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Speaker 2: On this week's episode. In her Space, something clicked to

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Speaker 2: me and I had this epiphany where it's like external

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Speaker 2: things cannot make me happy, whether it's a relationship, a job, money,

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Speaker 2: being on vacation, being in the most beautiful place in

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Speaker 2: the world. I've realized I've been depressed on vacation before.

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Speaker 2: I realized that nothing outside of me can bring me

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Speaker 2: true happiness. It really comes from within. And that was

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Speaker 2: a really great time for me when I lived in

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Speaker 2: New York for a year to go within. I live

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Speaker 2: by myself, so I had time to just sit with

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Speaker 2: me and figure me out, like who is this terry person?

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Speaker 2: What makes you click? What makes you happy outside of

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Speaker 2: what everyone else wants you to do, or you know,

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Speaker 2: what they want for you or what they define a

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Speaker 2: happiness for you, whether it's you, you know, being in

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Speaker 2: a relationship or getting married, whatever it is what makes

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Speaker 2: you happy. And so I had time to sit with

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Speaker 2: myself in New York when I was by myself, to

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Speaker 2: really identify what does that look like for me? Do

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Speaker 2: you know my question? What was it? What did you

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Speaker 2: come up with?

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Speaker 3: Welcome to her Space, a podcast dedicated to uplifting women

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Speaker 3: like you. We're your hosts doctor Dominique Broussard, a college

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Speaker 3: professor and psychologist.

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Speaker 2: And Terry Lomax, a techie and a motivational speaker. In

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Speaker 2: a world where black women are often misrepresented and misunderstood,

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Speaker 2: please join us as we initiate authentic conversations on everything

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Speaker 2: from fibroids, fake friends, and create a safe space where

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Speaker 2: black women can just be all right.

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Speaker 3: So in season one, one of our top three most

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Speaker 3: downloaded episodes was the one about self care. And self

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Speaker 3: care clearly is an important topic considering the times that

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Speaker 3: we're in and clearly something that ladies, you really want

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Speaker 3: us to talk about. More so, today, what we want

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Speaker 3: to talk about, we want to address self care from

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Speaker 3: like a slightly different perspective. So part of self care

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Speaker 3: means that you feel good, you are happy, and we'll

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Speaker 3: get more into like what happiness like really means, and

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Speaker 3: more importantly, you're having fun. So just to kind of

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Speaker 3: share a little bit, when after Terry and I recorded

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Speaker 3: that episode, we started to realize that, hey, maybe as

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Speaker 3: we're talking to people about like prioritizing self care and

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Speaker 3: we came up with, you know, we put out all

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Speaker 3: these good strategies, we realized that maybe we need to

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Speaker 3: So for me, that came with the realization after a

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Speaker 3: So one of the things I did I went to

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Speaker 2: That sounds good to be done, because honest, I feel

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Speaker 2: I have different types of fun, but it ain't that fun.

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Speaker 2: So I'm excited for this episode so I can learn

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Speaker 3: And get some of those belly ache and laughs, Like

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Speaker 2: And when I think about back to when I was

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Speaker 2: Those are the moments that we're talking about, right, Yes,

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Speaker 2: so I guess we should dive into our quote of

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Speaker 2: sure that you see it on your social media timeline,

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Speaker 2: the world. And so we really want to like take

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Speaker 3: Yes, So our quote of day comes from artist Lizzo,

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Speaker 3: and if you've seen any of her recent music videos,

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Speaker 3: growing up is acting less childish and being more child like.

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Speaker 2: Child like I like that. What does that quote mean

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Speaker 3: What immediately came up for me was like this, I

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Speaker 3: You opened up the laughy taffy like they had like

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Speaker 3: those random corny jokes in there. Yes, And you know,

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Speaker 3: I've learned and I'm trying to get better at accepting

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Speaker 2: Right. Yes, I love that, and I think that I'm

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Speaker 2: so you say so, I say out, I'm like all lies,

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Speaker 3: So okay, Like I really wanted to like embrace the corny,

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Speaker 2: Oh and I.

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Speaker 3: Think that sometimes like this helps, right, Like, and so

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Speaker 3: you need to break up the monotony, like you need to,

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Speaker 3: like you're feeling really like just heavy. I mean literally,

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Speaker 3: you can just google laffy tapping jokes.

