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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is the Strawberry

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Speaker 1: Letters one all right. Subject my girl is wild and Free.

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Speaker 1: I knew the guys would like the title of that letter. Yes,

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, Huh, I'm a thirty one year old

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Speaker 1: man and I met a really dope woman at a

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Speaker 1: house party. She's thirty years old, no kids, with a

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Speaker 1: good job and her own house. I started vibing with

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Speaker 1: her at the party, so I asked her out. Two

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Speaker 1: days later, she picked me up for our date and

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Speaker 1: on the counter, whispered a few words in my ear,

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Speaker 1: and I almost lost my mind. After a few rounds

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Speaker 1: of amazing sex. After a few rounds of amazing sex,

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Speaker 1: we set up talking until five am. She told me

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Speaker 1: broke her heart by cheating on her, so she wasn't

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Speaker 1: ready for a serious relationship yet. She told me as

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Speaker 1: soon as she saw me at the party, she knew

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Speaker 1: she wanted to do me. I love her honesty and

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Speaker 1: free spirit. We've been hanging out and having sex all summer,

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Speaker 1: and I'm falling for her. We decided to drive over

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Speaker 1: to the beach last weekend and I got an AIRBNBA.

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Speaker 1: I invited three of my college friends that live in

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Speaker 1: catch up and have a few drinks. My girl got

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Speaker 1: along with everyone and the conversation was flowing and the

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Speaker 1: then a little lap dance on one of my boys.

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Speaker 1: I was so embarrassed because I didn't explain what kind

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Speaker 1: of relationship I had with this girl. She gave my

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Speaker 1: on IG. I felt like a fool as she did

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Speaker 1: this in my face. I was quiet the rest of

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Speaker 1: the weekend, but we still managed to have a lot

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Speaker 1: of great sex. As we drove home Sunday, she brought

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Speaker 1: up the incident and told me to stop pouting because

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Speaker 1: she's developing feelings for me. I feel like it's all

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Speaker 1: a game to her. Is it possible to keep having

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Speaker 1: sex without catching feelings? Well, yes it is. I mean

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Speaker 1: everything's possible. But usually this scenario right here that you

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Speaker 1: think that they can do this and get away with it.

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Speaker 1: But the women oftentimes end up wanting more. They're the

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Speaker 1: ones that fall in love with the guys. That's usually

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Speaker 1: how this turned out, not the other way around, not

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Speaker 1: the man. Of course, there is an exception to every rule, though,

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Speaker 1: right and you, sir, are what we call sprung right now, Okay,

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Speaker 1: you can't possibly be falling for this woman though. I mean,

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Speaker 1: she told you upfront that she wasn't ready for a

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Speaker 1: serious relationship. She also told you that she wanted to

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Speaker 1: do you as soon as she saw you at the party.

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Speaker 1: She gave one of your boys a lap dance right

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Speaker 1: in front of you. Okay, you said you felt like

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Speaker 1: a fool. This made you feel like a fool. What

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Speaker 1: understand you can't fall for her right now? Okay? She

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Speaker 1: doesn't want that. She's all over the place. I mean,

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Speaker 1: able to trust her with your boys? All that? This

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Speaker 1: is what's gonna be on your mind. This woman is doing,

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Speaker 1: like I said, what a man normally does, and she's

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Speaker 1: not ready. You're gonna get hurt and her badly. She

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Speaker 1: was hurt and she's trying in her own way to

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Speaker 1: She just wants to do you, okay. Usually guys would

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Speaker 1: be like, yes, this is what I want. Yes, no commitment.

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Speaker 1: So you need to slow down if you can, and

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Speaker 1: realize that if you want her, you gotta, you know,

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Speaker 1: get with her in her time. Are you gonna get

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Speaker 1: your heartbroken? But you gotta ask yourself, is this really

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Speaker 1: what you want? Because she's showing you who she is.

