WEBVTT - Hard Head Makes A Soft A$$

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio

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<v Speaker 1>and the Black Effect Network.

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<v Speaker 2>We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who talks.

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<v Speaker 1>What's up y'all? That your girl aj Holiday? What's up tam.

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<v Speaker 2>Bama, y'all. I love y'all so much, Thank you for

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<v Speaker 2>coming back.

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<v Speaker 1>Again this week. Yo.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm fat as hell, bro.

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<v Speaker 1>Like we're blaming everything on Hawaiians going, y'all, hear me

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<v Speaker 1>at Taco Bell. They don't close up too.

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<v Speaker 2>Statass niggas fit too.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh no, bitch, I'm fat because let me tell you,

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<v Speaker 1>I saw Instagram how people be making their own the

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<v Speaker 1>twist from Taco Bell. That's the only thing I'll eat

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<v Speaker 1>from Taco Bell. But you could buy like there. It's

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<v Speaker 1>like noodles is week noodles though, and you fry him

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<v Speaker 1>and they turn into those puffs and then you put

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<v Speaker 1>the cinnamon and sugar on.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh I saw that ship on.

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<v Speaker 1>That be throwing the sunglasses to the wall.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I saw his glass. I saw him do that ship.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, that is fire. I want to try.

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<v Speaker 1>When I tell y'all, I went to a Whole Foods

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<v Speaker 1>Public's Harris Teeter. I couldn't I went to the Mexican

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<v Speaker 1>grocery store. They did not have the uh there. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. They call it you not your rolls, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's it's like a wheat noodle and you know, at

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<v Speaker 1>a certain heat, like it blows up like that. I cannot.

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<v Speaker 1>I've spent an evening looking for them ship locally, and

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<v Speaker 1>I just seen that.

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<v Speaker 2>Here.

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<v Speaker 1>Spend an evening looking for them ship one day when

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<v Speaker 1>I saw that post, because I love those things, but

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<v Speaker 1>I hate fast food. Like I'll be trying to make

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<v Speaker 1>all this ship at the house, but making Chinese at

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<v Speaker 1>the house now type of ship.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, we gotta do better the podcast festival that we're

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<v Speaker 2>gonna be. We talk fat in the podcast festival right now,

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<v Speaker 2>y'all this big term bro for real?

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<v Speaker 1>Bit, why you gotta remember.

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<v Speaker 2>What you say? I bet I benefitted this ship a

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<v Speaker 2>big tail bam every week. Yeah, what'd you do over

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<v Speaker 2>the weekend? I ain't look for your rolls.

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<v Speaker 1>Ain't too much work. And the rest of my fucking

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<v Speaker 1>nerves bought them five hundred dollar almost six hundred dollars

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<v Speaker 1>pots from home Since, which is a news store like

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<v Speaker 1>home goods. It's like the same line. Y'all got a

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<v Speaker 1>home since there.

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<v Speaker 2>This one is Charlotte girl.

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<v Speaker 1>Five these parts is five hundred and eighty dollars, bitch

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<v Speaker 1>for two pots and he bor. Yeah, but they're one

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<v Speaker 1>hundred per copper and stainless steel, so they shouldn' last

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<v Speaker 1>meet for life. So bitch, you come here, you serving

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<v Speaker 1>you out them pots? The pots going on to the table.

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<v Speaker 2>I listen, I would if I'm supposed to come to Charleston.

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<v Speaker 2>If I come to Charleston on Thursday, can you make

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<v Speaker 2>me something to eat?

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<v Speaker 1>What healthy we got water? I gotta look. I made

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<v Speaker 1>spaghetti on Sunday. That's what I be eating the whole week.

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<v Speaker 1>Veggie I used beyond meat and there a bunch of

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<v Speaker 1>vegetables and I did put shrimp in it.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what I hate about spaghetti though, Well all week long. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>it's an all week meal. When you make that ship

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<v Speaker 2>that's gonna.

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<v Speaker 1>Be four days old. If you're coming on Thursday.

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<v Speaker 2>What did I do over the weekend? I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>I did something I don't be remembering I did it,

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<v Speaker 2>And that's what I'm saying. I cannot remember what I

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<v Speaker 2>did this weekend. Oh worked, that was it. I worked

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<v Speaker 2>this weekend and then I come back and I hung

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<v Speaker 2>out with the old baby and that was it. It

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<v Speaker 2>was very like Sunday. I rested back to so m h.

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<v Speaker 2>I was getting the sands.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh, we'll be high. I went out.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Keky Shepherd died.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I saw that. I played Keiki Shepherd and a

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<v Speaker 1>play I did it was actually dream Girls in Charleston

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<v Speaker 1>my last year of high school. It was a big

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<v Speaker 1>play though. The whole city came out. We had like

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<v Speaker 1>we did like four maybe maybe four or five uh

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<v Speaker 1>dates and times. But I played Kiki Shepherd. I would

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<v Speaker 1>swimming back then, bitch obviously, and the director stole my

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<v Speaker 1>fucking dresses. I had all a nice ass sparkly shipped

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<v Speaker 1>from all the thrift stores around Charleston, and he was like,

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<v Speaker 1>just give it to me. We're gonna clean him. Never

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<v Speaker 1>got my ship back. Demn, I played Kiki Shepherd. I

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<v Speaker 1>love her. Man.

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<v Speaker 2>She's definitely too.

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<v Speaker 1>She was definitely a staple in the black community for sure.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, Shepherd Paolo coming out looking like a bad bitch

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<v Speaker 2>every week.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, she apparently had a sudden heart attack at seventy

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<v Speaker 1>seven years old. Seventy four years old.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, damn, rest in peace, k Shepherd.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Man nineteen eighty seven in two thousand and two,

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<v Speaker 1>that's how long she graced the stage at the Polla Theater.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and that was a long time. Yep. M did

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<v Speaker 2>you watch the Oscars?

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<v Speaker 1>I did not. I have not watched any of those

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<v Speaker 1>award shows, you know, because my brain be working too much, right,

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<v Speaker 1>so I know what I'm looking at, so I can't.

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<v Speaker 2>Did you did you watch it? Any of the clips

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<v Speaker 2>like of Michael B.

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<v Speaker 1>Jordan And I love them. I'm so like that shit.

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<v Speaker 1>Every time I see Old Boy winning an award like that

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<v Speaker 1>should be like, bitch, start right, We'll finish writing because

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<v Speaker 1>I got a great movie out this motherfucker. Okay, do

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<v Speaker 1>it man.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm to tell you is do that ship Man what

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<v Speaker 2>you waiting on? Because I want to audition.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, I'm so proud of him. I'm so proud of him.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know they they basically like in Hall of

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<v Speaker 1>Fame now at this point for movies.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, yeah, they go down in history. I love, love,

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<v Speaker 2>love how Ryan Coogler speaks about his wife. Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 2>I just love that ship down mm hmmmmm. It's so

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<v Speaker 2>beautiful how he you know, champions her and everything that

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<v Speaker 2>he does. You know m hm.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's how you get all your gifts from God.

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<v Speaker 1>They come via women. I can't say that shit enough

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<v Speaker 1>to find you one and lock in period. Yeah, because

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<v Speaker 1>he always gives things there because she was the one

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<v Speaker 1>who brought it, bought him Final Draft, which is the

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<v Speaker 1>program you used to write your scripts. He talks about that.

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<v Speaker 1>I saw him, not on the Breakfast Club something I

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<v Speaker 1>was watching. I see I saw him talk about you know,

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<v Speaker 1>how she purchased the program for him. So like this

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<v Speaker 1>Nigga had an idea and she helped him execute. Of

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<v Speaker 1>course you're supposed to give things.

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<v Speaker 2>And she was crying when he was doing his speech,

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<v Speaker 2>and it was just so beautiful. Oh, I got a

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<v Speaker 2>beautiful story to share with y'all. It's sad, but it's beautiful.

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<v Speaker 2>My one of my sister's best friends. He flew in

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<v Speaker 2>from Hawaii to go to his cousin's wedding. His cousin

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<v Speaker 2>was sick with cancer and he was getting married and

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<v Speaker 2>he was really sick, you know, like really knocking on

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<v Speaker 2>deaths door. But him and his wife, his girlfriend, who

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<v Speaker 2>they had three kids, they wanted to go ahead and

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<v Speaker 2>get married. They had been planning to be married and

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<v Speaker 2>you know, the sickness came in, it wasn't going to

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<v Speaker 2>stop them. So that weekend was the weekend of the wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>All all the family had come to town. Everybody was

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<v Speaker 2>ready to celebrate their nuptials, and they're in that week

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<v Speaker 2>before the wedding. He took very ill and ended up

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<v Speaker 2>in the hospital and then ended up on life support.

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<v Speaker 2>So the wedding was supposed to be that Sunday. By Wednesday,

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<v Speaker 2>he was not doing too good in the hospital. So

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<v Speaker 2>by Friday they were going to pull the plug on him,

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<v Speaker 2>and you know, see if he survived or not. They

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<v Speaker 2>pulled the plug and he did not pass away, so

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<v Speaker 2>they decided to if he was gonna, you know, still

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<v Speaker 2>be alive, they wanted to go ahead and have the wedding.

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<v Speaker 2>So they had all the bridesmaids, the bride get dressed up,

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<v Speaker 2>everybody come to the closest family, not all the guests,

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<v Speaker 2>but all the closest family I could fit in that room.

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<v Speaker 2>They went to the hospital. The pastor came to the

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<v Speaker 2>hospital and there did the vows by the bedside of

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<v Speaker 2>his hospital bed, and when it was his turn to

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<v Speaker 2>say I do he shook his head. Yes, he couldn't

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<v Speaker 2>speak anymore, but he shook his head yes, and then

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<v Speaker 2>they kissed, and an hour later he passed away. Girl,

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<v Speaker 2>what yes? Ain't that crazy? He said that all he

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to do was make it to his wedding. He

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to make an honest woman of his the mother

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<v Speaker 2>of his kids, and he died an hour after doing that. Baby,

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<v Speaker 2>When I tell you, I cried so hard on Sunday,

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<v Speaker 2>I ain't never met these people today in my life,

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<v Speaker 2>but when I tell you, I cried because it was

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<v Speaker 2>so beautiful and so sad and it sounded like something

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<v Speaker 2>Shonda Rhym's road, but not in real life. So that happened, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>Where were they at now? In South Carolina? D c

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<v Speaker 1>Oh Okay, it's happened in DC. Damn it, man, But

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<v Speaker 1>what a beautiful he's doing?

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<v Speaker 2>Well? Yeah, I mean yeah, so I know that was

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<v Speaker 2>kind of random, but I just wanted to share that

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<v Speaker 2>story with y'all because I mean, how you know that's

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<v Speaker 2>a wild story and a beautiful story and it said

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<v Speaker 2>story all at once.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. So, now how do we transition in now to E. J.

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<v Speaker 2>Johnson? Because that's what I want to talk about. Go ahead, so.

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<v Speaker 1>So Carlos King sat down with e J. Johnson on

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<v Speaker 1>his podcast, which is also on the Black Effect Podcast Network,

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<v Speaker 1>and e J. Johnson had a lot of choice words right.

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<v Speaker 1>A few that I can remember is that you know,

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<v Speaker 1>he looks better than women most of us in.

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<v Speaker 2>The skirt.

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<v Speaker 1>And a skirt, and also that he does not date

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<v Speaker 1>straight men. He he only dates street only date straight men.

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<v Speaker 1>Excuse me, he only dates straight men. I'm trying to

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<v Speaker 1>figure out what the fuck does that mean? At the

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<v Speaker 1>game listen, you know what?

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<v Speaker 2>And me and a friend of the show you know

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<v Speaker 2>as well, we were powowing last night through DMS and

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<v Speaker 2>he said he understood that sentiment about only dating straight men,

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<v Speaker 2>and I was I was like, can I ask a question?

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<v Speaker 2>Because what kind of fuck is sys?

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<v Speaker 1>Do that make?

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<v Speaker 2>Because I could, like, I just be confused, and y'all

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<v Speaker 2>forgive me. But if you were dating him as a man,

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<v Speaker 2>and both of y'all are men, he is no longer

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<v Speaker 2>a straight man. He is not straight, So how can

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<v Speaker 2>you only like straight men? Right? That's not a straight man? Right?

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<v Speaker 1>Am I crazy? Right? And if you are a man

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<v Speaker 1>of a certain age, you ain't just now randomly about

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<v Speaker 1>to run into e J. Johnson and Haller at him. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you have had dealings with other men before, so is

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<v Speaker 1>the process that this man has never been with a

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<v Speaker 1>man prior to you?

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<v Speaker 2>Is that what he means like?

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<v Speaker 1>Or do you mean you want a man who primarily

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<v Speaker 1>only dates women, but then it's also attracted to you

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<v Speaker 1>because you think you're a woman.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, either way, it's not a straight man. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>care how you put a cheek. It's not the same thing.

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<v Speaker 2>You can if you rub it down.

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody game, everybody under saying what we're talking about. And

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<v Speaker 1>the part about him, you know, looking better than a

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<v Speaker 1>woman in a skirt. I mean, I don't know if

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<v Speaker 1>it was shade, but I feel like all a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of gay men they try to slight women in that way.

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<v Speaker 1>They're always talking about how they look more of a

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<v Speaker 1>woman than a woman because being a woman. I say

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<v Speaker 1>this over and over again, it's not about aesthetic. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you can you can go to the hospital, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>go to get surgery to look like a woman. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>you can do that, right, but you will still not

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<v Speaker 1>be a woman biologically.

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<v Speaker 2>You're just not and you know what, and be whoever

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<v Speaker 2>you want to be. That's fine, but I just hate

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<v Speaker 2>why you gotta you know, not women in the process

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<v Speaker 2>of you becoming whoever you are, Like why you can

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<v Speaker 2>say I look better than any woman in a skirt?

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<v Speaker 2>Like why even do that? That's just unnecessary shade to me.

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<v Speaker 2>Because you can think you fine, and it's okay to

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<v Speaker 2>think you fine and think you a woman or whatever

0:13:25.240 --> 0:13:27.559
<v Speaker 2>you think you are. I don't care, that's your prerogative.

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<v Speaker 2>But when you start saying shit like that, like now,

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<v Speaker 2>that's shade to me, Like what I had to do

0:13:32.040 --> 0:13:33.839
<v Speaker 2>with your shit? Why are you talking about?

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<v Speaker 1>You know absolutely nothing, I think, and only that difference

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<v Speaker 1>between gay men and straight men who you know, just

0:13:40.040 --> 0:13:44.199
<v Speaker 1>publicly or outright have this disdain for women is that

0:13:44.520 --> 0:13:47.840
<v Speaker 1>one is gay and one Saitian gay. One is outright

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<v Speaker 1>gay because both of them behaving on women, all of

0:13:51.200 --> 0:13:54.400
<v Speaker 1>them behating on women's like they cannot stand us because

0:13:54.400 --> 0:13:57.040
<v Speaker 1>they are not us. That is what it balls down to.

0:13:57.760 --> 0:14:04.040
<v Speaker 1>And also, you dating supposed heterosexual man, that means that

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<v Speaker 1>man has a family, probably he has children, he has

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<v Speaker 1>a wife, he has a girlfriend, and it does something

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<v Speaker 1>for you to also have access to that man.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, maybe it makes you feel like you have more

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<v Speaker 2>proximity to womanhood or something. I don't know, that's what

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<v Speaker 2>That's what I would imagine like, but like if you

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<v Speaker 2>have a gay man friend, like they do be the

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<v Speaker 2>best friends too. Though my gay homeboy be hyping me

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<v Speaker 2>up even when I fat he'd be like in all

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<v Speaker 2>the right places.

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<v Speaker 1>Be No. A lot of them are sweet people, but

0:14:41.520 --> 0:14:43.800
<v Speaker 1>then they have this little this They all have a

0:14:43.840 --> 0:14:47.640
<v Speaker 1>little thing with him, right, this little competition with women.

