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Speaker 1: Hey, hey, welcome to another episode of Horror. Bled Decisions

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Speaker 1: slash Mandy on the hotline. Uh Weezy has to add

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Speaker 1: to the airport soon. So I was like, well, you know,

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Speaker 1: we could do half hell and if they probably liked it,

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Speaker 1: because the bitches need at least an hour otherwise they

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Speaker 1: is gonna com for us. So I want to do a.

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Speaker 2: Catch up on the pastor episode that y'all got to hear.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so we sat with Apostle Danny Danielle, and what

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Speaker 1: are your thoughts on the episode? I love her story.

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Speaker 1: I kind of want to part two. Uh if there

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Speaker 1: is more to share, maybe just more detailed. I know,

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Speaker 1: Yomi was like, I have more questions. I had more questions,

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Speaker 1: but also we went over an hour and we had

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Speaker 1: dinner to get to. But I really like that format,

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Speaker 1: and I'm curious to know if y'all like that style

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Speaker 1: of interview, because even I would love us to get

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Speaker 1: into more like couples, like what you said about Underbella.

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Speaker 1: I would love to get some more.

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Speaker 3: I always wanted to just interview peace people with remember

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Speaker 3: what we used to get into it and I'd be like,

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Speaker 3: so tell me about it.

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Speaker 1: Like I have it in the outline what you used

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Speaker 1: to be like, I'm gonna get to it. Well, yeah,

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Speaker 1: because we were like but also you back then we

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Speaker 1: were also debating on where we stuck to the outline

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Speaker 1: because we know what our audience likes. But then you

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Speaker 1: even at one point were like, let's just have the

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Speaker 1: guests come for the last twenty minutes.

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Speaker 3: So there was as and it's hard to because I

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Speaker 3: just want to know about the guests te sometimes instead

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Speaker 3: of including them in our thing that we have to do.

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Speaker 3: Which was great about this one because it could just

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Speaker 3: be icolated. This one was like we gonna listen and

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Speaker 3: not yet. But in the episode, y'all heard me going

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Speaker 3: back and forth with the hose happy thing. Yes, And

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Speaker 3: there was a thought that came to my mind because

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Speaker 3: I got home and I was like, I have to

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Speaker 3: tell you about this episode because I feel icky about

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Speaker 3: this moment. I hope it didn't come across that way

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Speaker 3: because I wanted to challenge her on something.

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Speaker 2: But you started crying.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And it was I mean, it's the it was

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Speaker 1: the hardest chapter in my book to write about.

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Speaker 3: No, No, it was more about me saying it wasn't

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Speaker 3: new trying to do that after that moment, I had

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Speaker 3: something I wanted to say, and then you were like

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Speaker 3: feeling emotional, and I was.

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Speaker 2: Like, now I can't bring this ship up, but you did.

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Speaker 1: But I waited. I waited til it for a millisecond. No, man, yeah, like, bitch,

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Speaker 1: I know you crying, and I'm so sorry you crying,

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Speaker 1: But bitch, I think I was could be happy. Like

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Speaker 1: that's how I happened. Like, no, you you've made sure

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Speaker 1: you said it. You said, oh right, is you emotional

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Speaker 1: right now? Cuz bitch, I disagree with what you're saying.

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Speaker 1: You know why though, because you wanted to keep the

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Speaker 1: show going. I don't know. I was just like and

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Speaker 1: I was like, no, no, why y'all argue?

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Speaker 3: And I'm like, I really that her line of sex

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Speaker 3: work is depressing. And that was really why I was like,

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Speaker 3: all right, we'll stop for a second with the circumstance thing.

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Speaker 3: And so basically the reason I don't believe this is

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Speaker 3: because I have homegirls that could turn to so much

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Speaker 3: their work and they don't because they love it. They

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Speaker 3: love the amount of money, they love the life it

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Speaker 3: affords them. And at the end of the day, bitch

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Speaker 3: is like taking money from niggas sometimes like if you

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Speaker 1: I agree to me. The dating a nigga with money

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Speaker 1: is different than laying on your back literally for money.

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Speaker 1: Like dating man with money is not equivalent to sex work.

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Speaker 1: I feel like I.

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Speaker 3: Don't know if this is I'm not even talking about

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Speaker 3: dating though, right, So here's really all.

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Speaker 1: The conversation with your boyfriend because you said you brought

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Speaker 2: So I was like, I was like, yo, oh, that's

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Speaker 2: what I brought up.

