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Speaker 1: All right, we got a guy who put in a

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Speaker 1: lot of effort in today's new episode, Welcome to the

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Speaker 1: Second Date Podcast. It's Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning,

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Speaker 1: and he did an entire theme date and it only

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Speaker 1: took his date fifteen minutes to say I don't like this. Yep,

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Speaker 1: And now he's on with that yep.

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Speaker 2: After all that.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna hear what happened here in just a second.

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Speaker 1: But first we love to feature your comments.

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Speaker 3: Yes, Alicia said, I'm listening from Canada. I listened to

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Speaker 3: you guys while doing the dishes and shutting down the

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Speaker 3: house for the night. I'm the house closer in the family,

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Speaker 3: so I get the evening clean up shift and your

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Speaker 3: podcast has me laughing the whole time.

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Speaker 1: That is such a genius way to split up chores

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Speaker 1: like yay.

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Speaker 2: And night morning.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, who's the closer? Who's the openery? I love

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Speaker 1: that good Canadians are smarter. Yeah, I'm sorry, I just

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Speaker 1: got it down. Alright, Your brand new Second Date update

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Speaker 1: starts right now.

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Speaker 3: Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning Second Date Updates.

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Speaker 4: What do you do when you book a date somewhere

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Speaker 4: and the location for the date is off like things

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Speaker 4: are good between you and your person but for whatever reason,

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Speaker 4: whether it's the dive bar is too divy or the

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Speaker 4: do you do then?

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Speaker 3: Okay, well that's when you see someone's personality really sucks.

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Speaker 2: No, they're great, it's just the place is wrong.

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Speaker 4: You can't That's what our listener, Aaron was faced with

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Speaker 4: that exact dilemma, and he managed to make lemons out

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Speaker 4: of lemon trees.

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Speaker 5: None of the.

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Speaker 2: Expression. So let's learn a little bit more.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, but he did not go to the

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Speaker 4: Well, well let's find out where he went. Aaron, Welcome

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Speaker 6: Hey, it's good to be here. Thanks for having me.

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Speaker 2: Okay, welcome to the orchard. Yeah, where lemon trees grow thrived.

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Speaker 4: So we would love to get into your date. First,

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Speaker 4: tell us about this girl and how you met her.

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Speaker 5: Okay, So her name is Elise. If I'm allowed to

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Speaker 4: Air, I hope.

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Speaker 4: I can't believe you just came out with that.

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Speaker 1: Is she in a witness protection program?

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Speaker 6: Hopefully?

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Speaker 5: I don't hear from her lawyer, but I met her

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Speaker 5: online and her profile said that she liked to travel.

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Speaker 1: To travel. Okay, oh, all right, something unique?

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Speaker 7: Don't hear that?

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Speaker 5: What I did was I took her on an airplane

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Speaker 6: If you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I mean you boarded a plane and flew somewhere.

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Speaker 1: Did you shed in line for a long time, holding

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Speaker 5: No, in retrospect, flying somewhere exotic might have been cooler.

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Speaker 6: But I took her to a restaurant close to the

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Speaker 5: We could watch the plane, you know, take it off

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Speaker 4: Plane spotting.

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Speaker 1: I think that's what a cute idea. It shows that

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Speaker 6: I thought it was romantic.

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Speaker 5: But the engines were so loud we ended up not

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Speaker 4: Oh no, is that really important for a first date? Though?

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Speaker 6: Do we go our whole first day just yelling.

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Speaker 6: So that's what we did.

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Speaker 5: I think it was good for the most part. I

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Speaker 5: She told me that she was a pairalegal, and I

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Speaker 1: You can save that for your next date if we

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Speaker 6: Okay, there you go, There you go.

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Speaker 5: But you know, the conversation gotten deeper, family friends stuff.

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Speaker 5: We're really interested in passion, that kind of stuff.

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Speaker 4: are you trying to avoid You're just trying to tread water.

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Speaker 3: I'm just saying, like, just because you're like talking to

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Speaker 4: Like or off of that, you could just feel like

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Speaker 1: Yeah, tell me about your family.

