Speaker 1: If you shut down your partner's opinions, you're not creating
Speaker 1: a safe, vulnerable space for you to connect. People think
Speaker 1: if I agree with my partner, then we go deeper.
Speaker 1: That's not true, But don't also try and disagree. Listen,
Speaker 1: let them express, and instead of jumping to your conclusion
Speaker 1: to defend your point of view, asked, why do you
Speaker 1: feel that way? Where did that thought process come from?
Speaker 1: How do you think we could avoid that? Could? I
Speaker 1: ask you if you could ever see that differently? These
Speaker 1: are great questions. Hey, everyone, welcome back to our Purpose,
Speaker 1: the number one health podcast in the world. Thanks to
Speaker 1: each and every single one of you that come back
Speaker 1: every week to listen, learn and grow. Now. I know
Speaker 1: that you want to build deeper, more powerful, more fulfilling relationships,
Speaker 1: but it's not always easy and it can be really
Speaker 1: truly challenging. There can be so many new issues, new discoveries,
Speaker 1: old trauma, old baggage that comes into a relationship that
Speaker 1: can affect it at any point at any time. And
Speaker 1: today I want to discuss the methods to improve intimacy,
Speaker 1: to stop a relationship from getting boring or breaking. It's
Speaker 1: so often, isn't it that a relationship in the beginning
Speaker 1: is full of sparks, it's full of excitement, it's full
Speaker 1: of that chemistry. We feel that attraction, we feel that
Speaker 1: positive flow of energy, and then a couple of years later,
Speaker 1: and a couple of years after that, we forget that
Speaker 1: that even existed. And maybe now there's someone else that
Speaker 1: we're feeling a bit of attraction or chemistry towards. Maybe
Speaker 1: we're not, maybe we're not feeling it at all, and
Speaker 1: we want it back with this person. Here's the thing.
Speaker 1: If you're at breaking point, or you're at boredom, or
Speaker 1: you want to learn how to build intimacy, this episode
Speaker 1: is for you. Those are the three things that we experience.
Speaker 1: You either need to learn how to build intimacy, or
Speaker 1: you're bored and therefore you need to know how to
Speaker 1: build intimacy, or you're at breaking point and you need
Speaker 1: to see whether there's any intimacy at all. Now I'm
Speaker 1: going to read the Dictionary definition of intimacy, because I
Speaker 1: think even these words need to be better defined. You
Speaker 1: can hear me googling away to check it for you.
Speaker 1: Intimacy means close familiarity or friendship closeness. Now, when you
Speaker 1: hear that you think, actually, familiarity is the thing that
Speaker 1: makes relationships boring. It's actually what causes the issue. So
Speaker 1: what is the difference between intimacy and familiarity. Intimacy is
Speaker 1: the feeling of closeness. Familiarity is being close, right, There's
Speaker 1: a difference between being close and the feeling of closeness.
Speaker 1: You can be physically close to someone. You can live
Speaker 1: in the same home or apartment. You can have a
Speaker 1: close proximity to another human being. Proximity can equal familiarity,
Speaker 1: but proximity does not equal a feeling of closeness. For example,
Speaker 1: you can even live next door to someone, but just
Speaker 1: because you live next door to them doesn't mean you
Speaker 1: feel close to them. Just because you live in the
Speaker 1: same house as someone else does not mean you feel
Speaker 1: close to them. We want to feel close to the
Speaker 1: people that were close to We don't only want to
Speaker 1: be close to them. Isn't that true? Isn't that the case.
Speaker 1: You don't just want to be close to someone, You
Speaker 1: want to feel close to someone. You want them to
Speaker 1: feel close to you as well. How do we deepen
Speaker 1: our closeness with the people we want to have long
Speaker 1: lasting relationships with? That's what this episode is dedicated to.
Speaker 1: The first principle is if you want to feel close
Speaker 1: to someone, you have to disclose more of yourself. We
Speaker 1: feel closer to people when we allow them to get
Speaker 1: closer to the real us. The Japanese say that we
Speaker 1: have three faces. The first you show to the world,
Speaker 1: the second you show to your close friends and your family.
