1 00:00:02,880 --> 00:00:13,440 Speaker 1: This is Teddy Teapod with guys. I am so excited 2 00:00:13,520 --> 00:00:16,760 Speaker 1: to have Jillian Michaels on teapod today. We have a 3 00:00:16,880 --> 00:00:21,200 Speaker 1: lot to dig into. As you know, Jillian has committed 4 00:00:21,200 --> 00:00:23,599 Speaker 1: her life to helping people be the best versions of 5 00:00:23,680 --> 00:00:27,800 Speaker 1: themselves and live their happiest and healthiest lives. Well, thank 6 00:00:27,840 --> 00:00:33,520 Speaker 1: you for joining us on Teddy Teapod this week. I 7 00:00:33,520 --> 00:00:35,640 Speaker 1: had to you know, I appreciate you coming on to 8 00:00:35,680 --> 00:00:38,479 Speaker 1: have a conversation because I was like, am I funing 9 00:00:38,520 --> 00:00:43,680 Speaker 1: with someone? What is happening here? No, you're not. I like, 10 00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:47,279 Speaker 1: but I can't say anything anymore without it turning into that. 11 00:00:47,680 --> 00:00:50,320 Speaker 1: So I don't know if you actually like I went 12 00:00:50,440 --> 00:00:53,480 Speaker 1: back after like I read like the sixth Press article. 13 00:00:53,520 --> 00:00:55,240 Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, I need to go listen to what 14 00:00:55,360 --> 00:00:58,120 Speaker 1: she actually said. And you didn't say anything bad. I 15 00:00:58,200 --> 00:01:00,520 Speaker 1: was like, I don't know anything about your program, and 16 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:02,800 Speaker 1: and they're like, well, she's catching a lot of flak 17 00:01:02,880 --> 00:01:05,480 Speaker 1: for it, and I was like, okay, well is she 18 00:01:05,720 --> 00:01:07,480 Speaker 1: is she a trainer or a nutritious No? And I 19 00:01:07,520 --> 00:01:09,640 Speaker 1: was like, well there's the problem. And here's here's my 20 00:01:09,640 --> 00:01:11,720 Speaker 1: advice to you, honestly, because I actually don't know anything 21 00:01:11,880 --> 00:01:15,400 Speaker 1: about the program is that whenever I stepped like a 22 00:01:15,480 --> 00:01:17,280 Speaker 1: little bit out of my lane. And I do a lot. 23 00:01:17,360 --> 00:01:21,080 Speaker 1: I've written books about hormones, I've written books about pregnancy fitness. 24 00:01:21,280 --> 00:01:25,240 Speaker 1: I always because people come after me constantly, which I'm 25 00:01:25,240 --> 00:01:28,520 Speaker 1: sure you're used to, I always get like the foremost 26 00:01:28,600 --> 00:01:31,680 Speaker 1: experts in the space so that I can basically be like, 27 00:01:31,880 --> 00:01:33,920 Speaker 1: do which is what I did. You and I have 28 00:01:33,959 --> 00:01:38,720 Speaker 1: the same certification, though they said you had no certification. 29 00:01:39,520 --> 00:01:43,240 Speaker 1: My point that is what these podcasters do in order 30 00:01:43,280 --> 00:01:45,839 Speaker 1: to get click bay so that then press will pick 31 00:01:45,959 --> 00:01:49,440 Speaker 1: up the situation. So both people you spoke about have 32 00:01:49,680 --> 00:01:53,080 Speaker 1: them and and you know that being said, some of 33 00:01:53,120 --> 00:01:57,360 Speaker 1: my coaches don't. It's all about lived experience. But in 34 00:01:57,400 --> 00:02:01,640 Speaker 1: that same token, I go to watch workout videos online, 35 00:02:01,840 --> 00:02:05,800 Speaker 1: sometimes by people that aren't trainers, but I love their workouts, 36 00:02:05,920 --> 00:02:08,400 Speaker 1: you know. So I was just cracking up because I'm like, 37 00:02:08,639 --> 00:02:11,800 Speaker 1: people don't even do their research. They just want clickbait, 38 00:02:11,919 --> 00:02:14,760 Speaker 1: and then they want people to feel like on edge 39 00:02:14,800 --> 00:02:16,440 Speaker 1: with other people, and I'm like, no, I need to 40 00:02:16,480 --> 00:02:19,480 Speaker 1: talk to her directly. I literally was like, I know 41 00:02:19,600 --> 00:02:21,840 Speaker 1: nothing about the program, so I can't comment about it 42 00:02:21,960 --> 00:02:24,480 Speaker 1: because because I just you know, I mean, when you 43 00:02:24,560 --> 00:02:28,760 Speaker 1: sort of know or when you know about nutrition and fitness, 44 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:31,200 Speaker 1: you don't need to look into other programs because you 45 00:02:31,200 --> 00:02:33,840 Speaker 1: know the science of there's nothing to learn for me there, 46 00:02:34,560 --> 00:02:36,640 Speaker 1: you know. When it comes to food, I'm looking at 47 00:02:36,680 --> 00:02:38,760 Speaker 1: like what foods are gonna boost my stem cells to 48 00:02:38,840 --> 00:02:42,280 Speaker 1: keep me younger for longer. That's the stuff that I'm 49 00:02:42,440 --> 00:02:46,120 Speaker 1: actively trying to learn about. But I was like, no, 50 00:02:46,160 --> 00:02:48,240 Speaker 1: I know nothing about it. And then they were like, well, 51 00:02:48,280 --> 00:02:51,040 Speaker 1: she's catching a ton of plaque. And I'm said, is 52 00:02:51,040 --> 00:02:53,360 Speaker 1: she a trainer or is she sort of fin nutritions? 53 00:02:53,400 --> 00:02:56,040 Speaker 1: They were like, no, she has no credentials. And then 54 00:02:56,040 --> 00:02:58,160 Speaker 1: I was like, well, then that's going to be your problem. 55 00:02:58,200 --> 00:02:59,760 Speaker 1: If you step out of your lane. You know, you 56 00:02:59,840 --> 00:03:01,800 Speaker 1: got to make sure you back it up with the 57 00:03:01,919 --> 00:03:05,200 Speaker 1: right professionals. So I was told you weren't. I to 58 00:03:05,320 --> 00:03:07,320 Speaker 1: this day don't know anything about the program and have 59 00:03:07,360 --> 00:03:10,919 Speaker 1: no critiques of it, and I'm sure it's perfectly sound. 60 00:03:11,280 --> 00:03:13,840 Speaker 1: And listening to so much of the things that you've 61 00:03:13,880 --> 00:03:15,760 Speaker 1: done and said and written throughout the years, I have 62 00:03:15,840 --> 00:03:17,920 Speaker 1: so much respect for you. I think a lot of 63 00:03:17,919 --> 00:03:20,799 Speaker 1: what we talk about the lines and I was like, 64 00:03:21,120 --> 00:03:22,800 Speaker 1: I really just want to talk to her, because one, 65 00:03:22,840 --> 00:03:26,280 Speaker 1: I admire you. I think you're a lot of the 66 00:03:26,280 --> 00:03:29,519 Speaker 1: things that you have said, I'm like, that is exactly 67 00:03:29,560 --> 00:03:31,919 Speaker 1: how I feel. I don't know if you know like 68 00:03:32,000 --> 00:03:35,720 Speaker 1: the history of me, but at all, probably not. I 69 00:03:35,760 --> 00:03:38,000 Speaker 1: do know a little. And this isn't because I'm like 70 00:03:38,080 --> 00:03:41,120 Speaker 1: too cool for school the the actual because I hate 71 00:03:41,120 --> 00:03:43,000 Speaker 1: when people come up to me and I am not 72 00:03:43,120 --> 00:03:45,480 Speaker 1: that person because I know I know who you are, 73 00:03:45,800 --> 00:03:49,000 Speaker 1: but they'll be like, yeah, I don't watch TV, and 74 00:03:49,000 --> 00:03:51,440 Speaker 1: you're like really, uh, you know, and it's like this 75 00:03:51,480 --> 00:03:54,000 Speaker 1: way of putting somebody down or acting like you're too 76 00:03:54,040 --> 00:03:56,240 Speaker 1: cool for it. It's not that I'm I'm too cool 77 00:03:56,320 --> 00:04:00,320 Speaker 1: for it. I just genuinely and sometimes it's been out 78 00:04:00,320 --> 00:04:02,880 Speaker 1: of the loop. So I do know who you are 79 00:04:02,920 --> 00:04:05,520 Speaker 1: and I and then my my girlfriend is actually a 80 00:04:05,600 --> 00:04:07,320 Speaker 1: huge fan, and she was like, oh babe, she had 81 00:04:07,560 --> 00:04:08,880 Speaker 1: I hope I'm not getting this strong. She's like she 82 00:04:08,920 --> 00:04:11,240 Speaker 1: had her whole weight, lost journey and the whole thing. 83 00:04:11,320 --> 00:04:14,200 Speaker 1: So my girlfriend's like she's younger than me, so she's 84 00:04:14,240 --> 00:04:17,920 Speaker 1: a bit more with it on pop culture. Mind you, 85 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:21,239 Speaker 1: So I knew of you. I just didn't know about 86 00:04:21,240 --> 00:04:23,240 Speaker 1: your story. And then my girlfriend told me a little 87 00:04:23,279 --> 00:04:24,520 Speaker 1: and I was like, don't tell me anymore. I'm just 88 00:04:24,520 --> 00:04:26,120 Speaker 1: Gonna'm gonna talk to her and like get to know 89 00:04:26,200 --> 00:04:29,640 Speaker 1: her myself. Yeah, no, so I I of course I 90 00:04:29,640 --> 00:04:32,240 Speaker 1: don't care. The fact that you haven't watched me is 91 00:04:32,360 --> 00:04:38,040 Speaker 1: not something I take offense to. I literally only like, 92 00:04:38,240 --> 00:04:41,440 Speaker 1: I will only have time for like one show. You 93 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:45,719 Speaker 1: say it was The Undoing, Please did you want? I don't. 94 00:04:45,720 --> 00:04:47,760 Speaker 1: I don't like what is it? No? What is it? 95 00:04:47,839 --> 00:04:51,640 Speaker 1: I like, Yeah, it's with Nicole Kidman and Hugh Grabbed 96 00:04:51,880 --> 00:04:56,320 Speaker 1: and you need to watch it? Is it new? Six episodes? 97 00:04:56,600 --> 00:04:59,880 Speaker 1: You will not soon You're like, we're not feuding. I'm 98 00:04:59,880 --> 00:05:01,680 Speaker 1: a sessed with Teddy because she told me to like 99 00:05:02,360 --> 00:05:09,279 Speaker 1: not essentially my backstories, I you know, fluctuated await my 100 00:05:09,320 --> 00:05:12,799 Speaker 1: whole entire life. I went from you know, not eating 101 00:05:12,920 --> 00:05:15,080 Speaker 1: enough to eating way too much, and a lot of 102 00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:17,520 Speaker 1: it was lived experience, and after I went through struggles 103 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:22,039 Speaker 1: with IVF and miscarriages and you know, steroids and blood thinners, 104 00:05:22,080 --> 00:05:24,400 Speaker 1: and then you know, after I had my kids, I 105 00:05:24,440 --> 00:05:27,480 Speaker 1: completely lost myself. You know, I was looking to my 106 00:05:27,560 --> 00:05:30,000 Speaker 1: husband to validate me after you know, he'd get home 107 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:33,679 Speaker 1: from work every day and I just really felt like scared. 