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Speaker 2: I'm living with my cheating ex's mom.

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Speaker 3: It's our complicated living situation.

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Speaker 2: Hi, I'm twenty two. My ex twenty two female cheated

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Speaker 2: on me. Her mom punted her out. Her mom forty

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Speaker 2: three females said I could live in the house forever

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Speaker 2: if I wanted. Am I the a hole? If I stay.

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Speaker 3: Calling her right now?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: The mom wants you bad.

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Speaker 2: She wants you bad. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 2: Okay Storytime suppered it. So I met my ex, let's

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Speaker 2: call her Lisa. So it's less intense for me. Writing

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Speaker 2: X is still a lot. You know, we met in

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Speaker 2: high school. We started dating when we were thirteen. It

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Speaker 2: was great her mom liked me, and I love Lisa.

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Speaker 2: She was funny, smart, and was gorgeous. She was a

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Speaker 2: gorgeous thirteen year old. We spent a lot of time

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Speaker 2: at her place because she was thirteen. Doi I was

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Speaker 2: so happy back then. I don't have parents, so I

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Speaker 2: lived with my grandma. But she was more than enough.

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Speaker 2: She was strong, funny in a crude way, lively, and

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Speaker 2: a straight up legend. I was seventeen when she passed

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Speaker 2: and I moved in with Lisa and her mom. I

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Speaker 2: was devastated, but they were very inviting. My relationship with

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Speaker 2: Lisa grew. It was amazing. They helped me through it.

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Speaker 2: Lisa was my rock. It was the three of us

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Speaker 2: since until now.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because she found another rock to sit on rhymes.

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Speaker 2: With the rock whoa oh yikes. Every day was similar

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Speaker 2: after our high school graduation. Her mom would drop Lisa

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Speaker 2: off at university and then her mom, let's call her Jen,

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Speaker 2: writing her mom over and over and this rant will

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Speaker 2: be weird. Jen and I would go to work, we

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Speaker 2: work on the same street, and then we'd leave at

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Speaker 2: five pm and go home. Lisa would be home by then.

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Speaker 2: Then we'd eat dinner together.

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Speaker 3: Cute.

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Speaker 2: It was like that for the last.

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Speaker 3: Two years, a little too cute.

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Speaker 2: I know for some that sounds boring, but I enjoy stability.

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Speaker 2: I was happy, and we were saving up money for

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Speaker 2: our own place, a good place. Jen never asked for end,

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Speaker 2: but she always took it because she knows how important

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Speaker 2: it is to me that I contribute. Lisa and Jen

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Speaker 2: were my family. I was gonna marry Lisa and Jen

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Speaker 2: was my best friend. I know it's weird that my

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Speaker 2: best friend is my ex girlfriend's mom.

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Speaker 3: Well, now that we understand living which she's basically your

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Speaker 2: Mommy iyeyy yi. I found out she was cheating on

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Speaker 2: me last month.

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Speaker 3: Oh.

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Speaker 2: She accidentally sent me a text that was clearly meant

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Speaker 2: for him. Ooh. I was devastated and started crying. It

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Speaker 2: was unbearable. Jen heard me. I showed her my phone

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Speaker 2: and she just helped me. Lisa came home and instead

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Speaker 2: of apologizing or making an excuse, she said, with venom,

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Speaker 3: Pack up.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, that's crazy. It repeats in my head most days.

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Speaker 2: Jen snap. There was screaming and swearing. Jen ended up

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Speaker 2: telling Lisa she had thirty minutes to back up. I

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Speaker 2: couldn't handle it. I was paralyzed in that one spot.

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Speaker 2: Lisa left about two hours later.

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Speaker 3: What so, wow, I'm just confused. How Ope he yeah,

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Speaker 3: didn't see this common Yeah she said it with venom. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: wouldn't there be like something now you see it now different?

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I feel like this is not at

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Speaker 2: because that's terrible. But I feel like she's been with

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: He started living with her because of, you know, some

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Speaker 3: So okay, so they've been together for thirteen years, started

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well they haven't been together.

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Speaker 3: Thirteen years, I know, but like they started living to

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Speaker 3: saying is they're getting really close to one another.

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Speaker 2: I'm talking about Ope and his girlfriend.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And so it gets it's like, how you know,

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Speaker 2: you got to present someone who you're constantly living with

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Speaker 2: then you know, you have no space from Yeah, and

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Speaker 2: she did the worst. You know she dealt with that

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Speaker 2: in the worst way possible by cheating on her partner.

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Speaker 3: Yep, he likes to cuddle. He's like Sophia. He likes

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Speaker 3: to cuddle, but she likes to cuddle with somebody else. Yikes,

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Speaker 3: she's starting to do that. Like how did ope? He

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Speaker 3: thought this was here? But how do you not see

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't know complacent, I don't know

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Speaker 2: cowboys God says. She accidentally sent him a text that

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Speaker 2: said you're so much better than my boyfriend. Probably, but

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Speaker 2: Jen held me and said, this is your home for

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Speaker 2: as long as you want. If you want to move,

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Speaker 2: I'll miss you, but you'll still be family. If you want,

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Speaker 3: I know exactly how he held her to how she

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Speaker 2: Uh oh, yikes, Yice. Being told that really helped me

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Speaker 2: when I wasn't around, Lisa and her dad came by

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Speaker 2: to pick her stuff up. Lisa and Jen have had

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Speaker 2: a couple of major fights, but Jen made it so

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Speaker 2: Lisa and her friends are giving me a hard time,

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Speaker 2: sending hurt full text messages, and I just don't know

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Speaker 2: how to deal with that. What the heck, What the heck?

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Speaker 3: This is weird? This is weird.

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Speaker 2: Lisa has been switching between calling me a loser for

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Speaker 2: Really what really super different approaches, and I don't think

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Speaker 3: You can't say you're a loser, give me a second

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Speaker 2: Loser, give me a second chance. I am never getting

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Speaker 2: has been living with her dad. He's tried to mediate,

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Speaker 2: but that was not accepted by me. Jen's stance is

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Speaker 2: not invited to live at home. Her actions are disgusting

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Speaker 2: has become. I want to continue to live here for

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Speaker 2: the time being. I sleep in the old office which

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Speaker 2: the study. It's the only home I've ever had, and

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Speaker 2: Jen is my best friend. A lot of people in

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Speaker 2: my life think I'm responsible for Lisa being punted out.

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Speaker 2: That's what got me questioning myself. Did I take her

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Speaker 3: And there is an update real quick clarifying he started

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Speaker 2: M hm, okay, grandsather passed away.

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Speaker 3: Grandmother passed away. That is the one who's take care

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Speaker 3: of him. Yes, I don't think you living with Gin

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Speaker 3: point where you're like twenty seven, you have a full

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that you should. I don't think you

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Speaker 2: should live there forever. Yes, I think that you have

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Speaker 2: a very special relation. Like normally, if this was just

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Speaker 2: bit after, like whenever your grandmother's be But yeah, she's

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Speaker 2: considerable time. This is a different relationship. However, I think

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Speaker 2: you should probably start Oh he's twenty two, by way,

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Speaker 2: I don't think that you have to rush out of there, no,

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Speaker 3: Of there, get your feet on.

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Speaker 2: But I think one you gotta start working on finding

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Speaker 3: Yeah, because there's definitely a lot of code dependency here.

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Speaker 2: There's so much codependency. I don't think your ex's mom

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Speaker 3: Whoa could be a mom?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but I think you can motherly relationship with her.

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Speaker 2: But I think that you should absolutely work on finding

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Speaker 3: So a lot of people marry that, or a lot

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Speaker 2: Nice. But there's an update, folks.

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Speaker 3: I never really understood that I married my best friend.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, my friend Isabella. She's like, if you ever say

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Speaker 3: Like I don't one of your best friend. I want

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Speaker 2: Yay, bestI I don't mind being like best friend. Well,

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Speaker 2: I have a lot of us friends. Update A lot happened.

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Speaker 2: A few days after my post. Lisa came by. We

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Speaker 2: second chance. I said no. And then she asked if

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Speaker 2: I was sleeping with her mom. Fair, honestly, fair question.

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Speaker 3: We're all asking that. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I said no, that she is the only person I

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Speaker 2: with me with a smugness that drove me insane. I

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Speaker 2: remember exactly what I told her. I don't love you

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Speaker 2: the second I found out you cheated on me, it disappeared,

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Speaker 2: and that I would rather drink three leaders of elephant

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Speaker 3: Some would you rather really do bother me? They became real. Yikes.

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Speaker 2: She slapped me and then went to the backyard and

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Speaker 3: Also, girl, whenever elephant takes a piss, how many leaders

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Because do you have to He's gonna be drinking

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Is it like one leader you have to go

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Speaker 2: He's got one of those camel backpacks.

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Speaker 3: Mmmm. Can you batch up and get a weekly back?

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Speaker 2: it to her mom. It was disturbing. Then Jen, in

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Speaker 3: Also, we have some information on left and pissing. Oh yeah, oh, I.

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Speaker 2: Don't love that.

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Speaker 4: The internet's full of crazy stuff and this one's pretty mundane.

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Speaker 4: So on average, per day, it's fifty leaders per time

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Speaker 3: Okay, so that's ten leaders is three days worth. So

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Speaker 2: Basic, Okay, it's not make sure sure, yep, I'm just

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Speaker 3: Wow, that's like, Wow, what made her into this person?

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Speaker 2: Then they apologized to Jen for everything. Then they dropped

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Speaker 2: didn't believe them, So they all showed me their text

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Speaker 3: It is a tiny bit crazy that they went out

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Speaker 3: I don't blame them, though, Yeah, because of a friend

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Speaker 3: Honestly, there should be more friends like this where they

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Speaker 2: Like I also like understand their friends, because if one

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Speaker 3: Yeah, of course she had everybody fooled, but UH was

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Speaker 2: I accepted their apology. Mostly they all left, but Kate, Kate,

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Speaker 2: No, Riley, No, but uh oh p, I think you

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I have friends that are forty in up that I

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Speaker 3: No? Yeah, they're basketball players.

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Speaker 3: I crazy or are those serious red flags? And am

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00:19:24,080 --> 00:19:26,280
Speaker 3: I being naive here? I have to talk to her

440
00:19:26,320 --> 00:19:29,800
Speaker 3: tomorrow and I'm not sure how to approach this. Keon, Sophia,

441
00:19:29,840 --> 00:19:34,080
Speaker 3: what are we doing? Hmmm? Break up? Oh?

