WEBVTT - Second Date Update: Bending and Unfriending 0:00:00.000 --> 0:00:01.400 All right, we got a guy who put in a 0:00:01.560 --> 0:00:04.320 lot of effort in today's new episode, Welcome to the 0:00:04.360 --> 0:00:06.640 Second Date Podcast. It's Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning, 0:00:07.320 --> 0:00:10.119 and he did an entire theme date and it only 0:00:10.119 --> 0:00:12.680 took his date fifteen minutes to say I don't like this. Yep, 0:00:12.880 --> 0:00:14.320 And now he's on with that yep. 0:00:14.400 --> 0:00:15.600 After all that. 0:00:16.040 --> 0:00:18.240 You're gonna hear what happened here in just a second. 0:00:18.280 --> 0:00:19.919 But first we love to feature your comments. 0:00:20.000 --> 0:00:23.960 Yes, Alicia said, I'm listening from Canada. I listened to 0:00:24.000 --> 0:00:25.960 you guys while doing the dishes and shutting down the 0:00:26.000 --> 0:00:28.720 house for the night. I'm the house closer in the family, 0:00:29.040 --> 0:00:30.960 so I get the evening clean up shift and your 0:00:31.000 --> 0:00:32.760 podcast has me laughing the whole time. 0:00:32.920 --> 0:00:36.240 That is such a genius way to split up chores 0:00:36.440 --> 0:00:37.000 like yay. 0:00:36.880 --> 0:00:38.120 And night morning. 0:00:38.400 --> 0:00:43.520 Yes, yeah, who's the closer? Who's the openery? I love 0:00:43.600 --> 0:00:47.320 that good Canadians are smarter. Yeah, I'm sorry, I just 0:00:47.320 --> 0:00:50.160 got it down. Alright, Your brand new Second Date update 0:00:50.200 --> 0:00:50.879 starts right now. 0:00:50.960 --> 0:00:54.680 Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning Second Date Updates. 0:00:55.040 --> 0:00:57.480 What do you do when you book a date somewhere 0:00:57.920 --> 0:01:02.480 and the location for the date is off like things 0:01:02.520 --> 0:01:05.639 are good between you and your person but for whatever reason, 0:01:05.800 --> 0:01:09.800 whether it's the dive bar is too divy or the 0:01:10.000 --> 0:01:15.039 speak easy is too easy speaking. At that point, what 0:01:15.080 --> 0:01:16.000 do you do then? 0:01:16.360 --> 0:01:19.839 Okay, well that's when you see someone's personality really sucks. 0:01:22.959 --> 0:01:25.760 No, they're great, it's just the place is wrong. 0:01:25.959 --> 0:01:30.280 You can't That's what our listener, Aaron was faced with 0:01:30.319 --> 0:01:34.320 that exact dilemma, and he managed to make lemons out 0:01:34.319 --> 0:01:35.280 of lemon trees. 0:01:36.959 --> 0:01:37.360 None of the. 0:01:39.360 --> 0:01:41.920 Expression. So let's learn a little bit more. 0:01:42.800 --> 0:01:44.040 I don't know, but he did not go to the 0:01:44.080 --> 0:01:45.480 easy speak Okay. 0:01:45.400 --> 0:01:47.880 Well, well let's find out where he went. Aaron, Welcome 0:01:47.880 --> 0:01:48.600 to the show man. 0:01:49.040 --> 0:01:51.080 Hey, it's good to be here. Thanks for having me. 0:01:51.880 --> 0:02:01.240 Okay, welcome to the orchard. Yeah, where lemon trees grow thrived. 0:02:01.600 --> 0:02:04.200 So we would love to get into your date. First, 0:02:04.240 --> 0:02:06.360 tell us about this girl and how you met her. 0:02:06.880 --> 0:02:10.040 Okay, So her name is Elise. If I'm allowed to 0:02:10.080 --> 0:02:11.000 say that on the. 0:02:10.960 --> 0:02:11.880 Air, I hope. 0:02:11.880 --> 0:02:11.960 So. 0:02:12.240 --> 0:02:14.880 I can't believe you just came out with that. 0:02:15.320 --> 0:02:17.040 Is she in a witness protection program? 