108 00:05:33,960 --> 00:05:35,599 Speaker 1: I was like, what am I doing with my life. 109 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:39,600 Speaker 1: I've you know, gained over eighty five pounds. I'm I'm alone, 110 00:05:39,640 --> 00:05:41,880 Speaker 1: I'm scared to be vulnerable. I've gotten to the place 111 00:05:41,920 --> 00:05:44,400 Speaker 1: where I'm not comfortable in my own skin. And so 112 00:05:44,440 --> 00:05:47,440 Speaker 1: when I originally started my journey, I hadn't done any 113 00:05:47,480 --> 00:05:49,720 Speaker 1: you know, research on anything. I just started on Instagram 114 00:05:49,720 --> 00:05:52,280 Speaker 1: and said I'm changing my life today. Follow along if 115 00:05:52,320 --> 00:05:56,320 Speaker 1: you're interested. And I blogged every day for sixty five days, 116 00:05:56,320 --> 00:05:59,599 Speaker 1: and people saw my transformation. And during that time, I 117 00:05:59,600 --> 00:06:02,200 Speaker 1: started learning about food and nutrition and how to be 118 00:06:02,279 --> 00:06:05,320 Speaker 1: a good influence on my family and on you know, 119 00:06:06,520 --> 00:06:08,800 Speaker 1: raising my kids in a home that I can say 120 00:06:08,839 --> 00:06:10,800 Speaker 1: like this makes sense, as opposed to the way like 121 00:06:10,880 --> 00:06:12,280 Speaker 1: I grew up where I was like, all right, I 122 00:06:12,360 --> 00:06:14,480 Speaker 1: have a diet dr Pepper and five string cheese and 123 00:06:14,520 --> 00:06:16,920 Speaker 1: I'm good to go. Oh my god, dude. I had 124 00:06:16,920 --> 00:06:20,159 Speaker 1: the same upbringing. I swear to it was like diet 125 00:06:20,279 --> 00:06:25,919 Speaker 1: sodas and like all white flower like that's all I knew. 126 00:06:26,120 --> 00:06:30,360 Speaker 1: So I really dove into like learning what works for 127 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:32,560 Speaker 1: my body and what does it and so much of 128 00:06:32,560 --> 00:06:36,640 Speaker 1: what you talked about about, just like lifestyle changes and 129 00:06:36,680 --> 00:06:39,440 Speaker 1: figuring out long term things that work for you is 130 00:06:39,480 --> 00:06:41,880 Speaker 1: really what all and is all about. And that's why 131 00:06:41,920 --> 00:06:44,640 Speaker 1: I was like, I completely think we need to have 132 00:06:44,680 --> 00:06:48,520 Speaker 1: this conversation. But like, to be honest with you, I 133 00:06:48,640 --> 00:06:51,799 Speaker 1: was extremely clear that I didn't even know anything about 134 00:06:51,800 --> 00:06:54,800 Speaker 1: the program and had nothing to bash. So I was 135 00:06:54,839 --> 00:06:57,680 Speaker 1: just told you were by these two kids that you 136 00:06:57,720 --> 00:07:01,279 Speaker 1: were catching a rash of. And that's when I was like, well, 137 00:07:01,400 --> 00:07:03,560 Speaker 1: you know, okay, does she have the ability to back 138 00:07:03,640 --> 00:07:07,200 Speaker 1: this up? So are you catching a rash for it? 139 00:07:07,760 --> 00:07:10,360 Speaker 1: So a couple of months ago, there's like a there's 140 00:07:10,400 --> 00:07:13,480 Speaker 1: a website and it's called doom Moa and it's like 141 00:07:13,640 --> 00:07:16,040 Speaker 1: post something I didn't I didn't know about it, but 142 00:07:16,040 --> 00:07:19,160 Speaker 1: it posts things like people having affairs. By the way, 143 00:07:19,200 --> 00:07:21,600 Speaker 1: they also said that I had sex with Chris Evans. 144 00:07:21,880 --> 00:07:27,520 Speaker 1: No press picked it up, none, I like texting my husband. 145 00:07:27,520 --> 00:07:32,320 Speaker 1: I'm like, why is no press picking this up? But 146 00:07:33,520 --> 00:07:36,800 Speaker 1: you know you like Captain America. Isn't that sounds like 147 00:07:37,080 --> 00:07:39,280 Speaker 1: I knew it? I was like, I have an eight 148 00:07:39,360 --> 00:07:41,520 Speaker 1: year old, so I think I actually I'm my mind 149 00:07:41,600 --> 00:07:43,800 Speaker 1: is like going through my roller backs. I'm not maturis 150 00:07:43,800 --> 00:07:49,080 Speaker 1: a superhero. Yeah yeah, yeah, gossip about different about different people. 151 00:07:49,120 --> 00:07:53,040 Speaker 1: And they had posted something about from one of my 152 00:07:53,200 --> 00:07:56,200 Speaker 1: former clients that that was a client in two thousand 153 00:07:56,240 --> 00:08:01,720 Speaker 1: sixteen that sent these messages about out me um. She 154 00:08:01,920 --> 00:08:04,880 Speaker 1: also sent me over two d direct messages since like, 155 00:08:04,920 --> 00:08:06,920 Speaker 1: you're the most beautiful girl in the world. I love you, 156 00:08:06,800 --> 00:08:08,600 Speaker 1: but you're so funny, you know, Like it was one 157 00:08:08,640 --> 00:08:11,840 Speaker 1: of those unhealthy situations from the beginning. And then there 158 00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:14,040 Speaker 1: was another influencer who I'm not even going to mention 159 00:08:14,080 --> 00:08:16,880 Speaker 1: her name I've never met in my life, who spent 160 00:08:17,120 --> 00:08:21,280 Speaker 1: you know, four to six weeks just bashing me and 161 00:08:21,360 --> 00:08:28,320 Speaker 1: gaining information without having any proper like proof or actually 162 00:08:28,360 --> 00:08:30,960 Speaker 1: asking to speak to me, and then just like went 163 00:08:31,040 --> 00:08:32,400 Speaker 1: for it. Went to the point where I had to 164 00:08:32,400 --> 00:08:34,680 Speaker 1: turn off commenting on my Instagram for like a couple 165 00:08:34,720 --> 00:08:37,520 Speaker 1: of weeks, and I just was like, I'm not going 166 00:08:37,600 --> 00:08:40,440 Speaker 1: to feed into this negative energy. I'm not gonna do it. 167 00:08:40,679 --> 00:08:43,040 Speaker 1: I'm gonna keep doing what I do. I believe in it. 168 00:08:43,360 --> 00:08:45,960 Speaker 1: My one of my programs evolved so much since two 169 00:08:45,960 --> 00:08:51,880 Speaker 1: thousands sixteen. But also it is something that like I 170 00:08:51,920 --> 00:08:54,880 Speaker 1: have to have facts on something before I can openly 171 00:08:55,080 --> 00:08:57,480 Speaker 1: like go for it the way that this person did. 172 00:08:57,880 --> 00:09:00,680 Speaker 1: And I was like, I can only you know, move 173 00:09:00,760 --> 00:09:03,840 Speaker 1: forward with what's right and keep talking about my program 174 00:09:03,880 --> 00:09:06,800 Speaker 1: and keep talking about what's changed over fifteen thousand lives 175 00:09:07,200 --> 00:09:09,679 Speaker 1: and that's and now thank god, I mean, we're back 176 00:09:09,720 --> 00:09:15,160 Speaker 1: to It didn't really other than my mental state, because 177 00:09:15,400 --> 00:09:18,120 Speaker 1: you know, it's hard to have somebody just going for 178 00:09:18,240 --> 00:09:22,199 Speaker 1: you going through what especially not used to that. It's different. 179 00:09:22,640 --> 00:09:25,240 Speaker 1: It was different on Housewives because like, I know what 180 00:09:25,280 --> 00:09:28,240 Speaker 1: I'm getting myself into on that. But when it comes 181 00:09:28,280 --> 00:09:31,000 Speaker 1: to this, like it's like my heart and soul and 182 00:09:31,240 --> 00:09:34,040 Speaker 1: everything that I care about and so much lived experience, 183 00:09:34,040 --> 00:09:38,080 Speaker 1: and like my main thing has been to help people. 184 00:09:38,440 --> 00:09:40,760 Speaker 1: So when somebody is saying you're doing everything you can 185 00:09:41,280 --> 00:09:44,720 Speaker 1: to hurt people, it broke my heart. Like yeah, but 186 00:09:44,880 --> 00:09:48,000 Speaker 1: that's what okay, But if you actually okay, so if 187 00:09:48,040 --> 00:09:53,000 Speaker 1: you actually listen to the interview where they were like you, 188 00:09:53,559 --> 00:09:56,760 Speaker 1: I know what I'm just saying. I'm saying what I 189 00:09:56,800 --> 00:10:00,120 Speaker 1: would not from me. I'm saying I was talking about 190 00:10:00,120 --> 00:10:03,440 Speaker 1: how haters come from me all the time. Because they 191 00:10:03,440 --> 00:10:05,040 Speaker 1: were saying, you you caught a ton of for it, 192 00:10:05,040 --> 00:10:08,320 Speaker 1: and I was like, I catch it all the time, 193 00:10:09,480 --> 00:10:13,400 Speaker 1: literally from every direction. I catch it. I catch it 194 00:10:13,440 --> 00:10:16,280 Speaker 1: from the keto people, I catch it from the vegan 195 00:10:16,559 --> 00:10:18,800 Speaker 1: Like god forbid. I'm like, well, you know that's not 196 00:10:18,880 --> 00:10:24,480 Speaker 1: optum all, it's like insane. I will catch no matter what. 197 00:10:24,640 --> 00:10:29,079 Speaker 1: And that's ay I expected, because that's the part where 198 00:10:29,200 --> 00:10:31,920 Speaker 1: I'm kind of surprised you actually don't, because if you 199 00:10:31,960 --> 00:10:35,680 Speaker 1: do have that modicum of success, right then people are 200 00:10:36,280 --> 00:10:37,800 Speaker 1: the king of the hill. They want to take you down, 201 00:10:37,960 --> 00:10:42,000 Speaker 1: they want to tear you apart. Unfortunately, that's our modern 202 00:10:42,040 --> 00:10:45,840 Speaker 1: culture is like oh, or you successful, hold on, We're 203 00:10:45,840 --> 00:10:48,200 Speaker 1: gonna get this far and then we're gonna tear you 204 00:10:48,240 --> 00:10:52,079 Speaker 1: to shreds. So for me, I'm always prepared to catch. 