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Speaker 2: You just be like listen, I wanted a vacation, you

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Speaker 1: No not, it's probably fun. That's what I'm saying, No harm,

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Speaker 1: Like, all right, there's been so many cases where someone

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Speaker 2: If they're like man, I put, there's a picture on

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Speaker 1: He said family loyalty also meant me not harming him

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Speaker 5: I love that the verdict for this one was full

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Speaker 2: That's right, right, it was just that this So you

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. Okay, So like two sides.

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Speaker 2: One side, I always like respect the hustle of like

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Speaker 2: But on the other side, for like Kieran the Brother,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like yeah, And I could say like, hey,

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Speaker 2: And also I had a guy call me one time,

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Speaker 1: Up, dog?

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Speaker 2: Like I got this guy, he's got this crazy And no,

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Speaker 1: Also, like I had people, like people that were kind

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Speaker 2: But on the flip side, like you and me were like, hey,

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Speaker 2: let's like go up and like just shoot our shots,

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Speaker 1: And then I don't do and then cry if they

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Speaker 2: in a respectable way. There's also nothing wrong with that.

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Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with that. I don't think there's anything

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Speaker 1: there we go. That's it.

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Speaker 2: So I'm saying a whole, both sides, a whole, both sides.

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Speaker 1: I had a flip thing where a guy I haven't

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Speaker 1: because his company wanted to invest and they ended up

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Speaker 2: That's cool.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I didn't really know him that well. And

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Speaker 2: We've had crazy intros that didn't make any sense and

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Speaker 1: Something can't happen. John and I were a coold intro

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Speaker 1: it can work out, yes, but but don't be an

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Speaker 1: So everyone said, Ope's an apple ouch. Everyone the comments

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Speaker 1: was hoping for another chance. As you now know, I

434
00:19:06,000 --> 00:19:07,359
Speaker 1: called it in the six because I'd run out of

435
00:19:07,400 --> 00:19:10,800
Speaker 1: annuel leave and had opportunity of a last minute holiday.

436
00:19:10,920 --> 00:19:13,359
Speaker 1: My friends posted pics on Facebook and some of my

437
00:19:13,359 --> 00:19:15,280
Speaker 1: colleagues saw it was a stupid thing to do, but

438
00:19:15,320 --> 00:19:17,520
Speaker 1: I wasn't the only one doing this, so probably didn't

439
00:19:17,560 --> 00:19:20,720
Speaker 1: think enough about it until now. I do accept it now, though,

440
00:19:20,800 --> 00:19:22,520
Speaker 1: and We'll never do anything like this again, which is

441
00:19:22,520 --> 00:19:25,200
Speaker 1: why I'm hoping for another chance. I was upset because

442
00:19:25,240 --> 00:19:27,560
Speaker 1: Kieran was initially supportive and gave me advice and told

443
00:19:27,600 --> 00:19:29,440
Speaker 1: me I could turn it around. So this feels like

444
00:19:29,480 --> 00:19:31,400
Speaker 1: a huge slap in the face from him.

445
00:19:31,480 --> 00:19:32,600
Speaker 4: Kieran lied to her.

446
00:19:32,720 --> 00:19:35,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, Opie's like, I think Opie's a him? Yeah?

447
00:19:35,240 --> 00:19:35,720
Speaker 4: Is it to him?

448
00:19:35,720 --> 00:19:36,280
Speaker 1: I have no idea.

449
00:19:36,320 --> 00:19:39,000
Speaker 2: Actually, I mean talking out on my booty.

450
00:19:39,160 --> 00:19:42,639
Speaker 4: Perhaps she said they said they had a boyfriend.

451
00:19:42,119 --> 00:19:43,760
Speaker 1: But did we ever get I don't even know. I

452
00:19:43,880 --> 00:19:46,000
Speaker 1: just assumed it was a dude, but it could be a.

453
00:19:46,119 --> 00:19:48,080
Speaker 2: I think I said he as well, but not even knowing.

454
00:19:48,640 --> 00:19:52,159
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know if we ever gendered OPI anyway.

455
00:19:51,840 --> 00:19:53,040
Speaker 4: What's the wrong for me to do that?

456
00:19:53,359 --> 00:19:56,440
Speaker 1: It was terrible? Yeah, how dare you discussed cancel? I

457
00:19:56,480 --> 00:19:59,520
Speaker 1: discussed me too, So I guess like something that is

458
00:19:59,520 --> 00:20:02,640
Speaker 1: hard about the Kieran situation is like Kieran's like, Hey,

459
00:20:02,760 --> 00:20:04,680
Speaker 1: you're going to turn this around. I'm just not gonna

460
00:20:04,680 --> 00:20:07,480
Speaker 1: be the one to help, Like that is a rough role.

461
00:20:07,520 --> 00:20:09,760
Speaker 1: Then help me turn around, buddy. So there is an

462
00:20:09,800 --> 00:20:13,760
Speaker 1: updates on May thirteenth, twenty twenty three. So I posted

463
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Speaker 1: a few times just before and just after I lost

464
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Speaker 1: my job. Looking back now, I'm embarrassed about how entitled

465
00:20:19,280 --> 00:20:20,879
Speaker 1: I sounded, but I was in a bit of a

466
00:20:20,920 --> 00:20:23,680
Speaker 1: shock and disbelief and not really thinking straight at the time.

467
00:20:23,800 --> 00:20:25,879
Speaker 1: I worked at my previous job for nearly two years.

468
00:20:25,920 --> 00:20:29,040
Speaker 1: The culture and enforcement around time keeping and attendance was

469
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Speaker 1: quite lax. It was well known that people called in

470
00:20:31,680 --> 00:20:33,880
Speaker 1: sick when they weren't. People called in if they needed

471
00:20:33,880 --> 00:20:35,960
Speaker 1: a day off for a school thing for their kids

472
00:20:36,080 --> 00:20:38,439
Speaker 1: or for a hangover. Everyone knew they were doing it.