Speaker 1: The third is the one you never show to anyone,
Speaker 1: and it's the truest reflection of who you are. Now.
Speaker 1: Whether you think this is true or not, what it
Speaker 1: shows us is that there are multiple identities in a relationship,
Speaker 1: and studies show that as we become more vulnerable with people,
Speaker 1: the closer they feel to us and the closer we
Speaker 1: feel to them. This is why you don't tell your
Speaker 1: life story to a stranger or someone you've just met. Right.
Speaker 1: You don't tell your life story just because you find
Speaker 1: someone interesting and attractive. We are careful about when we
Speaker 1: disclose information about our lives. But if you're in a
Speaker 1: place in your life where you're starting to recognize that
Speaker 1: the intimacy is waning and the intimacy is becoming weaker,
Speaker 1: chances are that you're not sharing your innermost deeper thoughts
Speaker 1: and ideas with that person. Now, why does that happen
Speaker 1: in a relationship? Often because we think, well, I haven't
Speaker 1: had any newer thoughts, so I haven't had any deeper ideas.
Speaker 1: And why is that? Because we haven't spent time with
Speaker 1: developing ourselves. We haven't invested in ourselves. If we're always growing,
Speaker 1: we always have something to amazing to share. I realize
Speaker 1: this when I've been reading, when I've been learning, I
Speaker 1: have so much to share. I have so many stories
Speaker 1: to tell. But when I'm not doing that personal inner work,
Speaker 1: I might start to think that I'm boring. I might
Speaker 1: start to think I have nothing to share. I might
Speaker 1: start to think that life is the same. And so
Speaker 1: this is a reflection that's saying, if you're growing, you're
Speaker 1: going to feel like you can help your partnership grow.
Speaker 1: You will have more to be intimate about, you will
Speaker 1: have more to be vulnerable with, because if you're not growing,
Speaker 1: then you're not able to help your partner learn more
Speaker 1: about you. So I want you to really consider that
Speaker 1: as the first point today, that we need to disclose
Speaker 1: more about ourselves. But if you're three four years in,
Speaker 1: you may say, well, we know a lot about each other.
Speaker 1: But it's your responsibility to educate your partner or more
Speaker 1: about you, and there will only be more about you
Speaker 1: when you invest more in yourself. Right. And the important
Speaker 1: thing about this principle is that you have to make
Speaker 1: time to do the inner work and time to share
Speaker 1: these moments. Right. If we don't make time to really
Speaker 1: express what we're going through and what we're experiencing, it's
Speaker 1: really difficult. I know a lot of couples who say, well,
Speaker 1: we have nothing in common. If we sat together at dinner,
Speaker 1: then we'd have nothing to talk about. This is what
Speaker 1: you talk about. We think that, oh, don't be too deep,
Speaker 1: let's just have fun. That's what helps us bond. Vulnerability
Speaker 1: and intimacy go hand in hand. When we disclose more,
Speaker 1: when we're more vulnerable, when we share more, that's what
Speaker 1: deepens our bond. Do not think of it as something
Speaker 1: as like, oh, this is getting too close, this is
Speaker 1: too serious. Now. This is what creates depth. Now. The
Speaker 1: second principle, which is really huge, is about doing something
Speaker 1: fresh together right. You will never have a reset or
Speaker 1: refresh in a relationship if you keep doing the same
Speaker 1: old thing again and again and again. Everyone has their
Speaker 1: typical date night, dinner in a movie, or hang out
Speaker 1: with friends by Netflix and chill. The more you repeat
Speaker 1: the same old activity, your intimacy weakens. Your intimacy does
Speaker 1: not strengthen because you're doing the same thing, learning the
Speaker 1: same thing about your partner. The reason why doing new
Speaker 1: things is important is because in that new you learn
Speaker 1: something new about your partner. Now, this is very key
Speaker 1: that neither of you can be a row. It's not
Speaker 1: like saying, hey, I love crypto, come with me to
Speaker 1: a crypto conference. No, you both need to be novices
Speaker 1: in the area. When you're both novices, it's equal ground.
