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Speaker 1: My husband told his co workers I was his sister.

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Speaker 1: I think he's cheating awkward. So my husband, I'll call

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Speaker 1: him Josh, and I have been together for six years,

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Speaker 1: married for four, and we don't have kids. We have

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Speaker 1: a really healthy and communicative relationship. Both pretty easy going,

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Speaker 1: and I really love him. By the way, this comes

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Speaker 1: from throwaway takeaway crab on the Best of writer or

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Speaker 1: Updates subreddit. So he started working in a large accounting

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Speaker 1: firm about three years ago, and from what he tells me,

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Speaker 1: he loves it there. He's made a lot of friends

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Speaker 1: through his job, and he goes out with them for

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Speaker 1: drinks and social events quite often. And I've been totally

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Speaker 1: okay with that. I'm quite introverted, so I've never been

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Speaker 1: interested in meeting his colleagues or work friends, nor have

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Speaker 1: I asked to. So basically, it's like he has his

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Speaker 1: work life where he's socializing ever a great time, and

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Speaker 1: then he has his home life where he's hanging out

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Speaker 1: with ope his wife.

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Speaker 2: It's severance in my work world, you are my sister.

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Speaker 2: I don't know in my personal life. I don't know

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Speaker 2: that the.

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Speaker 1: EMA has no idea that I'm a man. Actually, yeah,

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Speaker 1: his work wife taken to the extreme.

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Speaker 3: Hey, Sam gender neutral name true.

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Speaker 4: And his producer Riley, which is also yeah, yeah Riley

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Speaker 4: and Sam.

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Speaker 1: I nothing to worry about. I have John, I have

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Speaker 1: interested in meeting his colleagues or work friends, nor have

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Speaker 1: I asked to. I've got my own circle of friends,

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Speaker 1: and I'm fine with us having separate friend groups. After

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Speaker 1: what happened yesterday, though, it only occurred to me that

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Speaker 1: he has never actually asked me if I'd like to

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Speaker 1: meet any of them or go to one of his

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Speaker 1: work events. I guess that's important context. Quick question to

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Speaker 1: y'all in the comments in the chat red flag or not?

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Speaker 1: Don't what you think?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he hasn't.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he hasn't offered to like go hang out with

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Speaker 2: Like I feel, you know, it's it's it's almost like

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Speaker 2: it just happens naturally, you know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like I'm gonna go, you want to go after.

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Speaker 2: A certain point, it's like, wait, why hasn't this happened yet?

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Speaker 2: And it's it's not even like a I mean, yeah,

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Speaker 2: it would be natural because like, oh, I'm going out.

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Speaker 3: Hey, do you want to come boom it happens. Do

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Speaker 3: you know how long they've been in a relationship.

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Speaker 1: At least six years together for six years, married for

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Speaker 1: four There we go.

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Speaker 4: So and uh op is twenty eight female and the

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's yeah, six years insane.

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Speaker 1: Six years To never invite your like kick ass work

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Speaker 1: friend group is crazy. That would be like Naima never

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Speaker 1: beating us exactly. To put it in John girlfriend terms,

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Speaker 1: exactly what John needs to like fully, I know.

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Speaker 3: Any other terms. He's like, Oh, it's totally fun, but

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Speaker 1: Like, yeah, yeah. To get the truth from John, you

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Speaker 1: have to say, all right, if this was.

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Speaker 2: Episode true, that's literally so true.

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Speaker 3: It was okay with it.

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Speaker 1: So also everyone in the chat right now, Heidi Vincent

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Speaker 1: red flag, a Beezer Slitherrim red flag, Susan As red flag,

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Speaker 1: Alana Cunningham, red flag. We got red flags in the

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Speaker 1: chat everywhere. But we're gonna get back into this story.

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Speaker 1: So I'm fine with us having separate friend groups after

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Speaker 1: what happened yesterday.

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Speaker 2: This man is trying to play with his dog while

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Speaker 2: reading Ultimate and listen, this dog is more ADHD than him.

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Speaker 3: If you can imagine.

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Speaker 1: I'll start with it. What happened a few months ago

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Speaker 1: he followed up with I'm Jake. I work with Josh.

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Speaker 1: guys are still so close. I haven't talked to my

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Speaker 1: brother in ages. So Op's husband's work friend thinks Op

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Speaker 1: Red flag or not? Red flag? Or is it too

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Speaker 3: Maybe seven Game of Thrones and he is taking inspiration?

