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Speaker 1: Wake that ass up in the morning. Breakfast Club Morning.

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Speaker 2: Everybody is the j n V, Jess, Hilarious, Charlamagne and

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Speaker 2: the guy. We are the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 3: We got a special guest in the belt because today's

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Speaker 3: National co Parenting Day, so we had to bring in

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Speaker 3: a man who I feel like him and Jess have

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Speaker 3: one of the best co parenting relationships I've ever seen.

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Speaker 1: Room is here, Room is here. I got trouble already,

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Speaker 1: Room cause of you. You got it already. I got

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Speaker 1: in trouble cause of you already. Wow. Just say, I

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Speaker 1: want to know who gave Room some liquor this morning?

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Speaker 2: And I was like, I didn't give it to it.

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Speaker 2: I just told him where the ball was. Yes, I said,

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Speaker 2: help yourself, help yourself.

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Speaker 4: That's fine, And you said it was You said it

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Speaker 4: was apple juice. And so I was about to take

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Speaker 4: a step and I was.

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Speaker 1: Like, was not you have one apple juice? I just

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Speaker 1: ain't thank you. Was gonna pick the cup up.

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Speaker 3: You and just have the best co parenting situation I've

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Speaker 3: ever witnessed. How did y'all get to this point?

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Speaker 1: Bro? And she thinks she my mother first and foremost,

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Speaker 1: But it took Tom. It took tom. I felt like,

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Speaker 1: when you take the feelings out of it and you

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Speaker 1: realize that the child is the most important part of

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Speaker 1: the relationship, because it's still a relationship, whether you're intimate

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Speaker 1: or not, you can do magical things, magical things. And

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Speaker 1: I think that me being a dad that I was

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Speaker 1: and that I am still today, I wanted that. I

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Speaker 1: felt like if we wasn't gonna be together, it was

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Speaker 1: no need for us to beef. We've created over time.

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Speaker 1: Whereas now she's my best friend, She's my safe space.

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Speaker 1: I feel like, you know, I can vent to her

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Speaker 1: because sometimes all the time I need it. But I

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Speaker 1: feel like when I was pouring into these other women,

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Speaker 1: they would use it against me. Whereas though now and

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Speaker 1: now that she's pregnant, I don't really call it and

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Speaker 1: say certain things because I know she's going through certain

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Speaker 1: things mentally now. So justice is always in my safe space. Though,

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Speaker 1: So it's like she's always been a person that I

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Speaker 1: go to a call, give me advice, some advice don't take,

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Speaker 1: but just to hear, but just to hear her give

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Speaker 1: it to you, just to know that she care, because

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Speaker 1: like I don't really have nobody.

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Speaker 2: How did y'all, how did y'all meet how did you

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Speaker 2: meet Jess? And how did y'all start dating?

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Speaker 1: Back then? What did you see it?

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Speaker 2: When it was like, oh, this is this is somebody

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Speaker 2: I want to know that. It's crazy because we grew

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Speaker 2: up on the smile.

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Speaker 1: He's starting to smile because we grew up in the

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Speaker 1: same church. But we didn't know. Now, we didn't know

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Speaker 1: my mom, my mom was alive, my mom down. When

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Speaker 1: I was ten, my mom was alive. We went to

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Speaker 1: the same church. My mom died. My father like really

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Speaker 1: took me away from everybody. So now it was like

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Speaker 1: fast forward like seventeen. It's Facebook and it's after my

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Speaker 1: Space Facebook, and she came across my timeline and I

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Speaker 1: was like, okay, so I did a dot dot dot

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Speaker 1: and I put a basketball emoji. You thought she was

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Speaker 1: a w just shut up played with you, but she

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Speaker 1: bid on it. Take okay. She she was like what

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Speaker 1: I forgot what she said, But I was like, I

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Speaker 1: was just I think. I was like, I'm just coming

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Speaker 1: to get my ball. Coming to get was mine something?

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Speaker 5: I said, what is this?

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Speaker 1: And you want a basketball room? I needed to know

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Speaker 1: I've seen it somewhereball No I seen somebody do that, Like,

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Speaker 1: I don't know what I seen. Basketball is even years

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Speaker 1: okay twelve years ago. So I'm like, I don't know

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Speaker 1: I did it because I thought it was it was corny,

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Speaker 1: but I thought it was you know, but it worked.

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Speaker 1: It got our attention. What do you think just when

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Speaker 1: you saw the basketball?

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Speaker 5: I just I said, what the fuck is this?

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Speaker 1: Okay?

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Speaker 5: I just typed that back and like he said, it

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Speaker 5: was my ball.

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Speaker 4: It's my ball and I'm coming to get I'm coming

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Speaker 4: to get it or something like that, I'm coming to

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Speaker 4: get with mine. And I was like, okay, what's that?

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Speaker 4: I knew what I was giving, what it was about it.

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Speaker 1: But it worked. It worked.

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Speaker 2: So you started talking, where was your first date? What

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Speaker 2: was your first when you started first talking to what was.

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Speaker 1: Your honest man, Jasica did a lot. I'm gonna say

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Speaker 1: this before a lot of these young guys became Jody.

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Speaker 1: I was Jody and our first date, big date. I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna say it was six flags, Okay, okay, all right,

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Speaker 1: doing it big. I never had a birth certificate that

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Speaker 1: my mom died. It was here. My dad didn't want

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Speaker 1: to come here to get it in New York because

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Speaker 1: he was born in I was going to Stanton Island,

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Speaker 1: so my dad didn't want to get it. So for

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Speaker 1: a long time I just had a college I D.

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Speaker 1: I was driving on a college I D. But Jessica,

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Speaker 1: it was the simplest one. So let me drive with

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Speaker 1: no ID. I met with no license. You know, I was.

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Speaker 1: I was responsible though, so I used to work at

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Speaker 1: the car wash. I used to clean it, shine it up,

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Speaker 1: jealum of tizing old nine yards. But our first date

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Speaker 1: with six Flags that morning, I went to get my

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Speaker 1: permit before we left for six Flags. But I felt

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Speaker 1: I went in there on my high horses. That's why

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Speaker 1: I felt at first big written. It was written, but

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Speaker 1: it was a computer written get written from failed. The

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Speaker 1: one way it said, put on your high beings or

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Speaker 1: your low beings when it's when it's like when it's

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Speaker 1: raining or something like that, or when it's the ground

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Speaker 1: most slippery. Did you have shades on? When no, I

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Speaker 1: ain't really wear shades like that. I did, but there

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Speaker 1: was another you know, yeah, but first big date, six Flags.

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Speaker 1: But before that we did a lot of other things.

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Speaker 1: But after that, it was we did a lot, like

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Speaker 1: she introduced me to a lot. Actually we both was

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Speaker 1: the same age. But she helped make me become We

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Speaker 1: got me, you're becoming a man, coming to man and

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Speaker 1: then yeah, then boom.

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Speaker 2: I just always says that you are you were overprotective,

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Speaker 2: make sure she was good. But she always said, you

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Speaker 2: can't fight.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, she never seen me fight. We fought.

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Speaker 5: I got that from she didn't say that.

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Speaker 1: Of course I'm not going to fight her. Bro Oh,

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Speaker 1: it's crazy because I just got a picture from the window.

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Speaker 1: You bust the minds one window? What I fish? What

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Speaker 1: what happened? Or you can't be here? Then if she

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Speaker 1: could break window from a fist out when you're trying

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Speaker 1: to fight that, what happened?

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Speaker 4: Wrong?

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Speaker 1: To take a sip thinking about that? What happened? All right?

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Speaker 1: I was just talking. I was just in North Carolina

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Speaker 1: this weekend. I was just just talking about this, like

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Speaker 1: how my step brothers was like corny a ship right

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Speaker 1: my step Like, Jessica pull up, mind you ate together,

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Speaker 1: Jessica pulls up. I had a girl in the house.

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Speaker 1: So my brother like he comes to the top of

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Speaker 1: the steps like just at the door. I'm like, all right,

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Speaker 1: here I come. The nigga. Don't even wait for me

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Speaker 1: to come. He let her in. He let her in.

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Speaker 1: Oh boy, I walked right past him and his friends

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Speaker 1: with the girl, Jessica get in steps.

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Speaker 4: That she wrote, but what did I see when I

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Speaker 4: walked down the steps? Jerne, you didn't see so And

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Speaker 4: then she tries to fassage this story.

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Speaker 1: Ashton, I had a portable rocking bassing that we put

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Speaker 1: in the trunk. Send it to her, bring it back.