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Speaker 2: Right, good question for you, Dom Are you about to

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Speaker 2: Seem like you were supposed to actually say it. There's pressure, right,

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Speaker 3: Anyway, right, So I just need you to answer the

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Speaker 2: Okay, so what did the house where to the party?

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Speaker 1: Don't?

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Speaker 3: but either it's not it doesn't work with our schedule,

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Speaker 3: or maybe it costs more than it's in our budget

435
00:23:00,040 --> 00:23:01,879
Speaker 3: because we're trying to make sure people aren't taking too

436
00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:03,280
Speaker 3: many of our coin exactly.

437
00:23:03,560 --> 00:23:05,560
Speaker 2: So, what are.

438
00:23:05,440 --> 00:23:07,840
Speaker 3: Some things that like you like you can think of

439
00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:11,120
Speaker 3: that you've done that didn't really cost money or.

440
00:23:12,600 --> 00:23:17,440
Speaker 2: Interfere with your normal schedule. Okay, so really quick, down,

441
00:23:17,440 --> 00:23:19,320
Speaker 2: I'm gonna gets that question. I promise I'm about to

442
00:23:19,320 --> 00:23:21,520
Speaker 2: pull Kanye real quick. I'm gonna answer your question. But

443
00:23:21,600 --> 00:23:23,760
Speaker 2: real quick, I forgot to tell you. So tonight, you know,

444
00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:26,680
Speaker 2: it's Friday night. Tonight, my husband and I are going

445
00:23:26,760 --> 00:23:29,680
Speaker 2: to the Millennium Tour in Oakland, and that right there

446
00:23:29,800 --> 00:23:31,560
Speaker 2: is going to be fun because girl b two K

447
00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:35,640
Speaker 2: Mario the yingan't twins. That for me brings that all

448
00:23:35,680 --> 00:23:38,280
Speaker 2: the memories from I don't know how old, I don't

449
00:23:38,280 --> 00:23:41,639
Speaker 2: know how adai yes, so that right there getting dressed up.

450
00:23:41,680 --> 00:23:44,280
Speaker 2: I saw pictures online if people dressing up in like

451
00:23:44,320 --> 00:23:48,080
Speaker 2: their throwback jersey dresses and wearing you know, the baby girl,

452
00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:50,080
Speaker 2: baby fat all that stuff, and I was just like,

453
00:23:50,119 --> 00:23:53,080
Speaker 2: oh my gosh, Chinese sanddos, like all that stuff, your

454
00:23:53,119 --> 00:23:55,160
Speaker 2: little just all the stuff that we used to wear

455
00:23:55,160 --> 00:23:57,040
Speaker 2: back in the day. So that is something that I'm

456
00:23:57,040 --> 00:24:00,400
Speaker 2: really looking forward to tonight. But as far as things

457
00:24:00,400 --> 00:24:02,640
Speaker 2: that don't cost a lot of money, I think that

458
00:24:02,960 --> 00:24:05,320
Speaker 2: going on groupon, you know, you do want to if

459
00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:07,120
Speaker 2: you do have a little coin it spend going on groupon.

460
00:24:07,359 --> 00:24:11,000
Speaker 2: But also just going outdoors, like gathering some friends, having

461
00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:14,639
Speaker 2: a little picnic, going on a hike, playing outside, go

462
00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:16,680
Speaker 2: to a playground. I haven't done that in forever, but

463
00:24:16,920 --> 00:24:18,840
Speaker 2: that brings back memories and that would be fun. Just

464
00:24:18,960 --> 00:24:21,760
Speaker 2: make sure that you don't look suspects because I feel

465
00:24:21,760 --> 00:24:23,840
Speaker 2: like being an adult going to a playground by yourself,

466
00:24:23,840 --> 00:24:25,440
Speaker 2: people might look at you a little funny, and you

467
00:24:25,480 --> 00:24:27,240
Speaker 2: don't have any children with you here, it might be

468
00:24:27,280 --> 00:24:30,679
Speaker 2: a little suspect. Yes, but playgrounds are fun. So that

469
00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:34,800
Speaker 2: could be something being out in nature. I don't know

470
00:24:34,800 --> 00:24:36,160
Speaker 2: what else are you thinking about, don.