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Speaker 3: I was like, Mandy was getting emotional and I felt

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Speaker 3: bad because they were talking about a specific type of

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Speaker 3: sex work in a moment in time, right, And I

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Speaker 2: I started telling him about how I was like, I've.

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Speaker 3: Definitely like been in situation on the Sugar Daddies app.

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Speaker 3: But and I'm like, oh, this sucks.

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Speaker 2: I was like, but I can't tell you that I

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Speaker 3: Work, and that I was choosing to do this shit

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Speaker 3: was important for me to bring up in that conversation,

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Speaker 3: like I was a happy hoe and I've been unhappy

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Speaker 3: in other situations too, Like he's like, right, but when

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Speaker 3: we're talking about feeling emptiness, I'm like, I felt empty

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Speaker 3: I can't tell you where there's not been a con

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Speaker 1: And I think you actually agreed with her in that sense.

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Speaker 1: No one's happy. So her saying I don't know a

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Speaker 1: happy prostitute, is you actually agree with her. There's a

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Speaker 1: lot of people don't know. I think and lows, and I.

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Speaker 3: Think in every single job you're gonna yeah highs and lows.

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Speaker 3: But what I'm saying is, generally speaking, I'm happy with

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Speaker 3: but whatever. So when you were like, oh, what about

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Speaker 3: that time and blah blah blah, and I was like,

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Speaker 3: that was a tough time, but it wasn't enough to

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Speaker 3: stop me. I've had tough day. You and I have

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Speaker 3: had tough days. It wasn't for us to quit each other.

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Speaker 3: So like to me, I don't even want to hear that,

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Speaker 3: Like you've never met a happy prostitute. Maybe you're talking

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Speaker 3: to people that are really fucking down and out, and

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Speaker 3: that's why they turned to church. So maybe the people

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Speaker 1: You would I would be so curious because what she

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Speaker 1: said I agree with she said, when we sit here

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Speaker 1: with porn stars or sex workers, we're celebrating them because

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Speaker 1: we're pro sex work. However, a conversation with someone who

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Speaker 1: that conversation would probably sound night and day from when

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Speaker 1: women are coming on here kind of promoting their platforms

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Speaker 1: the feelings that they felt that they didn't know how

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Speaker 3: Their mode is the key of But that's where you

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Speaker 3: don't deal with no.

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Speaker 2: But that's why I was disagreeing.

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Speaker 3: Your emotion that you experienced was operating in survival mode.

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Speaker 2: HER's word too. That's why I said, there are some

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Speaker 2: women that aren't doing this.

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Speaker 1: But they have to pay their bills. I think women

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Speaker 1: who choose to be sex workers are all insurvivable.

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Speaker 3: Okay, for example, let's talk about Cremdulla crime prostitute making

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Speaker 3: mad Bread, the white girl from Australia that we had on.

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Speaker 3: I forgot her name in the moment. She makes really fun,

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Speaker 3: I know for a fact, and I don't know a bit.

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Speaker 3: She could stop and live a nice life with the

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Speaker 3: making whether they're on OnlyFans, I believe it's over six figures,

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Speaker 3: almost sometimes seven. She's talking about the amount for their clientele.

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Speaker 3: So you're telling me, now, you could just do virtual shit,

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Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying, only exist there, but you

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Speaker 3: still choose to do this. There is a high Well,

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Speaker 3: there's more money, of course, but that's what I'm saying, like,

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Speaker 3: she's not surviving, and that's why this thing is enjoyable.

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Speaker 1: We just saw sebbet and look, now, this is not

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Speaker 1: a sports podcast. Sebastian's heelfare and Odell Beckham Junior both

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Speaker 1: just came out and talked about how one hundred million

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Speaker 1: The truth of the matter is the lifestyle and ways

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Speaker 1: in which these women live. No, they cannot just stop

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Speaker 2: But it's not survive.

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Speaker 1: Survive. When I say survive now, not to get into

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Speaker 1: some pan sicks, Surviving is living. Paying bills is surviving.

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Speaker 1: is especially when knowing some of these sex workers have kids.

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Speaker 1: Surviving is paying rent, putting a roof over the head,

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Speaker 1: It's why it's hard for so many people to leave

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Speaker 2: Whatever you're used to.

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Speaker 3: Though, that to me is a fucking excuse. It's the

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Speaker 3: same excuse to me as my friends that borrow money

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Speaker 1: In my life now, she said, Now you sound like

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Speaker 1: HIMK No, no, no, no no, I'm keeping it a

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Speaker 1: else and now here's You've got decisions.

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Speaker 2: If you would like to have us answer your questions.