442
00:19:34,160 --> 00:19:35,439
Speaker 4: Yeah? Yeah? She respected me?

443
00:19:35,840 --> 00:19:37,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, and she lied about it.

444
00:19:38,000 --> 00:19:39,600
Speaker 4: I caught you and you're still going to play this.

445
00:19:39,560 --> 00:19:43,120
Speaker 2: Off alone with a guy that is in a class

446
00:19:43,160 --> 00:19:45,400
Speaker 2: with her until two am, and then she lied about it.

447
00:19:45,480 --> 00:19:48,840
Speaker 2: And the real kicker is that she blew off plans

448
00:19:48,880 --> 00:19:49,080
Speaker 2: to do.

449
00:19:49,240 --> 00:19:51,879
Speaker 4: Yes, it was like not one strike, not two strike.

450
00:19:51,960 --> 00:19:53,160
Speaker 4: It was like three.

451
00:19:53,000 --> 00:19:55,080
Speaker 2: Strikes in one night. Yeah, five strikes in one night.

452
00:19:55,480 --> 00:19:58,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, we're breaking up. We got an update. This all

453
00:19:58,920 --> 00:20:01,080
Speaker 3: happening a couple of days, but for what would have

454
00:20:01,160 --> 00:20:02,800
Speaker 3: been annas.

455
00:20:03,240 --> 00:20:05,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, so they're like a year at least.

456
00:20:05,880 --> 00:20:08,680
Speaker 4: Dang, that's rough one month.

457
00:20:09,440 --> 00:20:10,400
Speaker 2: That's true, I guess.

458
00:20:12,200 --> 00:20:12,840
Speaker 3: Anniversary.

459
00:20:13,320 --> 00:20:18,919
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. I didn't celebrate any anniversaries, and well,

460
00:20:18,960 --> 00:20:20,680
Speaker 2: I don't know, but I feel like some people celebrate

461
00:20:20,680 --> 00:20:23,439
Speaker 2: like one month, two months. I didn't have any intention

462
00:20:23,520 --> 00:20:23,760
Speaker 2: to that.

463
00:20:23,920 --> 00:20:25,840
Speaker 3: Oh that's like high school kind of level.

464
00:20:26,920 --> 00:20:28,800
Speaker 2: Okay, well I didn't do that, So you're.

465
00:20:28,680 --> 00:20:30,080
Speaker 3: Well, I'm just saying I'm mature.

466
00:20:30,240 --> 00:20:31,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm so much.

467
00:20:31,440 --> 00:20:33,680
Speaker 3: I did six months to Angie Owen and I little

468
00:20:33,960 --> 00:20:35,640
Speaker 3: that makes sense. Yeah, I'm like, we did it.

469
00:20:35,840 --> 00:20:38,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, we did it. We made it to six months.

470
00:20:38,320 --> 00:20:41,440
Speaker 3: I obviously should have seen the signs from the first post,

471
00:20:41,480 --> 00:20:44,280
Speaker 3: but the first part of this update and you guys know,

472
00:20:44,480 --> 00:20:48,480
Speaker 3: I initially did not end the relationship. What a regret. Yeah,

473
00:20:48,560 --> 00:20:51,080
Speaker 3: how I handled it was. We met the next morning

474
00:20:51,119 --> 00:20:53,560
Speaker 3: to talk and I let her explain her side of things.

475
00:20:53,880 --> 00:20:55,919
Speaker 3: She explained that other people were at the house that

476
00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:58,879
Speaker 3: night earlier, and she was going to be hanging around

477
00:20:59,080 --> 00:21:02,680
Speaker 3: with kids from class sometimes now that school has started.

478
00:21:03,000 --> 00:21:05,840
Speaker 3: Keep in mind, she's twenty five going back to school now,

479
00:21:06,240 --> 00:21:09,239
Speaker 3: and most of these kids are nineteen to twenty two.

480
00:21:09,680 --> 00:21:13,600
Speaker 3: Nothing super serious as far as class load is concerned.

481
00:21:13,880 --> 00:21:17,680
Speaker 3: She's studying theater at the community college. Sofia, you are

482
00:21:17,800 --> 00:21:19,520
Speaker 3: so into this, But what does that mean? If you're

483
00:21:19,520 --> 00:21:22,399
Speaker 3: studying theater at community college and you're twenty five talking

484
00:21:22,440 --> 00:21:24,720
Speaker 3: to twenty two year old boys? Does that mean?

485
00:21:24,920 --> 00:21:26,919
Speaker 2: Well, the theater at a community college at twenty five

486
00:21:27,000 --> 00:21:28,879
Speaker 2: is fine. That part's fine.

487
00:21:29,080 --> 00:21:31,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I'm saying I need, you know, nineteen year

488
00:21:31,359 --> 00:21:33,520
Speaker 3: old boys or whatever. What kind of class project are

489
00:21:33,560 --> 00:21:35,920
Speaker 3: you doing at you know, at two o'clock in the

490
00:21:35,960 --> 00:21:40,679
Speaker 3: morning with it none? None, You're you're smooching, smooching, you're

491
00:21:40,720 --> 00:21:43,920
Speaker 3: speechin to, you're practicing your kiss scenes. Yeah, yeah, I

492
00:21:44,040 --> 00:21:46,120
Speaker 3: use the date of theater, chick. Will we be hanging

493
00:21:46,119 --> 00:21:48,199
Speaker 3: out till two o'clock in the morning. That's so, I

494
00:21:48,240 --> 00:21:50,440
Speaker 3: love that for your homework. And then the next year

495
00:21:50,640 --> 00:21:52,480
Speaker 3: classes got serious. I was hanging out with my friend

496
00:21:52,560 --> 00:21:55,320
Speaker 3: Daniel Cox till two o'clock in the morning, running papers.

497
00:21:55,480 --> 00:21:56,679
Speaker 2: Okay, but.

498
00:21:58,200 --> 00:22:00,919
Speaker 3: Okay, I just I still had the from the theater. She

499
00:22:01,080 --> 00:22:04,040
Speaker 3: but I was just writing papers. I wasn't hanging out

500
00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:08,640
Speaker 3: with her anymore. Like school got serious a serious. Yeah,

501
00:22:08,720 --> 00:22:12,320
Speaker 3: it's because that stupid film professor. His name was mister Hollywood. No,

502
00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:13,639
Speaker 3: his name was mister Hollyfield.

503
00:22:13,960 --> 00:22:14,520
Speaker 2: Hollyfield.

504
00:22:14,520 --> 00:22:17,720
Speaker 3: Interesting Hollywood. Yeah, it was right. His favorite movie was

505
00:22:17,800 --> 00:22:22,240
Speaker 3: RoboCop because of the clamation they had in that movie. Yeah,

506
00:22:22,280 --> 00:22:24,280
Speaker 3: I better start talking about him. He's gonna watch this

507
00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:27,119
Speaker 3: one day. I explained to her why all the signs

508
00:22:27,160 --> 00:22:30,479
Speaker 3: point to that being a major fred flag. She somewhat

509
00:22:30,560 --> 00:22:33,879
Speaker 3: hears me out and apologizes for not better communicating her

510
00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:36,359
Speaker 3: plans that night, but defends herself that hanging out with

511
00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:39,160
Speaker 3: friends from class is not wrong, so in the future

512
00:22:39,440 --> 00:22:41,840
Speaker 3: she would be communicating better about her plans and do

513
00:22:41,880 --> 00:22:44,439
Speaker 3: a better job not making me feel concerned. I was

514
00:22:44,480 --> 00:22:49,880
Speaker 3: obviously angry and upset about this previous situation, but I

515
00:22:49,960 --> 00:22:52,840
Speaker 3: truly love this girl and was willing to give things

516
00:22:52,880 --> 00:22:56,280
Speaker 3: a chance to progress forward and her show me the

517
00:22:56,400 --> 00:23:00,359
Speaker 3: positive changes. We had continued our relationship and it was

518
00:23:00,400 --> 00:23:03,480
Speaker 3: going good for the most part. Then recently communication did

519
00:23:03,520 --> 00:23:06,200
Speaker 3: not seem to be going the best, and there were

520
00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:09,440
Speaker 3: some signs that she wasn't giving as much effort into

521
00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:12,800
Speaker 3: the things we spoke about before as she had promised

522
00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:15,000
Speaker 3: to do. There were signs of her actually trying to

523
00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:18,280
Speaker 3: pick fights and prepared to waiting them longer than needed,

524
00:23:18,600 --> 00:23:21,560
Speaker 3: even when I had made attempts to reconcile and move

525
00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:24,720
Speaker 3: forward from any arguments. Sounds like she's looking for an out.

526
00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:27,199
Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, this doesn't seem like she wants to be

527
00:23:27,200 --> 00:23:28,000
Speaker 2: in this relationship.

528
00:23:28,280 --> 00:23:31,560
Speaker 3: I did feel heavily at this time that she was

529
00:23:31,600 --> 00:23:35,199
Speaker 3: not respecting me in these conversations, and any attempts I

530
00:23:35,280 --> 00:23:39,080
Speaker 3: made to lovingly let her know this was met with hostility,

531
00:23:39,480 --> 00:23:42,119
Speaker 3: which she then would attempt to turn right back on

532
00:23:42,240 --> 00:23:45,200
Speaker 3: me like it was my fault the fight even happened.

533
00:23:45,680 --> 00:23:48,840
Speaker 3: This was getting old, but I was still making every

534
00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:52,040
Speaker 3: effort to bring us back to a good space on

535
00:23:52,080 --> 00:23:56,720
Speaker 3: a more everyday basis because I was wildly in love

536
00:23:56,760 --> 00:23:59,800
Speaker 3: with this girl and the connection I thought we shared.

537
00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:03,640
Speaker 3: The deceiving thing was is that she was also very

538
00:24:03,640 --> 00:24:06,879
Speaker 3: good at making me feel at other times she felt

539
00:24:06,880 --> 00:24:09,840
Speaker 3: the same way about me. You're the love of my life.

540
00:24:10,119 --> 00:24:13,800
Speaker 3: I love you more than anything. Future plans together, talking

541
00:24:13,840 --> 00:24:17,359
Speaker 3: about how lucky she was to be with me, et cetera.

