1 00:00:00,320 --> 00:00:03,560 Speaker 1: Now we can talk about your last question, getting your 2 00:00:03,600 --> 00:00:08,239 Speaker 1: mind off of the pills, and that is going to 3 00:00:08,280 --> 00:00:13,319 Speaker 1: come from a root knowledge, a foundation in your life 4 00:00:13,840 --> 00:00:29,479 Speaker 1: of something that's better than pills. Hey, everybody, Welcome to 5 00:00:29,520 --> 00:00:31,920 Speaker 1: the Grangersmith Podcast, the time when I get to sit 6 00:00:31,960 --> 00:00:35,760 Speaker 1: down with y'all and just talk about life, answering your questions. 7 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:39,000 Speaker 1: If you have a question for me, email Grangersmith Podcast 8 00:00:39,440 --> 00:00:42,760 Speaker 1: at gmail dot com. I love doing this. We sit 9 00:00:42,840 --> 00:00:46,560 Speaker 1: down like we're in the cab of a truck driving 10 00:00:46,600 --> 00:00:49,159 Speaker 1: on a road trip, and you say, hey, man, could 11 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:51,440 Speaker 1: I run something past, Just something I've been thinking about, 12 00:00:51,800 --> 00:00:54,680 Speaker 1: an idea I have, or a question I have, And 13 00:00:54,760 --> 00:00:57,680 Speaker 1: I'm not always righting my answers, but I'll just feed 14 00:00:57,680 --> 00:01:00,760 Speaker 1: it to you as if we're friends, and I would 15 00:01:00,760 --> 00:01:02,800 Speaker 1: hope the same from you, and in fact, I know 16 00:01:02,880 --> 00:01:05,280 Speaker 1: that I would get the same from you. My day 17 00:01:05,400 --> 00:01:07,679 Speaker 1: gets so busy, you know, I'm do an after midnight 18 00:01:07,800 --> 00:01:12,280 Speaker 1: radio show, doing the Smiths touring, making music, making a 19 00:01:12,319 --> 00:01:15,039 Speaker 1: soundtrack for this movie I'm working on right now. So 20 00:01:15,160 --> 00:01:17,600 Speaker 1: if all the moving parts that I have in my life, 21 00:01:18,040 --> 00:01:20,080 Speaker 1: this is the time when I get to just stop 22 00:01:20,319 --> 00:01:23,920 Speaker 1: and breathe for a second and go over these questions. 23 00:01:23,920 --> 00:01:26,400 Speaker 1: So I'm gonna pull up my inbox from this email. 24 00:01:26,959 --> 00:01:29,479 Speaker 1: I'm gonna randomly pick them. I don't have any notes 25 00:01:29,520 --> 00:01:32,360 Speaker 1: in front of me, so everything that you hear is 26 00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:33,760 Speaker 1: going to be the top of my head. And like 27 00:01:33,800 --> 00:01:36,760 Speaker 1: I said, it might not be right, but it's just 28 00:01:36,880 --> 00:01:41,200 Speaker 1: two friends talking. Okay, here we go. First question, subject 29 00:01:41,240 --> 00:01:45,280 Speaker 1: line is called my question. That's it. Hey Grangeer, my 30 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:47,560 Speaker 1: name is Dustin. I'd love to start off by saying 31 00:01:47,600 --> 00:01:49,360 Speaker 1: I'm a huge fan of the podcast and your music. 32 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:53,120 Speaker 1: Thank you so much. I've been I'll be seeing you 33 00:01:53,160 --> 00:01:56,360 Speaker 1: May twentieth in Nebraska. Awesomebody. I saw you in Lincoln, 34 00:01:56,360 --> 00:01:59,880 Speaker 1: Nebraska in December of twenty twenty one. My question is 35 00:02:00,600 --> 00:02:04,400 Speaker 1: what are some good ways that you could move past 36 00:02:04,440 --> 00:02:08,639 Speaker 1: a relationship. I was with someone for seven years that 37 00:02:08,720 --> 00:02:11,079 Speaker 1: just came to an end. I'm looking for a little advice. 38 00:02:11,120 --> 00:02:15,560 Speaker 1: Thanks again, love all you do. Yee Dustin. Okay, now 39 00:02:15,560 --> 00:02:17,760 Speaker 1: I'm talking about heartbreak here, talking about moving on from 40 00:02:17,800 --> 00:02:22,320 Speaker 1: a past relationship, and you're asking me my advice for 41 00:02:22,480 --> 00:02:26,680 Speaker 1: practical ways to get past this. So we're not talking 42 00:02:27,160 --> 00:02:31,760 Speaker 1: deep emotional theological answers. We're just going practical. I'm going 43 00:02:31,840 --> 00:02:33,919 Speaker 1: to say this. I'm gonna say, let's see, you said 44 00:02:34,919 --> 00:02:36,640 Speaker 1: you were with someone for seven years and just came 45 00:02:36,680 --> 00:02:39,200 Speaker 1: to an end, so this is new. First of all, 46 00:02:39,240 --> 00:02:44,960 Speaker 1: I want to say, Dustin, I don't recommend anyone anyone 47 00:02:45,400 --> 00:02:49,680 Speaker 1: is in a relationship for seven years. The longest I 48 00:02:49,800 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 1: was in before Amber was three years, and I don't 49 00:02:53,080 --> 00:02:56,280 Speaker 1: recommend that either. I was lost back then. Okay, So 50 00:02:57,160 --> 00:02:59,440 Speaker 1: I don't think it takes that long, guys. I think 51 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:02,880 Speaker 1: I think of a year is a good that's a 52 00:03:02,919 --> 00:03:08,160 Speaker 1: good twelve month round number of deciding whether this is 53 00:03:08,200 --> 00:03:11,040 Speaker 1: your the person you want to marry or not. And 54 00:03:11,480 --> 00:03:13,760 Speaker 1: I say that in a way that I feel like 55 00:03:13,800 --> 00:03:18,280 Speaker 1: you should start dating whenever you're in a place when 56 00:03:18,320 --> 00:03:22,680 Speaker 1: you feel like you're ready to meet a spouse. So 57 00:03:23,160 --> 00:03:26,200 Speaker 1: you don't really start seriously dating. And I'm not talking 58 00:03:26,200 --> 00:03:29,360 Speaker 1: about going out and having a movie or a dinner 59 00:03:29,480 --> 00:03:31,880 Speaker 1: with somebody and some friends and getting to know somebody. 60 00:03:31,919 --> 00:03:34,760 Speaker 1: I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about a serious 61 00:03:35,200 --> 00:03:39,320 Speaker 1: we're exclusive. It's been a long time. We're five months 62 00:03:39,320 --> 00:03:41,680 Speaker 1: into this thing. We're not seeing anybody else. This is 63 00:03:41,720 --> 00:03:45,680 Speaker 1: an exclusive, go and steady relationship. I don't think we 64 00:03:45,720 --> 00:03:49,800 Speaker 1: should start that until we say, Okay, I am now 65 00:03:49,880 --> 00:03:53,480 Speaker 1: looking for my spouse, for my future spouse. I'm on 66 00:03:53,520 --> 00:03:56,480 Speaker 1: a mission to find my future spouse. And so when 67 00:03:56,520 --> 00:03:59,000 Speaker 1: you're ready for that in your life, then you can 68 00:03:59,040 --> 00:04:03,960 Speaker 1: systematically go through these the dating courting process and go Okay, 69 00:04:04,000 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 1: this one seems good. This one seems like we have 70 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:09,200 Speaker 1: a lot going a lot in common, and we have 71 00:04:09,680 --> 00:04:12,160 Speaker 1: we're aligned on a lot of different things. I'm very attracted. 72 00:04:12,760 --> 00:04:15,040 Speaker 1: So I'm now I'm gonna I'm gonna get in this boat. 73 00:04:15,080 --> 00:04:18,760 Speaker 1: I'm gonna sail it until I know that yes or no. 74 00:04:19,160 --> 00:04:21,240 Speaker 1: And I don't think that's going to take longer than 75 00:04:21,279 --> 00:04:26,279 Speaker 1: a year. So people these days, we extend it so long, 76 00:04:26,400 --> 00:04:29,720 Speaker 1: and people live together and you even make babies together. 77 00:04:29,760 --> 00:04:31,719 Speaker 1: I get these questions all the time on this podcast, 78 00:04:33,240 --> 00:04:36,440 Speaker 1: and it typically just doesn't work. If you're with someone 79 00:04:36,520 --> 00:04:39,480 Speaker 1: for seven years. I could have told you, Dustin, this 80 00:04:39,560 --> 00:04:42,040 Speaker 1: is probably not gonna work. Man. You're you're six and 81 00:04:42,080 --> 00:04:44,880 Speaker 1: a half seven years into this, and you haven't popped 82 00:04:44,920 --> 00:04:47,520 Speaker 1: the question. For whatever reason. I don't know the reason, 83 00:04:47,640 --> 00:04:50,640 Speaker 1: but for whatever reason you haven't popped the question, it's 84 00:04:50,640 --> 00:04:55,040 Speaker 1: probably not gonna happen. Now, there's always exceptions to all this, 85 00:04:55,200 --> 00:04:58,640 Speaker 1: like people will email me or they'll comment on TikTok 86 00:04:58,680 --> 00:05:03,080 Speaker 1: and go, you're wrong. I dated my wife, my current wife, 87 00:05:03,080 --> 00:05:06,080 Speaker 1: for twelve years and now we've been married for fifteen 88 00:05:06,120 --> 00:05:08,919 Speaker 1: and we're happy. Okay, get it. There's always exceptions, But 89 00:05:08,960 --> 00:05:11,960 Speaker 1: I'm saying in general, I think it takes about a 90 00:05:12,040 --> 00:05:14,920 Speaker 1: year to find out. No more like if you're two 91 00:05:15,000 --> 00:05:16,800 Speaker 1: years down the