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Speaker 1: At the time, I was like, huh, but I just

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Speaker 3: Definitely, because it's like, wait, why, well.

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Speaker 4: That is immediate family. She is his immediate family and

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Speaker 1: Content brother husband? What? I just thought, no harm, ro foul.

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Speaker 1: But yesterday morning I was walking our dog, Monty. He's

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Speaker 1: But then he said something like, aren't you a good

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Speaker 1: He was like Op's husband, really drilled it into the

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Speaker 3: Hey, did you get my hand down yesterday?

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Speaker 3: Of course, he doesn't want people to think he's married.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, maybe he's a doctor. And you know those prostate exams.

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Speaker 4: You don't want to stuck up, you.

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Speaker 1: I was so confused that I didn't even know how

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Speaker 2: Dude, they share a marriage, fifty percent of their DNA

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Speaker 1: Dude, you know crazy. I think that's just what a

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Speaker 1: I want a pause really quick right here? John, I

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Speaker 3: Well, I have a girlfriend. Yeah, and what I would do?

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Speaker 2: Uh, you know it's you shouldn't do this, but I

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Speaker 3: Many petty bread crail bread breadcrumb.

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Speaker 2: Trails for the brother and say things that could be

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Speaker 2: taken either way to see like how your reactions is, like, oh, hey,

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Speaker 3: Just finding all the moments too.

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Speaker 1: So you're telling me that if you found out that

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Speaker 3: Yeah, good luck. Now that's a.

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Speaker 2: Dude. Me and Nama are brother and sisters. Something is wrong,

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Speaker 2: something is not right. DNA tests now.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, for context, John and Nima look different.

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Speaker 3: We'll let you put those puzzles together. Yeah, very different.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I need some help. What would you guys do

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Speaker 1: in this situation? I would I want to know what

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Speaker 1: y'all would think? Uh, Almala Lara says, and say hey, brother,

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Speaker 1: Amalaara says, I'd go to his job. Heather Nichol says,

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Speaker 1: I would have been so much more likely to say

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Speaker 1: that's my husband. Amala Lara says, give him a little cheek. Really,

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Speaker 1: I think sell it. But let's keep going in the

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Speaker 1: story and see what happens. So I've only told one

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Speaker 3: Everybody, go in that poll. Vote, yeah, hit the polls.

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Speaker 1: It looks like eighty six percent of you are saying

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Speaker 1: additional context from Ope. Megan Schewey says, totally cheating a

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Speaker 1: I'm like, why are you hiding this?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Do you have like a workwife crush or something? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Jesse who medel Berquest says job wife.

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Speaker 2: But but my question though, is he would get the

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Speaker 2: It seems like he went into this job being like,

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Speaker 1: Right, Maybe he got this job to date a person

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Speaker 3: He literally is like, I have this whole secret life.

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Speaker 2: Basically the sidewife, and he's like, I want to marry

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Speaker 1: I think you know what he might have it.

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Speaker 3: Came home wasted, just got married. That was from his.

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Speaker 1: Wedding guest Wedding Vegas Wedding. Well, let's see additional information

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Speaker 1: from op. I didn't go into much detail about a

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Speaker 1: I've ever been in. I'm sorry about that. Dang, this

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Speaker 1: it says Dart I guess seriously.

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Speaker 3: And Jamie have the same thing.

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Speaker 1: They rule king together truly. I was friends with him

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Speaker 1: He remembers every little thing about me. He's so lovely

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Speaker 1: We also have a great, spicy sleep life and we

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Speaker 1: As I'm typing it. It feels like I'm in a

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Speaker 2: I think this is kind of like, you know, the

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Speaker 2: who's the practice family, That's what I'm trying to.

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Speaker 3: Magicians never reveal their tricks exactly.

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Speaker 1: It ruins, It ruins the magic. And do you want

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Speaker 1: Red pill or blue pill? Op comment so devote Red

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Speaker 1: Why does he need that? We asked that question. Why

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Speaker 1: This is where I'm at right now. I'm tail spending

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Speaker 1: And subspace is good, Space says I think you were

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Speaker 1: underreacting here. There is literally no good reason he has

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Speaker 1: so sorry you could choose to ask him why or

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Speaker 1: you could just leave John, I have a girlfriend, Fry

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Speaker 2: But I think going into those conversations, it's like assuming

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Speaker 2: You're either so ashamed of me that you don't want

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Speaker 3: Like even honestly, I.