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Speaker 1: Now listen to what she's saying and watch what she's doing.

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Speaker 1: Sir Jay, why this is a crazy, crazy letter man?

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Speaker 1: He met this girl at a party. They was eyeing

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Speaker 1: each other. She invited. He invites her over to the house.

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Speaker 1: She goes to the bathroom, she says, come in here.

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Speaker 1: She's probably bud a naked. They do it in the bathroom.

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Speaker 1: She says, I'm a freak. What you have met, sir,

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Speaker 1: what you have met is an honest freak. You met

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Speaker 1: up front, what she likes to do. Why are you

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Speaker 1: writing us? I mean, why you know this thing? These

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Speaker 1: these strawberry letters are for people who have problems. I'm

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Speaker 1: listening to this letter, and where's your problem? She's a freak,

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Speaker 1: honest freak. She told you she likes to freak. She

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Speaker 1: told you to get about your feelings. Why are you

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Speaker 1: acting like that? I'm halfway laking you. Where's Where's a problem?

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Speaker 1: To help me with the problem? If I saw a problem,

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Speaker 1: I can help you if I consider this letter. I

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Speaker 1: went over this. I've listened to Shirley. I've read the

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Speaker 1: letter over and over, and in this letter, there are

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Speaker 1: no damn problems. Why are you writing us with this?

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Speaker 1: Don't waste our time? If you don't have a problem,

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Speaker 1: go ahead you. I mean, this is stupid. Really, who won't?

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Speaker 1: What do you want come through? I got nothing necessary

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Speaker 1: to this. I'm done. I'm just good. I knew what

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Speaker 1: you think. I'm going to say yeah, what I say,

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Speaker 1: I don't see, I don't know. I knew you guys

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Speaker 1: are gonna be with me. I'm gonna tell you one

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Speaker 1: more thing. We would come back, but I don't know.

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Speaker 1: All right, hang on, ladies and gentlemen, we'll have heard

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Speaker 1: two of the Strawberry Letter. Coming up at twenty three

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Speaker 1: minutes after the hour, the subject my girl is wild

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Speaker 1: and Free. And the guys seemed to love it. We'll

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Speaker 1: get back into it right after this. You're listening to

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Speaker 1: morning show. All right, we're gonna recap today's Strawberry Letter,

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Speaker 1: the subject my girl is Wild and Free. A thirty

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Speaker 1: one year old man wrote this letter. He met what

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Speaker 1: he calls a really dope woman at a house party.

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Speaker 1: Two days after he met her, she picked him up

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Speaker 1: for the date. She was in the bathroom, left the

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Speaker 1: and they had the most amazing sex imaginable two days later,

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Speaker 1: first date. She said she wasn't ready for a serious relationship,

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Speaker 1: but he's falling. He's falling. He says he loves her

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Speaker 1: honesty and free spirit, but he's falling for her. She's

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Speaker 1: not ready for a serious relationship. She already told him

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Speaker 1: that her ex broke her heart by cheating on her,

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Speaker 1: So she's just wilding right now and free. She got

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Speaker 1: tipsy the other weekend, started twerking in this airbnb he

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Speaker 1: a fool, he said. She did this in his face.

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Speaker 1: You know. She brought up the incident and told him

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Speaker 1: to stop pouting because she's starting to develop feelings for him.

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Speaker 1: But he says he feels like it's all a game

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Speaker 1: to her, and is it possible he wants to know

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Speaker 1: to keep having sex without catching feelings. I said, normally

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Speaker 1: that's what men do, have sex without catching feelings. Usually

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Speaker 1: it's the women who do catch feelings, no matter how

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Speaker 1: they started out. But this one's a little different. She's

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Speaker 1: taken on more of the guy roll here. Uh, And

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Speaker 1: Jay is saying, what is the problem. She's a freak? Uh.