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Speaker 2: If you have a terrible job, a terrible boyfriend, or

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Speaker 2: a terrible throatfle guess what.

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Speaker 1: You've got decisions. You've got decisions, baby, and so I too.

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Speaker 3: Let's Jesus you listen to this week's episode. Oh my goodness,

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Speaker 3: God bless these hoes.

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Speaker 2: Listen.

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Speaker 1: I think she said it.

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Speaker 2: I think it was a Freudian slip.

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Speaker 1: It gave hose and I was it first. So you

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Speaker 1: I say you got decisions, and you say, Jesus do too.

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Speaker 1: It's kind of crazy. Jesus might have decisions to make. Yeah, Jesus,

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Speaker 1: Jesus make all of our decisions. Amen. Hallelujah. Gloria Hallelujah

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Speaker 1: aka GLORIALA shout out to her and bro Rilla. Oh

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Speaker 1: my god, man, what what bro realer Baby? I'm so

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Speaker 1: sick of that stud being on my goddamn timeline. I

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Speaker 1: Y'all really was doing the lot. I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 3: I was like, I wasn't even trying me cynegal well,

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Speaker 3: Once I start looking, I'm just seeing all of these girls,

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Speaker 3: It's like ten paragraphs oh my god, to the point

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Speaker 3: Disappointed by men in the past, Okay, right, but I

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Speaker 3: When you see a happy couple, you actually can sometimes

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Speaker 3: Prada box or the Louis Vaton box with this whole story.

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Speaker 2: For me, I just don't want to believe you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I kept my Valentine's Day gift on my story.

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Speaker 1: I got diamonds And if you guys want to hear

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Speaker 1: the story of my Valentine's Day, Nick happy child. We

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Speaker 1: all have joined us from Patreon for town Hall. Townhall

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Speaker 1: backslash horrible decision. Now can we still talk about So?

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Speaker 3: I want to talk about the bitches that was outside

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Speaker 1: Wait, I didn't know, because now I feel like I

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Speaker 2: Was that?

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Speaker 1: Like these girls looking good? Okay? So we spent.

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Speaker 3: Most of Valentine's Day in bed, fucking and watching Love

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Speaker 3: We're ready to party. We hung out with the other

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Speaker 3: I walk in the door. I said, oh, so bitch

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Speaker 1: Okay, that's what it was giving. Okay, the girls, Manny,

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Speaker 3: Literally, my man was saying to me, he was like,

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Speaker 3: I didn't think girls, single girls are going to be

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Speaker 3: out tonight like that. He's like, because they made it

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Speaker 3: Like yo, this really goes to show you there's a

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Speaker 1: He's they're gay, they're in jail, or they're marri He.

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Speaker 3: Texted too of his homeboys like, no, y'all niggas gotta

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Speaker 1: In Atlanta, my last girl and my hair girl said

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Speaker 1: that last week they was booked up like every motherfucking day.

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Speaker 1: Can't say that about the niggas.

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Speaker 3: But what is it? What is the real Someone needs

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Speaker 3: to talk about it.

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Speaker 1: Right.

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Speaker 3: It is actually funny two couples sitting across from each

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Speaker 3: And all I can think of is I really do

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Speaker 2: I don't think they can handle and these beautiful, successful

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Speaker 1: Okay, Now this is a really really interesting story this week. Weezy.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna start by just reading the title. We're non monogamous,

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Speaker 1: don't you ask me what I would do? Bitch baby?

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Speaker 1: Oh you know, we gonna get down. Is a lot

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Speaker 1: ethically nominogamous. Now, if you want to send your letter

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Speaker 1: our non expert advice on what to do with your

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Speaker 1: Send your questions, send your letters, Send your dilemma over

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Speaker 1: to decisions pod at gmail dot com. Let's get into

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Speaker 1: it because it's not that long, but she gave us

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Speaker 1: some details. Here we go, Hello, ladies. I firstly want

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Speaker 1: two have created. Dick by Dick's cute, I mean break

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Speaker 1: I have three children from two past relationships, and he

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Speaker 1: Polygamy wasn't for me because I don't have an emotional

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Speaker 1: because of something he's responsible for. Oh I forgot to

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Speaker 1: This is a lot because okay, what is it?

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Speaker 2: Uh?

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Speaker 1: Silly prizes are like? What's the phrase about? You know

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Speaker 2: Okay, I know what of my main thought is right now?

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Speaker 3: Okay, I'm like, my main thought in this moment is

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Speaker 3: she said, I know he didn't cheat, but and I

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Speaker 2: Like, for example, some advice I would give to anybody.

