1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,639 Speaker 1: I heard my in laws talking about getting my wife 2 00:00:02,680 --> 00:00:05,640 Speaker 1: back together with her ex. What should I do? This 3 00:00:05,760 --> 00:00:09,160 Speaker 1: is okop, home of the craziest true stories on Earth. 4 00:00:09,360 --> 00:00:12,559 Speaker 1: I'm Sophia and Riley. What do you do when your 5 00:00:12,600 --> 00:00:14,880 Speaker 1: in laws are working against you? 6 00:00:15,160 --> 00:00:18,040 Speaker 2: I just think they're jealous of how much money her 7 00:00:18,239 --> 00:00:21,239 Speaker 2: X was making and how little money you're making. And 8 00:00:21,280 --> 00:00:22,480 Speaker 2: you just need to get your money up. 9 00:00:22,520 --> 00:00:25,560 Speaker 1: Man, this is a lot of you're basing this off 10 00:00:25,600 --> 00:00:27,040 Speaker 1: of very little information. 11 00:00:27,440 --> 00:00:29,640 Speaker 2: Well, I think you just need to chase the bag 12 00:00:29,720 --> 00:00:31,360 Speaker 2: and if you had enough money, you would not be 13 00:00:31,400 --> 00:00:32,720 Speaker 2: in the scenario. Think about it. 14 00:00:32,840 --> 00:00:38,360 Speaker 1: That's wise. Words from Riley at nine twenty three in 15 00:00:38,400 --> 00:00:39,040 Speaker 1: the morning. 16 00:00:39,800 --> 00:00:41,519 Speaker 2: So get your money up. 17 00:00:42,240 --> 00:00:45,559 Speaker 1: Paul my Kisso says, I'm sorry if I write something incorrectly. 18 00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:48,000 Speaker 1: English is not my first language, and I'm pretty horrible 19 00:00:48,040 --> 00:00:50,640 Speaker 1: at it. That's okay, I don't know any other languages. 20 00:00:50,960 --> 00:00:53,639 Speaker 1: I thirty five male, have been with Abby thirty five 21 00:00:53,680 --> 00:00:56,600 Speaker 1: female for thirteen years now. Every day that goes by, 22 00:00:56,720 --> 00:00:58,840 Speaker 1: I love her more and more and we're even expecting 23 00:00:58,880 --> 00:01:01,720 Speaker 1: her first baby. For the holidays, we always stayed two 24 00:01:01,760 --> 00:01:04,959 Speaker 1: to three months visiting my wife's family. But the problem 25 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:07,600 Speaker 1: is that this year, all the family was really excited, 26 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:10,840 Speaker 1: saying that Alan is coming. In all the years in 27 00:01:10,880 --> 00:01:13,720 Speaker 1: the family, I've never heard of an Alan, and my 28 00:01:13,760 --> 00:01:15,640 Speaker 1: wife didn't even care about it, so I thought it 29 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:18,959 Speaker 1: was just some cousin. But the famous Allan was my 30 00:01:19,120 --> 00:01:23,800 Speaker 1: wife's ex and first love. They invited the ex too. 31 00:01:23,880 --> 00:01:24,759 Speaker 1: That's so strange. 32 00:01:24,840 --> 00:01:25,480 Speaker 2: It's crazy. 33 00:01:25,520 --> 00:01:28,400 Speaker 1: I mean, is the family like still hanging out with 34 00:01:28,440 --> 00:01:33,440 Speaker 1: Alan on the downlow? On the DL probably low key suspicious. 35 00:01:33,760 --> 00:01:36,399 Speaker 1: The man lives in Europe, but Abby's family still has 36 00:01:36,440 --> 00:01:39,319 Speaker 1: contact with him and even invited him the man to 37 00:01:39,400 --> 00:01:42,039 Speaker 1: the house now he's in the country. I tried to 38 00:01:42,080 --> 00:01:44,560 Speaker 1: get along with Alan, but the man just ignores me 39 00:01:44,959 --> 00:01:47,440 Speaker 1: and takes every chance to get closer with my wife, 40 00:01:47,440 --> 00:01:52,000 Speaker 1: making jokes or talking about the past. I didn't take 41 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:54,280 Speaker 1: it too personally because I didn't want to look jealous. 42 00:01:54,360 --> 00:01:56,920 Speaker 1: But lately he has been coming every day to visit 43 00:01:56,920 --> 00:02:01,960 Speaker 1: the family, and Abby's family started comparing accomplishments to mine. 44 00:02:02,360 --> 00:02:03,400 Speaker 1: That's what Riley. 45 00:02:03,200 --> 00:02:04,480 Speaker 2: Said, Did I not call that? 46 00:02:04,560 --> 00:02:06,680 Speaker 1: You did call that? You did call that. They're all 47 00:02:06,920 --> 00:02:10,120 Speaker 1: big fans of Alan, and I honestly feel jealous of 48 00:02:10,120 --> 00:02:13,040 Speaker 1: that because they're treating him better. Than me. That's that's 49 00:02:13,080 --> 00:02:13,520 Speaker 1: messed up. 50 00:02:13,600 --> 00:02:16,000 Speaker 2: That have Okay, story time. 51 00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:19,000 Speaker 1: Ooh okay, storytime, we'll get back that. Back to that. 52 00:02:19,400 --> 00:02:21,360 Speaker 1: Two days ago, I heard my mother in law and 53 00:02:21,480 --> 00:02:23,959 Speaker 1: brother in law talking about how nice it would have 54 00:02:24,000 --> 00:02:26,320 Speaker 1: been for Appy to stay with Alan because he's a 55 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:29,120 Speaker 1: smart man. What hurt me most was hearing my brother 56 00:02:29,160 --> 00:02:31,080 Speaker 1: in law say that he can try to get Alan 57 00:02:31,120 --> 00:02:34,120 Speaker 1: and Abby back together, and my mother in law just laughed, 58 00:02:34,200 --> 00:02:35,840 Speaker 1: saying that it would be good to go on a 59 00:02:35,840 --> 00:02:38,520 Speaker 1: trip to Europe every every year and not to the 60 00:02:38,560 --> 00:02:43,079 Speaker 1: countryside with the peasants talking about me because I live 61 00:02:43,080 --> 00:02:45,400 Speaker 1: in a farm with my wife, just because she's always 62 00:02:45,480 --> 00:02:48,400 Speaker 1: dreamed to live in that kind of quiet environment. Oh 63 00:02:49,160 --> 00:02:52,880 Speaker 1: that's crazy. Oh my god, you're talking about your wife's 64 00:02:52,960 --> 00:02:55,480 Speaker 1: hut like your son in law and you're like, ah, yeah, 65 00:02:55,480 --> 00:02:58,959 Speaker 1: that peasants who lives on a farm. Maybe she just 66 00:02:59,000 --> 00:03:00,760 Speaker 1: wants to be a father, Like maybe the wife just 67 00:03:00,760 --> 00:03:04,480 Speaker 1: wants to be a farm girl. Yeah, I want to 68 00:03:04,520 --> 00:03:06,720 Speaker 1: leave on a little sheep leave. I want to live 69 00:03:06,919 --> 00:03:09,960 Speaker 1: on a sheep farm in Scotland. Wow, that's my dream. 