205 00:10:52,320 --> 00:10:56,280 Speaker 1: And that's why I catch it so often that my 206 00:10:56,400 --> 00:10:58,959 Speaker 1: second piece of advice was if ever I you know, 207 00:10:59,280 --> 00:11:01,600 Speaker 1: it's like, well, shed a pregnancy fitness video and she's 208 00:11:01,600 --> 00:11:03,839 Speaker 1: never been pregnant and she's not a COC certified, But 209 00:11:03,880 --> 00:11:07,320 Speaker 1: I will hire the best pregnancy fitness specialist who is 210 00:11:07,400 --> 00:11:10,280 Speaker 1: a COC certified, have her create the program with me, 211 00:11:10,400 --> 00:11:12,560 Speaker 1: have her onset, have her on the DVD so that 212 00:11:12,640 --> 00:11:15,520 Speaker 1: anybody who steps to me, I'm like, yeah, you fight 213 00:11:15,559 --> 00:11:19,199 Speaker 1: with this, and that's where I'm just kind of surprised 214 00:11:19,600 --> 00:11:23,800 Speaker 1: that you didn't expect this and anything as as a 215 00:11:23,920 --> 00:11:26,920 Speaker 1: peer and hopefully a new found friend. I would think 216 00:11:26,920 --> 00:11:28,560 Speaker 1: you might take it as a compliment and as like 217 00:11:28,559 --> 00:11:32,080 Speaker 1: a sign of being successful. It took. It took me 218 00:11:32,120 --> 00:11:34,600 Speaker 1: a little while to get there, like just being completely 219 00:11:34,640 --> 00:11:37,520 Speaker 1: honest and vulnerable. Like the first I mean a lot 220 00:11:37,600 --> 00:11:41,120 Speaker 1: happened in one week. You know, this all happened with her, 221 00:11:41,200 --> 00:11:43,760 Speaker 1: and then they didn't renew my contract with Housewives, and 222 00:11:43,800 --> 00:11:45,560 Speaker 1: that was the same week, and I was just like 223 00:11:46,040 --> 00:11:49,000 Speaker 1: in the pandemic and my daughter had just had neurosurgery 224 00:11:49,000 --> 00:11:52,559 Speaker 1: too much prior, Like I was a lot. So the 225 00:11:52,920 --> 00:11:55,240 Speaker 1: person happened and I was like, listen, I'm used to 226 00:11:55,320 --> 00:11:59,079 Speaker 1: catching flak for like my appearance or my voice, so 227 00:11:59,200 --> 00:12:00,960 Speaker 1: that I used my hands too much. Are all things 228 00:12:00,960 --> 00:12:05,079 Speaker 1: that personally attacked me I actually have come okay with, 229 00:12:05,400 --> 00:12:07,440 Speaker 1: But this was the first time it ever happened with 230 00:12:07,480 --> 00:12:10,600 Speaker 1: my business, which my husband was actually like, this is 231 00:12:10,600 --> 00:12:15,400 Speaker 1: a great thing to your global now. I'm like, you're 232 00:12:15,480 --> 00:12:19,439 Speaker 1: such a businessman, but I just never you know. What 233 00:12:19,520 --> 00:12:21,839 Speaker 1: I didn't like is that anybody that worked with me 234 00:12:21,960 --> 00:12:24,760 Speaker 1: or anything like that. They were getting starting to get bullied, 235 00:12:25,040 --> 00:12:27,440 Speaker 1: and I'm just so grateful that that stops. You know, 236 00:12:27,480 --> 00:12:28,960 Speaker 1: Like I had a nurse that worked for me, and 237 00:12:29,000 --> 00:12:32,160 Speaker 1: they started posting her name and doing these things, and 238 00:12:32,200 --> 00:12:36,280 Speaker 1: it's just like, guys, why are we in a place 239 00:12:36,360 --> 00:12:40,000 Speaker 1: where if we really thought that damage was being done, 240 00:12:40,640 --> 00:12:43,560 Speaker 1: wouldn't you maybe reach out to that person and you know, 241 00:12:44,240 --> 00:12:49,240 Speaker 1: talk to them versus. But it isn't about that, and 242 00:12:49,400 --> 00:12:52,880 Speaker 1: you know that, I know you know that it's about now. 243 00:12:53,840 --> 00:12:56,000 Speaker 1: It's like, I'll give you another example and that God forbid, 244 00:12:56,040 --> 00:12:58,040 Speaker 1: I don't need to name another name, so I'll try 245 00:12:58,080 --> 00:13:02,920 Speaker 1: to be somewhat vague. It years ago, Oh my god, 246 00:13:02,960 --> 00:13:06,800 Speaker 1: I stepped in a pile of this big and it 247 00:13:06,920 --> 00:13:09,880 Speaker 1: was my own fault. I was asked by Women's Health, 248 00:13:10,559 --> 00:13:12,600 Speaker 1: you know what I was, I going to have kids? 249 00:13:12,679 --> 00:13:15,000 Speaker 1: And I was like, I think I'm gonna adopt. And 250 00:13:15,040 --> 00:13:19,160 Speaker 1: I was super insecure about talking about endometriosis because I 251 00:13:19,160 --> 00:13:20,599 Speaker 1: thought like, oh, if people, you know, know that I 252 00:13:20,600 --> 00:13:22,400 Speaker 1: struggled with this, they won't believe that I'm actually good 253 00:13:22,400 --> 00:13:24,240 Speaker 1: at what I do. Because it's like, if you're so healthy, 254 00:13:24,280 --> 00:13:26,760 Speaker 1: you know, how could you have this? So I was like, oh, 255 00:13:26,800 --> 00:13:28,680 Speaker 1: you know, I just don't know if I if I 256 00:13:28,720 --> 00:13:30,400 Speaker 1: want to put my body through it. And I was 257 00:13:30,440 --> 00:13:33,840 Speaker 1: like comment, like what it would take to get pre anyway, 258 00:13:33,960 --> 00:13:36,839 Speaker 1: it was a huge thing. Jillian Michaels thinks pregnancy ruins body. 259 00:13:36,920 --> 00:13:39,920 Speaker 1: Jillian hates pregnant women, the whole thing. And there was 260 00:13:39,960 --> 00:13:43,880 Speaker 1: a fitness person who's has a degree of success, but 261 00:13:43,880 --> 00:13:46,640 Speaker 1: it wasn't overwhelmingly successful, and she was like she's a 262 00:13:46,640 --> 00:13:49,920 Speaker 1: monster and she's she's I don't know how to name 263 00:13:49,920 --> 00:13:52,640 Speaker 1: of w I was a phobic of pregnant women and 264 00:13:52,880 --> 00:13:54,880 Speaker 1: just went after me. But the whole goal was how 265 00:13:54,920 --> 00:13:57,640 Speaker 1: can I make a name for myself by attacking Jill 266 00:13:57,960 --> 00:13:59,679 Speaker 1: because she's the biggest name in the space. And that's 267 00:13:59,679 --> 00:14:02,520 Speaker 1: basic me. What you're going through. It sounds like I 268 00:14:02,559 --> 00:14:05,040 Speaker 1: mean and and thankfully I think it's past me. I 269 00:14:05,080 --> 00:14:07,360 Speaker 1: don't know, I like just kind of pushed it to 270 00:14:07,400 --> 00:14:09,439 Speaker 1: the side and I'm not even looking at it because 271 00:14:09,720 --> 00:14:12,080 Speaker 1: business is good, life is good, and I'm just trying 272 00:14:12,120 --> 00:14:14,560 Speaker 1: to focus on, you know, growing and learning and the 273 00:14:14,640 --> 00:14:17,040 Speaker 1: next thing. But the crazy that you say that the 274 00:14:17,080 --> 00:14:20,160 Speaker 1: same thing happened to me was something I said about pregnancy, 275 00:14:20,560 --> 00:14:27,080 Speaker 1: like I I cannot wait, So I wasn't. When I 276 00:14:27,120 --> 00:14:32,560 Speaker 1: was struggling with IVF, I said publicly, um, you know this, 277 00:14:33,080 --> 00:14:35,480 Speaker 1: it's killing me, but you know it's making me crazy 278 00:14:35,600 --> 00:14:37,880 Speaker 1: because I always thought like this was the one thing 279 00:14:37,920 --> 00:14:41,280 Speaker 1: that I could do, and now that I can't, I 280 00:14:41,320 --> 00:14:44,640 Speaker 1: was feeling worthless and everyone was like, you made us 281 00:14:44,680 --> 00:14:48,600 Speaker 1: feel terrible, like you, and I was like, but that 282 00:14:48,800 --> 00:14:52,280 Speaker 1: I could almost like Okay, maybe I was insensitive in 283 00:14:52,320 --> 00:14:54,320 Speaker 1: my tone, but like it was how I was feeling 284 00:14:54,360 --> 00:14:57,400 Speaker 1: in the moment that is. Isn't that crazy that in 285 00:14:57,440 --> 00:15:00,720 Speaker 1: the world we live in, God forb it, you have 286 00:15:00,760 --> 00:15:04,080 Speaker 1: a moment of honesty, you know, because I genuinely was like, 287 00:15:04,120 --> 00:15:06,320 Speaker 1: I don't know, it's it's scary for me. And without 288 00:15:06,400 --> 00:15:09,440 Speaker 1: getting too much into my personal history, but if I 289 00:15:09,560 --> 00:15:12,040 Speaker 1: was to be totally honest with you, it is scary. 290 00:15:12,200 --> 00:15:15,680 Speaker 1: Any woman I've ever worked with who's actually pregnant is like, 291 00:15:15,880 --> 00:15:18,080 Speaker 1: I'm scared, you know, And I'll tell you like I'm 292 00:15:18,120 --> 00:15:20,040 Speaker 1: afraid of tearing, I'm afraid of a c section, I'm 293 00:15:20,080 --> 00:15:23,360 Speaker 1: afraid of postpartum. I feel sick, I feel this, I'm 294 00:15:23,440 --> 00:15:27,200 Speaker 1: throwing I'm throwing up boam, like literally, and you can 295 00:15:27,240 --> 00:15:29,360 Speaker 1: have those conversations privately where you can be like, dude, 296 00:15:29,360 --> 00:15:32,160 Speaker 1: I get it, it's scary, or I get it it's hard, 297 00:15:32,320 --> 00:15:34,640 Speaker 1: or I get it. You know you're afraid or you 298 00:15:34,800 --> 00:15:37,000 Speaker 1: feel this way or you don't want stretch, Mark, but 299 00:15:37,120 --> 00:15:41,520 Speaker 1: god forbid you say like I don't want stretch, you bitch, 300 00:15:41,960 --> 00:15:44,280 Speaker 1: you don't want to be you have a beautiful bit. 301 00:15:44,400 --> 00:15:47,520 Speaker 1: People just yeah, it's crazy and it's weird. We've reached 302 00:15:47,520 --> 00:15:50,320 Speaker 1: a place everybody wants to tear each other down when 303 00:15:51,000 --> 00:15:53,240 Speaker 1: maybe they even have actually felt the same and it's 304 00:15:53,280 --> 00:15:59,040 Speaker 1: really about something they're going through. That's it. And and 305 00:15:59,360 --> 00:16:01,840 Speaker 1: I think that it just comes with time and it 306 00:16:01,920 --> 00:16:04,280 Speaker 1: comes with doing it. I'm only you know, six years 307 00:16:04,280 --> 00:16:08,480 Speaker 1: into my business, so it's or maybe I guess it's 308 00:16:08,480 --> 00:16:12,080 Speaker 1: seven now. But so for me, it's like this was 309 00:16:12,120 --> 00:16:13,840 Speaker 1: the first time and it was like this big wake 310 00:16:13,960 --> 00:16:17,640 Speaker 1: up call like wow, okay, and and but now actually 311 00:16:17,720 --> 00:16:20,920 Speaker 1: what it did was light of fire in me to go, Okay, 312 00:16:21,320 --> 00:16:23,800 Speaker 1: I'm gonna push harder. I'm gonna leave like I'm gonna 313 00:16:23,840 --> 00:16:27,440 Speaker 1: work harder at conveying exactly what it is that you 314 00:16:27,480 --> 00:16:30,400 Speaker 1: know that you're getting so there's no confusion to anybody 315 00:16:30,640 --> 00:16:33,280 Speaker 1: and what this is the business. The business is called 316 00:16:33,320 --> 00:16:36,920 Speaker 1: all in. The business is all in its accountability program. 317 00:16:36,960 --> 00:16:39,440 Speaker 1: So the way it works is once you sign up, 318 00:16:39,440 --> 00:16:45,000 Speaker 1: there's a two week jump start. You send uh your scale, breakfast, lunch, dinner, 319 00:16:45,080 --> 00:16:48,840 Speaker 1: proof of two snacks and you know, we're essentially your 320 00:16:48,920 --> 00:16:51,440 Speaker 1: cheerleaders through the process, or the friend that tells you 321 00:16:51,480 --> 00:16:53,520 Speaker 1: what you need to hear versus what you want to hear. 322 00:16:54,040 --> 00:16:57,960 Speaker 1: And if you don't send it and there's not a 323 00:16:57,960 --> 00:17:02,160 Speaker 1: good reason for it, then you're no longer in the program. 