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Speaker 3: This. In a monogamous relationship, my boyfriend and I have

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Speaker 2: We could be hungover, we could be in other cities,

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Speaker 1: Going to happen.

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Speaker 3: And it's not always non an aaugamous shit, it's just

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Speaker 2: But maybe one of them could be.

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Speaker 3: Like Yo, sometimes when you wake up in the morning,

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Speaker 3: just whatever it could be right. More than anything, it's

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Speaker 2: It's always about.

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Speaker 3: Like, this is how I'm feeling about a boundary. This

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Speaker 3: is a non negotiable boundary. This is a flexible thing

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Speaker 3: for me. I'm gonna be honest with you. My nigga

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Speaker 3: knows he wouldn't be with me anymore if he got

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Speaker 3: Can you imagine if I went out and brought home

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Speaker 3: you have going on, You live with this person, you

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Speaker 1: It's not that easy to just leave.

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Speaker 3: of well he didn't cheat.

439
00:21:13,440 --> 00:21:18,200
Speaker 1: I'll say I think that is cheating. I'll say, you've

440
00:21:18,200 --> 00:21:21,760
Speaker 1: been together with this man for four years, you live together,

441
00:21:22,240 --> 00:21:24,959
Speaker 1: you have three kids that are not his. He has

442
00:21:25,080 --> 00:21:29,320
Speaker 1: now two that are not yours. So the blended family

443
00:21:29,440 --> 00:21:33,240
Speaker 1: is already there. Unfortunately, and you just said you got

444
00:21:33,359 --> 00:21:37,760
Speaker 1: you terminated a pregnancy because he just welcomed this other child.

445
00:21:37,880 --> 00:21:40,200
Speaker 1: Now I want to go back to kind of leaning

446
00:21:40,320 --> 00:21:42,840
Speaker 1: more to what you were saying, weazy. I think when

447
00:21:42,880 --> 00:21:49,440
Speaker 1: it comes to lifestyle and non monogamy, the risks one

448
00:21:49,520 --> 00:21:53,720
Speaker 1: hundred thousand percent outweigh the rewards in it. We know

449
00:21:53,840 --> 00:21:57,199
Speaker 1: that sex, especially when there's not emotions and it's just

450
00:21:57,240 --> 00:22:01,240
Speaker 1: a fun night out, is a temporary high, and so

451
00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:04,720
Speaker 1: the conversations when you get into an open relationship or

452
00:22:04,760 --> 00:22:08,840
Speaker 1: non monogamous relationship need to be the discussion around the risks.

453
00:22:09,160 --> 00:22:12,600
Speaker 1: So it needs to be what happens if I bring

454
00:22:12,680 --> 00:22:16,840
Speaker 1: home in STD, what happens if someone else gets pregnant,

455
00:22:16,880 --> 00:22:20,520
Speaker 1: And for the men, if your partner is allowing you

456
00:22:21,160 --> 00:22:24,600
Speaker 1: to or I don't even like the word allow. If

457
00:22:24,720 --> 00:22:27,080
Speaker 1: you guys have come to an agreement that you both

458
00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:31,080
Speaker 1: can have outside partners as a man, I think your

459
00:22:31,119 --> 00:22:33,760
Speaker 1: other partners. That's where you need to do the due

460
00:22:33,800 --> 00:22:38,480
Speaker 1: diligence in asking your other partners their family planning goals,

461
00:22:38,800 --> 00:22:42,760
Speaker 1: because if you are going to be bucking a bitch unprotected,

462
00:22:43,960 --> 00:22:46,600
Speaker 1: the consequence is that they may end up pregnant. So

463
00:22:46,720 --> 00:22:48,919
Speaker 1: the same way he was willing to throw her the

464
00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:51,520
Speaker 1: five hundred dollars for the abortion and she didn't want

465
00:22:51,520 --> 00:22:54,520
Speaker 1: to do that, if you were having unprotected sex with anybody,

466
00:22:55,359 --> 00:22:58,879
Speaker 1: what happens if needs to be a conversation, and.

467
00:23:00,080 --> 00:23:03,320
Speaker 3: So much what happens if, Like, there's so much we've

468
00:23:03,359 --> 00:23:05,879
Speaker 3: had to have conversations about in my relationship of like

469
00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:10,120
Speaker 3: what happens if.

470
00:23:08,600 --> 00:23:12,000
Speaker 2: Any of the external partners catch feelings.

