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Speaker 1: I want to abandon my step son, but my husband

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Speaker 2: I think it's fine, Am I the a hole? It

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Speaker 2: is fine because if he's a little shit, he deserves

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Speaker 2: to be abandoned.

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Speaker 1: Ooh sorry, Hey, we're going on a little trip to

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Speaker 1: chuck e cheese. Yeah, where you're gonna live forever. You

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Speaker 1: know who else was abandoned, Robulus and Remus.

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Speaker 2: They found it fucking Rome. You're gonna build my Rome

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Speaker 2: boys and girls at who who were liless and slash red?

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Speaker 2: Percy Jackson? Have you? Have you built a society? No?

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Speaker 2: You know why? Why? Because you haven't been left in

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Speaker 2: the forest to die? Wow, you got left in the

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Speaker 2: forest to die? You know? It builds character.

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Speaker 1: You know, you learn how to how to build houses

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Speaker 1: from trees, start a fire, democracy, democracy, I mean so

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Speaker 1: many great things.

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Speaker 2: Honestly, we should just abandon all of our children. And

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Speaker 2: the Spartans used to say if their child's deformed, you

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Speaker 2: would leave them to the gods, which just meant putting

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Speaker 2: them in the forest and letting nature take over.

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Speaker 1: Well, I am I'm putting you in the forest with

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Speaker 1: that opinion over ex you.

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Speaker 2: Can wrong with that. It's not an opinion this is

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Speaker 2: just history. Oh, just history, just the fact, okay, of

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Speaker 2: how I'm gonna raise my children. That's right.

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Speaker 1: Yes, the Samuel Donner Parenting book coming to you soon.

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Speaker 1: So my husband thirty nine male, and I have been

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Speaker 1: married for five years. We have two children of our own,

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Speaker 1: both girls aged five and two, and I have a son,

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Speaker 1: ten male from a previous marriage.

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Speaker 2: But I was widowed.

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Speaker 1: My husband's ex is barely involved in stepson's life at all.

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Speaker 1: They got divorced when step son was two and his

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Speaker 1: ex wanted a fresh start. So my husband did the decent,

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Speaker 1: selfless thing and had complete custody of their son, even

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Speaker 1: though he wanted shared custody.

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Speaker 2: A fresh start, a fresh start. Imagine being like, yo,

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Speaker 2: I know we have this kid together, but I don't.

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Speaker 2: I just want to fresh start, you know, I just

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Speaker 2: want to cleaning way and I want to clean out

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Speaker 2: you know, this kid from my life.

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Speaker 1: You know there's there's all this baggage in my life.

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Speaker 1: I just like to abort that baggage. Yeage start anew

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Speaker 1: I know that goes that should be a bumpers stigger.

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Speaker 1: You abort the baggage. Amazing. Some people might say it's

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Speaker 1: my plan b you know, starting new, make that plan

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Speaker 1: be your plan. A.

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Speaker 2: That's right.

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Speaker 1: I got a bonus of work, and I really just

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Speaker 1: want to go on vacation with my family just once.

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Speaker 1: We've been on family vacations altogether lots of times, but

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Speaker 1: just once. I want to spend my money on going

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Speaker 1: on vacation where I'm not looking after someone else's kid.

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Speaker 1: Wait are they they're married though?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Yes, broh, you get married, you take on that baggage. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that baggage is your baggage. Yeah, that's uh, that's pretty fucked.

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Speaker 2: It's like, yeah, this specific kid, get the fuck out

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Speaker 2: of here. Let's just leave him at home. I want

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Speaker 1: I don't really comprehend, Like I feel like it's kind

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Speaker 1: of a package deal, right, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: If you already someone with kids, they are now your kids.

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Speaker 2: She kind of ish like, yeah, you still have to

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Speaker 2: like take on vacation with your family. You can't just

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Speaker 2: invite your kids. You can't do it if you're also

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Speaker 2: inviting your husband. Yeah, I don't know, well maybe can

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Speaker 2: I don't. I if I was marrying someone with kids

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel I feel like like if you are

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Speaker 1: think that. Yeah, it would work well because I hate

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Speaker 1: got to dump your ass. Yeah. I want step son

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Speaker 1: to stay with his mom while we go on vacation.