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Speaker 1: Ashton was in a portable rocking joint. Me and the

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Speaker 1: short she had on her uniform pants. She's gonna say

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Speaker 1: she's been saying this was the middle of CEO. This

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Speaker 1: is correct. She's a correctional officer. So like she's sitting,

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Speaker 1: she's facing me, but her legs is like you know

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Speaker 1: how that go just to come down and said she

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Speaker 1: keeps she gonna say, oh, we was naked. We was

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Speaker 1: not naked. It had been happening. I don't get naked.

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Speaker 1: And when she tops it up, oh my gosh, she's

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Speaker 1: never gonna tells anyway, she banged the girl. You beat

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Speaker 1: up the girl. She didn't beat up bang popped us

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Speaker 1: and I picked up and walked up the stairs and

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Speaker 1: throw outside.

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Speaker 5: You could never lift me.

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Speaker 1: You never see what I'm saying. She never wants to

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Speaker 1: She never wants to admit the truth on the field.

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Speaker 1: Couldn't fight. No, I ain't.

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Speaker 4: Know she would fight or not, but she had the

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Speaker 4: one time and then she and she put on her

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Speaker 4: uniform and went unless went upstairs. Is I promised you

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Speaker 4: I wish it washon that that.

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Speaker 5: No, my son was not in no portable nothing.

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Speaker 4: He was on the floor on a blanket and the

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Speaker 4: cat was looking at him like he wanted to eat him.

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Speaker 1: Yes, it was under the carpet. So I will never

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Speaker 1: lay my I wouldn't even lay on the floor. So

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Speaker 1: I was my son on the floor. My son was

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Speaker 1: in a portable bassinet. Okay, y'all were arguing about this

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Speaker 1: for eleven because you never want to tell you she

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Speaker 1: was drunk out of her mind, and I'm trying to

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Speaker 1: figure out I was just getting off for work. Had

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Speaker 1: you didn't damn you did not just get off work.

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Speaker 1: He was fired at that time, So.

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Speaker 4: I got fired right after that. I was working at McDonald's.

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Speaker 4: That's when I was stealing. And then if I was drinking, Okay,

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Speaker 4: I was drinking on the Joe but I was at work,

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Speaker 4: so and then I came to get my son and

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Speaker 4: did not come.

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Speaker 1: Get your son because it was my weekend. So what

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Speaker 1: I was getting until Monday from day kid, why would

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Speaker 1: you coming? No, he was coming to be nosy.

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Speaker 5: I didn't have to come to me.

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Speaker 1: You was looking for the passing your winter. If you

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Speaker 1: get your cousin, she because go home. Eleven years years old. Man,

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Speaker 1: that's my god. How did you break the women? That

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Speaker 1: her hands? You walked out see this car? No, I

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Speaker 1: threw ass out, not.

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Speaker 5: That you was not that strong.

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Speaker 3: You did not.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I had you and it was steps

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Speaker 1: jazz that right then.

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Speaker 5: He could never ever eaten right now, could not do that.

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Speaker 1: At the window.

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Speaker 4: Was just really really because he wouldn't give me my son.

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Speaker 4: She's give me my son. You called the police and

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Speaker 4: say I didn't call the police.

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Speaker 5: Call the police.

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Speaker 1: Never called the police. Yeah, I didn't call the police. Listen, everybody,

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Speaker 1: very everybody here this well, I'm from the jail is

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Speaker 1: right there, right around the corner. You can walk. It's

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Speaker 1: the women the commotion. Wal. I don't know how they came.

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Speaker 1: I thought my stepmother called my god, call one. It

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Speaker 1: was my step mother house, my god mother house. Somebody

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Speaker 1: called because I ain't called the police. My phone was

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Speaker 1: cracked because you cracked the phone, his phone, but he can.

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Speaker 5: Still everybody in the house had the phone.

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Speaker 4: He called my he called the police on me and

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Speaker 4: then going. And then when the police came, I was

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Speaker 4: I just sat in my car.

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Speaker 5: I was mad.

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Speaker 5: I never called you that.

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Speaker 5: She took you to get the car. I ain't never

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Speaker 5: I said, yeah, so this means you real really be

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Speaker 5: He would drop me off the work and go act

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Speaker 5: A lot of things.

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Speaker 1: She sobered up.

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Speaker 5: This is the crazy thing.

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Speaker 4: So then when I got to guess who did my

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Speaker 5: The damn girl who was with him?

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Speaker 1: The one did you punched? Yeap, yes she went. She

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Speaker 5: She did the same girl that I popped yall.

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Speaker 4: She did it, but she didn't say nothing because she

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Speaker 5: Got fired.

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Speaker 1: Yeah she did.

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Speaker 5: I straight sold on her like yeah, because I was like,

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Speaker 4: How could you actually want to fuck with a nigga

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Speaker 1: I ain't mad at that.

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Speaker 3: I am on that very much because you don't know

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Speaker 5: I was like, no, it was ghetto will be gotten,

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Speaker 1: How did y'all get there? Do you look at her

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Speaker 1: And I ain't gonna disclose too much. But she thinks

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Speaker 1: like she know how I am though, like me and alone.

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Speaker 1: I think part of that controlling pause like don'tkay we

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Speaker 1: I bro be twenty of us. I don't want to

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Speaker 5: He can go out of town with these twenty people

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Speaker 1: All right, I'm like, no, we could be all on sprinting.

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Speaker 5: What's going on?

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Speaker 1: No sprint or whatever state we go to. I won't

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Speaker 1: better not be raining. But I think that that controlling

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, Rome started that room, started calling me sis first,

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Speaker 5: You know, he's still confides in my mom.

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Speaker 4: He like, my mom is our mother. Like it's not

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Speaker 4: it ain't nothing crazy, it's nothing intimate. Like seriously, I

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Speaker 4: literally walk past and I.

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Speaker 5: Don't do this.

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Speaker 4: But what I'm saying, I can walk past this man nigked

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Speaker 4: and he does. They be like, girl, what like put

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Speaker 5: I'm talking about seriously, like how y'all.

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Speaker 1: Know each other's spouses or each other's boyfriend and girlfriend?

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Speaker 1: Like how do you deal with his girl? And how

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Speaker 5: Five?

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Speaker 1: Okay, I never told you. He had always tried. It's cool, though,

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Speaker 1: But this is the The friction part was I mom

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Speaker 1: I'm still a man. So women tend to do that.

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Speaker 1: And this is not no shame to women. I don't

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Speaker 2: She said, sometimes you make bad decisions and she's there

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Speaker 2: I never really like I talked to her about certain things.

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Speaker 2: But I never really like my family to get into

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Speaker 2: no intimate situation. Yeah, because guess what y'all feel a

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Speaker 1: Mm hmmm. I might get over and fuck it them all.

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Speaker 1: But it's like, that's why I always That's how I

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Speaker 3: But both of y'all got to care though, because you're

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Speaker 1: a problem. Was motherfucker's envy me except for my last dog. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: My dog's my dog. I ain't gonna hold he. I

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Speaker 4: Yeah more so on and yeah, it'll be more so

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Speaker 5: This is how how how you going to introduce me

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Speaker 1: Now?

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Speaker 4: He's like, no, but I might be fucking with it

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Speaker 1: But Claire, I had a black guy.

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Speaker 4: Okay, well she busts your nose whatever. Women have put.

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Speaker 1: when I move with my dad, my dad move my

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking cool. So like when even when I started

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Speaker 1: the good thing is now it's like I'm old enough

438
00:19:54,320 --> 00:19:56,880
Speaker 1: now in mind, I ain't perfect. Now I'm seeing it.

439
00:19:57,240 --> 00:20:00,920
Speaker 1: I'm trying to, you know, change it. But I never

440
00:20:01,080 --> 00:20:03,240
Speaker 1: was taught to love properly, so and I never my

441
00:20:03,240 --> 00:20:05,360
Speaker 1: trust issues is fucked up from my dad, like brought

442
00:20:05,359 --> 00:20:09,760
Speaker 1: my trust issues met her because I'm seeing what he's doing.

443
00:20:10,160 --> 00:20:12,719
Speaker 1: But I'm saying when it's done to him, his reactions

444
00:20:12,920 --> 00:20:14,840
Speaker 1: like damn, my nigga, you were just doing this. How

445
00:20:14,840 --> 00:20:19,760
Speaker 1: you're gonna get mad? Right? So it's like every relationship

446
00:20:19,800 --> 00:20:22,639
Speaker 1: I've went into, I had an exploration date me, I

447
00:20:22,680 --> 00:20:24,240
Speaker 1: put an X ray on myself. I said, she's gonna

448
00:20:24,240 --> 00:20:25,920
Speaker 1: get she gonna get get what I'm getting, I'm gone

449
00:20:26,320 --> 00:20:29,920
Speaker 1: m hm. So I never really gave a woman the

450
00:20:32,040 --> 00:20:33,600
Speaker 1: what's the word I'm looking for. I never really gave

451
00:20:33,640 --> 00:20:36,720
Speaker 1: a woman commitment, not even commitment, but I've never give

452
00:20:36,760 --> 00:20:38,600
Speaker 1: a woman a chance to really love me. But even

453
00:20:38,840 --> 00:20:41,200
Speaker 1: with the kids, like even having kids, No, I haven't.