324 00:17:02,200 --> 00:17:05,680 Speaker 1: So what's the issue? I don't get it. So that's that's, 325 00:17:05,960 --> 00:17:08,600 Speaker 1: you know exactly like on our website it says, you know, 326 00:17:08,760 --> 00:17:12,159 Speaker 1: not everybody's you know, certified coach. You know, all of 327 00:17:12,240 --> 00:17:15,280 Speaker 1: the information is completely you know, laid out there. But 328 00:17:15,480 --> 00:17:18,399 Speaker 1: every single one of my every single one of my 329 00:17:18,480 --> 00:17:21,719 Speaker 1: coaches went through the program and changed their life through it. 330 00:17:22,040 --> 00:17:24,520 Speaker 1: So there's certif in the program and the program was 331 00:17:24,640 --> 00:17:26,640 Speaker 1: I love the way that I'm I'm just asking, Look, 332 00:17:26,840 --> 00:17:31,240 Speaker 1: I've been doing business coaching, so now you don't need it. 333 00:17:31,560 --> 00:17:34,199 Speaker 1: But my brain is like I've been helping people like 334 00:17:34,240 --> 00:17:36,960 Speaker 1: with their brain, So my brain is like, okay, and 335 00:17:37,000 --> 00:17:38,960 Speaker 1: that even though you don't need that. I'm just like, 336 00:17:39,359 --> 00:17:41,240 Speaker 1: are the people that co created the program with you, 337 00:17:41,359 --> 00:17:45,720 Speaker 1: do they have the necessary credentials to certify your coaches? Well, 338 00:17:45,760 --> 00:17:48,919 Speaker 1: I mean I created it myself through and you and 339 00:17:49,000 --> 00:17:51,959 Speaker 1: you have the certifications, and I have the certifications. So 340 00:17:52,000 --> 00:17:56,000 Speaker 1: it's your program, your diet, your workout. You have the certifications, 341 00:17:56,000 --> 00:17:59,120 Speaker 1: and they're just coaching people through the steps. Yes, which 342 00:17:59,160 --> 00:18:01,320 Speaker 1: is the same as Jin craig or weight watcher. Thing 343 00:18:01,320 --> 00:18:04,200 Speaker 1: about it pulling for your chickens. The person doing your 344 00:18:04,280 --> 00:18:11,080 Speaker 1: check in isn't a certified coach. You could do that though, 345 00:18:11,119 --> 00:18:14,200 Speaker 1: by the way, you can have your own cer certification 346 00:18:14,280 --> 00:18:17,160 Speaker 1: program for you know, and add out to your business. 347 00:18:17,160 --> 00:18:19,800 Speaker 1: But that's a whole difference. But the main one was eat. 348 00:18:19,840 --> 00:18:23,000 Speaker 1: When I first started my business, I didn't have the certifications. 349 00:18:23,040 --> 00:18:25,880 Speaker 1: I just did it off lived experience, and I as 350 00:18:25,920 --> 00:18:28,240 Speaker 1: I started doing it, I realized, these are things that 351 00:18:28,280 --> 00:18:29,800 Speaker 1: I want to learn, These are things that I want 352 00:18:29,800 --> 00:18:32,480 Speaker 1: to know. I have these nutritions, look at the program 353 00:18:32,520 --> 00:18:34,160 Speaker 1: to make sure that it's right. Oh, I should add 354 00:18:34,200 --> 00:18:37,400 Speaker 1: this perfect I did, like, these are all things that 355 00:18:37,760 --> 00:18:40,560 Speaker 1: I want to make sure that you're feeling your best. 356 00:18:40,640 --> 00:18:44,200 Speaker 1: And really what works in my program isn't about the food, 357 00:18:44,320 --> 00:18:48,200 Speaker 1: which everybody knows like eat clean, healthy food and you 358 00:18:48,359 --> 00:18:53,440 Speaker 1: move and you lose weight, pretty clear, but it's it's 359 00:18:53,440 --> 00:18:55,840 Speaker 1: about the accountability. All of a suddenhen you're having to 360 00:18:55,880 --> 00:18:58,359 Speaker 1: send picture proof and you've got skin in the game, 361 00:18:58,520 --> 00:19:01,000 Speaker 1: and then you don't, and then on day three you're saying, 362 00:19:01,000 --> 00:19:02,840 Speaker 1: you know what, I don't feel like doing this. I 363 00:19:02,880 --> 00:19:04,840 Speaker 1: can send you the message from day one on the 364 00:19:04,920 --> 00:19:07,080 Speaker 1: day that you start and say, remember how you felt 365 00:19:07,119 --> 00:19:14,879 Speaker 1: this day that yeah. I think Also people will often 366 00:19:14,960 --> 00:19:17,960 Speaker 1: ask me. I even think on that same podcast, it 367 00:19:18,040 --> 00:19:20,639 Speaker 1: was like, well, you know what if it's too strict 368 00:19:20,760 --> 00:19:24,240 Speaker 1: or stringent or and it's like, look, different things work 369 00:19:24,280 --> 00:19:27,360 Speaker 1: for different people. So if it's like, no, I got 370 00:19:27,359 --> 00:19:29,840 Speaker 1: to be held accountable and I need you know, I 371 00:19:29,880 --> 00:19:31,880 Speaker 1: need steaks, I need skin in the game, then that's 372 00:19:31,880 --> 00:19:34,040 Speaker 1: what's gonna work for that person. Some people do better 373 00:19:34,080 --> 00:19:37,280 Speaker 1: on something that's more stringent because they want greater results 374 00:19:37,280 --> 00:19:39,080 Speaker 1: at a faster pace. And I'm not saying more stringent 375 00:19:39,119 --> 00:19:41,560 Speaker 1: than your program, I mean in general. And then on 376 00:19:41,600 --> 00:19:44,320 Speaker 1: the other hand, some people feel restricted if you put 377 00:19:44,359 --> 00:19:48,840 Speaker 1: them on something that's two regimented, and it triggers feelings 378 00:19:48,960 --> 00:19:52,359 Speaker 1: of deprivation and it sends them spiraling off the wagon. 379 00:19:52,520 --> 00:19:55,800 Speaker 1: So there's different programs out there for reasons, so someone 380 00:19:55,840 --> 00:19:59,280 Speaker 1: can find something that works for them. And that's you. 381 00:19:59,280 --> 00:20:01,800 Speaker 1: You know, I tried every program there. I even did 382 00:20:01,800 --> 00:20:05,360 Speaker 1: the cookie diet, I did e G diet, I went 383 00:20:05,359 --> 00:20:09,960 Speaker 1: through everything. Are that I'm gonna bash. I'm going to 384 00:20:10,040 --> 00:20:13,520 Speaker 1: bash the I mean, I can't believe they let like 385 00:20:13,560 --> 00:20:17,560 Speaker 1: a nineteen year old girl do that like I and 386 00:20:17,560 --> 00:20:20,119 Speaker 1: and and it was all things that weren't sustainable for 387 00:20:20,160 --> 00:20:23,880 Speaker 1: your life, which is why and actually make you feel sick, 388 00:20:23,960 --> 00:20:27,080 Speaker 1: which is why I like dedicated my life, not only 389 00:20:27,119 --> 00:20:28,920 Speaker 1: because it's the only thing that holds me accountable to 390 00:20:28,960 --> 00:20:33,360 Speaker 1: this lifestyle is also like doing things that you can 391 00:20:33,400 --> 00:20:35,360 Speaker 1: do for the rest of your life. It's and and 392 00:20:35,400 --> 00:20:37,399 Speaker 1: if it doesn't work for you, and this isn't something 393 00:20:37,400 --> 00:20:39,920 Speaker 1: you want to do, don't sign up. That being said, 394 00:20:40,000 --> 00:20:42,520 Speaker 1: it is it is for everybody. Like you don't have 395 00:20:42,560 --> 00:20:44,280 Speaker 1: to be able to run a marathon, Like there's some 396 00:20:44,320 --> 00:20:47,320 Speaker 1: people that go on walks. It's just moving. But if 397 00:20:47,320 --> 00:20:50,960 Speaker 1: you're sedentary and you're eating all junk food, you're not 398 00:20:50,960 --> 00:20:56,560 Speaker 1: gonna lose weight, so you're probably gonna gain actually gonna 399 00:20:56,600 --> 00:20:58,760 Speaker 1: go the other way, I know. Should we take a 400 00:20:58,800 --> 00:21:01,399 Speaker 1: little break and then for the next part, I'm gonna 401 00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:04,080 Speaker 1: talk to you about like maybe some New Year's thing. 402 00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:05,800 Speaker 1: I'm gonna get some advice for you from some of 403 00:21:05,800 --> 00:21:09,080 Speaker 1: my listeners. A lot of questions came in. Oh my goodness, 404 00:21:09,160 --> 00:21:19,240 Speaker 1: okay on my marshmallow chapstick while I wait through the break. 405 00:21:21,680 --> 00:21:23,800 Speaker 1: I feel like my lips are more chapped during this 406 00:21:23,880 --> 00:21:28,520 Speaker 1: pandemic than they were before. He says, this whole year 407 00:21:28,560 --> 00:21:34,080 Speaker 1: has been absolutely nuts, has it not? Not even pandemic wise? 408 00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:36,440 Speaker 1: Like the things the people I know are going through, 409 00:21:36,480 --> 00:21:40,560 Speaker 1: It's like nuts, dude. Just oh, my dad has brand 410 00:21:40,640 --> 00:21:43,040 Speaker 1: surgery and my mom almost died from COVID. This kind 411 00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:47,399 Speaker 1: of you're like every person I know something like beyond 412 00:21:47,480 --> 00:21:50,520 Speaker 1: belief has happened in one of their families, the same 413 00:21:50,960 --> 00:21:56,840 Speaker 1: like horandous breakups after like tangy years with like just awful. 414 00:21:56,960 --> 00:22:00,679 Speaker 1: Like one guy lost his wife on in front of 415 00:22:00,680 --> 00:22:03,560 Speaker 1: his two daughters on his birthday while he was golf 416 00:22:03,600 --> 00:22:06,440 Speaker 1: and she she was thirty four years old, just the craziest. 417 00:22:07,480 --> 00:22:11,080 Speaker 1: I think you're like, all right, I know, which is why, 418 00:22:11,320 --> 00:22:15,000 Speaker 1: like I think so many people have questions about like one, 419 00:22:15,040 --> 00:22:18,520 Speaker 1: because we are going into a year of unknowns. I know, 420 00:22:19,240 --> 00:22:22,200 Speaker 1: we even though people think like, oh, I'm so excited 421 00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:26,439 Speaker 1: to get to Okay, it's going to be similar to 422 00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:29,960 Speaker 1: do you think it's gonna be that bad? I actually 423 00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:32,560 Speaker 1: am hopeful. And that's more I think at the beginning 424 00:22:32,600 --> 00:22:35,400 Speaker 1: it's gonna I don't think January it's gonna be here 425 00:22:35,440 --> 00:22:40,399 Speaker 1: we go. Is that we're not going to keep I think, okay, 426 00:22:40,680 --> 00:22:45,520 Speaker 1: here's my here's my My hope for for one is 427 00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:50,000 Speaker 1: that look, COVID cannot go on forever. The Spanish flu 428 00:22:50,119 --> 00:22:54,760 Speaker 1: didn't go on forever and that was So it's one. 429 00:22:55,880 --> 00:22:58,800 Speaker 1: And we've got I believe at least three companies, right 430 00:22:58,800 --> 00:23:01,400 Speaker 1: and Moderna, fives do I think Astro Zeneca, that all 431 00:23:01,440 --> 00:23:04,080 Speaker 1: have a pretty effective vaccine. This has got to come 432 00:23:04,119 --> 00:23:07,640 Speaker 1: to an end in the not too distant future. I mean, 433 00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:10,640 Speaker 1: what do we got six more months of this chaos? 