road, three years down the road in 92 00:05:16,839 --> 00:05:20,360 Speaker 1: a relationship and you're still not sure if that's your spouse, 93 00:05:20,760 --> 00:05:22,640 Speaker 1: And when I say not sure, how do you know, Well, 94 00:05:22,680 --> 00:05:26,400 Speaker 1: you haven't popped the question yet, then you should probably 95 00:05:26,440 --> 00:05:29,800 Speaker 1: get off get off the horse like it's not going anywhere, 96 00:05:30,279 --> 00:05:32,480 Speaker 1: or pop the question. But one of the two things 97 00:05:32,520 --> 00:05:36,359 Speaker 1: needs to happen. So that's what I think. First us 98 00:05:36,440 --> 00:05:40,200 Speaker 1: into seven years is too long. That doesn't help you 99 00:05:40,240 --> 00:05:44,000 Speaker 1: because this already happened. But secondly, I would say just 100 00:05:44,080 --> 00:05:49,000 Speaker 1: practically systematically, stay in groups of people, don't spend too 101 00:05:49,080 --> 00:05:51,560 Speaker 1: much time alone. Right now, alone is when you're gonna 102 00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:53,360 Speaker 1: get caught in your thoughts and you're gonna get sad 103 00:05:53,400 --> 00:05:55,080 Speaker 1: and depressed, and you're gonna think about her, and you're 104 00:05:55,120 --> 00:05:58,200 Speaker 1: gonna think about what you could have done differently. So 105 00:05:58,320 --> 00:06:01,039 Speaker 1: I would say stay in groups and stay busy. So 106 00:06:01,400 --> 00:06:03,039 Speaker 1: call up your friends and go what are y'all doing 107 00:06:03,080 --> 00:06:05,840 Speaker 1: Friday night? We're all hanging at so and so's house. 108 00:06:06,040 --> 00:06:09,440 Speaker 1: I'm coming over there and get with those people, get 109 00:06:09,440 --> 00:06:11,839 Speaker 1: in the middle of them, and get busy. You gotta 110 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:15,320 Speaker 1: get busy, get dig into whatever hobby you have. This 111 00:06:15,400 --> 00:06:17,560 Speaker 1: is a good time to get into whatever you love 112 00:06:17,600 --> 00:06:20,000 Speaker 1: to do. Maybe you love fishing, maybe you love riding 113 00:06:20,000 --> 00:06:23,440 Speaker 1: four wheelers, maybe you love playing softball. I don't know 114 00:06:23,480 --> 00:06:25,479 Speaker 1: what it is, but this is a good time to 115 00:06:25,560 --> 00:06:28,440 Speaker 1: lean into a hobby. It's a good time to journal. 116 00:06:28,760 --> 00:06:30,760 Speaker 1: If you don't do that yet, I would recommend that 117 00:06:30,800 --> 00:06:34,320 Speaker 1: to anyone is grab a journal, and I have one 118 00:06:34,360 --> 00:06:37,039 Speaker 1: on my phone, and some people like to write. I 119 00:06:37,080 --> 00:06:40,280 Speaker 1: don't care whatever, I'll do it digital. But I have 120 00:06:40,320 --> 00:06:43,479 Speaker 1: one called day one. It's an app on my phone, 121 00:06:43,480 --> 00:06:47,360 Speaker 1: and so every morning I have a little routine in 122 00:06:46,440 --> 00:06:49,520 Speaker 1: my morning. I get up before the sun comes up, 123 00:06:49,680 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 1: get my cup of coffee, read my Bible, and usually write. 124 00:06:53,240 --> 00:06:56,080 Speaker 1: After that, I'll go into my well. I'll post whatever 125 00:06:56,160 --> 00:06:59,800 Speaker 1: scripture I read that I think is interesting on social media, 126 00:07:00,480 --> 00:07:03,680 Speaker 1: and then I'll go to my daily journal, and I'm 127 00:07:03,720 --> 00:07:05,800 Speaker 1: just talking to myself, so it's not it doesn't have 128 00:07:05,839 --> 00:07:08,679 Speaker 1: to be formal. I'm talking to really my future self. 129 00:07:09,640 --> 00:07:13,360 Speaker 1: And so I'll say, beautiful morning, drinking some coffee. Kids 130 00:07:13,400 --> 00:07:15,720 Speaker 1: are getting ready for school today. I'm gonna I'm gonna 131 00:07:15,760 --> 00:07:19,360 Speaker 1: go back into mixing on this movie. And then at 132 00:07:19,400 --> 00:07:21,360 Speaker 1: four o'clock I'm headed to the airport. We're going to 133 00:07:21,400 --> 00:07:25,280 Speaker 1: Seattle for a show. I'm feeling allergies, you know, like 134 00:07:25,320 --> 00:07:28,880 Speaker 1: I like to put that, I'm feeling allergies right now. 135 00:07:29,040 --> 00:07:33,400 Speaker 1: It's allergies are killing me. And then the next thing 136 00:07:33,480 --> 00:07:35,480 Speaker 1: I do is I go back and read the last 137 00:07:35,560 --> 00:07:39,000 Speaker 1: four years that I've been doing this on this particular 138 00:07:39,080 --> 00:07:42,520 Speaker 1: app and I'll read four years of it and I'll go, Wow, 139 00:07:42,640 --> 00:07:46,640 Speaker 1: three years ago, I was doing this. And what's important 140 00:07:46,640 --> 00:07:48,640 Speaker 1: about that to me is I could read back and go, 141 00:07:49,680 --> 00:07:53,080 Speaker 1: I was doing this and it didn't even matter three 142 00:07:53,120 --> 00:07:55,840 Speaker 1: years later at all. It didn't matter. And so that 143 00:07:55,960 --> 00:07:58,880 Speaker 1: helps me with the present moment, knowing what didn't matter 144 00:07:58,920 --> 00:08:00,680 Speaker 1: when that I used to be doing that I was 145 00:08:00,760 --> 00:08:03,880 Speaker 1: worried about or working hard on. And then there's other 146 00:08:03,920 --> 00:08:06,520 Speaker 1: things I was doing that did end up mattering now 147 00:08:07,520 --> 00:08:09,920 Speaker 1: and I could read that I had allergies three years ago, 148 00:08:10,000 --> 00:08:12,960 Speaker 1: and go oh, I had allergies three years ago and 149 00:08:13,000 --> 00:08:15,880 Speaker 1: I have allergies today. That must be something that happens 150 00:08:15,920 --> 00:08:18,400 Speaker 1: in the middle of May. For me, it must be 151 00:08:18,440 --> 00:08:22,040 Speaker 1: you know, so that helps me and for you, Dustin, 152 00:08:22,280 --> 00:08:27,360 Speaker 1: you could write, I'm I'm in a deep place, a 153 00:08:27,480 --> 00:08:31,480 Speaker 1: dark place right now with this relationship, and I'm struggling, 154 00:08:32,280 --> 00:08:37,400 Speaker 1: and yesterday I had an all time low, and I'm noticing. 155 00:08:37,600 --> 00:08:40,760 Speaker 1: I'm noticing the fluctuations of my highs and lows. And 156 00:08:40,800 --> 00:08:44,520 Speaker 1: then next year you'll read that and you'll be like, man, 157 00:08:45,040 --> 00:08:48,760 Speaker 1: I'm in a new relationship now, it's better, It's it's 158 00:08:49,000 --> 00:08:53,160 Speaker 1: way easier. She's way more low maintenance for me. And 159 00:08:53,240 --> 00:08:57,720 Speaker 1: look at me struggling back then. And that that little 160 00:08:57,760 --> 00:09:00,800 Speaker 1: piece helps you so much, because then the next time 161 00:09:00,840 --> 00:09:04,920 Speaker 1: something happens, you're gonna ask yourself when I journal this, 162 00:09:05,679 --> 00:09:08,240 Speaker 1: is this gonna matter to me in a year or 163 00:09:08,280 --> 00:09:10,480 Speaker 1: it's just gonna be one of those things that didn't matter. 164 00:09:11,280 --> 00:09:13,839 Speaker 1: It's interesting, right talking to your future self. You could 165 00:09:13,840 --> 00:09:16,480 Speaker 1: even ask your future self questions like, hey, future self, 166 00:09:16,880 --> 00:09:20,000 Speaker 1: I'm really hurting over this girl. Are you still hurting 167 00:09:20,080 --> 00:09:22,040 Speaker 1: or does it not matter at all? And then you 168 00:09:22,040 --> 00:09:24,760 Speaker 1: could answer back two years later, you could answer back 169 00:09:24,800 --> 00:09:28,240 Speaker 1: and go, hey, twenty twenty version of myself, No, it 170 00:09:28,240 --> 00:09:32,680 Speaker 1: didn't matter, And it helps a lot. It helps understand yourself, 171 00:09:32,800 --> 00:09:35,920 Speaker 1: understanding the way your brain works. I would say this 172 00:09:36,000 --> 00:09:39,920 Speaker 1: destin too. I want you to notice something through this heartbreak. 173 00:09:40,120 --> 00:09:43,520 Speaker 1: I want you to notice that you're going through It's 174 00:09:43,520 --> 00:09:45,480 Speaker 1: like you're in the ocean and you're going through waves. 175 00:09:46,080 --> 00:09:49,440 Speaker 1: So you're you're gonna notice when you're in the trough 176 00:09:49,480 --> 00:09:51,720 Speaker 1: of the wave and when you're on the crest of 177 00:09:51,760 --> 00:09:54,280 Speaker 1: the wave, right, And so we could say that the 178 00:09:55,240 --> 00:09:57,839 Speaker 1: crest is when you're feeling pretty good, like I haven't 179 00:09:57,880 --> 00:10:01,200 Speaker 1: even thought about it in the last five minutes, and 180 00:10:01,240 --> 00:10:04,080 Speaker 1: I'm like, my heart is beating at a normal rate. 181 00:10:04,559 --> 00:10:08,880 Speaker 1: I'm feeling pretty good. And then you could fill the descent. 