454
00:20:42,400 --> 00:20:43,879
Speaker 1: And this is like I said, no distracts to my

455
00:20:43,960 --> 00:20:47,040
Speaker 1: children moms. A lot of my my children came out

456
00:20:47,040 --> 00:20:50,960
Speaker 1: of vulnerability. Explain found on that. And I'm explaining that.

457
00:20:51,160 --> 00:20:54,280
Speaker 1: So I will meet a woman who I may feel

458
00:20:54,280 --> 00:20:57,640
Speaker 1: like she's what I need, another safe place or whatever

459
00:20:57,640 --> 00:20:59,200
Speaker 1: the case may be, but I'm already vulnerable from a

460
00:20:59,240 --> 00:21:03,440
Speaker 1: previous relationship. It have a child, knowing I don't want

461
00:21:03,440 --> 00:21:07,239
Speaker 1: to be with this woman. I don't want to. I

462
00:21:07,280 --> 00:21:08,919
Speaker 1: don't I really don't want to be with her, but

463
00:21:08,960 --> 00:21:10,600
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm forced to be with her because

464
00:21:10,600 --> 00:21:16,040
Speaker 1: it's a child. Mhm. And I've done that.

465
00:21:18,680 --> 00:21:22,359
Speaker 3: You know multiple times you needed a therapist, not another baby,

466
00:21:22,359 --> 00:21:23,879
Speaker 3: momel I need correct.

467
00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:27,040
Speaker 1: But at the time of need, at the time of vulnerability.

468
00:21:27,600 --> 00:21:30,080
Speaker 1: You know women, you know women, women can they be

469
00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:32,359
Speaker 1: massed up.

470
00:21:32,720 --> 00:21:35,560
Speaker 4: And also you know, just on a accountability part which

471
00:21:35,560 --> 00:21:37,240
Speaker 4: he has taken over his recent years.

472
00:21:37,359 --> 00:21:41,000
Speaker 5: Is like you was looking for like.

473
00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:44,240
Speaker 4: Your mom and women, and you would never get that,

474
00:21:44,480 --> 00:21:46,600
Speaker 4: you know what I'm saying, because you was trying to

475
00:21:46,640 --> 00:21:51,879
Speaker 4: look for an emotional connection with with you know, nurturing

476
00:21:52,000 --> 00:21:55,280
Speaker 4: also and then like you was really really search searching

477
00:21:55,280 --> 00:21:57,720
Speaker 4: for Keisha. Keisha's his mother. You were really searching for

478
00:21:57,760 --> 00:22:01,720
Speaker 4: her and women. You know, that's a different type of love,

479
00:22:01,720 --> 00:22:02,280
Speaker 4: you know what I mean.

480
00:22:02,600 --> 00:22:05,600
Speaker 1: I think different women. I always dealt with different women

481
00:22:05,640 --> 00:22:10,639
Speaker 1: because different women had certain what is it, certain things,

482
00:22:10,960 --> 00:22:13,960
Speaker 1: aspects of it, aspects of her. But like I never

483
00:22:14,040 --> 00:22:16,600
Speaker 1: knew how to be alone, bro, Like I would be

484
00:22:16,680 --> 00:22:21,560
Speaker 1: single and my own apartment and all that and let

485
00:22:21,560 --> 00:22:24,280
Speaker 1: it go and go move with a woman because I

486
00:22:24,480 --> 00:22:27,040
Speaker 1: never knew. Really I don't know how to I don't

487
00:22:27,080 --> 00:22:29,560
Speaker 1: like being lonely like so it's like a lot of

488
00:22:29,560 --> 00:22:31,560
Speaker 1: the times when I say this ship is real, Like

489
00:22:32,520 --> 00:22:34,000
Speaker 1: I don't know if a lot of other men like me.

490
00:22:34,040 --> 00:22:36,080
Speaker 1: But when being lonely, bro, you go through s, you

491
00:22:36,080 --> 00:22:37,520
Speaker 1: don't get how much money you got. I don't care

492
00:22:37,520 --> 00:22:39,840
Speaker 1: about none of that. But like I never really knew

493
00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:42,639
Speaker 1: how to be alone, Like I feel like I got

494
00:22:42,800 --> 00:22:45,480
Speaker 1: to have somebody laying next to me because even before

495
00:22:45,520 --> 00:22:48,000
Speaker 1: my mom died, my mom was sleepnaked. This is a

496
00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:50,760
Speaker 1: back then thing. How old were you with I was telling,

497
00:22:50,800 --> 00:22:52,800
Speaker 1: but I was a mommy's boy. Did you ever did

498
00:22:52,840 --> 00:22:58,359
Speaker 1: you ever really properly so grieving? No? I never really grieved.

499
00:22:58,400 --> 00:22:59,959
Speaker 1: All I did was I thought it was gonna help

500
00:23:00,119 --> 00:23:02,800
Speaker 1: by going to school for social work, because that's what

501
00:23:02,920 --> 00:23:05,320
Speaker 1: she was. But I never really probably a grieved and

502
00:23:05,359 --> 00:23:07,320
Speaker 1: that's a that's a process. Now. I do want to get,

503
00:23:07,359 --> 00:23:09,200
Speaker 1: you know, back in the gym. I do want to

504
00:23:09,200 --> 00:23:11,080
Speaker 1: get a therapist. I don't want everything else around me

505
00:23:11,200 --> 00:23:14,280
Speaker 1: to be intact so that I could fully commit, because

506
00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:16,560
Speaker 1: if I ain't fully committed, it ain't gonna work.

507
00:23:16,840 --> 00:23:19,600
Speaker 4: And then also I also feel like your your dad

508
00:23:19,600 --> 00:23:21,960
Speaker 4: didn't get you any table dad.

509
00:23:22,280 --> 00:23:24,480
Speaker 1: Honestly, I felt like me personally. This is probably the

510
00:23:24,480 --> 00:23:26,640
Speaker 1: first time I said this, like I did. I think

511
00:23:26,680 --> 00:23:32,320
Speaker 1: my father really wanted me for a check man exactly

512
00:23:32,359 --> 00:23:34,960
Speaker 1: what I said, like the money and lied to me

513
00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:36,800
Speaker 1: for so long. I lost a scholarship because of my

514
00:23:36,880 --> 00:23:40,840
Speaker 1: dad because at the time where I wanted to go,

515
00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:42,760
Speaker 1: I wanted to get away from them, so I had

516
00:23:42,920 --> 00:23:45,440
Speaker 1: I had a couple of scholarships. I had like over

517
00:23:45,480 --> 00:23:49,920
Speaker 1: thirty acceptances. I got accept it to a school in Florida.

518
00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:52,119
Speaker 5: I think, did your mom leave you money or.

519
00:23:52,200 --> 00:23:52,680
Speaker 1: Yeah my mom?

520
00:23:52,720 --> 00:23:54,920
Speaker 2: Yeah my mom, So my mom left your mind, maybe

521
00:23:54,920 --> 00:23:56,680
Speaker 2: the government gave you a job, so.

522
00:23:56,640 --> 00:23:58,520
Speaker 1: My mom, My mom left money. My mom was getting

523
00:23:58,520 --> 00:24:00,600
Speaker 1: money in you know, social Security st So it's like

524
00:24:00,640 --> 00:24:02,840
Speaker 1: my dad was making bank like I did that case.

525
00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:05,400
Speaker 1: I ain't evenna say the calculations. Calculations is crazy. What's

526
00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:07,320
Speaker 1: your relationship with your dad now? Is we be okay?

527
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:12,159
Speaker 1: You know, we all right? He you know, he's still

528
00:24:12,240 --> 00:24:15,200
Speaker 1: living with that regret, and I feel like that's why

529
00:24:15,200 --> 00:24:19,200
Speaker 1: we can't really get there. But yeah, like I feel

530
00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:22,160
Speaker 1: like my dad wanted me for a check manne a scholarship.

531
00:24:22,840 --> 00:24:27,240
Speaker 1: I lost scholarship. I lost a scholarship because August, like

532
00:24:27,320 --> 00:24:29,879
Speaker 1: twov's full school was supposed to start. I had got it.