Speaker 1: The challenge with relationships and why we don't build intimacies
Speaker 1: because one of us says, oh, I already know that,
Speaker 1: I know how that works. You want to create a
Speaker 1: space where both of you feel, hey, I have no
Speaker 1: idea how this works. We're both going to learn something
Speaker 1: new today. We're both going to feel uncomfortable today, We're
Speaker 1: both going to need each other today, We're both going
Speaker 1: to rely on each other today. All of a sudden,
Speaker 1: intimacy starts to build. Right, Intimacy starts to build because
Speaker 1: now we're genuinely exposing ourselves to each other. So now
Speaker 1: we're learning new things about ourselves. That's why when you're
Speaker 1: on whether it's a first date or a hundredth date,
Speaker 1: doing something new together is highly effective because you actually
Speaker 1: get to see the other person in action. Step number three.
Speaker 1: Step number three is take on a project together. If
Speaker 1: you're losing intimacy, it's because your lives are completely separate. Now,
Speaker 1: there are three relationships in a relationship. There's the relationship
Speaker 1: that person has with themselves and their purpose. There's a
Speaker 1: relationship you have with yourself and your purpose, and then
Speaker 1: you have a relationship together. And often none of these
Speaker 1: are prioritized and none of them have a goal. We
Speaker 1: believe our relationship with each other is we watch shows
Speaker 1: together and we're committed together. That person has their job,
Speaker 1: I have my job, and that's it. But you have
Speaker 1: to take on a project together. Right, When you take
Speaker 1: a project together, you deepen your intimacy and you deepen
Speaker 1: your commitment. Now, there's something really interesting that I read
Speaker 1: in a brilliant study, and it was talking about how
Speaker 1: when there's a marriage between these two individuals and it
Speaker 1: was stagnating. So what they decided to do as a
Speaker 1: family was to create a project of a year long
Speaker 1: sailing trip in the Caribbean. And as they started to
Speaker 1: plan this really long, crazy trip, they actually felt closer
Speaker 1: because of it. They had to plan a routine to
Speaker 1: spend time together to develop the idea, They had to
Speaker 1: schedule proper quality discussions and brainstorms. They now got to
Speaker 1: see the creativity of each other. So often you have
Speaker 1: to invent a fake project, a project that you're building
Speaker 1: towards that you both can commit to that helps you
Speaker 1: understand each other better. And often we need something external
Speaker 1: to pull us there, to drive us there. Right, it
Speaker 1: doesn't have to be something that's hugely meaningful. It could
Speaker 1: be saying, let's plan our vacation together this year, right,
Speaker 1: let's schedule time every week to do this, to really
Speaker 1: hear about our likes and what's going to make it amazing.
Speaker 1: When you take on a project together, you naturally build
Speaker 1: intimacy and connection, and for me, projects are a really
Speaker 1: beautiful way because it's bringing a goal in together. If
Speaker 1: you notice relationships lose or never have goals when you
Speaker 1: first get together, the goal maybe well, let's figure out
Speaker 1: if we're right for each other. Okay, now we figured
Speaker 1: out we're right for each other. The goal is, okay,
Speaker 1: should we move in together? Okay, we're moving in together,
Speaker 1: all right, whether we get married or not. Let's say
Speaker 1: we get married or we don't get married, we're out together.
Speaker 1: The goal stop. Okay, maybe the goal is to start
Speaker 1: a family. But then once we have kids and we're
Speaker 1: raising them, where does the goal go? And the goalpost
Speaker 1: just get lost. A project gives you a very tangible,
Speaker 1: short term goal or a long term goal that prioritizes
Speaker 1: and focuses your connection on something meaningful. Otherwise, you can
Speaker 1: often wonder why are we even together? Because we enjoy
Speaker 1: each other's company. Okay, sure, but what are we doing
Speaker 1: with that? For me? And these things have really been
Speaker 1: powerful for us. Before the pandemic, we used to do
Speaker 1: these events at our home where we would invite our
Speaker 1: closest friends and have these deep, beautiful meditations at our homes.