182 00:10:10,080 --> 00:10:12,920 Speaker 1: And sometimes this could happen like every thirty seconds, or 183 00:10:12,920 --> 00:10:15,280 Speaker 1: it could happen every other hour, or it could happen 184 00:10:15,320 --> 00:10:19,120 Speaker 1: every other day or every other week. The length of 185 00:10:19,160 --> 00:10:23,280 Speaker 1: the wave changes. But I want you to notice, I'm 186 00:10:23,320 --> 00:10:27,680 Speaker 1: feeling like I'm going down right now, I'm feeling the descent, 187 00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:31,000 Speaker 1: and you'll know pretty soon I'm going to be in 188 00:10:31,040 --> 00:10:34,920 Speaker 1: the trough and it sucks down there, but I also 189 00:10:35,080 --> 00:10:37,360 Speaker 1: know that I will recognize when I'm starting to go 190 00:10:37,480 --> 00:10:40,160 Speaker 1: back up to the crest. And when you're in the trough, 191 00:10:40,240 --> 00:10:44,839 Speaker 1: think about this, monitor yourself. Your brain is like a cpu, 192 00:10:45,480 --> 00:10:50,439 Speaker 1: so you could monitor how these thoughts are fluctuating through 193 00:10:50,840 --> 00:10:53,120 Speaker 1: and you could almost leave yourself for a second. And 194 00:10:53,160 --> 00:10:56,360 Speaker 1: this sounds weird, but you could transcend yourself and look 195 00:10:56,440 --> 00:11:01,000 Speaker 1: down at yourself just for a second and monitor the 196 00:11:01,080 --> 00:11:05,079 Speaker 1: emotional state that you're in. And this is huge. This 197 00:11:05,120 --> 00:11:07,600 Speaker 1: is huge when you could finally do this Dustin, because 198 00:11:07,720 --> 00:11:10,840 Speaker 1: then you could recognize, I'm in the trough and this sucks, 199 00:11:11,320 --> 00:11:14,800 Speaker 1: but I know that I will feel myself going back 200 00:11:14,880 --> 00:11:17,400 Speaker 1: up and I'll be back on the crest. It could 201 00:11:17,440 --> 00:11:19,560 Speaker 1: be in thirty seconds or it could be tomorrow, but 202 00:11:20,000 --> 00:11:21,959 Speaker 1: I know when I'll start heading back up. And then 203 00:11:22,120 --> 00:11:25,280 Speaker 1: and then you monitor yourself and you go I feel 204 00:11:25,480 --> 00:11:27,640 Speaker 1: a little bit better than I was in the trough. 205 00:11:27,920 --> 00:11:30,760 Speaker 1: I must be going up, and then you could recognize 206 00:11:30,760 --> 00:11:32,760 Speaker 1: when you're going up. Pretty soon, I'm going to be 207 00:11:32,760 --> 00:11:35,240 Speaker 1: back on the crest, and then you'll be on the crest. 208 00:11:35,440 --> 00:11:37,480 Speaker 1: And the important thing about being on the crest is 209 00:11:37,520 --> 00:11:42,000 Speaker 1: recognizing what that you will go back down again. So 210 00:11:42,080 --> 00:11:45,040 Speaker 1: that helps you understand that you're floating in the ocean 211 00:11:45,480 --> 00:11:47,360 Speaker 1: and you're going up and down on this in this 212 00:11:47,480 --> 00:11:51,720 Speaker 1: heartbreak and this ocean of pain. Right that sounds like 213 00:11:51,720 --> 00:11:55,480 Speaker 1: a nineteen nineties country album Ocean of pain, But you're 214 00:11:55,800 --> 00:11:57,480 Speaker 1: going up and down. And as long as you could 215 00:11:57,520 --> 00:12:01,520 Speaker 1: recognize that, you know that neither one of those positions 216 00:12:01,600 --> 00:12:07,560 Speaker 1: up or down last forever, and eventually you will notice dustin. 217 00:12:08,040 --> 00:12:12,360 Speaker 1: How do I know this Because personal experience and the 218 00:12:12,600 --> 00:12:15,280 Speaker 1: rest of humanity has been through what you've gone through. Okay, 219 00:12:16,120 --> 00:12:19,840 Speaker 1: you're not going through something alone, you're not going through 220 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:23,360 Speaker 1: something new. But what I'll tell you is these waves, 221 00:12:23,720 --> 00:12:27,240 Speaker 1: the length between the waves gets wider and wider, and 222 00:12:27,280 --> 00:12:30,920 Speaker 1: the distance between trough and cress gets shorter and shorter, 223 00:12:31,480 --> 00:12:39,800 Speaker 1: until you eventually arrive back in calm water. Okay, all right, 224 00:12:39,840 --> 00:12:42,679 Speaker 1: let's go to this. This is interesting. I don't think 225 00:12:42,679 --> 00:12:44,640 Speaker 1: I've ever answered a question like I'm about to do 226 00:12:44,760 --> 00:12:49,880 Speaker 1: right now. Subject line is grandparents house and says, hey, 227 00:12:49,960 --> 00:12:52,640 Speaker 1: I would like to keep anonymous. I just moved into 228 00:12:52,679 --> 00:12:55,080 Speaker 1: my grandparents house. It feels like there is an angry 229 00:12:55,120 --> 00:12:58,600 Speaker 1: spirit around the house. I've been talking to God about 230 00:12:58,600 --> 00:13:02,960 Speaker 1: it and reading scripture. I feel that the spirit is beginning. 231 00:13:04,520 --> 00:13:08,200 Speaker 1: Excuse me, I feel the spirit and it is beginning 232 00:13:08,280 --> 00:13:16,240 Speaker 1: to be hard to sleep at night. Interesting anonymous. Some 233 00:13:16,280 --> 00:13:20,000 Speaker 1: people are listening going, that is just not true. Other 234 00:13:20,040 --> 00:13:23,439 Speaker 1: people listening go, I know it's true. I've experienced it. 235 00:13:24,320 --> 00:13:28,120 Speaker 1: I personally believe that it is true and that this 236 00:13:28,280 --> 00:13:34,040 Speaker 1: is also biblical. It's very biblical. I mean, Jesus during 237 00:13:34,080 --> 00:13:37,920 Speaker 1: his time on Earth, Jesus performed many miracles. He healed 238 00:13:37,920 --> 00:13:42,640 Speaker 1: the sick, he provided food for thousands out of hardly anything. 239 00:13:43,520 --> 00:13:46,480 Speaker 1: He turned, as we all know, water into wine. But 240 00:13:46,640 --> 00:13:49,880 Speaker 1: what did he do more than any of that cast 241 00:13:49,920 --> 00:13:55,280 Speaker 1: out demons. That's what he did on his work, during 242 00:13:55,320 --> 00:13:58,240 Speaker 1: his work on earth. So why do we think that 243 00:13:58,240 --> 00:14:02,720 Speaker 1: that doesn't exist anymore? Well, we know it does. We 244 00:14:02,880 --> 00:14:05,880 Speaker 1: just call it different things. We give it different labels, 245 00:14:05,920 --> 00:14:08,440 Speaker 1: demonic possession. We give it labels because that sounds like 246 00:14:08,440 --> 00:14:11,840 Speaker 1: a science fiction movie demonic possession. So we give it 247 00:14:11,880 --> 00:14:19,040 Speaker 1: other names like schizophrenia, mental health disorder, that person's just crazy, 248 00:14:19,080 --> 00:14:22,840 Speaker 1: that person's strung out on drugs. We give it all 249 00:14:22,920 --> 00:14:25,240 Speaker 1: kinds of names. But we need to call it for 250 00:14:25,320 --> 00:14:27,040 Speaker 1: what it is, because when we call it for what 251 00:14:27,120 --> 00:14:31,440 Speaker 1: it is, we reduce its power. Because as long as 252 00:14:31,440 --> 00:14:33,360 Speaker 1: you're denying what it is, and you're giving it other 253 00:14:33,480 --> 00:14:37,320 Speaker 1: names and denying that it exists, that gives it more 254 00:14:37,400 --> 00:14:41,280 Speaker 1: power to roam free on this earth. And I believe 255 00:14:41,320 --> 00:14:45,520 Speaker 1: that there's many spirits, thousands of them, and they all 256 00:14:45,560 --> 00:14:49,480 Speaker 1: have names, and they all have specific jobs. This is biblical, 257 00:14:49,600 --> 00:14:53,880 Speaker 1: and it's terrifying if you don't call it for what 258 00:14:53,960 --> 00:14:57,000 Speaker 1: it is, and if you don't know the source of 259 00:14:57,080 --> 00:15:04,400 Speaker 1: the only thing that can defeat it, So, Anonymous, if 260 00:15:04,440 --> 00:15:06,760 Speaker 1: you are not capable of defeating this on your own, 261 00:15:08,360 --> 00:15:11,800 Speaker 1: you could be in trouble. And this could be a 262 00:15:11,800 --> 00:15:16,200 Speaker 1: scary thing. So you say, I'm talking to God about 263 00:15:16,240 --> 00:15:19,840 Speaker 1: it and I'm reading scriptures. You got to do more 264 00:15:19,880 --> 00:15:28,080 Speaker 1: than that, buddy, or ma'am Anonymous. You're gonna have to 265 00:15:28,080 --> 00:15:31,520 Speaker 1: get specific with this thing. I'm talking You're gonna have 266 00:15:31,560 --> 00:15:34,080 Speaker 1: to You're gonna have to walk in that house and 267 00:15:34,160 --> 00:15:37,800 Speaker 1: rebuke this in the name of Jesus, and you're gonna 268 00:15:37,800 --> 00:15:41,920 Speaker 1: have to be committed to this process. There's many times 269 00:15:41,920 --> 00:15:46,000 Speaker 1: when demons were people tried to rebuke them but they weren't. 270 00:15:46,480 --> 00:15:49,360 Speaker 1: They weren't faithful enough to do it, and so the 271 00:15:49,400 --> 00:15:53,040 Speaker 1: demon just mocks them and it stays. Now, the scary 272 00:15:53,040 --> 00:15:56,800 Speaker 1: thing about it is, you are at risk here if 273 00:15:56,840 --> 00:15:59,800 Speaker 1: you're not careful, if you're not grounded in the right 274 00:15:59,840 --> 00:16:05,920 Speaker 1: thing foundation of Christ, you're at risk for being influenced 275 00:16:06,040 --> 00:16:10,760 Speaker 1: or taken over at some point by this spirit. So 276 00:16:12,880 --> 00:16:17,360 Speaker 1: long story short, believe it. Believe this gut feeling, Trust 277 00:16:17,360 --> 00:16:19,840 Speaker 1: this gut feeling that there's something wrong in that there 278 00:16:19,920 --> 00:16:24,240 Speaker 1: is something going on here, and then I would seek 279 00:16:24,400 --> 00:16:26,600 Speaker 1: help from the church. I would go to go to 280 00:16:26,640 --> 00:16:29,040 Speaker 1: a local church. If you're not plugged into the local church, 281 00:16:29,600 --> 00:16:33,560 Speaker 1: that's a huge red flag already. So regardless of the grandparents' 282 00:16:33,600 --> 00:16:36,680 Speaker 1: house thing, get yourself plugged in at a local church. 