542
00:24:17,960 --> 00:24:23,240
Speaker 3: These were all exploited to be absolute lies. Fast forward

543
00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:25,680
Speaker 3: to a few nights ago. We had plans to hang

544
00:24:25,760 --> 00:24:28,800
Speaker 3: out that night, and when I asked her earlier in

545
00:24:28,800 --> 00:24:31,399
Speaker 3: the day what she wanted to do, she told me

546
00:24:31,920 --> 00:24:35,040
Speaker 3: she actually agreed to go get sushi with a friend

547
00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:36,399
Speaker 3: she hadn't seen a while.

548
00:24:36,760 --> 00:24:40,080
Speaker 2: Hm, which friend?

549
00:24:40,480 --> 00:24:41,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, what's his name?

550
00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:44,439
Speaker 2: Friend? When don't you get in sushi? You gotta get

551
00:24:44,480 --> 00:24:45,520
Speaker 2: sushi at two in the morning.

552
00:24:45,840 --> 00:24:46,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, they don't.

553
00:24:46,680 --> 00:24:47,960
Speaker 2: They're not open at that time.

554
00:24:48,160 --> 00:24:48,960
Speaker 3: What's going on there?

555
00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:49,840
Speaker 4: The fisher are sleeping?

556
00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:51,720
Speaker 2: Yeah? I want sushi.

557
00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:55,600
Speaker 3: Oh no, you've done OPI. I let her know this

558
00:24:55,720 --> 00:24:59,280
Speaker 3: upset me, since she was bailing on her plans, but

559
00:24:59,320 --> 00:25:02,720
Speaker 3: it attempts to understanding. I then suggest we just meet

560
00:25:02,840 --> 00:25:05,560
Speaker 3: up after instead and go out that night to do

561
00:25:05,640 --> 00:25:08,639
Speaker 3: something fun. She did not give me a definite answer,

562
00:25:08,680 --> 00:25:11,280
Speaker 3: but kept bouncing around the subject, saying she would keep

563
00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:14,560
Speaker 3: me updated on when she was finished. I let her know, hey,

564
00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:18,520
Speaker 3: don't cancel plans with your boyfriend. Then, when he's cool

565
00:25:18,560 --> 00:25:21,520
Speaker 3: about it and tries to suggest something else, leave him

566
00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:23,439
Speaker 3: up in the air, saying maybe we can hang It

567
00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:26,520
Speaker 3: makes me feel like not a priority and isn't how

568
00:25:26,560 --> 00:25:29,080
Speaker 3: you treat someone you love. She ends up going off

569
00:25:29,119 --> 00:25:32,600
Speaker 3: on me again and we leave on the terms of Okay,

570
00:25:32,680 --> 00:25:35,800
Speaker 3: we'll just talk later. I call later and let her

571
00:25:35,800 --> 00:25:38,320
Speaker 3: know that after dinner it would mean a lot if

572
00:25:38,359 --> 00:25:41,600
Speaker 3: we could spend some time together. I had been wanting

573
00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:44,399
Speaker 3: that since all the time we were hanging out was

574
00:25:44,480 --> 00:25:47,240
Speaker 3: during the day with other stuff going on. Sometimes she

575
00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:50,120
Speaker 3: calls me after dinner around nine thirty pm and lets

576
00:25:50,160 --> 00:25:52,640
Speaker 3: me know she's home. I asked her to come hang

577
00:25:52,680 --> 00:25:55,320
Speaker 3: out so we can figure out what to do. Then

578
00:25:55,720 --> 00:25:58,919
Speaker 3: she deflects with, oh, my other friend girl who I know,

579
00:25:59,040 --> 00:26:01,720
Speaker 3: wanted to go to a midnight showing of a movie

580
00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:03,840
Speaker 3: tonight and I haven't seen her in so long.

581
00:26:04,240 --> 00:26:08,399
Speaker 2: Mm hmmm a midnight showing, So what time are you

582
00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:10,480
Speaker 2: getting back? Two in the morning.

583
00:26:11,200 --> 00:26:13,920
Speaker 3: I know I may seem completely stupid to you guys

584
00:26:13,920 --> 00:26:16,119
Speaker 3: at this point, but I assure you. I was already

585
00:26:16,119 --> 00:26:19,159
Speaker 3: seeing through a BS and knew something wasn't right. I

586
00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:22,120
Speaker 3: kept calm, just let her know I think that's messed up,

587
00:26:22,400 --> 00:26:24,720
Speaker 3: bums me out, and that I wish she would at

588
00:26:24,800 --> 00:26:27,560
Speaker 3: least try to include me with her friends when doing

589
00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:30,399
Speaker 3: stuff like this. She then takes to the level of

590
00:26:30,440 --> 00:26:32,679
Speaker 3: trying to make me feel bad that I can't just

591
00:26:32,720 --> 00:26:35,080
Speaker 3: be understanding and maybe she wants to go out with

592
00:26:35,119 --> 00:26:36,320
Speaker 3: her friends without me.

593
00:26:36,400 --> 00:26:39,600
Speaker 2: Sometimes I literally don't trust this woman at all.

594
00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:43,399
Speaker 3: No, I don't either a movie trust Also, fun fact,

595
00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:46,520
Speaker 3: movies have really good cameras inside them, So whatever you

596
00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:51,560
Speaker 3: do in movies all recorded. Keon, yeah, keon, I don't mind.

597
00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:56,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, OPI your girlfriend is like obviously lying to

598
00:26:56,800 --> 00:26:58,439
Speaker 2: you and she thinks you're dumb.

599
00:26:58,800 --> 00:27:03,360
Speaker 3: Maria says, hey, uh, one movie you gonna go see?

600
00:27:03,400 --> 00:27:06,080
Speaker 3: What time about theater? Great? I'm gonna go watch on

601
00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:06,960
Speaker 3: the Yeah.

602
00:27:06,960 --> 00:27:09,200
Speaker 2: Well, I feel like every time a Pie says like, hey, yeah,

603
00:27:09,200 --> 00:27:11,080
Speaker 2: I'd love to hang out, she's like, you're not. No,

604
00:27:11,240 --> 00:27:13,119
Speaker 2: Like I can't hang out with my friends alone. Like

605
00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:15,240
Speaker 2: I feel like she makes this big deal out of.

606
00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:16,200
Speaker 3: Everything she does.

607
00:27:16,359 --> 00:27:19,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, really weird, super suspicious.

608
00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:21,720
Speaker 3: It is she tells me she will call me after

609
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:23,800
Speaker 3: the movie and asks if she can come over and

610
00:27:23,840 --> 00:27:26,280
Speaker 3: spend the night with me after it's finished. Meanwhile, I

611
00:27:26,320 --> 00:27:28,760
Speaker 3: knew I had friends going out that night as well,

612
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:31,239
Speaker 3: and I could grab some drinks with them, finish her

613
00:27:31,280 --> 00:27:32,920
Speaker 3: up around the same time, and then meet back at

614
00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:34,800
Speaker 3: my house to spend the night together. I did not

615
00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:36,520
Speaker 3: tell her I was going out because it did not

616
00:27:36,600 --> 00:27:39,160
Speaker 3: seemed relevant at the time, and I had some weird

617
00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:42,560
Speaker 3: suspicions that maybe something else was going on. One forty

618
00:27:42,560 --> 00:27:45,080
Speaker 3: five am rolls around and I'm leaving the bar with

619
00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:47,600
Speaker 3: some friends to go grab a burrito before heading home.

620
00:27:47,960 --> 00:27:50,879
Speaker 3: I walk down the street and lo and behold, there

621
00:27:51,119 --> 00:27:54,280
Speaker 3: she is on the corner of the street standing with

622
00:27:55,080 --> 00:27:55,600
Speaker 3: a guy.

623
00:27:56,040 --> 00:27:59,440
Speaker 2: Yikes. Also, she was planning at coming over to your

624
00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:01,399
Speaker 2: house out like when two.

625
00:28:01,359 --> 00:28:03,200
Speaker 3: In the morning, three in the morning, because that guy's

626
00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:06,720
Speaker 3: probably gonna stay call her out and one, and.

627
00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:09,000
Speaker 2: She had plans to come hang out with you that night.

628
00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:12,560
Speaker 3: One of the same guys from that night at the

629
00:28:12,640 --> 00:28:16,800
Speaker 3: house in my original post. Shocker, I know, So it

630
00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:17,560
Speaker 3: was the same dude.

631
00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:20,040
Speaker 2: Oh so there were multiple people at her house.

632
00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:22,840
Speaker 3: Yeah, but there was probably one dude there who knows

633
00:28:22,880 --> 00:28:26,280
Speaker 3: she might like more than one seems like it.

634
00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:29,280
Speaker 2: Amy Lynn says she's pregas lighting him so that he'll

635
00:28:29,320 --> 00:28:31,680
Speaker 2: be more accepting when she calls him controlling.

636
00:28:31,359 --> 00:28:34,600
Speaker 3: Ooh, pregas lighting? What do you call that? What? Preheating?

637
00:28:34,720 --> 00:28:36,200
Speaker 2: Pre heating?

638
00:28:37,119 --> 00:28:40,600
Speaker 3: We can ad that to the book. Yes, yes, that's

639
00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:43,280
Speaker 3: his book. I confront her and ask her what's going on.

640
00:28:43,800 --> 00:28:47,400
Speaker 3: She attempts to even further lie, explain how her girlfriend

641
00:28:47,480 --> 00:28:49,880
Speaker 3: was supposed to come like that makes it any better?

642
00:28:50,840 --> 00:28:52,840
Speaker 3: Is it what it looks like? Blah blah blah blah blah.

643
00:28:52,880 --> 00:28:56,480
Speaker 3: Some old bs lies and no accountability. When even caught

644
00:28:56,720 --> 00:29:00,440
Speaker 3: in a dead lie on a date with another guy.

645
00:29:00,200 --> 00:29:00,920
Speaker 2: Where's the movie?

646
00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:02,160
Speaker 3: How even was the movie?

647
00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:03,320
Speaker 2: Sit? Outdoor movie?

648
00:29:03,680 --> 00:29:06,400
Speaker 3: H I turned to the guy and ask him what's

649
00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:09,760
Speaker 3: going on. He explains he invited her to the movies.