Speaker 1: They were so incredible and we cannot wait to start
Speaker 1: doing them again because they bonded our community. They built
Speaker 1: us the most beautiful community that we have here in
Speaker 1: La because of those events. Now, those events gave our
Speaker 1: relationship purpose because we both deeply value meditation and well
Speaker 1: being and spirituality, and those events allowed us to serve
Speaker 1: our friends together. So rather would be planning the menu
Speaker 1: and the decor and design, I'd be doing the guest list,
Speaker 1: the invite and making sure that all the logistics were planned,
Speaker 1: and it would be such a fun thing to do together.
Speaker 1: We used to do around three per year, and I'd
Speaker 1: be thinking about the musicians that we'd invite, and just
Speaker 1: doing that together brought so much joy and there was
Speaker 1: such a sense of accomplishment. After the event would be over,
Speaker 1: and after the evening was over, we'd feel so deeply
Speaker 1: joyful and grateful that that was something we achieved together.
Speaker 1: And I think this is really critical that as a
Speaker 1: couple in a relationship, we have to achieve things together.
Speaker 1: We may be achieving things in our personal life and
Speaker 1: our private life and our own careers. What are we
Speaker 1: achieving together? What are we breaking through together? And it
Speaker 1: doesn't have to be huge like os wasn't awards. It
Speaker 1: was an event and that escalated and scaled as we
Speaker 1: started to do more together where we decided we wanted
Speaker 1: to do Sarma, and Sarma came very late in our life.
Speaker 1: Our tea company, Sarma was you know, after five years
Speaker 1: of being married that it came into our lives. But
Speaker 1: when I think about how it all started, it started
Speaker 1: with these well being based events where we would serve tea,
Speaker 1: where we would serve food. And so you never know
Speaker 1: where something's going to go, You never know how something's
Speaker 1: going to grow. But it's a really, really powerful thing
Speaker 1: for you to think about. The next principle is you
Speaker 1: have to make sure that you're creating a sanctuary, safe
Speaker 1: space for your partner to truly be honest with you.
Speaker 1: We often say we want honest communication. We often say
Speaker 1: that I really truly want to be able to have
Speaker 1: real conversations with you. But then when our partner says
Speaker 1: something that may be true but it triggers us, we
Speaker 1: retaliate say no, no, no, I don't want to hear that. No,
Speaker 1: why do you think that right? Why is that your
Speaker 1: opinion that I don't like the way you think? And
Speaker 1: I see this more often than not in relationships. I
Speaker 1: was with a couple the other day and one of
Speaker 1: the partners told me that whenever they talk about this
Speaker 1: to their partner, their partner just judges them. And what
Speaker 1: that does is that judgment makes them more quiet, It
Speaker 1: makes them less vulnerable, it makes them less honest. It's
Speaker 1: not that it makes them dishonest, it just makes them
Speaker 1: disclose less. And I wonder how many of us have
Speaker 1: stopped disclosing things in our relationships because we feel judged
Speaker 1: because of how we feel. We feel that our opinions
Speaker 1: are not appreciated, or that our partner can't even entertain
Speaker 1: our opinion. And this is something that I find fascinating
Speaker 1: that if you love someone, or if you're trying to
Speaker 1: love someone, or you're investing in a relationship with someone,
Speaker 1: be open to give their opinions an opportunity, Be open
Speaker 1: enough to give their opinions an opportunity. If you shut
Speaker 1: down your partner's opinions, you are not creating a safe,
Speaker 1: vulnerable space for you to connect. You don't have to
Speaker 1: agree to connect, you don't have to disagree. That definitely
Speaker 1: leads to disconnect. People think, if I agree with my partner,
Speaker 1: then we go deeper. If they agree with me, we
Speaker 1: go deeper. That's not true. But don't also try and disagree. Listen,
Speaker 1: allow let them express why do they feel that way?
Speaker 1: And instead of jumping to your conclusion to defend your
Speaker 1: point of view, ask why do you feel that way?
Speaker 1: Where did that thought process come from. How do you
Speaker 1: think we could avoid that? Could? I ask you if
Speaker 1: you could ever see that differently? These are great questions,
Speaker 1: whereas so often in our relationships we just say, well
Speaker 1: I disagree with that. No, no, no, that's not true.