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Speaker 4: Were you getting a vibe from her either way?

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Speaker 5: Well, I definitely got the impression that she was really

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Speaker 2: She actually cared, Alexis.

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Speaker 2: She was into it.

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Speaker 1: How long ago was your date?

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Speaker 5: It was about five days ago?

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Speaker 2: How did you to leave it that night?

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Speaker 6: That's when it got awkward.

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Speaker 5: Actually, as soon as they cleared the plates.

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Speaker 4: Oh, your date asked for the check immediately before the

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Speaker 1: He's like, do you know how hard? I don't to

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Speaker 4: My moment, but it sounds like maybe you got the

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she was ready to leave.

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Speaker 5: Exactly exactly she paid for half of it. She insisted

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Speaker 6: She just walked to her collar.

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Speaker 2: Brook, Why did you say oof? Is that not a

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Speaker 1: Well, I mean, it's one thing if there's a discussion

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you pay if you don't really want.

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Speaker 6: To, Like, yeah, I don't know what's up with that.

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Speaker 4: Okay, we're about to call Alice in a second here,

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Speaker 4: but your email said, you're really hoping that we can

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Speaker 6: Six months is a long time.

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Speaker 4: Okay, some people get a lot more dates, and you

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Speaker 4: know what, we want to do that for you, Aaron.

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Speaker 4: If you did mess up, we would like to figure

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Speaker 4: for the next future six months of bad dates.

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Speaker 1: It'll help him fix what's with her and go out

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Brooke, you are right, but I do want to

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Speaker 2: be realistic here. Okay, she's not calling.

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Speaker 4: Him back, but let's find out why when we come

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Speaker 1: Brook and Jeffrey in the morning Second date updates.

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Speaker 4: You know, I really like our listener, Aaron, because he

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Speaker 1: Which is too bad because I feel like you really

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Speaker 3: We love a good pivot.

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Speaker 4: The thing is what caused her to have the sudden

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Speaker 1: She didn't storm out, She just asked for the check abruptly. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: For its stormy stormy adjacent all right, I don't know.

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Speaker 4: That's the thing.

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Speaker 2: We don't know.

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Speaker 4: That's the whole point of the second point. So we're

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Speaker 4: hoping to find that out. If she answers our phone calls,

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Speaker 2: She picks up.

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Speaker 1: We're not creepy at all.

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Speaker 2: No, no, you.

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Speaker 6: Quo with that, Aaron I already, oh yeah.

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Speaker 4: Beautiful, committed to this, all right, We're all in let's

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna call it right now.

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Speaker 4: Hello, Hey, Elise, this is jeff from Brook and Jeffrey

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Speaker 2: How are you doing.

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Speaker 8: I'm sorry, who's this?

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Speaker 4: There's a radio show. We're called Brook and Jeffrey in

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Speaker 4: the Morning. Good morning.

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Speaker 1: This is Elise. Right, we didn't actually confirm that.

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Speaker 2: Now there's a lease.

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Speaker 4: Even if it's not a lease, we'll talk to you.

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Speaker 7: Okay, this is so random. What are you calling about.

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Speaker 4: We are calling about this segment we do. It's called

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Speaker 4: the Second Date Update, and the reason for it is

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Speaker 2: You're not calling him back anymore. It's a guy named Aaron.

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Speaker 7: Oh my gosh. Okay, all right, yeah, so Aaron, I.

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Speaker 8: Don't really understand why you guys are calling me.

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Speaker 4: Because he told us about the day that you two

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Speaker 1: And he was like so bumped because he had like

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Speaker 7: Okay, okay, so you guys know about the date.

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Speaker 4: Yes, and what we don't know is if there's a

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Speaker 7: Yeah. No, no, I mean things just sort of ended,

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Speaker 7: like he's he's really nice. Honestly, if I'd met him

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Speaker 7: just like, I'm just adhering to like some strict dating

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Speaker 1: Oh that's interesting.

