Speaker 1: We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion who
Speaker 1: talks back. Welcome back, everybody. Hey, y'all, it's me Tam
Speaker 1: Bawn and this is a J and this is episode four. Yep,
Speaker 1: have we talk back, bitches. I missed y'all so much. Ay, J,
Speaker 1: How was your weekend? Girl? My weekend was okay. I
Speaker 1: don't do much and nothing, just getting ready for vacation.
Speaker 1: Oh is it a Valentine's State Trump slash and babe
Speaker 1: birthday on the slash vacation slash fucking a Queries birthday. Oh,
Speaker 1: that's gonna be nice. I'm jealous. Well, I'm gonna have
Speaker 1: a fun feel weekend too. Guess what I'm gonna do
Speaker 1: what you're doing On Sunday. I'm going to watch a
Speaker 1: Snap marathon and then I'm gonna drink wine and cry.
Speaker 1: And then when all the wine is on, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: go nigga knocking twelve years old. I'll be thir why
Speaker 1: are you nigga knocking on Valentine's Day? Because I'm a hater, okay,
Speaker 1: And it just gives me like an a drenaline rush,
Speaker 1: so it's kind of fun. I'll be drunk and I'll
Speaker 1: just listen at someone's door now, just in my community,
Speaker 1: so I know it's like pretty safe. I'm not going, like,
Speaker 1: you know, anywhere outside of my immediate community. What if
Speaker 1: you fall, that's gonna be even more funny, bitch if
Speaker 1: I fall, But I'm gonna listen to that during If
Speaker 1: it sounds like something that is happening or like they're
Speaker 1: having a good, loving night, I'm gonna be like and
Speaker 1: then I'm gonna run as fast as I can't. That
Speaker 1: shouldn't be so much fun, bro, that's the way. How
Speaker 1: many years in the row even doing this um ship,
Speaker 1: This will be my fifth year, bitch. You need to
Speaker 1: get your ass it started. Let me tell you how
Speaker 1: I started. I lived over off of South Boulevard back
Speaker 1: then when I first moved to Charlotte, after I left
Speaker 1: the nigga I was with, and it was the first
Speaker 1: Valentine's Day alone and there was like playing some old
Speaker 1: Tai reason Joe downstairs. I was like, Oh, I got
Speaker 1: something for y'all with all that love music, bitch. So
Speaker 1: I went down there and I knocked on the fucking
Speaker 1: door and I took off running. I was like, boom, boom, boom,
Speaker 1: boom and I took off running as fast like held
Speaker 1: and I had so much fun with that ship that
Speaker 1: I just decided to do it every year that I
Speaker 1: don't have a nigger. So yeah, that's Sunday for me. Look, so, y'all,
Speaker 1: we're gonna do a for the Love of Tam Bam episode.
Speaker 1: We're gonna be about to find you a nigga shock
Speaker 1: because we can't be doing this ship on the day
Speaker 1: and Valentine's Day. I wanted nigga who go do it
Speaker 1: with me on Valentine's Day calling all childish niggas but
Speaker 1: a check period. So for the Love of Tam Bam
Speaker 1: will be like where they calling on zoom and like
Speaker 1: get ex questions and we're gonna make or something like No,
Speaker 1: al right, is that like something that's required you to
Speaker 1: see a dick first. I would like to see a
Speaker 1: dick first. Camera phones literally save lives and body counts
Speaker 1: because back in the day, man, you just gotta get
Speaker 1: surprised by the little dick, like he this little whacker. No,
Speaker 1: it's a pep, it's little. So back in the day,
Speaker 1: like all you could do is do what they're like,
Speaker 1: Oh no, I don't think we should I would like.
Speaker 1: I know that's a bit much to ask, and I
Speaker 1: don't want to like me to these niggas, So you
Speaker 1: could keep your dick and your pants, okay. Respect. So,
Speaker 1: in honor of Black History Month, we want to celebrate
Speaker 1: a black batty who talked back, and today we are
Speaker 1: celebrating Kathleen Clever. She was born May thirteen, nineteen. This
Speaker 1: woman was supers is because she's still living, she's super bad.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you what she did. She married eld
Speaker 1: just Clever. She was is a member of the Black
Speaker 1: Panther Party. She was making the pamphlints. She was doing
Speaker 1: community service, she was organizing demonstrations. She was out in
Speaker 1: the forefront on TV in the face of oppression, not
Speaker 1: scared where her big afro, taking up space, taking names
Speaker 1: and kicking asses. This woman was bad and still is bad.