0:14:48.320 --> 0:14:51.200
<v Speaker 1>And we're not in competition with y'all the minute. If

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<v Speaker 1>I'm fucking with somebody, like God forbid this, whatever happened,

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<v Speaker 1>let me know.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think that might be the fem ones, because

0:14:58.160 --> 0:15:02.320
<v Speaker 2>it's something that do you think it's the the masculine presenting, No,

0:15:03.200 --> 0:15:04.120
<v Speaker 2>it's usually the.

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<v Speaker 1>Feminine or the transsexuals. Usually those are the ones who

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<v Speaker 1>you know. I saw you know T. S. Madison. She

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<v Speaker 1>was online one time she was like, we are the

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<v Speaker 1>men who protect trans women? Like what, you're a man,

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<v Speaker 1>protect yourself? Then what we're talking about? You are talking

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<v Speaker 1>about where are the men to protect trans women? What?

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<v Speaker 1>What are we talking about? I will not. I refuse

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<v Speaker 1>to play into this delusion with these grown ass men.

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<v Speaker 1>I refuse because again, the highest form of patriarchy is

0:15:45.040 --> 0:15:48.040
<v Speaker 1>for a man to tell you, bitch, I'm you because

0:15:48.080 --> 0:15:52.880
<v Speaker 1>I feel like it. No, sir, you're a man and

0:15:52.960 --> 0:15:57.800
<v Speaker 1>all who'll get mad about it because you don't care

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<v Speaker 1>about about our feelings.

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<v Speaker 2>They don't.

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<v Speaker 1>They got to respect their stances, but they they don't

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<v Speaker 1>give a damn what we're talking about, because it's stow patriarchy.

0:16:06.880 --> 0:16:09.960
<v Speaker 1>You do not hear from trans men. You do not

0:16:10.120 --> 0:16:14.800
<v Speaker 1>hear trans men, which are women out here ruha and

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<v Speaker 1>and everybody face and I'm stronger. Don't let me tell

0:16:23.120 --> 0:16:25.280
<v Speaker 1>you women, we we be the best at all the

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<v Speaker 1>ship because those trans men be fine as hell.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you hear me some of them? Some women ask

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<v Speaker 2>me fat like I hain't seeing the trans with their

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<v Speaker 2>fat asses.

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<v Speaker 1>Or something that you can understand why they trans into

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<v Speaker 1>to a man and they be pregnant?

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<v Speaker 2>What is that? Shrak? What is That's a lot going on?

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<v Speaker 2>It's a lot happening. What is happening? You got that

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<v Speaker 2>big old bookie.

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<v Speaker 1>One of my cousins. Hey, girl, boy, whatever the fuck?

0:17:04.359 --> 0:17:06.359
<v Speaker 1>She got the fattest ass in the world. She a

0:17:06.440 --> 0:17:09.879
<v Speaker 1>boy in the relationship, the fat she and she got

0:17:10.000 --> 0:17:13.120
<v Speaker 1>kinkles like the gas legs always to the ankle. That's

0:17:13.160 --> 0:17:18.080
<v Speaker 1>a fat I bitch. Okay, she's the boy, and I'll

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<v Speaker 1>always be like, how are you doing all that with

0:17:20.680 --> 0:17:21.359
<v Speaker 1>that fat ass?

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<v Speaker 2>Let's sagging girl? You pull your pants up so with

0:17:27.720 --> 0:17:31.240
<v Speaker 2>fat need a lap dance? Shame all right? So any

0:17:31.800 --> 0:17:35.160
<v Speaker 2>n L E chopper says, you ain't never been through

0:17:35.200 --> 0:17:38.399
<v Speaker 2>shit if you wear a seat belt. So he is

0:17:38.480 --> 0:17:40.920
<v Speaker 2>riding down the street with no seat belt on talking

0:17:40.920 --> 0:17:42.720
<v Speaker 2>about if you wear a seat belt, you ain't been

0:17:42.800 --> 0:17:45.520
<v Speaker 2>through shit. If you ever see him in the seat belt.

0:17:46.119 --> 0:17:49.200
<v Speaker 2>He riding with somebody who he feels like can't drive,

0:17:49.320 --> 0:17:51.040
<v Speaker 2>and that's the only time he wear a seat belt

0:17:51.040 --> 0:17:53.160
<v Speaker 2>because he done have real life experiences.

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<v Speaker 1>Boy, you stupid because you're not concerned about getting accidents

0:17:57.400 --> 0:17:59.760
<v Speaker 1>with other people. I can drive, I wear a seatbelt

0:17:59.760 --> 0:18:03.800
<v Speaker 1>because somebody else might hit me right driving.

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<v Speaker 2>Where's the sense? And these are this is the people

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<v Speaker 2>that like young youth are looking up to. And it's scary.

0:18:12.840 --> 0:18:15.000
<v Speaker 1>You think niggas looking up the NL E chopper.

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<v Speaker 2>Young maybe young niggas. So now they're thinking like now

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<v Speaker 2>they're riding down the street with no seatbelt because they

0:18:21.400 --> 0:18:25.080
<v Speaker 2>want to prove they've been through some ship I've been

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<v Speaker 2>jumped on loose.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to be loose in the car, Like

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<v Speaker 1>when I don't got my seatput on, I feel loose,

0:18:30.240 --> 0:18:33.960
<v Speaker 1>like baked. I just feel like I'm just all over

0:18:34.040 --> 0:18:35.800
<v Speaker 1>the place in the car, like whoa, whoa.

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<v Speaker 2>Over the speed bulls bitch and jumping up.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, put your fucking seatput on, stupid boy. It ain't

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<v Speaker 1>just because it's not just for you, okay, Like even

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<v Speaker 1>if you are a good driver, everybody is not a

0:18:53.000 --> 0:18:55.040
<v Speaker 1>good driver. Somebody can hit you and you got no

0:18:55.080 --> 0:18:56.760
<v Speaker 1>seatput on. So now your ass going at.

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<v Speaker 2>The windshield because you've been through stuff?

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<v Speaker 1>Who sass?

0:19:01.200 --> 0:19:03.200
<v Speaker 2>You go beat through the bullshit? You go be through

0:19:03.200 --> 0:19:04.000
<v Speaker 2>a wishy.

0:19:05.480 --> 0:19:06.280
<v Speaker 1>Take me through there?

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<v Speaker 2>Where we going?

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<v Speaker 1>Twin right, y'all?

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<v Speaker 2>So I have an eminem messy meme.

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<v Speaker 1>The game the game Twitter and said, we all here

0:19:20.359 --> 0:19:27.639
<v Speaker 1>calling each other mattress sizes, twin king and queen. I

0:19:27.720 --> 0:19:33.040
<v Speaker 1>guess we ain't say foe though. I feel full right now.

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<v Speaker 2>That's me right now, damn.

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<v Speaker 1>Your full twin queen.

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<v Speaker 2>Book. What are we talking about this week?

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<v Speaker 1>All right, y'all? You know how I always say like

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like our podcast for me, my target market

0:19:53.200 --> 0:19:56.680
<v Speaker 1>is you know, the younger women, right, y'all can live

0:19:56.760 --> 0:19:58.800
<v Speaker 1>vicuriously through us, so you don't have to go through

0:19:58.800 --> 0:20:01.200
<v Speaker 1>the dumb ship. But I wanted to talk about some

0:20:01.400 --> 0:20:05.399
<v Speaker 1>things you wish you would have listened to at twenty

0:20:05.480 --> 0:20:09.080
<v Speaker 1>five or something. Somebody may have told your ass that

0:20:09.200 --> 0:20:12.640
<v Speaker 1>you didn't listen to that now at your current age,

0:20:12.720 --> 0:20:15.160
<v Speaker 1>you wish you had. That's one. That's what I want

0:20:15.200 --> 0:20:20.080
<v Speaker 1>to talk about today. Okay, I head make a soft ass.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen, let's get into it. We'll be right back. Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So I have one that should resonate with everybody over

0:20:36.600 --> 0:20:42.040
<v Speaker 2>forty years old. You are not I've been doing the

0:20:42.119 --> 0:20:44.720
<v Speaker 2>whole thing. You are not fat, you are not ugly.

0:20:44.840 --> 0:20:47.600
<v Speaker 2>You don't look bad the body that you have right now.

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<v Speaker 2>In fifteen years from now, you're gonna look back and

0:20:51.800 --> 0:20:54.440
<v Speaker 2>be like, it wasn't that bad. I used to be

0:20:54.600 --> 0:20:57.840
<v Speaker 2>so that on my body. I used to be so

0:20:58.080 --> 0:21:00.720
<v Speaker 2>hard on my body at twenty five, so hard on

0:21:00.800 --> 0:21:03.520
<v Speaker 2>myself I'm thirty, So hard on myself at thirty five,

0:21:03.640 --> 0:21:07.320
<v Speaker 2>you know, just hard on your body and how it looks,

0:21:07.440 --> 0:21:10.200
<v Speaker 2>and always eat like I'm getting on here and I'm

0:21:10.200 --> 0:21:13.920
<v Speaker 2>saying I'm fat. But I'm more comfortable in my fatness

0:21:14.000 --> 0:21:15.720
<v Speaker 2>than I've ever been, honestly, like.

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<v Speaker 1>I've hold on now, but we ain't about to wait

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<v Speaker 1>till we ten ten more years from now, and looking

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<v Speaker 1>back like, oh, I wasn't that bad, because I'll be

0:21:25.600 --> 0:21:28.239
<v Speaker 1>damned if I'm any bigger than what I am right now.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, I got new year up right now because

0:21:30.280 --> 0:21:35.720
<v Speaker 2>I'm waddling bitch. But I'll be damn but even in

0:21:35.880 --> 0:21:39.240
<v Speaker 2>my wattle, my skin will be tighter than it is.

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<v Speaker 2>Ten years from now, my ill just be more youthful.

0:21:43.359 --> 0:21:46.159
<v Speaker 2>You know, I'll just be ten years older. So we

0:21:46.359 --> 0:21:49.080
<v Speaker 2>just have to appreciate the body that we have while

0:21:49.119 --> 0:21:51.600
<v Speaker 2>were in it, while we in the moment, and stop

0:21:52.119 --> 0:21:56.320
<v Speaker 2>being hard on ourselves. So that's definitely one, because I

0:21:56.400 --> 0:21:58.480
<v Speaker 2>know we all look back on that on pictures from

0:21:58.560 --> 0:22:00.560
<v Speaker 2>like and I was like, damn, I was saying I

0:22:00.720 --> 0:22:04.160
<v Speaker 2>was fat. I looked good as fuck right there, right?

0:22:04.280 --> 0:22:05.320
<v Speaker 1>Can I get back there?

0:22:06.160 --> 0:22:06.320
<v Speaker 2>Right?

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<v Speaker 1>I was looking at some pictures and when I used

0:22:08.280 --> 0:22:10.480
<v Speaker 1>to live in Saint Louis, and I feel like I

0:22:10.560 --> 0:22:13.720
<v Speaker 1>probably had the best body, I would say then. So

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<v Speaker 1>that would have been like twenty from twenty eleven to

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<v Speaker 1>twenty fifteen or twenty ten to twenty fifteen, and then

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<v Speaker 1>like sometime like in two thousand, I don't know, eight

0:22:26.680 --> 0:22:28.440
<v Speaker 1>something like that, Like I don't know. It was a

0:22:28.480 --> 0:22:31.359
<v Speaker 1>good it was a good little I just remember my

0:22:31.520 --> 0:22:33.720
<v Speaker 1>mind being different around that time too, right, I was

0:22:33.840 --> 0:22:36.960
<v Speaker 1>way more disciplined around that time. I was kind of

0:22:37.080 --> 0:22:40.080
<v Speaker 1>more isolated because I was living away with no family,

0:22:40.400 --> 0:22:42.880
<v Speaker 1>hardly no friends, and I went to the gym every

0:22:42.960 --> 0:22:45.920
<v Speaker 1>fucking day. But I was like, I was really focused

0:22:46.680 --> 0:22:49.960
<v Speaker 1>until I got into a relationship, a long distance one.

0:22:50.760 --> 0:22:53.720
<v Speaker 1>Then I moved back south, and then I got fat,

0:22:54.520 --> 0:22:57.439
<v Speaker 1>and then I almost went to prison. Just some fucking

0:22:57.560 --> 0:23:01.600
<v Speaker 1>domino effect. After that, I've got to another relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>Game are like, it's just listen life.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, So I'm one of my suggestions if you are

0:23:09.280 --> 0:23:12.480
<v Speaker 1>in your or why where somebody would have told me was,

0:23:13.080 --> 0:23:15.480
<v Speaker 1>you know, keep your regrets to them. And I always

0:23:15.520 --> 0:23:19.240
<v Speaker 1>say that get out of those relationships soon and early

0:23:19.320 --> 0:23:21.760
<v Speaker 1>if they are not serving you. Do not stay around

0:23:22.560 --> 0:23:25.760
<v Speaker 1>now weight you can put on weight and happy relationships

0:23:25.760 --> 0:23:27.600
<v Speaker 1>too now because y'all just eating and laying up.

0:23:27.920 --> 0:23:28.879
<v Speaker 2>That's what I'm doing with that.

0:23:32.440 --> 0:23:36.359
<v Speaker 1>That's always fun. But don't you know, don't forget right

0:23:36.359 --> 0:23:39.680
<v Speaker 1>because it is easier to lose weight in your twenties.

0:23:42.400 --> 0:23:45.359
<v Speaker 1>Ho do you get your metabolism slow down? Bit You

0:23:45.480 --> 0:23:47.600
<v Speaker 1>got to take all types of supplements and all type

0:23:47.600 --> 0:23:50.680
<v Speaker 1>of shit to get that. It's just something that's just

0:23:50.800 --> 0:23:53.400
<v Speaker 1>your body is changing. It's not the same and molecular

0:23:54.000 --> 0:23:56.840
<v Speaker 1>you know, formation of all the things. It's just not

0:23:56.920 --> 0:23:57.240
<v Speaker 1>the same.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, one that I have. I wish somebody would

0:24:01.440 --> 0:24:04.200
<v Speaker 2>have told me at twenty five, or I would you know,

0:24:04.960 --> 0:24:10.239
<v Speaker 2>known at twenty five, y'all start putting money into an

0:24:10.400 --> 0:24:17.680
<v Speaker 2>IRA now reality, because by the time you're retired, you

0:24:17.800 --> 0:24:21.480
<v Speaker 2>can have a million dollars waiting on you, a million

0:24:21.560 --> 0:24:26.159
<v Speaker 2>dollars just by putting little, small amounts over time, you

0:24:26.280 --> 0:24:28.040
<v Speaker 2>can have so much money.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I wish so, I mean, never mind twenty five,

0:24:32.200 --> 0:24:34.360
<v Speaker 1>like right now, like what are we doing to set

0:24:34.400 --> 0:24:36.159
<v Speaker 1>that up for now? Because I know I'm working on it.

0:24:36.520 --> 0:24:38.600
<v Speaker 1>But a lot of people, even our age right now,

0:24:39.160 --> 0:24:42.160
<v Speaker 1>aren't doing that because they still don't have the financial literacy.

0:24:42.240 --> 0:24:43.680
<v Speaker 1>So that is one part I wanted to get to

0:24:44.320 --> 0:24:47.159
<v Speaker 1>with the younger. I wish when I was younger, like

0:24:47.320 --> 0:24:51.480
<v Speaker 1>my mom never explained credit. She's always had good credit.

0:24:52.760 --> 0:24:55.280
<v Speaker 1>She just she doesn't know how to make money off credit, right,

0:24:55.359 --> 0:24:59.880
<v Speaker 1>she doesn't understand finance and av Yeah, she just knew

0:25:00.080 --> 0:25:02.040
<v Speaker 1>you buy something, you got to pay for it, or

0:25:02.200 --> 0:25:03.680
<v Speaker 1>you know, if you don't have the money, you can't

0:25:03.720 --> 0:25:05.560
<v Speaker 1>get it. That's all she knew. But she's always had

0:25:05.600 --> 0:25:08.120
<v Speaker 1>like an eight hundred sums credit score, but she never

0:25:08.320 --> 0:25:11.600
<v Speaker 1>passed that information down to her kids. All of us

0:25:11.680 --> 0:25:14.200
<v Speaker 1>have had bad credit at some fucking point. Okay, I

0:25:14.280 --> 0:25:16.719
<v Speaker 1>don't have credit out twice in life now.

