WEBVTT - The Last Pod Before the Ring 0:00:00.320 --> 0:00:02.240 Help We Suck At Being Newlywed? 0:00:02.320 --> 0:00:05.600 With Dean Aungler, Haylen miller Key and Jared Haven An 0:00:05.600 --> 0:00:06.880 iHeartRadio podcast. 0:00:09.000 --> 0:00:10.040 What is going on? Everybody? 0:00:10.039 --> 0:00:12.880 Welcome to it all new special episode of Help We 0:00:12.960 --> 0:00:16.319 Suck At Being Newlyweds. We're recording live from the w 0:00:16.480 --> 0:00:20.480 aspin Hotel Room three seventy two, and we're doing this 0:00:20.520 --> 0:00:22.800 a little differently this week. We don't have any producers 0:00:22.840 --> 0:00:27.080 with us. I missed the recording last yesterday because I 0:00:27.120 --> 0:00:30.080 was busy hiking him out with my brother who I'll 0:00:30.080 --> 0:00:32.559 get to that in a second, And so we're just 0:00:32.600 --> 0:00:36.080 recording this right before we drive up to our wedding venue. 0:00:36.640 --> 0:00:39.080 Anything you want to add, Yeah, we missed the other 0:00:39.280 --> 0:00:43.680 first episode because Dean's Tucks is Lost was lost. Now 0:00:43.680 --> 0:00:45.760 it's been found. Been a stressful week. 0:00:46.240 --> 0:00:48.600 It's been fine for us, but it's been stressful for 0:00:48.640 --> 0:00:50.800 the producers over at iHeart Radio, who we love so much. 0:00:50.840 --> 0:00:52.600 Sorry for having to continuously. 0:00:52.080 --> 0:00:55.040 Reschedule, but we have a great episode. We have two 0:00:55.240 --> 0:00:58.680 incredibly special guests joining us. Two guests that I thought 0:00:58.680 --> 0:01:00.920 we would never get on this podcast, but everyone's been 0:01:00.920 --> 0:01:04.200 asking about. Everyone has been dying to get you two 0:01:04.280 --> 0:01:07.160 guys on, can I use your real names? 0:01:07.520 --> 0:01:07.959 Sure? 0:01:08.880 --> 0:01:11.000 Yeah? Great. We've got Ross. 0:01:10.680 --> 0:01:14.280 Bell and Avery Bell joining us all the way from Driggs, Idaho, 0:01:14.680 --> 0:01:16.399 and a little Murray Bell. So if you hear some 0:01:17.000 --> 0:01:19.400 wrestling around in the background, that's just the three month 0:01:19.440 --> 0:01:22.920 old baby making his presence known. But if you guys 0:01:22.959 --> 0:01:24.000 want to say hello. 0:01:25.240 --> 0:01:27.120 Hello, hello, hello. 0:01:27.920 --> 0:01:30.960 Yeah, So talk about my brothers a lot on this podcast. 0:01:30.959 --> 0:01:33.759 It's great to finally have one on. And my sister 0:01:33.840 --> 0:01:36.200 in law, is it you're my sister in law? That's correct, 0:01:36.560 --> 0:01:39.600 that's interesting. This morning I was texting brad our other brother, 0:01:39.640 --> 0:01:41.360 and I was like, yeah, don't worry about picking up 0:01:41.360 --> 0:01:41.760 my tucks. 0:01:41.800 --> 0:01:42.960 Our grandparents got it. 0:01:43.040 --> 0:01:44.319 And I was like, that was the first time I 0:01:44.319 --> 0:01:48.880 said our grandparents instead of Kaylen's grandparents. And now I 0:01:49.040 --> 0:01:51.919 have to start calling you my sister instead of whatever 0:01:51.960 --> 0:01:52.560 else I call you. 0:01:52.640 --> 0:01:54.240 I just I just called you Avery before. 0:01:54.280 --> 0:01:57.560 But it's just weird saying don't you think it's kind 0:01:57.560 --> 0:02:01.720 of weird going from calling the person they're named then like, 0:02:01.760 --> 0:02:02.760 you're gonna call me your brother. 