Speaker 1: Help We Suck At Being Newlywed?
Speaker 2: With Dean Aungler, Haylen miller Key and Jared Haven An
Speaker 2: iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 1: What is going on? Everybody?
Speaker 3: Welcome to it all new special episode of Help We
Speaker 3: Suck At Being Newlyweds. We're recording live from the w
Speaker 3: aspin Hotel Room three seventy two, and we're doing this
Speaker 3: a little differently this week. We don't have any producers
Speaker 3: with us. I missed the recording last yesterday because I
Speaker 3: was busy hiking him out with my brother who I'll
Speaker 3: get to that in a second, And so we're just
Speaker 3: recording this right before we drive up to our wedding venue.
Speaker 2: Anything you want to add, Yeah, we missed the other
Speaker 2: first episode because Dean's Tucks is Lost was lost. Now
Speaker 2: it's been found. Been a stressful week.
Speaker 3: It's been fine for us, but it's been stressful for
Speaker 3: the producers over at iHeart Radio, who we love so much.
Speaker 1: Sorry for having to continuously.
Speaker 3: Reschedule, but we have a great episode. We have two
Speaker 3: incredibly special guests joining us. Two guests that I thought
Speaker 3: we would never get on this podcast, but everyone's been
Speaker 3: asking about. Everyone has been dying to get you two
Speaker 3: guys on, can I use your real names?
Speaker 2: Sure?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Great. We've got Ross.
Speaker 3: Bell and Avery Bell joining us all the way from Driggs, Idaho,
Speaker 3: and a little Murray Bell. So if you hear some
Speaker 3: wrestling around in the background, that's just the three month
Speaker 3: old baby making his presence known. But if you guys
Speaker 3: want to say hello.
Speaker 1: Hello, hello, hello.
Speaker 3: Yeah, So talk about my brothers a lot on this podcast.
Speaker 3: It's great to finally have one on. And my sister
Speaker 3: in law, is it you're my sister in law? That's correct,
Speaker 3: that's interesting. This morning I was texting brad our other brother,
Speaker 3: and I was like, yeah, don't worry about picking up
Speaker 3: my tucks.
Speaker 1: Our grandparents got it.
Speaker 3: And I was like, that was the first time I
Speaker 3: said our grandparents instead of Kaylen's grandparents. And now I
Speaker 3: have to start calling you my sister instead of whatever
Speaker 3: else I call you.
Speaker 1: I just I just called you Avery before.
Speaker 3: But it's just weird saying don't you think it's kind
Speaker 3: of weird going from calling the person they're named then like,
Speaker 3: you're gonna call me your brother.
Speaker 1: I guess you were married. It's all different. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: all I go. I'm married to your family. You think that.
Speaker 3: But yeah, I wanted to have you guys on the
Speaker 3: podcast obviously because we never get to have you on
Speaker 3: the podcast and it's just a great opportunity for that.
Speaker 3: But you guys have a three month old baby, uh,
Speaker 3: and I don't know what do you want to talk
Speaker 3: with him about?
Speaker 2: Well, this was your idea, what do you want to
Speaker 2: talk about? I do want to say though, that we
Speaker 2: are sharing mic and you're gonna hear a lot of
Speaker 2: Dean's voice because he is a mike hog.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, because you like you like to listen and
Speaker 1: I like to talk. So there it's uh.
Speaker 3: I when we were so my brother and I hiked
Speaker 3: Maroon Bells yesterday. That was my last fourteen er and
Speaker 3: I've finished with them now. And the whole time we
Speaker 3: were hiking, whenever there's a lapse in the conversation, I
Speaker 3: was thinking about all these great ideas about what we
Speaker 3: could talk about on the podcast today, but mostly because
Speaker 3: when we're hiking, I feel like we could just talk
Speaker 3: about anything, and I was like, Oh, all the stuff
Speaker 3: that we're talking about here would be great to talk
Speaker 3: about on the podcast. But now that we're just sitting
Speaker 3: in a hotel room, it's like a little more challenging
Speaker 3: to think about what I wanted to talk about.