0:25:17.400 --> 0:25:19.680
<v Speaker 2>First of all, I am all kind of bills in

0:25:19.760 --> 0:25:21.800
<v Speaker 2>my name. I wouldn't eight years old.

0:25:24.640 --> 0:25:27.600
<v Speaker 1>Oh that's another thing. Pull your credit report, depending on

0:25:27.640 --> 0:25:30.760
<v Speaker 1>who your mom is. Pull your credit report right now.

0:25:30.960 --> 0:25:33.320
<v Speaker 1>If you've never pulled your credit report, and you're twenty

0:25:33.359 --> 0:25:36.119
<v Speaker 1>five listening and we talk aback, pull your shit just

0:25:36.240 --> 0:25:39.159
<v Speaker 1>in case there might be a default light built in

0:25:39.280 --> 0:25:43.280
<v Speaker 1>your name. Right. You don't got to get your mom arrested,

0:25:43.359 --> 0:25:46.120
<v Speaker 1>but you can dispute it today if you need help.

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<v Speaker 1>DM me.

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<v Speaker 2>Right.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember my friend kid like when when I met him,

0:25:54.200 --> 0:25:56.320
<v Speaker 1>I might have been I probably was like twenty seven

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<v Speaker 1>a time, and I've always been an adult though, you

0:25:58.640 --> 0:25:59.960
<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying, so, it's a lot of things

0:26:00.920 --> 0:26:03.119
<v Speaker 1>I feel like, ain't nobody never told me shit. My

0:26:03.200 --> 0:26:05.159
<v Speaker 1>mom ain't never told me nothing like anything. I know,

0:26:05.320 --> 0:26:07.200
<v Speaker 1>I had to learn on my own for the most part.

0:26:09.200 --> 0:26:12.200
<v Speaker 1>But I remember pulling his credit report. Now, his dad

0:26:12.320 --> 0:26:16.879
<v Speaker 1>is uh African, so that would talk shit to him

0:26:16.880 --> 0:26:18.520
<v Speaker 1>about how you know, he's paying for him to go

0:26:18.640 --> 0:26:20.399
<v Speaker 1>through go to school and all this shit. Man, I

0:26:20.440 --> 0:26:22.360
<v Speaker 1>pull man that nigga has so much shit in his name,

0:26:22.400 --> 0:26:26.200
<v Speaker 1>including them student loans. Your daddy't paying for nothing, boy.

0:26:27.600 --> 0:26:30.480
<v Speaker 1>And I think a credit report was crazy. I mean,

0:26:30.800 --> 0:26:32.960
<v Speaker 1>like he had so much shit and had never put

0:26:32.960 --> 0:26:36.000
<v Speaker 1>anything in his name. Wow, and had a whole credit profile.

0:26:36.600 --> 0:26:38.960
<v Speaker 1>So check your shit. Check your credit report today.

0:26:42.040 --> 0:26:45.040
<v Speaker 2>Oh my mama had somebody at one time using her credit,

0:26:45.119 --> 0:26:47.520
<v Speaker 2>but they was paying shit on time. It was so

0:26:47.720 --> 0:26:50.080
<v Speaker 2>weird that her credit score was going up on shit that.

0:26:50.280 --> 0:26:54.600
<v Speaker 1>She never had. Yeah, she probably just let somebody, I

0:26:54.680 --> 0:26:59.760
<v Speaker 1>mean essentially they build her credit for her basically.

0:26:59.600 --> 0:27:00.840
<v Speaker 2>But she don't know who it was.

0:27:06.600 --> 0:27:09.480
<v Speaker 1>It was probably somebody probably sold her Social Security number

0:27:09.480 --> 0:27:12.600
<v Speaker 1>as a CPN and that person was actually taking care

0:27:12.640 --> 0:27:15.480
<v Speaker 1>of it, yeah, and not burning it out. You know.

0:27:15.560 --> 0:27:17.200
<v Speaker 1>All y'all about to go to jail for fraud, for

0:27:17.280 --> 0:27:21.000
<v Speaker 1>burning out cpns and shit. But that might be what happened.

0:27:21.119 --> 0:27:24.800
<v Speaker 1>Shit thinks it was wild. Let me open somebody uh

0:27:25.040 --> 0:27:27.720
<v Speaker 1>hacked my shit? Because listen, I'm blaming everything on you.

0:27:28.520 --> 0:27:31.320
<v Speaker 1>I never went to college. Whose student loans are.

0:27:31.240 --> 0:27:33.000
<v Speaker 2>Those men I did college?

0:27:35.240 --> 0:27:38.399
<v Speaker 1>They had never been Please, I didn't. I don't know

0:27:38.480 --> 0:27:43.000
<v Speaker 1>who did that. I don't know this man. Yeah, so

0:27:43.200 --> 0:27:45.480
<v Speaker 1>let me think of anything else. I wish somebody would

0:27:45.520 --> 0:27:52.320
<v Speaker 1>have told me at twenty five. Now, finances, I don't know.

0:27:52.400 --> 0:28:02.040
<v Speaker 1>Let's talk about men. Yeah, relationship relationships get out like

0:28:02.160 --> 0:28:04.960
<v Speaker 1>I said, fast and soon, like don't wait for the

0:28:05.080 --> 0:28:06.240
<v Speaker 1>sixth flag.

0:28:06.800 --> 0:28:08.960
<v Speaker 2>Let me tell you that's one that I still ain't learned.

0:28:09.000 --> 0:28:12.520
<v Speaker 2>My Listen, like I just be locked in, like I

0:28:12.640 --> 0:28:16.080
<v Speaker 2>be like so in love I'll be once I get there.

0:28:16.240 --> 0:28:19.399
<v Speaker 2>It's hard for me to let go. I still struggle now.

0:28:19.440 --> 0:28:21.560
<v Speaker 2>It take a lot for me to get there with somebody.

0:28:21.920 --> 0:28:24.080
<v Speaker 2>It'll take a whole lot for me to be like, oh,

0:28:24.160 --> 0:28:25.679
<v Speaker 2>I love him and I really want to be with them,

0:28:25.720 --> 0:28:29.800
<v Speaker 2>and I'm gona claim them publicly. But once I get there,

0:28:30.200 --> 0:28:32.200
<v Speaker 2>I'm ready to go through hell and high warded with

0:28:32.280 --> 0:28:33.600
<v Speaker 2>a motherfucker forever.

0:28:34.760 --> 0:28:37.840
<v Speaker 1>I think also society makes women feel like we give

0:28:37.960 --> 0:28:41.520
<v Speaker 1>up on relationships so easily, like we easily walk away,

0:28:41.520 --> 0:28:43.680
<v Speaker 1>and it cannot be furthest from the truth. I think

0:28:43.680 --> 0:28:47.720
<v Speaker 1>a lot of us stay in relationships hoping it gets better.

0:28:48.880 --> 0:28:49.040
<v Speaker 2>You know.

0:28:49.400 --> 0:28:52.280
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but man, I'm telling y'all, men are not gonna

0:28:52.280 --> 0:28:54.560
<v Speaker 1>deal with half the shit they put you through, So

0:28:54.880 --> 0:28:56.320
<v Speaker 1>just think about it. That is when you need to

0:28:56.400 --> 0:28:58.360
<v Speaker 1>think like a man. You need to think like a man.

0:28:58.680 --> 0:29:01.600
<v Speaker 1>When a man is doing some shit, you would he

0:29:01.840 --> 0:29:04.120
<v Speaker 1>stay with you if you do the same thing to him,

0:29:04.560 --> 0:29:07.880
<v Speaker 1>because nine times out of ten, he's gonna beat your

0:29:07.960 --> 0:29:09.120
<v Speaker 1>ass and then he out of there.

0:29:10.280 --> 0:29:12.480
<v Speaker 2>But sometimes, like if he cheating on if you cheat

0:29:12.520 --> 0:29:14.680
<v Speaker 2>on him, some of these niggas be saying it just

0:29:14.760 --> 0:29:18.920
<v Speaker 2>be a secret. But then why you why did you

0:29:19.080 --> 0:29:22.920
<v Speaker 2>smile like that? I just hurt. I just heard.

0:29:25.080 --> 0:29:27.000
<v Speaker 1>Like he ain't gonna never share with his homeboys that

0:29:27.160 --> 0:29:31.800
<v Speaker 1>you cheated on him before. Yeah, because he probably he

0:29:31.880 --> 0:29:35.600
<v Speaker 1>probably subconsciously think you owe him that because he probably

0:29:35.640 --> 0:29:36.680
<v Speaker 1>not cheated on your ass.

0:29:37.800 --> 0:29:39.960
<v Speaker 2>Or maybe maybe he's.

0:29:39.800 --> 0:29:42.840
<v Speaker 1>Cheated worse than you ever known, you know. And I'm

0:29:42.880 --> 0:29:45.240
<v Speaker 1>not gonna say there's no relationships out here with women

0:29:45.520 --> 0:29:48.960
<v Speaker 1>then cheat first, third, and last. I am saying that

0:29:49.080 --> 0:29:52.800
<v Speaker 1>because women be cheating for sure, we just don't get caught.

0:29:53.280 --> 0:29:55.480
<v Speaker 1>I feel like you really love your partner when you

0:29:55.560 --> 0:29:58.160
<v Speaker 1>don't get caught. Will you be leaving trash out for

0:29:58.240 --> 0:30:01.040
<v Speaker 1>people to step on and see, like dogs leave shit out?

0:30:01.480 --> 0:30:03.360
<v Speaker 1>You do not love the person you're with.

0:30:04.200 --> 0:30:11.440
<v Speaker 2>You're because some people just not slick, you know. That's

0:30:11.480 --> 0:30:11.960
<v Speaker 2>what I said.

0:30:12.000 --> 0:30:14.920
<v Speaker 1>You need to be slick of you cheating, Yeah, you

0:30:15.040 --> 0:30:15.400
<v Speaker 1>need to be.

0:30:15.600 --> 0:30:17.880
<v Speaker 2>But everybody. I had one of my homegirls, she is

0:30:17.920 --> 0:30:20.720
<v Speaker 2>the worst cheater in the world. Like, God, damn, you

0:30:20.840 --> 0:30:23.200
<v Speaker 2>need to stop. You keep getting caught. I'm talking about

0:30:23.320 --> 0:30:26.200
<v Speaker 2>every single time she get caught red handed. It's like

0:30:27.360 --> 0:30:30.080
<v Speaker 2>she was caught with a nigga. It wouldn't be like Everdence,

0:30:30.160 --> 0:30:34.360
<v Speaker 2>it'd be like with another nigga. Like every one time

0:30:34.440 --> 0:30:36.800
<v Speaker 2>she got caught she called me. She's like, girl, my

0:30:36.960 --> 0:30:38.720
<v Speaker 2>man came and I had another thing at my house.

0:30:38.760 --> 0:30:41.080
<v Speaker 2>I would to hit in the closet. I said, that's

0:30:41.120 --> 0:30:41.920
<v Speaker 2>your own house.

0:30:42.040 --> 0:30:47.120
<v Speaker 1>Bit I got a homegirl who her and the nigga

0:30:47.240 --> 0:30:50.200
<v Speaker 1>was under the bed. Bitch her baby daddy and I

0:30:50.320 --> 0:30:54.120
<v Speaker 1>have broken the window of her apartment. He climbed up

0:30:54.160 --> 0:30:57.760
<v Speaker 1>to a second floor window and got inside her apartment,

0:30:57.840 --> 0:30:59.840
<v Speaker 1>and her and the other nigga was underneath the bed

0:31:00.520 --> 0:31:07.960
<v Speaker 1>watching watching feet like a scary movie. They didn't get caught, no,

0:31:08.640 --> 0:31:10.920
<v Speaker 1>he he naw he he never knew they were in

0:31:11.000 --> 0:31:12.840
<v Speaker 1>there to this day.

0:31:13.640 --> 0:31:15.560
<v Speaker 2>I mean, they ain't get to I don't play games

0:31:15.640 --> 0:31:18.240
<v Speaker 2>like that because I know how I would act if

0:31:18.280 --> 0:31:19.200
<v Speaker 2>I caught somebody.

0:31:20.800 --> 0:31:23.720
<v Speaker 1>I might break out my house. You breaking my house,

0:31:23.720 --> 0:31:25.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm flipping that shit on you with the nigga sitting

0:31:25.840 --> 0:31:29.160
<v Speaker 1>right there. How dare you breaking to my motherfucker house?

0:31:29.560 --> 0:31:30.440
<v Speaker 2>Can I tell you I'm a.

0:31:30.440 --> 0:31:34.800
<v Speaker 1>Gas like this ship that nigga? Why you going to jail?

0:31:36.080 --> 0:31:37.880
<v Speaker 2>Accountability? Fuck that.

0:31:40.960 --> 0:31:43.320
<v Speaker 1>I am not taking accountability for being on some motion

0:31:43.800 --> 0:31:45.000
<v Speaker 1>or you do broke in my house?

0:31:45.320 --> 0:31:48.760
<v Speaker 2>No, fuck you?

0:31:49.600 --> 0:31:58.920
<v Speaker 1>What are you doing here? Absolutely not? Uh? Reality versus potential. Okay,

0:31:59.120 --> 0:32:01.760
<v Speaker 1>when you see this man and this is how he's presenting,

0:32:01.880 --> 0:32:05.360
<v Speaker 1>believe him. Okay, Now I can tell you I was

0:32:05.560 --> 0:32:07.680
<v Speaker 1>in That's why I hate Columbia so much. I've had

0:32:07.720 --> 0:32:11.040
<v Speaker 1>some of my worst relationships in Columbia, South Carolina. Okay,

0:32:11.760 --> 0:32:16.080
<v Speaker 1>and one of my boyfriends I met him at the

0:32:16.120 --> 0:32:18.360
<v Speaker 1>gas station by the apartment where I lived at and

0:32:18.400 --> 0:32:20.680
<v Speaker 1>he was actually working at the gas station part time

0:32:22.000 --> 0:32:26.680
<v Speaker 1>just so he can get gas money to drive to

0:32:27.440 --> 0:32:32.920
<v Speaker 1>Orangeburg for this Degel mechanics school. Right, So I saw

0:32:33.080 --> 0:32:36.400
<v Speaker 1>the potential. But this man had a whole fucking family.

0:32:36.480 --> 0:32:38.840
<v Speaker 1>Dawn there stole with the family. He's still with his

0:32:38.920 --> 0:32:42.120
<v Speaker 1>baby mama to this day. Okay, his kid's grown his

0:32:42.240 --> 0:32:47.560
<v Speaker 1>hair now. But I was I saw. I don't know.

0:32:47.680 --> 0:32:49.920
<v Speaker 1>I think women we be so delusional, like we be

0:32:50.000 --> 0:32:53.120
<v Speaker 1>seeing a future with every fucking body. He was such

0:32:53.120 --> 0:32:56.080
<v Speaker 1>a hard worker, like, yes, you can see the potential

0:32:56.120 --> 0:32:57.440
<v Speaker 1>and where he's going to be at in the future

0:32:57.440 --> 0:32:59.440
<v Speaker 1>because he does well now, right, And I saw that

0:32:59.640 --> 0:33:03.440
<v Speaker 1>then mm hmm. But he was on some bullshit like

0:33:03.520 --> 0:33:05.760
<v Speaker 1>he always gonna be a lover boy like his baby

0:33:05.800 --> 0:33:07.560
<v Speaker 1>mama gonna always have to deal with him fucking other

0:33:07.600 --> 0:33:12.800
<v Speaker 1>bitches like forever. And I knew that then, well no more.

0:33:13.880 --> 0:33:14.800
<v Speaker 2>I got up out of there.