70 00:03:10,040 --> 00:03:15,120 Speaker 1: What's your first sheep's name? Gonna be peasant number one? 71 00:03:16,280 --> 00:03:19,720 Speaker 1: She's gonna they're all peasant. In fact, now that I'm 72 00:03:19,760 --> 00:03:22,679 Speaker 1: no longer blindfolded, I started noticing how my brother in 73 00:03:22,800 --> 00:03:25,359 Speaker 1: law makes too many comments to my wife about how 74 00:03:25,520 --> 00:03:29,400 Speaker 1: great Alan is, although Abby never says kind things about Alan, 75 00:03:29,480 --> 00:03:31,800 Speaker 1: and I think she even treats him like he's a child. 76 00:03:32,120 --> 00:03:34,399 Speaker 1: I don't feel comfortable being here knowing that they see 77 00:03:34,440 --> 00:03:37,000 Speaker 1: me as a dumb peasant, and it's horrible to see 78 00:03:37,040 --> 00:03:39,840 Speaker 1: how they try to include Alan in the family when 79 00:03:39,880 --> 00:03:42,400 Speaker 1: they still treat me like I'm just a casual boyfriend 80 00:03:42,400 --> 00:03:44,960 Speaker 1: of Abby's. But my wife only sees her family these 81 00:03:45,360 --> 00:03:47,400 Speaker 1: just the like two to three months of the year, 82 00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:49,480 Speaker 1: and I don't want to ruin that or put that 83 00:03:49,560 --> 00:03:51,360 Speaker 1: kind of stress on her since she's pregnant. 84 00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:53,200 Speaker 2: She's also pregnant. 85 00:03:53,280 --> 00:03:56,280 Speaker 1: Pregnant and the family's like, oh yeah, break up with 86 00:03:56,360 --> 00:03:59,320 Speaker 1: your husband who's you're having a child with, and get 87 00:03:59,360 --> 00:04:03,120 Speaker 1: back with Alan. That's messed up. This is what are 88 00:04:03,120 --> 00:04:05,520 Speaker 1: they doing. I feel like I'm in some kind of 89 00:04:05,600 --> 00:04:07,520 Speaker 1: rom com, but I'm in the role of the bad 90 00:04:07,640 --> 00:04:12,000 Speaker 1: husband that the protagonists leaves for the handsome CEO. Aha. 91 00:04:12,400 --> 00:04:15,360 Speaker 1: Yeah this is not a good rom com. 92 00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:17,840 Speaker 2: Though, but low key you're in the good hands because 93 00:04:17,839 --> 00:04:20,640 Speaker 2: you're like the underdog, you're the and you've already given 94 00:04:20,720 --> 00:04:21,679 Speaker 2: everything she's wanted. 95 00:04:21,920 --> 00:04:25,479 Speaker 1: Yeah, everyone's rooting against you, but you know what, she 96 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:27,440 Speaker 1: wanted to live in a farm. You made that happen. 97 00:04:27,800 --> 00:04:30,880 Speaker 1: She presumably wanted a child. You made that happen, made 98 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:33,480 Speaker 1: that happen. That you're making things happen, buddy. 99 00:04:33,720 --> 00:04:35,960 Speaker 2: She looks at the other guy as a child. Yeah, 100 00:04:36,000 --> 00:04:38,320 Speaker 2: sees you as a man exactly. 101 00:04:38,880 --> 00:04:44,040 Speaker 1: Alan is a passing fling. You are for life. 102 00:04:44,200 --> 00:04:48,200 Speaker 2: Baby, it's a little fly. You're the shark to the fly. 103 00:04:49,320 --> 00:04:53,280 Speaker 1: There are some relevant comments. A Sunshine Bear one hundred says, 104 00:04:53,320 --> 00:04:56,159 Speaker 1: and what does your wife say? Ohp says, my wife 105 00:04:56,200 --> 00:04:58,480 Speaker 1: just ignores Alan. And when my brother in law says 106 00:04:58,480 --> 00:05:01,920 Speaker 1: those things, Abby just says, if you like Alan that much, 107 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:08,480 Speaker 1: then f I'm hoping that she was like that exactly. Yes, 108 00:05:08,920 --> 00:05:12,560 Speaker 1: that exactly, because like if like if someone was like, oh, 109 00:05:13,000 --> 00:05:16,920 Speaker 1: you're this guy's so cool, he's amazing, Like, oh my goodness, 110 00:05:16,960 --> 00:05:19,280 Speaker 1: you should date him, I'd be like, you like him, 111 00:05:19,520 --> 00:05:22,880 Speaker 1: go date him? You know, I'm glad she said that. Wow, 112 00:05:23,040 --> 00:05:25,880 Speaker 1: And the conversation ends when I found out it's her 113 00:05:26,040 --> 00:05:29,120 Speaker 1: ex she said, ah, yes, I dated him for two 114 00:05:29,160 --> 00:05:32,599 Speaker 1: months when I finished high school, two months, two months, 115 00:05:32,760 --> 00:05:35,599 Speaker 1: and the family was like, yes, Alan, we must keep 116 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:37,080 Speaker 1: him with us. That's crazy. 117 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:39,480 Speaker 2: This got like a big yacht and he's like, hey, 118 00:05:39,520 --> 00:05:41,760 Speaker 2: make this happen. Yeah, we'll all go. 119 00:05:41,640 --> 00:05:44,200 Speaker 1: On the yacht if you give me, give me the 120 00:05:44,200 --> 00:05:48,520 Speaker 1: gal and I'll bring you on my yacht. Yeah. Yeah, 121 00:05:48,520 --> 00:05:50,680 Speaker 1: I don't know, wait Alan, or I would be yeah, 122 00:05:50,839 --> 00:05:53,080 Speaker 1: I don't know. It seems like he's I don't know, 123 00:05:53,279 --> 00:05:55,719 Speaker 1: I really like him, and she made a disgusted face. 124 00:05:56,040 --> 00:05:58,200 Speaker 1: I couldn't ask more because she's been really tired with 125 00:05:58,240 --> 00:06:01,360 Speaker 1: the pregnancy and I don't want to stress her. Vegetable 126 00:06:01,400 --> 00:06:05,160 Speaker 1: Cod twenty three forty says, I'm sorry they're this pressed 127 00:06:05,160 --> 00:06:07,840 Speaker 1: for a guy she dated for two months over a 128 00:06:07,920 --> 00:06:10,960 Speaker 1: decade ago. So too, so true, Opie was Alan a 129 00:06:11,000 --> 00:06:14,080 Speaker 1: family friend or something. It just feels weird that they 130 00:06:14,279 --> 00:06:17,240 Speaker 1: like him this much having known you for thirteen years. 