Speaker 1: She's a professor at Emory College right now, seventy five
Speaker 1: years old, still doing her thing. Kathleen Clever, we celebrate
Speaker 1: you since you are a batty who talks back. Yes,
Speaker 1: Mrs Cleaver. So I thought a good uh topic for
Speaker 1: us discussed would be should you disclose any of your
Speaker 1: sexual past or anything to your current booth. What past
Speaker 1: are you speaking of? You minding my business again? They'll
Speaker 1: do that. Are they privy to your sexual past whatever
Speaker 1: it may be? Even if they asked, like how many
Speaker 1: people you've been with? Should you answer that? What? Should
Speaker 1: you close anything today? As absolutely? And are you required
Speaker 1: to two niggas? That's it My first in you, That's
Speaker 1: all I got. And look, my rule is if I
Speaker 1: ain't come in, don't count, So don't ask me about
Speaker 1: no dumb ship like that. How many people have been
Speaker 1: when it's none of your goddamn business. If I didn't
Speaker 1: come in, don't count. If it happened before this current
Speaker 1: new year, isn't count when the clock's out over after
Speaker 1: midnight last night. And don't count on work. If it
Speaker 1: was a different zip code niggers, right, if I was
Speaker 1: on vacation, it don't count. It's like what Jaco said
Speaker 1: about three or four. You gotta by three, so niggas
Speaker 1: your automatically, No listen if I say five times by three, niggers. Now,
Speaker 1: it was a couple of years of my twenties though, okay,
Speaker 1: this is my thing. If you went to college, because
Speaker 1: I feel like that's when I had the most sex
Speaker 1: me too. It's in college. Those college years, like eighteen
Speaker 1: too would have been my whole stage, not even maybe
Speaker 1: not even eighteens. Maybe honestly, a woman is gonna lie
Speaker 1: about their body account unless it's really too But why
Speaker 1: do women feel they have to lie when many can
Speaker 1: tell us the truth and we're still gonna suck that
Speaker 1: whole ass dick? Right? A man be like, I don't
Speaker 1: even know, man, it's just I don't know. Hundreds hundreds.
Speaker 1: At what point do you think that you can just
Speaker 1: run through women your entire life and not get a
Speaker 1: woman that's ran through? But you think your mama and
Speaker 1: your sister and your daughter is exempt from being ran
Speaker 1: through by a nigga like you? At what point do
Speaker 1: you think you deserve that? You know you deserve this
Speaker 1: whole ass? What is wrong with you? Relaxed on clubhouse
Speaker 1: one nigga in the room said he has sex with
Speaker 1: a thousand women over it could be over a thousand women.
Speaker 1: He said one month he has sex with a hundred bitches.
Speaker 1: Why sport. The moderator was like, do you consider yourself
Speaker 1: a good man? And he was like, yeah, you cannot
Speaker 1: possibly be a good man if you're disturbing that many
Speaker 1: souls in the month. What makes you think you deserve
Speaker 1: some wholesome ass woman that you can ask her, Hey,
Speaker 1: how many people you've been winning? She'll be like, oh
Speaker 1: five and really mean it. Yeah. I think once you
Speaker 1: get to a certain age, those questions is just like
Speaker 1: childish for what what difference does it make at this point?
Speaker 1: I think it's man ego. For whatever reason, they want
Speaker 1: to believe that your whole life, your puss even on
Speaker 1: reserve for him and just let him think that how
Speaker 1: though life? What if? What? I just if you're gonna
Speaker 1: ask me a dumbass question like that, then I'm gonna
Speaker 1: give you a dumba ass answer to So tell me,
Speaker 1: how would you feel if you're a man if you
Speaker 1: saw or your man presented to you that he had
Speaker 1: been compounding a list of your sexual partners based off
Speaker 1: of just general conversation with him, like yeah, my homeboy
Speaker 1: or a friend of mine or this nigga, I know
Speaker 1: type conversation, so he has like descriptive words listed. How
Speaker 1: would you feel about that? Scared of my nigga a
Speaker 1: little bit? You are really tripping Like the lists say, Okay,
Speaker 1: there's John and I know you used to fuck him?
Speaker 1: And then then Nigga with the Blue Jeese? Who did
Speaker 1: they get with the Blue Jeese? Like, how are you
Speaker 1: coming up with this list? And why are you doing that?
Speaker 1: It's the question like what does it do for you
Speaker 1: to make that list? What is your So wait, yes,
Speaker 1: that has happened to me and it was presented to you,
Speaker 1: and I literally, you know, began going through it with
Speaker 1: him and then I was like, you know what, delete
Speaker 1: that ship? What the fund is wrong with you? Right?
Speaker 1: Are you trying? I'm not counting up on many bitches
Speaker 1: you've been winning. How many times? You're not telling me
Speaker 1: you don't two bitches in a night? Like, I'm not
Speaker 1: doing that because it doesn't matter to me. I don't care.
Speaker 1: As long as you know sucking them right now, right,
Speaker 1: That's all that matters. That's it. But I'm an open book,
Speaker 1: so it's kind of like nothing's really taboo for me.
Speaker 1: But I'm going to probably lie. The questions that men
Speaker 1: asked definitely come from a place of ego and insecurity.