471
00:23:11,440 --> 00:23:14,640
Speaker 3: Ye, like there's a lot of management feelings and reassure

472
00:23:14,680 --> 00:23:16,520
Speaker 3: them that the other person's more important, or do they

473
00:23:16,520 --> 00:23:17,120
Speaker 3: get cut off?

474
00:23:17,359 --> 00:23:21,880
Speaker 2: And unfortunately it because it's too messy cut like.

475
00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:24,720
Speaker 1: For some people or some people don't know how to

476
00:23:24,800 --> 00:23:28,199
Speaker 1: navigate that. Because it is also difficult for you not

477
00:23:28,359 --> 00:23:31,800
Speaker 1: to get in your feelings when you start liking another partner.

478
00:23:31,920 --> 00:23:34,439
Speaker 1: I mean we talk about the hierarchy, that there is

479
00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:39,040
Speaker 1: a hierarchy within polyamory that exists. Yeah, and it does

480
00:23:39,080 --> 00:23:44,040
Speaker 1: become difficult assuring everyone's feelings and not not hurting someone,

481
00:23:44,119 --> 00:23:47,320
Speaker 1: but also if their feelings get hurt, reassuring them. It's

482
00:23:47,359 --> 00:23:49,919
Speaker 1: a lot of work. And so for me with this,

483
00:23:49,960 --> 00:23:53,720
Speaker 1: it's interesting. The baby is seven months old, you're back

484
00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:58,600
Speaker 1: living with this man, but he has a situation that

485
00:23:58,720 --> 00:24:02,240
Speaker 1: has left you inevitable because it's what you thought unhappy,

486
00:24:02,800 --> 00:24:05,399
Speaker 1: and so now the idea that you just want to

487
00:24:05,440 --> 00:24:08,960
Speaker 1: get back out there. It's interesting because I'm not sure

488
00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:10,680
Speaker 1: if you just want to go have sex with someone

489
00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:14,720
Speaker 1: else or if you're looking for another partner, because you've

490
00:24:14,760 --> 00:24:18,679
Speaker 1: already said that you couldn't have multiple feelings for multiple people,

491
00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:20,960
Speaker 1: and I don't know if you were only referring to women,

492
00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:25,480
Speaker 1: but you seem to be not someone that can navigate

493
00:24:25,960 --> 00:24:30,879
Speaker 1: a non monogamous relationship when feelings are involved. You clearly

494
00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:35,240
Speaker 1: feel like you love this man, but this situation ain't

495
00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:40,479
Speaker 1: cut out for you. I'm not gonna lie. Probably wouldn't

496
00:24:40,480 --> 00:24:44,160
Speaker 1: bother me because I don't want kids. So even when

497
00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:46,880
Speaker 1: I was talking to a guy. The conversation at one

498
00:24:46,880 --> 00:24:50,119
Speaker 1: point was like, you could go have a baby with

499
00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:53,240
Speaker 1: someone else, but I like, I would still be there

500
00:24:53,480 --> 00:24:55,160
Speaker 1: because if you want to be a father, you want

501
00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:56,760
Speaker 1: to be a father, and I don't want to be

502
00:24:56,760 --> 00:24:57,160
Speaker 1: a mother.

503
00:24:57,320 --> 00:25:03,320
Speaker 3: So the other thing too, the accountability that you believe

504
00:25:03,400 --> 00:25:05,679
Speaker 3: your partner needs to have doesn't sound like like you.

505
00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:07,720
Speaker 3: It doesn't really seem like you're you're holding him to

506
00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:08,320
Speaker 3: a standard.

507
00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:12,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, bitch, he shouldn't just be out here. Fucking bitch

508
00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:15,280
Speaker 1: is raw, it is pull out game is weak. Like

509
00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:19,840
Speaker 1: that needs to be a conversation, And again I agree,

510
00:25:19,960 --> 00:25:20,359
Speaker 1: I think what.

511
00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:23,960
Speaker 3: Suxes as We had done that by the way, once

512
00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:27,760
Speaker 3: what fluid bonding with multiple people? And it was scissors

513
00:25:27,760 --> 00:25:31,639
Speaker 3: and beard bay And even that was a combo, like, Yeah,

514
00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:34,560
Speaker 3: my girlfriend and I chose to fuck another nigga together, right,

515
00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:37,360
Speaker 3: and you think we need I'm not gonna.

516
00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:41,280
Speaker 1: Lie for the plot. If he got her pregnant, that

517
00:25:41,320 --> 00:25:42,479
Speaker 1: would have been some good content.