Speaker 2: Well, because iHeart does a great job at giving us
Speaker 2: rundowns questions to ask and we're just doing it ourselves
Speaker 2: right now.
Speaker 3: Oh, I got a good question for you guys. We're
Speaker 3: getting married in two days. What's some good marriage advice
Speaker 3: you have for us?
Speaker 4: This is actually like I talked to cald about yesterday.
Speaker 4: I think is cool. Is this idea of micro agreements
Speaker 4: And so you're like thinking of all the small parts
Speaker 4: of your day and when someone says something your partner specifically,
Speaker 4: how do you like use that moment to be kind
Speaker 4: of their ally. So, for example, this morning, we were
Speaker 4: walking here and I was like, hey, Ross, can I
Speaker 4: tell you all the names of all these flowers? And
Speaker 4: he could have been like, no, we're in a hurry,
Speaker 4: but instead he's like, yes, please do, even though he's
Speaker 4: probably not interested.
Speaker 1: A lot of names of new flowers.
Speaker 5: I never knew. I do remember reading about a study
Speaker 5: a while ago that said, like they could predict the
Speaker 5: likelihood of a divorce by micro agreements throughout the day.
Speaker 5: So it's like, if you just disagree over like stupid
Speaker 5: little things all the.
Speaker 1: Time, it's like your chance of divorce is like way higher.
Speaker 2: What if you're marrying at Countririon.
Speaker 3: It's like, well, Ross second ninety percent of my personality
Speaker 3: from Ross. But if you can do it, I'll be
Speaker 3: able to figure out way to do it as well.
Speaker 4: I will say yesterday at the car, so we when
Speaker 4: we first got married, we definitely quickly had to make
Speaker 4: rules of the debate. So like when we were having
Speaker 4: a conversation in the car, the rule became like you
Speaker 4: cannot just say no, that is not allowed. You can't
Speaker 4: speak over each other. We have to define the terms.
Speaker 4: And we on the drive here to your guys' wedding,
Speaker 4: had our first like flawless debate. There's no interrupting, no
Speaker 4: hard nos, and we're really proud of ourselves. So it
Speaker 4: took a year, but we can now officially have a
Speaker 4: good debate.
Speaker 1: We did it.
Speaker 3: I gotta say to you deserve a lot of credit
Speaker 3: for that, because I was debating with Ross in the
Speaker 3: hot dub last night quite a bit, drinking our beers.
Speaker 3: It's like midnight and we're like yelling at each other
Speaker 3: about the most meaningless stuff. I'd say it was, it's meaningful,
Speaker 3: but like only to that moment, you know, sure, and
Speaker 3: Ross was listening. He was, you know, he was processing
Speaker 3: everything I had to say, and then he would respawn
Speaker 3: to it with like an affirmation and then go off
Speaker 3: on his tangent and be like, Wow, Avery's really teaching
Speaker 3: aroun us how to have a grown up conversation with someone.
Speaker 2: I do want to talk about on the micro agreements,
Speaker 2: because I think that's super important. Have you thought about
Speaker 2: that before?
Speaker 3: I think I'm pretty good at the micro agreements. I
Speaker 3: feel like I always give you the space to talk
Speaker 3: about whatever you.
Speaker 1: Want to talk about.
Speaker 3: Granted, and you're not going to be talking about the flowers,
Speaker 3: but like if you're like, you want to talk about
Speaker 3: pop culture or something, and I couldn't care less about that,
Speaker 3: I'd be like, go for it, let's go.
Speaker 2: But we were talking about this yesterday, Like just an example.
Speaker 2: Avery gave was like, oh, these flowers are pretty, and
Speaker 2: you being like, yeah, the flowers are pretty, versus disagreeing
Speaker 2: and be like, well but actually.
Speaker 4: No, I'm just saying.