Speaker 1: It can't come from a good place when you ask
Speaker 1: a woman how many men have you slept with? Why
Speaker 1: do you need that information? What are you gonna do
Speaker 1: with it doesn't change who I am you right now.
Speaker 1: They want you to be able to suck. They did good,
Speaker 1: but they want to They want to virgin to never
Speaker 1: have sucked dick before. They want a virgin hole. They
Speaker 1: want the dick sucked on the handstand. They want you
Speaker 1: to twirl and do all the tricks. You never have
Speaker 1: done it to anybody exactly, and that's impossible. I don't
Speaker 1: need to know how. That's what I was telling my guy, Like,
Speaker 1: even if you sucked one of my friends before, if
Speaker 1: you one of my friends, yeah, I want to, Okay,
Speaker 1: I would expect my friend and telling me both of them. Well,
Speaker 1: he wasn't my name at the time when you sucked him, right,
Speaker 1: but somebody need to tell me. Somebody. If the man
Speaker 1: tells me and my home girl never mentioned it, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be upset with that, right. I told one of
Speaker 1: my clients that I tried to suck her boyfriend, but
Speaker 1: I didn't know what's her boyfriend though current boyfriend, but
Speaker 1: I she was a new client and she showed me
Speaker 1: a picture and I was like, oh wow, But here's
Speaker 1: the thing she was saying, like she wasn't sure about him.
Speaker 1: I was like, no, he's good dude, does he fast?
Speaker 1: He was like, nah, I got a girlfriend. I can't
Speaker 1: do that with him and stuck. You can dig down. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I just I only told her because I wanted her to, like,
Speaker 1: you know, be happy in her relationship. Did you lie
Speaker 1: to her though? No? No, he really was professing. He
Speaker 1: was giving me a massage. She was a massage therapist.
Speaker 1: I really like tried like I adn't like throw. I
Speaker 1: insinuated that he can know you ain't doing that. Later,
Speaker 1: I'll give you a little bit. Ship said that man
Speaker 1: to me, all right, your services over and then when
Speaker 1: he's like, I'm ann step out, so you get a
Speaker 1: CD like this, Uh, like it took all the power.
Speaker 1: He's sold out to guy. He's a great guy. They
Speaker 1: end up getting married. Beautiful. So do you feel like
Speaker 1: if a guy had been with another man he should
Speaker 1: tell you that? Absolutely? Would that be like a deal breaker? Absolutely?
Speaker 1: So safe since you were in a relationship, would do
Speaker 1: for a year, right, And he's like, maybe something I
Speaker 1: gotta tell you, And you know, I don't know how
Speaker 1: to tell you. But back when I was in college,
Speaker 1: I experimented a little bit, and you know, I had
Speaker 1: a thing with a guy. It was like two days,
Speaker 1: two times, or maybe it was just one time. You know,
Speaker 1: I really don't want to lose you, and your relationship
Speaker 1: is just great. But he fuck the dude and he
Speaker 1: was the bottom. I like all right, in my in
Speaker 1: my liberal mind, i'd like to say I would accept
Speaker 1: to him for himself, right, that's my liberal mon lie
Speaker 1: if he decided, because you know, it's okay to experiment
Speaker 1: and figure out who you are, right, who am I
Speaker 1: the challenge that I did it? I do it, and
Speaker 1: we know as a double standard with that, okay, yes
Speaker 1: it is, but I'm for my own self, for my
Speaker 1: own thinking. I don't want to apply that double standard.
Speaker 1: Did you know you don't like it? Because it takes
Speaker 1: courage to come to somebody with that information, So I
Speaker 1: don't think you will start lying at that point. Did
Speaker 1: you discover that that's something that you didn't like? So
Speaker 1: in my mind, if I'm like truly in love and
Speaker 1: truly happy, I would want to stay like. I don't
Speaker 1: think I would allow that to keep me from my happiness.
Speaker 1: That's what my liberal mindset. With my hood, the hood
Speaker 1: bit in me is like, nigga, you gotta be fucked
Speaker 1: up and then when we get into a fight and
Speaker 1: be like, yeah, you'd be acting like an old dick
Speaker 1: in the booty shut your bit as so right, So
Speaker 1: I don't know because I don't know. I don't know
Speaker 1: how that would go. Because there's half of me that
Speaker 1: feels like I care and I was. I feel like
Speaker 1: that's a little bit deceitful because I feel like if
Speaker 1: I present myself as a hetero sexual woman who prefers
Speaker 1: a hetero sexual man, and I don't care what anybody thinks,
Speaker 1: if you are a man and you have slept to me,
Speaker 1: this is my opinion, and you have slept with a man,
Speaker 1: even just one time. You made that up in your
Speaker 1: mind first before you committed to the actual act of it,
Speaker 1: so I would feel like you could possibly do that again.
