1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:09,520 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning, 2 00:00:10,760 --> 00:00:16,440 Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's 3 00:00:16,440 --> 00:00:19,959 Speaker 1: tip is that when a companion is happily telling you 4 00:00:20,040 --> 00:00:23,800 Speaker 1: about something in their life, ask them to show you photos. 5 00:00:25,200 --> 00:00:29,120 Speaker 1: They will be thrilled to do so, and you will 6 00:00:29,160 --> 00:00:34,960 Speaker 1: learn more about this person than you would otherwise. So 7 00:00:35,200 --> 00:00:38,760 Speaker 1: back in the olden days, people used to create slide 8 00:00:38,760 --> 00:00:42,800 Speaker 1: shows of their vacations. It was something of a running 9 00:00:42,880 --> 00:00:45,280 Speaker 1: joke that people would be invited over to a friend's 10 00:00:45,360 --> 00:00:48,600 Speaker 1: house and then be ambushed with a slide show of 11 00:00:48,680 --> 00:00:52,920 Speaker 1: their recent vacation to Hawaii, featuring ten shots of the 12 00:00:52,960 --> 00:00:58,120 Speaker 1: airplane wing alone. One can imagine these friends trying desperately 13 00:00:58,200 --> 00:01:02,360 Speaker 1: to escape. What good news is, most people don't do 14 00:01:02,480 --> 00:01:07,640 Speaker 1: slide shows like that anymore, but people do still take pictures, 15 00:01:08,600 --> 00:01:14,479 Speaker 1: and thanks to smartphones, people always have their pictures with them. 16 00:01:14,640 --> 00:01:17,920 Speaker 1: Most people would still like to share pictures of the 17 00:01:17,959 --> 00:01:23,080 Speaker 1: things they love, so why not ask for the slide show. 18 00:01:24,319 --> 00:01:26,880 Speaker 1: If your coworker tells you that her sister just had 19 00:01:26,920 --> 00:01:31,480 Speaker 1: a baby, ask to see pictures, or if her neighbor 20 00:01:31,520 --> 00:01:34,360 Speaker 1: got a puppy, or if she's regaling you of tales 21 00:01:34,400 --> 00:01:38,640 Speaker 1: of renovating her back porch in backyard modern sorts have 22 00:01:38,720 --> 00:01:44,160 Speaker 1: photos of all these things, so ask to see them. Ooh, 23 00:01:44,360 --> 00:01:46,400 Speaker 1: I love roses too, do you have a picture of 24 00:01:46,440 --> 00:01:49,160 Speaker 1: them in your garden? Or my neighbor growing up had 25 00:01:49,200 --> 00:01:53,160 Speaker 1: a poodle too, do you have pictures? A request for 26 00:01:53,200 --> 00:01:57,040 Speaker 1: the slide show does a few things. First, it shows 27 00:01:57,080 --> 00:02:01,520 Speaker 1: your companion that you are truly interested in them. You 28 00:02:01,600 --> 00:02:05,480 Speaker 1: are not looking for an excuse to get away. You 29 00:02:05,520 --> 00:02:09,720 Speaker 1: are voluntarily extending the small talk by a minute or two. 30 00:02:10,960 --> 00:02:14,040 Speaker 1: But and this is an upside for you, This small 31 00:02:14,080 --> 00:02:16,680 Speaker 1: talk might actually become a lot more interesting at that point. 32 00:02:17,520 --> 00:02:21,400 Speaker 1: Pictures tend to nudge a little bit of storytelling. That 33 00:02:21,440 --> 00:02:24,600 Speaker 1: photo of your colleague's niece brings up that she used 34 00:02:24,639 --> 00:02:27,440 Speaker 1: to live near her sister in Boston, and then you 35 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:30,560 Speaker 1: guys can talk a little bit about that. Or the 36 00:02:30,560 --> 00:02:33,000 Speaker 1: photo of the back porch renovation can bring up a 37 00:02:33,040 --> 00:02:36,640 Speaker 1: story of the best barbecue your colleague ever attended, and 38 00:02:36,680 --> 00:02:40,480 Speaker 1: then you can share a local restaurant recommendation, a barbecue 39 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:44,000 Speaker 1: joint that's pretty good, maybe not the best ever, but 40 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:47,400 Speaker 1: a good substitute until she gets that back porch grill 41 00:02:47,480 --> 00:02:52,080 Speaker 1: and smoker up and working. In any case, asking to 42 00:02:52,080 --> 00:02:55,840 Speaker 1: see a photo will only extend a conversation by a 43 00:02:55,880 --> 00:02:59,760 Speaker 1: little bit, but it will make the person feel much 44 00:02:59,840 --> 00:03:03,880 Speaker 1: more or valued and give you more insight into the 45 00:03:03,919 --> 00:03:08,120 Speaker 1: other person's life. Next time she mentions Benny the poodle, 46 00:03:08,919 --> 00:03:12,359 Speaker 1: you can picture the dog in your mind. People take 47 00:03:12,400 --> 00:03:17,520 Speaker 1: photos of everything these days, not just their Hawaii vacation, 48 00:03:18,800 --> 00:03:24,359 Speaker 1: So basically anything that comes up has an illustration. Why 49 00:03:24,400 --> 00:03:27,480 Speaker 1: not get the whole picture by asking to see it. 50 00:03:29,240 --> 00:03:34,400 Speaker 1: In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and 51 00:03:34,520 --> 00:03:44,200 Speaker 1: here's to making the most of our time. Thanks for 52 00:03:44,280 --> 00:03:49,040 Speaker 1: listening to Before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas, or feedback, 53 00:03:49,360 --> 00:03:58,720 Speaker 1: you can reach me at Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. 54 00:03:58,800 --> 00:04:02,880 Speaker 1: Before Breakfast is a pretty of iHeartMedia. For more podcasts 55 00:04:02,880 --> 00:04:07,480 Speaker 1: from iHeartMedia, please visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or 56 00:04:07,520 --> 00:04:09,360 Speaker 1: wherever you listen to your favorite shows.