473
00:20:38,520 --> 00:20:41,399
Speaker 1: Nothing happened as results, right or wrong. It happened. I

474
00:20:41,440 --> 00:20:44,040
Speaker 1: got used to it, and like others, sometimes abused it.

475
00:20:44,040 --> 00:20:46,199
Speaker 1: It wasn't the best, but also not the worst. But

476
00:20:46,600 --> 00:20:48,800
Speaker 1: we got a new head of department. I now see

477
00:20:48,840 --> 00:20:51,359
Speaker 1: she wanted to change this culture. They did some announcements

478
00:20:51,359 --> 00:20:53,520
Speaker 1: slash warnings, but I didn't pick up exactly what was

479
00:20:53,560 --> 00:20:56,280
Speaker 1: being said. My fault totally, so I ran out of annually.

480
00:20:56,280 --> 00:20:58,600
Speaker 1: Eve wanted a holiday, and like others, I just called

481
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Speaker 1: in sick. I did this at a time when my

482
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Speaker 1: department was very busy. It was bad for my colleagues

483
00:21:03,160 --> 00:21:04,800
Speaker 1: and I get them being annoyed with me. Some of

484
00:21:04,840 --> 00:21:07,439
Speaker 1: them found out I was away from my friend's post

485
00:21:07,520 --> 00:21:11,640
Speaker 1: and told my manager, who took it through disciplinary processes

486
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Speaker 1: and they sacked me. I later found out from one

487
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Speaker 1: of the ex colleagues that I handed it to the

488
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Speaker 1: company on a plate. I gave them the perfect case,

489
00:21:19,920 --> 00:21:22,680
Speaker 1: gave them all the evidence, etc. So they could sack

490
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Speaker 1: me as a warning to everyone else. The absent rate

491
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Speaker 1: is apparently great. Now, how stupid am I? I went

492
00:21:28,680 --> 00:21:30,359
Speaker 1: into a shock and panic when I was sacked. I

493
00:21:30,400 --> 00:21:32,520
Speaker 1: was scared about being homeless and never getting another job.

494
00:21:32,560 --> 00:21:35,160
Speaker 1: I applied via agencies and got short term work, lots

495
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Speaker 1: of it. It was hard as for my post. I

496
00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:39,560
Speaker 1: found out about a job at my boyfriend and his

497
00:21:39,640 --> 00:21:42,719
Speaker 1: brother's employer, which was similar to what I'd done, and

498
00:21:42,760 --> 00:21:44,720
Speaker 1: thought if I got that, I wouldn't have any gaps

499
00:21:44,720 --> 00:21:47,000
Speaker 1: at my resume. I see now how inconsidered I was

500
00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:49,400
Speaker 1: to both of them, especially Kieran, who would have had

501
00:21:49,440 --> 00:21:52,240
Speaker 1: to vouch me. I've apologized to Kieran and he's accepted it.

502
00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:55,399
Speaker 1: I also apologized to their mom. Dave did know about it,

503
00:21:55,440 --> 00:21:57,639
Speaker 1: by the way, but just felt easier not to. Kieran

504
00:21:57,840 --> 00:22:00,680
Speaker 1: knowingly took the rap for him. So I got lots

505
00:22:00,680 --> 00:22:03,720
Speaker 1: of short term agency minimum wage job. So basically, Dave,

506
00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:07,040
Speaker 1: who is Opie's boyfriend, knew about the job but didn't

507
00:22:07,080 --> 00:22:10,480
Speaker 1: want to recommend op either, and so put it on

508
00:22:10,760 --> 00:22:14,560
Speaker 1: his brother Kira Wow, and I was like, yeah, you

509
00:22:14,600 --> 00:22:16,439
Speaker 1: take the heat for this. I got a job in

510
00:22:16,480 --> 00:22:19,280
Speaker 1: a pub kitchen. I've since been promoted to the bar.

511
00:22:19,560 --> 00:22:21,800
Speaker 1: I burnt my arm on the night of Dave's sisters

512
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Speaker 1: engagement party, which I couldn't get the night off for. Incidentally,

513
00:22:24,840 --> 00:22:27,239
Speaker 1: on that night, Dave's mom had a few drinks and

514
00:22:27,280 --> 00:22:29,560
Speaker 1: told lots of family members why I wasn't there?

515
00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:34,320
Speaker 2: Nice this week, it's the mop. Next week it's the fries.

516
00:22:36,200 --> 00:22:40,520
Speaker 1: To be clear, good Kanye reference. Yeah, I know hip hop.

517
00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:48,160
Speaker 6: Pod, I got it, I got it, got that ambitions.

518
00:22:49,280 --> 00:23:05,960
Speaker 6: Look at his Yeah, that's nice.

519
00:23:04,359 --> 00:23:07,679
Speaker 1: For a white girl. Get down, girl, go ahead, get down,

520
00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:09,879
Speaker 1: Get down, down girl, go ahead.

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00:23:09,600 --> 00:23:13,400
Speaker 4: Get down. Have you heard about the workplace abus he's

522
00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:15,400
Speaker 4: getting sued for. No, Okay, it's kind of funny.

523
00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:18,800
Speaker 1: Apparently he hates that story. Yes, he did tell me that.

524
00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:20,480
Speaker 4: Oh wait, wait, I want to say a few things.

525
00:23:20,600 --> 00:23:20,960
Speaker 1: Uh yeah.

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00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:24,359
Speaker 5: Employee said he's threatened them and speaking in a Mario's voice,

527
00:23:24,359 --> 00:23:27,080
Speaker 5: so like he's threatening them in Mario's voice. Employees claim

528
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Speaker 5: Ye threatened him by saying I'm going to punch you

529
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Speaker 5: in the face, before abruptly changing tone, mimicking Super Mario's

530
00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:36,040
Speaker 5: victory dance and saying I'm going to give you another

531
00:23:36,280 --> 00:23:38,680
Speaker 5: I'm going to give you one more chance, another life.