0:33:14.880 --> 0:33:19.120
<v Speaker 1>But y'all, it was two tup pregnancies later, the baby

0:33:19.160 --> 0:33:21.920
<v Speaker 1>mam was pregnant the second time I was pregnant at

0:33:21.960 --> 0:33:24.440
<v Speaker 1>the same time. It was a whole lot of bullshit,

0:33:25.160 --> 0:33:29.200
<v Speaker 1>and my twenties middle finger to my old life. Don't

0:33:29.560 --> 0:33:32.000
<v Speaker 1>go through it the minute of a bitch call you

0:33:32.080 --> 0:33:34.200
<v Speaker 1>a phone. I remember this girl calling my phone. I'm

0:33:34.240 --> 0:33:36.840
<v Speaker 1>at work. She like, who are you there? So and so?

0:33:37.160 --> 0:33:39.080
<v Speaker 1>I said, who did he say? I am? I said,

0:33:39.080 --> 0:33:41.680
<v Speaker 1>you calling me? You should ask him? And furthermore, why

0:33:41.680 --> 0:33:43.640
<v Speaker 1>are you going through his phone? That's my favorite shit

0:33:43.720 --> 0:33:47.160
<v Speaker 1>to tell a bitch when they call me. Why are

0:33:47.160 --> 0:33:49.480
<v Speaker 1>you on his phone? And if you got a check

0:33:49.560 --> 0:33:51.920
<v Speaker 1>for me, you already know what time it is? Like,

0:33:52.120 --> 0:33:54.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm not, but yeah, asked that man. Okay.

0:33:55.640 --> 0:33:57.760
<v Speaker 2>I remember I had a girl post my picture on

0:33:57.880 --> 0:34:02.040
<v Speaker 2>social media, her nigga that I ain't even never met

0:34:02.080 --> 0:34:06.640
<v Speaker 2>in real life. He was just in the DMS and

0:34:06.720 --> 0:34:09.759
<v Speaker 2>they were on vacation, and he was like mesicaging me

0:34:09.840 --> 0:34:12.000
<v Speaker 2>while they were on vacation because they were arguing about

0:34:12.040 --> 0:34:14.320
<v Speaker 2>something I didn't I didn't know none of this. And

0:34:14.400 --> 0:34:17.720
<v Speaker 2>then I wake up in the morning and I'm tagged.

0:34:18.520 --> 0:34:19.560
<v Speaker 2>It's some bullshit.

0:34:19.800 --> 0:34:22.239
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I'm the fuck I don't even know this

0:34:22.400 --> 0:34:27.640
<v Speaker 1>nigga like that, Relax? Why are you ruin a vacation girl?

0:34:28.120 --> 0:34:31.560
<v Speaker 2>That's why I listen how I always tell my clients

0:34:31.760 --> 0:34:35.120
<v Speaker 2>and homegirls, like, don't ruin your own vacation on some

0:34:35.280 --> 0:34:37.879
<v Speaker 2>bullshit going through Why would you go through a nigga

0:34:37.920 --> 0:34:40.600
<v Speaker 2>phone on vacation, like you want to have.

0:34:40.680 --> 0:34:41.319
<v Speaker 1>A bad time?

0:34:42.320 --> 0:34:43.760
<v Speaker 2>You asked me for bullshit.

0:34:44.600 --> 0:34:47.880
<v Speaker 1>Basically, I had a nigga go through my phone on Christmas, Like,

0:34:48.080 --> 0:34:49.800
<v Speaker 1>what the fuck nigga?

0:34:50.760 --> 0:34:52.719
<v Speaker 2>You want to ruin Chris Christmas.

0:34:52.560 --> 0:34:54.480
<v Speaker 1>And New Year's at this point, because fuck you, you

0:34:54.719 --> 0:34:56.040
<v Speaker 1>ain't going intobody New Years?

0:34:56.480 --> 0:34:59.560
<v Speaker 2>Why are you and my damn cell phone? Anytime a

0:34:59.640 --> 0:35:01.919
<v Speaker 2>nigga through my phone, I was flabb against it because

0:35:01.920 --> 0:35:06.960
<v Speaker 2>I thought only women did that. I was lie, it's

0:35:07.080 --> 0:35:08.000
<v Speaker 2>not they do it.

0:35:09.160 --> 0:35:13.480
<v Speaker 1>They go through I'm gonna tell y'all, men go through

0:35:13.880 --> 0:35:16.680
<v Speaker 1>women's phones. Ain't it been a time I've ever been in,

0:35:16.719 --> 0:35:18.520
<v Speaker 1>like in a real serious relationship with a man that

0:35:18.600 --> 0:35:20.360
<v Speaker 1>I don't pick my phone up in my settings and

0:35:20.600 --> 0:35:22.440
<v Speaker 1>is different in all type of shit weird in my

0:35:22.560 --> 0:35:24.800
<v Speaker 1>cell phone because I know you've been in there fiddling

0:35:24.880 --> 0:35:26.439
<v Speaker 1>around doing some shit.

0:35:27.239 --> 0:35:31.000
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so you see, I wasn't even covering my tracks

0:35:31.400 --> 0:35:33.880
<v Speaker 2>because I just thought niggas just did not do that.

0:35:34.880 --> 0:35:37.640
<v Speaker 2>Wrong Again, I never.

0:35:38.320 --> 0:35:41.040
<v Speaker 1>Even up until the point to where a man actually

0:35:41.160 --> 0:35:46.479
<v Speaker 1>did it. I still covered my tracks just in case

0:35:47.200 --> 0:35:50.920
<v Speaker 1>my mind, I don't want ship past nobody.

0:35:51.400 --> 0:35:55.280
<v Speaker 2>I definitely thought niggas was too thorough for that. Now absolutely,

0:35:55.760 --> 0:35:59.040
<v Speaker 2>Now you know how you can lock everything? My photos

0:35:59.120 --> 0:36:02.719
<v Speaker 2>is face. I d everything you can't get in ship

0:36:02.880 --> 0:36:03.640
<v Speaker 2>without my face.

0:36:04.320 --> 0:36:05.319
<v Speaker 1>Don't see it too hard.

0:36:05.800 --> 0:36:09.000
<v Speaker 2>You can't get that, right, That would be the only

0:36:09.080 --> 0:36:10.720
<v Speaker 2>way you have to do it. In my sleep.

0:36:11.640 --> 0:36:13.640
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I don't set up none of that biometric shit

0:36:13.680 --> 0:36:15.440
<v Speaker 1>on my cell phone. Like you got to use a pin.

0:36:16.160 --> 0:36:16.400
<v Speaker 2>I'm not.

0:36:16.640 --> 0:36:21.279
<v Speaker 1>It's not no face, none of that. You got to

0:36:21.320 --> 0:36:25.160
<v Speaker 1>put the pin in. And my ship long too, it's

0:36:25.360 --> 0:36:30.240
<v Speaker 1>nine characters. You'll never hear it out. You'll never get nine.

0:36:32.560 --> 0:36:34.399
<v Speaker 1>So and then even when you do, like the little

0:36:34.440 --> 0:36:36.600
<v Speaker 1>cold on the phone, people can look and see like

0:36:37.040 --> 0:36:40.840
<v Speaker 1>how your friends, Yeah, the fingerprints on your phone. So

0:36:40.960 --> 0:36:43.439
<v Speaker 1>I don't do that either. Yeah, and I don't even

0:36:43.640 --> 0:36:46.239
<v Speaker 1>I don't think. I don't have nothing to hide now,

0:36:48.000 --> 0:36:50.680
<v Speaker 1>got no, But I just still keep it locked. Yeah,

0:36:51.920 --> 0:36:54.680
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I guess what relationships. Yeah, just get

0:36:54.680 --> 0:36:57.160
<v Speaker 1>out of there soon and early. Your mama is right.

0:36:57.680 --> 0:37:00.400
<v Speaker 1>These niggas ain't ship. They just want to see your asshole.

0:37:00.760 --> 0:37:03.160
<v Speaker 1>And once they do they out of there? Okay, there's

0:37:03.200 --> 0:37:06.880
<v Speaker 1>only two men that really love you. Is it your daddy? Okay?

0:37:07.320 --> 0:37:09.319
<v Speaker 1>I mean the two No, two men that actually want

0:37:09.320 --> 0:37:11.680
<v Speaker 1>to be around you, your daddy and the man that

0:37:11.920 --> 0:37:14.520
<v Speaker 1>truly loves you. The rest of these men they only

0:37:14.600 --> 0:37:16.040
<v Speaker 1>around until they have sex with you.

0:37:16.760 --> 0:37:17.200
<v Speaker 2>Just know that.

0:37:18.800 --> 0:37:20.719
<v Speaker 1>They gonna chase you until they get to Kuchi and

0:37:20.800 --> 0:37:22.120
<v Speaker 1>all of a sudden you chasing them.

0:37:23.160 --> 0:37:26.040
<v Speaker 2>Oh, I have one that a lot of you women

0:37:26.400 --> 0:37:32.400
<v Speaker 2>and men need to hear. Guess what, Sometimes you're wrong.

0:37:33.239 --> 0:37:37.479
<v Speaker 2>Sometimes you're not right. You can't be right every single time.

0:37:37.680 --> 0:37:40.759
<v Speaker 2>Sometimes you are the wrong person. And if you are

0:37:40.840 --> 0:37:44.320
<v Speaker 2>listening and think every time you are right, you probably

0:37:44.400 --> 0:37:49.439
<v Speaker 2>wrong more times than not. There's no way you're always right.

0:37:50.080 --> 0:37:52.279
<v Speaker 2>So sometimes you have to be like, Okay, like, maybe

0:37:52.360 --> 0:37:56.040
<v Speaker 2>I should think about this more objectively instead of just

0:37:56.160 --> 0:37:57.320
<v Speaker 2>from my own perspective.

0:37:58.200 --> 0:37:59.839
<v Speaker 1>Right, try that shit.

0:38:01.360 --> 0:38:03.719
<v Speaker 2>I had to learn that one. I had to learn

0:38:03.800 --> 0:38:06.600
<v Speaker 2>that one. I just remember, like in my twenties, I

0:38:06.880 --> 0:38:09.759
<v Speaker 2>was definitely how I think is right and that's the

0:38:09.880 --> 0:38:13.800
<v Speaker 2>only right way, and it just felt like it was

0:38:13.840 --> 0:38:16.640
<v Speaker 2>supposed to make sense what I thought to everybody else.

0:38:20.600 --> 0:38:24.800
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean, I feel like perspective and just saying

0:38:24.880 --> 0:38:31.680
<v Speaker 1>the word perspective is ten years old, right, People didn't

0:38:31.960 --> 0:38:37.160
<v Speaker 1>even consider other people's perspective about something, you know, I

0:38:37.200 --> 0:38:39.279
<v Speaker 1>don't know personally, I don't be talking about shit I

0:38:39.320 --> 0:38:41.239
<v Speaker 1>don't know about. And then if somebody's telling me some

0:38:41.320 --> 0:38:43.920
<v Speaker 1>shit I never heard and I'm listening, I'm never just

0:38:44.040 --> 0:38:46.440
<v Speaker 1>telling them or that's not I don't that's not right.

0:38:46.920 --> 0:38:49.359
<v Speaker 1>I don't do that. I'd be like, okay, and then

0:38:49.400 --> 0:38:51.640
<v Speaker 1>I'll go through my own little independent research and see

0:38:51.760 --> 0:38:54.920
<v Speaker 1>what the fuck they're talking about. But yeah, you absolutely

0:38:55.000 --> 0:38:57.839
<v Speaker 1>don't know everything. Nobody knows everything, and the smartest person

0:38:57.960 --> 0:39:01.239
<v Speaker 1>knows they know nothing. Right, Actually, all right, she should

0:39:01.280 --> 0:39:05.000
<v Speaker 1>always be a student. Yeah, listen to your damn mama.

0:39:05.160 --> 0:39:07.320
<v Speaker 1>Your mom already said that, right. Listen to your mama

0:39:07.560 --> 0:39:10.279
<v Speaker 1>mom already right. The ship you think you are going through,

0:39:10.400 --> 0:39:13.640
<v Speaker 1>she's already been through it, all right, So old any anytime,

0:39:13.880 --> 0:39:16.640
<v Speaker 1>if you're twenty five, right now, anytime, anybody who's older

0:39:16.680 --> 0:39:20.279
<v Speaker 1>than you tell you some ship, Okay, they are telling

0:39:20.320 --> 0:39:22.560
<v Speaker 1>you it from from experience of.

0:39:22.560 --> 0:39:29.399
<v Speaker 2>The bitters hell. No, you have been in the room

0:39:29.440 --> 0:39:34.920
<v Speaker 2>for the old ship, beauty salon.

0:39:35.440 --> 0:39:38.120
<v Speaker 1>I've been looking for this lady who used to Missy Vaughn.

0:39:38.239 --> 0:39:39.920
<v Speaker 1>I've been looking for her man to see if she

0:39:40.000 --> 0:39:41.920
<v Speaker 1>could she could do my hair because I used to

0:39:41.960 --> 0:39:45.240
<v Speaker 1>go to her as a kid. But yeah, that fucking

0:39:45.280 --> 0:39:50.160
<v Speaker 1>beauty salon was so caddy and some of the conversations

0:39:50.280 --> 0:39:53.120
<v Speaker 1>that should not have been had in front of little girls,

0:39:53.480 --> 0:39:57.880
<v Speaker 1>right and had in hair salon. Everybody husband was cheating

0:39:57.960 --> 0:40:02.000
<v Speaker 1>chat so still, I mean, I guess it, hoping it, George,

0:40:02.120 --> 0:40:04.800
<v Speaker 1>you know, I'm talking about other partners where.

0:40:07.560 --> 0:40:10.440
<v Speaker 2>And ke Lo Low came to the beating and they

0:40:10.560 --> 0:40:12.920
<v Speaker 2>was telling everybody about how their husbands was out here

0:40:13.040 --> 0:40:19.960
<v Speaker 2>cheating on everybody. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yes, yeah.

0:40:25.800 --> 0:40:29.920
<v Speaker 1>Another thing I think that we take for granted. It's time. Right.

0:40:30.320 --> 0:40:33.239
<v Speaker 1>So my oldest niece is twenty five. My youngest niece

0:40:33.360 --> 0:40:37.440
<v Speaker 1>now is she's twenty she's twenty? Is she twenty one?

0:40:37.560 --> 0:40:41.160
<v Speaker 1>Yet she's twenty at twenty one? Anyway, second year of college,

0:40:41.840 --> 0:40:45.799
<v Speaker 1>and I remember for my youngest niece, I remember having

0:40:45.800 --> 0:40:47.799
<v Speaker 1>a conversation with her maybe when she was in her

0:40:47.800 --> 0:40:50.720
<v Speaker 1>eleventh grade year, just trying to talk about the future,

0:40:50.760 --> 0:40:54.720
<v Speaker 1>because nobody did that for me, right, Nobody like helped

0:40:54.800 --> 0:40:57.879
<v Speaker 1>me think about what I'm gonna do when I finish

0:40:57.960 --> 0:41:01.879
<v Speaker 1>high school, because shit gets real. Once she finished high school, right,

0:41:02.160 --> 0:41:03.719
<v Speaker 1>you can go to college, you can go straight to

0:41:03.800 --> 0:41:07.960
<v Speaker 1>the workforce. You start getting making money and acquiring bills

0:41:08.760 --> 0:41:11.960
<v Speaker 1>and credit fucked, all types of things start happening. She

0:41:12.320 --> 0:41:15.840
<v Speaker 1>gets real really fast. When you are becoming an adult

0:41:16.120 --> 0:41:19.480
<v Speaker 1>in twenty five, you are still a child. Okay, So

0:41:19.640 --> 0:41:22.719
<v Speaker 1>a lot of the shit I was telling both of

0:41:22.800 --> 0:41:26.600
<v Speaker 1>my nieces they are now having to experience. I would

0:41:26.600 --> 0:41:28.479
<v Speaker 1>have my oldest niece, I have been telling her since

0:41:28.520 --> 0:41:32.279
<v Speaker 1>she was a kid, all these niggas gay, and she

0:41:32.400 --> 0:41:35.160
<v Speaker 1>did not believe me until now when she's twenty eight

0:41:35.239 --> 0:41:37.759
<v Speaker 1>years old. And then my youngest niece, like, yeah, I

0:41:37.800 --> 0:41:40.120
<v Speaker 1>remember sitting the call with her trying to everybody, trying

0:41:40.160 --> 0:41:41.520
<v Speaker 1>to tell you what to do with my life. This

0:41:41.640 --> 0:41:44.680
<v Speaker 1>is what she told me, like in eleventh grade. And

0:41:44.880 --> 0:41:47.680
<v Speaker 1>now she is trying to figure it out. You know,

0:41:48.040 --> 0:41:50.359
<v Speaker 1>the first two years of school didn't work out as

0:41:50.440 --> 0:41:53.040
<v Speaker 1>she plans. She now she has to come back home

0:41:53.160 --> 0:41:55.520
<v Speaker 1>and do tech for a little while to get her

0:41:55.560 --> 0:41:58.120
<v Speaker 1>grades back up. Because you have to have a different

0:41:58.200 --> 0:42:00.920
<v Speaker 1>level of discipline right now once you get into the

0:42:00.960 --> 0:42:03.080
<v Speaker 1>real world, because there's nobody there to wake you up

0:42:03.600 --> 0:42:05.440
<v Speaker 1>and make sure you're on your shit. You have to

0:42:05.600 --> 0:42:08.920
<v Speaker 1>be self motivating, right, so.

