess in my relationship with that one

850
00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:39,200
Speaker 2: line sister was kind of messed up for a little

851
00:40:39,200 --> 00:40:40,880
Speaker 2: bit and blah blah blah blah blah.

852
00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:44,040
Speaker 1: All that I held that's why he put you pledged delta.

853
00:40:44,080 --> 00:40:46,960
Speaker 1: That's a whole other story. But anyway, I mean no,

854
00:40:47,280 --> 00:40:49,359
Speaker 1: like that's a mess. And then the reason why it's

855
00:40:49,400 --> 00:40:51,279
Speaker 1: some messes because you know they're sitting around talking about

856
00:40:51,320 --> 00:40:52,480
Speaker 1: you for days.

857
00:40:52,560 --> 00:40:54,400
Speaker 2: But so I feel like if you just if everyone

858
00:40:54,440 --> 00:40:56,399
Speaker 2: just puts it out there in the air, you know,

859
00:40:56,480 --> 00:40:58,600
Speaker 2: to your girlfriends, to your friends circle, and say, look,

860
00:40:58,640 --> 00:41:00,359
Speaker 2: this is what it is, so we don't have to

861
00:41:00,360 --> 00:41:03,000
Speaker 2: we can skip that part, you know, so tell me

862
00:41:03,320 --> 00:41:04,440
Speaker 2: or don't tell me.

863
00:41:04,520 --> 00:41:05,799
Speaker 1: Let's talk about it. That's true.

864
00:41:05,840 --> 00:41:07,680
Speaker 2: Act like you ain't never seen it. Yes, I don't

865
00:41:07,680 --> 00:41:08,080
Speaker 2: need to know.

866
00:41:08,200 --> 00:41:10,040
Speaker 1: Okay, well I'm telling you now, Robin, you need to

867
00:41:10,040 --> 00:41:10,359
Speaker 1: tell me.

868
00:41:10,400 --> 00:41:11,480
Speaker 2: So I'm sending text messages.

869
00:41:11,520 --> 00:41:15,440
Speaker 1: Okay, So text mess text message your girlfriend group tonight,

870
00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:17,799
Speaker 1: y'all and make that decision. Do you want to know?

871
00:41:18,320 --> 00:41:19,600
Speaker 1: Check the box? Yes, all right?

872
00:41:19,640 --> 00:41:21,920
Speaker 2: And I think that's a good takeaway for everyone listening,

873
00:41:21,960 --> 00:41:24,360
Speaker 2: Like I think that's a good that's actually like a

874
00:41:24,400 --> 00:41:27,480
Speaker 2: good conversation to have, like when you have your girls

875
00:41:27,600 --> 00:41:29,960
Speaker 2: night and you're drinking wine and so that's put that

876
00:41:30,040 --> 00:41:30,719
Speaker 2: topic out there.

877
00:41:30,800 --> 00:41:34,160
Speaker 1: Yes, do you want to know? All right? So, typically

878
00:41:34,239 --> 00:41:36,840
Speaker 1: at the end of our episode. We have our reasonably

879
00:41:37,040 --> 00:41:40,680
Speaker 1: shady people other week for that episode, but today we

880
00:41:40,800 --> 00:41:43,560
Speaker 1: have some changes. Okay. So we have put out to

881
00:41:43,600 --> 00:41:48,239
Speaker 1: the universe some friendship pet Peeves. We put out there

882
00:41:48,280 --> 00:41:51,800
Speaker 1: on our social media, and you all have answered yes

883
00:41:52,040 --> 00:41:55,680
Speaker 1: in a very big way. Okay, So friendship pet Peeves

884
00:41:56,080 --> 00:41:59,240
Speaker 1: is what we're going to be discussing on, yes, right.

885
00:41:59,120 --> 00:42:02,560
Speaker 2: Now, So we are going to go into let's see,

886
00:42:02,600 --> 00:42:06,279
Speaker 2: I'm going to tell you the number of people that

887
00:42:06,640 --> 00:42:09,799
Speaker 2: said one uppers.