471
00:24:36,400 --> 00:24:39,439
Speaker 3: So okay, So like what comes up for me is

472
00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:43,840
Speaker 3: like I'm thinking about, like, well, if I'm in a

473
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Speaker 3: tough space, then I'm gonna come up with all excuses

474
00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:52,720
Speaker 3: to not do those things right. So I'm gonna say, well,

475
00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:57,360
Speaker 3: I mean, but groupon still costs me money. And I

476
00:24:57,440 --> 00:25:00,400
Speaker 3: live in a hot climate and so I'm not going

477
00:25:00,440 --> 00:25:04,119
Speaker 3: outside to a playground when it's one hundred plus degrees outside,

478
00:25:04,560 --> 00:25:07,400
Speaker 3: or I'm not going to that playground when I live

479
00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:09,280
Speaker 3: in a place that where it rains all the time.

480
00:25:10,359 --> 00:25:15,000
Speaker 3: So I'm thinking of all the excuses, right. So let's

481
00:25:15,040 --> 00:25:21,840
Speaker 3: say that it's how to tell outside, or it's raining

482
00:25:21,880 --> 00:25:25,320
Speaker 3: cats and dogs outside, and you're like, ah, I need

483
00:25:25,400 --> 00:25:30,280
Speaker 3: some fun, right, So here are my Like I'm a

484
00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:34,119
Speaker 3: versive to the outdoors, I'm a versive to spending money,

485
00:25:34,359 --> 00:25:38,080
Speaker 3: no excuses things that you can do inside your home

486
00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:41,239
Speaker 3: with material. You already have to have some fun, right,

487
00:25:42,359 --> 00:25:49,680
Speaker 3: no excuses. Okay, So first idea dance party. There you go,

488
00:25:50,119 --> 00:25:54,639
Speaker 3: dance party. I mean listen, I remember, like, if you

489
00:25:54,720 --> 00:25:56,719
Speaker 3: know me, you know that I am not the best dancer.

490
00:25:57,000 --> 00:25:58,280
Speaker 2: And I'm okay with that.

491
00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:02,320
Speaker 3: Sometimes sometimes I still do get a little embarrassed by

492
00:26:02,359 --> 00:26:06,119
Speaker 3: but or try to hide it. So if you're in

493
00:26:06,160 --> 00:26:10,400
Speaker 3: the comfort of your home, pick your favorite dance tunes,

494
00:26:11,040 --> 00:26:16,359
Speaker 3: crank it up, and when that basse drops.

495
00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:19,760
Speaker 2: Do what you do. It's hard to be depressed when

496
00:26:19,760 --> 00:26:23,080
Speaker 2: you're shaking your ass, yes, just saying shake as you

497
00:26:23,080 --> 00:26:24,359
Speaker 2: could do a little two steps. You can do a

498
00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:27,000
Speaker 2: little bounce with the shoulders, right, you know, sit in

499
00:26:27,040 --> 00:26:29,480
Speaker 2: your chair, do the little excellent chair dance. Because most

500
00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:31,560
Speaker 2: of us, even if you're not the best dancer, you

501
00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:34,119
Speaker 2: everybody looks good when they're in the chair throwing a

502
00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:40,040
Speaker 2: little shoulder action. Right, So have yourself a dance party.

503
00:26:40,640 --> 00:26:44,240
Speaker 2: Whatever that dancing looks like for you is just you

504
00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:46,160
Speaker 2: have your dance party. Right.

505
00:26:47,119 --> 00:26:51,280
Speaker 3: The next thing that I like to do is color

506
00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:55,120
Speaker 3: and and I know, like the it's a big marketing

507
00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:58,440
Speaker 3: thing now to have like adult coloring books, and those

508
00:26:58,480 --> 00:27:03,560
Speaker 3: things can be really intracrese intricate and detailed. For me,

509
00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:07,359
Speaker 3: I just those things don't necessarily do it for me.

510
00:27:08,680 --> 00:27:13,120
Speaker 3: I like to go back to kid coloring books. Yes,

511
00:27:13,960 --> 00:27:18,320
Speaker 3: preferably stuck with like people, right, but that's my preference.