0:02:17.960 --> 0:02:18.400 Hopefully? 0:02:18.400 --> 0:02:21.480 I don't hear from her lawyer, but I met her 0:02:21.520 --> 0:02:25.320 online and her profile said that she liked to travel. 0:02:25.200 --> 0:02:28.639 To travel. Okay, oh, all right, something unique? 0:02:29.760 --> 0:02:30.359 Don't hear that? 0:02:31.919 --> 0:02:34.320 What I did was I took her on an airplane 0:02:34.400 --> 0:02:34.880 theme date. 0:02:35.000 --> 0:02:36.279 If you know what I'm saying. 0:02:36.360 --> 0:02:37.040 I don't know. 0:02:37.400 --> 0:02:40.000 I mean you boarded a plane and flew somewhere. 0:02:40.600 --> 0:02:42.799 Did you shed in line for a long time, holding 0:02:42.880 --> 0:02:45.160 lots of luggage and pretend like you're in TSA? 0:02:45.480 --> 0:02:49.320 No, in retrospect, flying somewhere exotic might have been cooler. 0:02:49.440 --> 0:02:52.079 But I took her to a restaurant close to the 0:02:52.120 --> 0:02:52.960 airport so. 0:02:52.880 --> 0:02:55.000 We could watch the plane, you know, take it off 0:02:55.000 --> 0:02:56.639 and land. It kind of romantic, right. 0:02:58.400 --> 0:02:59.240 Plane spotting. 0:02:59.520 --> 0:03:01.200 I think that's what a cute idea. It shows that 0:03:01.240 --> 0:03:03.680 you paid attention to what she liked and you tried 0:03:03.720 --> 0:03:05.920 to find a unique way to try it. 0:03:06.080 --> 0:03:08.120 Yeah, she must have been surprised when you came up 0:03:08.120 --> 0:03:09.000 with that idea. 0:03:09.200 --> 0:03:12.160 She was surprised by it being as close to the 0:03:12.200 --> 0:03:13.280 airport as it was. 0:03:13.600 --> 0:03:15.880 I thought it was romantic. 0:03:15.480 --> 0:03:18.240 But the engines were so loud we ended up not 0:03:18.320 --> 0:03:19.679 even able to hear each other. 0:03:19.800 --> 0:03:23.519 Oh no, is that really important for a first date? Though? 0:03:23.840 --> 0:03:24.720 Was that you said? 0:03:26.000 --> 0:03:27.079 Every ten seconds? 0:03:27.080 --> 0:03:31.760 Another one? You have a brother, that's awful. 0:03:32.280 --> 0:03:35.280 So she asked why we're eating at the airport, and 0:03:35.360 --> 0:03:38.400 I'm kind of thinking to myself, do we do we 0:03:38.480 --> 0:03:39.040 get through this? 0:03:39.200 --> 0:03:41.560 Do we go our whole first day just yelling. 0:03:41.280 --> 0:03:44.480 At each other, or did we just get on out 0:03:44.480 --> 0:03:44.760 of there? 0:03:45.200 --> 0:03:46.200 So that's what we did. 0:03:46.480 --> 0:03:49.440 Oh you left? Okay, you guys, did you pivoted? And 0:03:49.560 --> 0:03:52.520 she was interested enough to go to a second location 0:03:52.640 --> 0:03:52.840 with you? 0:03:53.360 --> 0:03:55.800 Yeah, you know, I did say sorry, it's because I 0:03:55.840 --> 0:03:59.080 thought you'd like to travel. But another restaurant, it was 0:03:59.200 --> 0:04:01.680 quieter and we kind of talked about ourselves a little 0:04:01.680 --> 0:04:02.080 bit more. 0:04:02.200 --> 0:04:05.280 Okay, Okay, it sounds like you had great conversation. Was 0:04:05.320 --> 0:04:08.360 there any weird points for you? Well? 0:04:08.440 --> 0:04:10.480 I think it was good for the most part. I 0:04:10.680 --> 0:04:13.520 told her a bit about my job on an escalator tech. 0:04:14.160 --> 0:04:16.279 She told me that she was a pairalegal, and I 0:04:16.320 --> 0:04:31.800 didn't even know what that meant. As a matter of fact. 0:04:27.520 --> 0:04:29.320 You can save that for your next date if we 0:04:29.360 --> 0:04:32.520 get it worked out for you. 0:04:33.640 --> 0:04:35.760 Okay, there you go, There you go. 0:04:35.839 --> 0:04:39.880 But you know, the conversation gotten deeper, family friends stuff. 