888
00:42:09,480 --> 00:42:11,759
Speaker 1: Okay, So okay, let's let's talk about bunkers. Okay, what

889
00:42:11,920 --> 00:42:15,399
Speaker 1: one opers is? Hey, girl, I just bought a new

890
00:42:15,440 --> 00:42:17,600
Speaker 1: car and then you say.

891
00:42:17,640 --> 00:42:20,640
Speaker 2: Oh my god, well I'm getting a new car tomorrow

892
00:42:21,200 --> 00:42:22,440
Speaker 2: and it's going to have.

893
00:42:23,640 --> 00:42:25,920
Speaker 1: I'll get a new car tomorrow and it is like

894
00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:27,200
Speaker 1: the Bentley of the Bentleys.

895
00:42:27,320 --> 00:42:28,880
Speaker 2: Yes, I'm the only one that hasn't.

896
00:42:29,040 --> 00:42:31,279
Speaker 1: Yes, they only made two in the United States and

897
00:42:31,360 --> 00:42:33,200
Speaker 1: I have one and Oprah has the other one, right,

898
00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:35,000
Speaker 1: like crazy right?

899
00:42:35,320 --> 00:42:37,200
Speaker 2: Or like you buy a house and then your friend's like, well.

900
00:42:37,160 --> 00:42:39,120
Speaker 1: I'm going to go buy a house, and yes, how

901
00:42:39,160 --> 00:42:41,480
Speaker 1: many square feed is your house? Minus four thousand, oh

902
00:42:41,560 --> 00:42:45,480
Speaker 1: minus five thousand? Girls like that, like that's some bullshit

903
00:42:45,520 --> 00:42:47,239
Speaker 1: and stop it right, like save it.

904
00:42:47,480 --> 00:42:49,960
Speaker 2: The thing is like your friend, whenever your friend has

905
00:42:50,000 --> 00:42:53,160
Speaker 2: some news, like celebrate your friend in that moment it

906
00:42:53,239 --> 00:42:56,239
Speaker 2: about your friend, yeah, glets them have their moment, and

907
00:42:56,280 --> 00:42:59,759
Speaker 2: then okay, a week later, if the conversation arises on

908
00:42:59,800 --> 00:43:02,160
Speaker 2: this topic, then you can share your news, but like,

909
00:43:02,760 --> 00:43:05,799
Speaker 2: let your friend have their moment.

910
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:10,640
Speaker 1: Yes, and stop talking about yourself yes, yes, okay.

911
00:43:10,200 --> 00:43:15,879
Speaker 2: Which you know leads to a lot of people said selfishness. Okay,

912
00:43:15,920 --> 00:43:19,600
Speaker 2: so what does that mean and not reciprocating support. So

913
00:43:20,360 --> 00:43:25,440
Speaker 2: some friends call you when they have something going on

914
00:43:25,680 --> 00:43:27,560
Speaker 2: that they either want to you know, talk about or

915
00:43:27,600 --> 00:43:31,239
Speaker 2: tell you about. And then when the conversation, when that

916
00:43:31,239 --> 00:43:34,400
Speaker 2: conversation about themselves ends, what a conversation is over. And

917
00:43:34,440 --> 00:43:37,040
Speaker 2: it's like, right, they don't they don't care about what's

918
00:43:37,040 --> 00:43:39,200
Speaker 2: going on in your world. They don't hear about.

919
00:43:39,160 --> 00:43:41,840
Speaker 1: You know, I might be a victim of this, and

920
00:43:41,880 --> 00:43:44,920
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you why. So everybody knows I have

921
00:43:44,920 --> 00:43:48,600
Speaker 1: a friend named Cal, and every night me and Cal

922
00:43:48,680 --> 00:43:51,719
Speaker 1: talk and he says, okay, Zoul, start talking about you.

923
00:43:52,760 --> 00:43:55,600
Speaker 1: That's how he starts the conversation. And I'm like, it's

924
00:43:55,600 --> 00:43:57,840
Speaker 1: like hello, hey, hey, all right, start talking about you,

925
00:43:57,920 --> 00:44:00,799
Speaker 1: jizou just and I'm like cow noh, stop, Like I

926
00:44:00,800 --> 00:44:02,759
Speaker 1: want to know about your day. He's like, the day

927
00:44:02,880 --> 00:44:07,120
Speaker 1: was good, Okay, go oh my god, it's it's actually

928
00:44:07,200 --> 00:44:10,719
Speaker 1: funny now. But it made me think, like, Okay, do

929
00:44:10,800 --> 00:44:14,440
Speaker 1: I just give him like my side of my world?