0:02:03.440 --> 0:02:06.840 I guess you were married. It's all different. Yeah, it's 0:02:06.880 --> 0:02:08.680 all I go. I'm married to your family. You think that. 0:02:08.800 --> 0:02:10.120 But yeah, I wanted to have you guys on the 0:02:10.160 --> 0:02:12.520 podcast obviously because we never get to have you on 0:02:12.560 --> 0:02:14.760 the podcast and it's just a great opportunity for that. 0:02:14.840 --> 0:02:17.920 But you guys have a three month old baby, uh, 0:02:17.960 --> 0:02:19.639 and I don't know what do you want to talk 0:02:19.680 --> 0:02:20.240 with him about? 0:02:21.440 --> 0:02:23.040 Well, this was your idea, what do you want to 0:02:23.040 --> 0:02:24.920 talk about? I do want to say though, that we 0:02:24.960 --> 0:02:26.320 are sharing mic and you're gonna hear a lot of 0:02:26.320 --> 0:02:27.880 Dean's voice because he is a mike hog. 0:02:28.880 --> 0:02:31.920 Yeah. Well, because you like you like to listen and 0:02:31.960 --> 0:02:34.720 I like to talk. So there it's uh. 0:02:34.919 --> 0:02:36.600 I when we were so my brother and I hiked 0:02:36.639 --> 0:02:39.160 Maroon Bells yesterday. That was my last fourteen er and 0:02:39.200 --> 0:02:41.200 I've finished with them now. And the whole time we 0:02:41.200 --> 0:02:43.840 were hiking, whenever there's a lapse in the conversation, I 0:02:44.080 --> 0:02:45.960 was thinking about all these great ideas about what we 0:02:45.960 --> 0:02:49.000 could talk about on the podcast today, but mostly because 0:02:49.000 --> 0:02:50.840 when we're hiking, I feel like we could just talk 0:02:50.880 --> 0:02:52.640 about anything, and I was like, Oh, all the stuff 0:02:52.680 --> 0:02:54.240 that we're talking about here would be great to talk 0:02:54.280 --> 0:02:56.280 about on the podcast. But now that we're just sitting 0:02:56.280 --> 0:02:58.520 in a hotel room, it's like a little more challenging 0:02:58.600 --> 0:03:00.280 to think about what I wanted to talk about. 0:03:00.760 --> 0:03:03.800 Well, because iHeart does a great job at giving us 0:03:03.840 --> 0:03:06.840 rundowns questions to ask and we're just doing it ourselves 0:03:06.919 --> 0:03:07.160 right now. 0:03:07.200 --> 0:03:09.480 Oh, I got a good question for you guys. We're 0:03:09.480 --> 0:03:12.000 getting married in two days. What's some good marriage advice 0:03:12.080 --> 0:03:12.720 you have for us? 0:03:13.200 --> 0:03:14.959 This is actually like I talked to cald about yesterday. 0:03:14.960 --> 0:03:17.200 I think is cool. Is this idea of micro agreements 0:03:17.560 --> 0:03:19.640 And so you're like thinking of all the small parts 0:03:19.680 --> 0:03:23.440 of your day and when someone says something your partner specifically, 0:03:23.520 --> 0:03:25.880 how do you like use that moment to be kind 0:03:25.880 --> 0:03:28.080 of their ally. So, for example, this morning, we were 0:03:28.120 --> 0:03:30.560 walking here and I was like, hey, Ross, can I 0:03:30.600 --> 0:03:32.560 tell you all the names of all these flowers? And 0:03:32.600 --> 0:03:34.000 he could have been like, no, we're in a hurry, 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:37.560 but instead he's like, yes, please do, even though he's 0:03:37.560 --> 0:03:39.640 probably not interested. 0:03:39.640 --> 0:03:40.920 A lot of names of new flowers. 0:03:40.920 --> 0:03:44.240 I never knew. I do remember reading about a study 0:03:44.240 --> 0:03:47.120 a while ago that said, like they could predict the 0:03:47.240 --> 0:03:51.119 likelihood of a divorce by micro agreements throughout the day. 0:03:51.240 --> 0:03:53.240 So it's like, if you just disagree over like stupid 0:03:53.240 --> 0:03:54.040 little things all the. 0:03:54.000 --> 0:03:57.000 Time, it's like your chance of divorce is like way higher. 0:03:57.120 --> 0:03:58.560 What if you're marrying at Countririon. 