1 00:00:12,680 --> 00:00:17,320 Speaker 1: Okay, so let's talk about settling. 2 00:00:18,239 --> 00:00:21,320 Speaker 2: I really want to talk about settling in relationships because 3 00:00:22,720 --> 00:00:28,600 Speaker 2: I want to say something so graciously and in a classy, 4 00:00:28,680 --> 00:00:33,160 Speaker 2: respectful manner. Any time that I've left a relationship where 5 00:00:33,320 --> 00:00:36,040 Speaker 2: it doesn't feel right in my body at that time, 6 00:00:37,800 --> 00:00:42,479 Speaker 2: I later thank myself and it's gone deeper and deeper. 7 00:00:42,560 --> 00:00:42,960 Speaker 1: Okay. 8 00:00:43,159 --> 00:00:45,600 Speaker 2: So it could be leaving an engagement, leaving a marriage, 9 00:00:45,640 --> 00:00:46,920 Speaker 2: it could be a number of things. But I just 10 00:00:46,960 --> 00:00:51,959 Speaker 2: want to tell you that recently I've been saying to myself, 11 00:00:52,159 --> 00:00:57,000 Speaker 2: I am so grateful for having the courage to walk 12 00:00:57,000 --> 00:00:59,680 Speaker 2: away from things that don't work for me. So that 13 00:00:59,680 --> 00:01:04,360 Speaker 2: could be work, That could be friendships. That could be 14 00:01:04,480 --> 00:01:08,880 Speaker 2: business deals that just crush your soul. That could be 15 00:01:09,520 --> 00:01:12,000 Speaker 2: confronting a boss or not accepting less than what you deserve. 16 00:01:12,240 --> 00:01:15,040 Speaker 2: That could be a relationship where you're just like I 17 00:01:15,080 --> 00:01:18,800 Speaker 2: am doing it's good. It could be very good. Now 18 00:01:18,800 --> 00:01:20,760 Speaker 2: if it's bad, that's not even a discussion. But it 19 00:01:20,760 --> 00:01:23,080 Speaker 2: could be good to very good. But if it doesn't 20 00:01:23,120 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 2: fit feel right in your body, you know, when you 21 00:01:25,240 --> 00:01:27,039 Speaker 2: eat something it doesn't agree with you. You may not 22 00:01:27,080 --> 00:01:29,560 Speaker 2: get violently ill, but it doesn't agree with you or 23 00:01:29,600 --> 00:01:32,640 Speaker 2: you're constantly thinking about it, you know, when you're fidgeting 24 00:01:32,640 --> 00:01:34,280 Speaker 2: in an outfit or it just like you don't love it, 25 00:01:34,319 --> 00:01:35,360 Speaker 2: so you don't live for it. 26 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:36,960 Speaker 1: Put it the fuck down, take it off if you don't. 27 00:01:36,959 --> 00:01:39,160 Speaker 2: If you're not, like you have to like convince yourself 28 00:01:39,160 --> 00:01:41,479 Speaker 2: and people around you. You know, when you put something 29 00:01:41,480 --> 00:01:45,840 Speaker 2: on you like this is it game over story in 30 00:01:45,880 --> 00:01:48,800 Speaker 2: film at eleven. That's what a relationship should be like. 31 00:01:49,120 --> 00:01:51,080 Speaker 2: And if you're not feeling that now, it doesn't mean 32 00:01:51,160 --> 00:01:53,120 Speaker 2: that you're not gonna go through issues and work through things, 33 00:01:53,120 --> 00:01:55,680 Speaker 2: but like it has to be coming out of your pores. 