434 00:23:10,800 --> 00:23:15,160 Speaker 1: Like at some point this this vaccine will get into 435 00:23:15,320 --> 00:23:19,399 Speaker 1: gen pop. The most vulnerable communities will be vaccinated first, 436 00:23:19,440 --> 00:23:22,640 Speaker 1: God willing, and then we'll begin to reopen and people 437 00:23:22,640 --> 00:23:24,159 Speaker 1: will be able to go back to work, and a 438 00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:28,480 Speaker 1: lot of that depression and and you know, insanity and 439 00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:31,960 Speaker 1: chaos that it has begotten, in my opinion, in family 440 00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:34,960 Speaker 1: units and marriages and all of that will hopefully begin 441 00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:40,239 Speaker 1: to two ease up. Um. I'm also hoping that this 442 00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:44,679 Speaker 1: year puts so much pressure on so many different situations 443 00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:46,919 Speaker 1: that were unstable to begin with, right, whether it was 444 00:23:46,960 --> 00:23:49,760 Speaker 1: a marriage that might have gone ten years too long, 445 00:23:49,800 --> 00:23:52,480 Speaker 1: but COVID just cracked that half. It was like nope, 446 00:23:52,800 --> 00:23:55,520 Speaker 1: dam it was like a fault line and COVID just 447 00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:58,439 Speaker 1: applied pressure and the whole thing shattered. So it was 448 00:23:58,440 --> 00:24:01,960 Speaker 1: a terrible year, But maybe maybe it got you out 449 00:24:01,960 --> 00:24:04,159 Speaker 1: of a croppy marriage that you needed to be out of, 450 00:24:04,359 --> 00:24:06,760 Speaker 1: you know, maybe it brought things to an end, whether 451 00:24:06,800 --> 00:24:09,320 Speaker 1: it was a career you weren't totally fulfilled in a 452 00:24:09,400 --> 00:24:12,320 Speaker 1: relationship that wasn't totally right for you. And while it 453 00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:18,440 Speaker 1: wrought wrecked havoc personally and professionally for so many, I'm 454 00:24:18,440 --> 00:24:22,199 Speaker 1: hoping that it almost it's like this huge tsunami hit everyone, 455 00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:24,560 Speaker 1: and maybe it's taking all the old stuff out and 456 00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:28,560 Speaker 1: maybe it is making way for new beginnings. I mean, 457 00:24:28,600 --> 00:24:31,119 Speaker 1: that's the only way I don't and I mean I 458 00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:34,439 Speaker 1: even know personal reasons, like I've started putting in the 459 00:24:34,440 --> 00:24:36,600 Speaker 1: work when it comes to my marriage, Like we are 460 00:24:36,680 --> 00:24:39,960 Speaker 1: now reading together, we're talking about things we didn't talk 461 00:24:40,000 --> 00:24:43,679 Speaker 1: about because we have the time now and we need 462 00:24:43,720 --> 00:24:46,879 Speaker 1: to do it, like in order to grow as a couple, 463 00:24:46,920 --> 00:24:50,560 Speaker 1: as in order to grow as parents. So hopefully this 464 00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:52,720 Speaker 1: time we actually take it. I'm not saying that every 465 00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:54,440 Speaker 1: day we wake up and we need to be like, yes, 466 00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:58,119 Speaker 1: we're gonna do everything, but take the time to like 467 00:24:58,240 --> 00:25:01,600 Speaker 1: get to know the people in your life matter and 468 00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:05,480 Speaker 1: tough conversation so that you don't, you know, become a 469 00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:08,800 Speaker 1: pressure cooker and everything you know cracks that you know 470 00:25:09,160 --> 00:25:11,840 Speaker 1: when things get rough, and and when it comes to 471 00:25:11,840 --> 00:25:14,760 Speaker 1: health and fitness, what do you think, as people are 472 00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:18,760 Speaker 1: coming through so much stress, we should focus on, you know, 473 00:25:18,840 --> 00:25:24,080 Speaker 1: as this year closes out going into My message has 474 00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:28,840 Speaker 1: never changed, um And all I do is stack up 475 00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:35,159 Speaker 1: empirical evidence too to prove my point that you know, 476 00:25:35,200 --> 00:25:38,680 Speaker 1: your health is the platform your entire life is built 477 00:25:38,720 --> 00:25:42,639 Speaker 1: on top of. It's irrefutable, it is your number one wealth. 478 00:25:43,280 --> 00:25:47,080 Speaker 1: It is your health is not good, everything else will 479 00:25:47,119 --> 00:25:52,159 Speaker 1: suffer indirectly without question. And now you know, I started 480 00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:56,160 Speaker 1: out this year with another scandal unto my under um, 481 00:25:56,320 --> 00:25:58,920 Speaker 1: you know where it was like I was attacked by 482 00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:00,960 Speaker 1: you know, a variety of people, which, as I said, 483 00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:02,800 Speaker 1: it is part of the course, but about how you 484 00:26:02,800 --> 00:26:05,240 Speaker 1: know you could be healthy in any size, which is both. 485 00:26:06,160 --> 00:26:09,640 Speaker 1: And it's like then COVID hit right three months later, 486 00:26:09,680 --> 00:26:12,640 Speaker 1: and I was like, really, what is the top contributing 487 00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:19,479 Speaker 1: factor to the severity of your COVID case? Obesity? I mean, like, 488 00:26:19,600 --> 00:26:22,240 Speaker 1: if there's anything else we need to add to our 489 00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:25,879 Speaker 1: plate to motivate us in the coming year and the 490 00:26:25,960 --> 00:26:30,200 Speaker 1: coming years, the coming decades to take better care of yourself. 491 00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:34,159 Speaker 1: Look at how the people you know, right, the friends, 492 00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:36,560 Speaker 1: the family, their friends and family that had COVID, how 493 00:26:36,640 --> 00:26:41,560 Speaker 1: they fare. It's very clear that when we take care 494 00:26:41,600 --> 00:26:45,080 Speaker 1: of our health, it was just a much easier virus 495 00:26:45,119 --> 00:26:47,800 Speaker 1: to manage. I'm sorry, it just is. It's it's not 496 00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:50,199 Speaker 1: a question that I'm not a doctor. The doctors have 497 00:26:50,280 --> 00:26:54,919 Speaker 1: come out, they've identified obesity is it is a major problem. 498 00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:58,800 Speaker 1: And of all the times to really grab the bowl 499 00:26:58,800 --> 00:27:01,720 Speaker 1: by the horns here and find you know, the silver lining. 500 00:27:01,720 --> 00:27:06,199 Speaker 1: If COVID hasn't driven you to prioritize your health. I 501 00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:10,239 Speaker 1: just don't know. I don't know what does. And I 502 00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:12,920 Speaker 1: mean I think I fully hear what you're saying, and 503 00:27:12,960 --> 00:27:14,760 Speaker 1: I think so many people I'm sure they say the 504 00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:17,080 Speaker 1: same to you. Say to me, how are you so 505 00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:19,719 Speaker 1: motivated all the time? How are you so motivated? And 506 00:27:19,760 --> 00:27:23,160 Speaker 1: I always say back, I am not motivated. I am. 507 00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:25,680 Speaker 1: I am. If I was waiting to be motivated every 508 00:27:25,680 --> 00:27:31,159 Speaker 1: single day, I would quit. I'm committed. So to yourself, 509 00:27:31,440 --> 00:27:33,719 Speaker 1: you have to schedule yourself and to your day, and 510 00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:36,520 Speaker 1: you have to make yourself a priority before you can 511 00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:39,920 Speaker 1: take care of anybody else. And also, kids are seeing 512 00:27:39,960 --> 00:27:42,399 Speaker 1: what you're doing. The people in your life know what 513 00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:45,320 Speaker 1: you're doing. So if you are not moving, if you're 514 00:27:45,359 --> 00:27:47,880 Speaker 1: not taking care of yourself, and yet you're on your 515 00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:52,240 Speaker 1: phone like this, go play outside, kids, I'm going to 516 00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:56,679 Speaker 1: do it. They're just not. You have to practice what 517 00:27:56,800 --> 00:28:00,639 Speaker 1: you preach, you have to show up your fan or 518 00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:03,080 Speaker 1: those things aren't going to change. And like when you 519 00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:04,840 Speaker 1: even talk about like I read something I think it 520 00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:08,679 Speaker 1: was in the Washington Post about how teenage suicide is up, 521 00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:15,639 Speaker 1: and it's heartbreaking because are one living their entire life 522 00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:17,960 Speaker 1: on social media which we know how good that works 523 00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:23,439 Speaker 1: out for us. And these filtered versions of people's lives 524 00:28:23,440 --> 00:28:28,119 Speaker 1: are their highlight reels and and they don't have any 525 00:28:28,280 --> 00:28:34,679 Speaker 1: ability because nobody's nobody's taking action. Did you watch um 526 00:28:34,960 --> 00:28:40,240 Speaker 1: The Social Dilemma on Netflix? Oh my god, it's rules 527 00:28:40,280 --> 00:28:43,120 Speaker 1: with the filters and then deleting it in one second 528 00:28:43,160 --> 00:28:47,000 Speaker 1: if they don't get enough likes. Oh I will let 529 00:28:47,040 --> 00:28:49,360 Speaker 1: my kids have social I mean they're only eight and ten, 530 00:28:49,400 --> 00:28:54,520 Speaker 1: and I'm like, no, way, no, no, how not happening. 