0:04:00.280 --> 0:04:05.880 It's like, well, Ross second ninety percent of my personality 0:04:05.880 --> 0:04:07.400 from Ross. But if you can do it, I'll be 0:04:07.440 --> 0:04:09.640 able to figure out way to do it as well. 0:04:10.240 --> 0:04:12.560 I will say yesterday at the car, so we when 0:04:12.560 --> 0:04:14.800 we first got married, we definitely quickly had to make 0:04:14.880 --> 0:04:16.960 rules of the debate. So like when we were having 0:04:17.000 --> 0:04:19.400 a conversation in the car, the rule became like you 0:04:19.480 --> 0:04:22.680 cannot just say no, that is not allowed. You can't 0:04:22.720 --> 0:04:25.560 speak over each other. We have to define the terms. 0:04:25.800 --> 0:04:28.560 And we on the drive here to your guys' wedding, 0:04:29.279 --> 0:04:33.000 had our first like flawless debate. There's no interrupting, no 0:04:33.279 --> 0:04:35.919 hard nos, and we're really proud of ourselves. So it 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:37.919 took a year, but we can now officially have a 0:04:37.960 --> 0:04:38.520 good debate. 0:04:38.920 --> 0:04:39.400 We did it. 0:04:39.520 --> 0:04:41.719 I gotta say to you deserve a lot of credit 0:04:41.720 --> 0:04:43.400 for that, because I was debating with Ross in the 0:04:43.400 --> 0:04:45.880 hot dub last night quite a bit, drinking our beers. 0:04:45.880 --> 0:04:47.960 It's like midnight and we're like yelling at each other 0:04:48.000 --> 0:04:51.120 about the most meaningless stuff. I'd say it was, it's meaningful, 0:04:51.160 --> 0:04:55.120 but like only to that moment, you know, sure, and 0:04:55.360 --> 0:04:58.680 Ross was listening. He was, you know, he was processing 0:04:58.680 --> 0:05:00.320 everything I had to say, and then he would respawn 0:05:00.400 --> 0:05:02.160 to it with like an affirmation and then go off 0:05:02.160 --> 0:05:04.400 on his tangent and be like, Wow, Avery's really teaching 0:05:04.440 --> 0:05:08.080 aroun us how to have a grown up conversation with someone. 0:05:09.200 --> 0:05:11.359 I do want to talk about on the micro agreements, 0:05:11.440 --> 0:05:13.200 because I think that's super important. Have you thought about 0:05:13.200 --> 0:05:13.599 that before? 0:05:14.360 --> 0:05:16.200 I think I'm pretty good at the micro agreements. I 0:05:16.240 --> 0:05:19.040 feel like I always give you the space to talk 0:05:19.080 --> 0:05:19.560 about whatever you. 0:05:19.520 --> 0:05:20.039 Want to talk about. 0:05:20.040 --> 0:05:22.120 Granted, and you're not going to be talking about the flowers, 0:05:22.120 --> 0:05:23.920 but like if you're like, you want to talk about 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:26.600 pop culture or something, and I couldn't care less about that, 0:05:26.920 --> 0:05:28.320 I'd be like, go for it, let's go. 0:05:28.600 --> 0:05:31.520 But we were talking about this yesterday, Like just an example. 0:05:31.560 --> 0:05:33.640 Avery gave was like, oh, these flowers are pretty, and 0:05:33.680 --> 0:05:36.680 you being like, yeah, the flowers are pretty, versus disagreeing 0:05:36.680 --> 0:05:39.040 and be like, well but actually. 0:05:39.360 --> 0:05:40.000 No, I'm just saying. 0:05:40.040 --> 0:05:41.880 I think she brought it up to me and I 0:05:41.920 --> 0:05:43.440 think it's really smarted. 