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Speaker 1: So something that is coming up every once in a

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Speaker 1: while is this topic about how do you break up

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Speaker 1: with somebody? They're calling it a dumper? How do you

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Speaker 1: dump someone? How have you been dumped? What kind of

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Speaker 1: a dumper are you? And you suggest that you can

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Speaker 1: be direct, or you can drag it out, or you

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Speaker 1: can just be sort of evasive about it.

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Speaker 2: Think I'm a direct I think I've always been a

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Speaker 2: direct to the point. Once I kind of felt like

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Speaker 2: it was over. It didn't last more than a week

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Speaker 2: or so, and then I was like, all right, this

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Speaker 2: is done.

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Speaker 1: I think I'm a mutual dumper.

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Speaker 2: So there's this new version of dumping, and it's called

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Speaker 2: quiet dumping, kind of like ghosting, but a little bit sneakier.

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Speaker 2: So instead of just disappearing, the person slowly pulls back

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Speaker 2: and it's just less text messaging, less intimacy, which is obvious,

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Speaker 2: fewer real conversations, and you can feel that pull, you

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Speaker 2: feel that pool, and if you've ever done that, that's

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Speaker 2: the name that you have. Now you're a quiet dumper.

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Speaker 2: The twist is that they don't officially break up with you.

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Speaker 2: They're hoping that you notice.

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Speaker 1: All this behavior and then you push it away.

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Speaker 2: And then you end it and suddenly it leaves the

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Speaker 2: other person very confused, second guessing themselves stuck in this

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Speaker 2: weird limbo like what did I do wrong? And that's

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Speaker 2: basically very cruel and manipulative, just like you said, so

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Speaker 2: quiet dumping. This is kind of tied to quiet quitting.

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Speaker 2: Remember you talked about quiet quitting when you show up

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Speaker 2: to work and you just do the bare minimum and

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Speaker 2: you just kind of wait to almost get fired. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it's kind of like that, but just the dating version

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Speaker 2: of it.

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Speaker 1: Mean's just the worst, best, bad, all right, thank you

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Speaker 1: for that. I'm down on it. This is on Air

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Speaker 1: with a Ryan Seacrest.