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Speaker 1: I put forward with Alexi Napola and Marisaw Patton and

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Speaker 1: iHeartRadio podcast Good Evening, I put forward listeners. It's just

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Speaker 1: me today, maysol imn Solo. As you may or may

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Speaker 1: not know, the news just broke that Alexia's husband, Todd

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Speaker 1: has filed for divorce. We're all a little shocked and

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Speaker 1: and so you know, it's not a good day for

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Speaker 1: her to be here and participate. What can I say,

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Speaker 1: I'm completely taken by surprise. I mean, I didn't see

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Speaker 1: this coming. It's it rips my heart apart because I

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Speaker 1: just I can only put myself in her shoes and

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Speaker 1: know how hard this must be for her. You know,

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Speaker 1: that dream of we all have that dream of being

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Speaker 1: in love and then we you know, find a partner

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Speaker 1: and we have the fantasy of the perfect life, and

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Speaker 1: then reality hit. Sometimes it's not what we thought it

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Speaker 1: was going to be. And and today's today, we all

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Speaker 1: got a big cold dose of reality. You know, things

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Speaker 1: don't always turn out the way we planned. And I'm

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Speaker 1: very sad for her anyway. Alexi has just put out

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Speaker 1: a statement in regards to the articles that have come out.

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Speaker 1: I guess somebody somehow found the filing in the court system.

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Speaker 1: I mean these people. I just don't know how people

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Speaker 1: find I mean, who, who who goes out there digging

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Speaker 1: and looking for these things. I can't even believe it.

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Speaker 1: What what would what would inspire to go dig it

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Speaker 1: around to see who's getting divorced or who's in trouble

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Speaker 1: or you know, who just got arrested. But I guess

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Speaker 1: there's professionals that do that, and that's I guess how

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Speaker 1: they keep their their you know, their news outlets alive.

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Speaker 1: So this is a statement in response to the articles

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Speaker 1: that are now out all over the internet Instagram about

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Speaker 1: Todd filing for divorce. Alexia has said, I'm shocked and

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Speaker 1: heartbroken that Todd has chosen to dissolve our marriage. I

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Speaker 1: will take comfort in the fact that my friends and

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Speaker 1: family will be by my side, supporting me during this

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Speaker 1: difficult time. I'm praying for better times ahead. Well, if

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Speaker 1: anyone knows that Alexia will see better times ahead, it's me.

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Speaker 1: I've been through the ringer. I've been through the ringer

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Speaker 1: with her, She's been through the ringer with me. We've

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Speaker 1: been through depths, divorces, marriages, TV shows, canceled TV shows,

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Speaker 1: rebooted TV shows. Now we get to talk about it

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Speaker 1: on our podcasts. If there's anything I know about Alexia,

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Speaker 1: she's strong, and she's a fighter and resilient. She's been

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Speaker 1: through a lot and she always comes out on the

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Speaker 1: other end shining. And I know that, you know, myself

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Speaker 1: and the whole team at iHeartRadio and I are going

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Speaker 1: to give her her space and when she's ready to

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Speaker 1: talk about it, she will, because Alex is a sharer,

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Speaker 1: and that's why she's on a reality show, because she

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Speaker 1: knows how to share and be open and be raw

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Speaker 1: and be real. You know, as much as I hurt

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Speaker 1: for her and feel my god, oh god, I know

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Speaker 1: how this feels. I've been left and I've been the

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Speaker 1: one to leave, and I know how hard it is

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Speaker 1: when you if you leave or you're the one that's left,

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Speaker 1: it's hard either way because you know you're hurting someone.

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Speaker 1: And I don't know. I mean, I'm an EmPATH. I

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Speaker 1: don't like to hurt people, and I certainly don't like

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Speaker 1: to be hurt. And you know, I will always be

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Speaker 1: here for her and give her support. You know, our

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Speaker 1: phones have been blowing up today. Mine's blowing up, you know,

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Speaker 1: I've told people, don't text her, give her some time.

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Speaker 1: You know, she needs to just be alone and figure

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Speaker 1: it out because it's all just so new and so

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Speaker 1: fresh and so shocking. And you know, I'm going to

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Speaker 1: be there for her. I'm always there for her. I

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Speaker 1: was there. You know. We used to work together. She

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Speaker 1: had a magazine at a PR firm. We always worked together.

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Speaker 1: Then we ended up doing a TV show together. Then

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Speaker 1: we were off the air for a few years, and

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Speaker 1: you know, I was in a relationship of marriage and

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Speaker 1: she was in a marriage. Her husband died and I

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Speaker 1: got divorced. Then we dated and did our girl time

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Speaker 1: and fun time together, and then I met somebody, and

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Speaker 1: she met Todd, and she stayed with Todd, and that

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Speaker 1: you know, I'm remarried, and now she's broken up with Todd.

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Speaker 1: Like our life is just always together in this same circle.

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Speaker 1: We always love each other, we always support each other,

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Speaker 1: no matter what. And I'm sure every buddy wants to

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Speaker 1: support Alexia right now, because you know you've probably been

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Speaker 1: there too. I'm sure all of us have been heartbroken

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Speaker 2: Hey guys, I'm Jonathan, one of the producers on iPort Forward,

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Speaker 2: and I just had a quick question from Arisol. You

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Speaker 2: had mentioned that you've had different kinds of divorces. You've

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Speaker 2: either walked away or someone's walked away from you. Can

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Speaker 2: you tell me more about you know, those experiences and

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Speaker 2: what each one has done for you and how that

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Speaker 2: set you up for something better?

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Speaker 1: Well, you know me. Listen, I have this conversation with

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Speaker 1: Alexia all the time. We love to be in love

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Speaker 1: and we don't know how to be alone. I think

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Speaker 1: we're in love with love. We are. We talk about it,

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Speaker 1: we giggle. She's always like, I amya, You're like me,

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Speaker 1: we just can't be alone, and I'm like nope. And

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Speaker 1: and you're in love love, you just jump into stuff.

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Speaker 1: I'm not saying that that's what she did, but me

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Speaker 1: for sure, I can tell you I love to jump

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Speaker 1: into things quite quickly. So when I was about twenty seven,

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Speaker 1: I married my first husband after knowing him. I don't know,

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Speaker 1: after two weeks he's like, I want to marry you.

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Speaker 1: It was this Turkish guy from miss Stambul and he

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Speaker 1: was super cute. He looked like Antonio Benderaz. All my

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Speaker 1: but you know, I was like. My mother was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: people are going to think something's wrong with you. She's

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Speaker 1: the one that actually pushed me into the marriage. Like

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Speaker 1: On my wedding day, she comes into the bedroom like

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Speaker 1: I was on my way to the courthouse. We were

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Speaker 1: I was April tenth. It was last Wednesday, and my

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Speaker 1: cursed your wedding, and I curse you, and she locked

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Speaker 1: and then I'll come back. Well, honey, I came back

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Speaker 1: like in this trajectory of work, work, work, work, work

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Speaker 1: I pushed him to it. I was sad, you know.

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Speaker 1: He liked to go out till three four o'clock in

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Speaker 1: New Year at midnight for five years straight. How are you.

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Speaker 1: I'm very happy, and you know, on my wedding anniversary

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