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Speaker 2: But she doesn't have a kid anymore. She did the

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Speaker 2: spring cleaning. That's right, Yeah, exactly, Yeah, you don't. You

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Speaker 2: got to remember this coming, keep it in your keep

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Speaker 1: My husband sees my point of view and is okay

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Speaker 1: with it. I don't think I'm being unreasonable at all.

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Speaker 1: My mom found out what I was planning and says,

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Speaker 1: I am being a complete a hole.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think so. I kind of think so. Said like,

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Speaker 2: if I had a nickel for every time, and OP said,

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Speaker 2: I don't think I'm being unreasonable at all, I'd have

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Speaker 2: many Nikels be pretty rich.

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Speaker 1: Yes, these are the reasons that she says I could

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Speaker 1: be the a hole one. My mom says that if

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Speaker 1: Stepson's mom isn't properly involved in his life, I should

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Speaker 1: be even more involved in his life to compensate. I

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Speaker 1: think this is a completely unfair expectation.

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I think if you marry in you

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Speaker 2: gotta kind of like marry you marry the kids too,

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Speaker 2: kind of pardon the deal, Like, don't marry someone with

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Speaker 2: the kids. The package deal. Yeah, Well, you know, the

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Speaker 2: whole point of baggage is if you marry into baggage,

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Speaker 2: you might have to carry it up with flat of stairs.

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Speaker 2: You might have to check that baggage. You you might

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Speaker 2: have to check that. I don't know, I don't think

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Speaker 2: you get to check that baggage that's carry off carry off.

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Speaker 1: Fifty pounds that you're just shocking in the freaking over.

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Speaker 2: Burn, not even overhead. You're putting it under the seat,

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Speaker 2: you're carrying it on your lap. You're just sitting there

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Speaker 2: just like, yeah, the whole flight. Yeah, big bags, big bags.

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Speaker 1: Number two. She also says that I'm being a hypocrite

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Speaker 1: taking my son, But I think that's totally different because

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Speaker 1: my son doesn't have another parent, and I'm all, he's

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Speaker 1: got man. Oh p you're just not o pe, You're just.

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Speaker 2: Not comprehending this. Oh boy, you're just not comprehending. Like, also,

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Speaker 2: the big question is when the guy goes on vacation,

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Speaker 2: does he take her kids.

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Speaker 1: I don't think that she has kids outside of the

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Speaker 1: ones they have together. I believe it's the two children

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Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, dude, kid, you're just going to really exclude

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Speaker 2: that kid from everything, Like I don't see how you

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Speaker 2: step son's mom won't take him just this once, then

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Speaker 2: obviously he'll come on vacation with us. But I don't

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Speaker 2: think i' the a hole to ask if I can

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Speaker 2: have a vacation with my own family just one time.

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Speaker 2: He's part of your family. Part of I have. So,

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Speaker 2: I have a friend who So I have a friend

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Speaker 2: just one joint family. When you marry in it becomes

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Speaker 1: Literally, Like I think that's part of the deal of like, Okay,

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Speaker 1: we're getting married together. I know you have a son,

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Speaker 1: and like we will be bringing everyone together. Also from

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Speaker 1: the husband's perspective, like I want you to parent.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, my kid is a non negotiable if I'm marrying you.

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Speaker 2: He is. He is part of our family. He's not

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Speaker 2: just like a fucking He's not like the kid that

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Speaker 2: you can't play basketball and has picked last for you know,

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Speaker 2: the knockout game. Yeah, like he's included in every basketball term.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this is not This is not basketball, this is

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Speaker 1: not kickball. Like we are not painting teams. Like all right, Jerry,

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Speaker 1: well it looks like you're the last picked and you

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we want to keep an even amount of team members.

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Speaker 2: We were clean four, now it's five. That'll be awkward.