650
00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:13,280
Speaker 3: Now much else kind of looks scared because I'm sure

651
00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:15,960
Speaker 3: I was. I rate. I have no problem with them

652
00:29:15,960 --> 00:29:19,480
Speaker 3: at all, because it's one hundred percent my then girlfriend's fault.

653
00:29:19,520 --> 00:29:22,200
Speaker 3: He's probably like, tell to me straight, buddy. And plus

654
00:29:22,600 --> 00:29:27,000
Speaker 3: this guy's probably like twenty and he's twenty nine. Twenty oh,

655
00:29:27,080 --> 00:29:29,000
Speaker 3: he's thirty five. I think so no, no, no, he's twenty nine.

656
00:29:29,000 --> 00:29:32,040
Speaker 3: A girlfriend's twenty five. Girlfriends Oh, you're right, were right? Okay, sorry,

657
00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:34,040
Speaker 3: so he's probably twenty nine dude being like.

658
00:29:34,080 --> 00:29:37,840
Speaker 2: Yo, hey, why are you with my girlfriend? Bud? What

659
00:29:37,880 --> 00:29:40,360
Speaker 2: are you doing with my girlfriend? He's like, oh, we're

660
00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:41,800
Speaker 2: going to a movie.

661
00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:44,960
Speaker 3: I walked to the other side with her and ask

662
00:29:45,080 --> 00:29:47,040
Speaker 3: her to be real with me for once, tell me

663
00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:49,480
Speaker 3: what's going on and to come to terms with who

664
00:29:49,520 --> 00:29:52,480
Speaker 3: she is and what she's done here. She shuts down

665
00:29:52,480 --> 00:29:54,920
Speaker 3: when she realizes she can't talk her way out of things,

666
00:29:55,080 --> 00:29:57,320
Speaker 3: and tries to ask if we can talk tomorrow and

667
00:29:57,360 --> 00:29:59,240
Speaker 3: not make a scene here. I tell her, if you

668
00:29:59,240 --> 00:30:02,120
Speaker 3: want to explain yourself, well, then you can't leave right now,

669
00:30:02,640 --> 00:30:05,200
Speaker 3: and I will at least hear you out. She says, No,

670
00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:08,280
Speaker 3: I'm not leaving my friend here alone. You were overreacting

671
00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:10,160
Speaker 3: and it's not as bad as it looks.

672
00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:13,000
Speaker 2: I would immediately break up. I'd be like, okay, all right, cool,

673
00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:16,400
Speaker 2: get right with your friend. Yeah, yep, I'm not leaving

674
00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:18,000
Speaker 2: my friend here. What do you mean I'm not leaving

675
00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:18,560
Speaker 2: my friend here?

676
00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:21,520
Speaker 3: Huh. Even though I'm pretty hard at this point, I

677
00:30:21,560 --> 00:30:23,760
Speaker 3: can't help but to bust out and laughter at the

678
00:30:23,800 --> 00:30:26,600
Speaker 3: disbelief of the whole thing. I tell her this is

679
00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:30,320
Speaker 3: it and the relationship is fully done now should have

680
00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 3: been done a while ago, but that seals the deal,

681
00:30:33,080 --> 00:30:35,840
Speaker 3: and I truly see you for who you are now,

682
00:30:36,360 --> 00:30:40,840
Speaker 3: a lying, manipulative, actual sociopath. I left with my friends,

683
00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:44,320
Speaker 3: blocked her on everything, and am now moving forward for good.

684
00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:47,160
Speaker 3: I do want to say, though I made huge mistake

685
00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:49,880
Speaker 3: in this whole scenario, but not leaving when my gut

686
00:30:49,920 --> 00:30:53,280
Speaker 3: told me to. So many signs pointed to her being

687
00:30:53,320 --> 00:30:56,600
Speaker 3: so fake, such a liar, and not trustworthy at all.

688
00:30:57,160 --> 00:30:59,960
Speaker 3: But I let the good times under manipulative words keep

689
00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:03,920
Speaker 3: me around, thinking that I just needed to make more

690
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:07,920
Speaker 3: effort myself to make things work. I will say, maybe

691
00:31:07,920 --> 00:31:11,120
Speaker 3: you can relate to this. Whenever relationships don't seem to

692
00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:13,640
Speaker 3: be working, what it feels like you need to pour

693
00:31:13,720 --> 00:31:17,000
Speaker 3: more work into them instead of them easily just flowing

694
00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:17,760
Speaker 3: together and just working.

695
00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:20,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you're trying to solve problems, and you're trying

696
00:31:20,720 --> 00:31:24,360
Speaker 2: to solve problems and then ever go away. Yeah, I mean,

697
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:26,120
Speaker 2: I think there are always going to be hard things

698
00:31:26,120 --> 00:31:30,680
Speaker 2: in a relationship. But if you're not seeing that work

699
00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:33,200
Speaker 2: being done on both ends, then it's probably not a

700
00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:34,440
Speaker 2: relationship that's going to work out.

701
00:31:34,800 --> 00:31:37,280
Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, I will say being with Angie, it doesn't

702
00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:40,760
Speaker 3: feel like work at all at any point there. I mean,

703
00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:42,600
Speaker 3: like we talk about things and everything, but it doesn't

704
00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:44,400
Speaker 3: feel like I have to pour work into it. It

705
00:31:44,480 --> 00:31:44,959
Speaker 3: just happens.

706
00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:48,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, because well you have two hands holding it up, yeah,

707
00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:50,240
Speaker 2: rather than just one person being like yeah and the

708
00:31:50,280 --> 00:31:51,840
Speaker 2: other person being like stomping on it.

709
00:31:52,240 --> 00:31:54,960
Speaker 3: Yeah. And I have been in relationships where I putting

710
00:31:54,960 --> 00:31:56,720
Speaker 3: in a lot of work and stuff. Does it seem

711
00:31:56,800 --> 00:31:58,000
Speaker 3: to be doing anything?

712
00:31:58,160 --> 00:31:58,640
Speaker 2: Yeah?

713
00:31:58,680 --> 00:32:00,920
Speaker 3: Back to the story. Even though I said I was

714
00:32:01,040 --> 00:32:04,120
Speaker 3: very hurt by being deceived and catching someone cheat on me,

715
00:32:04,400 --> 00:32:06,560
Speaker 3: I ultimately know it's one hundred percent for the best

716
00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:10,040
Speaker 3: and a huge blessing in disguise because this person actually

717
00:32:10,040 --> 00:32:12,280
Speaker 3: truly never loved me the way I cared for them.

718
00:32:12,600 --> 00:32:14,600
Speaker 3: Who knows how much longer I would have to be

719
00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:17,560
Speaker 3: stuck around and let myself be treated like this. I

720
00:32:17,560 --> 00:32:20,080
Speaker 3: am grateful it happened now, and there is no chance

721
00:32:20,120 --> 00:32:23,440
Speaker 3: in heck I would give her a second chance. Sorry

722
00:32:23,440 --> 00:32:26,480
Speaker 3: for the novel, feels good event much love edit. I

723
00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:30,480
Speaker 3: really appreciate all the positive response and feedback. At two

724
00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:33,400
Speaker 3: for people responding thinking I was making assumptions about the

725
00:32:33,440 --> 00:32:36,960
Speaker 3: situation I walked upon that night and defending that it

726
00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:39,360
Speaker 3: could have just been a friend, let me explain that

727
00:32:39,440 --> 00:32:42,239
Speaker 3: there was no way. It was not what it looked like.

728
00:32:42,600 --> 00:32:45,600
Speaker 3: I did not include the whole dialogue exchange between us,

729
00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:48,000
Speaker 3: but the guy did make it clear he was under

730
00:32:48,040 --> 00:32:50,880
Speaker 3: impression that they were on a date, which is when

731
00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:54,560
Speaker 3: I walked away, because it most definitely contradicted her whole

732
00:32:54,600 --> 00:33:00,360
Speaker 3: made up story. Yeah, dang, you will find you're a

733
00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:03,080
Speaker 3: queen obe rough Rough.

734
00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:04,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean if he thought it was a date,

735
00:33:05,080 --> 00:33:09,200
Speaker 2: it was a date. Yeah, yeay, Rough, And I'm sorry,

736
00:33:09,240 --> 00:33:11,640
Speaker 2: and you'll find someone better who treats you right.

737
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:16,240
Speaker 3: Agreed. Agreed. Yeah, that's out there. Oh god, this is crazy.

738
00:33:17,080 --> 00:33:19,200
Speaker 2: But that is the end of that story. And we've

739
00:33:19,200 --> 00:33:19,800
Speaker 2: got another one.

740
00:33:19,840 --> 00:33:20,680
Speaker 3: Folks. Hey, it's Sam.

741
00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:22,600
Speaker 2: We're gonna get back to these stories. But here's three

742
00:33:22,640 --> 00:33:24,000
Speaker 2: minutes of ads from our sponsors.

743
00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:28,040
Speaker 3: My long distance girlfriend slept over with another guy.

744
00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:30,040
Speaker 2: I think we can increase the distance.

745
00:33:30,240 --> 00:33:32,840
Speaker 3: My girlfriend, twenty eight female, and I, twenty nine male,

746
00:33:33,040 --> 00:33:35,120
Speaker 3: have been together for over a year and a half.

747
00:33:35,160 --> 00:33:37,800
Speaker 3: Now we are doing long distance and only see each

748
00:33:37,800 --> 00:33:40,680
Speaker 3: other about three times a year, usually a month and

749
00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:43,960
Speaker 3: a half a visit. Oh wow, this girl has been

750
00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 3: my world and has significantly influenced my outlook on life.

751
00:33:48,160 --> 00:33:50,720
Speaker 3: I never knew I could love a person this much.

752
00:33:50,920 --> 00:33:54,000
Speaker 3: I guess this is why I'm so conflicted. I simped

753
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:57,120
Speaker 3: hard for her. Although we have our ups and downs,

754
00:33:57,440 --> 00:34:01,160
Speaker 3: our relationship is generally great and I've had the best

755
00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:03,440
Speaker 3: moments in my life spent with her. By the way,

756
00:34:03,480 --> 00:34:06,000
Speaker 3: this comes from Adventurous EBB eighty and if you want

757
00:34:06,040 --> 00:34:08,080
Speaker 3: to spit your own stories, go to the R size. Okay,

758
00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:12,480
Speaker 3: story time suburden. The following happened in sequence and a

759
00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:15,959
Speaker 3: span of the last month and a half issue number one.