0:05:46.640 --> 0:05:50.600 Yeah, I like, I really whatever you want to get 0:05:50.640 --> 0:05:54.680 excited to talk about something, I listen to you, like, 0:05:54.720 --> 0:05:57.560 for instance, the last thing I can think of besides 0:05:58.600 --> 0:06:00.359 what I was talking about yesterday, the pop culture stuff 0:06:00.360 --> 0:06:02.919 you were talking about, the Ashton and Mela stuff and 0:06:03.200 --> 0:06:05.559 I don't care, but you. I was just like letting 0:06:05.560 --> 0:06:07.840 you go and I was listening and letting you talk 0:06:07.880 --> 0:06:08.320 about it. 0:06:08.920 --> 0:06:12.880 Yeah, but we're talking about agreements versus like just what Anyways, 0:06:13.760 --> 0:06:15.599 I just think it's good for us to be aware 0:06:15.640 --> 0:06:17.720 of that because she made a good point. She's like, 0:06:17.760 --> 0:06:20.080 if your partner doesn't agree with you and like doesn't 0:06:20.120 --> 0:06:22.080 have these micro agreements throughout the day, it does kind 0:06:22.080 --> 0:06:24.240 of sting a little. So it's a good thing to 0:06:24.279 --> 0:06:24.640 be aware of. 0:06:25.080 --> 0:06:25.479 Yeah. 0:06:25.520 --> 0:06:27.440 I think we talked about your guys' wedding on the 0:06:27.440 --> 0:06:32.239 podcast after it happened, and it was the coolest wedding 0:06:32.240 --> 0:06:34.040 we've ever been to. So do you guys want to 0:06:34.080 --> 0:06:35.440 talk about it or do you want to talk about 0:06:35.480 --> 0:06:38.520 your you wanting to do this and set this up 0:06:38.560 --> 0:06:39.000 for Avery? 0:06:39.279 --> 0:06:41.840 Yeah, And I guess, just to like recap really quick, 0:06:41.960 --> 0:06:47.240 is we went I kind of tricked Avery into marrying me. 0:06:47.320 --> 0:06:47.960 I guess. 0:06:49.480 --> 0:06:51.760 She thought she thought we were going on a climbing 0:06:51.839 --> 0:06:55.440 trip and in reality, we had all of her family 0:06:55.560 --> 0:06:59.560 come down to Tahoe, all of my family, and then 0:07:00.080 --> 0:07:03.440 I proposed to her the first day we were there, 0:07:03.560 --> 0:07:06.200 and then we got married the next day after that. 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:09.880 So it was like completely a surprise to her and 0:07:10.880 --> 0:07:13.120 it was great. And the reason that it was really 0:07:13.160 --> 0:07:15.360 good for us is because we're both pretty introverted, and 0:07:15.400 --> 0:07:17.200 so it was like kind of skipped all of that 0:07:17.920 --> 0:07:21.480 passle and stress of everything that goes into you know, 0:07:21.560 --> 0:07:25.120 putting on a wedding and you know, trying to invite 0:07:25.160 --> 0:07:27.080 people and where people are going to sit, and you know, 0:07:27.240 --> 0:07:29.160 just those million little things. It's like we just kind 0:07:29.160 --> 0:07:31.960 of skipped that and it was all just our close 0:07:32.000 --> 0:07:33.720 family and we had a really great time and it 0:07:33.800 --> 0:07:35.280 was really awesome. 0:07:36.360 --> 0:07:39.080 We were remembering on their drive down. One of the 0:07:39.120 --> 0:07:42.200 main ways that Ross tricked me into marrying him is 0:07:42.240 --> 0:07:45.480 that we got there the first night. I had no 0:07:45.760 --> 0:07:48.760 suspicions that anything different was happening than a normal climbing trip, 0:07:49.200 --> 0:07:51.640 and he confirmed that by us not having anywhere to camp. 0:07:51.760 --> 0:07:53.640 So we was like we drove all the way there, 0:07:53.640 --> 0:07:55.440 it was like ted pm. We're driving on to all 0:07:55.440 --> 0:07:58.360 these different campsites, all of them are full, like there's 0:07:58.400 --> 0:08:01.200 no blm land near top where we were, so we 0:08:01.320 --> 0:08:03.840 ended up like going to a camp guard and camping 0:08:04.000 --> 0:08:06.600 right outside the entrance to the camguard on the road, 0:08:06.760 --> 0:08:08.920 and then in the morning we woke up super early 0:08:08.960 --> 0:08:10.920 and just ducked out. And so if I had any 0:08:10.920 --> 0:08:13.520 suspicions that it was a special weekend, they were smashed 0:08:13.600 --> 0:08:14.040 right then. 0:08:14.840 --> 0:08:17.880 Yeah, I was really lucky because when I asked Avery's 0:08:17.960 --> 0:08:21.760 parents for permission, of course, and Avery's mom was really 0:08:21.800 --> 0:08:24.760 excited to like help out and plant. So she's a planner. 