Speaker 2: I think she brought it up to me and I
Speaker 2: think it's really smarted.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I like, I really whatever you want to get
Speaker 3: excited to talk about something, I listen to you, like,
Speaker 3: for instance, the last thing I can think of besides
Speaker 3: what I was talking about yesterday, the pop culture stuff
Speaker 3: you were talking about, the Ashton and Mela stuff and
Speaker 3: I don't care, but you. I was just like letting
Speaker 3: you go and I was listening and letting you talk
Speaker 3: about it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but we're talking about agreements versus like just what Anyways,
Speaker 2: I just think it's good for us to be aware
Speaker 2: of that because she made a good point. She's like,
Speaker 2: if your partner doesn't agree with you and like doesn't
Speaker 2: have these micro agreements throughout the day, it does kind
Speaker 2: of sting a little. So it's a good thing to
Speaker 2: be aware of.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I think we talked about your guys' wedding on the
Speaker 2: podcast after it happened, and it was the coolest wedding
Speaker 2: we've ever been to. So do you guys want to
Speaker 2: talk about it or do you want to talk about
Speaker 2: your you wanting to do this and set this up
Speaker 2: for Avery?
Speaker 5: Yeah, And I guess, just to like recap really quick,
Speaker 5: is we went I kind of tricked Avery into marrying me.
Speaker 1: I guess.
Speaker 5: She thought she thought we were going on a climbing
Speaker 5: trip and in reality, we had all of her family
Speaker 5: come down to Tahoe, all of my family, and then
Speaker 5: I proposed to her the first day we were there,
Speaker 5: and then we got married the next day after that.
Speaker 5: So it was like completely a surprise to her and
Speaker 5: it was great. And the reason that it was really
Speaker 5: good for us is because we're both pretty introverted, and
Speaker 5: so it was like kind of skipped all of that
Speaker 5: passle and stress of everything that goes into you know,
Speaker 5: putting on a wedding and you know, trying to invite
Speaker 5: people and where people are going to sit, and you know,
Speaker 5: just those million little things. It's like we just kind
Speaker 5: of skipped that and it was all just our close
Speaker 5: family and we had a really great time and it
Speaker 5: was really awesome.
Speaker 4: We were remembering on their drive down. One of the
Speaker 4: main ways that Ross tricked me into marrying him is
Speaker 4: that we got there the first night. I had no
Speaker 4: suspicions that anything different was happening than a normal climbing trip,
Speaker 4: and he confirmed that by us not having anywhere to camp.
Speaker 4: So we was like we drove all the way there,
Speaker 4: it was like ted pm. We're driving on to all
Speaker 4: these different campsites, all of them are full, like there's
Speaker 4: no blm land near top where we were, so we
Speaker 4: ended up like going to a camp guard and camping
Speaker 4: right outside the entrance to the camguard on the road,
Speaker 4: and then in the morning we woke up super early
Speaker 4: and just ducked out. And so if I had any
Speaker 4: suspicions that it was a special weekend, they were smashed
Speaker 4: right then.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I was really lucky because when I asked Avery's
Speaker 5: parents for permission, of course, and Avery's mom was really
Speaker 5: excited to like help out and plant. So she's a planner.
Speaker 5: I'm obviously not. So she planned everything, and my one
Speaker 5: responsibility was camping the first night, so I kind of
Speaker 5: blew it. So I was really lucky that she kind
Speaker 5: of made it, made it as amazing as it was.
Speaker 3: Did you blow it because you guys did sleep somewhere, Yeah,
Speaker 3: you slept.
Speaker 1: I didn't really blow it.
Speaker 3: I would say it was just maybe a little bit
Speaker 3: more less organized than Yeah.
Speaker 4: The thing if we had had like a booked campsite,
Speaker 4: I would have been like, this is weird. Ross has
Speaker 4: never booked a campsite before. This is a lot of planning.
Speaker 4: Something is weird.
Speaker 3: What made your guys a super unique and you had
Speaker 3: touched on a little bit as you proposed on the
Speaker 3: beach in Tahost beautiful moment, but then you were like,
Speaker 3: all right, let's go to a bar and celebrate. You
Speaker 3: walk into the bar, family's there, surprised to avery, and
Speaker 3: then the next surprise was You're like, yeah, we're actually
Speaker 3: gonna get married tomorrow.