930
00:44:14,880 --> 00:44:17,759
Speaker 1: And do I never check in with his? And probably?

931
00:44:17,960 --> 00:44:20,319
Speaker 1: So I am happy that he made me aware so

932
00:44:20,360 --> 00:44:21,400
Speaker 1: that I don't do that anymore.

933
00:44:21,520 --> 00:44:26,040
Speaker 2: Okay, yes, that's good. Another one in this. I am

934
00:44:26,239 --> 00:44:29,760
Speaker 2: so a lot of these. I'm starting to reevaluate myself

935
00:44:29,800 --> 00:44:32,600
Speaker 2: as a friend because I'm starting to think I'm a horrible.

936
00:44:32,280 --> 00:44:36,360
Speaker 1: Friend because people said friends that are late.

937
00:44:36,360 --> 00:44:40,000
Speaker 2: Friends that are late, friends that are flaky Robin Robin

938
00:44:40,320 --> 00:44:43,080
Speaker 2: can I can I tell you? Like my flake meter

939
00:44:43,280 --> 00:44:46,960
Speaker 2: is off off the charts, blake off the chart. I literally.

940
00:44:47,920 --> 00:44:48,680
Speaker 1: One time.

941
00:44:50,360 --> 00:44:53,320
Speaker 2: It was going to Las Vegas to celebrate a friend's birthday.

942
00:44:53,440 --> 00:44:56,759
Speaker 2: Uh huh, like New Year's Eve, Las Vegas. I didn't

943
00:44:56,760 --> 00:44:58,080
Speaker 2: feel like packing, so I didn't go.

944
00:44:58,600 --> 00:44:59,440
Speaker 1: Did you have a ticket?

945
00:44:59,640 --> 00:45:02,840
Speaker 2: Yes, the ticket a hotel room I pay. Here's here's

946
00:45:02,880 --> 00:45:05,640
Speaker 2: my portion for the hotel room. I'll get you know

947
00:45:05,800 --> 00:45:08,080
Speaker 2: all that. I'm like I don't feel like packing. I'm

948
00:45:08,080 --> 00:45:08,399
Speaker 2: not going.

949
00:45:08,480 --> 00:45:13,319
Speaker 1: Robin is the worst, the worst, the worse. You have

950
00:45:13,400 --> 00:45:15,160
Speaker 1: to do better. You have to do better, to do better,

951
00:45:15,160 --> 00:45:17,160
Speaker 1: but at least you pay. Because my pet peeve is

952
00:45:17,560 --> 00:45:21,000
Speaker 1: my friends that don't want to pay for nothing, right y'all.

953
00:45:21,080 --> 00:45:25,080
Speaker 1: Bitches are broke, okay, and I'm mad at it, and

954
00:45:25,400 --> 00:45:27,080
Speaker 1: Gizelle ain't gonna continue to pay.

955
00:45:27,200 --> 00:45:30,040
Speaker 2: See that's the thing. I will pay, just so we

956
00:45:30,040 --> 00:45:33,320
Speaker 2: can eliminate that gripe. Like, okay, you know what I'm saying, Like,

957
00:45:33,360 --> 00:45:34,920
Speaker 2: I don't need you to be mad because I flaked

958
00:45:35,000 --> 00:45:37,160
Speaker 2: and I didn't pay, you know, so let me just

959
00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:41,000
Speaker 2: h yeah, let me let me pay for your love.

960
00:45:42,719 --> 00:45:45,240
Speaker 1: Yeah no, I'm not that. I'm sick of it. Okay,

961
00:45:45,680 --> 00:45:49,359
Speaker 1: I'm sick of it. So guess what. Anybody who does

962
00:45:49,360 --> 00:45:51,600
Speaker 1: not contribute from here on out, y'all not my friends

963
00:45:51,680 --> 00:45:53,160
Speaker 1: no more? The relationship is.