0:08:24.840 --> 0:08:29.080 I'm obviously not. So she planned everything, and my one 0:08:29.120 --> 0:08:34.199 responsibility was camping the first night, so I kind of 0:08:34.200 --> 0:08:37.360 blew it. So I was really lucky that she kind 0:08:37.360 --> 0:08:39.600 of made it, made it as amazing as it was. 0:08:39.679 --> 0:08:42.960 Did you blow it because you guys did sleep somewhere, Yeah, 0:08:43.320 --> 0:08:43.880 you slept. 0:08:45.360 --> 0:08:46.360 I didn't really blow it. 0:08:46.400 --> 0:08:48.199 I would say it was just maybe a little bit 0:08:48.240 --> 0:08:50.880 more less organized than Yeah. 0:08:51.520 --> 0:08:53.520 The thing if we had had like a booked campsite, 0:08:53.559 --> 0:08:55.840 I would have been like, this is weird. Ross has 0:08:55.880 --> 0:08:58.800 never booked a campsite before. This is a lot of planning. 0:08:58.960 --> 0:08:59.840 Something is weird. 0:09:00.240 --> 0:09:01.640 What made your guys a super unique and you had 0:09:01.679 --> 0:09:03.280 touched on a little bit as you proposed on the 0:09:03.280 --> 0:09:06.679 beach in Tahost beautiful moment, but then you were like, 0:09:06.679 --> 0:09:09.200 all right, let's go to a bar and celebrate. You 0:09:09.200 --> 0:09:13.440 walk into the bar, family's there, surprised to avery, and 0:09:13.480 --> 0:09:16.559 then the next surprise was You're like, yeah, we're actually 0:09:16.559 --> 0:09:17.800 gonna get married tomorrow. 0:09:18.280 --> 0:09:20.680 Did you mention that already? Yes? 0:09:20.800 --> 0:09:23.400 Oh you did, Okay you did, so sorry, there's a 0:09:23.400 --> 0:09:25.080 baby crown over there. I was getting a little distracted. 0:09:25.760 --> 0:09:29.600 Super unique and super cool too, and I mean it 0:09:29.720 --> 0:09:32.200 just takes a special person to be like this is 0:09:32.480 --> 0:09:34.679 you know, like if I did that with Kaylin, I'm 0:09:34.679 --> 0:09:35.760 sure she would have loved it, but. 0:09:37.280 --> 0:09:38.920 Part of it would have been different. 0:09:39.840 --> 0:09:42.600 And it's just so interesting to think, like, you know, 0:09:42.640 --> 0:09:45.880 every relationship is that different, and it's great to you 0:09:46.000 --> 0:09:47.720 for you to know your partner that well to be like, 0:09:47.760 --> 0:09:49.480 this is something that she's going to really appreciate. 0:09:49.600 --> 0:09:49.720 Right. 0:09:49.800 --> 0:09:52.680 Yeah, her mom is super skeptical at first, but then 0:09:52.880 --> 0:09:55.360 like I think she like kind of asked you, like 0:09:56.200 --> 0:09:58.520 to get like your feeling on it, and like you 0:09:58.600 --> 0:10:01.400 basically said the same thing, It would have been perfect 0:10:01.440 --> 0:10:02.880 if it just happened. 0:10:03.960 --> 0:10:06.160 So I think you're all forgetting that. We were actually 0:10:06.160 --> 0:10:08.840 in Vegas for Christmas one. You're all together and we 0:10:08.840 --> 0:10:10.400 were going to a Broncos game and we got a 0:10:10.440 --> 0:10:12.720 little drunk at the casino before and are we allowed 0:10:12.720 --> 0:10:15.720 to talk about drinking? We were a little bit drunk, 0:10:16.360 --> 0:10:20.839 and we were in Vegas the lay end of the elopement, 0:10:21.360 --> 0:10:24.120 and I was like, rots, let's go right now, let's 0:10:24.120 --> 0:10:26.920 get married. I think that probably yeah. 0:10:27.400 --> 0:10:30.160 That was the seed for sure, and what probably would 0:10:30.160 --> 0:10:31.559 have happened, but I forgot my license. 