0:04:39.880 --> 0:04:43.320 We're really interested in passion, that kind of stuff. 0:04:43.480 --> 0:04:46.400 Yeah, I mean, if anybody starts asking like deep questions 0:04:46.400 --> 0:04:48.800 about your family or the people that you spent a 0:04:48.839 --> 0:04:50.880 lot of time with. In my mind, that would be 0:04:50.960 --> 0:04:53.040 a really good sign. But I don't know, Alexis. 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:55.280 For you, would that be a good. 0:04:55.080 --> 0:04:57.160 Conversation for you to have on a first date or 0:04:57.160 --> 0:04:58.920 are you trying to avoid You're just trying to tread water. 0:04:59.080 --> 0:04:59.839 That's bringing it down. 0:05:00.000 --> 0:05:01.560 I'm just saying, like, just because you're like talking to 0:05:01.560 --> 0:05:03.479 someone about that doesn't mean you like them like them. 0:05:03.800 --> 0:05:06.280 You could just be interested in the conversation and. 0:05:06.320 --> 0:05:08.280 Like or off of that, you could just feel like 0:05:08.320 --> 0:05:09.719 this will get them to talk for ten minutes. 0:05:09.839 --> 0:05:11.200 Yeah, tell me about your family. 0:05:11.000 --> 0:05:12.919 You know. 0:05:13.720 --> 0:05:15.760 Were you getting a vibe from her either way? 0:05:16.440 --> 0:05:19.520 Well, I definitely got the impression that she was really 0:05:19.560 --> 0:05:21.559 trying to get a feel of who I am, which 0:05:21.680 --> 0:05:23.400 made me think that she was interested. 0:05:24.800 --> 0:05:26.280 She actually cared, Alexis. 0:05:27.760 --> 0:05:29.640 I mean, even though she's not calling you back now, 0:05:29.880 --> 0:05:32.320 at least for that part of the conversation. 0:05:32.040 --> 0:05:32.800 She was into it. 0:05:32.880 --> 0:05:34.040 How long ago was your date? 0:05:35.440 --> 0:05:36.600 It was about five days ago? 0:05:36.960 --> 0:05:40.760 Okay, Okay, yeah, that's like almost a week. 0:05:40.880 --> 0:05:41.080 Yeah. 0:05:41.240 --> 0:05:43.039 How did you to leave it that night? 0:05:43.960 --> 0:05:45.000 That's when it got awkward. 0:05:45.320 --> 0:05:48.760 Actually, as soon as they cleared the plates. 0:05:48.839 --> 0:05:51.200 At the end of dinner, waiter, did we ask if 0:05:51.200 --> 0:05:53.120 we want to dessert? She just said, we'll get to 0:05:53.200 --> 0:05:54.400 check when you get a second. 0:05:54.400 --> 0:05:57.040 Oh, your date asked for the check immediately before the 0:05:57.080 --> 0:06:00.320 waiter could even offer to bring the menus back. I 0:06:00.400 --> 0:06:02.880 see as a former server, that's kind of rude. A 0:06:02.920 --> 0:06:04.560 lot of times there's a whole spiel involved with the 0:06:04.560 --> 0:06:05.120 dessert menu. 0:06:07.040 --> 0:06:08.840 He's like, do you know how hard? I don't to 0:06:09.000 --> 0:06:11.400 memorize that, give me. 0:06:11.320 --> 0:06:13.320 My moment, but it sounds like maybe you got the 0:06:13.320 --> 0:06:16.440 feeling that she was done hanging out with you. 0:06:16.600 --> 0:06:18.239 Yeah, she was ready to leave. 