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Speaker 2: but I'm like, if you're if you've been cheating or

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I think I would. I would be

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Speaker 1: Kimberly and Vine says it. If it didn't look natural,

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Speaker 1: it wouldn't be effective. People repeat behaviors that make them

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Speaker 2: So he has like all these jobs that he's just

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Opie's a stay at home wife.

437
00:21:02,240 --> 00:21:03,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, exactly.

438
00:21:03,119 --> 00:21:04,800
Speaker 1: He has all of his work lives there we go.

439
00:21:05,000 --> 00:21:07,479
Speaker 1: I do have someone that did the overemployment thing, not

440
00:21:07,520 --> 00:21:10,439
Speaker 1: with not with wives. But he did say he was

441
00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:12,679
Speaker 1: able to yeah, just jobs. He was able to like

442
00:21:12,720 --> 00:21:13,960
Speaker 1: juggle six jobs at once.

443
00:21:14,280 --> 00:21:14,960
Speaker 3: It's impressive.

444
00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:18,919
Speaker 1: Poorly, poorly just get fired and collect the checks, move on.

445
00:21:19,000 --> 00:21:21,440
Speaker 1: But Opie says, you're right. I think I was still

446
00:21:21,480 --> 00:21:23,520
Speaker 1: in denial and hoping it was all a mix up

447
00:21:23,520 --> 00:21:26,280
Speaker 1: when I posted this. I still am a little. My

448
00:21:26,359 --> 00:21:28,040
Speaker 1: husband is out right now and I'm in bed. My

449
00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:29,719
Speaker 1: head is spinning. But I'm going to talk to him

450
00:21:29,720 --> 00:21:32,919
Speaker 1: tomorrow and we have an update we got an update,

451
00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:36,439
Speaker 1: so Opie could surprise her husband at his job to

452
00:21:36,440 --> 00:21:38,919
Speaker 1: give him a kiss in front of his colleagues.

453
00:21:40,200 --> 00:21:40,880
Speaker 3: Interesting move.

454
00:21:41,520 --> 00:21:44,320
Speaker 1: That's like that one scene in Ferris Bueller where Ferris

455
00:21:44,359 --> 00:21:46,679
Speaker 1: Bueller is like the dad and he's picking up his

456
00:21:46,760 --> 00:21:48,919
Speaker 1: daughter from school, which is just really his girlfriend, and

457
00:21:48,920 --> 00:21:50,680
Speaker 1: then he picks him up in like the Porsche or

458
00:21:50,720 --> 00:21:52,880
Speaker 1: the Ferrari or something. Yeah, and then his girlfriend goes

459
00:21:52,920 --> 00:21:55,440
Speaker 1: and gives him like a giant smooch. And the principal's

460
00:21:55,480 --> 00:21:59,040
Speaker 1: watching what he thinks is the dad and the daughter

461
00:21:59,119 --> 00:22:00,879
Speaker 1: making out, and he's like, so that's how they do

462
00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:02,000
Speaker 1: it in that family.

463
00:22:03,359 --> 00:22:05,320
Speaker 3: Grave memory. I have seen that movie.

464
00:22:06,240 --> 00:22:09,679
Speaker 1: W Let's go, Opie says, I really wish I was

465
00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:11,280
Speaker 1: the kind of person that could do this, But the

466
00:22:11,320 --> 00:22:13,800
Speaker 1: thought of having everyone looking and judging and laughing is

467
00:22:13,880 --> 00:22:15,760
Speaker 1: just too much for me to handle. I don't even

468
00:22:15,800 --> 00:22:18,240
Speaker 1: know them, and the thought is making me dizzy. But

469
00:22:18,280 --> 00:22:20,000
Speaker 1: I think meeting him at work could be a good idea,

470
00:22:20,080 --> 00:22:21,840
Speaker 1: just to see how reacts. I just don't know if

471
00:22:21,840 --> 00:22:23,959
Speaker 1: I can wait the whole weekend without talking to him

472
00:22:23,960 --> 00:22:27,240
Speaker 1: about this. Stuck in Nowhereville says, so he's either having

473
00:22:27,280 --> 00:22:29,720
Speaker 1: an affair or at work or keeping his options open.