131 00:06:17,600 --> 00:06:20,720 Speaker 1: Have they always disliked you? Opie says. From what I heard, 132 00:06:20,720 --> 00:06:22,520 Speaker 1: he lived in the same neighborhood, but they were never 133 00:06:22,600 --> 00:06:25,359 Speaker 1: close until Abbie started dating him. When he moved to Europe, 134 00:06:25,400 --> 00:06:28,799 Speaker 1: the family still had contact with him through Facebook and WhatsApp, 135 00:06:28,920 --> 00:06:31,080 Speaker 1: and even some members of the family stay in his 136 00:06:31,160 --> 00:06:33,640 Speaker 1: house when they go on trips to Europe. So it 137 00:06:33,680 --> 00:06:36,279 Speaker 1: seems that the aunts and cousins are really close with him. 138 00:06:36,400 --> 00:06:40,640 Speaker 1: That's so strange they're staying with him. They always make 139 00:06:40,720 --> 00:06:42,680 Speaker 1: jokes about our farm life, and I know my mother 140 00:06:42,680 --> 00:06:44,599 Speaker 1: in law hates that Abby has gone to live so 141 00:06:44,680 --> 00:06:47,159 Speaker 1: far away from them. She always hides her dislike for me, 142 00:06:47,480 --> 00:06:49,719 Speaker 1: although I can feel the cold treatment she always gives me. 143 00:06:49,960 --> 00:06:51,960 Speaker 1: My brother in law always makes it obvious that they 144 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:55,359 Speaker 1: didn't like me for taking their older sister away. The 145 00:06:55,400 --> 00:06:57,600 Speaker 1: rest of the family treats me well or just normal, 146 00:06:57,720 --> 00:07:01,920 Speaker 1: but Alan is really charismatic, and they're all really extroverted people, 147 00:07:01,960 --> 00:07:04,479 Speaker 1: and I'm more on the quiet side, so I think 148 00:07:04,480 --> 00:07:07,279 Speaker 1: it's easier for them to like him more. What's before 149 00:07:07,360 --> 00:07:09,840 Speaker 1: there is an update, But before we get into the update, 150 00:07:10,240 --> 00:07:13,520 Speaker 1: you're making a face of displeasure. 151 00:07:12,160 --> 00:07:13,320 Speaker 2: I got here. 152 00:07:13,720 --> 00:07:18,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just I don't understand why they're like like this, 153 00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:19,960 Speaker 1: making the side of. 154 00:07:21,800 --> 00:07:22,640 Speaker 2: Like also their. 155 00:07:22,560 --> 00:07:25,440 Speaker 1: Daughter who broke out with you know, this is a 156 00:07:25,520 --> 00:07:27,720 Speaker 1: high school relationship that lasted two months, and. 157 00:07:27,680 --> 00:07:31,160 Speaker 2: Then you just left Europe to make millions of dollars 158 00:07:31,200 --> 00:07:32,080 Speaker 2: it seems. 159 00:07:31,920 --> 00:07:34,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, which is also I think even stranger because he like, 160 00:07:35,000 --> 00:07:37,160 Speaker 1: I feel like it might be a little bit more 161 00:07:37,200 --> 00:07:39,080 Speaker 1: normal if you know, they were living in the same 162 00:07:39,120 --> 00:07:42,200 Speaker 1: neighborhood and like that contact was still there, but he left, 163 00:07:42,440 --> 00:07:44,600 Speaker 1: he moved away, and they were like, you know what, 164 00:07:44,720 --> 00:07:47,480 Speaker 1: we're going to keep this. This is the relationship that matters. 165 00:07:48,200 --> 00:07:50,480 Speaker 1: We need this one. That's weird. 166 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:54,240 Speaker 2: It is weird. The thing that also bothers me, I'm 167 00:07:54,240 --> 00:07:58,520 Speaker 2: hearing me myself twice is like they're extroverts, yeah, and 168 00:07:58,560 --> 00:08:01,440 Speaker 2: like they don't like usually extra love introverts, and they're like, 169 00:08:01,480 --> 00:08:05,040 Speaker 2: you know what, we're gonna make this great relationships. Like 170 00:08:05,040 --> 00:08:07,520 Speaker 2: if you're a good introvert or if you're good extrovert, 171 00:08:07,720 --> 00:08:11,720 Speaker 2: introverts should be the people you strive to be with, 172 00:08:11,800 --> 00:08:14,160 Speaker 2: because like you're trying to like crack open that little 173 00:08:14,240 --> 00:08:15,920 Speaker 2: nut they are and be like, Okay, what's in here 174 00:08:15,960 --> 00:08:18,160 Speaker 2: and then find the personality that's what I like to do. 175 00:08:18,320 --> 00:08:20,280 Speaker 2: And that's just horrible that like, well, I get like 176 00:08:20,400 --> 00:08:23,440 Speaker 2: extras being with extroverts, but like extroverts like we're supposed 177 00:08:23,440 --> 00:08:26,760 Speaker 2: to be welcoming. That's why I've always seen Sam's super welcoming. 178 00:08:26,800 --> 00:08:27,400 Speaker 2: I'm welcome. 179 00:08:27,480 --> 00:08:29,400 Speaker 1: Job as an extrovert is to be welcoming. 180 00:08:29,720 --> 00:08:31,600 Speaker 2: Oh, what's up? What's up with that family? 181 00:08:31,720 --> 00:08:33,040 Speaker 1: Abby? Family is feeling? 182 00:08:33,640 --> 00:08:35,040 Speaker 2: I don't like, what do you think about this? 183 00:08:35,520 --> 00:08:38,080 Speaker 1: You know, I as the same as you. I think 184 00:08:38,280 --> 00:08:43,640 Speaker 1: I think once, honestly, I think once your partner is married, 185 00:08:43,800 --> 00:08:46,840 Speaker 1: that's like you have to see that as like this 186 00:08:46,920 --> 00:08:50,600 Speaker 1: is a forever yeah thing, and you gotta you gotta, 187 00:08:50,880 --> 00:08:54,120 Speaker 1: you gotta. I don't know, unless they're being abusive, you 188 00:08:54,120 --> 00:08:55,440 Speaker 1: gotta support that reallyship. 