760
00:34:16,520 --> 00:34:19,440
Speaker 3: She has this guy best friend who flew where she

761
00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:23,520
Speaker 3: lives to attend a love concert with her. What's a

762
00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:24,360
Speaker 3: love concert?

763
00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:25,600
Speaker 2: A love song concert?

764
00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:28,879
Speaker 3: A love song concert? I don't know, same thing. They

765
00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:31,840
Speaker 3: live in the same country. He then proceeded to rent

766
00:34:31,920 --> 00:34:35,520
Speaker 3: an expensive sports car to bring my girlfriend out for

767
00:34:35,560 --> 00:34:40,040
Speaker 3: a fancy launch and dinner, and then the love song concert.

768
00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:43,799
Speaker 3: She then brings him home for a sleepover. He is

769
00:34:43,880 --> 00:34:48,680
Speaker 3: not attracted to the same gender. I'll due the perception

770
00:34:48,840 --> 00:34:51,960
Speaker 3: on that. So he's gay, he's not.

771
00:34:52,440 --> 00:34:53,200
Speaker 2: He's not gay.

772
00:34:53,239 --> 00:34:54,640
Speaker 3: Oh he's not gay. Not gay?

773
00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:59,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, dude, he rented an expensive car to take her

774
00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:04,319
Speaker 2: off to lunch. Bro, that doesn't look great. Why did

775
00:35:04,360 --> 00:35:05,080
Speaker 2: he need to do that?

776
00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:08,120
Speaker 3: She told me about it a week before the event, saying, hey,

777
00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:10,279
Speaker 3: I'm going to the concert with him. He's crashing into

778
00:35:10,320 --> 00:35:13,600
Speaker 3: my place. No that, she only told me that she

779
00:35:13,680 --> 00:35:15,839
Speaker 3: was going to do it and never bothered to ask

780
00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:18,000
Speaker 3: if I'd be okay with it. Fun fact, if you

781
00:35:18,160 --> 00:35:22,400
Speaker 3: rent an expensive sports car, you can also rent a

782
00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:24,120
Speaker 3: hotel for the night. Huh.

783
00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:27,280
Speaker 2: I okay, I don't think that. I Like, I literally

784
00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:29,160
Speaker 2: just stayed with one of my friends. I don't think

785
00:35:29,160 --> 00:35:33,279
Speaker 2: that staying with your friends is inherently not okay. But

786
00:35:33,440 --> 00:35:36,520
Speaker 2: I think the renting the sports car to take her

787
00:35:36,560 --> 00:35:41,279
Speaker 2: out to lunch and dinner suspicious. Yeah, that's the suspicious

788
00:35:41,320 --> 00:35:41,600
Speaker 2: thing to me.

789
00:35:41,800 --> 00:35:46,640
Speaker 3: I see, this is the perfect scenario. Is Sofia and

790
00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:51,240
Speaker 3: I's relationship. Okay, Angie knows about it, she knows Sofia,

791
00:35:51,320 --> 00:35:53,840
Speaker 3: She's cool with Sofia, all this stuff. So if I

792
00:35:53,880 --> 00:35:55,520
Speaker 3: take Sofia to dinner, it's just like LI and so

793
00:35:55,600 --> 00:35:58,520
Speaker 3: Finner are gonna go get sushi, you know, that's it.

794
00:35:58,920 --> 00:36:02,279
Speaker 3: But I'm not gonna get a fancy sports car and

795
00:36:02,360 --> 00:36:04,360
Speaker 3: drive Sofia along. That would be weird, and go to

796
00:36:04,400 --> 00:36:07,160
Speaker 3: a love concert with you, that would be weird.

797
00:36:07,239 --> 00:36:10,239
Speaker 2: I will actually have like a pretty good example, like

798
00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:13,640
Speaker 2: this past week, I was in Chicago visiting my friend.

799
00:36:14,080 --> 00:36:16,600
Speaker 2: My friend has a partner and was like, hey, just

800
00:36:16,640 --> 00:36:18,920
Speaker 2: like if you could make my partner comfort who I

801
00:36:18,960 --> 00:36:20,959
Speaker 2: haven't met before, like just make And I was staying

802
00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:23,480
Speaker 2: with him and they were like, make make my partner comfortable,

803
00:36:23,640 --> 00:36:26,880
Speaker 2: just like you know, you know, be who you are already,

804
00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:30,480
Speaker 2: but just you know, to be open and honest and.

805
00:36:30,440 --> 00:36:32,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, be Sofia, you know, yeah, give her that vibe.

806
00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:33,080
Speaker 3: It makes sense.

807
00:36:34,280 --> 00:36:37,640
Speaker 2: But I think it is absolutely fair to be like,

808
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:40,040
Speaker 2: I want to make my partner comfortable because this person

809
00:36:40,160 --> 00:36:43,000
Speaker 2: is coming who I don't know. So I don't think

810
00:36:43,000 --> 00:36:46,239
Speaker 2: it is inherently cheating to have at all, because I

811
00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:48,439
Speaker 2: just did that, to have a person come over who's

812
00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:50,840
Speaker 2: an opposite gender or whatever and stay at your house.

813
00:36:51,320 --> 00:36:54,680
Speaker 2: But I think adding the other stuff it gets a

814
00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:57,760
Speaker 2: little suspicious. I don't think it's just you know, it's

815
00:36:58,200 --> 00:37:02,120
Speaker 2: proof yet, but it is suspicious not fun.

816
00:37:02,520 --> 00:37:05,480
Speaker 3: At this point, I'm super uncomfortable, especially with a lack

817
00:37:05,520 --> 00:37:07,960
Speaker 3: of respect from both of them, like do I even exist?

818
00:37:08,360 --> 00:37:10,960
Speaker 3: Neither of them thought that I her boyfriend might not

819
00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:14,520
Speaker 3: be okay with their special day and a sleepover. So yeah,

820
00:37:14,680 --> 00:37:17,480
Speaker 3: I was clearly uncomfortable with it, and she could tell.

821
00:37:17,760 --> 00:37:19,760
Speaker 3: But I did not want to get in between their friendship,

822
00:37:20,080 --> 00:37:23,200
Speaker 3: so I held it in. Since then, I've tried talking

823
00:37:23,200 --> 00:37:25,960
Speaker 3: to her about how troubled I was by it, and

824
00:37:26,040 --> 00:37:29,120
Speaker 3: every time I did, she flipped things on me, like

825
00:37:29,239 --> 00:37:32,040
Speaker 3: saying I don't make enough money and I don't update

826
00:37:32,080 --> 00:37:35,880
Speaker 3: her enough when I'm at the gym, And every time

827
00:37:35,960 --> 00:37:38,239
Speaker 3: I end up apologizing and promising him to do better

828
00:37:38,280 --> 00:37:41,439
Speaker 3: for her. She only addresses my concerns with stuff like, yeah,

829
00:37:41,440 --> 00:37:44,200
Speaker 3: he's a friend, I'm no one for ages. I did

830
00:37:44,239 --> 00:37:46,280
Speaker 3: not cheat on you. I can't change the past.

831
00:37:46,320 --> 00:37:47,760
Speaker 2: What do you mean you can't change the past.

832
00:37:48,120 --> 00:37:53,040
Speaker 3: She never showed genuine empathy for the pain she caused me,

833
00:37:53,600 --> 00:37:55,799
Speaker 3: never saying things like I'm so sorry, I will never

834
00:37:55,840 --> 00:37:58,920
Speaker 3: do that again. Her apologies always seemed to have an

835
00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:01,359
Speaker 3: annoyed That's the thing.

836
00:38:01,480 --> 00:38:05,360
Speaker 2: It's like she's not attempting to make ope comfortable at all. Again,

837
00:38:05,960 --> 00:38:09,280
Speaker 2: totally could be totally patonic, but like, introduce your partner

838
00:38:09,280 --> 00:38:11,920
Speaker 2: to this person, Yeah, make an effort. If this is

839
00:38:11,960 --> 00:38:15,839
Speaker 2: your best friend or like a close friend, and you are,

840
00:38:16,320 --> 00:38:19,120
Speaker 2: you know, care about your partner, then let's make an effort.

841
00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:23,600
Speaker 3: Also love song concert interesting. She had tears in her eyes,

842
00:38:24,160 --> 00:38:26,680
Speaker 3: sigh eyed me, and said, hardy told you that I'm

843
00:38:26,719 --> 00:38:30,759
Speaker 3: sorry this happened in person. She's now visiting me in

844
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:31,320
Speaker 3: my country.

845
00:38:31,400 --> 00:38:32,359
Speaker 2: Oh issue one rant?

846
00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:33,319
Speaker 3: Oh issue one rant.

847
00:38:33,360 --> 00:38:35,200
Speaker 2: Okay, so we're still on issue one, but there's kind

848
00:38:35,200 --> 00:38:36,520
Speaker 2: of a talkback about got it.

849
00:38:36,840 --> 00:38:39,200
Speaker 3: She posted a story with the guy best friend publicly,

850
00:38:39,480 --> 00:38:41,560
Speaker 3: and I caught a glimpse of her phone. It took

851
00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:44,640
Speaker 3: selfies together. Right now, She's visiting me in my country

852
00:38:44,960 --> 00:38:47,840
Speaker 3: and has never taken a single selfie of us together

853
00:38:48,280 --> 00:38:50,719
Speaker 3: nor posted a story with me in it. I confronted

854
00:38:50,760 --> 00:38:53,160
Speaker 3: her about this and her response was him and I

855
00:38:53,200 --> 00:38:56,759
Speaker 3: don't see each other often, And I was thinking, WTF,

856
00:38:57,120 --> 00:39:00,239
Speaker 3: what about us? We are literally doing long distance and

857
00:39:00,280 --> 00:39:01,759
Speaker 3: they don't see each other at Alton either.

858
00:39:02,040 --> 00:39:02,400
Speaker 2: Mmm.

859
00:39:02,600 --> 00:39:05,759
Speaker 3: She also tends to compare my capabilities to the guy

860
00:39:05,840 --> 00:39:07,839
Speaker 3: best friends. Bro, you're the side. Man.

861
00:39:08,400 --> 00:39:12,640
Speaker 2: Oh, yikes, yikes, yikes, yikes. I don't like this one bit.