0:10:32.840 --> 0:10:35.199 I think you would have done it, not all your license, 0:10:35.200 --> 0:10:37.520 you didn't have your wallet. Yeah, can't get married without 0:10:37.520 --> 0:10:38.000 a wall. 0:10:37.960 --> 0:10:40.400 Right, And and then and then we talked about it, 0:10:40.440 --> 0:10:42.120 like on the car ride home, and I think she 0:10:42.280 --> 0:10:44.480 said like, oh, I would just be sad that my 0:10:44.520 --> 0:10:46.320 mom wasn't there. So then I was like, okay, like 0:10:46.360 --> 0:10:47.800 we it would work. We just got to have like 0:10:47.960 --> 0:10:48.640 family there. 0:10:49.040 --> 0:10:49.960 Yeah, that's true. 0:10:49.960 --> 0:10:51.000 That is how that came together. 0:10:51.320 --> 0:10:53.439 Well, for the record, we wanted to do a Vegas 0:10:53.480 --> 0:10:56.360 elopement before coming to Aspen, and it takes a lot 0:10:56.440 --> 0:10:59.240 more planning than we thought. We always thought you could 0:10:59.240 --> 0:11:00.599 just show up and be like, hey, we're drunk, we 0:11:00.640 --> 0:11:02.760 want to get married. Granted obviously we would have been sober, 0:11:02.760 --> 0:11:04.520 but like that's how you hear about it in Vegas, 0:11:04.600 --> 0:11:06.720 Like two drunk people walk into a chapel end up 0:11:06.760 --> 0:11:07.360 getting married. 0:11:07.960 --> 0:11:09.640 But it's like a little bit more of a process 0:11:09.679 --> 0:11:09.920 than that. 0:11:10.640 --> 0:11:12.600 Yeah, I was gonna explain. It's you have to get 0:11:12.640 --> 0:11:15.160 the marriage license, which but you have to go to 0:11:15.200 --> 0:11:20.200 the Clark County Recorder and then you go to wherever 0:11:20.240 --> 0:11:21.800 you want to get married. But it's expensive and you 0:11:21.840 --> 0:11:23.480 have to schedule. You can't just show up. So like 0:11:23.679 --> 0:11:25.679 the only one available was eight pms. I'm like, how 0:11:25.679 --> 0:11:28.160 many people are booking out their Vegas weddings this far 0:11:28.200 --> 0:11:31.080 in advance? And it would have been five hundred dollars 0:11:31.120 --> 0:11:32.760 and we just got our marriage license today it was 0:11:32.840 --> 0:11:35.000 thirty dollars. So it's like, you know, made sense. 0:11:35.280 --> 0:11:37.880 Yeah, part of the novelty I guess of getting married 0:11:37.920 --> 0:11:40.600 and Vegas, and I would have I would have definitely 0:11:40.600 --> 0:11:43.160 wanted like an Elvis impersonator to marry. Yes, that's a 0:11:43.200 --> 0:11:45.560 next that's en up charge two hundred dollars to have 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:46.680 in Elvis from personator to MARYA. 0:11:48.200 --> 0:11:51.400 Yeah, and you guys just celebrated your year anniversary probably. 0:11:51.120 --> 0:11:54.640 Right, Yeah, yeah, pretty recently, pretty recently, like July. 0:11:54.880 --> 0:11:55.160 July. 0:11:55.320 --> 0:11:57.840 Okay, so a couple months ago, which is great. First 0:11:57.920 --> 0:11:58.720 year is going good. 0:11:59.679 --> 0:12:01.360 Yeah, I mean I keep thinking about our first year 0:12:01.360 --> 0:12:03.959 and I'm pretty proud of what we've gone through. I 0:12:04.000 --> 0:12:06.439 think it's only going to get easier because we had 0:12:06.440 --> 0:12:09.160 a baby, so as pregnant for nine months out of 0:12:09.200 --> 0:12:10.079 the twelve. 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:12.280 While we're remodeling our house. At the same time, we 0:12:12.320 --> 0:12:15.960 were living in a job site, basically having a baby. 0:12:16.880 --> 0:12:19.720 And yeah, I mean basically all of the stress factors 0:12:19.760 --> 0:12:21.079 that you could have are pretty much there. 