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Speaker 2: It's weird. It would just be weird. I feel it'd

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Speaker 1: Home, yeah really, or just like go into a forest

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Speaker 1: and like food.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I just just just explore the Amazon by yourself.

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Speaker 2: Maybe learn a little bit about democracy. Now that's a

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Speaker 2: that's a vacation. Yeah, fucking create a city door.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not like I hate my steps under something.

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Speaker 1: He's a nice kid. He's just not mine.

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Speaker 2: Am I a hole? Well? We do have an update, Sam,

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I'm so excited for this update, being

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Speaker 2: like I guess I'm the a hole. If that is

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Speaker 2: realize that I'm a terrible person and I'm gonna work

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Speaker 1: I'm My prediction is they're going to triple down and

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Speaker 2: That't realize how much of a little ship this kid is. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and he's not even mine, doesn't have my great gene. No,

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Speaker 2: he's he's half ugly, he's half well.

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Speaker 1: Uh, everyone, as of right now, put it in the

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Speaker 1: comments if you think Ops the a hole or not.

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Speaker 1: But there's a chance, there's an opportunity for redemption.

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Speaker 2: Let's hear it, and let's see if OP learned from

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Speaker 1: We definitely won't be going on vacation without my step

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Speaker 1: son after God. After a couple hours of replies, I

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Speaker 1: decided to show this to my husband. We sat down

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Speaker 2: Yeah, come on, Although I you know what I don't

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Speaker 2: I would have. I would have, you know, stuck up

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Speaker 2: for my little buddy asap. Yeah, it's it's that's too much. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's too much, I guess. But when the pussy got good,

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Speaker 2: your step son gets you know, second chair, hey son,

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Speaker 2: you might have to stay back. You would not believe

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Speaker 2: the bomb ass booty that is going up. He play

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Speaker 2: in the forest or something found some democracy.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to be a bad person. I just

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Speaker 2: Your real children. I never thought of stepchildren being like

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Speaker 2: Just thought they were always like you know, I watch

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Speaker 2: a Disney movie and I just thought they make you

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Speaker 2: clean the chimney. Yeah, I know, they try to steal

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Speaker 2: your glass slipper. It's so super normal. All the Disney

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Speaker 2: families do it. Yeah. Yeah, if you have a step sibling,

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Speaker 2: you just neglect them and put them in the forest.

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Speaker 2: Just put them in the forest. I want to be

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Speaker 2: your real son. No, no, not today the forest. Yes.

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Speaker 1: I don't think it would be easy for anyone to

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Speaker 1: accept this level of criticism. But all of your replies

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Speaker 1: have shown me. I have a lot of work to do.

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Speaker 1: I love how OPI phrased.

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Speaker 2: That's like not everyone would be as good as accepting

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Speaker 2: the criticism as me. But I now know that I

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Speaker 2: can and weird work on this. I I have weathered

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Speaker 2: the storm, and I have come out a better person.

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Speaker 2: Thank you for all your hope. No less a woman

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Speaker 2: than me would have not even responded to such squiggle,

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Speaker 2: but uh me on the other hand, of a fucking saint.

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Speaker 2: That's right.

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Speaker 1: As many of you suggested, and so did my husband,

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Speaker 1: I intend to see a therapist to help me with that.

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Speaker 1: As I said, I don't hate my step son in

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Speaker 2: I want.

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Speaker 1: I want my family to be the best it can be,

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Speaker 2: Damn straight. Well, I guess that's one less evil stepmother.

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Speaker 1: That's right, you know, one one less apple to poison

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Speaker 2: That is what this show is about, just like eliminating

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Speaker 1: Should we should we create a new sub series, Stepmom

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Speaker 2: Oh man, I would love to spearhead that show, a

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Speaker 2: Stepmom Slayer. Yeah, introduce me to your step mom's, oh

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Speaker 1: I kicked my brother in law and his family to

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they belong in the streets where the dirt is.

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Speaker 2: If they're gonna be dirty, go where the dirt is.