Speaker 1: Stop talking to your friends about that. How many times
Speaker 1: have you ever been in this situation? More often than not,
Speaker 1: I'm sure, And it's something to pay attention to because
Speaker 1: often not disclosing information or not creating a space a
Speaker 1: closeness to disclose information can lead to disconnection. I want
Speaker 1: to share with you the biggest news of the year.
Speaker 1: How many of you want to meditate? I can see
Speaker 1: your heads nodding, I can see you raising your hands.
Speaker 1: I can see you saying, yes, Jay, I really want
Speaker 1: to learn to meditate. How many of you would like
Speaker 1: to learn to meditate with me? Every single day? Now,
Speaker 1: I already know what the answer is because I know
Speaker 1: how many messages DMS reviews notes that I get saying Jay,
Speaker 1: I'd love to meditate with you. Last year, we took
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Speaker 1: Calm dot com Forward slash J. One thing about intimacy
Speaker 1: is it is created by expressing gratitude with vulnerability too.
Speaker 1: So just as we need a space where we can
Speaker 1: be honest about what we want our partner to improve
Speaker 1: or something we're struggling with, we also need an opportunity
Speaker 1: for our partner to know what we love about them.
Speaker 1: And often when not that clear about what we love
Speaker 1: about them because we assume that they should know, or
Speaker 1: we don't want to be cheesy, or we don't want
Speaker 1: to be predictable, or we think it just sounds like
Speaker 1: you know, we think it just sounds soft, and often
Speaker 1: that's the case. Often the cases we stop expressing gratitude
Speaker 1: or noticing the beauty and what our partner does, says,
Speaker 1: or achieves. And maybe we wait to birthdays, maybe we
Speaker 1: wait to Valentine's Day. But what if we didn't wait
Speaker 1: for any of those days? Right? What if we didn't
Speaker 1: wait for any of those days? And what if we
Speaker 1: were able to do it immediately? What if we were
Speaker 1: able to do it in the moment? And you may
Speaker 1: be thinking, well, would I thank them every day for
Speaker 1: cooking for me? And I'd say why not? And you
Speaker 1: may say, should I thank my partner every day for
Speaker 1: moving the car so that I could leave on time?
Speaker 1: Why not? Should you thank your partner every day for
Speaker 1: preparing your tea or coffee? Why not? Why would we
Speaker 1: not take that opportunity? Because I tell you what, the
Speaker 1: effort it takes to express that gratitude is nothing compared
Speaker 1: to the regret we face if we never got to
Speaker 1: say it again? Right, when you look at things in
Speaker 1: that context, and I'm not trying to be dark or morbid,
Speaker 1: I'm just being honest. When you look at things with
Speaker 1: the context of wouldn't I want them to know if
Speaker 1: I lost someone, wouldn't I want them to know today
Speaker 1: how I felt? Or would I been okay that I
Speaker 1: told them last week, or would I have been okay
Speaker 1: that I told them last month? And you may say, well, yeah,
Speaker 1: you can't live life like that, and I would say,
Speaker 1: well why not, Because I've noticed that when we notice
Speaker 1: more things about our partners, more often, not only are
Speaker 1: we reminded of how amazing and incredible they are, they
Speaker 1: are reminded of how amazing and incredible they are, which
Speaker 1: rewards our relationship exponentially. It rewards our relationship exponentially. It's
Speaker 1: absolutely incredible, actually, to be honest, how much compliments and
Speaker 1: genuine acts of service can make such a big difference
Speaker 1: in relationships. Now, I want you to think about your
Speaker 1: intimacy and your growth. If you ended up feeling bored
Speaker 1: or you feel you're at that verge of things breaking apart,
Speaker 1: chances are it's because you haven't watered the tree for
Speaker 1: a while. You haven't watered the plant. There's a beautiful thought,
Speaker 1: an idea which is often accredited to the Buddha, where
Speaker 1: the question is asked, what's the difference between I like
Speaker 1: you and I love you? And the Buddha replies, when
Speaker 1: you like a flower, you just pluck it, maybe you
Speaker 1: smell it. But when you love a flower, you water
Speaker 1: it daily. If we stop watering the flower of our relationship,
Speaker 1: the plant of our relationship, the tree of our relationship,
Speaker 1: it stops growing, and most of us stop watering it
Speaker 1: as soon as we have it. It's almost like saying,
Speaker 1: as soon as I have the flower, as soon as
Speaker 1: the flower grows, we're going to stop watering it, because
Speaker 1: the flowers grown now. But what happens The flower starts
Speaker 1: to wild, everything starts to fall apart, starts to die.