0:42:09.880 --> 0:42:10.400
<v Speaker 2>Work on that.

0:42:10.640 --> 0:42:13.480
<v Speaker 1>Work on your mind, like listen, read something like now

0:42:13.600 --> 0:42:16.400
<v Speaker 1>we're getting more into like the self help books and

0:42:17.520 --> 0:42:20.320
<v Speaker 1>meditation and all that stuff at this age. But imagine

0:42:20.360 --> 0:42:22.160
<v Speaker 1>if we was on this type of time at twenty

0:42:22.200 --> 0:42:25.360
<v Speaker 1>twenty five, like your mind would be really really super

0:42:25.480 --> 0:42:30.600
<v Speaker 1>duper fortified, like it wasn't until age thirty three. For me,

0:42:30.800 --> 0:42:33.640
<v Speaker 1>that's like thirty two is when shit started getting bad

0:42:33.760 --> 0:42:38.400
<v Speaker 1>and going downhill, and thirty three, I feel like, and

0:42:38.480 --> 0:42:40.200
<v Speaker 1>then just the time and not like in the rat

0:42:40.280 --> 0:42:42.440
<v Speaker 1>race of having to work with somebody else. I was

0:42:42.480 --> 0:42:44.399
<v Speaker 1>able to do a lot of research. I was able

0:42:44.480 --> 0:42:47.319
<v Speaker 1>to read, I had time to think. I had time

0:42:47.440 --> 0:42:50.920
<v Speaker 1>to actually figure out what is actually going on in

0:42:51.000 --> 0:42:53.759
<v Speaker 1>the world. But the old, the younger you can do that,

0:42:55.080 --> 0:42:59.080
<v Speaker 1>the more advanced you will be. You know, thirty five, Yeah,

0:43:00.080 --> 0:43:02.920
<v Speaker 1>so read, nigga, figure out what is going on in

0:43:03.000 --> 0:43:06.759
<v Speaker 1>the world for real. I don't know, start therapy now,

0:43:07.320 --> 0:43:08.680
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying, Like it's a lot of

0:43:08.719 --> 0:43:13.240
<v Speaker 1>stuff that we probably blame on childhood that we probably

0:43:13.320 --> 0:43:17.080
<v Speaker 1>could have you know, had somebody help us resolve by

0:43:17.160 --> 0:43:22.279
<v Speaker 1>there on. Yeah, because it comes out and dating, Okay, it.

0:43:22.360 --> 0:43:25.120
<v Speaker 2>Comes out, and how you present yourself to the world every.

0:43:24.960 --> 0:43:31.319
<v Speaker 1>Day, friendship, all that shit, and you don't have as

0:43:31.440 --> 0:43:33.680
<v Speaker 1>much time as you think. That is the whole gist

0:43:33.760 --> 0:43:36.400
<v Speaker 1>of what I was trying to say. Yes, you're twenty

0:43:36.480 --> 0:43:40.080
<v Speaker 1>five right now, but ten years goes by so fast.

0:43:40.200 --> 0:43:43.080
<v Speaker 1>I was just telling the nigga the other day, like,

0:43:43.640 --> 0:43:46.279
<v Speaker 1>we're gonna be fifty soon. You know, you around here

0:43:46.400 --> 0:43:50.279
<v Speaker 1>bum fumbling and bullshitting. You want to be fifty doing

0:43:50.320 --> 0:43:52.560
<v Speaker 1>the same thing you're doing today if you do not

0:43:52.760 --> 0:43:55.799
<v Speaker 1>make a change today. So, if you're twenty five right now,

0:43:55.840 --> 0:43:58.800
<v Speaker 1>I think you got time because you're young and lit. Babe.

0:44:00.080 --> 0:44:02.080
<v Speaker 1>Everything you look up right now is add a baby

0:44:02.160 --> 0:44:07.239
<v Speaker 1>to your bullshit, right Okay? So yeah, if you single, young,

0:44:07.360 --> 0:44:08.480
<v Speaker 1>let no kids, you good.

0:44:09.360 --> 0:44:13.840
<v Speaker 2>Mm hmm as soon as you become a mama. But

0:44:14.000 --> 0:44:16.960
<v Speaker 2>let me tell you them, mamas be turning into superheroes though.

0:44:17.040 --> 0:44:19.080
<v Speaker 2>Sometimes so mm hmm.

0:44:19.400 --> 0:44:21.520
<v Speaker 1>Sometimes I feel like I don't have as much hustle

0:44:22.120 --> 0:44:24.359
<v Speaker 1>as I should because I don't have no kids.

0:44:25.080 --> 0:44:27.399
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, me too. Sometimes I lay in the bed

0:44:27.440 --> 0:44:29.360
<v Speaker 2>and people be going to pick their kids up from daycare.

0:44:29.360 --> 0:44:37.719
<v Speaker 2>I'd be like, damn, that's crazy. I got another good

0:44:37.760 --> 0:44:41.960
<v Speaker 2>one pertaining to finances. Don't spend your money trying to

0:44:42.120 --> 0:44:46.000
<v Speaker 2>keep up with a lifestyle or a look that is

0:44:46.120 --> 0:44:50.080
<v Speaker 2>really outside your means. Stop wasting money on dumb ass

0:44:50.080 --> 0:44:53.279
<v Speaker 2>shit like that, like you buying a Chanelle bag but

0:44:53.360 --> 0:44:56.040
<v Speaker 2>it ain't got no real mattress on your bed, you know, like,

0:44:57.239 --> 0:44:59.160
<v Speaker 2>or you don't have the means to pay your rent

0:44:59.239 --> 0:45:02.080
<v Speaker 2>by yourself, but the money you're getting you spending on

0:45:02.200 --> 0:45:05.239
<v Speaker 2>clothes and shoes and bags and can't put no money

0:45:05.320 --> 0:45:08.000
<v Speaker 2>in the bag. And if this person is taking care

0:45:08.040 --> 0:45:11.200
<v Speaker 2>of you decides to stop, now, you're gonna get evicted.

0:45:11.680 --> 0:45:13.919
<v Speaker 2>Don't do dummit. I've seen that shit happen before.

0:45:14.760 --> 0:45:17.359
<v Speaker 1>I mean, we got grown ass women that's still doing

0:45:17.440 --> 0:45:21.359
<v Speaker 1>stuff like that. But yeah, like definitely. I mean there's

0:45:21.480 --> 0:45:26.320
<v Speaker 1>so much like financial literacy, like help shit on YouTube.

0:45:27.200 --> 0:45:29.520
<v Speaker 1>Check out some of those videos. Learn about the stock

0:45:29.640 --> 0:45:34.000
<v Speaker 1>market right now, like Tammy mentioned earlier about you know,

0:45:34.280 --> 0:45:37.680
<v Speaker 1>doing a IRA stuff like that, annuities.

0:45:38.280 --> 0:45:39.400
<v Speaker 2>Put a couple of dollars, you.

0:45:39.560 --> 0:45:43.279
<v Speaker 1>Have the money, Okay, I can assure you I had

0:45:43.480 --> 0:45:47.280
<v Speaker 1>way more money in my twenties than I do do now, okay.

0:45:48.080 --> 0:45:52.200
<v Speaker 1>And I did not save save your money. But I

0:45:52.239 --> 0:45:54.959
<v Speaker 1>don't even think a whole bunch of bullshit, bitch.

0:45:55.000 --> 0:45:58.479
<v Speaker 2>When I was living in Europe, I was balling hand

0:45:58.680 --> 0:46:04.960
<v Speaker 2>like ball okay, And I was just blowing money like you.

0:46:05.120 --> 0:46:07.040
<v Speaker 2>I was blowing money like I was a drug dealer,

0:46:07.239 --> 0:46:11.280
<v Speaker 2>straight up. Like oh, we just were flying the Amsterdam

0:46:11.360 --> 0:46:13.520
<v Speaker 2>is we can we going crazy? And I just spent

0:46:13.640 --> 0:46:18.759
<v Speaker 2>thousands and thousands of dollars on bullshit. I can't. I

0:46:18.840 --> 0:46:21.000
<v Speaker 2>can't show food none of that shit, now, you know.

0:46:21.640 --> 0:46:24.279
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and you will. That is another thing. You're looking

0:46:24.360 --> 0:46:26.600
<v Speaker 1>back on skinny pictures. You're gonna be looking back on

0:46:27.800 --> 0:46:30.520
<v Speaker 1>the money you had your hands on that you don't

0:46:30.560 --> 0:46:34.120
<v Speaker 1>have now. You did absolutely nothing with You're not by

0:46:34.200 --> 0:46:36.600
<v Speaker 1>that money. You just all this money going out and

0:46:36.719 --> 0:46:39.840
<v Speaker 1>nothing coming in, nothing extra coming in.

0:46:40.160 --> 0:46:43.520
<v Speaker 2>Now. What I'm not saying, don't make memories and experiences,

0:46:44.120 --> 0:46:50.160
<v Speaker 2>but just balance, you know, absolutely.

0:46:50.080 --> 0:46:51.840
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, have fun, you know what I'm saying. If you

0:46:51.840 --> 0:46:55.799
<v Speaker 1>can find a man who was sponsored, that's your fun.

0:46:57.280 --> 0:46:57.920
<v Speaker 1>Do that too.

0:46:58.440 --> 0:47:01.879
<v Speaker 2>Let applies age. Yeah.

0:47:02.400 --> 0:47:04.399
<v Speaker 1>I also don't spend too much time trying to look

0:47:04.440 --> 0:47:07.239
<v Speaker 1>for somebody to find it to finance your fucking life.

0:47:07.320 --> 0:47:09.759
<v Speaker 1>Make sure you're the nigga with the money, right, okay,

0:47:09.800 --> 0:47:12.840
<v Speaker 1>because I'm unfortunately learning realizing that I'm gonna just have

0:47:12.920 --> 0:47:14.479
<v Speaker 1>to be the nigga with the money of my life.

0:47:14.800 --> 0:47:18.080
<v Speaker 1>Shouldn't you that I don't, not that I don't, not

0:47:18.239 --> 0:47:21.000
<v Speaker 1>that it's not any men out here with the money, man,

0:47:21.080 --> 0:47:22.800
<v Speaker 1>but it's really not a whole bunch of them to

0:47:22.880 --> 0:47:23.280
<v Speaker 1>go around.

0:47:23.719 --> 0:47:27.520
<v Speaker 2>Remember that nigga that side said I was gonna marry

0:47:27.560 --> 0:47:29.920
<v Speaker 2>rich bitch, you lie?

0:47:31.080 --> 0:47:32.640
<v Speaker 1>Well, he ain't lie to me because he told me

0:47:32.680 --> 0:47:34.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna have to work hard. I'm gonna get everything

0:47:34.520 --> 0:47:36.480
<v Speaker 1>I want. I'm gonna just have to work hard, and

0:47:36.600 --> 0:47:38.680
<v Speaker 1>that is and I already knew that, right. So it's

0:47:38.719 --> 0:47:42.160
<v Speaker 1>just confirmation for me for real, because that is the

0:47:42.239 --> 0:47:45.600
<v Speaker 1>story of my fucking life. So I just got to

0:47:45.640 --> 0:47:49.000
<v Speaker 1>get out of my my own way. Basically, he told

0:47:49.080 --> 0:47:51.200
<v Speaker 1>you you was gonna marry a basketball player, bitch, because

0:47:51.360 --> 0:47:54.560
<v Speaker 1>but you're probably looking for Drea and Michael Age nigga,

0:47:54.640 --> 0:47:57.520
<v Speaker 1>like your niggas retired, I want I don't want.

0:47:57.360 --> 0:48:00.560
<v Speaker 2>To know young niggas no more. I'm doing with y'all.

0:48:00.600 --> 0:48:11.560
<v Speaker 2>Got me fat lions got me fat this episode, The

0:48:11.719 --> 0:48:13.240
<v Speaker 2>Lions got me fat.

0:48:16.040 --> 0:48:19.799
<v Speaker 1>Let's talk about friendships right quick, right, because I am

0:48:19.880 --> 0:48:22.360
<v Speaker 1>no longer friends with a few people who who I

0:48:22.520 --> 0:48:24.600
<v Speaker 1>was friends with, like in my twenties.

0:48:25.080 --> 0:48:28.080
<v Speaker 2>Absolutely, and I thought that it would never I was.

0:48:28.160 --> 0:48:32.040
<v Speaker 1>I thought that these people would be my friends forever life, right, Yeah,

0:48:32.120 --> 0:48:34.279
<v Speaker 1>And it's just it doesn't work that way.

0:48:34.320 --> 0:48:34.440
<v Speaker 2>Now.

0:48:34.480 --> 0:48:38.040
<v Speaker 1>What I don't believe in is people growing apart. I'm

0:48:38.520 --> 0:48:41.719
<v Speaker 1>not my relationships. It wasn't about people growing apart. It's

0:48:41.760 --> 0:48:45.279
<v Speaker 1>just somebody starting like a bitch. Okay, it ain't no

0:48:45.920 --> 0:48:48.319
<v Speaker 1>growing apart. Once you get a certain age, you.

0:48:48.400 --> 0:48:51.160
<v Speaker 2>Don't feel like that. No, I feel like you can

0:48:52.000 --> 0:48:54.279
<v Speaker 2>because I have some friends that are still very good

0:48:54.320 --> 0:48:57.760
<v Speaker 2>friends of mine, but we don't talk as often because

0:48:57.920 --> 0:48:59.080
<v Speaker 2>just distance in life.

0:48:59.360 --> 0:49:01.520
<v Speaker 1>You know, like those are your those probably your best

0:49:01.560 --> 0:49:03.480
<v Speaker 1>friends though you know what I'm saying, Like those probably

0:49:03.960 --> 0:49:06.520
<v Speaker 1>when y'all do talk, y'all probably talked for a long time, Yeah,

0:49:06.560 --> 0:49:11.520
<v Speaker 1>about relationships that ended, Like you no longer talk to

0:49:11.600 --> 0:49:12.040
<v Speaker 1>this person.

0:49:13.160 --> 0:49:16.480
<v Speaker 2>I you know what, I used to think that I

0:49:16.640 --> 0:49:18.960
<v Speaker 2>had to hold on too friendships that I've had for

0:49:19.080 --> 0:49:24.120
<v Speaker 2>a long time. That's another one, like you just because

0:49:24.160 --> 0:49:26.560
<v Speaker 2>you've been friends with someone for a long time, don't

0:49:26.600 --> 0:49:29.560
<v Speaker 2>mean y'all have to be friends forever. Sometimes that chapter

0:49:29.719 --> 0:49:32.520
<v Speaker 2>is done and that's okay. You know you're holding onto

0:49:32.680 --> 0:49:36.120
<v Speaker 2>unhealthy relationships because y'all known each other since y'all was fourteen.