283 00:16:36,880 --> 00:16:41,880 Speaker 1: Everybody listening, get plugged in to the church. That's what 284 00:16:41,920 --> 00:16:43,920 Speaker 1: we need to do. That's the body of Christ. So 285 00:16:44,000 --> 00:16:46,920 Speaker 1: get plugged into the church. You can't just say I'm 286 00:16:46,920 --> 00:16:50,280 Speaker 1: talking to God about this, what are you doing? Faith 287 00:16:50,360 --> 00:16:53,320 Speaker 1: is an action, It's a verb. What are you doing? 288 00:16:55,320 --> 00:16:57,040 Speaker 1: Christ says, why do you call me by name? But 289 00:16:57,120 --> 00:17:02,000 Speaker 1: you don't do what I say? Right, Hey, Lord Lord, 290 00:17:02,560 --> 00:17:04,840 Speaker 1: but you don't call me I mean, but you don't 291 00:17:04,840 --> 00:17:08,160 Speaker 1: do what I say. So go to go get yourself 292 00:17:08,200 --> 00:17:10,920 Speaker 1: in the body with other people and tell them about 293 00:17:10,920 --> 00:17:14,240 Speaker 1: this house. See, I need some help, can you have? 294 00:17:14,359 --> 00:17:18,040 Speaker 1: I have personally heard many stories of this kind of house, 295 00:17:18,440 --> 00:17:21,439 Speaker 1: and I've heard many stories of so many pastor friends 296 00:17:21,960 --> 00:17:25,800 Speaker 1: that have gone out and successfully rebuked a demon in 297 00:17:25,880 --> 00:17:30,919 Speaker 1: a house and it left forever it's gone, and they 298 00:17:31,000 --> 00:17:33,120 Speaker 1: felt it leave, and they heard it leave, and they 299 00:17:33,240 --> 00:17:37,400 Speaker 1: smelled it leave. This is terrifying stuff, like straight out 300 00:17:37,400 --> 00:17:41,040 Speaker 1: of Hollywood. But it's real and you got to deal 301 00:17:41,040 --> 00:17:44,200 Speaker 1: with it. And I wouldn't recommend doing it alone. I don't. 302 00:17:44,480 --> 00:17:47,600 Speaker 1: I don't. Something tells me that this is something you 303 00:17:47,640 --> 00:17:49,359 Speaker 1: can't do alone. You need to go to a local 304 00:17:49,480 --> 00:17:52,480 Speaker 1: church that you trust, with the group that you trust 305 00:17:52,920 --> 00:17:56,680 Speaker 1: and bring them to the house. Otherwise you might have 306 00:17:56,760 --> 00:18:03,960 Speaker 1: to leave yourself. Let's hit another one here, step Cline 307 00:18:04,000 --> 00:18:06,600 Speaker 1: says pre deployment troubles. Hey Granger, my name is Caleb. 308 00:18:06,640 --> 00:18:08,879 Speaker 1: I'm twenty three from Ohio. I want to get to 309 00:18:08,880 --> 00:18:10,520 Speaker 1: the point because that has a lot of details and 310 00:18:10,560 --> 00:18:13,320 Speaker 1: it could be confusing, but I want to know what 311 00:18:13,359 --> 00:18:16,560 Speaker 1: you could think because you are a huge spiritual mentor 312 00:18:16,640 --> 00:18:20,040 Speaker 1: for me. I've been with my fiance for four and 313 00:18:20,080 --> 00:18:23,439 Speaker 1: a half years and we're having big issues. Let me 314 00:18:23,480 --> 00:18:28,200 Speaker 1: pause right there, first question, I said, Remember what I said, 315 00:18:28,440 --> 00:18:30,720 Speaker 1: I don't think. I don't think we should be in 316 00:18:30,760 --> 00:18:34,520 Speaker 1: four and a half year relationships without being married. Okay, 317 00:18:34,720 --> 00:18:38,760 Speaker 1: continuing on, We've been arguing a lot the past two months, 318 00:18:38,800 --> 00:18:41,199 Speaker 1: sparking from small issues. It's been so hard for me 319 00:18:41,280 --> 00:18:44,840 Speaker 1: to love her for the quirks that I always have. 320 00:18:45,600 --> 00:18:49,159 Speaker 1: She grew up Catholic, I grew up non denominational. She 321 00:18:49,280 --> 00:18:53,679 Speaker 1: is now trying to figure out what she and I 322 00:18:53,680 --> 00:18:58,239 Speaker 1: can agree with. In the past, we discussed beliefs and 323 00:18:58,359 --> 00:19:00,520 Speaker 1: we seem to be closer to being on the same 324 00:19:00,560 --> 00:19:04,679 Speaker 1: page two years ago with faith, but now she seems 325 00:19:04,720 --> 00:19:07,920 Speaker 1: too worried about being Catholic and change things that we've 326 00:19:07,960 --> 00:19:10,480 Speaker 1: talked about. At the end of the day, I truly 327 00:19:10,520 --> 00:19:12,520 Speaker 1: want us both to be happy and need my spouse 328 00:19:12,560 --> 00:19:14,760 Speaker 1: to be on the same page with me on future 329 00:19:14,840 --> 00:19:18,480 Speaker 1: life endeavors and faith based choices like kids in church. 330 00:19:19,320 --> 00:19:21,080 Speaker 1: My apologies on the link of this message, but I 331 00:19:21,119 --> 00:19:24,960 Speaker 1: would love my mentor's input. There are some other details, 332 00:19:25,480 --> 00:19:27,080 Speaker 1: but I'm trying to make this as short as I can. 333 00:19:27,119 --> 00:19:34,880 Speaker 1: Thanks so much, Caleb, Caleb, thanks man. Thanks for the email. 334 00:19:35,119 --> 00:19:40,120 Speaker 1: And on a side note, thank you for being aware 335 00:19:40,240 --> 00:19:42,840 Speaker 1: that we need to keep these emails shorter. So when 336 00:19:42,920 --> 00:19:45,200 Speaker 1: y'all are writing emails, keep them about a page link. 337 00:19:46,080 --> 00:19:49,040 Speaker 1: So thanks for doing that. Caleb. Let's dig in. I 338 00:19:49,119 --> 00:19:53,320 Speaker 1: told you that I don't agree with a four and 339 00:19:53,320 --> 00:19:57,200 Speaker 1: a half year old relationship. I think it's too long. 340 00:19:57,320 --> 00:20:01,440 Speaker 1: I think you should already know by now. Now there's 341 00:20:01,480 --> 00:20:03,359 Speaker 1: a key thing that you said here at the end 342 00:20:03,359 --> 00:20:06,720 Speaker 1: of the day. I want us both to be happy, 343 00:20:07,640 --> 00:20:10,320 Speaker 1: and I'm gonna suggest that it sounds like right off 344 00:20:10,320 --> 00:20:13,080 Speaker 1: the bat, it sounds like if you truly want each 345 00:20:13,080 --> 00:20:18,359 Speaker 1: other to be happy, it's probably a part and not together. 346 00:20:19,760 --> 00:20:24,480 Speaker 1: These are deep issues. This Catholic issue that you're dealing 347 00:20:24,520 --> 00:20:28,840 Speaker 1: with is not just going to go away. This is 348 00:20:29,160 --> 00:20:32,040 Speaker 1: so embedded in her. This is how this is her. 349 00:20:36,280 --> 00:20:40,080 Speaker 1: It's become so much embedded in her that it's part 350 00:20:40,080 --> 00:20:43,440 Speaker 1: of her family, and it's part of her and it's 351 00:20:43,440 --> 00:20:48,800 Speaker 1: her heritage, and it's I hate the word religion because 352 00:20:48,800 --> 00:20:53,240 Speaker 1: it's religion is man made. We've made this up and truly, 353 00:20:53,280 --> 00:20:56,080 Speaker 1: all we need is a relationship with Christ. That's all 354 00:20:56,119 --> 00:20:59,920 Speaker 1: we need. And religion is not all bad because it 355 00:21:00,680 --> 00:21:04,080 Speaker 1: helps collect that idea of relationship with Christ and put 356 00:21:04,119 --> 00:21:07,800 Speaker 1: it in humanistic terms, and it makes us be able 357 00:21:07,840 --> 00:21:15,720 Speaker 1: to to worship in a constructive environment that helps put 358 00:21:15,760 --> 00:21:19,720 Speaker 1: parameters on what we do. Does that make sense? But 359 00:21:20,040 --> 00:21:25,600 Speaker 1: having having a deep problem with her Catholicism is going 360 00:21:25,640 --> 00:21:29,240 Speaker 1: to affect your kids. And if you think it's bad 361 00:21:29,320 --> 00:21:33,280 Speaker 1: now with no kids, can you imagine can you imagine 362 00:21:33,320 --> 00:21:35,680 Speaker 1: how much worse this is going to get with kids. 363 00:21:35,680 --> 00:21:39,159 Speaker 1: This is one of these things, Buddy, that ends up 364 00:21:39,160 --> 00:21:43,560 Speaker 1: being a deal breaker, And that's hard to hear. It's 365 00:21:43,560 --> 00:21:46,080 Speaker 1: hard for you to hear it from me, especially since 366 00:21:46,119 --> 00:21:49,640 Speaker 1: you trust this podcast. But that and I'm not always right, 367 00:21:49,680 --> 