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Speaker 2: Ye, like he's shorter than your minimum or something.

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Speaker 7: No, No, nothing like that.

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Speaker 4: Sorry, I'm enough to apologize for my co host Jose here.

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Speaker 4: He doesn't like rules to hold him back.

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Speaker 1: He hasn't been able to follow him since Kindergarten a rebel.

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Speaker 4: But if you've laid some rules down for your dating

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Speaker 1: Can you share any of them with us?

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Speaker 2: Are we allowed to know?

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Speaker 7: You really want to know?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I mean, honestly, people listening maybe like that's a good idea.

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Speaker 2: Especially especially if Aaron had broke one of them.

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Speaker 8: Okay, so here they go. Number one.

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Speaker 7: If you don't make good money cut Number two. If

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Speaker 2: Waait wait what if they haven't gone to therapy?

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Speaker 1: Ever, you don't have to deal with other people's baggage.

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Speaker 4: Therapy.

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Speaker 2: They're perfect, got it?

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Speaker 7: No, not that anyone's perfect. A lot of men haven't

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Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, I mean these are interesting, but we do

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Speaker 2: So how long is the list going to be?

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Speaker 4: Exactly?

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Speaker 1: Can we get to our guy broke?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 7: There's just five.

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Speaker 1: Okay, the first two money and therapy.

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Speaker 8: Number three.

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Speaker 7: If you're rude to wait staff or janitor's cut?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, was he rude to one of the waiters at

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Speaker 7: No, he wasn't.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, that wasn't the one.

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Speaker 7: Number four. If you've ever lied to a cheated on

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 1: Who hasn't lied to a significant other? That's so bad?

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Speaker 2: That's true, Sorr. I always focus on the cheating part.

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Speaker 7: I don't mean like a white lie, I mean like

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Speaker 1: Okay, I think, Okay, big lie.

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Speaker 7: And number five and this is the one that got him.

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Speaker 4: Okay, here we go.

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Speaker 2: This is the rule that he broke.

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Speaker 7: If you have any friends who lie or cheat, cut,

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Speaker 1: Your friends behavior dictate who you are as a person.

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Speaker 7: It doesn't dictate who you are, but it's who you're

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Speaker 7: hanging out with really determines the kind of person you're

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Speaker 4: Okay, but wait, how do you know that one of

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Speaker 7: I asked him, has he ever been cheated on? And

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Speaker 7: he's like, no, forget that. My friend was but he

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Speaker 7: got her back, he cheated on her and blah blah blah.

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Speaker 7: And he was like super enthusiastic, and I was like discussing.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so okay, So your logic is because one of

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Speaker 7: I didn't say he's not worth dating for somebody else.

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Speaker 7: I said that I don't want to deal with that.

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Speaker 4: We eliminate almost anybody, like everybody is friends with somebody

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Speaker 1: Are her standards. That's the hard thing is you can't

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Speaker 4: Feel, and we can, I guess respect to your rules.

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Speaker 4: The good news is I didn't hear any rules about

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Speaker 4: not quietly listening in on people's phone conversations, because that

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Speaker 4: is what Aaron is doing right now. He's on the

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Speaker 6: Hey, Lee, how you doing.

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Speaker 5: That's kind of insane, right WHOA.

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Speaker 6: Well? Why am I getting punished for that?

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Speaker 7: I don't want to involve myself at this point in

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Speaker 5: You didn't hear like he didn't because his girlfriend cheated

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Speaker 8: I don't care. I don't care.

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Speaker 7: Like you're here like trying to justify it now, and

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Speaker 7: that's literally just making it even worse.

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Speaker 1: But he sounds like a strong person who knows who

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Speaker 8: Man, Sorry, you got all that information from this phone call?

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Speaker 5: Or did you date him?

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Speaker 4: He's our friend. We're trying to help them.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, that's that thing with friends. If you're calling everybody

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Speaker 8: I just I'm just trying to keep.