964
00:45:53,120 --> 00:45:58,719
Speaker 2: Over, Oh yeah for sure. Okay. Another one guilty Ennis

965
00:45:59,200 --> 00:46:01,520
Speaker 2: not texting like what you.

966
00:46:01,560 --> 00:46:04,080
Speaker 1: Mean you don't give a thumbs up or a smiley face,

967
00:46:04,400 --> 00:46:06,000
Speaker 1: or you don't text back at.

968
00:46:05,840 --> 00:46:10,879
Speaker 2: All sometimes because you know why, that's horrible. I need

969
00:46:10,960 --> 00:46:15,480
Speaker 2: iPhone to hear me, listen to me iPhone I, Apple,

970
00:46:16,160 --> 00:46:19,359
Speaker 2: I need you to please give us the feature of

971
00:46:19,760 --> 00:46:24,960
Speaker 2: marking our text messages as unread because sometimes I'm driving

972
00:46:25,760 --> 00:46:28,959
Speaker 2: or I'm doing something and I can't respond right away

973
00:46:29,480 --> 00:46:31,600
Speaker 2: and I just want to mark my text message unread,

974
00:46:32,080 --> 00:46:34,960
Speaker 2: but because I don't have the ability to do that.

975
00:46:35,280 --> 00:46:37,480
Speaker 1: Yes, there's a dot.

976
00:46:37,800 --> 00:46:39,200
Speaker 2: No you can't mark it. Oh no.

977
00:46:39,480 --> 00:46:41,719
Speaker 1: At the top it says how many you Okay, all right,

978
00:46:41,760 --> 00:46:42,120
Speaker 1: go ahead.

979
00:46:42,200 --> 00:46:44,839
Speaker 2: Yeah. So it's like once you look at it, it's

980
00:46:44,880 --> 00:46:47,520
Speaker 2: like either respond now or forever hold your peace.

981
00:46:47,719 --> 00:46:49,000
Speaker 1: Oh okay, okay.

982
00:46:49,120 --> 00:46:53,560
Speaker 2: And I have a problem with I'm a little scatter brained,

983
00:46:54,280 --> 00:46:57,160
Speaker 2: a little little yeah, a little I'm a little scatter

984
00:46:57,200 --> 00:47:00,040
Speaker 2: brained and distracted. I get distracted very easily, and so

985
00:47:00,120 --> 00:47:02,279
Speaker 2: like you know, I might open my phone and then

986
00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:07,359
Speaker 2: like be like, oh let me let me text Nicole back,

987
00:47:07,640 --> 00:47:13,360
Speaker 2: and then I open Instagram and I just start and

988
00:47:13,440 --> 00:47:15,960
Speaker 2: then I start scrolling, and then I forget why I

989
00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:16,560
Speaker 2: open my phone.

990
00:47:16,719 --> 00:47:18,680
Speaker 1: Yes, okay, I do do that too, but then you

991
00:47:18,719 --> 00:47:21,560
Speaker 1: have to lie. I do try to, like, yeah, robbing,

992
00:47:21,560 --> 00:47:22,080
Speaker 1: you're the worst.

993
00:47:22,080 --> 00:47:25,080
Speaker 2: So do you go back to your text messages and

994
00:47:25,320 --> 00:47:26,759
Speaker 2: like go through them and say, okay, who do I

995
00:47:26,760 --> 00:47:29,000
Speaker 2: need to reply to. Yeah, am I am? I all

996
00:47:29,040 --> 00:47:30,440
Speaker 2: good on my text messages.

997
00:47:30,640 --> 00:47:32,839
Speaker 1: At some point in the day, I try to go

998
00:47:32,880 --> 00:47:35,440
Speaker 1: through and make sure, like the top text messages I've

999
00:47:35,440 --> 00:47:39,360
Speaker 1: either responded to or I've checked to make sure that

1000
00:47:39,400 --> 00:47:41,120
Speaker 1: I've responded to, or whatever the case means.

1001
00:47:41,120 --> 00:47:43,000
Speaker 2: So, how many unread text messages do you have?