532
00:23:38,720 --> 00:23:40,639
Speaker 2: So he's like I'm going to punch you in the face,

533
00:23:40,840 --> 00:23:43,159
Speaker 2: but I'm gonna give you one more ton so and

534
00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:43,480
Speaker 2: then he.

535
00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:46,600
Speaker 1: Said, that's fucking crazy.

536
00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:49,480
Speaker 5: He said he told employees if they got fat, he

537
00:23:49,520 --> 00:23:54,600
Speaker 5: would fire them. You went on a rant and had

538
00:23:54,680 --> 00:23:57,560
Speaker 5: staff members come to a meeting room and watch the

539
00:23:57,600 --> 00:23:59,960
Speaker 5: Batman the new One mute in silence.

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Speaker 2: I could never, never, genius, I could fucking never. Oh

541
00:24:05,200 --> 00:24:08,520
Speaker 2: my god, hopefully.

542
00:24:08,480 --> 00:24:18,040
Speaker 1: Start calling Riley into rooms. Explains, don't get fast. Wow,

543
00:24:18,200 --> 00:24:20,760
Speaker 1: Hopefully Opie's boss is not like that. That's crazy anyway,

544
00:24:20,800 --> 00:24:24,440
Speaker 1: all right, editors, you can cut a good check of that. Yeah.

545
00:24:24,480 --> 00:24:27,120
Speaker 1: So one on the plus side, I ended up getting

546
00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:30,960
Speaker 1: an evening job cleaning offices through Dave's Auntie. I still

547
00:24:30,960 --> 00:24:33,800
Speaker 1: got it until I feel more secure about the other jobs.

548
00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:36,239
Speaker 1: One of the longer short term positions I got, I

549
00:24:36,400 --> 00:24:39,040
Speaker 1: was sacked for being late due to an accident on

550
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Speaker 1: the motorway. It really opened my eyes to what should

551
00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:43,800
Speaker 1: be on time or.

552
00:24:44,600 --> 00:24:47,520
Speaker 2: I never realized that being on time was so important.

553
00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:49,960
Speaker 1: I'm now working in a similar job to the one

554
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Speaker 1: I lost, but for far less money and longer hours.

555
00:24:53,320 --> 00:24:56,479
Speaker 1: There is regular overtime six to two on Saturday, and

556
00:24:56,560 --> 00:24:59,080
Speaker 1: I am at the moment, keeping my pub job and

557
00:24:59,119 --> 00:25:02,000
Speaker 1: cleaning jobs, I'm taking home a bit more. The main

558
00:25:02,080 --> 00:25:04,440
Speaker 1: job is going okay. The company is good and long

559
00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:07,879
Speaker 1: term there may well be more prospects than previously. I

560
00:25:07,920 --> 00:25:10,879
Speaker 1: am being the perfect employ and intend to remain so.

561
00:25:11,119 --> 00:25:13,119
Speaker 1: Around the same time as my post, Kieran and his

562
00:25:13,160 --> 00:25:15,880
Speaker 1: partner announced they were expecting a baby, so I obviously

563
00:25:15,920 --> 00:25:18,720
Speaker 1: was not a priority. Their sister announced their engagement in

564
00:25:18,720 --> 00:25:21,280
Speaker 1: the party I missed, and lots of commentsars have expressed

565
00:25:21,320 --> 00:25:24,200
Speaker 1: their hope that Dave would leave me lovely. He didn't.

566
00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:26,640
Speaker 1: I now think it was because he didn't have the guts.

567
00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:30,520
Speaker 1: We aren't together anymore my decision, though. I think he

568
00:25:30,680 --> 00:25:33,520
Speaker 1: was relieved, not really anything to do with this. He's

569
00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:36,560
Speaker 1: seeing someone else now, he says they met after we

570
00:25:36,600 --> 00:25:38,719
Speaker 1: split up. I don't believe him, but what can I do.

571
00:25:38,920 --> 00:25:41,720
Speaker 1: Some redditors will be pleased, no doubt. I randomly saw

572
00:25:41,800 --> 00:25:45,040
Speaker 1: Kieran after this. He said he thought we weren't right together,

573
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Speaker 1: that I needed someone to stand up to me more,

574
00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:50,679
Speaker 1: and Dave wasn't. It made me feel strangely better. Somehow,

575
00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:53,480
Speaker 1: I actually feel I will miss Kieran more than Dave.

576
00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:56,040
Speaker 1: He was like a big brother. He'll be a great

577
00:25:56,119 --> 00:25:58,600
Speaker 1: dad anyway. Yes, I was the a hole. I got

578
00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:00,719
Speaker 1: a lot of nasty comments in DMA, but also got

579
00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:02,800
Speaker 1: a lot of great advice and support. Life is quite

580
00:26:02,800 --> 00:26:05,320
Speaker 1: hard at the moment, but I'm working to make it better.

581
00:26:05,520 --> 00:26:08,600
Speaker 1: And there is another up. Oh my god, you know,

582
00:26:08,960 --> 00:26:11,000
Speaker 1: I hope Opie's life gets up better.

583
00:26:11,400 --> 00:26:13,880
Speaker 2: Maybe, oh, we don't know, it's for sure. Maybe Opie's

584
00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:15,639
Speaker 2: an idiot, but it's very sad.

585
00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:20,080
Speaker 1: What's happening to this idiot? Yeah, oh gosh, relevant comments.

586
00:26:20,160 --> 00:26:22,919
Speaker 1: So Steven Allen nineteen seventy seven says, thanks for the update.

