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Speaker 3: mean Instagram caption, give me some you know, fun things we.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, you can tell when it's definitely Instagram.

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Speaker 1: Our captions are written by AI yeah.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, a lot of them.

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Speaker 3: I tweak them though, see that that's your first mistake,

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Speaker 1: You can't just like go in, well, I don't if

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Speaker 1: I'm doing that, I can just do it myself. If

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Speaker 1: I'm tweaking it, well.

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Speaker 3: I think she said like a foundation, and then I

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Speaker 3: think you go in and kind of have to make

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Speaker 1: If you were ever a single person, or if you

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Speaker 1: are a single person and you went to a wedding

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Speaker 1: and you were and there was an attempt at to

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Speaker 1: set up because I feel like what happens is a

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Speaker 1: aguess since I mean usually it's this is way more

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Speaker 1: common I think in people's twenties or whatever. But like,

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Speaker 1: you go to a wedding and in your single and

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Speaker 1: there's usually other single people there, and so like the

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Speaker 1: groom or the bride is like, well, at our wedding,

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Speaker 1: you need to meet Sally because Sally's single, and I

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Speaker 1: think you guys would like each other because apparently if

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Speaker 1: you're at a wedding and you're not you're by yourself,

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Speaker 1: or if you're single, then it's imperative that you are

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Speaker 1: not because it's so romantic. You know, you have to

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Speaker 1: anymore because well, first of all, I don't go to

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Speaker 1: but they're usually much smaller. I've actually, I've actually stood

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Speaker 1: So I feel like the sas a lot of a

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Speaker 1: But what I what I found is it almost never works,

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Speaker 1: like has it ever worked for you? Because you know,

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Speaker 1: And for weeks in advance, it was that this coworker

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Speaker 1: And so then homegirl first girl's mad, but she really

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Speaker 1: has no reason to be mad because it's like, well,

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Speaker 1: these weddings and it's like, I don't know, but has

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Speaker 1: the bride responded, yes, my fiance is compiling a list,

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Speaker 4: Men oh god A good friends who are.

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Speaker 1: Attending the wedding, not just their names, though this presentation

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Speaker 1: included photos, profession, current location, where they grew up, what

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Speaker 1: the process go for another New Yorker. Did it turn

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Speaker 1: out well, No, it was a bust, she says, but

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Speaker 4: That's nice. I feel like people should do that for

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Speaker 4: their friends. That is nice.

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Speaker 1: But has the wedding arrangement ever worked? I wonder like

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Speaker 1: if anyone ever left a wedding and been like, that's

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Speaker 1: the I found the one at your wedding.

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Speaker 2: I don't have any friends that that has happened to,

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Speaker 2: but I know that weddings are a romantic place. Like

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Speaker 2: I feel like every single person that goes to the

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Speaker 4: Or whatever they're all like.

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Speaker 2: Being sized up by the single men, and then when

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Speaker 2: they do the little bouquet toss, I feel like that's

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Speaker 4: A lot of people I feel like hook up at

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Speaker 4: other people's weddings.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I don't know. If they do that thing

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Speaker 1: and I'm watching, I stay away from the one who's

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Speaker 1: the most aggressive, the one who's the most rapidest, like you, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: the one who just like ran across the room and

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Speaker 1: jumped and wind up on Sports Center. Yeah for grabbing them. Okay,

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Speaker 1: that's the one who I think is a little bit

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Speaker 4: That's me. They're on albows trying to get a little book.

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Speaker 1: And all the guys are watching, going which one of

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Speaker 1: like all the guys, especially the guys who are in

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Speaker 1: Well, I just wonder if it's ever worked, because I

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Speaker 1: mean I definitely have met people at weddings and things

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Speaker 1: And I also been told so and so so excited

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Speaker 1: This is going to be great, only for so and

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Speaker 1: in real life. But then it's awkward because there's been

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Speaker 1: so much, you know, build up for weeks and weeks

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's the build up for me.

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Speaker 5: I think there's so many things that have to fall

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Speaker 5: into place perfectly for it to work that I feel

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Speaker 5: like the percentage has to be low. Yeah, that it's

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Speaker 5: a lasting thing, like maybe for that night because everyone's drunk,

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Speaker 5: it looks hot and whatever, but like there's.

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Speaker 4: Some one that's lasting. I don't love.

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Speaker 1: It's a very nice thing to do, though. It was

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Speaker 1: a very nice thing to do to make a presentation.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, But I will say that the story I

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Speaker 1: was telling you about the navy seal and the woman

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Speaker 1: who wound up not being heard wound up being someone else.

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Speaker 1: It was a destination wedding. This is a crazy story.

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Speaker 1: They hooked up that night, right and then the other

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Speaker 1: girls passed, but the other two traveled together like they

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Speaker 1: the time when we were going away to this other

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Speaker 1: gets delayed, right the flight gets delayed five hours, so

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Speaker 1: I guess she's texted dude from the night before. Dude

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Speaker 1: now her friend's not going to hang out with her

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Speaker 1: the parking lot getting with the same guy. But she

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Speaker 4: I know that girl just wanted to go home.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know my story made sensor if you

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Speaker 1: need a diagram. But all I'm saying is this girl's like,

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Speaker 1: not only did I not was he not into me

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Speaker 5: C, on the airport, fresh out the back seat on

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Speaker 5: the plane, right exactly.

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Speaker 1: Hey, Renee, good morning, Hey, good morning, Hi Renee. So

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Speaker 1: you have one of these sort of wedding hookup scenarios,

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Speaker 1: but it worked out for you, well, not.

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Speaker 4: Really in the end.

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Speaker 6: But so it was about probably like ten to fifteen

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Speaker 2: Cousin got married and I was a bridesmaid in the wedding,

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Speaker 2: and I ended up hooking up.

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Speaker 6: With the best man who was you know, the groom's brother.

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Speaker 7: So then actually they ended up getting divorced, and recently

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Speaker 8: But if you can guess, I did not get an

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Speaker 8: invitation to that second wedding.

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Speaker 1: Now you know what would have been wild if she

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Speaker 1: married the brother, that would have been my god.

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Speaker 6: No, he got married a short while after the wedding.

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Speaker 9: So that might have been a little questionable.

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Speaker 1: Wait a minute, so there was a bit of an

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Speaker 1: overlap with Renee in the and the future wife.

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Speaker 6: I unbeknownst to me, unbeknownst.

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Speaker 1: To me, why wasn't the future wife at the wedding?

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Speaker 1: How is this even permitted to occur?

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Speaker 6: Exactly? I have no idea.

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Speaker 9: I didn't ask questions.

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Speaker 6: Sometimes ignorance is bliss.

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Speaker 1: I agree. I agree with that. Thank you to that

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Speaker 1: power point would have been nice, you know, with all

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Speaker 1: this kind of information. You know, have a good day

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Speaker 1: for you too. Thank you for calling known wedding shenanigans

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Speaker 1: for you.

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Speaker 3: No, I've never really hot to take care. I've never

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Speaker 3: really been to a wedding as an adult. Yeah, my

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Speaker 3: friends will be having.

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Speaker 1: Well.

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Speaker 5: One thing that happened that was scandalous was after one wedding,

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Speaker 1: Wow, And this don't happened because you wouldn't put your

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Speaker 7: How are you guys?

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Speaker 8: So the wedding was in Cabo. It was my best

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Speaker 12: So it worked for you, right, I mean yeah, people,

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Speaker 2: I go every wed and I go to I'm like, okay, yeah,

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Speaker 4: I'm not doing my wedding one day. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: What is the earliest possible opportunity for an eggship that's

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Speaker 1: Tinder and find my own Papa. Thanks for having us

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Speaker 1: on the radio, on the iHeart app live and anytime

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Speaker 1: search for the Fresh Show on demand. So how would

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Speaker 1: I did a lot of research.

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Speaker 4: So I do it just all your friends every week?

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Speaker 1: You just which one of you want to do immoral

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Speaker 1: A dude's fiance plans to wear her late husband wedding

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Speaker 1: Others suggested a compromise, like a symbolic gesture instead of

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Speaker 1: wearing the ring. I would if I'm being one hundred

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Speaker 4: You wouldn't be either, No, I would not.

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Speaker 1: I know Fred, You weak, little weak little nugget. No, no,

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Speaker 4: See, okay, I have compassion.

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Speaker 3: No, I'd be upset. I'd be bothered for sure. But like,

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Speaker 3: it's sad if that person tragically died. I mean that's awful.

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Speaker 1: Now you've got to have like something tangible with you

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Speaker 1: at the wedding. To me, I'm trying to really like

438
00:18:26,840 --> 00:18:31,240
Speaker 1: sure resemble him, Like guys we're moving on like right at.

439
00:18:31,119 --> 00:18:34,080
Speaker 3: The wedding, probably not see if Howby did that, we

440
00:18:34,119 --> 00:18:35,840
Speaker 3: wouldn't be at the Little White Wedding Chapel. I think

441
00:18:35,880 --> 00:18:38,560
Speaker 3: we'd be honestly in therapy to work through that because

442
00:18:38,560 --> 00:18:39,840
Speaker 3: it's like, why would you want to include that on

443
00:18:39,880 --> 00:18:40,520
Speaker 3: your special day?

444
00:18:40,840 --> 00:18:42,480
Speaker 1: Are you really ready to do this? If we're still

445
00:18:42,480 --> 00:18:44,480
Speaker 1: reflecting on the best I guess that would be my question.

446
00:18:44,680 --> 00:18:48,119
Speaker 14: Have anything from their previous you know, marriage or like

447
00:18:48,160 --> 00:18:48,920
Speaker 14: a photo or.

448
00:18:48,880 --> 00:18:51,719
Speaker 3: Anything, I mean, and how it exists, like we can

449
00:18:51,760 --> 00:18:53,600
Speaker 3: put them away. I'm not saying I don't want them,

450
00:18:53,640 --> 00:18:55,600
Speaker 3: you know, like plastered on the living room wall when

451
00:18:55,640 --> 00:18:58,360
Speaker 3: you walk in. Probably not, but I would still understand

452
00:18:58,400 --> 00:19:00,159
Speaker 3: that this happened. Like you said, it's a part of

453
00:19:00,200 --> 00:19:02,359
Speaker 3: his history, right, I mean she didn't do anything to me.

454
00:19:02,440 --> 00:19:03,520
Speaker 4: I mean she passed away.

455
00:19:03,560 --> 00:19:06,760
Speaker 3: Right, Theoretically, in this theory, we're doing like she passed away,

456
00:19:06,840 --> 00:19:08,520
Speaker 3: and I don't want him to forget her.

457
00:19:08,560 --> 00:19:10,760
Speaker 4: But on our special day, probably not.

458
00:19:10,920 --> 00:19:13,479
Speaker 3: This is today is about us because you're loving a

459
00:19:13,520 --> 00:19:14,439
Speaker 3: not complete person.

460
00:19:14,440 --> 00:19:16,040
Speaker 14: I feel like at that point, like a part of

461
00:19:16,040 --> 00:19:18,280
Speaker 14: their heart will always be with the spouse that they

462
00:19:18,280 --> 00:19:19,439
Speaker 14: thought they were going to spend the rest of their

463
00:19:19,480 --> 00:19:19,760
Speaker 14: life with.

464
00:19:19,800 --> 00:19:20,720
Speaker 4: And that's totally fair.

465
00:19:20,880 --> 00:19:22,800
Speaker 3: But like on our special day at least you know,

466
00:19:22,840 --> 00:19:25,040
Speaker 3: it's my wedding too, right, it's a two people event.

467
00:19:25,440 --> 00:19:31,359
Speaker 1: It's you know, for yourself. I watched it can be

468
00:19:31,359 --> 00:19:33,679
Speaker 1: a multiple person event. It depends where you live.

469
00:19:33,840 --> 00:19:36,320
Speaker 4: You know, it could be correct, it can be. But

470
00:19:36,400 --> 00:19:39,960
Speaker 4: my mind, for example, me and we too of us.

471
00:19:40,040 --> 00:19:42,000
Speaker 14: Right, That's why I'm saying I don't think everyone can

472
00:19:42,040 --> 00:19:43,080
Speaker 14: handle that situation.

473
00:19:43,320 --> 00:19:45,840
Speaker 4: I really don't think that. I agree, just my opinion.

474
00:19:45,920 --> 00:19:47,720
Speaker 1: I mean, what, Jason, you're over here with this look

475
00:19:47,760 --> 00:19:50,120
Speaker 1: on your face of disgust, like honestly, like, okay, so,

476
00:19:50,119 --> 00:19:53,440
Speaker 1: so Mike the mechanic wants to marry you, and he's like, hey,

477
00:19:53,440 --> 00:19:55,119
Speaker 1: but this dude, I hope that with on grinder a

478
00:19:55,160 --> 00:19:57,040
Speaker 1: while ago, like I need I need to make sure

479
00:19:57,080 --> 00:19:58,880
Speaker 1: that I he left his chain in my house.

480
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Speaker 4: It's a little different, but for multiple years.

481
00:20:03,680 --> 00:20:06,440
Speaker 1: Okay, But honestly, though, do you want a person who

482
00:20:06,480 --> 00:20:12,119
Speaker 1: is who is essentially you're replacing them? I mean, okay, okay,

483
00:20:12,160 --> 00:20:18,919
Speaker 1: imagine this, imagine imagine okay, you're you're my beloved co worker. Right,

484
00:20:18,960 --> 00:20:21,760
Speaker 1: you're my beloved co worker. God forbid, I hate this example,

485
00:20:21,800 --> 00:20:26,000
Speaker 1: but God forbid you decide I'm going to I'm I'm

486
00:20:26,000 --> 00:20:28,200
Speaker 1: gonna move on. I'm going to go and be Britney

487
00:20:28,240 --> 00:20:32,320
Speaker 1: Spears's manager. And everyone's happy, well sort of happy for you. Yeah,

488
00:20:32,440 --> 00:20:34,080
Speaker 1: I mean like it's a little late in the game

489
00:20:34,080 --> 00:20:35,960
Speaker 1: for that, but you know, still, okay, so you're gonna

490
00:20:35,960 --> 00:20:38,159
Speaker 1: be Britney Spearers's manager. We're also happy for you. We're

491
00:20:38,160 --> 00:20:40,520
Speaker 1: clapping or whatever, and then you know, it's it's a

492
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Speaker 1: wonderful it's.

493
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Speaker 4: A wonderful day's great.

494
00:20:43,240 --> 00:20:46,960
Speaker 1: Like, you know, here's to the Shelly goodfellow whatever. Okay,

495
00:20:47,080 --> 00:20:49,159
Speaker 1: So then we have to replace you. Sadly, it's terrible,

496
00:20:49,440 --> 00:20:51,960
Speaker 1: but we have a picture of you right there in

497
00:20:52,000 --> 00:20:55,240
Speaker 1: your chair that stares at the new person every single day,

498
00:20:55,520 --> 00:20:58,200
Speaker 1: and it says, we miss so we miss you so much,

499
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Speaker 1: Jason Brown, you know, to the greatest person to ever

500
00:21:01,480 --> 00:21:04,480
Speaker 1: sit in this chair, Jason Brown, you know. And the

501
00:21:04,520 --> 00:21:06,359
Speaker 1: new person has to sit there and stare at that

502
00:21:06,400 --> 00:21:09,600
Speaker 1: all morning. I mean, it might be true, but what

503
00:21:09,640 --> 00:21:12,760
Speaker 1: I'm saying is nobody wants that daily reminder that like

504
00:21:12,880 --> 00:21:14,440
Speaker 1: there was somebody greater than me here.

505
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Speaker 5: That's completely it all. It is completely different. This is

506
00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:26,120
Speaker 5: with someone passed away. I didn't die, but you don't

507
00:21:26,200 --> 00:21:37,800
Speaker 5: hear anymore better even crazier people I've somehow found them.

508
00:21:37,840 --> 00:21:42,440
Speaker 5: But that's so different. There's nothing like I can't even

509
00:21:42,480 --> 00:21:45,680
Speaker 5: imagine the pain of losing a spouse, so I look

510
00:21:45,720 --> 00:21:46,320
Speaker 5: at I have.

511
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Speaker 4: I have not been through that.

512
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Speaker 9: There.

513
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Speaker 5: I cannot say one single thing about how you deal

514
00:21:52,160 --> 00:21:52,520
Speaker 5: with it.

515
00:21:53,080 --> 00:21:54,600
Speaker 4: That pain is like I can.

516
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Speaker 5: Fashionable to even think about how that you feel like,

517
00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:04,120
Speaker 5: you can feel all you want, but I would have

518
00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:05,720
Speaker 5: to be fine with It's not like it's competition.

519
00:22:05,800 --> 00:22:09,160
Speaker 1: He's gone, Yeah, but don't don't my feelings about this matter.

520
00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:11,639
Speaker 1: I'm marrying you now, it's about me now, it's not

521
00:22:11,680 --> 00:22:13,840
Speaker 1: about that person. I'm so sorry for what happened. But

522
00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:16,640
Speaker 1: I feel like if we're honoring your ex husband at

523
00:22:16,680 --> 00:22:20,080
Speaker 1: your new wedding, I mean, listen to that sentence, that doesn't.

524
00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:22,000
Speaker 5: Say anything about the grief and how she deals with it.

525
00:22:22,040 --> 00:22:25,560
Speaker 5: I'm sorry, absolutely my opinion, you didn't, you know, go

526
00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:26,080
Speaker 5: through that.

527
00:22:26,240 --> 00:22:28,399
Speaker 4: She did. So whatever she needs to do to feel better,

528
00:22:28,680 --> 00:22:29,640
Speaker 4: that's what she gets to do.

529
00:22:30,520 --> 00:22:34,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, at your wedding. At your wedding, we're going to

530
00:22:34,119 --> 00:22:36,840
Speaker 1: honor another guy, Jason.

531
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Speaker 5: If someone died that they were married to, who am

532
00:22:41,200 --> 00:22:41,680
Speaker 5: I to say?

533
00:22:41,760 --> 00:22:43,639
Speaker 4: You don't get too honestly, the.

534
00:22:43,640 --> 00:22:48,439
Speaker 1: New husband, it doesn't matter. Goodness, the pain away. It's

535
00:22:48,480 --> 00:22:49,320
Speaker 1: so quiet over here.

536
00:22:49,520 --> 00:22:51,560
Speaker 2: Oh, because I was trying to figure out whose side

537
00:22:51,600 --> 00:22:53,520
Speaker 2: I'm on today.

538
00:22:52,680 --> 00:22:55,000
Speaker 4: I think I want to be that's the coin. I

539
00:22:55,000 --> 00:22:57,800
Speaker 4: want to be on the right side todays.

540
00:22:58,920 --> 00:23:01,280
Speaker 1: Right, It's welcome. It's nice over here.

541
00:23:01,200 --> 00:23:05,360
Speaker 2: Because the person is dead, so like literally, they're never

542
00:23:05,440 --> 00:23:07,480
Speaker 2: going to be your competition, competing with the goal.

543
00:23:07,600 --> 00:23:07,800
Speaker 4: Never.

544
00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:11,040
Speaker 1: I don't think that's true. I don't think that's true.

545
00:23:11,119 --> 00:23:13,240
Speaker 1: I think if a person is still honoring their ex

546
00:23:13,320 --> 00:23:15,680
Speaker 1: husband at the wedding to the new person. You are

547
00:23:15,720 --> 00:23:18,040
Speaker 1: constantly being compared to that honoring.

548
00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:19,720
Speaker 4: First of all, it's just me.

549
00:23:20,600 --> 00:23:23,920
Speaker 2: I'm wearing the chan a symbol of somebody I love

550
00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:24,800
Speaker 2: that has passed on.

551
00:23:25,200 --> 00:23:27,240
Speaker 14: Yes it, I mean for you would have to walk

552
00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:29,680
Speaker 14: away like I did it bother you. Then you would

553
00:23:29,720 --> 00:23:31,560
Speaker 14: have to say, listen, this is not for me. I

554
00:23:31,600 --> 00:23:32,159
Speaker 14: can't handle that.

555
00:23:32,200 --> 00:23:34,920
Speaker 1: She's not wearing his chain, She's wearing his wedding ring

556
00:23:35,760 --> 00:23:38,680
Speaker 1: her neck. Oh my god, what do you want me

557
00:23:38,760 --> 00:23:42,800
Speaker 1: to do? Yes, no, she can keep it. I don't

558
00:23:43,119 --> 00:23:45,000
Speaker 1: melt it down. I'm not trying to. I'm not trying

559
00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:47,840
Speaker 1: to destroy the human being. I mean, I'm we're moving on.

560
00:23:47,920 --> 00:23:54,040
Speaker 1: We're moving on to Cleveland. Hey, Roberta, Roberta, how you doing?