Speaker 1: So now not only do I have to worry about
Speaker 1: you cheating and sucking bitches, I have to worry about
Speaker 1: you cheating and sucking men. So if that's something that
Speaker 1: you into or have been into at some point, you
Speaker 1: should disclose that information. I agree you should disclose it.
Speaker 1: You know, like men, men have no problem asking women
Speaker 1: or you ever been with a woman before? Stop lying?
Speaker 1: But if I say here, you've been with a nigga
Speaker 1: before they get So if a man has been with
Speaker 1: a man, you'd expect to tell you that. Absolutely, please
Speaker 1: sell me. I need to know because that's not something
Speaker 1: I will sign up for me And the women are
Speaker 1: you're okay? What men who are bisexual? So? What are
Speaker 1: some things that you feel like should be disclosed to
Speaker 1: your partner? Diseases? Diseases? If you got you know, anything
Speaker 1: that you can give me, that's something you should definitely share.
Speaker 1: Grand And I was at this nigger house one time
Speaker 1: when I lived in Atlanta, and I went into this
Speaker 1: nigga's medicine cabinet and he had an unfinished bottle of
Speaker 1: dioxy cycling. I think that's how you pronounce it. I
Speaker 1: googled it. It's for gnarrhea or chlamydia. Unfinished, so let
Speaker 1: me either he stopped taking it because it's dick stopped.
Speaker 1: He saved there for the next time. Is dig st
Speaker 1: just so he ain't got to go back to the
Speaker 1: Either way, you're a nasty nigga. Why the funk am
Speaker 1: I hair? And it's like God, open that there medicine cabinet.
Speaker 1: See what this nigga dick got going on? Right? And
Speaker 1: I smash him and I so, yeah, she should definitely
Speaker 1: disclose sexual health history to people, right, I agree with that,
Speaker 1: But see Nigga's think like, as long as their girl
Speaker 1: ain't burning, they're not burning that girl. Don't got nothing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: they'd be cheating off a girl. Nigga, go get your
Speaker 1: own tests. Don't check off your girl chest around here
Speaker 1: saying you straight. No, you don't even know you straight.
Speaker 1: Maybe your girl eats a plant, please diet, and she's
Speaker 1: really sick and it's hard for her to just get
Speaker 1: shipped from other people, and you need McDonald's and you're
Speaker 1: gonna have what else? Some other things that people mental
Speaker 1: health trauma. I think that's important to share with each other.
Speaker 1: So what would that be like if you bust Nigga's
Speaker 1: windows out when you get mad and you tell people
Speaker 1: that maybe not maybe not. I us Nigga's windows out
Speaker 1: when they play with me. But like I have had
Speaker 1: in the history of behaving in a violent manner when
Speaker 1: I'm upset, but I am actively working on it, and
Speaker 1: I don't plan to do that with you. You ever
Speaker 1: bust somebody car windows out. I bust the windows out
Speaker 1: his ship. You didn't know I've never bust out anybody's windows,
Speaker 1: but I have bust some tires. But it was not
Speaker 1: I'd rather you bust my window out. It wasn't my
Speaker 1: free that's a free repair through the insurance tire has
Speaker 1: got a lot. It wasn't my nigga. It was my
Speaker 1: home girl nigga. And I was mad with her, and
Speaker 1: I was like, She's like, I'm scared, and I was like,
Speaker 1: I'll do it. Wait, I've heard this story. Hey girl,
Speaker 1: I'll do it, bitch, give it to me. And that
Speaker 1: nigger came up to the school because he was in college.
Speaker 1: That thinker came up to the campus next day and
Speaker 1: he was like on level tim man, and I was
Speaker 1: so scared for my life, but he never found out
Speaker 1: it was me. Did he get acute of it, Yeah,
Speaker 1: yeah he did. He was when nobody should. I got ship.
Speaker 1: I'm not messing with your car because I don't want
Speaker 1: you coming back and messing on my car. I'm not
Speaker 1: with your clothes, don't you fucking Michael's. That's not the
Speaker 1: only time I tore up with nigger ship, though, But
Speaker 1: that was the only time I tore up somebody's ship
Speaker 1: that wasn't mine. So should you be tearing up like
Speaker 1: what else? You don't creating that nigga that you feel
Speaker 1: like needs to be disclosed to the next thing looking
Speaker 1: to give. You do this to me? This is well,
Speaker 1: this is all When I was young. Once I got
Speaker 1: became like a grown ass woman for real, then I
Speaker 1: just was like, okay, that's how we're playing. I don't
Speaker 1: have the energy to be tearing up stuff no more.
Speaker 1: When I was in my early twenties, I was a
Speaker 1: little scrappy, tear your ship up in a minute. I
Speaker 1: was putting PlayStations and busting up computers. And I took
Speaker 1: his PlayStation and put it in a tub and ran
Speaker 1: the water over that ship and just left the water run.