189 00:08:55,679 --> 00:08:58,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, stop, brother in law, it's already said and done. 190 00:08:59,120 --> 00:09:03,440 Speaker 1: If I mean, if Opie and if Abby is happy, 191 00:09:03,760 --> 00:09:06,240 Speaker 1: YadA yatta, let go, let go of the past. 192 00:09:06,440 --> 00:09:08,240 Speaker 2: Really interested in seeing what the wife thinks? 193 00:09:08,360 --> 00:09:10,079 Speaker 1: Yeah, well let's see if we find out more in 194 00:09:10,160 --> 00:09:13,800 Speaker 1: the updates. Oh oh my god, Ohpi says, I found 195 00:09:13,840 --> 00:09:16,160 Speaker 1: out my wife was cheating on me with Alan, and 196 00:09:16,160 --> 00:09:19,280 Speaker 1: then says, nad just kidding. You can play a bag 197 00:09:19,320 --> 00:09:21,400 Speaker 1: and see my reaction. I was like, but no, the 198 00:09:21,679 --> 00:09:24,000 Speaker 1: oh Pie's a little chickster, little. 199 00:09:23,800 --> 00:09:25,520 Speaker 2: Sneaky knows how these stories es. 200 00:09:25,920 --> 00:09:29,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, oh Pie continues. Thanks for all the advice I received, 201 00:09:29,760 --> 00:09:33,280 Speaker 1: Many of them were very helpful, and some were very weird, 202 00:09:33,480 --> 00:09:36,200 Speaker 1: like record conversations with my mother in law, or have 203 00:09:36,360 --> 00:09:39,120 Speaker 1: my wife choose between her family or me. Maybe it's 204 00:09:39,160 --> 00:09:41,520 Speaker 1: something cultural, but I would never give an ultimatum like 205 00:09:41,520 --> 00:09:43,960 Speaker 1: that because to me, it's a really low blow to do. 206 00:09:44,440 --> 00:09:47,880 Speaker 1: Her family is very important. I mean, no, not alan Ope, 207 00:09:48,080 --> 00:09:51,160 Speaker 1: you are very good guy, very nice. After making the 208 00:09:51,200 --> 00:09:53,600 Speaker 1: post and reading the comments, I decided to talk with 209 00:09:53,679 --> 00:09:56,080 Speaker 1: Abby about what I heard. We were in our room 210 00:09:56,160 --> 00:09:58,040 Speaker 1: and I talked about what her mother and brother said 211 00:09:58,040 --> 00:10:01,600 Speaker 1: as calmly as possible. But the moment I finished telling everything, 212 00:10:01,600 --> 00:10:04,600 Speaker 1: Abby just kissed my forehead and ran with her pregnant 213 00:10:04,600 --> 00:10:07,319 Speaker 1: belly out of the bedroom to literally yell at everyone 214 00:10:07,320 --> 00:10:10,280 Speaker 1: in the living room. No one spoke beside an aunt, 215 00:10:10,400 --> 00:10:12,880 Speaker 1: who tried to justify them by saying that they were 216 00:10:12,920 --> 00:10:15,199 Speaker 1: just making jokes, to which I replied that they were 217 00:10:15,320 --> 00:10:18,400 Speaker 1: uncomfortable and disgusting jokes. At some point, Abby told her 218 00:10:18,400 --> 00:10:20,640 Speaker 1: mother something like, whether you like it or not, I'm 219 00:10:20,679 --> 00:10:22,800 Speaker 1: married to this man, I'm going to have this baby 220 00:10:22,800 --> 00:10:25,920 Speaker 1: with him, and many more, so shut up and bear 221 00:10:25,960 --> 00:10:28,680 Speaker 1: with it. Then my wife yelled at her brothers and 222 00:10:28,720 --> 00:10:31,559 Speaker 1: went with them to talk in private. Yes, I love Abby, 223 00:10:31,679 --> 00:10:34,640 Speaker 1: she really stands her ground. She knows what she wants 224 00:10:34,840 --> 00:10:38,400 Speaker 1: and she gets it. She got her farm, and she 225 00:10:38,440 --> 00:10:39,640 Speaker 1: doesn't need Alan. 226 00:10:39,920 --> 00:10:41,720 Speaker 2: She wants her babies and she's gonna get them. 227 00:10:41,720 --> 00:10:44,520 Speaker 1: She's got to get them. Yeah, and she's gonna have 228 00:10:44,559 --> 00:10:47,120 Speaker 1: many more, as she said. My brother in laws talked 229 00:10:47,120 --> 00:10:49,080 Speaker 1: with me and admitted that they were only doing that 230 00:10:49,120 --> 00:10:51,880 Speaker 1: because they believed I was forcing Abby to marry and 231 00:10:52,000 --> 00:10:54,520 Speaker 1: live on a farm far away from the family, when 232 00:10:54,520 --> 00:10:57,480 Speaker 1: it was actually Abby's idea to get married in private 233 00:10:57,559 --> 00:10:59,760 Speaker 1: and live in the farm all these years. It's just 234 00:10:59,800 --> 00:11:03,160 Speaker 1: been misunderstanding. The three brothers apologize to me and were 235 00:11:03,200 --> 00:11:06,280 Speaker 1: really embarrassed about their behavior, saying that only that they 236 00:11:06,280 --> 00:11:09,679 Speaker 1: only invited Alan to mess with me. WHOA, So do 237 00:11:09,760 --> 00:11:12,320 Speaker 1: they even like Alan or did they just not like Ope, 238 00:11:12,679 --> 00:11:18,280 Speaker 1: they probably don't like Alan's fine, but we hate opis. 239 00:11:17,360 --> 00:11:19,800 Speaker 2: So messed up. It sounded like they just needed to talk. 240 00:11:19,960 --> 00:11:21,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, they just weren't having a conversation. 241 00:11:22,480 --> 00:11:24,920 Speaker 2: They just had bros nye. Yeah, all this would have 242 00:11:25,040 --> 00:11:25,880 Speaker 2: just gotten fixed. 243 00:11:26,480 --> 00:11:29,040 Speaker 1: Invite them to come on the farm. Maybe what needs 244 00:11:29,040 --> 00:11:32,000 Speaker 1: to happen is Alan, I mean, no, not Alan, Get 245 00:11:32,200 --> 00:11:36,280 Speaker 1: get Alan out of here. Op and Abby need to 246 00:11:36,320 --> 00:11:39,440 Speaker 1: invite the family over to their farm have a little 247 00:11:40,000 --> 00:11:44,240 Speaker 1: weekend fun. Say you can't bring Alan and I don't know, 248 00:11:44,400 --> 00:11:46,520 Speaker 1: Like see how that goes, talk it out. 249 00:11:46,800 --> 00:11:50,240 Speaker 2: I love the part where Abby just like kissed his forehead. 