561
00:23:54,520 --> 00:23:56,199
Speaker 1: What did you want to say? This is nuts? You

562
00:23:56,200 --> 00:23:57,080
Speaker 1: guys are crazy.

563
00:23:57,880 --> 00:23:58,600
Speaker 6: I agree with me.

564
00:23:58,960 --> 00:24:02,399
Speaker 11: Why is he like, why is the comparing himself to

565
00:24:02,440 --> 00:24:05,000
Speaker 11: a ghost like? Why he feels like he's in competition

566
00:24:05,080 --> 00:24:07,840
Speaker 11: with him? Like he knew what he was Vidimantu, He

567
00:24:07,920 --> 00:24:10,040
Speaker 11: knew that she was a widow, and he knew that

568
00:24:10,119 --> 00:24:11,320
Speaker 11: she loved that she loved him.

569
00:24:11,480 --> 00:24:12,680
Speaker 1: But isn't memory enough?

570
00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:14,679
Speaker 16: I mean.

571
00:24:17,440 --> 00:24:23,960
Speaker 1: What, Roberta, are you married? Are you married? Yes? Would

572
00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:26,960
Speaker 1: you have been okay with your husband honoring another woman

573
00:24:27,080 --> 00:24:30,520
Speaker 1: who he was previously married to at his wedding to you?

574
00:24:30,600 --> 00:24:32,560
Speaker 1: Come on, Roberta, come on, there's a time and a

575
00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:35,560
Speaker 1: place for this stuff. I'm not saying his memory. I'm

576
00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:37,760
Speaker 1: not saying that it wasn't there. It's been a fun

577
00:24:37,840 --> 00:24:41,040
Speaker 1: time in your life. But I mean, so you tell

578
00:24:41,080 --> 00:24:42,639
Speaker 1: me when I take your clothes off at the end

579
00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:43,800
Speaker 1: of the night. I got to look at the wedding

580
00:24:43,880 --> 00:24:45,920
Speaker 1: ring of the dude from before.

581
00:24:47,160 --> 00:24:51,640
Speaker 11: It's like a tattoo. Is somebody had a tattoo, you know.

582
00:24:51,600 --> 00:24:52,160
Speaker 10: What I'm saying.

583
00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:55,720
Speaker 11: Or the tramp stamps, you know, like it's stating a reminder.

584
00:24:55,840 --> 00:25:00,240
Speaker 11: But why are you like he knew who's getting.

585
00:25:00,119 --> 00:25:02,679
Speaker 1: Tram stamp with him? Roberta, what kind of tattoo is you?

586
00:25:02,680 --> 00:25:02,920
Speaker 11: Guys?

587
00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:04,200
Speaker 1: I'm worried about you.

588
00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:05,520
Speaker 11: I got a lot.

589
00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:07,320
Speaker 4: How are you doing?

590
00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:07,440
Speaker 17: So?

591
00:25:07,560 --> 00:25:11,200
Speaker 11: You know that some women get their their spouses names

592
00:25:11,240 --> 00:25:14,960
Speaker 11: on them, although they shouldn't, but you know, it's it's

593
00:25:15,000 --> 00:25:18,200
Speaker 11: like that, but like this person is bad, Like why

594
00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:20,840
Speaker 11: is he trying to like why is he trying to

595
00:25:20,840 --> 00:25:21,520
Speaker 11: compete with him?

596
00:25:22,080 --> 00:25:22,399
Speaker 4: Right.

597
00:25:22,920 --> 00:25:25,720
Speaker 1: Why am I being reminded of him too? I guess

598
00:25:25,560 --> 00:25:28,159
Speaker 1: it's going to be hard enough to just it came

599
00:25:28,240 --> 00:25:31,960
Speaker 1: onto the original point. The amount of trauma that must

600
00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:34,879
Speaker 1: you know, that you must endure to process something like

601
00:25:34,920 --> 00:25:38,040
Speaker 1: that is extreme, like and there's no one questioning that.

602
00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:40,520
Speaker 1: But I guess I would wonder if we're doing that,

603
00:25:40,800 --> 00:25:43,359
Speaker 1: are you really ready for me? I guess would be

604
00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:44,760
Speaker 1: the question that I would be asked.

605
00:25:45,880 --> 00:25:49,280
Speaker 11: But do you not think that they had the conversation beforehand?

606
00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:52,800
Speaker 11: Like I'm sure that he was aware that he meant

607
00:25:52,840 --> 00:25:55,240
Speaker 11: something really special to her because that was her husband

608
00:25:55,240 --> 00:25:57,480
Speaker 11: at some point, so he should have had that in

609
00:25:57,480 --> 00:25:59,960
Speaker 11: the back of his mind before he asked her to

610
00:26:00,200 --> 00:26:00,680
Speaker 11: marry him.

611
00:26:01,000 --> 00:26:02,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, but he also he's gone to read it because

612
00:26:02,760 --> 00:26:06,520
Speaker 1: he feels a little shocked by this gesture, like he didn't.

613
00:26:06,320 --> 00:26:08,800
Speaker 11: See this be a man he doesn't know how to communicate.

614
00:26:11,040 --> 00:26:13,920
Speaker 1: I mean, he wrote very clearly. I read it so.

615
00:26:14,760 --> 00:26:16,840
Speaker 4: A good day.

616
00:26:17,520 --> 00:26:19,280
Speaker 1: I don't think anyone is saying that you don't honor

617
00:26:19,320 --> 00:26:21,640
Speaker 1: what was I just don't know if that's the time

618
00:26:21,680 --> 00:26:24,359
Speaker 1: and the place and the way to manifest him, because

619
00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:26,479
Speaker 1: because I do think you also have to consider how

620
00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:29,120
Speaker 1: it makes the person you're marrying feel that person's feelings

621
00:26:29,160 --> 00:26:31,240
Speaker 1: matter too in this but the grief.

622
00:26:30,880 --> 00:26:32,720
Speaker 4: That comes with losing a spouse.

623
00:26:32,800 --> 00:26:35,040
Speaker 2: And then I'm back at this wedding place where I

624
00:26:35,080 --> 00:26:38,119
Speaker 2: only saw this for my past husband. So it's like

625
00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:40,399
Speaker 2: it's something that made me makes her feel safe in

626
00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:42,520
Speaker 2: that moment to like I'm doing this again. I'm trying

627
00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:45,119
Speaker 2: to love again without the fear of losing this person again.

628
00:26:45,520 --> 00:26:47,680
Speaker 2: It's just a little sense of comfort, like a blanky.

629
00:26:48,040 --> 00:26:49,480
Speaker 2: I cannot bring my blanket, like you.

630
00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:53,040
Speaker 1: Know, why is your dead husband your comfort? I'm your comfort.

631
00:26:53,200 --> 00:26:56,479
Speaker 14: It tastes a special kind of person and it's okay,

632
00:26:56,680 --> 00:26:58,080
Speaker 14: Like everybody's feelings are valid.

633
00:26:58,119 --> 00:27:00,720
Speaker 4: If it's not working for you, that's okay, that's okay.

634
00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:05,840
Speaker 1: Period to want to hide. Hi, Hey, so sad that

635
00:27:05,880 --> 00:27:07,960
Speaker 1: you were in a situation like this, and I am

636
00:27:08,000 --> 00:27:09,240
Speaker 1: sorry didn't you encountered this?

637
00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:13,800
Speaker 6: Thank you? I would with some one for ten years.

638
00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:17,920
Speaker 6: We had three boys together and unfortunately he passed away

639
00:27:18,640 --> 00:27:21,720
Speaker 6: and about four in, almost five years later, I met

640
00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:26,120
Speaker 6: someone else. We were married. My system also my previous

641
00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:29,960
Speaker 6: marriage was my matro of honor. Her husband helped pay

642
00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:34,040
Speaker 6: for our limo and we're still very active in each

643
00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:37,680
Speaker 6: other's lives. We go on vacation together with each of

644
00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:41,399
Speaker 6: his families and everything. So I think it just depends

645
00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:44,840
Speaker 6: on how mature you take the situation. I'm sure that

646
00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:48,600
Speaker 6: my husband probably feels a certain way, but because we

647
00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:52,040
Speaker 6: have children together, he just wanted to give them as

648
00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:54,879
Speaker 6: much love as he could, knowing if they had a loss.

649
00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:57,640
Speaker 6: So I just think that sometimes you have to think

650
00:27:57,680 --> 00:28:01,120
Speaker 6: about that person is all over with you, and if

651
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:03,640
Speaker 6: it was you that passed away, would you want your

652
00:28:03,680 --> 00:28:06,399
Speaker 6: wife to forget about you and never ever think about

653
00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:10,040
Speaker 6: you ever again? No, I think that's hard to say

654
00:28:10,160 --> 00:28:11,640
Speaker 6: if you haven't been in a situation.

655
00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:14,240
Speaker 1: No to what, I wouldn't, But I also I wouldn't.

656
00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:16,080
Speaker 1: I guess I can tell you I wouldn't expect to

657
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Speaker 1: be honored in any way at her wedding to another man.

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Speaker 1: I don't think that's the time and the place. I'm

659
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Speaker 1: not saying that you shouldn't be friends with your I

660
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Speaker 1: mean everything that you just said is completely reasonable. You

661
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Speaker 1: have kids in a family, you didn't ask for any

662
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Speaker 1: of this, that's all reasonable. I just don't know why.

663
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Speaker 1: You know we we have the ice sculpture of the

664
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Speaker 1: man at the rehearsal, like I don't know, Like I

665
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Speaker 1: don't know, we don't we don't need to do that,

666
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Speaker 1: you know.

667
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Speaker 4: What I mean?

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I sculpture might be a little much.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 6: You wanted to wear the necklace. I mean maybe not

671
00:28:46,160 --> 00:28:49,600
Speaker 6: on her neck per se, but maybe intertwine in her

672
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Speaker 6: garter or something like that.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I don't think we needed any closer to

674
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Speaker 1: the virgin than I just think there's a time and

675
00:28:58,520 --> 00:29:00,680
Speaker 1: a place. But hey, I thank you for sharing, and

676
00:29:00,720 --> 00:29:03,560
Speaker 1: I'm sorry that happened to you, and I appreciate your.

677
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Speaker 6: Perspective your friend, and I hope that everything turned out

678
00:29:06,640 --> 00:29:07,200
Speaker 6: great for her.

679
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Speaker 1: Thank you so much. Luckily I don't know this person,

680
00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:11,400
Speaker 1: because if I did, I wouldn't I would be uninvited

681
00:29:11,400 --> 00:29:17,400
Speaker 1: to the wedding. Hey, Kyle, how you doing here? Good morning? Hey,

682
00:29:17,440 --> 00:29:20,440
Speaker 1: turn the radio down, Kyle, please, Okay, there you go.

683
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Speaker 1: Hey man, what do you want to say? Go ahead?

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Speaker 13: Hey, I'm just I agree with you. I mean the

685
00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:28,800
Speaker 13: guy unfortunately he passed away. But at the same time,

686
00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:31,840
Speaker 13: like he don't need to remember that at my wedding

687
00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:34,960
Speaker 13: because hey, this is my day, Like why you take

688
00:29:35,000 --> 00:29:36,560
Speaker 13: my tign off of me. And no, it's not about

689
00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:39,520
Speaker 13: being a competition or anything. But how would you feel

690
00:29:39,520 --> 00:29:42,480
Speaker 13: if I want my ex wife's brain as she passed away,

691
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Speaker 13: You're gonna have a whole feat.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I don't think that would go over very well

693
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Speaker 1: with very many people. But thank you, Kyle, have a

694
00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:51,320
Speaker 1: good day. I appreciate you now. But somebody said, here's

695
00:29:51,320 --> 00:29:53,240
Speaker 1: the thing somebody sat on here. What did they say?

696
00:29:53,280 --> 00:29:55,200
Speaker 1: Fred isn't ready to marry a widow because he's not

697
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Speaker 1: accepting it for fully. First of all, I don't know

698
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Speaker 1: what you're talking about that is in his case by case,

699
00:30:00,520 --> 00:30:02,560
Speaker 1: I'm talking about a particular case where it seems like

700
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Speaker 1: a woman is not necessarily over her previous marriage. That's

701
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Speaker 1: what it seems like to me. But I don't think

702
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Speaker 1: we're considering the other side of this. I think we're

703
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Speaker 1: only considering the needs of this woman. Okay, because as

704
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Speaker 1: a guy who has dated people who have lost their

705
00:30:16,760 --> 00:30:21,720
Speaker 1: previous significant other, I'm accepting of that person's situation. But

706
00:30:21,800 --> 00:30:23,720
Speaker 1: I think that person needs to be accepting of mine,

707
00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:27,800
Speaker 1: which is that I'm going to be insecure about this

708
00:30:27,880 --> 00:30:30,800
Speaker 1: man that you loved and didn't do anything wrong. This

709
00:30:30,840 --> 00:30:33,640
Speaker 1: isn't a breakup. This isn't a divorce. I mean, you know,

710
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:36,360
Speaker 1: everything was fine and then they were gone, and that

711
00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:40,040
Speaker 1: is awful, right, But like that's gonna be difficult for

712
00:30:40,160 --> 00:30:43,040
Speaker 1: me too. So why are we Why do we have

713
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Speaker 1: to put that in my face on that day? I

714
00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:46,800
Speaker 1: guess it'd be the question that I'm asking because as

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Speaker 1: much as I am going to be obviously I'm marrying you,

716
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Speaker 1: I'm accepting of of whatever you've been through, I think

717
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Speaker 1: you also have to accept the fact that, wow, I

718
00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:58,880
Speaker 1: wouldn't even be here if that hadn't happened. And you

719
00:30:58,920 --> 00:31:03,360
Speaker 1: know that's aiant relationship that that ended with zero closure.

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Speaker 14: Did they say how long she had been widowed before

721
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Speaker 14: they started to get Mary.

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Speaker 1: It didn't say. And by the way, someone says that

723
00:31:10,920 --> 00:31:13,440
Speaker 1: screams insecurity. Yeah, I said that from the beginning. It does.

724
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Speaker 1: I'm insecure about it.

725
00:31:14,640 --> 00:31:15,400
Speaker 4: I'm very honest.

726
00:31:16,000 --> 00:31:18,320
Speaker 1: I'm telling you. I know it's an unpopular opinion. I'm

727
00:31:18,360 --> 00:31:19,120
Speaker 1: just telling you what I.

728
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Speaker 4: Think, and I respect that. I respect that. I mean,

729
00:31:21,320 --> 00:31:23,120
Speaker 4: I think we should all be able to spare our opinions.

730
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Speaker 4: And that's okay.

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Speaker 1: I did say from the beginning when I told you

732
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Speaker 1: I was keeping it on the reel. It's an unpopular opinion,

733
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 1: and you guys can count on me all day. But

734
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Speaker 1: that's what I think I have agree with you, and

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Speaker 1: it would be it would absolutely be an insecurity. Absolutely

736
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Speaker 1: it would.

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Speaker 4: Be because I don't know if you ever get over.

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Speaker 14: That, because it wasn't there's no closure, there wasn't any problem. Yeah,

739
00:31:45,320 --> 00:31:47,200
Speaker 14: So it's like you say, she's not over it. I

740
00:31:47,200 --> 00:31:49,000
Speaker 14: wonder if you ever do. I mean, who knows?

741
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Speaker 4: You don't stop that, boy, I'm loward to God.

753
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Speaker 1: Yeah, honestly, I've had enough Sabrina Carporenter with that single espresso.

754
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Speaker 2: But Kiki, you got what double express?

755
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Speaker 1: The Fred Show is. Are you flossing your teeth right now?

756
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Speaker 4: No?

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00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:48,200
Speaker 1: Sh hat her mirror out and she went checking her teeth. Yes,

758
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Speaker 1: that's why I look over.

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Speaker 4: To I don't want to talk to you with something

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Speaker 4: in my teeth.

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Speaker 1: I look over and is she over here flossing her teeth?

762
00:32:54,440 --> 00:32:56,280
Speaker 4: Yeah? No, Now she's got her toothbrush out.

763
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Speaker 1: Jason's doing his nails. I'm like, what's going on here?

764
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Speaker 4: You should see?

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Speaker 1: And the body groom and can wait till later, Jesus,

766
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Speaker 1: come on, not here, not now, at least put a

767
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Speaker 1: tarp down. The freend Show is on. It's stay or

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Speaker 1: go all right. Daniel is here, Hi, Daniel, Good morning,

769
00:33:20,120 --> 00:33:24,280
Speaker 1: Good morning Daniel. What's going on with this is you're

770
00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:27,680
Speaker 1: a married man, okay, and you got some kids and

771
00:33:28,520 --> 00:33:31,320
Speaker 1: your wife is up to something. You think, maybe what's

772
00:33:31,320 --> 00:33:31,960
Speaker 1: the situation?

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Speaker 18: So I wanted to get some advice, you know, relationship advice.

774
00:33:37,800 --> 00:33:41,400
Speaker 18: So my youngest daughter mentioned something to me about mommy's

775
00:33:41,440 --> 00:33:46,080
Speaker 18: new friend, Jeff's house. So I was, you know, kind

776
00:33:46,080 --> 00:33:47,720
Speaker 18: of caught off guard by that. So I asked my

777
00:33:47,760 --> 00:33:50,920
Speaker 18: wife she told me their kids. You know, my daughter

778
00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:55,680
Speaker 18: made friends at the park with this girl, and they

779
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Speaker 18: went over to their house, the new friend's house, for

780
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Speaker 18: a playgate, and Jeff.

781
00:34:01,000 --> 00:34:01,480
Speaker 4: Is their dad.

782
00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:04,760
Speaker 1: Kay, Jeff is all right, all right, So the kids

783
00:34:04,800 --> 00:34:08,120
Speaker 1: are playing and they go over to Jeff's house. Okay, Yeah.

784
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Speaker 18: And so I was just a little put off by that,

785
00:34:10,640 --> 00:34:12,239
Speaker 18: Like my wife didn't tell me. I had to find

786
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Speaker 18: out through my daughter. And so I guess the way

787
00:34:16,160 --> 00:34:18,120
Speaker 18: I'm feeling. Am I wrong to be bothered at? My

788
00:34:18,160 --> 00:34:20,440
Speaker 18: wife was married to me. Obviously went over to a

789
00:34:20,480 --> 00:34:23,360
Speaker 18: single man's house. This is a single dad, and I

790
00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:24,399
Speaker 18: didn't know anything about it.

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Speaker 1: I don't think this is a problem. Why is this

792
00:34:27,160 --> 00:34:30,439
Speaker 1: a problem? It's not Why is this a problem? I mean,

793
00:34:30,920 --> 00:34:33,080
Speaker 1: the kids are playing like, it's not the kid's fault

794
00:34:33,080 --> 00:34:36,279
Speaker 1: that you know Jeff got divorced or whatever. Sorry for

795
00:34:36,320 --> 00:34:40,160
Speaker 1: your love, right, I'm sorry. What if Jeff's gay? Do

796
00:34:40,200 --> 00:34:41,879
Speaker 1: we know? What do we know about Jeff? How much

797
00:34:41,920 --> 00:34:44,000
Speaker 1: do we know about this man? I mean, I mean,

798
00:34:44,000 --> 00:34:46,480
Speaker 1: I'm being honest. I'm not I'm not invalidating your concern.

799
00:34:46,520 --> 00:34:48,920
Speaker 1: I just I think, like, do you do you always?

800
00:34:49,080 --> 00:34:51,880
Speaker 1: Are you always fully briefed on the on the relationship

801
00:34:51,920 --> 00:34:55,600
Speaker 1: status of the parents of the playdate. Honestly, and I'm

802
00:34:55,600 --> 00:34:57,800
Speaker 1: not again, Daniel, I'm not making funny here, but I'm serious.

803
00:34:58,880 --> 00:35:00,400
Speaker 18: No, I mean, and I can in front of my

804
00:35:00,440 --> 00:35:02,239
Speaker 18: wife and she said, you know, it's not a big deal.

805
00:35:02,640 --> 00:35:04,399
Speaker 18: She just the fact that she didn't bring it up,

806
00:35:04,760 --> 00:35:08,360
Speaker 18: you know me suspicious. And you know, obviously I'm a

807
00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:10,839
Speaker 18: little insecure about it. And I you know, I think

808
00:35:10,840 --> 00:35:12,960
Speaker 18: if the tables were turned and I was stay at

809
00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:14,959
Speaker 18: home dad and I went to a single mom's house,

810
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:17,480
Speaker 18: I would be, you know, have the wherewithal to tell

811
00:35:17,520 --> 00:35:19,720
Speaker 18: my wife, Hey, I'm going over to you know whatever

812
00:35:20,120 --> 00:35:22,640
Speaker 18: Stacy's house and you know, hang out with it, you know,

813
00:35:22,719 --> 00:35:24,439
Speaker 18: just so you're aware of what's going on, the fact

814
00:35:24,480 --> 00:35:27,640
Speaker 18: that it wasn't you know, you mentioned to me put

815
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Speaker 18: me off.