34 00:01:55,720 --> 00:01:57,920 Speaker 2: How right a relationship is for you. You have to 35 00:01:58,080 --> 00:02:01,520 Speaker 2: know from the depths of your being if a relationship 36 00:02:01,600 --> 00:02:04,080 Speaker 2: is right for you, and if it's not, you cannot 37 00:02:04,120 --> 00:02:07,840 Speaker 2: stay because of fear your age, you're too old, you're 38 00:02:07,880 --> 00:02:10,000 Speaker 2: never gonna meet someone, or this person was so great, 39 00:02:10,080 --> 00:02:11,720 Speaker 2: or they treat you so well, or they're rich or 40 00:02:11,760 --> 00:02:13,960 Speaker 2: they're generous, or they're a doctor, or your parents like them, 41 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:16,359 Speaker 2: or your friends like them, or they fit in, or 42 00:02:16,600 --> 00:02:18,360 Speaker 2: your kids are still home and they're not off at 43 00:02:18,360 --> 00:02:20,600 Speaker 2: college yet, or you have a good friend group and 44 00:02:20,639 --> 00:02:22,359 Speaker 2: it's gonna break up. The friend group. All of these 45 00:02:22,360 --> 00:02:26,120 Speaker 2: things do not matter. Okay if you don't know, yes, 46 00:02:26,440 --> 00:02:29,920 Speaker 2: it's no, because this is the most important part of this. 47 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:34,080 Speaker 2: Once you jump, you fly, and then you find what 48 00:02:34,160 --> 00:02:36,480 Speaker 2: you really need. And if you are stuck in the 49 00:02:36,560 --> 00:02:38,440 Speaker 2: wrong thing, you're never gonna find the right thing, and 50 00:02:38,480 --> 00:02:40,400 Speaker 2: not until you find the right thing or you're gonna say, 51 00:02:40,720 --> 00:02:42,560 Speaker 2: oh my god, thank you so much for having the 52 00:02:42,560 --> 00:02:45,600 Speaker 2: courage to walk out of something that it's harder to 53 00:02:45,600 --> 00:02:46,720 Speaker 2: walk out of something that's like. 54 00:02:46,919 --> 00:02:48,680 Speaker 1: Very good because you're almost there. 55 00:02:49,800 --> 00:02:53,000 Speaker 2: But we are winners. We go all the way. We 56 00:02:53,080 --> 00:02:54,920 Speaker 2: take that ball into the end zone. We don't eat 57 00:02:54,960 --> 00:02:58,400 Speaker 2: average food mid we don't go on mid vacations. I'd 58 00:02:58,520 --> 00:03:01,560 Speaker 2: rather stay home go on a mid or shitty vacation. 59 00:03:01,680 --> 00:03:03,760 Speaker 2: I'd rather stay home than stay in a shitty room. 60 00:03:04,160 --> 00:03:06,120 Speaker 2: I don't want to go somewhere and feel grosser than 61 00:03:06,120 --> 00:03:08,160 Speaker 2: I do at home, Like I want to go somewhere 62 00:03:08,160 --> 00:03:09,920 Speaker 2: and be elevated. I don't want to eat out if 63 00:03:09,919 --> 00:03:11,240 Speaker 2: it's not gonna be better than but I could look 64 00:03:11,240 --> 00:03:12,760 Speaker 2: at home. I don't want that. I don't need to 65 00:03:12,760 --> 00:03:15,080 Speaker 2: go to a hip restaurant with shift food. Do it 66 00:03:15,240 --> 00:03:17,440 Speaker 2: or don't. That's part of what I was saying about 67 00:03:17,440 --> 00:03:20,000 Speaker 2: my Halloween costume. You know, like do it or don't 68 00:03:20,040 --> 00:03:22,280 Speaker 2: you going to Halloween. Let's go to the Hidi Gloon party. 69 00:03:22,360 --> 00:03:24,560 Speaker 2: Let's do it, Let's get dressed, let's turn it out, 70 00:03:25,000 --> 00:03:27,720 Speaker 2: let's have fun, and let's go home. Like that's it. 71 00:03:27,840 --> 00:03:29,880 Speaker 2: I don't want to do medium. I don't want mediocre. 72 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:33,600 Speaker 2: I don't want mid in any category. Not food, not sex, 73 00:03:33,720 --> 00:03:38,800 Speaker 2: not man, not woman, not friend, not job, not travel, 74 00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:43,840 Speaker 2: not experience, not staff, not team around you. We do 75 00:03:43,960 --> 00:03:47,920 Speaker 2: all stars, we do Hall of Fame. We're not like 76 00:03:48,040 --> 00:03:50,280 Speaker 2: that tipsy demere trend. It's like we're not like the 77 00:03:50,320 --> 00:03:53,640 Speaker 2: other girlies. We don't do average. We don't do mid. 78 00:03:54,120 --> 00:03:57,240 Speaker 1: We do elite. We do do it or don't and 79 00:03:57,400 --> 00:03:59,080 Speaker 1: do it well or don't do it at all. 80 00:03:59,360 --> 00:04:05,840 Speaker 2: So that's something that I think is really important in relationships. 