512
00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:21,919
Speaker 3: So you find a coloring book, like you find like

513
00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:25,200
Speaker 3: some color pencils, some markers and crayons, whatever you need,

514
00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:26,439
Speaker 3: and you color.

515
00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:27,600
Speaker 2: And let's say you.

516
00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:30,360
Speaker 3: Don't have that, you have some scrap paper around your

517
00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:32,840
Speaker 3: house where you can like sit and you can draw

518
00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:33,800
Speaker 3: whatever it is.

519
00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:34,439
Speaker 2: You need to.

520
00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:40,520
Speaker 3: But sometimes just doing some of those like what seems

521
00:27:40,560 --> 00:27:44,960
Speaker 3: like a mindless activity will actually you will find yourself

522
00:27:45,000 --> 00:27:49,600
Speaker 3: feeling just so relaxed. And even though it might not

523
00:27:49,640 --> 00:27:53,000
Speaker 3: seem like quote unquote fun, the goal is to just

524
00:27:53,040 --> 00:27:55,200
Speaker 3: get you out of your normal comfort zone.

525
00:27:55,640 --> 00:27:57,320
Speaker 2: And the fact that you brought that up right when

526
00:27:57,359 --> 00:27:59,639
Speaker 2: you said coloring, I thought, oh my gosh, that sounds

527
00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:02,119
Speaker 2: so stressed for leaving like that's a great way to

528
00:28:02,160 --> 00:28:04,080
Speaker 2: get out of your head. You get onto the paper

529
00:28:04,160 --> 00:28:06,359
Speaker 2: and you just I used to struggle to color in

530
00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:08,600
Speaker 2: the lines, So I just think about like filling off

531
00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:10,800
Speaker 2: the line and coloring it in and make it look pretty.

532
00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:12,320
Speaker 2: I mean that sounds so soothing.

533
00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:17,679
Speaker 3: I might have to do that tonight. Right, So what

534
00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:19,480
Speaker 3: were the things that came up for you? Because you

535
00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:23,520
Speaker 3: when I said like, oh yeah, no excuses, here are

536
00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:24,360
Speaker 3: the things.

537
00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:30,159
Speaker 2: Oh man Domond, I think I forgot Wait, oh, I

538
00:28:30,160 --> 00:28:32,080
Speaker 2: think I was gonna say, like board games that used

539
00:28:32,119 --> 00:28:34,399
Speaker 2: to be really fun playing board games with little kids,

540
00:28:35,080 --> 00:28:38,840
Speaker 2: like oh my gosh, Monopoly Life, Okay, what's your favorite?

541
00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:45,880
Speaker 2: My favorite? What did I play all the time? Monopoly

542
00:28:45,880 --> 00:28:47,640
Speaker 2: wasn't fun because it used to get a little violent.

543
00:28:47,680 --> 00:28:49,960
Speaker 2: You know, people get you took my property, you get

544
00:28:49,960 --> 00:28:51,800
Speaker 2: you get into family fights with a monopoly, so I

545
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:52,880
Speaker 2: might have to say.

546
00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:55,880
Speaker 3: See my family like that likely not necessarily the fight,

547
00:28:56,240 --> 00:28:59,320
Speaker 3: the fight, but not the type part, but just like

548
00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:02,080
Speaker 3: the Okay, we just gonna do this and it's gonna

549
00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:04,520
Speaker 3: be in it and somebody might get upset, but that's

550
00:29:04,560 --> 00:29:06,840
Speaker 3: all right, you know, And as I sit back and

551
00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:09,360
Speaker 3: I process it now like that was a good way

552
00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:14,000
Speaker 3: to teach us one like financial literacy skills, right, problem solving,

553
00:29:14,040 --> 00:29:17,480
Speaker 3: critical thinking skills, but also emotion regulation, because what do

554
00:29:17,520 --> 00:29:21,120
Speaker 3: you do if you thought you were winning, like you

555
00:29:21,120 --> 00:29:24,000
Speaker 3: you owned all the properties and then next thing, you know,

556
00:29:24,080 --> 00:29:26,400
Speaker 3: somebody else comes up and takes your stuff exactly.