816
00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:29,200
Speaker 4: I had to find out through my daughter.

817
00:35:29,239 --> 00:35:31,920
Speaker 18: And then the way she said, she's like mommy's new friend.

818
00:35:32,040 --> 00:35:32,400
Speaker 13: Jeff.

819
00:35:33,160 --> 00:35:36,719
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, the wording of that was a little like

820
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna, I'm gonna, I'm gonna put a crazy one

821
00:35:38,640 --> 00:35:40,360
Speaker 1: out there for you because I am crazy, so I

822
00:35:40,360 --> 00:35:43,719
Speaker 1: can do that. Let's say that your wife went over

823
00:35:43,760 --> 00:35:47,800
Speaker 1: to Samantha's house, and Samantha had a couple of kids.

824
00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:49,719
Speaker 1: We're not worried about that, right, We don't say anything

825
00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:52,799
Speaker 1: about that about Samantha a single mom.

826
00:35:53,040 --> 00:35:57,600
Speaker 18: Right, Sure, No, I'm not worried about that, because it.

827
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Speaker 1: Turns out Samantha's and lesbian turns but it turns out

828
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:07,719
Speaker 1: his wife is exploring, experimenting. Turns out's saying. I'm just

829
00:36:07,760 --> 00:36:10,720
Speaker 1: saying if it were a woman, we wouldn't say anything

830
00:36:10,760 --> 00:36:13,000
Speaker 1: about this, and we wouldn't say anything because we don't

831
00:36:13,000 --> 00:36:15,760
Speaker 1: think there's a sexual threat, because that's what this is about.

832
00:36:16,200 --> 00:36:19,359
Speaker 1: This is about the potential for a sexual threat, when

833
00:36:19,440 --> 00:36:22,440
Speaker 1: really it's about the kids playing. Now, I admitted last hour,

834
00:36:22,480 --> 00:36:25,359
Speaker 1: I'm an insecure person. This doesn't bother me because why

835
00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:28,440
Speaker 1: I'm married to this person. Why are they automatically cheating

836
00:36:28,440 --> 00:36:30,600
Speaker 1: on me? If they're alone with a single person. That

837
00:36:30,640 --> 00:36:32,080
Speaker 1: could be happening anywhere.

838
00:36:32,239 --> 00:36:34,839
Speaker 2: Why, old chuse, why are you in the house where

839
00:36:34,920 --> 00:36:36,560
Speaker 2: the kid's supposed to play at a park.

840
00:36:36,920 --> 00:36:38,080
Speaker 4: The kids play at a park.

841
00:36:38,120 --> 00:36:40,440
Speaker 2: You don't need to be a Tim's house or John's

842
00:36:40,480 --> 00:36:43,520
Speaker 2: house without telling me anything. John could be a serial killer,

843
00:36:43,640 --> 00:36:45,640
Speaker 2: and you got you and my kids in that house,

844
00:36:45,640 --> 00:36:47,040
Speaker 2: and no one has said anything to me.

845
00:36:47,480 --> 00:36:50,320
Speaker 1: Absolutely not. But Samantha could be a serial killer.

846
00:36:50,160 --> 00:36:54,400
Speaker 2: Samantha, Samantha could, But I know John might be for real, I'm.

847
00:36:54,200 --> 00:36:55,120
Speaker 4: Not no, no, no, no.

848
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Speaker 2: My man doesn't need to be any other woman's house

849
00:36:57,680 --> 00:36:58,200
Speaker 2: without my.

850
00:36:58,239 --> 00:37:01,640
Speaker 1: Knowledge, you guys. If she were alone, if she were like,

851
00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:04,640
Speaker 1: if the kids weren't there, yeah, that's a problem.

852
00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:06,720
Speaker 2: Not the kids might have been in the basement playing

853
00:37:06,760 --> 00:37:08,200
Speaker 2: at her And what Timmy.

854
00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:08,399
Speaker 4: What's his name?

855
00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:10,560
Speaker 1: Jeff? Yeh mom's friends.

856
00:37:10,400 --> 00:37:12,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, ye stands playing.

857
00:37:13,040 --> 00:37:15,240
Speaker 3: People are texting that, they're saying, why are they saying

858
00:37:15,360 --> 00:37:19,200
Speaker 3: Jeff's mommy's friend Jeff's house and not my friend Susie right,

859
00:37:19,360 --> 00:37:21,760
Speaker 3: like you know the age of the kid, Like maybe

860
00:37:21,760 --> 00:37:23,440
Speaker 3: that's but you you guys.

861
00:37:23,360 --> 00:37:26,160
Speaker 1: I am in the look. I am insecure in relationships

862
00:37:26,200 --> 00:37:30,600
Speaker 1: many I have a lot of unreasonable thoughts about what

863
00:37:30,640 --> 00:37:32,680
Speaker 1: I am into and what I'm not into and what

864
00:37:32,719 --> 00:37:34,399
Speaker 1: I think is cool, what I don't think is cool.

865
00:37:34,600 --> 00:37:36,279
Speaker 1: But I have to tell you when it comes to

866
00:37:36,320 --> 00:37:40,239
Speaker 1: the kids, I mean, there's there are going to be

867
00:37:40,320 --> 00:37:42,719
Speaker 1: situations where one parents they are the other parents, not

868
00:37:43,440 --> 00:37:46,719
Speaker 1: single parent, moms at work, dads at work, you know,

869
00:37:47,239 --> 00:37:49,920
Speaker 1: soccer practice. Mom's there, Dad took the kids, mom.

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Speaker 4: And sister, wives, everybody.

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00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:56,479
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, why do we automatically jump to there

872
00:37:56,680 --> 00:37:58,280
Speaker 1: has to be infidelity.

873
00:37:58,440 --> 00:38:02,520
Speaker 3: I don't think in fidelity. My concern is maybe I

874
00:38:02,560 --> 00:38:04,879
Speaker 3: over communicate with my husband. But do people not talk

875
00:38:04,880 --> 00:38:06,279
Speaker 3: at the end of the night where it's like you're

876
00:38:06,320 --> 00:38:08,359
Speaker 3: in bed being about to you know, chuck yourself in. Oh,

877
00:38:08,360 --> 00:38:09,040
Speaker 3: how was your day?

878
00:38:09,080 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 4: All was good?

879
00:38:09,880 --> 00:38:12,520
Speaker 3: We went to Jeff's house and little Susie played with

880
00:38:12,560 --> 00:38:14,719
Speaker 3: little Jimmy and they had a great time. Like why

881
00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:16,360
Speaker 3: are they not telling each other this? I tell my

882
00:38:16,440 --> 00:38:18,240
Speaker 3: husband everything. I'll be like, oh, yeah, I was here today,

883
00:38:18,480 --> 00:38:19,000
Speaker 3: we did this.

884
00:38:19,160 --> 00:38:23,880
Speaker 1: Be more concerned, Pauline, if it were over explained to me. Now,

885
00:38:23,960 --> 00:38:25,560
Speaker 1: Jeff's a single day, but you have nothing to worry

886
00:38:25,560 --> 00:38:27,200
Speaker 1: about it because the kids. I'd be like, wait a minute,

887
00:38:28,400 --> 00:38:29,000
Speaker 1: workout it.

888
00:38:29,360 --> 00:38:31,080
Speaker 4: But he's gay. No, not even that.

889
00:38:31,160 --> 00:38:33,319
Speaker 3: It's just like, I feel like you just communicate with

890
00:38:33,320 --> 00:38:34,680
Speaker 3: your partner and say, how is your day?

891
00:38:34,760 --> 00:38:37,000
Speaker 4: What did you do? Would you see? Where'd you go? Like,

892
00:38:37,080 --> 00:38:38,200
Speaker 4: I don't know, it's a little panther.

893
00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:42,680
Speaker 1: No, do you have any suspicion of your wife? Otherwise?

894
00:38:42,840 --> 00:38:45,120
Speaker 1: I think I'm not invalidating your feelings because the are

895
00:38:45,120 --> 00:38:46,600
Speaker 1: a lot of people apparently did agree with you that

896
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:49,160
Speaker 1: think it's inappropriate. I guess when it comes to the kids,

897
00:38:49,200 --> 00:38:51,640
Speaker 1: I guess I don't necessarily think you get to choose,

898
00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:55,480
Speaker 1: you know, the marital status of the parents of the

899
00:38:55,560 --> 00:38:57,520
Speaker 1: kids that your friends befriend, right.

900
00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:00,600
Speaker 4: I tend to agree with you co hosts.

901
00:39:00,600 --> 00:39:02,680
Speaker 18: I think everything should be out in the open and

902
00:39:02,800 --> 00:39:06,520
Speaker 18: have an open line of communication. If there's nothing to hide,

903
00:39:06,560 --> 00:39:08,840
Speaker 18: then ure's nothing you can't say, then just to be

904
00:39:08,920 --> 00:39:12,040
Speaker 18: open and just whether and if she went to a

905
00:39:12,080 --> 00:39:14,279
Speaker 18: female's house. I'd like to know that too, just for

906
00:39:14,360 --> 00:39:18,000
Speaker 18: the fact that we're married, we're life partners. Our lives,

907
00:39:18,040 --> 00:39:20,440
Speaker 18: you know, do revolve around each other and our children.

908
00:39:20,480 --> 00:39:22,719
Speaker 18: So it's nice to know if God forbid, something does

909
00:39:22,760 --> 00:39:23,480
Speaker 18: happen where.

910
00:39:23,320 --> 00:39:24,359
Speaker 4: She was, what she's doing.

911
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:26,719
Speaker 18: So I think that's only fair an open line of

912
00:39:26,719 --> 00:39:30,400
Speaker 18: communication and a marriage to me, and I would offer

913
00:39:30,440 --> 00:39:33,839
Speaker 18: her the same respect from my dvantage point. If the

914
00:39:34,040 --> 00:39:36,840
Speaker 18: table's returned, so me not getting it, it's just alarm

915
00:39:36,880 --> 00:39:37,560
Speaker 18: bells went off.

916
00:39:37,640 --> 00:39:39,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I hear what you're saying. I just think

917
00:39:39,360 --> 00:39:44,120
Speaker 1: there are far more sinister ways to conceal infidelity then

918
00:39:44,680 --> 00:39:46,719
Speaker 1: play dates out and maybe it's maybe it's like you know,

919
00:39:47,400 --> 00:39:49,279
Speaker 1: right out in the open, maybe you should be worried

920
00:39:49,280 --> 00:39:51,560
Speaker 1: about this because it's just so obvious that. But at

921
00:39:51,560 --> 00:39:55,759
Speaker 1: the same time, if you don't suspect your wife, if

922
00:39:55,760 --> 00:39:58,160
Speaker 1: you don't suspect she's a cheater, if you've never suspected

923
00:39:58,160 --> 00:40:00,319
Speaker 1: she's a cheater, then why are we put that on

924
00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:04,440
Speaker 1: her now? In this one situation that is pretty easily explainable,

925
00:40:04,600 --> 00:40:06,560
Speaker 1: the kids met at the park, they hung out. It's

926
00:40:06,560 --> 00:40:08,360
Speaker 1: not as though you can say, no, kids, I'm sorry,

927
00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:10,560
Speaker 1: but we can't go over to that house because daddy

928
00:40:10,600 --> 00:40:15,400
Speaker 1: says that Jeff's a predator and Daniel, I'm just I mean,

929
00:40:15,640 --> 00:40:18,000
Speaker 1: it sounds ridiculous and again not making fun of you,

930
00:40:18,080 --> 00:40:19,719
Speaker 1: but like, come on, you know what I mean. It's

931
00:40:19,719 --> 00:40:22,000
Speaker 1: not as though she I don't think we targeted the

932
00:40:22,000 --> 00:40:24,239
Speaker 1: guy in the playground. Hey, kids, go play with those

933
00:40:24,320 --> 00:40:28,360
Speaker 1: kids because daddy's hot, you know what I mean. I

934
00:40:28,480 --> 00:40:31,239
Speaker 1: find it a respect. I wouldn't do that on my end.

935
00:40:31,440 --> 00:40:34,480
Speaker 18: I wouldn't go to a single our female's house, whether

936
00:40:34,560 --> 00:40:36,520
Speaker 18: single or marriage. Just to me, it would be just

937
00:40:36,560 --> 00:40:39,360
Speaker 18: putting yourself in a situation where it's not necessary.

938
00:40:39,880 --> 00:40:41,080
Speaker 4: So I just wouldn't do that.

939
00:40:41,200 --> 00:40:43,760
Speaker 18: So I feel like I should be given that in return,

940
00:40:43,840 --> 00:40:47,160
Speaker 18: as you know, equal boundaries. And it's just not even

941
00:40:47,200 --> 00:40:51,160
Speaker 18: putting myself in the situation. It just temptation isn't even there.

942
00:40:51,239 --> 00:40:53,359
Speaker 18: There's you know, because that's what leads to others things.

943
00:40:53,360 --> 00:40:55,279
Speaker 18: It's just it can easily go down that path. So

944
00:40:55,280 --> 00:40:56,920
Speaker 18: I'd rather not even dabble.

945
00:40:58,000 --> 00:40:58,880
Speaker 4: This is ridiculous.

946
00:40:59,080 --> 00:41:00,920
Speaker 3: I'm gonna saying in the came with your partner at

947
00:41:00,920 --> 00:41:02,160
Speaker 3: the end of the night, when you're having your tea,

948
00:41:02,200 --> 00:41:03,920
Speaker 3: whatever you guys do together at night, your wine.

949
00:41:04,200 --> 00:41:05,680
Speaker 4: Just say this is how my day went. That's all

950
00:41:05,719 --> 00:41:06,120
Speaker 4: I'm saying.

951
00:41:06,160 --> 00:41:07,880
Speaker 3: But keeps taking it too far now, just because you're

952
00:41:07,920 --> 00:41:10,720
Speaker 3: a single mom all of a sudden, like you're attempted.

953
00:41:10,840 --> 00:41:15,600
Speaker 2: Come on, like, relax, what's at Jeff's house that's not

954
00:41:15,640 --> 00:41:16,240
Speaker 2: at our house?

955
00:41:16,760 --> 00:41:20,000
Speaker 1: Maybe Jeff maybe he's the cool guy with the bounce

956
00:41:20,080 --> 00:41:27,799
Speaker 1: house or the no no, maybe it's the loo.

957
00:41:27,960 --> 00:41:31,080
Speaker 4: You gotta be the loop because they were in the backyard.

958
00:41:31,120 --> 00:41:32,479
Speaker 4: They say, we were in their house.

959
00:41:32,560 --> 00:41:35,279
Speaker 2: Hey, why what's in Jeff's house that is not at

960
00:41:35,320 --> 00:41:35,840
Speaker 2: our house?

961
00:41:36,680 --> 00:41:39,520
Speaker 1: I come on, he don't know.

962
00:41:39,560 --> 00:41:40,200
Speaker 4: I'm telling you.

963
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:43,319
Speaker 2: I don't say leave your wife, but you need to investigate.

964
00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:45,479
Speaker 2: You need to go to work and circle the block

965
00:41:45,560 --> 00:41:46,160
Speaker 2: and pop up.

966
00:41:46,320 --> 00:41:47,759
Speaker 4: Let's see what house you.

967
00:41:47,760 --> 00:41:50,920
Speaker 1: Guys, we can't just suspect our partners are cheating all

968
00:41:50,960 --> 00:41:54,360
Speaker 1: the time, just automatically because we're alone with another single person, Like,

969
00:41:54,400 --> 00:41:57,480
Speaker 1: we just can't do that. Let me take some let

970
00:41:57,480 --> 00:41:59,719
Speaker 1: me take some phone casts. Daniel, have a great day.

971
00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:01,960
Speaker 1: Thanks calling.

972
00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:04,279
Speaker 4: Yes, I don't even know. They don't have to be

973
00:42:04,320 --> 00:42:05,360
Speaker 4: single for things to happen.

974
00:42:05,480 --> 00:42:08,880
Speaker 1: Also, there's so many other ways this could be sis.

975
00:42:08,960 --> 00:42:11,239
Speaker 1: And I'm just guys, come on and people are like, Fred,

976
00:42:11,239 --> 00:42:14,840
Speaker 1: you're wrong. But guys, last hour, I told you I'm insecure.

977
00:42:14,840 --> 00:42:15,759
Speaker 1: At this hour, I'm like.

978
00:42:15,680 --> 00:42:16,319
Speaker 4: About a ghost.

979
00:42:16,360 --> 00:42:20,040
Speaker 1: I amout a ghost. But in this hour, guys, I can't.

980
00:42:20,120 --> 00:42:24,120
Speaker 1: I cannot. If I'm married to someone, I cannot constantly

981
00:42:24,160 --> 00:42:26,600
Speaker 1: police who they're with and when and why. Okay, so

982
00:42:26,640 --> 00:42:28,440
Speaker 1: she goes to work and there's a single guy the

983
00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:30,080
Speaker 1: cubicle next to her. They're doing it.

984
00:42:30,400 --> 00:42:33,040
Speaker 2: No, No, they're at work. There at work, they're not.

985
00:42:33,200 --> 00:42:34,960
Speaker 1: That doesn't mean anything. Did you see a story in

986
00:42:35,040 --> 00:42:36,719
Speaker 1: Charlotte last week and the people who at work, and

987
00:42:36,719 --> 00:42:38,160
Speaker 1: they go to the top of the parking garage and

988
00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:39,719
Speaker 1: they're doing it in the back of the car. And

989
00:42:39,760 --> 00:42:42,480
Speaker 1: it went viral in all of the world, all over

990
00:42:42,520 --> 00:42:44,719
Speaker 1: TikTok because these people were doing it in the middle

991
00:42:44,760 --> 00:42:45,080
Speaker 1: of work.

992
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:47,080
Speaker 4: Imagine what they're doing in the back of a Forerunner

993
00:42:47,880 --> 00:42:49,960
Speaker 4: where there's a bed. Imagine what you write you.

994
00:42:50,000 --> 00:42:53,480
Speaker 1: Guys, Come on, Megan, Hi, Megan, good morning.

995
00:42:54,120 --> 00:42:56,280
Speaker 6: Hi, good morning. I cannot believe I got through.

996
00:42:56,360 --> 00:42:59,800
Speaker 7: But anyways, I think it definitely needs to be a conversation.

997
00:43:00,000 --> 00:43:01,799
Speaker 7: I'm not saying he needs to go, but there needs

998
00:43:01,840 --> 00:43:04,480
Speaker 7: to be more of a conversation. The little girl said,

999
00:43:05,160 --> 00:43:08,920
Speaker 7: mommy's new friend. The little girl didn't say my new friend.

1000
00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:10,319
Speaker 4: That's right.

1001
00:43:12,040 --> 00:43:16,520
Speaker 7: I think it doesn't matter. Like kids know like kids,

1002
00:43:16,719 --> 00:43:19,919
Speaker 7: kids are smart, and so I think that the way

1003
00:43:19,960 --> 00:43:23,080
Speaker 7: that the little girl phrased it, she didn't talk about her.

1004
00:43:22,960 --> 00:43:24,200
Speaker 4: New friend Susie.

1005
00:43:24,400 --> 00:43:27,960
Speaker 7: She talked about mom's new friend Jeff's house. Whether Jeff

1006
00:43:28,000 --> 00:43:30,560
Speaker 7: has kids or Jeff's single, it doesn't matter one way

1007
00:43:30,640 --> 00:43:31,080
Speaker 7: or the other.

1008
00:43:31,680 --> 00:43:33,279
Speaker 6: The way that this was set up was.

1009
00:43:33,360 --> 00:43:35,560
Speaker 9: Mom was going to her friend's house. The little girl

1010
00:43:35,560 --> 00:43:36,399
Speaker 9: didn't go to her friend.

1011
00:43:36,480 --> 00:43:38,080
Speaker 4: My sister thought she was a horse when she was

1012
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:38,640
Speaker 4: a toddler.

1013
00:43:38,960 --> 00:43:44,760
Speaker 14: You know, like, maybe she just phrased it that way.