81 00:04:17,440 --> 00:04:20,320 Speaker 2: I think we tend to self sabotage in relationships when 82 00:04:20,400 --> 00:04:22,640 Speaker 2: we're really happier, when it's going really well, when we 83 00:04:22,680 --> 00:04:25,320 Speaker 2: get scared. If you ever started dating someone and you 84 00:04:25,400 --> 00:04:27,240 Speaker 2: like them so much that you have anxiety because you 85 00:04:27,400 --> 00:04:31,240 Speaker 2: like over your skis and you're like having anxiety, you're sabotaging. 86 00:04:31,600 --> 00:04:33,240 Speaker 2: That is a dangerous place to be, and that's a 87 00:04:33,279 --> 00:04:36,239 Speaker 2: place when you have to calm down. Take several deep breaths. 88 00:04:36,480 --> 00:04:39,600 Speaker 2: Do not text anything, Do not email anything. Write an 89 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:42,400 Speaker 2: email to yourself or to the person and put it 90 00:04:42,440 --> 00:04:44,240 Speaker 2: in drafts and just save it. 91 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 1: Do not send. You need to wait six hours before. 92 00:04:48,000 --> 00:04:52,680 Speaker 2: Sending because we tend to get anxiety and want to 93 00:04:52,680 --> 00:04:55,800 Speaker 2: blow things up because they're too good. Especially if you 94 00:04:55,800 --> 00:04:58,599 Speaker 2: grow up in a fucked up house, especially if you're 95 00:04:58,720 --> 00:05:01,599 Speaker 2: used to chaos is your norm, it's going to be 96 00:05:01,800 --> 00:05:04,800 Speaker 2: very hard for you to have peace and be happy. 97 00:05:05,320 --> 00:05:08,919 Speaker 2: There also will be situations where you are incapable of 98 00:05:08,920 --> 00:05:12,400 Speaker 2: being loved. You are not porous, you are not open, 99 00:05:13,040 --> 00:05:16,400 Speaker 2: you're not available, and that's a hard thing to access. 100 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:19,160 Speaker 2: And also trust yourself, because if you're not open and 101 00:05:19,680 --> 00:05:22,640 Speaker 2: porous and accessible, it may be because you're with the 102 00:05:22,680 --> 00:05:25,600 Speaker 2: wrong person. With the right person, you will want to 103 00:05:25,760 --> 00:05:28,000 Speaker 2: open up with the right person. You will want to 104 00:05:28,080 --> 00:05:30,320 Speaker 2: check yourself because you will want to do the work 105 00:05:30,720 --> 00:05:33,960 Speaker 2: because it's so worth it, because the stakes are so high. 106 00:05:34,279 --> 00:05:36,640 Speaker 2: Like if you meet someone that's incredible and you know 107 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:39,120 Speaker 2: they are so well matched to you and you are 108 00:05:39,160 --> 00:05:42,200 Speaker 2: so compatible, that's when you really have to pull your 109 00:05:42,200 --> 00:05:44,120 Speaker 2: shit together, and that's when you have to check yourself. 110 00:05:44,360 --> 00:05:46,600 Speaker 2: And that's like when you're going to the Olympics, you're 111 00:05:46,640 --> 00:05:50,560 Speaker 2: preparing for the big race, you're preparing for you know, 112 00:05:50,640 --> 00:05:53,960 Speaker 2: your college entry exams or whatever. The most important thing 113 00:05:54,040 --> 00:05:56,600 Speaker 2: is you are not fucking around. You're not making mistakes. 