587
00:26:22,960 --> 00:26:24,920
Speaker 1: Seems unlike most of the posters and am and the

588
00:26:24,960 --> 00:26:26,680
Speaker 1: a hole, you took on the advice given. And I

589
00:26:26,680 --> 00:26:28,760
Speaker 1: have been working hard to be a better person, better

590
00:26:28,800 --> 00:26:30,720
Speaker 1: to make a mistake early in life and move forward

591
00:26:30,720 --> 00:26:32,840
Speaker 1: from the experience. And Opie says thanks. I really don't

592
00:26:32,840 --> 00:26:34,199
Speaker 1: want to screw up my life more than I have

593
00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:37,480
Speaker 1: already appreciate the comments. And then Dinah Tuk says, I

594
00:26:37,480 --> 00:26:40,040
Speaker 1: saw this post when you posted in the wrong sub earlier.

595
00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:41,679
Speaker 1: I just wanted to message you and say that it

596
00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:43,919
Speaker 1: was wonderful that you took the comments and use that

597
00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:46,119
Speaker 1: as a moment to reflect on what happened in your choices.

598
00:26:46,160 --> 00:26:48,680
Speaker 1: It really sounds like you were focused on moving forward

599
00:26:48,880 --> 00:26:51,800
Speaker 1: in a better way. That's wonderful. I hope things continue

600
00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:54,040
Speaker 1: to look up for you and you continue learning from

601
00:26:54,080 --> 00:26:57,119
Speaker 1: your mistakes to be a better, stronger, and happier version

602
00:26:57,200 --> 00:26:59,359
Speaker 1: of you and be happier than you were when you

603
00:26:59,359 --> 00:27:02,240
Speaker 1: first post about the situation. And then OPI responds thanks.

604
00:27:02,400 --> 00:27:05,880
Speaker 1: That means a lot. And there is one final update

605
00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:09,800
Speaker 1: seven months later from December twenty first, twenty twenty three,

606
00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:12,600
Speaker 1: So almost a year we've we've gotten over like a

607
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:13,560
Speaker 1: full saga.

608
00:27:13,640 --> 00:27:15,800
Speaker 2: Can I make a conspiracy theory?

609
00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:18,520
Speaker 1: Yeah? The conspiracy hats are in the closet, I.

610
00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:20,200
Speaker 4: Can get them, Okay, Okay.

611
00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:23,800
Speaker 2: So I think that OP has like turned a new

612
00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:26,679
Speaker 2: leaf here, and it's like I am being responsible, I

613
00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:28,919
Speaker 2: am being on top of it. I am not thinking

614
00:27:29,000 --> 00:27:31,720
Speaker 2: that posting face for photos of what I'm doing is

615
00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:34,639
Speaker 2: gonna have no consequences, buckled down for a year and

616
00:27:34,800 --> 00:27:37,080
Speaker 2: is like absolutely killing it, making a bunch of money,

617
00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:39,280
Speaker 2: maybe even a new Boothang.

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00:27:39,520 --> 00:27:42,159
Speaker 1: I'm throwing down the gauntlet on this prediction. I'm putting it.

619
00:27:42,320 --> 00:27:45,800
Speaker 1: So you're saying, like Opie's life way better, way better. Well,

620
00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:49,040
Speaker 1: let's find out and go back to reality. Really, so,

621
00:27:49,520 --> 00:27:52,360
Speaker 1: going back to the update, just realized it's been a

622
00:27:52,400 --> 00:27:55,399
Speaker 1: full year since I first posted on Reddit that I

623
00:27:55,520 --> 00:27:58,120
Speaker 1: was worried I was going to be sacked for wrongly

624
00:27:58,160 --> 00:28:00,360
Speaker 1: declaring I was sick when I wasn't. I got sick,

625
00:28:00,400 --> 00:28:03,560
Speaker 1: pay to go on a last minute cheapy holiday company

626
00:28:03,560 --> 00:28:07,359
Speaker 1: found out I lost my job. I was stupid. Well,

627
00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:11,719
Speaker 1: this Christmas is going to be amazing in comparison last Christmas.

628
00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:13,760
Speaker 1: I spent the entire time worrying, and then I got

629
00:28:13,760 --> 00:28:16,600
Speaker 1: fired in January. Well, posting on Reddit was also stupid,

630
00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:18,879
Speaker 1: and yet here I am again. Everyone hated me and

631
00:28:18,920 --> 00:28:22,119
Speaker 1: the dms were horrible. They maybe mean again, but I

632
00:28:22,160 --> 00:28:24,840
Speaker 1: want to feel some people might be nicer this time.

633
00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:26,840
Speaker 1: So I spent a lot of this year working long

634
00:28:26,880 --> 00:28:29,840
Speaker 1: hours in minimum wage jobs, but did eventually get a

635
00:28:29,920 --> 00:28:32,240
Speaker 1: job similar to the one I lost on lower money,

636
00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:35,439
Speaker 1: but more over time, with two other part time jobs

637
00:28:35,480 --> 00:28:38,320
Speaker 1: to support, still doing one in a pub, but leaving

638
00:28:38,480 --> 00:28:43,600
Speaker 1: after Christmas because they've made me permanence. Hey, I know

639
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:46,440
Speaker 1: I don't have full employee rights for two years, but

640
00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:49,520
Speaker 1: it's going so well. And I'm getting good feedback. I

641
00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:53,600
Speaker 1: also trust myself not to fuck up again. Happy Christmas, everybody. Okay,

642
00:28:53,600 --> 00:28:56,200
Speaker 1: So OPI at the pub was like got a big

643
00:28:56,240 --> 00:28:59,080
Speaker 1: promotion or no, no, no, Opie's lead like the main job

644
00:28:59,120 --> 00:29:01,840
Speaker 1: that was similar to their job at the very beginning

645
00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:04,560
Speaker 1: the when they got fired from Yeah, they got that

646
00:29:04,680 --> 00:29:07,720
Speaker 1: job and it had like less it had more hours

647
00:29:07,960 --> 00:29:11,080
Speaker 1: and less pay. But now full time on that job.

648
00:29:11,160 --> 00:29:13,240
Speaker 2: Now full time kind of back in the saddle, so

649
00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:14,080
Speaker 2: to speak.