1014
00:43:44,920 --> 00:43:46,640
Speaker 1: I don't know that. I mean, you're right, maybe there's

1015
00:43:46,680 --> 00:43:49,400
Speaker 1: a raw honesty from a child that you know is

1016
00:43:49,680 --> 00:43:52,840
Speaker 1: truly revealing. But someone texted, I'm being disrespectful or insensitive

1017
00:43:52,880 --> 00:43:55,839
Speaker 1: about this. No, I'm not. What I'm doing is I'm

1018
00:43:55,880 --> 00:44:06,000
Speaker 1: not automatically running to infidelity. He did. That's his concern,

1019
00:44:06,080 --> 00:44:08,719
Speaker 1: and I'm not being I'm not being insentitive, but I'm

1020
00:44:08,800 --> 00:44:12,719
Speaker 1: I'm I'm arguing that I don't think that's fair to her,

1021
00:44:13,360 --> 00:44:15,600
Speaker 1: a person who he's married to and trust and had

1022
00:44:15,680 --> 00:44:18,719
Speaker 1: kids with, and says admittedly on our show, he's had

1023
00:44:18,760 --> 00:44:21,160
Speaker 1: no reason to doubt her. And now all of a sudden,

1024
00:44:22,320 --> 00:44:25,640
Speaker 1: their kids meet a single dad, and now automatically he's

1025
00:44:25,680 --> 00:44:28,399
Speaker 1: they're they're they're sleeping with each other. Guys. That's yeah.

1026
00:44:28,400 --> 00:44:28,879
Speaker 4: I'd want to.

1027
00:44:28,800 --> 00:44:30,799
Speaker 7: Invest I'd want to talk to a kid more and

1028
00:44:30,840 --> 00:44:33,920
Speaker 7: be like, where did you meet this person? Because mom said, oh,

1029
00:44:33,960 --> 00:44:35,319
Speaker 7: the kids met at the park. How do we know

1030
00:44:35,360 --> 00:44:37,120
Speaker 7: the kids really met at the park. The mom can

1031
00:44:37,160 --> 00:44:39,160
Speaker 7: tell the kid, oh, yeah, this is the friend you

1032
00:44:39,160 --> 00:44:40,239
Speaker 7: met at the park the other day.

1033
00:44:41,120 --> 00:44:42,960
Speaker 1: Megan, thank you, and I appreciate the call. Have a

1034
00:44:42,960 --> 00:44:46,279
Speaker 1: good day. I'm a I'm a single guy. I've been

1035
00:44:46,280 --> 00:44:49,560
Speaker 1: single my whole life. I have tons of married friends

1036
00:44:49,880 --> 00:44:52,600
Speaker 1: whose husbands are at work, and sometimes we'll go to

1037
00:44:52,680 --> 00:44:55,480
Speaker 1: lunch or sometimes I've even gone to stuff. I've even

1038
00:44:55,520 --> 00:44:59,000
Speaker 1: gone to stuff with mom and kid when dad's out

1039
00:44:59,000 --> 00:45:01,000
Speaker 1: of town, and I'm not pretending to be the dad.

1040
00:45:01,160 --> 00:45:04,799
Speaker 1: I'm just accompanying because you know, hey, we got this

1041
00:45:05,080 --> 00:45:07,040
Speaker 1: thing in the park, you know you went. I'm not

1042
00:45:07,040 --> 00:45:09,160
Speaker 1: sleeping with these people. I'm not staying with his people.

1043
00:45:09,400 --> 00:45:12,399
Speaker 1: But like it would be, look at you. I think

1044
00:45:12,400 --> 00:45:14,239
Speaker 1: it's unfair to me as this single guy that we

1045
00:45:14,280 --> 00:45:17,960
Speaker 1: automatically always target me as the guy who's up to something.

1046
00:45:18,360 --> 00:45:20,680
Speaker 1: I can't just be friends with a woman who's married

1047
00:45:20,719 --> 00:45:23,360
Speaker 1: without sleeping with her. It's impossible. Out Yeah, so I

1048
00:45:23,400 --> 00:45:27,520
Speaker 1: think you're being insensitive me, like type casting me as

1049
00:45:27,560 --> 00:45:30,440
Speaker 1: a bad dude, or Jeff over here saying Jamie that

1050
00:45:30,440 --> 00:45:32,600
Speaker 1: you're an idiot, or that you're being ridiculous. But I

1051
00:45:32,600 --> 00:45:35,000
Speaker 1: guess what I'm saying is I don't think that either

1052
00:45:35,040 --> 00:45:40,120
Speaker 1: one of those things inherently leads to cheating. I mean,

1053
00:45:41,239 --> 00:45:43,440
Speaker 1: it's not like you found a hotel room key in

1054
00:45:43,480 --> 00:45:47,040
Speaker 1: the car too, or like you know, condom wrappers or something.

1055
00:45:47,239 --> 00:45:51,319
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm being serious, and whatever your concerns are

1056
00:45:51,400 --> 00:45:53,640
Speaker 1: can be your concerns. But I don't think those two

1057
00:45:53,719 --> 00:45:57,960
Speaker 1: things in and of themselves mean that someone is cheating. Yeah,

1058
00:45:58,040 --> 00:45:58,479
Speaker 1: I just.

1059
00:45:58,440 --> 00:46:01,440
Speaker 7: Don't want his coworkers stuff to think that he's interested

1060
00:46:01,480 --> 00:46:01,839
Speaker 7: in her.

1061
00:46:01,960 --> 00:46:04,359
Speaker 8: And I really think this opens that door for her.

1062
00:46:04,520 --> 00:46:07,640
Speaker 1: I mean, woman is using the children to play in

1063
00:46:07,640 --> 00:46:09,839
Speaker 1: the other room while she cheats on Tad, Like that's

1064
00:46:09,880 --> 00:46:14,600
Speaker 1: a whole difference thing. While wow, we have apparently Jeff

1065
00:46:14,640 --> 00:46:17,080
Speaker 1: and mom, the woman that he's married to, that he

1066
00:46:17,120 --> 00:46:21,080
Speaker 1: committed to life. Apparently she's the worst human being to

1067
00:46:21,160 --> 00:46:24,799
Speaker 1: involve her children in infidelity. Like, guys, this is crazy.

1068
00:46:24,920 --> 00:46:26,319
Speaker 5: I have ton't ask for any of this, and all

1069
00:46:26,320 --> 00:46:28,759
Speaker 5: of a sudden we're like, makey have like come over

1070
00:46:28,840 --> 00:46:29,720
Speaker 5: and meet the family.

1071
00:46:30,280 --> 00:46:35,239
Speaker 1: You know. Do I think there could be better communication? Absolutely?

1072
00:46:35,360 --> 00:46:37,680
Speaker 1: But you guys, we cannot just jump to the worst.

1073
00:46:37,800 --> 00:46:39,960
Speaker 1: We cannot just put this on people all the time,

1074
00:46:40,400 --> 00:46:41,839
Speaker 1: Like why is everyone to cheat her?

1075
00:46:43,000 --> 00:46:45,239
Speaker 15: I have young kids and I will tell you this,

1076
00:46:45,400 --> 00:46:48,760
Speaker 15: they do not know people's names, like my kids don't

1077
00:46:48,760 --> 00:46:51,120
Speaker 15: know their friend's parents name, so the fact that they

1078
00:46:51,200 --> 00:46:53,239
Speaker 15: know the parent's name is kind of suspicious to me.

1079
00:46:53,840 --> 00:46:56,879
Speaker 11: My kids barely learn their own friend's name.

1080
00:46:57,600 --> 00:46:59,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, you know, tell me these are all

1081
00:46:59,560 --> 00:47:02,200
Speaker 1: good points. I appreciate that. I thank you for listening.

1082
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:02,799
Speaker 1: Have a good day.

1083
00:47:02,880 --> 00:47:05,719
Speaker 4: You're not laughing at you.

1084
00:47:05,960 --> 00:47:07,440
Speaker 1: And by the way, we weren't laughing at her at all.

1085
00:47:07,480 --> 00:47:10,000
Speaker 1: It's just over here stirring it up. Oh yeah, yeah,

1086
00:47:10,040 --> 00:47:11,960
Speaker 1: you saying it. Look like you've done with these people.

1087
00:47:12,840 --> 00:47:20,600
Speaker 1: Everyone is cheated? Why who is being insensitive? No one's

1088
00:47:20,640 --> 00:47:23,560
Speaker 1: being insensitive. I just don't think that it's fair to

1089
00:47:23,640 --> 00:47:27,320
Speaker 1: label this person as a cheater for this. We don't

1090
00:47:27,400 --> 00:47:31,080
Speaker 1: know that Aaron high. Hey Fred, how are you Aaron?

1091
00:47:31,160 --> 00:47:33,920
Speaker 1: We can't just call everybody you cheater every time Kiki

1092
00:47:35,280 --> 00:47:38,560
Speaker 1: and she does, I know she will. How did you

1093
00:47:38,600 --> 00:47:39,000
Speaker 1: want to say?

1094
00:47:39,000 --> 00:47:39,239
Speaker 18: Aaron?

1095
00:47:39,320 --> 00:47:42,160
Speaker 9: Please please tell it about I hate to be if

1096
00:47:42,160 --> 00:47:44,160
Speaker 9: I'm taking side to your friend. I'm kind of against you.

1097
00:47:44,200 --> 00:47:44,759
Speaker 9: I hate to say it.

1098
00:47:44,840 --> 00:47:46,239
Speaker 1: That's okay. I don't think I'm used to it.

1099
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:48,920
Speaker 9: I don't think they should go. I think there were

1100
00:47:48,920 --> 00:47:51,000
Speaker 9: two questions that are important that you didn't ask, and

1101
00:47:51,400 --> 00:47:53,520
Speaker 9: the first one was the age of the child does

1102
00:47:53,640 --> 00:47:56,880
Speaker 9: matter because of how she phrased it. Of Jeff's friend,

1103
00:47:57,280 --> 00:47:59,560
Speaker 9: if she's three or four and saying that is different

1104
00:47:59,560 --> 00:48:03,759
Speaker 9: than if she's eight insane friend's house. So that's number one.

1105
00:48:03,840 --> 00:48:07,600
Speaker 9: Number two is I'd be a little bit questionable. I

1106
00:48:07,640 --> 00:48:10,120
Speaker 9: hate to bring this up. The income of the families.

1107
00:48:11,120 --> 00:48:13,359
Speaker 9: I kind of have a I talked to a lot

1108
00:48:13,400 --> 00:48:16,520
Speaker 9: of people, and I am aware that people that are

1109
00:48:16,560 --> 00:48:19,319
Speaker 9: more affluent, that have more money, are very open to

1110
00:48:19,520 --> 00:48:21,960
Speaker 9: open relationships and families.

1111
00:48:22,640 --> 00:48:27,160
Speaker 1: So now that now they're rich, swinging, Aaron, I love you.

1112
00:48:27,160 --> 00:48:28,280
Speaker 1: Now they're rich and swinging.

1113
00:48:29,480 --> 00:48:30,759
Speaker 4: I'm just saying I.

1114
00:48:33,840 --> 00:48:38,640
Speaker 1: Had in front of his so much fantastic. So so

1115
00:48:38,680 --> 00:48:45,279
Speaker 1: it's possible that their socioeconomic status now.

1116
00:48:45,400 --> 00:48:48,560
Speaker 9: I'm speaking, I got I used to teach it, ok

1117
00:48:48,600 --> 00:48:50,600
Speaker 9: Park and that was very common in the affluence.

1118
00:48:51,080 --> 00:48:53,960
Speaker 1: Okay, no, fair enough, there's there are some freaky things

1119
00:48:53,960 --> 00:48:56,920
Speaker 1: when I'm in the suburbs there. Hey, Aaron, thank you,

1120
00:48:57,160 --> 00:49:00,000
Speaker 1: have a good day. No problem you guys, I don't.

1121
00:49:00,080 --> 00:49:04,680
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I just I can't with this. So we

1122
00:49:04,719 --> 00:49:07,120
Speaker 1: got to do a full vetting process before my wife,

1123
00:49:07,400 --> 00:49:09,239
Speaker 1: if I were married, before my wife can take my

1124
00:49:09,320 --> 00:49:10,200
Speaker 1: kids to hang out with.

1125
00:49:10,560 --> 00:49:11,520
Speaker 4: Just to see his taxes.

1126
00:49:13,400 --> 00:49:15,480
Speaker 1: He can we do a full std and blood panel

1127
00:49:15,480 --> 00:49:19,120
Speaker 1: on this guy. I want to know. I want to

1128
00:49:19,120 --> 00:49:20,319
Speaker 1: know what Jeff's lipids are like.

1129
00:49:22,200 --> 00:49:24,839
Speaker 4: The lady was like, just as the toddler, like, let's

1130
00:49:24,840 --> 00:49:28,360
Speaker 4: give the toddler that trauma, Like, does he have lot?

1131
00:49:29,000 --> 00:49:30,480
Speaker 1: If he has Loti? Nothing's going on.

1132
00:49:30,480 --> 00:49:48,400
Speaker 10: Here somehow, Bianca, Hi, Bianca, out of control?

1133
00:49:48,480 --> 00:49:55,240
Speaker 1: Hi, Banka, Sorry, yeah, Hi, it's your turn. Please say something.

1134
00:49:55,480 --> 00:49:55,960
Speaker 19: Can you hear me?

1135
00:49:56,200 --> 00:50:01,479
Speaker 1: Yes? Of course, yes, Bianca, go, Hey, hey, hey.

1136
00:50:01,800 --> 00:50:05,520
Speaker 19: I was calling them to say there's no way a

1137
00:50:05,560 --> 00:50:08,000
Speaker 19: mom with a couple of kids because having an affair,

1138
00:50:08,600 --> 00:50:11,600
Speaker 19: just because she goes to Jeff's house. We are so tired.

1139
00:50:12,280 --> 00:50:13,319
Speaker 11: We are just glad to.

1140
00:50:13,280 --> 00:50:15,360
Speaker 19: Have people who want to be with our children and

1141
00:50:15,560 --> 00:50:18,920
Speaker 19: entertaining our kids. And if I'm giving the choice between

1142
00:50:19,200 --> 00:50:22,720
Speaker 19: sleeping with somebody else or taking a nap, I'm always

1143
00:50:22,760 --> 00:50:23,520
Speaker 19: going to take the nap.

1144
00:50:23,600 --> 00:50:25,080
Speaker 4: Bread girl.

1145
00:50:25,360 --> 00:50:28,560
Speaker 1: Yeah. I just again, I think it's really unfair to

1146
00:50:28,560 --> 00:50:31,560
Speaker 1: just say, oh, two people man and a.

1147
00:50:31,560 --> 00:50:34,520
Speaker 4: Woman, now you're taking a lad. You're taking a naped

1148
00:50:34,560 --> 00:50:35,160
Speaker 4: Jeff's house.

1149
00:50:36,719 --> 00:50:38,680
Speaker 11: I mean I'm gonna be taking a nap if going

1150
00:50:38,920 --> 00:50:39,759
Speaker 11: to hang out with my.

1151
00:50:39,800 --> 00:50:40,520
Speaker 2: Kids and play.

1152
00:50:41,120 --> 00:50:45,200
Speaker 11: I am totally down. I am in bed.

1153
00:50:45,800 --> 00:50:53,200
Speaker 1: Be that you're not helping anything. Get out of bed,

1154
00:50:53,640 --> 00:50:56,839
Speaker 1: get you a good day.

1155
00:50:56,920 --> 00:50:57,560
Speaker 13: I'm in my car.

1156
00:50:57,719 --> 00:50:59,680
Speaker 1: I gotta go. Well, now you're doing in the car,

1157
00:51:03,719 --> 00:51:05,520
Speaker 1: do it in the car? Will the kids playing? Now

1158
00:51:05,520 --> 00:51:11,240
Speaker 1: you're a negligent parent too. Somebody calls with an oh

1159
00:51:11,280 --> 00:51:15,680
Speaker 1: my god, honey, don't walk outside. You might be the

1160
00:51:15,719 --> 00:51:24,160
Speaker 1: Maleman single. You guys, you guys are crazy. I love Hey.

1161
00:51:24,200 --> 00:51:25,920
Speaker 1: I'll tell you what if we find out, if we

1162
00:51:26,000 --> 00:51:28,080
Speaker 1: find out that this woman is cheating, that I take

1163
00:51:28,120 --> 00:51:30,520
Speaker 1: it all back and I'm sorry, and I will publicly

1164
00:51:30,560 --> 00:51:34,200
Speaker 1: apologize and I'll be roasted at the at the square.

1165
00:51:34,960 --> 00:51:36,759
Speaker 1: You can stone me at the square if this is

1166
00:51:36,800 --> 00:51:38,719
Speaker 1: what happened. But I just don't. I think it's a

1167
00:51:39,239 --> 00:51:41,960
Speaker 1: I think we're really jumping here. And let me tell

1168
00:51:41,960 --> 00:51:44,160
Speaker 1: you something else. If I went on the air and

1169
00:51:44,239 --> 00:51:46,440
Speaker 1: I said, and if I were married with kids, and

1170
00:51:46,440 --> 00:51:48,360
Speaker 1: I went on the air and I said, yeah, my wife,

1171
00:51:49,280 --> 00:51:52,240
Speaker 1: you know my my my kids have a school friend

1172
00:51:52,440 --> 00:51:54,560
Speaker 1: and you know he's a stay at home dad. And

1173
00:51:54,600 --> 00:51:57,480
Speaker 1: they were over there yesterday while I was at work.

1174
00:51:57,560 --> 00:52:00,120
Speaker 1: They were having brunch and playing in the backyard and

1175
00:52:00,160 --> 00:52:03,480
Speaker 1: she's obviously cheating. You guys would crush me, Yeah, you

1176
00:52:03,520 --> 00:52:08,120
Speaker 1: would crush me. They we don't know the location. We

1177
00:52:08,160 --> 00:52:09,720
Speaker 1: don't know the venue of the hangout.

1178
00:52:09,800 --> 00:52:12,799
Speaker 4: He's at a school friend that has history there. They

1179
00:52:12,920 --> 00:52:14,120
Speaker 4: made park.

1180
00:52:15,200 --> 00:52:18,440
Speaker 1: If I went on and I said, my wife was

1181
00:52:18,480 --> 00:52:22,400
Speaker 1: hanging out with our kids and a single dad, obviously

1182
00:52:22,440 --> 00:52:26,440
Speaker 1: she's up to something, you guys would destroy me. What

1183
00:52:26,440 --> 00:52:29,200
Speaker 1: would you guys do in this situation? A twenty six

1184
00:52:29,239 --> 00:52:32,400
Speaker 1: year old man his fiance found out that the diamond

1185
00:52:32,440 --> 00:52:35,680
Speaker 1: he gave her was not real. It was moisonite, a

1186
00:52:35,719 --> 00:52:38,680
Speaker 1: moistnite diamond. So he explained that he recently graduated and

1187
00:52:38,719 --> 00:52:41,960
Speaker 1: couldn't afford a real diamond, so he chose, I guess

1188
00:52:42,000 --> 00:52:46,000
Speaker 1: a lookalike jem that's way more affordable but shines bright.

1189
00:52:46,560 --> 00:52:50,399
Speaker 1: So he didn't. I guess he was going to get

1190
00:52:50,400 --> 00:52:52,279
Speaker 1: around to telling her that he essentially bought her a

1191
00:52:52,280 --> 00:52:54,760
Speaker 1: fake diamond, but he just kind of never got around

1192
00:52:54,840 --> 00:52:57,080
Speaker 1: to him. All the excitement about the ring and about

1193
00:52:57,120 --> 00:52:59,360
Speaker 1: being engaged in whatever else, well, here comes the drama.

1194
00:52:59,440 --> 00:53:02,840
Speaker 1: While shopping for wedding bands, the jeweler revealed the ring's

1195
00:53:02,880 --> 00:53:06,000
Speaker 1: true identity and His fiance was not impressed, stormed out,

1196
00:53:06,280 --> 00:53:09,399
Speaker 1: ditched the ring, locked herself in the bedroom, and he's

1197
00:53:09,400 --> 00:53:11,680
Speaker 1: been sleeping on the couch ever since. He says he

1198
00:53:11,680 --> 00:53:14,480
Speaker 1: didn't mean to deceive her. He wanted to make her

1199
00:53:14,480 --> 00:53:17,960
Speaker 1: feel special, but now he's wondering if the truth delay

1200
00:53:18,280 --> 00:53:20,640
Speaker 1: cost him more than a comfy bed. I'd be wondering

1201
00:53:21,600 --> 00:53:25,200
Speaker 1: if I'm marrying the right person. Right, you're worried about

1202
00:53:25,280 --> 00:53:26,920
Speaker 1: if she's mad at you. I'd be worried if I

1203
00:53:27,000 --> 00:53:27,920
Speaker 1: marry the right person.

1204
00:53:28,000 --> 00:53:29,399
Speaker 4: It's pretty dramatic now.