1002
00:47:43,080 --> 00:47:45,120
Speaker 1: So so right now I have none because that drives

1003
00:47:45,160 --> 00:47:48,680
Speaker 1: me insane. So I have and we're gonna look, okay, okay,

1004
00:47:48,719 --> 00:47:50,400
Speaker 1: I'm gonna pull my little phone. I have three.

1005
00:47:51,080 --> 00:47:55,880
Speaker 2: Okay, so I have twenty five, and what yes, I

1006
00:47:55,920 --> 00:47:57,799
Speaker 2: have twenty five, and I'm gonna delete this song because

1007
00:47:57,800 --> 00:48:01,080
Speaker 2: that's like a alert and you you can actually you

1008
00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:04,480
Speaker 2: can only see three on my screen, so that means

1009
00:48:04,640 --> 00:48:08,280
Speaker 2: the rest are like so Robin, okay, see this this

1010
00:48:08,280 --> 00:48:10,760
Speaker 2: this one, Oh my god, April third.

1011
00:48:11,600 --> 00:48:15,080
Speaker 1: Okay, So for the record, okay, so sometimes I'll text

1012
00:48:15,120 --> 00:48:18,279
Speaker 1: you right and you won't respond. And so I'm assuming

1013
00:48:19,320 --> 00:48:22,760
Speaker 1: you are on the phone or something like you're doing

1014
00:48:22,800 --> 00:48:26,200
Speaker 1: something else, like you're talking on the phone pssibly or whatever.

1015
00:48:26,360 --> 00:48:28,720
Speaker 1: But I thought you were really doing something. I didn't

1016
00:48:28,719 --> 00:48:33,080
Speaker 1: know you were just ignoring me. This is a new

1017
00:48:33,160 --> 00:48:33,839
Speaker 1: level to our friends.

1018
00:48:36,280 --> 00:48:40,759
Speaker 2: I wouldn't call it ignoring sometimes. Okay, some some of

1019
00:48:40,800 --> 00:48:41,839
Speaker 2: these people I ignored.

1020
00:48:42,040 --> 00:48:47,480
Speaker 1: You saw that, do better, Robin, just do better, Just

1021
00:48:47,600 --> 00:48:48,360
Speaker 1: do better.

1022
00:48:48,800 --> 00:48:51,000
Speaker 2: But it's not that I didn't ignore them. On I

1023
00:48:51,000 --> 00:48:54,319
Speaker 2: don't know what it is like. I literally might sit

1024
00:48:54,400 --> 00:48:56,960
Speaker 2: on the couch and be like, oh, I need to respond,

1025
00:48:57,560 --> 00:48:57,879
Speaker 2: and then.

1026
00:48:58,239 --> 00:49:01,879
Speaker 1: She starts watching the view the end.

1027
00:49:02,080 --> 00:49:06,799
Speaker 2: Okay, someone out there relates. I know that, And then

1028
00:49:06,800 --> 00:49:09,080
Speaker 2: you know why I know someone out there relates because

1029
00:49:09,120 --> 00:49:11,919
Speaker 2: I had so many people on Instagram respond that their

1030
00:49:11,920 --> 00:49:14,080
Speaker 2: pet peeves when their friend does not text them back.

1031
00:49:14,280 --> 00:49:17,960
Speaker 1: Yes, okay, yes, okay, So friends.

1032
00:49:17,560 --> 00:49:19,920
Speaker 2: Oh can I tell you the story? Can I tell

1033
00:49:19,920 --> 00:49:20,799
Speaker 2: you another story? Tell me?

1034
00:49:21,080 --> 00:49:21,880
Speaker 1: And then we have to wrap it up.

1035
00:49:21,880 --> 00:49:24,040
Speaker 2: I had a friend that texted me and I didn't respond,

1036
00:49:24,080 --> 00:49:26,040
Speaker 2: and then she texted me again and I didn't respond.