518
00:25:42,840 --> 00:25:44,040
Speaker 2: We talked about it all the time.

519
00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:47,040
Speaker 1: That would have been great content for the plot.

520
00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:52,520
Speaker 3: My mom wanted that to happen so bad, Like, but

521
00:25:52,600 --> 00:25:55,680
Speaker 3: y'all gotta remember, right, we are in this world where

522
00:25:55,680 --> 00:25:57,240
Speaker 3: our parents where like we're talking like that, like my

523
00:25:57,280 --> 00:25:59,720
Speaker 3: mom needs to be like, I'll just take it anyway

524
00:25:59,760 --> 00:26:02,080
Speaker 3: I can get it if we if she's got to

525
00:26:02,119 --> 00:26:03,800
Speaker 3: have it, and I have to the baby gotta stay

526
00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:06,159
Speaker 3: with me till its five, So y'all can go traveling, export,

527
00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:07,160
Speaker 3: whatever you gotta do.

528
00:26:08,160 --> 00:26:10,560
Speaker 1: You know, like that was really her. My mom made shit.

529
00:26:10,640 --> 00:26:12,879
Speaker 1: I just told her my little boom because she she

530
00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:15,720
Speaker 1: brought him up on the phone and I was like, oh, yeah,

531
00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:18,280
Speaker 1: I know him. She's like, you know him, girl. She

532
00:26:18,359 --> 00:26:21,119
Speaker 1: started looking up to see if he gonna be in Orlando.

533
00:26:21,280 --> 00:26:23,199
Speaker 1: She's like, so that means I get tickets because I

534
00:26:23,359 --> 00:26:23,720
Speaker 1: like him.

535
00:26:23,800 --> 00:26:24,680
Speaker 2: My mamas ain't shit.

536
00:26:25,640 --> 00:26:28,240
Speaker 1: I'm like, damn, bitch, not you immediately going to search

537
00:26:28,320 --> 00:26:30,440
Speaker 1: when he come to Orlando so you could get tickets,

538
00:26:30,920 --> 00:26:35,040
Speaker 1: bitch rude. I was like, fuck, but is it?

539
00:26:35,040 --> 00:26:41,920
Speaker 3: Because yeah, I say singer, I'm just playing singer, singer, ballplayer, politician.

540
00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:47,520
Speaker 1: You know who knows politician? On her tour, I said,

541
00:26:47,520 --> 00:26:51,240
Speaker 1: when he's in Orlando, he could be at a Democratic

542
00:26:51,320 --> 00:26:56,760
Speaker 1: convention or during the midterms. Bay bitch fucking rock listen girl.

543
00:26:56,840 --> 00:26:58,800
Speaker 1: That man was that he was court sided at the

544
00:26:58,800 --> 00:27:04,040
Speaker 1: motherfucking Yes's farm.

545
00:27:04,359 --> 00:27:07,119
Speaker 3: I know I've never seen him up close, but I

546
00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:09,760
Speaker 3: was watching podcasting.

547
00:27:09,359 --> 00:27:11,360
Speaker 1: If you were, I was like, wow he no, no, no, no.

548
00:27:12,200 --> 00:27:15,040
Speaker 1: Even the way he walked it like, okay, this is

549
00:27:15,080 --> 00:27:18,720
Speaker 1: inappropriate because he's still our president. But he walked like

550
00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:21,720
Speaker 1: his dick was a problem, you.

551
00:27:21,680 --> 00:27:23,680
Speaker 3: Know what I mean? He just got to like cool

552
00:27:23,760 --> 00:27:26,480
Speaker 3: little Okay, I just know it's let's just tell you

553
00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:27,240
Speaker 3: where that comes.

554
00:27:27,280 --> 00:27:29,120
Speaker 1: Sorry, Michelle, Sorry, I don't.

555
00:27:29,200 --> 00:27:31,200
Speaker 3: I don't really think rock is a chieved, Like how

556
00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:33,840
Speaker 3: could you ever be? But okay, this girl, I know,

557
00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:37,080
Speaker 3: fucked one of the most famous men in the world.

558
00:27:37,280 --> 00:27:39,080
Speaker 2: If we look like the top five, you would.

559
00:27:38,840 --> 00:27:41,479
Speaker 1: Say this name and hold on, hold on, hold on,

560
00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:44,159
Speaker 1: just because tell me about right, if I had to

561
00:27:44,359 --> 00:27:47,200
Speaker 1: name the top most famous people.

562
00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:49,159
Speaker 2: In the world black, We're not gonna criminate myself.