114 00:05:56,760 --> 00:05:59,760 Speaker 2: You're not you know, getting drunk and doing drunk dialing 115 00:05:59,880 --> 00:06:04,120 Speaker 2: or just like you know, self destructing and doing stupid 116 00:06:04,160 --> 00:06:06,240 Speaker 2: things and saying things. You're gonna check yourself before you 117 00:06:06,240 --> 00:06:09,320 Speaker 2: wreck yourself. When you see that something is really good 118 00:06:09,360 --> 00:06:12,520 Speaker 2: for you and could really like change your life, you're 119 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:16,960 Speaker 2: not going to fuck it up. You are going to collect, 120 00:06:17,440 --> 00:06:22,000 Speaker 2: get organized, be intentional, and do the work. So if 121 00:06:22,040 --> 00:06:24,920 Speaker 2: something usually when something's really good and people are really 122 00:06:24,960 --> 00:06:27,560 Speaker 2: connected and everything's great, that's when they wouldn't do therapy. 123 00:06:27,600 --> 00:06:29,160 Speaker 1: That's when they think they've got it going good. 124 00:06:29,440 --> 00:06:32,400 Speaker 2: But everything has the new car smell and little cracks 125 00:06:32,400 --> 00:06:35,599 Speaker 2: become craters. And when the car has the new car smell, 126 00:06:35,960 --> 00:06:37,640 Speaker 2: that's when you start doing the work. That's when you 127 00:06:37,640 --> 00:06:39,760 Speaker 2: get the self help book. That's when you talk to 128 00:06:39,760 --> 00:06:42,120 Speaker 2: your partner about self help. That's when you check in 129 00:06:42,160 --> 00:06:45,280 Speaker 2: with your partner that's when you do therapy on yourself 130 00:06:45,320 --> 00:06:49,360 Speaker 2: and eventually hopefully with them. I am not above if 131 00:06:49,360 --> 00:06:52,840 Speaker 2: I'm really into someone. I'm not above early on, if 132 00:06:52,839 --> 00:06:56,280 Speaker 2: they're in the same page, once every couple of months 133 00:06:56,320 --> 00:06:58,680 Speaker 2: talking to a therapist or once a month, because you 134 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:01,200 Speaker 2: want to lock the door before you get robbed. And 135 00:07:01,240 --> 00:07:04,040 Speaker 2: there could be different dynamics. If you're an adult and 136 00:07:04,080 --> 00:07:06,480 Speaker 2: you have kids and you're blending, that would be a 137 00:07:06,520 --> 00:07:09,359 Speaker 2: situation where you might want to get a professional involved, okay, 138 00:07:09,400 --> 00:07:13,160 Speaker 2: because that's something that takes you know, finessing, and you 139 00:07:13,200 --> 00:07:15,320 Speaker 2: don't want to do damage in the beginning that you 140 00:07:15,360 --> 00:07:18,560 Speaker 2: can undo. Or if you're in a long distance relationship, 141 00:07:18,640 --> 00:07:21,080 Speaker 2: let's say, and there's certain you get in your head 142 00:07:21,120 --> 00:07:23,600 Speaker 2: and there's a certain you know, there are certain tools and. 143 00:07:23,600 --> 00:07:25,160 Speaker 1: A skill set you need to navigate. 144 00:07:25,480 --> 00:07:28,800 Speaker 2: That's a time when you would be proactive and intentional. 145 00:07:29,440 --> 00:07:33,480 Speaker 2: So I think it's important to make an effort and 146 00:07:33,520 --> 00:07:35,920 Speaker 2: be intentional when the stakes are high, and you know 147 00:07:35,960 --> 00:07:39,120 Speaker 2: when they're high, when you're like, wow, this could really 148 00:07:39,160 --> 00:07:42,520 Speaker 2: be it. And I know myself and I know my tendencies, 149 00:07:42,520 --> 00:07:44,680 Speaker 2: and I know my habits and I know my ways, 150 00:07:45,160 --> 00:07:47,880 Speaker 2: and I know that history repeats itself, and I