533
00:24:30,440 --> 00:24:32,560
Speaker 1: I was leaving like my mom's side. He bought all

534
00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:34,960
Speaker 1: my dorm stuff and all of that. All my life,

535
00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:37,560
Speaker 1: my father always said, yeah, when you get eighteen, you're

536
00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:39,119
Speaker 1: gonna have money. You can go get your car, you

537
00:24:39,119 --> 00:24:40,480
Speaker 1: can go do what you want, you go to school,

538
00:24:40,520 --> 00:24:42,280
Speaker 1: whatever the case. Me to be all right, cool, I

539
00:24:42,320 --> 00:24:46,720
Speaker 1: get eighteen, I graduate. It's nothing there, I asked my father.

540
00:24:46,760 --> 00:24:48,960
Speaker 1: I'm like, well, there's still no answer to the father

541
00:24:49,080 --> 00:24:51,800
Speaker 1: never even answered, so I know I got a scholarship.

542
00:24:51,800 --> 00:24:55,080
Speaker 1: I had a partial scholarship, So a partial scholarship with

543
00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:57,920
Speaker 1: the you're paying the school and on and room and

544
00:24:58,000 --> 00:25:01,520
Speaker 1: board that's at the school I was going through. That

545
00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:05,320
Speaker 1: was about sixteen seventeen thousand semester. I had like a

546
00:25:05,359 --> 00:25:08,520
Speaker 1: forty two thousand dollars partial joint. So my dad was

547
00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:11,320
Speaker 1: always saying, all right, I got the rest. I got

548
00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:13,919
Speaker 1: the rest. So two weeks before I was supposed to leave,

549
00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:15,640
Speaker 1: So a month before I supposed to be, my family

550
00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:17,920
Speaker 1: got all my door and stuff. A week before I

551
00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:19,480
Speaker 1: was supposed to leave, my father called me up to

552
00:25:19,520 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 1: the room and he like, I ain't even say what

553
00:25:22,760 --> 00:25:24,840
Speaker 1: he said. I'm like, he like, you can't go to school.

554
00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:28,600
Speaker 1: I'm like, why not, Like nigga, I'm an age student,

555
00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:31,640
Speaker 1: Like I worked hard for this. I was an athlete.

556
00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:33,480
Speaker 1: I was a student. I ain't. I ain't getting no

557
00:25:33,480 --> 00:25:36,360
Speaker 1: office from basketball my junior senior year. So I gave

558
00:25:36,440 --> 00:25:37,879
Speaker 1: up and said, fuck it, I'm gonna fall back on

559
00:25:37,960 --> 00:25:41,320
Speaker 1: my grades. You always said I had the money. The

560
00:25:41,440 --> 00:25:45,359
Speaker 1: money wasn't there. He spent it all. And you know,

561
00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:48,520
Speaker 1: we turned eighteen, like seventeen and a half, it stopped coming.

562
00:25:49,640 --> 00:25:51,480
Speaker 1: But even if you even if it come again, when

563
00:25:51,480 --> 00:25:55,600
Speaker 1: I'm eighteen, that's one check, all the rest gone. And

564
00:25:55,680 --> 00:25:57,359
Speaker 1: my step mother used to always tell him my stump.

565
00:25:57,359 --> 00:25:58,720
Speaker 1: And I love my stepmother for this, and I wish

566
00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:01,040
Speaker 1: I'd known this when I was younger. But my step

567
00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:02,720
Speaker 1: mother used to always tell them put that money up.

568
00:26:04,080 --> 00:26:06,040
Speaker 1: But she never came to me because she didn't want

569
00:26:06,040 --> 00:26:08,800
Speaker 1: to overstep the boundaries of her husband. And I understood it.

570
00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:11,280
Speaker 1: But now that I'm grown and we have conversations now,

571
00:26:11,320 --> 00:26:14,080
Speaker 1: it's like I understood it because my father always tried

572
00:26:14,119 --> 00:26:17,520
Speaker 1: to make people hate me. I hated my step Yeah,

573
00:26:17,520 --> 00:26:19,119
Speaker 1: I hated my step mother growing up, but it was

574
00:26:19,160 --> 00:26:22,080
Speaker 1: never heard it was him. Lights ain't get cut off.

575
00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:24,920
Speaker 1: We had Christmases because of my stepmam. My dudes got paid,

576
00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:27,359
Speaker 1: my senior d I'm talking my middle school dues. Bro,

577
00:26:27,359 --> 00:26:28,840
Speaker 1: you're getting money for me. In my middle school dues,

578
00:26:28,880 --> 00:26:30,919
Speaker 1: my stepmother paid them. My step mother and my teachers

579
00:26:30,920 --> 00:26:34,280
Speaker 1: paid them. Wow. High school dues, my stepmother paid them.

580
00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:36,280
Speaker 1: And my friends I got two friends. Then Mother's paid

581
00:26:36,320 --> 00:26:38,879
Speaker 1: all that, so it was like my dad really crushed me. Man.

582
00:26:38,880 --> 00:26:40,320
Speaker 1: I told my dad a couple of weeks ago. Man

583
00:26:40,320 --> 00:26:41,840
Speaker 1: I said, bro, you hate me, not literally saying you

584
00:26:41,880 --> 00:26:43,320
Speaker 1: hate me, but you hate me so much because I

585
00:26:43,359 --> 00:26:45,399
Speaker 1: got you. I caught your ways. I said, what the

586
00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:47,040
Speaker 1: difference between me and I'm young and I'm chaying I'm

587
00:26:47,080 --> 00:26:49,600
Speaker 1: gonna change them. You're twenty years older than me, you

588
00:26:49,960 --> 00:26:52,720
Speaker 1: still doing the same thing. You want to break those cycles,

589
00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:54,719
Speaker 1: and I want to. It's not even me breaking a cycle, bro,

590
00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:57,239
Speaker 1: I just I don't like being like this, Like I

591
00:26:57,280 --> 00:27:00,320
Speaker 1: don't like hurting people. I don't like hurting women, don't

592
00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:02,280
Speaker 1: like I never really heard. I'm so loyal to my

593
00:27:02,280 --> 00:27:05,560
Speaker 1: friends that any little disloyal thing they do to me,

594
00:27:05,560 --> 00:27:08,720
Speaker 1: they cut off. So it's like the shit be hurting man.

595
00:27:08,760 --> 00:27:10,840
Speaker 1: And it's like, damn, I already had nobody. So then

596
00:27:10,840 --> 00:27:13,760
Speaker 1: when I got a child, mom, I cherish it. I

597
00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:17,080
Speaker 1: tell trash the really ones you love, the really ones

598
00:27:17,119 --> 00:27:19,000
Speaker 1: that's genuinely there for you, the ones that you ain't

599
00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:20,440
Speaker 1: got to do nothing for them, And I really love

600
00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:21,880
Speaker 1: you because guess what, at the end of the day,

601
00:27:21,880 --> 00:27:25,560
Speaker 1: when shit go, if shit go, bad. They're gonna be

602
00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:26,480
Speaker 1: the one that you can count on.

603
00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:28,199
Speaker 3: You know, there's this thing when when you start going

604
00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:29,959
Speaker 3: to therapy you'll hear about. It's this thing called the

605
00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:32,879
Speaker 3: mother womb, and it's a type of attachment trauma that

606
00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:38,120
Speaker 3: instills deeply rooted beliefs that make the child feel unloved, abandoned,

607
00:27:38,200 --> 00:27:41,280
Speaker 3: unworthy of care, and numb to their feelings.

608
00:27:41,760 --> 00:27:45,080
Speaker 1: That does that feel like you, mass low loss, mass

609
00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:47,960
Speaker 1: lole loss. It's dumb yours. A child will affect you

610
00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:50,200
Speaker 1: as an adult, but it will not define you, That's right.

611
00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:53,919
Speaker 1: So it's like it's crazy because going to schools, Like, man,

612
00:27:53,960 --> 00:27:56,760
Speaker 1: you're reading this shit. I'm like, man, it's me. It's me,

613
00:27:57,000 --> 00:27:58,760
Speaker 1: Like you know, I'm thinking of my own therapist. But

614
00:27:58,800 --> 00:28:00,760
Speaker 1: you know, every therapist needs a therapist and that's how

615
00:28:00,800 --> 00:28:04,400
Speaker 1: they that's how they able to be effective. So it's like, man,

616
00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:06,199
Speaker 1: like you, no, I've been through I ain't have a

617
00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:10,320
Speaker 1: bad upbringing, but I've been through some traumatic situations, man,

618
00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:13,119
Speaker 1: and you know, like I ain't. They ain't gonna define

619
00:28:13,119 --> 00:28:15,520
Speaker 1: me like them babies and mom. Man, I love them babies.