862
00:39:13,239 --> 00:39:16,720
Speaker 2: She's just she's s gaslighting you. She's putting the blame

863
00:39:16,760 --> 00:39:19,160
Speaker 2: on you for different things so that you forget that

864
00:39:19,280 --> 00:39:21,479
Speaker 2: you're supposed to be upset about what she's doing.

865
00:39:21,640 --> 00:39:24,280
Speaker 3: She puts me down and puts him on a pedestal.

866
00:39:24,800 --> 00:39:25,439
Speaker 3: He is rich.

867
00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:28,160
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, he rented a nice car for her.

868
00:39:28,280 --> 00:39:32,600
Speaker 3: So issue number two. She regularly complains that I do

869
00:39:32,760 --> 00:39:35,920
Speaker 3: not provide for her during her current visit. Now, I

870
00:39:35,960 --> 00:39:39,960
Speaker 3: spent hours on consecutive days, including my workdays, driving her

871
00:39:40,000 --> 00:39:43,359
Speaker 3: around and helping her move stuff. She was unappreciative of

872
00:39:43,400 --> 00:39:45,759
Speaker 3: my efforts and only thank me whenever I asked for one.

873
00:39:46,120 --> 00:39:49,680
Speaker 3: We discussed the provide matters seriously, and I laid out

874
00:39:49,719 --> 00:39:53,640
Speaker 3: everything I could provide. She cried, saying, this is nothing

875
00:39:53,719 --> 00:39:56,600
Speaker 3: life I want. Okay, I've been here, collar wraps, I've

876
00:39:56,600 --> 00:39:59,440
Speaker 3: been here, callar wraps. You don't have to. If what

877
00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:01,600
Speaker 3: you bring to enough, call it he wraps.

878
00:40:01,760 --> 00:40:04,160
Speaker 2: Yeah. I mean if she's complaining, she's saying this is

879
00:40:04,239 --> 00:40:06,640
Speaker 2: not what I wanted, then okay, yeah bye.

880
00:40:06,719 --> 00:40:10,120
Speaker 3: I was literally in a car conversation for two hours

881
00:40:10,120 --> 00:40:12,600
Speaker 3: straight talking my ex telling me that I'm never going

882
00:40:12,680 --> 00:40:14,479
Speaker 3: to provide enough for her in the life that she wants.

883
00:40:14,880 --> 00:40:16,200
Speaker 3: I should have just called her wraps in. Yeah.

884
00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:18,839
Speaker 2: I mean, if they're saying that, go find someone else.

885
00:40:19,120 --> 00:40:22,160
Speaker 2: There is a difference between saying, Hey, this is what

886
00:40:22,239 --> 00:40:24,960
Speaker 2: I want for a life, let's build towards there, and

887
00:40:25,040 --> 00:40:28,479
Speaker 2: saying you don't. You're not providing me what I want

888
00:40:28,680 --> 00:40:31,560
Speaker 2: right now, You yourself cannot provide me what I want

889
00:40:31,640 --> 00:40:34,759
Speaker 2: to week, why are you? Why are we together? Then?

890
00:40:35,000 --> 00:40:37,600
Speaker 3: Yes, she says that just my time and effort is

891
00:40:37,640 --> 00:40:40,080
Speaker 3: not enough, basically saying I need to spend more money

892
00:40:40,080 --> 00:40:42,919
Speaker 3: on her. I guess after all this, I broke down,

893
00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:46,200
Speaker 3: crying like I've never seen before, sobbing like a little witch.

894
00:40:46,640 --> 00:40:50,160
Speaker 3: Tiered for days, I thought to myself that she was

895
00:40:50,200 --> 00:40:53,000
Speaker 3: not the same person I love so dearly. I felt

896
00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:56,040
Speaker 3: I have once again let myself down, and after a

897
00:40:56,040 --> 00:40:58,399
Speaker 3: few days of not talking, I made up my mind

898
00:40:58,400 --> 00:41:01,239
Speaker 3: to end things. Break up with Tim. I expressed that

899
00:41:01,280 --> 00:41:04,239
Speaker 3: I don't feel appreciated and lack of respect from her

900
00:41:04,480 --> 00:41:06,560
Speaker 3: and her guy best friend or a deal breaker from me.

901
00:41:06,960 --> 00:41:09,439
Speaker 3: She's thought the extent of it and finally became more

902
00:41:09,480 --> 00:41:13,080
Speaker 3: apologetic this time, she convinced me to give the relationship

903
00:41:13,120 --> 00:41:19,600
Speaker 3: another go, and I reluctantly did. No Issue number three,

904
00:41:19,800 --> 00:41:22,480
Speaker 3: we traveled to Korea. I was using her phone to

905
00:41:22,480 --> 00:41:24,719
Speaker 3: take a photo of her and a message came from

906
00:41:24,760 --> 00:41:28,120
Speaker 3: the guy best friend. He called her babe. I confronted

907
00:41:28,160 --> 00:41:30,520
Speaker 3: her about it and asked if she calls him babe too.

908
00:41:30,840 --> 00:41:33,560
Speaker 3: She told me that she does, tells me it doesn't

909
00:41:33,600 --> 00:41:37,120
Speaker 3: mean anything. It really got me uncomfortable, especially after the

910
00:41:37,160 --> 00:41:40,880
Speaker 3: breakup attempt happened. She clearly knows the extent of it

911
00:41:40,920 --> 00:41:44,320
Speaker 3: all and still receives babe messages from him. But once

912
00:41:44,360 --> 00:41:47,280
Speaker 3: again I held it in cuz we're on a holiday.

913
00:41:47,400 --> 00:41:49,719
Speaker 2: Dude, you're too forgiving about this.

914
00:41:50,239 --> 00:41:52,600
Speaker 3: Sophia and I don't have. The nickname I have for

915
00:41:52,640 --> 00:41:53,560
Speaker 3: Sophia is Soap.

916
00:41:53,800 --> 00:41:54,240
Speaker 2: Yeah.

917
00:41:54,280 --> 00:41:58,120
Speaker 3: I call her Soap, not Riley, Riley, not babe, not nope,

918
00:41:58,520 --> 00:42:02,799
Speaker 3: you know whatever those names are, it's so Yeah.

919
00:42:02,880 --> 00:42:09,120
Speaker 2: I call Riley Gurley. Yeah. That's that's the extent of

920
00:42:09,160 --> 00:42:11,759
Speaker 2: our nicknames. See if she had been like, oh, we

921
00:42:11,800 --> 00:42:13,919
Speaker 2: say love you, blah blah blah, I'd be like, yeah,

922
00:42:13,960 --> 00:42:17,360
Speaker 2: that's fair. I do that with all my guy friends. Babe,

923
00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:20,920
Speaker 2: I don't do that. No, No, that's weird.

924
00:42:21,200 --> 00:42:24,640
Speaker 3: So here I am. Our relationship has rekindled after the

925
00:42:24,760 --> 00:42:27,759
Speaker 3: Korea trip, but I am still constantly thinking about the

926
00:42:27,760 --> 00:42:30,879
Speaker 3: deal breakers and her behavior towards it all. I don't

927
00:42:30,920 --> 00:42:32,560
Speaker 3: think I can look past them.

928
00:42:32,640 --> 00:42:35,799
Speaker 2: Don't look past them, look at them. Stop looking past them,

929
00:42:35,800 --> 00:42:36,600
Speaker 2: look right at them.

930
00:42:36,640 --> 00:42:39,160
Speaker 3: The ovens on, don't worry about the ovens being on.

931
00:42:39,480 --> 00:42:41,560
Speaker 3: Ovens on. Go turn it off, Go turn it off.

932
00:42:41,960 --> 00:42:44,560
Speaker 3: In the past, I've always promised that I do better

933
00:42:45,040 --> 00:42:47,920
Speaker 3: for our future, But after what happened with the guy

934
00:42:47,960 --> 00:42:50,160
Speaker 3: best friend, I don't feel like I want to work

935
00:42:50,200 --> 00:42:54,239
Speaker 3: harder for her in particular anymore. Please write it. This

936
00:42:54,320 --> 00:42:57,920
Speaker 3: is my first time posting here as I'm mega conflicted.

937
00:42:58,320 --> 00:43:02,080
Speaker 3: What would you do? Giving my situation? I need some advice.

938
00:43:02,320 --> 00:43:04,439
Speaker 3: I'm not afraid of being alone or unable to find

939
00:43:04,440 --> 00:43:07,600
Speaker 3: someone else. I'm just afraid of losing this particular girl.

940
00:43:08,040 --> 00:43:11,360
Speaker 3: Update Obi, what's the hardest thing to do? Ask yourself

941
00:43:11,360 --> 00:43:13,480
Speaker 3: that question, and that's what you got to do.

942
00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:15,799
Speaker 2: I mean, you just got to leave her.

943
00:43:16,200 --> 00:43:17,200
Speaker 3: When would you have left?

944
00:43:17,600 --> 00:43:17,839
Speaker 2: Oh?

945
00:43:17,920 --> 00:43:22,919
Speaker 3: Wait, earlier, when, like exactly at the rental of the thing.

946
00:43:23,080 --> 00:43:25,560
Speaker 2: No, I wouldn't. I would have had a conversation. Okay,

947
00:43:25,560 --> 00:43:28,520
Speaker 2: I would have said, hey, it made me feel really uncomfortable.

948
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:31,960
Speaker 3: And then wait, what about what about the point when

949
00:43:31,960 --> 00:43:33,200
Speaker 3: they started comparing.

950
00:43:33,400 --> 00:43:35,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, then the one where what was the one she

951
00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:36,839
Speaker 2: said she was like.

952
00:43:37,040 --> 00:43:38,840
Speaker 3: You don't make as much as he. Yeah, he's a

953
00:43:38,880 --> 00:43:39,440
Speaker 3: better man than you.

954
00:43:39,560 --> 00:43:42,359
Speaker 2: I'd be like, Okay, you go date him. Yeah, that's

955
00:43:42,520 --> 00:43:44,759
Speaker 2: that's where I'm like, once you start comparing me to

956
00:43:44,840 --> 00:43:47,759
Speaker 2: other people that you clearly have this weird relationship with

957
00:43:48,480 --> 00:43:49,280
Speaker 2: why are we together?

958
00:43:49,480 --> 00:43:52,960
Speaker 3: We're done? We are done, Carly, when what if you

959
00:43:53,080 --> 00:43:53,600
Speaker 3: have left?