1205
00:53:29,440 --> 00:53:31,080
Speaker 1: It would be one thing if he proposed to her,

1206
00:53:31,080 --> 00:53:33,319
Speaker 1: gave her this huge ring and then said it, told

1207
00:53:33,320 --> 00:53:35,160
Speaker 1: her this is one hundred percent real, like I spent

1208
00:53:35,280 --> 00:53:37,600
Speaker 1: thousands and millions of dollars on it. I spent tens

1209
00:53:37,600 --> 00:53:39,600
Speaker 1: of thousands of dollars on this thing. You used to

1210
00:53:39,680 --> 00:53:41,400
Speaker 1: be so grateful to me for this. That would be

1211
00:53:41,440 --> 00:53:43,640
Speaker 1: one thing. But I don't think he did that. I

1212
00:53:43,640 --> 00:53:45,239
Speaker 1: think he gave her the ring and he didn't tell

1213
00:53:45,239 --> 00:53:47,920
Speaker 1: her that it wasn't real, and she was so excited

1214
00:53:47,920 --> 00:53:49,520
Speaker 1: about it, Like why would you sort of shoot yourself

1215
00:53:49,560 --> 00:53:51,839
Speaker 1: in the foot like that, like immediately like here, here

1216
00:53:51,920 --> 00:53:54,040
Speaker 1: is this gesture we're getting engaged at this beautiful ring

1217
00:53:54,080 --> 00:53:56,680
Speaker 1: by the way, fake, I don't think anybody would do that.

1218
00:53:57,520 --> 00:54:00,440
Speaker 1: You were, I mean not right then? Yeah, I mean

1219
00:54:00,440 --> 00:54:03,239
Speaker 1: he didn't lie and say it was real. He just

1220
00:54:03,280 --> 00:54:05,440
Speaker 1: didn't tell her that it wasn't. And what difference does

1221
00:54:05,480 --> 00:54:08,400
Speaker 1: it make he proposed to her. It's a symbol, right,

1222
00:54:08,840 --> 00:54:10,960
Speaker 1: So what would you guys do in this situation, like

1223
00:54:11,440 --> 00:54:13,560
Speaker 1: if roles were reversed, because obviously you guys, many of

1224
00:54:13,560 --> 00:54:16,560
Speaker 1: you are the ones receiving the ranks hopefully well not you, Kiki,

1225
00:54:17,040 --> 00:54:21,160
Speaker 1: But no, you're not wrong. Yeah, I mean would you okay?

1226
00:54:21,280 --> 00:54:24,759
Speaker 1: Would you truly be okay with a fake ring from

1227
00:54:24,800 --> 00:54:26,160
Speaker 1: Big Tim over? No ring?

1228
00:54:26,280 --> 00:54:26,400
Speaker 13: No?

1229
00:54:26,400 --> 00:54:26,680
Speaker 4: No, no?

1230
00:54:26,760 --> 00:54:29,719
Speaker 2: At this point, absolutely my ring must be real because

1231
00:54:29,719 --> 00:54:30,880
Speaker 2: I've waited this long.

1232
00:54:30,920 --> 00:54:32,960
Speaker 1: And part of his reasoning is money, right, it.

1233
00:54:32,920 --> 00:54:34,319
Speaker 4: Has to be real and it has to be what I

1234
00:54:34,440 --> 00:54:35,400
Speaker 4: like at this point.

1235
00:54:35,520 --> 00:54:37,160
Speaker 2: Now, if we were just if we were being Ham

1236
00:54:37,520 --> 00:54:41,440
Speaker 2: and his girlfriend and we know young whatever, sure, whatever

1237
00:54:41,480 --> 00:54:43,560
Speaker 2: you give me, I'm happy, We'll we'll upgrade later.

1238
00:54:43,600 --> 00:54:46,400
Speaker 4: But now it's too far in the game. But however, if.

1239
00:54:46,200 --> 00:54:49,680
Speaker 2: I was in this situation, I would question if I

1240
00:54:49,760 --> 00:54:52,200
Speaker 2: want to marry you after you reacted like that over

1241
00:54:52,200 --> 00:54:56,400
Speaker 2: a moys not ring. They're still there's still a ring, yeah,

1242
00:54:56,760 --> 00:54:57,480
Speaker 2: still diamonds.

1243
00:54:57,640 --> 00:54:59,359
Speaker 1: Well, and the thing is like, in Big Tim's case,

1244
00:54:59,400 --> 00:55:01,959
Speaker 1: if in fact he's been telling you all this time

1245
00:55:02,000 --> 00:55:03,399
Speaker 1: for seven eight years, I have a long it spent

1246
00:55:03,480 --> 00:55:05,360
Speaker 1: that he's waiting to save up to get you there,

1247
00:55:05,440 --> 00:55:07,239
Speaker 1: then he can't give you a fake ring after all that.

1248
00:55:07,320 --> 00:55:09,200
Speaker 1: Absolutely not, he can't. He has to give you a

1249
00:55:09,280 --> 00:55:11,120
Speaker 1: very nice ring. If he's been saving for all this

1250
00:55:11,200 --> 00:55:13,240
Speaker 1: time and that's the only reason that he hasn't proposed

1251
00:55:13,239 --> 00:55:14,920
Speaker 1: to you, then the ring better be legit.

1252
00:55:15,200 --> 00:55:15,799
Speaker 4: Absolutely.

1253
00:55:16,239 --> 00:55:18,239
Speaker 1: But if you're young and you don't have a lot

1254
00:55:18,239 --> 00:55:20,120
Speaker 1: of money and it's starting out in life and it's

1255
00:55:20,200 --> 00:55:23,279
Speaker 1: you're really in love and intent on getting married, and

1256
00:55:23,280 --> 00:55:25,000
Speaker 1: that's what you could afford, and that's what you give

1257
00:55:25,040 --> 00:55:28,400
Speaker 1: the person, then so long as you don't lie about it,

1258
00:55:28,440 --> 00:55:31,560
Speaker 1: so authenticity, I guess I don't see the problem, right, No.

1259
00:55:32,280 --> 00:55:33,319
Speaker 4: No, I agree with that.

1260
00:55:33,520 --> 00:55:36,120
Speaker 3: I am somebody who actually is married for two years

1261
00:55:36,160 --> 00:55:37,400
Speaker 3: now technically.

1262
00:55:37,080 --> 00:55:40,160
Speaker 1: I she's actually married, not the fraudulent marriage we thought

1263
00:55:41,480 --> 00:55:43,840
Speaker 1: all this time. I was like, no one really believes it,

1264
00:55:43,880 --> 00:55:44,920
Speaker 1: but you're telling me it's real.

1265
00:55:44,800 --> 00:55:46,839
Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, I very much cificate around all the time.

1266
00:55:46,960 --> 00:55:48,640
Speaker 14: I mean I was there right right, you got your

1267
00:55:48,640 --> 00:55:51,120
Speaker 14: diploma and then your marriage certificate, I carry about.

1268
00:55:51,239 --> 00:55:53,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was present for the fake wedding. I thought

1269
00:55:53,160 --> 00:55:55,040
Speaker 1: it was weird that you had your college diploma in

1270
00:55:55,080 --> 00:55:56,840
Speaker 1: your hand when you got married. But you know, you know,

1271
00:55:56,880 --> 00:55:57,759
Speaker 1: you're prouduct I got.

1272
00:55:57,640 --> 00:56:00,200
Speaker 4: Things approval all the time, so right, whip them both out.

1273
00:56:00,360 --> 00:56:03,279
Speaker 3: But I honestly feel that in this could just be

1274
00:56:03,360 --> 00:56:05,040
Speaker 3: me speaking now that I'm on the other side of this,

1275
00:56:05,160 --> 00:56:05,560
Speaker 3: but like.

1276
00:56:05,719 --> 00:56:07,600
Speaker 4: A lot of the stuff doesn't matter.

1277
00:56:07,400 --> 00:56:10,080
Speaker 3: And I promise you it doesn't. Like I know, people

1278
00:56:10,160 --> 00:56:12,600
Speaker 3: do the whole you know, big ring. You know, we're

1279
00:56:12,640 --> 00:56:14,400
Speaker 3: in tons of debt thing, they do the big wedding.

1280
00:56:14,400 --> 00:56:15,400
Speaker 3: We're in tons of debt.

1281
00:56:15,520 --> 00:56:17,399
Speaker 4: We're in tons of debt. They do a whole thing.

1282
00:56:17,560 --> 00:56:19,000
Speaker 3: And now that I'm on the other side of it,

1283
00:56:19,080 --> 00:56:20,520
Speaker 3: and I look at it and I'm like, very happy

1284
00:56:20,520 --> 00:56:22,560
Speaker 3: that I didn't do a Yahoo wedding because I wanted

1285
00:56:22,560 --> 00:56:25,320
Speaker 3: a Yahoo house, like when I have yeah who backyard,

1286
00:56:25,320 --> 00:56:27,400
Speaker 3: So I knew like where my priority stood. And I

1287
00:56:27,400 --> 00:56:29,160
Speaker 3: think a lot of people forget that when it comes

1288
00:56:29,200 --> 00:56:31,160
Speaker 3: to marriage, Like yes, the ring and the wedding and

1289
00:56:31,200 --> 00:56:32,760
Speaker 3: all that it should be special and beautiful.

1290
00:56:32,800 --> 00:56:34,520
Speaker 4: And I agree, and it should be what you want.

1291
00:56:34,640 --> 00:56:37,320
Speaker 3: I'm not shaming you for wanting what you want, but

1292
00:56:37,480 --> 00:56:39,880
Speaker 3: when you look at the other side of things, like, honey,

1293
00:56:40,000 --> 00:56:42,440
Speaker 3: this economy and the way that things are with housing,

1294
00:56:42,480 --> 00:56:44,879
Speaker 3: and just the bigger picture of marriage, because when you

1295
00:56:45,000 --> 00:56:47,360
Speaker 3: get married, you're gonna combine your life together, so like,

1296
00:56:47,400 --> 00:56:49,279
Speaker 3: are we gonna upgrade our home, our cars, so we're

1297
00:56:49,280 --> 00:56:50,080
Speaker 3: gonna have children?

1298
00:56:50,160 --> 00:56:52,439
Speaker 4: Like these things to me are more important and cost

1299
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Speaker 4: a lot of money.

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Speaker 1: It's pollin. It sounds like this this woman would rather

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00:56:55,640 --> 00:56:58,040
Speaker 1: this twenty six year old man go into debt, yes

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00:56:58,080 --> 00:57:01,640
Speaker 1: on a who can't afford for something that looks the

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00:57:01,680 --> 00:57:05,200
Speaker 1: same as what she wound up receiving. Now again, if

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00:57:05,200 --> 00:57:07,680
Speaker 1: he said to her, oh, you should be so grateful

1305
00:57:07,680 --> 00:57:09,560
Speaker 1: to me because this is so real and so expensive,

1306
00:57:09,680 --> 00:57:12,040
Speaker 1: Well that's a lie. That's awful, you know, that would

1307
00:57:12,080 --> 00:57:13,799
Speaker 1: if you're passing it off as something that it's not.

1308
00:57:14,160 --> 00:57:16,240
Speaker 1: But it's the symbol, right, And I know it's easy

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00:57:16,280 --> 00:57:17,960
Speaker 1: for me to say because I don't think I could

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00:57:17,960 --> 00:57:20,000
Speaker 1: probably I probably couldn't get away with that, you know,

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00:57:20,040 --> 00:57:23,160
Speaker 1: getting somebody a fake ring but I also I've also said,

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00:57:23,240 --> 00:57:24,680
Speaker 1: for as long as you've done this show that I

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00:57:24,680 --> 00:57:26,560
Speaker 1: don't think anybody should be spending money on a ring

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00:57:26,600 --> 00:57:29,520
Speaker 1: that they don't have, because to your point, it's like,

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00:57:29,560 --> 00:57:31,280
Speaker 1: why am I spending Why am I going to go

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00:57:31,280 --> 00:57:33,600
Speaker 1: into debt and pay interest on a ring that I

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00:57:33,640 --> 00:57:36,200
Speaker 1: can't afford? So that to keep up with the Jones,

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00:57:36,280 --> 00:57:37,920
Speaker 1: that's what it is, so that you can brag to

1319
00:57:37,960 --> 00:57:41,160
Speaker 1: your friends about how basically how broke I am, you

1320
00:57:41,160 --> 00:57:42,640
Speaker 1: know what I mean. And then and then and it's

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00:57:42,640 --> 00:57:44,600
Speaker 1: going to hold us. If it's going to hold us

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Speaker 1: back from paying bills or upgrading our home or having

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00:57:47,280 --> 00:57:50,120
Speaker 1: a home or whatever, well then that defeats the purpose,

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00:57:50,160 --> 00:57:50,640
Speaker 1: doesn't it.

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00:57:50,760 --> 00:57:51,160
Speaker 4: I think.

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Speaker 3: So I feel like these things, like again, they don't

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00:57:53,480 --> 00:57:54,680
Speaker 3: matter as much as we think they are.

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Speaker 4: I mean, you're entitled to want what you want.

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00:57:56,280 --> 00:57:57,960
Speaker 3: I'm not trying to take that away from anybody, but

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00:57:58,040 --> 00:58:00,320
Speaker 3: I'm telling you, like, these things are expensive and it's

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00:58:00,320 --> 00:58:02,520
Speaker 3: not worth it to post on Instagram so that my

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00:58:02,520 --> 00:58:04,200
Speaker 3: little friend from high school that I don't even talk

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00:58:04,200 --> 00:58:05,600
Speaker 3: to anymore can see my ring.

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Speaker 4: I see this happen in real life all the time,

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00:58:07,800 --> 00:58:10,080
Speaker 4: and I'm like this is goofy my hot take.

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Speaker 1: Jason Mike the Mechanic proposes with a moys To Night ring.

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Speaker 1: Would you accept it?

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00:58:15,240 --> 00:58:15,320
Speaker 19: Is?

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00:58:15,560 --> 00:58:23,880
Speaker 4: What is there? It's actually a diamond? Oh okay, it's.

1340
00:58:23,720 --> 00:58:26,680
Speaker 1: Like chemically a diamond, but it's not like it's not

1341
00:58:26,720 --> 00:58:27,800
Speaker 1: a natural diamond.

1342
00:58:28,040 --> 00:58:29,320
Speaker 4: I don't care. I can never tell.

1343
00:58:29,320 --> 00:58:33,480
Speaker 5: Those two would take an onion ring, get a ring,

1344
00:58:34,760 --> 00:58:35,680
Speaker 5: don't I don't care.

1345
00:58:36,320 --> 00:58:37,160
Speaker 4: I would not care.

1346
00:58:37,840 --> 00:58:42,120
Speaker 5: And imagine how stupid you look, because now that he's broke,

1347
00:58:42,160 --> 00:58:44,280
Speaker 5: you're gonna have to go ask somebody for money to

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00:58:44,320 --> 00:58:45,800
Speaker 5: pay for your mortgage.

1349
00:58:45,920 --> 00:58:47,920
Speaker 4: But you know you out here begging for money, but

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00:58:47,960 --> 00:58:50,400
Speaker 4: you have this big a ring on your finger that

1351
00:58:50,440 --> 00:58:52,720
Speaker 4: happens every day, every day.

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Speaker 1: Well, that's crazy, Laura asked, the question is withholding lying?

1353
00:58:57,920 --> 00:58:59,040
Speaker 4: I think so sometimes.

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00:58:59,240 --> 00:59:00,960
Speaker 1: I think it depends he knew what he was doing.

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00:59:01,040 --> 00:59:03,680
Speaker 1: He definitely knew what he was easy. You give someone

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00:59:03,720 --> 00:59:07,080
Speaker 1: a ring that looks like a traditional diamond ring, you're

1357
00:59:07,160 --> 00:59:09,760
Speaker 1: clearly passing it off for tradition. You're passing it off

1358
00:59:09,800 --> 00:59:13,080
Speaker 1: for being real. Because if you hand me an engagement

1359
00:59:13,160 --> 00:59:15,520
Speaker 1: ring that looks like every other engagement ring that looks

1360
00:59:15,560 --> 00:59:17,600
Speaker 1: like a diamond, I guess I'm assuming it's a diamond,

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00:59:17,680 --> 00:59:19,400
Speaker 1: but I guess I also don't know why it matters.

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00:59:19,520 --> 00:59:20,200
Speaker 4: It doesn't matter.

1363
00:59:20,240 --> 00:59:22,000
Speaker 2: I feel like it only matters to people who don't

1364
00:59:22,000 --> 00:59:24,320
Speaker 2: have one, like people with the rings don't never think

1365
00:59:24,360 --> 00:59:27,080
Speaker 2: about like you know, I wanted, it's a ring real

1366
00:59:27,240 --> 00:59:28,880
Speaker 2: like who cares well.

1367
00:59:29,080 --> 00:59:30,960
Speaker 1: And the other thing is like many many years ago,

1368
00:59:31,000 --> 00:59:33,680
Speaker 1: before lab grown diamonds were a thing, it did if

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00:59:33,720 --> 00:59:36,920
Speaker 1: you had a huge monster diamond, it did mean someone

1370
00:59:36,960 --> 00:59:39,760
Speaker 1: spent a ton of money. Now it doesn't necessarily mean

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00:59:39,800 --> 00:59:43,520
Speaker 1: that anymore. Like a big honkerd diamond that's lab grown

1372
00:59:43,600 --> 00:59:46,400
Speaker 1: in is a quarter of the price of you know

1373
00:59:46,440 --> 00:59:48,400
Speaker 1: what I mean. So like like you can go get

1374
00:59:48,440 --> 00:59:50,720
Speaker 1: you a j Lo ring you know it looks like

1375
00:59:50,800 --> 00:59:53,080
Speaker 1: that for a quarter of the price, which still is expensive.

1376
00:59:53,120 --> 00:59:55,280
Speaker 1: You're still spending money on it, but it doesn't necessarily

1377
00:59:55,280 --> 00:59:57,320
Speaker 1: Twenty years ago, if you had a four carrot ring,

1378
00:59:57,400 --> 01:00:00,520
Speaker 1: somebody spent six figures on that. If you have a

1379
01:00:00,520 --> 01:00:02,520
Speaker 1: four kre ring doesn't necessarily mean that. So I guess

1380
01:00:02,520 --> 01:00:04,480
Speaker 1: I don't know why we're that. I debate this all

1381
01:00:04,520 --> 01:00:06,160
Speaker 1: the time, Like if I actually ever did get married,

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01:00:06,160 --> 01:00:07,640
Speaker 1: it would help to have a girlfriend first. But if

1383
01:00:07,680 --> 01:00:10,840
Speaker 1: I did, Like, would I spend all the money on

1384
01:00:10,880 --> 01:00:14,080
Speaker 1: a real honker ring that I always intended I would

1385
01:00:14,080 --> 01:00:16,960
Speaker 1: do when someone else can go spend a quarter or

1386
01:00:17,040 --> 01:00:19,600
Speaker 1: less of it and have the same look for less

1387
01:00:19,600 --> 01:00:21,080
Speaker 1: money and everyone thinks it's the same.

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01:00:21,200 --> 01:00:21,960
Speaker 4: Nobody would know.

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01:00:22,040 --> 01:00:24,040
Speaker 1: So that's so I don't know. I don't know what

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01:00:24,120 --> 01:00:25,600
Speaker 1: I would do, because you could argue, well, if you

1391
01:00:25,640 --> 01:00:27,400
Speaker 1: go buy the real thing, it holds its value and

1392
01:00:27,440 --> 01:00:30,560
Speaker 1: it's worth more. Well who's you might not be selling it?

1393
01:00:31,160 --> 01:00:33,400
Speaker 1: Like why you're only selling it if we get divorced.

1394
01:00:33,400 --> 01:00:34,600
Speaker 1: So I don't know that. I want to help you

1395
01:00:34,640 --> 01:00:36,600
Speaker 1: in a divorce. So I'm going to get you a

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01:00:36,640 --> 01:00:39,640
Speaker 1: fake as ring, I guess because that way, if you

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01:00:39,720 --> 01:00:41,640
Speaker 1: leave me, then you don't have as much money and

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01:00:41,720 --> 01:00:43,680
Speaker 1: I can keep my money. I don't know, but that

1399
01:00:43,760 --> 01:00:45,520
Speaker 1: used to be the thing, like if you had a huge,

1400
01:00:45,600 --> 01:00:48,760
Speaker 1: huge ring, Oh man, that guy loves you. That was

1401
01:00:49,000 --> 01:00:51,400
Speaker 1: he spent all his money on that. Well, now it

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01:00:51,440 --> 01:00:52,720
Speaker 1: doesn't necessarily mean.

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01:00:52,640 --> 01:00:53,560
Speaker 4: That because that' still happening.

