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Speaker 1: one oh forty nine, Today's R and B and throwbacks.

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Speaker 1: Welcome back Saint Louis, and get ready it is time

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Speaker 1: now for my Strawberry letter. Now, if you need advice

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Speaker 1: quinn leaving who made that damn decision where he worked? Now,

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Speaker 1: they shouldn't have tried you, Steve. They shouldn't have Let's

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Speaker 1: try Jesus not me today. Hand anyway, it's written from

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Speaker 1: We could reach your letter Saint Louis on the air,

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Speaker 1: just like we're gonna read this one right here, right now.

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Speaker 1: Bugg leap, hold on tight, We got it for you here.

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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject Love

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Speaker 1: can make you do some crazy things. Dear Stephen Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I am a beautiful, black, twenty nine year old woman

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Speaker 1: and I'm in love with a deadbeat dude, but I

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Speaker 1: don't know how to get him out of my system.

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Speaker 1: He's thirty six years old and would currently live with

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Speaker 1: his parents. When I met him, I was the side

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Speaker 1: piece for a year. I got pregnant and had nowhere

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Speaker 1: to live, so he let me live in his car.

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Speaker 1: His parents found out about me, and they let me

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Speaker 1: stay with them. Now he's divorced and our relationship is complicated.

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Speaker 1: I found him at a bar with a female recently

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Speaker 1: and I poured his beer on him. He pulled my

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Speaker 1: wig off and we ended up in the middle of

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Speaker 1: the bar arguing. Last week, he went out and came

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Speaker 1: in at five am, and I was waiting up with

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Speaker 1: him when he walked in. We always forgive each other afterwards,

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Speaker 1: and we know we love hard, but something's got to give.

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Speaker 1: I have lost myself in this relationship, and I know

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Speaker 1: this is not how I'm supposed to act. The worst

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Speaker 1: part is that I cheated on him, trying to beat

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Speaker 1: him at his own game, and it backfired. I ended

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Speaker 1: up getting a sexually transmitted infection STI and had to

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Speaker 1: tell him about it. My doctor said my boyfriend could

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Speaker 1: have given it to me, which is highly possible, and

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Speaker 1: that maybe why my boyfriend didn't get too upset when

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Speaker 1: I told him. He keeps saying he needs me to

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Speaker 1: be patient with him and give him one more chance.

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Speaker 1: I want my child to be with both of his

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Speaker 1: parents and his grandparents, so that's why I haven't left him.

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Speaker 1: Do you think the relationship can get better or is

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Speaker 1: he too old now to ever change? Please advise WHOA

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Speaker 1: This is a whole bunch of crazy in this letter,

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Speaker 1: isn't it? Where do I start first? Okay, you said

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Speaker 1: you're in love with the deadbeat dude. I gotta ask

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Speaker 1: you why you were his side piece for a whole year.

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Speaker 1: He's thirty six. You guys live with his parents, but

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Speaker 1: before that, he lets you live in his car, and

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Speaker 1: you were okay with that. Like I said, a whole

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Speaker 1: bunch of crazy in this letter. That is crazy. I mean,

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Speaker 1: there's just so much going on you with the fighting

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Speaker 1: and the throwing the beer on him in the club,

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Speaker 1: arguing in the club, then waiting for him to come

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Speaker 1: wasn't scalded and burned badly, him snatching your wig off.

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Speaker 1: I mean, it's just so much. I mean, why are

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Speaker 1: you guys even together? Why? Oh, that's right, you have

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Speaker 1: a baby together. You have a baby. Wow, this poor baby.

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Speaker 1: I tell you, what kind of example are you guys

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Speaker 1: setting for this baby? You guys are cheating on each other, sties.

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Speaker 1: Like I said in the picture, a mess, just just

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Speaker 1: a big old mess. I really feel sorry for the

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Speaker 1: baby though. And if you guys do not get yourselves together,

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Speaker 1: and you know, don't bank on him changing, because you

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Speaker 1: can only change yourself. Someone needs to be the mature

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Speaker 1: adult in this matter, someone and put the well being

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Speaker 1: of this baby as the top priority and stop with

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Speaker 1: this ridiculous, ridiculous behavior. I mean, I appreciate the grandparents

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Speaker 1: do better than this. I mean, you know, are you

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Speaker 1: planning on staying together? You want to stay together? All

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Speaker 1: you can say is you know, we you love heart.

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Speaker 1: This is a little bit more than love and heart.

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Speaker 1: This is some crazy, crazy kind of sick kind of

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Speaker 1: you need some counseling. You guys don't need to be

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Speaker 1: in the work that needs change. Steve. Yeah, first of all,

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Speaker 1: let me just talk with you. People like this don't

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Speaker 1: go to counseling. They don't, but they need it. No,

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Speaker 1: people like this don't go to counseling. I don't recommend

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Speaker 1: they go to counseling because it's gonna give oh, people

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Speaker 1: out of counselor because don't nobody need to be going

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Speaker 1: in behind y'all see, because the patient that go in

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Speaker 1: after y'all, the therapist is gonna be so jacked up

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Speaker 1: see it. Everybody the therapy. Everybody can't go to therapy

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Speaker 1: because they give patience a bad name. These two ignat

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Speaker 1: ask people don't need to go to therapy because whoever

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Speaker 1: decline is next day's session ain't gonna be worth for damn. Now,

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Speaker 1: when I come back, I'm gonna read this letter. The

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Speaker 1: name of the letter is love can make You do

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Speaker 1: some crazy things. The name of the letter should be

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Speaker 1: everything wrong, cause ain't nobody right. All right, you heard it.

