1 00:00:03,800 --> 00:00:07,080 Speaker 1: Okay, on this show, we are going to answer some emails. 2 00:00:07,400 --> 00:00:09,000 Speaker 1: It could be about any typeic. We've been doing this 3 00:00:09,000 --> 00:00:11,920 Speaker 1: for a long time in different ways. If you want 4 00:00:11,960 --> 00:00:17,760 Speaker 1: your question answered, email podcast at grangersmith dot com, we 5 00:00:17,840 --> 00:00:20,080 Speaker 1: will put it, put it in the queue, and then 6 00:00:20,120 --> 00:00:23,000 Speaker 1: a man's got some from that email loaded up right here. 7 00:00:23,079 --> 00:00:24,119 Speaker 2: You bet the Friday Q. 8 00:00:24,239 --> 00:00:27,479 Speaker 1: And a Friday Q and a you ready, let's do 9 00:00:27,520 --> 00:00:29,800 Speaker 1: it first, one says, Hey Granger, my name is David 10 00:00:29,800 --> 00:00:30,440 Speaker 1: from Michigan. 11 00:00:30,960 --> 00:00:34,120 Speaker 2: I was curious your thoughts on Christians using the phrase 12 00:00:34,600 --> 00:00:37,640 Speaker 2: been through Hell. I specifically have a hard time with 13 00:00:37,720 --> 00:00:41,360 Speaker 2: Brandon Lake's song hard Fought Hellelijah. This just doesn't seem 14 00:00:41,400 --> 00:00:45,560 Speaker 2: appropriate for me to me, for Christians to just be 15 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:48,960 Speaker 2: comparing our earthly problems as if it were anything like 16 00:00:49,040 --> 00:00:51,480 Speaker 2: going through hell, when Jesus actually died for our sins 17 00:00:51,479 --> 00:00:55,160 Speaker 2: and suffered hell for us. Curious, curious on your thoughts. 18 00:00:55,360 --> 00:00:57,160 Speaker 2: Thanks for all you do. Blessings. 19 00:00:57,920 --> 00:01:02,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, David Jones, Michigan's cold right now. Shout out to Michigan. 20 00:01:03,200 --> 00:01:06,000 Speaker 2: I think it's chilly here, David. 21 00:01:06,040 --> 00:01:08,880 Speaker 1: You're not alone in thinking things like this. I don't 22 00:01:08,920 --> 00:01:12,679 Speaker 1: think I've specifically thought about going through hell or been 23 00:01:12,720 --> 00:01:18,560 Speaker 1: through hell. But you're not alone in in thinking that 24 00:01:18,840 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 1: language matters. Semantics matter. The way that we word things 25 00:01:25,200 --> 00:01:30,200 Speaker 1: and the word choices communicate certain things about our belief system, 26 00:01:30,319 --> 00:01:33,160 Speaker 1: whether we know it or like it or not. Right. 27 00:01:33,959 --> 00:01:38,559 Speaker 1: We've talked some on this podcast about the soft curse words. 28 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:47,320 Speaker 1: For example, Sure, I've written a significant bit about luck 29 00:01:48,440 --> 00:01:52,960 Speaker 1: because of what luck means to me, the idea of 30 00:01:53,000 --> 00:02:00,640 Speaker 1: good luck or karma's gotam or well what goes around around? 31 00:02:01,080 --> 00:02:02,320 Speaker 2: Are proud, I'm proud of you? 32 00:02:02,440 --> 00:02:06,040 Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, I've talked about I'm proud of you. There 33 00:02:06,120 --> 00:02:12,160 Speaker 1: was another one recently, We're oh, blessings, I'm blessed. What 34 00:02:12,160 --> 00:02:14,680 Speaker 1: does it mean to be blessed? So that using certain 35 00:02:14,720 --> 00:02:22,040 Speaker 1: words blessed, proud, karma, thinking about the root of what 36 00:02:22,080 --> 00:02:25,800 Speaker 1: those words mean is important and to throw them around 37 00:02:26,200 --> 00:02:29,359 Speaker 1: flippantly like hell, I've been through hell. 38 00:02:29,880 --> 00:02:30,160 Speaker 2: You know. 39 00:02:32,200 --> 00:02:37,040 Speaker 1: I I agree with David that I wouldn't say if 40 00:02:37,040 --> 00:02:40,160 Speaker 1: someone