1404
01:00:53,640 --> 01:00:56,040
Speaker 5: Do people show off their rings like I don't know,

1405
01:00:56,240 --> 01:00:59,960
Speaker 5: Like wonder if I like, if you had a more

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01:01:00,040 --> 01:01:01,880
Speaker 5: he's a night ring, I wouldn't be like that's mois

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01:01:01,920 --> 01:01:02,560
Speaker 5: And I like, I.

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01:01:02,480 --> 01:01:03,000
Speaker 4: Don't even know what.

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01:01:04,720 --> 01:01:07,080
Speaker 1: Is not a lab grown diamond. It's not that's what

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01:01:07,200 --> 01:01:07,800
Speaker 1: someone is text.

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01:01:08,000 --> 01:01:11,440
Speaker 4: There's three different kinds lab grown, the regular night.

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01:01:11,520 --> 01:01:13,680
Speaker 1: I think it's a whole different jem. It's a whole

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01:01:13,720 --> 01:01:14,240
Speaker 1: different things.

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01:01:15,040 --> 01:01:18,720
Speaker 2: Gymstone although a lab created one, okay, but not a

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01:01:18,840 --> 01:01:21,919
Speaker 2: diamond technically. I would want to know, and I don't

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01:01:21,920 --> 01:01:22,560
Speaker 2: also want to know.

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01:01:22,600 --> 01:01:24,160
Speaker 14: Yeah, I would want to know, And I'd also rather

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01:01:24,240 --> 01:01:27,080
Speaker 14: have like an heirloom that's smaller.

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01:01:26,480 --> 01:01:27,840
Speaker 4: Than like a Mois and Night ring.

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01:01:28,640 --> 01:01:30,200
Speaker 14: So I guess I'm a weirdo, but I do feel

1421
01:01:30,200 --> 01:01:31,680
Speaker 14: like if I'm going to wear something on me, I.

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01:01:31,600 --> 01:01:33,920
Speaker 4: Should know the facts about it and what's going on

1423
01:01:34,000 --> 01:01:37,840
Speaker 4: with it in the city.

1424
01:01:38,240 --> 01:01:40,640
Speaker 1: What is How does your Urban Dictionary name go? Again?

1425
01:01:41,440 --> 01:01:44,280
Speaker 1: Klin one of the most attractive people of all time?

1426
01:01:45,160 --> 01:01:47,080
Speaker 4: Sanders and good news taste.

1427
01:01:46,840 --> 01:01:48,640
Speaker 1: Always high standards. I'm one of the hottest people of

1428
01:01:48,720 --> 01:01:51,240
Speaker 1: all time, wasn't it a Yeah? That's what Urban Dictary

1429
01:01:51,280 --> 01:01:55,800
Speaker 1: says about Fred. Fred's show is on did a lot

1430
01:01:55,840 --> 01:01:57,520
Speaker 1: of people that I'm like, well, it never seems to

1431
01:01:57,520 --> 01:01:59,280
Speaker 1: really work out, and then it's got to be on me.

1432
01:01:59,920 --> 01:02:02,760
Speaker 1: I wonder and then no, no, And I guess my

1433
01:02:02,800 --> 01:02:05,120
Speaker 1: parents have had that conversation before because a few years

1434
01:02:05,120 --> 01:02:07,840
Speaker 1: ago my dad said to me, after you know, a

1435
01:02:07,840 --> 01:02:12,880
Speaker 1: few cocktails, Hey, just so you know, whoever you bring home, guy, girl, guy,

1436
01:02:13,440 --> 01:02:15,200
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter to us. And I looked at him

1437
01:02:15,240 --> 01:02:18,120
Speaker 1: and I'm like, do you guys think you were having

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01:02:18,120 --> 01:02:22,000
Speaker 1: this conversation behind? Because you know, if if my dad,

1439
01:02:22,040 --> 01:02:24,440
Speaker 1: of all, my dad doesn't communicate that much, if he

1440
01:02:24,640 --> 01:02:27,360
Speaker 1: said it, then that means that there's been a conversation

1441
01:02:27,800 --> 01:02:30,760
Speaker 1: without me, like do you think and it I mean,

1442
01:02:30,760 --> 01:02:32,919
Speaker 1: it would be fine, but like it's just not, it's

1443
01:02:32,960 --> 01:02:35,080
Speaker 1: not it's not you know, the same way Jason, you

1444
01:02:35,120 --> 01:02:37,320
Speaker 1: don't want to be with women anymore?

1445
01:02:37,400 --> 01:02:37,800
Speaker 4: He tried.

1446
01:02:38,120 --> 01:02:39,920
Speaker 5: Yeah, I did try it. Yeah, I did try it out.

1447
01:02:40,040 --> 01:02:41,520
Speaker 5: I don't think my parents were sitting around be like

1448
01:02:41,520 --> 01:02:42,320
Speaker 5: maybe he's straight.

1449
01:02:42,640 --> 01:02:45,520
Speaker 1: But I was gonna say that there were science, there

1450
01:02:45,560 --> 01:02:48,400
Speaker 1: were science, they were signed the early But did you

1451
01:02:48,440 --> 01:02:51,880
Speaker 1: get with women though, because you honestly because you wanted

1452
01:02:51,960 --> 01:02:53,760
Speaker 1: to or because you thought that was what you were.

1453
01:02:53,680 --> 01:02:56,160
Speaker 5: Supposed I think it was a mixture of like I

1454
01:02:56,640 --> 01:02:58,919
Speaker 5: just wanted to, but I also feel like when you're

1455
01:02:59,680 --> 01:03:03,000
Speaker 5: at like young, like you're just like, this works.

1456
01:03:03,120 --> 01:03:04,919
Speaker 4: I guess this will work for now, right.

1457
01:03:04,960 --> 01:03:07,200
Speaker 5: But I think it was just because, like like you said, like,

1458
01:03:07,240 --> 01:03:08,880
Speaker 5: it's just you know, that's what you're supposed to do.

1459
01:03:08,920 --> 01:03:10,600
Speaker 1: I was gonna say, it's nothing to find a girlfriend.

1460
01:03:10,640 --> 01:03:12,120
Speaker 1: I know you're friends with some of these people that

1461
01:03:12,160 --> 01:03:14,680
Speaker 1: you got with, but I just it's like, and nothing

1462
01:03:14,720 --> 01:03:16,840
Speaker 1: against them, they didn't do anything wrong. But I do

1463
01:03:16,960 --> 01:03:22,240
Speaker 1: kind of wonder in a in a repressed state, you know,

1464
01:03:22,280 --> 01:03:24,960
Speaker 1: where it's like, man, I don't I don't know. This

1465
01:03:25,040 --> 01:03:26,720
Speaker 1: is what my parents might want me to do, or

1466
01:03:26,760 --> 01:03:28,200
Speaker 1: this is what everyone else is doing. So I'm going

1467
01:03:28,280 --> 01:03:30,840
Speaker 1: to do that. Yeah, but that's different than trying to

1468
01:03:30,880 --> 01:03:31,360
Speaker 1: see if you.

1469
01:03:31,400 --> 01:03:34,280
Speaker 5: Liked it, right, Yeah, I mean, like you're suggesting I do, right,

1470
01:03:34,280 --> 01:03:36,320
Speaker 5: But at least if you say I tried it.

1471
01:03:36,440 --> 01:03:40,360
Speaker 1: You've never been left waiting by the phone. It's the

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Speaker 1: Fred Show. Hey, Sasha, good morning, Welcome to the program.

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01:03:43,000 --> 01:03:43,840
Speaker 1: How are you hi?

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01:03:43,960 --> 01:03:44,480
Speaker 20: Good morning?

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01:03:44,680 --> 01:03:47,560
Speaker 1: Good So what's going on with this guy? Michael?

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01:03:47,960 --> 01:03:48,080
Speaker 19: So?

1477
01:03:48,280 --> 01:03:49,800
Speaker 1: Waiting by the phone, of course for trying to figure

1478
01:03:49,800 --> 01:03:51,760
Speaker 1: out if you've been ghosted? But I mean tell us

1479
01:03:51,760 --> 01:03:53,840
Speaker 1: how you met and about any dates you've been on,

1480
01:03:54,000 --> 01:03:56,000
Speaker 1: and you know kind of any information that you can

1481
01:03:56,040 --> 01:03:58,200
Speaker 1: give us to try and help you figure this out.

1482
01:03:58,320 --> 01:04:01,800
Speaker 17: All right, So I met this guy Michael on Tinder

1483
01:04:02,080 --> 01:04:05,760
Speaker 17: and we went out to drinks and we really hit

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01:04:05,800 --> 01:04:07,720
Speaker 17: it off. So we went to a couple of bars,

1485
01:04:07,800 --> 01:04:09,680
Speaker 17: and while we were like walking from one.

1486
01:04:09,600 --> 01:04:11,920
Speaker 20: To the next, he really had to go to the bathroom.

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01:04:12,520 --> 01:04:15,120
Speaker 17: And I was like, well, my place is right here

1488
01:04:15,200 --> 01:04:18,080
Speaker 17: if you want to use my bathroom. But it's like

1489
01:04:18,480 --> 01:04:22,800
Speaker 17: I'm a bit of a messy person, so I didn't

1490
01:04:22,840 --> 01:04:25,840
Speaker 17: expect him to come over. So I told him, you know,

1491
01:04:26,240 --> 01:04:29,680
Speaker 17: please don't judge me, and he said he didn't care.

1492
01:04:29,840 --> 01:04:30,760
Speaker 20: He really had to pee.

1493
01:04:31,040 --> 01:04:35,720
Speaker 17: So right after we left my apartment just things felt

1494
01:04:35,720 --> 01:04:36,560
Speaker 17: really off.

1495
01:04:37,000 --> 01:04:39,640
Speaker 20: And I mean we went to one more bar, things

1496
01:04:39,640 --> 01:04:40,320
Speaker 20: felt weird.

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01:04:40,520 --> 01:04:42,560
Speaker 17: And then I haven't heard from him since, and like

1498
01:04:42,640 --> 01:04:45,720
Speaker 17: before the apartment, it felt like we were really hitting

1499
01:04:45,720 --> 01:04:49,720
Speaker 17: it off. So I don't know what changed, and I

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01:04:49,720 --> 01:04:51,480
Speaker 17: don't know why he's not responding to my text.

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01:04:51,640 --> 01:04:53,960
Speaker 1: Okay, I get it. So you weren't planning to have

1502
01:04:54,040 --> 01:04:56,760
Speaker 1: him over, Sasha, So like you didn't clean the house

1503
01:04:56,840 --> 01:04:59,200
Speaker 1: up really, like didn't make the bed or didn't put

1504
01:04:59,240 --> 01:05:01,920
Speaker 1: stuff away or whatever, or because you figured, well, this

1505
01:05:01,960 --> 01:05:04,080
Speaker 1: is the first date. He's not coming over, so who cares.

1506
01:05:04,120 --> 01:05:05,800
Speaker 1: But then when he had to use the restroom, it's like,

1507
01:05:05,920 --> 01:05:07,640
Speaker 1: all right, we're gonna go to my house. But you

1508
01:05:07,720 --> 01:05:09,560
Speaker 1: just need to know that I didn't. I didn't. I

1509
01:05:09,600 --> 01:05:10,240
Speaker 1: wasn't ready for.

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01:05:10,240 --> 01:05:13,800
Speaker 17: Guests, right right, And like if he was coming over,

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01:05:13,840 --> 01:05:15,280
Speaker 17: I obviously would have cleaned.

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01:05:15,320 --> 01:05:18,600
Speaker 1: But like, all right, well, I mean that seems innocent enough,

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01:05:18,640 --> 01:05:20,280
Speaker 1: I guess. I mean, unless you've been on an episode

1514
01:05:20,320 --> 01:05:23,240
Speaker 1: of Hoarders before. Have you been on the show Hoarders before?

1515
01:05:23,680 --> 01:05:24,320
Speaker 4: Not yet?

1516
01:05:24,480 --> 01:05:24,680
Speaker 6: No?

1517
01:05:25,000 --> 01:05:27,000
Speaker 1: Not yet? All right, well maybe this is maybe we

1518
01:05:27,040 --> 01:05:28,680
Speaker 1: see where this is going. But all right, we're gonna

1519
01:05:28,680 --> 01:05:30,640
Speaker 1: call this guy Michael in just a second. You'll be

1520
01:05:30,680 --> 01:05:32,720
Speaker 1: on the phone as well. At some point you're welcome

1521
01:05:32,720 --> 01:05:34,360
Speaker 1: a jump in on the call. And the hope, as

1522
01:05:34,360 --> 01:05:36,920
Speaker 1: always is that we can straighten this out and then

1523
01:05:36,960 --> 01:05:39,200
Speaker 1: set you guys up on another date that we pay for.

1524
01:05:39,280 --> 01:05:42,160
Speaker 1: Sound good, Hey, Sasha, Okay, welcome back. Let's call this

1525
01:05:42,200 --> 01:05:44,560
Speaker 1: guy Michael. You met on Tinder, You plan to go

1526
01:05:44,600 --> 01:05:48,600
Speaker 1: out for drinks. You you did meet up with him,

1527
01:05:48,880 --> 01:05:50,960
Speaker 1: he had to use the restroom, so you were near

1528
01:05:51,000 --> 01:05:52,280
Speaker 1: your home and you were like, well, I'll tell you

1529
01:05:52,280 --> 01:05:54,760
Speaker 1: what we can pop in here. But I didn't clean

1530
01:05:54,800 --> 01:05:56,920
Speaker 1: for guests. I wasn't I wasn't prepared to have guests

1531
01:05:56,920 --> 01:05:58,840
Speaker 1: over tonight. Just the heads up, and he was like, fine,

1532
01:05:59,160 --> 01:06:01,480
Speaker 1: you went in there. You do wind up going out

1533
01:06:01,520 --> 01:06:03,400
Speaker 1: and having drinks. But you noticed from the point he

1534
01:06:03,480 --> 01:06:06,800
Speaker 1: left your house through the drinks the mood changed and

1535
01:06:06,840 --> 01:06:08,840
Speaker 1: then you haven't heard from him since the date. And

1536
01:06:08,880 --> 01:06:11,480
Speaker 1: of course you want to know what happened. Okay, Well,

1537
01:06:11,560 --> 01:06:24,280
Speaker 1: let's call Michael now, good luck. Hello, Hi is this Michael? Yes, Hi, Michael,

1538
01:06:24,280 --> 01:06:26,000
Speaker 1: good morning. My name is Fred. I'm calling from the

1539
01:06:26,000 --> 01:06:28,240
Speaker 1: Fred's Show, the Morning radio Show, and I have to

1540
01:06:28,240 --> 01:06:29,880
Speaker 1: tell you that we are on the radio right now

1541
01:06:30,080 --> 01:06:32,240
Speaker 1: and I would need your permission to continue with the call.

1542
01:06:32,320 --> 01:06:33,800
Speaker 1: Is it okay if we chat for just a second

1543
01:06:33,880 --> 01:06:34,440
Speaker 1: on the show?

1544
01:06:34,920 --> 01:06:35,080
Speaker 9: Uh?

1545
01:06:36,640 --> 01:06:41,520
Speaker 1: I guess yeah, okay, great. Know it is weird. I

1546
01:06:41,600 --> 01:06:43,360
Speaker 1: admitted that it's weird to get called by a radio show,

1547
01:06:43,360 --> 01:06:44,720
Speaker 1: And thank you for answering, by the way, and for

1548
01:06:44,760 --> 01:06:46,520
Speaker 1: talking to us. But you're welcome to hang up at

1549
01:06:46,520 --> 01:06:48,200
Speaker 1: any time. But we're trying to get to the bottom

1550
01:06:48,200 --> 01:06:51,919
Speaker 1: of a situation. A woman named Sasha has reached out

1551
01:06:51,920 --> 01:06:54,200
Speaker 1: to us, do you recall going out with Sasha you

1552
01:06:54,240 --> 01:06:59,040
Speaker 1: guys met on Tinder? Apparently, yeah, yes I do. Yes, Okay,

1553
01:06:59,160 --> 01:07:02,160
Speaker 1: So what happened? Because she called us and told us

1554
01:07:02,160 --> 01:07:04,640
Speaker 1: that you guys had met and that she was excited

1555
01:07:04,640 --> 01:07:06,840
Speaker 1: to hang out with you. She said that there was

1556
01:07:06,880 --> 01:07:08,520
Speaker 1: a transitioning point of the date. I guess after you

1557
01:07:08,560 --> 01:07:10,880
Speaker 1: went to her house and used the restroom. She she

1558
01:07:10,920 --> 01:07:13,240
Speaker 1: told us about you know that, and how she didn't

1559
01:07:13,320 --> 01:07:16,120
Speaker 1: sort of organize her house or wasn't clean for visitors,

1560
01:07:16,120 --> 01:07:17,440
Speaker 1: which I think a lot of people can relate to.

1561
01:07:17,680 --> 01:07:19,760
Speaker 1: But she says that beyond that point, you know, the

1562
01:07:19,840 --> 01:07:21,560
Speaker 1: day got weird and that she hasn't heard from you.

1563
01:07:21,640 --> 01:07:22,400
Speaker 1: So what happened?

1564
01:07:22,640 --> 01:07:23,000
Speaker 20: Sure?

1565
01:07:24,480 --> 01:07:26,640
Speaker 16: So I guess you guys, I can't believe I'm about

1566
01:07:26,640 --> 01:07:30,560
Speaker 16: to say this, but she sleeps in a dog bed.

1567
01:07:31,880 --> 01:07:38,280
Speaker 16: I'm sorry, Wait, yeah, so that was she sleeps. She

1568
01:07:38,280 --> 01:07:41,080
Speaker 16: she she has it like she purchased a bed for

1569
01:07:41,320 --> 01:07:44,200
Speaker 16: dogs and that's what she uses as her bed.

1570
01:07:44,600 --> 01:07:46,600
Speaker 1: So like, oh, I need to understand. So you walk

1571
01:07:46,640 --> 01:07:49,360
Speaker 1: in her bed in her bedroom and like normally there

1572
01:07:49,360 --> 01:07:52,760
Speaker 1: would be a bed, you know, hopefully like some form

1573
01:07:52,800 --> 01:07:55,080
Speaker 1: of frame or something, and you know it wouldn't be

1574
01:07:55,080 --> 01:07:57,080
Speaker 1: on the ground, you know, hopefully we're like, yeah, right,

1575
01:07:57,200 --> 01:07:59,200
Speaker 1: the box spring we were kind of risen off the

1576
01:07:59,240 --> 01:08:02,360
Speaker 1: ground little bit and you know, maybe a headboard, some sheets,

1577
01:08:02,440 --> 01:08:05,120
Speaker 1: you know, kind of think instead you walk in and

1578
01:08:05,160 --> 01:08:08,080
Speaker 1: where that would all be was just a dog bed

1579
01:08:08,440 --> 01:08:11,280
Speaker 1: and like a blanket. Correct. Are we sure that isn't

1580
01:08:11,320 --> 01:08:14,000
Speaker 1: her dog's bedroom? You know some some people do that.

1581
01:08:14,200 --> 01:08:15,919
Speaker 1: Some people have an extra room and they like set

1582
01:08:15,920 --> 01:08:18,200
Speaker 1: it up like it's their dog's room. Are you sure

1583
01:08:18,240 --> 01:08:19,879
Speaker 1: that this is where she sleeps?

1584
01:08:20,200 --> 01:08:20,400
Speaker 20: Yeah?

1585
01:08:20,439 --> 01:08:22,519
Speaker 16: No, it was a small it was a small apartment.

1586
01:08:22,760 --> 01:08:26,559
Speaker 16: It's only one bedroom, and that is where she sleeps.

1587
01:08:26,560 --> 01:08:29,040
Speaker 16: And I did not see a dog in sight when

1588
01:08:29,040 --> 01:08:29,720
Speaker 16: we went in there.

1589
01:08:29,800 --> 01:08:32,120
Speaker 1: Oh there isn't even a dog. Oh, there isn't a dog.

1590
01:08:32,160 --> 01:08:34,040
Speaker 1: And also there's really no confusion there.

1591
01:08:34,200 --> 01:08:34,559
Speaker 4: That's it.

1592
01:08:35,080 --> 01:08:35,320
Speaker 6: Wow.

1593
01:08:36,200 --> 01:08:38,760
Speaker 1: Hm, let me. I forgot to mention that Sasha is here.

1594
01:08:39,640 --> 01:08:43,040
Speaker 1: I'm extremely forgetful and I apologize. Sasha, do you sleep

1595
01:08:43,080 --> 01:08:45,160
Speaker 1: in a dog bed? Which is something I didn't think

1596
01:08:45,200 --> 01:08:46,040
Speaker 1: I was going to say today.