0:49:36.560 --> 0:49:39.920
<v Speaker 2>Fuck that. Let that shit go. It don't matter. Sometimes

0:49:39.960 --> 0:49:43.160
<v Speaker 2>it's just okay. Your piece is more important if you

0:49:43.280 --> 0:49:47.200
<v Speaker 2>got girlfriends that y'all always arguing every time y'all talk

0:49:47.320 --> 0:49:52.640
<v Speaker 2>is discourse, Like, just let that shit go. It's okay,

0:49:53.160 --> 0:49:55.200
<v Speaker 2>and you can still love them and wish them well.

0:49:55.760 --> 0:49:58.759
<v Speaker 2>And I have nothing to do with them. Yeah.

0:49:58.920 --> 0:50:01.600
<v Speaker 1>My mom asked me about one of my ex best

0:50:01.680 --> 0:50:06.560
<v Speaker 1>friends over the weekend, and I get so annoyed when

0:50:06.600 --> 0:50:06.960
<v Speaker 1>she does.

0:50:09.239 --> 0:50:09.400
<v Speaker 2>I I.

0:50:11.480 --> 0:50:13.920
<v Speaker 1>Get so annoyed when she does, because it's almost like,

0:50:14.120 --> 0:50:15.840
<v Speaker 1>did you forget what these people did to me?

0:50:16.680 --> 0:50:19.520
<v Speaker 3>And it's almost like ever with my daughter and my

0:50:19.719 --> 0:50:22.600
<v Speaker 3>kids said such and such, such and such, bitch, I

0:50:22.640 --> 0:50:25.479
<v Speaker 3>ain't your friend no more either. Yeah, but I guess

0:50:25.520 --> 0:50:27.880
<v Speaker 3>she and I mean this, this particular person, she's like

0:50:27.920 --> 0:50:29.800
<v Speaker 3>a family member who I just don't fuck with, Like

0:50:29.880 --> 0:50:31.560
<v Speaker 3>she's a family member who I don't talk to no

0:50:31.640 --> 0:50:37.600
<v Speaker 3>more so, And we were friends from middle school basically

0:50:37.920 --> 0:50:40.759
<v Speaker 3>a very very long time. And you know, I feel

0:50:40.800 --> 0:50:44.239
<v Speaker 3>like I was in some abusive friendships the same, Like

0:50:44.440 --> 0:50:46.560
<v Speaker 3>it's just a different type of abuse, because like she

0:50:46.600 --> 0:50:49.239
<v Speaker 3>would be mad at a mad at a boyfriend and

0:50:49.280 --> 0:50:51.080
<v Speaker 3>then all of a sudden, like you got an attitude,

0:50:51.120 --> 0:50:54.239
<v Speaker 3>I mean, the nastiest attitude towards me, Like why I

0:50:54.320 --> 0:50:54.880
<v Speaker 3>gotta deal with it.

0:50:54.920 --> 0:50:57.760
<v Speaker 1>Anytime I'm pissed at somebody, that energy goes towards that person.

0:50:57.880 --> 0:51:00.600
<v Speaker 1>Only I'm not taking it out on somebody else, especially

0:51:00.680 --> 0:51:02.640
<v Speaker 1>my homegirl. Like your friends are there to make you

0:51:02.840 --> 0:51:05.360
<v Speaker 1>happy when these niggas make you mad, right, but you

0:51:05.640 --> 0:51:08.279
<v Speaker 1>mad at me when you mad at you know, it's

0:51:08.360 --> 0:51:11.200
<v Speaker 1>just it's weird. And some of those relationships you realize

0:51:11.239 --> 0:51:14.480
<v Speaker 1>once they do end, y'all probably were never really friends.

0:51:14.960 --> 0:51:18.680
<v Speaker 1>You know. Sometimes it's really really one sided. Also, like

0:51:18.800 --> 0:51:21.799
<v Speaker 1>somebody is benefiting more off that friendship than the other.

0:51:22.120 --> 0:51:25.759
<v Speaker 2>One of my friends got mad at me because I

0:51:26.160 --> 0:51:30.520
<v Speaker 2>was going through another filled situationship that didn't turn into

0:51:30.560 --> 0:51:33.000
<v Speaker 2>a relationship and I was really upset about it, and

0:51:33.120 --> 0:51:35.480
<v Speaker 2>she was like, you know, just trying to be encouraging.

0:51:36.200 --> 0:51:38.360
<v Speaker 2>The right person is going to come along. You just

0:51:38.480 --> 0:51:41.560
<v Speaker 2>gotta not whatever bitch you say to always make each

0:51:41.600 --> 0:51:44.040
<v Speaker 2>other feel better. And I was like, you know what,

0:51:44.360 --> 0:51:46.960
<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry, but I really don't want to hear that

0:51:47.080 --> 0:51:50.719
<v Speaker 2>motherfucking shit right now, right And she was upset that

0:51:50.800 --> 0:51:52.880
<v Speaker 2>I said that to her, because she said that she

0:51:53.040 --> 0:51:58.239
<v Speaker 2>was just trying to encourage me and make me feel better.

0:51:59.239 --> 0:52:03.719
<v Speaker 2>But sometimes it's okay to say, you know what, I

0:52:03.880 --> 0:52:06.480
<v Speaker 2>don't want to hear that shit right now? Do you

0:52:06.560 --> 0:52:07.200
<v Speaker 2>think I was wrong?

0:52:09.200 --> 0:52:12.240
<v Speaker 1>I mean, were you venting to her? And so sometimes

0:52:12.320 --> 0:52:13.879
<v Speaker 1>you got to tell people you just want to air

0:52:13.960 --> 0:52:16.960
<v Speaker 1>you really don't want anything from them, right You just

0:52:17.040 --> 0:52:20.000
<v Speaker 1>want them to listen. Because if you are calling her

0:52:20.120 --> 0:52:22.480
<v Speaker 1>and you just you know, telling them all these all

0:52:22.520 --> 0:52:24.239
<v Speaker 1>the bad shit that's been happening with you in the

0:52:24.320 --> 0:52:27.799
<v Speaker 1>relationship and all that shit, and they offer words of encouragement,

0:52:28.080 --> 0:52:31.760
<v Speaker 1>why would you ever get upset about words of encouragement?

0:52:31.760 --> 0:52:35.040
<v Speaker 2>Well I did. I wasn't upset with her about the

0:52:35.600 --> 0:52:36.840
<v Speaker 2>encouragement I wouldn't like.

0:52:37.640 --> 0:52:39.920
<v Speaker 1>But the way it came off, she took it personally.

0:52:40.239 --> 0:52:42.040
<v Speaker 1>She took it I don't want to hear that shit

0:52:42.120 --> 0:52:42.400
<v Speaker 1>right now?

0:52:42.560 --> 0:52:45.919
<v Speaker 2>Like why the energy for me? Yeah? But it wasn't

0:52:46.560 --> 0:52:48.879
<v Speaker 2>shit this friend would do to me. But it wasn't

0:52:49.040 --> 0:52:52.319
<v Speaker 2>energy for her, that's the thing. It wasn't energy for her.

0:52:52.800 --> 0:52:55.399
<v Speaker 2>But it's like, after twenty years, a bitch just saying

0:52:55.920 --> 0:52:59.279
<v Speaker 2>the right person coming Like girls, don't nobody want to

0:52:59.320 --> 0:52:59.520
<v Speaker 2>hear that?

0:53:00.320 --> 0:53:00.560
<v Speaker 1>Ship?

0:53:04.160 --> 0:53:05.360
<v Speaker 2>Yeah I heard it before.

0:53:07.160 --> 0:53:09.279
<v Speaker 1>You're gonna get mad at her because you keep going

0:53:09.360 --> 0:53:10.440
<v Speaker 1>through the niggas.

0:53:13.360 --> 0:53:15.080
<v Speaker 2>With that, but you stop about the right person to

0:53:15.120 --> 0:53:17.000
<v Speaker 2>cover the long girl fuck up.

0:53:17.400 --> 0:53:19.600
<v Speaker 1>Oh you would have felt better. She would have said, bitch,

0:53:19.960 --> 0:53:24.000
<v Speaker 1>steady yourself for a little while, stop dating bitch. That

0:53:24.360 --> 0:53:31.279
<v Speaker 1>made me feel better anyway, you know, get with the plan. Okay,

0:53:31.400 --> 0:53:33.400
<v Speaker 1>So if you if you are in your twenties and

0:53:33.440 --> 0:53:36.600
<v Speaker 1>you got a friend like betting you about her relationships,

0:53:36.719 --> 0:53:37.120
<v Speaker 1>just listen.

0:53:37.560 --> 0:53:37.799
<v Speaker 2>Okay.

0:53:37.880 --> 0:53:41.880
<v Speaker 1>You always have to give your opinion about stuff, right listen.

0:53:42.040 --> 0:53:44.200
<v Speaker 1>And I don't even think I used to be giving

0:53:44.239 --> 0:53:47.120
<v Speaker 1>this bitch my opinion about ship. Like literally, she would

0:53:47.120 --> 0:53:49.880
<v Speaker 1>be giving her opinion to me about my niggas and

0:53:50.000 --> 0:53:52.400
<v Speaker 1>one of my niggas she enough, fucking I think I

0:53:52.440 --> 0:53:55.839
<v Speaker 1>don't know about it today. Okay, Yeah, that's what I'm saying.

0:53:56.000 --> 0:53:59.480
<v Speaker 1>So just listen. Not all you will not be friends

0:53:59.520 --> 0:54:02.920
<v Speaker 1>with all your friends forever right and will feel like

0:54:02.960 --> 0:54:07.319
<v Speaker 1>a real breakup. It will hurt, and you gonna live

0:54:07.520 --> 0:54:10.080
<v Speaker 1>and you're gonna make more friends. Okay, I don't. I've

0:54:10.160 --> 0:54:11.760
<v Speaker 1>never had a problem making friends.

0:54:12.280 --> 0:54:15.200
<v Speaker 2>I always I try to always, especially in the you know,

0:54:15.360 --> 0:54:19.399
<v Speaker 2>last decade, anytime I unpack on friends, I always ask

0:54:19.520 --> 0:54:24.600
<v Speaker 2>them first, do if they have the bandwidth for you know,

0:54:24.840 --> 0:54:28.160
<v Speaker 2>I always ask, hey, can you handle you know, me

0:54:28.320 --> 0:54:30.360
<v Speaker 2>venting to you right now. I try to do that

0:54:30.440 --> 0:54:32.680
<v Speaker 2>because some people would just come dump on you without

0:54:32.719 --> 0:54:35.319
<v Speaker 2>even asking if it's okay to do that. I think

0:54:35.400 --> 0:54:38.719
<v Speaker 2>that's something that we should start, you know, putting into

0:54:38.800 --> 0:54:42.440
<v Speaker 2>our repertoire when we're talking to our friends, like ask first,

0:54:42.680 --> 0:54:45.680
<v Speaker 2>don't just come drop. And you know your friends are

0:54:46.000 --> 0:54:47.800
<v Speaker 2>I mean, what are friends for? They're there for that,

0:54:48.080 --> 0:54:50.960
<v Speaker 2>but you gotta also consider that it might be more

0:54:51.040 --> 0:54:53.560
<v Speaker 2>than they can handle at that time, you know. And

0:54:53.640 --> 0:54:58.799
<v Speaker 2>then also tell your friends I just want you to listen.

0:54:59.600 --> 0:55:03.080
<v Speaker 2>I don't advice, and that's okay too.

0:55:03.920 --> 0:55:07.759
<v Speaker 1>You know. Also tell your friends good things about your relationship.

0:55:07.880 --> 0:55:09.560
<v Speaker 1>You don't want to just be like dumping all the

0:55:09.600 --> 0:55:11.719
<v Speaker 1>trauma and all the bad shit on them, Like there

0:55:11.800 --> 0:55:13.560
<v Speaker 1>are some good times. I think you can think of.

0:55:13.880 --> 0:55:15.920
<v Speaker 1>If you can't think of any good good times in

0:55:16.000 --> 0:55:18.320
<v Speaker 1>that relationship, get out of there. But you know, you

0:55:18.400 --> 0:55:20.239
<v Speaker 1>don't always want to just come to your friends with

0:55:20.280 --> 0:55:22.440
<v Speaker 1>the bad shit, because your friends are not going to

0:55:22.680 --> 0:55:26.360
<v Speaker 1>fuck with your person anymore. I just gonna thank you

0:55:26.480 --> 0:55:28.920
<v Speaker 1>making bad decisions and eventually they ain't gonna want to

0:55:28.920 --> 0:55:30.880
<v Speaker 1>hear that shit. I rembvi used to be venting so

0:55:31.000 --> 0:55:32.680
<v Speaker 1>much to one of my homegirls who I'm no longer

0:55:32.719 --> 0:55:37.240
<v Speaker 1>friends with. I used to be venting her about about

0:55:37.560 --> 0:55:42.279
<v Speaker 1>my ex what am my exes? And then I stopped, right,

0:55:42.400 --> 0:55:44.200
<v Speaker 1>I stopped vitting her because I'm like, you know what,

0:55:44.280 --> 0:55:46.919
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna just stop bending everybody ears about this nigga

0:55:46.960 --> 0:55:49.040
<v Speaker 1>and Tom I'm ready to leave for real. But that

0:55:49.239 --> 0:55:51.880
<v Speaker 1>was my way of, you know, talking myself out of

0:55:51.920 --> 0:55:55.319
<v Speaker 1>the relationship anyway, right, But then when I would talk

0:55:55.360 --> 0:55:58.520
<v Speaker 1>to her, she would be asking me about what's going

0:55:58.719 --> 0:56:01.560
<v Speaker 1>like when I stop mentioning, she would then be asking.

0:56:02.400 --> 0:56:06.080
<v Speaker 1>But then the reason why I stopped even mentioning is

0:56:06.120 --> 0:56:09.400
<v Speaker 1>because she was like getting short with me during conversation

0:56:09.560 --> 0:56:12.120
<v Speaker 1>about it, like she was tired of hearing about it, right,

0:56:12.200 --> 0:56:14.600
<v Speaker 1>So I stopped talking about it. And now you're asking

0:56:14.640 --> 0:56:17.000
<v Speaker 1>me about the nigga. Like, I'm not even mentioning this nigga.

0:56:17.040 --> 0:56:19.239
<v Speaker 1>Don't ask me about him right now?

0:56:19.480 --> 0:56:21.319
<v Speaker 2>Like which one is it? Because when I am talking

0:56:21.320 --> 0:56:22.960
<v Speaker 2>about it, you don't want to hear it. And when

0:56:23.040 --> 0:56:25.239
<v Speaker 2>I stopped, now you're wondering why I stop?

0:56:26.400 --> 0:56:28.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, like what is happening?

0:56:29.080 --> 0:56:31.320
<v Speaker 2>Well, we know, women, we can get with our friends

0:56:31.400 --> 0:56:35.399
<v Speaker 2>and been our niggas our friends ear back about a nigga. Yeah,

0:56:35.560 --> 0:56:38.120
<v Speaker 2>and then the same shit over and over and over again,

0:56:38.920 --> 0:56:41.040
<v Speaker 2>and it can be annoying. And we've all done it.

0:56:41.800 --> 0:56:44.440
<v Speaker 2>We've all been that friend. And then you got to

0:56:44.480 --> 0:56:47.160
<v Speaker 2>find new bitches to talk to it, talk to about

0:56:47.200 --> 0:56:50.400
<v Speaker 2>this because everybody's so say.