Speaker 1: I had a homegirl who went in her nigga house
Speaker 1: and cut the cords to every electronic. Yeah, she was
Speaker 1: with the ship. That's fucking Patty TVs, blenders, whatever had
Speaker 1: a fucking plug on, and she cut that ship. That's
Speaker 1: fuck it up. I don't do that no more. Like
Speaker 1: I haven't. I haven't been that person in a long
Speaker 1: time now. It's just like, I don't even have an
Speaker 1: energy to tear up your ship. I don't gonna say
Speaker 1: I don't have the energy. I just I'm such a
Speaker 1: real nigga, Like I don't want a nigga to be
Speaker 1: telling somebody I did some ship like that. My face
Speaker 1: car always gotta be clean, like yeah, actually she cool. Whatever.
Speaker 1: Now let me tell you what I do now. I
Speaker 1: went to a negat sleep and seeing myself some money
Speaker 1: from his cashap compensation for all the heartache. Nigga, you
Speaker 1: gotta pay me to be unhappy. I'm gonna cash myself.
Speaker 1: Hold on, before we get into anything else, Let's pay
Speaker 1: some bills real quick. You know you've seen on social
Speaker 1: media where people are like, especially men. I see that
Speaker 1: it's mostly men coming for Lorie Harvey because she's dated
Speaker 1: quite a few high profile guys and we get to
Speaker 1: see her go from one to the other and they
Speaker 1: calling her a hole. What do you think I've been
Speaker 1: seeing like a lot of niggas calling her a home.
Speaker 1: That's because they pass around and because they would still
Speaker 1: have sex with Loria Harvey, drink her bathwater, eat her ass.
Speaker 1: No condom behind all of these men, right right, But
Speaker 1: I guess her body count like I guess you get
Speaker 1: to see it visually like on the shape everybody, so
Speaker 1: it's nothing to hide, so she really get to be herself.
Speaker 1: She don't gotta lie about Ship said. She never actually
Speaker 1: even came out and said, Hey, I'm dealing with this person.
Speaker 1: People make assumptions. She could be fucking round just hanging out,
Speaker 1: and it's a body according to the world. You see
Speaker 1: her out with tred Songs and now she didn't collected
Speaker 1: him in her body count. She probably did. I'm just saying,
Speaker 1: did you see Tredy Songs? And then in their video
Speaker 1: last week? Boy, I didn't want I did not want
Speaker 1: to believe it with him because I don't know. I
Speaker 1: just couldn't imagine that dick on him. Do you see
Speaker 1: him with like a smaller duck, just a regular dick?
Speaker 1: He said? And now I see why he's a devo. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he said. The neighbors know his name, and he looked
Speaker 1: like they do. Who was the girl sucking it? I
Speaker 1: don't know. She wasn't doing that great of a job.
Speaker 1: I know that, Yeah, she was. I comfas balls baby,
Speaker 1: comfass balls baby, make sure they're safe and woolb in
Speaker 1: your wet hands. We discussed about some men liking dry heads. No,
Speaker 1: I'm sure she did a magnificent job. We only saw
Speaker 1: a very small snippet of it. So like Kim Kardashian,
Speaker 1: like everybody, oh claimed the fame because she did pouring whatever. Okay,
Speaker 1: we can literally count how many people that we know
Speaker 1: of that Kim Kardashian has been with, But how many
Speaker 1: of average women with natural hair, praeces and glasses have
Speaker 1: been with I've been with. They don't know how many
Speaker 1: men they have been with. Double yeah, And they're probably
Speaker 1: the main ones in comments calling somebody at home just
Speaker 1: because we don't know you personally. It's always the air
Speaker 1: for bitches when we started, like if we got fronds underneath,
Speaker 1: Like I think the only time I would disclose to
Speaker 1: a guy like hey, I've been with this particular person.
Speaker 1: Like say, for instance, we are at a party or
Speaker 1: something and I realized my guy knows somebody else in
Speaker 1: this party that I've been with, I would tell him
Speaker 1: immediately because one thing I hate. Yes, I'm gonna tell
Speaker 1: him right then, because I don't want somebody coming back,
Speaker 1: or the guy telling another mutual friend like yeah, I
Speaker 1: used to funk with a j this, and the third
Speaker 1: I'd rather tell him myself, like yeah, I used to
Speaker 1: work with that guy what if you go to a
Speaker 1: party that has never happened. It's never happened to me there.
Speaker 1: Look look how you looking at me, bitch? No it
Speaker 1: has not like it has. I have literally jumped in
Speaker 1: the car of a man that I slept with with
Speaker 1: my current boyfriend, and my friend and his now wife
Speaker 1: jumped in the car. The drivers. Nah. So we had
Speaker 1: caught ober to like a party from a restaurant was
Speaker 1: at and we were just going to get a ride
Speaker 1: back from them because we knew them. Well evidently I
Speaker 1: knew him and then everybody else in the group did
Speaker 1: too somehow, so whatever, So we hopped in this car.