0:06:18.360 --> 0:06:22.520 Exactly exactly she paid for half of it. She insisted 0:06:22.560 --> 0:06:24.680 on paying for half of it, and there was no 0:06:24.760 --> 0:06:25.479 kiss or hugs. 0:06:25.480 --> 0:06:26.680 She just walked to her collar. 0:06:27.200 --> 0:06:28.960 Brook, Why did you say oof? Is that not a 0:06:28.960 --> 0:06:29.400 good sign? 0:06:30.120 --> 0:06:32.440 Well, I mean, it's one thing if there's a discussion 0:06:32.760 --> 0:06:35.600 and you're like no, let me know. But it sounds 0:06:35.640 --> 0:06:38.520 like she just didn't want to feel in any way 0:06:38.520 --> 0:06:39.400 indebted to you. 0:06:39.480 --> 0:06:41.599 Yeah, you pay if you don't really want. 0:06:41.480 --> 0:06:44.360 To, Like, yeah, I don't know what's up with that. 0:06:44.680 --> 0:06:47.400 Okay, we're about to call Alice in a second here, 0:06:47.520 --> 0:06:50.400 but your email said, you're really hoping that we can 0:06:50.440 --> 0:06:53.000 get a hold of her because, quote, she's the first 0:06:53.120 --> 0:06:55.640 quality girl that I've been out with in half a year. 0:06:56.080 --> 0:06:57.560 Six months is a long time. 0:06:57.520 --> 0:07:01.359 Okay, some people get a lot more dates, and you 0:07:01.400 --> 0:07:03.239 know what, we want to do that for you, Aaron. 0:07:03.520 --> 0:07:05.880 If you did mess up, we would like to figure 0:07:05.920 --> 0:07:09.280 out what exactly the mistake was that could help you 0:07:09.320 --> 0:07:11.640 for the next future six months of bad dates. 0:07:12.480 --> 0:07:14.640 It'll help him fix what's with her and go out 0:07:14.680 --> 0:07:15.280 with her again. 0:07:15.760 --> 0:07:18.640 Yeah, Brooke, you are right, but I do want to 0:07:18.640 --> 0:07:20.720 be realistic here. Okay, she's not calling. 0:07:20.560 --> 0:07:22.320 Him back, but let's find out why when we come 0:07:22.320 --> 0:07:24.800 back and do your second date update right after this. 0:07:25.960 --> 0:07:28.880 Brook and Jeffrey in the morning Second date updates. 0:07:29.720 --> 0:07:32.440 You know, I really like our listener, Aaron, because he 0:07:32.480 --> 0:07:37.320 sounds like a good dude and sourceful too. Not only 0:07:37.400 --> 0:07:39.880 was he a thoughtful guy who planned a very special 0:07:40.000 --> 0:07:42.600 date for a lease because she said on her profile 0:07:42.640 --> 0:07:45.960 that she's really into travel, so he took her to 0:07:46.000 --> 0:07:49.920 a restaurant by the airport. She turns out it was 0:07:49.960 --> 0:07:54.280 literally right by the airport, like, yeah, directly next to it, 0:07:54.360 --> 0:07:57.240 where thanks to all the planes they could barely hear 0:07:57.240 --> 0:08:00.920 each other speaking, and being that resource guy that he is, 0:08:01.240 --> 0:08:04.400 he pivoted to another place, a little farther away where 0:08:04.440 --> 0:08:07.880 they could actually communicate with each other, and he got 0:08:07.920 --> 0:08:10.040 to learn a little bit more about Elise and she 0:08:10.160 --> 0:08:13.400 got to know more about him until she suddenly cut 0:08:13.480 --> 0:08:14.680 the date short. 0:08:14.320 --> 0:08:16.360 Which is too bad because I feel like you really 0:08:16.400 --> 0:08:18.040 proved you can handle a situation. 0:08:18.520 --> 0:08:19.440 We love a good pivot. 0:08:19.560 --> 0:08:21.800 Yeah, yeah, thank you, You're welcome. 0:08:22.200 --> 0:08:23.800 Trying to hype you up a little bit because sometimes 0:08:23.800 --> 0:08:24.760 these can be a little rough. 