531 00:28:54,800 --> 00:28:57,040 Speaker 1: I let my daughter have an eye cloud so she 532 00:28:57,080 --> 00:29:00,800 Speaker 1: can text her grandparents and stuff like. That's it. Like 533 00:29:00,840 --> 00:29:04,960 Speaker 1: they're like, can I can I do that? No? Now no, 534 00:29:05,520 --> 00:29:08,080 Speaker 1: because like I already know, I already know what they 535 00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:11,880 Speaker 1: do to me, and like I have a pretty good 536 00:29:12,240 --> 00:29:14,360 Speaker 1: is when it comes to taking one on the chain, 537 00:29:16,120 --> 00:29:18,800 Speaker 1: I know, I know exactly what you're talking about, but 538 00:29:18,880 --> 00:29:22,280 Speaker 1: it it does it. I noticed even for me personally 539 00:29:22,280 --> 00:29:26,000 Speaker 1: with friends, like you see pre COVID friends out to 540 00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:28,840 Speaker 1: dinner and You're like, I wasn't invited and it would 541 00:29:28,840 --> 00:29:31,360 Speaker 1: give me like it would make me feel secure and 542 00:29:31,520 --> 00:29:36,240 Speaker 1: left out. It brought me like that high school. Yes, dude, 543 00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:40,640 Speaker 1: I was like, I'm gonna mute that person. It was ridiculous. 544 00:29:40,760 --> 00:29:42,680 Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm a grown ass woman. It made me 545 00:29:42,680 --> 00:29:48,040 Speaker 1: feel like complete. I know socialist social is tough. It's tough, yeah, 546 00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:50,280 Speaker 1: and it keep talking about using it as a force 547 00:29:50,360 --> 00:29:53,800 Speaker 1: of good, but it's like, you know, which during a pandemic, 548 00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:56,520 Speaker 1: you're thinking, okay, community, right, like, how can we use 549 00:29:56,520 --> 00:29:59,080 Speaker 1: it to bring people together and build community? But my god, 550 00:29:59,240 --> 00:30:01,960 Speaker 1: right now the out rhythms are definitely set up for 551 00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:05,160 Speaker 1: the opposite to make people just feel like a lot 552 00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:07,440 Speaker 1: of people little worse. And and now it's got to 553 00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:10,200 Speaker 1: the point where people can't be vulnerable and share what 554 00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:13,280 Speaker 1: they're going through because then either they're gonna get attacked 555 00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:18,600 Speaker 1: for it or um, you want attention. Oh, I didn't 556 00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:21,040 Speaker 1: hear the one attention I do know, like the old 557 00:30:21,040 --> 00:30:24,040 Speaker 1: cancel culture thing, like god forbid you say like I 558 00:30:24,080 --> 00:30:30,800 Speaker 1: hate IVF or you know it's like I do know, 559 00:30:31,040 --> 00:30:33,800 Speaker 1: I do know that, but I did not hear that. 560 00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:37,280 Speaker 1: You want attention. Things want attention because you're sharing instead 561 00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:39,000 Speaker 1: of like you want you want people to know they're 562 00:30:39,000 --> 00:30:50,920 Speaker 1: not alone. You want attention. Oh my god. A lighter 563 00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:55,320 Speaker 1: note for those that don't like their gyms are closed, 564 00:30:55,360 --> 00:30:58,520 Speaker 1: and that entire portion of them has, you know, kind 565 00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:00,680 Speaker 1: of shut down and they're using that is the reason 566 00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:03,280 Speaker 1: why they can't work out. Can you tell us a 567 00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:06,520 Speaker 1: little about your fitness app? Oh, you're so cute. I mean, look, 568 00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:10,240 Speaker 1: here's the reality is that. Um, you know, you and 569 00:31:10,280 --> 00:31:12,840 Speaker 1: I both know that you don't need a gym. There's 570 00:31:12,960 --> 00:31:16,200 Speaker 1: a million things you could do. So there are million apps. 571 00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:18,680 Speaker 1: Mine is one, and you have a program, right there's 572 00:31:18,720 --> 00:31:23,600 Speaker 1: there's a million different opportunities to work out at home, 573 00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:28,040 Speaker 1: to get outside that are affordable and accessible. You don't 574 00:31:28,040 --> 00:31:30,160 Speaker 1: need two thousand dollars for a bike. You don't need 575 00:31:30,160 --> 00:31:32,880 Speaker 1: two thousand dollars for a screen on the wall, which 576 00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:35,640 Speaker 1: you know is a great business, but not everybody has 577 00:31:35,720 --> 00:31:38,800 Speaker 1: that kind of money. I mean, you can easily utilize 578 00:31:38,800 --> 00:31:41,720 Speaker 1: your own body weight or some free weights, a jump rope. 579 00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:45,360 Speaker 1: I mean there, it's limitless. So I don't want to 580 00:31:45,400 --> 00:31:47,160 Speaker 1: do it. You have to want to do I don't 581 00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:49,040 Speaker 1: want to do it exactly like I mean, I could 582 00:31:49,080 --> 00:31:51,800 Speaker 1: literally name a harder different exercises right now. You need 583 00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:56,840 Speaker 1: no equipment for side lunges or lunges, air squats, weighted squats, 584 00:31:57,040 --> 00:32:00,360 Speaker 1: side squats, push ups, walk out, push ups, it up, 585 00:32:00,600 --> 00:32:04,160 Speaker 1: plank jumping Jack's heinis, But I mean the point is 586 00:32:04,760 --> 00:32:08,080 Speaker 1: it's totally there for you, and it's totally affordable. But yes, 587 00:32:08,200 --> 00:32:11,760 Speaker 1: you're right, you've got to be committed. You've gotta want it, 588 00:32:11,840 --> 00:32:14,400 Speaker 1: You've got to have your I have often said, you've 589 00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:17,440 Speaker 1: got to have that why, right, which is why you 590 00:32:17,560 --> 00:32:21,040 Speaker 1: do the work, why you stay committed because it is work. 591 00:32:21,440 --> 00:32:24,120 Speaker 1: It is it's sacrifice and it's work. But if you've 592 00:32:24,160 --> 00:32:27,560 Speaker 1: got a reason to do it, then you bring you 593 00:32:27,640 --> 00:32:30,160 Speaker 1: bring a purpose to the work, and then it becomes 594 00:32:30,160 --> 00:32:32,960 Speaker 1: a passion, whereas without it, I think it just feels 595 00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:35,680 Speaker 1: more punishing to people. And the year has felt so 596 00:32:35,720 --> 00:32:38,120 Speaker 1: punishing that they're like, I just can't I can't take 597 00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:40,200 Speaker 1: one more thing that doesn't feel like a glass of 598 00:32:40,240 --> 00:32:44,680 Speaker 1: wine in front of the undoing. Actually another like now 599 00:32:44,720 --> 00:32:47,120 Speaker 1: that i've that's my night to night. But I mean, 600 00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:50,840 Speaker 1: I think also it's about figuring out what you like. 601 00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:52,400 Speaker 1: I mean, I know that I used to fail. What 602 00:32:52,480 --> 00:32:54,200 Speaker 1: I would say every day, I need to wake up 603 00:32:54,200 --> 00:32:56,080 Speaker 1: and I need to do this. It's going to be this. 604 00:32:56,160 --> 00:32:58,000 Speaker 1: I'm gonna run this, or I'm gonna lift this way, 605 00:32:58,080 --> 00:32:59,760 Speaker 1: or I'm gonna go to this class or do whatever 606 00:33:00,120 --> 00:33:05,520 Speaker 1: be to start. Just do something, just do, and then 607 00:33:05,600 --> 00:33:09,040 Speaker 1: you'll start to prave it. Then you'll realize that you're 608 00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:13,760 Speaker 1: mentally feeling better because you're moving in some capacity. And 609 00:33:13,800 --> 00:33:15,880 Speaker 1: then now it's a good time to try out different 610 00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:18,160 Speaker 1: things to see what you actually like and then do 611 00:33:18,200 --> 00:33:20,800 Speaker 1: more of that. I totally agree with you. I even 612 00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:23,560 Speaker 1: took up like I had never jumped rope before, and 613 00:33:23,600 --> 00:33:26,320 Speaker 1: when we were in full blown lockdown, which now we 614 00:33:26,360 --> 00:33:31,600 Speaker 1: are again, uh god bless this year, Um, I bought 615 00:33:31,600 --> 00:33:33,800 Speaker 1: a jump rope and I was like, I'm gonna learn 616 00:33:33,840 --> 00:33:35,800 Speaker 1: something new. I've always sucked at this. I wonder if 617 00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:37,480 Speaker 1: I could get good at it. And I started watching 618 00:33:37,600 --> 00:33:40,840 Speaker 1: these guys on YouTube called the jump Rope Dudes. I'm 619 00:33:40,840 --> 00:33:43,440 Speaker 1: not kidding, and I like worked out with the jump 620 00:33:43,520 --> 00:33:47,400 Speaker 1: rope Dudes in my room because it was just something 621 00:33:47,440 --> 00:33:50,520 Speaker 1: different for me. And now I'm actually, I mean, these 622 00:33:50,520 --> 00:33:52,720 Speaker 1: guys are amazing. They're there are guys that are incredible 623 00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:54,120 Speaker 1: at it. But now I'm like, oh my god, I 624 00:33:54,120 --> 00:33:56,520 Speaker 1: can actually jump rope for like twenty minutes, and I 625 00:33:56,520 --> 00:33:59,320 Speaker 1: can do like sign swives and boxer skips and you know, 626 00:34:00,400 --> 00:34:03,400 Speaker 1: cross skips and double unders, and it was fun for me. 627 00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:05,520 Speaker 1: It was something proud of you, was something new to develop. 