Speaker 1: He took us back to our car. So when we
Speaker 1: got out of the car, I'm looking at my now
Speaker 1: ex boy if I'm looking like listen, I used to
Speaker 1: funk with that dude, just so you know, f y
Speaker 1: I because a lot of times men don't give a ship.
Speaker 1: They don't even think about you until they see who
Speaker 1: you know, would it probably didn't tear shut up, but whatever,
Speaker 1: just to have some cloud, yeah, just to have something
Speaker 1: to say, because they just trying to get at the
Speaker 1: niggative and they're not even trying to get at you.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I don't tell them too. I'll tell with
Speaker 1: myself quick. I'm telling him myself in a situation like that,
Speaker 1: because I don't want nobody looking at me crazy. But
Speaker 1: if they're just in the same room and they don't
Speaker 1: never talk to each other, and they don't know each other,
Speaker 1: they don't daft each other. Sorry to this man. I
Speaker 1: do not know this man. Sorry to this man, whoever
Speaker 1: he is. But niggas ain't telling you nothing. I can
Speaker 1: only remember one time I was out with a guy.
Speaker 1: I was out with a guy and I was out
Speaker 1: with a bunch of my friends, and he literally was
Speaker 1: pointing out, who are my crew? You know what? Fun?
Speaker 1: And I was like, damn, it was that many? How many?
Speaker 1: Was it? Like? Four? Damn? Like four people? I mean
Speaker 1: not everybody I was immediate friends with, but you know,
Speaker 1: friends of friends, we hang out. But he had hit
Speaker 1: a few people. I didn't judge him. It was funny.
Speaker 1: We laughed about it. But had I been a woman saying, hey, yeah,
Speaker 1: I used to work with him him him him him.
Speaker 1: When I was living in Europe, I was dating this
Speaker 1: guy and I had like we were all like all
Speaker 1: Americans in Europe, so we kind of got real close
Speaker 1: with each other as a group of us, and I
Speaker 1: started working with him and we were like kicking it
Speaker 1: like heavy. It wasn't just sex. We were like dating.
Speaker 1: And I didn't find out till year years later that
Speaker 1: half of the girls in my friend group had already
Speaker 1: sucked him, like it all sucked him before me. But
Speaker 1: they never said nothing because I was like dating him,
Speaker 1: and I didn't find out till years after that I
Speaker 1: stopped working with him like that that they had all
Speaker 1: fucked him. Nobody told me nothing. That les to be
Speaker 1: the culture over there when they were American. How long
Speaker 1: had they been living over there for that to become regular?
Speaker 1: Because if you are my friend, I am going to say, damn,
Speaker 1: I haven't been with that dude before. I'm gonna tell
Speaker 1: you I've told you that I didn't. I did that.
Speaker 1: I would not just let you with somebody for a
Speaker 1: year year and well we didn't. It didn't last that long,
Speaker 1: however long it lasted. I would not let you do
Speaker 1: that without disclosure. I didn't find out till years after.
Speaker 1: Like yeah, girl, y'all, girl, I'm like what community dick, Wait,
Speaker 1: look you do look like the type would be cooking
Speaker 1: for some community, dick, bitch. Yes, it's like I have
Speaker 1: the brotherfucking shelter kitchen, the community kitchen, super kitchen kitchen
Speaker 1: for these niggas for the community. Dick. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just the type of men who I usually like,
Speaker 1: a very bright spirit and they be for everybody a
Speaker 1: lot of time. I don't know, free spirited, free spirited dick. Yeah, Scar,
Speaker 1: this was a few years ago. Um, right when I
Speaker 1: got out of my last relationship. One of these guys
Speaker 1: that I knew from high school. We reconnected over social
Speaker 1: media and just like like he was so into me
Speaker 1: and it was about to be Christmas. He sent me
Speaker 1: a nice designer pair of shoes for Christmas, and so
Speaker 1: I was like bragging on him to my sister. She
Speaker 1: came to town and then she was like, ho, what'd
Speaker 1: you say? Who? And I said his name and She's like, girl,
Speaker 1: I fucked him, And now he knows his sisters, blood sisters.
Speaker 1: We all went to high school together. Like what kind
Speaker 1: of niggas? Same mama and daddy grew up in the
Speaker 1: same house and you know that, So why would you
Speaker 1: be trying to talk to me on that level? After
Speaker 1: know when you suck my sister. That's a body count
Speaker 1: that you're supposed to drop exactly. So is it like
Speaker 1: a time limit on body counts? Like can you suck
Speaker 1: your friend boyfriend or can you fuck your sister boyfriend? No? No, never,
Speaker 1: there's no statue of limitations on that. He was trying
Speaker 1: to the family. Yeah, he's trying to suck the whole family, Like, nigge,
Speaker 1: you got me fucked up? Like no, he's like, I
Speaker 1: was trying to find the best way to tell you.