620
00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:17,120
Speaker 1: I feel like if it weren't for my babies, I'd

621
00:28:17,119 --> 00:28:19,600
Speaker 1: have crashed out long time ago, long time ago. And

622
00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:21,320
Speaker 1: that's what I said. I got them babies, and out

623
00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:22,640
Speaker 1: of all my check I got, I got I got

624
00:28:23,119 --> 00:28:25,760
Speaker 1: two children moms like that. My last one, you know,

625
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:28,639
Speaker 1: she she made no harm by certain things, but I

626
00:28:28,680 --> 00:28:30,840
Speaker 1: got that one, and I got this one to my left, man,

627
00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:33,840
Speaker 1: my dog. And it's like she give me hope every day.

628
00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:35,760
Speaker 1: She don't even know it, like even when you know,

629
00:28:35,800 --> 00:28:37,560
Speaker 1: we might not even argue, but like it be days

630
00:28:37,600 --> 00:28:40,280
Speaker 1: I wake up, she's doing You're all right? How you feeling?

631
00:28:41,120 --> 00:28:43,560
Speaker 1: Just because I know that she needed like when you

632
00:28:43,800 --> 00:28:47,280
Speaker 1: when you when you the the shoulders in the head

633
00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:51,360
Speaker 1: of families or communities, bro. Like it's a lot, you know, honestly,

634
00:28:51,440 --> 00:28:53,280
Speaker 1: I think them people need it the most. So I

635
00:28:53,440 --> 00:28:55,520
Speaker 1: give her flowers every day and I feel like man

636
00:28:55,560 --> 00:28:58,680
Speaker 1: like without her. Yeah, I think you're on the right back.

637
00:28:58,840 --> 00:29:01,040
Speaker 3: You know, they stay healing the mother when first starts

638
00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:04,360
Speaker 3: with acknowledging the pain, correct and then seeking professional help.

639
00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:08,240
Speaker 3: What you want to do, cultivating healthy relationships, what y'all done,

640
00:29:08,440 --> 00:29:10,480
Speaker 3: and you're focusing on self care personal growth?

641
00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:12,840
Speaker 1: Yes, right, you're definitely on the right path, just won't

642
00:29:12,840 --> 00:29:15,520
Speaker 1: get that mass time take time, you know, but it'll

643
00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:15,800
Speaker 1: be there.

644
00:29:16,240 --> 00:29:19,440
Speaker 3: How did y'all that's the most thing, most I won't

645
00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:21,000
Speaker 3: say most important, one of the most important things. How

646
00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:23,400
Speaker 3: did y'all realize we don't have feelings for each other?

647
00:29:23,480 --> 00:29:23,880
Speaker 5: No more?

648
00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:26,200
Speaker 1: Like? How did that just go away? Like y'all have

649
00:29:26,680 --> 00:29:28,520
Speaker 1: y'all love each other? But not in that way.

650
00:29:28,600 --> 00:29:30,760
Speaker 5: I got my answer, you want to go first, you

651
00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:32,640
Speaker 5: can go first, because I'm still thinking.

652
00:29:32,480 --> 00:29:35,560
Speaker 1: When I stopped caring about who she dealt with, when

653
00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:39,800
Speaker 1: I wouldn't even like I wouldn't even care, Like, how

654
00:29:40,000 --> 00:29:47,440
Speaker 1: did that take? Oh? Oh three years? So like when

655
00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:50,960
Speaker 1: action was like three yeah, it was still really yeah,

656
00:29:51,080 --> 00:29:52,640
Speaker 1: it was like three years. But at that but honestly

657
00:29:52,800 --> 00:29:57,400
Speaker 1: that three years like I had caught a big check.

658
00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:00,920
Speaker 1: So it's like when I I was almost half a

659
00:30:00,960 --> 00:30:05,360
Speaker 1: million a nigga, So it was like it was the

660
00:30:05,400 --> 00:30:07,520
Speaker 1: pain that I had. Whatever the case I would I

661
00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:09,400
Speaker 1: would pay. I was like just boy ship to block

662
00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:12,480
Speaker 1: it out. But other than that, like you ain't trying

663
00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:14,840
Speaker 1: to stun on her a little bit? No, I never, no,

664
00:30:14,920 --> 00:30:16,680
Speaker 1: I never, no, I never.

665
00:30:16,760 --> 00:30:17,479
Speaker 5: I'm waiting for that.

666
00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:20,720
Speaker 1: I never intentionally stunted on her. I never did that.

667
00:30:20,880 --> 00:30:24,800
Speaker 1: Never I did everything she possibly could ask me to do.

668
00:30:25,920 --> 00:30:29,880
Speaker 1: And she said on a one of these souls something

669
00:30:29,920 --> 00:30:31,880
Speaker 1: about a B G. E. Bill And I'm addressed that

670
00:30:31,960 --> 00:30:38,120
Speaker 1: I never wanted. I'm addressed that now with the BC. So,

671
00:30:38,120 --> 00:30:40,720
Speaker 1: so I'm explaining her lights got cut off.

672
00:30:41,680 --> 00:30:43,560
Speaker 2: I got a five hundred thousand dollars checking Listen.

673
00:30:43,640 --> 00:30:46,000
Speaker 1: No, it wasn't right then and there, but it's over

674
00:30:46,040 --> 00:30:50,000
Speaker 1: time because like mind a lot of my place. She

675
00:30:50,080 --> 00:30:51,880
Speaker 1: helped me. She helped me get a lot on the

676
00:30:51,920 --> 00:30:54,160
Speaker 1: back end, but in a time like I helped her.

677
00:30:54,520 --> 00:30:56,160
Speaker 1: Whatever the case, I didn't know she was moving with

678
00:30:56,160 --> 00:30:56,480
Speaker 1: a man.

679
00:30:57,120 --> 00:30:58,040
Speaker 5: I didn't move with a man.

680
00:30:58,120 --> 00:31:01,800
Speaker 1: Well she moved man in with her. Yeah, okay, after

681
00:31:02,080 --> 00:31:06,800
Speaker 1: he had you and the dog too. Now in my business,

682
00:31:06,800 --> 00:31:09,080
Speaker 1: so I don't know that he's not there. So boom,

683
00:31:09,120 --> 00:31:12,160
Speaker 1: here's his So here's here's my logic. And I'm ana

684
00:31:12,680 --> 00:31:14,800
Speaker 1: say what I'm gonna say to her after I explained it,

685
00:31:15,320 --> 00:31:19,160
Speaker 1: my logic was, all right, man is in the house. Boom,

686
00:31:19,560 --> 00:31:24,320
Speaker 1: eager cut off? Right, I'm thinking, like damn, So she

687
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:26,160
Speaker 1: like was wrong. I'm like, well, I take my son

688
00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:30,040
Speaker 1: with me. But that wasn't me talking. That was the

689
00:31:30,120 --> 00:31:31,360
Speaker 1: girlfriend I had talking.

690
00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:33,080
Speaker 5: Oh, ship. You ain't tell me that.

691
00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:34,840
Speaker 1: I never told you that because as a woman, you

692
00:31:34,840 --> 00:31:36,920
Speaker 1: ain't trying to hear that, and as as a man

693
00:31:37,600 --> 00:31:39,400
Speaker 1: and you be and me, I don't want to hear that.

694
00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:41,520
Speaker 1: So I didn't want to tell you that because I

695
00:31:41,640 --> 00:31:46,080
Speaker 1: have felt less of a man. So yeah, but I'm.

696
00:31:45,960 --> 00:31:49,080
Speaker 2: Gonna understand him if somebody else is smacking the cheeks, listen.

697
00:31:49,160 --> 00:31:52,160
Speaker 1: So the girlfriend was living, so the girlfriend was.

698
00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:54,520
Speaker 5: Like, don't talk about no house ahead.

699
00:31:54,560 --> 00:31:59,800
Speaker 1: So the girlfriend was like, I took a certain amount

700
00:31:59,840 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 1: of mony out the bank. I did. She was with me,

701
00:32:02,320 --> 00:32:05,760
Speaker 1: she like, mind you the certain amount of money. I

702
00:32:05,800 --> 00:32:07,800
Speaker 1: had to call because I was gonna break it in half,

703
00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:09,280
Speaker 1: give it to Jessica and I take the rest. And

704
00:32:09,320 --> 00:32:11,719
Speaker 1: I was going me and Ashton man ask that's all

705
00:32:11,760 --> 00:32:14,680
Speaker 1: I did, shot man Ashton. So I was gonna give

706
00:32:14,720 --> 00:32:17,320
Speaker 1: it that. But the girl like, why are you giving

707
00:32:17,360 --> 00:32:21,080
Speaker 1: it to Jessica. I'm like, cause she needed and she

708
00:32:21,240 --> 00:32:24,080
Speaker 1: like I never said them here. I never said the reason.