250 00:11:50,320 --> 00:11:53,439 Speaker 1: Yeah, She's like, come here, and then she ran out 251 00:11:53,480 --> 00:11:56,559 Speaker 1: with her chaos. She's like, ah, I love it. I 252 00:11:56,640 --> 00:12:00,520 Speaker 1: love it. Abby, seems cool. Snaps to you. Abby. After that, 253 00:12:00,640 --> 00:12:03,400 Speaker 1: most of the family members apologized to us. Abby told 254 00:12:03,440 --> 00:12:05,520 Speaker 1: everyone that she doesn't want to see Alan in the 255 00:12:05,559 --> 00:12:09,160 Speaker 1: house anymore while we're here. She's not going to forbid 256 00:12:09,200 --> 00:12:11,360 Speaker 1: them to talk with him, but doesn't want to see 257 00:12:11,440 --> 00:12:14,520 Speaker 1: him near her because it's uncomfortable. Mother in law tried 258 00:12:14,520 --> 00:12:17,679 Speaker 1: to complain, but Abby just said shut up. Mom left 259 00:12:17,679 --> 00:12:23,000 Speaker 1: the living room. Abby is not taking anything from anyone. 260 00:12:23,400 --> 00:12:27,000 Speaker 2: Every right to you. I don't know how pregnant she is. 261 00:12:26,960 --> 00:12:30,240 Speaker 1: But yeah, she's true. She's pregnant, and you know, you 262 00:12:30,280 --> 00:12:32,840 Speaker 1: get like you can get like angry when you're pregnant 263 00:12:32,920 --> 00:12:37,360 Speaker 1: or like moody, and if people are stirring up trouble, 264 00:12:37,679 --> 00:12:39,080 Speaker 1: I'd be like, I'm pregnant. 265 00:12:39,240 --> 00:12:42,600 Speaker 2: You have even more right to say, yeah, absolutely get 266 00:12:42,679 --> 00:12:43,120 Speaker 2: after it. 267 00:12:43,320 --> 00:12:45,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, like these are things that would make me moody 268 00:12:45,880 --> 00:12:50,040 Speaker 1: and angry normally in the bedroom. Abby confessed to me 269 00:12:50,200 --> 00:12:52,800 Speaker 1: that she also felt uncomfortable, but since Alan is a 270 00:12:52,800 --> 00:12:55,320 Speaker 1: friend of the family, she preferred not to say anything 271 00:12:55,800 --> 00:12:59,559 Speaker 1: other than throw passive aggressive comments at him. I'm wondering how, 272 00:12:59,640 --> 00:13:01,640 Speaker 1: like if they were actually passive aggressive, or if she 273 00:13:01,720 --> 00:13:02,520 Speaker 1: was like, you're. 274 00:13:02,320 --> 00:13:06,240 Speaker 2: A child, get out, you smell bad, you suck. 275 00:13:06,480 --> 00:13:09,400 Speaker 1: For example, after New Year's. After New Year's we were 276 00:13:09,400 --> 00:13:12,880 Speaker 1: all eating and Alan stroked her belly without asking you, 277 00:13:13,600 --> 00:13:15,360 Speaker 1: to which my wife said, do it again and I'll 278 00:13:15,440 --> 00:13:20,800 Speaker 1: bite you. See that's not passive aggressive. It's deserved. Because 279 00:13:21,280 --> 00:13:23,160 Speaker 1: I feel like there's this weird thing where when people 280 00:13:23,200 --> 00:13:25,600 Speaker 1: are pregnant, everyone thinks that they just have a right 281 00:13:25,640 --> 00:13:27,920 Speaker 1: to go and touch their belly without asking. But like, 282 00:13:28,000 --> 00:13:30,920 Speaker 1: imagine if you weren't pregnant and someone was just like, 283 00:13:31,080 --> 00:13:35,480 Speaker 1: let me rub your stomach, that would be really weird. Butt. Yeah, 284 00:13:35,559 --> 00:13:38,640 Speaker 1: that'd be really weird and not okay, ask permission. 285 00:13:38,720 --> 00:13:39,920 Speaker 2: I have a storytelling about that. 286 00:13:40,120 --> 00:13:44,600 Speaker 1: Oh two storytemes. Abby even said that she actually talked 287 00:13:44,640 --> 00:13:47,040 Speaker 1: with Alan and told him that she dislikes being touched 288 00:13:47,040 --> 00:13:50,480 Speaker 1: by other people. Shocker. But Alan says she was overreacting 289 00:13:50,520 --> 00:13:53,760 Speaker 1: and left her alone. I feel really stupid for not 290 00:13:53,760 --> 00:13:57,200 Speaker 1: noticing how uncomfortable my wife also is feeling, because after 291 00:13:57,240 --> 00:13:59,440 Speaker 1: that is when she stayed most of the times in 292 00:13:59,440 --> 00:14:01,520 Speaker 1: the bedroom when Alan was in the house, with the 293 00:14:01,559 --> 00:14:04,320 Speaker 1: excuse that she was tired because of the pregnancy. So 294 00:14:04,440 --> 00:14:08,079 Speaker 1: not only is like our is Alan trying to actively 295 00:14:08,320 --> 00:14:11,559 Speaker 1: like home wreck, but he's also like being really weird 296 00:14:11,600 --> 00:14:13,920 Speaker 1: and gross and like touching this woman without her consent. 297 00:14:14,240 --> 00:14:17,560 Speaker 1: He sucks, like I he should not be in this house. 298 00:14:17,920 --> 00:14:20,160 Speaker 1: The family should not be friends with Alan. Just out 299 00:14:20,160 --> 00:14:22,640 Speaker 1: of curiosity, I asked her why she broke up with 300 00:14:22,720 --> 00:14:25,280 Speaker 1: Alan if he's such a cool man, because I'll admit it, 301 00:14:25,320 --> 00:14:28,240 Speaker 1: he's really charismatic, and Abby told me that he's always 302 00:14:28,240 --> 00:14:31,480 Speaker 1: treated her like he knew everything and explained things that 303 00:14:31,520 --> 00:14:34,960 Speaker 1: she always already knew every time they talked. He's man'splainning 304 00:14:35,040 --> 00:14:37,080 Speaker 1: to her, which is what he just did when she 305 00:14:37,200 --> 00:14:39,080 Speaker 1: was like, you don't touch me and he was like, no, 306 00:14:39,120 --> 00:14:41,880 Speaker 1: you're overreacting, Like how are you to tell this woman 307 00:14:42,080 --> 00:14:44,760 Speaker 1: how she feels. Abby never felt the need to talk 308 00:14:44,800 --> 00:14:47,480 Speaker 1: about that relationship because it wasn't relevant and she sees 309 00:14:47,480 --> 