Speaker 1: There is no best way. You should have never slid
Speaker 1: in my d m so exactly, dummy, Like I get
Speaker 1: mad at that was years ago, and I get mad
Speaker 1: about it right now. So in conclusion, stop asking women
Speaker 1: fucking questions. We only ask for money. Stop your questions.
Speaker 1: Stop asking all these then you don't even want the truth.
Speaker 1: You can't handle the truth. What movies that a few
Speaker 1: good men? You can't handle the truth? You don't want it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so maya fucking business. Um. Stop asking women when they're
Speaker 1: going to have kids, Stop asking women why they don't
Speaker 1: have a man, Stop asking women how many people they've
Speaker 1: been with. Just fucking stop, because we all ask you'll
Speaker 1: have that ship. Just concern yourself with the health of
Speaker 1: your relationship at its current state. That's all you have
Speaker 1: to care about, bottom line bitches, period. So look, before
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Speaker 1: it's not. But if you're a little under the weather,
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Speaker 1: ted talk. Yeah, So guys, we also have our segment
Speaker 1: asked a black friend, where any non black people can
Speaker 1: hit us via email, Instagram, d M whatever and ask
Speaker 1: us some things you've always been wanting to ask black people,
Speaker 1: So here's your opportunity. So we did get a couple
Speaker 1: of d m s this week. Bro. This person actually
Speaker 1: used their name so it says, I'm the only white
Speaker 1: girl working at a title on office and one of
Speaker 1: my co workers gives me a hard time a lot,
Speaker 1: and she's always calling me Felicia and saying by Felicia
Speaker 1: when I asked a question, I'm confused because my name
Speaker 1: is Kelsey and there's literally a sign of my desk
Speaker 1: that says Kelsey, what the fund is up with that?
Speaker 1: Oh girl? All right? First of all, how have you
Speaker 1: not seen Friday? How like you should have seen it?
Speaker 1: A people pole and see how many white people have
Speaker 1: never watched Friday. It's impossible. It's like a yeah, cultural thing,
Speaker 1: like everybody born between nineteen one and nine should have
Speaker 1: seen it. Well basically, but you annoying you? She said,
Speaker 1: Black girl is annoyed with your ass backing out my face,
Speaker 1: with all the bullshit questions about we went through this
Speaker 1: in training. She's just annoyed. With your ass, like you're
Speaker 1: asking questions that you probably should already know the answer to,
Speaker 1: and she's not sharing her week with you. By Felicia,
Speaker 1: what y'all smoking on? So basically, like by Felicia's, it's
Speaker 1: just a colloquialism um that black people have adopted within
Speaker 1: the last I don't know what year or two, no,
Speaker 1: twenty years, people people started saying that when the movie.
Speaker 1: After the movie came out. Really, I didn't hear by
Speaker 1: Felicia till last year, year before last. Really, you know
Speaker 1: they've been saying it for twenty years, by Felicia, by Felicia,
Speaker 1: by yes girls, since not that movie came out nineteen,
Speaker 1: I have not been saying bye yes. So all right,
Speaker 1: you gotta break it down in a way that's understandable.
Speaker 1: There's a movie that came out with Ice Cube and
Speaker 1: Chris Tucker in called Friday, So maybe you can check
Speaker 1: it out when you get a chance. But there's a
Speaker 1: scene where a woman who is on drugs name Felicia.
Speaker 1: She comes over and she's asking to borrow things and
Speaker 1: take things from them, and she's annoying. So they say
Speaker 1: to her by Felicia, like get the funk on so
Speaker 1: that's what the girl at your job is telling you.
Speaker 1: Get the funk on? Alright, So the next question we have, um,
Speaker 1: they do say they want to be anonymous. So, um,
Speaker 1: it says life feels really hard for me. How can
Speaker 1: I have privilege when it doesn't feel that way. I
Speaker 1: just recently lost my job due to COVID nineteen. Okay, well,
Speaker 1: you didn't lose your job because you was black, and
Speaker 1: that's why you have privilege. Obviously we're all going to
Speaker 1: go through ship because that's the human experience. You're gonna
Speaker 1: have problems, but your problems don't arise because of your color,
Speaker 1: and that's where your privilege lies. Exactly, got it? Good? Yes,
Speaker 1: COVID is why a lot of people are being laid
Speaker 1: off right now, both black and white. Hispanic people aren't
Speaker 1: losing their jobs or you you didn't lose your job
Speaker 1: because you're a white person, or god didn't get hired
Speaker 1: in the first damn place because you were white, And
Speaker 1: you'll find another job. So everybody's having a tough time
Speaker 1: and hanging there, girl, our guy hanging there. But just
Speaker 1: I mean, use your privilege to the best of your ability.