709
00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:27,360
Speaker 1: I never said the reason. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I never

710
00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:31,680
Speaker 1: said the reason. Though. She was like, what exactly do

711
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:33,280
Speaker 1: she needs? Because I know you ain't giving her. No,

712
00:32:33,480 --> 00:32:35,680
Speaker 1: she don't need a bag or nothing like that. I'm like, nah,

713
00:32:35,720 --> 00:32:38,400
Speaker 1: it's something else. She like, well, don't she got a

714
00:32:38,440 --> 00:32:43,400
Speaker 1: nigga living with her, And mind you, I'm drinking at

715
00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:45,520
Speaker 1: the time. Are you thinking the same thing. I'm like,

716
00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:48,120
Speaker 1: you wasn't even thinking that till she said it. I

717
00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:50,480
Speaker 1: wasn't thinking that, but I'm drinking. But when she say it,

718
00:32:50,640 --> 00:32:52,880
Speaker 1: because I'm not, like I said, bro like wives and girlfriends,

719
00:32:52,920 --> 00:32:56,040
Speaker 1: I've seen. I've seen. I've seen men crumble and go

720
00:32:56,120 --> 00:32:58,440
Speaker 1: against a family because of her wife or a girlfriend.

721
00:32:58,480 --> 00:33:02,120
Speaker 1: I've seen it, and I'm like, you know what, You're right?

722
00:33:02,880 --> 00:33:05,560
Speaker 1: Why you ain't as just though crazy people say yes,

723
00:33:05,920 --> 00:33:09,120
Speaker 1: Because I was a young emotional boy who just ran

724
00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:12,760
Speaker 1: into a bunch of money and came with that. The

725
00:33:12,760 --> 00:33:15,640
Speaker 1: bitches every my nigga, I'm hurt, hurt young man, got

726
00:33:15,640 --> 00:33:17,480
Speaker 1: a lot of money. Everybody and fucked me over. Nigga.

727
00:33:17,480 --> 00:33:19,320
Speaker 1: I got some money, I'm doing the fun. I wanted

728
00:33:19,320 --> 00:33:22,240
Speaker 1: to make myself happy, and that's how my nigga went broke.

729
00:33:23,080 --> 00:33:24,560
Speaker 1: Like it was times when I'm not happy, but I

730
00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:27,200
Speaker 1: go spend money just because I'm not like, Oh, the

731
00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:28,360
Speaker 1: coaches came out like that.

732
00:33:29,200 --> 00:33:30,360
Speaker 5: Everybody except me.

733
00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:37,000
Speaker 1: You that I was like and granted. Right now, on today,

734
00:33:37,040 --> 00:33:42,800
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say I truly, sincerely apologized for not taking

735
00:33:42,840 --> 00:33:46,400
Speaker 1: care of you the way I should have. And I'm

736
00:33:46,400 --> 00:33:50,920
Speaker 1: gonna take my glasses because for a long time that

737
00:33:51,000 --> 00:33:57,080
Speaker 1: ship hurt me. And it's like I never ever, ever,

738
00:33:57,160 --> 00:33:59,800
Speaker 1: especially I never ever ever ever meant to do that

739
00:33:59,840 --> 00:34:02,920
Speaker 1: to you. And it's like, now, that's why I even

740
00:34:03,120 --> 00:34:07,120
Speaker 1: I work so hard today and just try to even

741
00:34:07,280 --> 00:34:13,480
Speaker 1: just give you something. But in due time that she's

742
00:34:13,480 --> 00:34:15,319
Speaker 1: gonna come back. I ain't you know, I hadn't made

743
00:34:15,320 --> 00:34:17,120
Speaker 1: that shit back when broke again, made it back, went

744
00:34:17,200 --> 00:34:19,759
Speaker 1: broke again. But my biggest downfall, the comments denominade it

745
00:34:19,800 --> 00:34:23,520
Speaker 1: was alcohol and women. So that shit, them two problems

746
00:34:23,560 --> 00:34:26,759
Speaker 1: never allowed me to really reach my full potential because

747
00:34:26,920 --> 00:34:28,279
Speaker 1: even when I seen it a couple of years ago,

748
00:34:28,320 --> 00:34:31,560
Speaker 1: you've seen it twenty nineteen when I was single, when

749
00:34:31,600 --> 00:34:34,480
Speaker 1: I went moved back by myself, I ran that motherfucker up.

750
00:34:34,520 --> 00:34:35,920
Speaker 5: Flourish ran.

751
00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:38,000
Speaker 1: That's one thing I know how that I'm running up.

752
00:34:38,120 --> 00:34:43,000
Speaker 1: But women holding me back. Man, I'm sorry that I

753
00:34:43,040 --> 00:34:44,719
Speaker 1: didn't do what I was supposed to do, and a

754
00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:46,279
Speaker 1: lot of motherfuckers said what I was in your job?

755
00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:48,000
Speaker 1: The one you're done. I felt that was my duty.

756
00:34:48,360 --> 00:34:50,279
Speaker 1: But because I had certain people in my in my

757
00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:53,000
Speaker 1: ear that I thought had their best interest in me.

758
00:34:53,080 --> 00:34:56,720
Speaker 1: But when that bag ran out, they left. Yeah, I'm sorry.

759
00:34:57,040 --> 00:35:00,200
Speaker 1: I'm not a sorry person. I apologize, Okay.

760
00:35:00,320 --> 00:35:04,239
Speaker 4: I appreciate that, And but listen, I was not. I

761
00:35:04,320 --> 00:35:07,279
Speaker 4: was talking to a nigga. He moved in months after.

762
00:35:07,280 --> 00:35:09,000
Speaker 4: You think a nigga was gonna move into a dark house.

763
00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:11,200
Speaker 4: You think you think I wanted the niggas see how

764
00:35:11,200 --> 00:35:14,520
Speaker 4: I was living. No, And when you said, I asked you, like, yo,

765
00:35:14,600 --> 00:35:17,680
Speaker 4: can you just get my my lights on? I'll pay

766
00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:19,239
Speaker 4: you back. That's when I was scamming and doing all

767
00:35:19,280 --> 00:35:21,440
Speaker 4: that shit. That shit got slow too, So I'm like,

768
00:35:21,560 --> 00:35:23,279
Speaker 4: all right, you was like, no, I take my son.

769
00:35:23,440 --> 00:35:26,160
Speaker 4: Nobody taking my kid, not even as father. Like, as

770
00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:28,759
Speaker 4: long as Ash was scared of the dark, we was good,

771
00:35:28,840 --> 00:35:30,719
Speaker 4: you know what I'm saying. Like I still had candles,

772
00:35:30,920 --> 00:35:32,719
Speaker 4: we was playing, We was doing all that. We would

773
00:35:32,719 --> 00:35:36,480
Speaker 4: stay outside until it went until it got dark, and

774
00:35:36,520 --> 00:35:38,759
Speaker 4: then we would go in the house. And him, he

775
00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:40,640
Speaker 4: ain't never asked me why the lights ain't coming on.

776
00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:42,799
Speaker 4: It don't matter. So as long as he was good,

777
00:35:42,840 --> 00:35:45,560
Speaker 4: I was good. I just wanted to be able, you

778
00:35:45,560 --> 00:35:47,319
Speaker 4: know what I'm saying, and just be like, yo, get my.

779
00:35:47,360 --> 00:35:50,799
Speaker 1: Life and you should have. Well guess what that made

780
00:35:50,840 --> 00:35:53,000
Speaker 1: you a demon? And when I say demon, I said,

781
00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:56,440
Speaker 1: in the best way, that turned you up. And I

782
00:35:56,480 --> 00:35:58,480
Speaker 1: got to teach my kids, especially my oldest boy, might

783
00:35:58,560 --> 00:36:00,279
Speaker 1: leve me, yo, bro, Like I don't want you to

784
00:36:00,680 --> 00:36:02,640
Speaker 1: go through something bad to learn a lesson. I don't

785
00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:04,200
Speaker 1: think everybody should to go through something bad and learn

786
00:36:04,200 --> 00:36:09,160
Speaker 1: a lesson, But in your case, I feel like, yeah,

787
00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:12,160
Speaker 1: and put that battery in your back. You know, when

788
00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:14,640
Speaker 1: that battery came in your back, you ain't. You ain't

789
00:36:14,680 --> 00:36:17,239
Speaker 1: treat me no way. It took still a minute for

790
00:36:17,320 --> 00:36:21,160
Speaker 1: us to create that bond, but y'all have it now.