0:08:24.920 --> 0:08:27.240 The thing is what caused her to have the sudden 0:08:27.320 --> 0:08:29.360 change of heart and basically storm out. 0:08:29.640 --> 0:08:33.080 She didn't storm out, She just asked for the check abruptly. Yeah, 0:08:33.120 --> 0:08:34.040 and then Paige. 0:08:33.800 --> 0:08:37.600 For its stormy stormy adjacent all right, I don't know. 0:08:37.840 --> 0:08:38.280 That's the thing. 0:08:38.280 --> 0:08:38.760 We don't know. 0:08:39.080 --> 0:08:41.439 That's the whole point of the second point. So we're 0:08:41.480 --> 0:08:44.440 hoping to find that out. If she answers our phone calls, 0:08:44.760 --> 0:08:47.040 and we are going to call her constantly until. 0:08:46.920 --> 0:08:47.520 She picks up. 0:08:48.800 --> 0:08:49.880 We're not creepy at all. 0:08:50.000 --> 0:08:51.160 No, no, you. 0:08:51.200 --> 0:08:54.720 Quo with that, Aaron I already, oh yeah. 0:08:54.559 --> 0:08:58.120 Beautiful, committed to this, all right, We're all in let's 0:08:58.120 --> 0:08:58.360 do it. 0:08:58.360 --> 0:08:59.440 I'm gonna call it right now. 0:09:05.000 --> 0:09:08.680 Hello, Hey, Elise, this is jeff from Brook and Jeffrey 0:09:08.679 --> 0:09:09.079 in the Morning. 0:09:09.080 --> 0:09:09.640 How are you doing. 0:09:11.679 --> 0:09:12.840 I'm sorry, who's this? 0:09:13.760 --> 0:09:15.679 There's a radio show. We're called Brook and Jeffrey in 0:09:15.760 --> 0:09:17.640 the Morning. Good morning. 0:09:18.160 --> 0:09:20.520 This is Elise. Right, we didn't actually confirm that. 0:09:21.200 --> 0:09:21.840 Now there's a lease. 0:09:22.360 --> 0:09:26.360 Even if it's not a lease, we'll talk to you. 0:09:27.920 --> 0:09:32.080 Okay, this is so random. What are you calling about. 0:09:32.760 --> 0:09:35.240 We are calling about this segment we do. It's called 0:09:35.280 --> 0:09:39.240 the Second Date Update, and the reason for it is 0:09:39.280 --> 0:09:42.520 one of our listeners has reached out hoping that we 0:09:42.559 --> 0:09:44.320 can get a hold of you after you went on 0:09:44.320 --> 0:09:45.320 a date with him. 0:09:45.679 --> 0:09:48.360 You're not calling him back anymore. It's a guy named Aaron. 0:09:51.320 --> 0:10:00.440 Oh my gosh. Okay, all right, yeah, so Aaron, I. 0:10:00.360 --> 0:10:02.679 Don't really understand why you guys are calling me. 0:10:03.280 --> 0:10:06.000 Because he told us about the day that you two 0:10:06.080 --> 0:10:09.280 hung out near the airport and then at a second restaurant. 0:10:09.080 --> 0:10:10.800 And he was like so bumped because he had like 0:10:10.840 --> 0:10:13.240 come up with this great idea based on your interest 0:10:13.280 --> 0:10:14.959 of travel, and then it kind of backfired. 0:10:16.240 --> 0:10:19.520 Okay, okay, so you guys know about the date. 0:10:19.800 --> 0:10:23.360 Yes, and what we don't know is if there's a 0:10:23.520 --> 0:10:27.160 reason why you're kind of it seems like to him 0:10:27.160 --> 0:10:30.640 that you're avoiding him. No, and actually, according to him, 0:10:30.679 --> 0:10:32.760 you stopped the date kind of abruptly. 0:10:33.120 --> 0:10:36.200 Yeah. No, no, I mean things just sort of ended, 0:10:36.720 --> 0:10:41.120 like he's he's really nice. Honestly, if I'd met him 0:10:41.200 --> 0:10:44.040 last year, it probably would have worked. But now I'm 0:10:44.200 --> 0:10:47.319 just like, I'm just adhering to like some strict dating 0:10:47.440 --> 0:10:50.200 rules that I'm not breaking, just so I can have 0:10:50.240 --> 0:10:52.360 a lot more clarity in this whole dating world. 