Speaker 1: Did you mention that already? Yes?
Speaker 3: Oh you did, Okay you did, so sorry, there's a
Speaker 3: baby crown over there. I was getting a little distracted.
Speaker 3: Super unique and super cool too, and I mean it
Speaker 3: just takes a special person to be like this is
Speaker 3: you know, like if I did that with Kaylin, I'm
Speaker 3: sure she would have loved it, but.
Speaker 1: Part of it would have been different.
Speaker 3: And it's just so interesting to think, like, you know,
Speaker 3: every relationship is that different, and it's great to you
Speaker 3: for you to know your partner that well to be like,
Speaker 3: this is something that she's going to really appreciate.
Speaker 1: Right.
Speaker 5: Yeah, her mom is super skeptical at first, but then
Speaker 5: like I think she like kind of asked you, like
Speaker 5: to get like your feeling on it, and like you
Speaker 5: basically said the same thing, It would have been perfect
Speaker 5: if it just happened.
Speaker 4: So I think you're all forgetting that. We were actually
Speaker 4: in Vegas for Christmas one. You're all together and we
Speaker 4: were going to a Broncos game and we got a
Speaker 4: little drunk at the casino before and are we allowed
Speaker 4: to talk about drinking? We were a little bit drunk,
Speaker 4: and we were in Vegas the lay end of the elopement,
Speaker 4: and I was like, rots, let's go right now, let's
Speaker 4: get married. I think that probably yeah.
Speaker 5: That was the seed for sure, and what probably would
Speaker 5: have happened, but I forgot my license.
Speaker 4: I think you would have done it, not all your license,
Speaker 4: you didn't have your wallet. Yeah, can't get married without
Speaker 4: a wall.
Speaker 5: Right, And and then and then we talked about it,
Speaker 5: like on the car ride home, and I think she
Speaker 5: said like, oh, I would just be sad that my
Speaker 5: mom wasn't there. So then I was like, okay, like
Speaker 5: we it would work. We just got to have like
Speaker 5: family there.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's true.
Speaker 4: That is how that came together.
Speaker 3: Well, for the record, we wanted to do a Vegas
Speaker 3: elopement before coming to Aspen, and it takes a lot
Speaker 3: more planning than we thought. We always thought you could
Speaker 3: just show up and be like, hey, we're drunk, we
Speaker 3: want to get married. Granted obviously we would have been sober,
Speaker 3: but like that's how you hear about it in Vegas,
Speaker 3: Like two drunk people walk into a chapel end up
Speaker 3: getting married.
Speaker 1: But it's like a little bit more of a process
Speaker 1: than that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was gonna explain. It's you have to get
Speaker 2: the marriage license, which but you have to go to
Speaker 2: the Clark County Recorder and then you go to wherever
Speaker 2: you want to get married. But it's expensive and you
Speaker 2: have to schedule. You can't just show up. So like
Speaker 2: the only one available was eight pms. I'm like, how
Speaker 2: many people are booking out their Vegas weddings this far
Speaker 2: in advance? And it would have been five hundred dollars
Speaker 2: and we just got our marriage license today it was
Speaker 2: thirty dollars. So it's like, you know, made sense.
Speaker 3: Yeah, part of the novelty I guess of getting married
Speaker 3: and Vegas, and I would have I would have definitely
Speaker 3: wanted like an Elvis impersonator to marry. Yes, that's a
Speaker 3: next that's en up charge two hundred dollars to have
Speaker 3: in Elvis from personator to MARYA.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you guys just celebrated your year anniversary probably.
Speaker 4: Right, Yeah, yeah, pretty recently, pretty recently, like July.
Speaker 1: July.
Speaker 3: Okay, so a couple months ago, which is great. First
Speaker 3: year is going good.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean I keep thinking about our first year
Speaker 4: and I'm pretty proud of what we've gone through. I
Speaker 4: think it's only going to get easier because we had
Speaker 4: a baby, so as pregnant for nine months out of
Speaker 4: the twelve.