1597
01:08:47,439 --> 01:08:52,559
Speaker 17: Yes, but like that's are really expensive and I'm very

1598
01:08:52,600 --> 01:08:55,599
Speaker 17: good with money, and I don't know if you guys

1599
01:08:55,680 --> 01:08:57,840
Speaker 17: knew this, but like there are dogs that are like

1600
01:08:57,920 --> 01:09:01,000
Speaker 17: human size, and if you buy it, that's only like

1601
01:09:01,120 --> 01:09:02,160
Speaker 17: eighty bucks.

1602
01:09:02,360 --> 01:09:04,800
Speaker 20: But if you buy a mattress, I mean I can

1603
01:09:04,880 --> 01:09:05,719
Speaker 20: be over a grand.

1604
01:09:06,200 --> 01:09:09,040
Speaker 1: Girls, I just.

1605
01:09:09,000 --> 01:09:11,200
Speaker 5: Bought we just bought a mattress and they're a hella

1606
01:09:11,240 --> 01:09:13,960
Speaker 5: expensive for no reason. There's no reason these mattresses should

1607
01:09:13,960 --> 01:09:14,040
Speaker 5: be that.

1608
01:09:14,160 --> 01:09:15,840
Speaker 1: Okay, but Jason, why are you nodding your head like

1609
01:09:15,880 --> 01:09:17,320
Speaker 1: this is a normal, acceptable thing.

1610
01:09:17,600 --> 01:09:18,720
Speaker 4: It's something we haven't thought of.

1611
01:09:19,000 --> 01:09:22,000
Speaker 5: Yeah, I do know matresses mattress go up to like

1612
01:09:22,080 --> 01:09:22,839
Speaker 5: seven grand.

1613
01:09:23,000 --> 01:09:26,719
Speaker 4: Okay, you do it? You sleep in one mattress?

1614
01:09:27,120 --> 01:09:29,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean at least as they got the air mattress.

1615
01:09:29,080 --> 01:09:31,200
Speaker 1: It even looks like it has a box freaking it.

1616
01:09:31,439 --> 01:09:32,920
Speaker 1: You know, you plug it and get it a target

1617
01:09:32,920 --> 01:09:35,479
Speaker 1: a couple hundred bucks. Maybe this is my question, though,

1618
01:09:36,360 --> 01:09:38,160
Speaker 1: what do you do when somebody comes over? Like what

1619
01:09:38,200 --> 01:09:41,559
Speaker 1: if things had gone really well with Michael, you know,

1620
01:09:41,600 --> 01:09:43,400
Speaker 1: and it's like time to do some stuff. Do you

1621
01:09:43,400 --> 01:09:45,400
Speaker 1: guys just both crawl into the dog bed or do

1622
01:09:45,400 --> 01:09:47,280
Speaker 1: you get another dog bed and put it next to it,

1623
01:09:47,400 --> 01:09:49,360
Speaker 1: or like several lick them up together. I mean, what

1624
01:09:49,400 --> 01:09:50,559
Speaker 1: are we doing here exactly?

1625
01:09:51,280 --> 01:09:53,320
Speaker 20: It sounds really weird when you say it like.

1626
01:09:53,360 --> 01:09:57,879
Speaker 1: That, Oh, now it sounds weird, but I mean, yeah.

1627
01:09:57,800 --> 01:10:00,000
Speaker 20: It's comfortable, it's big enough for you.

1628
01:10:00,080 --> 01:10:02,960
Speaker 17: But like usually, like I mean, I never bring a

1629
01:10:03,000 --> 01:10:04,400
Speaker 17: guy over on the first date.

1630
01:10:05,040 --> 01:10:08,479
Speaker 20: But usually if we like hang out, we'll go.

1631
01:10:08,479 --> 01:10:11,920
Speaker 17: To the guy's place and then like eventually, like I'll

1632
01:10:11,920 --> 01:10:16,200
Speaker 17: explain about my dad and like usually guys are like, oh, yeah,

1633
01:10:16,360 --> 01:10:17,280
Speaker 17: like that makes sense.

1634
01:10:17,640 --> 01:10:20,479
Speaker 1: Wait, people are actually like that. They think that's a

1635
01:10:20,520 --> 01:10:21,080
Speaker 1: normal thing.

1636
01:10:21,439 --> 01:10:25,719
Speaker 17: I don't think anyone thinks it's normal, but nobody seems

1637
01:10:25,720 --> 01:10:27,000
Speaker 17: to have a problem with it.

1638
01:10:27,400 --> 01:10:29,800
Speaker 20: But I guess, like I am so single.

1639
01:10:30,240 --> 01:10:35,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean I have never heard of

1640
01:10:35,280 --> 01:10:38,120
Speaker 1: anything like this before. I think I think it would

1641
01:10:38,120 --> 01:10:40,719
Speaker 1: probably be good for your health and overall well being

1642
01:10:40,760 --> 01:10:44,640
Speaker 1: and things like that to just maybe invest in a bed.

1643
01:10:45,040 --> 01:10:46,559
Speaker 20: I gets dirty.

1644
01:10:47,040 --> 01:10:50,760
Speaker 17: It's just like a different type of mattress.

1645
01:10:50,800 --> 01:10:53,200
Speaker 1: Like when you're essentially sleeping on the floor.

1646
01:10:53,400 --> 01:10:56,280
Speaker 4: What do you get your food out of? Girl? Or

1647
01:10:56,360 --> 01:10:58,479
Speaker 4: do you use a dog bowl in a water bowl?

1648
01:10:58,960 --> 01:10:59,000
Speaker 12: No?

1649
01:10:59,439 --> 01:11:02,400
Speaker 1: No, Like, is this kind of a fetish thing? Does

1650
01:11:02,439 --> 01:11:03,320
Speaker 1: it go beyond you.

1651
01:11:03,240 --> 01:11:04,320
Speaker 4: Get your haircut and pets?

1652
01:11:04,360 --> 01:11:07,360
Speaker 2: Smart? Like, what's girl? Because this is crazy? And where

1653
01:11:07,360 --> 01:11:08,639
Speaker 2: are your family and friends?

1654
01:11:08,800 --> 01:11:12,120
Speaker 1: Do you eat milkbones, right? Have you ever had a milkbone?

1655
01:11:12,240 --> 01:11:13,639
Speaker 1: Did you enjoy the way it tasted?

1656
01:11:14,120 --> 01:11:16,960
Speaker 4: This is insane. Your anal glands express.

1657
01:11:16,880 --> 01:11:25,839
Speaker 10: Yes, and not for pleasure, for utility.

1658
01:11:26,160 --> 01:11:28,120
Speaker 1: Do they have to sedate you to clean your teeth?

1659
01:11:28,280 --> 01:11:34,479
Speaker 1: I'm this is sounding us. Jaesu's life is a lot

1660
01:11:34,520 --> 01:11:35,040
Speaker 1: like dogs.

1661
01:11:35,080 --> 01:11:36,680
Speaker 4: Apparently it's crazy.

1662
01:11:36,920 --> 01:11:39,800
Speaker 1: I mean, okay, so Michael, look, you liked her up

1663
01:11:39,840 --> 01:11:40,439
Speaker 1: until that point.

1664
01:11:40,439 --> 01:11:40,679
Speaker 9: I guess.

1665
01:11:40,720 --> 01:11:42,240
Speaker 1: I mean, it doesn't sounding there was much time to

1666
01:11:42,360 --> 01:11:44,439
Speaker 1: really get to know where. But I am a little

1667
01:11:44,479 --> 01:11:46,920
Speaker 1: concerned with the sort of thought process here, and you know,

1668
01:11:46,960 --> 01:11:48,800
Speaker 1: what would lead one to think this was the right

1669
01:11:48,800 --> 01:11:50,640
Speaker 1: thing to do or a good idea. I'm all for

1670
01:11:50,720 --> 01:11:53,160
Speaker 1: saving money. I think there are certain things in life

1671
01:11:53,160 --> 01:11:54,799
Speaker 1: that you know, you said you were good with money,

1672
01:11:54,880 --> 01:11:57,480
Speaker 1: so you know, I think it's probably worth an investment

1673
01:11:57,560 --> 01:12:01,040
Speaker 1: in an actual bad and some she and things like that.

1674
01:12:01,200 --> 01:12:04,120
Speaker 1: But Michael, I don't know. You probably have a bed

1675
01:12:04,200 --> 01:12:06,600
Speaker 1: so she could come over to your house. Would you

1676
01:12:06,640 --> 01:12:08,120
Speaker 1: consider giving her another chance?

1677
01:12:08,439 --> 01:12:09,000
Speaker 8: No?

1678
01:12:09,080 --> 01:12:09,519
Speaker 1: I don't.

1679
01:12:09,640 --> 01:12:13,760
Speaker 16: Uh, I don't think I want another date here. Like

1680
01:12:13,800 --> 01:12:15,960
Speaker 16: I said, if she's that's if that's the choice that

1681
01:12:16,000 --> 01:12:17,760
Speaker 16: she's making, it's a choice that she's making, but it's

1682
01:12:17,840 --> 01:12:21,320
Speaker 16: kind of questioned everything that I that I have about her.

1683
01:12:21,439 --> 01:12:23,599
Speaker 16: So I'm not interested.

1684
01:12:24,160 --> 01:12:25,519
Speaker 4: Huh, I don't blame you.

1685
01:12:25,880 --> 01:12:29,439
Speaker 1: Have you ever barked at anyone, Sasha?

1686
01:12:30,000 --> 01:12:30,160
Speaker 11: None?

1687
01:12:30,240 --> 01:12:34,880
Speaker 1: As they ask, Oh, I mean same? I mean again, Jason,

1688
01:12:35,640 --> 01:12:38,720
Speaker 1: he's finding this far too relatable. Uh, maybe you and

1689
01:12:38,760 --> 01:12:41,160
Speaker 1: Jason should go out, look, I Sasha, So I don't

1690
01:12:41,160 --> 01:12:43,160
Speaker 1: think it's going to work out. He's not interested. I

1691
01:12:43,200 --> 01:12:45,560
Speaker 1: wish you the best you do you whatever makes you

1692
01:12:45,640 --> 01:12:47,519
Speaker 1: happend morning. Thanks for having us on the radio, on

1693
01:12:47,560 --> 01:12:50,040
Speaker 1: the iHeart app Live and anytime search for The Fred

1694
01:12:50,040 --> 01:12:52,360
Speaker 1: Show on demand. This comes from our friends had read it,

1695
01:12:54,120 --> 01:12:56,600
Speaker 1: and he says, I bought a house a couple of

1696
01:12:56,680 --> 01:12:59,479
Speaker 1: years ago. But I go through hundreds of these. I mean,

1697
01:12:59,520 --> 01:13:02,599
Speaker 1: I truly curate these. Okay, I want you to know, really,

1698
01:13:02,640 --> 01:13:05,160
Speaker 1: I don't just take the first what you mean, really business?

1699
01:13:05,200 --> 01:13:07,160
Speaker 1: There's thousands of them, but I don't keep them in business.

1700
01:13:07,200 --> 01:13:09,120
Speaker 1: I'm saying, I don't just pick the first one I see.

1701
01:13:09,200 --> 01:13:10,760
Speaker 1: I'm going to read a bunch of them to find

1702
01:13:10,760 --> 01:13:12,120
Speaker 1: the one that I think is appropriate.

1703
01:13:12,160 --> 01:13:12,599
Speaker 4: I got you.

1704
01:13:12,680 --> 01:13:14,920
Speaker 1: That's good, you know. I mean it's like Kiki. She

1705
01:13:14,960 --> 01:13:16,400
Speaker 1: goes through thousands of cases.

1706
01:13:16,600 --> 01:13:18,839
Speaker 4: Yeah, man, it's hard it is to pick.

1707
01:13:18,680 --> 01:13:22,240
Speaker 1: The ones worthy of your courtroom. I bought a house

1708
01:13:22,280 --> 01:13:23,680
Speaker 1: a couple of years ago, and I've been working on

1709
01:13:23,720 --> 01:13:26,080
Speaker 1: making it look nicer. I spent a lot of time

1710
01:13:26,120 --> 01:13:28,439
Speaker 1: redoing the front gardens, trying to make it look neat

1711
01:13:28,520 --> 01:13:31,680
Speaker 1: and nice. A few weeks ago, rather, I was at

1712
01:13:31,680 --> 01:13:34,599
Speaker 1: a greenhouse buying some plants for the garden and I

1713
01:13:34,640 --> 01:13:39,160
Speaker 1: saw two yard flamingos marked down on clearance. I knew

1714
01:13:39,160 --> 01:13:43,120
Speaker 1: that they belonged in my garden. They're not everyone's cup

1715
01:13:43,160 --> 01:13:45,040
Speaker 1: of tea, but I think they're a lot of fun,

1716
01:13:45,760 --> 01:13:47,320
Speaker 1: so I set them up when I got home. And

1717
01:13:47,360 --> 01:13:49,120
Speaker 1: a couple of days later, my neighbor was knocking on

1718
01:13:49,120 --> 01:13:51,760
Speaker 1: my door and she was demanding I take down my

1719
01:13:51,880 --> 01:13:56,080
Speaker 1: flamingos because they're ugly and lowering the property value of

1720
01:13:56,120 --> 01:13:58,120
Speaker 1: the neighborhood, the neighbors said. I told her I am

1721
01:13:58,160 --> 01:14:00,640
Speaker 1: not taking them down because I like them, and the

1722
01:14:00,640 --> 01:14:03,520
Speaker 1: property value isn't going to be hurt by two yard flamingos.

1723
01:14:03,720 --> 01:14:05,960
Speaker 1: I also don't live in Hoa, and as far as

1724
01:14:06,000 --> 01:14:10,640
Speaker 1: I'm aware, there are no town ordinances about yard flamingos.

1725
01:14:11,000 --> 01:14:13,439
Speaker 1: She's posted pictures of my house, the street that I

1726
01:14:13,479 --> 01:14:16,599
Speaker 1: live on, in a closeup of my flamingos in our

1727
01:14:16,640 --> 01:14:19,599
Speaker 1: town's Facebook page to complain about them. Some people agreed

1728
01:14:19,600 --> 01:14:22,479
Speaker 1: I should take them down. After that, another neighbor came

1729
01:14:22,520 --> 01:14:24,120
Speaker 1: over to tell me to get rid of them. My

1730
01:14:24,160 --> 01:14:26,800
Speaker 1: mom also agreed that I should take them down to

1731
01:14:26,880 --> 01:14:29,479
Speaker 1: keep the peace with my neighbor. I like them. I

1732
01:14:29,560 --> 01:14:31,679
Speaker 1: smile when I see them when I pull my driveway.

1733
01:14:31,960 --> 01:14:35,000
Speaker 1: I have no plans to take them down. Should I

1734
01:14:35,240 --> 01:14:41,200
Speaker 1: take down the yard flamingos? Well, okay, so we have

1735
01:14:41,280 --> 01:14:43,559
Speaker 1: a case here. We have an issue of a person

1736
01:14:43,560 --> 01:14:46,000
Speaker 1: who apparently can put whatever they want in their front yard.

1737
01:14:46,840 --> 01:14:48,800
Speaker 1: And I'm sure there are people listening who it's the

1738
01:14:48,840 --> 01:14:50,719
Speaker 1: same way now. I'm also sure there are people listening

1739
01:14:50,800 --> 01:14:53,000
Speaker 1: who live in an Ahoa, which means, you know, some

1740
01:14:53,040 --> 01:14:55,559
Speaker 1: people get elected and they decide that they're like you know,

1741
01:14:55,760 --> 01:14:58,040
Speaker 1: the police, and they come around and they get to

1742
01:14:58,080 --> 01:14:59,519
Speaker 1: tell you what to do. You can't do this, she

1743
01:14:59,560 --> 01:15:01,559
Speaker 1: can't do that. I'm on the h you are.

1744
01:15:01,640 --> 01:15:02,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm the treasurer.

1745
01:15:03,520 --> 01:15:05,120
Speaker 1: Stop stop it.

1746
01:15:05,200 --> 01:15:07,320
Speaker 4: I like when you look at me, stop it. Hey,

1747
01:15:07,320 --> 01:15:09,880
Speaker 4: I don't play about my bag or my hoa stop.

1748
01:15:10,280 --> 01:15:11,920
Speaker 1: They put you in charge of the money.

1749
01:15:12,040 --> 01:15:13,439
Speaker 4: I think nobody wanted to do it.

1750
01:15:13,640 --> 01:15:16,479
Speaker 1: Like I think nobody wanted to do it either as well.

1751
01:15:17,320 --> 01:15:18,120
Speaker 4: I'm on it though.

1752
01:15:18,160 --> 01:15:19,960
Speaker 3: I stepped up and I said, I'll be your girl.

1753
01:15:20,000 --> 01:15:21,880
Speaker 3: I don't even live there anymore, and I'll be your girl.

1754
01:15:24,120 --> 01:15:25,120
Speaker 4: You're in charge of.

1755
01:15:25,080 --> 01:15:28,200
Speaker 1: The money for the hay you are I am. Now,

1756
01:15:28,200 --> 01:15:30,600
Speaker 1: you're a smart lady. But like you can't get you

1757
01:15:30,680 --> 01:15:33,000
Speaker 1: to tell us what number the showdown is every day?

1758
01:15:33,200 --> 01:15:33,760
Speaker 4: Right, and that.

1759
01:15:33,960 --> 01:15:36,639
Speaker 1: Money be missing, money being up and down? How much

1760
01:15:36,680 --> 01:15:38,519
Speaker 1: money we have? It depends on the day. I don't know.

1761
01:15:38,720 --> 01:15:40,280
Speaker 4: See money moves around for a reason.

1762
01:15:40,520 --> 01:15:42,640
Speaker 3: And if you guys might see a new fence at

1763
01:15:42,640 --> 01:15:44,759
Speaker 3: the hoa at the new property, mind your business.

1764
01:15:44,760 --> 01:15:46,040
Speaker 4: If you do, mind your business, if you don't.

1765
01:15:47,920 --> 01:15:50,519
Speaker 1: He's actually not allowed to use Venmo because she was

1766
01:15:50,520 --> 01:15:52,400
Speaker 1: trying to money launder using it or.

1767
01:15:52,360 --> 01:15:55,839
Speaker 4: Her credit card. I'll love her husband. Yeah, her husband's

1768
01:15:55,840 --> 01:15:56,320
Speaker 4: credit card.

1769
01:15:56,600 --> 01:16:03,760
Speaker 1: Oh wow, that's okay, all right. So you like yard flamingos,

1770
01:16:03,800 --> 01:16:06,840
Speaker 1: you put yard flamingos up, you want them in your yard.

1771
01:16:06,880 --> 01:16:08,840
Speaker 1: There is no one that can tell you that you

1772
01:16:08,920 --> 01:16:13,360
Speaker 1: cannot have them. However, your neighbors all apparently think they're ugly,

1773
01:16:13,600 --> 01:16:16,080
Speaker 1: and even your mom is like, it's not worth it

1774
01:16:16,120 --> 01:16:19,080
Speaker 1: to make all the neighbors mad. What do you do?

1775
01:16:19,840 --> 01:16:22,960
Speaker 1: What do you do? Do you keep them up? I

1776
01:16:23,040 --> 01:16:27,280
Speaker 1: might suggest maybe the backyard or something where everyone doesn't

1777
01:16:27,320 --> 01:16:29,280
Speaker 1: have to look at them, because is it really worth

1778
01:16:29,600 --> 01:16:32,000
Speaker 1: I mean, you bought these things on clearance. It wasn't

1779
01:16:32,040 --> 01:16:33,920
Speaker 1: like it was your life ambition to have a yard

1780
01:16:33,960 --> 01:16:38,240
Speaker 1: with garden or with flamingos in them, or garden homes

1781
01:16:38,320 --> 01:16:40,760
Speaker 1: or whatever your thing is, So why not put them

1782
01:16:40,760 --> 01:16:42,479
Speaker 1: somewhere where everyone doesn't have to look at them and

1783
01:16:42,600 --> 01:16:44,360
Speaker 1: they're not an ice sore, and then your neighbors don't

1784
01:16:44,360 --> 01:16:45,000
Speaker 1: hate you.

1785
01:16:45,040 --> 01:16:46,880
Speaker 14: No, you're not gonna tell me what color to paint

1786
01:16:46,920 --> 01:16:48,880
Speaker 14: my house, how to have my lawn. If I want

1787
01:16:48,880 --> 01:16:51,479
Speaker 14: my flamingos, I own this here yard, I'm gonna have

1788
01:16:51,479 --> 01:16:52,320
Speaker 14: my flamingos.