791
00:36:21,160 --> 00:36:22,520
Speaker 1: And I think y'all bo should give each other some

792
00:36:22,560 --> 00:36:26,799
Speaker 1: greades because y'all and I always was a hurt young man.

793
00:36:26,880 --> 00:36:28,520
Speaker 1: So right, But I love the story.

794
00:36:28,840 --> 00:36:32,120
Speaker 2: It shows the foundation and how you now and how

795
00:36:32,160 --> 00:36:32,879
Speaker 2: y'all treat each other.

796
00:36:32,880 --> 00:36:33,040
Speaker 5: Now.

797
00:36:33,280 --> 00:36:34,480
Speaker 2: You know, I don't know you, but the way she

798
00:36:34,600 --> 00:36:36,959
Speaker 2: talks about you on the radio, and like you said,

799
00:36:37,040 --> 00:36:39,600
Speaker 2: she is a mother, She protects you, she holds you down.

800
00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:42,239
Speaker 1: I just love to see it. You know, sometimes I'll

801
00:36:42,239 --> 00:36:43,799
Speaker 1: be telling us stuff talking about room like that.

802
00:36:43,880 --> 00:36:45,319
Speaker 5: He always didn't like.

803
00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:48,319
Speaker 1: Why you be talking about But I get it. She

804
00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:52,280
Speaker 1: don't mean no harm, but she don't like I said,

805
00:36:52,320 --> 00:36:55,719
Speaker 1: man like I wish a lot of other people but

806
00:36:57,680 --> 00:37:00,360
Speaker 1: take from us. And that's why this ship to be

807
00:37:00,400 --> 00:37:03,719
Speaker 1: on TV. That's why y'are writing a book. Yeah, book coming,

808
00:37:03,760 --> 00:37:07,440
Speaker 1: everything book coming? Yes, everything coming. You think the most

809
00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:08,120
Speaker 1: important thing?

810
00:37:08,200 --> 00:37:09,480
Speaker 3: Because I don't want you all to save a lot

811
00:37:09,520 --> 00:37:11,479
Speaker 3: of this, but what's the most important thing. It takes

812
00:37:11,480 --> 00:37:14,640
Speaker 3: the cold parent. If y'all you're just leaveing on that

813
00:37:14,640 --> 00:37:15,960
Speaker 3: because the national core parents to day.

814
00:37:16,120 --> 00:37:20,320
Speaker 4: Yo, I started off communication like a lot of people

815
00:37:20,360 --> 00:37:23,359
Speaker 4: be scared to hurt each other feelings and a lot

816
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:26,839
Speaker 4: of people be afraid to have uncomfortable conversations, whether it's

817
00:37:26,840 --> 00:37:33,040
Speaker 4: about kids, unhashed differences whatever. Like one day me and

818
00:37:33,120 --> 00:37:35,440
Speaker 4: Rome just literally met up and just we just talked

819
00:37:35,440 --> 00:37:38,160
Speaker 4: about everything that. You know, he felt like I did

820
00:37:38,239 --> 00:37:40,960
Speaker 4: him wrong in certain situations, and then he felt like

821
00:37:40,960 --> 00:37:43,440
Speaker 4: like I will always try because he says, I'm controlling

822
00:37:43,480 --> 00:37:45,840
Speaker 4: a lot, and I do take that, you know what

823
00:37:45,880 --> 00:37:48,799
Speaker 4: I'm saying, Yeah, I own that. I do like I

824
00:37:48,840 --> 00:37:51,279
Speaker 4: was trying to control how he parents sometimes, like how

825
00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:53,799
Speaker 4: how he would raise Ash and all of that type

826
00:37:53,840 --> 00:37:56,600
Speaker 4: of stuff. We just put everything on the table and

827
00:37:56,760 --> 00:37:59,160
Speaker 4: just just was like, all right, you're moving forward because

828
00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:03,440
Speaker 4: it's really about Ash and that's really like when we

829
00:38:04,400 --> 00:38:06,080
Speaker 4: after that, it was like no looking back, It's like,

830
00:38:06,080 --> 00:38:06,640
Speaker 4: all right, whatever.

831
00:38:07,040 --> 00:38:10,799
Speaker 1: Cool. It was just communication, but it takes I think

832
00:38:10,840 --> 00:38:14,879
Speaker 1: that it's a couple of things, man, communication, feelings out

833
00:38:14,880 --> 00:38:16,520
Speaker 1: of it, ego out.

834
00:38:16,320 --> 00:38:18,880
Speaker 5: Of it, ego for sure, and.

835
00:38:19,040 --> 00:38:22,400
Speaker 1: Just man, both parties, both parties got to be in

836
00:38:22,440 --> 00:38:24,359
Speaker 1: it though. Man like I feel like you know now,

837
00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:26,919
Speaker 1: like even at my kids school and ship man like, dang,

838
00:38:26,960 --> 00:38:30,080
Speaker 1: you should the man And I think that's fucked up

839
00:38:31,200 --> 00:38:34,000
Speaker 1: kids that your kids school, my children, my own children.

840
00:38:34,640 --> 00:38:37,840
Speaker 1: I feel like, you know, the father is not a

841
00:38:37,920 --> 00:38:41,160
Speaker 1: norm so I always been. I ain't. It's not I want.

842
00:38:41,200 --> 00:38:42,959
Speaker 1: I adn't say a change it norm, but I've changed

843
00:38:42,960 --> 00:38:46,520
Speaker 1: it on. Like it's me. You ain't got to call

844
00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:50,040
Speaker 1: the Mather, you know, I didn't Maxim call your father. Yeah,

845
00:38:50,200 --> 00:38:53,640
Speaker 1: that's me called me. Don't call the others. I'm hands on.

846
00:38:53,680 --> 00:38:56,960
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be that and my oldest eleven man young,

847
00:38:57,239 --> 00:39:00,640
Speaker 1: I just sat to school, sat in the class with him.

848
00:39:00,719 --> 00:39:01,399
Speaker 3: The whole day.

849
00:39:01,680 --> 00:39:04,360
Speaker 4: They call you, but Ash called me on the side

850
00:39:05,200 --> 00:39:07,160
Speaker 4: my dad much.

851
00:39:08,760 --> 00:39:10,440
Speaker 1: But that was the thing too. We had to she

852
00:39:10,480 --> 00:39:13,000
Speaker 1: had to learn, don't don't, don't try to take the

853
00:39:13,120 --> 00:39:16,440
Speaker 1: father from the child. Let me father him. Because I

854
00:39:16,440 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 1: refuse for my son to become a statistic I refuse

855
00:39:19,200 --> 00:39:21,200
Speaker 1: my son to become a young, hurt little boy. I

856
00:39:21,280 --> 00:39:23,080
Speaker 1: refuse from my son to grow up not knowing how

857
00:39:23,080 --> 00:39:24,839
Speaker 1: to love a woman. I refuse my son to be

858
00:39:24,880 --> 00:39:28,279
Speaker 1: so many things that his father was. I'm still young,

859
00:39:28,360 --> 00:39:31,000
Speaker 1: so I'm still you know, I told, I told Naia early.

860
00:39:31,080 --> 00:39:32,879
Speaker 1: I said, man, like you know one of my I'm

861
00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:34,320
Speaker 1: gonna write my right. I'm gonna write my rights to

862
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Speaker 1: my boys.

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Speaker 3: I got still unlearning, unlearning right direct correct you, unlearning

864
00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:39,520
Speaker 3: to learn.

865
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Speaker 1: When this co parents ain't easy man, and I used

866
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Speaker 1: to be.

867
00:39:42,640 --> 00:39:44,799
Speaker 5: I used to be hold on him.

868
00:39:44,800 --> 00:39:47,239
Speaker 4: How he was so hard on my son, like no,

869
00:39:47,400 --> 00:39:49,960
Speaker 4: like you like's gotta want to talk to you. You got

870
00:39:50,080 --> 00:39:53,279
Speaker 4: to make him want to talk to you, like he

871
00:39:53,360 --> 00:39:55,759
Speaker 4: used to like, come and talk to me about things.

872
00:39:55,760 --> 00:39:56,680
Speaker 5: He was scared to go to.

873
00:39:56,640 --> 00:39:59,520
Speaker 4: His father about now because it was any abusive relationships anything.