00:21:51,520 Speaker 1: But this is my advice to If you were my 368 00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:54,080 Speaker 1: friend Caleb, which I feel like you are, if you're 369 00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:56,200 Speaker 1: sitting in this room with me right now, I would say, Buddy, 370 00:21:56,200 --> 00:21:59,720 Speaker 1: I think this is time to break it off. If 371 00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:01,840 Speaker 1: you have it known by four and a half years, 372 00:22:01,920 --> 00:22:05,760 Speaker 1: yet you're still wondering and you're having these arguments, it's 373 00:22:05,760 --> 00:22:09,919 Speaker 1: time to say, Babe, you know I love you, you 374 00:22:09,960 --> 00:22:13,840 Speaker 1: know I want I want what's best for you. And 375 00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:16,679 Speaker 1: from the bottom of my heart as much as it 376 00:22:16,760 --> 00:22:19,679 Speaker 1: breaks it. I feel like what's best for you is 377 00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:22,840 Speaker 1: to not be with me, but be with somebody else, 378 00:22:23,400 --> 00:22:27,880 Speaker 1: somebody else that aligns with what you think, especially when 379 00:22:27,880 --> 00:22:32,800 Speaker 1: it comes to faith. Your subjecline was pre deployment, but 380 00:22:32,840 --> 00:22:36,080 Speaker 1: you didn't mention that if you're about to go deployed, 381 00:22:37,600 --> 00:22:40,199 Speaker 1: this is something that has to happen right now, and 382 00:22:40,240 --> 00:22:43,160 Speaker 1: it's gonna your deployment will help in the healing process 383 00:22:43,160 --> 00:22:47,119 Speaker 1: of the heartbreak. But I wouldn't. I wouldn't just keep 384 00:22:47,520 --> 00:22:49,879 Speaker 1: plowing through this just we're gonna make it work. We're 385 00:22:49,880 --> 00:22:52,080 Speaker 1: gonna make it work. We're gonna make it work. Because 386 00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:55,560 Speaker 1: you don't want to be saying that when you're married 387 00:22:55,640 --> 00:22:58,400 Speaker 1: and you have kids seven eight years down the road. 388 00:22:58,440 --> 00:23:00,240 Speaker 1: You don't want to be looking at your wife life 389 00:23:00,800 --> 00:23:03,800 Speaker 1: in counseling saying we're gonna make it work. We're gonna 390 00:23:03,840 --> 00:23:06,439 Speaker 1: make it work. You don't want to say that, but 391 00:23:06,560 --> 00:23:11,480 Speaker 1: you can right now because you're not married. I would say, 392 00:23:11,480 --> 00:23:19,280 Speaker 1: break it off. We're gonna take a break. Beerer back, Okay, 393 00:23:19,320 --> 00:23:21,560 Speaker 1: getting back into these questions. A subject line here says 394 00:23:21,720 --> 00:23:25,639 Speaker 1: stage fright, Hey, grangeer, my name is Natalie I'm fifteen. 395 00:23:25,720 --> 00:23:29,240 Speaker 1: I'm from West Melbourne, Florida, and I'm really leaning towards 396 00:23:29,320 --> 00:23:31,800 Speaker 1: music as being a career for me one day. But 397 00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:34,280 Speaker 1: I get really nervous singing in front of people. I've 398 00:23:34,320 --> 00:23:38,240 Speaker 1: written so many amazing songs. I play electric, guitar, piano, drums, ukulele, 399 00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:41,639 Speaker 1: and acoustic. My problem is I could sing great, and 400 00:23:41,720 --> 00:23:44,000 Speaker 1: I could play great, and I could write great songs, 401 00:23:44,080 --> 00:23:46,840 Speaker 1: but that's only when I'm by myself and when I'm 402 00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:49,560 Speaker 1: with close friends. But when I play for other people 403 00:23:49,600 --> 00:23:52,280 Speaker 1: that I don't know, I'm always worried about what people 404 00:23:52,280 --> 00:23:55,680 Speaker 1: are gonna say. Whenever I play and sing for people, 405 00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:57,959 Speaker 1: my voice starts to shake and I get dizzy. I 406 00:23:58,080 --> 00:24:00,040 Speaker 1: really want to be an artist one day, but I 407 00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:02,560 Speaker 1: don't know how to get over this fear. I would 408 00:24:02,560 --> 00:24:05,040 Speaker 1: love to know how you handle your pre performance Jitters, 409 00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:07,320 Speaker 1: and I would love some advice on how you overcome 410 00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:10,040 Speaker 1: on how to overcome mine. I love your music and 411 00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:12,080 Speaker 1: all you stand for. Thanks for you and Amber being 412 00:24:12,119 --> 00:24:16,119 Speaker 1: such an inspiration. PS. It would be awesome if you 413 00:24:16,160 --> 00:24:20,240 Speaker 1: read this on the podcast. Well guess what, Natalie, I'm 414 00:24:20,240 --> 00:24:24,160 Speaker 1: reading it on the podcast right now, and I have 415 00:24:24,240 --> 00:24:31,440 Speaker 1: some answers for you, because I know where you're coming from, 416 00:24:31,520 --> 00:24:34,040 Speaker 1: the only way for you to get over stage fright 417 00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:39,800 Speaker 1: is to get on the stage over and over and 418 00:24:39,880 --> 00:24:44,159 Speaker 1: over and over again. I could tell you a lot 419 00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:48,920 Speaker 1: of other things, like make sure you're controlling your breathing 420 00:24:48,960 --> 00:24:52,639 Speaker 1: before you walk on stage, because you're getting dizzy. And 421 00:24:52,720 --> 00:24:54,800 Speaker 1: why are you getting dizzy. You're getting dizzy because you're 422 00:24:54,800 --> 00:24:58,920 Speaker 1: not getting oxygen. That's a simple thing. You're not getting 423 00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:01,960 Speaker 1: oxygen because you're taking quick breaths, and you're taking quick 424 00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:05,679 Speaker 1: breaths because your mind is taken over and you're getting nervous. 425 00:25:05,800 --> 00:25:11,159 Speaker 1: So control your breathing. Be so present right before you 426 00:25:11,200 --> 00:25:14,240 Speaker 1: go up that you remember a couple of minutes before 427 00:25:14,240 --> 00:25:20,920 Speaker 1: you walk on stage. Breathe practice in hell slowly Exhale 428 00:25:21,160 --> 00:25:24,360 Speaker 1: slowly all the way out from your diaphragm, not from 429 00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:27,160 Speaker 1: your top of your chest to your neck. Breathe all 430 00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:30,280 Speaker 1: the way out, and then take a breath at the 431 00:25:30,320 --> 00:25:36,480 Speaker 1: bottom of your diaphragm. Hold it, breathe it in, let 432 00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:38,720 Speaker 1: it out, breathe it in, over and over and over. 433 00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:42,840 Speaker 1: This is part of your exercises as you're warming up 434 00:25:42,840 --> 00:25:45,520 Speaker 1: your vocal cords, which we should all do anyway, because 435 00:25:45,520 --> 00:25:47,399 Speaker 1: it's like a muscle. It's like you don't just go 436 00:25:47,440 --> 00:25:52,360 Speaker 1: out in the yard and sprint. You warm up your legs. 437 00:25:52,400 --> 00:25:54,199 Speaker 1: The same thing with your voice. You gotta warm up 438 00:25:54,200 --> 00:25:57,480 Speaker 1: your voice. It's a muscle. So on top of warming 439 00:25:57,560 --> 00:26:01,000 Speaker 1: up your voice, control your breathing. I mean, this is 440 00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:04,080 Speaker 1: a good practice whether or not you're you have stage 441 00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:08,000 Speaker 1: fright or not. But I could tell you all that, 442 00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:12,280 Speaker 1: and I could tell you different techniques like stay away 443 00:26:12,280 --> 00:26:14,680 Speaker 1: from caffeine and alcohol and things like that. You should 444 00:26:14,680 --> 00:26:18,800 Speaker 1: because you're fifteen anyway. But ultimately, what's gonna get you 445 00:26:18,880 --> 00:26:23,080 Speaker 1: over this is getting confidence in those kind of environments. 446 00:26:23,640 --> 00:26:26,440 Speaker 1: You ask me how I handle my pre performance jitters, 447 00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:31,440 Speaker 1: I don't get them. I don't get pre performance jitters anymore. 