said, man, I have been through hell this week, 41 00:02:40,360 --> 00:02:42,919 Speaker 1: I wouldn't immediately be like, you're in sin right now 42 00:02:43,000 --> 00:02:45,720 Speaker 1: for saying that. That's not the first thing to come 43 00:02:45,760 --> 00:02:49,400 Speaker 1: to my mind. But what I think that might not 44 00:02:49,480 --> 00:02:52,040 Speaker 1: be the that might not be the choice of words 45 00:02:52,040 --> 00:02:54,400 Speaker 1: I would use that I don't think that's the best 46 00:02:54,440 --> 00:02:57,600 Speaker 1: thing to say, depending on how close to the guy, 47 00:02:57,639 --> 00:02:59,359 Speaker 1: I don't think I would say it. Let me put it, 48 00:02:59,440 --> 00:03:04,880 Speaker 1: let me let me this. Here's a real example. Yesterday 49 00:03:05,800 --> 00:03:09,120 Speaker 1: I prayed for a friend and I sent him a 50 00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:11,840 Speaker 1: text of a prayer that I'm praying for him. And 51 00:03:11,880 --> 00:03:15,040 Speaker 1: I told him a little bit about what I'm doing yesterday, 52 00:03:15,639 --> 00:03:18,920 Speaker 1: and he replied, well, good luck with that, and you know, 53 00:03:19,560 --> 00:03:23,880 Speaker 1: similar things. And he's a Christian this morning, and I 54 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:26,600 Speaker 1: didn't say anything because I thought, like, that's I don't 55 00:03:26,639 --> 00:03:29,320 Speaker 1: want to be petty. I don't want to be like, hey, 56 00:03:29,400 --> 00:03:31,919 Speaker 1: watch what you say. You know, I'm not gonna be petty. 57 00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:34,800 Speaker 1: This morning, I sent him a prayer for him, and 58 00:03:34,840 --> 00:03:37,640 Speaker 1: I said a little bit of what I'm doing. He replied, well, 59 00:03:37,680 --> 00:03:39,920 Speaker 1: good luck with that. The same thing. He said it again, 60 00:03:41,440 --> 00:03:46,000 Speaker 1: Like okay, that's twice. I said. I said, well, you know, brother, 61 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:50,120 Speaker 1: I put a smiley face, you know, smiley emoji that 62 00:03:49,760 --> 00:03:53,640 Speaker 1: I'm not looking down. You know, brother, we don't believe 63 00:03:53,640 --> 00:03:57,680 Speaker 1: in luck. And he goes, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, 64 00:03:57,680 --> 00:03:59,320 Speaker 1: of course I know. And I know that he knows. 65 00:04:00,120 --> 00:04:06,320 Speaker 1: But words matter saying saying things like that communicates a 66 00:04:06,440 --> 00:04:10,840 Speaker 1: worldview of believing in chance, or I believe that the 67 00:04:10,880 --> 00:04:14,640 Speaker 1: stars align, this will work, or you know that when 68 00:04:14,680 --> 00:04:18,040 Speaker 1: the universe rewards me for what goes around comes around. 69 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:21,840 Speaker 1: Even if you don't believe that, when you say it, 70 00:04:21,920 --> 00:04:24,400 Speaker 1: you're communicating that you have a lack of understanding of 71 00:04:24,400 --> 00:04:31,560 Speaker 1: where where sovereignty comes from. Sure where providence actually comes from? 72 00:04:31,560 --> 00:04:34,560 Speaker 1: Does it come from the stars aligning or from God? 73 00:04:35,040 --> 00:04:38,559 Speaker 1: So same thing, David, that's a long answer to say, 74 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:42,200 Speaker 1: I don't like any of that song hard Fought Hallelujah. 