874
00:39:59,520 --> 00:40:02,600
Speaker 4: It was just like I can't talk today. You know.

875
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Speaker 1: It was my son problem, and I like to said,

876
00:40:04,640 --> 00:40:07,160
Speaker 1: I'm creating a young man man. My some problem was

877
00:40:09,040 --> 00:40:13,759
Speaker 1: he don't like confrontation. Not confrontation, but he don't like

878
00:40:13,960 --> 00:40:17,440
Speaker 1: to confront a man. You. When I say that me

879
00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:20,279
Speaker 1: his father, he don't like to And I tell her,

880
00:40:20,360 --> 00:40:21,960
Speaker 1: I said, bro, you don't like something. You tell me

881
00:40:22,960 --> 00:40:24,920
Speaker 1: I'm not like my father. Shut the fuck up. Oh

882
00:40:25,080 --> 00:40:28,919
Speaker 1: I'm your father. No, no, ain't none of that same

883
00:40:28,960 --> 00:40:30,600
Speaker 1: bron We go to McDonald's and i'd be like, all right,

884
00:40:30,719 --> 00:40:32,560
Speaker 1: do you six? Oh dad, I don't want that. All right,

885
00:40:32,560 --> 00:40:35,799
Speaker 1: what you want it's the same concept. I get his

886
00:40:35,800 --> 00:40:37,400
Speaker 1: head done. Now you want to hair, Oh dad, I

887
00:40:37,440 --> 00:40:39,400
Speaker 1: don't like that. Tell me. Don't go back and tell

888
00:40:39,440 --> 00:40:41,920
Speaker 1: your mother. That's why I'm getting mad because he was

889
00:40:41,960 --> 00:40:43,319
Speaker 1: just with me and I just asked you. He ain't

890
00:40:43,360 --> 00:40:46,120
Speaker 1: say nothing. You want to communicate. I want to communicate.

891
00:40:46,760 --> 00:40:48,480
Speaker 1: When you communicate with me, you look me in my

892
00:40:48,480 --> 00:40:50,279
Speaker 1: eyes and tell me, Dad, I don't want this. You

893
00:40:50,320 --> 00:40:52,960
Speaker 1: ain't gotta be disrespectful. When you said I want to

894
00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:57,000
Speaker 1: my baby getting better, but I'm here. So it's like

895
00:40:57,960 --> 00:41:00,760
Speaker 1: I don't know. Man, it's not hard easy, it's fun.

896
00:41:01,400 --> 00:41:03,960
Speaker 1: You have to make it, make it a little bit.

897
00:41:04,000 --> 00:41:06,120
Speaker 1: But it's like, I don't like to do that. It's

898
00:41:06,200 --> 00:41:08,400
Speaker 1: just man like. I don't know. As a mom is

899
00:41:08,440 --> 00:41:10,680
Speaker 1: different than when a dad raising. I'm doing everything that

900
00:41:10,719 --> 00:41:13,280
Speaker 1: I wanted. I wanted my father to come up my squell.

901
00:41:13,280 --> 00:41:14,879
Speaker 1: I wanted my dad to talk to me. I wanted

902
00:41:14,880 --> 00:41:17,200
Speaker 1: my dad to ask me what I wanted. I wanted

903
00:41:17,200 --> 00:41:19,279
Speaker 1: my dad to come to my basketball game, my baseball game.

904
00:41:19,320 --> 00:41:21,920
Speaker 1: My dad been a one baseball game out of four years,

905
00:41:22,760 --> 00:41:25,440
Speaker 1: two basketball games out of four years. You got to

906
00:41:25,480 --> 00:41:27,399
Speaker 1: make sure you're raising your child out of out of level.

907
00:41:27,800 --> 00:41:29,480
Speaker 1: And I don't want to live here. And that's that

908
00:41:29,640 --> 00:41:32,880
Speaker 1: I was scared of my father in my mouth. I

909
00:41:32,880 --> 00:41:35,440
Speaker 1: got big bush, I got a busted whip. Multip All

910
00:41:35,480 --> 00:41:36,160
Speaker 1: fathers raised this.

911
00:41:37,320 --> 00:41:39,200
Speaker 3: Multip All fathers raisus how to figure because they didn't

912
00:41:39,200 --> 00:41:40,919
Speaker 3: want us to end up going down the same path

913
00:41:41,000 --> 00:41:41,480
Speaker 3: they went down.

914
00:41:41,520 --> 00:41:42,840
Speaker 1: So we got to figure out how to raise our

915
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Speaker 1: kids out of love. But you know, if mom's moms

916
00:41:45,600 --> 00:41:47,000
Speaker 1: get this, and I think I got that, And I

917
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Speaker 1: told my dad a couple of weeks ago, bro, like

918
00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:50,279
Speaker 1: you know he because he always come to me with

919
00:41:50,320 --> 00:41:52,239
Speaker 1: my father. I don't want to hear that ship. I

920
00:41:52,320 --> 00:41:53,960
Speaker 1: tell I'm a man now. He ain't gonna tell me

921
00:41:54,040 --> 00:41:55,919
Speaker 1: how the fuck up. I don't want to hear that ship.

922
00:41:55,920 --> 00:41:58,920
Speaker 1: Your father wasn't farther. He was a provider. I'm a nurturer.

923
00:41:58,960 --> 00:42:03,000
Speaker 1: I'm my dad father a nurture of my baby. Even

924
00:42:03,080 --> 00:42:06,640
Speaker 1: your response to your dad is angry because he always

925
00:42:07,200 --> 00:42:09,839
Speaker 1: My response to my dad is what he's given to me. Now,

926
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Speaker 1: like I'm a man now. So it's like, bro, I

927
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Speaker 1: don't have to take that ship. I leave.

928
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Speaker 5: But he's trying to explain.

929
00:42:17,320 --> 00:42:20,719
Speaker 1: Trying to explain that they don't just now. He's still

930
00:42:20,719 --> 00:42:22,480
Speaker 1: ain't figured it out. So it's like you in the

931
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Speaker 1: room and this meet and be in the room because

932
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Speaker 1: you know, I don't call you about this type of stuff.

933
00:42:25,800 --> 00:42:27,720
Speaker 1: But this is me being in the room. It ain't

934
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Speaker 1: is he. It's a different story. Man. I got somebody

935
00:42:32,040 --> 00:42:33,400
Speaker 1: you talk to him. I got a therapist, I got

936
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Speaker 1: a good I got a lot of them. No, no, no,

937
00:42:36,880 --> 00:42:38,440
Speaker 1: I'm not saying it like that. I'm talking about a

938
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Speaker 1: real professional, and I got a Yes.

939
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Speaker 3: I don't want to require what you want I think

940
00:42:44,160 --> 00:42:45,360
Speaker 3: I got somebody in mind for you.

941
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Speaker 1: I want woman, you want a woman. I got you.

942
00:42:47,800 --> 00:42:52,319
Speaker 1: I don't like man, I got you. Yeah, I got you.

943
00:42:52,320 --> 00:42:54,440
Speaker 1: You know exactly what you talk to. That's cool, man.

944
00:42:54,600 --> 00:42:56,359
Speaker 1: I'm always open to it. Man, But you know, other

945
00:42:56,400 --> 00:42:58,160
Speaker 1: than that, like you gotta want it for yourself. And

946
00:42:58,760 --> 00:43:02,200
Speaker 1: do you you know I've been there, man, Okay, cut back.

947
00:43:02,320 --> 00:43:03,960
Speaker 1: You know, my biggest thing was just cutting back on

948
00:43:04,040 --> 00:43:08,920
Speaker 1: the alcohol. Like now I do it for recregation. Thank

949
00:43:08,960 --> 00:43:13,359
Speaker 1: you for this is recording. Drink coffee. Take a shot now,

950
00:43:13,640 --> 00:43:17,960
Speaker 1: just drink drink coffee. This is a great conversation.

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Speaker 3: I'm sure it's a discussion that will continue on not

952
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Speaker 3: even just the monkst you know, just in Rome. But

953
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Speaker 3: this is a month anybody out there, you're dealing with

954
00:43:23,840 --> 00:43:26,000
Speaker 3: corporate issue. But I think Rome, you know, Rome is

955
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Speaker 3: talking to a lot of different issues that a lot

956
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Speaker 3: of us men go through, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 3: So I'm happy that you was vulnerable this morning.

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Speaker 1: That's right, you know what I mean. And their book

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Speaker 1: is coming soon via a Black privileged published Simon the

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Speaker 1: Shoes all right, well it's wrong. Yes, it's the breakfast

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Speaker 1: Club in the morning. Wake that ass up in the morning.

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Speaker 1: The Breakfast Club