474
00:22:30,000 --> 00:22:32,439
Speaker 1: Neither good Opie responds, I'm starting to think you're right,

475
00:22:32,520 --> 00:22:34,560
Speaker 1: but I still can't even wrap my head around that

476
00:22:34,640 --> 00:22:38,480
Speaker 1: being possible. He's been just as present and loving as

477
00:22:38,480 --> 00:22:42,439
Speaker 1: he always has. Nothing has changed. Well, we're gonna see

478
00:22:42,680 --> 00:22:45,200
Speaker 1: what's changed, because we got an update, the big one,

479
00:22:45,640 --> 00:22:50,199
Speaker 1: the big one, juicy update, big juicy update. What do

480
00:22:50,200 --> 00:22:52,480
Speaker 1: you think about the whole giving a little sister kiss?

481
00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:56,920
Speaker 2: Uh again, It's like it's it would be fun to

482
00:22:56,920 --> 00:22:59,000
Speaker 2: torture him with it, but you just you just gotta

483
00:22:59,040 --> 00:23:01,200
Speaker 2: go straightfor and me be like, what's going on here?

484
00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:01,679
Speaker 1: All right?

485
00:23:01,800 --> 00:23:02,240
Speaker 3: Give me the too.

486
00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:04,960
Speaker 1: Well, let's see. Hi everyone, Hello, I just wanted to

487
00:23:05,000 --> 00:23:09,040
Speaker 1: say thank you for the overwhelming amount of support and advice.

488
00:23:09,320 --> 00:23:12,400
Speaker 1: I am blown away and it really means a lot

489
00:23:12,480 --> 00:23:15,119
Speaker 1: and has kept me grounded. I'm sorry for the slow update.

490
00:23:15,200 --> 00:23:17,760
Speaker 1: I know a lot of you were interested in what happened.

491
00:23:17,840 --> 00:23:20,200
Speaker 1: I actually tried to update on Saturday, but it turns

492
00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:22,040
Speaker 1: out this suburnet doesn't allow me to posse an update

493
00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:24,879
Speaker 1: until forty eight hours after my first post. I'm also

494
00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:27,560
Speaker 1: only allowed to post one single update, so I'll try

495
00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:30,000
Speaker 1: to fit as much as i can here sorry for

496
00:23:30,040 --> 00:23:31,960
Speaker 1: how long it might end up getting. I'll just get

497
00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:34,439
Speaker 1: right into it. So on Saturday morning, I woke up

498
00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:36,879
Speaker 1: earlier than my husband. He was very hungover, so he

499
00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:39,159
Speaker 1: was like a sleeping rock. But you guys will be

500
00:23:39,160 --> 00:23:41,680
Speaker 1: proud of me because I followed some advice and decided

501
00:23:41,680 --> 00:23:44,520
Speaker 1: to look through his phone properly while he was sleeping.

502
00:23:44,760 --> 00:23:47,480
Speaker 1: The trust is failing in the relationship. You want to

503
00:23:47,520 --> 00:23:49,480
Speaker 1: know the truth. But I feel like once you look

504
00:23:49,480 --> 00:23:51,760
Speaker 1: through the phone, it's kind of you. You're looking at

505
00:23:51,760 --> 00:23:52,120
Speaker 1: the end.

506
00:23:52,280 --> 00:23:53,480
Speaker 3: It's a Pandora's box.

507
00:23:53,640 --> 00:23:55,880
Speaker 1: You're your EA can close it. It's like you can't.

508
00:23:55,920 --> 00:23:57,879
Speaker 1: You can't close it. You can't close it. The trust

509
00:23:58,200 --> 00:24:00,119
Speaker 1: trust is gone, But you might just need an know

510
00:24:00,160 --> 00:24:01,000
Speaker 1: the information you need.

511
00:24:01,080 --> 00:24:03,800
Speaker 3: Although, yeah, this, I think it warrants it.

512
00:24:03,800 --> 00:24:04,320
Speaker 1: It warrant it.

513
00:24:04,359 --> 00:24:05,320
Speaker 3: I think so warrants it.

514
00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:07,720
Speaker 1: I had been on his phone so often, just pissing

515
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:09,960
Speaker 1: around on it that I had never thought to check

516
00:24:10,000 --> 00:24:12,560
Speaker 1: anything very deeply. I know his past code by heart.