know 151 00:07:47,920 --> 00:07:51,960 Speaker 2: that I start to get anxious attachment to someone. I 152 00:07:52,160 --> 00:07:54,760 Speaker 2: start to get anxiety. I start to get in my head. 153 00:07:54,800 --> 00:07:57,760 Speaker 2: I make up scenarios, I start to obsess, I start 154 00:07:57,800 --> 00:08:00,760 Speaker 2: to fixate. I start to get overly knee, I start 155 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:03,440 Speaker 2: to get overly distant. I start to want to make 156 00:08:03,440 --> 00:08:06,120 Speaker 2: the other person jealous. I start to like when they're jealous. 157 00:08:06,160 --> 00:08:09,520 Speaker 2: I start to be jealous. Whatever your noise is, you 158 00:08:09,560 --> 00:08:11,440 Speaker 2: have it, and you keep doing it over and over. 159 00:08:11,520 --> 00:08:13,800 Speaker 2: And when you first get in the relationship, you don't 160 00:08:13,840 --> 00:08:15,320 Speaker 2: think you're going to do it over and over because 161 00:08:15,360 --> 00:08:17,240 Speaker 2: it's got the new car smell. And then all of 162 00:08:17,280 --> 00:08:20,200 Speaker 2: a sudden, one day you hit a brick wall and 163 00:08:20,240 --> 00:08:23,080 Speaker 2: you go back to your ways, and you convince yourself, 164 00:08:23,080 --> 00:08:24,960 Speaker 2: and you call your friends and your crowdsource because you 165 00:08:24,960 --> 00:08:28,560 Speaker 2: want all your friends to validate and reinforce what you're saying, 166 00:08:29,000 --> 00:08:32,040 Speaker 2: which is a terrible idea. Do not go taking advice 167 00:08:32,040 --> 00:08:36,040 Speaker 2: from your friends. Take advice from professionals. Or you could 168 00:08:36,080 --> 00:08:38,720 Speaker 2: have a certain friend or a colleague or someone that 169 00:08:38,760 --> 00:08:42,600 Speaker 2: you already know has excellent judgment. Doesn't always tell you 170 00:08:42,600 --> 00:08:44,480 Speaker 2: what you want to hear is going to tell you 171 00:08:44,559 --> 00:08:47,320 Speaker 2: the unpopular thing is going to be like your local 172 00:08:47,360 --> 00:08:50,760 Speaker 2: affordable therapist. That's a different model, but it's not your 173 00:08:50,760 --> 00:08:52,320 Speaker 2: friend that every day you just call it a complaint 174 00:08:52,320 --> 00:08:55,480 Speaker 2: and they validate everything you say, and they don't. They 175 00:08:55,520 --> 00:08:56,920 Speaker 2: just want to make you feel good, or they just 176 00:08:56,920 --> 00:08:59,959 Speaker 2: like are someone that allows you to hear yourself talk, 177 00:09:00,480 --> 00:09:04,240 Speaker 2: don't do that. There's a lot to navigate, and as 178 00:09:04,240 --> 00:09:11,559 Speaker 2: we get older, there are so many dynamics. 179 00:09:20,559 --> 00:09:21,679 Speaker 1: So I have a dating. 180 00:09:21,400 --> 00:09:24,080 Speaker 2: Theory and a relation to theory and a marriage theory, 181 00:09:24,080 --> 00:09:27,080 Speaker 2: and it might help frame things. I think that in partnerships, 182 00:09:27,360 --> 00:09:30,120 Speaker 2: one partner is a rescue dog. Well, no, that's not true. 183 00:09:30,200 --> 00:09:32,160 Speaker 2: You can have two rescue dogs together, you can have 184 00:09:32,160 --> 00:09:35,280 Speaker 2: two breeder dogs together. But I think that people are 185 00:09:35,320 --> 00:09:37,720 Speaker 2: either a breeder dog or a rescue dog. You either 186 00:09:38,040 --> 00:09:40,920 Speaker 2: grew up in the Drew Barrymore School of parenting, which 187 00:09:40,960 --> 00:09:43,160 Speaker 2: is an extreme, don't get me wrong. And I grew 188 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:45,360 Speaker 2: up I went to the Drew Barrymore School of Childhood, 189 00:09:45,760 --> 00:09:48,040 Speaker 2: and or you were like in a family that was together. 