960
00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:55,520
Speaker 2: I didn't hear any of the story.

961
00:43:55,719 --> 00:43:59,760
Speaker 3: I just got here, Wow, look at that or Jasian

962
00:43:59,800 --> 00:44:03,360
Speaker 3: car really how to produce? Everyone watching? Uh, she's gonna

963
00:44:03,360 --> 00:44:06,280
Speaker 3: do a great job. And she did come in mid episode.

964
00:44:06,280 --> 00:44:08,440
Speaker 3: But that's okay because put her on the spot. We're

965
00:44:08,440 --> 00:44:11,440
Speaker 3: putting her on the spot, We're teaching her. Okay. Update,

966
00:44:11,840 --> 00:44:13,040
Speaker 3: Hey John Ogi, hoist here.

967
00:44:13,080 --> 00:44:15,000
Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to this episode, but a quick

968
00:44:15,040 --> 00:44:17,040
Speaker 1: three minute break of ads from a sponsor's keeping the

969
00:44:17,080 --> 00:44:17,600
Speaker 1: show alive.

970
00:44:18,400 --> 00:44:20,520
Speaker 3: This all happened on the same night of the original post.

971
00:44:20,800 --> 00:44:22,879
Speaker 3: I really appreciate the comments in my previous posts, both

972
00:44:22,920 --> 00:44:25,480
Speaker 3: negative and positive. I generally want to take on this

973
00:44:25,600 --> 00:44:29,400
Speaker 3: situation with as many perspectives as I can brain that said,

974
00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:31,160
Speaker 3: this is going to disappoint most of you.

975
00:44:31,640 --> 00:44:33,120
Speaker 2: Oh no, are you staying together?

976
00:44:33,320 --> 00:44:34,080
Speaker 3: They're staying together?

977
00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:37,279
Speaker 2: Why you literally spent this whole thing being like, I

978
00:44:37,400 --> 00:44:38,840
Speaker 2: think I should break up with her.

979
00:44:39,080 --> 00:44:42,120
Speaker 3: He's staying still here. Yeah, well he's staying together because,

980
00:44:42,160 --> 00:44:43,440
Speaker 3: like he you're afraid.

981
00:44:43,719 --> 00:44:45,000
Speaker 2: You're afraid, You're afraid.

982
00:44:45,760 --> 00:44:48,520
Speaker 3: I could not break up once again. I couldn't bring

983
00:44:48,600 --> 00:44:51,440
Speaker 3: myself to in things with her. I initiated a second

984
00:44:51,440 --> 00:44:54,160
Speaker 3: breakup last night and we ended up having a super

985
00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:58,160
Speaker 3: long talk and everything we spoke until the next day's afternoon.

986
00:44:58,480 --> 00:45:01,880
Speaker 3: She's clearly in distress and is fining to keep this

987
00:45:01,960 --> 00:45:05,080
Speaker 3: relationship alive, fighting very hard. She's not And it feels

988
00:45:05,120 --> 00:45:07,799
Speaker 3: like a like a whenever people are trying to get

989
00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:11,320
Speaker 3: off of drugs, like relapse in a way. Yeah, this

990
00:45:11,400 --> 00:45:12,680
Speaker 3: feels like he's relapsing.

991
00:45:12,840 --> 00:45:15,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like, well, well, I guess she said she's sorry.

992
00:45:16,719 --> 00:45:19,200
Speaker 2: I tried to break them back. It's like, no, I

993
00:45:19,239 --> 00:45:19,840
Speaker 2: tried to break up.

994
00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:21,759
Speaker 3: The girls said she is, well, she.

995
00:45:21,840 --> 00:45:27,319
Speaker 2: Feel really bad. I guess I can't wake up. But huh,

996
00:45:27,400 --> 00:45:30,640
Speaker 2: Wily bad h guy best friend.

997
00:45:31,200 --> 00:45:34,160
Speaker 3: No. She was persistent and reassuring me about the guy

998
00:45:34,200 --> 00:45:38,879
Speaker 3: best friend, saying that their relationship is entirely platonic. There

999
00:45:38,960 --> 00:45:41,279
Speaker 3: is one way to test this, Sophia. How do you

1000
00:45:41,320 --> 00:45:43,560
Speaker 3: test this to make sure that this guys can platonic?

1001
00:45:43,760 --> 00:45:47,319
Speaker 3: How do you test this multiple twice? No? But like,

1002
00:45:47,360 --> 00:45:48,160
Speaker 3: how would you test this?

1003
00:45:48,280 --> 00:45:49,120
Speaker 2: I don't know how.

1004
00:45:49,320 --> 00:45:52,719
Speaker 3: Okay, you're gonna call the guy best friend you girlfriend,

1005
00:45:52,920 --> 00:45:54,759
Speaker 3: and say, hey, I want to come over. Could we

1006
00:45:54,760 --> 00:45:56,359
Speaker 3: maybe do something saucy later?

1007
00:45:56,760 --> 00:45:57,080
Speaker 2: Oh?

1008
00:45:57,320 --> 00:45:59,960
Speaker 3: Trap trap them? You got, that's the only one.

1009
00:46:00,160 --> 00:46:02,720
Speaker 2: Oh, drap right? Yeah? Super healthy.

1010
00:46:02,800 --> 00:46:07,359
Speaker 3: If he says you know you're with someone, or you

1011
00:46:07,440 --> 00:46:10,920
Speaker 3: know I only like you as a friend, there you go.

1012
00:46:11,080 --> 00:46:13,640
Speaker 3: But he says, yeah, come on over, I'm on over.

1013
00:46:13,960 --> 00:46:19,000
Speaker 2: I want some kiddles. Yeah, then you know, I don't

1014
00:46:19,000 --> 00:46:20,680
Speaker 2: think that's the healthiest way. I think you should just

1015
00:46:20,719 --> 00:46:21,080
Speaker 2: break up.

1016
00:46:21,200 --> 00:46:24,680
Speaker 3: She insists that nothing happened during the sleepover. They were

1017
00:46:24,680 --> 00:46:27,680
Speaker 3: in separate rooms, and she did a video call me

1018
00:46:27,800 --> 00:46:31,000
Speaker 3: before bed that night, as she always does. You can

1019
00:46:31,080 --> 00:46:33,160
Speaker 3: end the call and go into his room after that.

1020
00:46:33,160 --> 00:46:36,640
Speaker 3: That's how that works. True. She admitted she didn't realize

1021
00:46:36,680 --> 00:46:39,960
Speaker 3: how much the whole slipover thing bothered me and obviously

1022
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:42,799
Speaker 3: would never do that again. She got canted. As for

1023
00:46:42,840 --> 00:46:45,719
Speaker 3: the babe messages, she explained that they've been calling each

1024
00:46:45,719 --> 00:46:48,400
Speaker 3: other that since they're were fourteen. She also mentioned to

1025
00:46:48,440 --> 00:46:51,800
Speaker 3: stop calling him babe. Gosh, I hate the word babe.

1026
00:46:51,800 --> 00:46:54,640
Speaker 3: Now she has also pulled back on her communication with

1027
00:46:54,719 --> 00:46:58,680
Speaker 3: him overall fin actual expectations. We also have to realize

1028
00:46:58,680 --> 00:47:01,360
Speaker 3: that they're in a log disc relationship.

1029
00:47:01,400 --> 00:47:02,399
Speaker 2: I forgot about that.

1030
00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:02,520
Speaker 3: That.

1031
00:47:02,920 --> 00:47:07,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's important. Well, that's why I think even more so,

1032
00:47:07,200 --> 00:47:09,279
Speaker 2: you need like communication and to make sure that you're

1033
00:47:09,280 --> 00:47:11,480
Speaker 2: not like pushing beast these boundaries, because it is so

1034
00:47:11,760 --> 00:47:14,920
Speaker 2: easy to do that when you're in a long distance

1035
00:47:14,960 --> 00:47:18,280
Speaker 2: relationship because there's no one there that you're like necessarily

1036
00:47:18,320 --> 00:47:20,279
Speaker 2: think about twenty four to seven because you're not seeing them,

1037
00:47:20,680 --> 00:47:21,399
Speaker 2: you know, all the time.

1038
00:47:23,200 --> 00:47:25,960
Speaker 3: She told me her love for me has no financial

1039
00:47:26,000 --> 00:47:29,520
Speaker 3: requirements and that her expectations are more about building a

1040
00:47:29,600 --> 00:47:34,000
Speaker 3: future together. However, she wants a partner with a provider mindset.

1041
00:47:34,239 --> 00:47:35,600
Speaker 3: That's the most doublius.

1042
00:47:35,680 --> 00:47:38,160
Speaker 2: She apologizes to you and saying this to you right now,

1043
00:47:38,239 --> 00:47:42,560
Speaker 2: like it's still a backhanded apology, Like she's still you know,

1044
00:47:42,880 --> 00:47:47,160
Speaker 2: apologizing but then accusing you yes, or you know, pointing

1045
00:47:47,200 --> 00:47:48,880
Speaker 2: out your faults yes.

1046
00:47:49,200 --> 00:47:52,279
Speaker 3: While I'm essentially doing that now, I do feel like

1047
00:47:52,360 --> 00:47:55,680
Speaker 3: her expectations are high. She denies compare me to him,

1048
00:47:55,719 --> 00:47:58,479
Speaker 3: but honestly, I could say there was some low key

1049
00:47:58,520 --> 00:48:03,400
Speaker 3: comparison at the very least my conflicted feelings. The general

1050
00:48:03,440 --> 00:48:06,279
Speaker 3: tone of the conversation was heard desperately trying to make

1051
00:48:06,320 --> 00:48:09,720
Speaker 3: this work while I kept giving myself reasons to part ways.

1052
00:48:10,120 --> 00:48:14,680
Speaker 3: Her effort and emotional investments make me feel incredibly conflicted.

1053
00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:16,880
Speaker 3: On one hand, I don't know if I can truly

1054
00:48:16,920 --> 00:48:20,000
Speaker 3: move past everything and give this relationship a proper go.