517
00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:16,320
Speaker 1: I checked all the expected things like Instagram, DM's Facebook, Messenger,

518
00:24:16,400 --> 00:24:19,560
Speaker 1: his eye messages, et cetera. And I didn't find anything

519
00:24:19,600 --> 00:24:21,280
Speaker 1: that set off alarm bells to me. But I know

520
00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:24,439
Speaker 1: from some comments that people who are cheating are good

521
00:24:24,640 --> 00:24:27,720
Speaker 1: at covering their tracks and hiding messages. So I kept

522
00:24:27,760 --> 00:24:32,080
Speaker 1: looking around. I saw you at a folder called work hmm,

523
00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:34,639
Speaker 1: and so I looked in there, and he had a

524
00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:38,600
Speaker 1: couple of Microsoft apps Outlook, Authenticator, one Note, et cetera.

525
00:24:38,760 --> 00:24:41,800
Speaker 1: But he also had MS teams. I opened that up

526
00:24:41,880 --> 00:24:43,800
Speaker 1: and had to look around. It did feel like I

527
00:24:43,880 --> 00:24:46,360
Speaker 1: might have been breaking laws looking at his work messages,

528
00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:49,359
Speaker 1: but I obviously had to anyway. I was already upset

529
00:24:49,400 --> 00:24:52,119
Speaker 1: to see that he had a bunch of one on

530
00:24:52,119 --> 00:24:56,199
Speaker 1: one chats with several female coworkers, which at first glance

531
00:24:56,280 --> 00:24:59,200
Speaker 1: is obviously not an issue because everyone works with people

532
00:24:59,240 --> 00:25:01,800
Speaker 1: the opposite gender and are required to communicate with them.

533
00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:05,520
Speaker 1: But a couple of them were vaguely blurting nothing I

534
00:25:05,560 --> 00:25:08,960
Speaker 1: would call egregious. Whether it could be the occasional message

535
00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:13,160
Speaker 1: between them with some playful innuendo or a wink emoji

536
00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:16,280
Speaker 1: like hey, have you finished those spreadsheets?

537
00:25:16,359 --> 00:25:18,760
Speaker 4: Can you slide those files on my table.

538
00:25:19,840 --> 00:25:22,040
Speaker 1: Hard spread the sheets with me later?

539
00:25:22,200 --> 00:25:24,200
Speaker 3: Oh, super subtle.

540
00:25:24,560 --> 00:25:28,080
Speaker 1: Maybe I can sharpen my pencil in your pencil sharpener.

541
00:25:28,840 --> 00:25:32,479
Speaker 2: Yeah, because everyone knows the modern workplaces is missed without

542
00:25:32,520 --> 00:25:38,439
Speaker 2: pencils and pencil sharpeners. That's what everybody knows the modern

543
00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:39,120
Speaker 2: office desk.

544
00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:42,960
Speaker 1: These upset me obviously, and they did send me into

545
00:25:42,960 --> 00:25:44,680
Speaker 1: a bit of a spiral, But I didn't find anything

546
00:25:44,720 --> 00:25:47,720
Speaker 1: that suggested he was having an out and out affair

547
00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:50,960
Speaker 1: with any of them. Still, I followed someone suggestion of

548
00:25:51,000 --> 00:25:54,800
Speaker 1: screenshotting the messages, and I air dropped them to myself.

549
00:25:54,840 --> 00:25:58,440
Speaker 1: We got receipts, now pursuits. We got receipts. I still

550
00:25:58,480 --> 00:26:01,520
Speaker 1: wanted some evidence of the lie, some proof of Josh

551
00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:04,280
Speaker 1: telling someone that I was his sister directly. A comment

552
00:26:04,400 --> 00:26:07,880
Speaker 1: or suggested, Jellyba says, so are these examples of Sam's

553
00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:13,800
Speaker 1: worktex sending winky vases to John and Riley and little

554
00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:14,800
Speaker 1: Booty picks.

555
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:17,080
Speaker 3: A lot of peaches. Bis.

556
00:26:17,160 --> 00:26:19,840
Speaker 1: A commenter suggested that I go through his messages and

557
00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:23,000
Speaker 1: search for keyword sister smart.

558
00:26:23,080 --> 00:26:24,440
Speaker 3: Yes, that's genius.