190 00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:50,480 Speaker 2: And of course every family has its issues. But like 191 00:09:50,559 --> 00:09:54,440 Speaker 2: you have a safe secure attachment program, you believe that 192 00:09:54,440 --> 00:09:57,359 Speaker 2: people can have a good relationship you've witnessed good relationships, 193 00:09:57,760 --> 00:10:01,840 Speaker 2: you have some foundation, you are not a mess, and 194 00:10:01,880 --> 00:10:06,400 Speaker 2: you don't like you've seen normal constructs that other people 195 00:10:06,720 --> 00:10:09,400 Speaker 2: have never even witnessed, like for me, seeing like a 196 00:10:09,440 --> 00:10:14,600 Speaker 2: normal relationship in a family environment, a stable relationship, non drama, 197 00:10:14,800 --> 00:10:21,040 Speaker 2: non drugs, non abuse, non alcohol, non psychological abuse, non gambling, 198 00:10:21,280 --> 00:10:25,760 Speaker 2: you know, non underage going to night clubs like just 199 00:10:25,920 --> 00:10:29,040 Speaker 2: I've seen action. I've seen just debauchery. And so for me, 200 00:10:29,800 --> 00:10:32,880 Speaker 2: chaos was the norm. Action was the norm. So being 201 00:10:32,880 --> 00:10:35,600 Speaker 2: in something stable and peaceful, or seeing someone or being 202 00:10:35,600 --> 00:10:38,520 Speaker 2: with someone who's normal and stable and peaceful is strange. 203 00:10:38,559 --> 00:10:43,520 Speaker 2: It's an alien concept. It's like putting something strange into 204 00:10:43,559 --> 00:10:47,400 Speaker 2: your bloodstream that it doesn't that it rejects. So I'm 205 00:10:47,440 --> 00:10:50,040 Speaker 2: like a rescue dog because someone could do something that 206 00:10:50,080 --> 00:10:52,360 Speaker 2: would be normal, and I would see it as a 207 00:10:52,360 --> 00:10:54,920 Speaker 2: fight or flight. I would see it as trauma. Someone 208 00:10:54,920 --> 00:10:56,679 Speaker 2: could not text you back for thirty minutes, and I 209 00:10:56,760 --> 00:10:58,920 Speaker 2: could think the world's coming to an end, where someone 210 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:01,920 Speaker 2: else would have a normal rational thought that like someone 211 00:11:01,960 --> 00:11:04,720 Speaker 2: might be in, you know, in an appointment, and that's 212 00:11:04,760 --> 00:11:07,120 Speaker 2: just a dumb example. But breeder dogs walk in with 213 00:11:07,240 --> 00:11:12,560 Speaker 2: secure attachment history. They've seen good relationships. They know that 214 00:11:12,600 --> 00:11:15,040 Speaker 2: it's possible. It's not like an island that they see 215 00:11:15,040 --> 00:11:17,120 Speaker 2: that they have no idea how to swim to. They 216 00:11:17,160 --> 00:11:19,080 Speaker 2: have faith in the process. They think they could be 217 00:11:19,080 --> 00:11:21,440 Speaker 2: in love. They know how to treat someone nicely. They 218 00:11:21,520 --> 00:11:24,160 Speaker 2: don't need for there to be action and drama and 219 00:11:24,200 --> 00:11:28,840 Speaker 2: a problem all the time. They aren't deeply anxiety ridden 220 00:11:28,840 --> 00:11:30,240 Speaker 2: in insecure. They could be insecure. 221 00:11:30,280 --> 00:11:30,719 Speaker 1: They could be. 222 00:11:30,679 --> 00:11:33,520 Speaker 2: Jealous, but they might not have the same issues and noise. 