0:56:53.160 --> 0:56:55.920
<v Speaker 1>Everybody, Now you got to find new people to hear delusion,

0:56:56.520 --> 0:56:59.880
<v Speaker 1>get out of there. But yeah, like as far as friendship,

0:57:00.239 --> 0:57:02.920
<v Speaker 1>like best friends usually be the ones you don't talk

0:57:03.000 --> 0:57:05.400
<v Speaker 1>to every day for real mm hmm, It's okay to

0:57:05.480 --> 0:57:08.719
<v Speaker 1>break up with friends if the relationship is no longer

0:57:08.840 --> 0:57:11.320
<v Speaker 1>serving you. I kind of hate that term, you know,

0:57:11.520 --> 0:57:14.040
<v Speaker 1>no longer serving you. I understand what it means, but like,

0:57:14.160 --> 0:57:17.200
<v Speaker 1>what does it mean? You know? This is if it's

0:57:17.360 --> 0:57:20.840
<v Speaker 1>if it doesn't feel good right, I get happy when

0:57:20.880 --> 0:57:23.440
<v Speaker 1>I talk to my friends me too. Right, I know

0:57:23.600 --> 0:57:27.080
<v Speaker 1>the people who caused me like a little mental anguish,

0:57:27.160 --> 0:57:28.880
<v Speaker 1>and I'm not friends with them no more, like you

0:57:29.000 --> 0:57:31.520
<v Speaker 1>see them break up with other people and stop being

0:57:31.600 --> 0:57:35.000
<v Speaker 1>other people friends for trivial bullshit like your turn, Your

0:57:35.040 --> 0:57:37.920
<v Speaker 1>turn is coming, right, It's definitely coming. Because one of

0:57:37.960 --> 0:57:39.680
<v Speaker 1>my friends, I would see her fall out with all

0:57:39.720 --> 0:57:43.200
<v Speaker 1>these different people and like me, and her stayed thick

0:57:43.280 --> 0:57:46.720
<v Speaker 1>stieves for many years afterwards. But my time came eventually.

0:57:47.160 --> 0:57:47.400
<v Speaker 2>Yep.

0:57:48.360 --> 0:57:53.800
<v Speaker 1>So you are not exempt from the bullshit, sweetie. So

0:57:53.840 --> 0:57:56.680
<v Speaker 1>if you have a friend who always got different friends,

0:57:56.760 --> 0:57:57.760
<v Speaker 1>danger friends.

0:57:57.480 --> 0:58:02.320
<v Speaker 2>Either another one is you have to be the friend

0:58:02.360 --> 0:58:06.600
<v Speaker 2>you want. A lot of people have these hot, such

0:58:06.760 --> 0:58:10.800
<v Speaker 2>huge expectations of friendship, but then aren't that type of

0:58:10.840 --> 0:58:14.360
<v Speaker 2>friend in return? So you have to be the type

0:58:14.400 --> 0:58:18.040
<v Speaker 2>of friend that you want, you.

0:58:18.080 --> 0:58:22.120
<v Speaker 1>Know absolutely, and that that goes with relationships. Right. So

0:58:22.200 --> 0:58:26.320
<v Speaker 1>we have all these demands for our significant others, right,

0:58:26.840 --> 0:58:28.480
<v Speaker 1>But a lot of times in order to attract what

0:58:28.560 --> 0:58:31.400
<v Speaker 1>you want, you you gotta change because the current you.

0:58:31.920 --> 0:58:33.880
<v Speaker 1>It's the same way as like you look back at

0:58:34.080 --> 0:58:36.880
<v Speaker 1>somebody you don't like anymore, right, and you probably don't

0:58:36.880 --> 0:58:38.680
<v Speaker 1>even like who you were when you were dating him.

0:58:39.640 --> 0:58:42.880
<v Speaker 1>It's the same thing. So if you want better, you

0:58:43.160 --> 0:58:46.880
<v Speaker 1>have to also then become better. Gad you're prepared, girl.

0:58:47.240 --> 0:58:51.160
<v Speaker 2>Listen. I was going through my text messages deleting the

0:58:51.200 --> 0:58:54.400
<v Speaker 2>old shit, and it was one of my old hoes

0:58:54.520 --> 0:58:58.160
<v Speaker 2>that I was like crazy about, and I was reading

0:58:58.240 --> 0:59:00.760
<v Speaker 2>my messages. Oh, I was like, oh, you're weak in

0:59:00.840 --> 0:59:03.919
<v Speaker 2>the knees, stand up, bitch, Like I was so mad

0:59:03.960 --> 0:59:08.240
<v Speaker 2>at myself reading some of those messages. Fucking pussy stand up?

0:59:09.360 --> 0:59:11.680
<v Speaker 1>What if he was showing those pussy ass hold messages?

0:59:11.840 --> 0:59:15.040
<v Speaker 2>Look at this bitch man, right, she love but she

0:59:15.200 --> 0:59:16.760
<v Speaker 2>loved me, stupid.

0:59:18.040 --> 0:59:20.480
<v Speaker 1>Barrel twenty five year old girl. Just know he's showing

0:59:20.520 --> 0:59:22.720
<v Speaker 1>them text messages and you being weak in the knees

0:59:24.920 --> 0:59:29.960
<v Speaker 1>or to the bitchy cheating with right that part? Just

0:59:30.120 --> 0:59:32.640
<v Speaker 1>know then that's that that might be happening.

0:59:33.200 --> 0:59:34.840
<v Speaker 2>Okay, it's possible. For sure.

0:59:36.560 --> 0:59:38.600
<v Speaker 1>We kind of talked about you know, health and all

0:59:38.680 --> 0:59:42.200
<v Speaker 1>that stuff, and you know, not taking this current body.

0:59:43.440 --> 0:59:43.600
<v Speaker 2>Right.

0:59:44.080 --> 0:59:45.760
<v Speaker 1>Make sure you're taking care of it. Make sure you

0:59:45.920 --> 0:59:49.360
<v Speaker 1>drink water. We know y'all outside drinking Hennessy is about

0:59:49.360 --> 0:59:52.080
<v Speaker 1>to be warm again. Okay, drinkson water.

0:59:52.520 --> 0:59:54.160
<v Speaker 2>You know, nobody see no more.

0:59:54.240 --> 0:59:58.600
<v Speaker 1>That's how I know you ain't no stas girl who

0:59:58.720 --> 1:00:01.360
<v Speaker 1>drinking have y' I don't know because I don't be

1:00:01.400 --> 1:00:04.600
<v Speaker 1>outside with the Hawaiians everybody drinking.

1:00:04.640 --> 1:00:10.760
<v Speaker 2>They waiting tequila Right now, y'all water, especially for years?

1:00:10.880 --> 1:00:13.360
<v Speaker 2>Enough water? What is wrong with y'all? Some of y'all

1:00:13.480 --> 1:00:16.479
<v Speaker 2>looking like very old And that's because you're not taking

1:00:16.560 --> 1:00:20.680
<v Speaker 2>care of your body. Every liquor, shot of liquor, you

1:00:20.720 --> 1:00:23.000
<v Speaker 2>need to drink a cup of water. Damn.

1:00:24.200 --> 1:00:26.440
<v Speaker 1>So our generation, I think we went through like the

1:00:26.480 --> 1:00:30.040
<v Speaker 1>BBL era, right. I don't know what's going to be

1:00:30.160 --> 1:00:33.960
<v Speaker 1>coming up for the gen zs. What y'all gonna be.

1:00:34.000 --> 1:00:39.720
<v Speaker 2>Doing every every peptide injecting peptide skin.

1:00:40.720 --> 1:00:46.720
<v Speaker 1>So you want to do consistency versus quick fixes. And

1:00:46.880 --> 1:00:48.360
<v Speaker 1>you don't want to have to be dealing with some

1:00:48.480 --> 1:00:54.000
<v Speaker 1>ship years later. You know, put your body added and

1:00:54.040 --> 1:00:58.280
<v Speaker 1>removed all this weird ship right, just just work out.

1:00:58.320 --> 1:01:00.360
<v Speaker 2>Because a lot of y'all girls who got the blessed

1:01:00.480 --> 1:01:02.920
<v Speaker 2>plants in the last ten years. Now, y'all got to

1:01:03.000 --> 1:01:05.440
<v Speaker 2>go have another surgery right now, and I know y'all

1:01:05.480 --> 1:01:06.080
<v Speaker 2>hate that shit.

1:01:06.160 --> 1:01:09.560
<v Speaker 1>In your forties or something, right, And I hope you

1:01:09.640 --> 1:01:12.600
<v Speaker 1>got the money right to go get another another breast

1:01:12.640 --> 1:01:13.760
<v Speaker 1>and plant surgery.

1:01:19.840 --> 1:01:20.760
<v Speaker 2>I don't know how to.

1:01:21.400 --> 1:01:24.880
<v Speaker 1>I don't know how. I've always been pretty confident. I

1:01:25.000 --> 1:01:30.200
<v Speaker 1>know there are some older, younger women who lack confidence,

1:01:30.280 --> 1:01:33.600
<v Speaker 1>and I don't know how to help you get more confidence.

1:01:34.920 --> 1:01:36.400
<v Speaker 2>Look in the mirror and talk to yourself.

1:01:37.120 --> 1:01:39.800
<v Speaker 1>That's it. That's exactly what the fuck I was about

1:01:39.800 --> 1:01:43.640
<v Speaker 1>to say. Like people, y'all think that's crazy. Somebody said

1:01:43.680 --> 1:01:45.880
<v Speaker 1>something to me the other day about looking in the mirror,

1:01:46.520 --> 1:01:50.400
<v Speaker 1>But I mean it's literally a portal. Okay, So whatever

1:01:50.520 --> 1:01:53.080
<v Speaker 1>you want to be, you look in the mirror, and

1:01:53.160 --> 1:01:57.320
<v Speaker 1>that's where you merge those two realities. Okay, you bring

1:01:58.120 --> 1:02:01.680
<v Speaker 1>bring that other reality through the mirror, right.

1:02:03.600 --> 1:02:05.840
<v Speaker 2>And you know what, as a young woman I struggle

1:02:05.920 --> 1:02:10.320
<v Speaker 2>with I always gave off confidence, but deep down inside,

1:02:10.400 --> 1:02:17.360
<v Speaker 2>I struggle with my insecurities and I struggled with imposter

1:02:17.520 --> 1:02:21.920
<v Speaker 2>syndrome and things like that. But on the outside, I

1:02:22.160 --> 1:02:25.640
<v Speaker 2>just be putting on a good face. But deep beneath

1:02:25.680 --> 1:02:28.680
<v Speaker 2>the surface, there were all these things that really lied

1:02:28.800 --> 1:02:31.840
<v Speaker 2>there that you know, I wasn't as confident as I thought,

1:02:32.000 --> 1:02:35.880
<v Speaker 2>Like I projected, and I wasn't as secure as I projected,

1:02:36.400 --> 1:02:39.680
<v Speaker 2>and those things I still battle with sometimes, you know,

1:02:39.880 --> 1:02:42.720
<v Speaker 2>like I'm not perfect. You know, I do know who

1:02:42.840 --> 1:02:45.400
<v Speaker 2>I am at this age, I know exactly who I am,

1:02:45.520 --> 1:02:49.440
<v Speaker 2>but sometimes I still struggle with insecurities. I mean, and

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<v Speaker 2>point out one woman who don't have no insecurities, and

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<v Speaker 2>I call you a liar. I call you a liar.

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<v Speaker 2>There's something, Yeah, you know there's something there that you might.

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<v Speaker 1>I think we I think you get a certain age

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<v Speaker 1>you like, fucking this is this is how I'm showing

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<v Speaker 1>up whatever body, whatever, face like, this is this, it

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<v Speaker 1>is what it is. I think it's just a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit more pressure for the younger people, right right.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you gotta you just have to really.

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<v Speaker 1>Try to find self love. That is what it all

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<v Speaker 1>balls down to, and everything else will work itself out.

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<v Speaker 1>You gotta, like you today, work.

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<v Speaker 2>On that mm hmm.

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody, and I don't think like you're like you. Everybody

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<v Speaker 1>definitely has insecurities. Everybody. I think everybody puts a mask on. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you gotta go home and actually deal with

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<v Speaker 1>yourself mm hm when you get in that mirror, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>make sure you can deal with you. That's all that matters.

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<v Speaker 1>Fuck everybody else.

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<v Speaker 2>If you love you. That's why I could never be

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<v Speaker 2>a strip of a prostitute. No shade to y'all, but

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<v Speaker 2>I just would be scared in the mirror. Like like outside,

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<v Speaker 2>it's like okay, okay, but when you're in that house

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<v Speaker 2>by yourself, you have to really be with yourself. And

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<v Speaker 2>you know what, And that's why a lot of people

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<v Speaker 2>don't be at home by theyself because they.

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<v Speaker 1>Or they're not their real self, and at home by themselves,

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<v Speaker 1>they're probably drinking on drugs, you know, so they.

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<v Speaker 2>Face in the phone, keep your face in the phone

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<v Speaker 2>and things like that, and don't really sit with themself.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'll say you also, it's okay to fake it

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<v Speaker 1>till you make it also, right, so you might feel like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you were showing up this way. You're showing up this way,

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<v Speaker 1>but deep down inside this is how you feel. Eventually

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<v Speaker 1>you will trick your subconscious mind and you will become

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<v Speaker 1>that thing you've been acting like you work okay, so

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<v Speaker 1>you will become that much more confident. Right, just sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>you some certain situation you just got fake it till

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<v Speaker 1>you make it for real.

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<v Speaker 2>That was wild, That I just said that the reason

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<v Speaker 2>why I was never a stripper prostitute, just saying.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's true. Though, I can only imagine like

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<v Speaker 1>some of the things that strippers and prostitutes actually go through,

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<v Speaker 1>and they don't. You don't. I didn't never watch What's

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<v Speaker 1>the Girl Janice? I know she does, like only fans

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<v Speaker 1>and stuff like that. Yeah, she was on she was

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<v Speaker 1>on Joe Button's recently. Isn't her name Denise? I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know anyway, but I remember she was on Poor Minds

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<v Speaker 1>and she, you know, she was crying. She did talk

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<v Speaker 1>about how she was on Joe Button Joe Joe Button

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<v Speaker 1>talking about how she you know, something did happen to

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<v Speaker 1>her when she was a child and things like that.

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<v Speaker 1>So a lot of people who end up in those industries,

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<v Speaker 1>they have dealt with a lot of trauma, right, and

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<v Speaker 1>maybe this particular thing is this is how they're expressing.

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<v Speaker 1>That's how that that trauma is being expressed through this lifestyle.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's not really what they want to do. But

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<v Speaker 1>maybe they think that's all they are good for, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>I can imagine, Yeah, I can imagine how they feel

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<v Speaker 1>when when when when about itself? So it's not like

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<v Speaker 1>crazy for you to say you you would be more

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<v Speaker 1>concerned about the mirror, like for real, right, for real,

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<v Speaker 1>I am more concerned about how I see me versus

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<v Speaker 1>how other people see me because I know me right,

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<v Speaker 1>So as long as I fuck with me, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>care who doesn't fuck with me. That prayer don't be

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<v Speaker 1>no people pleaser okay mm hmmm, for men, for for friends,

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<v Speaker 1>for family. You regret that, and you're gonna be learning

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<v Speaker 1>at forty how to say.

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<v Speaker 2>No and you never and you're not going to get

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<v Speaker 2>a reward for that ship. Nope, you're not going to

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<v Speaker 2>get a reward for being available and over extending yourself

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<v Speaker 2>to everybody and everything but yourself. Yeah, I think.

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<v Speaker 1>Earlier on maybe people. I don't know if I ever

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<v Speaker 1>cared about being liked I promised. I don't know if

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<v Speaker 1>I've ever cared about just like making sure everybody likes me.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I like more organic relationships anyway, So

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<v Speaker 1>me and a person kick it off like that is

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<v Speaker 1>who I'm supposed to be friends with, Like I'm never

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I definitely get wrapped up and just

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<v Speaker 1>wanting everybody to to like them, And you want to

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<v Speaker 1>learn that everybody ain't gonna like you either, no matter what.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me tell you. When I was, especially when I

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<v Speaker 2>was like very young and college, my college age, I

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<v Speaker 2>was concerned with that, like why they don't like me?

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<v Speaker 2>You know, like and I will want people to like me.

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<v Speaker 2>And but then I had to realize, like, some of

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<v Speaker 2>these bitches are committed to not liking you for no reason.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's point they don't even like theyselves, so you

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<v Speaker 1>don't like you.

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<v Speaker 2>It's pointless to try to even figure it out, you know, like,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, you get to a place where you can't

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<v Speaker 2>worry about shit like that, you'd be worried all day.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I don't like you, shame. So let's do like

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<v Speaker 1>a little quick, little rapid fire game right quick for

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<v Speaker 1>twenty five year old you.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, let's see so hold, let me put my hair

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<v Speaker 2>in a hump in the top.