Speaker 1: And if you ain't using your privilege. I don't feel
Speaker 1: bad for you, because if I had it, I'd be exactly.
Speaker 1: I'd be the whitest damsel in distress. I could be
Speaker 1: out this bitch for real. Oh man. So I'm happy
Speaker 1: for those questions this week, and hopefully we get more
Speaker 1: so you can keep this thing going because I'm sure
Speaker 1: there's a lot of questions that need answers. No, we
Speaker 1: don't need to answer ships. We want to help. We've
Speaker 1: been given a safe space for them to not go
Speaker 1: viral getting beat up in the streets because they need help.
Speaker 1: If you want to send us ask a black friend.
Speaker 1: This week, we didn't get any dumb bitch stories aside
Speaker 1: from the dumb bitch who glued her goddamn here. Yeah man,
Speaker 1: but listen, and she's really a dumb bit because she
Speaker 1: leveling up, like she's getting all kinds of free stuff.
Speaker 1: She's getting she got like seven hundred thousand followers now
Speaker 1: on Instagram, and then she also lowyered up. So now
Speaker 1: she's trying to sue gorilla glue because they don't have
Speaker 1: on the label that's not supposed to be used on
Speaker 1: the human body. But people saying that like that's stupid,
Speaker 1: but think about it now, because how many years ago
Speaker 1: when that woman sued McDonald's for the hot cup for
Speaker 1: the hot coffee, and now cups have hot. We all
Speaker 1: know who likes cold coffee, and I mean, you have
Speaker 1: ice coffee, but who likes cold coffee? Right, you should
Speaker 1: assume that it's hot exactly because they didn't have that
Speaker 1: label on there. I'm about to go under my sink
Speaker 1: when we get done, I'm about to go into my
Speaker 1: sink and see what else don't say. I'm supposed to
Speaker 1: use it in a way that I can use it
Speaker 1: and not die, And I'm about to see somebody share
Speaker 1: might as well. What was her name? I didn't even
Speaker 1: know that girl's name. I know she's the old lady
Speaker 1: something like that, the old lady on Instagram A the
Speaker 1: old not old, oh l But I hope you get
Speaker 1: it together to us. I can't wait to see, like,
Speaker 1: what kind of new weeks. If you're smart, you're gonna
Speaker 1: come out with a jail hair, jail line and shampoo line,
Speaker 1: a wig line. You need to be coming out with
Speaker 1: all this ship while you got seven hundred thousand followers
Speaker 1: and people are still watching, because by next week, nobody's
Speaker 1: gonna care. Once your ball face start to grow out
Speaker 1: a little bit. Soon as we see what they she
Speaker 1: doing it, everybody's gonna follow. Yeah, she has to come
Speaker 1: out with a product. She gotta come out with something
Speaker 1: to sell. She got to use the cloud for now
Speaker 1: using get seven hundred thousand followers and don't sell nothing.
Speaker 1: And that's all people are waiting to see. Right, I'm wait,
Speaker 1: That's what I'm waiting. I wanting to see what her
Speaker 1: hair about. The little life forever point. So that's how
Speaker 1: dumb bit story for the day. Right. How about Danny
Speaker 1: Lee though, that's another Yeah, another dumb bitch story. She's
Speaker 1: such a cute little girl, but it m hmm. Black
Speaker 1: Girls was mad at Daddy Lee boy for her. I
Speaker 1: wasn't mad. I wasn't mad about this. I was mad
Speaker 1: that the song was trash. I just I went mad
Speaker 1: at the content. Like, if you want to celebrate light skin,
Speaker 1: go ahead and celebrate light skin. I don't care about that, right,
Speaker 1: but don't do it like this. He want to skin.
Speaker 1: This is a night skin. Girl, sound like a goddam
Speaker 1: food and you sound like you're trying to get dragged
Speaker 1: by that man's navy mama. It's like don't do that.
Speaker 1: That was this song I feel like pretty much. So yeah,
Speaker 1: if you like this content, please hit us up at
Speaker 1: We Talked Back podcast on Instagram, send us your dumbbit stories,
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Speaker 1: to be a contestant on for the Love of Tam Bam,
Speaker 1: please send us an email as well. We love to
Speaker 1: have you fellas doing this ship mean while I say
Speaker 1: that because I don't want to be saying before Valentine's Day. No,
Speaker 1: it's okay, I'm gonna do my nigga knock thing. It's
Speaker 1: it's good. Hopefully you'll have one by your birthday July.
Speaker 1: M M. What's the next major holiday? St. Patti's Day?
Speaker 1: Hopefully I give me an Irish nigger. They say Irish
Speaker 1: man got big dicks. Now that's what I heard. Is there?
Speaker 1: Black Irish black people are everything? Okay? Well, any black
Speaker 1: irishman please send us an email. All right, y'all holiday Bye,