1055
00:48:20,640 --> 00:48:23,360
Speaker 3: On the other hand, I can tell she genuinely loves

1056
00:48:23,400 --> 00:48:26,080
Speaker 3: me and is willing to change for the sake of

1057
00:48:26,160 --> 00:48:29,600
Speaker 3: our future. But yeah, I'm mostly conflicted seeing how much

1058
00:48:29,640 --> 00:48:32,960
Speaker 3: she wants to work things out. Conspiracy theory. I think

1059
00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:34,759
Speaker 3: she wants to work things out because she knows she

1060
00:48:34,760 --> 00:48:35,839
Speaker 3: can't be with that other guy.

1061
00:48:36,239 --> 00:48:39,280
Speaker 2: Maybe yeah, because he is He's not around here either.

1062
00:48:39,800 --> 00:48:42,080
Speaker 2: I think you could try if you want to, if

1063
00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:44,399
Speaker 2: she really it seems like she really wants to work

1064
00:48:44,440 --> 00:48:47,719
Speaker 2: it out. She has all of these explanations. I think

1065
00:48:47,719 --> 00:48:50,360
Speaker 2: there might be like a couple of weeks where you

1066
00:48:50,360 --> 00:48:53,320
Speaker 2: guys started try and work it out and it feels

1067
00:48:53,360 --> 00:48:55,560
Speaker 2: a little bit better, and then it goes back to

1068
00:48:55,560 --> 00:48:58,800
Speaker 2: the same thing it was, and then you know, by then, yeah,

1069
00:48:58,960 --> 00:49:00,000
Speaker 2: probably best to break up.

1070
00:49:00,680 --> 00:49:04,799
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think with the guy friend, she realized like

1071
00:49:05,160 --> 00:49:07,680
Speaker 3: she kind of I've seen her kind of turn here. Yeah,

1072
00:49:07,719 --> 00:49:10,880
Speaker 3: well she's she's working harder for the relationship and not

1073
00:49:10,920 --> 00:49:13,280
Speaker 3: really giving the big guy best friend a lot of things.

1074
00:49:13,280 --> 00:49:15,920
Speaker 3: So she either really actually cares about the relationship or

1075
00:49:15,960 --> 00:49:18,040
Speaker 3: she knows she can't be with other guy. Yeah, okay,

1076
00:49:18,480 --> 00:49:22,239
Speaker 3: I'll give him some space. She still wants op to

1077
00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:22,719
Speaker 3: be him.

1078
00:49:23,200 --> 00:49:26,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I don't know. I don't know. Courtney

1079
00:49:26,239 --> 00:49:28,160
Speaker 2: Electra says she wants to settle for someone she can

1080
00:49:28,280 --> 00:49:29,320
Speaker 2: manipulate easily.

1081
00:49:29,360 --> 00:49:33,120
Speaker 3: And oh, that's a good point. I didn't think about that.

1082
00:49:33,200 --> 00:49:33,560
Speaker 2: Mm hmm.

1083
00:49:34,080 --> 00:49:36,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's manipulated. He's trying to break up twice and

1084
00:49:36,560 --> 00:49:40,560
Speaker 3: she's still yeah made it. Oh man, for now, I

1085
00:49:40,600 --> 00:49:43,880
Speaker 3: have not officially ended things. She's packing her stuff, but

1086
00:49:43,960 --> 00:49:47,200
Speaker 3: they're still at my place. She's right now flying to

1087
00:49:47,239 --> 00:49:49,759
Speaker 3: another country for work for a week, so I'll have

1088
00:49:49,800 --> 00:49:52,000
Speaker 3: some space and time to think things over, I guess.

1089
00:49:52,360 --> 00:49:55,040
Speaker 3: Please be patient with me. I really do need more advice,

1090
00:49:55,080 --> 00:49:57,520
Speaker 3: but first I'm gonna take a nap. Good night, read

1091
00:49:57,560 --> 00:50:01,520
Speaker 3: it and thank you once again. Update number two, does

1092
00:50:01,560 --> 00:50:02,320
Speaker 3: he pull the trigger?

1093
00:50:02,520 --> 00:50:05,640
Speaker 2: I think I think it's on the way. Maybe they'll

1094
00:50:05,680 --> 00:50:08,440
Speaker 2: maybe they'll prove us wrong and they like have worked

1095
00:50:08,480 --> 00:50:10,799
Speaker 2: this out and are gonna fix the relationship. But I

1096
00:50:10,840 --> 00:50:13,240
Speaker 2: do think it's on the way right now. My guess

1097
00:50:13,280 --> 00:50:14,520
Speaker 2: is it's on the way to break.

1098
00:50:14,400 --> 00:50:16,600
Speaker 3: Up if you're in a relationship and is exhausting and

1099
00:50:16,600 --> 00:50:18,880
Speaker 3: it feels like yeah, and he so want.

1100
00:50:18,800 --> 00:50:21,279
Speaker 2: Like he keeps saying, I want to break up with her, yeah, oh,

1101
00:50:21,320 --> 00:50:22,759
Speaker 2: but she wants to work on it, So I feel

1102
00:50:22,760 --> 00:50:24,359
Speaker 2: bad You want to break up with her?

1103
00:50:24,600 --> 00:50:26,839
Speaker 3: Yeah, and she doesn't love you for who you are?

1104
00:50:27,000 --> 00:50:28,360
Speaker 3: Just yeah, move on?

1105
00:50:28,520 --> 00:50:30,000
Speaker 2: Daring is it's not great.

1106
00:50:30,200 --> 00:50:32,560
Speaker 3: It's been about four days since the last update. I've

1107
00:50:32,560 --> 00:50:34,840
Speaker 3: been using this time and space apart from her, to

1108
00:50:34,880 --> 00:50:38,879
Speaker 3: think deeply. This whole situation has consumed me, affecting every

1109
00:50:38,920 --> 00:50:41,640
Speaker 3: aspect of my life. My diet is a mess, my

1110
00:50:41,719 --> 00:50:44,960
Speaker 3: skin's breaking out. I can't focus on anything. It'd be

1111
00:50:45,040 --> 00:50:48,600
Speaker 3: work or jim. I even curbed my will a full circle,

1112
00:50:49,280 --> 00:50:50,880
Speaker 3: something I've never done before.

1113
00:50:51,160 --> 00:50:54,200
Speaker 2: Britney be says, please end things. I wouldn't be surprised

1114
00:50:54,200 --> 00:50:55,799
Speaker 2: if her friend was with her.

1115
00:50:56,080 --> 00:50:56,920
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh.

1116
00:50:57,360 --> 00:51:00,440
Speaker 2: I think it's just long distance relationships to take like

1117
00:51:00,520 --> 00:51:04,239
Speaker 2: ten times more work, and I feel like people get

1118
00:51:04,239 --> 00:51:06,360
Speaker 2: complacent and they're like, oh, well, I don't actually have

1119
00:51:06,400 --> 00:51:08,239
Speaker 2: to work that hard because I'm not seeing them all

1120
00:51:08,239 --> 00:51:10,480
Speaker 2: the time. And it's like, no, you're not seeing them

1121
00:51:10,560 --> 00:51:12,279
Speaker 2: all the time, so you need to put in the

1122
00:51:12,360 --> 00:51:18,239
Speaker 2: effort to like make ways to like you know, or

1123
00:51:18,360 --> 00:51:19,440
Speaker 2: just like make time for them.

1124
00:51:19,600 --> 00:51:22,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, make an effort. As I reflect, I'm starting to

1125
00:51:23,040 --> 00:51:26,600
Speaker 3: understand the dynamics of a relationship more clearly. But the

1126
00:51:26,600 --> 00:51:29,400
Speaker 3: more I know, the more it hurts, because everything is

1127
00:51:29,480 --> 00:51:33,160
Speaker 3: leading me towards leading. She's been trying to reach while apart,

1128
00:51:33,239 --> 00:51:35,719
Speaker 3: but I've only responded with I'm not ready to talk.

1129
00:51:36,000 --> 00:51:38,759
Speaker 3: Her fly back from her work trip is tonight. I

1130
00:51:38,800 --> 00:51:41,000
Speaker 3: think I know what needs to be done, but do

1131
00:51:41,040 --> 00:51:45,760
Speaker 3: I really I still feel conflicted, especially when things get quiet.

1132
00:51:45,920 --> 00:51:49,360
Speaker 3: I feel her influence within me, pulling me to reasons

1133
00:51:49,400 --> 00:51:52,440
Speaker 3: to stay. One thing I can probably say, I'm lucky

1134
00:51:52,440 --> 00:51:54,640
Speaker 3: to have real friends who are here for me a

1135
00:51:54,680 --> 00:51:57,520
Speaker 3: few of you even personally drop me a message. I'm touched.

1136
00:51:57,760 --> 00:52:00,960
Speaker 2: I think go peet. My advice is, I don't think

1137
00:52:01,000 --> 00:52:03,920
Speaker 2: that you are wrong for wanting to stay with her

1138
00:52:03,960 --> 00:52:07,200
Speaker 2: and see if you know she is really you know, yeah,

1139
00:52:07,680 --> 00:52:10,359
Speaker 2: gotta truly try and work on this relationship.

1140
00:52:10,560 --> 00:52:12,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I do think.

1141
00:52:12,120 --> 00:52:15,400
Speaker 2: However, there is a very high chance that you're gonna

1142
00:52:15,400 --> 00:52:17,520
Speaker 2: do that and realize that it's not working out.

1143
00:52:17,920 --> 00:52:18,440
Speaker 3: Uh huh.

1144
00:52:19,040 --> 00:52:22,560
Speaker 2: However much she's trying, it's not enough. Yeah, I think

1145
00:52:22,600 --> 00:52:24,840
Speaker 2: that's a there's a big possibility on that.

1146
00:52:25,280 --> 00:52:27,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's not enough. It just you got to be

1147
00:52:27,440 --> 00:52:29,480
Speaker 3: in a relationship where someone loves you for you are.

1148
00:52:29,800 --> 00:52:31,319
Speaker 3: You don't have to you don't have to prove to

1149
00:52:31,400 --> 00:52:34,880
Speaker 3: them because you're you, yourself is already proving. Now, that

1150
00:52:34,880 --> 00:52:36,640
Speaker 3: doesn't give you an excuse to just be a lazy

1151
00:52:36,680 --> 00:52:38,560
Speaker 3: crap piece of crap. But that's not where this is.

1152
00:52:38,600 --> 00:52:39,520
Speaker 3: That's not the story.

1153
00:52:39,600 --> 00:52:42,640
Speaker 2: But that is the end of that story and the

1154
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Speaker 2: end of this episode.

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