223 00:11:34,040 --> 00:11:36,439 Speaker 2: And the thing is, if someone identifies what they are 224 00:11:36,520 --> 00:11:38,200 Speaker 2: and shares it with the other person, it can help 225 00:11:38,200 --> 00:11:41,160 Speaker 2: in the relationship because you know when someone's doing something 226 00:11:41,200 --> 00:11:43,400 Speaker 2: it has nothing to do with you. If a breeder 227 00:11:43,440 --> 00:11:46,320 Speaker 2: dog starts shaking, like I have a special needs dog, smalls, 228 00:11:46,559 --> 00:11:49,320 Speaker 2: he shakes for no reason. He's a rescue His mom 229 00:11:49,360 --> 00:11:51,680 Speaker 2: is going to be euthanized. He shakes for no reason. 230 00:11:51,720 --> 00:11:54,440 Speaker 2: He's a disaster. He's a mess. He has five nervous 231 00:11:54,440 --> 00:11:57,200 Speaker 2: breakdowns a day. He's scared of water, his own shadow. 232 00:11:57,280 --> 00:11:59,240 Speaker 2: He'll have two nervous breakdowns a day to start shaking 233 00:11:59,280 --> 00:12:03,440 Speaker 2: and panicking. No things happened, Like he's a fucking wreck. Okay, 234 00:12:03,720 --> 00:12:05,960 Speaker 2: Biggie is just like super well adjusted. I could bring 235 00:12:06,040 --> 00:12:08,559 Speaker 2: him on a plane. Small's tongue comes out like one 236 00:12:08,559 --> 00:12:10,480 Speaker 2: of those frogs that has like that tongue that comes 237 00:12:10,520 --> 00:12:13,640 Speaker 2: out to like get flies. I'm, you know, not a mess, 238 00:12:13,679 --> 00:12:17,400 Speaker 2: but like normal. I tell people I'm a squirrel. I 239 00:12:17,440 --> 00:12:19,319 Speaker 2: don't trust. So you come near me and maybe I'll 240 00:12:19,320 --> 00:12:20,520 Speaker 2: come with you to get like some of the food. 241 00:12:20,559 --> 00:12:22,120 Speaker 2: But you make a little weird move. I'm running up 242 00:12:22,120 --> 00:12:25,160 Speaker 2: that fucking tree. So like I'm like a rescue dog. 243 00:12:25,160 --> 00:12:27,679 Speaker 2: You cannot explain why a rescue dog you come near 244 00:12:27,720 --> 00:12:29,559 Speaker 2: them and they shake and they run away, or whether 245 00:12:29,559 --> 00:12:30,840 Speaker 2: they won't let you put a leash on, or whe 246 00:12:30,840 --> 00:12:32,200 Speaker 2: they won't let you give him a bath, or some 247 00:12:32,240 --> 00:12:34,280 Speaker 2: weird thing triggers them, like a treat or something. 248 00:12:34,520 --> 00:12:35,079 Speaker 1: You don't know. 249 00:12:35,120 --> 00:12:38,080 Speaker 2: They're a rescue dog. They've been fucked up. They have 250 00:12:38,120 --> 00:12:40,880 Speaker 2: a fucked up child, a a fucked up past. Someone 251 00:12:40,920 --> 00:12:44,480 Speaker 2: abused them. Someone asks who hurt you? I'm like, where 252 00:12:44,480 --> 00:12:44,840 Speaker 2: do you want? 253 00:12:45,320 --> 00:12:46,960 Speaker 1: Where do I sign up for? Telling you? You want 254 00:12:47,000 --> 00:12:49,240 Speaker 1: the list who hurt me? Who didn't hurt me. 255 00:12:50,559 --> 00:12:52,040 Speaker 2: I've seen my mother got the shit beaten out of 256 00:12:52,080 --> 00:12:54,520 Speaker 2: her with a phone. I've seen people do drugs. I've 257 00:12:54,520 --> 00:12:56,440 Speaker 2: had my mother get beaten up and then heard sex 258 00:12:56,440 --> 00:12:57,320 Speaker 2: fifteen minutes later. 259 00:12:57,679 --> 00:12:58,320 Speaker 1: Crazy shit. 260 00:12:58,400 --> 00:13:00,880 Speaker 2: I've been to nightclub since I was thirteen years doing drugs, 261 00:13:00,880 --> 00:13:03,160 Speaker 2: doing everything that's wrong, everything that your kid is not 262 00:13:03,160 --> 00:13:05,400 Speaker 2: supposed to be doing. Taking the train into New York 263 00:13:05,400 --> 00:13:09,520 Speaker 2: City at fourteen years old, getting myself to fourteenth Streets, 264 00:13:09,520 --> 00:13:12,200 Speaker 2: to the Palladium, to area, to the tunnel to save 265 00:13:12,240 --> 00:13:12,760 Speaker 2: the robot. 