448 00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:34,520 Speaker 1: But it's also because I've just been My first album 449 00:26:34,640 --> 00:26:39,520 Speaker 1: came out twenty two years ago, so I've just been 450 00:26:39,560 --> 00:26:43,080 Speaker 1: doing it for two decades, and I've seen all kinds 451 00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:46,000 Speaker 1: of stages and all kinds of sizes of crowds, and 452 00:26:46,080 --> 00:26:49,639 Speaker 1: all kinds of TV performances and live on the radio 453 00:26:49,800 --> 00:26:53,800 Speaker 1: performances and small intimate coffee shops and stadiums. I've seen 454 00:26:54,040 --> 00:26:59,040 Speaker 1: all of them, and every time that I hit a 455 00:26:59,080 --> 00:27:03,960 Speaker 1: new environment thing that's very different, or a new song 456 00:27:04,359 --> 00:27:06,919 Speaker 1: or a new something I haven't done. Each Each of 457 00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:11,439 Speaker 1: those times I got jitters, and I could breathe, and 458 00:27:11,480 --> 00:27:14,199 Speaker 1: I could do all these different things. But ultimately I 459 00:27:14,240 --> 00:27:16,280 Speaker 1: just had to walk out there and do it, and 460 00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:19,600 Speaker 1: then walk off the stage and think to myself, well, 461 00:27:19,680 --> 00:27:22,840 Speaker 1: I screwed that one up, or I did okay on 462 00:27:22,920 --> 00:27:25,639 Speaker 1: that one. Either way, got back in the saddle and 463 00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:29,800 Speaker 1: did it again as soon as I could. So I 464 00:27:29,840 --> 00:27:33,280 Speaker 1: think this goes with anything if you're if you're an 465 00:27:34,160 --> 00:27:37,080 Speaker 1: race car driver and you you haven't raced very much, 466 00:27:37,160 --> 00:27:39,480 Speaker 1: you're gonna be nervous behind the wheel, But if you 467 00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:42,680 Speaker 1: have nine hundred races under your belt, you're not as 468 00:27:42,760 --> 00:27:47,120 Speaker 1: nervous as the first time. That's easy, right, public speaking, 469 00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:51,600 Speaker 1: same thing if any maybe you're doing a presentation at work. 470 00:27:52,359 --> 00:27:54,200 Speaker 1: The first time you do it, you're gonna have jitters, 471 00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:56,600 Speaker 1: but the eight hundredth time you do it, you're not. 472 00:27:57,680 --> 00:28:00,479 Speaker 1: It's just a matter of getting back in the saddle 473 00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:04,520 Speaker 1: and doing it. Natalie, over and over and over. You're fifteen, 474 00:28:04,560 --> 00:28:06,280 Speaker 1: so I don't expect you to have a whole lot 475 00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:10,239 Speaker 1: under your belt. I started at fourteen, and so I 476 00:28:10,359 --> 00:28:13,760 Speaker 1: was nervous, so nervous I still in fact, in fact, 477 00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:17,480 Speaker 1: I used to sing in these North Texas oprreys and 478 00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:20,720 Speaker 1: I sang on Saturday nights and I would sing two songs, 479 00:28:21,560 --> 00:28:24,520 Speaker 1: and it was a list of you know, like twelve singers, 480 00:28:24,880 --> 00:28:26,480 Speaker 1: and I would look at the list and see what 481 00:28:26,560 --> 00:28:28,560 Speaker 1: time I was going to go on. So I'd be 482 00:28:28,600 --> 00:28:32,600 Speaker 1: like number eight on the list, and number five would 483 00:28:32,960 --> 00:28:35,000 Speaker 1: get on there, and I'd start feeling nervous, and then 484 00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:37,960 Speaker 1: number six would get on there and getting more nervous. 485 00:28:38,280 --> 00:28:40,560 Speaker 1: By the time number seven's up there and I'm next, 486 00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:43,800 Speaker 1: I'm just shaking in my boots, you know. And then 487 00:28:43,840 --> 00:28:46,400 Speaker 1: they started announcing my name and I'm just out of 488 00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:50,640 Speaker 1: losing my mind. I'm so nervous. And in all those 489 00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:54,720 Speaker 1: oprys they cooked popcorn. And the other day we were 490 00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:59,000 Speaker 1: playing in i think West Virginia, and in the arena 491 00:28:59,120 --> 00:29:01,120 Speaker 1: we were playing in, they were cooking popcorn. And I 492 00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:03,440 Speaker 1: looked at my tour manager, Chris, and I said, man, 493 00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:07,880 Speaker 1: that smell makes me nervous because it reminds me of 494 00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:10,280 Speaker 1: the opry's before I was gonna sing. So it's like 495 00:29:10,440 --> 00:29:15,959 Speaker 1: that triggered that old feeling of those those jitters. So, Natalie, 496 00:29:16,000 --> 00:29:17,880 Speaker 1: you just got to do it. You got to do it, 497 00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:19,760 Speaker 1: and if you love it, and if you're good like 498 00:29:19,800 --> 00:29:22,760 Speaker 1: you say you are, then just keep doing it. And 499 00:29:24,160 --> 00:29:26,400 Speaker 1: something that might help is when you get to the mic, 500 00:29:26,480 --> 00:29:29,400 Speaker 1: when you start, right before you start, tell the audience 501 00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:33,120 Speaker 1: i'm nervous, let it out, like, don't let it be 502 00:29:33,160 --> 00:29:36,920 Speaker 1: a secret. It's worse if it's a secret. Just tell them. 503 00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:39,120 Speaker 1: I'm so nervous. If you could see that my hands 504 00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:41,520 Speaker 1: are shaking, look show them your hands. Look see my hands. 505 00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:44,160 Speaker 1: If you could see my hands shaking right now, they are, 506 00:29:45,200 --> 00:29:48,480 Speaker 1: I'm nervous. I'm just I love this so much, but 507 00:29:48,520 --> 00:29:50,800 Speaker 1: i want to do the best I can for y'all tonight, 508 00:29:51,240 --> 00:29:53,600 Speaker 1: and I'm nervous about it. Let them know, and they'll smile, 509 00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:57,160 Speaker 1: and it makes everyone vulnerable and they'll all go They'll 510 00:29:57,160 --> 00:30:00,200 Speaker 1: think to themselves, I would be too if I were you, Natalie. 511 00:30:00,800 --> 00:30:02,840 Speaker 1: And then you just go about it. And if your 512 00:30:02,920 --> 00:30:06,440 Speaker 1: voice shakes, so be it. It won't shake as much 513 00:30:06,480 --> 00:30:12,880 Speaker 1: the next time. Keep doing it. Next question subject line 514 00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:15,120 Speaker 1: has hard decision. Hey Grangeur, I'd like to stay anonymous. 515 00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:17,760 Speaker 1: I'm twenty six years old. I'm from Northeast Texas. I'm 516 00:30:17,760 --> 00:30:20,320 Speaker 1: currently in a four year relationship with the mother of 517 00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:23,360 Speaker 1: my son. She got pregnant shortly after we got together. 518 00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:25,520 Speaker 1: I love her because she's the mother of my son, 519 00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:29,000 Speaker 1: but I'm not in love with her. I stay because 520 00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:32,880 Speaker 1: of my son. I don't see myself marrying her. Looking 521 00:30:32,920 --> 00:30:38,200 Speaker 1: for some advice, love your music in your podcast. Thanks Anonymous. 