75 00:04:42,240 --> 00:04:45,000 Speaker 1: So I just thought I'm not afraid to say that 76 00:04:45,000 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 1: that whole song just sounds I mean, even the title 77 00:04:48,560 --> 00:04:53,520 Speaker 1: hard fought Hallelujah. What are you fighting for here? You're 78 00:04:53,520 --> 00:04:59,760 Speaker 1: fighting hard for hallelujah? Like that that the gates What 79 00:05:00,000 --> 00:05:02,320 Speaker 1: that word even means. It's weird to me is that 80 00:05:02,839 --> 00:05:04,800 Speaker 1: I don't know if we talked about on this before, 81 00:05:04,880 --> 00:05:07,039 Speaker 1: but I don't like that song. 82 00:05:07,480 --> 00:05:08,520 Speaker 2: No, we haven't talked about that. 83 00:05:08,560 --> 00:05:09,560 Speaker 1: I don't know you don't like that. 84 00:05:09,920 --> 00:05:14,000 Speaker 2: What I've noticed here is that your spirit is stirring 85 00:05:14,560 --> 00:05:16,360 Speaker 2: about something that the Lord has laid on your heart. 86 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:20,240 Speaker 2: Pay attention to it. If it's you know, if it's 87 00:05:20,839 --> 00:05:23,560 Speaker 2: going through hell, you should pay attention to that. Yeah, 88 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:26,640 Speaker 2: he's bringing out something that he's wanting to refine in 89 00:05:26,680 --> 00:05:28,560 Speaker 2: your language. Pay attention to that. 90 00:05:28,839 --> 00:05:30,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, Yeah, there you go. 91 00:05:31,200 --> 00:05:34,919 Speaker 2: Email number two, Hey Granger, I'm twenty six, married for 92 00:05:35,000 --> 00:05:37,240 Speaker 2: three years, and about to welcome our first baby boy 93 00:05:37,240 --> 00:05:40,760 Speaker 2: in December. My husband and I did not grow up 94 00:05:40,760 --> 00:05:44,279 Speaker 2: in a Christian household with any biblical morals or values, 95 00:05:44,520 --> 00:05:47,760 Speaker 2: and we definitely were not taught proper roles for husband 96 00:05:47,800 --> 00:05:50,760 Speaker 2: and wife and parenting. Speaking for myself, my father was 97 00:05:50,800 --> 00:05:56,680 Speaker 2: a tyrant, very authoritarian, emotionally toxic, overall bad example of 98 00:05:56,680 --> 00:05:59,159 Speaker 2: a father and a husband. This has led me to 99 00:05:59,240 --> 00:06:02,200 Speaker 2: one not know my biblical role as a wife or mother, 100 00:06:02,320 --> 00:06:06,359 Speaker 2: and number two know what my husband's should be. His 101 00:06:06,520 --> 00:06:07,200 Speaker 2: roles should be? 102 00:06:07,279 --> 00:06:07,920 Speaker 1: Is what she's saying. 103 00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:10,599 Speaker 2: I do have a strong personality and have always been 104 00:06:10,680 --> 00:06:13,159 Speaker 2: the initiator or taken control of things due to the 105 00:06:13,160 --> 00:06:15,720 Speaker 2: way that I was raised. As we ventured into our 106 00:06:15,760 --> 00:06:18,960 Speaker 2: new journey as Christians, it can be difficult to rewrite 107 00:06:18,960 --> 00:06:23,440 Speaker 2: bad habits and relearn what we should be doing. What 108 00:06:23,600 --> 00:06:26,520 Speaker 2: recommendations or advice do you have for our family and 109 00:06:26,600 --> 00:06:29,440 Speaker 2: things to display that I can continue praying and striving 110 00:06:29,480 --> 00:06:31,560 Speaker 2: for Thanks for any input, Brooke. 111 00:06:31,839 --> 00:06:35,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, Brooks so common. This, this email is so common. 112 00:06:35,120 --> 00:06:39,840 Speaker 1: And I'm encouraged by your email and im and I'm 113 00:06:39,880 --> 00:06:44,880 Speaker 1: sorry at the same time for the tyrant, authoritarian, emotionally 114 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:48,080 Speaker 1: toxic father you grew up with. That's that's so common 115 00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:54,840 Speaker 1: in our Christian life that we walk, all of us 116 00:06:55,200 --> 00:07:01,360 Speaker 1: have to lose our former identity, and that includes the 117 00:07:01,520 --> 00:07:04,719 Speaker 