557
00:29:26,440 --> 00:29:29,920
Speaker 2: How do you respond, Yes, that's a good point, I

558
00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:31,880
Speaker 2: would say, Oh, you know what, Okay, I just thought

559
00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:35,880
Speaker 2: of a few So remember bop it, oh bop It

560
00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:38,480
Speaker 2: was really fun. Twister and I used to play Grand

561
00:29:38,520 --> 00:29:41,560
Speaker 2: Theft Auto. I used to stay on my cousin's sticks

562
00:29:41,600 --> 00:29:45,800
Speaker 2: play Grand Theft Auto. That was my game. Oh okay,

563
00:29:45,800 --> 00:29:47,800
Speaker 2: it's coming back, It's coming back. What is it now?

564
00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:50,800
Speaker 3: So during the Christmas holidays, I was visiting one of

565
00:29:50,840 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 3: my sisters and we brought out like an old school

566
00:29:55,760 --> 00:29:57,200
Speaker 3: Super Mario Brothers three.

567
00:29:57,560 --> 00:29:59,360
Speaker 2: Okay, now, first.

568
00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:01,600
Speaker 3: Of all, let me do say I'm just gonna put

569
00:30:01,640 --> 00:30:03,520
Speaker 3: it out there. Then, like back in the day, like

570
00:30:03,600 --> 00:30:06,320
Speaker 3: I remember being really good at and remembering all like

571
00:30:06,360 --> 00:30:09,320
Speaker 3: the secret spots and just learning all of it, right

572
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 3: and between that and like Tetris and like and then

573
00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:17,520
Speaker 3: Street Fighter and all those video games, right, but and

574
00:30:17,600 --> 00:30:20,240
Speaker 3: so being able to play that game over the Christmas

575
00:30:20,280 --> 00:30:23,920
Speaker 3: holidays was like even though like I lost a lot,

576
00:30:24,320 --> 00:30:27,240
Speaker 3: like I kept losing love, like it just wasn't It

577
00:30:27,280 --> 00:30:31,560
Speaker 3: was just wasn't happening for me, even though I was losing,

578
00:30:31,600 --> 00:30:33,960
Speaker 3: like I still was having a good time, just like

579
00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:35,960
Speaker 3: because it brought me back.

580
00:30:35,720 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 2: To that space.

581
00:30:37,760 --> 00:30:42,360
Speaker 3: It brought me back to like a happy time, you know,

582
00:30:42,520 --> 00:30:48,800
Speaker 3: like a joyful time. So tapping into those things that,

583
00:30:48,880 --> 00:30:51,920
Speaker 3: like if you reflect back to your childhood, to the

584
00:30:51,960 --> 00:30:57,240
Speaker 3: happy parts of your childhood, try to bring some of

585
00:30:57,280 --> 00:31:01,160
Speaker 3: those things back again. We're tapping into our inner child.

586
00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:06,080
Speaker 2: Yes, and I'm just thinking about some of the highlights

587
00:31:06,120 --> 00:31:09,200
Speaker 2: of childhood and some random I just want to say

588
00:31:09,240 --> 00:31:12,000
Speaker 2: some random words and think about what comes to mind

589
00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:16,520
Speaker 2: for you when we say these random words. Gushers, Oh,

590
00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:20,200
Speaker 2: gushers were like the treat that I was like, I

591
00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:22,440
Speaker 2: cannot get enough of these. But I used to always

592
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:24,160
Speaker 2: have to ask for snacks, so I couldn't just be

593
00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:26,720
Speaker 2: taking them. My mom was clocking them and rationing them out.

594
00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:28,240
Speaker 2: I was like, yo, if I could just get a

595
00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:30,400
Speaker 2: whole box of gushers. I used to always as a kid,

596
00:31:30,840 --> 00:31:35,160
Speaker 2: I had this fantasy of just buying Bubbleisious, bubble gum.

597
00:31:35,280 --> 00:31:37,440
Speaker 2: I used to love bubbleishes, and I wanted to get

598
00:31:37,440 --> 00:31:39,440
Speaker 2: a whole pack and just eat all of them at once.