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Speaker 1: You know that's what guys like. They don't want to

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Speaker 1: commit a lot of them. So what is the problem,

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Speaker 1: Junior Finisher responds to your kind of in agreement with Jay?

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Speaker 1: Here what me and Jay thought the same thing? What

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Speaker 1: do you want us to tell you, young man, don't

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Speaker 1: it don't matter? Yeah, okay, fine, she a freak. Let's

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Speaker 1: roll with it. Fall you want to fall, I'm falling up,

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Speaker 1: fall fall. Blush your face with Huck. HiT's a country

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Speaker 1: with her. Blush your face with huck. This girl here,

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Speaker 1: what man? Don't want it? Okay, this is what I

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Speaker 1: knew you. You really didn't understand what you had. She

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Speaker 1: thirty years old, no kids, what a good job, and

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Speaker 1: her old damn? What freak? You want this? The best

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Speaker 1: freak you can' hell? She got no kids, she got

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Speaker 1: an old house and a good job. You got this?

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Speaker 1: This this upper level freaking jack. No, no, it's upper

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Speaker 1: level freaking. I've been with some freaks. They had none

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Speaker 1: of the head kids, they had no house. Different. You

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Speaker 1: gotta go to the freak house and her mama looking

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Speaker 1: at you. It's not the same. Can't be freaking till

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Speaker 1: mamma go to sleep. We can't be freaking till we

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Speaker 1: gotta wait for her. Mama gonna be And she got

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Speaker 1: this kid on my lap. I'm rocking the baby on

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Speaker 1: the lab. So you got everything? Would you want me?

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Speaker 1: And Jay till you shut up and fall? Just fall

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Speaker 1: bus your fav fall. Come on, you have been having

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Speaker 1: a summer booty bash. That's what you've been having. This

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Speaker 1: is a summer booted bash, and you have everything at

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Speaker 1: whatever you want. So let me just tell you since

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Speaker 1: since I can't do it, you know, let me live

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Speaker 1: through you. Okay. So I got some things I want

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Speaker 1: you to do for me, all right, because that's some

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Speaker 1: places you ain't y'all ain't even got started again. We

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Speaker 1: got some places we got to go. Boy, we got

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Speaker 1: we got to bring a few friends in. We got

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Speaker 1: ten twelve people. There are things I can't do, but

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Speaker 1: about this. I'm about catch your flight. Catch your flight,

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Speaker 1: and while y'all in the alt get in that get

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Speaker 1: in that little tiny bathroom in the plane. That's what

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Speaker 1: do that, Do that for me. Okay, set a camera up,

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Speaker 1: Set a camera up. When y'all had a party, all right,

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Speaker 1: throw a party that's four five six out, nice good,

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Speaker 1: But everybody but knife apart, all right, and then when

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Speaker 1: living through you. Okay, this is you and I. This

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Speaker 1: is something that we're committing on. I'm gonna keep my

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Speaker 1: commitment with you even if she all right, I commitment okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, Me and You're gonna ride this album. I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna get by the fact. I've always wanted to do

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Speaker 1: it on the fire truck, okay, like that, sneak down

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Speaker 1: him when the sirens going and everybody see right there,

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Speaker 1: going on. That's what I'm talking. It's stuff like that

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Speaker 1: that I never got to live. Okay, damn, you're living

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Speaker 1: through him. I'm living him of what they call it,

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Speaker 1: very crossly anyway, very closely, very close. Okay. They's some

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Speaker 1: other places. Yeah, we got to do with it, all right,

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Speaker 1: me like like like me and Junior like sigarf ball

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Speaker 1: cigall right in there. I imagine it all the time,

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Speaker 1: but I can't ever do it. Okay, all right, now,

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Speaker 1: how about this go down, Go down to uh the

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Speaker 1: convenience store and go in the freezer and shut the freezer.

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Speaker 1: have a problem time and knows what he wants. Yes,

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Speaker 1: get the gym, get the gymnasium at the high school.

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