Speaker 1: If your relationship is dying, it's not because the person
Speaker 1: was wrong. It's not because you did made the wrong decision.
Speaker 1: It's because we stopped watering it. And guess what the
Speaker 1: same thing is going to happen. You may say, well,
Speaker 1: why don't I just buy a new plant? Right? How
Speaker 1: many times have you ever had a plant? How many
Speaker 1: of you are not good with plants? Be honest, I'm
Speaker 1: putting my hand up right now, right and your plant
Speaker 1: dies and you say, all right, well, let's just buy
Speaker 1: another one. And then you have someone going, well, no,
Speaker 1: let's revive it, right, that's the mentality. Do you want
Speaker 1: to revive this plant or do you want to move on?
Speaker 1: But guess what if you move on. You're gonna have
Speaker 1: to learn to water that plant every day too, So
Speaker 1: are you just throwing this away because you don't want
Speaker 1: to make the effort? And that's why the real question
Speaker 1: in a relationship is do I want to learn with
Speaker 1: this person? And do I want to grow with this person? Right?
Speaker 1: That's how you create intimacy, is that you choose learning
Speaker 1: and growth together. You're going to have to learn and
Speaker 1: grow with someone. Everyone is going to demand you to
Speaker 1: learn and grow in a certain way. The question is
Speaker 1: do I want to learn and grow with this person?
Speaker 1: Am I just copying out by saying let's just buy
Speaker 1: another plant because it's easier. But guess what, I'm going
Speaker 1: to stop watering that plant when it has a fruit
Speaker 1: or a flower. I hope that analogy makes sense. I
Speaker 1: hope that connects with you and resonates with you what
Speaker 1: I'm trying to explain there. So I want you to
Speaker 1: try these elements out for intimacy and there are ways
Speaker 1: in which to create that intimacy quicker. And they're called
Speaker 1: the five ease experiences, experiments, education, events, and entertainment. So
Speaker 1: let's start with experiments. You have to experiment together more.
Speaker 1: Maybe you're going to go to an escape room. Maybe
Speaker 1: you're going to experiment with a tasting session. Maybe you're
Speaker 1: going to experiment with trying out something new or experiences.
Speaker 1: Experiences make sense right, like are you going to experience
Speaker 1: a new city? Are you going to experience a city
Speaker 1: by night? Are you going to experience a new country,
Speaker 1: a new culture, a new cuisine? What are you going
Speaker 1: to experience together? That's new. Events are really important. When
Speaker 1: was the last time you went to an event together?
Speaker 1: A new event together, something you could discuss. That's what
Speaker 1: an event is, so you can share the event and
Speaker 1: then share your reviews with each other. Education, When was
Speaker 1: the last time you took a course together, a workshop together,
Speaker 1: a class together? And when was the last time, of course,
Speaker 1: you chose entertainment Like notice our entertainment, which is TV music.
Speaker 1: That is one fifth of what creates intimacy, and most
Speaker 1: of us that's the majority of how we try and
Speaker 1: build intimacy with our parnor let's switch on a show.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying don't do that. I'm just saying there
Speaker 1: are four other ways this weekend. I want you to
Speaker 1: think about one of those other ways and try it out.
Speaker 1: I want to thank you so much for listening to
Speaker 1: on purpose. I hope that you'll share this episode with
Speaker 1: a friend who needs to hear it. I cannot wait
Speaker 1: to hear your insights. Make sure you tag me on Instagram,
Speaker 1: on Twitter, on every platform, and I'll see you again
Speaker 1: next week. Thank you so much for listening, and I
Speaker 1: just want to take a moment. Actually, I'm going to
Speaker 1: do this because you're all incredible. I read some amazing
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