599
00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:41,400
Speaker 2: To me, I thought that was like the most That

600
00:31:41,520 --> 00:31:43,360
Speaker 2: was just like the biggest fantasy that I had, which

601
00:31:43,360 --> 00:31:46,719
Speaker 2: is such a little kid fantasy. Right, let me ask you, so,

602
00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:49,040
Speaker 2: can you blow bubbles with your bubble gun?

603
00:31:49,120 --> 00:31:49,360
Speaker 1: I can?

604
00:31:49,920 --> 00:31:53,360
Speaker 2: I can't, really, I don't, and.

605
00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:55,880
Speaker 3: I don't know, like I remember like my siblings like

606
00:31:55,960 --> 00:31:59,320
Speaker 3: figuring it out, and I would just be like, I can't,

607
00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:00,960
Speaker 3: but the bubble just gonna taste good.

608
00:32:00,960 --> 00:32:04,200
Speaker 2: So I'm just gonna kid and so like I think

609
00:32:04,240 --> 00:32:08,880
Speaker 2: about that in terms of like just embracing who you

610
00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:10,840
Speaker 2: are and where you are.

611
00:32:10,920 --> 00:32:14,840
Speaker 3: Right Like, so everyone else is able to like blow big,

612
00:32:14,960 --> 00:32:18,360
Speaker 3: huge bubbles and they're having fun with it. If that's

613
00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:22,960
Speaker 3: not your thing, then figure out like what your thing

614
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:25,640
Speaker 3: is and embrace your thing.

615
00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:28,800
Speaker 2: Yes, I would agree with that, And that makes me

616
00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:31,560
Speaker 2: think about double dutch. I want to. I feel like

617
00:32:31,600 --> 00:32:33,120
Speaker 2: I was one of those black girls where I just

618
00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:36,160
Speaker 2: couldn't do the stereotypical black things, Like I couldn't braid,

619
00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:39,720
Speaker 2: for shit. I double dutch my brain in this suspect today.

620
00:32:39,760 --> 00:32:42,400
Speaker 2: But double dutch yo. I used to admire and like

621
00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:44,880
Speaker 2: v everyone that hopped in and they'd be playing you know,

622
00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:47,240
Speaker 2: paddy Cake, and I'm just like, I can't double that's

623
00:32:47,280 --> 00:32:50,120
Speaker 2: my rhythm. I think my coordination is a little off same.

624
00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:52,160
Speaker 2: But it's all good though, because I'm working on it.

625
00:32:52,160 --> 00:32:54,320
Speaker 2: That's why we go to the toy class. But uh,

626
00:32:54,520 --> 00:32:58,800
Speaker 2: double Dutch also heads up StepN Up to a classic

627
00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:02,120
Speaker 2: bad game to play on a rainy day. Yes, I

628
00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:03,720
Speaker 2: used to cheat a little bit. I ain't gonna lie,

629
00:33:03,800 --> 00:33:06,440
Speaker 2: but it's all good. Discovery Zone. Did you ever used

630
00:33:06,440 --> 00:33:08,920
Speaker 2: to go to Discovery Zone? I feel like they had those.

631
00:33:08,960 --> 00:33:13,120
Speaker 2: I don't remember going to them O Energy in San Diego.

632
00:33:13,200 --> 00:33:14,840
Speaker 2: I remember when I was growing up. It used to

633
00:33:14,840 --> 00:33:16,440
Speaker 2: be the place my mom and dad would take us

634
00:33:16,720 --> 00:33:18,959
Speaker 2: and we would literally I don't even understand how they

635
00:33:19,000 --> 00:33:20,800
Speaker 2: stayed there for hours as parents, because I would have

636
00:33:20,840 --> 00:33:23,200
Speaker 2: been bored as a parent. But we would just go

637
00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:26,920
Speaker 2: and run into these different like compartments. And remember you

638
00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:28,640
Speaker 2: used to jump into the balls that they had a

639
00:33:28,760 --> 00:33:31,960
Speaker 2: chuck of cheese. Do all that run slide down the slide?

640
00:33:32,040 --> 00:33:33,760
Speaker 2: It was so fun down And I feel like I'm

641
00:33:33,800 --> 00:33:35,760
Speaker 2: just getting so excited and I want to go to

642
00:33:35,800 --> 00:33:37,360
Speaker 2: Discovery Zone just by talking about it.