650
00:29:13,960 --> 00:29:17,959
Speaker 1: Back in the saddle, no boothing, no boothing, and really

651
00:29:18,040 --> 00:29:21,000
Speaker 1: op just has is right where they started well with

652
00:29:21,200 --> 00:29:21,880
Speaker 1: less a boothing.

653
00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:25,560
Speaker 2: I feel like we're trying to take down my incredible

654
00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:29,600
Speaker 2: conspiracy theory prediction skills because, in my opinion, guys, did

655
00:29:29,600 --> 00:29:30,640
Speaker 2: I predict.

656
00:29:30,240 --> 00:29:32,240
Speaker 1: That I predict no boothing?

657
00:29:32,560 --> 00:29:36,160
Speaker 2: I said, maybe even a booth thing roll in the day,

658
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 2: roll it.

659
00:29:37,640 --> 00:29:41,760
Speaker 1: I am glad Opie is in a better position this Christmas.

660
00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:43,760
Speaker 2: And I am glad I'm amazing at predicting things.

661
00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:46,600
Speaker 1: You know what, I will give you that yay, But

662
00:29:46,680 --> 00:29:48,320
Speaker 1: you know what I want you to give me what

663
00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:51,000
Speaker 1: this next story? Let's do it?

664
00:29:51,600 --> 00:29:53,800
Speaker 2: Am I the a hole for refusing to be made

665
00:29:53,840 --> 00:29:57,600
Speaker 2: of honor over a bridesmaid, causing her to get.

666
00:29:57,480 --> 00:30:01,360
Speaker 1: Fired another fired episode. Is this the fired episode? I

667
00:30:01,400 --> 00:30:03,960
Speaker 1: think this is the episode. I want to know why

668
00:30:04,000 --> 00:30:04,680
Speaker 1: they got fired.

669
00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:05,959
Speaker 2: Also, are we getting fired?

670
00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:07,719
Speaker 1: I hope not firing us.

671
00:30:08,920 --> 00:30:15,440
Speaker 4: We are going to have a talk after this.

672
00:30:11,920 --> 00:30:18,640
Speaker 2: That's This comes from Bride'smaid Ultimatum, a very app user

673
00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:20,920
Speaker 2: name who says, the people in this story are my

674
00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:23,520
Speaker 2: best friend Jane or brother Elliott and his girlfriend of

675
00:30:23,560 --> 00:30:26,480
Speaker 2: two years Kathy. My best friend Jane is marrying her

676
00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:29,400
Speaker 2: fiance Tom in July, and she asked me to be

677
00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:32,600
Speaker 2: her maid of honor. First sentence. This was sort of expected,

678
00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:35,520
Speaker 2: as my friend Jane is essentially a sister to me.

679
00:30:35,680 --> 00:30:38,720
Speaker 2: I was surprised, however, that she asked her brother's girlfriend

680
00:30:38,800 --> 00:30:42,000
Speaker 2: Kathy to be a bridesmaid. My friend Jane later confirmed

681
00:30:42,040 --> 00:30:44,920
Speaker 2: that Cassie had kind of pressured her into it, and

682
00:30:44,960 --> 00:30:48,360
Speaker 2: she had done it to make her brother Elliot happy.

683
00:30:48,600 --> 00:30:51,920
Speaker 2: Done what So there's this like not nice you know

684
00:30:52,040 --> 00:30:53,160
Speaker 2: which words we can't say?

685
00:30:53,200 --> 00:30:55,760
Speaker 1: It start with a b bonnet.

686
00:30:56,040 --> 00:30:58,880
Speaker 2: But her brother's girlfriend, she doesn't like her, and but

687
00:30:58,920 --> 00:31:00,880
Speaker 2: the brothers like yo on the way make her a

688
00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:03,920
Speaker 2: bridesmaid and she's like fine, fine, So op. He's not

689
00:31:03,960 --> 00:31:05,360
Speaker 2: happy about this either, mind you.

690
00:31:05,400 --> 00:31:06,920
Speaker 1: Oh, he's not happy about this.

691
00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:10,520
Speaker 2: Kathy also becoming a bridesmaid. I think she's like, she's

692
00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:11,040
Speaker 2: not a girl.

693
00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:13,080
Speaker 1: Kathy is like an honorary bridesmaid.

694
00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:16,400
Speaker 2: She is an official bridesmaid.

695
00:31:15,840 --> 00:31:19,000
Speaker 1: Official bridesmaid. But they're just including her because they have to.

696
00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:22,040
Speaker 1: It's a pity party. It's a pity bridesmaid invite. She's

697
00:31:22,040 --> 00:31:23,040
Speaker 1: not a girl's girl.

698
00:31:23,120 --> 00:31:26,280
Speaker 2: You you know what I'm talking about, ladies out there, ladies.

699
00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:30,040
Speaker 2: My girlfriend says that all the time. So there girls girl. Yeah,

700
00:31:30,280 --> 00:31:33,080
Speaker 2: she says it all the time. The issue is Kathy

701
00:31:33,440 --> 00:31:35,240
Speaker 2: hates me. Well, there you go.

702
00:31:36,320 --> 00:31:40,400
Speaker 1: Is a big issue. A bridesmaid hates the maid of honor.

703
00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:43,840
Speaker 2: Like seriously hates me. She blames me for all the

704
00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:47,200
Speaker 2: issues she has with her boyfriend Elliott and Jane's parents,

705
00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:51,200
Speaker 2: all all, every single one, and for her not having

706
00:31:51,280 --> 00:31:54,480
Speaker 2: a better relationship with my friend Jane. She also thinks

707
00:31:54,560 --> 00:31:56,760
Speaker 2: that I'm trying to steal Elliott from her.

708
00:31:56,920 --> 00:31:59,680
Speaker 1: I am not, oh my god, insecure much.