1: liturgy of the world, that that the world preached to 118 00:07:04,800 --> 00:07:07,960 Speaker 1: us since we were little. And we so we all 119 00:07:08,040 --> 00:07:12,720 Speaker 1: have that kind of baggage. And and Jesus says, if 120 00:07:12,720 --> 00:07:16,200 Speaker 1: anyone would come after me, let him deny himself, take 121 00:07:16,280 --> 00:07:20,000 Speaker 1: up his cross daily, Luke says, and follow me. So 122 00:07:20,960 --> 00:07:23,800 Speaker 1: there is a there is a self denial and a 123 00:07:24,760 --> 00:07:32,120 Speaker 1: and a daily need to follow Christ two to follow, 124 00:07:34,120 --> 00:07:38,600 Speaker 1: to follow his commandments, and to follow his example, as 125 00:07:38,640 --> 00:07:43,080 Speaker 1: he said, take my yoke upon you and learn from me. Recently, 126 00:07:43,160 --> 00:07:44,800 Speaker 1: Lincoln and I were at a place where we saw 127 00:07:44,960 --> 00:07:50,680 Speaker 1: a real yoke, two cows yoked together, and Lincoln hadn't 128 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:52,840 Speaker 1: seen that before. Yeah, I was like that, come here, 129 00:07:52,880 --> 00:07:54,400 Speaker 1: come here, come here, look at this. You know what 130 00:07:54,400 --> 00:07:58,040 Speaker 1: this says? What that big wooden thing between the two cows. 131 00:07:58,080 --> 00:08:01,720 Speaker 1: You know what that is. It's a yoke. Oh like 132 00:08:01,760 --> 00:08:05,960 Speaker 1: the Bible. Yeah, So when Jesus says, take my yoke 133 00:08:06,240 --> 00:08:09,720 Speaker 1: upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle 134 00:08:09,880 --> 00:08:13,480 Speaker 1: and lowly in heart, and you'll find rest for your 135 00:08:13,480 --> 00:08:17,240 Speaker 1: souls from My yoke is easy and my burden is light. 136 00:08:17,880 --> 00:08:20,760 Speaker 1: So he's saying, you're under the yoke of the world. 137 00:08:21,160 --> 00:08:26,040 Speaker 1: It's hard. Come under my yoke. It's easy. Learn from me. 138 00:08:26,120 --> 00:08:30,119 Speaker 1: Follow me, learn from me, which is at some level 139 00:08:30,240 --> 00:08:33,360 Speaker 1: that's discipleship. Follow me, come and see what I. 140 00:08:33,320 --> 00:08:36,280 Speaker 2: Do, and that yoke. If you're tied to the world, 141 00:08:36,520 --> 00:08:39,000 Speaker 2: you were directed to where the world goes because you're 142 00:08:39,040 --> 00:08:41,079 Speaker 2: being pulled in that same direction. If you're attached to 143 00:08:41,120 --> 00:08:42,520 Speaker 2: the Lord, you're going where he's leading you. 144 00:08:43,080 --> 00:08:45,440 Speaker 1: That's right. So many times we think of discipleship as 145 00:08:45,480 --> 00:08:48,000 Speaker 1: like a program. I need a program. I need a 146 00:08:48,080 --> 00:08:52,160 Speaker 1: new discipleship program. You have a book, you have a checklist. Well, 147 00:08:52,160 --> 00:08:55,400 Speaker 1: it's like, hey, let's live life and follow me see 148 00:08:55,400 --> 00:08:58,640 Speaker 1: what I do. And it seems that's what's missing from 149 00:08:58,679 --> 00:09:03,360 Speaker 1: this email. Some older couples that say, hey, come, come 150 00:09:03,400 --> 00:09:06,240 Speaker 1: to dinner. You grew up this way I grew up 151 00:09:06,280 --> 00:09:09,400 Speaker 1: that way. We meet together as we're sisters in Christ. 152 00:09:10,679 --> 00:09:13,320 Speaker 1: Have you ever seen where the Bible says what a 153 00:09:13,320 --> 00:09:16,880 Speaker 1: biblical wife would be would be and what it looks like. 154 00:09:17,640 --> 00:09:20,000 Speaker 1: This is what was hard for me to realize. And 155 00:09:20,080 --> 00:09:23,000 Speaker 1: here's this this verse here. I've had to wrestle with 156 00:09:23,000 --> 00:09:25,240 Speaker 1: this over the few years. But this is what I've learned. 