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<v Speaker 1>Little finger wave.

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<v Speaker 2>You remember the little homp that was popular, Like you

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<v Speaker 2>just grabbed that little piece right across the front and

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<v Speaker 2>put it.

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<v Speaker 1>Was that that twenty five push it up. I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like that was younger than twenty five. Really, I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like that was sixteen.

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<v Speaker 2>What was.

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<v Speaker 1>Was having someone at twenty five girl, what are you talking?

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<v Speaker 2>You had a hump in the sewing.

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<v Speaker 1>You was doing hair at twenty five. You was doing

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<v Speaker 1>bitch of sewing that twenty.

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<v Speaker 2>And definitely putting a hump in it.

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<v Speaker 1>What you need a hump, the little hump that we

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<v Speaker 1>had right there.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm find the future, all right.

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<v Speaker 1>So A I would have listened, B I would have

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<v Speaker 1>ignored it. And C is I would have done the opposite. Okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>save at least twenty percent of your income?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh what's the A I would have listened with C

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<v Speaker 2>you would have done the opposite at at twenty five,

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<v Speaker 2>spend that ship gas on e drink. Game is if

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<v Speaker 2>if you.

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<v Speaker 1>If somebody would have told you, then would you have

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<v Speaker 1>done it? Like now, if your parent mind was not

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<v Speaker 1>doing this time, you still ain't paying attention at this age. AS.

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<v Speaker 1>I would have listened had somebody told me, B as

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<v Speaker 1>I would have ignored had somebody told me. See, I

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<v Speaker 1>would have done the opposite had someone told me so.

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<v Speaker 1>First question is save at least twenty percent of your income?

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<v Speaker 1>If someone had told you to save at least twenty

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<v Speaker 1>percent of your income.

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<v Speaker 2>Somebody did tell me, shit that shit, But I was

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<v Speaker 2>still right.

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<v Speaker 1>You know somebody.

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<v Speaker 2>I did have somebody telling me that shit. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>I just didn't give a fuck. At the time, I

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<v Speaker 2>was young, wild and free and making money for the

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<v Speaker 2>first time. So it was just like and I just

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<v Speaker 2>assumed that that money was going to be consistent forever

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<v Speaker 2>in my head, like.

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<v Speaker 1>So, yeah, that's it, I'm already arrived. Yeah, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>just up from here life, It's just up from here,

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<v Speaker 1>a bitch. Yeah, no, yeah, sometimes you up and sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>you down right. You gonna learn that ye leave him

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<v Speaker 1>the first time he lies.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh wait, you need to answer it.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, of course, Like, yeah, I would have saved,

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<v Speaker 1>like I spent so much money in my mother fucking twenties, bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>I remember, like I had, I had had a couple accidents,

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<v Speaker 1>like I had like stacks at different times in life

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<v Speaker 1>on top of income, and I just I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>where the money went at I don't know where it

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<v Speaker 1>went bullshit.

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<v Speaker 2>No, BB got BB got a lot of my motherfucking money. BB.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my.

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<v Speaker 2>Cache, I used to be in Cache running it up.

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<v Speaker 2>Just wind out that dumb ass ship.

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<v Speaker 1>So leave him the first time he lies. The first

1:11:36.160 --> 1:11:38.559
<v Speaker 1>time he lies. You know, I could be a little

1:11:38.760 --> 1:11:42.120
<v Speaker 1>you know the first time he lied, maybe the second time.

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<v Speaker 2>Be I would have ignored it, yeah, because I probably

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<v Speaker 2>lied to the fuck.

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<v Speaker 1>Start therapy early.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, Nope. I just feel like when I was twenty

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<v Speaker 2>five thirty, therapy was for crazy people, you know you Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>but I didn't, you know, I didn't realize that I

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<v Speaker 2>was crazy back then, so I would have. I wish

1:12:12.040 --> 1:12:14.680
<v Speaker 2>somebody would have been like, yeah, go to therapy. That's

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<v Speaker 2>a real thing that can help you, because maybe I

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<v Speaker 2>was listen.

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<v Speaker 1>I said, my mam, and this meme last week that

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<v Speaker 1>said the only difference between me and my mom is

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<v Speaker 1>that I know I have a mental illness.

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<v Speaker 2>I sent that to my mom and she did not

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<v Speaker 2>think that shit was funny. We talked about it on Sunday.

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<v Speaker 1>She was like, you sent me that, I see you anything.

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<v Speaker 1>It was funny. I thought it was hilarious. She did

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<v Speaker 1>not think she was mad by that shit, Like, still

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<v Speaker 1>don't know she.

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<v Speaker 2>Got mental illness.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the mental illness right there. You know, I got one.

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<v Speaker 2>The first step is acknowledging the problem.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, imagine like that was me admitting okay, like, yes, me,

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<v Speaker 1>you are very much alike a lot. The only difference

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<v Speaker 1>is I got self awareness of my boat. That's it.

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<v Speaker 2>She didn't like it.

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<v Speaker 1>Your your friends will.

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<v Speaker 2>Change and it was already changing.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, let's see. Don't post everything online.

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<v Speaker 2>That is that.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a big one, because I got some pictures online.

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<v Speaker 1>If they ever come out of it, I won't even

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<v Speaker 1>say what the handle was back in nineteen nine, in

1:13:29.320 --> 1:13:32.960
<v Speaker 1>the two thousands, like young as fuck. Yes, I got

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<v Speaker 1>some shit out there that I hope never turns up.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I scrabbed the internet pretty well. But

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<v Speaker 1>what I did learn, even about a place like MySpace,

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<v Speaker 1>like you can't even log in no more, like you

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<v Speaker 1>don't own none of that shit, none of your image

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<v Speaker 1>is nothing.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't really think I was. I think I was

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<v Speaker 2>pretty conscious about that. Might be some shit I said

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<v Speaker 2>that I might not wouldn't pop up. I don't remember,

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<v Speaker 2>but like pictures and stuff like that. Nah, I was

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<v Speaker 2>very Now there might be some home videos that have

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<v Speaker 2>made with a nigga I don't want to show up.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I mean that would have been ship you sent

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<v Speaker 1>to somebody and they sharing it. I made some home videos,

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<v Speaker 1>but you put them online. Oh no, that's not saying Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>this is like don't post so yeah, along with don't

1:14:24.640 --> 1:14:28.719
<v Speaker 1>post everything online. Don't be sending these niggas your body, right, Okay,

1:14:30.280 --> 1:14:32.080
<v Speaker 1>get the cock shot though, because that shit is that

1:14:32.320 --> 1:14:33.599
<v Speaker 1>that will save you a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>Of time or at least crop your head out.

1:14:37.960 --> 1:14:44.360
<v Speaker 1>Right, uh, invest instead of splurging. That's kind of along

1:14:44.400 --> 1:14:50.799
<v Speaker 1>the line as saving some income. You are not behind, okay,

1:14:51.200 --> 1:14:53.320
<v Speaker 1>definitely not at twenty five, but you also don't have

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<v Speaker 1>as much time as you think. I wish somebody would have.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I might have hustle backwards, right, I

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<v Speaker 1>was so eager to like get a job and start

1:15:04.040 --> 1:15:08.439
<v Speaker 1>making money like I didn't do. I didn't want to

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<v Speaker 1>be the broke college student. Like that is just something

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<v Speaker 1>you had to go through. Yeah, because what's gonna happen

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<v Speaker 1>is you're gonna end up thirty, not finish the fucking degree, right,

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<v Speaker 1>and be trying to go back and do ship all

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<v Speaker 1>over again. So just go through, go through the thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Stop dating. Yeah, b I would have ignored it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>me too.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely, you don't know anything. You're just this is the

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<v Speaker 1>whole bitch, the old bitch. He'll, he'll, he'll before your

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<v Speaker 1>next relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, I'm still a little a little hopper now, because

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<v Speaker 2>why I would have ignored it. I ignore it now because.

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<v Speaker 1>Why why what fu could we waiting for? Especially the

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<v Speaker 1>older I get the last time I'm waiting Shit, who's next? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>not not now anyway, because I am in a relationship,

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<v Speaker 1>but for sure, Like but even this relationship versus the

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<v Speaker 1>last one, it was a weekend. Okay, it was a

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<v Speaker 1>weekend apart nobody got on time to be playing around,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I remember my homeboy was like, oh you you

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<v Speaker 1>move on fast? Like why wouldn't I? Men always got

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<v Speaker 1>a nigga, a bitch in the pocket somewhere. Maybe a

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<v Speaker 1>nigga too, okay, but men always exactly definitely in take

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<v Speaker 1>your health serious now, I'm gay. I got my mom

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<v Speaker 1>is like trying to do all this holistic stuff. She's seventy.

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<v Speaker 1>She's trying to do all this holistic shit that I've

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<v Speaker 1>been trying to get her do for years. She trying

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<v Speaker 1>to do it now at seventy. So if you started

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<v Speaker 1>twenty five, you won't have to be consciously struggling even

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<v Speaker 1>at thirty forty, right to unlearn a lot of the

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<v Speaker 1>eating habits, all that shit, Like take your health serious today,

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<v Speaker 1>because you only got one body for real, right, one body?

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<v Speaker 2>Use a condom.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, i'd be around here talk about smashing raw

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<v Speaker 1>ship if we know, y'all ask, don't be going to

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<v Speaker 1>the doctor. So use a condom, bitch.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, that's the first time she said that.

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<v Speaker 1>You use a condom because I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't conto. It feels good, like I don't understand

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<v Speaker 2>why people don't want to use it.

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<v Speaker 1>No skin, the skin condoms those feel pretty nice. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>like that's ky and skin and.

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<v Speaker 2>You can sleep peacefully at night after you use a condom, like, yes,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't have to worry about the next period. You're

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<v Speaker 2>not worried about like what connects tests right, coming back

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<v Speaker 2>more peacefully. I don't see why people don't do it.

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<v Speaker 1>Look, I had, I got tested just last week, and

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<v Speaker 1>still it is like nerve wrecking waiting for these test results.

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<v Speaker 1>Even when you in a monogamous relationship, like shit just

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<v Speaker 1>be going down. You don't know who got what, land,

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<v Speaker 1>dormant where, So you have to be responsible for your

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<v Speaker 1>body dode. I'll let these niggas put your life in

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<v Speaker 1>their hands, because not everybody deserves access to you. That's friends, family, men,

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<v Speaker 1>a right, start a business now. I always would say,

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<v Speaker 1>like get a business loan instead of a suitent loan.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know they're gonna make it hard for you

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<v Speaker 1>to get a business loan anyway. But if you got

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<v Speaker 1>decent credit, like right now, if you like twenty, go

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<v Speaker 1>ahead and fuck it up and get all the shit

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<v Speaker 1>you want so you can have everything and your credit

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<v Speaker 1>be good by thirty again. Yeah. Like, if somebody would

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<v Speaker 1>have told me that, I would have really strategically fucked

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<v Speaker 1>my credit up at twenty instead of doing like frivolous

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<v Speaker 1>little bullshit like buying ring from Kate Jewelry, just dumb

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<v Speaker 1>shit with my credit and not paying for it. I

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<v Speaker 1>would have strategically fucked my credit up, had a house, car,

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<v Speaker 1>all that shit, early twins and would have been good.

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<v Speaker 1>Would have been good by you know, seven years.

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<v Speaker 2>Your job is not your identity.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, I think some women need to hear that now.

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<v Speaker 2>I was about to say a lot of women need

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<v Speaker 2>to hear that now a lot of people need to

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<v Speaker 2>hear that right now.

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<v Speaker 1>Because that's why I can't stand with somebody asking me

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<v Speaker 1>what you do. I breathe for a living.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what I do.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't be trying to get is.

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<v Speaker 2>The worst about that. That's the first thing I want

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<v Speaker 2>to know about you. They don't even want to know

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<v Speaker 2>your name. But I feel like in la is like

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<v Speaker 2>they will need to know what part of town you

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<v Speaker 2>live in and what you do so they can know

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<v Speaker 2>how they should treat.

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<v Speaker 1>You and how to finesse you if they need you

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<v Speaker 1>or not. They need trying to determine if they need

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<v Speaker 1>you or should you even be around them type shit right.

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<v Speaker 2>To dances. No, you don't need me and I don't

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<v Speaker 2>need to be around you.

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<v Speaker 1>Just go with that.

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<v Speaker 2>When you're fucking with me, travel, but don't go broke

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<v Speaker 2>doing it. I ain't need nobody to tell me that

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<v Speaker 2>shit fucking bills go nobody tell me that ship.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow? Yeah, so that was fun.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I wish well.

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<v Speaker 1>My my goddaughter's mom when she was graduate from high school,

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<v Speaker 1>she had text me and asked me, like what would

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<v Speaker 1>I tell my daughter? You know, and if my goddaughter

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<v Speaker 1>was my kid, Like what would I be telling her?

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<v Speaker 2>Whatever?

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<v Speaker 1>So I gave her a lot of a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>good things and some of the ship is on here,

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<v Speaker 1>like get the fucking student loan, get the business own

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<v Speaker 1>instead of the suit alone.

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<v Speaker 2>All this ship we said today.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, keep your aggressed to some minimum a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>this stuff. I actually rode to my goddaughter when she

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<v Speaker 1>graduate from high school.

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<v Speaker 2>She has a baby now.

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<v Speaker 1>She eyes to her rare though, so she's a she's

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<v Speaker 1>a nail tex so she got her own little business going.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's good.

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<v Speaker 2>But you know that saying youth is wasted on the young,

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<v Speaker 2>It's so true because they don't know what to do

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<v Speaker 2>with it. And the knowledge that you get as you

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<v Speaker 2>grow old, if you had it when you was young,

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<v Speaker 2>you would be more responsible with your youth. And I

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<v Speaker 2>think that's what this episode. If you are listening and

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<v Speaker 2>you are much younger, take heed of the things that

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<v Speaker 2>we're saying, and please apply them to your life. It's

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<v Speaker 2>it's gonna make it much better when you grow old

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<v Speaker 2>if you get to you know, and most of us

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<v Speaker 2>will get to. So you don't want to be like, damn,

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<v Speaker 2>I should have listened to them. We talked back, bitch,

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<v Speaker 2>just ten years ago.

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<v Speaker 1>And you are not supposed to know everything.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, you're supposed to make mistakes.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, but know enough to know you don't know shit,

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<v Speaker 1>and try to get some of the knowledge right so

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<v Speaker 1>you can just put yourself in a better position and

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<v Speaker 1>all aspects of life, from love, finances, all this shit.

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<v Speaker 1>Just get as much information as you can. Surround yourself

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<v Speaker 1>by smart people. If you're the smartest person, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>bit you dumb, right, okay, surround yourself with some smart people.

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<v Speaker 1>That is my last list, and.

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<v Speaker 2>Just keep doing your best. If you are here doing

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<v Speaker 2>your best, that's enough, honestly. And sometimes your best ain't shit.

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<v Speaker 2>But what I'm saying, it's enough. Like some days your

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<v Speaker 2>best is just existing and that's okay, you know, That's

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<v Speaker 2>what I mean. Like for real life, some days we

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<v Speaker 2>can get like our day, we don't get nothing done.

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<v Speaker 2>We could have a laundry list of shit to do

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<v Speaker 2>and nothing happens, and it's still okay because sometimes you

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<v Speaker 2>just can't, you know, don't beat yourself up about it.

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<v Speaker 2>The next day, start over and take that list again.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, man, that's my last All right, y'all. Hye hs.

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<v Speaker 1>is a long ass episode.

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<v Speaker 2>Damn you can marek this too and cut it in half, right,

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<v Speaker 2>but you know what, not to forget the o ns

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<v Speaker 2>and the old hes. We love y'all too, to this

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<v Speaker 2>information that you probably already do and we're still struggling with.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, just got that same man, still got that same friend.

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<v Speaker 2>Still got the same insecurities. It's still fat so just

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<v Speaker 2>still we love you anyway. Thank you for tuning in.

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<v Speaker 2>It's official Tampa on Instagram. Y'all follow me there. Remember

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<v Speaker 2>speak now ah and never hold your youth period. That

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<v Speaker 2>makes sense. Bye bye.

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