709
00:31:59,720 --> 00:32:02,959
Speaker 2: This is sounding like a maniac already, but also cannot

710
00:32:03,000 --> 00:32:06,240
Speaker 2: handle whenever he and I disagree on anything, and will

711
00:32:06,280 --> 00:32:09,920
Speaker 2: go way overboard defending him and arguing with me. I

712
00:32:09,960 --> 00:32:12,560
Speaker 2: was determined to put all this aside for my good

713
00:32:12,640 --> 00:32:16,360
Speaker 2: friend Jane. Though this was actually not going too badly.

714
00:32:16,480 --> 00:32:18,560
Speaker 2: But last weekend we went to a bridle shop to

715
00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:21,640
Speaker 2: choose bride's maid stresses. If you guys have watched Winning

716
00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:24,840
Speaker 2: Stories on the show before, many a situation has gone

717
00:32:24,880 --> 00:32:27,719
Speaker 2: down around the bridle shops.

718
00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:31,000
Speaker 1: Are just places that are filled with emotions, both good

719
00:32:31,040 --> 00:32:34,640
Speaker 1: and bad. Yeah, honestly, I'd be terrified anything can happen anything,

720
00:32:34,680 --> 00:32:37,720
Speaker 1: All bets are off. As Gabe from the Office says

721
00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:42,080
Speaker 1: he loves Maternity Wards because things can go so wrong

722
00:32:42,440 --> 00:32:46,200
Speaker 1: or so so right. What does that even mean? Because

723
00:32:46,200 --> 00:32:48,560
Speaker 1: he loves horror movies and so he's like, I love

724
00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:51,280
Speaker 1: Maternity Awards because it could be either a horror movie

725
00:32:51,480 --> 00:32:54,160
Speaker 1: or it could be just like a little baby being born.

726
00:32:54,240 --> 00:32:56,040
Speaker 2: I did not know that was like a troph in

727
00:32:56,160 --> 00:32:56,760
Speaker 2: horror movies.

728
00:32:56,800 --> 00:32:58,480
Speaker 1: I guess I should know. It's just it's just that

729
00:32:58,680 --> 00:33:00,920
Speaker 1: the fact that like a maybe and a mom could

730
00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:02,960
Speaker 1: die in an instant, or you have a new life. Wow,

731
00:33:03,320 --> 00:33:04,600
Speaker 1: damn Gabe.

732
00:33:04,880 --> 00:33:07,880
Speaker 2: Well, Jane mentioned that she wanted me and Elliott to

733
00:33:07,920 --> 00:33:12,520
Speaker 2: walk down the aisle together and Kathy lost it. I mean,

734
00:33:12,600 --> 00:33:14,400
Speaker 2: walking down the aisle with her boyfriend.

735
00:33:14,600 --> 00:33:18,320
Speaker 1: Why wouldn't she just why wouldn't the actual boyfriend walk down?

736
00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:21,200
Speaker 2: I think so. I think why is because.

737
00:33:21,000 --> 00:33:25,080
Speaker 1: Elliott is made of honor and man of a maid

738
00:33:25,160 --> 00:33:29,560
Speaker 1: of honor and groomsman. Groom Yeah, the best man, maid

739
00:33:29,600 --> 00:33:31,560
Speaker 1: of honor, best man. I think that's what. I think.

740
00:33:31,560 --> 00:33:34,280
Speaker 2: That's so that that does actually kind of makes sense,

741
00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:37,720
Speaker 2: for that's such money, right. She called me desperate, crazy,

742
00:33:37,960 --> 00:33:41,240
Speaker 2: a pick me, a fake, a fat, and a bunch

743
00:33:41,280 --> 00:33:44,880
Speaker 2: of other things. A fat Okay, there's no a in fat,

744
00:33:44,920 --> 00:33:46,400
Speaker 2: but there was a fake and fat.

745
00:33:46,520 --> 00:33:48,440
Speaker 1: A fake and fat. Yeah, so I get fat.

746
00:33:48,480 --> 00:33:50,000
Speaker 2: I said, a fake and a fat.

747
00:33:50,600 --> 00:33:52,200
Speaker 1: So there you go, fake and a faty.

748
00:33:52,640 --> 00:33:56,240
Speaker 2: Looking back, I probably should have said more than I did,

749
00:33:56,360 --> 00:33:58,600
Speaker 2: but at that moment, I could see how everyone was

750
00:33:58,640 --> 00:34:00,960
Speaker 2: looking at her, and I didn't want them looking at

751
00:34:01,040 --> 00:34:03,600
Speaker 2: me the same way. So I literally just said, yeah,

752
00:34:03,760 --> 00:34:06,720
Speaker 2: I'm not kneeling that this either she's out or I am,

753
00:34:07,000 --> 00:34:09,960
Speaker 2: and picked up my stuff and left. This is the

754
00:34:09,960 --> 00:34:11,919
Speaker 2: part where I have to pause right here and ask

755
00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:16,040
Speaker 2: every single person watching, and Samuel Donner is ope the

756
00:34:16,080 --> 00:34:20,280
Speaker 2: a hole for saying this because she's out remembered she's

757
00:34:20,320 --> 00:34:22,320
Speaker 2: out of her friend's wedding.

758
00:34:23,800 --> 00:34:27,640
Speaker 1: The friend is being punished. I feel like the friend

759
00:34:27,840 --> 00:34:32,520
Speaker 1: shouldn't be punished for this stinky woman's actions. So I

760
00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:35,759
Speaker 1: would say, ope, a little bit the a hole. She

761
00:34:35,800 --> 00:34:40,200
Speaker 1: shouldn't have to endure these insults. But maybe talk to

762
00:34:40,960 --> 00:34:43,880
Speaker 1: the bride and be like, hey, this is what's going on, Like,

763
00:34:44,000 --> 00:34:46,359
Speaker 1: can we remedy this, because it's really hard to have

764
00:34:46,640 --> 00:34:48,840
Speaker 1: any kind of peace in this smilence.