563
00:27:49,920 --> 00:27:54,679
Speaker 1: Are they black or white? Well, okay, stop guessing. You

564
00:27:54,680 --> 00:27:57,000
Speaker 1: can tell. I'm just gonna play. I'm gonna say who

565
00:27:57,080 --> 00:27:59,200
Speaker 1: I think. And I would love to hear y'all thought.

566
00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:01,360
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna say who I think. Don't do it?

567
00:28:01,400 --> 00:28:04,080
Speaker 1: Is that top five even when it's black. You don't

568
00:28:04,119 --> 00:28:06,080
Speaker 1: have to You don't have to confirm nor deny. You

569
00:28:06,080 --> 00:28:09,719
Speaker 1: complete the fit. But the top five black people in

570
00:28:09,800 --> 00:28:13,320
Speaker 1: the world to me, which is crazy because most of

571
00:28:13,359 --> 00:28:19,359
Speaker 1: them are married. Obama is up there, Jay Z is

572
00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:29,000
Speaker 1: up there, Lebron James is up there. Floyd Mayweather and

573
00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:33,119
Speaker 1: Michael Jordan. Hmmm. I think those I might just be

574
00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:36,080
Speaker 1: leaning too heavily into sports there, but those are if I.

575
00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:40,040
Speaker 2: Think who's the most name as black? Oh no, wait, wait, wait,

576
00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:42,240
Speaker 2: wait over Floyd. I feel like we could pick a

577
00:28:42,520 --> 00:28:43,800
Speaker 2: Denzel Denzel.

578
00:28:43,840 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 3: We can put l there, we can put okay, wait,

579
00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:48,680
Speaker 3: I'm gonna text you.

580
00:28:49,080 --> 00:28:53,480
Speaker 1: Hold on and Morgan Freeman. I'm sorry, he's been alive

581
00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:54,280
Speaker 1: for one hundred years.

582
00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:57,640
Speaker 2: You see the name I texted you? Let me Sorry, No, no,

583
00:28:57,560 --> 00:28:58,560
Speaker 2: it's in our chat in here.

584
00:28:59,480 --> 00:29:07,280
Speaker 1: Oh oh okay, okay, so okay, so baby, okay.

585
00:29:07,320 --> 00:29:11,120
Speaker 3: This is what she said, And this is how I

586
00:29:11,200 --> 00:29:13,880
Speaker 3: know Obama got dad dick, he just got it all

587
00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:14,320
Speaker 3: my god.

588
00:29:15,160 --> 00:29:17,880
Speaker 1: She By the way, the name is not Obama, y'alls.

589
00:29:17,880 --> 00:29:20,160
Speaker 1: Oh no, it's not Sorry, sorry, it's not Obama. Let's

590
00:29:20,280 --> 00:29:20,840
Speaker 1: clarify that.

591
00:29:20,880 --> 00:29:22,440
Speaker 2: I found out she was talking this nigga.

592
00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:24,920
Speaker 3: And then I'm like, yo, bitch, you gotta get out

593
00:29:24,960 --> 00:29:27,760
Speaker 3: there and start dating or whatever. And she was like, bitch,

594
00:29:27,800 --> 00:29:30,680
Speaker 3: I fucked one of the most powerful men in the world.

595
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:33,800
Speaker 3: She said, do you think I could ever get another

596
00:29:33,880 --> 00:29:37,400
Speaker 3: nigga and not compare him? She said, when he walks

597
00:29:37,400 --> 00:29:40,160
Speaker 3: in a room, you almost think, And it's so crazy

598
00:29:40,160 --> 00:29:41,360
Speaker 3: because you said this about Obama.

599
00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:43,840
Speaker 1: No, I said this about Obama and Chris Brown.

600
00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:46,920
Speaker 3: She said, you almost think his dick is in the way,

601
00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:50,720
Speaker 3: because that's how the fuck the walk looks like. It's

602
00:29:50,840 --> 00:29:53,840
Speaker 3: like this power. Everybody looks at you in the room.

603
00:29:54,040 --> 00:29:56,560
Speaker 3: She's like, bro, I could be around one hundred nigs.

604
00:29:56,720 --> 00:29:58,600
Speaker 3: They could be finer than him, and it doesn't even

605
00:29:58,640 --> 00:30:02,480
Speaker 3: matter because when you're at the peak a fucking billionaire

606
00:30:02,800 --> 00:30:04,360
Speaker 3: money fame.

607
00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:06,360
Speaker 1: She's like, it's so hard.