0:10:52.559 --> 0:10:53.480 Oh that's interesting. 0:10:53.720 --> 0:10:56.959 Ye, like he's shorter than your minimum or something. 0:10:57.080 --> 0:10:58.440 No, No, nothing like that. 0:10:58.640 --> 0:11:01.439 Sorry, I'm enough to apologize for my co host Jose here. 0:11:01.520 --> 0:11:04.440 He doesn't like rules to hold him back. 0:11:04.520 --> 0:11:08.400 He hasn't been able to follow him since Kindergarten a rebel. 0:11:08.760 --> 0:11:11.839 But if you've laid some rules down for your dating 0:11:11.880 --> 0:11:13.800 life that could be healthy. 0:11:13.640 --> 0:11:15.040 Can you share any of them with us? 0:11:15.080 --> 0:11:15.800 Are we allowed to know? 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:18.719 You really want to know? 0:11:19.280 --> 0:11:19.760 Yeah? 0:11:19.840 --> 0:11:23.080 I mean, honestly, people listening maybe like that's a good idea. 0:11:23.080 --> 0:11:27.600 Especially especially if Aaron had broke one of them. 0:11:27.720 --> 0:11:30.520 Okay, so here they go. Number one. 0:11:30.800 --> 0:11:36.480 If you don't make good money cut Number two. If 0:11:36.520 --> 0:11:38.680 you haven't gone to therapy cut. 0:11:40.080 --> 0:11:42.360 Waait wait what if they haven't gone to therapy? 0:11:42.400 --> 0:11:46.600 Ever, you don't have to deal with other people's baggage. 0:11:48.160 --> 0:11:48.600 Therapy. 0:11:48.640 --> 0:11:49.760 They're perfect, got it? 0:11:50.040 --> 0:11:52.800 No, not that anyone's perfect. A lot of men haven't 0:11:52.840 --> 0:11:54.760 dealt with a lot of stuff, and a lot of 0:11:54.800 --> 0:11:56.959 guys that have been on date with want to trauma 0:11:57.000 --> 0:11:58.959 bond and I'm like, I'm not doing it. 0:11:59.200 --> 0:12:01.600 Yeah, okay, I mean these are interesting, but we do 0:12:01.640 --> 0:12:03.840 have a required time limit on this segment. 0:12:04.040 --> 0:12:06.320 So how long is the list going to be? 0:12:06.360 --> 0:12:06.840 Exactly? 0:12:07.080 --> 0:12:09.000 Can we get to our guy broke? 0:12:09.160 --> 0:12:11.040 Yeah? 0:12:11.240 --> 0:12:12.240 There's just five. 0:12:12.240 --> 0:12:15.280 Okay, the first two money and therapy. 0:12:16.320 --> 0:12:16.880 Number three. 0:12:17.000 --> 0:12:19.640 If you're rude to wait staff or janitor's cut? 0:12:19.840 --> 0:12:22.400 Yeah, was he rude to one of the waiters at 0:12:22.400 --> 0:12:24.040 the restaurant? No? 0:12:24.040 --> 0:12:24.720 No, he wasn't. 0:12:24.880 --> 0:12:26.320 Okay, Okay, that wasn't the one. 0:12:26.840 --> 0:12:29.920 Number four. If you've ever lied to a cheated on 0:12:29.960 --> 0:12:31.600 a significant other? Cut? 0:12:32.360 --> 0:12:34.520 Yeah, I'm sorry. 0:12:35.440 --> 0:12:38.440 Who hasn't lied to a significant other? That's so bad? 0:12:39.280 --> 0:12:41.360 That's true, Sorr. I always focus on the cheating part. 0:12:41.880 --> 0:12:43.720 I don't mean like a white lie, I mean like 0:12:43.960 --> 0:12:45.400 living a double life. 0:12:45.120 --> 0:12:47.400 Okay, I think, Okay, big lie. 0:12:47.320 --> 0:12:49.480 And number five and this is the one that got him. 0:12:49.679 --> 0:12:51.200 Okay, here we go. 0:12:51.320 --> 0:12:52.480 This is the rule that he broke. 0:12:53.080 --> 0:12:56.160 If you have any friends who lie or cheat, cut, 0:12:57.600 --> 0:12:58.320 why would. 