628 00:34:05,600 --> 00:34:08,239 Speaker 1: It was a new skills that I didn't think I 629 00:34:08,239 --> 00:34:10,160 Speaker 1: could ever get good at. And You're ready gave me 630 00:34:10,200 --> 00:34:13,000 Speaker 1: an opportunity to try something new, get out of my 631 00:34:13,040 --> 00:34:17,040 Speaker 1: comfort zone. And I was nice and even you saying that. 632 00:34:17,080 --> 00:34:18,600 Speaker 1: Just now, I'm like, oh my gosh, now that I 633 00:34:18,640 --> 00:34:21,000 Speaker 1: don't know pee my pants anymore after my last baby, 634 00:34:21,120 --> 00:34:23,560 Speaker 1: I want to try it. Like I think, also keep 635 00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:26,359 Speaker 1: about to set new goals for yourself. Like for me, 636 00:34:26,600 --> 00:34:29,600 Speaker 1: I'm complacent is when I get myself in the most 637 00:34:29,600 --> 00:34:35,239 Speaker 1: trauma like complacency is not my friend. Like I have 638 00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:38,120 Speaker 1: to like it doesn't matter if it's you know, and 639 00:34:38,480 --> 00:34:41,279 Speaker 1: more like I need to focus on doing more meditation 640 00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:45,040 Speaker 1: or yoga or stretching or running or whatever it may be. 641 00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:50,480 Speaker 1: Like I have to do that. I find that you, 642 00:34:50,480 --> 00:34:52,399 Speaker 1: you and I and I'm gonna speak for you here 643 00:34:52,440 --> 00:34:54,640 Speaker 1: based on you know what you've told me today, that 644 00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:58,000 Speaker 1: you and I do have these inherent sort of obligations 645 00:34:58,040 --> 00:35:00,920 Speaker 1: to it. Now where it's your business, it's my business. 646 00:35:01,520 --> 00:35:03,440 Speaker 1: We do have kids, right, So when you look at 647 00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:08,240 Speaker 1: these variety of wise it's like, well, now it's my business. 648 00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:10,080 Speaker 1: You got to show Peo about the like I actually 649 00:35:10,160 --> 00:35:14,239 Speaker 1: know what I'm talking about because my livelihood depends on this. 650 00:35:14,320 --> 00:35:18,840 Speaker 1: I'm my best before and after, best case study. And 651 00:35:18,880 --> 00:35:21,880 Speaker 1: then you know you're right with the kids, what can 652 00:35:21,920 --> 00:35:24,520 Speaker 1: you actually do? You you do lead by example. You 653 00:35:24,560 --> 00:35:27,560 Speaker 1: are their primary role model, least for you know, the 654 00:35:27,640 --> 00:35:32,160 Speaker 1: first decade. I would certainly hope or I've noticed and 655 00:35:32,360 --> 00:35:35,560 Speaker 1: you know, my kids will if I'm out paddle boarding 656 00:35:35,840 --> 00:35:38,719 Speaker 1: or horseback riding or jumping group for skiing. They're doing 657 00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:40,520 Speaker 1: that with me. It's not like, oh, let me lift 658 00:35:40,520 --> 00:35:44,040 Speaker 1: weights there eight and ten, right, But it teaches them 659 00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:47,640 Speaker 1: that an athletic lifestyles a fun lifestyle, and you know, 660 00:35:47,640 --> 00:35:50,200 Speaker 1: it builds their confidence and they get into karate because 661 00:35:50,239 --> 00:35:53,080 Speaker 1: I was into karate. So yeah, there's a motivation there. 662 00:35:53,160 --> 00:35:55,520 Speaker 1: And for me, I want to be that cool mom, 663 00:35:55,560 --> 00:35:57,520 Speaker 1: Like I want my kids to look back and be like, 664 00:35:57,520 --> 00:36:00,080 Speaker 1: my mom was such a badass. She was snow a 665 00:36:00,160 --> 00:36:04,160 Speaker 1: boarding with me in Tahoe on a black diamond, Like 666 00:36:04,880 --> 00:36:07,080 Speaker 1: I want that to be their memory of me, you 667 00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:09,200 Speaker 1: know what I mean? And you and I have all 668 00:36:09,239 --> 00:36:13,479 Speaker 1: these wise and I would say that no, matter what 669 00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:17,600 Speaker 1: the why is, whether it's just skinny jeans, or it's 670 00:36:17,680 --> 00:36:21,400 Speaker 1: meaning your great grandchildren, or it's raising money for cancer 671 00:36:21,400 --> 00:36:24,000 Speaker 1: research because you lost a loved one to cancer this 672 00:36:24,080 --> 00:36:26,360 Speaker 1: year and so you decided to do like a stand 673 00:36:26,400 --> 00:36:30,880 Speaker 1: up to cancer triathlon, whatever it is. I also like 674 00:36:30,960 --> 00:36:35,440 Speaker 1: to find something that really is meaningful to me and 675 00:36:35,480 --> 00:36:38,800 Speaker 1: it helps me better tolerate that work and that sacrifice. 676 00:36:38,880 --> 00:36:40,759 Speaker 1: And you and I have a lot of wise I 677 00:36:40,800 --> 00:36:43,680 Speaker 1: would say, I'm hoping a lot of your your listeners, 678 00:36:43,680 --> 00:36:46,680 Speaker 1: your watchers probably have similar ones. It's probably not their business. 679 00:36:47,360 --> 00:36:52,239 Speaker 1: But why I created the business because I knew that 680 00:36:52,360 --> 00:36:55,680 Speaker 1: I needed this so I could continue to have it 681 00:36:55,760 --> 00:36:59,080 Speaker 1: for myself. I was somebody who you know growing up 682 00:36:59,280 --> 00:37:01,680 Speaker 1: and do it, you know, living the way that I did. 683 00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:04,439 Speaker 1: I had every excuse in the book to quit all 684 00:37:04,480 --> 00:37:08,400 Speaker 1: the time, and being accountable has been the only thing 685 00:37:08,760 --> 00:37:11,359 Speaker 1: that has worked for me. And it doesn't matter. I mean, 686 00:37:11,400 --> 00:37:15,080 Speaker 1: I could do any program, it's just the accountability aspect 687 00:37:15,160 --> 00:37:17,080 Speaker 1: of it is what I needed and which is why 688 00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:19,840 Speaker 1: you need get it. And I think that some people 689 00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:22,680 Speaker 1: do it, and and I think that regardless of where 690 00:37:22,719 --> 00:37:26,960 Speaker 1: you are, it's never too late to get started. Also, 691 00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:29,040 Speaker 1: I think people would say, I'm I'm over this age. 692 00:37:29,080 --> 00:37:33,439 Speaker 1: I can't get started. Anybody can get started. You don't 693 00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:36,080 Speaker 1: have to do exactly what I'm doing or what Jillian's doing, 694 00:37:36,520 --> 00:37:38,880 Speaker 1: but you can get started on what works for you. 695 00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:41,399 Speaker 1: It's not one size fits all, but it is like 696 00:37:42,120 --> 00:37:44,640 Speaker 1: you have you have to do some work for it 697 00:37:44,680 --> 00:37:48,400 Speaker 1: to work for you. Without question. Yeah, it's like you 698 00:37:48,440 --> 00:37:52,359 Speaker 1: can't just show up at your business or at your 699 00:37:52,440 --> 00:37:56,840 Speaker 1: job and not work and not get fired. You know, 700 00:37:57,160 --> 00:37:58,680 Speaker 1: even if it is if it's your own business and 701 00:37:58,719 --> 00:38:00,360 Speaker 1: you show up and you don't do anything, you're going 702 00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:03,560 Speaker 1: out of business. That's the reality. Like you're talking about 703 00:38:03,600 --> 00:38:06,399 Speaker 1: how you're working with your husband on the marriage, I mean, 704 00:38:07,239 --> 00:38:11,239 Speaker 1: marriages are constant work. It doesn't mean they always work out, 705 00:38:11,640 --> 00:38:14,560 Speaker 1: but it's it's work. It's not easy. Let's work, and 706 00:38:14,600 --> 00:38:17,520 Speaker 1: you have to like show up for each other or 707 00:38:17,560 --> 00:38:20,759 Speaker 1: else it won't work. So whatever that is. It it's 708 00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:23,400 Speaker 1: the same thing with yourself. Your relationship with yourself is 709 00:38:23,480 --> 00:38:26,920 Speaker 1: just as important as your relationship with other people. Because 710 00:38:26,960 --> 00:38:29,200 Speaker 1: if you hate yourself, you are not going to be 711 00:38:29,239 --> 00:38:32,280 Speaker 1: good with anybody. Oh my god. And if you're you know, okay, 712 00:38:32,360 --> 00:38:34,640 Speaker 1: here's a good one that I was thinking about our 713 00:38:34,680 --> 00:38:38,160 Speaker 1: relationship that had gone sideways, not a romantic one, and I, 714 00:38:38,320 --> 00:38:40,920 Speaker 1: you know, I was being feeling very sanctimonious, and I 715 00:38:40,960 --> 00:38:42,680 Speaker 1: was like, I was such a good friend and I 716 00:38:42,719 --> 00:38:44,520 Speaker 1: did this and I did this, and I did this 717 00:38:44,560 --> 00:38:46,279 Speaker 1: and I did this, and I didn't do anything wrong. 718 00:38:46,320 --> 00:38:47,960 Speaker 1: I don't even see my side of the street here. 719 00:38:48,000 --> 00:38:50,239 Speaker 1: I would kill for a friend like me and then, 720 00:38:50,320 --> 00:38:52,920 Speaker 1: believe it or not, I saw this really stupid cheesy 721 00:38:53,080 --> 00:38:57,479 Speaker 1: meme on someone's Instagram and it was like, do things 722 00:38:57,480 --> 00:39:00,560 Speaker 1: for people because you love them, not because as or 723 00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:03,600 Speaker 1: like not for love. And I was like, oh my god, 724 00:39:03,719 --> 00:39:06,040 Speaker 1: Like everything I did I did because I wanted them 725 00:39:06,080 --> 00:39:08,960 Speaker 1: to love me. I expected something in return, and I 726 00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:11,279 Speaker 1: didn't get what I wanted in return. So I felt 727 00:39:11,280 --> 00:39:13,040 Speaker 1: slight and and I was like, this is my own 728 00:39:13,600 --> 00:39:17,480 Speaker 1: bull like still deep down, this is my own insecurity 729 00:39:17,600 --> 00:39:21,760 Speaker 1: of feeling unlovable. So I over gave, over extended myself 730 00:39:21,840 --> 00:39:25,600 Speaker 1: then felt resentful and bitter about it. And it's like 731 00:39:26,000 --> 00:39:28,120 Speaker 1: how many times do I need to have the same 732 00:39:28,160 --> 00:39:30,880 Speaker 1: lesson of like, you gotta give this stuff to yourself. 