522 00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:44,080 Speaker 1: I actually read your question on After Midnight, partly because 523 00:30:44,120 --> 00:30:46,320 Speaker 1: it was short and partly because I think it's an 524 00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:48,800 Speaker 1: interesting question and I have a direct answer for you. 525 00:30:50,280 --> 00:30:52,760 Speaker 1: But here we go. This is you know, this is 526 00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:57,920 Speaker 1: becoming the theme of today's episode. I don't agree with 527 00:30:57,960 --> 00:31:01,880 Speaker 1: four year relationships. I think it's too long. I think 528 00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:06,400 Speaker 1: you could know after a year. But she got pregnant 529 00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:15,000 Speaker 1: and that changes things. So, Anonymous, at some point in 530 00:31:15,040 --> 00:31:20,120 Speaker 1: your relationship, probably at the beginning, in fact, you said 531 00:31:20,160 --> 00:31:25,800 Speaker 1: that shortly after we got together, she got pregnant. At 532 00:31:25,840 --> 00:31:28,239 Speaker 1: some point you're gonna have to own up to a 533 00:31:28,280 --> 00:31:33,320 Speaker 1: mistake that you made, and that was getting physical with 534 00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:38,160 Speaker 1: this girl too early before you were married. And the reason, 535 00:31:40,040 --> 00:31:43,560 Speaker 1: the reason that the Bible says no sex before marriage, 536 00:31:43,760 --> 00:31:46,160 Speaker 1: it's not so that we don't have fun. It's not 537 00:31:46,200 --> 00:31:49,280 Speaker 1: to put some weird handcuff on us so that we 538 00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:52,520 Speaker 1: we feel like we're, you know, bound in some prison 539 00:31:52,560 --> 00:31:57,040 Speaker 1: and where our manhood is taken away womanhood. The reason 540 00:31:58,040 --> 00:32:01,120 Speaker 1: is for this and many others, but this is one 541 00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:06,120 Speaker 1: of the reasons, Like there's things set up that if 542 00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:10,160 Speaker 1: you hold off from getting physical, then when you are married, 543 00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:12,560 Speaker 1: not only is it a bigger gift that you give 544 00:32:12,600 --> 00:32:15,440 Speaker 1: to your spouse, but you also get to share in 545 00:32:15,480 --> 00:32:19,920 Speaker 1: the joy of child bearing and raising kids together and 546 00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:25,200 Speaker 1: teaching them life lessons together because you waited. And it's 547 00:32:25,280 --> 00:32:27,400 Speaker 1: hard for me to tell you that from where I 548 00:32:27,440 --> 00:32:31,800 Speaker 1: sit because I'm twelve years into a marriage and we 549 00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:36,800 Speaker 1: have kids. But from your perspective, you have to understand 550 00:32:36,840 --> 00:32:42,120 Speaker 1: that the more important thing right now than your feelings 551 00:32:43,920 --> 00:32:51,200 Speaker 1: is your kid. I say so many times on this 552 00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:54,520 Speaker 1: podcast that I'm not always right, but I know where 553 00:32:54,640 --> 00:32:59,720 Speaker 1: right comes from. My personal opinions are not always right, 554 00:33:00,480 --> 00:33:06,880 Speaker 1: but when I'm pulling from biblical foundations, those are always right. 555 00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:13,760 Speaker 1: And you have to choose in your brain, not your heart, 556 00:33:13,840 --> 00:33:16,760 Speaker 1: not your gut, not your feeling. You have to choose 557 00:33:16,760 --> 00:33:20,400 Speaker 1: with your brain. I'm gonna stay here and I'm gonna 558 00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:23,840 Speaker 1: love this girl. And it's not that bad because at 559 00:33:23,880 --> 00:33:26,520 Speaker 1: one point she was good enough for you to sleep 560 00:33:26,560 --> 00:33:30,520 Speaker 1: with her. So she's got she's got something going on 561 00:33:30,960 --> 00:33:33,920 Speaker 1: that was good enough at that time in your life. 562 00:33:34,720 --> 00:33:36,720 Speaker 1: So it's not like it's not like this is someone 563 00:33:36,760 --> 00:33:40,880 Speaker 1: I could never see myself with. Well you did one night. 564 00:33:43,160 --> 00:33:44,680 Speaker 1: You're gonna have to look at her and just go, 565 00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:49,720 Speaker 1: I'm making a commitment to you because I'm not gonna 566 00:33:49,800 --> 00:33:54,280 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna jeopardize trauma with this kid dealing with 567 00:33:55,080 --> 00:33:59,520 Speaker 1: separation of birth parents. And I know that you guys 568 00:33:59,560 --> 00:34:02,800 Speaker 1: could think of a million exceptions of times when this worked, 569 00:34:03,640 --> 00:34:08,400 Speaker 1: but more often than not, it hurts the child. It 570 00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:11,240 Speaker 1: leaves them with some kind of baggage, some kind of damage. 571 00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:13,759 Speaker 1: Is that what you want? Do you want to leave 572 00:34:13,800 --> 00:34:17,160 Speaker 1: them with some kind of baggage. I know this is 573 00:34:17,200 --> 00:34:18,759 Speaker 1: tough love, and I seem to do this a lot 574 00:34:18,800 --> 00:34:22,200 Speaker 1: on this podcast, but I'm telling you that you got 575 00:34:22,200 --> 00:34:26,480 Speaker 1: to look at her, baby mama and say, I'm going 576 00:34:26,560 --> 00:34:30,200 Speaker 1: to marry you, and I'm choosing to love you, and 577 00:34:30,239 --> 00:34:33,960 Speaker 1: I'm choosing to put my feelings aside. My feelings are 578 00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:38,160 Speaker 1: not number one in my life. They're actually number three. 579 00:34:39,400 --> 00:34:44,360 Speaker 1: You and our child are number one and two. Not 580 00:34:44,480 --> 00:34:46,520 Speaker 1: didn't even mention God, but we all know how I 581 00:34:46,560 --> 00:34:51,520 Speaker 1: feel about that. I hope that makes sense, and I 582 00:34:51,520 --> 00:34:53,040 Speaker 1: hope that this is tough love, and I hope that 583 00:34:53,080 --> 00:34:55,160 Speaker 1: you hear me. And I don't think that's what you 584 00:34:55,200 --> 00:34:57,280 Speaker 1: want to hear. But you are asking me the question 585 00:34:57,920 --> 00:35:04,480 Speaker 1: looking for some advice. You're there, man, It's time to 586 00:35:04,480 --> 00:35:11,680 Speaker 1: man up. That's my thought. Next question, subject line says, 587 00:35:11,800 --> 00:35:14,600 Speaker 1: I have an addiction. Hey Grant, your my name is 588 00:35:14,680 --> 00:35:16,759 Speaker 1: Kyle from Marylyn. Been watching you for a while now 589 00:35:16,920 --> 00:35:18,480 Speaker 1: and I watch your stuff and it makes me happy, 590 00:35:18,520 --> 00:35:20,880 Speaker 1: and it makes me want to change my life. I 591 00:35:20,960 --> 00:35:24,200 Speaker 1: have an opuh opioid addiction going on ten years now, 592 00:35:24,440 --> 00:35:26,040 Speaker 1: and I want to make my life better. I've done 593 00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:29,120 Speaker 1: rehab and it hasn't helped me, but I think it's 594 00:35:29,120 --> 00:35:30,880 Speaker 1: to the point where I want to be clean and 595 00:35:30,920 --> 00:35:33,279 Speaker 1: not dependent on the pills. I was just hoping you 596 00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:35,239 Speaker 1: could lift my spirits and give me some advice on 597 00:35:35,360 --> 00:35:37,080 Speaker 1: what I could be doing to get my mind off 598 00:35:37,080 --> 00:35:39,880 Speaker 1: thinking about the pills all day every day. Thanks for 599 00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:44,319 Speaker 1: everything and anything, Kyle, Thanks for listening, buddy, Thanks for 600 00:35:44,360 --> 00:35:48,160 Speaker 1: the thanks for the question. I'm sorry. I'm so sorry 601 00:35:48,239 --> 00:35:51,440 Speaker 1: for this struggle. It's real that you're in a ten 602 00:35:51,520 --> 00:35:55,239 Speaker 1: year Opioid addiction is a real thing, man, and you 603 00:35:55,320 --> 00:36:00,160 Speaker 1: are I got to tell you that this is it's 604 00:36:00,239 --> 00:36:02,840 Speaker 1: more than me telling you how to get your mind 605 00:36:02,880 --> 00:36:08,120 Speaker 1: off of it, because it's a chemical addiction. So you're 606 00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:12,560 Speaker 1: dealing with something more than I gotta get my mind 607 00:36:12,560 --> 00:36:15,600 Speaker 1: off fried chicken because I love fried chicken, and I 608 00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:17,520 Speaker 1: gotta stop eating and I want to try to lose weight, 609 00:36:17,560 --> 00:36:19,279 Speaker 1: and I got to think of ways to get my 610 00:36:19,320 --> 00:36:21,359 Speaker 1: mind off of it. Well, this is more than that, 611 00:36:21,560 --> 00:36:25,239 Speaker 1: because you're chemically addicted, so you're gonna have the need. 612 00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:31,080 Speaker 1: You're gonna have to get medical help to help downgrade 613 00:36:31,120 --> 00:36:34,880 Speaker 1: you off of the opioids with lower and lower doses, 614 00:36:35,520 --> 00:36:39,480 Speaker 1: which is what what a rehab will do with a 615 00:36:39,560 --> 00:36:41,719 Speaker 1: chemical addiction, is that they're gonna take you and they're 616 00:36:41,719 --> 00:36:44,640 Speaker 1: going to just downgrade you. They're gonna still give you 617 00:36:44,719 --> 00:36:48,520 Speaker 1: the pills, but in less and less doses, because if 618 00:36:48,560 --> 00:36:51,120 Speaker 1: you quit cold turkey, that could actually be worse damage 619 00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:55,320 Speaker 1: than you're experiencing right now. So that's the first step 620 00:36:55,520 --> 00:36:59,880 Speaker 1: is to pull you down with slower and slower doses. 