0:12:58.120 --> 0:13:02.280 Your friends behavior dictate who you are as a person. 0:13:03.040 --> 0:13:05.520 It doesn't dictate who you are, but it's who you're 0:13:05.559 --> 0:13:07.959 hanging out with really determines the kind of person you're 0:13:08.000 --> 0:13:09.400 going to be and the values you have. 0:13:09.600 --> 0:13:12.400 Okay, but wait, how do you know that one of 0:13:12.440 --> 0:13:14.480 his friends lied or cheated? You know? 0:13:14.600 --> 0:13:16.480 I asked him, has he ever been cheated on? And 0:13:16.520 --> 0:13:19.440 he's like, no, forget that. My friend was but he 0:13:19.480 --> 0:13:22.040 got her back, he cheated on her and blah blah blah. 0:13:22.040 --> 0:13:24.839 And he was like super enthusiastic, and I was like discussing. 0:13:24.960 --> 0:13:28.840 Yeah, so okay, So your logic is because one of 0:13:28.880 --> 0:13:33.200 his friends cheated, that cheater on a cheater, that means 0:13:33.600 --> 0:13:34.760 he is not worth dating. 0:13:35.440 --> 0:13:37.440 I didn't say he's not worth dating for somebody else. 0:13:37.520 --> 0:13:39.840 I said that I don't want to deal with that. 0:13:40.200 --> 0:13:44.280 We eliminate almost anybody, like everybody is friends with somebody 0:13:44.280 --> 0:13:45.559 out there that these. 0:13:45.400 --> 0:13:47.440 Are her standards. That's the hard thing is you can't 0:13:47.600 --> 0:13:48.880 argue with how somebody. 0:13:48.640 --> 0:13:52.720 Feel, and we can, I guess respect to your rules. 0:13:52.800 --> 0:13:55.080 The good news is I didn't hear any rules about 0:13:55.200 --> 0:13:59.760 not quietly listening in on people's phone conversations, because that 0:13:59.880 --> 0:14:02.240 is what Aaron is doing right now. He's on the 0:14:02.280 --> 0:14:03.679 other line waiting to talk to you. 0:14:04.480 --> 0:14:08.079 Hey, Lee, how you doing. 0:14:08.679 --> 0:14:18.840 That's kind of insane, right WHOA. 0:14:16.720 --> 0:14:18.240 Well? Why am I getting punished for that? 0:14:19.280 --> 0:14:22.040 I don't want to involve myself at this point in 0:14:22.080 --> 0:14:24.800 my life with people who support liars and cheaters. 0:14:26.160 --> 0:14:29.360 You didn't hear like he didn't because his girlfriend cheated 0:14:29.560 --> 0:14:30.360 first and broken. 0:14:30.680 --> 0:14:31.920 I don't care. I don't care. 0:14:32.080 --> 0:14:34.120 Like you're here like trying to justify it now, and 0:14:34.160 --> 0:14:36.000 that's literally just making it even worse. 0:14:36.320 --> 0:14:38.680 But he sounds like a strong person who knows who 0:14:38.760 --> 0:14:41.480 he is. Like sometimes that can be true, where if 0:14:41.520 --> 0:14:44.080 you can be influenced by a friend, if you're not 0:14:44.200 --> 0:14:48.000 totally certain of who you are. Aaron seems like he's there. 0:14:48.120 --> 0:14:51.480 Man, Sorry, you got all that information from this phone call? 0:14:51.840 --> 0:14:55.440 Or did you date him? 0:14:56.040 --> 0:14:57.640 He's our friend. We're trying to help them. 0:14:57.720 --> 0:15:01.320 Yeah, that's that thing with friends. If you're calling everybody 0:15:01.320 --> 0:15:02.880 and anyone your friends. I don't know. 0:15:03.040 --> 0:15:04.720 I just I'm just trying to keep. 0:15:04.560 --> 0:15:06.760 A tighter circle at this point, and I just want 0:15:06.800 --> 0:15:08.520 to be clear about the kind of people I want 0:15:08.560 --> 0:15:09.000 in my life. 0:15:09.080 --> 0:15:12.160 Yeah, okay, So it sounds like your mind is made 0:15:12.240 --> 0:15:14.360 up of Lisa and there's no way that you will 0:15:14.400 --> 0:15:17.840 break or even bend this rule to give him another chance. 