WEBVTT - Ask for the slideshow

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is that when a companion is happily telling you

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<v Speaker 1>about something in their life, ask them to show you photos.

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<v Speaker 1>They will be thrilled to do so, and you will

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<v Speaker 1>learn more about this person than you would otherwise. So

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<v Speaker 1>back in the olden days, people used to create slide

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<v Speaker 1>shows of their vacations. It was something of a running

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<v Speaker 1>joke that people would be invited over to a friend's

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<v Speaker 1>house and then be ambushed with a slide show of

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<v Speaker 1>their recent vacation to Hawaii, featuring ten shots of the

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<v Speaker 1>airplane wing alone. One can imagine these friends trying desperately

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<v Speaker 1>to escape. What good news is, most people don't do

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<v Speaker 1>slide shows like that anymore, but people do still take pictures,

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<v Speaker 1>and thanks to smartphones, people always have their pictures with them.

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<v Speaker 1>Most people would still like to share pictures of the

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<v Speaker 1>things they love, so why not ask for the slide show.

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<v Speaker 1>If your coworker tells you that her sister just had

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<v Speaker 1>a baby, ask to see pictures, or if her neighbor

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<v Speaker 1>got a puppy, or if she's regaling you of tales

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<v Speaker 1>of renovating her back porch in backyard modern sorts have

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<v Speaker 1>photos of all these things, so ask to see them. Ooh,

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<v Speaker 1>I love roses too, do you have a picture of

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<v Speaker 1>them in your garden? Or my neighbor growing up had

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<v Speaker 1>a poodle too, do you have pictures? A request for

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<v Speaker 1>the slide show does a few things. First, it shows

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<v Speaker 1>your companion that you are truly interested in them. You

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<v Speaker 1>are not looking for an excuse to get away. You

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<v Speaker 1>are voluntarily extending the small talk by a minute or two.

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<v Speaker 1>But and this is an upside for you, This small

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<v Speaker 1>talk might actually become a lot more interesting at that point.

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<v Speaker 1>Pictures tend to nudge a little bit of storytelling. That

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<v Speaker 1>photo of your colleague's niece brings up that she used

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<v Speaker 1>to live near her sister in Boston, and then you

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<v Speaker 1>guys can talk a little bit about that. Or the

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<v Speaker 1>photo of the back porch renovation can bring up a

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<v Speaker 1>story of the best barbecue your colleague ever attended, and

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<v Speaker 1>then you can share a local restaurant recommendation, a barbecue

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<v Speaker 1>joint that's pretty good, maybe not the best ever, but

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<v Speaker 1>a good substitute until she gets that back porch grill

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<v Speaker 1>and smoker up and working. In any case, asking to

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<v Speaker 1>see a photo will only extend a conversation by a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit, but it will make the person feel much

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<v Speaker 1>more or valued and give you more insight into the

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<v Speaker 1>other person's life. Next time she mentions Benny the poodle,

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<v Speaker 1>you can picture the dog in your mind. People take

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<v Speaker 1>photos of everything these days, not just their Hawaii vacation,

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<v Speaker 1>So basically anything that comes up has an illustration. Why

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<v Speaker 1>not get the whole picture by asking to see it.

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<v Speaker 1>In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and

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<v Speaker 1>here's to making the most of our time. Thanks for

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<v Speaker 1>listening to Before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas, or feedback,

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<v Speaker 1>you can reach me at Laura at Laura vandercam dot com.

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