643
00:33:37,720 --> 00:33:41,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think, you know what, Like, I guess

644
00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:45,320
Speaker 3: this makes perfect sense. Why there are places like Dave

645
00:33:45,360 --> 00:33:49,920
Speaker 3: and Busters or Mayni Zen like places where adults and

646
00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:51,800
Speaker 3: kids alike can get.

647
00:33:51,600 --> 00:33:53,760
Speaker 2: In there and have a good time.

648
00:33:53,840 --> 00:33:57,160
Speaker 3: And so if you budget for it, if it's you know,

649
00:33:57,240 --> 00:34:02,000
Speaker 3: if it's something that you and your family can figure out,

650
00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:05,400
Speaker 3: try checking out like a Davenbusters or a main event

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Speaker 3: or whatever whatever adult arcade fun don't type place is

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Speaker 3: in your area and have a good time. Just let

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Speaker 3: that inner child come in. Yes, it's so important for

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Speaker 3: us to tap into that inner child. I think it's

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Speaker 3: key for our creativity and just for us to show

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Speaker 3: up in the world in a way where we can

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Speaker 3: really share the gifts that we have unapologetically because kids, again,

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Speaker 3: kids don't care.

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Speaker 2: They will tell you how it is. If you stay,

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Speaker 2: if you look funny, they're like, what's that? Why is

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Speaker 2: that like that? I mean, yes, I also thought about Mash.

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Speaker 2: Remember man, oh, I have my whole life mapped out

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Speaker 2: with Mash.

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Speaker 3: Like my life was mapped out multiple times. Yeah, like

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Speaker 3: just a billion times over. My life is mapped out.

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Speaker 3: And if I probably were to find one of those pages,

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Speaker 3: nothing nothing, nothing but tap into your inner childhood, lady.

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Speaker 3: And so the things that I want us to do

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Speaker 3: is to I'm going to give.

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Speaker 2: Us a little homework, okay, okay, So.

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Speaker 3: In between now and the next time you listen to us.

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Speaker 3: The next time we all gathered in her Space, I

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Speaker 3: charged all of us with finding one fun thing that

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Speaker 3: taps into our inner child and to actually do it

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Speaker 3: and just let ourselves go there.

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Speaker 2: What do you think to you that sounds like a plan.

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Speaker 2: I'm thinking of ideas already, And a lot of it

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Speaker 2: just goes back to doing the things that I did

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Speaker 2: in childhood, because it was so you know, there were

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Speaker 2: moments that were so carefree and I didn't think too

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Speaker 2: much about what I was doing. It was just about

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Speaker 2: having fun, being in the moment and being in my body.

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Speaker 2: And I think those are the things that I need

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Speaker 2: to do today. So I will take you up on

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Speaker 2: that homework, and I'll work on that this week, all right,

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Speaker 2: And so.

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Speaker 3: With us on social media on Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, and

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Speaker 3: let us know, lady, like, what are the fun things

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Speaker 3: that you're doing. If there's things that fun activities that

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Speaker 3: we miss that you were like, I can't believe they

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Speaker 3: didn't mention that, Shout us out and let us know

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Speaker 3: what we need to be doing to have more fun.

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Speaker 3: Thanks for joining us today in her Space. Please note

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Speaker 3: that our show may contain conversations about self help, advice,

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Speaker 3: self empowerment, and mental health, but it is by no

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Speaker 3: means meant to be a substitute for an ongoing formal

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Speaker 3: relationship with a trained mental health provider. If you are

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Speaker 3: someone you know is in need of mental health care,

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Speaker 3: please visit the Therapy for Black Girls directory Psychology Today

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Speaker 3: or contact your insurance provider.

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Speaker 2: If you like what you heard and want to keep

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Speaker 2: the conversation going, connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, and

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Speaker 2: Twitter at her Space podcast, or check out our website

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Speaker 2: at hurtspacepodcast dot com. And before we meet again, repeat

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Speaker 2: after me, I release what no longer serves me to

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Speaker 2: manifest what I desire. Thanks for joining us. We'll see

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Speaker 2: you next week, Lady