157 00:09:25,280 --> 00:09:28,800 Speaker 1: And hey, we should do this again. Sometimes bring your 158 00:09:28,800 --> 00:09:31,920 Speaker 1: family over and we'll help watch the kids. We miss 159 00:09:31,920 --> 00:09:33,960 Speaker 1: having kids in our house and we don't have grandkids, 160 00:09:34,480 --> 00:09:38,640 Speaker 1: you know anymore. They're gone. Like living life together sounds 161 00:09:38,679 --> 00:09:41,520 Speaker 1: like what's kind of missing. Sometimes we feel like we 162 00:09:41,559 --> 00:09:45,400 Speaker 1: need to figure things out all by ourselves quickly. Well 163 00:09:45,440 --> 00:09:47,480 Speaker 1: I'm a Christian now, so I need to figure this out. 164 00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:50,400 Speaker 1: Where in the Bible does it say it? And we 165 00:09:50,440 --> 00:09:54,760 Speaker 1: could show you. But also we don't just want to 166 00:09:54,800 --> 00:09:56,600 Speaker 1: point to the Bible. We want to say, here it 167 00:09:56,640 --> 00:09:58,439 Speaker 1: is in the Bible, and watch me, watch me live 168 00:09:58,480 --> 00:10:01,760 Speaker 1: this out, because it's not You're right, it's not easy, 169 00:10:01,800 --> 00:10:04,439 Speaker 1: but watch how we do it and watch the fruit 170 00:10:04,480 --> 00:10:08,800 Speaker 1: of it. Yeah, and so you could you could add 171 00:10:09,000 --> 00:10:11,440 Speaker 1: Brooks story, You could add any past and you could 172 00:10:11,480 --> 00:10:13,600 Speaker 1: say my father was this, or my mother was this, 173 00:10:13,800 --> 00:10:15,960 Speaker 1: or I didn't have a father at all, or you know, 174 00:10:15,960 --> 00:10:18,920 Speaker 1: you could add anything and it's the same, the same 175 00:10:19,640 --> 00:10:25,319 Speaker 1: remedy here. Yeah, I agree, discipleship, Bible reading, watching someone 176 00:10:25,360 --> 00:10:26,920 Speaker 1: live it out in the fruit of it. I would 177 00:10:26,920 --> 00:10:32,360 Speaker 1: recommend Paul David Trip marriage. I think it's called marriage, 178 00:10:32,640 --> 00:10:36,839 Speaker 1: Paul David Trip. It's a great book. He's a good brother, 179 00:10:36,960 --> 00:10:39,599 Speaker 1: and he speaks well about marriage. 180 00:10:40,080 --> 00:10:44,479 Speaker 2: So if a little encouragement here too, is that you 181 00:10:44,480 --> 00:10:46,480 Speaker 2: you say neither one of you grew up in Christian 182 00:10:46,480 --> 00:10:51,480 Speaker 2: households anything like that. There's some excitement about you, guys 183 00:10:51,559 --> 00:10:55,319 Speaker 2: being the blank canvas and they start from the very beginning. 184 00:10:55,440 --> 00:10:59,520 Speaker 2: You can be the root of this, of this new 185 00:10:59,640 --> 00:11:04,800 Speaker 2: tree that the Lord has blessed your family with and 186 00:11:04,800 --> 00:11:06,880 Speaker 2: and be yeah. I mean that can feel like a 187 00:11:06,920 --> 00:11:08,920 Speaker 2: lot of pressure, or it can feel like a lot 188 00:11:08,920 --> 00:11:12,679 Speaker 2: of relief, going Okay, well it's his, This family is 189 00:11:12,679 --> 00:11:15,800 Speaker 2: the Lord's. We're different that we don't have. We're cutting 190 00:11:15,800 --> 00:11:20,000 Speaker 2: off from what are we grew up like and not 191 00:11:20,200 --> 00:11:23,240 Speaker 2: having you Lord in our in our life, and now 192 00:11:23,280 --> 00:11:25,720 Speaker 2: you are. We're brand new new creates as your new 193 00:11:25,760 --> 00:11:29,200 Speaker 2: creation in me. And you guys start from a just 194 00:11:29,240 --> 00:11:31,679 Speaker 2: a blank page and see what he does with that. 195 00:11:32,080 --> 00:11:35,319 Speaker 1: Wonderful Yeah, Brook, you're gonna mess things up. Yeah, it's okay, 196 00:11:35,440 --> 00:11:38,440 Speaker 1: it's okay. Daily he's bigger than that mess up. Sure, 197 00:11:38,559 --> 00:11:40,360 Speaker 1: that's good. So y'all