0:12:21.640 --> 0:12:22.160 It worked out. 0:12:22.280 --> 0:12:24.200 Yes, here, we are here, We're still here, and I 0:12:24.200 --> 0:12:25.040 think better than ever. 0:12:25.320 --> 0:12:29.240 Yeah, that's good. We need to start defining our debate rules. 0:12:30.920 --> 0:12:34.880 Because you know, yeah, I will say too. 0:12:34.920 --> 0:12:36.280 That was the one thing I was like, the reason 0:12:36.320 --> 0:12:38.520 I know this one better is because I'm actually having fun. 0:12:38.600 --> 0:12:40.920 And usually Ross would be like blah blah blah blah blah, 0:12:40.920 --> 0:12:42.520 and I'd be like, Ross, I'm not having fun. This 0:12:42.600 --> 0:12:45.120 is not a fun conversation for me. He's like, I'm 0:12:45.160 --> 0:12:46.640 having the best time of my life. 0:12:47.440 --> 0:12:48.200 I love debating. 0:12:48.440 --> 0:12:50.880 I'm very passionate about a few subjects, and so when 0:12:50.880 --> 0:12:51.400 you get on it. 0:12:51.520 --> 0:12:54.240 I just kind of that was a contentious point last night. 0:12:54.240 --> 0:12:57.280 I was like, you are not too passionate, but the 0:12:57.320 --> 0:12:59.520 way some of the verbidge you're choosing maybe because he's 0:12:59.520 --> 0:13:00.480 a little bit working. 0:13:00.800 --> 0:13:02.280 One of the things we're still working on is he'll 0:13:02.320 --> 0:13:05.679 say ninety nine point nine percent sure about everything. It's like, 0:13:05.720 --> 0:13:08.640 I'm a ninety nine point nine percent sure. 0:13:07.200 --> 0:13:08.920 Of that sure than what he was saying last night. 0:13:09.000 --> 0:13:12.520 Last night, he was saying irrefutable, positive. 0:13:11.840 --> 0:13:13.320 And a little bit a few more drinks. 0:13:13.160 --> 0:13:28.400 Last So, Ross, you're not giving a speech at the wedding, 0:13:29.120 --> 0:13:30.800 but you could give a private speech right now if 0:13:30.800 --> 0:13:31.319 you want to. 0:13:32.360 --> 0:13:34.640 A private speech podcast. 0:13:35.880 --> 0:13:38.520 Wedding smoothies. 0:13:39.280 --> 0:13:41.079 Yeah, Ross doesn't want to give a speech or other 0:13:41.080 --> 0:13:44.319 brothers giving a speech, so it's kind of you know. 0:13:45.120 --> 0:13:46.600 Yeah, you didn't give a speech at my wedding. 0:13:46.920 --> 0:13:49.400 So I actually was just telling Kaitlin about how sad 0:13:49.440 --> 0:13:50.400 I was. I didn't give a speech. 0:13:50.600 --> 0:13:51.440 Yeah, I was messed up. 0:13:51.480 --> 0:13:54.000 So it was just tough because Avery's brother was still 0:13:54.040 --> 0:13:54.440 in the show. 0:13:54.760 --> 0:13:57.280 Yeah I couldn't follow him up. Rad obviously wants to 0:13:57.280 --> 0:13:57.840 give a speech. 0:13:57.880 --> 0:13:59.760 He did great, and I was like, people are so 0:14:00.200 --> 0:14:03.680 of listening to people give speeches, and I got also 0:14:03.800 --> 0:14:09.520 self conscious about it, right, But yeah, I do regret that. 0:14:09.559 --> 0:14:10.960 I was just telling killing the other day about how 0:14:11.000 --> 0:14:13.480 I regret that not giving a speech. So I mean, 0:14:13.520 --> 0:14:15.000 you're right, you don't need to give a speech because 0:14:15.000 --> 0:14:16.079 I blew it and didn't give a speech. 0:14:16.080 --> 0:14:17.560 A very great Yeah, if. 0:14:17.400 --> 0:14:19.000 You were to give a speech at our wedding. 0:14:19.280 --> 0:14:21.800 Wait, actually, what would you have different question? 