559
00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:26,880
Speaker 1: I wanted to reply to your comment and say thank

560
00:26:26,920 --> 00:26:28,960
Speaker 1: you for the idea, but the post was locked, so

561
00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:31,520
Speaker 1: I couldn't but thank you. So I searched for sis

562
00:26:31,600 --> 00:26:34,600
Speaker 1: on Emma's teams, hoping to find results for both sister

563
00:26:34,760 --> 00:26:37,520
Speaker 1: and sis a bunch of messages from all hands group

564
00:26:37,600 --> 00:26:40,560
Speaker 1: chats or one on one chats came up from other people,

565
00:26:40,680 --> 00:26:43,280
Speaker 1: all unrelated about their own sisters or whatever. But my

566
00:26:43,560 --> 00:26:47,240
Speaker 1: heart dropped out of my butt out when I saw

567
00:26:47,440 --> 00:26:49,800
Speaker 1: there was a direct message from Jake the guy from

568
00:26:49,800 --> 00:26:53,280
Speaker 1: the bar, to Josh from a Monday a few months ago.

569
00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:57,200
Speaker 1: Jake's message said, ran into your sis at the bar

570
00:26:57,359 --> 00:27:00,640
Speaker 1: on Friday. She's single right in my has been had

571
00:27:00,680 --> 00:27:04,240
Speaker 1: the effingulf to reply, Nah, she's married. Bro.

572
00:27:06,800 --> 00:27:10,399
Speaker 2: It's so painful because he didn't lie in his response,

573
00:27:10,560 --> 00:27:12,760
Speaker 2: and it's like makes your skin crawl.

574
00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:14,680
Speaker 1: She's married. Bro.

575
00:27:15,280 --> 00:27:19,640
Speaker 4: Oh wait till he finds out that it's with you.

576
00:27:21,359 --> 00:27:22,320
Speaker 4: That's gonna be crazy.

577
00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:26,280
Speaker 1: That's gonna be one. So do we have enough information

578
00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:29,240
Speaker 1: to to do a little breakup?

579
00:27:29,760 --> 00:27:31,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, well I think like you still want to know.

580
00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:34,719
Speaker 2: I would probably go like confront it, like what is this?

581
00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:36,600
Speaker 2: In the back of my mind, I'm like, I'm already

582
00:27:36,600 --> 00:27:39,520
Speaker 2: prepared to break up, but I honestly just for just

583
00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:42,240
Speaker 2: pure curiosity, like what was your motivation?

584
00:27:42,359 --> 00:27:44,440
Speaker 3: Like why did you do this? This is this is insane?

585
00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:47,600
Speaker 2: Get that, and then I will almost certainly be unsatisfied

586
00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:48,280
Speaker 2: and freaking dip.

587
00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:52,040
Speaker 3: Speaking of dipping, oh johnis to go. Guys, my old

588
00:27:52,080 --> 00:27:54,240
Speaker 3: my old wizard neednes need some care.

589
00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:56,480
Speaker 1: How's that been going? By the way, are you feeling better?

590
00:27:56,840 --> 00:27:57,680
Speaker 3: It's feeling better.

591
00:27:57,760 --> 00:28:00,280
Speaker 2: But like I'll work out and it'll hurt a lot

592
00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:03,440
Speaker 2: and be inflamed a lot more than it was pre paris,

593
00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:04,720
Speaker 2: So trying to.

594
00:28:04,760 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 1: Are you doing like the knee the knee exercises at

595
00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:07,920
Speaker 1: the gym?

596
00:28:08,359 --> 00:28:14,120
Speaker 2: I I did my first leg day and that made

597
00:28:14,119 --> 00:28:16,800
Speaker 2: it a lot more like inflamed than like doing leg

598
00:28:16,880 --> 00:28:17,840
Speaker 2: days prior.

599
00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:20,720
Speaker 1: Right, okay, so but like overall.

600
00:28:20,280 --> 00:28:23,080
Speaker 2: Like fine, like it works, but it's just like it

601
00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:26,280
Speaker 2: is more painful in a totally manageable way. So I'm

602
00:28:26,359 --> 00:28:28,400
Speaker 2: just you know, I'm going for the bionic knee. I'm

603
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:30,080
Speaker 2: trying to figure out, like how do I turn it

604
00:28:30,080 --> 00:28:31,480
Speaker 2: into a super knee, you.

605
00:28:31,440 --> 00:28:33,840
Speaker 1: Know, get all the muscles going, all the muscles just

606
00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 1: have like this roids directly to a mountain of got

607
00:28:38,240 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 1: like a Rick and Morty arm, but a like exactly

608
00:28:41,040 --> 00:28:45,600
Speaker 1: just like just knee. Bold les Toster left like going crazy.

609
00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:48,680
Speaker 1: What is he doing? That's the goal? So yeah, I'll

610
00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:49,440
Speaker 1: get the hell out of here.