1789
01:16:52,600 --> 01:16:55,960
Speaker 4: I do also feel envious of the woman whose biggest.

1790
01:16:55,680 --> 01:16:58,720
Speaker 14: Problem is her neighbor's lawn flamingos. Right, Like, go out

1791
01:16:58,720 --> 01:17:00,000
Speaker 14: and find a real problem.

1792
01:16:59,760 --> 01:17:03,120
Speaker 4: In your life. That's ridiculous, right, that's my that's my experience.

1793
01:17:03,200 --> 01:17:04,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, you work really hard to save up for this

1794
01:17:04,720 --> 01:17:06,559
Speaker 3: house or whatever it is, Like and you're gonna tell

1795
01:17:06,560 --> 01:17:08,040
Speaker 3: me I can put my clear and STA mingles up

1796
01:17:08,120 --> 01:17:10,479
Speaker 3: like that makes me so angry.

1797
01:17:10,600 --> 01:17:14,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like, but it's that ugly that everybody

1798
01:17:14,439 --> 01:17:17,800
Speaker 1: seems to agree that I might say, is it really

1799
01:17:17,840 --> 01:17:19,640
Speaker 1: worth it? Is it really worth it? Is this the

1800
01:17:19,720 --> 01:17:21,280
Speaker 1: hill you want to die on with your neighbors?

1801
01:17:21,360 --> 01:17:23,439
Speaker 4: Is this the hill they want to die on? Yeah?

1802
01:17:23,479 --> 01:17:26,160
Speaker 1: But I mean whether it's fair or not. If the

1803
01:17:26,280 --> 01:17:28,360
Speaker 1: entire neighborhood turns on you, you have a problem, whether

1804
01:17:28,400 --> 01:17:29,200
Speaker 1: it's right or not.

1805
01:17:29,479 --> 01:17:30,880
Speaker 4: I'd be like, are you guys okay?

1806
01:17:31,200 --> 01:17:31,400
Speaker 6: Right?

1807
01:17:31,400 --> 01:17:31,760
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1808
01:17:31,840 --> 01:17:34,760
Speaker 2: You can't control everybody, and everybody doesn't have to be

1809
01:17:34,840 --> 01:17:35,200
Speaker 2: the same.

1810
01:17:36,439 --> 01:17:37,160
Speaker 4: This is my house.

1811
01:17:37,600 --> 01:17:41,680
Speaker 1: Is this any different than a person who doesn't take

1812
01:17:41,760 --> 01:17:43,639
Speaker 1: very good care of their lawn? Is this any different

1813
01:17:43,680 --> 01:17:45,360
Speaker 1: than a person who doesn't take very good care of

1814
01:17:45,400 --> 01:17:48,280
Speaker 1: their house and you do? Is this any different than that?

1815
01:17:48,320 --> 01:17:51,320
Speaker 1: I mean, it's creating an eye sore, right, So people

1816
01:17:51,360 --> 01:17:51,800
Speaker 1: don't like it?

1817
01:17:51,880 --> 01:17:54,559
Speaker 4: Even then, I don't care, Like, it's your lawn. Beauty

1818
01:17:54,600 --> 01:17:58,000
Speaker 4: is in the eye of the beholder. Okay, wonderful, right,

1819
01:17:58,240 --> 01:17:58,800
Speaker 4: So thank you.

1820
01:17:58,840 --> 01:18:00,800
Speaker 1: I want to see your front lawn. You have what

1821
01:18:01,040 --> 01:18:01,719
Speaker 1: was in your front.

1822
01:18:01,600 --> 01:18:01,960
Speaker 9: Yard that.

1823
01:18:03,880 --> 01:18:07,120
Speaker 2: A couple of bushes, and I keep my line trimmed.

1824
01:18:07,160 --> 01:18:09,640
Speaker 2: And that's it. I don't I'm not getting jazzy with it.

1825
01:18:09,680 --> 01:18:11,439
Speaker 2: But if I wanted to get jazzy with it, I

1826
01:18:11,479 --> 01:18:13,360
Speaker 2: would I pay these property taxes.

1827
01:18:13,479 --> 01:18:14,080
Speaker 4: That's right, girl.

1828
01:18:14,280 --> 01:18:16,920
Speaker 1: Do you have an chi a no? H a man,

1829
01:18:17,080 --> 01:18:18,360
Speaker 1: they won't let you get away with anything.

1830
01:18:18,560 --> 01:18:20,520
Speaker 4: We won't.

1831
01:18:19,760 --> 01:18:25,920
Speaker 1: No, she won't. Hey, Jessica, you say, go buy more?

1832
01:18:27,400 --> 01:18:28,960
Speaker 11: I absolutely do you know what?

1833
01:18:29,080 --> 01:18:29,840
Speaker 4: It's my yard.

1834
01:18:29,920 --> 01:18:30,960
Speaker 11: I pay for this stuff.

1835
01:18:31,400 --> 01:18:33,519
Speaker 4: I'm buying more. Go off.

1836
01:18:33,960 --> 01:18:35,639
Speaker 1: I mean, I guess, I guess.

1837
01:18:35,840 --> 01:18:36,000
Speaker 6: You know.

1838
01:18:36,320 --> 01:18:38,160
Speaker 1: I'm not much of a rule follower, But I also

1839
01:18:38,200 --> 01:18:41,519
Speaker 1: would be like, okay, is this really worth it? Because

1840
01:18:41,600 --> 01:18:44,960
Speaker 1: if everyone's ganging up on me and it's a it's

1841
01:18:45,000 --> 01:18:47,680
Speaker 1: an untenable situation. You do not want the whole neighborhood

1842
01:18:47,680 --> 01:18:49,639
Speaker 1: against you. You simply don't. It's bad.

1843
01:18:50,280 --> 01:18:52,519
Speaker 11: It's you know, it's more worth it to do with then,

1844
01:18:52,680 --> 01:18:54,360
Speaker 11: because you know what, I didn't do.

1845
01:18:54,360 --> 01:18:55,760
Speaker 6: Nothing to put up with you.

1846
01:18:57,000 --> 01:19:00,800
Speaker 1: All right, all right, fair enough, thank you, Jessica. Now,

1847
01:19:00,800 --> 01:19:03,160
Speaker 1: if you remember, Jason's having an issue in his backyard

1848
01:19:03,200 --> 01:19:06,160
Speaker 1: with his coy pond, which just sounds so boogy to say,

1849
01:19:07,640 --> 01:19:10,439
Speaker 1: and you've got pterodactyl birds flying down trying to eat

1850
01:19:10,479 --> 01:19:13,720
Speaker 1: the koi fish. Right, so you put up. You've tried

1851
01:19:13,800 --> 01:19:17,479
Speaker 1: many different things and what you've landed on is one

1852
01:19:17,479 --> 01:19:20,160
Speaker 1: of those. If you like, drive by like an auto

1853
01:19:20,200 --> 01:19:22,479
Speaker 1: parts store, the place they're still tires or whatever, Like

1854
01:19:22,520 --> 01:19:25,400
Speaker 1: the big tall looking thing with the on the bottom

1855
01:19:25,479 --> 01:19:27,720
Speaker 1: of it, and it's sort of like it looks like

1856
01:19:27,760 --> 01:19:29,080
Speaker 1: it's having convulsions or whatever.

1857
01:19:29,400 --> 01:19:31,759
Speaker 4: Yeah, is it working? It seems to be working.

1858
01:19:32,160 --> 01:19:35,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, that being said, all your neighbors get to see

1859
01:19:35,240 --> 01:19:36,080
Speaker 1: this skuy dancer.

1860
01:19:36,400 --> 01:19:38,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, if you look at Luckily it's in our backyard

1861
01:19:38,960 --> 01:19:41,080
Speaker 5: and not in front of our house, which would be wild.

1862
01:19:41,560 --> 01:19:44,479
Speaker 5: But yeah, I'm sure everyone that has a backyard near

1863
01:19:44,520 --> 01:19:46,280
Speaker 5: ours is like, what the hell?

1864
01:19:46,840 --> 01:19:47,080
Speaker 4: You know?

1865
01:19:47,439 --> 01:19:49,160
Speaker 1: And if someone has a problem with it, I know

1866
01:19:49,240 --> 01:19:50,920
Speaker 1: you If someone has a problem with it, you're going

1867
01:19:51,000 --> 01:19:51,720
Speaker 1: to consider.

1868
01:19:51,439 --> 01:19:54,200
Speaker 4: Their problem, you know what. I don't know.

1869
01:19:54,439 --> 01:19:56,880
Speaker 5: I feel like there's I am a people pleaser, but

1870
01:19:56,960 --> 01:19:59,719
Speaker 5: like you don't own a lot of things in life,

1871
01:20:00,000 --> 01:20:01,400
Speaker 5: are you, Like, and if you can get to a

1872
01:20:01,439 --> 01:20:03,960
Speaker 5: point where you own your own property, like I feel

1873
01:20:04,000 --> 01:20:06,280
Speaker 5: like within the law, like you you should be able

1874
01:20:06,320 --> 01:20:08,000
Speaker 5: to do what you want, Like if you're talking about

1875
01:20:08,040 --> 01:20:11,559
Speaker 5: like your house being like run down or busted, or your.

1876
01:20:11,520 --> 01:20:15,080
Speaker 1: Long running a meth operation or something you shouldn't.

1877
01:20:14,640 --> 01:20:17,320
Speaker 5: Do that, like your lawn being unkept or something like that,

1878
01:20:17,439 --> 01:20:20,160
Speaker 5: Like those are ordinances against that, like the village, but

1879
01:20:20,240 --> 01:20:23,679
Speaker 5: like just some decorations like that's not against any rules.

1880
01:20:23,840 --> 01:20:26,880
Speaker 1: I have flamingos in front of my my meth r V.

1881
01:20:28,000 --> 01:20:28,960
Speaker 1: Then more cooking.

1882
01:20:29,080 --> 01:20:32,360
Speaker 4: Hey do you the show is on Fred's Fun.

1883
01:20:32,280 --> 01:20:38,960
Speaker 3: Fact Fred.

1884
01:20:40,479 --> 01:20:43,000
Speaker 1: Much learn so much?

1885
01:20:45,000 --> 01:20:47,839
Speaker 4: Do we have any Harry Potter fans in here? Yeah?

1886
01:20:47,920 --> 01:20:49,760
Speaker 1: Are you really a Harry Potter? I mean we've talked

1887
01:20:49,800 --> 01:20:51,120
Speaker 1: about it, but are you not to.

1888
01:20:51,120 --> 01:20:52,760
Speaker 4: Like the level that some people are at.

1889
01:20:52,800 --> 01:20:55,080
Speaker 14: I don't have any wands or tattoos or anything, but

1890
01:20:55,160 --> 01:20:56,000
Speaker 14: your capable of them.

1891
01:20:56,080 --> 01:20:57,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, okay, sorry.

1892
01:20:57,280 --> 01:20:59,280
Speaker 1: I want to you're waving at me right now? Then?

1893
01:20:59,720 --> 01:21:01,200
Speaker 1: Well is that witchcras wwitchcrab.

1894
01:21:01,360 --> 01:21:03,519
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's a different it's a different hobby.

1895
01:21:03,320 --> 01:21:08,719
Speaker 1: Of riding here on her quidditch board or quidditch broom yeah, broom.

1896
01:21:08,800 --> 01:21:10,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, but at least you know quidditch. That's pretty good.

1897
01:21:11,120 --> 01:21:14,080
Speaker 1: I read the first one. Yes, I tend to do.

1898
01:21:14,240 --> 01:21:16,120
Speaker 1: I tend to read the thing. That's trendy, and then

1899
01:21:16,120 --> 01:21:18,960
Speaker 1: I realized that I hate it. So yeah, but I

1900
01:21:19,280 --> 01:21:23,000
Speaker 1: could get you a Harry Potter lego. Okay, but I

1901
01:21:23,000 --> 01:21:24,760
Speaker 1: think those are really big. I'm going to start out

1902
01:21:24,880 --> 01:21:28,160
Speaker 1: a little something, a little less uh, a little less overwhelming.

1903
01:21:28,200 --> 01:21:29,720
Speaker 1: If we're going to get you in the legos, like.

1904
01:21:29,640 --> 01:21:31,400
Speaker 14: Man, I only play with like the big ones from

1905
01:21:31,400 --> 01:21:32,920
Speaker 14: the nineties, the real big ones.

1906
01:21:32,920 --> 01:21:35,320
Speaker 1: I got you a big bucket of the four plus

1907
01:21:35,400 --> 01:21:36,880
Speaker 1: year old ones that I got for poll. Yeah, I

1908
01:21:36,880 --> 01:21:37,040
Speaker 1: get this.

1909
01:21:37,400 --> 01:21:38,040
Speaker 4: I can't choke on.

1910
01:21:38,640 --> 01:21:40,760
Speaker 1: I was not supposed to eat.

1911
01:21:40,840 --> 01:21:42,880
Speaker 4: No, you're not. I had to learn that the hard way.

1912
01:21:43,160 --> 01:21:46,800
Speaker 1: I was so excited because they have a friends that

1913
01:21:46,960 --> 01:21:48,720
Speaker 1: like the I guess it's a coffee shop or the house.

1914
01:21:48,760 --> 01:21:50,040
Speaker 1: I can't remember what it is. They have a scene

1915
01:21:50,040 --> 01:21:52,439
Speaker 1: from Friends may have Legos. I'm like, I'm going to

1916
01:21:52,560 --> 01:21:57,320
Speaker 1: introduce to Kalin the lego world that I am fascinated with.

1917
01:21:57,880 --> 01:22:01,280
Speaker 1: The hours of my life that just dissip here. I

1918
01:22:01,280 --> 01:22:03,879
Speaker 1: can't think about anything else because I'm thinking about legos.

1919
01:22:04,320 --> 01:22:06,280
Speaker 1: It's a grown ass man and I and I was

1920
01:22:06,280 --> 01:22:08,240
Speaker 1: gonna get that one for you. It's one hundred and

1921
01:22:08,280 --> 01:22:10,120
Speaker 1: fifty bucks, and I was like.

1922
01:22:10,120 --> 01:22:11,000
Speaker 4: You know, please don't.

1923
01:22:11,040 --> 01:22:14,880
Speaker 1: I'm going to start you out with something less less,

1924
01:22:15,080 --> 01:22:17,080
Speaker 1: and if you tell me you love it, I'll go

1925
01:22:17,120 --> 01:22:17,840
Speaker 1: get you that one.

1926
01:22:17,960 --> 01:22:19,840
Speaker 4: You do not need to spend one hundred and fifty dollars.

1927
01:22:20,200 --> 01:22:21,880
Speaker 1: That would be a very cool one. Though. If you

1928
01:22:21,920 --> 01:22:23,599
Speaker 1: put it you get like display in your house because

1929
01:22:23,600 --> 01:22:24,920
Speaker 1: you love that show so much, that'd be a very

1930
01:22:24,920 --> 01:22:25,280
Speaker 1: cool one.

1931
01:22:25,360 --> 01:22:26,320
Speaker 4: I mean, I love friends.

1932
01:22:26,320 --> 01:22:28,680
Speaker 1: Anything be a cool one to have. I think we're

1933
01:22:28,720 --> 01:22:31,080
Speaker 1: to start botanical with you though. Oh no, I think

1934
01:22:31,120 --> 01:22:34,120
Speaker 1: I'm getting both you and Jason. But it looks like flowers.

1935
01:22:34,160 --> 01:22:37,639
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, they're very cool looking. I think you're gonna

1936
01:22:37,640 --> 01:22:39,439
Speaker 1: find the same thing I found, which is you take

1937
01:22:39,439 --> 01:22:44,080
Speaker 1: a little gummy hypothetically. Oh mine, of course are harrowbo

1938
01:22:44,200 --> 01:22:46,080
Speaker 1: I would never otherwise, But you know, I know you're

1939
01:22:46,080 --> 01:22:49,720
Speaker 1: assert not but then and then you before long, it's

1940
01:22:49,760 --> 01:22:52,040
Speaker 1: like ten hours of gunball. You built a flower thing

1941
01:22:52,120 --> 01:22:54,599
Speaker 1: and you're just so satisfied with it, and you didn't

1942
01:22:54,600 --> 01:22:56,640
Speaker 1: think about anything else. Your phone's stinging over here, but

1943
01:22:56,680 --> 01:22:59,479
Speaker 1: you're focused on the task. Everybody needs something like that.

1944
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Speaker 14: I do need to not think about it anything else.

1945
01:23:01,880 --> 01:23:03,599
Speaker 14: So beautiful, I'll try anything.

1946
01:23:04,200 --> 01:23:06,360
Speaker 1: I think I'm going today to the actual store.

1947
01:23:07,000 --> 01:23:08,759
Speaker 4: Wait, there's a Lego store.

1948
01:23:09,040 --> 01:23:10,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, in WaterTower in Chicago.

1949
01:23:11,000 --> 01:23:12,439
Speaker 4: Oh clo. I don't know.

1950
01:23:12,439 --> 01:23:14,200
Speaker 1: One of the verbs I didn't know. I think that

1951
01:23:14,240 --> 01:23:16,800
Speaker 1: one's still there. It says it is okay, look for you. Yeah,

1952
01:23:17,000 --> 01:23:19,120
Speaker 1: it said it was I was gonna be don't make

1953
01:23:19,160 --> 01:23:21,960
Speaker 1: me go there and cry. He said, oh my god,

1954
01:23:22,000 --> 01:23:24,439
Speaker 1: it would be terrible. It would be still there. Okay, good,

1955
01:23:24,920 --> 01:23:27,599
Speaker 1: I think that's all that's there. But yeah, but here

1956
01:23:27,640 --> 01:23:29,920
Speaker 1: it is. Harry Potter was the point. Harry Potter and

1957
01:23:29,960 --> 01:23:32,080
Speaker 1: the Sorcerer's Stone. You might recognize that book. Of course,

1958
01:23:32,120 --> 01:23:34,880
Speaker 1: the British story was originally titled Harry Potter and the

1959
01:23:34,880 --> 01:23:37,920
Speaker 1: Philosopher's Stone. And when a few of the first editions

1960
01:23:37,920 --> 01:23:40,680
Speaker 1: were printed, there were some mistakes inside. On top of

1961
01:23:40,720 --> 01:23:44,519
Speaker 1: the word philosopher being misspelled on the back cover, one

1962
01:23:44,680 --> 01:23:48,400
Speaker 1: wand was listed twice when it came to supplies, Harry

1963
01:23:48,479 --> 01:23:50,599
Speaker 1: was meant to take to school. When one of these

1964
01:23:50,600 --> 01:23:52,839
Speaker 1: books is up for auction, in March of twenty nineteen,

1965
01:23:52,880 --> 01:23:56,400
Speaker 1: it sold for ninety thousand dollars. So if you have

1966
01:23:56,600 --> 01:24:00,360
Speaker 1: one of the original original original Harry Potter and and

1967
01:24:00,400 --> 01:24:04,320
Speaker 1: I guess it's the Philosopher's stone and you have these typos.

1968
01:24:04,560 --> 01:24:06,559
Speaker 1: You got a lot of money on your hands. But

1969
01:24:06,600 --> 01:24:08,719
Speaker 1: don't get too excited, like make sure you got the one.

1970
01:24:09,080 --> 01:24:12,519
Speaker 1: Not like what happened to Kaylon's house with the Princess Diana. Well,

1971
01:24:12,560 --> 01:24:14,400
Speaker 1: you did have the one, she just ripped the tag.

1972
01:24:14,680 --> 01:24:16,840
Speaker 1: My sister thought she had the one, but she didn't.

1973
01:24:16,880 --> 01:24:20,320
Speaker 1: She had like the second generation. So it's like for

1974
01:24:20,400 --> 01:24:24,360
Speaker 1: a fifteen minutes she was like, Oh, I'm a millionaire rich,

1975
01:24:24,840 --> 01:24:27,080
Speaker 1: I'm so rich because I have that one. Oh no,

1976
01:24:27,640 --> 01:24:30,639
Speaker 1: you had like the second version, that's the first version

1977
01:24:30,640 --> 01:24:32,559
Speaker 1: with the specific tag. If you have that one, you're

1978
01:24:32,600 --> 01:24:33,880
Speaker 1: worth like fifty million dollars.

1979
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Speaker 4: Yeah, protect the tag. That is the key.

1980
01:24:35,720 --> 01:24:37,719
Speaker 1: So don't yeah, don't get too don't get too excited

1981
01:24:37,720 --> 01:24:39,479
Speaker 1: about it. Go home and look though. And if you do,

1982
01:24:39,560 --> 01:24:41,519
Speaker 1: remember the little commission for me because I told you

1983
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Speaker 1: about it. More Fred Show next right here,