Speaker 5: While we're remodeling our house. At the same time, we
Speaker 5: were living in a job site, basically having a baby.
Speaker 5: And yeah, I mean basically all of the stress factors
Speaker 5: that you could have are pretty much there.
Speaker 1: It worked out.
Speaker 4: Yes, here, we are here, We're still here, and I
Speaker 4: think better than ever.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's good. We need to start defining our debate rules.
Speaker 5: Because you know, yeah, I will say too.
Speaker 4: That was the one thing I was like, the reason
Speaker 4: I know this one better is because I'm actually having fun.
Speaker 4: And usually Ross would be like blah blah blah blah blah,
Speaker 4: and I'd be like, Ross, I'm not having fun. This
Speaker 4: is not a fun conversation for me. He's like, I'm
Speaker 4: having the best time of my life.
Speaker 1: I love debating.
Speaker 5: I'm very passionate about a few subjects, and so when
Speaker 5: you get on it.
Speaker 3: I just kind of that was a contentious point last night.
Speaker 3: I was like, you are not too passionate, but the
Speaker 3: way some of the verbidge you're choosing maybe because he's
Speaker 3: a little bit working.
Speaker 4: One of the things we're still working on is he'll
Speaker 4: say ninety nine point nine percent sure about everything. It's like,
Speaker 4: I'm a ninety nine point nine percent sure.
Speaker 3: Of that sure than what he was saying last night.
Speaker 3: Last night, he was saying irrefutable, positive.
Speaker 5: And a little bit a few more drinks.
Speaker 2: Last So, Ross, you're not giving a speech at the wedding,
Speaker 2: but you could give a private speech right now if
Speaker 2: you want to.
Speaker 1: A private speech podcast.
Speaker 4: Wedding smoothies.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Ross doesn't want to give a speech or other
Speaker 3: brothers giving a speech, so it's kind of you know.
Speaker 5: Yeah, you didn't give a speech at my wedding.
Speaker 3: So I actually was just telling Kaitlin about how sad
Speaker 3: I was. I didn't give a speech.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was messed up.
Speaker 3: So it was just tough because Avery's brother was still
Speaker 3: in the show.
Speaker 1: Yeah I couldn't follow him up. Rad obviously wants to
Speaker 1: give a speech.
Speaker 3: He did great, and I was like, people are so
Speaker 3: of listening to people give speeches, and I got also
Speaker 3: self conscious about it, right, But yeah, I do regret that.
Speaker 3: I was just telling killing the other day about how
Speaker 3: I regret that not giving a speech. So I mean,
Speaker 3: you're right, you don't need to give a speech because
Speaker 3: I blew it and didn't give a speech.
Speaker 1: A very great Yeah, if.
Speaker 4: You were to give a speech at our wedding.
Speaker 2: Wait, actually, what would you have different question?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 2: What a recent We don't need a ross to give
Speaker 2: a speech right now, we need you to give the
Speaker 2: speech you're going to give it, Ross's what.
Speaker 3: I won't give the speech, but I'll give the gist
Speaker 3: of it. I suppose I was thinking about what I
Speaker 3: was going to say, and I I just I hate
Speaker 3: speeches so much, especially in this like a little intimate
Speaker 3: of a setting. I was going to say, basically that
Speaker 3: you've been my best friend for my entire life, my
Speaker 3: first best friend and my best best friend.
Speaker 1: Does that make sense for my entire life?
Speaker 3: And you're the stronger, cooler, smarter, kinder version of me,
Speaker 3: and I have always looked up to you and I'll
Speaker 3: always look up to you.
Speaker 1: And now that your dad, I think that's really awesome.
Speaker 3: This obviously was not what I would have sad at
Speaker 3: the wedding because you don't have a kid then. But
Speaker 3: it was basically just that elongated me. It's just saying
Speaker 3: how cool I think you are, and how how I
Speaker 3: always aspire to be more like you and everything I do.