0:14:21.920 --> 0:14:22.160 Yeah? 0:14:22.200 --> 0:14:24.000 What a recent We don't need a ross to give 0:14:24.000 --> 0:14:25.200 a speech right now, we need you to give the 0:14:25.200 --> 0:14:26.480 speech you're going to give it, Ross's what. 0:14:28.600 --> 0:14:30.160 I won't give the speech, but I'll give the gist 0:14:30.240 --> 0:14:33.600 of it. I suppose I was thinking about what I 0:14:33.640 --> 0:14:36.760 was going to say, and I I just I hate 0:14:36.760 --> 0:14:39.280 speeches so much, especially in this like a little intimate 0:14:39.280 --> 0:14:41.600 of a setting. I was going to say, basically that 0:14:41.680 --> 0:14:43.880 you've been my best friend for my entire life, my 0:14:43.960 --> 0:14:46.480 first best friend and my best best friend. 0:14:46.720 --> 0:14:49.280 Does that make sense for my entire life? 0:14:50.200 --> 0:14:53.960 And you're the stronger, cooler, smarter, kinder version of me, 0:14:54.000 --> 0:14:55.880 and I have always looked up to you and I'll 0:14:55.920 --> 0:14:56.720 always look up to you. 0:14:56.760 --> 0:14:58.520 And now that your dad, I think that's really awesome. 0:14:58.560 --> 0:15:00.200 This obviously was not what I would have sad at 0:15:00.200 --> 0:15:02.280 the wedding because you don't have a kid then. But 0:15:02.320 --> 0:15:05.560 it was basically just that elongated me. It's just saying 0:15:05.560 --> 0:15:07.920 how cool I think you are, and how how I 0:15:07.960 --> 0:15:10.200 always aspire to be more like you and everything I do. 0:15:10.480 --> 0:15:12.160 That's funny because that was the speech I was going 0:15:12.200 --> 0:15:15.200 to give to you. 0:15:15.200 --> 0:15:17.160 No, it's so stupid. I don't understand. 0:15:17.200 --> 0:15:19.320 Every time you say that like nice things about me, 0:15:19.400 --> 0:15:21.520 I'm like, I don't get it because your way cooler 0:15:21.520 --> 0:15:21.880 than I am. 0:15:22.200 --> 0:15:25.640 No way, And I've always described you as somebody who 0:15:25.680 --> 0:15:29.000 has some of my strengths and none of my weaknesses. 0:15:29.600 --> 0:15:32.040 I just disagree with that. I wish I had your strengths, 0:15:32.160 --> 0:15:35.120 I mean some of them. Yeah, you got your week, 0:15:35.360 --> 0:15:38.240 you got your weaknesses, don't question about that. But my weaknesses, 0:15:38.280 --> 0:15:41.440 I think are a little bit more. Uh uh, they're 0:15:41.440 --> 0:15:45.080 bigger weaknesses. Yeah, but who knows. 0:15:45.360 --> 0:15:48.720 Yeah, maybe next time you guys hot up together, you 0:15:48.720 --> 0:15:49.800 can give each other. 0:15:50.400 --> 0:15:53.640 I like our hot top conversations more than these sappy ones. 0:15:55.000 --> 0:15:55.360 I don't know. 0:15:55.400 --> 0:15:58.360 It's interesting though, because it's like you don't it's so 0:15:58.440 --> 0:16:00.960 silly to say, but like you should take the opportunity 0:16:01.000 --> 0:16:02.840 to tell people how much you care about them more often. 0:16:02.920 --> 0:16:06.280 But as brothers and as unglerts as we are, we're 0:16:06.320 --> 0:16:09.480 not really good at sharing our emotions. And every time 0:16:09.520 --> 0:16:11.640 you miss an opportunity to share it in a setting 0:16:11.680 --> 0:16:14.480 where you're like not expected to but you are like 0:16:14.760 --> 0:16:18.040 allowed to, I guess more so, And like the wedding, 0:16:18.080 --> 0:16:20.520 you guys' wedding, I felt like I missed an opportunity 0:16:20.520 --> 0:16:23.000 to say those things. I was like, gosh, darn, and 0:16:23.040 --> 0:16:24.560 I wish I could go back in time and say it. 0:16:24.960 --> 0:16:28.200 But it all works out for the best. Yeah, yeah, 0:16:28.240 --> 0:16:32.840 you said it here, so yeah it happened. Yeah, all right, 0:16:32.880 --> 0:16:34.720 So you guys married for a year, and we'll wrap 0:16:34.760 --> 0:16:38.400 this up really quick. One maybe piece of advice you 0:16:38.400 --> 0:16:41.240