00:14:50,600 Speaker 1: me as her first love and not Alan. I apologize 310 00:14:50,640 --> 00:14:53,000 Speaker 1: to Abby for not noticing how uncomfortable she was and 311 00:14:53,080 --> 00:14:55,680 Speaker 1: only looking at my own feelings without talking about it 312 00:14:55,720 --> 00:14:58,720 Speaker 1: as a couple, and Abby also apologized for the same. 313 00:14:58,920 --> 00:15:01,200 Speaker 1: We promised a communicate this kind of thing to each 314 00:15:01,200 --> 00:15:04,240 Speaker 1: other no matter what. Yesterday we went on a date 315 00:15:04,280 --> 00:15:06,320 Speaker 1: together and when we came back, my mother in law 316 00:15:06,360 --> 00:15:09,800 Speaker 1: looked very unfriendly, but she apologized to my wife, to 317 00:15:09,840 --> 00:15:12,560 Speaker 1: which Abby said she should apologize to me. Mother in 318 00:15:12,640 --> 00:15:15,120 Speaker 1: law and I talked for a while alone, and although 319 00:15:15,160 --> 00:15:17,440 Speaker 1: I'm still upset, we promised to at least be civil 320 00:15:17,480 --> 00:15:23,880 Speaker 1: with each other. For Abby and the baby wed the Jesus. 321 00:15:22,720 --> 00:15:25,680 Speaker 2: Like, we hate each other, but we're here for and just. 322 00:15:25,600 --> 00:15:28,520 Speaker 1: Imagining in that conversation, they're like, Okay, we both we 323 00:15:28,560 --> 00:15:31,240 Speaker 1: both hate each other. We both really don't like each other, 324 00:15:31,520 --> 00:15:32,840 Speaker 1: but we have to push through that. 325 00:15:32,960 --> 00:15:35,200 Speaker 2: I couldn't imagine ever doing that with someone. 326 00:15:35,480 --> 00:15:38,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's crazy, like your partner's mother. I mean, like, 327 00:15:38,880 --> 00:15:41,800 Speaker 1: good that they talked, but that's crazy. 328 00:15:42,080 --> 00:15:42,800 Speaker 2: It'd be tough. 329 00:15:43,000 --> 00:15:45,360 Speaker 1: We decided next time to stay in one of the 330 00:15:45,400 --> 00:15:47,800 Speaker 1: hotel rooms while we're here, even if it's a three 331 00:15:47,800 --> 00:15:50,200 Speaker 1: hour drive, it would be better for us to be comfortable. 332 00:15:50,240 --> 00:15:53,080 Speaker 1: Three months in my in law's house was always really tiring, 333 00:15:53,240 --> 00:15:56,440 Speaker 1: so it's something we should have done earlier. Oh, the 334 00:15:56,480 --> 00:15:58,640 Speaker 1: hotel is a three month, three hour drive. 335 00:15:58,800 --> 00:16:00,880 Speaker 2: They're just saying, if that's what it takes. 336 00:16:00,920 --> 00:16:05,560 Speaker 1: Oh, yeah, I'd rather drive three hours than stay with 337 00:16:05,720 --> 00:16:08,080 Speaker 1: your in laws. Yeah, they really don't like each other. 338 00:16:08,280 --> 00:16:10,560 Speaker 1: I get it. I get it. They're not nice. For now, 339 00:16:10,720 --> 00:16:13,760 Speaker 1: Alan is no longer in the picture because yesterday I 340 00:16:13,800 --> 00:16:16,720 Speaker 1: got his number to send a message clarifying why he 341 00:16:16,760 --> 00:16:19,320 Speaker 1: can't come back and why I don't want him near 342 00:16:19,360 --> 00:16:22,960 Speaker 1: my wife. This man just blocked me without answering. I 343 00:16:22,960 --> 00:16:25,720 Speaker 1: guess he understood, but if he didn't, I don't have 344 00:16:25,840 --> 00:16:28,960 Speaker 1: any problem talking face to face about it. 345 00:16:29,240 --> 00:16:29,560 Speaker 2: Nice. 346 00:16:29,920 --> 00:16:32,680 Speaker 1: Yes, I love that. There's also some added stuff. I 347 00:16:32,760 --> 00:16:34,840 Speaker 1: showed Abby the Reddit posts, and she didn't have any 348 00:16:34,880 --> 00:16:37,920 Speaker 1: problem with me asking for any advice. I'm even posting 349 00:16:37,960 --> 00:16:40,080 Speaker 1: this now with her hugging my arm. I love this 350 00:16:40,160 --> 00:16:43,120 Speaker 1: woman a lot. Oh they're so cute. I love this. 351 00:16:43,200 --> 00:16:45,840 Speaker 1: They're living on their farm, they're living their best life 352 00:16:46,200 --> 00:16:48,000 Speaker 1: without meddling in laws. 353 00:16:48,160 --> 00:16:50,320 Speaker 2: Honestly would love to hang out with them. 354 00:16:50,480 --> 00:16:51,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, they know they seem cool. 355 00:16:51,800 --> 00:16:55,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, Abby seems like the fat, the feisty, witty yeah 356 00:16:58,320 --> 00:17:03,600 Speaker 2: five two, then and then yeah honestly, and then ops 357 00:17:03,680 --> 00:17:04,320 Speaker 2: just sort of like the. 358 00:17:04,720 --> 00:17:07,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, he has glosses, and he's like, but when he 359 00:17:07,560 --> 00:17:11,399 Speaker 1: needs to tussle, we'll tell her. Some background on this 360 00:17:11,560 --> 00:17:14,000 Speaker 1: on Alan as well. Alan came back to the country 361 00:17:14,000 --> 00:17:17,560 Speaker 1: because he divorced his wife and is flirting with any woman, 362 00:17:18,080 --> 00:17:20,120 Speaker 1: so he thought it was a great idea to try 363 00:17:20,160 --> 00:17:21,800 Speaker 1: and flirt with my pregnant wife. 364 00:17:22,359 --> 00:17:25,080 Speaker 2: The last that's yeah, that's the last. 365 00:17:24,800 --> 00:17:27,320 Speaker 1: Woman you flirt with. Don't flirt with your high school 366 00:17:27,720 --> 00:17:32,600 Speaker 1: two month relationship girlfriend is now married with with with childs. 367 00:17:32,640 --> 00:17:35,680 Speaker 1: She's with child on her farm, living on her arm. 368 00:17:36,400 --> 00:17:40,359 Speaker 1: There are some relevant comments. Doctor Kitty Loova says, yay 369 00:17:40,440 --> 00:17:43,560 Speaker 1: for your wife. I appreciate her so much for listening 370 00:17:43,560 --> 00:17:46,720 Speaker 1: to you, supporting you, and not delaying a single moment 371 00:17:46,800 --> 00:17:48,640 Speaker 1: in setting her family straight. That's such a good point, 372 00:17:48,680 --> 00:17:50,399 Speaker 1: she like, he told her, and she was like, and 373 00:17:50,440 --> 00:17:52,800 Speaker 1: then she went straight to go yell at her family. 