WEBVTT - Don't reject yourself

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is that if there is something you want, go

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<v Speaker 1>for it. You may not achieve everything you try for,

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<v Speaker 1>but don't reject yourself by not pursuing what you want.

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<v Speaker 1>So you have probably heard the statistic that women won't

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<v Speaker 1>apply for a job unless they meet all of the qualifications,

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<v Speaker 1>while men will generally apply if they meet sixty percent.

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<v Speaker 1>That is an interesting statistic. But I am here to

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<v Speaker 1>say that whatever your gender, if there is a job

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<v Speaker 1>you want and you have reason to believe that you

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<v Speaker 1>could do well at it, you should go ahead and apply.

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<v Speaker 1>Will you get an interview for the job? Will you

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<v Speaker 1>get the job? I have no idea, but what I

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<v Speaker 1>do know is that if you don't apply, you definitely

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<v Speaker 1>won't get the job. Now, even if you do apply,

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<v Speaker 1>the hiring manager may choose someone besides you, But if

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<v Speaker 1>you don't apply, you are rejecting yourself. You don't need

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<v Speaker 1>to do that on behalf of the decision makers. As

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<v Speaker 1>the saying goes, you miss one hundred percent of the

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<v Speaker 1>shots you don't take. So if you want to make

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<v Speaker 1>a goal you have to shoot. This is true for

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<v Speaker 1>jobs and for education too. If you have always wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to go to a program at a competitive university, you

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<v Speaker 1>can apply. They can reject you, but you don't need

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<v Speaker 1>to do that for them. If you want to take

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<v Speaker 1>a master class with a famous musician who's coming to town,

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<v Speaker 1>why not audition again? They can say no, but if

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<v Speaker 1>there are open auditions, saying no isn't your job. Do

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<v Speaker 1>you want to serve on the board of a non

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<v Speaker 1>profit you care about, tell the executive director or board

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<v Speaker 1>chair of your interest. If you want to spend time

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<v Speaker 1>with friends, don't assume they don't have time to get together.

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<v Speaker 1>Go ahead and extend the invitation. They may say no,

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<v Speaker 1>but you don't need to reject yourself by not inviting

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<v Speaker 1>them for something that you'd like to do together. We

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<v Speaker 1>recently managed to squeeze in a playdate with another busy

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<v Speaker 1>family in the middle of a busy Sunday. The other

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<v Speaker 1>family could have assumed it wouldn't work, but I'm glad

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<v Speaker 1>they reached out because even if it was only forty

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<v Speaker 1>five minutes, it did, in fact fit. The world tells

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<v Speaker 1>us no more often than all of us would probably like,

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<v Speaker 1>but we don't do ourselves any favors by telling ourselves

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<v Speaker 1>no and not seeking out experiences we would like because

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<v Speaker 1>we believe that we couldn't get them anyway. So pursue

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<v Speaker 1>what you want, knowing that you may be rejected, but

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<v Speaker 1>also you may be accepted. You just don't know, and

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<v Speaker 1>you know for sure you won't get the opportunity if

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<v Speaker 1>you preemptively reject yourself. In the meantime, this is Laura.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of

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<v Speaker 1>our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've

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<v Speaker 1>got questions, ideas, or feedback, you can reach me at

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<v Speaker 1>Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. Before Breakfast is a

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