611
00:28:49,480 --> 00:28:52,000
Speaker 3: I have to leave you guys, love you bye.

612
00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:56,640
Speaker 1: Should we get Sophia in here? Sophie, Uh real quick?

613
00:28:56,680 --> 00:29:01,440
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it's hit some donos donation from Mafra. Thanks

614
00:29:01,440 --> 00:29:03,440
Speaker 1: for the five bucks. Also, there's more to this story,

615
00:29:03,560 --> 00:29:07,360
Speaker 1: but we're just gonna read some donuts while Alsophia's coming

616
00:29:07,440 --> 00:29:11,240
Speaker 1: in love all of you, But Sam as a special

617
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:15,320
Speaker 1: place in my heart for being my therapist doppelganger, from

618
00:29:15,360 --> 00:29:18,520
Speaker 1: the face to the voice, the advice and tone. I

619
00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:22,720
Speaker 1: get therapy through both streams and my therapist now getting

620
00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:26,640
Speaker 1: I'm glad you're super sexy therapist could give you such

621
00:29:26,680 --> 00:29:29,920
Speaker 1: great advice and that I could too. Matha's daughter thanks

622
00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:33,280
Speaker 1: for the two bucks on a YouTube and Amy, thanks

623
00:29:33,320 --> 00:29:36,680
Speaker 1: for the five bucks. Fyi, Sam. We're also starting Johnny

624
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:39,920
Speaker 1: Fry's four D Chess Club. Everyone is going to be

625
00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:43,080
Speaker 1: fit and smart by doing cardio buddy and forty chess

626
00:29:43,080 --> 00:29:46,240
Speaker 1: stuff with zero problem. That's what I like. A forty

627
00:29:46,400 --> 00:29:48,240
Speaker 1: chess club actually kind of sounds a lit.

628
00:29:49,200 --> 00:29:53,240
Speaker 4: Have you seen the chess slash boxing stuff?

629
00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:55,320
Speaker 1: No where.

630
00:29:55,360 --> 00:29:58,360
Speaker 4: Basically, you have a round of boxing and then after

631
00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:02,160
Speaker 4: that you play a game of chess and whoever gets

632
00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:04,600
Speaker 4: knocked out or checkmated loses.

633
00:30:04,400 --> 00:30:07,800
Speaker 1: Oh so it's like you're like competing on two front fronts.

634
00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:09,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, physically and mentally.

635
00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:12,240
Speaker 1: Whoa, I kind of like that. I like that a lot.

636
00:30:12,600 --> 00:30:13,400
Speaker 1: I like that a lot.

637
00:30:15,000 --> 00:30:15,360
Speaker 6: Thanks.

638
00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:19,800
Speaker 4: Uh, we're gonna give her a little TLDR here, a

639
00:30:19,840 --> 00:30:20,720
Speaker 4: little TLDR.

640
00:30:21,680 --> 00:30:22,160
Speaker 1: Are you ready?

641
00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:22,880
Speaker 2: Yes?

642
00:30:23,520 --> 00:30:24,680
Speaker 1: All right, So TLDR.

643
00:30:25,080 --> 00:30:25,200
Speaker 5: Uh.

644
00:30:25,280 --> 00:30:29,600
Speaker 1: It's actually pretty simple. TLDR is Op's husband has been

645
00:30:29,640 --> 00:30:34,400
Speaker 1: telling everyone at work that she is his sister. Oh

646
00:30:34,880 --> 00:30:38,240
Speaker 1: that's not good, yeah, which is fairly whack.

647
00:30:38,760 --> 00:30:41,320
Speaker 6: That's very whack. More than fairly.

648
00:30:41,480 --> 00:30:44,400
Speaker 1: And now like his coworkers have been going up to

649
00:30:44,480 --> 00:30:47,920
Speaker 1: Op and being like, oh, like you're you're uh, you're like.

650
00:30:48,560 --> 00:30:50,760
Speaker 6: His sister, right, And what has she been saying? And

651
00:30:50,840 --> 00:30:51,480
Speaker 6: she's been saying.

652
00:30:52,800 --> 00:30:57,120
Speaker 1: She doesn't been saying anything. She's been like confused, not good.

653
00:30:57,400 --> 00:30:58,000
Speaker 6: Is he cheating?

654
00:30:58,720 --> 00:31:01,200
Speaker 1: That's what we're thinking. That is the working theory. But

655
00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:04,040
Speaker 1: we'll see, we'll see. Oh what we just found out.