374 00:17:52,920 --> 00:17:55,280 Speaker 1: I love that she sounds amazing, as does your marriage 375 00:17:55,320 --> 00:17:58,119 Speaker 1: and connection, and I'm so happy this situation seems to 376 00:17:58,119 --> 00:18:00,760 Speaker 1: have only made you stronger as a couple and maybe 377 00:18:00,800 --> 00:18:04,080 Speaker 1: as individuals too. So true. And one more thing, I'm 378 00:18:04,200 --> 00:18:07,640 Speaker 1: very vocal about one having autonomy and full control over 379 00:18:07,680 --> 00:18:11,240 Speaker 1: who touches them and when, including is pregnant woman and 380 00:18:11,280 --> 00:18:13,800 Speaker 1: the tendency for people to help themselves to a tummy 381 00:18:13,840 --> 00:18:16,480 Speaker 1: touch without permission from the mama. It enrages me that 382 00:18:16,480 --> 00:18:18,919 Speaker 1: people and feel entitled to the body of another person 383 00:18:18,960 --> 00:18:22,040 Speaker 1: in any way like that. Reading that Alan touched Abby's 384 00:18:22,080 --> 00:18:25,520 Speaker 1: belly made my blood boil. But I absolutely love her 385 00:18:25,560 --> 00:18:28,080 Speaker 1: response that she will bite him if he does it again. 386 00:18:28,400 --> 00:18:30,680 Speaker 1: She's feisty and that will continue to serve her well 387 00:18:30,680 --> 00:18:32,800 Speaker 1: in her life and the life of her child. I 388 00:18:32,880 --> 00:18:35,600 Speaker 1: love that's so true. Oh p says same. Abby also 389 00:18:35,640 --> 00:18:37,960 Speaker 1: hates when people touch her belly without asking, even old 390 00:18:38,000 --> 00:18:40,240 Speaker 1: ladies we don't know to do that, and it's really 391 00:18:40,320 --> 00:18:43,919 Speaker 1: uncomfortable for her. Abby always asks people not to do that, 392 00:18:44,000 --> 00:18:46,000 Speaker 1: but most of them get offended by that. There are 393 00:18:46,000 --> 00:18:48,720 Speaker 1: many people who do not respect the personal space of 394 00:18:48,800 --> 00:18:51,920 Speaker 1: pregnant women with the excuse of caressing the baby. It's 395 00:18:51,960 --> 00:18:55,080 Speaker 1: really annoying. That is a great point to leave off on. 396 00:18:55,200 --> 00:18:58,120 Speaker 1: That's the end of the story. Wow, I think everyone 397 00:18:58,160 --> 00:19:01,640 Speaker 1: did the I think Abby in a he really did handle. 398 00:19:01,359 --> 00:19:03,120 Speaker 2: This well, yeah, they killed that. 399 00:19:03,359 --> 00:19:06,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, they did not take anything from anyone. They were 400 00:19:06,160 --> 00:19:09,080 Speaker 1: like the second that it got too much, they were like, hey, 401 00:19:09,160 --> 00:19:13,720 Speaker 1: let's let's here's the boundary sidebar. Yeah, here to Opie's 402 00:19:13,720 --> 00:19:17,479 Speaker 1: family or Abby's family. They were like boundaries. You I've 403 00:19:17,560 --> 00:19:20,399 Speaker 1: not been following them were laying down the law, and 404 00:19:20,440 --> 00:19:24,640 Speaker 1: then they had their sidebar and then they came out swinging, swinging. Yeah. 405 00:19:24,840 --> 00:19:25,840 Speaker 2: They will bite whoever. 406 00:19:26,119 --> 00:19:28,120 Speaker 1: They will bite anyone and everyone. 407 00:19:28,200 --> 00:19:30,439 Speaker 2: It's kind of cute. My aunt bites my uncle sometimes 408 00:19:30,480 --> 00:19:34,000 Speaker 2: whenever he annoys her. She'll just like get a good 409 00:19:34,119 --> 00:19:36,960 Speaker 2: chomp and he's like, ah, it's cute. It's like their thing. 410 00:19:37,359 --> 00:19:40,520 Speaker 1: Sure, sure, I love that for them. 411 00:19:40,680 --> 00:19:44,359 Speaker 3: Yeah, but you said you had too, Yes, yes, So 412 00:19:45,359 --> 00:19:48,040 Speaker 3: I have a friend this Okay, I think I can 413 00:19:48,240 --> 00:19:51,719 Speaker 3: imagine a couple ten years from now who this is. 414 00:19:51,760 --> 00:19:54,080 Speaker 2: But sadly, I would be Alan in this scenario. But 415 00:19:54,119 --> 00:19:58,480 Speaker 2: I'm choosing right now not to be Alan, because you 416 00:19:58,560 --> 00:20:00,399 Speaker 2: got to realize I love them. But I have a friend. 417 00:20:00,600 --> 00:20:02,639 Speaker 2: She that I went to high school with. We're pretty close, 418 00:20:02,760 --> 00:20:05,760 Speaker 2: and she has like a boyfriend from Australia. It was 419 00:20:05,840 --> 00:20:10,240 Speaker 2: like six four. He's like kind of awkward, like whenever 420 00:20:10,280 --> 00:20:12,880 Speaker 2: I talked to him, like, I'm very charismatic, I would say, 421 00:20:12,920 --> 00:20:15,520 Speaker 2: and he's like kind of like full shy, but like 422 00:20:15,840 --> 00:20:21,639 Speaker 2: her family does not like him. Why there's just like 423 00:20:21,640 --> 00:20:26,199 Speaker 2: like cultural beliefs and differences. She told her parents that 424 00:20:26,280 --> 00:20:28,520 Speaker 2: I was in town, and they seem more excited about 425 00:20:28,560 --> 00:20:30,800 Speaker 2: it that I was in town that she was going 426 00:20:30,880 --> 00:20:34,280 Speaker 2: to come see me rather than her boyfriend from Australia 427 00:20:34,359 --> 00:20:36,639 Speaker 2: was there and he told me that and I was like, dude, 428 00:20:36,680 --> 00:20:39,800 Speaker 2: I am so sorry. I hate that for you. Yeah, 429 00:20:39,800 --> 00:20:41,840 Speaker 2: that sucks, but he's really cool guy. But yeah, I 430 00:20:41,920 --> 00:20:43,960 Speaker 2: was alan in that scenario and won't see the other one, 431 00:20:44,160 --> 00:20:49,359 Speaker 2: oh being touched without consent? Yeah, okay. So I was 432 00:20:49,400 --> 00:20:51,479 Speaker 2: at I would say a club maybe, I don't know. 433 00:20:51,640 --> 00:20:54,560 Speaker 2: I was with John and Nima and Sam was supposed 434 00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:56,760 Speaker 2: to be there, but he's on his like personal growth 435 00:20:57,080 --> 00:20:59,399 Speaker 2: brind right now, so he was grind. 