621 00:37:00,080 --> 00:37:03,680 Speaker 1: Until you lose the chemical addiction. Then when you lose 622 00:37:03,719 --> 00:37:08,000 Speaker 1: the chemical addiction, now we can talk about your last question, 623 00:37:08,120 --> 00:37:12,960 Speaker 1: getting your mind off of the pills, and that is 624 00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:17,799 Speaker 1: going to come from a root knowledge, a foundation in 625 00:37:17,840 --> 00:37:23,879 Speaker 1: your life of something that's better than pills, something that's 626 00:37:24,120 --> 00:37:28,200 Speaker 1: better at easing the pain or lowering the anxiety in 627 00:37:28,239 --> 00:37:33,800 Speaker 1: your life, something that can actually give you rest, long lasting, 628 00:37:33,960 --> 00:37:39,600 Speaker 1: something that could satisfy a craving long lasting, not a 629 00:37:39,680 --> 00:37:41,319 Speaker 1: short time. And you know what I'm talking about it 630 00:37:41,920 --> 00:37:43,920 Speaker 1: an opioid. Why can I not say that word on 631 00:37:43,960 --> 00:37:47,759 Speaker 1: this podcast today? An opioid is going to give you 632 00:37:48,080 --> 00:37:52,560 Speaker 1: temporary relief of pain or anxiety or stress or whatever 633 00:37:52,600 --> 00:37:56,520 Speaker 1: you're going through, but it wears off. So you're going 634 00:37:56,600 --> 00:37:59,560 Speaker 1: to need to replace this. After you fix the chemical addiction, 635 00:37:59,840 --> 00:38:02,120 Speaker 1: you're going to need to replace that with something that 636 00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:09,480 Speaker 1: doesn't wear off. That, my friend, Kyle, is where we 637 00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:15,319 Speaker 1: find Jesus. And you've heard me say this before, but 638 00:38:15,480 --> 00:38:19,680 Speaker 1: this is where we go to find rest, a water 639 00:38:19,800 --> 00:38:23,120 Speaker 1: that we can go to and drink and never be 640 00:38:23,320 --> 00:38:29,480 Speaker 1: thirsty again. It's a living water, it's a forever food. 641 00:38:29,960 --> 00:38:35,920 Speaker 1: You never crave anything else. And you could find that 642 00:38:37,400 --> 00:38:43,399 Speaker 1: in many ways, but understanding that two thousand years ago 643 00:38:43,640 --> 00:38:46,399 Speaker 1: God sent his only son to earth as a man 644 00:38:46,480 --> 00:38:49,080 Speaker 1: in the flesh, born of a woman, a virgin woman 645 00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:54,280 Speaker 1: who lived a perfect life as an example for us. Suffered, 646 00:38:55,040 --> 00:39:01,759 Speaker 1: was persecuted, healed the sick, cast out, demon, made the 647 00:39:01,800 --> 00:39:09,000 Speaker 1: blind see again. He died as he predicted, was resurrected 648 00:39:09,440 --> 00:39:12,200 Speaker 1: three days later, came out of the tomb. He was 649 00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:16,040 Speaker 1: killed in the most terrible way of dying. Your crucifixion 650 00:39:16,160 --> 00:39:21,920 Speaker 1: is the most terrible way, the most evil conceptual idea 651 00:39:22,040 --> 00:39:29,399 Speaker 1: of execution ever. Crucifixion nails through the feet and through 652 00:39:29,440 --> 00:39:35,360 Speaker 1: the hands, holding up on a cross, dying of suffocation 653 00:39:35,480 --> 00:39:37,719 Speaker 1: because you could the pain is so bad you can 654 00:39:37,800 --> 00:39:41,319 Speaker 1: no longer hold your chest over your rib cage enough 655 00:39:41,360 --> 00:39:45,240 Speaker 1: to breathe. And it takes days. It took Jesus hours, 656 00:39:46,120 --> 00:39:50,160 Speaker 1: but it takes most men days to die. And that 657 00:39:50,239 --> 00:39:54,640 Speaker 1: kind of suffocation, it is terrible. He went through that 658 00:39:54,719 --> 00:39:58,560 Speaker 1: pain and that suffering to take it away from you 659 00:39:58,760 --> 00:40:00,640 Speaker 1: so that you could find rest and him, so that 660 00:40:00,719 --> 00:40:05,319 Speaker 1: you ultimately can have eternal life through him. It's an 661 00:40:05,320 --> 00:40:07,319 Speaker 1: amazing story, and some people will hear it and not 662 00:40:07,360 --> 00:40:11,080 Speaker 1: believe it. But Jesus said, some will hear it and 663 00:40:11,200 --> 00:40:14,840 Speaker 1: believe it's like a magic switch that goes off. Some 664 00:40:14,840 --> 00:40:17,200 Speaker 1: people hear that story and they go, I want to 665 00:40:17,200 --> 00:40:20,920 Speaker 1: know more about that. What's crazy about this, too, is 666 00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:24,800 Speaker 1: it's not somebody's dream. It's not like some mystical myth. 667 00:40:25,640 --> 00:40:29,440 Speaker 1: This is something that was eyewitnessed by over five hundred people, 668 00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:37,200 Speaker 1: three different continents, hundreds of eyewitnesses that wrote this account, 669 00:40:37,719 --> 00:40:42,359 Speaker 1: and that men and women have preserved this message all 670 00:40:42,400 --> 00:40:46,160 Speaker 1: the way through persecution for us to hear why so 671 00:40:46,200 --> 00:40:48,920 Speaker 1: that we could be healed of our addictions, so that 672 00:40:48,960 --> 00:40:50,799 Speaker 1: we could be cleansed of our sin, because we're all 673 00:40:50,840 --> 00:40:54,799 Speaker 1: born sinners. It's something we're born with. Can help it. 674 00:40:56,160 --> 00:41:00,600 Speaker 1: And he says, you're forgiven and all you got to 675 00:41:00,640 --> 00:41:04,400 Speaker 1: do is have faith in that. And there's steps to 676 00:41:04,440 --> 00:41:07,239 Speaker 1: come after that, but that's the first one. When he 677 00:41:07,320 --> 00:41:09,279 Speaker 1: was on that cross, there there was a thief next 678 00:41:09,320 --> 00:41:13,000 Speaker 1: to him all life, his whole life, he'd been a 679 00:41:13,040 --> 00:41:16,480 Speaker 1: sinner like all of us. And he looked at Jesus 680 00:41:16,480 --> 00:41:22,080 Speaker 1: that day and he said, will you remember me when 681 00:41:22,120 --> 00:41:25,680 Speaker 1: you go into your kingdom. Jesus looked back at him 682 00:41:25,719 --> 00:41:29,280 Speaker 1: and said, today you will be with me in paradise. 683 00:41:30,480 --> 00:41:34,719 Speaker 1: That's it. That's it. He didn't have to live a 684 00:41:34,840 --> 00:41:37,040 Speaker 1: life of righteousness, he didn't have to live a life 685 00:41:37,080 --> 00:41:41,120 Speaker 1: of good works. He just believed right then at the 686 00:41:41,280 --> 00:41:46,440 Speaker 1: end of his life, and he went eternally to paradise. 687 00:41:46,719 --> 00:41:49,920 Speaker 1: It's incredible. It's incredible story. Man. There is no story 688 00:41:50,520 --> 00:41:54,600 Speaker 1: greater than that He defeated death. It's the answer to 689 00:41:54,640 --> 00:41:57,520 Speaker 1: the death problem. We all have death coming. We all 690 00:41:57,560 --> 00:41:59,960 Speaker 1: have addictions of some sort, like you, Kyle, we all 691 00:42:00,000 --> 00:42:04,600 Speaker 1: I'll have problems. But Jesus defeated the death and gave 692 00:42:04,640 --> 00:42:07,160 Speaker 1: us an answer to it. No other religion offers an 693 00:42:07,160 --> 00:42:11,200 Speaker 1: answer to death. Here's your answer. You will no longer 694 00:42:11,239 --> 00:42:15,040 Speaker 1: fear death. It has no sting anymore. It has no 695 00:42:15,200 --> 00:42:18,960 Speaker 1: victory over us anymore. Death. No, that doesn't mean that 696 00:42:19,000 --> 00:42:21,359 Speaker 1: we don't have problems. We're still gonna have problems. We're 697 00:42:21,360 --> 00:42:24,480 Speaker 1: still gonna have suffering, We're still gonna have grieving, but 698 00:42:24,520 --> 00:42:29,000 Speaker 1: we grieve with hope. Now, we don't grieve with no hope. 699 00:42:29,320 --> 00:42:31,719 Speaker 1: We grieve, we cry, we have pain, we have suffering, 700 00:42:32,680 --> 00:42:34,919 Speaker 1: but it's all for a purpose, and we have hope 701 00:42:34,920 --> 00:42:42,239 Speaker 1: in that. That's my answer. Call. I appreciate y'all. I 702 00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:45,080 Speaker 1: love you. We'll see you next Monday. IgE. Thanks for 703 00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:48,319 Speaker 1: joining me on the Grangersmith Podcast. I appreciate all of 704 00:42:48,360 --> 00:42:50,440 Speaker 1: you guys. You could help me out by rating this 705 00:42:50,560 --> 00:42:54,680 Speaker 1: podcast on iTunes. 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