608
00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:10,120
Speaker 3: And then when you got that man wanting you being

609
00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:12,640
Speaker 3: on yo, dack call me this that she's like even

610
00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:13,479
Speaker 3: eating my pussy.

611
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:13,840
Speaker 1: She said.

612
00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:17,160
Speaker 3: Sometimes I wu laid back and be like, huh, who's

613
00:30:17,160 --> 00:30:20,120
Speaker 3: better than me? And I was like, yo, I feel

614
00:30:20,160 --> 00:30:21,480
Speaker 3: you though, what.

615
00:30:21,840 --> 00:30:24,080
Speaker 1: I got nabe A couple of people better than her.

616
00:30:24,120 --> 00:30:29,600
Speaker 1: But I'm not gonna name anyone right now. Oh yeah,

617
00:30:29,760 --> 00:30:31,560
Speaker 1: just supposed to gonna throw that out.

618
00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:33,320
Speaker 3: But I think that's the thing, right when you know

619
00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:36,840
Speaker 3: you have someone so powerful that like succumbed to you.

620
00:30:37,920 --> 00:30:40,280
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm not gonna lie Rock had a mistress.

621
00:30:40,840 --> 00:30:44,320
Speaker 1: How was she fail? I ain't gonna hold you. I

622
00:30:45,880 --> 00:30:47,920
Speaker 1: ain't gonna hold you. I just have the opportunity to

623
00:30:47,920 --> 00:30:51,680
Speaker 1: fuck somebody that. I was like, Wow, I wish you

624
00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:53,360
Speaker 1: offered Jo Dick to me ten years ago because I

625
00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:58,440
Speaker 1: would have done it for the plot. But but now

626
00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:00,280
Speaker 1: I'm not just fucking people because of who they are.

627
00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:04,120
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna tell you no, I'm gonna tell

628
00:31:04,160 --> 00:31:09,360
Speaker 1: you in the chat. Yeah, like no, not doing it,

629
00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:10,520
Speaker 1: not even.

630
00:31:10,440 --> 00:31:11,320
Speaker 2: For the plot.

631
00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:14,960
Speaker 1: Wasn't gonna do it? Yeah, I know, I have your

632
00:31:15,040 --> 00:31:19,280
Speaker 1: first it would have been. But I was like, wait,

633
00:31:19,280 --> 00:31:22,520
Speaker 1: oh oh you didn't. No, I didn't. I didn't do it.

634
00:31:22,640 --> 00:31:26,640
Speaker 1: I didn't do it, And so I was like, ten

635
00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:30,880
Speaker 1: years ago I would have I would have done it

636
00:31:31,600 --> 00:31:37,320
Speaker 1: just because yeah, no, I just five nine. That's why

637
00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:40,880
Speaker 1: you Yeah, no, he's not you love giving details about

638
00:31:41,240 --> 00:31:44,040
Speaker 1: I can't give details for ship, but you love Nigga

639
00:31:44,120 --> 00:31:47,560
Speaker 1: got to see here and no way they gonna get

640
00:31:47,560 --> 00:31:48,200
Speaker 1: that one, Mandy.

641
00:31:48,280 --> 00:31:49,360
Speaker 2: Ain't you know what I mean?

642
00:31:49,560 --> 00:31:55,200
Speaker 1: Because majority of the country is five nine. Anyways, My

643
00:31:55,320 --> 00:31:57,640
Speaker 1: advice to you is to really sit with yourself and

644
00:31:57,640 --> 00:32:00,840
Speaker 1: what your boundaries are. If you're not happy, to be happy.

645
00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:02,400
Speaker 1: And I would never tell anyone to stay in a

646
00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:07,720
Speaker 1: relationship where they could just grow resentment for literally, uh

647
00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:12,480
Speaker 1: a mistake or situation that literally cannot be changed. That

648
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:16,000
Speaker 1: baby cannot go back into that woman pussy and just

649
00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:20,000
Speaker 1: be poofed gone. The baby is here, so you either

650
00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:23,400
Speaker 1: find a way to be okay with this situation or

651
00:32:23,440 --> 00:32:24,160
Speaker 1: get the hell out of that.

652
00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:26,520
Speaker 3: One thing that I do know is that he didn't

653
00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:28,959
Speaker 3: respect you enough to wrap it the fuck up, and

654
00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:29,960
Speaker 3: he may should have.

655
00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:33,440
Speaker 1: Been wrapping it you again, he should have been wrapping

656
00:32:33,440 --> 00:32:37,440
Speaker 1: it up. Anyways, if you want to get our unofficial

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