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Speaker 1: We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters subject

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Speaker 1: love can make you do some crazy things. But Steve

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Speaker 1: changed it, and we'll talk about it when we come back.

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Speaker 1: Right now, everything wrong because ain't nobody right. That's it.

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Speaker 1: You're listening to Steve Harvey Morning Show. Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry Letter. The subject you got it,

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Speaker 1: go ahead. The subject of the letters love can make

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Speaker 1: you do some crazy things. I've renamed the letter to

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Speaker 1: it everything wrong because ain't nobody right. Right now, I

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Speaker 1: will just read this letter back to y'all. Everything in

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Speaker 1: this letter wrong, ain't nobody right. I'm a beautiful black,

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Speaker 1: twenty nine year old woman. I'm a twenty nine year old,

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Speaker 1: beautiful old woman, and I don't know what's wrong with you.

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Speaker 1: I'm in love with a deadbeat dude. Wrong, but I

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Speaker 1: don't know how to get him out of my system.

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Speaker 1: It's called leaving. Okay, he's thirty six year old and

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Speaker 1: we currently live with his parents. Wrong. The name of

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Speaker 1: this letter is everything wrong, because ain't nobody right? I

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Speaker 1: was the side piece for a year? What wrong? So

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Speaker 1: Here we go, y'all ready? Yeah? I got pregnant and

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Speaker 1: had nowhere to live, so he let me live it

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Speaker 1: idea stay in my car? Dog? What his parents found

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Speaker 1: out about me, and they let me stay with them. Okay,

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Speaker 1: that was the only right thing I saw in this letter.

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Speaker 1: That was it. After that, let's get on back to horse. Wrong.

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Speaker 1: Now he's divorced and our relationship is complicated. Wrong. Your

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Speaker 1: parents while his ass was married. That's where it got complicated.

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Speaker 1: I found him at a bar with a female recently,

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Speaker 1: and I poured beer on him. Okay, that's fair. Then

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Speaker 1: he pulled my wig off in the middle of the ball. Okay,

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Speaker 1: Now you rolled for that dog, you get in hell away,

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Speaker 1: You ain't posted to pull her damn wig on the

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Speaker 1: middle of the ball. You know she had a stocking

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Speaker 1: cap on. See dog that ain't that ain't even right.

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Speaker 1: So now here you find him with a woman, you

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Speaker 1: throw be on him. He pulled your wig on wind

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Speaker 1: up in the middle of the ball. Argu Last week

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Speaker 1: he went out and came in at five in the morning.

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Speaker 1: I was waiting up with a hot pot of coffee, okay.

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Speaker 1: So you went in his mom and them kitchen and

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Speaker 1: made the coffee okay, and I dashed it on him

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Speaker 1: when he walked in. So now you don't now greened

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Speaker 1: We always forgive each other afterward. I'm sorry I put

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Speaker 1: them third degree birds on your baby, baby. I'm sorry

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Speaker 1: I snatched your wig off at the bottle while well, baby,

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Speaker 1: I didn't mean to throw that bill on you right there.

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Speaker 1: I know, baby, I'm sorry I got you pregnant. You

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Speaker 1: do kids. That's a lot of damn apologizing. And we

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Speaker 1: know we love hard. This ain't love this Why it's

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Speaker 1: love hard. That ain't love y'all fighting. I have lost

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Speaker 1: Is not how I'm supposed to act. This ain't how

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Speaker 1: you supposed to live. The worst part is I cheated

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Speaker 1: on him? What what? Wait a minute? The worst part, No,

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Speaker 1: that ain't the worst part. The worst part was when

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Speaker 1: you was pregnant living in that car. That was the

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Speaker 1: worst part. The other worst part when he had his

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Speaker 1: your wig in his hand in the middle of that damn.

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Speaker 1: It's a lot of worse parts in this letter. It

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Speaker 1: ain't that you cheated on him, trying to beat him

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Speaker 1: at his own game and it backfired because hitlo. The

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Speaker 1: worst part. I ended up with a sexually transmitted infection.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what that is. That's STD. Don't try

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Speaker 1: to change you had STD. That's a DAN infection. That's

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Speaker 1: a damn disease. That ain't corona. That's the virus they

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Speaker 1: call it. Now, Yeah, this is a sexually transmitted This

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Speaker 1: is STD. Don't call it STI. This ain't still. This

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Speaker 1: is STOOD. Don't try to change this. That's the other

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Speaker 1: worst part. My doctor said, my boyfriend could have given

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Speaker 1: it to me. Oh that's your out now, which is

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Speaker 1: highly possible, and that may be why my boyfriend getting

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Speaker 1: to upset when I told him, baby, you know we

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Speaker 1: got an infection. Really, I cheated on you with a

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Speaker 1: man and you might have something I ain't. Then I

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Speaker 1: guess that's cool, Hey, baby, So what's for dinner? He

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Speaker 1: keeps saying he needs me to be patient with him

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Speaker 1: and give him one more chance. What he didn't flipped

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Speaker 1: it on you. I want my child to be with

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Speaker 1: both of his parents and his grandparents, so that's why

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Speaker 1: he left it. Do you think this relationship can do better?

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Speaker 1: Or is he too old and to change? Y'all just

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Speaker 1: wrong for each other. Y'all wrong for each other. We

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