765
00:34:48,880 --> 00:34:52,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe go in together and try to get because Jane,

766
00:34:52,480 --> 00:34:55,000
Speaker 2: her friend, she doesn't want Kathy in the winning either.

767
00:34:55,120 --> 00:34:57,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, well I guess, well, actually you need to go

768
00:34:57,400 --> 00:35:00,000
Speaker 1: to the grooms, Ben, I guess right, because or the uh,

769
00:35:00,160 --> 00:35:02,640
Speaker 1: the Elliott husband would.

770
00:35:02,400 --> 00:35:06,440
Speaker 2: Say, yeah, so Kathy is the bride's brother's girlfriend.

771
00:35:06,640 --> 00:35:09,920
Speaker 1: Kathy is the bride's brothers the bride's brothers girl.

772
00:35:09,960 --> 00:35:12,920
Speaker 2: Wait yeah, yeah, so so Kathy's getting married, right, yeah,

773
00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:15,800
Speaker 2: And then her brother was like, yo, put my girlfriend

774
00:35:15,800 --> 00:35:20,080
Speaker 2: in Like I thought it was the husband's sister.

775
00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:24,040
Speaker 1: It is the bride's brother's girlfriend. Yeah, I thought it

776
00:35:24,120 --> 00:35:28,319
Speaker 1: was the bride's fiance's sister. So it is just a

777
00:35:28,360 --> 00:35:33,200
Speaker 1: brother's girlfriend. Yeah, you can kick her out right, she

778
00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:35,920
Speaker 1: does not that's too I couldn't like I could maybe

779
00:35:36,080 --> 00:35:40,160
Speaker 1: understand the husband's sister, right, like I would want my

780
00:35:40,239 --> 00:35:42,360
Speaker 1: sister included in like the wedding party.

781
00:35:42,480 --> 00:35:49,239
Speaker 2: But that is crazy flip scenario though. Sophia's got a boyfriend.

782
00:35:49,680 --> 00:35:52,560
Speaker 1: Not a chance even like as just a groomsman in

783
00:35:52,640 --> 00:35:54,840
Speaker 1: the Not a chance, not a chance, not a chance,

784
00:35:54,960 --> 00:35:56,879
Speaker 1: a chance unless I was friends with him.

785
00:35:57,239 --> 00:35:59,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, like if he was an ahole, which of course

786
00:35:59,360 --> 00:36:03,640
Speaker 2: he never would be because Sophie would never zero percent,

787
00:36:03,880 --> 00:36:06,880
Speaker 2: zero percent chance. Sophia says, put him in. No, you

788
00:36:06,920 --> 00:36:08,240
Speaker 2: won't listen to the worm queen.

789
00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:09,640
Speaker 1: Even if they were married.

790
00:36:10,000 --> 00:36:12,319
Speaker 4: I would be like, n because because would I put

791
00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:12,520
Speaker 4: him in.

792
00:36:12,560 --> 00:36:13,359
Speaker 1: I'm not friends with them.

793
00:36:13,520 --> 00:36:16,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, the groomsmen are supposed to That's like, that's

794
00:36:16,719 --> 00:36:17,520
Speaker 2: like your boys.

795
00:36:17,800 --> 00:36:20,520
Speaker 1: Well I'm friends with you. That's different.

796
00:36:20,600 --> 00:36:23,080
Speaker 2: That's different because it's like the grooms men are your boys,

797
00:36:23,160 --> 00:36:25,000
Speaker 2: and the and the bride's maids are your girls like

798
00:36:25,080 --> 00:36:26,200
Speaker 2: that that's your homies.

799
00:36:27,280 --> 00:36:30,319
Speaker 1: Yeah wait, dude, I totally misunderstood the beginning of this story.

800
00:36:30,400 --> 00:36:32,920
Speaker 1: This person should not be in the Are we sure?

801
00:36:33,200 --> 00:36:36,279
Speaker 1: Can we go back? Let's let's double check, because there

802
00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:39,680
Speaker 1: is no fucking way so it's spelled out very nicely here.

803
00:36:39,719 --> 00:36:42,640
Speaker 2: The people in the story are my best friend Jane,

804
00:36:42,880 --> 00:36:47,960
Speaker 2: Jane is getting married, her brother Elliot, and Elliott's girlfriend, Kathy.

805
00:36:48,160 --> 00:36:49,960
Speaker 2: And Kathy is the one that is causing all these

806
00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:53,160
Speaker 2: problems because she's a bridesmaid. It is the brother's the

807
00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:56,160
Speaker 2: bride's brother's girlfriend. Yeah, that's wild.

808
00:36:56,280 --> 00:36:59,120
Speaker 1: Get her out of here, get the get right, would you?

809
00:36:59,560 --> 00:36:59,759
Speaker 2: Yeah?

810
00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:02,239
Speaker 1: I the problem is that you don't bring her in

811
00:37:02,320 --> 00:37:04,000
Speaker 1: to begin with. Yeah, exactly.

812
00:37:04,080 --> 00:37:06,279
Speaker 2: Now they're but they're kind of f now because it's like, Okay,

813
00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:09,000
Speaker 2: you already brought her in, and like, kicking someone out

814
00:37:09,120 --> 00:37:10,120
Speaker 2: is so much.

815
00:37:10,040 --> 00:37:12,319
Speaker 1: Hard much harder. But I think, honestly, at this point,

816
00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:13,400
Speaker 1: well deserved.

817
00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:15,640
Speaker 2: Right because now you're losing your best friend and made

818
00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:17,600
Speaker 2: of honor, you're number one.

819
00:37:17,760 --> 00:37:20,640
Speaker 1: I think it's it's I feel like it's fairly whacked

820
00:37:21,080 --> 00:37:23,600
Speaker 1: for op to just be like I'm leaving, Yes, like,

821
00:37:23,880 --> 00:37:28,880
Speaker 1: because the wrong person to put it. I think I

822
00:37:28,920 --> 00:37:33,759
Speaker 1: think it's a Obviously, Kathy is being a massive a hole.