266 00:13:13,000 --> 00:13:15,240 Speaker 1: Like, none of this is normal. I have a. 267 00:13:15,160 --> 00:13:17,840 Speaker 2: Fourteen year old in my house, Like what, So the 268 00:13:17,920 --> 00:13:21,199 Speaker 2: thing is, I'm a fucking rescue dog. So to communicate 269 00:13:21,240 --> 00:13:23,280 Speaker 2: with a partner. If I'm in a relationship with a 270 00:13:23,320 --> 00:13:25,520 Speaker 2: breeder dog, I have to let the breeder dog know 271 00:13:26,200 --> 00:13:29,960 Speaker 2: I don't act like a normal person. So understand that 272 00:13:30,640 --> 00:13:32,800 Speaker 2: one of us is going to have to be sane. 273 00:13:33,040 --> 00:13:34,840 Speaker 2: One of us has to be the rock. I'm not 274 00:13:34,960 --> 00:13:39,319 Speaker 2: the rock. I'm the fucking peacock. I'm the star. I'm entertaining, 275 00:13:39,400 --> 00:13:42,040 Speaker 2: I'm hilarious, I'm loyal, I'll be good to you, I'll 276 00:13:42,080 --> 00:13:44,400 Speaker 2: do everything for you. I am the most fun person 277 00:13:44,400 --> 00:13:46,880 Speaker 2: you've ever met. No two days will ever be the same. 278 00:13:47,200 --> 00:13:50,240 Speaker 2: You will have a life of laughter and excitement, and 279 00:13:50,400 --> 00:13:54,000 Speaker 2: adventure and joy and fucking ride or die, and loyalty 280 00:13:54,040 --> 00:13:56,320 Speaker 2: and hard work, and you will learn things you never learn. 281 00:13:56,600 --> 00:13:58,079 Speaker 2: No one's ever been more efficient. 282 00:13:58,720 --> 00:13:59,120 Speaker 1: I don't. 283 00:13:59,160 --> 00:14:02,160 Speaker 2: No one's ever been or like. I am highly functional, 284 00:14:02,559 --> 00:14:05,240 Speaker 2: I am super organized. I can get ten things done 285 00:14:05,280 --> 00:14:08,800 Speaker 2: to your one. I will always be ahead of you, smarter, faster, quicker. 286 00:14:09,160 --> 00:14:11,960 Speaker 2: But I'm a fucking disaster. So you need to know 287 00:14:12,040 --> 00:14:15,360 Speaker 2: that you're gonna have to be the rational saying rock here. 288 00:14:15,760 --> 00:14:17,760 Speaker 2: So do you want that job or don't you? And 289 00:14:17,920 --> 00:14:20,680 Speaker 2: also you have to be interesting, because you can't be 290 00:14:20,720 --> 00:14:23,360 Speaker 2: a fucking boring doormat. That's gonna be the rock. You 291 00:14:23,400 --> 00:14:27,360 Speaker 2: have to be fun and ready to go. So know 292 00:14:27,480 --> 00:14:30,320 Speaker 2: if you're the rescue dog or the breeder dog, communicate 293 00:14:30,360 --> 00:14:33,000 Speaker 2: about it. And two rescue dogs can be together, and 294 00:14:33,040 --> 00:14:35,120 Speaker 2: a rescue dog and a breeder dog can be together. 295 00:14:35,160 --> 00:14:38,960 Speaker 2: But you just have to communicate. It's an important thing. 296 00:14:39,000 --> 00:14:41,840 Speaker 2: And you know who you are. Maybe you're right down 297 00:14:41,840 --> 00:14:43,800 Speaker 2: the middle, Maybe you're a part maybe you're a mixed breed, 298 00:14:43,800 --> 00:14:45,880 Speaker 2: you're part rescue, part reader. I don't think you can 299 00:14:45,920 --> 00:14:48,320 Speaker 2: be part breader, part rescue. But I once did get 300 00:14:48,320 --> 00:14:52,600 Speaker 2: a dog from It was like a rescue dog, but 301 00:14:52,640 --> 00:14:55,360 Speaker 2: I got it from like a rescue dog store, so 302 00:14:55,520 --> 00:14:58,360 Speaker 2: it was like safe, but it wasn't a purebred, so 303 00:14:58,600 --> 00:15:20,520 Speaker 2: you decide for yourself. You are welcome, have a great day.