1037
00:49:26,040 --> 00:49:28,400
Speaker 2: She text me It wasn't that I wasn't like I

1038
00:49:28,440 --> 00:49:31,680
Speaker 2: wasn't ignoring her. I was just busy, right, and then

1039
00:49:31,719 --> 00:49:34,040
Speaker 2: she started like going crazy like calling, calling, calling and

1040
00:49:34,040 --> 00:49:37,360
Speaker 2: calling one and so then it turns into like, okay,

1041
00:49:37,400 --> 00:49:39,640
Speaker 2: I'm now I'm purposely not responding.

1042
00:49:43,239 --> 00:49:47,600
Speaker 1: Robit is a four year old child and she's rebelling. Okay,

1043
00:49:47,840 --> 00:49:50,320
Speaker 1: she's rebelling against her friend that just wants to talk to,

1044
00:49:50,600 --> 00:49:54,080
Speaker 1: wants to Oh my gosh. So yeah.

1045
00:49:54,160 --> 00:49:55,919
Speaker 2: One of the things is adults. One of the pet

1046
00:49:55,920 --> 00:49:58,040
Speaker 2: peeves adults acting like petty teens.

1047
00:49:58,160 --> 00:50:00,960
Speaker 1: Yes, and that would be Robin Dixon. But she's good.

1048
00:50:01,040 --> 00:50:03,319
Speaker 1: I'm so happy that we had this episode today because

1049
00:50:03,320 --> 00:50:05,680
Speaker 1: we've been able to pick apart. While Robin needs to.

1050
00:50:05,640 --> 00:50:08,200
Speaker 2: Do better, what about you?

1051
00:50:08,400 --> 00:50:09,399
Speaker 1: I need to do better too.

1052
00:50:10,360 --> 00:50:12,759
Speaker 2: I don't get deep, I don't, I just I just

1053
00:50:12,800 --> 00:50:14,040
Speaker 2: want to know what the weather is.

1054
00:50:14,160 --> 00:50:16,640
Speaker 1: Your list is a little longer than mine, Okay.

1055
00:50:16,680 --> 00:50:20,200
Speaker 2: I mean mine are like fixable. Okay.

1056
00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:25,640
Speaker 1: Anyway, I believe that is our episode for today. We

1057
00:50:25,680 --> 00:50:30,520
Speaker 1: are reasonably shady, and I think I think today you

1058
00:50:30,640 --> 00:50:31,400
Speaker 1: might be shady.

1059
00:50:31,480 --> 00:50:33,799
Speaker 2: Robin. I might be told a little bit too much,

1060
00:50:33,840 --> 00:50:34,680
Speaker 2: oh my friends.

1061
00:50:35,280 --> 00:50:39,080
Speaker 1: Yes, and I think Jiselle might be reasonable. Oh no,

1062
00:50:40,000 --> 00:50:44,040
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, probably right. But we so appreciate you

1063
00:50:44,120 --> 00:50:46,840
Speaker 1: all listening. I think that in our next episode. We

1064
00:50:46,880 --> 00:50:48,480
Speaker 1: don't know what our next episode is going to be,

1065
00:50:48,680 --> 00:50:51,000
Speaker 1: but I do believe we might have a guest. Yes,

1066
00:50:51,400 --> 00:50:53,840
Speaker 1: so you guys have to stay tuned. Thank you so

1067
00:50:53,920 --> 00:50:56,040
Speaker 1: much for listening to us. This is Reasonably Shady. I

1068
00:50:56,080 --> 00:51:00,560
Speaker 1: am Jaselle Bryant and I Am Robin Dixon D. Hey,

1069
00:51:00,600 --> 00:51:09,320
Speaker 1: We're out. We love y'all. Reasonably Shady is a production

1070
00:51:09,520 --> 00:51:12,000
Speaker 1: of the Black Effect podcast Network.

1071
00:51:12,200 --> 00:51:17,160
Speaker 2: For more podcasts from iHeartRadio, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts,

1072
00:51:17,280 --> 00:51:19,240
Speaker 2: or wherever you listen to your favorite shows

1073
00:51:19,560 --> 00:51:22,520
Speaker 1: And you can connect with us on social media at

1074
00:51:22,719 --> 00:51:30,160
Speaker 1: Robin Dixon ten, Giselle Bryant, and Reasonably Shady.