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Speaker 7: A tighter circle at this point, and I just want

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Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, So it sounds like your mind is made

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Speaker 7: I don't know. I mean, honestly, if he's one the

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Speaker 7: sever ties with this guy, I don't know, maybe with

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Speaker 5: No way, no way, Come on, I wanted.

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Speaker 4: To break off an entire friendship, I would say I.

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Speaker 1: Wouldn't want to date someone who would do that.

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Speaker 4: Yeaharon, what do you think about that ultimatum?

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Speaker 6: I'm flabbergasted.

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Speaker 5: I have never met anyone that is so I don't

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Speaker 5: think you know that that's my best friend.

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Speaker 6: He rubs a non profit for children. What I would

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Speaker 6: sit here and say, he's a good guy.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, most cheaters are, they slid by.

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Speaker 1: And just because you cheat was doesn't define who you

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Speaker 4: You know, at least go ahead and tell my co

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Speaker 7: Listen, you guys can say whatever you want, but this

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Speaker 7: we can try it again.

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Speaker 6: Okay, oh my god, but.

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Speaker 8: I need to look at your phone and see you

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Speaker 4: Aaron, do you want to ditch your best friend in

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Speaker 4: order to go out with a lease one more time?

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Speaker 2: Because we'll pay for.

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Speaker 1: It, just a small stipulation to a nice second date.

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Speaker 4: Exactly.

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Speaker 2: We just need a yes or no Aaron.

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Speaker 5: Gosh, thinking about it, I think I can't.

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Speaker 6: I can't do that.

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Speaker 7: I can't cut off.

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Speaker 5: My best friend because for a second date.

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Speaker 8: And you know what, and that's why we didn't even

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Speaker 7: I left there as politely as possible.

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Speaker 8: I paid for my food.

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Speaker 7: And if you want to go ahead and defend your

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Speaker 4: Oh wow, my god.

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Speaker 2: Oh dude, I think she hung up.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Are you sad about it?

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Speaker 4: Eric?

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Speaker 5: I mean, you know, this conversation kind of helped me

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Speaker 6: I just think that's so hard headed.

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Speaker 4: Anybody else fund in ironic that like if he would

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Speaker 4: have stayed at the airplanes flying over, she would have

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Speaker 4: probably never heard that. Yeah, relationship of all time.

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Speaker 1: Rerook and Jeffrey in the morning.

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Speaker 4: When a woman gives you an ultimatum to permanently cut

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Speaker 4: ties with your friends after one date, that means she

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Speaker 4: really cares about Well.

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Speaker 1: That's nice, Jeffery. You don't see it as any sort

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Speaker 1: of red flat.

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Speaker 2: No, she was the absolute best for you.

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Speaker 4: It's just like I remember my mom used to tell

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Speaker 4: me my friends were a bad influence. Oh, and you

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Speaker 4: know what she was right, Oh she look where my

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Speaker 4: life ended up. Yeah, and she would have listened.

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Speaker 1: To her, And look at the healthy relationship you have

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Speaker 4: I bet ten years from now, Aaron's going to be working,

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Speaker 4: probably in radio, looking back on this moment, saying I

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Speaker 4: and I would be in a much better place.

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Speaker 1: It's doubtful. Yeah, it's highly doubtful.

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Speaker 2: I don't know he values friendship. I guess, so good

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Speaker 2: for you, Er, I kind of understand.

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Speaker 4: But like if every single friend you had it was

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Speaker 4: a cheater, maybe you have some kind of point. But

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Speaker 4: one person cheated one time, accidentally and he hasn't.

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Speaker 1: That cheated on first.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, because that's even hard.

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Speaker 1: The guy works a nonprofit for kids for him.

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Speaker 4: I mean, gee, all the owners of those places are

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Speaker 4: kind of shady.

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Speaker 2: If you ask me.

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Speaker 1: Nonprofits don't typically have owners.

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Speaker 2: That's why exactly.

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Speaker 8: Shade D.

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Speaker 4: Anyway, if you got some shady business going on in

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Speaker 4: your dating life, you can always email us and we'll

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Speaker 4: reach out to that person who's not calling you back.

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