436 00:20:59,680 --> 00:21:00,000 Speaker 1: Yeah. 437 00:21:00,200 --> 00:21:02,520 Speaker 2: So I was there and I was like talk to 438 00:21:02,560 --> 00:21:04,840 Speaker 2: some people whatever at the bungalow, were just hanging out 439 00:21:05,040 --> 00:21:08,120 Speaker 2: and this chick that was because I think we went 440 00:21:08,160 --> 00:21:12,800 Speaker 2: there for someone that's leaving. The person that introduced Sam 441 00:21:13,080 --> 00:21:16,679 Speaker 2: and John was there and I gave my respects. I 442 00:21:16,720 --> 00:21:18,800 Speaker 2: was like, thank you so much for introducing them, because 443 00:21:18,840 --> 00:21:22,879 Speaker 2: without respects, I would not be birthed. And she she 444 00:21:23,000 --> 00:21:24,879 Speaker 2: made this. So I was there paying my respects with 445 00:21:24,920 --> 00:21:26,840 Speaker 2: her and her friends, and one of her friends saw 446 00:21:26,920 --> 00:21:30,120 Speaker 2: me and she was like, hey, got a nice ass, 447 00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:33,000 Speaker 2: and I was like whoa. I was that's what win 448 00:21:33,040 --> 00:21:34,280 Speaker 2: in my head. But I was like trying to be nice. 449 00:21:34,320 --> 00:21:36,320 Speaker 2: I was like, thank you, because like, this is the honest. 450 00:21:36,600 --> 00:21:38,960 Speaker 2: I've been super insecure about my butt, like you know, 451 00:21:39,200 --> 00:21:41,480 Speaker 2: like I've been working on it and been working out, 452 00:21:41,600 --> 00:21:43,240 Speaker 2: like it's gotten bigger. Thank you. She's like, yeah, it 453 00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:45,439 Speaker 2: looks nice. She's give me these eyes and I'm like, 454 00:21:45,560 --> 00:21:47,800 Speaker 2: so I'm like, thank you. Or someone over here dancing 455 00:21:48,080 --> 00:21:50,520 Speaker 2: and then out of nowhere, dude, she just like kind 456 00:21:50,520 --> 00:21:53,359 Speaker 2: of like trying to be all slick and stuff about 457 00:21:53,400 --> 00:21:57,879 Speaker 2: and I'm like I'm like whoa and she just like 458 00:21:57,960 --> 00:22:00,199 Speaker 2: kind of acted like I was like okay, and so 459 00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:01,040 Speaker 2: I walked away. 460 00:22:00,800 --> 00:22:03,680 Speaker 1: And I'm sorry, that's very not okay. 461 00:22:03,800 --> 00:22:05,760 Speaker 2: And now I'm like, now I know how that feels. 462 00:22:05,960 --> 00:22:07,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, No, it does not feel great. 463 00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:09,920 Speaker 2: It's like wow, yeah. And then it did it to 464 00:22:10,000 --> 00:22:12,320 Speaker 2: John because I was explaining what happened. He was like, 465 00:22:12,359 --> 00:22:16,480 Speaker 2: oh wow, it's like cool. I'm like I know right, No, yeah, no. 466 00:22:16,480 --> 00:22:17,160 Speaker 1: That's very bad. 467 00:22:17,720 --> 00:22:17,920 Speaker 2: No. 468 00:22:18,240 --> 00:22:20,320 Speaker 1: When it was in Italy, we went to this club 469 00:22:20,400 --> 00:22:26,480 Speaker 1: on Halloween in Rome and like the Italian men crazy crazy, yeah, 470 00:22:26,520 --> 00:22:28,439 Speaker 1: and like I didn't even have it bad. I had 471 00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:32,080 Speaker 1: other friends, you think, get it worse. But the like 472 00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:35,000 Speaker 1: they would trying to speak to me and I obviously 473 00:22:35,040 --> 00:22:37,000 Speaker 1: I don't speak Italian and they would be saying something. 474 00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:39,040 Speaker 1: I'd be like no, no, and then they'd bed like 475 00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:42,560 Speaker 1: grab multiple people do this, grab my arm like strong, 476 00:22:42,640 --> 00:22:45,800 Speaker 1: and I'd be like, let me go. It was bad. Yeah, 477 00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:48,280 Speaker 1: it's not it's not a fun thing that happens. And 478 00:22:48,280 --> 00:22:49,440 Speaker 1: I'm sorry that happened to you. 479 00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:51,240 Speaker 2: Keep your hands yourself. 480 00:22:51,680 --> 00:22:54,560 Speaker 1: That is like kindergarten rule number one, keep your hands 481 00:22:54,560 --> 00:22:55,040 Speaker 1: to yourself. 482 00:22:55,200 --> 00:22:57,400 Speaker 2: Why why is no one following those rules? 483 00:22:57,480 --> 00:22:59,479 Speaker 1: Yeah, go back to kindergarten. If you don't know how 484 00:22:59,480 --> 00:23:00,520 Speaker 1: to keep your hand to yourself. 485 00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:03,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, and then and then here's the graduated step. If 486 00:23:03,280 --> 00:23:05,080 Speaker 2: you don't want to keep your hands yourself. 487 00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:08,280 Speaker 1: Ask them, ask them. Yeah. Yeah. The first step is 488 00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:11,200 Speaker 1: keep your hands yourself. Second step is get consent. If 489 00:23:11,200 --> 00:23:11,800 Speaker 1: you don't want to. 490 00:23:11,840 --> 00:23:15,520 Speaker 2: Keep, don't either of those. You should not be touching anyone. 491 00:23:15,359 --> 00:23:18,800 Speaker 1: Yep, yeah, but you know what we should be touching. 492 00:23:20,000 --> 00:23:20,439 Speaker 2: What's that 493 00:23:22,480 --> 00:23:23,480 Speaker 1: This next story