656
00:31:04,160 --> 00:31:07,680
Speaker 1: She's been like digging through his messages. Yeah, and she

657
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Speaker 1: was looking for anything like anywhere that was talking about sister.

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Speaker 1: Nothing on messages but on Microsoft teams. One of his

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Speaker 1: coworkers was like, I bumped into your sister at the

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Speaker 1: bar the other day, she's single, right, and my husband

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Speaker 1: has the eff and goal to reply, Nah, she's.

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Speaker 3: Married, damn.

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Speaker 6: So he doesn't want to tell anyone that he's married

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Speaker 6: to her.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but also he's not wearing a wedding ring at

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Speaker 1: work obviously. Yeah, so let's see, let's doe what happened

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Speaker 1: to change. I literally almost burst into flames on the

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Speaker 1: spot when I saw that. I can't even describe how

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Speaker 1: much I was shaking after reading those messages. Firstly, that

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Speaker 1: I could have confronted Josh about this months ago, I

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Speaker 1: was and still am so furious with myself for that.

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Speaker 1: Josh would have been effing praying I didn't remember meeting

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Speaker 1: Jake or that I wouldn't mention it, and he would

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Speaker 1: have been counting his lucky stars that I never did,

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Speaker 1: but probably thought he was hot shit for getting away

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Speaker 1: with that. And I nearly burnt a hole through the

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Speaker 1: floor thinking about it, lole. But secondly, I was just

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Speaker 1: in shock that he had the balls to tell this

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Speaker 1: guy that I'm the one who was married because he

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Speaker 1: doesn't want anyone having it on with me, but he

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Speaker 1: is allowed to coyly flirt with every effing woman in

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Speaker 1: the office. Also, he was like sending winky faces to

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Speaker 1: office women.

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Speaker 6: You also just weird in general, even if he wasn't married.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I think so too. Anyway, I kept going

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Speaker 1: back through the search results on MS teams, and eventually

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Speaker 1: I got far back is twoish years ago, and I did,

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Speaker 1: in fact find a message from Josh himself to the

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Speaker 1: group chat. It said me and Sis and new Sadua.

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Speaker 1: I clicked on that and saw they had sent it

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Speaker 1: alongside a bunch of photos of him and I from

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Speaker 1: our holiday to Bali. Also, he's been at this job

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Speaker 1: for six years. We went to Bali for our second anniversary.

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Speaker 1: I thought he probably those photos because he's shirtless and

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Speaker 1: had been working out, so he looked hot in all

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Speaker 1: of them. I was in tears seeing all of this. Obviously,

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Speaker 1: I took screenshots of those two and air dropped all

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Speaker 1: the screenshots to myself. Needless to say, I was devastated,

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Speaker 1: and I still am to see all of that. I'm

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Speaker 1: struggling to even process it all. But that all happened

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Speaker 1: on Saturday morning, and I immediately took myself to my

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Speaker 1: friend's house I'll call her Sophie. I went to replace

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Speaker 1: to cry it out and show her what I found,

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Speaker 1: and she was extremely supportive and probably more furious than me,

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Speaker 1: which is like a W A W. Friend.

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Speaker 6: That's what you need. You need friends who are like,

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Speaker 6: what he's terrible? Ah, A bunch of him?

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. We had a friend recently that did this

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Speaker 1: for another friend, where like like one of our friends

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Speaker 1: broke up with their boyfriend and he was like, wait,

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Speaker 1: do we hate him? And it was like, yeah, that's

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Speaker 1: the kind of energy you need. So at around one thirty,

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Speaker 1: I got a phone call from and I hung it

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Speaker 1: up immediately. He sent me a few messages along the

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Speaker 1: lines where are you baby, I'm ordering food, want some

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Speaker 1: sad to not wake up to you this morning, and

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Speaker 1: got your bs.

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Speaker 6: This is what she does. She takes a picture of

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Speaker 6: those texts, and then on Instagram she follows everyone from

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Speaker 6: the office on Instagram and then she posts it and

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Speaker 6: says underneath it just sibling behavior.

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Speaker 1: Or sends her sex tape to the whole office okay,

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Speaker 1: and the husband of her and the husband So that's

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Speaker 1: those are just bonding activities with family.

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Speaker 6: So those are two different options varying verasas efficacy.

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Speaker 1: We got more to this, y'all.

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Speaker 2: Wo