Speaker 5: That's funny because that was the speech I was going
Speaker 5: to give to you.
Speaker 1: No, it's so stupid. I don't understand.
Speaker 3: Every time you say that like nice things about me,
Speaker 3: I'm like, I don't get it because your way cooler
Speaker 3: than I am.
Speaker 5: No way, And I've always described you as somebody who
Speaker 5: has some of my strengths and none of my weaknesses.
Speaker 3: I just disagree with that. I wish I had your strengths,
Speaker 3: I mean some of them. Yeah, you got your week,
Speaker 3: you got your weaknesses, don't question about that. But my weaknesses,
Speaker 3: I think are a little bit more. Uh uh, they're
Speaker 3: bigger weaknesses. Yeah, but who knows.
Speaker 4: Yeah, maybe next time you guys hot up together, you
Speaker 4: can give each other.
Speaker 3: I like our hot top conversations more than these sappy ones.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: It's interesting though, because it's like you don't it's so
Speaker 3: silly to say, but like you should take the opportunity
Speaker 3: to tell people how much you care about them more often.
Speaker 3: But as brothers and as unglerts as we are, we're
Speaker 3: not really good at sharing our emotions. And every time
Speaker 3: you miss an opportunity to share it in a setting
Speaker 3: where you're like not expected to but you are like
Speaker 3: allowed to, I guess more so, And like the wedding,
Speaker 3: you guys' wedding, I felt like I missed an opportunity
Speaker 3: to say those things. I was like, gosh, darn, and
Speaker 3: I wish I could go back in time and say it.
Speaker 3: But it all works out for the best. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: you said it here, so yeah it happened. Yeah, all right,
Speaker 3: So you guys married for a year, and we'll wrap
Speaker 3: this up really quick. One maybe piece of advice you
Speaker 3: could have for us when it comes to a baby bearing.
Speaker 1: Ross.
Speaker 3: For the record, for the listeners out there, Ross is
Speaker 3: really adamant about us having a child that basically as
Speaker 3: soon as possible.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Oh.
Speaker 3: Every time I talk to every time I talk to Ross,
Speaker 3: he's like, so you guys having a baby yet?
Speaker 5: Yeah, Mary, Mary needs a best friend.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, it's it's all the cliches, they're all
Speaker 4: pretty much true. It does change your life a fair amount.
Speaker 4: But the things that are hard are totally outweighed.
Speaker 1: Bite. That was the baby, by the way.
Speaker 5: I don't know if you've heard that far, but no, no,
Speaker 5: this baby has the most amazing fart to body weight ratio.
Speaker 5: It's so insane. If he continues to like hold that
Speaker 5: ratio as he grows into an adult, it would be
Speaker 5: absolutely terrifying. He fars louder than I do. He fars
Speaker 5: louder than I do. It's so crazy.
Speaker 4: So that maybe is a piece of advice is once
Speaker 4: you have a baby, blame farts on the baby always
Speaker 4: and no one will question it.
Speaker 1: Yeah. That's awesome, that's so funny.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but I was just, yeah, I was going to say,
Speaker 4: like the good parts outweigh. You guys got some baby
Speaker 4: smiles this morning. Those baby smiles make all you're worth it,
Speaker 4: all the hard stuff.
Speaker 3: But sweet well, thank you guys so much for sitting
Speaker 3: down with us for ten minutes. We appreciate it. It's,
Speaker 3: you know, not the easiest thing to do sometimes, but
Speaker 3: thank you very much. I love both of you, and Murray,
Speaker 3: of course I love you as well, even though you
Speaker 3: don't know what that means yet.
Speaker 1: Thank you to the listeners.
Speaker 3: For tuning in on this weird episode of Help we
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Speaker 3: We'll give you some wedding updates where we'll be married
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Speaker 3: a little bit less. Okay, where we suck at being newlyweds,
Speaker 3: just we'll actually be newlyweds, So that'll be we'll actually
Speaker 3: start sucking at being newlyweds instead of just sucking at
Speaker 3: being fiances, which will be a nice change of pace
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