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Speaker 2: Go back to what's on your body, that's right, you know,

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Speaker 2: back to nature, you know what I mean? Yeah, to

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Speaker 1: So, my husband's brother thirty five male and his wife

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Speaker 2: Sorry to hear that.

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Speaker 1: I never wanted them here in the first place due

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Speaker 2: Fuck those kids.

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Speaker 1: Listen, build character, build house out of twigs.

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Speaker 2: You know, I'll blow your house down. Let's do it.

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Speaker 1: Before they moved in, we set some ground rules, such

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Speaker 1: and they must respect capital riespectou four, our space, and

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Speaker 2: I mean, they just don't sound like good house guests.

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Speaker 2: You know, they don't. They don't maybe just like I

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Speaker 2: don't know, play some pranks, like you know that prank

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Speaker 2: an alternative direction on your theory.

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Speaker 1: What if you play pranks on them and you post

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Speaker 2: Pay for their rent to get a new place martsmart,

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Speaker 2: make them a prankster, and then it's like the punishment

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Speaker 1: But it's like, hey, get them a place to stay,

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Speaker 1: and then they can become a terrible YouTube blog family. Yes,

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Speaker 1: there we go. First of all, my sister in law

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Speaker 2: Fine red Flag, Red Flag.

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Speaker 1: But they never ever clean up after themselves, constantly leaving

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Speaker 1: When I tell them to clean up after themselves, they

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Speaker 1: Last week, one of the boys peed all my very

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Speaker 2: Peede on how old are these boys three and four?

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Speaker 2: He's eighteen. She's like, yeah, freaking peede on his couch. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm drunk keno from the boys. Take this, Auntie? Ye?

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Speaker 2: wasted up some juicy with the boys. Where's palace? Oh? God, dude,

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Speaker 1: Which I only found out about after smelling piss when

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Speaker 2: Come on, Oh, it's gross.

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Speaker 1: Sister in law is a stay at home mom, but

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Speaker 2: Not the plant, my leaf babies. I am a plant daddy,

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Speaker 1: Their whole family has turned my house into an effing

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Speaker 1: My husband could sense my frustration, so he told me

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Speaker 2: I would hope, so until Oh no, thanks John, thanks

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Speaker 1: Yesterday, I get home from work early and the family

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Speaker 2: Thank God. Good.

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Speaker 1: I think peace and quiet for a few hours. I

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Speaker 2: On the ground. No, I guess they skipped town knowing

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Speaker 2: what they did. This is tough. I lost my mom

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Speaker 1: Oh and it is one of the last handmade items

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Speaker 2: That is tragic. Yeah, where is this mom letting her

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Speaker 1: You would think if someone gave me their house to

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Speaker 1: absolute best behavior. Let John stay in your house. I

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Speaker 2: Everything will be fixed, it will smell like peaches and

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Speaker 2: into your air. It's what you want. Oh God.

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Speaker 1: I immediately knew it was the boys because there were

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Speaker 1: I ended up calling my husband explaining the situation, and

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Speaker 1: When they came back, there was a huge confrontation between

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Speaker 1: All rightboys going in?

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Speaker 2: Just dude, did you get a little far? A little far?

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Speaker 1: They screamed back, calling me heartless, cruel and evil, saying

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Speaker 2: Am I the a hole? Boy? This is a tough one, Okay, Okay,

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Speaker 2: I mean they're obviously not respecting the house. Nope, And

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Speaker 2: I can't blame Op for being a little emotional. That

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Speaker 2: You're doing something wrong and this is what you can

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Speaker 1: I feel like there's some pretty crazy house guest stories

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Speaker 2: Want to hear them, So put them in the commons below,

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Speaker 2: and just remember, you know, you can stay in the

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Speaker 2: House of the Okop fam anytime you want, you know,

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Speaker 2: put a little tent in the comments. Maybe we'll you know,

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Speaker 2: put a blow up mattress in there. Stay there for

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Speaker 2: a while, you know, talk to each other, talk to us,

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Speaker 2: talk to us because we love you so very much.

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Speaker 2: We really do. We love you you so very much,

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Speaker 2: so very much, very much. So see you next time.