823
00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:37,400
Speaker 1: Is Kathy? Yeah, Kathy's being a massive a hole? But yeah,

824
00:37:37,560 --> 00:37:39,440
Speaker 1: I like I think Opie's a little bit the a

825
00:37:39,600 --> 00:37:42,399
Speaker 1: hole for that reaction because it's punishing the wrong person. Yes,

826
00:37:42,600 --> 00:37:44,440
Speaker 1: there we go much, there's more to the story.

827
00:37:44,520 --> 00:37:48,280
Speaker 2: So I apologize to my friend Jane for the drama

828
00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:51,000
Speaker 2: and offered her a long weekend of babysitting and some

829
00:37:51,120 --> 00:37:53,239
Speaker 2: flowers to make up for it. And she accepted it

830
00:37:53,320 --> 00:37:56,080
Speaker 2: and we're okay now. So Opie recognizes what she said

831
00:37:56,120 --> 00:37:58,840
Speaker 2: in the moment was wrong and is trying to make

832
00:37:58,880 --> 00:37:59,359
Speaker 2: amends here.

833
00:37:59,600 --> 00:38:00,840
Speaker 1: Because of this, Jane.

834
00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:03,840
Speaker 2: Said that Kathy can't be a bridesmaid anymore because she

835
00:38:03,960 --> 00:38:05,240
Speaker 2: wants me as a maid of honor.

836
00:38:05,520 --> 00:38:08,920
Speaker 1: So yes, we're back where we should be. Easiest decision

837
00:38:09,200 --> 00:38:10,719
Speaker 1: of my life. Yes, yes.

838
00:38:10,960 --> 00:38:14,560
Speaker 2: However, this has caused issues with Kathy and her brother

839
00:38:14,680 --> 00:38:18,800
Speaker 2: Elliott by extension. Both Elliott and Kathy have apologized and

840
00:38:18,920 --> 00:38:21,600
Speaker 2: said that Kathy will behave better for all of the

841
00:38:21,680 --> 00:38:25,560
Speaker 2: wedding events. No, she'll behave better. No, it'll be better.

842
00:38:26,080 --> 00:38:29,879
Speaker 1: You get one chance, but you've overstayed your welcome. I'm

843
00:38:29,920 --> 00:38:32,279
Speaker 1: not willing to budge good. Opie's with you, Oh, Pie's

844
00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:32,480
Speaker 1: with you.

845
00:38:32,800 --> 00:38:35,840
Speaker 2: Jane's mother and my mother both think I should drop

846
00:38:35,920 --> 00:38:38,399
Speaker 2: the ultimatum, and I don't want to make things hard

847
00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:41,400
Speaker 2: on Jane, So I am rethinking it, but I know

848
00:38:41,760 --> 00:38:44,560
Speaker 2: there's other things she will try to cause issues with

849
00:38:44,680 --> 00:38:46,800
Speaker 2: me over and I just don't know how long I

850
00:38:46,920 --> 00:38:50,239
Speaker 2: can keep being the bigger person with her. So am

851
00:38:50,480 --> 00:38:54,200
Speaker 2: I the ahole for causing this drama? Ladies and gentlemen

852
00:38:54,440 --> 00:38:56,680
Speaker 2: answers and comments? Is ope the a hole for this?

853
00:38:57,120 --> 00:39:00,200
Speaker 1: I honestly think it is the best for four the

854
00:39:00,239 --> 00:39:04,000
Speaker 1: wedding for Kathy to jump in a dumpster and be

855
00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:05,320
Speaker 1: exported to France.

856
00:39:05,480 --> 00:39:08,920
Speaker 2: Yes, with all the stinky women all made sense on

857
00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:13,720
Speaker 2: so many levels. My French don't like the odorant.

858
00:39:16,200 --> 00:39:20,520
Speaker 1: Dude, that's respect. That was good.

859
00:39:21,120 --> 00:39:23,040
Speaker 4: All the mistresses they have and stuff.

860
00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:25,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean that's also they're also stinky. For that

861
00:39:26,080 --> 00:39:30,120
Speaker 1: totally alienated any French people watching. That's okay, Yeah, it's

862
00:39:30,120 --> 00:39:33,560
Speaker 1: all good. It's just it's a preferences preference, That's what

863
00:39:33,600 --> 00:39:39,200
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Anyways, Yeah, I think Kathy is not only

864
00:39:39,320 --> 00:39:42,600
Speaker 1: detrimental to opie sanity, but for the sanity of the

865
00:39:42,760 --> 00:39:43,520
Speaker 1: entire wedding party.

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Speaker 2: Und you like, like Opie's literally said, you don't know

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Speaker 2: what she's going to do or make an issue of.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't invite a crazy person to an event

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Speaker 1: that you don't want to be crazy.

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Speaker 2: What if she's like, why do I not get to

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Speaker 2: cut the cake first? I'm going to cut you instead?

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Speaker 1: Exactly, You don't know what Kathy's gonna do. Is Kathy's

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Speaker 1: going to Kathy? But hey, if you want an interesting wedding,

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Speaker 1: you know, like everyone as like, oh I kiss the bride,

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Speaker 1: kiss the groom, first dance and stuff. But if you

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Speaker 1: want someone to potentially stab you at the cake cutting,

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Speaker 1: that is a memory you'll have for a lifetime. Crazy

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Speaker 1: that goes crazy. Everyone will be like, hey, the wedding

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Speaker 1: was so beautiful, but remember when Kathy tried to stab

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Speaker 1: the bride. Wow, what a moment. Yeah, yeah, that is

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Speaker 1: something I can't remember. If you want someone to remember

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Speaker 1: your wedding, invite Kathy for all the wrong reasons, for

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Speaker 1: all the wrong reasons, but you know it is a

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Speaker 1: right reason to want something from you.

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Speaker 4: Okay, nice

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Speaker 1: Friend,