733 00:39:30,960 --> 00:39:33,960 Speaker 1: You gotta be that support system for you first. You 734 00:39:34,040 --> 00:39:37,239 Speaker 1: gotta love yourself first, and then what other people do 735 00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:41,160 Speaker 1: give you will be enough, but not looking for them 736 00:39:41,200 --> 00:39:44,160 Speaker 1: to kind of complete you or over it's all anyway. 737 00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:46,959 Speaker 1: My point is you're absolutely right. If you don't deal 738 00:39:47,040 --> 00:39:50,120 Speaker 1: with you first, all of your relationships are going to 739 00:39:50,200 --> 00:39:53,160 Speaker 1: kind of inherently have that fault line in them. Of course, 740 00:39:53,480 --> 00:39:55,400 Speaker 1: if you don't, and you don't and also if you 741 00:39:55,400 --> 00:39:58,160 Speaker 1: don't know yourself. Like as silly as it is, I 742 00:39:58,239 --> 00:40:00,239 Speaker 1: just took the Love Language Is quiz and you ever 743 00:40:00,280 --> 00:40:02,840 Speaker 1: taken that? Oh my god, everyone has told me to 744 00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:06,600 Speaker 1: read this damn book. I've got to read it. Everyone 745 00:40:06,600 --> 00:40:11,319 Speaker 1: was like, oh, I'm a person that wants um quality time. 746 00:40:11,360 --> 00:40:13,640 Speaker 1: That's what I want. That's me that I took the 747 00:40:13,719 --> 00:40:15,759 Speaker 1: quiz and it's like, no, you want words of affirmation. 748 00:40:15,800 --> 00:40:20,399 Speaker 1: And I was like, what compliments? And like I had 749 00:40:20,440 --> 00:40:22,880 Speaker 1: to have these like big talk with myself. And I 750 00:40:22,880 --> 00:40:26,239 Speaker 1: was like, honey, maybe I needed to feel like tell 751 00:40:26,280 --> 00:40:29,759 Speaker 1: me things in the morning by compliments, not compliments, but 752 00:40:29,840 --> 00:40:33,080 Speaker 1: like you're doing a good job. But I had absolutely 753 00:40:33,160 --> 00:40:36,200 Speaker 1: and choosefully now that we've made that his acts of service, 754 00:40:36,239 --> 00:40:38,960 Speaker 1: which is of course my worst thing. I was like, great, 755 00:40:39,760 --> 00:40:42,680 Speaker 1: Like you want me to like fix you breakfast and 756 00:40:42,719 --> 00:40:45,160 Speaker 1: do all these things. But it's like silly the things 757 00:40:45,200 --> 00:40:47,120 Speaker 1: you don't even know about yourself. But once you make 758 00:40:47,160 --> 00:40:50,239 Speaker 1: a little shift, so like I'm like, oh, wow, I 759 00:40:50,320 --> 00:40:52,560 Speaker 1: do have a pep in my step when my husband's like, 760 00:40:52,600 --> 00:40:54,880 Speaker 1: oh I listen to your podcast. I loved it, like 761 00:40:54,960 --> 00:40:57,640 Speaker 1: which I never would have thought that's something I need it. 762 00:40:58,520 --> 00:41:02,200 Speaker 1: Oh I got it. I totally get it. Yeah. It's 763 00:41:02,239 --> 00:41:05,480 Speaker 1: an ongoing journey of self exploration, isn't it. It's like, 764 00:41:06,080 --> 00:41:07,960 Speaker 1: no matter how old I get, no matter how much 765 00:41:08,000 --> 00:41:12,000 Speaker 1: work I think I've done on myself, there's always something 766 00:41:12,120 --> 00:41:15,279 Speaker 1: new to learn. But that's that's why write You're saying 767 00:41:15,320 --> 00:41:17,400 Speaker 1: you're committed, you're all in, because it is. It's like 768 00:41:17,480 --> 00:41:21,040 Speaker 1: it never ends. It doesn't end. It's an ongoing journey 769 00:41:21,080 --> 00:41:24,600 Speaker 1: of evolving and growing and staying committed to that process. 770 00:41:24,600 --> 00:41:27,080 Speaker 1: But it's worth it. It's worth it for sure. I 771 00:41:27,080 --> 00:41:32,239 Speaker 1: have two last questions that are um their first which 772 00:41:32,360 --> 00:41:35,160 Speaker 1: honestly a lot of people ask this question so they 773 00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:37,759 Speaker 1: want to know what your biggest like flex is on 774 00:41:37,800 --> 00:41:41,279 Speaker 1: the holiday, Like, what is like the one indulgence that 775 00:41:41,320 --> 00:41:44,319 Speaker 1: you really get into it? I got Okay, So you 776 00:41:44,360 --> 00:41:49,200 Speaker 1: know where I really do sort of cheat and I 777 00:41:49,239 --> 00:41:52,200 Speaker 1: have my justifications for it to a certain extent is 778 00:41:52,239 --> 00:41:56,200 Speaker 1: with alcoholic I don't drink a lot, but if I 779 00:41:56,280 --> 00:42:00,400 Speaker 1: had my way, like if I really was just a blend, 780 00:42:00,520 --> 00:42:05,000 Speaker 1: I would probably have like maybe two glasses of red 781 00:42:05,040 --> 00:42:08,080 Speaker 1: wine a week because I'm like I could just supplement 782 00:42:08,200 --> 00:42:11,600 Speaker 1: like n MN and reservera traw like a thousand Grahams 783 00:42:11,640 --> 00:42:15,319 Speaker 1: and dank and all the benefits from my surtoins and 784 00:42:16,239 --> 00:42:18,319 Speaker 1: my longevity G Like I can get like that's what 785 00:42:18,360 --> 00:42:21,240 Speaker 1: I mean when I'm like not so about like getting 786 00:42:21,239 --> 00:42:22,800 Speaker 1: out on that sort of out of edge of the 787 00:42:22,880 --> 00:42:26,240 Speaker 1: universe with food and supplements. But you know that's from 788 00:42:26,239 --> 00:42:27,920 Speaker 1: like it kind of makes me a little chubby. I'm 789 00:42:27,960 --> 00:42:31,279 Speaker 1: already estrogen dominant, and you know it's like makes me 790 00:42:31,320 --> 00:42:34,040 Speaker 1: a little soft, like I wish I would just I 791 00:42:34,239 --> 00:42:35,840 Speaker 1: love the ability to be like Jlo be like I 792 00:42:35,840 --> 00:42:39,120 Speaker 1: don't drink. And she just did this thing with about 793 00:42:39,120 --> 00:42:42,319 Speaker 1: her skin line. I was her like new you know, 794 00:42:42,360 --> 00:42:44,200 Speaker 1: skin by Jailer or whatever it's called. I was like, 795 00:42:44,480 --> 00:42:49,680 Speaker 1: her skin is flawshed's not the sun shrinking, Like I mean, 796 00:42:49,840 --> 00:42:53,239 Speaker 1: she started another feud. That's you and I decide that 797 00:42:53,280 --> 00:42:56,240 Speaker 1: we want to go after Jailo because we're so jealous. 798 00:42:56,280 --> 00:43:00,640 Speaker 1: Like literally, I'm like, you're disgusting, Jennifer Lopez. Nobody looks 799 00:43:00,719 --> 00:43:04,240 Speaker 1: like that. You've said an unreasonable example, and I'm curious 800 00:43:04,400 --> 00:43:10,680 Speaker 1: problem she and she works so hard, Like you have 801 00:43:10,800 --> 00:43:12,400 Speaker 1: to just be obsessed with her. You have to be 802 00:43:12,480 --> 00:43:17,520 Speaker 1: like she puts in the work. My god, she and 803 00:43:17,640 --> 00:43:19,880 Speaker 1: She'll just be like, I don't drink. I mean, what 804 00:43:19,920 --> 00:43:24,160 Speaker 1: do you mean? I know alcohol is mine, but it's 805 00:43:24,200 --> 00:43:29,759 Speaker 1: for me. It's margariteas wine obsessed with red wine obsessed 806 00:43:29,800 --> 00:43:33,640 Speaker 1: and then album with huge wine cellar. We only have 807 00:43:33,680 --> 00:43:36,640 Speaker 1: four bottles and it there's like six hundred fakes that 808 00:43:36,680 --> 00:43:42,120 Speaker 1: we Now I genuinely don't like you. Now I have 809 00:43:42,160 --> 00:43:46,120 Speaker 1: a real reason. Well maybe I'll maybe I'll send you 810 00:43:46,200 --> 00:43:51,040 Speaker 1: over one of our four Okay, last one. One tip 811 00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:56,680 Speaker 1: for creating a sustainable lifestyle. I mean it's so cliche, 812 00:43:56,760 --> 00:44:01,360 Speaker 1: but this really is like being the answer, you know what, 813 00:44:01,440 --> 00:44:05,160 Speaker 1: It's like, what's the meaning of life? The answer the 814 00:44:05,280 --> 00:44:09,960 Speaker 1: right way forward on just about every issue, whether it's politics, love, 815 00:44:10,160 --> 00:44:15,719 Speaker 1: health is balance. I mean, oh, coffee is bad for you, 816 00:44:15,800 --> 00:44:17,920 Speaker 1: coffee is great for you. Red wine is great for you. 817 00:44:17,960 --> 00:44:20,840 Speaker 1: Red wine is bad for you. If you overdo anything, 818 00:44:21,000 --> 00:44:24,240 Speaker 1: whether it's vitamin A or vitamin C, or you underdo 819 00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:27,520 Speaker 1: anything right. You could drink enough water to kill yourself. 820 00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:29,400 Speaker 1: You could drink not enough water, and it's a problem. 821 00:44:29,480 --> 00:44:33,600 Speaker 1: Everything in life is balanced. It's not about yes, go 822 00:44:33,760 --> 00:44:35,560 Speaker 1: all in, but all in on a lifestyle. I mean, 823 00:44:35,600 --> 00:44:39,000 Speaker 1: it's not about like all is in, never gonna have wine, 824 00:44:39,160 --> 00:44:42,319 Speaker 1: never gonna have sugar. You know, I'm gonna work out 825 00:44:42,360 --> 00:44:44,800 Speaker 1: every day. And it's not abandoning all of it either. 826 00:44:44,960 --> 00:44:51,960 Speaker 1: It's just common sense and approaching everything with some perspective 827 00:44:52,840 --> 00:44:56,040 Speaker 1: and balance so that it's it's more manageable and it's 828 00:44:56,080 --> 00:44:59,440 Speaker 1: more reasonable. And you'll find that with health or anything 829 00:44:59,480 --> 00:45:03,080 Speaker 1: else for that matter, the truth or the right way forward, 830 00:45:03,120 --> 00:45:04,759 Speaker 1: I won't see the truth, but the right way forward 831 00:45:04,880 --> 00:45:09,439 Speaker 1: is usually somewhere in the middle. I agree. Well, I 832 00:45:09,600 --> 00:45:11,719 Speaker 1: thank you so much for joining me. I look forward 833 00:45:11,760 --> 00:45:15,640 Speaker 1: to futing with you against it. It was a pleasure. 834 00:45:16,719 --> 00:45:19,680 Speaker 1: Thanks for listening. To subscribe to Teddy Teapot on I 835 00:45:19,800 --> 00:45:22,480 Speaker 1: Heart Radio or wherever you listen to podcasts.