0:15:18.560 --> 0:15:21.640 I don't know. I mean, honestly, if he's one the 0:15:21.840 --> 0:15:25.160 sever ties with this guy, I don't know, maybe with 0:15:25.240 --> 0:15:27.320 his friend, I might be runing to go out again. 0:15:27.680 --> 0:15:31.320 No way, no way, Come on, I wanted. 0:15:31.040 --> 0:15:34.440 To break off an entire friendship, I would say I. 0:15:34.440 --> 0:15:38.400 Wouldn't want to date someone who would do that. 0:15:38.640 --> 0:15:42.560 Yeaharon, what do you think about that ultimatum? 0:15:43.080 --> 0:15:44.080 I'm flabbergasted. 0:15:44.160 --> 0:15:48.360 I have never met anyone that is so I don't 0:15:48.360 --> 0:15:50.440 think you know that that's my best friend. 0:15:50.600 --> 0:15:54.760 He rubs a non profit for children. What I would 0:15:54.800 --> 0:15:56.320 sit here and say, he's a good guy. 0:15:56.560 --> 0:16:00.080 Yeah, most cheaters are, they slid by. 0:16:00.760 --> 0:16:03.240 And just because you cheat was doesn't define who you 0:16:03.280 --> 0:16:06.400 are as a person for the rest of your life. Like, 0:16:10.120 --> 0:16:12.000 it's not like he was like sleeping around on his 0:16:12.080 --> 0:16:12.960 wife or something. 0:16:13.040 --> 0:16:14.640 You know, at least go ahead and tell my co 0:16:14.720 --> 0:16:15.560 host why she's wrong. 0:16:16.120 --> 0:16:18.280 Listen, you guys can say whatever you want, but this 0:16:18.400 --> 0:16:21.640 is what I believe. If he's willing to sever the friendship, 0:16:21.960 --> 0:16:22.960 we can try it again. 0:16:23.240 --> 0:16:25.120 Okay, oh my god, but. 0:16:25.080 --> 0:16:26.360 I need to look at your phone and see you 0:16:26.400 --> 0:16:27.280 deleted his number. 0:16:31.560 --> 0:16:33.640 Aaron, do you want to ditch your best friend in 0:16:33.720 --> 0:16:35.760 order to go out with a lease one more time? 0:16:35.920 --> 0:16:36.840 Because we'll pay for. 0:16:36.840 --> 0:16:39.840 It, just a small stipulation to a nice second date. 0:16:40.000 --> 0:16:40.440 Exactly. 0:16:40.720 --> 0:16:42.600 We just need a yes or no Aaron. 0:16:43.400 --> 0:16:47.120 Gosh, thinking about it, I think I can't. 0:16:47.240 --> 0:16:47.960 I can't do that. 0:16:48.080 --> 0:16:49.040 I can't cut off. 0:16:48.920 --> 0:16:51.240 My best friend because for a second date. 0:16:52.000 --> 0:16:53.520 And you know what, and that's why we didn't even 0:16:53.560 --> 0:16:54.640 have to have this conversation. 0:16:54.800 --> 0:16:56.520 I left there as politely as possible. 0:16:56.520 --> 0:16:57.400 I paid for my food. 0:16:57.760 --> 0:16:59.320 And if you want to go ahead and defend your 0:16:59.520 --> 0:17:02.440 friend and his negative energy, he guess could just be 0:17:02.760 --> 0:17:04.000 toxic together. I gotta go. 0:17:04.400 --> 0:17:05.720 Oh wow, my god. 0:17:06.920 --> 0:17:08.159 Oh dude, I think she hung up. 0:17:09.520 --> 0:17:11.439 I don't know. Are you sad about it? 0:17:11.560 --> 0:17:11.720 Eric? 0:17:11.800 --> 0:17:14.320 I mean, you know, this conversation kind of helped me 0:17:14.400 --> 0:17:15.320 move on a little bit. 0:17:15.400 --> 0:17:17.359 I just think that's so hard headed. 0:17:18.000 --> 0:17:20.120